The godly mans choice, or, A direction how single godly persons, who intend marriage, may make choice of a fit and meet yoak-fellow being the meditations of Caleb Grantham in his single state, as a rule and guide for himself to walk by, and since his death perused and published with some profitable directions how persons should live as becometh Christians in the married state / by Henry Scudder ...
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             The godly mans choice, or, A direction how single godly persons, who intend marriage, may make choice of a fit and meet yoak-fellow being the meditations of Caleb Grantham in his single state, as a rule and guide for himself to walk by, and since his death perused and published with some profitable directions how persons should live as becometh Christians in the married state / by Henry Scudder ...
             Grantham, Caleb.
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           THis
           Discourse
           (
           entituled
           ,
           
             The
             godly
             mans
             Choyce
          
           )
           written
           by
           a
           now
           deceased
           friend
           ,
           together
           with
           those
           directions
           added
           by
           a
           reverend
           Divine
           yet
           living
           ,
           I
           approve
           to
           bee
           printed
           and
           published
           .
        
         
           
             Joseph
             Caryl
             .
          
           
             
               July
               24.
               1644.
               
            
          
        
      
       
       
         
           THE
           GODLY
           MANS
           CHOICE
           :
           
             OR
          
           A
           Direction
           how
           single
           godly
           persons
           ,
           who
           intend
           Marriage
           ,
           may
           make
           choice
           of
           a
           fit
           and
           meet
           Yoak-fellow
           .
           Being
           the
           Meditations
           of
           
             Caleb
             Grantham
          
           in
           his
           single
           estate
           ,
           as
           a
           Rule
           and
           Guide
           for
           himself
           to
           walk
           by
           .
           And
           since
           his
           death
           perused
           and
           published
           with
           some
           profitable
           directions
           how
           persons
           should
           live
           as
           becometh
           Christians
           in
           the
           married
           estate
           .
        
         
           By
           
             Henry
             Scudder
             ,
          
           Minister
           of
           the
           Word
           .
        
         
           Prov.
           19.
           14.
           
        
         
           Houses
           and
           riches
           are
           the
           inheritance
           of
           the
           Fathers
           ,
           and
           a
           prudent
           wife
           is
           from
           the
           Lord
           .
        
         
           
             LONDON
             ,
          
           Printed
           by
           
             Matthew
             Simmons
          
           for
           
             Henry
             Overton
          
           in
           Popes-head
           Alley
           .
           1644.
           
        
      
       
       
       
         
           TO
           THE
           RIGHT
           HONORABLE
           
             JOHN
             ,
          
           Earle
           of
           
             Exeter
             ,
          
           Baron
           of
           
             Burley
             ,
          
           &c.
           
        
         
           
             Noble
             Lord
             ,
          
        
         
           MAny
           whose
           eyes
           are
           upon
           your
           Lordship
           ,
           do
           acknowledge
           the
           good
           hand
           of
           the
           Lord
           towards
           you
           ,
           not
           in
           conferring
           eminency
           of
           honour
           
           upon
           you
           in
           your
           minoritie
           ,
           (
           as
           it
           were
           ,
           before
           your
           time
           )
           but
           in
           giving
           you
           a
           serious
           discerning
           spirit
           ,
           farre
           above
           your
           yeers
           ,
           whereby
           they
           conceive
           great
           hope
           ,
           and
           powre
           out
           many
           prayers
           to
           the
           Lord
           ,
           that
           he
           may
           in
           due
           time
           bring
           you
           forth
           in
           publique
           ,
           as
           a
           choice
           Instrument
           in
           the
           hand
           of
           your
           God
           ,
           
             to
             do
             worthily
          
           
           
             in
             Ephratah
             ,
             and
             to
             be
             famous
             in
             Bethlehem
             .
          
        
         
           Among
           others
           the
           publishers
           of
           this
           small
           Treatise
           ,
           (
           part
           whereof
           being
           the
           Meditatiōs
           ,
           of
           a
           pious
           yong
           man
           ,
           now
           with
           God
           ,
           and
           the
           residue
           the
           labour
           of
           a
           reverend
           Divine
           )
           to
           declare
           their
           great
           affection
           to
           your
           Lordship
           ,
           have
           importuned
           mee
           to
           recommend
           
           this
           Tractate
           to
           your
           Honour
           ,
           conceiving
           ,
           that
           under
           your
           Lordships
           Name
           these
           Meditations
           not
           only
           may
           appeare
           to
           the
           world
           with
           some
           access
           of
           lustre
           ,
           but
           that
           the
           influence
           they
           may
           have
           upon
           some
           hereby
           may
           prove
           more
           available
           .
        
         
           The
           subject
           herein
           handled
           ,
           is
           about
           the
           choice
           of
           that
           which
           scarce
           yet
           ever
           entered
           into
           your
           serious
           thoughts
           ,
           yet
           it
           is
           wisdome
           to
           store
           up
           good
           rules
           before
           you
           need
           to
           use
           them
           :
           Mariners
           learne
           their
           skill
           before
           they
           launch
           into
           the
           deeps
           :
           All
           Artists
           study
           the
           Theory
           before
           the
           Practice
           ;
           Wise
           men
           are
           long
           in
           contemplation
           ,
           
           before
           they
           adventure
           upon
           action
           :
           It
           's
           a
           known
           rule
           ,
           Deliberation
           must
           be
           long
           ,
           where
           Determination
           can
           be
           but
           once
           ;
           and
           where
           there
           is
           no
           admission
           of
           second
           thoughts
           to
           reverse
           a
           former
           errour
           ,
           the
           first
           thoughts
           must
           be
           carefull
           ,
           that
           errour
           be
           prevented
           .
        
         
           In
           the
           interim
           ,
           before
           the
           Lord
           incline
           your
           heart
           to
           think
           of
           any
           choice
           that
           way
           on
           earth
           ,
           be
           intreated
           to
           make
           your
           choice
           in
           heaven
           ;
           that
           the
           Lord
           Jesus
           may
           be
           the
           guide
           of
           your
           youth
           ,
           &
           so
           the
           God
           of
           your
           age
           ,
           that
           God
           may
           say
           of
           you
           :
           
             I
             remember
             the
             kindness
          
           
           
             of
             thy
             youth
             ,
             and
             the
             love
             of
             thy
             espousals
             .
          
        
         
         
           Surely
           it
           can
           be
           no
           disparagement
           ,
           for
           the
           greatest
           of
           men
           to
           betroth
           themselves
           to
           the
           great
           God
           ,
           to
           contract
           spirituall
           alliance
           
             with
             innumerable
             companies
             of
          
           
           
             Angels
             and
             Souls
             made
             perfect
             ,
          
           and
           to
           match
           with
           him
           
           
             of
             whom
             the
             whole
             familie
             of
             Heaven
             and
             Earth
             is
             called
             .
          
        
         
           Satan
           hath
           done
           his
           utmost
           to
           brand
           the
           servants
           of
           God
           with
           ignominy
           ,
           and
           to
           deterre
           men
           of
           quality
           from
           owning
           the
           way
           called
           holy
           .
           It
           is
           not
           long
           since
           some
           of
           our
           Nobility
           ,
           eminent
           
           for
           pietie
           ,
           paralleled
           our
           age
           with
           the
           sad
           times
           of
           
           
             Salvian
             ,
          
           wherein
           the
           complaint
           was
           ,
           that
           great
           men
           were
           forced
           to
           be
           more
           sinfull
           ,
           
           that
           they
           might
           not
           be
           reputed
           to
           be
           lesse
           honourable
           .
        
         
           But
           God
           hath
           begun
           to
           take
           away
           the
           reproach
           of
           his
           people
           from
           off
           the
           earth
           ;
           and
           doubtless
           ,
           will
           make
           his
           servants
           an
           eternall
           excellency
           ,
           when
           men
           of
           carnall
           policies
           
             shall
             be
             made
             an
             abhorring
             to
             all
          
           
           
             flesh
             .
          
        
         
           You
           cannot
           make
           any
           choice
           higher
           ,
           nor
           is
           it
           possible
           you
           should
           begin
           too
           soone
           to
           love
           him
           ,
           who
           hath
           loved
           you
           from
           all
           eternitie
           .
           Love
           of
           all
           affections
           is
           most
           active
           ,
           and
           in
           youth
           predominant
           ;
           It
           's
           restles
           till
           it
           fix
           ,
           and
           if
           it
           fix
           anywhere
           below
           Christ
           ,
           it
           debaseth
           it selfe
           ,
           and
           may
           easily
           be
           enthralled
           ,
           but
           cannot
           
           easily
           be
           disingaged
           :
           What
           pittie
           is
           it
           those
           vitall
           streames
           should
           run
           in
           a
           channell
           that
           goes
           downe
           to
           the
           Chambers
           of
           death
           ?
        
         
           I
           hope
           the
           Father
           of
           mercies
           is
           looking
           towards
           your
           Lordship
           ,
           and
           saying
           unto
           you
           as
           once
           unto
           his
           Church
           ,
           
             Surely
             ,
             this
             is
             a
             time
             of
             love
             .
          
           
           Your
           pious
           mother
           ,
           whom
           I
           may
           truely
           call
           an
           
             Elect
             Lady
             ,
          
           is
           to
           your
           Lordship
           as
           another
           
             Monicha
          
           to
           Saint
           
             Augustine
             ;
          
           You
           are
           the
           sonne
           of
           many
           prayers
           :
           and
           as
           
             Salomon
          
           was
           to
           
             Bathsheba
             ,
          
           You
           are
           the
           sonne
           ,
           not
           onely
           of
           
             her
             wombe
             ,
             but
             of
             her
             vowes
             ;
          
           
           Shee
           hath
           learned
           to
           love
           
           you
           in
           the
           Lord
           ,
           and
           for
           the
           Lord
           :
           The
           longings
           of
           her
           
           soule
           ,
           are
           for
           your
           spirituall
           
           and
           eternall
           good
           .
           It
           is
           one
           of
           her
           greatest
           comforts
           on
           earth
           ,
           that
           shee
           hath
           such
           a
           sonne
           to
           call
           her
           mother
           :
           But
           it
           will
           be
           farre
           greater
           ,
           even
           the
           Crowne
           of
           her
           glory
           ,
           to
           see
           you
           the
           adopted
           sonne
           of
           the
           eternall
           Father
           ,
           and
           that
           God
           hath
           honoured
           you
           ,
           even
           in
           your
           youth
           ,
           to
           obtain
           an
           Inheritance
           among
           them
           that
           are
           sanctified
           .
        
         
           You
           are
           left
           in
           your
           fathers
           familie
           ,
           with
           your
           hopefull
           sister
           ,
           as
           the
           onely
           branches
           of
           many
           ,
           which
           have
           long
           since
           ceased
           from
           among
           men
           .
           And
           when
           the
           destroying
           Angel
           was
           smiting
           all
           ,
           the
           Father
           of
           mercies
           looked
           upon
           you
           ,
           and
           
           said
           ,
           
             Destroy
             him
             not
             ,
             for
             a
             blessing
          
           
           
             is
             in
             him
             .
          
        
         
           The
           Lord
           delight
           to
           fill
           you
           with
           all
           spirituall
           blessings
           in
           heavenly
           things
           ,
           and
           make
           it
           every
           day
           more
           and
           more
           appeare
           ,
           that
           God
           hath
           reserved
           you
           to
           be
           blessed
           ,
           and
           to
           be
           a
           blessing
           to
           your
           family
           ,
           to
           your
           Countrey
           ,
           and
           to
           the
           Kingdomes
           .
           And
           when
           your
           Lordship
           ▪
           settles
           in
           the
           world
           ,
           you
           may
           begin
           with
           
             Josuahs
          
           fixed
           resolution
           ,
           
             I
             and
             my
             house
             will
             serve
             the
          
           
           
             Lord
             .
          
           And
           that
           you
           may
           shew
           forth
           the
           grace
           of
           him
           that
           hath
           
             called
             you
             out
             of
             darknesse
             ,
          
           and
           the
           shadow
           of
           death
           ,
           
             into
             his
             marvellous
             light
             ;
          
           that
           they
           that
           observe
           your
           Lordship
           may
           see
           ,
           that
           greatnesse
           and
           
           goodnesse
           ,
           as
           they
           are
           inseparable
           in
           God
           ,
           so
           they
           are
           not
           incompatible
           to
           the
           sonnes
           of
           men
           .
           That
           so
           you
           may
           rejoyce
           above
           all
           greatnesse
           ,
           that
           you
           have
           your
           name
           written
           in
           the
           
             Lambes
             book
             of
             life
             ,
          
           and
           you
           may
           look
           beyond
           death
           ▪
           and
           the
           grave
           ,
           and
           see
           your
           greatest
           portion
           in
           eternitie
           ;
           which
           is
           the
           earnest
           prayer
           of
        
         
           
             Your
             Lordships
             servant
             ,
             JER
             :
             WHITTAKER
             .
          
        
      
       
       
       
       
         
           To
           the
           Christian
           READER
           .
        
         
           THese
           directions
           following
           ,
           which
           teach
           how
           to
           make
           a
           wise
           and
           godly
           choyce
           of
           a
           meet
           yoak-fellow
           in
           marriage
           ,
           were
           put
           into
           my
           hands
           by
           a
           neere
           friend
           of
           the
           Author
           ,
           to
           consider
           whether
           they
           were
           fit
           to
           be
           made
           publick
           ,
           and
           to
           give
           my
           judgment
           thereof
           .
        
         
           I
           was
           very
           much
           taken
           with
           the
           soundnesse
           ,
           plainnesse
           ,
           cleernes
           ,
           fulnes
           ,
           &
           good
           composure
           of
           them
           ,
           and
           doe
           judge
           that
           they
           may
           be
           of
           excellent
           use
           to
           put
           
           single
           persons
           into
           Gods
           way
           ,
           the
           only
           right
           way
           of
           entring
           into
           the
           honorable
           estate
           of
           marriage
           ,
           a
           matter
           of
           greatest
           consequence
           concerning
           Mans
           weal
           or
           woe
           in
           this
           life
           ,
           according
           as
           it
           is
           well
           or
           ill
           done
           .
        
         
           The
           composer
           of
           these
           choyce
           Rules
           or
           Directions
           ,
           was
           a
           most
           ingenious
           and
           holy
           young
           man
           ,
           of
           good
           learning
           &
           rare
           parts
           ,
           he
           studied
           before
           hand
           ,
           and
           practised
           these
           Rules
           ,
           which
           he
           had
           gathered
           out
           of
           the
           Oracles
           of
           God
           ;
           and
           he
           had
           God
           going
           along
           with
           him
           :
           for
           he
           gave
           him
           a
           wife
           according
           to
           his
           desire
           ,
           with
           whom
           he
           lived
           but
           a
           short
           time
           ,
           it
           pleasing
           the
           Lord
           (
           in
           favour
           to
           him
           to
           take
           him
           away
           from
           the
           evil
           to
           come
           .
        
         
           
             The
             memory
             of
             the
             just
          
           
           
             is
             blessed
             :
          
           Some
           erect
           monuments
           
           in
           Marble
           ,
           that
           their
           name
           may
           be
           kept
           in
           perpetuall
           remembrance
           :
           And
           it
           was
           the
           manner
           in
           some
           places
           ,
           that
           in
           their
           mourning
           for
           their
           dead
           friends
           ,
           they
           held
           forth
           and
           
             shewed
          
           some
           of
           their
           
           most
           excellent
           works
           which
           they
           wrought
           while
           they
           lived
           .
        
         
           I
           think
           a
           better
           monument
           cannot
           bee
           raised
           ,
           nor
           better
           means
           can
           be
           used
           to
           preserve
           this
           mans
           name
           ,
           most
           pretious
           ,
           sweet
           ,
           and
           ever
           living
           ,
           and
           most
           profitable
           to
           posterity
           ,
           then
           by
           making
           this
           his
           work
           publick
           to
           the
           Churches
           of
           God
           .
        
         
           These
           are
           such
           as
           will
           alike
           serve
           to
           direct
           a
           single
           woman
           in
           her
           acceptance
           ,
           and
           choyce
           of
           an
           husband
           ,
           &
           to
           teach
           parents
           how
           to
           make
           choyce
           of
           husbands
           and
           wives
           for
           their
           children
           ,
           
           as
           well
           as
           to
           direct
           a
           man
           to
           make
           a
           good
           choyce
           of
           a
           wife
           .
        
         
           I
           commend
           unto
           all
           the
           practise
           of
           this
           our
           brother
           for
           their
           imitation
           ,
           that
           every
           one
           study
           and
           endevour
           to
           know
           and
           to
           do
           the
           works
           and
           duties
           of
           the
           places
           and
           conditions
           wherin
           God
           hath
           set
           them
           ,
           that
           they
           may
           walk
           with
           God
           ,
           and
           please
           him
           therein
           .
        
         
           Amongst
           the
           secondary
           evidences
           of
           being
           in
           state
           of
           grace
           ,
           and
           accepted
           with
           God
           ,
           I
           know
           none
           more
           clear
           and
           certain
           then
           this
           ,
           that
           a
           Believer
           in
           Christ
           Jesus
           doe
           adde
           unto
           his
           faith
           a
           conscionable
           care
           to
           please
           God
           in
           the
           well
           doing
           the
           work
           of
           his
           particular
           calling
           and
           relation
           .
        
         
           I
           cannot
           think
           that
           a
           man
           hath
           any
           more
           power
           of
           godlines
           ,
           
           then
           as
           he
           shall
           respectively
           endevour
           to
           manifest
           it
           in
           the
           particular
           calling
           &
           condition
           of
           life
           wherein
           God
           hath
           placed
           him
           ,
           as
           well
           as
           in
           his
           generall
           .
        
         
           For
           an
           upright
           man
           ,
           as
           he
           will
           (
           as
           
             David
          
           did
           )
           keep
           himself
           from
           
             his
             iniquity
             ,
          
           that
           is
           ,
           the
           
           iniquity
           which
           through
           his
           naturall
           corruption
           he
           was
           most
           prone
           unto
           ,
           &
           to
           which
           through
           the
           particular
           condition
           of
           his
           life
           ,
           he
           was
           most
           tempted
           and
           in
           greatest
           danger
           ,
           so
           his
           speciall
           care
           will
           be
           to
           doe
           the
           duty
           of
           his
           own
           place
           ,
           to
           do
           that
           work
           which
           God
           in
           speciall
           hath
           given
           him
           
           to
           doe
           .
        
         
           The
           Apostle
           ,
           in
           divers
           places
           ,
           after
           he
           had
           delivered
           the
           doctrine
           of
           faith
           ,
           he
           subjoyneth
           the
           doctrine
           of
           good
           works
           .
           First
           ,
           more
           generally
           ,
           as
           the
           effects
           
           and
           evidences
           of
           a
           lively
           faith
           ,
           and
           then
           he
           descendeth
           to
           particular
           duties
           of
           men
           and
           women
           ,
           according
           to
           their
           severall
           ranks
           and
           relations
           ,
           as
           of
           
             Wives
          
           to
           their
           
             Husbands
             ,
          
           
           &
           
             Husbands
          
           to
           their
           
             Wives
             ,
          
           of
           
             Children
          
           to
           
             Parents
             ,
          
           and
           
           of
           
             Parents
          
           to
           their
           
             Children
             ,
          
           of
           
             Servants
          
           to
           their
           
             Masters
             ,
          
           
           and
           of
           
             Masters
          
           to
           their
           
             Servants
             ,
          
           as
           the
           effects
           and
           evidences
           of
           true
           sanctity
           .
        
         
           Where
           a
           generall
           good
           conversation
           is
           not
           endevoured
           ,
           there
           faith
           is
           not
           alive
           ,
           but
           
             dead
             ,
          
           and
           if
           a
           man
           think
           he
           
           hath
           faith
           ,
           and
           hath
           not
           works
           ,
           he
           deceiveth
           himselfe
           :
           so
           if
           he
           think
           he
           hath
           works
           ,
           because
           he
           doth
           many
           of
           the
           works
           of
           holinesse
           and
           righteousnesse
           ,
           which
           his
           generall
           calling
           to
           Christiaanity
           
           leadeth
           him
           unto
           ,
           but
           yet
           doth
           not
           the
           work
           ,
           which
           God
           particularly
           hath
           given
           him
           to
           doe
           ,
           he
           also
           deceiveth
           himselfe
           ,
           &
           he
           may
           fear
           that
           the
           holines
           and
           righteousnes
           which
           he
           seemed
           to
           have
           ,
           is
           not
           sound
           .
        
         
           Whosoever
           shall
           bee
           desirous
           to
           make
           use
           of
           these
           Directions
           ,
           to
           make
           a
           good
           entrance
           into
           marriage
           ,
           will
           ,
           I
           thinke
           ,
           be
           as
           desirous
           to
           know
           how
           to
           live
           ,
           as
           becommeth
           Christians
           when
           they
           are
           maried
           .
           Wherefore
           for
           their
           help
           I
           have
           added
           unto
           the
           end
           of
           these
           directions
           ,
           some
           others
           touching
           Husbands
           and
           wives
           ,
           their
           loving
           and
           living
           together
           ,
           so
           as
           they
           may
           please
           God
           ,
           and
           may
           live
           comfortably
           and
           happily
           in
           the
           married
           condition
           .
        
         
           Both
           these
           directions
           I
           commend
           
           to
           all
           that
           desire
           information
           herein
           ,
           and
           also
           commend
           you
           ,
           and
           these
           to
           be
           blessed
           to
           you
           ,
           by
           God
           ,
           the
           instituter
           of
           the
           ordinance
           of
           marriage
           ,
           to
           whom
           be
           ascribed
           ,
           as
           most
           due
           is
           ,
           all
           honour
           and
           glory
           now
           and
           for
           ever
           .
        
         
           
             Yours
             to
             serve
             you
             in
             the
             Lord
             ,
             HENRY
             SCUDDER
             ,
             
               Pastor
               of
               Collingburn
               Ducis
               in
               Wilts.
            
          
           
             
               July
               23.
               1644.
               
            
          
        
      
    
     
       
       
         
           The
           Godly
           mans
           Choyce
           .
        
         
           EVery
           end
           hath
           its
           proper
           way
           and
           means
           appertaining
           to
           it
           .
           All
           ways
           will
           not
           equally
           alike
           lead
           to
           the
           same
           end
           ;
           there
           is
           a
           contrary
           way
           that
           will
           never
           bring
           thee
           to
           it
           .
           There
           is
           a
           crooked
           and
           indirect
           way
           ,
           that
           may
           perhaps
           ,
           but
           with
           much
           trouble
           and
           labour
           ;
           but
           then
           there
           is
           a
           streight
           and
           direct
           way
           ,
           and
           this
           is
           that
           way
           ,
           which
           will
           both
           with
           ease
           and
           pleasure
           ,
           bring
           
           thee
           to
           thy
           desired
           end
           .
           This
           is
           the
           way
           which
           all
           men
           grope
           after
           ,
           but
           few
           can
           find
           it
           .
        
         
           Now
           if
           to
           marry
           ,
           and
           to
           marry
           in
           the
           Lord
           ,
           a
           wife
           and
           a
           good
           wife
           ,
           one
           with
           whom
           thou
           mayst
           begin
           thy
           dayes
           with
           joy
           ,
           continue
           them
           in
           quiet
           ,
           and
           end
           them
           with
           comfort
           ,
           if
           this
           be
           the
           end
           of
           thy
           thoughts
           ,
           then
           surely
           the
           most
           direct
           and
           streight
           way
           to
           obtain
           it
           ,
           will
           be
           to
           seek
           her
           of
           God
           .
           Not
           a
           few
           are
           the
           inducements
           to
           move
           us
           to
           this
           course
           .
        
         
           1.
           
           Because
           hee
           is
           best
           able
           to
           guide
           and
           direct
           you
           to
           the
           finding
           of
           her
           ;
           she
           is
           a
           flower
           that
           growes
           not
           in
           every
           garden
           ,
           an
           hearb
           that
           is
           not
           in
           every
           field
           ,
           she
           is
           not
           
           to
           be
           found
           in
           every
           house
           ;
           you
           may
           seek
           long
           enough
           ere
           you
           find
           ,
           and
           finding
           be
           deceived
           ,
           unlesse
           God
           direct
           you
           .
        
         
           2.
           
           She
           cannot
           be
           had
           from
           any
           other
           but
           from
           him
           ,
           he
           it
           is
           ,
           who
           is
           the
           great
           Patron
           ,
           in
           whose
           family
           are
           all
           the
           prudent
           ,
           wise
           ,
           vertuous
           ,
           religious
           persons
           that
           are
           to
           be
           desired
           ;
           and
           if
           thou
           wouldest
           have
           one
           of
           these
           ,
           apply
           thy self
           to
           obtain
           his
           favour
           ,
           so
           shalt
           thou
           find
           a
           good
           wife
           ,
           
             Pro.
          
           18.
           22.
           
           In
           other
           families
           
           no
           doubt
           thou
           mayst
           find
           a
           rich
           wife
           ,
           a
           beautifull
           wife
           ,
           but
           a
           prudent
           wife
           is
           
           from
           the
           Lord
           ,
           
             Pro.
          
           19.
           14.
           
        
         
           3.
           
           It
           is
           the
           easiest
           way
           to
           find
           her
           .
           Mercies
           (
           though
           great
           )
           yet
           when
           they
           cannot
           
           but
           with
           great
           difficulty
           be
           obtained
           ,
           it
           either
           disheartens
           us
           in
           the
           pursuit
           of
           them
           ,
           or
           els
           abates
           the
           sweetnesse
           in
           the
           enjoyment
           of
           them
           ;
           but
           with
           how
           much
           content
           and
           delight
           is
           the
           heart
           filled
           when
           it
           apprehendeth
           a
           great
           mercy
           ,
           tumbling
           into
           his
           lap
           ?
           Wouldst
           thou
           obtain
           a
           good
           wife
           ,
           (
           which
           of
           temporall
           mercies
           is
           the
           greatest
           )
           lo
           ,
           this
           is
           the
           most
           compendious
           way
           :
           sit
           thou
           still
           ,
           doe
           but
           seek
           and
           wait
           ,
           and
           at
           length
           thou
           shalt
           as
           it
           were
           behold
           God
           bringing
           her
           in
           his
           hand
           ,
           and
           offering
           her
           to
           thee
           :
           we
           see
           
             Adam
          
           slept
           while
           God
           brought
           
             Eve
          
           unto
           him
           ,
           
           
             Gen.
          
           2.
           21.
           
        
         
           4.
           
           Never
           any
           found
           ,
           that
           
           did
           not
           thus
           seek
           ;
           many
           indeed
           have
           wandred
           &
           roved
           over
           this
           wide
           world
           ,
           seeking
           in
           every
           place
           ,
           casting
           their
           eyes
           in
           every
           corner
           ,
           through
           Citie
           &
           Country
           ,
           Town
           and
           Village
           ,
           but
           after
           the
           most
           diligent
           scrutinie
           ,
           what
           have
           they
           at
           length
           found
           ?
           Peradventure
           riches
           .
           Alas
           !
           that
           's
           vanishing
           .
           It
           may
           be
           ,
           honour
           ,
           that
           's
           a
           burden
           ;
           perchance
           beauty
           ,
           that
           's
           vanity
           ,
           at
           the
           best
           ;
           or
           civility
           ,
           &
           that
           is
           but
           guilded
           impiety
           ;
           yea
           ,
           should
           they
           at
           length
           stumble
           on
           a
           good
           wife
           ,
           yet
           if
           not
           thus
           sought
           ,
           they
           shall
           either
           not
           long
           enjoy
           her
           ,
           or
           else
           not
           so
           comfortably
           ,
           because
           of
           many
           bitter
           ingredients
           which
           God
           will
           cast
           into
           it
           ,
           which
           otherwise
           
           might
           have
           been
           a
           sweet
           portion
           .
        
         
           5.
           
           Otherwise
           in
           stead
           of
           finding
           a
           blessing
           ,
           thou
           mayst
           find
           a
           curse
           ;
           what
           greater
           blessing
           then
           to
           enjoy
           a
           meet
           help
           ,
           one
           who
           may
           rejoyce
           thy
           heart
           in
           this
           thy
           pilgrimage
           ,
           one
           who
           may
           accompany
           thee
           ,
           and
           cheer
           thee
           up
           in
           the
           way
           ,
           when
           thou
           art
           treading
           many
           a
           weary
           step
           to
           the
           land
           of
           rest
           ?
           But
           on
           the
           contrary
           ,
           what
           heavier
           curse
           canst
           thou
           groan
           under
           ,
           to
           what
           soarer
           vexation
           canst
           thou
           be
           yoak't
           to
           ,
           then
           to
           an
           unequall
           yoak-fellow
           ?
           It
           is
           that
           which
           wil
           imbitter
           all
           thy
           comforts
           ,
           bereave
           thee
           of
           all
           thy
           delights
           ,
           rob
           thee
           of
           all
           thy
           contentments
           ,
           yea
           make
           thy
           life
           wearisome
           ,
           
           and
           death
           uncomfortable
           .
        
         
           6.
           
           Hence
           it
           is
           ,
           that
           they
           who
           otherwise
           seek
           ,
           inherit
           so
           much
           anxiety
           and
           trouble
           in
           their
           seeking
           ,
           who
           in
           stead
           of
           imploring
           Gods
           aid
           and
           assistance
           ,
           imploy
           their
           owne
           wits
           in
           contriving
           how
           to
           accomplish
           their
           desires
           :
           and
           if
           their
           ends
           faile
           ,
           and
           their
           expectations
           are
           crossed
           ,
           how
           are
           they
           disturbed
           with
           the
           thought
           of
           it
           ,
           their
           spirits
           being
           dull
           and
           stupid
           ,
           their
           minds
           altogether
           lost
           in
           that
           which
           they
           desire
           to
           find
           ,
           consume
           and
           weare
           out
           all
           their
           comfort
           and
           content
           in
           the
           pursuit
           of
           that
           which
           now
           they
           become
           uncapable
           to
           attain
           :
           being
           bereaved
           of
           themselves
           ,
           their
           comforts
           ,
           and
           peradventure
           
           their
           wits
           all
           at
           once
           :
           so
           at
           length
           make
           themselvs
           fitter
           for
           
             Bedlam
          
           then
           the
           mariage
           bed
           ;
           when
           as
           on
           the
           contrary
           ,
           those
           who
           set
           themselves
           to
           seek
           her
           of
           God
           ,
           enjoy
           much
           pleasure
           and
           quiet
           in
           seeking
           ,
           contentment
           in
           finding
           ,
           and
           comfort
           in
           the
           possessing
           .
        
         
           7.
           
           Hereby
           shalt
           thou
           yeeld
           unto
           him
           due
           obeisance
           ,
           acknowledging
           him
           to
           be
           thy
           supream
           governour
           ,
           going
           to
           him
           as
           children
           to
           the
           Parent
           ,
           for
           guidance
           and
           direction
           in
           all
           their
           affaires
           ;
           a
           thing
           well-pleasing
           unto
           him
           .
           But
           if
           on
           the
           contrary
           ,
           we
           will
           rush
           into
           such
           weighty
           businesses
           ,
           and
           venture
           our selves
           upon
           things
           of
           so
           great
           concernment
           ,
           
           without
           acquainting
           him
           with
           it
           ,
           or
           seeking
           to
           him
           for
           it
           ,
           or
           imploring
           his
           aid
           and
           assistance
           for
           the
           accomplishing
           of
           it
           :
           what
           is
           it
           but
           to
           pluck
           our
           neckes
           from
           his
           yoak
           ,
           casting
           off
           all
           obedience
           and
           subjection
           to
           him
           ,
           as
           if
           wee
           had
           no
           dependance
           on
           him
           ;
           and
           therefore
           would
           slight
           all
           direction
           from
           him
           ?
        
         
           8.
           
           Then
           lastly
           how
           ever
           it
           fal
           out
           ,
           thou
           mayst
           find
           comfort
           in
           it
           :
           Bee
           she
           vertuous
           or
           vicious
           ;
           if
           vertuous
           ,
           then
           comfort
           will
           flow
           in
           ,
           on
           every
           side
           ;
           great
           comfort
           wil
           redound
           to
           thee
           ,
           that
           God
           was
           graciously
           pleased
           to
           bend
           his
           eare
           unto
           thee
           ,
           and
           give
           thee
           so
           favourable
           a
           pledge
           of
           his
           loving
           kindnesse
           .
           
           Every
           time
           thou
           casts
           thine
           eye
           upō
           her
           ,
           thou
           mayest
           wth
           rejoicing
           cast
           up
           thine
           eyes
           to
           God
           ,
           and
           say
           ,
           Lo
           ,
           this
           is
           the
           wife
           that
           thou
           hast
           given
           me
           ,
           and
           blesse
           him
           in
           that
           thou
           hast
           so
           goodly
           an
           heritage
           .
           If
           vitious
           ,
           yet
           if
           thou
           hast
           the
           inward
           testimony
           of
           thy
           conscience
           ,
           bearing
           thee
           witnesse
           ,
           that
           thou
           didst
           sincerely
           commit
           thy
           way
           unto
           the
           Lord
           ,
           and
           roll
           thy selfe
           upon
           him
           for
           direction
           in
           it
           :
           Lo
           here
           thou
           mayst
           assuredly
           take
           comfort
           that
           all
           shall
           be
           for
           thy
           good
           :
           he
           who
           brought
           thee
           to
           this
           condition
           ,
           shall
           support
           thee
           in
           it
           ;
           he
           wil
           either
           lighten
           the
           weight
           of
           thy
           burden
           ,
           or
           strengthen
           the
           weaknesse
           of
           thy
           shoulders
           .
           
           But
           now
           if
           this
           web
           of
           trouble
           hath
           been
           of
           thine
           owne
           weaving
           ,
           if
           by
           thine
           own
           negligence
           thou
           hast
           been
           much
           wanting
           in
           thy
           duty
           to
           God
           ,
           and
           by
           indirect
           meanes
           hast
           haled
           this
           crosse
           upon
           thee
           ,
           and
           God
           not
           cast
           it
           on
           thee
           ,
           then
           lay
           thy
           hand
           upon
           thy
           mouth
           ,
           patiently
           submit
           ,
           repentance
           is
           fitter
           for
           thee
           then
           comfort
           .
        
         
           Now
           ,
           who
           wil
           not
           but
           easily
           be
           convinced
           ,
           that
           no
           course
           is
           like
           this
           ,
           for
           the
           procurement
           of
           a
           good
           wife
           ?
           It
           were
           well
           if
           our
           hearts
           could
           as
           easily
           be
           brought
           to
           subject
           to
           the
           practice
           of
           it
           ,
           as
           our
           minds
           brought
           to
           submit
           to
           the
           truth
           of
           it
           .
        
         
           But
           here
           it
           may
           be
           demanded
           ,
           how
           or
           in
           what
           manner
           
           must
           God
           be
           sought
           ,
           and
           dealt
           withall
           ,
           by
           those
           who
           desire
           this
           blessing
           ?
        
         
           The
           only
           way
           as
           for
           this
           ,
           so
           for
           all
           other
           mercies
           ,
           is
           prayer
           ;
           a
           means
           ,
           under
           which
           may
           well
           be
           written
           ,
           
             Probatum
             est
             :
          
           for
           seldome
           any
           who
           diligently
           applied
           themselvs
           to
           this
           way
           ,
           ever
           failed
           of
           their
           end
           ;
           therefore
           let
           it
           be
           your
           study
           in
           the
           best
           manner
           you
           are
           able
           ,
           to
           direct
           your
           supplications
           to
           him
           to
           this
           purpose
           .
        
         
           1.
           
           That
           he
           would
           give
           you
           wisdome
           and
           understanding
           in
           your
           choyce
           (
           for
           only
           the
           wise
           in
           choice
           seale
           to
           their
           joyes
           )
           that
           when
           any
           one
           is
           presented
           to
           your
           view
           ,
           that
           your
           heart
           might
           not
           be
           taken
           either
           with
           their
           beauty
           
           or
           riches
           ,
           or
           naturall
           endowments
           ,
           so
           as
           to
           be
           carelesse
           and
           negligent
           in
           seeking
           and
           searching
           after
           that
           ,
           which
           is
           the
           main
           :
           That
           grace
           in
           her
           heart
           may
           be
           the
           only
           orient
           pearle
           that
           shines
           so
           bright
           in
           your
           eyes
           .
           Had
           we
           indeed
           nothing
           but
           a
           corporal
           substance
           ,
           then
           beauty
           ,
           riches
           ,
           honour
           ,
           and
           the
           like
           ,
           might
           be
           chiefly
           desired
           &
           most
           sought
           after
           ,
           as
           things
           most
           agreeable
           and
           delightfull
           unto
           sense
           :
           but
           we
           are
           endowed
           with
           a
           most
           noble
           soule
           ,
           too
           high
           born
           to
           feed
           on
           such
           husks
           ;
           all
           these
           will
           afford
           no
           more
           relish
           ,
           then
           the
           white
           of
           an
           egge
           .
           Therefore
           other
           dainties
           must
           be
           provided
           ,
           other
           qualifications
           must
           be
           sought
           for
           ,
           which
           may
           be
           more
           sutable
           to
           this
           
           noble
           faculty
           :
           And
           what
           can
           that
           be
           but
           grace
           ?
           that
           alone
           is
           the
           dainties
           with
           which
           the
           soule
           thrives
           :
           shall
           therefore
           the
           chiefest
           of
           our
           desires
           ,
           and
           the
           greatest
           of
           our
           endevours
           be
           laid
           out
           for
           that
           which
           will
           nourish
           the
           body
           ,
           but
           poyson
           the
           soule
           ;
           which
           will
           feed
           the
           slave
           ,
           but
           starve
           the
           child
           ?
           God
           forbid
           :
           yet
           thus
           many
           doe
           ,
           and
           thus
           shall
           we
           do
           if
           God
           withdraw
           from
           us
           his
           wisedome
           ,
           and
           deliver
           us
           up
           to
           our
           owne
           folly
           .
        
         
           2.
           
           Again
           ,
           beg
           of
           God
           ,
           that
           he
           would
           never
           knit
           thy
           affections
           to
           any
           whose
           affections
           he
           hath
           not
           knit
           to
           himselfe
           ;
           that
           thy
           love
           might
           never
           be
           sincere
           to
           them
           ,
           whose
           love
           is
           not
           sincere
           to
           God
           .
           And
           because
           we
           many
           times
           
           see
           that
           there
           may
           be
           a
           rotten
           karkasse
           under
           a
           faire
           Sepulcher
           ,
           and
           deadly
           poyson
           under
           a
           smooth
           skin
           ,
           that
           there
           may
           be
           gall
           and
           bitternesse
           in
           their
           hearts
           ,
           whose
           mouthes
           drop
           as
           the
           hony
           ,
           and
           the
           hony
           comb
           :
           that
           there
           may
           be
           loathsome
           hypocrisie
           under
           the
           faire
           shewes
           of
           sincerity
           :
           And
           because
           God
           alone
           searcheth
           the
           heart
           ,
           and
           trieth
           the
           reines
           ,
           we
           can
           judge
           only
           by
           outward
           appearance
           :
           therefore
           desire
           of
           him
           ,
           that
           he
           would
           search
           and
           try
           them
           ;
           and
           see
           if
           there
           be
           any
           way
           of
           iniquity
           found
           in
           them
           ,
           and
           discover
           it
           to
           you
           ,
           that
           so
           your
           affections
           might
           not
           be
           as
           some
           mens
           eyes
           ,
           led
           astray
           with
           false
           fire
           .
        
         
           3.
           
           Now
           if
           upon
           discovery
           
           it
           evidently
           appeares
           ,
           that
           as
           yet
           the
           truth
           of
           grace
           is
           not
           wrought
           in
           her
           heart
           :
           then
           earnestly
           beg
           of
           God
           ,
           that
           he
           would
           withdraw
           thy
           affections
           ,
           and
           take
           away
           the
           edge
           of
           them
           :
           for
           it
           is
           to
           be
           questioned
           ,
           whether
           thy
           heart
           be
           sincerely
           gracious
           ,
           if
           thy
           affections
           can
           be
           sincere
           to
           them
           which
           are
           graceless
           .
           Fling
           not
           the
           reins
           of
           thy
           love
           upon
           the
           neck
           of
           thy
           affections
           ,
           but
           beg
           of
           God
           that
           he
           who
           subdueth
           all
           things
           to
           himselfe
           ,
           would
           subdue
           thy
           affections
           ,
           &
           bring
           them
           into
           subjection
           to
           his
           will
           ,
           that
           they
           might
           be
           like
           the
           Captains
           servant
           ,
           to
           goe
           and
           come
           at
           his
           pleasure
           .
        
         
           4.
           
           But
           now
           if
           thou
           hast
           so
           far
           ingaged
           thy self
           ,
           that
           it
           is
           neither
           able
           nor
           lawfull
           for
           
           thee
           to
           withdraw
           thy
           affections
           ,
           and
           yet
           canst
           not
           evidently
           perceive
           that
           there
           is
           truth
           of
           grace
           in
           her
           heart
           ,
           then
           double
           thy
           requests
           before
           God
           ,
           pray
           ,
           and
           pray
           earnestly
           ,
           that
           he
           would
           bestow
           on
           her
           his
           distinguishing
           mercies
           ,
           that
           he
           would
           implant
           the
           seeds
           of
           saving
           grace
           in
           her
           heart
           ,
           and
           make
           them
           to
           appeare
           in
           her
           life
           ;
           give
           not
           over
           night
           or
           day
           ;
           give
           not
           sleep
           to
           thine
           eyes
           ,
           nor
           slumber
           to
           thy
           eye
           lids
           ,
           till
           thou
           hast
           obtained
           this
           for
           her
           ;
           what
           fellowship
           hath
           light
           with
           darkness
           ,
           or
           Christ
           with
           Belial
           ?
           yea
           enlarge
           thy
           requests
           unto
           God
           ,
           that
           he
           would
           first
           unite
           her
           unto
           Christ
           ,
           before
           he
           joynes
           her
           unto
           thee
           :
           that
           he
           would
           first
           
           marry
           her
           unto
           his
           Son
           ,
           before
           he
           marries
           her
           unto
           thee
           ;
           that
           he
           would
           make
           her
           one
           with
           him
           ,
           before
           he
           make
           her
           one
           with
           thee
           ;
           that
           he
           would
           make
           you
           members
           of
           one
           head
           ,
           before
           he
           make
           you
           one
           body
           ;
           that
           yee
           might
           be
           both
           one
           spirit
           ,
           before
           ye
           are
           one
           flesh
           ;
           that
           he
           would
           first
           joyn
           your
           hearts
           ,
           and
           then
           joyne
           your
           hands
           .
        
         
           5.
           
           Now
           if
           by
           diligent
           search
           it
           doth
           manifestly
           appeare
           ,
           that
           God
           hath
           done
           more
           then
           ordinarily
           for
           her
           soule
           ,
           that
           there
           are
           the
           impressions
           of
           a
           new
           creature
           stampt
           upon
           her
           ,
           and
           that
           the
           pangs
           of
           the
           new
           birth
           are
           over
           ,
           then
           the
           chiefe
           ,
           but
           yet
           not
           all
           thy
           work
           is
           done
           :
           thou
           mayst
           not
           presently
           sit
           down
           and
           
           conclude
           ,
           
             This
             is
             a
             wife
             for
             me
             and
             I
             will
             be
             an
             husband
             for
             her
             .
          
           No
           ,
           there
           is
           yet
           a
           further
           inquiry
           to
           be
           made
           :
           for
           as
           thou
           mayst
           not
           make
           choice
           of
           any
           who
           is
           not
           godly
           ,
           so
           neither
           mayst
           thou
           chuse
           of
           every
           one
           that
           is
           ;
           she
           may
           be
           good
           ,
           yet
           not
           good
           for
           thee
           ,
           she
           may
           be
           a
           fit
           wife
           ,
           yet
           not
           fit
           for
           thee
           .
           Further
           therefore
           inlarge
           thy
           requests
           ,
           that
           
             God
          
           would
           provide
           for
           thee
           not
           only
           a
           good
           wife
           ,
           but
           a
           meet
           wife
           ,
           meet
           in
           every
           respect
           .
        
         
           1.
           
           In
           regard
           of
           age
           ,
           a
           green
           head
           will
           not
           suit
           with
           gray
           haires
           ,
           neither
           do
           we
           usually
           graft
           young
           plants
           upon
           old
           stocks
           :
           to
           see
           youth
           joyn'd
           to
           age
           ,
           is
           a
           thing
           no
           lesse
           ridiculous
           to
           others
           ,
           then
           incongruous
           in
           it self
           ;
           such
           matches
           
           never
           please
           any
           but
           the
           parties
           ;
           yea
           and
           them
           but
           for
           a
           while
           .
        
         
           2.
           
           A
           meetnesse
           not
           only
           in
           regard
           of
           age
           ,
           but
           parentage
           would
           be
           convenient
           :
           let
           birds
           of
           a
           feather
           flock
           together
           ,
           
             pares
             cum
             paribus
             .
          
           The
           Eagle
           will
           not
           joyn
           herselfe
           with
           a
           Sparrow
           ,
           neither
           is
           it
           fit
           for
           an
           Asse
           to
           associate
           with
           a
           Lion
           ,
           they
           seldome
           joyne
           without
           confusion
           ,
           which
           is
           commonly
           the
           event
           of
           such
           unequall
           matches
           ,
           being
           begun
           with
           the
           discord
           of
           parents
           ,
           and
           end
           for
           the
           most
           part
           in
           the
           dissention
           of
           parties
           .
        
         
           3.
           
           Seek
           a
           meetnesse
           in
           regard
           of
           estate
           in
           some
           equall
           proportion*
           ;
           though
           meanes
           ought
           not
           chiefly
           to
           be
           
           sought
           ,
           so
           neither
           altogether
           to
           be
           neglected
           .
        
         
           1.
           
           Marry
           not
           one
           that
           hath
           nought
           ,
           lest
           she
           be
           set
           at
           nought
           by
           thee
           ,
           or
           by
           thy
           friends
           .
           
             Rachel
          
           was
           not
           so
           much
           despised
           for
           her
           barren
           womb
           ,
           as
           many
           now
           are
           for
           their
           barren
           purse
           .
        
         
           2.
           
           Againe
           ,
           seeke
           not
           one
           whose
           estate
           doth
           far
           surpasse
           
           thine
           ,
           
             Jerem.
          
           45.
           5.
           
           *
           Indeed
           if
           God
           by
           his
           providence
           cast
           such
           an
           one
           upon
           thee
           ,
           thou
           mayst
           embrace
           it
           ;
           but
           it
           is
           one
           thing
           to
           seek
           it
           ,
           and
           another
           thing
           to
           have
           it
           cast
           upon
           thee
           .
           But
           this
           is
           the
           Haven
           which
           most
           men
           desire
           ,
           and
           here
           lieth
           the
           rock
           on
           which
           many
           men
           are
           split
           .
           Some
           are
           so
           desirous
           of
           riches
           ,
           that
           no
           competent
           portion
           will
           serve
           
           their
           turne
           ,
           but
           having
           many
           large
           proffers
           ,
           yet
           remain
           unsatisfied
           ,
           and
           so
           while
           they
           covet
           all
           ,
           at
           length
           perhaps
           lose
           all
           ;
           so
           that
           there
           is
           danger
           in
           seeking
           ,
           what
           is
           there
           then
           in
           finding
           a
           wife
           richly
           laden
           ?
           Surely
           that
           saying
           is
           true
           :
           
             Non
             videmus
             idmanticae
             quod
             in
             tergo
             est
             ,
          
           we
           see
           not
           that
           part
           of
           the
           wallet
           that
           is
           behind
           ,
           we
           view
           the
           fore-part
           of
           her
           wallet
           laden
           wth
           wealth
           ,
           and
           there
           we
           fix
           our
           eyes
           ,
           without
           either
           care
           or
           desire
           to
           looke
           further
           :
           But
           had
           we
           wisedome
           to
           cast
           our
           eyes
           into
           that
           part
           ,
           which
           is
           behind
           ,
           we
           should
           behold
           it
           fil'd
           with
           sorrow
           and
           trouble
           in
           full
           measure
           ,
           thrust
           downe
           ,
           heapt
           up
           ;
           yea
           ,
           if
           not
           running
           over
           .
           How
           many
           inconveniences
           
           attend
           such
           marriages
           ,
           they
           best
           know
           who
           feele
           the
           weight
           of
           them
           ,
           and
           groan
           under
           the
           burden
           of
           them
           ;
           yet
           some
           there
           are
           ,
           whi●h
           reason
           and
           daily
           experience
           inform
           us
           of
           ;
           as
           first
           ,
           thou
           dost
           incur
           the
           danger
           of
           losing
           all
           thy
           right
           of
           respect
           that
           's
           due
           unto
           thee
           ,
           who
           in
           stead
           of
           reverencing
           thee
           ,
           will
           disrespect
           thee
           ,
           in
           stead
           of
           making
           thee
           her
           head
           ,
           will
           set
           thee
           at
           her
           feet
           :
           and
           because
           in
           riches
           she
           weighes
           most
           ,
           therefore
           she
           will
           look
           in
           authority
           to
           sway
           most
           :
           she
           whose
           desire
           should
           be
           to
           thee
           ,
           now
           thine
           must
           be
           to
           her
           ;
           and
           because
           she
           hath
           brought
           thee
           thy
           estate
           ,
           therefore
           will
           she
           take
           upon
           her
           ,
           without
           controlment
           ,
           to
           consume
           thy
           estate
           .
           
           And
           if
           by
           words
           or
           actions
           thou
           any
           way
           shew
           thy
           dislike
           ,
           thou
           shalt
           soon
           find
           it
           ,
           to
           the
           losse
           of
           thy
           peace
           ,
           and
           the
           increase
           of
           thy
           daily
           trouble
           and
           vexation
           :
           yea
           ,
           to
           an
           higher
           pitch
           will
           this
           flame
           arise
           ,
           if
           there
           be
           not
           grace
           to
           qualifie
           it
           .
        
         
           3.
           
           There
           should
           be
           a
           respect
           had
           to
           her
           constitution
           ,
           and
           disposition
           ;
           two
           passionate
           natures
           will
           not
           well
           agree
           :
           much
           like
           the
           meeting
           of
           two
           mill-stones
           ,
           when
           there
           is
           no
           corn
           between
           ,
           it
           endāgers
           the
           firing
           of
           the
           whole
           Mill
           :
           litle
           peace
           and
           great
           trouble
           is
           the
           portion
           of
           that
           family
           where
           such
           meet
           .
           Neither
           will
           two
           melancholy
           bodies
           sute
           well
           ;
           when
           any
           crosse
           or
           trouble
           befalls
           them
           ,
           how
           will
           they
           
           be
           able
           to
           bear
           one
           anothers
           burden
           ,
           or
           comfort
           one
           another
           ,
           when
           as
           melancholy
           ,
           the
           nourisher
           of
           grief
           ,
           is
           as
           much
           predominant
           in
           the
           one
           as
           in
           the
           other
           ?
        
         
           By
           this
           then
           it
           may
           plainly
           appeare
           ,
           that
           it
           is
           a
           businesse
           of
           great
           importance
           ;
           wisedome
           is
           not
           more
           necessarie
           and
           beneficial
           ,
           neither
           is
           rashnesse
           more
           obnoxious
           in
           any
           thing
           then
           in
           this
           :
           *
           For
           being
           once
           done
           ,
           it
           cannot
           be
           undone
           .
           Why
           is
           it
           ,
           that
           every
           corner
           almost
           ecchoes
           with
           these
           or
           the
           like
           complaints
           ?
           One
           will
           say
           ,
           I
           would
           I
           had
           never
           seen
           thy
           face
           ;
           another
           will
           say
           ,
           I
           never
           enjoyed
           merry
           day
           since
           I
           knew
           thee
           ;
           a
           third
           ,
           I
           would
           I
           were
           unmarried
           again
           .
           Some
           bewailing
           
           their
           condition
           with
           teares
           ,
           others
           railing
           with
           oathes
           ,
           and
           a
           third
           raging
           with
           curses
           :
           All
           which
           is
           nothing
           else
           but
           the
           fruit
           of
           an
           indiscreet
           and
           unadvised
           brain
           ,
           which
           leapt
           before
           they
           lookt
           ,
           and
           so
           run
           headlong
           upon
           their
           own
           ruine
           .
        
         
           But
           now
           if
           by
           thy
           diligent
           prayers
           God
           hath
           been
           so
           gracious
           to
           thee
           ,
           as
           to
           bring
           to
           thy
           view
           ,
           and
           to
           thy
           proffer
           ,
           one
           endowed
           with
           all
           those
           qualifications
           before
           mentioned
           ,
           and
           so
           every
           way
           fit
           for
           thee
           ,
           yet
           before
           thou
           setlest
           thy selfe
           to
           wooe
           her
           ,
           wooe
           both
           thy
           friends
           and
           her
           friends
           ,
           labour
           to
           obtaine
           their
           free
           wil
           and
           consent
           unto
           it
           ;
           you
           know
           the
           proverb
           ,
           
             Stoln
             goods
             will
             not
             prosper
             ,
          
           if
           
           thou
           takest
           her
           ,
           without
           her
           friends
           consent
           ,
           shee
           's
           no
           better
           then
           stoln
           ,
           for
           thou
           violently
           takest
           from
           them
           ,
           that
           which
           they
           doe
           not
           willingly
           give
           thee
           :
           and
           how
           canst
           thou
           expect
           a
           blessing
           should
           accompany
           this
           thievish
           match
           ?
           Again
           ,
           if
           thou
           givest
           thy self
           to
           her
           ,
           without
           thy
           friends
           consent
           ,
           thou
           robbest
           them
           of
           their
           priviledge
           ,
           and
           becom'st
           thine
           own
           carver
           ,
           a
           thing
           contrary
           to
           the
           rules
           of
           reason
           ,
           and
           Gods
           word
           .
           Against
           the
           rules
           of
           reason
           :
           for
           what
           more
           reasonable
           then
           for
           a
           man
           to
           dispose
           of
           his
           owne
           ,
           and
           what
           more
           his
           own
           then
           his
           children
           ?
           They
           are
           the
           parents
           right
           ,
           they
           brought
           them
           into
           the
           world
           ,
           they
           came
           out
           of
           their
           own
           loyns
           ,
           
           and
           were
           bred
           up
           at
           their
           own
           breasts
           ;
           they
           have
           suffered
           much
           ,
           and
           done
           much
           for
           them
           :
           How
           many
           sick
           sits
           ,
           and
           weak
           faintings
           were
           they
           subject
           to
           in
           their
           conception
           ?
           How
           many
           terrible
           pangs
           and
           painfull
           dolours
           did
           accompany
           their
           production
           ?
           With
           what
           diligent
           care
           and
           fervent
           pains
           ,
           and
           frequent
           cost
           were
           they
           at
           for
           their
           education
           ?
           How
           many
           a
           wakeful
           night
           ,
           and
           wearisome
           rest
           ,
           and
           tedious
           thoughts
           ,
           and
           dolefull
           teares
           ,
           and
           earnest
           prayers
           ,
           have
           they
           poured
           out
           for
           them
           ?
           Let
           not
           him
           be
           worthy
           the
           name
           of
           a
           child
           ,
           who
           having
           received
           thus
           much
           from
           their
           parents
           ,
           will
           not
           with
           all
           possible
           subjection
           acknowledge
           it
           .
           And
           what
           
           better
           testimony
           of
           thy
           acknowledgement
           canst
           thou
           give
           ,
           then
           in
           this
           ,
           to
           submit
           thy selfe
           to
           him
           ,
           who
           (
           under
           God
           )
           hath
           been
           the
           cause
           of
           thy
           being
           ,
           and
           so
           earnestly
           seeks
           after
           thy
           well-being
           ?
           It
           is
           a
           part
           of
           the
           parents
           duty
           seasonably
           and
           carefully
           to
           provide
           in
           this
           kind
           for
           their
           children
           .
           Thus
           did
           
             Abraham
          
           for
           his
           son
           
             Isaac
             ,
             Gen.
          
           24.
           2.
           3.
           
           
           And
           
             Isaac
          
           for
           his
           son
           
             Jacob
             ,
             Gen.
          
           28.
           12.
           
           And
           
             Hagar
          
           for
           
           her
           sonne
           
             Ismael
             ,
             Gen.
          
           21.
           21.
           
           And
           as
           the
           sons
           ,
           so
           the
           daughters
           were
           at
           the
           parents
           disposing
           ,
           therefore
           saith
           
             Caleb
             ,
             I
             will
             give
             thee
             Achsah
             my
             daughter
             to
             wife
             ,
             Josh.
          
           15.
           17.
           
           
           And
           
             Saul
          
           gave
           
             David
             Michol
          
           his
           daughter
           to
           wife
           ,
           1
           
             Sam.
          
           18.
           27.
           yea
           
             Naomi
          
           was
           carefull
           
           to
           provide
           for
           
             Ruth
             ,
          
           her
           daughter
           in
           law
           ,
           
             Ruth
          
           1.
           2.
           
           
           And
           is
           it
           not
           then
           the
           childrens
           duty
           to
           submit
           to
           their
           parents
           providing
           ?
           Yea
           surely
           :
           for
           so
           did
           
             Jacob
             ,
             Gen.
          
           28.
           
           6
           ,
           7.
           
           Nay
           ,
           it
           is
           observable
           ,
           that
           the
           parents
           consent
           amongst
           the
           heathen
           ,
           is
           a
           thing
           requisite
           in
           marriage
           ,
           
             Gen.
          
           34.
           4.
           
           
           Therefore
           said
           
             Shechem
          
           to
           his
           father
           
             Hamar
             ,
             Get
             me
             this
             maid
             to
             wife
             ,
          
           implying
           that
           unlesse
           his
           Father
           would
           get
           her
           ,
           he
           could
           not
           take
           her
           .
           And
           what
           doe
           they
           but
           heap
           up
           woe
           to
           themselves
           ,
           and
           sorrow
           and
           griefe
           upon
           the
           gray
           haires
           of
           their
           aged
           parents
           ,
           who
           do
           otherwise
           ?
           
             Gen.
          
           26.
           34
           ,
           35.
           
           Therefore
           seeing
           
           it
           is
           the
           Parents
           duty
           to
           provide
           ,
           and
           thine
           to
           submit
           ,
           beg
           
           of
           God
           that
           he
           would
           direct
           the
           hearts
           of
           thy
           parents
           to
           pitch
           upon
           one
           who
           may
           be
           every
           way
           qualified
           and
           meet
           for
           thee
           ,
           as
           before
           mentioned
           ,
           that
           their
           hearts
           may
           not
           be
           so
           carried
           away
           with
           some
           particular
           object
           ,
           at
           which
           they
           look
           most
           ,
           and
           like
           best
           ,
           be
           it
           beauty
           or
           honour
           ,
           or
           friends
           ,
           or
           riches
           ,
           or
           the
           like
           :
           (
           for
           with
           these
           many
           are
           so
           taken
           ,
           that
           if
           they
           see
           these
           attend
           her
           ,
           be
           there
           else
           never
           so
           much
           unfitness
           and
           incongruity
           ,
           yet
           they
           are
           resolute
           ,
           none
           but
           she
           shall
           have
           their
           consent
           ,
           )
           but
           that
           their
           affections
           might
           be
           taken
           most
           with
           that
           which
           deserves
           it
           best
           :
           and
           then
           desire
           that
           thy
           affections
           may
           be
           pliable
           to
           his
           ,
           that
           he
           would
           
           bring
           them
           into
           a
           submissive
           frame
           ;
           and
           not
           like
           some
           whose
           affections
           having
           taken
           an
           head
           ,
           run
           themselves
           upon
           this
           desperate
           resolution
           ,
           that
           what
           ever
           become
           of
           it
           ,
           they
           are
           resolved
           ,
           fall
           back
           or
           fall
           edge
           ,
           like
           or
           dislike
           ,
           none
           shall
           stop
           them
           ,
           none
           shall
           hinder
           them
           ;
           certainly
           where
           such
           unbridled
           resolutions
           meet
           in
           either
           ,
           it
           plainly
           argues
           that
           
             God
          
           was
           sought
           of
           neither
           ;
           neither
           of
           the
           parent
           for
           the
           child
           ,
           nor
           of
           the
           child
           for
           himselfe
           .
           But
           surely
           this
           is
           the
           fruit
           of
           prayer
           ,
           and
           here
           is
           the
           finger
           of
           God
           ,
           when
           the
           thoughts
           ,
           intentions
           ,
           and
           affections
           of
           both
           sweetly
           and
           harmoniously
           meet
           ,
           and
           conjoyne
           in
           one
           .
           The
           building
           up
           of
           this
           match
           will
           be
           
           like
           the
           building
           up
           of
           the
           Temple
           ,
           1
           
             Kings
          
           6.
           7.
           wherein
           was
           heard
           neither
           the
           voyce
           of
           the
           Hammer
           or
           the
           axe
           :
           so
           here
           all
           things
           shall
           come
           forward
           so
           prosperously
           and
           so
           easily
           ,
           that
           there
           shall
           not
           need
           an
           hammer
           to
           drive
           them
           ,
           and
           all
           obstacles
           shall
           be
           so
           dissolved
           ,
           that
           there
           shall
           be
           no
           need
           of
           an
           Axe
           to
           hew
           them
           asunder
           .
        
         
           Now
           having
           successively
           wooed
           thy
           parents
           ,
           then
           proceed
           to
           obtain
           the
           good
           will
           of
           the
           party
           ;
           but
           first
           be
           sure
           she
           be
           one
           to
           whom
           thy
           affections
           can
           be
           entirely
           knit
           .
           Let
           no
           riches
           entice
           thee
           ,
           nor
           beauty
           allure
           thee
           ,
           nor
           friends
           perswade
           thee
           ,
           no
           nor
           grace
           move
           thee
           to
           make
           any
           thy
           wife
           ,
           where
           thou
           dost
           not
           find
           
           thine
           affections
           equally
           drawing
           thee
           to
           it
           :
           for
           where
           entire
           love
           begins
           not
           the
           match
           ,
           there
           jarring
           discords
           for
           the
           most
           part
           will
           end
           it
           .
           First
           ,
           be
           sure
           that
           thy
           affections
           are
           on
           her
           ;
           and
           then
           labour
           to
           get
           her
           affections
           unto
           thee
           :
           This
           mutuall
           love
           is
           the
           foundation
           on
           which
           this
           marriage
           structure
           must
           be
           built
           ,
           and
           the
           pillars
           which
           must
           continually
           support
           it
           .
           Indeed
           it
           is
           the
           very
           kernell
           of
           the
           businesse
           ;
           he
           who
           will
           attempt
           it
           without
           this
           ,
           must
           expect
           that
           it
           cannot
           stand
           firm
           ,
           but
           will
           ere
           long
           shatter
           about
           his
           eares
           .
        
         
           And
           as
           thy
           care
           must
           be
           to
           get
           her
           good
           will
           ,
           so
           how
           thou
           gettest
           it
           :
           for
           herein
           many
           bewray
           abundance
           of
           
           weaknesse
           ,
           and
           a
           bundle
           of
           folly
           .
        
         
           1.
           
           Some
           will
           declare
           their
           kindred
           ,
           from
           what
           a
           noble
           stock
           they
           are
           derived
           ,
           how
           nobly
           descended
           ,
           what
           royall
           blood
           runs
           in
           their
           veines
           :
           Thus
           they
           seek
           by
           honour
           to
           win
           their
           wives
           .
        
         
           2.
           
           Others
           will
           unlock
           their
           Treasuries
           ,
           lay
           open
           their
           riches
           ,
           spread
           before
           them
           their
           revenues
           ,
           declare
           unto
           them
           the
           length
           and
           breadth
           of
           their
           possessions
           ,
           with
           large
           proffers
           and
           promises
           ,
           that
           the
           quintessence
           of
           them
           all
           shall
           be
           extracted
           for
           their
           use
           and
           service
           .
           Thus
           riches
           shall
           be
           a
           net
           to
           entrap
           their
           affections
           .
        
         
           3.
           
           Some
           will
           acquaint
           them
           what
           large
           priviledges
           they
           
           shall
           obtain
           ,
           what
           liberty
           they
           shall
           enjoy
           ,
           what
           ever
           is
           in
           the
           house
           ,
           or
           in
           the
           field
           ,
           or
           in
           the
           purse
           ,
           shall
           be
           at
           their
           disposing
           ,
           that
           without
           controllment
           they
           shall
           come
           and
           goe
           ,
           walk
           and
           ride
           at
           their
           own
           pleasure
           .
           These
           pretend
           liberty
           ,
           but
           intend
           to
           bind
           them
           sure
           to
           themselvs
           .
        
         
           4.
           
           Others
           there
           be
           who
           will
           spend
           their
           time
           and
           studies
           in
           frequenting
           the
           Muses
           ,
           that
           so
           by
           their
           aid
           they
           may
           compose
           some
           curious
           Poems
           ,
           &
           Anagrams
           ,
           deckt
           with
           many
           quaint
           expressions
           ,
           and
           fawning
           flatteries
           ,
           thinking
           by
           these
           to
           ravish
           the
           affections
           of
           their
           silly
           sweet-hearts
           .
        
         
           5.
           
           Some
           againe
           will
           seek
           to
           win
           their
           affections
           not
           with
           words
           ,
           but
           actions
           ,
           they
           
           will
           heap
           on
           them
           ,
           many
           rare
           presents
           ,
           and
           present
           them
           with
           many
           gifts
           ,
           and
           give
           them
           many
           tokens
           ,
           nay
           how
           will
           they
           strain
           their
           purses
           ,
           and
           stretch
           their
           wits
           ,
           as
           it
           were
           on
           the
           tenters
           ,
           to
           contrive
           what
           gifts
           will
           be
           most
           acceptable
           ,
           and
           what
           presents
           may
           be
           the
           best
           load-stone
           to
           draw
           their
           affections
           ?
        
         
           6.
           
           Others
           there
           be
           ,
           who
           will
           ●pply
           themselves
           by
           base
           flatterings
           and
           enticings
           accompanied
           with
           many
           foolish
           gestures
           ,
           fond
           &
           unseemly
           carriages
           ,
           the
           fruits
           of
           a
           weak
           brain
           ,
           and
           a
           light
           behaviour
           ,
           as
           if
           they
           had
           to
           deale
           with
           a
           simple
           child
           ,
           and
           not
           a
           wise
           maiden
           .
        
         
           7.
           
           And
           if
           this
           will
           not
           take
           effect
           ,
           some
           there
           be
           who
           
           will
           set
           their
           hellish
           thoughts
           awork
           ,
           how
           to
           accomplish
           ,
           so
           as
           to
           have
           their
           lustfull
           will
           upon
           her
           ,
           thinking
           that
           then
           all
           will
           be
           sure
           ,
           as
           if
           they
           had
           to
           deale
           with
           a
           prostitute
           quean
           ,
           and
           not
           a
           chast
           Virgin
           .
        
         
           There
           are
           many
           other
           wayes
           and
           methods
           ,
           which
           to
           the
           wisest
           are
           unknown
           .
           The
           way
           of
           a
           young
           man
           with
           a
           maid
           ,
           is
           one
           of
           those
           foure
           hidden
           things
           ,
           
             Prov.
          
           30.
           19.
           
           
           But
           it
           is
           to
           be
           feared
           ,
           that
           among
           the
           many
           wayes
           that
           so
           many
           persons
           tread
           ,
           there
           are
           but
           few
           that
           hit
           upon
           the
           right
           :
           Surely
           I
           should
           think
           this
           course
           best
           :
           it
           is
           most
           sure
           and
           lesse
           chargeable
           ,
           a
           way
           wherein
           abundance
           of
           comfort
           and
           contentment
           
           may
           be
           brought
           in
           ,
           and
           not
           any
           the
           least
           expended
           or
           laid
           out
           :
           seeking
           in
           another
           method
           ,
           many
           spend
           abundance
           of
           rest
           and
           contentment
           ,
           and
           at
           length
           misse
           of
           their
           aime
           ,
           but
           in
           this
           way
           they
           shall
           gain
           abundance
           of
           peace
           and
           comfort
           ,
           and
           seldome
           or
           never
           fail
           of
           their
           end
           .
        
         
           Goe
           to
           God
           ,
           and
           earnestly
           intreat
           him
           ,
           that
           as
           he
           hath
           afforded
           thee
           his
           assistance
           hitherto
           ,
           in
           guiding
           and
           directing
           thee
           to
           pitch
           thy
           thoughts
           only
           on
           one
           who
           is
           religiously
           and
           vertuously
           disposed
           ,
           one
           who
           is
           every
           way
           qualified
           and
           fitted
           for
           thee
           ;
           and
           as
           he
           hath
           been
           gracious
           unto
           thee
           ,
           so
           as
           to
           afford
           thee
           the
           free
           will
           and
           consent
           of
           parents
           ,
           and
           removed
           
           all
           difficulties
           and
           rubbs
           that
           might
           lie
           in
           the
           way
           ;
           that
           so
           now
           there
           is
           a
           smooth
           and
           plain
           passage
           open
           for
           thee
           to
           her
           ,
           and
           her
           to
           thee
           :
           desire
           him
           ,
           that
           as
           he
           hath
           begun
           ,
           that
           so
           he
           would
           finish
           the
           work
           :
           that
           he
           would
           guide
           thee
           and
           direct
           thee
           to
           pitch
           upon
           such
           a
           course
           ,
           to
           obtain
           her
           affections
           ,
           as
           may
           be
           most
           prosperous
           in
           it self
           ,
           and
           best
           pleasing
           to
           him
           :
           Tell
           him
           thou
           knowest
           ,
           that
           neither
           thine
           own
           nor
           her
           affections
           ,
           are
           at
           each
           others
           own
           ,
           but
           at
           his
           disposing
           ;
           he
           is
           able
           to
           turne
           them
           and
           wind
           them
           as
           he
           pleaseth
           :
           therefore
           i●treat
           him
           to
           knit
           and
           unite
           your
           affections
           one
           towards
           another
           in
           an
           unsep●rable
           bond
           that
           might
           never
           be
           broken
           ;
           
           in
           a
           knot
           so
           firm
           ,
           that
           nothing
           but
           death
           may
           dissolve
           it
           :
           and
           not
           like
           some
           ,
           who
           after
           their
           affections
           have
           been
           setled
           ,
           and
           the
           match
           even
           almost
           concluded
           ,
           I
           know
           not
           whether
           by
           their
           parents
           ,
           for
           some
           triviall
           businesse
           ,
           or
           mony
           matter
           ;
           or
           by
           the
           parties
           themselves
           for
           some
           small
           jarre
           or
           prejudice
           ,
           entertained
           perhaps
           onely
           through
           the
           aspersion
           of
           some
           ,
           malevolent
           to
           their
           future
           happinesse
           ,
           they
           have
           rashly
           broke
           off
           all
           ,
           which
           for
           the
           present
           ,
           though
           they
           have
           swallowed
           downe
           ,
           yet
           perhaps
           never
           throughly
           digested
           ,
           and
           so
           it
           hath
           bred
           in
           them
           a
           distempered
           head
           ,
           a
           disquieted
           mind
           ,
           and
           a
           discontented
           heart
           .
        
         
         
           Again
           ,
           tell
           him
           ,
           thou
           dost
           not
           attempt
           by
           any
           indirect
           wayes
           of
           thine
           owne
           ,
           or
           by
           any
           unlawfull
           enterprises
           of
           others
           to
           insinuate
           thy selfe
           into
           her
           affections
           ,
           or
           to
           draw
           her
           affections
           unto
           thee
           ,
           but
           thou
           leavest
           it
           to
           him
           :
           And
           ,
           as
           many
           do
           ,
           sometimes
           make
           choyce
           of
           some
           speciall
           friend
           to
           imploy
           in
           this
           businesse
           of
           wooing
           for
           them
           ;
           so
           thou
           dost
           make
           choyce
           of
           him
           ,
           as
           thy
           most
           especiall
           friend
           ,
           into
           whose
           hands
           thou
           dost
           wholly
           commit
           thy selfe
           ,
           intrusting
           him
           with
           the
           whole
           businesse
           ,
           desiring
           him
           to
           doe
           all
           thy
           works
           for
           thee
           .
        
         
           Now
           if
           he
           should
           seem
           to
           put
           thee
           off
           ,
           as
           not
           willing
           to
           undertake
           for
           thee
           ,
           thou
           
           mayst
           tell
           him
           ,
           it
           is
           contrary
           to
           his
           practice
           of
           old
           ,
           he
           was
           wont
           to
           invite
           his
           servants
           and
           children
           ,
           that
           when
           they
           had
           any
           great
           businesse
           to
           do
           ,
           they
           should
           come
           and
           cast
           the
           burden
           of
           it
           on
           him
           ,
           
             Psal.
          
           55.
           
           22.
           
           Tell
           him
           he
           is
           immutable
           ,
           he
           is
           God
           and
           changeth
           not
           ,
           therefore
           he
           cannot
           shake
           thee
           off
           .
           Tell
           him
           thou
           dost
           trust
           him
           with
           it
           ,
           and
           presse
           him
           with
           his
           promise
           wherein
           he
           hath
           said
           ,
           He
           will
           never
           faile
           any
           that
           put
           their
           trust
           
           in
           him
           ,
           
             Deut.
             31.
             6.
             
             Psal.
          
           9.
           10.
           and
           then
           thou
           mayst
           be
           sure
           he
           will
           not
           begin
           with
           thee
           .
           Tell
           him
           thou
           wilt
           stay
           his
           leasure
           ,
           and
           wait
           upon
           him
           ,
           knowing
           that
           he
           that
           beleeveth
           ,
           maketh
           not
           hast
           ;
           tell
           him
           thou
           knowest
           that
           none
           
           can
           so
           easily
           unite
           your
           affections
           as
           he
           can
           ;
           if
           he
           do
           but
           speake
           the
           word
           ,
           it
           shall
           be
           done
           ;
           and
           if
           he
           doe
           but
           once
           unite
           them
           ,
           they
           are
           united
           to
           the
           purpose
           ,
           nothing
           shall
           be
           able
           to
           loose
           them
           ;
           neither
           sicknesse
           nor
           poverty
           ,
           or
           misery
           ,
           or
           persecution
           ,
           or
           imprisonment
           ,
           or
           what
           ever
           it
           be
           that
           may
           separate
           their
           bodies
           ,
           nothing
           shall
           separate
           their
           affections
           ;
           yea
           further
           desire
           him
           ,
           that
           he
           would
           in
           such
           a
           way
           ,
           and
           in
           such
           a
           manner
           draw
           your
           affections
           together
           ,
           so
           as
           you
           may
           see
           ,
           it
           is
           his
           hand
           alone
           that
           knits
           them
           :
           so
           shalt
           thou
           be
           encouraged
           to
           fasten
           them
           on
           her
           ,
           as
           on
           one
           which
           he
           hath
           provided
           for
           you
           :
           yea
           ,
           let
           him
           know
           ,
           that
           as
           there
           are
           
           many
           prayers
           put
           up
           unto
           him
           ,
           so
           there
           are
           many
           prayers
           wait
           upon
           him
           ;
           and
           if
           hee
           will
           successively
           accomplish
           the
           desires
           of
           his
           people
           ,
           he
           shall
           most
           willingly
           inhabit
           the
           praises
           of
           his
           people
           .
           Surely
           ,
           whoever
           doth
           apply
           himselfe
           in
           these
           wayes
           ,
           hee
           shall
           find
           them
           very
           prosperous
           ;
           God
           doth
           usually
           crowne
           them
           with
           successe
           ,
           thou
           shalt
           find
           more
           then
           an
           ordinary
           providence
           going
           along
           with
           thee
           ,
           and
           doing
           for
           thee
           ;
           yea
           ,
           it
           may
           be
           ,
           beyond
           thy
           expectation
           ,
           thou
           shalt
           see
           and
           feel
           such
           a
           sweet
           conjunction
           of
           heart
           and
           affection
           ,
           the
           very
           contemplation
           of
           it
           will
           exceedingly
           please
           and
           delight
           thee
           .
        
         
           When
           you
           or
           your
           friend
           
           for
           you
           ,
           do
           make
           the
           motion
           to
           her
           friend
           or
           friends
           ,
           under
           whose
           power
           she
           is
           ,
           or
           if
           (
           she
           being
           in
           her
           own
           power
           )
           it
           be
           made
           to
           her selfe
           ,
           you
           must
           then
           deal
           truly
           ,
           doe
           not
           dare
           by
           any
           means
           ,
           to
           circumvent
           them
           to
           gain
           your
           desire
           ,
           either
           by
           seeming
           to
           be
           more
           religious
           ,
           or
           better
           then
           you
           indeed
           are
           ,
           or
           by
           making
           your
           condition
           ,
           or
           estate
           ,
           seeme
           better
           then
           it
           is
           ,
           conceale
           nothing
           from
           them
           ,
           the
           knowledge
           whereof
           after
           marriage
           ,
           may
           cause
           griefe
           unto
           them
           ;
           or
           may
           give
           them
           cause
           to
           say
           ,
           that
           you
           dealt
           falsly
           and
           deceitfully
           with
           them
           .
        
         
           9.
           
           When
           you
           make
           &
           prosecute
           your
           sute
           to
           her
           ,
           be
           serious
           ,
           free
           ,
           ingenuous
           ,
           and
           discreet
           ,
           with
           all
           kindnesse
           ,
           
           yet
           doe
           not
           pretend
           more
           love
           then
           indeed
           you
           beare
           unto
           her
           .
        
         
           10.
           
           Now
           if
           at
           last
           God
           hath
           answered
           thy
           praiers
           ,
           and
           fulfilled
           thy
           desires
           ,
           and
           hath
           given
           thee
           a
           vertuous
           wife
           ,
           hath
           given
           thee
           her
           friends
           and
           thy
           friends
           consent
           ,
           and
           hath
           most
           firmely
           united
           your
           affections
           in
           a
           sweet
           and
           inviolable
           bond
           of
           love
           ,
           so
           that
           now
           the
           match
           is
           struck
           ,
           and
           thou
           enjoyest
           thy
           hearts
           desire
           ;
           then
           forget
           not
           thy
           former
           serious
           resolutions
           ,
           and
           intentions
           :
           Didst
           thou
           not
           resolve
           when
           thou
           wast
           in
           the
           multitude
           of
           thy
           thoughts
           ,
           entangled
           in
           thy
           affections
           ,
           surprised
           with
           feares
           ,
           and
           doubtfull
           of
           thy
           hopes
           ,
           that
           if
           God
           would
           be
           pleased
           to
           
           quiet
           thy
           thoughts
           ,
           settle
           thy
           affections
           ,
           banish
           thy
           feares
           ,
           and
           make
           sure
           thy
           hopes
           ,
           that
           then
           thou
           wouldst
           with
           all
           thankfull
           acknowledgement
           ,
           return
           to
           him
           the
           glory
           of
           it
           .
           Remember
           therefore
           what
           hath
           gone
           out
           of
           thy
           mouth
           ;
           and
           as
           he
           hath
           turned
           thy
           petition
           into
           fruition
           ;
           so
           doe
           thou
           turn
           thy
           resolution
           into
           action
           ,
           and
           presently
           fall
           a
           blessing
           of
           him
           .
        
         
           1.
           
           Bless
           him
           that
           ever
           hee
           put
           it
           into
           thy
           heart
           to
           fall
           upon
           this
           course
           of
           seeking
           of
           him
           ;
           when
           as
           others
           in
           all
           their
           thoughts
           ,
           and
           amidst
           the
           variety
           of
           their
           wayes
           and
           contrivances
           ,
           this
           is
           the
           least
           ,
           yea
           ,
           not
           any
           of
           them
           :
           To
           seek
           God
           in
           such
           a
           matter
           as
           this
           ,
           they
           think
           it
           a
           thing
           as
           
           ridiculous
           ,
           so
           unprosperous
           ;
           now
           that
           thou
           shouldst
           make
           choyce
           of
           this
           way
           above
           all
           others
           ,
           which
           by
           experience
           thou
           hast
           found
           to
           be
           the
           best
           and
           surest
           ,
           here
           is
           cause
           of
           blessing
           .
        
         
           2.
           
           Again
           ,
           bless
           him
           ,
           that
           he
           hath
           given
           thee
           any
           wisedome
           in
           choosing
           ,
           that
           hee
           hath
           restrained
           thee
           from
           hurrying
           thy
           affections
           headlong
           ,
           as
           many
           do
           ,
           without
           wit
           or
           discretion
           ,
           upon
           any
           which
           their
           rude
           fancie
           ,
           and
           roving
           eye
           is
           cast
           upon
           ,
           giving
           the
           reines
           to
           their
           unbridled
           affections
           ,
           to
           run
           unadvisedly
           upon
           any
           ,
           where
           they
           see
           no
           other
           excellency
           ,
           but
           only
           that
           which
           is
           in
           wealth
           ,
           honour
           ,
           beauty
           ,
           parts
           ,
           or
           the
           like
           :
           as
           for
           grace
           ,
           they
           desire
           it
           not
           
           at
           all
           ;
           or
           if
           they
           do
           ,
           only
           as
           the
           over-waight
           to
           so
           many
           pounds
           of
           Gold
           ;
           yea
           ,
           some
           are
           so
           besotted
           ,
           that
           where
           none
           of
           these
           are
           ,
           yet
           there
           shall
           their
           affections
           be
           ;
           how
           then
           hast
           thou
           cause
           to
           bless
           God
           ,
           that
           he
           hath
           given
           thee
           such
           spirituall
           wisedome
           ,
           wherewithall
           to
           over-master
           thy
           affections
           ,
           so
           as
           they
           are
           carryed
           out
           only
           there
           ,
           where
           there
           are
           better
           motives
           to
           draw
           them
           ?
           as
           for
           
             Beauty
             ,
             Riches
             ,
          
           and
           the
           like
           ,
           these
           thou
           desirest
           only
           as
           Adjuncts
           ,
           as
           the
           shell
           :
           
             Grace
             ,
          
           that
           is
           the
           substance
           ,
           that
           is
           the
           kernell
           ,
           for
           which
           thou
           takest
           so
           much
           pains
           to
           get
           ,
           and
           being
           gotten
           ,
           takest
           so
           much
           delight
           in
           enjoying
           .
        
         
           3.
           
           Bless
           him
           ,
           not
           only
           for
           
           applying
           thy
           minde
           to
           seek
           a
           vertuous
           and
           gracious
           mate
           ;
           but
           that
           he
           hath
           crowned
           thy
           seeking
           with
           finding
           ,
           that
           thou
           hast
           found
           a
           
             Rose
          
           among
           the
           
             Thistles
          
           and
           a
           
             Lilly
          
           among
           the
           
             Thornes
             ;
          
           that
           among
           so
           many
           thousands
           ,
           he
           hath
           ,
           as
           it
           were
           ,
           cull'd
           out
           one
           ,
           whose
           gracious
           and
           godly
           disposition
           is
           every
           way
           answerable
           to
           thy
           desire
           ;
           and
           whose
           qualification
           is
           every
           way
           sutable
           to
           thy
           nature
           ;
           he
           hath
           not
           dealt
           so
           with
           every
           one
           ,
           many
           have
           sought
           ,
           but
           not
           found
           ,
           and
           few
           have
           had
           their
           expectations
           answered
           in
           their
           enjoyments
           .
        
         
           4.
           
           Again
           ,
           bless
           him
           not
           only
           that
           thou
           hast
           found
           ,
           but
           that
           thou
           hast
           found
           with
           so
           much
           facility
           and
           delight
           ;
           he
           
           hath
           made
           thy
           pains
           easie
           ,
           and
           thy
           labours
           delightfull
           ,
           thou
           hast
           obtained
           a
           great
           blessing
           with
           little
           cost
           ;
           shouldest
           thou
           have
           obtained
           her
           as
           many
           have
           done
           ,
           with
           the
           undergoing
           of
           a
           troubled
           minde
           ,
           a
           disquieted
           spirit
           ,
           many
           tumultuous
           thoughts
           ,
           &
           restless
           vexations
           ,
           yet
           thou
           couldst
           not
           but
           bless
           ;
           nay
           ,
           shouldest
           thou
           have
           been
           put
           to
           it
           with
           
             David
             ,
          
           to
           obtain
           thy
           wife
           with
           the
           danger
           of
           thy
           life
           ,
           by
           dint
           of
           sword
           ,
           to
           slay
           an
           hundred
           
             Philistims
             ,
          
           and
           bring
           their
           fore-skins
           for
           a
           dowrie
           ,
           
           1.
           
             Sam.
          
           18.
           25.
           or
           with
           
             Othniel
             ,
          
           who
           won
           his
           wife
           with
           the
           hazard
           of
           his
           life
           ,
           by
           smiting
           
             Ki●…athsepher
             ,
          
           and
           taking
           it
           ,
           
             Josuah
          
           15.
           17.
           yet
           there
           was
           cause
           to
           
           bless
           :
           but
           if
           thou
           hast
           been
           so
           
           far
           from
           undergoing
           such
           difficulties
           ,
           as
           that
           thou
           hast
           with
           no
           danger
           ,
           but
           a
           great
           deal
           of
           safety
           ,
           and
           much
           felicity
           obtained
           her
           ;
           God
           having
           removed
           for
           thee
           even
           all
           those
           lesser
           impediments
           ,
           that
           at
           any
           time
           did
           but
           lie
           in
           the
           way
           as
           rubs
           to
           hinder
           it
           ;
           and
           hath
           in
           all
           thy
           way
           made
           good
           that
           promise
           to
           thee
           ,
           
             Isa.
          
           26.
           3.
           keeping
           thee
           in
           
           perfect
           peace
           ,
           because
           thy
           mind
           was
           stayed
           on
           him
           ;
           Oh
           then
           what
           cause
           hast
           thou
           to
           bless
           !
        
         
           5.
           
           Bless
           him
           that
           he
           did
           freely
           give
           thee
           the
           good
           will
           and
           consent
           of
           thine
           and
           her
           friends
           ;
           the
           procuring
           of
           which
           some
           have
           sought
           with
           many
           a
           sad
           thought
           ,
           and
           turbulent
           minde
           ,
           but
           could
           not
           
           obtain
           it
           ,
           and
           those
           that
           have
           ventured
           so
           far
           ,
           as
           to
           match
           themselves
           without
           it
           ,
           have
           incurr'd
           the
           loss
           ,
           not
           only
           of
           their
           friends
           favour
           ,
           but
           of
           their
           own
           comfort
           .
        
         
           6.
           
           And
           bless
           him
           ,
           if
           hee
           hath
           weaned
           thy
           affections
           from
           any
           that
           formerly
           they
           were
           cast
           on
           (
           now
           seeing
           Gods
           providence
           otherwise
           disposing
           of
           her
           )
           thou
           wast
           hereby
           wrought
           ,
           not
           to
           a
           malicious
           hatred
           against
           her
           ,
           or
           to
           a
           fretting
           vexation
           in
           thy self
           ,
           as
           many
           have
           been
           ,
           who
           having
           been
           once
           crossed
           in
           their
           affections
           ,
           have
           for
           the
           time
           to
           come
           ,
           resolved
           irreconcileable
           hatred
           against
           the
           party
           ,
           and
           rashly
           vowed
           perpetuall
           virginity
           to
           themselves
           ,
           a
           thing
           not
           in
           their
           
           own
           power
           .
           But
           herein
           mayst
           thou
           bless
           ,
           that
           thou
           didst
           willingly
           submit
           to
           God
           ,
           as
           to
           that
           which
           was
           best
           for
           thee
           ,
           still
           preserving
           thy
           affections
           towards
           her
           ,
           so
           as
           to
           pray
           for
           ,
           and
           desire
           her
           welfare
           ,
           rejoyce
           in
           her
           prosperity
           ,
           and
           mourn
           with
           her
           in
           adversitie
           .
           And
           for
           thy selfe
           didst
           patiently
           commit
           thy selfe
           unto
           the
           Lord
           ,
           waiting
           till
           hee
           would
           provide
           for
           thee
           ,
           who
           hath
           now
           answerably
           satisfied
           thy
           desire
           ,
           and
           given
           thee
           such
           a
           blessing
           as
           that
           thou
           hast
           not
           lost
           by
           waiting
           .
        
         
           7.
           
           And
           lastly
           ,
           bless
           him
           ,
           that
           hee
           hath
           so
           prospered
           all
           your
           enterprizes
           ,
           that
           hee
           hath
           so
           heard
           your
           prayers
           ;
           as
           that
           now
           hee
           hath
           given
           
           you
           a
           ful
           and
           compleat
           fruition
           of
           them
           ,
           hee
           having
           now
           knit
           your
           affections
           one
           towards
           another
           in
           a
           most
           firm
           and
           indissoluble
           union
           ;
           so
           that
           all
           your
           former
           distempered
           thoughts
           are
           now
           quieted
           ,
           your
           affections
           setled
           ,
           your
           fears
           banished
           ,
           and
           your
           hopes
           (
           respecting
           so
           great
           a
           temporall
           mercy
           )
           enjoyed
           .
        
         
           
             {non-Roman}
             {non-Roman}
             {non-Roman}
             {non-Roman}
             {non-Roman}
          
           .
        
      
       
       
         
           Some
           other
           directions
           for
           unmarried
           persons
           ,
        
         
           YOU
           have
           in
           the
           former
           Discourse
           seen
           many
           Directions
           how
           to
           make
           a
           godly
           choice
           of
           one
           ,
           with
           whom
           you
           would
           marry
           .
           Before
           I
           give
           you
           like
           Directions
           how
           to
           live
           as
           becommeth
           Christians
           in
           that
           married
           estate
           ,
           I
           shall
           minde
           you
           of
           some
           things
           needfull
           to
           be
           known
           and
           made
           use
           of
           ,
           before
           that
           your
           marriage
           be
           consummate
           .
        
         
         
           1.
           
           Do
           not
           please
           and
           deceive
           your self
           ,
           with
           a
           mis-apprehension
           of
           the
           married
           estate
           ,
           promising
           to
           your self
           to
           reap
           and
           injoy
           that
           good
           ,
           and
           (
           as
           many
           will
           call
           it
           )
           that
           happiness
           ,
           which
           is
           not
           to
           be
           found
           in
           it
           .
        
         
           2.
           
           There
           is
           an
           insufficiency
           in
           marriage
           ,
           as
           in
           all
           other
           earthly
           (
           though
           lawfull
           and
           good
           )
           things
           ,
           to
           give
           full
           content
           ,
           and
           to
           satisfie
           your
           desires
           :
           you
           must
           bring
           content
           with
           you
           unto
           it
           ,
           or
           you
           shall
           never
           find
           content
           in
           it
           .
           You
           must
           first
           be
           so
           good
           a
           scholler
           in
           Christs
           School
           ,
           as
           to
           have
           
             learned
             in
             every
             estate
             to
          
           
           
             be
             content
             .
          
        
         
           3.
           
           Take
           heed
           that
           heat
           of
           love
           do
           not
           make
           you
           so
           blinde
           ,
           that
           you
           see
           not
           things
           
           as
           they
           are
           ,
           nor
           yet
           look
           after
           ,
           or
           see
           any
           thing
           but
           what
           may
           concern
           the
           satisfying
           of
           your
           present
           desires
           .
        
         
           4.
           
           How
           many
           are
           there
           ,
           that
           when
           they
           are
           in
           love
           ,
           see
           nothing
           but
           fair
           ,
           and
           good
           ,
           in
           their
           
             Beloved
             ?
          
           then
           they
           can
           see
           no
           faults
           ,
           scarce
           any
           infirmities
           ,
           who
           ,
           after
           marriage
           ,
           when
           their
           lust
           is
           a
           little
           over
           ,
           or
           unsatisfied
           ,
           or
           not
           finding
           the
           content
           they
           expected
           ,
           are
           too
           quick-sighted
           to
           see
           and
           finde
           faults
           ,
           when
           there
           is
           none
           ,
           or
           such
           only
           ,
           as
           wise
           men
           should
           have
           foreseen
           ,
           and
           can
           easily
           bear
           &
           pass
           by
           .
        
         
           5.
           
           They
           are
           also
           so
           wholly
           taken
           up
           with
           expectation
           of
           the
           present
           delights
           and
           content
           they
           shall
           have
           by
           marriage
           ,
           that
           they
           do
           not
           at
           all
           
           forethink
           of
           the
           many
           duties
           ,
           which
           ,
           when
           they
           are
           married
           ,
           they
           must
           doe
           ;
           nor
           yet
           of
           the
           cares
           they
           must
           take
           ;
           nor
           of
           the
           evils
           they
           are
           to
           suffer
           .
        
         
           7.
           
           All
           these
           you
           must
           think
           of
           ,
           and
           prepare
           for
           ,
           before
           that
           you
           marry
           .
        
         
           8.
           
           God
           hath
           in
           his
           Word
           told
           you
           ,
           what
           you
           must
           doe
           when
           you
           are
           married
           ,
           most
           of
           the
           particulars
           I
           shall
           shew
           you
           in
           the
           ensuing
           Discourse
           .
        
         
           9.
           
           God
           hath
           also
           told
           you
           ,
           that
           when
           you
           are
           married
           ,
           
             you
             shall
             have
             troubles
             in
             the
          
           
           
             flesh
             ,
          
           such
           as
           single
           persons
           are
           freed
           from
           ;
           yea
           ,
           troubles
           so
           many
           wayes
           ,
           and
           in
           so
           many
           things
           ,
           that
           they
           cannot
           be
           numbred
           ;
           daily
           experience
           of
           married
           persons
           proveth
           it
           to
           be
           most
           true
           .
        
         
         
           10.
           
           When
           sin
           entred
           into
           the
           world
           ,
           it
           made
           the
           whole
           
           Creation
           
             subject
             to
             vanitie
             ;
          
           it
           did
           empty
           the
           creature
           of
           that
           sufficiency
           which
           before
           it
           had
           ,
           whereby
           satisfaction
           and
           content
           might
           have
           been
           found
           in
           it
           for
           all
           those
           purposes
           for
           which
           God
           had
           made
           it
           .
           This
           sin
           it
           brought
           a
           
           curse
           upon
           the
           creature
           ;
           yea
           ,
           
           upon
           
             marriage
             ;
          
           so
           that
           if
           any
           shall
           be
           so
           foolish
           as
           to
           expect
           nothing
           but
           good
           in
           it
           ,
           he
           shall
           finde
           nothing
           but
           
             vanitie
          
           
           
             and
             vexation
             of
             spirit
             ;
          
           as
           we
           learn
           by
           
             Salomons
          
           experiment
           .
        
         
           11.
           
           I
           write
           not
           this
           to
           discourage
           any
           ,
           who
           have
           a
           calling
           to
           marry
           ;
           For
           marriage
           is
           an
           honorable
           ordinance
           of
           God
           ,
           for
           excellent
           ends
           ;
           as
           to
           
           
           be
           a
           
             seminary
          
           for
           the
           propagation
           of
           mankinde
           ,
           a
           nursery
           out
           of
           which
           to
           gather
           his
           Church
           ,
           a
           means
           to
           prevent
           sin
           in
           those
           who
           have
           strong
           
           desires
           ,
           and
           cannot
           well
           containe
           ,
           as
           also
           for
           mutuall
           help
           and
           comfort
           in
           humane
           societie
           .
        
         
           12.
           
           Such
           may
           be
           a
           single
           man
           or
           womans
           constitution
           of
           body
           ,
           and
           condition
           for
           their
           outward
           estate
           ,
           that
           the
           good
           and
           comfort
           of
           marriage
           may
           countervaile
           and
           exceed
           the
           troubles
           of
           it
           .
           In
           such
           cases
           it
           is
           best
           to
           marry
           ;
           whereas
           otherwise
           it
           would
           be
           best
           to
           abstaine
           .
        
         
           13.
           
           The
           least
           sin
           is
           worse
           and
           more
           to
           be
           shunned
           ,
           then
           the
           greatest
           earthly
           trouble
           .
           Touching
           marrying
           ,
           or
           not
           
           marrying
           ,
           choice
           is
           to
           be
           made
           ,
           according
           as
           men
           may
           
             best
             please
             God
          
           in
           either
           estate
           ,
           and
           be
           most
           free
           from
           sin
           ,
           or
           (
           as
           their
           condition
           may
           be
           in
           comparison
           )
           most
           free
           from
           
             worldly
             cares
             and
             distractions
             .
          
           
           In
           some
           cases
           ,
           some
           few
           distractions
           in
           the
           unmarried
           estate
           ,
           may
           exceed
           the
           many
           troubles
           in
           the
           married
           .
        
         
           14.
           
           Where
           a
           wise
           and
           good
           choice
           is
           made
           ,
           there
           are
           indeed
           many
           benefits
           and
           comforts
           to
           be
           found
           in
           the
           married
           estate
           ;
           For
           in
           many
           cases
           
             Two
             are
             better
             then
             one
             ,
          
           especially
           ,
           
           when
           those
           two
           are
           one
           in
           their
           studies
           and
           affections
           ,
           to
           doe
           one
           another
           good
           .
           Loving
           and
           faithful
           husbands
           and
           wives
           ,
           will
           one
           help
           another
           in
           keeping
           off
           ,
           and
           (
           if
           this
           
           cannot
           be
           )
           in
           bearing
           one
           anothers
           burdens
           ,
           and
           will
           supply
           each
           others
           wants
           in
           very
           many
           things
           ,
           both
           corporall
           and
           spirituall
           ,
           and
           will
           be
           speciall
           helpers
           of
           each
           others
           joy
           .
        
         
           15.
           
           In
           the
           married
           estate
           may
           be
           expected
           the
           greatest
           earthly
           comforts
           attainable
           in
           this
           life
           ;
           yea
           ,
           much
           spirituall
           comfort
           ,
           if
           the
           yoak-fellowes
           doe
           truely
           feare
           God
           ,
           and
           are
           truely
           religious
           and
           loving
           one
           to
           another
           ,
           so
           that
           they
           apply
           themselves
           to
           be
           helpfull
           ,
           and
           to
           doe
           good
           ,
           and
           give
           all
           lawfull
           content
           unto
           each
           other
           ,
           in
           all
           the
           good
           offices
           they
           owe
           as
           husband
           and
           wife
           ,
           and
           as
           heires
           together
           of
           the
           same
           grace
           of
           life
           .
        
         
         
           16.
           
           It
           shall
           be
           your
           wisdome
           to
           be
           provident
           and
           wary
           how
           you
           enter
           into
           this
           estate
           ;
           and
           that
           you
           foreknow
           ,
           and
           doe
           throughly
           forethink
           and
           prepare
           for
           abilitie
           to
           do
           the
           duties
           ,
           and
           to
           beare
           the
           troubles
           which
           that
           estate
           wil
           necessarily
           put
           you
           upon
           ,
           as
           I
           hinted
           before
           .
        
         
           17
           I
           would
           therefore
           have
           unmarried
           persons
           take
           heed
           that
           they
           deceive
           not
           themselves
           in
           expecting
           more
           good
           in
           the
           married
           estate
           ,
           then
           it
           hath
           in
           it
           to
           afford
           them
           ,
           lest
           (
           when
           they
           are
           disappointed
           of
           what
           they
           expected
           ,
           nay
           ,
           when
           contrary
           to
           expectation
           they
           find
           much
           to
           be
           done
           ,
           yea
           ,
           much
           evill
           to
           be
           suffered
           which
           they
           neither
           looked
           ,
           nor
           prepared
           for
           )
           their
           lives
           
           be
           made
           comfortable
           ;
           and
           as
           to
           some
           it
           doth
           prove
           so
           irksome
           and
           intolerable
           ,
           that
           they
           sinfully
           (
           and
           too
           late
           )
           repent
           of
           that
           their
           marriage
           which
           they
           so
           inconsiderably
           did
           enter
           into
           .
        
         
           1.
           
           When
           two
           meet
           persons
           have
           acc●rding
           to
           the
           former
           directions
           proceeded
           ,
           and
           have
           gained
           consent
           of
           parents
           ,
           and
           consent
           of
           each
           other
           ,
           so
           that
           they
           are
           resolved
           to
           marry
           one
           another
           :
           it
           is
           good
           that
           they
           be
           contracted
           and
           made
           sure
           one
           to
           another
           ,
           by
           betrothing
           ,
           before
           that
           they
           be
           solemnly
           married
           .
        
         
           2.
           
           This
           hath
           been
           the
           use
           of
           Gods
           people
           in
           all
           ages
           ,
           
           both
           before
           and
           since
           the
           coming
           of
           our
           Saviour
           :
           His
           
           mother
           ,
           the
           blessed
           Virgin
           
           
             Mary
             ,
          
           was
           
             betrothed
          
           to
           
             Joseph
             .
          
        
         
           3.
           
           This
           act
           of
           betrothing
           of
           two
           meet
           persons
           allowed
           to
           marry
           ,
           is
           by
           mutuall
           plighting
           their
           troths
           ,
           and
           giving
           themselves
           one
           to
           another
           ,
           to
           enjoy
           each
           other
           ,
           when
           they
           shall
           be
           solemnly
           married
           .
        
         
           4.
           
           This
           act
           doth
           so
           assure
           them
           one
           to
           another
           ,
           that
           they
           cannot
           (
           though
           both
           should
           consent
           )
           go
           back
           and
           desist
           from
           marriage
           ;
           yet
           it
           doth
           not
           give
           them
           right
           of
           marriage
           society
           and
           due
           benevolence
           one
           from
           another
           ,
           which
           is
           not
           given
           untill
           marriage
           :
           
             Mary
          
           the
           mother
           of
           
           our
           Saviour
           ,
           was
           
             Joseph
          
           her
           husbands
           
             Wife
             ,
          
           by
           vertue
           of
           the
           betrothing
           ,
           but
           she
           continued
           a
           Virgin
           .
           
             Joseph
          
           had
           
           no
           
             knowledge
             of
             her
             ,
          
           because
           
           they
           were
           not
           marryed
           .
        
         
           5.
           
           This
           betrothing
           is
           of
           great
           good
           use
           ;
           For
           after
           that
           they
           are
           betrothed
           ,
           the
           mindes
           of
           those
           two
           are
           setled
           ,
           all
           fears
           and
           doubts
           of
           breaking
           off
           ,
           are
           removed
           .
           They
           may
           then
           not
           only
           give
           leave
           to
           their
           affections
           ,
           but
           may
           heighten
           and
           inlarge
           them
           ,
           one
           towards
           another
           .
           Now
           ,
           they
           may
           ,
           and
           ought
           to
           consider
           before-hand
           of
           their
           coming
           together
           ,
           and
           of
           making
           provision
           for
           it
           .
           And
           this
           staying
           some
           time
           between
           the
           contract
           and
           marriage
           ,
           will
           shew
           ,
           that
           it
           is
           not
           lust
           which
           makes
           them
           run
           headlong
           into
           this
           estate
           ,
           as
           it
           is
           with
           too
           many
           ,
           more
           like
           brute
           Beasts
           then
           reasonable
           
           men
           ;
           but
           that
           they
           do
           it
           advisedly
           ,
           soberly
           ,
           and
           in
           the
           fear
           of
           God
           .
        
         
           
             Profitable
             directions
             for
             married
             Persons
             .
          
           
             SOme
             of
             these
             concern
             Husband
             and
             Wife
             mutually
             ;
             some
             concern
             each
             peculiarly
             .
          
           
             1.
             
             When
             God
             hath
             joyned
             you
             in
             so
             neer
             a
             relation
             ,
             you
             are
             first
             to
             see
             God
             ,
             and
             to
             acknowledge
             him
             in
             this
             your
             match
             ;
             It
             was
             God
             who
             
             
               joyned
            
             you
             together
             .
          
           
             2.
             
             All
             things
             come
             to
             pass
             by
             his
             providence
             ,
             which
             is
             to
             be
             taken
             notice
             of
             ;
             but
             marriages
             are
             made
             by
             the
             
             speciall
             hand
             of
             his
             providence
             :
             
               House
               and
               inheritance
            
             
             
               are
               of
               the
               fathers
               ,
            
             but
             
               a
               prudent
               Wife
               ,
            
             and
             so
             a
             good
             Husband
             ,
             
               are
               of
               the
               Lord
               ,
            
             yea
             ,
             every
             good
             Husband
             and
             Wife
             is
             of
             the
             Lord
             .
          
           
             3.
             
             The
             seeing
             and
             acknowledging
             of
             God
             in
             your
             marriage
             ,
             as
             it
             will
             cause
             you
             to
             be
             thankfull
             to
             him
             ;
             so
             it
             will
             arm
             you
             against
             all
             the
             troubles
             in
             the
             flesh
             which
             you
             shall
             meet
             with
             in
             that
             estate
             .
             It
             will
             keep
             you
             from
             repenting
             of
             your
             match
             ,
             and
             from
             wishing
             ,
             that
             you
             had
             not
             married
             this
             person
             ,
             and
             from
             wishing
             ,
             that
             you
             had
             married
             such
             and
             such
             ;
             you
             cannot
             now
             say
             unto
             ,
             or
             twit
             one
             another
             with
             this
             ;
             that
             I
             might
             have
             had
             such
             an
             one
             ,
             
             so
             beautifull
             ,
             so
             personable
             ,
             so
             rich
             ,
             so
             well
             qualified
             ;
             no
             ,
             now
             you
             see
             you
             could
             have
             none
             other
             ,
             this
             is
             the
             man
             ,
             this
             is
             the
             woman
             ,
             that
             God
             hath
             given
             me
             ;
             you
             must
             say
             ,
             I
             will
             therefore
             thankfully
             and
             contentedly
             satisfie
             my self
             in
             this
             my
             lot
             and
             portion
             .
          
           
             4.
             
             Now
             you
             are
             married
             ,
             consider
             what
             you
             then
             did
             ,
             you
             then
             entred
             into
             a
             neer
             covenant
             one
             with
             another
             ;
             yea
             ,
             into
             a
             
               Covenant
               with
               God
            
             
             to
             be
             one
             anothers
             ,
             and
             to
             be
             faithfull
             to
             each
             other
             .
             Now
             
             you
             are
             no
             longer
             two
             ,
             but
             
               one
               flesh
               ,
            
             not
             your
             own
             ,
             but
             one
             anothers
             self
             :
             So
             that
             if
             you
             break
             covenant
             one
             with
             another
             ,
             you
             break
             covenant
             also
             with
             your
             God
             .
          
           
           
             5.
             
             You
             must
             love
             each
             other
             as
             your
             own
             souls
             with
             a
             Christian
             ,
             pure
             ,
             tender
             ,
             abundant
             ,
             naturall
             ,
             and
             matrimoniall
             love
             .
          
           
             *
             6.
             
             The
             foundation
             that
             must
             bear
             up
             this
             love
             ,
             and
             the
             spring
             ,
             which
             must
             feed
             and
             nourish
             this
             love
             ,
             is
             not
             only
             ,
             or
             chiefly
             ,
             the
             commendable
             parts
             and
             endowments
             that
             are
             in
             each
             of
             you
             ,
             but
             the
             neer
             relation
             into
             which
             you
             are
             entred
             ;
             being
             now
             no
             more
             two
             ,
             but
             
               one
               flesh
               ,
            
             and
             bone
             of
             each
             others
             bone
             ,
             and
             that
             it
             is
             now
             from
             God
             ,
             that
             you
             are
             thus
             made
             one
             ;
             and
             that
             it
             is
             his
             will
             and
             pleasure
             that
             it
             should
             be
             so
             .
          
           
             7.
             
             When
             your
             love
             is
             thus
             ●rounded
             ,
             it
             will
             be
             constant
             to
             each
             other
             ,
             as
             well
             in
             one
             
             condition
             as
             another
             .
             You
             must
             therefore
             love
             her
             (
             as
             before
             you
             are
             taught
             )
             because
             God
             hath
             made
             her
             your
             wife
             ;
             And
             you
             must
             so
             love
             him
             ,
             because
             God
             hath
             made
             him
             your
             husband
             :
             Although
             it
             may
             happen
             ,
             that
             there
             is
             not
             in
             your
             yoke-fellow
             that
             personablenes
             ,
             beauty
             ,
             wit
             ,
             vertue
             ,
             and
             good
             qualities
             that
             are
             in
             many
             others
             ,
             yet
             the
             
               own
               husband
               and
               wife
               ,
            
             
             must
             be
             the
             object
             of
             your
             choycest
             and
             singular
             love
             ,
             and
             you
             must
             esteem
             of
             each
             other
             so
             ,
             as
             to
             be
             endeared
             one
             to
             another
             ,
             above
             and
             before
             any
             other
             in
             the
             world
             .
          
           
             8.
             
             This
             love
             must
             shew
             it self
             in
             the
             fruits
             of
             it
             :
             and
             first
             to
             the
             better
             part
             ;
             to
             the
             souls
             one
             of
             another
             .
             
             True
             
               love
               edifieth
            
             not
             only
             a
             
             mans
             self
             ,
             but
             others
             also
             .
          
           
             9.
             
             You
             must
             therefore
             pray
             one
             for
             another
             ,
             and
             one
             wth
             another
             ,
             you
             must
             further
             one
             another
             in
             holiness
             and
             righteousness
             .
             The
             godly
             and
             
             unblameable
             
               conversation
               of
               man
               and
               wife
               ,
            
             doth
             much
             conduce
             to
             the
             conversion
             and
             building
             of
             one
             another
             up
             in
             their
             holy
             faith
             ,
             being
             accompanied
             with
             instructing
             ,
             exhorting
             and
             comforting
             ,
             and
             (
             as
             there
             shall
             be
             cause
             )
             admonishing
             in
             the
             Lord
             :
             It
             is
             no
             usurpation
             ,
             but
             love
             and
             duty
             in
             a
             wife
             ,
             as
             well
             as
             in
             the
             husband
             ,
             to
             perform
             to
             each
             these
             Christian
             offices
             ;
             provided
             always
             ,
             that
             the
             wife
             do
             it
             with
             all
             humble
             respect
             to
             her
             husband
             ,
             in
             due
             time
             ,
             place
             ,
             and
             manner
             .
          
           
           
             10.
             
             This
             love
             must
             also
             shew
             it self
             in
             all
             due
             study
             
             and
             care
             to
             
               please
               each
               other
            
             in
             all
             things
             wherein
             you
             may
             ;
             giving
             all
             lawfull
             content
             one
             to
             another
             ;
             you
             to
             your
             power
             and
             skill
             ,
             must
             be
             
               helpfull
            
             one
             to
             another
             :
             If
             the
             wife
             be
             made
             to
             be
             an
             
               help
            
             to
             
             the
             husband
             ,
             the
             husband
             much
             more
             is
             to
             be
             helpfull
             to
             the
             wife
             ,
             because
             God
             hath
             made
             him
             to
             be
             the
             stronger
             ,
             and
             hath
             given
             him
             more
             ability
             to
             do
             it
             .
          
           
             Your
             hearts
             must
             be
             so
             knit
             to
             each
             other
             ,
             and
             so
             for
             one
             another
             ,
             that
             you
             may
             trust
             one
             in
             the
             other
             ,
             
               doing
               good
               ,
            
             
             
               and
               not
               evill
               :
            
             the
             wife
             to
             the
             husband
             ,
             and
             husband
             to
             the
             wife
             ,
             all
             the
             dayes
             of
             your
             life
             .
          
           
             11.
             
             You
             must
             also
             shew
             
             your
             love
             in
             faithfulness
             to
             each
             other
             ,
             in
             keeping
             your
             bodies
             
               chaste
               ,
            
             and
             only
             one
             for
             
             another
             ,
             giving
             to
             each
             
               due
               benevolence
            
             in
             a
             seasonable
             ,
             temperate
             
             and
             sanctified
             use
             of
             marriage
             ;
             There
             are
             some
             
             times
             wherein
             God
             hath
             forbid
             marriage
             societie
             :
             Also
             intemperate
             and
             immodest
             use
             of
             marriage
             ,
             springing
             from
             immoderate
             affections
             ,
             will
             not
             satisfie
             and
             quench
             lustfull
             desires
             ,
             but
             increase
             them
             rather
             ;
             and
             marriage
             is
             reckoned
             amongst
             those
             good
             things
             of
             God
             which
             are
             warranted
             and
             
               sanctified
            
             
             by
             the
             Word
             of
             God
             and
             Prayer
             .
          
           
             12.
             
             You
             are
             to
             
               satisfie
               your selves
            
             in
             the
             societie
             and
             embraces
             
             each
             of
             your
             own
             husband
             
             and
             wife
             :
             Adulterie
             is
             a
             most
             heynous
             sin
             ,
             and
             most
             destructive
             of
             the
             marriage
             Covenant
             ,
             you
             cannot
             wrong
             one
             another
             in
             any
             thing
             more
             ,
             nor
             any
             way
             sooner
             wrong
             and
             
               root
               out
               your
               posterity
               ,
            
             
             nor
             bring
             a
             greater
             or
             more
             abominable
             and
             
               everlasting
               blot
            
             and
             infamy
             upon
             
             your
             name
             ,
             then
             by
             the
             embracing
             of
             the
             bosome
             of
             a
             stranger
             .
             It
             will
             bring
             
               destruction
            
             
             
               upon
               the
               soul
               ;
            
             for
             
               Whoremongers
               and
               Adulterers
               God
               will
               judge
               :
            
             If
             any
             temptation
             
             or
             motion
             to
             that
             evill
             shall
             present
             it self
             ,
             either
             from
             within
             ,
             or
             from
             without
             ,
             repell
             it
             ,
             with
             indignation
             ,
             saying
             thus
             with
             thy self
             ,
             in
             like
             words
             to
             those
             of
             chast
             
               Joseph
               ,
            
             when
             hee
             was
             
             tempted
             by
             his
             lewd
             Mistress
             Shal
             I
             wrong
             my
             yoak
             fellow
             ;
             shal
             I
             break
             my
             covenant
             that
             I
             made
             with
             my
             God
             ?
             
               How
               can
            
             
             
               I
               commit
               this
               great
               wickedness
               ,
               and
               sin
               against
               God
               ?
            
             Adulterers
             by
             the
             law
             of
             
               Moses
            
             
             were
             to
             be
             
               put
               to
               death
               .
            
          
           
             13.
             
             As
             you
             must
             not
             give
             cause
             ,
             no
             ,
             nor
             occasion
             of
             jealousie
             ,
             so
             abhor
             to
             be
             causelesly
             jealous
             one
             of
             another
             ;
             true
             &
             ardent
             love
             will
             
               think
               no
               evill
               ;
            
             it
             
               believeth
               all
               things
               ,
            
             
             it
             
               hopeth
               all
               things
               .
            
          
           
             14.
             
             You
             must
             with
             all
             tender
             care
             be
             preservers
             of
             each
             others
             names
             and
             credits
             ,
             you
             must
             be
             so
             firm
             to
             each
             other
             ,
             that
             you
             may
             trust
             one
             in
             another
             ,
             and
             lock
             up
             your selves
             in
             one
             anothers
             brests
             ,
             keeping
             each
             others
             secrets
             ,
             
             never
             blazing
             abroad
             the
             faults
             ,
             or
             frailties
             of
             each
             .
             True
             love
             can
             ,
             and
             
               will
               cover
            
             
             
               even
               a
               multitude
               of
               sins
               ;
            
             you
             must
             do
             with
             them
             as
             you
             will
             do
             with
             the
             soars
             of
             your
             own
             bodies
             ,
             never
             uncover
             them
             ,
             but
             when
             a
             plaister
             is
             to
             be
             laid
             to
             them
             .
          
           
             15.
             
             If
             God
             give
             you
             no
             children
             ,
             do
             not
             impute
             the
             fault
             to
             the
             one
             or
             other
             ;
             It
             is
             God
             that
             giveth
             ,
             or
             withholdeth
             children
             :
             when
             you
             have
             commended
             this
             to
             God
             by
             Prayer
             ,
             you
             must
             patiently
             and
             contentedly
             submit
             to
             Gods
             will
             .
             It
             was
             
               Rachels
            
             great
             fault
             ,
             to
             say
             to
             her
             husband
             ,
             
               Give
               mee
               children
               ,
               or
               else
            
             
             
               I
               die
               .
            
          
           
             16.
             
             If
             God
             do
             give
             you
             child
             or
             children
             ,
             then
             joyn
             in
             hearty
             
             thanks
             to
             God
             ,
             who
             hath
             graciously
             given
             them
             unto
             you
             ;
             joyne
             also
             in
             breeding
             and
             bringing
             them
             up
             in
             the
             
             
               nurture
               of
               the
               Lord
               .
            
          
           
             17.
             
             You
             must
             be
             helpfull
             one
             to
             another
             ,
             in
             over-seeing
             ,
             guiding
             ,
             governing
             ,
             and
             well-ordering
             the
             wayes
             of
             your
             family
             .
             Though
             the
             husband
             is
             specially
             to
             have
             an
             eye
             to
             the
             men
             ,
             and
             the
             wife
             to
             the
             maids
             ;
             yet
             it
             shall
             be
             your
             wisdome
             to
             joyne
             as
             in
             the
             choice
             of
             the
             
               faithfullest
            
             
             you
             can
             get
             ,
             so
             in
             
               teaching
            
             and
             furthering
             them
             in
             goodnes
             ,
             taking
             all
             good
             occasion
             to
             instruct
             them
             in
             wayes
             of
             godlinesse
             and
             righteousnesse
             ,
             and
             to
             stop
             and
             restrain
             them
             from
             wickednesse
             ,
             looking
             to
             them
             that
             they
             be
             diligent
             and
             
             faithfull
             in
             their
             places
             :
             you
             must
             joyn
             in
             looking
             to
             the
             state
             of
             your
             family
             ,
             for
             their
             
               due
               imployment
               and
               maintenance
               .
            
             
             And
             as
             in
             governing
             the
             children
             ,
             the
             father
             must
             not
             take
             part
             against
             the
             mother
             ;
             So
             neither
             must
             the
             master
             take
             part
             with
             the
             servants
             against
             the
             dame
             or
             mistresse
             ,
             nor
             must
             the
             mother
             ,
             or
             dame
             ,
             or
             mistresse
             ,
             doe
             the
             like
             ,
             when
             the
             father
             or
             master
             doth
             reprove
             or
             correct
             ,
             but
             must
             joyne
             one
             with
             another
             therein
             .
             If
             either
             father
             or
             mother
             ,
             master
             or
             mistris
             ,
             doe
             faile
             in
             reproofe
             or
             correction
             ,
             they
             are
             in
             private
             to
             shew
             one
             another
             their
             failings
             ,
             and
             not
             openly
             before
             servants
             or
             children
             .
             If
             when
             one
             reproveth
             ,
             the
             other
             doth
             
             cocker
             and
             approve
             ,
             and
             when
             one
             correcteth
             ,
             the
             other
             saveth
             from
             correction
             ;
             this
             doth
             weaken
             the
             authority
             of
             each
             in
             the
             family
             ,
             and
             will
             embolden
             the
             children
             or
             servants
             in
             evill
             ;
             and
             both
             father
             and
             mother
             ,
             master
             ,
             mistresse
             ,
             or
             dame
             ,
             will
             be
             brought
             into
             contempt
             .
          
           
             18.
             
             Touching
             your
             worldly
             estate
             ,
             you
             must
             be
             helpfull
             and
             faithfull
             to
             each
             other
             ;
             you
             must
             be
             
               diligent
            
             in
             your
             
             places
             ,
             and
             be
             good
             husbands
             and
             good
             houswives
             ,
             thrifty
             &
             frugall
             ,
             
               labouring
               with
               hand
            
             
             
               and
               head
               ,
               about
               something
               that
               is
               good
               ,
            
             according
             to
             your
             calling
             ,
             that
             you
             may
             have
             wheron
             you
             and
             yours
             may
             more
             comfortably
             live
             ;
             and
             wherewithall
             you
             may
             doe
             good
             ,
             
             and
             give
             to
             them
             that
             need
             .
             Let
             nothing
             be
             wastfully
             and
             wickedly
             spent
             .
          
           
             19.
             
             And
             know
             ,
             there
             ought
             to
             be
             a
             communitie
             in
             the
             use
             of
             that
             temporall
             estate
             ,
             which
             God
             hath
             given
             you
             ;
             with
             husband
             and
             wife
             all
             such
             things
             should
             be
             common
             ;
             one
             house
             ,
             one
             purse
             ,
             one
             bed
             ,
             in
             every
             thing
             alike
             ,
             sutable
             to
             their
             place
             and
             meanes
             .
             God
             hath
             made
             the
             husband
             to
             be
             head
             ,
             and
             therefore
             to
             have
             the
             chiefe
             power
             in
             disposing
             and
             ordering
             of
             his
             worldly
             estate
             ;
             yet
             the
             wife
             is
             not
             at
             such
             a
             distance
             ,
             as
             is
             the
             servant
             ,
             or
             child
             ,
             but
             so
             neere
             to
             him
             ,
             and
             one
             with
             him
             ,
             that
             shee
             hath
             a
             right
             ,
             as
             in
             his
             honors
             and
             dignities
             ,
             which
             he
             cannot
             restrain
             her
             
             of
             ,
             so
             in
             all
             his
             goods
             ,
             with
             which
             he
             did
             endow
             her
             at
             their
             marriage
             :
             She
             therefore
             is
             to
             enjoy
             them
             as
             well
             as
             he
             for
             her
             use
             ,
             for
             all
             good
             purposes
             ,
             as
             there
             shall
             be
             cause
             ,
             except
             her
             manifest
             folly
             and
             wastfulnesse
             doe
             cause
             a
             restraint
             .
          
           
             20.
             
             You
             may
             and
             are
             to
             have
             your
             times
             of
             more
             then
             ordinary
             familiarity
             one
             with
             another
             ,
             in
             your
             amiable
             converse
             and
             delighting
             one
             in
             another
             ,
             and
             with
             such
             expressions
             as
             are
             meet
             to
             be
             shewed
             between
             none
             ,
             but
             such
             as
             are
             man
             and
             wife
             ;
             as
             
               Isaac
               with
               his
               Rebecca
               .
            
             But
             this
             
             is
             not
             seemly
             before
             others
             ,
             but
             when
             alone
             ;
             I
             mean
             ,
             that
             palpable
             courting
             of
             each
             other
             ,
             and
             dallying
             one
             with
             
             another
             ,
             as
             is
             the
             manner
             of
             too
             many
             ,
             who
             therein
             expresse
             much
             lightnesse
             and
             vanity
             in
             their
             love
             ,
             and
             doe
             minister
             matter
             of
             temptation
             ,
             at
             least
             offence
             to
             others
             .
          
           
             21.
             
             Your
             love
             must
             be
             so
             strong
             ,
             as
             not
             to
             be
             
               easily
               provoked
               ;
            
             
             true
             love
             is
             exceeding
             patient
             ,
             it
             will
             
               beare
               all
               things
               ,
               endure
               all
               things
               ;
            
             nothing
             must
             quench
             your
             love
             one
             to
             another
             .
          
           
             22.
             
             If
             any
             difference
             shall
             arise
             ,
             tending
             to
             make
             a
             breach
             between
             you
             ,
             take
             heed
             ,
             that
             it
             doe
             not
             rise
             to
             a
             flame
             ,
             be
             sure
             that
             you
             compose
             it
             ,
             and
             stifle
             it
             speedily
             ;
             doe
             not
             dare
             either
             of
             you
             to
             sleep
             upon
             any
             such
             discontent
             ,
             for
             you
             know
             not
             what
             a
             night
             may
             bring
             forth
             ,
             and
             what
             alienation
             
             of
             affection
             ,
             and
             what
             strangenesse
             it
             may
             breed
             ere
             morning
             .
             The
             
               Sun
               should
               not
            
             
             
               goe
               down
               upon
               the
               wrath
               of
               any
               ,
            
             much
             lesse
             should
             it
             upon
             the
             discontent
             of
             man
             and
             wife
             ;
             Each
             of
             you
             should
             strive
             ,
             who
             should
             begin
             first
             to
             look
             cheerfully
             ,
             and
             amiably
             ,
             and
             shew
             kindnesse
             one
             to
             another
             ,
             that
             the
             breach
             may
             be
             prevented
             ,
             or
             if
             any
             be
             ,
             may
             be
             made
             up
             between
             your selves
             .
             The
             wife
             ,
             shee
             out
             of
             duty
             ,
             the
             husband
             ,
             he
             out
             of
             wisdome
             should
             begin
             first
             ,
             which
             when
             it
             is
             done
             by
             the
             one
             ,
             let
             not
             the
             other
             dare
             ,
             but
             lovingly
             and
             readily
             to
             entertain
             it
             .
             If
             your
             love
             be
             true
             ,
             and
             if
             it
             be
             managed
             by
             that
             wisdome
             which
             is
             from
             above
             ,
             as
             it
             will
             be
             
               pure
               ,
            
             so
             it
             
             will
             be
             
               peaceable
               ,
               gentle
               ,
               easie
               to
            
             
             
               be
               intreated
               ,
               full
               of
               kindnesse
               ,
               and
               good
               fruits
               .
            
             Consider
             this
             seriously
             ,
             and
             then
             you
             cannot
             ;
             I
             am
             sure
             ,
             you
             will
             not
             continue
             long
             in
             any
             variance
             that
             shall
             fall
             out
             between
             you
             .
          
           
             23.
             
             If
             you
             finde
             pride
             and
             folly
             to
             be
             so
             great
             in
             you
             ,
             that
             it
             keep
             you
             at
             too
             great
             a
             distance
             ,
             through
             dislike
             or
             distaste
             one
             with
             another
             ,
             the
             best
             way
             to
             remedy
             all
             ,
             is
             to
             call
             upon
             one
             another
             to
             goe
             together
             into
             Gods
             presence
             ,
             and
             there
             joyne
             together
             in
             hearty
             prayer
             to
             him
             ,
             confessing
             your
             faults
             unto
             him
             ,
             intreating
             pardon
             ,
             and
             that
             he
             will
             unite
             your
             hearts
             againe
             ,
             that
             you
             may
             love
             and
             live
             together
             in
             all
             well-pleasing
             
             to
             God
             ,
             and
             to
             the
             joy
             and
             comfort
             one
             of
             another
             .
             Many
             who
             in
             the
             pride
             of
             their
             heart
             ,
             will
             in
             their
             heare
             stout
             it
             out
             one
             against
             another
             ,
             yet
             (
             if
             they
             have
             any
             grace
             )
             they
             will
             calme
             their
             spirits
             ,
             and
             come
             to
             a
             right
             mind
             againe
             ,
             when
             they
             humble
             themselves
             in
             the
             sight
             of
             God
             .
          
        
         
           
             I
             come
             now
             to
             the
             particular
             duties
             of
             husband
             and
             wife
             .
          
           
             1.
             
             YOU
             that
             are
             an
             husband
             may
             ,
             nay
             ,
             must
             wisely
             ,
             but
             with
             love
             ,
             keepe
             your
             place
             ,
             and
             use
             your
             authoritie
             which
             God
             hath
             set
             you
             in
             .
          
           
             2.
             
             By
             keeping
             it
             ,
             I
             doe
             not
             
             meane
             ;
             that
             you
             should
             take
             upon
             you
             to
             be
             sterne
             ,
             fierce
             ,
             and
             domineering
             in
             your
             carriage
             towards
             her
             ,
             tyger-like
             ,
             as
             too
             many
             doe
             ,
             but
             that
             you
             carry
             your selfe
             like
             a
             wise
             head
             ,
             winning
             honour
             and
             respect
             from
             her
             ,
             doing
             her
             all
             right
             ,
             giving
             her
             all
             her
             due
             .
             In
             your
             government
             you
             must
             not
             be
             light
             ,
             nor
             foolish
             ,
             for
             so
             you
             will
             lose
             your
             authoritie
             ,
             and
             bring
             your self
             into
             contempt
             .
             Though
             shee
             be
             a
             wise
             and
             good
             wife
             ,
             and
             you
             think
             fit
             to
             passe
             over
             much
             of
             your
             authoritie
             unto
             her
             ,
             yet
             hold
             your
             authoritie
             in
             your
             own
             power
             ;
             let
             her
             use
             your
             authority
             for
             you
             ,
             joyning
             with
             you
             in
             ordering
             and
             managing
             the
             affaires
             of
             your
             estate
             and
             family
             ,
             yet
             
             never
             suffer
             her
             (
             if
             shee
             attempt
             it
             )
             
               to
               usurpe
               authoritie
            
             
             
               over
               you
               ,
            
             but
             
               dwell
               with
               her
               as
               a
               man
               of
               knowledge
            
             and
             wisdom
             ,
             which
             ought
             to
             be
             in
             every
             one
             whom
             God
             hath
             made
             to
             be
             the
             head
             of
             his
             wife
             ;
             yet
             know
             ,
             though
             you
             are
             not
             to
             suffer
             your
             wife
             to
             rule
             you
             ,
             it
             shall
             yet
             be
             your
             wisdome
             ,
             
               not
               to
               contemne
               her
               counsell
               and
            
             
             
               advice
               ,
            
             nor
             to
             deny
             her
             any
             
               reasonable
               request
               .
            
          
           
             3.
             
             In
             the
             use
             of
             your
             authoritie
             ,
             remember
             alwayes
             ,
             that
             shee
             is
             thy
             
               companion
               ,
               and
               the
            
             
             
               wife
               of
               thy
               Covenant
               :
            
             and
             consider
             how
             neere
             God
             hath
             made
             your
             wife
             unto
             you
             ,
             even
             flesh
             of
             your
             flesh
             ;
             but
             shee
             is
             the
             weaker
             ,
             and
             more
             tender
             part
             of
             you
             ,
             and
             therefore
             you
             are
             to
             
               honor
               her
               as
               the
            
             
             
             
               weaker
               vessell
               ;
            
             in
             tender
             care
             of
             her
             ,
             pitying
             ,
             covering
             ,
             bearing
             with
             ,
             and
             healing
             her
             imperfections
             and
             infirmities
             ;
             you
             must
             not
             put
             her
             upon
             any
             thing
             ,
             but
             according
             to
             her
             strength
             &
             abilities
             ;
             you
             must
             support
             her
             weaknes
             by
             your
             strength
             ,
             and
             supply
             her
             defects
             by
             your
             wisdome
             :
             The
             weaknesse
             shee
             hath
             by
             reason
             of
             her
             sex
             ,
             shee
             yet
             being
             so
             neere
             unto
             you
             ,
             and
             necessary
             for
             you
             ,
             and
             may
             be
             helpfull
             to
             you
             ,
             must
             indeare
             you
             to
             her
             ,
             and
             cause
             you
             to
             be
             exceeding
             tender
             in
             your
             care
             of
             her
             .
             God
             hath
             made
             you
             to
             be
             the
             
               guide
               of
               her
               youth
               ,
            
             
             yea
             ,
             of
             all
             her
             dayes
             ;
             and
             he
             hath
             given
             you
             to
             have
             authoritie
             to
             command
             &
             reprove
             as
             there
             shall
             be
             cause
             ,
             and
             to
             
             order
             her
             in
             her
             place
             ,
             and
             hath
             left
             it
             to
             you
             to
             provide
             for
             her
             good
             every
             way
             .
             All
             this
             you
             must
             do
             out
             of
             conscience
             of
             duty
             to
             God
             ,
             and
             in
             love
             to
             her
             .
          
           
             4.
             
             That
             you
             may
             do
             this
             the
             better
             ,
             you
             must
             go
             before
             her
             in
             all
             holy
             example
             ,
             in
             godliness
             and
             righteousness
             ;
             you
             must
             store
             your self
             with
             knowledge
             of
             the
             Will
             and
             Wayes
             of
             God
             ,
             wherefore
             study
             the
             Scriptures
             ,
             heare
             the
             Word
             much
             ,
             and
             treasure
             it
             up
             :
             The
             wife
             might
             
               not
               speak
               in
               the
               Church
               ,
            
             
             her
             husband
             at
             
               home
            
             is
             to
             teach
             her
             ,
             she
             is
             appointed
             to
             
               learn
               of
               him
               there
               .
            
          
           
             5.
             
             You
             must
             pray
             not
             only
             for
             her
             ,
             but
             with
             her
             ,
             and
             that
             not
             only
             in
             the
             family
             ,
             
             but
             with
             her
             alone
             :
             some
             confessions
             and
             petitions
             will
             be
             needfull
             for
             you
             to
             make
             together
             ,
             which
             cannot
             fitly
             be
             put
             up
             in
             hearing
             of
             others
             :
             you
             are
             therefore
             ,
             saith
             God
             ,
             
               to
               dwell
               with
               her
               as
               a
               man
               of
               knowledge
               ;
               that
               your
               prayers
               be
            
             
             
               not
               hindred
               ;
            
             you
             are
             
               heirs
               of
               the
               same
               blessing
               ,
            
             therfore
             you
             are
             to
             help
             her
             in
             all
             good
             wayes
             whereby
             she
             may
             have
             knowledge
             and
             grace
             ,
             that
             she
             may
             partake
             of
             that
             inheritance
             .
          
           
             6.
             
             You
             must
             use
             your
             authority
             with
             wisdome
             ,
             mildeness
             ,
             and
             love
             ;
             your
             commands
             must
             be
             lawfull
             ,
             not
             only
             in
             themselves
             ,
             but
             such
             as
             she
             doth
             not
             make
             scruple
             of
             their
             lawfulness
             ;
             you
             must
             command
             in
             the
             Lord
             ,
             else
             
             she
             is
             exempt
             frō
             obedience
             .
          
           
             7.
             
             Your
             commands
             must
             be
             of
             things
             not
             too
             difficult
             ,
             but
             in
             her
             power
             to
             do
             them
             .
          
           
             8.
             
             You
             must
             not
             require
             of
             her
             things
             unreasonable
             ,
             and
             such
             as
             are
             not
             fit
             for
             her
             ,
             but
             rather
             for
             others
             in
             the
             family
             for
             to
             do
             .
          
           
             9.
             
             Use
             not
             commands
             for
             trifles
             and
             small
             matters
             .
          
           
             10.
             
             Be
             very
             seldom
             in
             laying
             any
             command
             upon
             your
             wife
             ;
             An
             intimation
             of
             what
             you
             would
             have
             done
             is
             enough
             between
             an
             husband
             and
             a
             wife
             :
             intreaties
             of
             a
             wife
             do
             not
             unbecome
             a
             husband
             ,
             though
             she
             be
             his
             inferiour
             ,
             and
             usually
             they
             do
             more
             prevail
             then
             flat
             commands
             .
          
           
             11.
             
             Frequency
             and
             imperiousness
             
             in
             cōmands
             of
             one
             so
             neer
             in
             equality
             ,
             will
             make
             your
             authority
             burthen
             some
             ,
             and
             grievous
             unto
             her
             ,
             and
             will
             much
             abate
             in
             her
             (
             do
             what
             she
             can
             )
             of
             that
             honour
             and
             reverence
             which
             shee
             should
             and
             would
             give
             unto
             you
             .
          
           
             12.
             
             You
             may
             ,
             and
             ought
             to
             dislike
             and
             reprove
             your
             wife
             when
             shee
             is
             blame-worthy
             ,
             but
             you
             must
             do
             this
             also
             in
             much
             love
             and
             wisdome
             .
          
           
             13.
             
             Be
             sure
             that
             there
             be
             a
             fault
             ,
             and
             a
             great
             fault
             in
             her
             ,
             else
             reprove
             not
             ;
             lesser
             failings
             may
             be
             healed
             and
             amended
             ,
             either
             of
             themselves
             ,
             or
             by
             a
             bare
             remembring
             her
             of
             them
             ;
             many
             failings
             you
             are
             not
             to
             take
             notice
             of
             ,
             and
             are
             to
             bear
             with
             in
             her
             ,
             as
             she
             
             must
             do
             the
             like
             with
             you
             .
          
           
             14.
             
             When
             she
             is
             very
             faulty
             ,
             the
             reproof
             must
             be
             proportioned
             to
             the
             quality
             and
             greatness
             of
             the
             fault
             ,
             but
             must
             be
             done
             with
             the
             
               spirit
            
             
             
               of
               meekness
               .
            
             Rough
             language
             ,
             and
             overmuch
             heat
             in
             reproving
             (
             though
             the
             cause
             be
             never
             so
             just
             )
             will
             be
             like
             a
             good
             potion
             administred
             scalding
             hot
             ,
             this
             will
             not
             be
             forced
             down
             ,
             shee
             can
             hardly
             take
             it
             so
             hot
             ,
             but
             will
             belch
             it
             up
             in
             the
             face
             of
             him
             that
             giveth
             it
             ,
             and
             the
             vertue
             of
             it
             ,
             is
             utterly
             lost
             .
          
           
             15.
             
             Due
             time
             and
             place
             must
             be
             observed
             when
             you
             reprove
             and
             admonish
             your
             wife
             ;
             you
             must
             not
             do
             it
             ,
             when
             either
             your self
             ,
             or
             your
             wife
             is
             in
             a
             pelting
             chafe
             ,
             or
             passion
             ,
             
             for
             then
             you
             are
             not
             fit
             to
             give
             ,
             nor
             she
             fit
             to
             receive
             reproof
             .
             A
             mad
             man
             is
             not
             in
             case
             to
             reprove
             ,
             nor
             a
             mad
             woman
             in
             case
             to
             be
             reproved
             ;
             while
             men
             and
             women
             are
             in
             passion
             they
             are
             not
             themselves
             .
          
           
             16.
             
             As
             for
             the
             place
             ,
             (
             except
             in
             extraordinary
             cases
             ,
             when
             the
             fault
             is
             notorious
             and
             open
             ,
             or
             may
             presently
             corrupt
             others
             ,
             if
             it
             be
             not
             then
             and
             there
             reproved
             )
             ordinarily
             it
             is
             best
             to
             be
             done
             when
             you
             are
             private
             and
             alone
             ,
             she
             may
             then
             see
             ,
             that
             it
             is
             done
             in
             love
             to
             her
             ,
             and
             for
             her
             good
             ,
             which
             will
             cause
             it
             to
             be
             well
             taken
             ,
             and
             will
             work
             more
             kindly
             with
             her
             .
          
           
             17.
             
             Your
             whole
             government
             of
             your
             wife
             must
             be
             in
             
             all
             sweetness
             and
             kindness
             ;
             you
             must
             not
             rule
             a
             childe
             ,
             no
             ,
             not
             a
             servant
             
               with
               rigour
               ;
            
             you
             must
             much
             more
             abhor
             all
             
             
               bitterness
            
             to
             a
             wife
             ,
             you
             must
             alwayes
             remember
             ,
             that
             she
             is
             your self
             ,
             and
             you
             know
             who
             saith
             ,
             
               No
               man
               ever
               yet
            
             
             
               hated
               his
               own
               flesh
               .
            
          
           
             18.
             
             I
             would
             not
             have
             it
             to
             be
             a
             question
             whether
             an
             husband
             may
             beat
             his
             wife
             ,
             and
             correct
             her
             with
             stripes
             ,
             as
             he
             doth
             his
             servant
             ,
             or
             child
             ,
             though
             shee
             do
             offend
             him
             ;
             He
             may
             for
             some
             of
             her
             faults
             (
             if
             she
             persist
             in
             them
             )
             withdraw
             from
             her
             some
             of
             his
             former
             expressions
             of
             kindness
             and
             fruits
             of
             his
             bounty
             ,
             and
             may
             abridge
             her
             of
             some
             of
             her
             former
             delights
             which
             formerly
             hee
             did
             allow
             her
             :
             
             But
             to
             beat
             her
             ,
             that
             is
             himself
             ,
             wee
             have
             no
             rule
             nor
             example
             in
             the
             Word
             of
             God
             for
             it
             .
             He
             is
             worse
             ,
             and
             more
             unnaturall
             then
             a
             brute
             beast
             ,
             that
             will
             fight
             with
             his
             own
             mate
             .
          
           
             19.
             
             If
             the
             wife
             be
             intolerable
             ,
             and
             will
             not
             be
             governed
             by
             the
             husbands
             cōmands
             and
             reproof
             ,
             if
             she
             remain
             unsufferable
             ,
             he
             must
             crave
             help
             of
             the
             publike
             Magistrate
             ,
             that
             by
             him
             shee
             may
             be
             reclaimed
             .
          
           
             20.
             
             You
             must
             likewise
             shew
             love
             and
             wisdome
             in
             the
             matter
             of
             your
             wives
             imployments
             :
             A
             wife
             must
             not
             live
             idlely
             (
             as
             neither
             must
             you
             ,
             )
             neither
             must
             shee
             be
             made
             a
             drudge
             ,
             and
             be
             overburthened
             with
             too
             too
             much
             ;
             Let
             her
             
             imployment
             be
             sutable
             to
             her
             place
             ,
             and
             to
             her
             condition
             ,
             skill
             ,
             strength
             ,
             and
             ability
             ;
             she
             is
             to
             be
             assistant
             to
             you
             in
             matters
             of
             your
             calling
             ,
             if
             thereof
             she
             be
             capable
             :
             also
             shee
             is
             to
             assist
             you
             in
             guiding
             and
             governing
             the
             family
             .
          
           
             21.
             
             You
             must
             also
             provide
             for
             your
             wife
             ,
             and
             allow
             her
             things
             needfull
             ,
             and
             protect
             her
             from
             things
             hurtfull
             ,
             according
             to
             your
             place
             ,
             and
             as
             you
             are
             able
             ,
             you
             must
             allow
             her
             plentifull
             and
             comfortamaintenance
             ,
             as
             food
             ,
             apparell
             ,
             &c.
             even
             the
             very
             same
             for
             kinde
             and
             proportion
             sutable
             with
             that
             which
             you
             provide
             for
             your self
             ,
             for
             she
             is
             your self
             ,
             that
             she
             may
             live
             like
             your
             wife
             ,
             cheerfully
             with
             you
             .
          
           
           
             22.
             
             And
             as
             you
             may
             dislike
             and
             reprove
             your
             wife
             ,
             when
             shee
             doth
             ill
             ;
             so
             ,
             much
             rather
             ,
             are
             you
             to
             take
             notice
             of
             ,
             and
             give
             her
             due
             praise
             and
             incouragement
             when
             shee
             doth
             well
             ;
             
               Give
               her
               of
               the
            
             
             
               fruits
               of
               her
               hands
               ,
            
             saith
             the
             Lord
             by
             
               Salomon
               :
            
             Hee
             hath
             little
             (
             if
             any
             )
             grace
             ,
             ingenuity
             ,
             or
             love
             to
             his
             wife
             ,
             which
             will
             not
             do
             it
             .
          
           
             23.
             
             If
             God
             take
             you
             out
             of
             this
             life
             before
             your
             wife
             ,
             (
             if
             good
             provision
             be
             not
             already
             certainly
             made
             for
             her
             )
             then
             you
             before
             your
             death
             ,
             are
             by
             your
             last
             Will
             and
             Testament
             ,
             to
             take
             care
             for
             her
             comfortable
             maintenance
             after
             your
             death
             :
             in
             which
             I
             would
             not
             have
             you
             to
             do
             ,
             as
             too
             many
             fond
             and
             foolish
             
             husbands
             do
             ,
             give
             all
             ,
             or
             most
             part
             of
             your
             estate
             to
             your
             wife
             ,
             you
             having
             children
             ;
             leaving
             them
             to
             her
             disposing
             .
             This
             doth
             but
             expose
             her
             to
             temptations
             .
             By
             experience
             you
             may
             see
             that
             many
             enter
             into
             such
             second
             marriages
             ,
             as
             prove
             to
             be
             a
             great
             wrong
             ,
             if
             not
             an
             utter
             undoing
             of
             the
             children
             of
             her
             former
             husband
             .
          
           
             24.
             
             But
             do
             not
             ,
             as
             too
             many
             also
             do
             ,
             neglect
             their
             wives
             ,
             and
             give
             all
             ,
             or
             most
             part
             of
             their
             estate
             to
             their
             children
             ,
             leaving
             his
             wife
             their
             mother
             ,
             to
             need
             to
             be
             maintained
             by
             them
             ;
             how
             unnaturall
             many
             children
             prove
             to
             their
             mothers
             ,
             when
             all
             their
             fathers
             means
             is
             in
             their
             hands
             ,
             is
             seen
             too
             oft
             ,
             in
             wofull
             experience
             :
             
             consider
             well
             your
             estate
             ,
             and
             accordingly
             give
             her
             so
             much
             ,
             that
             her
             children
             may
             have
             more
             need
             of
             her
             ,
             then
             she
             of
             them
             ;
             that
             shee
             may
             of
             her self
             ,
             without
             them
             ,
             live
             comfortably
             ,
             and
             they
             may
             expect
             to
             be
             beholden
             to
             her
             ,
             rather
             then
             that
             shee
             should
             need
             to
             be
             beholden
             to
             them
             ;
             and
             this
             will
             better
             contain
             them
             in
             dutie
             to
             her
             when
             you
             have
             left
             her
             in
             an
             estate
             able
             to
             do
             them
             good
             ,
             if
             they
             continue
             loving
             and
             dutifull
             to
             her
             .
          
        
         
         
           
             There
             is
             also
             duty
             peculiar
             to
             the
             wife
             to
             be
             performed
             to
             the
             husband
             .
          
           
             1.
             
             FIrst
             ,
             you
             that
             are
             a
             wife
             must
             see
             in
             your
             husband
             (
             whom
             God
             hath
             given
             to
             you
             ,
             and
             set
             over
             you
             )
             a
             stamp
             of
             Gods
             Image
             and
             authority
             ,
             wherby
             he
             is
             become
             above
             you
             ,
             and
             is
             made
             your
             
               head
               ,
            
             and
             you
             are
             made
             his
             inferiour
             ,
             
             and
             are
             made
             subject
             to
             him
             ;
             whatsoever
             his
             birth
             ,
             parts
             ,
             or
             wealth
             was
             ,
             or
             is
             ,
             or
             whatsoever
             yours
             is
             ,
             or
             was
             ,
             you
             must
             now
             look
             upon
             him
             as
             bearing
             som
             of
             the
             Image
             and
             glory
             of
             Gods
             power
             and
             authoritie
             ;
             which
             God
             hath
             invested
             him
             withall
             :
             for
             
             your
             good
             ,
             hee
             is
             now
             thy
             lord
             ,
             hee
             is
             now
             thy
             better
             ,
             he
             is
             one
             who
             must
             be
             highly
             esteemed
             :
             of
             thee
             ,
             one
             ,
             to
             
             whom
             your
             desire
             
               must
               be
               subject
               ,
               one
               ,
               who
               hath
               rule
               over
               you
               .
            
          
           
             2.
             
             You
             must
             shew
             your
             love
             to
             him
             ,
             and
             due
             esteem
             of
             him
             ▪
             and
             due
             
               reverence
            
             of
             
             his
             person
             ;
             you
             must
             see
             that
             you
             
               reverence
               your
               husband
               ,
            
             saith
             the
             Apostle
             ;
             you
             must
             reverence
             him
             in
             your
             heart
             .
             It
             was
             
               Michaels
            
             great
             and
             
             shamefull
             sin
             ,
             that
             
               she
               despised
               her
               husband
            
             David
             
               in
               her
               heart
               .
            
          
           
             3.
             
             Shew
             reverence
             to
             your
             husband
             in
             word
             ,
             and
             gesture
             ,
             in
             word
             and
             deed
             ;
             when
             you
             speak
             either
             before
             him
             ,
             or
             of
             him
             ,
             or
             to
             him
             ,
             you
             must
             shew
             in
             all
             these
             ,
             that
             you
             have
             an
             honourable
             esteem
             of
             
             him
             ;
             For
             this
             ,
             
               Sarah
               (
               whose
            
             
             
               daughter
               you
               are
               if
               you
               doe
               well
            
             )
             is
             commended
             by
             the
             holy
             Ghost
             .
             There
             is
             time
             and
             place
             for
             very
             familiar
             speech
             to
             the
             husband
             ,
             but
             never
             for
             a
             slight
             ,
             neglective
             ,
             contemptuous
             or
             rude
             speech
             or
             behaviour
             to
             him
             ;
             you
             must
             alwayes
             reverence
             him
             .
          
           
             4.
             
             You
             must
             also
             shew
             your
             love
             ,
             in
             being
             subject
             and
             obedient
             to
             him
             .
          
           
             5.
             
             This
             obedience
             must
             be
             a
             ready
             ,
             hearty
             ,
             and
             an
             universall
             obedience
             to
             all
             his
             reasonable
             &
             lawfull
             commands
             ,
             or
             significations
             of
             his
             will
             .
             God
             saith
             ,
             
               Let
               wives
               be
               subject
            
             
             
               to
               their
               own
               husbands
               in
               every
               thing
               .
            
             This
             generall
             ,
             
               in
               every
               thing
               ,
            
             admits
             onely
             this
             limitation
             ,
             that
             it
             be
             
               in
               the
               Lord
               .
            
             
             If
             your
             husband
             commandeth
             what
             God
             forbiddeth
             ,
             or
             he
             would
             restraine
             you
             in
             that
             wherein
             Christ
             hath
             made
             you
             free
             ;
             in
             this
             case
             you
             are
             to
             obey
             GOD
             rather
             then
             man
             .
          
           
             If
             you
             enter
             into
             marriage
             according
             to
             the
             directions
             formerly
             given
             by
             that
             holy
             young
             man
             ,
             (
             now
             with
             the
             Lord
             )
             which
             he
             took
             out
             of
             the
             word
             of
             God
             ,
             and
             shall
             live
             in
             a
             married
             estate
             according
             to
             these
             present
             directions
             taken
             from
             the
             same
             holy
             Scriptures
             ,
             you
             shall
             live
             comfortably
             one
             with
             another
             ,
             and
             shall
             be
             a
             blessing
             each
             to
             other
             ,
             and
             shall
             adde
             much
             to
             one
             anothers
             happinesse
             here
             in
             this
             life
             .
          
           
             I
             will
             shut
             up
             all
             in
             a
             few
             
             words
             of
             caution
             and
             advise
             unto
             both
             husbands
             and
             wives
             .
          
           
             Consider
             ,
             that
             although
             this
             estate
             (
             if
             you
             be
             not
             wanting
             to
             your selves
             )
             be
             full
             of
             comfort
             ,
             benefit
             ,
             and
             matter
             of
             delight
             and
             content
             ;
             yet
             it
             will
             be
             but
             for
             a
             time
             ,
             it
             may
             be
             but
             for
             a
             very
             
               short
               time
            
             that
             you
             shall
             live
             
             together
             .
             This
             will
             cause
             you
             to
             redeeme
             the
             time
             ,
             with
             thankfulnesse
             to
             God
             ,
             enjoy
             each
             other
             ,
             and
             doe
             good
             to
             each
             other
             ,
             as
             well
             as
             in
             receiving
             good
             one
             from
             another
             ,
             while
             you
             may
             ,
             lest
             else
             it
             prove
             to
             the
             surviving
             party
             ,
             great
             griefe
             of
             heart
             ,
             that
             he
             or
             shee
             did
             let
             slip
             that
             good
             opportunitie
             wch
             God
             had
             given
             them
             .
          
           
           
             Moreover
             ,
             you
             must
             consider
             ,
             that
             there
             is
             another
             choice
             to
             be
             made
             ,
             which
             (
             if
             you
             be
             the
             same
             you
             professe
             your selves
             to
             be
             )
             you
             have
             already
             made
             ,
             which
             is
             better
             ,
             and
             everlasting
             ,
             namely
             ,
             you
             have
             handfasted
             and
             
               betrothed
            
             
             your selves
             to
             
               Jesus
               Christ
               .
            
             This
             cōcerneth
             that
             
               one
               thing
            
             
             
               needfull
               ;
            
             which
             when
             you
             have
             obtained
             ,
             it
             shall
             never
             be
             taken
             from
             you
             ,
             without
             whom
             all
             earthly
             blessings
             in
             the
             end
             will
             prove
             curses
             :
             your
             whole
             heart
             must
             be
             taken
             up
             about
             this
             ,
             and
             wholly
             placed
             here
             .
          
           
             What
             is
             said
             of
             riches
             when
             they
             increase
             ,
             that
             may
             be
             said
             of
             the
             good
             of
             marriage
             ,
             
               Set
            
             
             
               not
               your
               heart
               thereon
               ,
            
             as
             upon
             that
             wherin
             you
             should
             place
             your
             happines
             ,
             or
             set
             up
             your
             rest
             .
          
           
           
             Christ
             Jesus
             ,
             and
             his
             kingdome
             are
             first
             to
             be
             
               sought
               ,
            
             
             he
             must
             be
             your
             chiefe
             love
             and
             desire
             ;
             you
             must
             
               obey
            
             him
             in
             all
             things
             absolutely
             ;
             you
             must
             wholly
             live
             to
             him
             at
             all
             times
             ,
             and
             must
             delight
             and
             satisfie
             your selfe
             alwayes
             in
             his
             love
             ;
             your
             love
             and
             delight
             in
             one
             another
             ,
             must
             be
             in
             a
             subordination
             to
             your
             love
             to
             him
             ,
             and
             as
             it
             will
             stand
             with
             your
             love
             and
             obedience
             to
             him
             .
          
           
             The
             Apostle
             adviseth
             you
             that
             are
             married
             ,
             to
             be
             as
             
               if
            
             
             
               you
               married
               not
               ,
            
             you
             that
             have
             
               husbands
               ,
            
             as
             if
             you
             had
             
               none
               ;
            
             and
             you
             that
             have
             
               wives
               ,
            
             as
             if
             you
             had
             
               none
               .
            
             It
             is
             not
             meant
             that
             when
             you
             are
             married
             ,
             you
             may
             separate
             at
             pleasure
             ,
             and
             live
             one
             from
             another
             ,
             as
             
             too
             many
             doe
             ,
             nor
             yet
             to
             neglect
             one
             another
             ,
             though
             you
             live
             together
             ;
             But
             your
             lives
             must
             not
             be
             so
             bound
             up
             one
             in
             another
             ,
             but
             that
             you
             can
             part
             one
             with
             another
             .
             And
             you
             must
             use
             this
             estate
             as
             you
             doe
             all
             other
             earthly
             good
             things
             ,
             with
             such
             moderation
             of
             affection
             ,
             and
             indifferency
             of
             judgement
             ,
             that
             by
             no
             means
             it
             take
             you
             off
             from
             your
             love
             to
             God
             ,
             and
             Christ
             ,
             and
             from
             cleaving
             to
             him
             ;
             and
             that
             you
             can
             without
             murmuring
             ,
             or
             inordinate
             griefe
             part
             therewith
             ,
             when
             you
             see
             that
             it
             is
             the
             will
             of
             God
             you
             shall
             enjoy
             them
             no
             longer
             .
          
           
             Be
             you
             sure
             therefore
             ,
             that
             you
             use
             this
             estate
             as
             you
             are
             to
             use
             all
             other
             good
             things
             
             of
             the
             world
             ,
             as
             not
             
               abusing
               it
               .
            
             For
             the
             Apostle
             saith
             ,
             the
             
               time
               is
               short
            
             in
             which
             ye
             shall
             
             live
             together
             ,
             and
             
               the
               world
               and
               the
               fashion
               of
               it
               passeth
               away
               .
            
          
           
             Therefore
             in
             whatsoever
             state
             you
             are
             in
             ,
             and
             whatsoever
             you
             doe
             ,
             let
             your
             eye
             be
             principally
             upon
             ,
             and
             towards
             your
             best
             beloved
             Christ
             Jesus
             ,
             to
             be
             alwayes
             loving
             and
             faithfull
             to
             him
             ;
             
               waiting
               for
            
             
             
               the
               comming
               of
               this
               your
               Bridegroome
               ,
            
             when
             your
             spirituall
             marriage
             shall
             be
             consummate
             :
             At
             whose
             comming
             ,
             at
             ,
             and
             after
             the
             
               Resurrection
               ,
            
             
             there
             is
             
               neither
               marrying
               ,
               nor
               giving
               in
               marriage
               ,
            
             but
             you
             shall
             be
             like
             the
             
               holy
               Angels
            
             in
             
             heaven
             ;
             and
             shall
             
               ever
               be
               with
            
             him
             the
             
               Lord
               ,
            
             the
             blessed
             
             husband
             of
             his
             Spouse
             the
             Church
             ,
             partaking
             of
             all
             his
             beautie
             ,
             riches
             ,
             and
             glory
             .
             For
             when
             he
             shall
             appeare
             ,
             in
             whose
             
               presence
               are
               fulnesse
               of
            
             
             
               joy
               ,
               and
               pleasures
               for
               evermore
               ;
            
             we
             shall
             
               be
               like
               him
               ,
            
             for
             
               we
               shall
            
             
             
               see
               him
               as
               he
               is
               ,
            
             and
             our
             
               vile
               bodies
            
             shall
             be
             made
             like
             
               his
               glorious
               body
               ,
            
             according
             to
             the
             working
             whereby
             he
             is
             able
             to
             subdue
             all
             things
             to
             himselfe
             .
          
           
             Now
             to
             this
             King
             Eternall
             ,
             Invisible
             ,
             onely
             wise
             God
             ,
             and
             our
             blessed
             Saviour
             ,
             be
             all
             honour
             and
             glory
             ,
             for
             ever
             and
             ever
             ,
             
               Amen
               .
            
             To
             whose
             grace
             and
             blessing
             ,
             I
             doe
             heartily
             commend
             you
             ,
             with
             the
             whole
             Israel
             of
             God
             .
          
        
      
    
     
       
       
       
         
           An
           Abstract
           of
           former
           Directions
           ,
           whereby
           you
           may
           take
           a
           short
           view
           of
           all
           ;
           and
           it
           may
           serve
           as
           a
           Table
           to
           shew
           where
           each
           particular
           in
           the
           Discourses
           is
           spoken
           of
           more
           fully
           .
        
         
           
             
               A
            
             Good
             wife
             is
             to
             be
             sought
             of
             God
             .
             page
             .
             2.
             
          
           
             He
             can
             ,
             and
             will
             best
             direct
             you
             to
             find
             .
             ibid.
          
           
             Shee
             cannot
             be
             had
             from
             any
             other
             .
             p.
             3.
             
          
           
             It
             is
             the
             easiest
             way
             to
             finde
             her
             .
             ibid.
          
           
             Never
             any
             can
             be
             said
             to
             have
             
             found
             ,
             who
             hath
             not
             thus
             sought
             .
             p.
             4
             ,
             5.
             
          
           
             Otherwise
             in
             stead
             of
             finding
             a
             blessing
             ,
             thou
             maist
             find
             a
             curse
             .
             p.
             6.
             
          
           
             They
             who
             seek
             otherwise
             ,
             do
             usually
             finde
             much
             trouble
             .
             p.
             7.
             
          
           
             They
             who
             rightly
             seek
             a
             good
             wife
             of
             God
             ,
             enjoy
             much
             pleasure
             in
             seeking
             ,
             contentment
             in
             finding
             ,
             and
             comfort
             in
             posiessing
             .
             p.
             8.
             
          
           
             Thus
             seeking
             is
             well
             pleasing
             to
             God
             ;
             and
             is
             an
             argument
             of
             acknowledgment
             of
             his
             soveraignty
             ,
             and
             of
             your
             subjection
             unto
             ,
             and
             dependance
             upon
             him
             .
             p.
             7
             ,
             8.
             
          
           
             If
             you
             seek
             her
             of
             God
             ,
             then
             ,
             how
             ever
             it
             fall
             out
             ,
             you
             may
             have
             comfort
             in
             this
             ,
             that
             you
             have
             done
             your
             duty
             in
             respect
             of
             God
             ,
             whether
             shee
             prove
             vertuous
             or
             vitious
             .
             p.
             9
             ,
             10
             ,
             11.
             
          
        
         
         
           
             How
             God
             is
             to
             be
             sought
             .
          
           
             This
             is
             by
             Prayer
             .
             p.
             12.
             
          
           
             That
             he
             will
             give
             you
             wisdome
             to
             make
             a
             good
             choice
             ,
             that
             grace
             in
             her
             may
             be
             your
             chief
             aim
             .
             pag.
             12
             ,
             13.
             
          
           
             Beg
             of
             God
             that
             your
             affections
             may
             not
             be
             knit
             to
             any
             ,
             whose
             affections
             he
             hath
             not
             first
             knit
             to
             himself
             ,
             p.
             14
             ,
             15.
             
          
           
             Otherwise
             ,
             that
             God
             would
             withdraw
             your
             affections
             .
             p.
             16.
             
          
           
             If
             you
             be
             ingaged
             so
             far
             ,
             that
             you
             cannot
             well
             go
             back
             ,
             then
             double
             your
             desires
             ,
             that
             God
             will
             give
             her
             grace
             ,
             and
             that
             hee
             will
             first
             unite
             her
             to
             Christ
             ,
             before
             he
             joyn
             her
             unto
             thee
             .
             p.
             17
             ,
             18.
             
          
           
             Desire
             of
             God
             that
             shee
             may
             be
             not
             only
             endued
             with
             grace
             ,
             but
             that
             she
             be
             a
             wife
             every
             way
             meet
             and
             sit
             for
             thee
             .
             p.
             19
          
           
           
             Fitness
             for
             age
             ,
             parentage
             ,
             estate
             ,
             constitution
             and
             disposition
             of
             natures
             are
             with
             wisdome
             to
             be
             considered
             .
             p.
             19
             ,
             20
             ,
             21
             ,
             22
             ,
             23
             ,
             24
             ,
             25.
             
          
        
         
           
             The
             former
             concurring
             :
             then
          
           
             First
             ,
             acquaint
             your
             friends
             ,
             in
             whose
             power
             you
             are
             ,
             and
             get
             their
             consent
             .
             p.
             26.
             
          
           
             Also
             before
             you
             do
             woo
             her
             ,
             you
             must
             get
             her
             friends
             consent
             .
             p.
             26
             ,
             27.
             
          
           
             Reasons
             why
             you
             must
             have
             consent
             of
             your
             own
             and
             of
             her
             friends
             .
             p.
             26
             ,
             27
             ,
             28
             ,
             29
             ,
             30
             ,
             31
             ,
             32
             ,
             33.
             
          
        
         
           
             Parents
             ,
             or
             Guardians
             being
             consulted
             with
             ,
             and
             consenting
             .
          
           
             Foresee
             this
             ,
             before
             thou
             do
             woo
             her
             ,
             that
             thou
             canst
             entirely
             
             affect
             her
             .
             pag.
             33
             ,
             34.
             
          
           
             Mutuall
             love
             must
             be
             the
             foundation
             on
             which
             the
             marriage
             structure
             must
             be
             built
             .
             p.
             34.
             
          
           
             In
             getting
             her
             good
             will
             ,
             care
             must
             be
             had
             how
             ,
             and
             that
             it
             be
             wisely
             and
             rightly
             done
             .
             34.
             35.
             
          
           
             Not
             so
             much
             in
             setting
             forth
             to
             her
             thy
             parentage
             .
             p.
             35.
             
          
           
             Nor
             thy
             wealth
             .
             ibid.
          
           
             Nor
             the
             liberty
             and
             priviledges
             she
             shall
             enjoy
             ,
             if
             she
             will
             have
             thee
             .
             p.
             35
             ,
             36.
             
          
           
             Nor
             with
             flatteries
             .
             ibid.
          
           
             Nor
             by
             seeking
             to
             blind
             ,
             and
             inveagle
             her
             by
             presents
             and
             gifts
             .
             p.
             37.
             
          
           
             Nor
             at
             all
             with
             foolish
             ,
             unbeseeming
             ,
             wanton
             gestures
             and
             behaviour
             .
             ibid.
          
           
             Much
             less
             by
             any
             solicitations
             to
             have
             your
             lustfull
             will
             of
             her
             to
             make
             her
             sure
             ,
             as
             too
             many
             
             do
             ;
             which
             is
             abominable
             .
             37
             ,
             38.
             
          
           
             The
             right
             way
             of
             wooing
             .
             38
             ,
             39.
             
          
           
             Pray
             to
             God
             to
             direct
             thee
             in
             such
             a
             course
             ,
             as
             may
             best
             gain
             her
             affections
             ,
             and
             may
             be
             most
             prosperous
             in
             it self
             ,
             and
             best
             pleasing
             to
             him
             .
             p.
             39.
             
          
           
             A
             Directory
             for
             such
             prayer
             ,
             p.
             39
             ,
             40
             ,
             41
             ,
             42
             ,
             43
             ,
             44
             ,
             45.
             
          
           
             When
             you
             or
             some
             friend
             make
             the
             motion
             to
             her
             ,
             whom
             thou
             wouldst
             make
             thy
             wife
             ,
             or
             to
             her
             friends
             ,
             deal
             fairly
             and
             truly
             ,
             do
             not
             make
             a
             shew
             ,
             either
             of
             thy
             Religion
             ,
             or
             thy
             outward
             estate
             ,
             more
             then
             indeed
             it
             is
             .
             p.
             46.
             
          
           
             In
             prosecution
             of
             your
             suit
             ,
             be
             serious
             ,
             and
             ingenuous
             ,
             and
             loving
             ,
             but
             never
             pretend
             more
             love
             then
             indeed
             you
             do
             beare
             unto
             her
             .
             p.
             46
             ,
             47.
             
          
        
         
         
           
             After
             God
             hath
             answered
             your
             desires
             ,
          
           
             You
             must
             make
             a
             thankfull
             acknowledgement
             thereof
             unto
             God
             .
             p.
             47
             ,
             48.
             
          
           
             A
             Directory
             for
             this
             blessing
             ,
             and
             giving
             glory
             unto
             God
             .
             p.
             48
             ,
             49
             ,
             50
             ,
             51
             ,
             52
             ,
             53
             ,
             54
             ,
             55.
             
          
        
         
           
             Other
             usefull
             Considerations
             of
             single
             persons
             before
             marriage
             .
          
           
             Expect
             not
             to
             enjoy
             that
             good
             in
             the
             married
             estate
             which
             it
             cannot
             give
             unto
             thee
             .
             p.
             58.
             65.
             
          
           
             There
             is
             an
             insufficiency
             in
             marriage
             to
             give
             thee
             full
             content
             ,
             and
             of
             it self
             to
             satisfie
             thy
             desires
             .
             p.
             58.
             
          
           
             Let
             not
             heat
             of
             love
             make
             thee
             blind
             ,
             so
             that
             thou
             canst
             not
             see
             things
             as
             they
             are
             in
             thy
             Beloved
             .
             
             p.
             58
             ,
             59.
             
          
           
             Duties
             to
             be
             done
             ,
             cares
             to
             be
             taken
             ,
             and
             evils
             to
             be
             born
             in
             the
             married
             estate
             ,
             must
             be
             fore-thought
             of
             ,
             prepared
             for
             ,
             as
             well
             as
             the
             joyes
             and
             the
             good
             of
             marriage
             .
             p.
             60
             ,
             65.
             
          
           
             Whensoever
             you
             marry
             ,
             you
             shall
             have
             troubles
             in
             the
             flesh
             p.
             60
             ,
             61.
             
          
           
             If
             you
             look
             for
             that
             happiness
             in
             marriage
             which
             God
             never
             intended
             it
             should
             give
             you
             ,
             you
             shall
             in
             stead
             thereof
             finde
             nothing
             but
             vanity
             and
             vexation
             of
             spirit
             .
             p.
             61.
             
          
           
             Yet
             none
             are
             hereby
             to
             be
             deterred
             from
             marrying
             ,
             who
             have
             a
             calling
             to
             marry
             .
             p.
             61.
             
          
           
             Marriage
             is
             of
             excellent
             and
             necessary
             use
             .
             p.
             61
             ,
             62
             ,
             63.
             
          
           
             Such
             may
             be
             the
             condition
             of
             an
             unmarried
             person
             ,
             that
             the
             
             good
             and
             comfort
             of
             marriage
             may
             countervail
             and
             exceed
             the
             troubles
             of
             it
             .
             p.
             62.
             
          
           
             The
             least
             sin
             is
             worse
             then
             the
             greatest
             earthly
             trouble
             .
             p.
             62.
             
          
           
             In
             the
             married
             estate
             may
             be
             expected
             very
             great
             earthly
             comforts
             .
             p.
             64.
             
          
           
             Much
             evill
             doth
             follow
             the
             expectation
             of
             that
             good
             in
             marriage
             which
             it
             cannot
             give
             .
             p.
             65
             ,
             66.
             
          
        
         
           
             After
             consent
             is
             gained
             in
             the
             way
             prescribed
             ,
          
           
             It
             is
             very
             expedient
             that
             you
             be
             betrothed
             to
             eath
             other
             ,
             before
             that
             you
             be
             solemnly
             married
             .
             p.
             66
             ,
             67.
             
          
           
             Betrothing
             will
             make
             you
             sure
             one
             to
             another
             ,
             but
             not
             give
             a
             right
             to
             marriage
             society
             .
             p.
             67.
             
          
           
             Betrothing
             before
             marriage
             is
             
             of
             excellent
             use
             .
             pag.
             68.
             
          
        
         
           
             Directious
             for
             married
             persons
             :
             Some
             Duties
             are
             common
             to
             both
             .
          
           
             Being
             married
             together
             ,
             see
             and
             acknowledge
             it
             (
             being
             made
             as
             before
             hath
             been
             prescribed
             )
             to
             be
             of
             God
             .
             p.
             69
             ,
             70.
             
          
           
             This
             acknowledging
             of
             God
             will
             be
             of
             great
             good
             use
             to
             you
             both
             .
             p.
             70.
             
          
           
             Consider
             well
             what
             a
             strict
             bond
             and
             covenant
             you
             entred
             into
             ,
             even
             into
             a
             covenant
             with
             God
             .
             p.
             71.
             
          
           
             You
             are
             mutually
             to
             love
             each
             other
             abundantly
             .
             p.
             72.
             
          
           
             The
             neerness
             of
             relation
             into
             which
             by
             marriage
             you
             are
             entred
             ,
             it
             being
             the
             express
             will
             of
             your
             God
             ,
             that
             you
             should
             thus
             love
             one
             another
             ,
             must
             be
             the
             
             spring
             and
             foundation
             of
             your
             love
             .
             pag.
             72
             ,
             73.
             
          
           
             This
             love
             must
             shew
             it self
             in
             care
             of
             each
             others
             souls
             ;
             you
             must
             pray
             one
             for
             another
             ,
             and
             in
             your
             places
             edifie
             one
             another
             .
             74
          
           
             You
             must
             study
             to
             please
             each
             other
             in
             what
             you
             may
             ;
             and
             be
             helpfull
             to
             each
             other
             .
             p.
             75.
             
          
           
             You
             must
             be
             faithfull
             ,
             and
             keep
             your selves
             chast
             ,
             and
             not
             defraud
             each
             other
             of
             due
             benevolence
             .
             p.
             76
             ,
             77
             ,
             78.
             
          
           
             You
             must
             not
             be
             jealous
             of
             each
             other
             .
             p.
             78.
             
          
           
             You
             must
             be
             preservers
             of
             each
             others
             names
             and
             credit
             .
             78
             ,
             79.
             
          
           
             If
             God
             give
             no
             children
             ,
             you
             both
             must
             submit
             quietly
             to
             his
             will
             .
             p.
             79.
             
          
           
             If
             God
             give
             you
             children
             ,
             you
             must
             joyn
             in
             bringing
             them
             up
             in
             the
             nurture
             of
             the
             Lord
             .
             p.
             79
             ,
             80.
             
          
           
           
             You
             must
             be
             helpfull
             to
             each
             other
             in
             governing
             and
             ordering
             the
             wayes
             of
             your
             family
             .
             p.
             80
             ,
             81.
             
          
           
             Touching
             your
             estates
             you
             must
             joyn
             in
             all
             lawfull
             wayes
             of
             maintaining
             it
             with
             diligence
             in
             your
             calling
             ,
             being
             thrifty
             and
             frugall
             .
             p.
             82.
             
          
           
             There
             ought
             to
             be
             a
             community
             betwixt
             you
             in
             the
             use
             of
             your
             temporall
             estate
             .
             p.
             83.
             
          
           
             Expressions
             of
             speciall
             familiarities
             betwixt
             you
             are
             best
             shewed
             when
             you
             are
             alone
             .
             p.
             84.
             
          
           
             Your
             love
             must
             be
             so
             strong
             that
             nothing
             can
             quench
             it
             .
             p.
             85.
             
          
           
             You
             must
             not
             suffer
             any
             difference
             to
             make
             a
             breach
             or
             faling
             out
             betwixt
             you
             .
             p.
             85.
             
          
           
             If
             any
             such
             shall
             be
             ,
             be
             sure
             that
             you
             do
             not
             sleep
             upon
             a
             discontent
             between
             you
             .
             p.
             85.
             
          
           
           
             The
             husband
             out
             of
             wisdome
             ,
             the
             wife
             out
             of
             duty
             ,
             should
             begin
             to
             shew
             kindness
             ,
             and
             to
             make
             up
             the
             breach
             .
             p.
             86.
             
          
           
             When
             either
             of
             you
             begin
             ,
             the
             other
             must
             readily
             embrace
             it
             .
             p.
             86.
             
          
           
             To
             joyn
             in
             prayer
             to
             God
             is
             an
             excellent
             means
             of
             reconciling
             man
             and
             wife
             ,
             if
             any
             breach
             have
             been
             betwixt
             them
             .
             p.
             87.
             
          
        
         
           
             The
             peculiar
             Duties
             of
             the
             Husband
             .
          
           
             You
             are
             wisely
             to
             keep
             that
             authority
             over
             her
             which
             God
             hath
             given
             you
             .
             p.
             88.
             90.
             
          
           
             You
             are
             to
             dwell
             with
             her
             as
             a
             man
             of
             knowledge
             .
             p.
             90.
             
          
           
             You
             must
             esteem
             her
             ,
             and
             use
             her
             as
             your
             companion
             ,
             and
             second
             self
             .
             p.
             90.
             
          
           
             You
             are
             to
             tender
             her
             as
             the
             
             weaker
             vessell
             .
             pag.
             90
             ,
             91.
             
          
           
             You
             are
             to
             teach
             her
             the
             wayes
             of
             godliness
             .
             p.
             92.
             
          
           
             You
             must
             daily
             pray
             with
             her
             .
             p.
             92.
             93.
             
          
           
             You
             must
             use
             your
             authority
             with
             mildness
             .
             p.
             93
             ,
             95.
             
          
           
             You
             must
             command
             her
             only
             things
             lawfull
             ;
             not
             things
             unreasonable
             ,
             nor
             trifles
             .
             p.
             94.
             
          
           
             Lay
             commands
             on
             her
             but
             seldome
             ,
             a
             bare
             signification
             of
             your
             will
             to
             her
             should
             be
             enough
             .
             p.
             94
             ,
             95.
             
          
           
             Never
             reprove
             her
             but
             for
             a
             great
             and
             manifest
             fault
             ,
             and
             that
             with
             the
             spirit
             of
             meekness
             and
             love
             .
             p.
             95
             ,
             96.
             
          
           
             Due
             time
             and
             place
             must
             be
             observed
             when
             you
             reprove
             her
             .
             p.
             96
             ,
             97.
             
          
           
             You
             must
             nnver
             be
             so
             unmanly
             and
             unnaturall
             ,
             as
             to
             correct
             
             her
             with
             blowes
             .
             pag.
             98
             ,
             99.
             
          
           
             If
             shee
             will
             not
             be
             governed
             ,
             then
             help
             of
             the
             Magistrate
             is
             to
             be
             desired
             .
             p.
             99.
             
          
           
             You
             must
             shew
             wisdome
             in
             her
             imployments
             ,
             p
             99
             ,
             100.
             
          
           
             You
             are
             to
             give
             your
             wife
             all
             good
             encouragement
             when
             shee
             doth
             well
             ,
             being
             more
             ready
             to
             approve
             her
             well-doing
             ,
             then
             to
             reprove
             her
             for
             evill
             .
             p.
             101.
             
          
           
             The
             wife
             must
             be
             well
             provided
             for
             before
             your
             decease
             ,
             that
             shee
             surviving
             ,
             may
             live
             more
             comfortably
             .
             p.
             101
             ,
             102.
             
          
           
             You
             must
             not
             give
             all
             ,
             or
             too
             much
             to
             her
             ,
             with
             the
             neglect
             of
             your
             children
             .
             p.
             102.
             
          
           
             Nor
             yet
             may
             you
             give
             all
             ,
             or
             most
             to
             your
             children
             ,
             neglecting
             your
             wife
             .
             p.
             102
             ,
             103.
             
          
        
         
         
           
             Peculiar
             Duties
             of
             the
             Wife
             .
          
           
             You
             must
             see
             in
             your
             Husband
             ,
             and
             acknowledge
             the
             stamp
             of
             Gods
             authority
             upon
             him
             ;
             God
             having
             made
             him
             to
             be
             your
             head
             and
             ruler
             .
             p.
             104.
             
          
           
             You
             most
             in
             abundance
             of
             love
             shew
             true
             reverence
             to
             him
             in
             word
             and
             deed
             .
             p.
             105.
             
          
           
             You
             must
             obey
             him
             in
             the
             Lord
             in
             all
             things
             .
             p.
             106.
             
          
           
             Some
             Cautions
             ,
             and
             other
             generall
             Directions
             to
             Husbands
             and
             wives
             for
             the
             close
             of
             all
             ;
             that
             the
             married
             estate
             to
             them
             may
             be
             more
             contentfull
             and
             comfortable
             .
             p.
             107
             ,
             &c.
             
          
        
      
       
         
           Errata
           .
        
         
           FOr
           comfortable
           ,
           
             p.
             66.
             l.
             1.
             r.
          
           uncomfortable
           :
           for
           enjoy
           ,
           
             p.
             108.
             l.
             14.
             r.
          
           enjoying
           :
           for
           do
           ,
           
             p.
             108.
             l.
             15.
             r.
          
           doing
           .
        
         
           FINIS
           .
        
         
         
         
      
       
         Notes, typically marginal, from the original text
         
           Notes for div A92764e-220
           
             Ruth
             4.
             11
             
          
           
             Jere.
             2.
             2.
             
          
           
             Heb.
             12.
             22
             ,
             23.
             
          
           
             Eph.
             3.
             15.
             
          
           
             E.
             M.
             
          
           
             Cogunt●●●ss●
             ma●●●
             〈◊〉
             〈◊〉
             ●sse
             v●les
             
               Sal
               ▪
               de
               Prov.
               
            
          
           
             s●
             .
             66.
             24.
             
          
           
             Ezek.
             16.
             8.
             
          
           
             Pro.
             31
             1.
             
          
           
             Filii
             diligend●
             sunt
             in
             Deo
             ,
             〈◊〉
             propter
             Deum
             .
          
           
             Quid
             Christus
             nisi
             Deum
             in
             nobis
             dilexit
             ,
             non
             quem
             habebamus
             sed
             ut
             haberemus
             ,
             
               Lomb.
               l.
               3.
               D.
               27.
               
            
          
           
             Isa.
             65.
             8.
             
          
           
             Jos.
             24.
             15
             
          
        
         
           Notes for div A92764e-820
           
             Prov.
             10.
             
          
           
             Act.
             9.
             39.
             
          
           
             Psal.
             18.
             23.
             
          
           
             Joh.
             17.
             4.
             
          
           
             Eph.
             5.
             22.
             
          
           
             Col.
             3.
             18.
             
          
           
             Tit.
             2.
             17.
             
          
           
             Jam.
             2.
             17.
             
          
        
         
           Notes for div A92764e-1300
           
             Pro.
             18.
             22.
             
          
           
             Pro.
             19.
             14.
             
          
           
             Gen.
             2.
             21
             
          
           
             Jer.
             45.
             5.
             
          
           
             Gen.
             24.
             2.
             3.
             
          
           
             Gen.
             28.
             12.
             
             Gen.
             21.
             21.
             
          
           
             Jos.
             15.
             17.
             1
             Sam.
             18.
             27.
             
          
           
             Ruth
             .
             1.
             2.
             
          
           
             Gen.
             28.
             6
             ,
             7.
             
          
           
             Gen.
             34
             4.
             
          
           
             Gen.
             26.
             34
             ,
             35.
             
          
           
             Prov.
             30.
             19.
             
          
           
             Psal.
             55.
             22.
             
          
           
             Deut.
             31.
             6.
             
             Psal.
             9.
             10.
             
          
           
             1
             Sam.
             18.
             25.
             
          
           
             Jos.
             15.
             17
             
          
           
             Isa.
             26.
             3.
             
          
        
         
           Notes for div A92764e-2520
           
             Phil.
             4.
             11.
             
          
           
             1
             Cor.
             7.
             28.
             
          
           
             Rom.
             8.
             20
             
          
           
             Gen.
             3.
             16
             
          
           
             Eccl.
             1.
             14.
             
          
           
             Eccl.
             2.
             3.
             11.
             
          
           
             Mal.
             2.
             15.
             
          
           
             1
             Cor.
             7.
             2
             
          
           
             1
             Cor.
             7.
             32.
             35.
             
          
           
             Eccles.
             4.
             9
             ,
             10
             ,
             11
             ,
             12.
             
          
           
             Deut.
             20.
             7.
             
             Deut.
             22.
             32.
             
          
           
             Mat.
             1.
             18.
             
          
           
             Mat.
             1.
             20.
             
          
           
             Mat.
             1.
             18.
             25.
             
          
           
             Mat.
             19.
             6.
             
          
           
             Prov.
             19.
             14.
             
          
           
             Prov.
             7.
             2.
             
          
           
             Gen.
             2.
             23
             
             ▪
             24.
             
             Mat.
             19.
             5
             
             ▪
             6.
             
          
           
             1
             Cor.
             7.
             2.
             
          
           
             1
             Cor.
             8.
             1.
             
          
           
             1
             Pet.
             3.
             1.
             
          
           
             1
             Cor.
             7.
             33
             ,
             34.
             
          
           
             Gen.
             2.
             18.
             
          
           
             Prov.
             31.
             11
             ,
             12.
             
          
           
             1
             Thes
             4.
             4
             Heb.
             13.
             4.
             
          
           
             1
             Cor.
             7.
             3.
             
          
           
             Lev.
             18.
             19
             ,
             24.
             
          
           
             1
             Tim.
             4.
             4
             ,
             5.
             
          
           
             Prov.
             5.
             18
             ,
             19
             ,
             20.
             
          
           
             Job
             31.
             12.
             
          
           
             Prov.
             6.
             33
             
          
           
             Prov.
             6.
             32
             
          
           
             Heb.
             13.
             4.
             
          
           
             Gen.
             39.
             9
             
          
           
             Lev.
             20.
             10.
             
          
           
             1
             Cor.
             13.
             7.
             
          
           
             1
             Pet.
             4.
             8.
             
          
           
             Gen.
             30.
             1
             
          
           
             Pro.
             22.
             6.
             
             Eph.
             6.
             4.
             
          
           
             Ps.
             101.
             6.
             
             Gen.
             18.
             19
             
             Deut.
             6.
             7.
             
          
           
             Prov.
             27.
             23.
             26.
             
             Pro.
             31.
             27
             
          
           
             Pro.
             10.
             4.
             Pro.
             21.
             5.
             
          
           
             Eph.
             4.
             28.
             
          
           
             Gen.
             26.
             8
             
          
           
             1
             Cor.
             13.
             5.
             7.
             
          
           
             Eph.
             4.
             26.
             
          
           
             Jam.
             3.
             17.
             
          
           
             1
             Tim.
             2.
             12.
             1
             Pet.
             3.
             7.
             
          
           
             2
             King.
             4.
             9
             ,
             10.
             22.
             24.
             
          
           
             Mal.
             2
             ▪
             14.
             
          
           
             1
             Pet.
             3.
             7.
             
          
           
             Pro.
             2.
             17.
             
          
           
             1
             Cor.
             14.
             35.
             
          
           
             1
             Pet.
             3.
             5.
             
          
           
             Gal.
             6.
             1.
             
          
           
             Lev.
             25.
             43.
             
             Col.
             3.
             19.
             
          
           
             Ephes.
             5.
             29.
             
          
           
             Prov.
             31.
             31.
             
          
           
             Ephes.
             5.
             23.
             
          
           
             Gen.
             3.
             16.
             
          
           
             Ephes.
             5.
             33.
             
          
           
             2
             Sam.
             6.
             16.
             
          
           
             1
             Pet.
             3.
             6.
             
          
           
             Eph.
             5.
             24.
             
          
           
             1
             Cor.
             7.
             29
             
          
           
             2
             Cor.
             11.
             2.
             
          
           
             Luke
             10.
             42.
             
          
           
             Ps.
             62.
             10.
             
          
           
             Mat.
             6.
             33.
             
             Ps
             45.
             11.
             
          
           
             1
             Cor.
             7.
             29
             
          
           
             1
             Cor.
             7.
             30.
             31.
             
          
           
             ●
             Thes.
             3.
             5.
             
             Mat.
             25.
             1.
             4.
             7.
             10.
             
          
           
             Luk.
             20.
             35
             ,
             36.
             
          
           
             1
             Thes
             4.
             17.
             
          
           
             Psal.
             ●6
             .
          
           
             1
             Joh.
             3.
             2.
             Phil.
             3.
             21.