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A43491) Transcribed from: (Early English Books Online ; image set 57224) Images scanned from microfilm: (Early English books, 1641-1700 ; 147:7) Advice to a daughter in opposition to the Advice to a sonne, or, Directions for your better conduct through the various and most important encounters of this life ... / by Eugenius Theodidactus. Heydon, John, b. 1629. [20], 208 [i.e. 191] p. Printed by J. Moxon for Francis Cossinet ..., London : 1658. Attributed to John Heydon. Cf. BM. Reproduction of original in Huntington Library. eng Osborne, Francis, 1593-1659. -- Advice to a son. Young women -- Conduct of life -- Early works to 1800. A43491 R9980 (Wing H1664). civilwar no Advice to a daughter. In opposition to the Advice to a sonne. Or Directions for your better conduct through the various and most important e [no entry] 1658 40039 31 15 0 0 0 0 11 C The rate of 11 defects per 10,000 words puts this text in the C category of texts with between 10 and 35 defects per 10,000 words. 2008-09 TCP Assigned for keying and markup 2008-11 SPi Global Keyed and coded from ProQuest page images 2008-12 Megan Marion Sampled and proofread 2008-12 Megan Marion Text and markup reviewed and edited 2009-02 pfs Batch review (QC) and XML conversion ADVICE to a DAUGHTER . In opposition to the ADVICE to a SONNE . OR Directions for your better Conduct through the various and most important Encounters of this life . Under these generall Heads , I. STUDIES , &c. II. LOVE and MARRIAGE . III. TRAVELL . IIII. GOVERNMENT . V. RELIGION . Conclusion . By Eugenius Theodidactus . LONDON . Printed by J. Moxon , for Francis Cossinet , at the Golden Anchor in Tower Street , at Mincheon lane end . 1658. To the Excellently accomplished Gentleman , Mr. CHARLES BRVTON , Cittizen , and Marchant Adventurer of London , &c. Much Honoured SIR . I Here trouble you with a short discourse ; It is no Laboured peece , and indeed no fit Present ; But I beg your acceptance . The first time I ever saw the Advice to a Son , was the last day of Hillary Term ; I read it , and found it full of bitterness against Women ; And indeed they were shamefully Wronged and Abused . I shuff'd up this Answer in sixteen dayes , for your spare hours ; in which you may ma●● your self Merry● fur it was born this last V●cation , when I did not so much Labour , as Play . I found him a Nameless over-worn Wittal , that five times before I espied him , had adulterated the Press , and abused Ladies and Gentlewomen ; And no Man durst answer him : for so he reported . I will see what , and who , this diseased Maccabee is ; This ( as yet ) unconquered enemy of Women ; and defie him : and prove his discourse , and hard censure of Ladies and Gentlewomen like the blasts of Rams horns before the walls of Jericho ; that throwes down the Reputation of Ladies at one utterance . I know you are Great ; but yet there is a better title , you are Good . I might have fixed this peece to a Pinacle , made the Dedication High ; But to what purpose ? Greatness is a thing I cannot admire in others ; because I desire it not in my self : It is a proud folly , a Ceremonious Fancy : There is nothing necessary in it : for most men live without it : And I may not apply to that which my Reason declines , aswell as my Fortune . The truth is , I know no use of Hooghen Mooghens , and Tituladoes : if they are in a humour to give , I am no Begger to receive : I look not for any thing , Sir , but what the Learned are inriched withall , Judgement and Candor : you are a true friend to both , and to my third self . And for my present boldness , you may thank your self ; you taught me this familiarity , and you may see what unprofitable affections you have purchased . I propose nothing for your instruction ; Nature hath done her part ; and I would make you my Judge , not my Pupill : if therefore amongst your serious and more dear Retirements , you can allow this trifle but some few minutes , and think them not lost ; you will perfect my ambition , you will place me ( Sir ) at my full height ; and though it were like that of Statius amongst Gods and Stars ; I shall quickly find the Earth again , and with the least opportunity present my self , SIR , Your most humble Servant . Eugenius Theodidactus : March 26. 1658. To the Book , and Reader . ANd now my Book , let it not stop thy flight , That thy just Author is not Lord or Knight . I can define my self , and have the Art Still to present one face , and still one heart . But for nine years some great Ones cannot see What they have been , nor know they what to bee . What though I have no Rattle to my name ? Do'st hold a Simple Honesty no Fame ? Or art thou such a stranger to the Time , Thou canst not know my Fortune from my Crime ? Go forth , and fear not : some will gladly bee Thy Learned friends , whom I did never see . Nor shouldst thou fear thy welcome , thy small Price Cannot undo 'em , though they pay Excise . Thy Bulks not great ; it will not much distress Their Empty Pockets , but their Studies dress . Th'art no Galeon , as books of burthen bee , Which cannot ride but in a Library : Th'art a fine thing , and little : it may chance Ladies will buy thee for a new Romance : And this perhaps may sometimes move their Laughter That thou art call'd Advice unto a Daughter . Oh how I 'le envy Thee ! when thou art spread In the bright Sun-shine of their eyes , and read With breath of Amber , Lips of Rose , that Lend Perfumes unto thy leaves , shall never spend . When from their white hands they shall let thee fall Into their Bosome , ( which I may not call Ought of Misfortune ) thou dost drop to rest . In a more pleasing place , and art more blest There , in some silken soft fold thou shalt lye Hid like their Love , or thy own Allegorie . Nor shouldst thou grieve thy Language is not fine , For sixteen dayes hath made this Book of mine . I could have voy●'d thee forth in such a Dress The Spring had been a slut to thy express ; Such as might file the rude unpolish'd Age , And fix the Readers Soul to every Page . But I have us'd a course and homely strain , Because it suits with Truth , which should be plain . Last , my dear Book , if Readers Look on thee As on three Suns , or some great Prodigie ; And swear to a full point , I do deride All other Sects , to publish my own pride . Tell such they lye . And since they love not thee , Bid them go Learn some High-shoe Heresie . Nature is not so simple but she can Procure a sollid Reverence from Man : Nor is my Pen so lightly plum'd that I Should serve Ambition with her Majesty . T is Womens Vertue I do tell abroad , For Women-Angels are sent us from the Lord . This Truth makes mee Come forth , and having writ This her short Scaence , I would not stifle it ; For I have call'd it Childe , and I had rather See 't torn by them , then strangled by the Father . E. I. To his Daughter . Daughter , I Have forborn to set your name on the fore head of these Aphorisms ; not that I am ashamed either of them , or you : but because your Enemy and his Son , have done so before me . And such old men as these I accept against , as a generation of decrepit and withered understandings : People whose Minds , could they be looked into , would prove infinitely more monstrous then their Bodies ; and such as like Monkies , having either gnawed away or lost their tayles , read Lectures and Advices to young ones to cut theirs too . First , we give to all the Vertues the habits and visages of Women : and of all the Vertues Truth is the best ; ( for Truth is the mother of Justice , and Justice ( they say ) comprehends them all : Yet she is naked , though she love the publike , and hate Corners : And is it not very fit that all the Sex should imitate such an excellent Pattern and Mistress ? In this light humour I am in , I think we can do no greater right to Women , then to bring them to be Judged by one rule . And since every Woman Judges her self the fairest ; shee that would be backward to this Arbitriment , would be diffident of her self ; and consequently a Rennegade from her Sex . Next , take care of the subtle devices of Men : and consider their designes , which may be more Loving to your Portion , then your Person : All people having not the same Conceptions of beauty ; which is as hatefull to an Ethiopian , as Black is to us : not considering that Women uncloathed are all alike ; and the Conceptions about the harmony and measures of her Body differ not . Yet I advise you not to follow the example of a Princess appearing in a Lawn smock , to be veiwed by Embassadours , as towards a Marriage● said , she would put off that too , if there were any necessity . But custome hath made Cloaths decent . The deeds of our Ancestors , are not to be slighted ; for they left them for our example ; and used in their days abundance of cheaper Artificiall Ornaments , from Shels , Feathers , and Stones . Behold the Sun and Moon , and all the Glorious Batalia of Heaven ; and they appear as the Great God and Nature made them ; to which God and Nature , I am Servant and Secretary . This will not produce such infinite provocations and incitements to lust as the Advice to a Son fondly conceives . But I say not . For I dare say , that what by Painting , what by the Looseness and Change of Garments , what by these gaudy inventions of dressings , that flexure and fracture of gate , the deformity is hidden : unless to a very nice eye , there is much more fuell added , then if all went with no more Mantles , Scarfes , Gowns , and Hoods , then Nature thrust them into the World with , viz. Hair hanging loosely down , or else carelesly gathered up in a Fillet ; and perhaps some little kind of Cover , that might restrain , the Virginall flower , from being too much gazed at , and blown upon . Follow not ( Daughter ) their fashion that uncover the parts of their chiefest Beauty , as their Face , Neck , Breasts and Hand , as the Index to the more secret object ; which without a signe may be by the guide of humane Nature sound out : So that Women do endeavour in part to break that restraint which bides the rest of their Glory , and to set forth their delicate Dresses , plaited and weaved with such variety , their Ivory Necks , their Harmonious Faces , their Milkie Spherical Breasts , and their Melting Hands : my advice is to shew All , or Nothing . Daughter though some Crazy ignorant old welch Owens , with powder dried bones , fit to be burnt , with diseases , hath endeavoured to deceive you from the same Species , with Men ; and one madder then they , denie you Souls ; and so have many others : yet when we shall oppose Holy Scripture , which makes Man the Consummation of the Creation ; and you the Consummation of Man : if I should but instance those particular indulgencies of Nature which John Heydon reckons unto you , and those peculiar advantages of composition and understanding he ascribes to you ; or if I should mention that of Eugenius Theodidactus , that friend to the Fraternity of the Rosie Cross , and beleeved to be inspired , and so thought a Rosie Crusian ; he ( I say ) calls you Fountains and perfections of Goodness : Whom ( Daughter ) can we imagine to be so insensible as not to be presently touched with the delicate Composure and Symmetry of Womens Bodies ? The sweetness and killing Languors of their eyes ? The mestange and harmony of their Colours ? The happiness and spirituallity of their Countenance ? The Charms and allurements of their mind ? The Air and Command of their smiles ? Men are meerly rough cast , bristly , and made up of tough Materials : and if they approach any thing near Beauty , do so much degenerate from what they are . How generall is the affection of old Men to Women ? some I have known of three score to Marry Girles of sixteen . Soloman was no fool ; and it is well known , how your sex tempted him ; that his power Commanded you to fulfill his desires . And I only advise you to Wisdome and Vertue . And if any Clumsy old doting Wittall , blinded with Ignorance , and by his own Wofull Experience shall protest against the Sufficiency of these , or any thing else I have written , or shall write for your better instructions , that may perhaps hereafter be made publike ; He wilfully goes about to Councel his Master ; and adventures to make the Sun stand still ; and to run another race . For your sake I set Pen to Paper , to teach you how to live ; that to Die you need not fear . The World is full of deceit : trust not therefore the hot love of a Stranger : for if you will expose your self to all , you are Slighted : and a Common Wife is hated . Beauty affords Contentment ; Riches are meanes to cure a weak Estate : Honour illustrates all comes nigh it . If you Marry thus , you are happy ; And then to find Worth , Carriage Gesture and Grace , in your choyce , it perfects felicity . These things in this Book are written for your instruction ; hopeing you will excuse my faults ; which through hast and other infirmity are Committed . A more Leasure time may perfect what is here Charactered in Water Colours : And you may easily perceive , that I consulted not at all with advantaging my Name , or wooing publike esteem by what I now write . I know there was much of Naked Truth in it ; And is a Caution given to you , from Your Loving Father . &c. {non-Roman} {non-Roman} {non-Roman} {non-Roman} {non-Roman} March 26 1658. ADVIGE to a DAUGHTER . In opposition to the ADVICE to a SONNE . WHo is this that darkneth Councel , by Words without Knowledge ? Come thou Embrio of a History , thou Cadet of a Pamphleteer ; Gird up thy loins like a man , for I will demand of thee , and answer thou me . But now I think upon it , I will allow thee time to breath , after thy late Bawling those fragments of a Prophane Atheistical old Pamphlet , intituled Thy Advice to a Son , and speak a few words to my Reader . Reader , I have met with a Thing ; it is not named , It speaks like a Man , and yet abuses Women : It is the first Tincture and Rudiments of a VVriter , dipped as yet in the preparative Blew , like an Almanack well-wilier . To call him an Historian , is to Knight a Mandrake ; to say he is a Politician , is view him throw a Perspective , and by that gross Hyperbole to give the reputation of an Engineer to a maker of Mouse-traps . He is such an one as Queen Mabbs Register : One , who by the same figure that a North Country Pedlar is a Marchant man , you may stile an Author : There goes his Affection , which is the Heliotrope to the Sun of Honour ; and hath long since abjured his God , Religion , Conscience , and all that shall interpose and skreen him from those Beams that may ripen his wishes and aims into injoyments . And now have at his Advice to a Son . Come thou Relique of a Politician , that five times at least ( by I know not what Ignis fatuus hast adulterated the Presse : And have you so much Policy in your Advice to your Son that the Readers mistake your Name , and beleeve you to be the Tripple-headed Turn-key of Heaven ? Behold his Directions . For your better Conduct through the various and most important Encounters of this Life : under the five general Heads ( I will cut off ) and you will think him the Triple-headed Porter of Hell . Ladies , Fear him not , I am your Champion ; Little David will fight Goliah . I scorne to kill him , I 'le only box him , kick and cudgel him for his boldness : and let him know , He is the better man who hath besiedged and taken a Town , not plotted to rob an Orchard , and for all his subtleties was VVhipt . But I must read first , and write afterwards . Here comes the Pedee of a Romancer , with his Advice to a Son ; 'T is the Indorsement to the Packet , like a fine knot to a fine bundle : Come , Let 's open in the name of good sence : Oh! How it smells like a diseased peece of an Apocripha taken out of Guzman's rags , or burnt bones . VVhat saies this Father to his Son ? 1. Though I can never pay enough to your Grandfathers Memory , for his tender Care in my Education ; yet I must observe in it this mistake ; that by keeping me at Home , where I was one of my young Masters , I lost the advantage of my most docile time . For not undergoing the same Discipline , I must needs come short of their Experience that are bred up in Free Schools ; who by plotting to rob an Orchard &c. 1. Here he complains of the losse of those times which I could wish I had not known . Daughter , I would have you as good as I could fancy one : and three things I would have you know ; First , Your own misery ; secondly , Gods Love ; thirdly , Your thankfull Obedience : your misery . How just ? Gods Love , How free ? How undeserved ? Your thankfullnesse , How due ? How necessary ? Consideration of one , successively begets the apprehension of all : Your condition shews you his Love ; His Love calls for your acknowledgement : Want makes a Bounty weightier . 2. As your Education hath been befriended by a foundation ; so you may endeavour a requital , if God makes you able : However let not the contrary afflict you , since it is observed by some , that his Name who burnt the Temple of Diana , out-lasted theirs that built it . &c. 2. Answer , Of Education I say thus much , It is seen every where : If you travel but from White Hall to Exeter , or from a Village to an Accademy ; or see but a Horse well manag'd , and another resty in his own fierceness . Dyet no question alters much ; even the giddy Airyness of the French , I shall rather impute to their Dyet of VVine and wild Foul , then to the difference of their Clime ; it being so neer an adjoyner to ours . And ▪ in England , I beleeve our much use of Strong beer , and gross Flesh is a great occasion of dregging our Spirits , and corrupting them till they shorten life . Age is also a changer ; Man hath a Zenith , as well in VVit as in ability of Body ; He grows from sence to Reason , and then again declines to Dotage , and to imbecillity : Youth is too young in brain ; and Age again , does drain away the Spirits : Passion blunts the edge of Conceit , and where there is much sorrow the mind is dull and unperceiving ; the Soul is oppressed , and lies languishing in an unsociable loneliness , till it proves stupid and inhumane : Nor do these more alter the Mind then the Body . VVeigh every Mans Education as his means have been : A man may look in vain for Courtship in a Plow man , or Learning in a Mechanick . VVho would expect a lame man should run swiftly ? Or that a sick man should deliver an Oration with a Grace and cheerfullness ? If you find any man failing in his Manners , you must consider his Means , before you censure the Man : and one that is short of what he might be , by his sloath and negligence , you must think as justly blameable , as he that out of his Industry hath adorned his behaviour above his Means , is commendable . 3. Let not an over-passionate prosecution of Learning ( saith he ) draw you from making an honest improvement of your Estate ; as such do who are better read in the bignesse of the whole Earth , then in that little spot left them by their friends , for their support . 3. I Answer . ( You clumsie Epithite ) Nothing wraps a Man in such a mist of Errors , as his own Curiositie in twisting himself into things above him . How happily do they live , that know nothing but what is necessary ? Your knowledge doth but shew your Ignorance ; Your most studious scrutenies is but a discovery of what the Spirit knew before it was imbodied : You find the effect , but not the Cause . Besides , If I must describe a meer Scholer , He is an intellegible Asse , or silly fellow in Black , that speaks Sentences more familiarly then Sence , and Latine better then his Mother Tongue ; But is a stranger to no Countrie but his own ; He is Ambitious , and tells great stories of himself , to no purpose , for they are commonly ridiculous , be they true or false ; doubtless he is a Graduate ; but if ever he get a Fellowship , he hath then no Fellow : in spight of all Logick he dares swear and maintain it , that a Cuckold and a Towns-man are Termini Convertibiles , though his Mothers Husband and the Father of the Advice to a Son's Father , be Aldermen in the singular Number : He cannot but wrangle with harmless VVomen : His Tongue goes alwaies before his VVit , like the Gentleman Usher , but abundance faster : He is long-winded , and able to speak more with ease , than any man can endure to hear with Patience : University Jests are his universal Discourse ; and his News the Demeanour of the Proctors : His phrase ( the Apparel of his Mind ) is made of divers shreds like a Cushion , and when it goeth plainest it hath a rash out-side , and Fustian Linings ; the current of his Speech is clos'd with an Ergo : and what ever be the Question , the Truth is on his side : 't is a wrong to his Reputation to be ignorant in any thing , and yet he knows not that he knows nothing : He gives Directions for Husbandry from Virgils Georgicks , for Cattle from his Bucolicks : He would be thought as great a Duellist as Heydon , and as stout a Fighter : He speaks of Warlike Stratagems from his Eucides , or Ceasars Commentaries : He orders all things , and thrives by none : He is led more by his Ears then his Understanding , taking the empty sound of words for their true sence ; and does therefore confidently say , that Aera Pater was the Father of Hereticks ; Rodolphus Agricola a substantial Farmer ; and will aver that Systimo's Logick doth excell Kickermans : His ill luck is not so much in being a Fool , as in being put to such pains to express it to the World ; for what in others is Natural , in him ( with much adoe ) is Artificial : His Poverty is his Happiness , for it makes men beleeve he is an honest man : That Learning that he hath was put in backward , like a Clister ; and is now like ware mis-laid in a Pedlars pack , he has it , but knows not where it is . And this is the Index of a Man , and the Title page of his Father : a new Religion in Morality ; much in Profession , nothing in Practise . 4. His Father sayes , A mixt Education suits Imployment best : Scholers and Cittzens by a too long plodding in the same track , have their Experience seldom dilated beyond the Circle of a narrow Profession , &c. I Answer , There is no Syntax between a Cap of Maintainance , and a Helmet : Although we have caution enough against these mixt multitudes in sad and frequent experience ; these latter Ages groaning under an Exorbitant Clergy . Yet such is the easiness and Credulity of the Vulgar , such the subtilety and dissembling sanctity of the Imposture , that he meets with as great a pronesse in the People to be cozen'd , as he brings willingnesse to delude . For it is a true Observation , that these Clancular Sermocinators bear as great sway in Popular minds , and make as deep impression upon their Consciences , as the Loyalists does when they impose upon their blind Layty . I suspect this Clerical Statist , that makes him that cannot deceive , ignorant how to live . 5. I have observed in Collegiate Discipline , &c : I Answer , Here he fancies the Habite of the Jesuites , as the principal men to perfect Patience and Obedience in Youth ; when I suspect him in the dispensation of Sacred Oracles , who ( as it is said ) tampers with Secular affairs of no Concernment to his Auditors Souls : but this Discipline is the common skreen of his private designe . 6. If a more profitable Imployment pull you not too soon from the Vniversity , &c. I Answer , Here he would have his Son make some inspection into Physick , which will make him welcome : If he know but how to make a Suppository to please a Lady , he will be reverenced beyond a Holy Father , or the Vicar of the Parish . 7. Do not prosecute beyond a superficial Knowledge , any Learning that moves upon no stronger Legs , then the tottering basis of Conjecture is able to afford it , &c. I Answer , Learning is like a River ( Sir , ) whose head being far in the Land , is at the first Rising little , and easily veiwed , but still as you go it gapeth with a wider Bank ; not without pleasure and a delightfull winding , while it is on both sides set with Trees , and the Beauties of various Flowers ; but still the further you follow it the deeper and broader it is , till at last it in waves it self in the unfathom'd Ocean . In many things you may sound Nature in the shallows of her Revelations ; we may trace her in her second Causes ; but beyond them we meet with nothing but the Misteries of the holy company of un-bodied Souls , which have , and some not yet have been bodied : and this puzzels your clog'd Spirit , and dazels your minds dim eyes which peeps through the Body . 8. Huge Vollumnes , like the Ox roasted whole in Bartholmew Fair , may proclaim plenty of Labour and Invention ; but afford lesse of what is delicate , savory , and well concocted , then smaller peeces , &c. I Answer , Idle Books ( like you Natural Knave , and Artificial Dissembler ) are nothing else but corrupted Tales in Ink and Paper : And indeed your vicious Books sent abroad , makes him that reads them Conscious of a double injury ; they being in effect , like that bruitish sin of Adultery ; for if One reads , Two are catch'd . He that Angles in these Waters , is sure to strike the Torpedo ; that instead of being his Food , confounds him . Besides the time ill spent in them , a twofold reason shall make you refrain , both in regard to your own Soul , and pitty unto him that made them : for if you be corrupted by them , the Composer of them is mediately a cause of your ill ; and at the day of reckoning ( though now dead ) must give an account for it : because you are corrupted by his bad example , which he leaves behind him : so you become guilty by receiving ; he by thus conveying this lewdnesse unto you : He is the Theef , you the Receiver : and what difference makes our Law betwixt them ? If one be cut off , the other dyes ; both perish . Write not like him , lest you hurt those that come after you : Read not his Books , lest you augment his mulct . A lame Hand is better then a lewd Pen . And his foolish Sentences dropt upon Paper , in Advice to his Son , hath set Folly on a Hill , and is a Monument to make Women Infamous eternal . 9. As the Grave hides the fault of Physick , &c. I Answer , Here he commends modern Authors , which I should more doubt of Knavery , who for the most part subborn Scripture to attest or incite to illegal actions : as of kin to that which John Heydon calls very fitly Religio sum Scelus , Religious wickedness . 10. Be conversant in the Speeches , Declarations and Transactions , occasioned by the last Wars . I Answer , He adviseth you to such Pamphlets would hardly passe Muster with a Scotch Stationer , in a sieve full of Ballads and Godly Bewks , full of such Reports as contradict Truth , and defame a good Title , as well as most of our Modern Noble men : Those Went of Greatness : The Body Politicks most Peccant humours , they blistered into Lord . 11. A few Books well Studied , &c. I Answer , Some men read Books ( you crampt Compendium ) as Gentlemen use Flowers ; only for delight and smell , to please their fancy , and refine their Tongue : others like the Bees , extract only the Hony , the wholsome precepts ; and this alone they bear away , leaving the rest , as little worth : the one of these instructs his mind , and the other tells what he hath Learned ; it is pitty they should be divided . He that hath worth in him , and cannot express it , is as a Chest keeping a rich Jewel , and the Key lost ▪ Concealing Goodness is Vice . A good stile with wholesome matter , is a fair Woman , with a vertuous Soul ; which attracts the eyes of all : The good man thinks Chastly , and loves her Beauty for her Vertue ; which he still thinks more fair , for dwelling in so fair an out-side . The Vicious man hath Lustfull thoughts ; and he would for her Beauty , fain destroy her Vertue : but comming to solicite his purpose , finds such Divine Lectures from her Angels Tongue , and those delivered with so sweet a pleasing Modesty , that he thinks Vertue is dissecting her Soul to him , to ravish man with a Beauty which he dream'd not of : so he could curse himself , for desiring that lewdly , which he hath learned since , only to admire and reverence . Thus he goes away better , that came with an intent to be worse . Quaint phrases on a good subject , are baits to make an ill man Vertuous . How many men seeking these vilely , have found themselves Convertites ? 12. It is an Sphorisme in Physick , &c. I Answer , This concerns the Wits of the Town , which he advises his Son to Converse with , to refine his Spirit , better then Books : It may be so ; and I beleeve they will sell him Wit dearer then Stationers their Books : And we know what they say of Bought Wit . 13. Propose not them for Patterns , who make all Places rattle where they come , with Greek and Latine , &c. I Answer , ( Anonimus ) I should believe him a foolish jugler , that sprinkels his words in any vulgar Mother-tongue , publickly with murmurs against the lawful Magistrate , Ecclesiastical or civil , unless he hath some better ground for his dislike , then a thwarting his humour in things controversal and adiaphorous . 14. Follow not the tedious practice of such as seek wisdom onely in learning , &c. I answer ; He is Pedantically conceited of his invention which is so inroll'd in Policy , that it drops black and malignant influences upon Tradition . 15. Spend no time in reading , much less writing strong lines , &c. I answer : Why so ? ( pray Sir ) is it not worth your time to know the mysterious truth of natural Astrology , and the strange and strong lines of the learned Moses ? but there is no superstition in Politicks more odious , then to stand too much upon niceties . 16. Books flatly writ deface your style ; the like may be truly objected to weak preachers , &c. I answer ; The late King Charles indeed had a pen more majestical then the Crown he lost , ( but not as you say from experience the Mistress of fooles ) for he trusted in God , and it was he that gave him a wise and an understanding heart , ( if not ) others have known as much by experience as he that are not as he was , truly inspired ; The excess which is in the defect of preaching has made the Pulpit flighted , I mean the much bad Oratory we find it guilty of : It is a wonder to me how men can preach so little in so long a time , as if they thought to please by their vain Tautologies ; I see no reason that so high a Princess as Divinity is , should be presented to the people in such sordid rags of the tongue ; nor he which speaks from the father of Languages , should deliver his Embassage in an ill one . A man can never speak too well , where he speaks not too obscure : long and distended clauses are both tedious to the ear , and difficult for their retaining : a sentence well couched takes both the sense and the understanding ; I love not those cart-rope speeches , that are longer then the memory of man can fathom ; I see not but that Divinity , put into apt significants by Iohn Cleveland , might ravish as well as his Poetry : The weightier lines men finde upon the Stage , I am perswaded have been the Lures to draw away the Pulpit followers : we complain of drowsiness at a Sermon , when a Play of a doubled length leads you on still with alacrity ; but the fault is not in our selves , if we saw Divinity acted , the gesture and variety would as much invigilate . But it is too slight to be personated by humanity , the Stage feeds both the ear and the eye ; and through this latter sense the soul drinks deeper draughts ; things acted possess us more and are more retainable then the passable tones of the tongue : Besides , here we meet with more composed language , the Dulcia Sermonis put into fine phrases , though it is to be lamented such wits are not set to the right tune , and consorted to Divinity , who without doubt , well deckt , will cast a far more radiant lustre , then those obscene scurrilities that the Stage presents us with , though spangled in their gaudiest tire . At a Sermon well drest , what understander can have a motion to sleep ? Divinity well ordered casts forth a bait , which angles the soul into the ear ; and how can that close , when such a guest sits in it ? They are Sermons like Eugenius Philalethes Philosophy , which lead the eyes to slumber ; and should we hear a continued Oration , upon such a subject as the Stage treats on , or Clevelands Poems in such words as we hear some Sermons , I am confident , it would not onely be far more tedious , but nauseous and contemptible . The most advantage they have of other places is in their good lines and actions ; For it is certain , Cicero and Rossius are most complete , when they both make but one man ; fit words are better then fine ones ; I like not those that are injudiciously made , but such as be expressively significant , that lead the mind to something besides the naked term : and he that speaks this , must not speak every day . A kemb'd Oration will cost both sweat and the rubbing of the brain , and kemb'd I wish it not frizeled nor curled : Divinity should not lasciviate : unwormwooded jests I like well ; but they are fitter for the Tavern , then the Majesty of a Temple : Christ taught the people with authority , gravity becomes the Pulpit : I became a writer , by spending more oyl then wine , this is too fluid an Element to beget substantials ; wit procured by wine , is for the most part like the sparkling in the glass , when t is filling ; they brisk it for a moment , but dye presently : I admire the valour of some men that before their studies dare ascend the Pulpit , and do there take more pains then in their Library ; but having done this , I wonder not that they there spend sometimes two hours but to weary the people into sleep ; and this makes fugitive Divines , like cowards to run away from their Text : words , matter , and gesture with admirable tongue complete a Sermon . I know God hath chosen by weak things to confound the wise , yet I see not but in all times a washed language hath much prevailed , and even the Scriptures were penned in Hebrew , a tongue of deep expression , wherein every word hath almost a Metaphorical sense , which does illustrate by some allusion . How Political is Moses in his Pentateuch , how philosophical Iob , how massy and sententious is Solomon in his Proverbs , how quaint and flamingly amorous in his Canticles ? how grave in his Ecclesiastes ? How were the Jews astonied at Christs Doctrine ? how Eloquent a pleader is Paul ? He that reads the Fathers , shall find them written as if with a crisped pen . I grieve that any thing so excellent as Divinity should fall into such a sluttish handling ; though other interposures do eclipse her , yet this is a principal : I never knew a good tongue wanted ears to hear it , nor a well-pend Book want a friend to read it . Confections that are cordials are not the worse but the better for being gilded . Paul saith , Let no man be dark and full of shadow ; there is a way to be pleasingly plain , and some have found it : Philosophy or Poetry may come in and wait to please the guests with a Trencher at a Banquet . 17. The way to Elegancy of style , is to imploy your pen upon every errand , &c. 17. This Paragraph I have answered already , and do presume , that person is very rare , that can boast of such an absolute method of speech as Angels have , whilest he is amongst mortals , but that there will be now and then some words fall from him , and some phrases , which confess humanity , and require candor ; some leaves in the volume of the wisest Book , pen'd by the fairest life are legenda cum venia . 18. When business or complement calls you to write letters , &c. I answer , It happens sometimes , you may write to Princes : should you speak to him with a Complement , that the Court makes better Scholars then the University : For when the King vouchsafes to be a Teacher , every man blushes to be a non-proficient . 19. Avoid words and phrases , &c. I answer , Happy will it be if you keep base company , and learn to loath their errours in your self . I commend to you for your immitation , the lines of the late King , and the Proverbs of Solomon , and his grave Ecclesiastes , all very well pen'd . 20. The small reckoning I have seen made , &c. I answer ; No book is so meanly pen'd but that there is something in it that may teach you what you knew not before , and if you write books , let your subject be truth , and it written plainly ; for though it may prove fruitless to many , because not understood , nor regarded , yet some few may be of that Spirit , as to comprehend it , and embrace it , if not openly profess it , yet secretly believe it : Amplae mentis ampla flamma . 21. Be not frequent in Poetry , how excellent soever your vein is , &c. I answer , Poets have a name of honour , nor know I how to distinguish between the Prophets and Poets of Israel : what is Ieremiahs Lamentation but a kind of Saphick Elegy ? Davids Psalms are not onely Poems , but songs ; snatches and raptures of a flaming spirit : and this indeed I observe to the honour of Poets , I never found them covetous or scrapingly base ; they find their minds so solaced with their own flights , that they neglect the study of growing rich . 22. The Art of Musick , &c. I answer , Whose dull bloud will not caper in his veins , when the very air he breaths in frisketh in a tickled motion ? who can but fix his eye and thoughts , when he hears the sighes and dying groans , gestured from the mournful Instrument ? and I think he hath not a mind well tempered , whose zeal is not inflamed by an heavenly Anthem ; so that indeed Musick is good or bad , as the end to which it tendeth : surely they did mean it excellent , that made Apollo , who was God of wisdom , to be God of Musick also . 23. Wear your clothes neat , &c. I answer : This is one in whom pride is a quality that condemnes every one besides his Master , who when he wears new clothes , thinks himself wronged , if they be not observed , imitated , and his discretion in the choice of his fashion and stuff applauded : when he vouchsafes to bless the air with his presence , he goes as near the wall as his Plush cloak and suit with a canvas back and Sattin sleeves will give him leave : And every passenger he views under the eye-brows , to observe whether he vails his bonnet low enough , which he returns with an imperious nod : He never salutes first , but his farewell is perpetual . In his attire he is effeminate , every hair knows his own station ; which if it chance to lose , it is checkt in again with his pocket combe : he had rather have the whole Common-wealth out of order then the least member of his Muschato , and chuses rather to lose his patrimony , then to have his band ruffled . At a feast if he be not placed in the highest seat , he eats nothing ; howsoever he drinks to no man , talkes with no man ; and refuses the sports of Hunting and hawking for fear of familiarity . As you shall hear anon , he professeth to keep his stomach for the Pheasant or the Quail , and when they come , he can eat little , he hath been so cloyed with them that year , although they be the first he saw . In his discourse he talkes high , the lowest man is a privy Counsellor ; and is as prone to belye their acquaintance , as he is a Ladies favours . And this is the Author of the Advice to a Son , that goes to Sermons onely to shew his gay clothes , and if on other inferiour days he chance to meet his friend , he is sorry he sees him not in his best suit ; and if he have but twelve pence in his purse , he will give it for the best room in a Play house . 24. Never buy but with ready money , &c. I answer , Exceed not in the humour of rags and bravery , for these will soon were out of fashion , but money in your purse will ever be in fashion ; and no man is esteemed for gay garments but by fools and women : fix on the goodness and commodiousness of the thing you buy ; let not your judgement , friendship , or acquaintance , perswade you to pride or wantonness , an effeminate spruceness , or a phantastick disorder , but decency and a neglective comliness is your best ornament ; therefore buy those . 25. Next to clothes a good horse becomes a gentleman , &c. If you dare trust your own judgement without the assistance of a friend , in choosing things are good and cheap , his rule is good . A good horse , if he have majesty and stateliness , becomes a gentleman ; its commendable to see him with his Mane and Tail waving in the wind , and hear him coursing and neighing in the pastures , and noble to see him with some gallant Heroe on his back , performing gracefully his useful postures , and practising his exploits of war . 26. Gallop not through a town , &c. I answer , why so ? a party may be riding post upon life and death , and then it is but being careful and there is no danger . 27. Wrestling and vaulting have ever ( saith he ) been looked upon by men as more useful then Fencing , &c. I answer , not with me ( Mr. Puny ) of what use is wrestling to a gentleman a horseback going to do his King service ? if you meant to quarrel in a Tavern it may be useful , or in an Ale-house , you may trip up his heels , and vault over the table and then run away . 28. Swimming may save a man , &c. I answer , ( That is true ) I remember I saved my self , and so did all my company at the siege of Sally in Barbary , when an Army of Turks came down to destroy it , and all the inhabitants , and all that they found there as well strange Merchants as natives . 29. Though Machiavil &c. I answer , ( Sir ) you say Machiavil prescribes Hunting and Hawking in his Advice to a Prince ; it may be he doth ; I shall not take the pains to look whether he do or not , but you it seems are afraid of acquaintance with those whom you fear can informe your judgement in little but what signifies nothing ; and who you would think tedious to hear , yet cannot after shake off their acquaintance , &c. I appeal to the faculties of any free Judge , whether this be not a fruitless question ; for it is a small thing to give any man the hearing of his discourse , and not a penny Matter whether it signifie any thing or not ; first , you make him your friend , and if you but a little instruct him with mild and kind language , it is commendable both with God and Man : And be not proud and scorneful ( oh man ) one God made all flesh . Now to this Sport ; Is it not pleasant to view in the open Champion a brace of swift Greyhounds coursing a stout and well breathed Hare , or a Pack of well tuned Hounds , and Huntsmen on their horse backs , with pleasure and alacrity pursuing their game , and to hear them winding their hornes near a wood side , so that the whole wood rings of the eccho of that Musick , and chearful yelping of the eager Dogs , and these sports ended , retire every man , with , Gentlemen my occasions will not permit me further ? &c. 30. Such as are betrayed by their easie nature , &c. I answer ; Hear this emblem , of an Age , taking of signes by experience , mistakes , that wherein men do ordinarily think , and believe the difference stands between man and man in wisdom , by which he and all others commonly understand a mans whole ability , surety-ship , trusting or power cognitive ; but this is an errour : for the signes are but conjectural ; and according as they have often or seldom failed , so their assurance is more or less , but never full and evident ; for though a man have alwayes seen the day and night to follow one another hitherto , yet can he not thence conclude they shal do so , or that they have done so eternally . Experience which he cryes up , concludeth nothing universally , if the signes hit twenty times for one missing ; a man may lay a wager of twenty to one of the event , but may not set it down for a truth . You cannot from experience conclude that any thing is to be called just or unjust , true or false ; you may conclude such things to be without , that are within you . 31. He that lends upon publick faith is security for his own money , &c. I answer , Rich widowes therefore were ordained for younger brothers ; for they being born to no lands , borrow upon the publick , and must plow in another mans soyl . 32. Honesty treats with the world upon such vast disadvantages &c. I answer , It is policy to borrow sometimes to prevent lending ; and to be alwayes indebt , and able to pay upon demand is more profitable then to appear rich . 33. In a case of importance hear the reasons of others pleaded , &c. 33. In such a case ; If I mistake not , the fundamental deceit lies in a greedy entertaining those first pretences , and seemingly candid important propositions are made to us before they have passed those scrutinies , and severe iniquities they deserve ) external holy reasons , invite awful regards there is no mask that becomes Rebellion : and innovation so well as Religion ; Herod would fain worship when he means to worry , and these must be examined by the test of Gods word , and National Laws : All the rest are but ugly consequence of that absurdity in the Advice to a Son . 34. Beware nevertheless of thinking your self wiser or greater then you are , &c. I answer ; Let all sober Christians , know that the shel of Religion though it may be of external conducement , yet there is nothing that Gods pure and undeluded eye looks on with more abhorrency , then this , and subtile pride we may possibly disceive men , but it in vain to put Ironies upon God . A counterfeit Religion shall find a real hell , and 't is pitty that such a sacred thing should be violenced , and made subservient to Rebellious irregular designes . As for pride and baseness , and such who have conspired with the wrath of God , in the stupefaction of their consciences , though they may for a time struggle , with those inward checks , yet there will be a day ( if not in this life ) when that witness , that judge , that jury , will not be bribed . God hath fixed it in the soul , as an internal Register as an impartial Diary , as the causer of the affections and pedagogue of the passions , it does not onely illustrate Divine justice in an Autocatacrisis , but was meant by God , for a bridle and restriction : And he that hath by an inveterate wickedness conquered the opposition which God seated on his heart to sin , may possibly consult well with his present advantage and greatness , but not at all with his future comforts , for besides the loss of that intimate pleasure which waits upon innocency ; He feels some times those bosome quarrels that verberate and wound the soul . 35. King Iames used to say of a person in a high place about him , that he ever trembled at his approach it minded him so much of his pedagogue , &c. I answer ; If you be a Politicion and in favour with the King , the prosperity of innovation depends in a high measure upon the right knack of kindling supercilious Aspects , and fomenting jealousies and dislikes in the people , and then weilding those grudges to the favour and advantage of private ends , for the people are to the Politician like Tools to the Mechanick he can perform nothing without them , they are his Wings , his Wheels , his implements the properties that he acts with . 36. To whisper with another , in company of your betters is uncivil , &c. I answer ; Learn to be silent before Princes to avoid evil , repentance often followes speaking ; As the Crane flying out of Scicilly , puts little stones in her mouth , least by her own Garrulity , she betray her self as a prey to the Eagle , of the Mountain Taurus , by this policy she flies in safety , even so should you curb your tongue , least you offend , and may procure your ruine , and prove as a sword to cut the thred of your life in too , t is good alwaies to speak well and in season . 37. When you speak to any , &c. To speak too much bewrayes folly : too little , an unperceiving stupidity , look not full in the face but upon the band , with a pleasing smile for an ingenious look is the Ensign or a virtuous mind . 38. Impudence is no virtue , yet able to beggar them all , &c. I answer ; Virtue is commanded into exile , and the Lady impudent vice , is seated in her throne , to perform the tenor of this Paragraph , virtue went from amongst men , and wisdom , and truth , durst not stay long after but with honesty they travelled poor and naked , they had not gone far when standing upon a mountain , they perceived a great train to pass by : in the middest of it was a Chariot attended with Kings Princes and governors , and in that a stately Donna who like some Queen regent , commanded the rest of the company ; poor Virtue , Wisdom and Truth , with Honesty they stood still , whilest this pompous Squadron past , but when the chariot came over against them the Lady impudence who was there seated , took notice of them , and causing her Pageants to stay , commanded to come nearer , there they were scornfully examined , whence they came , whether they would go ? and what about , to these questions they answered , as their custom is very truly , virtuously , wisely and honestly , whereupon the Lady vice commands them to wait upon her , and that in the reer and tail of all her troops , for there is their known places , &c. 39. I do not find you ( saith this curled lock of Antichrist ) guilty of covetousness , &c. I answer ; The rubbish of Babylon , that like the Fox supplants the Badger , to assign such a cause of grievances , and such a course of advice for redress as may open away to the alteration he aims at , as if he meant to alter a Government by example of a house , or to ingross a supremacy , by artificial buildings , &c. and by this frugal advice to reserve something may enable you to grapple with any future contingency . 40. Keep no more servants then you have full imployment for , &c. I answer ; Mariage frees a man from this care , for then his wife takes all upon her , and has commonly more inspect into these things then a man , and often times prevents by her discretion ensuing dangers , and is so wise that she can know their qualities by their countenances , and finding the first fault will endeavour to amend it . 41. Leave your bed upon the first desertion of sleep . I answer ; In sleep the present sense is not , but there the images remaining after sense ( when there be many ) As in dreams are not obscure , but strong and clear as in sense it self : the reason is , that which obscureth and made the conceptions weak , namely , sense , and present operation of the object is removed : for sleep is the privation of the act of sense ( the power remaining ) and dreams are the imagenation of them that sleep . 42. It is no where wholsome to eat so long as you are able , &c. I answer ; Diet changes the body , which if good it breeds good qualities fit to receive the Etherial first moisture , it were a rare thing by use and custom so to order your self , that you could endure to live without food , as you see a man when he is in the water is never thirsty , by a fine application you might by this example kill hunger and live many years . Hot meats and drinks destroy the body , as hot things put to the root of a tree , although it be by that way caused to bear fruit in winter , yet it will destroy the stock . 43. Nothing really acceptable to the guste of humanity , &c. I answer ; he that would anatomize the soul may do it best when wine hath benummed his senses , how a man looks in his imbrications a swimming eye , a face both rost and ●od ? a temmulentive tongue clamm'd to the roof and gumms : a drumming ear , a feavou●●d body , a boyling stomack , a mouth nasty with offensive fumes , till it sicken the brain with gidyy verminations , a palsied hand , and legs tottering up and down , their moistned burthen , which lastly , falls into the hands of the drowsy Constable , who happily may be so honest as to guard him to his lodging or house . 44. He that alwaies regulates his diet by the strickt rule of Phisick , &c. I answer ; Plotter by false alarms of danger , invents horrid news , and plies the people with such fictious perils , as makes them believe , religion and liberty , and all is at stake ; and that they are the Geese that must save the Capital . When he sees opportunity to reveal his own designe , he does it gradually ; and by piece-meal : for that which at one view would be a Mormo to fright them , give it them in small pieces and they will digest it well enough . He composes his very garb with a gesture , t is a great matter to tell a lie with a grace , as if religion be the mode , he will in his tales knock his breast ; attest God , and invoke imprecations upon himself , if he does not do that , which he never intends . He gives them good words and bad actions , and ravishes them with promises of liberty , under the highest strain of oppression ; for it is most certain , if you please them with the name , they will embrace it for name and thing : he observes that they receive probabilities , wisely propounded , more greedily , then naked truths : and therefore he is very studious to glaze and polish his impostures , that so they may to a loose eye dissemble truth . And lastly , when he hath by the assistance of the people , got the sword into his own hands , he awes them with it , and frights them with future compliance , he that courted them before withall the adulatory terms that ambition could invent , or they receive ; as if he had been vowed their Martyr , and ready to sacrifice his dearest injoyments upon the Alter of publick liberty and freedome , as if his veins knew no other blood , but such as he would be proud to spend in their service , haveing non-served himself of them , he forgets the bosome , that warmed him , they hear from him now in a Palinode ; he curls up his smooth complements into short Laconicks , and exchanges his courtship for command . 45. Experience hath found no less shame then danger , in being the chief at a mercy assignation , &c. I answer ; Mans life is like a state ( Sm●ctimnus ) still casual in the future , no man can leave his son rules for severals , because he knows not how the times will be ; unless he be an Astrologer of the issue of Maccabeus , begot , ( as he gains ) upon the times ; he that lives alwaies by book rules , shall shew himself affected and a fool , do alwaies that which is comely and honest . In bad company you may see how uncomely vice appears , and correct it in your self ; who can but think , what a nasty beast he is in his drunkenness that hath seen how noysome it hath made another : how like a noted sap spunged even to the bracking of a skin ; who will not abhor a chollerick passion , and a sawcy pride in himself , that sees how ridiculous and contemptible they render those that are infested with them , do not think but that your vices are seen to others , as theirs are to you , when committed since mans fall ; observe bad company , and abtrude it , and know good , that you may embrace it ; and this knowledge you can neither have so cheap , nor so certain , as by seeing it in others , with a pittiful dislike . 46. Let your wit rather serve you for a buckler to defend your self , &c. I answer ; I know wisemen are not too nimble at an injury , for as with fire , the light stuff and rubbish kindles sooner then the sollid , and more comparted , so anger sooner inflames a fool then a man composed in wisedome and courage , and there be many like tiled houses , that can admit a falling spark , unwarm'd , yet some again are covered with such like drie straw , that with the least touch they will kindle and flame about your troubled ears : and when the house is on fire it is no disputing with how small a matter it came , it will quickly proceed to mischief ; it is not good to be too tart in your jests , for an unhappy wit stirs up enemies against the owner , and a man may spit out his friend from his tongue , or laugh him into an enemy , Gall in mirth is an ill mixture , and sometimes truth is bitterness , I would wish any man to be pleasingly merry , but let him beware he bring not truth on the Stage like a Hector with a sword in his hand . 47. Much wisdome resides on the Proverbs of all nations , &c. I answer ; For injuries my opinion is , t is better to suffer them then to offer them , he may be good that bares them , he must be ill that proffers them ; Saul would slay David , when himself onely is vitious and ill , vice is accompanied with injustice , patience is an attendant on virtue . 48. If an injury be of so ranck a nature , &c. I answer ; insult over none , for as there is no creature so little , but may do you mischief , so is no man so low but may occasion your smart ; the Spider can impoison , the Ant can sting , even the fly can trouble your patience ; neglect an enemy but contemn him not , disdain will bring in fury , and banish patience ; he is in the wrong way high , that scornes a man below him for his lowness , they are but puft winds that bubble thus above inferiours , one man cannot be so much above another , as that his difference should legitimate his storm ; contemne no man , lest you awake the Lyon of a sleeping mind , if you sit upon the highest cog , you may with turning prove the lowest in the wheel , make your enemie therefore your friend : the bodies and souls of all men have the like original composure , nature at first made all equal , we are differen●ed but by accident , be not proud of what God hath given you more then him , he by time and means may have as much or more ; why should any one despise another , because he is better furnisht of that which is none of his own . 49. Prosecute not a coward too far , &c. I answer ; all the noble deeds that have beat their marches through succeeding ages , have all proceeded from men of courage , a stern look daunts a coward , I have studied in vain to make a coward confidently valiant , because his soul is of a courser mixture , then the common spirits of men , in a battell I have seen a coward by running away to avoid danger , has fallen into the several walks of many , when a valiant man by keeping his rank , and confidently fiering in the face of the enemy hath come off safe . 50. Speak disgracefully of none at ordinaries , &c. I answer ; I think the Poet meant them for Caligula's that sprung of the teeth of Cadmus poysoned Serpent , that enviously murther one another in their fury , and like flies that alwaies live upon corruption and the sores of Horses backs , and what people are those that feed upon the corruption of another mans faults ; like those Creatures that are bred and live upon filth . Applauding anothers virtues , will win you more honour , then the seeking slily to disparage him , by suspicious evil words or silence when you cannot justly condemn with your tongue . 57. Carray no dogs to Court , &c. I answer ; Be not so childish to justifie the breeding of your dog at Court , nor praise the behaviour of your boy , who it may be Ape-like immitates his master , yet not old enough to play the fool so handsomely without offence , which sometimes may cause complaint , and another may observe how not long before you did the same thing ; ( and for manning of Whores ) I leave to those who by woful experience have known the danger in their bodies that have been more plump then dough and rashy then Hogs-flesh . 52. Reveal not the pranks of anothers Love , &c. I answer ; Who will not condemn him as a Traitor to reputation and society , that tells the private faults or the love pranks of his friend , to the publick and depraving world , when two friends part , they should lock up one anothers secrets , and interchange their keyes , the honest man will rather be a grave to his neighbours fails , then any way uncurtain them . I care not for his humor that loves to clip the wings of a lofty flame . 53. Be not trumpet of your own charity , &c. Let another sound your charity to the spreading aire , with your praise ▪ Let vice be whispered in the kissing ear , with chiding ; this example of mine will teach you even while you chide to love ; if there be virtues , and you be cal'd to speak of him that owns them , tell them forth impartially ; if there be vices mixt with those , be content to let the world know them by some other tongue then yours ; do as you would be done unto . 54. If it be Levity and Ostentation to boast when you do well , &c. I answer ; Friend , why may he not be emblem'd by the cozening fig-tree that our Saviour curst , never to bear fruit after ? So I pronounce that its worthy his deserts to be hated of Ladies for ever after who boasts of their favours that perhaps never enjoyed any ; besides , Ladies are creatures so pure and fine by nature that they delight not to bestow their favours upon fools . 55. To make love to married women , &c. I answer ; All Ladies are enemies to assuming men , when they would have more then with honesty is due , or they can give ; they seldom find so much as either their persons or parts deserve . 56. Fly with Joseph the embraces of great Ladies , &c. I answer ; He is virtuous that is so for virtues sake , and chuses rather to lye in sackclorh then in beds of down with silken delights , and Sarsnet embraces from Taffata Mobs who within are nothing but rotton bones and lothsome diseases . 57. Usher not women to Masks , & t. I answer ; women ought to recreate themselves at their husbands discretion ; and it behoveth a married man to shew himself in speech and countenance both gentle and amiable , for if a woman of modest behaviour seeth any gross incivility in her husband , she doth not onely abhor it , but also thinketh with her self , that other men are more discreet , and better brought up , therefore it standeth him upon to be civil & modest in his doings , lest he offend the chast thoughts of his wife , to whose liking he ought to conform himself in all honest and reasonable things , and to take heed of every thing that may dislike of this I could make a volume but I must be brief . A man should thus account of his wife as the onely treasure he enjoyeth upon earth , and he must also account that there is nothing more due to the wife , then the faithful , honest , and loving company of her husband , he ought also in sight of love to impart his secrets , and counsel unto his wife , for many have found much comfort and profit , by taking their wives counsell ; and if you impart any ill hap to your wife , she lightneth your grief , either by comforting you lovingly , or else in bearing a part therof patiently , and if you espie a fault in your wife , you must not rebuke her angerly or reprochfully , but onely secretly betwixt you two , alwayes remembring that you must neither chide nor play with your wife before company ; those that play and dally with them before company , do thereby set other mens teeth on edge , and make their wives the less shamefaced . Advice to a Daughter . II. Love and Marriage . 1. Love like a Burning-Glass contracts the dilated lines of Lust , &c. I Answer ; you Theban Wittal , I will shew you that conceptions and apparitions are nothing really , but motion in some internal substance of the head ; which motion not stopping there , but proceeding to the heart , of necessity must there either help or hinder the motion which is called vital ; when it helpeth , it is called delight , contentment , or pleasure , which is nothing but motion in the head , and the objects that cause it are called pleasant , or delightful , or by some name equivalent ; the Latines have jucundum ajuvando , from helping ; and the same delight , with reference to the object , is called Love ; but when such motion weakneth or hindereth the vital motion , then it is called Pain ; and in relation to that which causeth it Hatred , which the Latines express sometimes by odium and sometimes by taedium . 2. To cure youth wholly of this desire , &c. I answer ; You Tredeskin fopperie , and his Ark of fools toyes , what dare you be so bold , to place Ladies and gentlewomen in your Cabinet of November , which weather-beaten experience hath made wearisome to you ? 3. For if ever Marriage , &c. I answer ; It s very true , some think outward beauty the onely Jewell that deserveth wearing ; yet the wise man counts it but an accident , that can neither adde nor diminish , to the worth of virtue as she is in her self : so as he never esteems her more or less but as he finds her accomplisht with discretion , honesty , and good parts . If my Mistress be virtuous and nobly minded , my soul shall love her , howsoever her body be fram'd ; and if beauty make her amiable , I shall like her the better : the Sun is more glorious in a clear sky , then when the Horizon is clouded , Beauty is the wit of nature put into the frontis-piece ; if there be any humane thing may teach faith reason ; this is it . In other things we imagine more then we see , in this we see more then we can imagine , I have seen ( and yet not with a partial eye ) such features and such mixtures , as I have thought impossible for either Nature to frame , or Art to counterfeit , yet in the face I have seen that which hath out-gone them both , the Countenance : oh if such Beauty be in the body , what is in the soul ! or if such glory can dwell with corruption , what celestial excellencies are in the Saints above ! who would not gaze himself into admiration when he shall see so rich a treasure in so pure a Cabinet , unmatched virtue , in matchless Beauty ? for if my Mistresses body hath more comliness then her soul goodness , I like her the worse for being but outwardly fair ; wickedness in beauty is a traitor of the bed-chamber , poyson in sweet meats ; a vicious soul in a beautiful body is like a Papist that will go to Church . 4. Those virtues , graces and reciprocal desires , &c. I answer ; Iohn a Nokes , I have answered this in my last Paragraph ; but Ladies , behold , he scornfully sayes you are but like painted Boxes children and time will empty of delight , and leave nothing but diseases . 5. Therefore I charge you , &c. I answer ; Here he inhibits marriage ; when I say a good wife is a mans best moveable , a scyonincorporate with the stock bringing sweet fruit , one that to her husband is more then a friend , less then trouble , an equal with him in the yoke , in calamities and troubles she shares alike , nothing pleases her that doth not him , she is relative in all , and he without her but half himself , she is his absent hands , eyes , ears and mouth ; his present and absent all . 6. Marriage like a trap set for flies , &c. I ans. Pray Sir Kirk Dragooner why ? she frames her nature unto his howsoever ; the Hyacinth followes not the Sun more willingly ; stubbornness and obstinacy are herbs that grow not in her Garden , she leaves talking to the Gossips of the Town , and is more seen then heard ; her husband is her charge , her care to that makes her seldom non resident , her pride is but to be cleanly , and her thrift not to be prodigal ; by his discretion , she hath children not wantons . 7. It were something yet , &c. I answer ; ( You purlew of a Metempsychosis ) a husband without her is a Misseny in mans apparell : none but good women have aged husbands , a good wife is a staff and a chair to her husbands ; besides she is wife and R●ligious , which makes her all this . Why do you abuse women with the title of impotent , infected , lothsome and diseased whores ? and it must ( you say ) be incident to their weak natures . 8. If none of my perswasions , &c. I answer ; why ? is beauty so immodest , you spleen of a blew stocking'd Iustice , are they all whores ? by woful experience , ( he saies ) you must not yoke yourself to anothers desires , unless you are ambitious of rendring your house as populous as a Confectioners shop , to which the gaudy wasps , no less then the liquorish flies , make it their business to resort , in hope to have a lick at your honey-pot , &c. which he confidently affirms will break , and all women are so frail , that many protestations will not rub off the hornes of their husbands ; but for their excuse , after plundred of that their husbands do not miss , they will say it was his fate or fortune , &c. you say ( Sir ) women are all whores , bald , drowsy , mothey , and beauty is made by Tirement , Taylors , Shooemakers , and Painters : and how happy he is , who hath a wife wise enough to conceal the real horns of her husband : your ugly mishapen lies have made many a man and woman fall out , and no man but an Astrologer dares trust his wife abroad or out of his sight now a daies , but presently he fancies himself a wittal with horns . 9. The English lawes are composed so far in favour of wives , &c. I answer ; Pigwiggin Myrmidon you are severe against the sex , and so uncharitable , as you think all women bad ; yet others , I have heard durst affirm they are all good ; sure though you speak as you find , there is reason to direct your opinion , without experience of the whole sex , which in a strict examination makes more for their honour then you have acknowledged . At first she was created his equal , onely the difference was in the sex : otherwise they both were man . If I must box you to the Text , and there argue , both male and female made man ; so the man being put first was worthier . I answer , you ( flea-biten canonick weed ) so the evening and the morning was the first day , yet few will think the night the better : that man is made her governour , and so to be placed above her , I believe rather the punishment of her sin , then the prerogative of his worth : had they both stood , it may be thought , she had never lien undermost , and in that subjection , for then it had not been a curse , but another estate which had nothing but blessedness in it . 10. Yet this may be said for it , &c. I answer ; you ( Camel ) rail against women , when all grant her body more admirable and more beautiful then mans ; fuller of curiosities , and noble natures wonders , both for conception and fostering the producted birth ; and can we think that God would put a worser soul into a better body ? when man was created , t is said , God made man : but when woman t is said , God builded her , as if he had been about to make a frame of rarer roomes , and more exact composition : and without doubt , in her body she is much more wonderful ; and by this we may think her so in her mind ; and though the soul be not caused by the body , yet in the general it follows the temperament of it : so the comeliest out-sides are naturally ( for the most part ) more vertuous within . If place can be any priviledge , we shall find her built in Paradise , when man was made without it . 11 Nevertheless there is not , &c. I answer ; this is certain , women are of a colder constitution then the boyling man , so by this more temperate ; it is heat that transports you to this immoderate furie , t is that which hurries you to a Savage and libidinous violence ; women are naturally more modest , and modesty is the seat and dwelling-place of vertue . 12. We brook nothing restraint ties us to , &c. Whence proceed these most horrid villanies , but from a masculine unblushing impudence ? what a deal of sweet do we find in a mild-dispositioned woman ? when a woman growes bold and daring , men dislike her , and say she is too much like a man , yet in your self you magnifie what you condemn in her . 13. Ask your self , &c. I answer ; Is not this injustice in you ( Anonymus ? ) every man is so much the better by how much he comes nearer God ; man in nothing is more like him , then in being merciful , yet woman is far more merciful then man , it being a sex wherein pity and compassion have dispersed far brighter rayes ; God is said to be love , and I am sure every where woman is spoken of , for transcending in that quality ; and this is not in the habit , but natural . 14. After that age , weariness , wisdom , or business , &c. I answer ; You enemy to woman , it was never found , but in two men onely , that their love exceeded that of the feminine sex : and if you observe them you shall find they were both of melting dispositions . I know when women prove bad , they are a sort of the vilest creatures ; yet the same reason gives it , for optima corrupta pessima , the best things corrupted become the worst ; women are things whose souls are of a more ductible temper then the harder mettal of man , so may be made both better and worse ; you scandalize them with impertinent devices they were never guilty of : it is true , they are not of so tumultuous a spirit as man , so not so fit for great actions ; natural heat does more actuate the stirring genius of man ; their easie natures make them somewhat more unresolute , whereby men have argued them of fear and inconstancy . 15. Were it possible to assign to your choice the virtues , &c. I answer ; Here he fancies himself married to a virtuous woman , when in another place he condemns them , and by wofull experience , he sayes they are all whores , but men have alwayes the Parliament and have enacted their own wills , without ever hearing them speak : and then how easie is it to conclude them guilty ? Besides , education makes more difference between men and them , then Nature ; and all their aspersions are less noble , for that they are onely from their enemies , Men . 16. Our Beldam Eve to save her longing , &c. I answer ; Again he snarles bitterly , and thinks , after they were made ill , God made them fearful , that man might rule them , otherwise they had been past dealing with . I am fully minded to honour virtue in what sex soever I find it , and I think in the general I shall find it more in women then in men , though weaker , and more infirmly guarded : I believe they are better , and may be wrought to be worse ; neither shall the faults of some make me uncharitable to all , nor the goodness of some make me credulous of the rest , though hitherto I confess I have not found more sweet and constant goodness in man then I have found in woman : and yet of these I have not found a number . 17. Though nothing can wholly disingage Marriage from such inconveniencies , &c. I answer ; You Neast Gull of a young Apocrypha , both sexes made but man , so that marriage perfects creation : when the husband and the wife are together , the world is contracted in a bed ; and without this , like the head and body parted , either would consume without a possibility of reviving . And though this nameless wight be an enemy to the name of marriage , yet you may catch him dabling in the use on 't : Surely , he was made a Religious Hermaphrodite that is not tending to propagation , nature in her work made him not truly so ; for it never made any thing in vain : He that is perfect and marries not , may in some sort be said to be guilty of a contempt against nature , as disdaining to make use of her sports and natural endowments . 18. The true extent of her estate therefore is first to be surveyed before you entail your self , &c. I answer ; Now Sir , that which the Turks hold is not without some colour of reason : they say , he that marries not at a fitting time ( which they hold is about the age of twenty five years , ) is not just , nor pleaseth God : I believe it is from hence , that the vow of chastity is many times accompanied with such inconveniences as we see ensue : I cannot think God is pleased with that which crosseth his first ordination , and current of nature ; and in themselves it is a harder matter to root out an inseparable sway of nature then they think of , without they quench it in virtue and beauty . 19. As the fertility of the ensuing year , &c. I answer ; Choose a fit companion , a fit wife , a meet help ; for the best chastity of all I hold to be matrimonial chastity , when pairs keep themselves in a moderate intermutableness each constant to the other , for still it tendeth to union , and continuation of the world to posterity . And it is fit both in nature and policy , that this propriety should be inviolable ; first , in respect of the impureness of mixt posterity : next , in respect of peace and concord among men ; if many men ( as he saith ) should be interessed in one woman , it could not be but there would infinite jarres arise . Some have complained of Christian Religion , in that it tyes men so strictly in this point , and when matches happen ill , there is no means of remedy . But surely if liberty or change were granted , all would grow to confusion : and it would open a sluce to many mischiefs arising out of heat onely , which now by necessity are cooled , and made tame again . 20. Yet take one who thinks her self rather beneath then above you , &c. I answer ; Those I observe to agree best , you Episco-Mastix , which are of free natures , not subject to the fits of choler ; their freedom shuts out jealousie , which is the canker of wedlock , and withal it divideth both joy and sorrow ; and when hearts alike disclose , they ever link in love . Nay , whereas small and domestick jars more fret marriages then great ones and publick , those two will take them away ; freedom reveals them , that they ranckle not the heart to a secret lothing , and mildness bears them without anger or bitter words ; so they close again after discussion many times in a straighter tye . Poverty in wedlock is a great decayer of love and contentation ; and riches can find many wayes to divert an inconvenience ; but the mind of a man is all : some can be servile , and fall to those labours , ( he calls base drudgery ) which another cannot stoop to . Above all , let the generous mind beware of marrying poor ; for though he cares the least for wealth , yet he will be most galled with the want of it . Self-conceited people never agree well together ; they are wilful in their brawls , and reason cannot reconcile them ; where either are opinionately wise , Hell is there , unless the other be a Patient meerly : but the worst is , when it lights on the woman , she will think to rule , because she hath the subtiler brain , and the man will look for 't , as the priviledge of his sex ; then certainly there will be mad work , when wit is at war with prerogatives . 21. I confess vast Estates are not so sensible , &c. I answer ; ( Mr. new-fashioned Doctor Justice ) where Marriage proves unfortunate , a woman with a bad Husband is much worse then a man with a bad Wife ; men have much more freedom to court their content abroad . There are some that account women onely as seed-plots for posterity ; ( Anonymus ) the Author of the Advice to a Son , ( worse ; ) he sayes they are whores , and onely quench for their fires ; but surely there is much more good in them , if they be discreet , they are women but in body alone ; questionless , a woman with a wise soul is the fittest companion for man , otherwise God would have given him a friend rather then a Wife . A wise Wife comprehends both sexes ; she is woman for her body , and she is man within , for her soul is like her Husbands . It is the Crown of blessings , when in one woman a man finds both a Wife and a friend . Single life he commends ( to his Son ) cannot have this happiness , though in some minds it hath , many it prefers before it ; this hath fewer cares , and more longings , but Marriage hath fewer longings , and more cares ; and I think care in Marriage may be commendable , so I think desire in single life , is not an evil of so high a bound as some men would make it , it is a thing accompanies nature , and a man cannot avoid it . 22. Therefore ( dear Son ) if , &c. I answer ; Dear Daughter , some things there are , that mans conscience condemns without a literal Law ; as injustice , blasphemy , lying , &c. But to curbe and quite beat down the desires of the flesh , is a work of Religion rather then of nature ; and therefore saies Saint Paul , I had not known lust to have been a sin , if the Law had not said , Thou shalt not lust . Votive abstinence some cold constitutions may endure with a great deal of vexatious penitence ; to live chast without vowing I like a great deal better , nor shall we find the Divel so busie to tempt us to a single sin of unchastity , as he will when it is a sin of unchastity and perjury too : I find it commended , but not imposed ; and when Iephtha's daughter died , they mourned , for that she died a Maid . 23. I have heard a well-built woman compared in her motion , to a Ship under sail ; yet I advise no wise man to be her owner , if her fraught be nothing but what she carries between wind and water , &c. I answer ; What she carries there , you ( Scotch Wittal ) in honour of her Marriage , is priviledged to the wedded ; and though the Romans had their Vestals , yet after their thirty years continuance , the cruelty of inforced chastity was not in force against them . Single life I will like in some , whose minds can suffer continency , but should all live thus , a 100 years would make the world a desart . And this alone may excuse me , though I write against you , and like of Marriage better : one tends to ruine , the other to increasing of the glory of the world in multitudes . 24. But if once you render your self a pupil to whining love , &c. I answer ; Why dost call it whining love ? a good woman is a comfort like a man , she lacks of him nothing but heat ; thence is her sweetness of disposition , which meets his stoutness more pleasingly ; so wool meets iron easier then iron , and turns resisting into embracing : her greatest learning is Religion , and her thoughts are on her own sex , or on men , without casting the difference ; and dare you call these whores ? believe me , dishonesty never comes nearer then her ears , and then wonder stops it out , and saves vertue the labour ; she will leave such Dauphine youths as you telling your tales , and puts back the Courtiers putting forward with a frown ; yet her kindness is free enough to be seen , for it hath no guilt about it ; and besides , her mirth is clear , you may look through it into vertue , but not beyond . 25. To conclude , if you will needs be a , &c. I answer ; It would make a man in love that is an hundred years old , to see these vertuous creatures , good women ; and a good Wife hath not behaviour as at a certain , but makes it to her occasions ; she ( if I may describe her briefly ) hath so much knowledge as to love it , and if she have it not at home , she will fetch it ; and for this , sometimes in a pleasant discontent she dares chide her sex , though she use it never the worse : she is much within , and frames outward things to her mind , not her mind to them . She wears good clothes , but never better , for she finds no degree beyond decency ; she hath a content of her own , and so seeks not an Husband , but finds him : she is indeed most , but not much of description , for she is direct , and one , and hath not the variety of ill : Now she is given fresh and alive to a Husband to increase and multiply ; and she doth nothing more then love him , for she takes him to that purpose , and to increase the world in multitudes . Ladies , now your enemy is vanquished , you may take your pleasures . 26. But if this savours too much of the Stoick , &c. I answer ; He speaks still but faintly as a man out of breath ; I le give him a serious reproof , and let him take rest a while : Oh vain man , be advised , approch not the presence of such Angelical Creatures ( as women ) upon pain of my displeasure , and their frowns , which frowns alone are able to destroy a woman-hater . But Ladies , I must resolve your question , whether is more true , that likeness is the cause of love , or love the cause of likeness ? In agreeing dispositions , I answer , the first is certain ; in those that are not , the latter is evident : the first is the easier love , the other the more worthy ; the one hath a lure to draw it , the other without respect is voluntary : we women love you for the similitude you have with us ; God meerly from his goodness , when yet we contrary to him , since he hath loved us when we were not like him , we must strive to be like him , because he hath loved us : we must be like him , being our friend , that loved us when we were his enemies then onely is love powerful , when it frames to the will of the loved . Lord , though I cannot serve thee as I ought , let me love thee as I ought : grant this , and I know I shall serve thee the better . Advice to a Daughter . III. Travell . 1. Some to starch a more serious face upon wanton , impertinent and dear bought vanities , cry up travel as the best accomplisher of youth and Gentry , &c. I Answer ; I have discovered more with my eye , then Kings can comprehend in their thoughts , and this in Travel : for indeed , men do but guess at places by relation onely ; there is no Map like the view of the Countrey , experience is the best informer . And one journy will shew a man more then any discription can ; the rest is not worth answering , his consequents . 2. Yet since it advanceth opinion in the world , without which desert is useful to none but it self , &c. I answer ; He would not allow a man to move from the shell of his own country , and thinks it an happiness for birth , life , & burial , to be all in a parish : but surely Travel fulleth the man ; he hath lived but lockt up in a chest , which hath never seen but one land . A kingdome to the world is like a corporation to a kingdome ; a man may live in it like an unbred man . He that searcheth forraign nations is become a Gentleman of the world , ( let Momus say what he will to the contrary : ) one that is learned , honest , and travel'd , is the best compound of man , and so corrects the vice of one country with the virtues of another ; that like Mithridate he growes a perfect mixture , and an Antidote . 3. If your genius tempted by profit , &c. I answer ; A genius is that which from God , to one of the seven spirits , ( is given ) to be transferr'd by Sephiroth , through the several orders of Angels to the spheres of the Planets : Lastly , the Moon raies it through the Elements , and infuses it into the body of man ; and how can this be tempted by profit ? 4. Or in case this nation should again break out into partialities , &c. I answer ; To behold the war , Italy , France and Spain are pleasant , and as the court of the world ; Germany , China and Denmark , are as the citie ; the rest of them are most Countrey and Barbarisme , who hath not seen the best of these is a little lame in knowledge . Yet I think it is not fit that every man should travel : it makes a wise man better , and a fool worse ; this gains nothing but the gay sights of France , vices of Spain , the Apery of Italy , and the exotick gestures of Flanders , and the vanity of a country : a travelling fool is the shame of all nations ; he shames his own by his weakness abroad , he shames others , by bringing home their follies alone ; they onely blab abroad domestick vices , and import them that are transma●ine . 5. Let not the irreligion of any place , &c. I answer ; That a man may better himself by travel , he ought to observe and comment , noting as well the bad to avoid it , as taking the good into use . 6. Shun all disputes , but concerning religion , &c. I answer ; Now without registring these things by the pen , they will slide away unprofitably : a man would not think how much the charactering of a thought in paper fastens it ; litera scripta manes , has a large sense ; he that does this , may when he pleaseth rejourney over all his voyage , and observations of countries , their religions and laws in his closet . Grave natures are the best proficients by travel , they are not so apt to take soyle , and they observe more , but then they must put on an outward freedome , with an inquisition seemingly careless . 7. Keep your zeal chained , &c. I answer ; How this Caterpillar of beauty operates ! it were ( I say ) an excellent thing in a State , to have alwaies a select number of youth of the Nobility and Gentry , and at years of some maturity send them abroad for education . Their parents could not better dispose them , then in dedicating them to the Republick : they themselves could not be in a fairer way of preferment ; and no question they might prove very serviceable to the State at home , when they shall return well versed in the world , languaged and well read in men , which for policy and negotiation is much better then any book-learning , though never so deep and knowing . 8. Do not imitate their follies , &c. I answer ; You Epidemical traveller , being abroad , my advice is , to converse with the best , and not to choose by the eye , but by fame . For the State , instruction is to be had at Court ; for traffick among Merchants , for religious rights the Clergy , for government the Lawyers : and for the country and rural knowledge , the Boores and Peasantry can best help you . 9. Fall not in comparisons , &c. I answer ; All rarities are to be seen , without comparison , especially antiquities , for these shew the ingenuity of elder times in act , and are in one , both example and precept ; by these comparing them with modern invention , we may see how the world thrives in ability and brain . 10. Condemn none with too much severity , &c. I answer ; Next above all , see rare men : there is no monument like a man alive , we shall be sure to find something in him to kindle our spirits , and enlarge our minds with a worthy emulation of his vertues , parts of extraordinary note cannot so lie hid , but that they will shine forth , through the tongue and behaviour , to the enlightning of the ravisht beholder . And because there is less in this to take the sense of the eye , and things are more readily taken from a living pattern ; the soul shall more easily draw in his Excellencies , and improve it self with greater profit : but unless a man has judgement to order these aright in himself at his return all is vain and lost labour . 11. If the wisdome of the States of Holland , &c. I answer ; You Lybian pr●selyte , some men by travel will be changed in nothing , and some again will change too much ; indeed the moral out-side , wheresoever we be , may seem best , when something fitted to the nation we are in . And wheresoever you go or stay , you should keep God and friends unchangeable ; how ever you return you make an ill voyage , if you change your faith with your tongue and garments . 12. To the Eucharist met in the streets , &c. I answer ; Silence and obedience ought not in reason to be reckon'd for a desertion of truth where it cannot be maintained , but to the prejudice of what the imperative power hath declared so to be ; submit therefore to the coustome of the country , by the title of a civil respect ; else you may be a murtherer as well as a Martyr , if you run unadvisedly into ruine . 13 Pity rather then spurn at those , &c. I answer ; It is folly to oppose any religious zelots , who think none worthy of life are found out of the train of their own opinions . 14. Enter no farther into forraign Churches , &c. I answer ; and oppose not one ambiguous question against another , no less dangerous to resolve ; but profess it your business to learn not to teach , but comply with compulsion , where conscience and reason gives you leave . 15. Consort with none who scoff at their own religion , but shun , &c. I answer ; You may observe how foolishly such a man cozens his own soul in earnest , and is tumbled up and down from beggery to worship , and from worship to baseness again . 16. Eschew the company of all English you find in orders , &c. I answer ; Lapsed English , that fall to the Papists , to promote that idolatrous religion , invent lies and print them , that they may not onely cozen the present age , but gull posterity with forged actions , they will endeavour to disprove Zerobabel , and will , if possible , make you confess money to be stronger then truth . 17. Besides , he that beyond sea , &c. I answer ; Beware what company you keep , especially in strange countries , since example prevails more then precept , though by the erudition dropping from these tutots , we imbibe all the tinctures of vertue and vice ; this renders it little less then impossible for nature to hold out any long siege against the batteries of custome and opportunity . 18. An injury in forraign air is cheaper passed over , &c. I answer ; And a Traveller may be nothing but a speaking fashion , if he take pains to be ridiculous , and suffers himself to be spurn'd and injured , he hath seen more then he ; hath perceived , and is fit to be kickt for his folly ; yet some others I have observed in forraign parts , that make their atitre speak the language , and their gate cries , behold us ; they censure all things by countenance and shrugs , and speak their own language with shame and lisping ; they will choke rather then confess beer good drink . One makes his pick-tooth a main part of his behaviour . Another chooseth rather to be counted a spie then not a politician , and maintains his reputation by naming great men familiarly . Another chooseth rather to tell lies than not wonders , and talks with men singly , and his discourse sounds big , but means nothing ; his boy is bound to admiae him howsoever , he come still from great personages , but goes with mean . 19. Play is destructive , &c. I answer ; So it is , you Buckram Athos , and it teaches a man the humors of another , if not bought at too dear a rate ; besides it , is better to be a good gamester indeed , then men that learn no more then to be rich fools , and take an occasion to shew jewels given them in regard of their vertues , that were bought in St. Martins : and not long after having with a Mountebancks method pronounced them worth thousands , impauned them for a few shillings : and such provident rich fools will pretend to familiarity with all the learned men in England ; and sometimes they indeed do make themselves fools , to please these fools , who sometimes again upon festival days go to Court , and salute without saluting : And at night in an Ordinary they canvass the business in hand , and seem as conversant with all intents and plots as if they begot them . 20. He that desires quiet , and to decline , &c. I answer ; All favours , ( you sometimes ) Iustice , and then Doctor , you that will be of any trade , by virtue of a commission , to be a Iustice of Peace , and by the same a Doctor of Physick , ( have this success , if they light on good ground they bring forth thanks . ) What Nature hath infused , you cannot cast out , correct you may : If you must desire womens fauours , do it so moderately , as your iudgement and reason may be still clear ; if unawares you be overtaken , you must yet be careful to conceal your self : so though your own passions be over-strong , others should not see them , to take you at advantages . As many have been spoiled by being soothed in their plausible desires to Ladies ; so have many been abused by being malleated in their troublesome jealousies and fears of a Mercenary woman . 21. If tempted by an impatient affection , &c. I answer ; I have combated a monster , and master'd him , I will write whilest he pants out his lingring breath ; and I advise all young Gentlemen , not to marry uncomely women for any respects , for comeliness in children is riches , if nothing else be left them ; and if you have care for your reces of horses , and other beasts , value the shape and comeliness of your children , before alliance or riches ; have care therefore of both together , for if you have a fair wife and a poor one , if your estate be not great , assure your self that love abideth not with want , for she is your companion of plenty and honour . I never yet knew a poor woman exceeding fair , that was not made dishonest , by one or other in the end ; favour is deceitful , and beauty is vanity , but a wise woman overseeth the wayes of her husband , and eateth not the bread of idleness . I my self have travelled Greece , Egypt , Arabia , and part of Africa , besides Italy , Spain , France , and Germany , and could give you a thousand examples of what I have here and in other books written : when you shall read and observe the stories of all nations , you shall find innumerable examples of the like ; let your love therefore be to the best , so long as they do well : But take heed that you love God , your Countrey , your Prince , your own estate , before all others ; For the fancies of men change , and so do women ; and they that love to day hate to morrow . But let reason be your School-mistriss , which shall ever guide you aright . 22. Who travels Italy , &c. I answer ; Truly I never saw the lust of men in Italy , nor the charms of women ; but an ill name may be free from dishonesty , but not alwayes from some folly , which makes the Spaniard lock up his Ladies water-gap , and carry the key in his pocket . France indeed is onely guilty of Sodomy and unheard of lusts , Italy , and Spain are not : I advise them not onely to be free from sin , but from suspicion , for it is not enough to be well lived , but well reported , and oftentimes weighty matters are as much carried by reputation as substance . Endure these things well noble Italy , and valiant Spain , for they come rather by destiny , then by deserving . 23. Where you mean never to return , &c. I answer ; Emulation is the bait of virtue , for looking into the sweetness of the reward , men undertake the labour . 24. Make no ostentation of , &c. I answer ; I saw a traveller , whose extraordinary account of men was , first to tell them the ends of all matters , and then to borrow money of them ; he offer'd courtesies , to shew them rather then himself humble ; he disdain'd all things above his reach , and prefer'd all Countries before his own . He imputed his want and poverty to the ignorance of the time , not his own unworthiness , and concludes his discourse with half a period , or a word , and leaves the rest to imagination . In a word , his Religion and his Money are both in fashion , and both body and soul are governed by fame ; he loves most voices above truth . 25. Inns are dangerous , &c. I answer ; Inns are dangerous if men be not careful ; so are strangers , and servants ; but let your servants be such as you may command , and entertain none about you but yeomen to whom you give wages ; for those that will serve you without hi●e , will cost you treble as much as they that know your fare . If you trust any servant with your purse , be sure you take his account ere you sleep ; for if you put it off , you may afterwards for tediousness neglect it ; I my self thereby have lost more then I am worth : and whatsoever your servant gaineth thereby , he will never thank you , but laugh your simpiicity to scorn . And besides , it is the way to make your servants thieves , which else would be honest . 26. Next to experience , &c. I answer ; Greek and Latine are the richest gifts a father can give his child ; Italian is useful , but French is a frothy form of speech , and except amongst those that know no better , it is as fruitless as Scotch , and their books are worse fancied then the Scots . 27. He that is carried by his curiosity , &c. I answer ; Bestow your youth in Travelling , so that you may have such comfort to remember it when past , & not sigh & grieve at the account thereof . Spend not your Summer flower of youth with Harlots , for they will study to destroy you ; and you may think their pleasures will never have an end ; but behold , the longest day hath his evening , and that you shall enjoy it but once , that it never returns again ; use it therefore as the Spring-time , which soon departeth , and wherein you ought to travel with such provision , then gathered for along and happy life . At your return , let your time of Marriage be in your young and strong years ; for believe it , ever the young Wife betrayeth the old Husband ; and she that had you not in your flower , will despise you in your fall , and you shall be unto her but a captivity and sorrow . Your best time will be towards fourty : for as the younger times are unfit , either to chuse or govern a Wife and Family ; so if you stay longer , you shall hardly see the education of your children , which being left to strangers , are in effect lost ; and better it were to be unborn then ill bred : for thereby your posterity shall either perish , or remain a shame to your name and family . 28. I can say little , &c. He that hath a great purse , may thrive in a strange Country ; but I wish him take heed that he fall not from the purity of the Protestant Church , to infirmities , corruptions , errors , and the abominations of Plantations , and the vile behaviour of commonly a rude people ; for God will punish sin with sin : they being commonly like the Turks , that will not suffer the Jews amongst them to sacrifice , for that was flat against their Laws ; as we will not suffer the Papists to worship the Mass , because against our Laws . To the men-Readers concerning Women . AS certain it is , there ought to be a great care in the choice of a Wife ; so the onely danger therein is beauty , by which men in all ages , both wise and foolish , have been betrayed . And though I know it vain to use reasons or arguments , as Iohn Heydon doth , in the way to bliss and happiness , a book of Hermetical Philosophy , of long life health , youth , riches , wisdom and virtue , &c. there speaking of women in one place , saith , They are imperfect men ; and other things ( he saith ) worth your observation , to bring all to happiness and bliss ; and perswades you not to be captivated by beauty : for there being few or none that ever resisted that witchery , yet I cannot but warn you , as of other things , which may be your ruine and destruction . For the present time , it is true , that every man prefers his fantasie in that appetite , before all other worldly desires , leaving the care of honour , credit and safety in respect thereof . But remember , that though these affections do not last , yet the bond of Marriage dureth to the end of your life ; and therefore better to be born withall in a Mistriss than in a Wife : for when your humour shall change , you are free to chuse again , ( if you give your self that vain liberty . ) Remember secondly , That if you marry for beauty , you bind your self for all your life for that which perchance will neither last nor please you one year ; and when you have it , it will be to you of no price at all : for the desire dyeth when it is attained , and the affection perisheth when it is satisfied . Remember ( as Mr. Heydon saith in his book of The Rosacrucian Method of Physick ) When you were a child , that then you did love your Nurse , and that you were fond of her ; after a while you did love your dry-Nurse , and did get the other ; after you did also slight her : So wil it be with you in your liking in elder years ; and therefore if you cannot forbear to love , forbear to link , and after a while you shall find an alteration in your self , and see another far more pleasing then the second or third love . But methinks the Ladies begin to frown , and whisper forth these words ; that I am melancholy , and speak gravely and too solidly of the sex . I do take courage again , and pluck up a youthful resolution ; look in the perusal of History , and you may find as many fair and brave examples of virtue given by women , as there hath been by men . Look over the roll of them , and you may easily fill each of them into a sufficient common-place ; where many things put down as nobly done by men , it may be are either bruitish , heady , or passionate , whilest in the women things appear more smooth and temperate ; or if there be any think of passion or exorbitancy , it is but an addition of lustre to the sex , as a blush , or glowing in the face sets off their beauty . Imagine or wish a Governour to be of good entertainment , affable , open of countenance , and such a one that harbours no crooked or dark designs ; where can you find such a one but among women ? Besides their natural sweetness and innocency , their talk is commonly directed to such things , as it may easily be inferred , that their heads are not troubled about making of wars , and deceiving the people , or enlarging of Empires , or founding of Tyrannies . And what can be wished is in women : If it be a happiness to a people to have a religious Governour , then all Philosophy and experience teaches you , that the softest minds are most capable of these impressions ; and that women are for the most part more violently hurried away by such agitations then men are . How few men Prophets does this age afford us in comparison of Prophetesses ? and some are but Astrologically read ; the other by nature and inspiration qualified . Women are great followers of Priests also ; ( their Genius being set in beauty ) ( as you may read ) in a book of Mr. Heydons lately published , and called the Familiar Spirit , ( are Angels . ) Now in that book is shewed the name of every mans Genius , or Angel , and how to converse with it distinct from the body ; and that it will speak with an audible voice in a corporeal shape , &c. If you wish for mercy in a Ruler , women are the tenderest things on the earth , they have tears at command ; and if tears be the effect of pity and compassion , and pity and compassion be the mother of virtue , must you not think that mercy rules most in them , and is the soonest expected from them ? If you expect affection from them ; have not women many times cut off their hair , to make ropes for Engines , and strings for Bowes ? have they not given up their Rings and Jewels to defray charges ? have they not been content to perish for their Husbands in their habitations ? and what greater love of Country can be shewn ? and how great would this be , if a woman looks upon her self as the Mother of her Country ? what tenderness would she not have towards the people , her children ? I could wish this noble sex were restored to that right which nature hath bestowed on it ; and then we should have all quiet and serene in Common-wealths : Courts would not be taken up with factions & underminings , but all would flow into pleasure and liberty : instead of moulding of Armies , we should be preparing of Masks ; and instead of depressing of factions , we should have balls and amorous appointments . So that men might follow their handy-crafts , Oxen might plow , Mill-horses drive about the wheel , whilst all this labour and sweat should serve but for the furtherance and easiness of the Court : and no wars ; for women being of tender conditions , and most part of sedentary lives , would not engage in such rough employments proper onely for man , who is onely the best kind of savage ; over whom they have also this priviledge , that they can bring forth the greatest Conquerors , but man can onely destroy them . Wine is strong , and nothing but truth excels women . But I see a volly of objections coming on , such as I fear not to stand against , but will march up to the head of this enemies Troop , and there I will charge him thorough , for speaking so much against women . Indeed women ought to rule ; and how many sots , inconstant , obstinate , proud , talkative , cruel , naturals and changlings , by vertue of a succession or conquest , by clubs and war-like stratagems , have mounted the Throne ? And women cannot be worse at worst then such men ; and withal , women are more easie and supple to be guided by wise Counsellors ; women are excellent creatures . Peace a little , and hear one of King Darius young men ; read Esdras 3. Chapter , and the 10. Verse . Thus paraphrased by Heydon . O Earthly men most vain , do not confine Strength to the potent Monarch , nor to wine , Nor to the multitude ; 'gainst their opinion , Hath not the women over these donion ? Women into the world them King have brought , And all such people as have Empire sought By Land or Sea , from the had being first , Bred from their wombs , and on their soft knees nurst : Those that did plant the Vine , and press the juice , Before that they could tast it to their use , Had from them their conception : they spin , they weave Garments for men , and they from them receive Worship and honour ; needful they are no doubt , As being such men cannot live without : If he hath gather'd Silver , or got Gold , Or found out ought that 's precious to behold ; Doth he not bring it to his choice delight , Her that is fair and precious in his sight ? Leaves he not all his business and affair , To gaze upon her eyes , play with her hair ? Is he not wholly hers ? doth he not bring Gold to her , Silver , and each precious thing ? Man leaves his Father , Mother , Country , all , ( What he esteems most dear ) to become thrall In voluntary bondage , with his Wife To lead a private and contented life ; Which life for her he hazardeth , and her 'Fore father , Mother , Country , doth prefer : Therefore by these you may perceive and know , Women , to whom man doth such service owe , Bear rule o're you . Do you not travel , sweat , And toyl , that of your labours they may eat ? Man takes his sword , regardless of his weal , And Mad-man like , goes forth to rob and steal : He sails the Seas , sounds Rivers ( nothing fears ) He meets a Lion , & his way he stears Through darkness , and what purchase , spoyle or boot Is got , he prostrates at his Mistriss foot : This shews his woman is to him more dear , Then he that got , or she that did him bear . Some have run mad , some slaves to them have been , Others have err'd and perisht in their sin . Do I not grant the King in power is great , And that all Nations homage to his Seat ? Yet I have seen Apame her armes twine About his neck , the Kings lov'd Concubine , And daughter to the famous Bartacus , I have beheld her oft-times use him thus ; From the Kings head to snatch the Royal Crown , And smiling on him , put it on her own : Then with her left hand on the cheek him smite , Yet he hath gap'd , and laught , and took delight To see himself so us'd : If she but smil'd , ( As if the power of him were quite exil'd ) He laught on her ; If angry , he was fain To flatter her till she was pleas'd again : 'T is true O men , whom I appeal unto , Are they not strongest then who this can do ? And it is most true , that as women bring forth children into the world , as they multiply themselves into these visible and corporeal souls , and after they have brought them forth , are most tender and careful to bring them up ; So it is most fitting , having all these preeminences and indulgences of nature , that when they were brought up , they should also have the rule of them : for a Potter would think it hard measure , if after the pitcher were made it should slie in his face . Advice to a Daughter . IV. Government . Contract not the Common distemper incident to vulgar brains , who still imagine more ease from some untried Government , then that they lye under ; not having passed the first form of experience , where we may learn that Tyranny is no less natural to power then lust to youth , &c. 1. I Answer ; These Rules of Hypocritical Tyrants , ( I will set down ) are fit to be known , that they may be avoided , and met withall , and not drawn into imitation . The Policy of a Tyrant to hold up his State , is first to make shew of a good Governour , by observing a temper and Mediocrity in his Government , and whole course of life . To which end it is necessary , that this subtile Tyrant be a cunning Politician , and that he be taken so to be , for that it maketh him more to be feared and regarded , and is thought thereby not unworthy to govern others . We may be assured , that there is no greater Index of Ambition , then an affectation of popularity , which appears in meek addresses to the people , wooing and familiar condescentions , bemoaning their sufferings , commending a more vigorous sense of them . And to make shew not of severity but of Gravity , by seeming reverent , not terrible in his speech , and gesture , and habit , and other demeanour , as extreme kindness and fawning , which is alwayes suspicious , because often fraudulent : remember the Sileni , that use to kill with hugs and embraces . I know and have observed , it is very usuall for men to personate goodness , til they have accomplished their ends ; And this , sometimes by pretending to take care of the Common-wealth ; and to that end , to seem loth to exact Monethly Assessements , and Excise of Beer and Ale , and other charges ; and yet to make necessity of it , where none is , to that end to fancy Plots , and imprison those are of the better sort amongst a few silly fellowes , and make them partners in the design , which indeed may prove nothing ; and to keep men in arms , that he may continue his exaction and Contribution so long as he list ; and thereof to employ some in his publick service , and the rest to hoord up in his Treasury ; and sometimes to give an account by open speech , and publick writing , of the expence of such Taxes and impositions as he hath received of the Republick , that he may seem to be a good husband , and frugal , and not a robber of the Common-wealth . 2. Be not the pen or mouth of , &c. I answer ; I have observed , a man born obscurely , who as long as he was private and poor , excelled in a soft and tractable disposition , but when by jugling he had obtained the government of Arabia , there was none more odious for a cruel , covetous and barbarick tyranny ; and I observed of Sede Mahomet Alhayse , there was never a better servant and a worse master . And I know a good aim , much less a good pretence , cannot justifie a bad action , and therefore we ought to be as solicitous about the lawfulness of the means as about the goodness of the end . It is a Maxime in morality , that honum oritur ex integris , and in Christianity , that we must not do evil that good may come of it ; and we may possibly rescue our selves from future cosenage , if we examine the lawfulness of every circumstance leading to the end propounded , before we are tickled and transported with the beauty of the pretence . As to forbid feastings at the usual times , and other meetings , which increase love , and give opportunity to confer together of publick matters , under pretence of sparing cost for better uses : to that end the Courfeu belwas first ordained by Willi . the Conquerer , to give men warning to repair home ●t a certain houre . 3. A multitude inflamed under a religious pretence , &c. I answer ; To make schism or division under hand among his nobility , and betwixt the nobility and the people ; and to set one rich man against another , that they combine not together , and that himself by hearing the griefs and complaints , may know the secrets of both parties , and so have matter against them , when he listeth to call them to an account . 4. The example of Brutus , &c. I answer ; It cannot be then easily imagined , of what singular importance the aspersing and blotting of a Prince is , to boyl up popular discontent to that height which is requisite for a rebellion : and here it must diligently be enquired , if there have not been such lapses as have galled the people ; and though they be old sores and skin'd , yet they must be searched and refreshed , and exasperated with all the urging circumstances that come within the invention of scandal . It must be remembred if any persons of publick note have suffered under the sword of justice , whose crimes can by art or eloquence be extenuated , whose hand measure must be mentioned with tears , that so old Traytors may be propounded for new Martyrs : this hath been the ordinary method of ambitious and wicked powers , and it was ever the most compendious way of usurpation , to dissemble a strong affection to the country , lamenting the vices of the Prince , and miseries of the people ; not with an intent to rescue them from servitude , but to get such a portion of favour as may lift us up to the same pitch of honour on their shoulders ; which having obtained we transcendently abuse , changing the rods of royalty into the scorpions of Anarchy , Aristocracy , or a free State . 5. Before you fix , consult all the objections , &c. I answer ; It is the fashion of fortunate Traytors to feed the people with shells and empty names : as if their bare assertion could demonstrate to us ( against all experience ) that t is freedome to be slaves to quondam peasants , and slavery to be subjects to a true and natural Prince ; and therefore if the Prince be severe , he gives them Nereo's brand , a man kneaded up of dirt and blood ; if he be of parts and contrivance , he calls it pernicious ingenuity ; if he be mild and favourable to tender consciences , he declaimes against his toleration ; if he urge uniformity and decency in divine service , he rails at his superstition . And because there is no such equilibrious vertue , but has some flexure to one of the extremes . But if the Prince hath by carriage of extraordinary innocence vindicated himself from obloquy ( which shall scarce be , if small faults be rightly improved ) then Machiavels advice must be followed , to calumniate stoutly , till the people have entertained something to his pre●udice : it is a figure in Politicks to make every infirmity a fault , and every fault a crime ; and if the people be dispos'd to alteration , these must first be urged against a Monarch to depose him , which is commendable , if you can dress him up like a Tyrant ; as you may find it justified by an honest Scot : who complains that there are not some glorious rewards appointed for Tyrannticides , &c. The Grecians gave divine Honours and great gifts to those that kill'd Tyrants . 6. Submit quietly to any power , providence , &c. I answer ; It is wisdome so to do : and for my part , I will obey my superiors without compulsion . I know the power of authority by woeful experience to be very strong in other countries , and able to conquer the Saints , and to convert innocency into faults ; and he that peruses history shall find that there hath been no innovation so gross , no rebellion so hideous , but hath had some Ecclesiastical somenters ; for such as want worth enough of their own , to reach preferment in a regular way , are most apt to envy the just honours of better men , and despairing to obtain their end by learning and piety , they aspire to it by the crooked means of faction and schism : nor are these despicable instruments to the Politician , for the sharpest for the sharpest sword in his army cannot vie services with a subtil quil ; you may see his business in writing , preaching and disputing , that so his tongue is a sheild to his patrons opinion , and a sword to his adversaries . The Iesuit reckons it in the number of his merits , if he may by any sinister waies ruffle and disorder heretical kingdomes , ( so he calls them ) encourage weak and unstable minds to slight magistracy , irritate divisions , tumults , rebellions , absolve from oaths , and all sacred ties ; so that it is hard to find any tragical Scene , or bloody Theatre , into which the Jesuit hath not intruded and been busie , contributing in a very high measure to evey fanatick insolence , justifying the old Pope Ioan , the picture of the whore of Babylon : these are the firebrands of Europe , the forge and bellows of sedition , infernal Emissaries , the Pests of the age , men that live as if huge sins would merit heaven by an Antiperistasis . 7. If authority exact an acknowledgement , &c. I answer ; Submit , and observe , that there is no nation without some turbulent spirits of its own , the dishonour of the gown and Pulpit , the shame , and sometimes the ruine of their country ; you would think they had their text from a Gazet , because you hear so much of a Coranto in the application ; that these may be fit implements for the Governour : there are these requisite qualifications , there must be a principall gift of wresting the Scripture , vexing and urging the holy Text , constraining it to patronize the design : the great Apostle expresses this in three very emphatical termes , 1. the cogging the Die , making the word of God speak what they list , 2. Crafty applications and expositions of it , 3. All the methods and arts of cozenage , guilding and varnishing rotten doctrines ; and this must be done in publick Pulpits , vomiting out flames and spirit of sulphur from that sacred Pegma , where he should deliver none but mild and soft , that is , Evangelical Embassages . 8. He that suffers his conscience to mislead , &c. I answer ; It is pity the ( crafty upstart ) that will say to his brother , it is a sin to be honest , should have liberty to go in private , and preach in Parlours and meeting-houses , where he is listned to as an Oracle : and here commonly he is more Enthusiast then Scripturist , and his Auditors believe his dreams to be as Canonical as the Revelation ; like those Mr. Heydon speaks of , their dreams are all new lights ; or those this learned Gentleman chides , when he tells them that every whimsey is not prophesie . This subtile upstart that lately dropt from the gallow-tree into Styx , and turned a Soland Goose , ought to be of some abilities in disputing ; and what he wants in Logick , he must supply in garrulity and babling , for whatsoever he affirms , the interest he hath in his seduc'd hearers , improves into a Syllogism : you ask after his Topicks , he has his Arguments from Gregory , but not the Saint , if after his weapons , he carries the name of Christ in the van of Rebellion and Robbery ; and the wound he makes is faction : those consciences which will not surrender to his Parley , his master takes by storm : And thus he abuses Christ , by pretending his favour to unwarrantable actions , he abuses his Prince , by alienating the affection and allegiance of his subjects ; he abuses the Church by shattering it into rents and schisms , wounding it with a feather from its own wing , snatching a coal from the Altar , to fire both Church and State ; and lastly , he abuses himself ; for when the political Sophister hath made his best use of his seditious spirit , he leaves him to his own wild distempers , having directed his own thoughts to another goal . 9. Ostentation of birth at no time decent , &c. I answer ; To keep the conquered quiet and peaceable , and well affected so much as may be , by promises of titles of honour , the people may seem by being conquered , to have gotten a Protector , rather then a Tyrant ; for the Common people , if they enjoy Peace , and be not distracted nor drawn from their business , nor exacted upon beyond measure , are easily contained under obedience ; yet notwithstanding they are to be disused from the practise of Arms , and other exercises which increase courage , and be weakned of Armour , that they have neither spirit nor will to rebel . 10. Despise none not for meaness of bloud , &c. I answer ; Defame not any woman publickly or privately to another , though you know her to be evil ; for those that are faulty cannot endure to be taxed , but will seek to be avenged of you ; and those that are not guilty cannot endure unjust repro●h : and as there is nothing more shameful and dishonest , then to do wrong , so truth it self cutteth his throat that carrieth her publickly in every place , and despiseth the condition of another . Remember the Divine saying , He that keepeth his mouth , keepeth his life : do therefore right to all men where it may profit them , you shall thereby get much love ; and forbear to speak evil things of men , though it be true , and thereby you shall avoid malice and revenge . 11. It cannot be looked upon as an Act of prudence to do more for another , &c. I answer ; Obligation to Governours : There is no argument more popular then success in government , because the bulk of men is not able to distinguish the permission of God from his approbation : And although it be in it self fallacious and feeble , yet the misery of the conquered denies them the opportunity to dispute it ; for the opposition of the sword will never be confuted by the bare fist of Logick ; nor doth the victor commonly permit any ventilation of his dictatates ; for when the body is a slave why should the reason be free ? A souldier in Lybia wondred any would be so importunate to preach Laws and moral reasons to men with swords by their sides , as if arms knew not how to descend to rational inquiries , but were enough justified by an odd kind of necessity of their own creating , that all Laws are engraven on the hilt of a victorious sword , to whose Mandamus all other Statutes must submit . 12. No government can be safely engaged by a single person , &c. I answer ; If he gratifie his courtiers and attendants in that sort , and by such means as that he may seem not to pleasure them with the hurt and injury of his people , as with Monopolies , &c ▪ I have often wondred with my self , what should move governours to print justifications of themselves , and assertions of their proceedings , which I suppose never made an understanding man a convert , nor met with a cordial reception in any , unless the abuse of a few poor shallow believers , be thought a triumph worth their pains : I have sometimes thought , they do by these papers please themselves in their abilities to delude , and so gratifie their authority over the noblest part of man , by denying the liberty of the thought , and subduing the power of the soul to an implicit coherence with their own magisterial opinions . But the Governour of the Turks , that Politician we must force our pen towards , by quoting the success of his undertakings , besides the plausibleness and insinuating nature of the proposition it self , hath the advantage of power to make us believe him , or any other such like governour that contrives these designes . Nor is this bait laid by him , or any other I point not at contemptible ; many of parts and prudence , yea and of Religion , have been stagger'd by it : some question whether he deserved the brand of Atheism , considering the wild conceits they then had of their Gods ; or differed from the common Creed , crying out , O how the Gods favour Sacriledges ! When he had a merry gale after a sacrilegious attempt , the like said Dionysius ; the best of the Greek Historians calls the victory , the just Arbitress of the cause ; so did the Roman also . So hard it is to perswade meer reason , that virtue may be unfortunate , and vice happy ; and some adore the fortunate , and despise the conquered . 13. A reconciled enemy is not safely to be trusted , yet if any , &c. I answer ; You must never trust any friend or servant with any matter that may endanger your estate : and of this you must take an especial care , for else you will make your self a slave to him that you trust , and leave your self alwayes to his mercy ; and be sure of this , you shall never find a friend in your young years , whose condition and qualities will please you after you come to more discretion and judgement ; and then all you give is lost , and all wherein you shall teach such a one will be discovered : such therefore as are inferious will follow you , but to eat you out , and when you leave to feed them , they will hate you ; and such kind of men , if you preserve your estate , will alwayes be had : and if your friends be of better quality then your self , you may be sure of two things ; The first , that they will be more carefull to keep your counsel , because they have more to lose then you have . The second , they will esteem you for your self , and not for that which you do possess : but if you be subject to any great vanity or ill , from which I hope God will bless you and all other , then therein trust no man , for every mans folly ought to be his greatest secret . 14. Grant if ever a courtesie at first asking : for , &c. I answer , nothing does more become a wise man , then to make choise of friends , and advised in courtesies ; for by these you shall be judged what you are : let them therefore be wise and virtuous , and none of those that follow you for gain ; but make election rather of your betters then your inferiours , shunning alwayes such as are poor and needy ; for if you grant twenty courtesies , and give as many gifts , and refuse to do the same but once , all that you have done will be lost ; and such men will become your mortal enemies . 15. Be not nice in assisting with the advantages of nature , &c. I answer you friendly where you do not abuse Ladies and Gentlewomen , and in milde termes . There is some of this leaven in the judgement of most , notwithstanding those brighter discoveries in the Noon of Christianity we live under . A Bible throughly observed , would expound to us much of the riddle and dark passages of providence : we are so short sighted , that we cannot see beyond time without the Rules of Astrology . We value men and things by their temporal prosperities , & transient glories ; whereas , if we put eternity into the other scale , it would much out-poise that worldly lustre that so much abuses our eyes , and cozens our understandings . I find it not in holy Writ , that God hath inseparably annexed goodness and greatness , justice and victory ▪ he hath secured his servants of the felicity of a better life , but not of this ; Christs Kingdom is not here , our happiness was not of this world : not doth my Bible shew me any warrant for appeal to Heaven for the decision of this or that intricacy , by bestowing success upon this party , or that cause , according to its righteousness and due merit : there is a vast difference betwixt {non-Roman} {non-Roman} {non-Roman} {non-Roman} {non-Roman} and {non-Roman} {non-Roman} {non-Roman} {non-Roman} {non-Roman} , even in Scripture construction . The great Turk may justly exult and prune himself in discourses of this nature , if they be once admitted and owned by Christians . And I shall forbear any longer to think Mahomet an Impostor , and must receive the Alcaron for Gospel , if I shall be convinced that temporal happiness and triumph are a true Index of divine Favour . Our Religion hath something more to invite our closure with it ; it proposes a conveniency on earth , like Heydons book of The way to bliss ; but the Crowns and garlands are reserved for Heaven , as bliss is . The money-god in Plato pretends a command from Jupiter , to distribute as great a largess to the wicked as to the good ; because , if vertue should once impropriate riches , that fair Goddess would be more wooed for her dowry , then for native beauty . So if Religion were attended with those outward allurements that most take the senses , we should be apt to follow Christ for the loaves , and overlook the spiritual charms , and more noble ends of Christianity . The Heathens could say , happy privacy is a thing of unhappy presidency : fortunate sins may prove dangerous temptations ; but to say , that God doth signally attest the actions of such a person , or the justice of such a cause , by permitting it to prosper , and taper up in the world , is such a deceit as deserves our serious abhorrency . 16. 'T is not dutiful nor safe , &c. I answer ; Princes must take care they be not made fools by flatterers ; for even the wisest men are abused by these : know therefore , that flatterers are the worst kind of Traitors for they will strengthen your imperfections , encourage you in all evils , correct you in nothing , but so shadow and paint all your vices and follies , as you shall never by their will know evil from good , or vice from virtue . And because all men are apt to flatter themselves , to entertain the additions of other mens praises is most perillous : do not therefore praise your self , except you will be counted a vain-glorious fool ; neither take delight in the praises of other men , except you deserve it ; and receive it from such as are worthy and honest , and will withall warn you of your faults . 17. It is not safe for a Secretary to mend the Copy his Master hath set him , &c. I answer ; He may if his Master be a wise man , and delights not in flatterers , for they have never any virtue , they are over-base , creeping , cowardly persons . A Secretary that is a fool , will ●ove a flatterer , and hate a plain honest man ; A flatterer is said to be a beast that biteth smiling : David desired God to cut out the tongue of a flatterer : but ●t is hard to know them from friends , so are they obsequious and full of protestations ; for as a wolfe resembles ● dog , so doth a flatterer a friend : a flatterer is compared to an Ape , who because he cannot defend the house like a dog , labour as an ox , or bear burdens as an horse , doth therefore yet pla● tricks and provoke laughter . A Secretary may be sure , and so may you that he that will in private tell you your faults , is your friend , for he adventures your mislike , and doth hazard your hatred : for there are few men that can endure it , every man for the most part delighting in self-praise , which is one of the most universal follies which bewitcheth mankind . 18. Write not the faults of person near the throne , &c. I answer ; Do not accuse any ma● of any crime , if it be not to save your self , your Prince , your country ; for there is nothing more dishonourable ( next to treason it self ) then to be an accuser . Notwithstanding , I would not have you for any respect lose your reputation , or endure publick disgrace ; for better it were not to live , then to live a coward . I hate a coward : if the offence proceed not from your self ; if it do , it shall be better to compound it on good terms then to hazard your self , for if you overcome , you are under the cruelty of the law ; if you are overcome , you are dead or dishonour'd : if you therefore contend or discourse in argument , let it be with wise and sober men , of whom you may learn by sober reasoning ; and not with ignorant persons , for you shall thereby instruct those that wil not thank you , and utter what they have learned from you , for their own . But if a man know more then other men let him utter it when it may do him honour , and not in assemblies of ignorant and common persons . 19 That it is not unlawful to serve beer , office or arms , &c. I answer ; This is like Gusman the tattered Spaniard ; and I pass it over as not worth looking on , and go to the next Paragraph . 20 Court him alwaies you hope one day to make , &c. I answer ; The fancies of men change , and he that loves to day hateth to morrow : let reason therefore , Don Guzman , be your school-mistris , which ever will guide you aright . 21. T is a natural guard , &c. I answer ; A governour will make friends , and knows how to improve any popular gust he raised , because such a storm is his seed-time ; and the Dutchmen boast they can saile with all winds : the aspiring man observes the quarter whence the fairest gales of preferment blow , and tacks about ship , turning his helme to fill the sails of his ambition ; nor can the compass point more varieties of windes then his dexterous soul hath changes and garbes , and suitable compliances . What the Orator calls his top and perfection , to make happy application to the several humors and Genius of all sorts of men , qualifying his address with what he knows will most charm a friend he treats , that the Governour does , not onely with his lips , but life you may find all those figures and tropes digested into his actions , and made practical , that are in the other onely vocal . He remembers that of an Almanack-maker , who having now succesfully gained , and written amiable predictions in flattery of three Princes , and still in the same aspect of favour , unshaken with the vicissitudes he had run through : being by my self asked by what means he preserved his fortune , he replyed , he was made of the pliant willow , not of the stubborn oke , alwaies of the prevailing religion , and a zealous professor : this easiness and bending is of absolute necessity ; for if the same temper which insinuated in violent times were retained in a composed and setled government , it would be altogether distasteful ; and so on the contrary . 22. Mingle not your interest , &c. I answer ; Amongst all other things of the world , take care of your estate , which you shall ever preserve , if you observe three things ; first , that you know what you have , what every thing is worth that you have , and to see that you are not wasted by your servants and officers . The second is , that you never spend any thing before you have it , for borrowing is the canker and death of every mans estate . The third is , that you suffer your self not to be wounded for others mens faults , and scourged for others mens offences , which is , to be surety for another ; for thereby millions of men have been beggered and destroyed , paying the reckoning of others mens riot , & the charge of other mens folly and prodigality . 23. Let nothing unjustifiable , &c. I answer ; If religion be in fashion , you can scarcely distinguish this man from a saint ; he does not onely reverence the holy Ministers , but if need be , he can preach himself ▪ if cunctation prevails , he acts L. if the buckler must be changed for a sword , he personates the Prince of Conde : if mildness be useful , Charles Stuart called King of Scots , is not more a lamb then he . If severities are requisite , Ruperts butcheries are sanctities , compared with his : as Cyclope Euripides , shifted disposition as he altered place , ( being voluptuous and jovial in Ionia , frugal and retired in Lacedaemon ) so he proportions himself to time , place , person , religion , with such a plausibleness , as if he had been born onely to serve that opinion which he harboured but as a guest , whilst it continued in sway , having a room in his heart ; if occasion be , to lodge the contrary , and to crie it up with as much ardour as he once used to extol the former ; and thus like a subtile Proteus he assumes that shape that is most in grace , and of most profitable conducement to his ends ; he abounds in a voluble wit , and like a changeling more turning then a potters wheel . He hath this advantage of the Chamelion , that he can assume whiteness , for I find him often wearing the vest of innocency , to conceal the ugliness and blackness of his attempts in his Advice to a son . 24. Avoyd the folly of Actaeon , &c. I answer ; A Princes secrets ought to be kept , and if he be a good governour , he is inviolably constant to his principles of vertue and religious prudence ; his ends are noble , and the means he uses innocent ; he hath a single eye on the publick good ; and if the ship of the State miscarry , he had rather perish in the wreck , then preserve himself uppon the planke of an inglorious subterfuge : his worth hath led him to the helme , the rudder is an honest and vigorous wisdome , the sta● he looks to for direction is in Heaven , and the port he aims at is the joynt welfare of Prince and people . This constancy is that solid rock upon which the wise Venetian hath built its long-liv'd Republick , so that it is probable the maiden Queen borrowed her Motto of Semper eadem from this maiden Common-wealth . It is true , something is to be conceded to the place and time , and person of a Prince ; and I grant that there are many innocent compliances , Heydons Basilica chymica is observable , there may be a bending without a crookedness , we may circumire , & yet not aberrare ; Paul became a Jew that he might gain the Jews , but he did not become a sinner that he might gain sinners ; he was made all things to all men , but he was not made sin to any , that is , his condescensions were such as did well consist with his Christian integrity . Greatness and honours and riches , and scepters , those glorious temptations that so much enamour the doting world , are too poor shrines for such a sacrifice as conscience , which the Governour hath so much abused by an inveterate neglect , that it is become menstruous , Ephemerals . 25. Providence or a severer destiny hath , &c. I answer ; When the choice of the affection dies , a general lamentation follows ; for we seldome find any without a peculiar delight in some peculiar thing , though various as their fancies lead them : honour , war , learning , musick , do all find their several votaries , who also if they fail in their souls wishes mourn immoderately . 26 Afflict not your self to see , &c. I answer ; The time is come about whereof Diogenes prophesied , when he gave the reason why he would be buried groveling , we have made earths bottom powerful to the lofty skies : gold that lay buried in the buttock of the world is now made the head and ruler of the people , putting all under it ; we have made it extensive as the Spanish ambition , and in the mean , have undeservedly put worth below it . Worth without wealth , is like an able servant out of employment , he is fit for all businesses , but wants wherewith to put himself into any : he hath good materials for a foundation , but misseth wherewith to rear the walls of his fame . For though indeed riches cannot make a man worthy , they can shew him to the world when he is so ; but when we think him wise , we appear to be content to be misled with the multitude . To the rich I confess we owe something , but to the wise man most : To this for himself , and his innate worthiness ; to the other as being causually happy , in things that of themselves are blessings , but never so much , as to make virtue mercenary or a flatterer of vice : worth without wealth besides the native nobleness , has this in it , that it may be the way of getting the wealth which is wanting ; but as for wealth without worth , I count it nothing but a Rich Saddle for the State to ride an Ass withall . 27. One may attain to a higher degree , &c. I answer ; If his conscience will suffer him to swear to those subtile snares the Governour layes in such an oath , as may furnish with a sense obliging to the design , he may be preferred . But it appears by sad experience , that in propounding of oaths , requiring promises , and other solemnities , there have been multitudes induced to bind themselves upon some secret , loose , and mental reservation , which they have fram'd to themselves as a salvo in case of breach ; so apt we are in affairs of greatest importance , to advise more with corrupt wit then sound conscience : in the catalogue of self delusion , you may possibly find these . We are ready to interpret the words too kindly , especially if they be ambiguous ; and it is hard to finde terms so positive , but that they may be eluded indeed , or seem to us to be so , if we be disposed . Some are invited to illicit promises qua illicit , because they know them to be invalid . Some are frighted into these bonds by threats , and losses , and temporal concernments , with the expence of the value of a cellar of Beer ; in a Scarlet cloak , and a good suit of cloth lined with knavery ; some with a Dicker of Leather , and a good pair of boots , set up on the highest size of hypocrisie and deceit , to step into preferment ; and then they please themselves that they swear by duress , and so are disingaged some are oath-proof , I mean there are such sear-scul'd men , as will swear pro and con . Some have learned from the Civilian Cleveland , and others of them , that though he swear to a thing not materially unlawful , yet if it impedes a greater moral good , it becomes void . Some take liberty to swear , because they judge the person to whom they swear incapable of an oath ; as Philalethonus defends the breach of an oath to a thief , from perjury : and this scribler of the Advice to a Son , to a Tyrant to violate his faith is an honest perjury : the first sort of these falls most porperly under the notice and practice of a crafty Governour , though he may also use the last , but at different times . 28. Though Law perish , &c. I answer ; It is not difficult for him to cast his desire into such soft glib expressions as will down with most ; yea , with many that would absolutely disavow the same in rough language ; if he be unskill'd in this black Art , I commend him to the Pedagogy of the Delphick devil . 29. Though I hope I have now reason , &c. I answer ; In employments , there is this same method through all the world , in general . All things come to their height by degrees , there they stay the least of time in a prosperous profession , then they decline as they rose ; onely mischief being more importunate , ruines their profession at once , what hath been long a rearing . 30 Avoid in your pleadings , &c. I answer ; Amongst all other professions , chuse that which your Genius is fittest for , as the learned Astrologer will tell you : the Law I would have have you well read in , but not to know the smart of it ; the practise of it is so gilded with gold , that you may swallow a cause , and forget who may be purged of all their goods and Chattels , Lands and Tenements , by your potions , or neglects . Therefore take heed how you delay any man for lucre or gain , or how you manage a bad cause for your Client : money I know is apt to bail a rich man , when the honest poor man suffers , because he has no Acres to be his hostage . Be not made the Ass to carry the burdens of other men ; if your friend desire you to be his surety , give him a part of what you have to spare , if he press you farther , he is not your friend at all , for friendship rather chuseth harm to it self then offereth it : if you be bound for a stranger you are a fool , if for a Merchant , you put your estate to swim ; if for a Churchman he hath no inheritance ; if for a Lawyer , he will find an evasion by a syllable or a word , to abuse you ; if for a poor man , you must pay it your self ; if for a rich man , it need not ; therefore from the Law Suretiship and defamation bless your self . 31. At a conferrence to , &c. I answer ; Every unbridled tongue in the end shall find it self unfortunate , for in all that ever I observed in the course of worldly things , I ever found that mens fortunes are oftner made by their tongues then by their virtues , and more mens fortunes overthrown thereby also , then by their vices . 32. If you be to vote in any publick &c. I answer ; The mouth of a wise man is in his heart , the heart of a fool is in his mouth , because what he knoweth or thinketh he uttereth ; and by your words men will judge you : such as your words are , such will your affections be esteemed , and such will your deeds as your affections , and such your life as your deeds : Therefore be advised in debates what you discourse of , what you maintain , whether touching Religion , Scare , or vanity : for if you erre in the first , you shall be counted profane , if in the second , dangerous in the third , indiscreet and foolish . 33. As excellent Painters were not wont to fix upon a single beauty , &c. I answer ; If you imitate greatness according to these directions , rather then goodness advised by my self , it is most certain , there is no other tye of security and establishment to a person that hath ravished greatness , and acquired violent oaths : for usurpation hath onely these two pillars , its own Arms and Militia , and publick oaths and acknowledgement ; and it is scarce worth querie , whether , when the gross of a Nation is thus bound , the oath be not as valid , and the conscience as much concerned , as if it had been sworn to a lawful Prince . It is reasonable , that an usurping power cannot upon any prudent perswasion , have the same confidence in the love of the people that a just hath ; nor is the following Government inticing to imitation ; for never any Kingdom badly acquired was well administred . The same with Doctor Culpeper , where one objecting the vices of Princes , receives this answer ; Therefore they were not natural Princes , but violent usurpers , & so beholding more to fear then love of their subjects . And therefore if the Governour by imitation of the blessed means forementioned , can gain a Superiority , there is no trusting to those ingenious guards , his own good , and the love of others . His best defence is awe , and fear , and scaffold , and gibbet , &c. for he that hath no voluntary room in the hearts of his people , must use all means to gain a coercive . 34. Before I came to have leisure , &c. I answer ; Princes frailties and promises are like other mens , and may be put into the same bottomless bag which Poets say Iupiter made for lovers asseverations . Their words are as good as their oaths , for they are both trifles : children are to be cozened with rattles , and men with golden words from a Princes mouth . 35. He that seeks perfection on earth , &c. I answer ; Nature and Religion conjoyned beget fear and love together , admiration , reverence : and these are so rare for qualification , that they beget long life , health , youth , riches , wisdom and vertue . And these are most necessary to perfection , as you read in Heydons way to bliss . 36. Those that impute their good , &c. I answer ; God will teach you to know you are not wise enough to chuse for your self ; and therefore will lead you to a dependency on him , wherein he does like Charles Stuart , who feeds not the expectation of Favourites that are apt to presume , but often crosses them in their hopes and fears ; thereby to tye them faster in their duty and reverence , to his hand that giveth : and certainly you shall find this infallible ; though God gives not your desires , yet he alwayes imparts to your profit . How infinitely would you intangle your self , if you could sit down and obtain your wishes ? do you not often wish that , which you after see would be your confusion ? and is not this , because you ignorantly follow the flesh , the body , and the blinded appetite , which look to nothing but the shell and outside ? whereas God respecteth the soul , and distributeth his favour for the good of that , and his glory . God sees and knows your heart , and things to come in certainty ; you , but onely by Astrology ; which doth often fail of predicting truth , or happily by A Rosacrucian , who sometimes to my knowledge loses himself in the clouds of the worlds occasions : and no man would be more misarble , then he that should cull out his own wayes ; what a specious shew carried Midas his wish with it , and how it paid him with ruine at last ? surely God will work alone , and man must not be of his counsel : nothing puts destruction on him sooner , then when he presumes to part the Empire with God . If you can be patient , God will be profitable ; but the time and means you must leave to him , not challenge to your self : neither must your own endeavours wholly be laid in the couch to late . The moral of the tale is a kind of an instructive Satyre , when the Carter prayed in vain to Iupiter , because he did not put his shoulder to the wheel : do your part with industry , and let God point the event . I have seen matters fall out so unexpected ; neither Astrologer not Rosacrucian could give any successeful judgement of them ; which have tutoured me in all affairs , neither to dispair nor to presume : not to despair , for God can help me ; not to presume , for God can cross you . It is said of Marius , that one day made him Emperor , the next saw him rule , the third , he was slain of the Souldiers : never despair , because you have a a God ; never presume , because you are a man . 37. As I would have you primarily intend , &c. I answer ; A Magistrate or a Prince that would establish a troubled Government , must first vanquish all his foes ; factious heads must be higher by a pole then their bodies ; for how will the folds be quiet , while yet among them there be some wolves ? He that would rule over many , must fight with many , and conquer , and be sure either to cut off those that raise up tumults , or by a majestick awe , to keep them in a strict subjection : slackness and connivence are the ruines of unsetled Kingdoms , your passions and affections are the chief disturbers of your civil State . What peace can you expect within you , while these rebels rest unovercome ? If they get a head your Kingdome is divided , so it cannot stand . Separations are the wounds of a Crown , whereby neglected , it will bleed to death : then you must strive to subdue ; if you cut them not off , you must yet restrain them . 'T is no cruelty to deny a Traitor liberty , you must have them be your Subjects , not your Prince ; they must serve you , and you must sway them . If it cannot be without much striving , you must be be content with a hard combat , that you may have a happy reign ; 't is better you endure a short skirmish , then a long siege , having once won the field you must keep it . 38. The like may be imagined of men , &c. I answer ; In all Nations two things are cause of a common prosperity , good Government , and good obedience ; a good Magistrate over a perverse people is a sound head on a surfeited body ; a good Common-wealth and a Ruler , is a healthful body with a head-aching , either are occasions of ruines , both sound preservatives . A good Governour is a skilful Ship-master , that takes the shortest way , and the safest course , and continually so stears , as the rocks and shelves which might shipwrack the State , be avoided , and the voyage ever made with the strongest speed , best profit , most ease : but a wicked Magistrate is a wolfe made leader of the fold , that both satiates his cruelty , and betrays them to dangers ; to whom , if you add but ignorance , you may without Astrology , prophesie or predict destruction : The Iudges insufficiency is the Innocents calamity . 'T is an huge advantage that man hath in a credulous world , that can easily say and swear to any thing ; and yet withal , so palliate his falsifications and perjuries , as to hide them from the conusance of most . The Ruler must be furnished with handsome refuges ; if he be wise and Tyrannous , that may seemingly heal miscarriages this way , he need not spend much time in inquiry after such helps ; these declining ages will abundantly furnish his invention : but if the Common-wealth be obedient , and the Ruler worthy , how durable is their felicity and joy ! 39. Another error may happen , &c. I answer ; That City is safe , whose Citizens are obedient to the Magistrates , and the Magistrates to the Laws . What made the Major Scipio so victorious , but his wisdom in directing , and his Souldiers willingness in obeying , when he could shew his Troops , and say , You see not a man among all these , but will if , I command him , from a Turret throw himself into the Sea ? As it is in the larger world , so it is in the little world of man ; none if they serve the true Prince : but have a Governour completely perfect : criticism it self cannot find in God to cavil at ; he is both just and merciful , in the concrete and the abstract , he is both of them , who can tax him with either cruelty or partiality ? Though your obedience cannot answer his perfection , yet endeavour it : If Christ be not your King to govern , he will neither be your Prophet to forewarn , nor your Priest to expiate : if you cannot come near it in effect , as being impossible , you must in desire , as being convenient : so though less , yet if sincere , you know he will accept it , not as meritorious , but respecting his promise . 40. Neither can the , &c. I answer ; Let Christ be your King , Prophet and Priest ; and as for the world , I know it too well to perswade you to dive into the practices thereof : rather stand upon your own guard against all that tempt you thereunto , or may practice upon you in your conscience , your reputation or your purse , resolve that no man is wise or safe , but he that is honest . Serve God , let him be the Author of all your actions , commend all your endeavours to him , that must either wither or prosper them ; please him with prayer , lest if he frown , he confound all your fortunes and labours like drops of rain on the sandy ground : let my experienced advice sink deep into your heart . So God direct you in all his wayes , and fill your heart with his grace . Advice to a Daughter . V. Religion . 1. Read the Book of God with reverence , and in things doubtful take fixtion from the Authority of the Church , which cannot be arraigned of a damnable error , without questioning that truth which hath proclaimed her proof against the gates of hell , &c. I Answer ; God hath left three books to the world in , each of which he may easily be found ; the Book of the creatures , the Book of conscience , and his written Word : The first shews his Omnipotency , the second his justice , the third his mercy and goodness ; so though there be none of them so barren of the rudiments of knowledge , but is sufficient to leave all without excuse , and apologies : yet in them all , you find all the good that ever either the heathen , or the Christian hath published abroad : in the first is all natural Philosophy : in the second all moral Phylosophy : in the third all true Divinity , to those admirable pillars of all humane learning , the Philosophers God shewed himself in his Omnipotency and justice , but seemed as it were to conceal his mercy ; to Christians he shines in that which out-shines all his works , his Mercy : Oh , how should we regratulate his favours for so immense a benefit , wherein secluding himself from others , he hath wholly imparted himself to us ! In the first of these , Brightman was not out , nor would I have you , but to admire his works , by a serious Meditation of the wonders in the Creatures . In the second I would have you reverence his justice by the secret and in most checkes of the conscience : in the third embrace his love by laying hold on those promises , wherein he hath not onely left you means to know him , but to love him , rest in him , and enjoy him forever . 2. The prudent Consistory finding , &c. I answer ; Can a fly comprehend man upon the top of Monarchy ? no more can you comprehend God in the height of Omnipotency ; there are as well mysteries for faith , as causes for reason : this may guide you , when you have to deal with man ; but in divine affairs , reason must wait on faith , and submit to her prerogatives . The conscience is great , but God is farre greater then it . 3. He may be less prudent , &c. I do not think the greatest Clerks are nearest Heaven , much of their knoledge is superfluous ; for Bellarmine makes four hundred questions of faith : And Doctor Owen makes a gracious tale of a great many more ; and not ten of them which toucheth our salvation to understand . 4. Despise not a profession of Holiness , &c. I answer ; Words are not the difference of good men and bad ; for every man speaks well : therefore how noble a thing is virtue , when no man dares profess any thing elss ? 5. Hypocrisie though looked upon , &c. I answer ; As I think there are many worse then they seem , so I suppose there are some better then they shew , and these are like the growing Chesnut that keeps a sweet and nutrimental kernel included in a rough and prickly husk : the other as the Peach ; holds a rugged and craggy stone under the cover of a velvet coat : you should not deceive a good man either way , both offer a wrong to virtue ; the one shews her worse then she is , dulling her beauty with dim colours , and presenting her with an harder favour then her own ; the other doth varnish over the rottenness of vice , and makes goodness but the vizor of hypocrisie , either are condemnable : painting the face is not much worse then wilful soyling it ; he is as well a murtherer , that accuseth himself falsly , as he that did the Act , and denies it . One would obscure goodnes with vice , the other would palliate vice with goodness , fraud is in both ; and I am sure no pleasure can make deceit allowable : you must therefore strive to avoyd both , and with either seem as you are , or be as you seem ; but if you will erre on one side , I had rather you should resemble a plain country man , that goes in russet , and is rich in revenues , then a riotous courtier that wears glorious apparel without money in his purse . 6. Criticismes and curious questions . &c. I answer ; If a man shall once take upon him to call that light which God calls heavy , that sin venial , which God calls grievous , measuring any one sin by the measures of his lusts and appetite , and not of his conscience : what shall let him to do with the next that his affections stir him to , ( the like reason serving for all ) and so goe forward till he place his whole corrupted affections in Gods room . 7. I can approve of none for , &c , I can approve of none for , &c. I answer ; God who calls his elect unto himself to make them enjoy heaven , compels none to make defection from himself : besides , the Devil never assails a magisterial Divine ; I mean a man so called , except he find him either void of knowledge , the fear of God , or in controversie with his word . 8. I grant the Socinians are not , &c. I answer ; That in the direct worship of God himself , you ought to be guided by the word of God , as he prescribes in the same , and not otherwise , as also in the matter of sacrifices ; but in the form and order of ceremonies , that indeed is solely left unto the Church , but not the immediate worship , we may not therein follow our own wills , that is the main difference between them and the ancient Canons of the Church , if you may use a will-worship , then you are in the right with them , but if you may not , then you are in the right with us . 8. And as the Socinian Doctrine , &c. I answer ; The Devil where he cannot have the whole , seeks ever to get one part of the soul , either the will or the understanding , which he may come easiest by ; as in Protestants the will , in Socinians the understanding : a learned Socinian , and an ignorant , are of two religions . 10 , Yet were not Purgatory , &c. I answer ; the Papists religion is like Homers Iliads of the siege of Troy , or Virgils Aeneads of the beginning of Rome ; both of them had a foundation of truth ; so had the Papists the Bible , but they have all added so much that the first truth is almost lost . 11. But in conclusion you wil find , &c. I answer ; If the Pope may err as a man , but not as a Pope , I would know why the Pope doth not instruct or reform the man , or wherefore the man doth not require the Popes instructions ? 12. And yet it was no unhappy , &c. I answer ; It must needs shew the Puritans and Papists religions to be both ill , that they would plant them by liberty of conscience and war ; whereas the true Protestant religion rose by fasting and prayer , and is set up upon the rock of faith , for every good work to mount up the soul to eternal rest with God . 13. I confess the Millenaries , &c. I answer ; The true Protestant religion stands like a vertue between the Presbyterian , Papist , Annabaptist , Independent , Quaker , Millenary ; that is , an extremity in the excess , this part of them in the effect ; that aimes at the confusion of the State , this other makes confusion in the Church : let that Prince that desires the welfare of his kingdome , crush the power of the first part , and curb the malice of the other , so shall his Church be peaceful , his state honourable , and on his head shall his crown florish . 14. But for the vagabond , &c. I answer ; Although particular men of all professions of religion , have been some thieves , some murtherers , some traitors , yet ever when they came to their end and just punishment , they confessed their fault to be in nature , and not in their profession , the Roman Catholicks onely excepted . 15. And our new Levellers , &c. Every age breeds some exorbitant spirits , who turn the edge of their own sufficiency upon whatsoever they can devour in their ambitious apprehensions and attempts , seeking rather a great than a good fame , and holding it the chiefest honour to be thought the wonder of their times , which if they attain unto is but in the condition of monsters , that are generally much admired , but more abhorred : and such are the Levellers , and with them I place the fift-Monarchy men . 16. It is observable in the present , &c. I answer , it matters not much whether in government you tread the steps of severe Hannibal , or gentle Scipio , so your actions be honourable , and your life vertuous ; both in the one and in the other , there is defect and danger , if not corrected and supported by the fair repute of some extraordinary endowments , so no matter , black or white , so the seed be good . 17. Will not such proceeding , &c. I answer ; It has been observed that in all innovations and religions ( which ordinarily have their rise from pretences of religion or reformation , or both ) the breach and neglect of lawes hath been authorized by that great Patroness of illegal actions , Necessity . Now the wild error of Anarchy is never without such an advocate as this , for he cares not to distinguish , whether the necessity be of their own creating or no , as for the most part it is , being indeed an Apendix to the wrong he undertakes , and signifies no more than that he is compelled to cover wrong with wrong , as if the commission of a second sin were enough to justifie the first . He changes that old charitable advice , Benefacta benefactis aliis pertegito ne perpluant , into vitia vitiis pertegito ne perpluant that so heaping one crime upon another , the latter may defend the former from the stroke of Justice . He adores a Maxime in Eugenius Theodidactus the Civilian , justum est bellum quibus necessarium , & pia arma quibus in armis spes est , that war must needs be just that is necessary , and those arms pious that are all our livelihood : it were very incongruous to desire that man to leave his crutch that cannot walk without , t is no less unnatural to invite him to quit his sword , whose life and fortune leans entirely upon it . 18. Nevertheless though a high , &c. I answer again , If he can insinuate the scope of the war to be zealous & legal , a little daubing will serve to legalize the circumstances : that of the Civilians must be remembred , Licere in bello quae ad finem sunt necessaria , nothing is unlawful in war , that serves the end and design of it : the Oracles of the gown are too tender for the sword men , and it may be he had wit in his anger , who affirmed , that martial law was as great a solecism as martial peace . If the people be once possest that his aims and ends are fair , will never expect that the media for attainment of his end , should be retrenched by the strict boundaries of law ; he manages that rule very practically , I may invade any thing of any mans that threatens certain danger to me if I suffer him to enjoy it . Now he can very plausibly make this certain danger or incertain , as shall best suit with his affaires : it is a broad liberty that Culpeper concedes . If I have no other way to assure my life , I may by any means repel any power that assaults it , though just ; self-defence being a clear dictate of nature ; when life and liberty and safety come in question , there ought no consideration to be had of just or unjust , pitiful or cruel , honourable or dishonourable . Now when the people have according to his desire got over the great obstacle , and digested the plot for pious , it is easy to set all future proceedings upon the score of liberty , safety , religion ; and if he be constrained to use means grosly unlawful , t is but to make them seem holy in the application , and all 's well ; for it is the humour and Genius of the vulgar , when they have once rushed into a party implicitely , to prosecute it as desperately as if they were under demonstrative convictons of its justice . He doth make a vertue of necessity , because there is no other verttue will so easily be induced to serve his proceedings as this ; she may well smile upon licentiousness , who hath her self no law . 19. Keep then your conscience tender , &c. I answer ; It is either science or opinion which you mean by the word conscience ; for men say that such and such a thing is true in and upon their conscience , which they never do , when they think it doubtful , and therefore they know or think they know it to be true ; but men , when they say things upon their conscience , are not therefore presumed certainly to know the truth of what they say ; it remaineth then that the word is used by them that have an opinion not onely of the truth of the thing , but also of their knowledge of it , to which the truth of the proposition is consequent : conscience I therefore say is the opinion of evidence , and the Devil never troubles the conscience , except he find the man either void of knowledge or of the fear of God . 20. Fly that self-murdering Tyrant , &c. I answer ; most Heresies have proceeded from mingling Philosophy with Religion ; from that , and obstinacy of Policy , have all the Papists errours risen : when Christ tels them , that flesh and bloud cannot inherit the kingdom of heaven . 21. All Religions but ours , &c. I answer ; Variety in any thing distracteth the mind , and leaves it waving in a dubious trouble : and then how easie it is to sway the mind to either side ? but among all the diversities that we meet with none trouble us more then those that are of Religion : t is rare to find two kingdoms one ; as if every nation had ( if not a God ) yet at least a way to God by it self , this stumbles the unsetled soul ; that not knowing which way to take without the danger oferring , sticks to none , so dies ere he does that for which he was made to live , the service of the true Almighty ; we are born as men set down in the midst of a wood , circled round with several voyces , calling us ; at first , we see not which will lead us the way out ; so divided in our selves , we sit still and follow none , remaining blind in a flat Atheism , which strikes deep at the foundation both of our own and the whole worlds happiness . T is true , if we let our dimmed understanding search in these varieties ( which yet is the onely means that we have in our selves to do it with ) we shall certainly lose our selves in their windings ; there being in every of them something to believe , above that reason that leads us to the search : Reason gives us the Anatomy of things , and illustrates with a great deal of plainness all the wayes that she goes , but her line is too short to reach the depth of Religion : Religion carries a confutation a long with it , & with an high hand of Soveraignty , awes the inquisitive tongue of nature , and when she would sometimes murmure privately , she will not let her speak : Reason like a milde Prince is content to shew his subjects the causes of his commands and rule ; Religion with a higher strain of Majesty , bids do it , without inquiring further then the bare Command ; which without doubt is a means of procuring mighty reverence : what we know not , we reverently admire ; what do know , is in a sort subject to the triumphs of the soul that hath discovered it . And this not knowing makes us not able to judge ; every one tels us , his own is the truest & there is none I think , but hath been seal'd with the bloud of some ; nor can I see , how we may more then probably prove any , they being all set in such heights , as they are not subject to the demonstrations of Reason ; and as we may easier say what a soul is not then what it is , so we may more easily disprove a Religion for false , then prove it for one that is true , there being in the world far more errors then truth ; yet is there besides another misery , near as great as this , and that is , that we cannot be our own chusers , but must take it upon trust , from others . Are we not oft , before we can discern the true , brought up and grounded in the false , sucking in heresie with our milk in childhood ? nay when we come to years of abler judgement , wherein the mind is grown up complete man , we examine not the soundness , but retain it meerly because our fathers taught it : what a lamentable weakness is this in man , that he should build his eternal welfare on the approbation of perhaps a weak and ignorant parent ? why do you neglect that wherein should be your greatest care ? 22. As it it manifest that most Princes , &c. I answer ; There are few which first fit that precept of trying all things , and taking the best : Assuredly though faith be above reason , yet there is a reason to be given for faith , he is a fool that believes he knows neither what , nor why : among all the diversities of Religions that the world holds , I think it may stand with most safety , that , which makes most for Gods glory , and mans quiet . I confess in all the Treatises of Religion that I ever saw , I find none that I would so soon follow as that of the Protestant Church of England , I never found so sound a foundation , so sure a direction for Religion : as the song of the Angels at the birth of Christ , Glory be to God on high ; There is the honour the reverent obedience , and the admiration , and the adoration , which we ought to give him : On earth Peace ; This is the effect of the former working in the hearts of men , whereby the world appears in his noblest beauty , being an entire chain of intermuted amity : And good will toward men ; this is Gods mercy to reconcile man to himself , after his fearfull desertion of his maker . Search all Religions the world through , and you shall find none that ascribes so much to God , nor that constitutes so firm a love among men as does the established doctrine of the Protestant Church among us , all other either detract from God , or infringe the peace of men . The Jews in their Talmud say , before God made this , he made many other worlds , and marr'd them again , to keep himself from idleness . The Turks in their Alcaron bring him in discoursing with the Angels , and they telling him of things which before he knew not , and after they made him swear by Mahomets Pen and lines , and by Figs and Olives . The Papists pourtray him as an old man , and by this means disdeifie him , derogating also from his Royalty by their odious interposing of Merit : and for the society of men , what bloudy tenents do they all hold ? as that he deserves not the name of Rabbi , that hates not his enemy to the death , that t is no sin to revenge injuries , that it is meritorious to kill an Heretick , with whom no faith is to be kept ; even to the un-glewing of the whole worlds frame , contexed onely by commerce and contracts : what abhorred barbarisms did Selymus leave in precept to his successor Solyman ? which though I am not certain they were ratified by their Mufties , I am sure , are practised by the inheritors of his Empire . 23. But if S. Peters pretended successor , &c. I answer ; In the Primitive Church of Rome , they were inferiour to Bishops , and were but seven in number , as Parsons of the seven Churches mentioned about Rome ; but how they came to place them before Bishops , and make of them Princes and successors to S. Peter , and Potentates , and how they become the Electors of the Papacy , I know not . In other Religions of the Heathens , what fond opinions have they held of their Gods , reviling with unseemly threats , when their affairs have thwarted them ? as if allowing them the name , they would conserve the Numen to themselves : in their Sacrifices , how butcherly cruel ? as if ( as t is said of them ) they thought by inhumanity , to appease the wrath of an offended Deity . The Religion which I profes , establisheth all in another strain : what makes more for Gods glory , what makes more for the mutual love of man , then the Gospel ? All our abilities of good we offer to God as the fountain from whence they stream ; can the day be light , and that light not come from the Sun ? can a clock go without a weight to move it , or a keeper to set it ? As for man , it teaches ro tread on Cotton , milds his wilder temper , and learns him in his patience to affect his enemies ; and for that which doth partake of both , it makes just God , a friend to unjust man , without being unjust either to himself or man ; sure , it could be no other then the invention of a Deity , to find out a way , how man that had made himself justly unhappy , should , with a full satisfaction to exactest justice , be made again most happy ; as in Heydons book of the way to bliss and happiness you may read : I would wish no man that is able to try , to take his Religion upon others words ; but once resolved in it t is dangerous to neglect where you know you do owe a service . 24. It is no less worth your , &c. I answer ; That the Religion of the Turks was composed of the Iewish religion , of the Christian , and of the Arrians ; and the policy thereof was to draw infinites of people to his subjection , that were uncertainly affected ; as in the Low-Countries they use diversities of Religions to strengthen their power : but this is a strange policy when God is neglected of man , man shall be contemned of God ; when man abridged God of his honour , God will shorten man of his happiness . It cannot but be best to give all to him , of whom whatsoever we have we hold . I believe it safest to take that Religion which most magnifies God , and makes most for the peaceable conversation of men ; for as we cannot ascribe too much to him , to whom we owe more then we can ascribe , so I think the most splendid estate of man , is that which comes nearest to his first creation , wherein all thing wrought together in the pleasant embracements of mutuall love and concord . 25. Religions do not naturally , &c. I answer ; men are often in arguing carried by the force of words further asunder than their question was at first , like two ships going out of the same haven , their journies end is many times whole countries distant ; the like may be said of the differences of religion . 26. Let no seeming opportunity prevail so far , &c. I answer ; Fortunetellers , as you ignorantly call them , are properly called Astrologers , and they know that man is the ball of times , that is , sometimes taken from the plow to the throne ; and sometimes again from the throne to a halter , as inchanters ple●se , besides Astrologers . But you are governed by a power that you cannot but obey , your mind is set against your mind to alter you : Eugenius Philalethes the Welsh Philosopher questions whether this be nature ordered and relinquisht , or whether it be accidental , or the eternal connexion of causes : I answer him it is neither , but the operating power of the starrs by Sepheroth exerting of the will of God ; fear nothing but God . 27. Stamp not the impress , &c. I answer ; there is a providence that ordereth all things as it pleaseth , of of which neither Astrologer , Geomancer nor Inchanter is able to render reason ; for it is a kind of mundane predestination , writ in such Characters , the late Kings death , and now others , are so written , as it is not for any but a Rosa crucian to read them ; in vain you murmur at the changes that must be . 28. Be not easily drawn to lay , &c. I answer ; the power of witches is nothing , for we are alwaies in the hands and under the power of a Noble Protector ; who never gives ill but to him that has deserved ill , whatsoever befalls you , you must subscribe to with a round Soul ; It were a super insaniated folly to strugle with a power , which you know is in vain contended with , if a fair endeavour may free you ; you must practise it , if that cannot wait with a calmed mind . Whatsoever happens as a wonder , you must admire and Magnifie ; as the Act of a power above your apprehension . But as it is an alteration to man , you must never think it marvelous , when every day a Reputed witch suffers more changes then is of her self to imagine . 29. Be not therefore hasty to , &c. I Answer ; Self examination will make your judgement , charitable . It is from where there is no judgement , that the heaviest judgement comes if you must needs censure , it is good to do it as Suetonius writes of the twelve Caesars ; tell both their vertues , and their vices unpartially : and leave the upshot to collection of the private mind , so shall you learn by hearing of the faults , to avoid them , and by knowing the vertuous practice the like , otherwise you should rather praise a man for a little good , then brand him for his more of ill , you are full of faults by nature , you are good not without care and industry . 30. As he offers an high indignity , &c. I Answer ; When God distinates a man to do good , he makes every opportunity and occasion ( though it seem never so harsh in mans eyes ) to turn to his good , and Gods glory : but when God leaves man to himself , he makes more opportunities than he finds , and without occasion to work his own ruine , to his own shame : 31. Let not the cheapness , &c. I Answer ; Let that great rule be received that no man can be necessitated to the sin of purchasing Church Lands , our divines generally damn an officious lye ; & the equity binds from any officious sin M. Heydon , speaking of the Romans and Spaniards saith , t is impossible to be ambitious without injury to the Gods ; Temples themselves are not exempted from the fury of conquering Tyrants , the sacriledges of the Romans were as numerous as their Trophies , yet their gods followed their triumphant Chariots . 32. Denounce no enmity , &c. I answer ; The Clergy is as full of changes as the Moon , for I cannot see one of them setled in a Church , but before I have heard four Sermons , his face I perceive is full of strange gestures , and his tongue of novelty . 33. Grudge not Tythes , &c. I answer ; The Minister of our Parish said to me touching conformity , that it would be a scandal for himself to conform , yet told me he would allow that his Son may do it ; as if he living a fool all his life , desired so to die ; and would you not grudge Tythes to such ? yet the labourer is worthy of his hire . 34. Yet I cannot but by the way , &c. I answer ; Let that eternal God which raised so brave a fabrick out of such indisposed materials ; that weilds the world with his finger ever since it was made ; that controuls the waves , and checks the tumults of the people of all Religions ; that sits above , and laughs at the malignant counsels and devices of wicked men : let his mercy be implored for the speedy succour of his distressed Church , that the rod of Aaron may blossom ; that the tabernacle of David may be raised ; that the subtle factious inventors of schisms may be caught in their own snare : and that the result of all afflictions may be the granting his glory , and exalting of his Scepter . 35. And here it may not improperly , &c. I Answer ; Let us mix our prayers , that God would forever banish those cursed devices of Cardinal Wolsey and others I dare not name , out of Europe and the Christian world ; and damn them down to hell , from whence originally by policy they came : and let such advisers as delight to abuse others , think of that self-cousenage , with which in the interim they abuse themselves , God permitting the devil to revenge the imposture ; and whilst we are busie with politick stratagems , subtle advices , and tortious Armes to invade the rights of others : let us all consider , that this is not the violence that takes Heaven . The Conclusion . 1. BEar alwayes a filial reverence , &c. I answer ; Honour your Father and Mother , and enjoy the promise of the Lord , and consider what a wise daughter saith , that a wise woman overseeth the wayes of her Husband , and eateth not the bread of idleness ; these advices are very naturally a mothers affectionate love to a child , therefore remember them . 2. Continue in love and amity with your Sister , &c. I answer ; I advice you to be so to your brother , and take his advice mixed with your Mothers , in the admission of a servant you please with their consent to accept as your Husband . 3. Let no time expunge his memory , &c. I answer ; Remember how much Mr. Culpeper and his Wife have done for you , and thank God for your happiness . 4. What you leave at your death , &c. I answer ; Make your will , so that there may be no strife in dividing your goods , chattels , lands or tenements ; for the Lawyers will do by you and them , as one did by a Cripple and a blind man , the one found an oyster , and the other took it up ; a Lawyer rides by , and they shewing him the cause , he opens the oyster and eats it , and gives them the shells : therefore be wise . 5. Be not solicitous after pomp , &c. I answer ; Let my burial be after the Protestant form , by a Minister of the same faith , without the burthen of a Tomb-stone , or any expence except a piece of earth opened as big as my body , made ready to receive it , that it may grow fit for etenal life , through the mercy and merits of Jesus Christ . 6. Neither can I apprehend such , &c. I answer ; Death is a sleep eternal , the bodies dissolution , the rich mans fear , the poor mans wish ; an event inevitable , an uncertain journey , a thief that steals away man , sleeps father , lifes fight , the departure of the living , and the resolution of all , who may not from such sights and thoughts as these , learn if he will , both humility and loftiness ; the one to vilifie the body , which must once perish in a stenchful nastiness ; the other to advance the soul , which lives here but for a higher and more heavenly ascension : As you should not care for too much indulgiating of the flesh , which you must one day yield to the worms , so you should ever be studious for such actions as may appear the issues of a noble and diviner soul . 7. And concerning a future account , &c. I answer , Let it be a piece of our daily oraisons , that God would guard our Pulpits from such Boutefeu's , as like Aetna and Vesuvius , belched forth nothing but flames and fiery discourses of the day of Judgement , using the Scriptures as preposterously and impertinently as some Pontificians , who transported with the vehemence of Hildebrand's zeal , think the temporal Monarchy of Popes sufficiently Scriptural , from the saying of Christ to Peter , Feed my sheep : far be it from us , to intitle the Spirit of God to exorbitant doctrines . It is easie to distinguish the Vulture from the Dove ; the miscarriages of the Clergy have a deeper stain from the sacredness of their function , as probably he that invenomed the Eutcharist , has the more to answer for his a riple Crown . It is manifest that we ●re fallen into the dregs of time ; we ●ive in the rust of the iron age , and must expect to feel , ultima senescentis mundi delivia , the dotages of a decrepit world . What is become of truth , sincerity , charity , humility , those antiqui mores ? whither are they gone ? did they attend Astrea into heaven , and have left such dangerous successours , as cruelty , pride , fraud , envy , oppression , &c. 8. To conclude Let us , &c. I answer to pray to the Lord with lips for any corporal benefit , and yet to have the heart fixed in confidence of any natural means is a kind of spiritual adultery . And I have seen a good beginning often end ill , sin in the bud is fair , sweet , pleasing : but the fruit is death horror hell , something you must respect in your way , most in your conclusion in the one to prevent all wilful errors , in the other , to insure a crown , for as judgment hath relation to the manner of dying , so hath death dependance on the course of living , yet the good end hath no bad beginning ; it once had a good consequence makes the premises so esteemed of , and a sweet rellish at the leaving off , makes the draught delightful , that at the first did taste unpleasant ; that is well that ends well , and better is a bad beginning that concludes well , then a prosperous on set that ends in complaint : what if your beginning hath been ill ? sorrows overblown , are pleasant ; that which hath been hard to suffer is sweet to remember , I care not much what my youthful beginning hath been , my end is drawing on , and age bids adieu to the follies of youth , so my end will be happy ; if my Sun set in the New Ierusalem , I have lived well , however afflictions have sometimes clouded my course . Thus sixteen dayes hath left you furnished ( dear Daughter ) an answer to the Advice to a Son , which was printed five times before I saw it ; And I hope , I have answered the expectation of the Reader . Against the second Impression I will make an Addition , and by that time his old rusty Sword will be new furbished and ready to give me a breathing ; but I am alwayes provided of such as these . Let him wisely be silent , and sleep securely . Now you are taught to Live , ther 's nothing I Esteem worth learning , but the way to Die . I answer . He that knowes how to live , say I , Will easily learn the way to Die . The End . AN INDEX , Of the Particulars Contained , IN THE Advice to a Son , Opposed in this Advice to a Daughter . 1 Studies , &c. 1. FRee-schooles . 2. Universities . 3. Meer scholars . 4. More free education . 5. Collegiat discipline . 6. Physick 7. Probable Learning and Mathematicks . 8. Volumes . 9. Old and Modern Authors . 10. Histories . 11. Choice books , negotiations , &c. 12. Converse . 13. Pedants . 14. Reading , &c. 15. Strong lines . 16. Exercise . 17. of Style . 18. Letters . 19. Sordid phrases . 20. Writers 21. Poetry . 22. Musick , 23. Clothes . 24. Buying . 25. Horses . 26. Riding . 27. Wrestling , Vaulting , Fencing 28. Swimming . 29. Hunting , Hawking . 30. Suretiship . 31. Publick faith . 32. Bargaining . 33. Implicit judging . 34. Pride . 35. Superciliousness . 36. To Whisper . 37. Gesture in speaking . 38. Boldness . 39. Covetousness . 40. Servants . 41. Rising out of bed . 42. Eating , &c. 43. Drunkenness , Constables . 44. Vile Plots . 45. Company . 46. Ieering . 47 , 48. Proverbs , Injuries , fighting Duels . 49. Insultings . 50. Ordinaries . 51. Dogs , Boyes , Whores . 52. Secrecy . 53. Boasting of 54. The favours of women . 55. Married . 56. Great Ladies at . 57. Maskes played . II Love and Marriage . 1. THe nature and effects of love . 2. Upon youth tempting it . 3. To Marry . 4. Unhappily for beauty . 5. Without mony and . 6. To swallow the fatal bait . 7. Not answering expectation . 8. Marry not a famed Beauty . 9. Laws concerning Marriage somewhat strict . 10. Though perhaps for the publick benefit . 11. The result of Policy . 12. Restraint troublesome . 13. Fruition tedious . 14. Wives , Lust , Iealousy . 15. Discomforts from Children . 16. And other wedlock Conveniencies . 17. Best palliated by an estate . 18. Portion Ioynture . 19 , 20. The unhappiness of poor Marriage . 21. As well as those too high . 22. Travel to avoid danger from . 23. A handsome woman . 24. Fond love an ill Counsellor . 25. Children how much to be desired . III Travell . 1. THe consequences Good and bad of Travel : 2. With an Embassador . — 3. As a Merchant . — 4. In case of War whither . — 5. Direction about performing Divine Duties . — 6. Declining disputes of Religion . — 7. Regulating zeal . 8. Vindicating customes . 9. Comparisons . 10. Censuring fashions , Authors English , 11. The inquisition prohibited books . 12. The Eucharist . 13. Crucifixes . 14. Forraign Churches . 15. Scoffers at their own Religion . 16. English in orders . 17. Or otherwise the worst Companions . 18. Injuries . 19. Gaming . 20. Womens favours . 21. Impatient desires : charmes of wenches in love . 22. Italian lasts . 23. Gifts . 24. Many removes . 25. Inns , new acquaintance servants . 26. Experience , Languages . 27. Mahumetan in civility . 28. Plantations . IV Government . 1. CHange , Commotions , tumults . 2. Ambitious Incendiaries . 3. A war for Religion oppression . 4. Submit to wicked powers . 5. Weariness and fidelity . 6. Submission to . 7. Recognition of present powers . 8. the Original of Dominion . &c. 9. Titles of honour . 10. Mean birth . 11. Obligation to Governours what . 12. To a Prince , to a free state siding . 13. Enemies reconciled ' Trust not ingratitude . 14. Courtesies promises . 15. Counsel , &c. 16. Not to nonplus a Prince . 17. Secretaries . 18. Intelligences . in formers , Minions . 19. serving wicked masters . 20. Observance . 21. Friendship . 22. Dependency . 23. Writing things dangerous . 24. Revealing princes secrets . 25. Forraign Interests . 26. Not to trouble you . 27. Monarchies and repub. compared for their preferments and dangers . 28. Oratory 29. One profession as the Law a full employment . 29. Not to defame in pleading . 31. To speak last , &c. 32. Debates in Counsells . 33. To imitate more then one . 34. Frailties attend the greatest Persons . 35. No perfection here . 36. Success to be ascribed to providence . 37. Directions to all Magitrates about preferments . 38. Punishments . 39. The souldiery . 40. The Clergy . V Religion . 1. THe Bible , Church expositors &c. 2. Audacious interpreters to be restrained . 3. universal consent . 4. Profession . 5. Hypocrisy , Scandal . 6. Criticisms , schoole divinity . 7. Controversies . 8. Socinians . 9. Popery . 10. Purgatory , &c. 11. The reformation . 12. Works , profession faith . 13. Millenaries . 14. Schismaticks . 15. Levellers . 16. The present wild Errors . 17. Tend to Anarchy , Moses , Mahumet . 18. Zeale in excess . 19. Tender consciences . 20. Obstinacy of Hereticks . 21. Idolatry , Ceremony , Conformity . 22. Courtiers and common peoples Religion . 23. Reason , the Scripture , belief , Antiquity , Revelation , &c. 24. Honesty of Indians . 25. Difference of Religion ; good Conscience . 26. Fortune-tellers Hope and fear . 27. Divine vengeance . 28. Witch craft . 29. Rash Censures , charity . 30. Impiety , improbity , injustice . 31. Purchase of Church-Lands . 32. Enmity to the Clergy , Religion established , new lights . 33. Tithes . 34. wisdom of Moses . 35. Cardinal Wolseyes folly . The Conclusion . CArriage towards your Mother . 2 Sister . 3. Dr. Culpeper , 4. Your last will . 5. My burial . 6. Death . 7 Iudgement . 8. Close of all . THE END .