REV. JOSEPH MANTON, C.SS.R. The Bridge to Better Living . Nine addresses delivered on the Catholic Hour from January 3, 1954 through February 28, 1954 by the Rev. Joseph Manton, C.SS.R. The program is produced by the Natiollal Council of Catholic Men in cooperation with the National Broadcasting Company. BY REV. JOSEPH MANTON, C.SS.R. First Edition 5,000 April 19, 1954 National Council of Catholic Men 1312 Massachusetts Avenue, N. W. Washington 5, D. C. Printed and distributed by Our Sunday Visitor Huntinlrton, Indiana ~1 Nihi l Obstat : REV. EDWA RD A. MILLER Censor Librorum I mprimatur: + JO HN FRANCIS NOLL, D.D. Bishop of Fort Wayne · 1)eacldtfte TABLE OF CONTENTS In A Glass, Darkly 5 Highway To Heaven 9 The Lock In Wedlock .......... ........... .. ........ ........................... .......................... 14 January Inventory ....... .................................................... ............ ........ ............. 19 Queen Of The Commonplace ............................. ......... .................................. 23 No Strange Gods .......................................................................... .................. 27 A Perplexed Patron ..... ...... ............ .................. ...... ..... ............. ..................... 31 Keep The Door Open ......... ............................. ........ ...................................... 35 ' Outstretched Hands ....... .... .. ...................... .................. ................................... 40 I N A GLASS, DARKLY Address Delivered on January 3, 1954 Up our way the windows of the department stores are al- ready draped with the radiant white of the Annual Linen Sale like an indoor January snow- storm. This is a surer sign than the last burning, crackling Christmas Tree that the holi- days are really over. The point of this post-holiday homily is to remark and regret that for some people (and for more ' this year than last because it is in- creasing all the time)-for some people the holidays went down with one stupendous gurgle, almost like a sinking ship, only with them it wasn't water-unless you want to call it fire-water. Preceding the festive season (for these people it isn't the Holy Season, but just the holly season) magazine ads glow like a lit-up juke box with techni- color testimony to the convivial warmth of bottles blazing with the heraldry of red roses, gold- en crowns, white feathers. Nothing is ever said there (though I think something should be said here) of the thorns that may lurk under the roses, the hang-over headaches that can gr'oan under too many crowns, and the cowardice that sometimes shows behind the white feather. But-and let us make this distinction at once and put it in . sharp italics. What is wrong is not the use of liquor, but the abuse. You have only to look at that vivid vignette in the Gos- pels where the Saviour Himself in the midst of the wedding banquet changed water into wine, to realize that the normal, moderate, temperate use of al- coholic beverages is perfectly all right. But you have only to look at the increasing, intemperate, immoderate, abnormal con- sumption of liquor to know that is all wrong. Orators sometimes appeal to "sober statistics." That is not exactly the word here, Qut there are few people (except perhaps those that get stiff at bars or silly at parties) who would not concede that he~vy drinking is coming on with staggering strides. It is true that perhaps a priest does not get a balanced view. It is true he sees so much of the sickening effects of the abuse of drink in his parish rounds (be- cause these are the families he has to visit and help) that he doesn't get a fair picture. But he cannot forget what he has seen-and this is the point- and is seeing more often now than ever before. It is the im- pression in this corner (because I cannot of course speak for other priests) that if a man 6 BRIDGE TO BETTER LIVING wants to dig his grave financial- hulk of a man. I'm ashamed to ly, or physically, or morally, he tell you his nationality. He had could not choose a better tool · six of the most beautiful child- than a corkscrew. Sometimes on a lovely Sun- day afternoon, traffic will jam up at some avenue entering the city. Policemen will tell you, sometimes profanely, that "This congested bridge" or "That nar- row street"-is the whole trouble. It's the bottle-neck! In the same way, when you find a home where the children are in tatters, and the mother is a broken-hearted martyr, and the home itself like a tiny suburb of hell-trace back the cause, and you will find it too is a bottle-neck. A brown bottle- neck! Take the man, if you can call him that, who presides over such a home. Respectability, re- sponsibility, integrity, even se- curity-what do they mean to him? Put them all in one scale of the balance, and in the other put a whiskey bottle. Does any- one doubt which one he will dive for, almost die for? Be- cause he is half-sponge and half-jellyfish. These are not just abusive words flung out like tracer-bullets. I think that in zoology there is a close relation between a sponge and a jelly- fish. I know that in life a drunkard is a sponge when it comes to absorbing liquor, but a jellyfish without backbone when it comes to saying "No." Twenty years ago in another city I knew a fine handsome ren I have ever seen. And many an evening they cowered in the doorway of a neighboring tene- ment, as Daddy came swagger- ing up the stoop wildly drunk, shouting out that he had just seen two antelopes with yo-yo's. Yes, they were afraid of him, but most of all they were ashamed. And shame in the heart of a child burns like a hot coal. He lost his job, because it is quite a trick to hold a bottle and ' a job at once. He began to throw things about at home, and was sent to jail for thirty days. I visited him there, brought him cigarettes, helped get him out for Christmas. I'll never for- get that Christmas Eve after- noon. We had got a tree for the family, and gifts for the child- ren from a Welfare Society, and there he crouched, trimming the tree, the children around him, the first snow sifting down out- side like a lace curtain. It was like a storybook. I went back to Church to hear confessions with bells ringing in my heart-And I found out that just one half- hour later, he clapped on his hat, walked out to the nearest tavern, and was carried in dead drunk late that night! Is there any moral to it? I don't know. Sometimes I think such a man would be better dead than just dead drunk. Sometimes I think it has gone so far that only a miracle in re- IN A GLASS, DARKLY 7 verse-Our Blessed Lord chang- ing the wine into water-could do any good. But at least we can warn the perhaps unsus- pecting young. Maybe I look very simple, but you would be surprised how often a girl will come up and tentatively begin to tell me all about her boy- friend . . . how handsome he is and how courteous and how ambitious and how clever, and maybe that he has wavy hair and three dimples. And then it comes out. It seems he has only one fault. Every six or eight weeks he drinks far too much. But the girl hurries on to say, "But, Father, this shouldn't pre- vent our marriage, should it? After all, only once every two months-I could put up with that. I should marry him, shouldn't I?" And her eyelashes go up like an awning in expec- tation. I don't think she gets the answer she wants. My answer is, "Girl, for your own sake, for your whole life's sake, for your future family's sake, for God's sake-don't risk marrying a sponge! If you throw a wedding ring into a puddle, it won't dry up the puddle. The ring will be lost and stained on the bottom!" Aside from the personal un- happiness that often pops out with the cork, consider the abuse of liquor, and Sin. There are critics of English literature who think that our language has no lovelier lines than those used by the poet (Crashaw, I think) to describe the very miracle of the changing of the water into wine at Cana. He says, "The modest water saw its God, and blushed"-blushed into crimson wine. And well might the wine blush red! Red for all the future abuse of liquor! Red for the red and purple-veined noses of ' drunkards which burn (if it be not blasphemous to say so) like sanctuary lights before their God, because of such St. Paul says, "Their god is their belly." Red for the red ink of bills and debts piled up in the drunkard's home. Red for the red blood spilled in bar-room brawls- and there is no more pathetic sight on this old earth than a human being lying there, per- haps dying there, in a drunken stupor, his glassy eyes staring upward like the eyes of a dead fish . The wine blushed red. Red for the red traffic lights through which heavy-drinking drivers heedlessly speed. Red for the red tail-lights when they come to a stop in a lonely lane. When they drive, they are a menace to life and limb; and when they park, they are a menace to mor- ality. Red for the red blushes of the young girl who first finds out that it is not "Wine, woman and song"-but wine, woman and wrong! Don't ' these girls realize that alcohol blurs the brain like a fog, unleashes pas- sions like a wild beast, snaps will-power like a toothpick? And that in some circumstances a little liquor is too much! Otherwise why is it that later on when people bring their sad 8 . BRIDGE TO BETTER LIVING story to a rectory parlor they so often end, "That's all, Fa- ther, except--€xcept it never would have happened, if I had- n't been drinking." With God or His Church there is no double standard, but even more r evolting than a man "un- der the influence" as the kind- ly phrase has it, is a tipsy, maudlin woman. I can imagine a type of man who might want to pass an ev ening with a paint- ed, fragile toy of a girl who could lift cocktail after cock- tail with him, and who might even be a switch drinker-that is when her right arm got tired she turned to the left. But I can't imagine any man choosing, such a creature to be the Queen of his h ome, and the mother of h is children. Can you imagine a grandfather with curling white mustachio's d andling his great- grandson on his knee and say- ing, "W'hy sure I knew your great-grandmother when she was a young lady! What did she look like? Oh, I can see her now. The gold in h er hair, the stars in her eyes, the roses in her cheeks, the bottle at her lips-and the words coming out mumbling and stumbling as she sat there on the sofa loaded with giggle- water!" You may faintly smile, but it is never a joke when a woman's drinking hurt::. her home. Not too long ago I gave a Novena, and there was a Petition Box, and one of the petitions was scrawled in the wide looping hand of a boy-you know, they get about two words to the line -and the note said, " Dear Fa- ther, I am a boy and I would like you to pray for my mother, as she drinks a lot. I am making t his Novena for her. She is a good mother when she does not drink, and us children need her. Hoping this Novena will change her. Hoping it will." And with all the simplicity of a boy, he signed his name. I checked up quietly in the parish school, and sure enough, there was such a boy. Seventh Grade. Isn't that sermon enough? I pray Our Blessed Lord, through the powerful intercession of His Mother who saw them push a sponge of vinegar into His Holy Face, on the cross and He took it in reparation for the abuse of drink-oh, if there is anyone out there who is abusing drink, give him the grace to cut it down, or if necessary, to cut it out! Hoping She will change him-hoping She will! God bless you! HIGHWAY TO HEAVEN Address Delivered on January 10, 1954 Since last we met over the a ir , the Chur ch celebrated a feas t which, come to think of it, I have never heard a Catholic layman m ention-the Feast of Epiphan y. Mostly it is called the F e ast of the Three K ings, and at any Christmas Crib last week these colorful gentlemen had dismounted and parked their picturesque camels close by. This little talk is not going to be about either the camels or the kin gs , ex cept that on Epip- h any night I was t hinking about camels as means of transporta- tion. And I tell you these long- legged , swaying beasts, loping rhythmically, padding silently across the desert , seemed to have their points. You see, from ten at night till six in the morning the thor- oughfare that runs in front of our rectory is Big Truck Boule- vard. And that night they were whizzing by so steadily, boom- ing so heavily under the win- dow I couldn't get to sleep. Of course no preacher should ever get insomnia: all he has to do is get up and read some of his old sermons. But for this I was too lazy, and since it was impos- sible to quiet the trucks and un- christian to curse them, I just lay there thinking about them, and the first thing you know it seemed they were preaching a sermon to me! H ere they were, cargo camels twentieth century style, these t r ucks, huge b attleships of the r oad, gr ey or green or brilliant red, outlined w ith amber bulbs, rumbling along with all sorts of lo ad s, milk or oil or furniture; pair after pair of headlights like shining yellow eyes, zooming on through the night with a sullen roar, riding eventually into the pink dawn, then with a change of riders, highballing along other highways under blue skies and into a far-off flamin g sunset . . . I guess if you look hard enough you can see adventure and romance even in hubcap s and grease. Curious thing, though, about a truck: The bigger part of it (almost like in a human being) they call the body. But the other part, the more important p art, is the cab. Almost like the soul. Because there, in the cab, is what' you might call its prin- ciple of life, the motor-what makes the truck go, and with- out which the truck would be as motionless as a corpse. And in that cab turns your steering wheel, like free will. You can drive right, drive left, even drive off the road-but you take the consequences. Isn't 10 BRIDGE TO BETTER LIVING that what free will means? And right beyond the steering wheel glows the speedometer, just as plain as conscience itself, regis- tering, reminding you when you are overstepping bounds. When a truck starts to climb a hill it seems almost human the way it grinds and grunts and inches slowly up, like a man with bent head and drooping shoulders plodding up the slope of trouble. "For the heart of a man is a heavy load for a man to bear alone." But how simple and easy it is for truck or man to go roaring downhill! It may take a man sixty years to become a saint, but he can land at the bottom of Skid Row in only six months. It all depends on who is in control, the soul or the body. Put the truck on as high a hill as you like. Then, up in the cab, shut off the motor and release the brake. The body of the truck, always eager to throw its weight around, will exert its pressure and force the whole vehicle down, faster and faster. It is no different in a man's moral life. The body, left to itself and all brakes off, has a natural inclination to go down- hill; and if you let it, the end must be a wild careening ride and a shattered moral wreck. Nobody knows this better than the fellow who thought he knew how far he could go, how far he could let his emotions and de- sires coast along before it would be really dangerous and out of control. Just let passion get rolling a little bit, and it picks up fearful momentum. And the only . sure way of stopping it is never to let it get started. You are not a beast; you are a man; and the control should be in the cab, in the human soul with its conscience and its will-power and its moral code. Oh the pity of it that when you counsel modesty and purity to young people they think these are the steel bars of a jail shutting them off from happiness. They may be steel bars, all right, but they are the steel handrails on a bridge, that perilous bridge that swings between youth and maturity, and only those know how necessary they are who have fallen off and lie at the bottom, bruised and broken. Or, to get back to trucks, aren't some trucks simply marked "In- flammable"? Most trucking jobs are long hauls over the highway toward the horizon, and you could hardly get a better picture, a sharper modern parable of a man journeying toward eter- nity than the driver in the cab of his truck as he rolls along the grey stretch of road toward his far-off, unseen destination. The little sign on the windshield says, "No Riders," and in the cab of his own soul every man rides alone. You and nobody else has the responsibility for you. And every driver has basically the same obligation. It doesn't matter what kind of cargo the truck is carrying, HIGHWAY TO HEAVEN 11 whether it is Christmas trees or brand new cars-the idea is al- ways to get to your destination and bring what they expect. Isn't it the same way on the highway of life? Whether you are the conductor of a subway car or the conductor of a symphony orchestra, the whole idea is so to do your work, so to live your life that you will be doing what God wants and eventually reach your journey's end, Heaven. Ask the average truck driver what are his thoughts as he sits behind the wheel, and you find the one constant overpowering thought is just to get where he is going. What he passes along the way is of very minor con- sideration. Enchanting scen- ery, eye-catching bill-boards, famous landmarks - these he goes wheeling past with hardly a glance. They are on his route, but he is on his way! His eyes are focused on the road, his thoughts fixed on the goal. All the rest is trivial. The orily thing that matters is reach the right address and deliver the goods, intact and unspoiled. Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could be like that in our lives, passing through this world but making our main concern the end of it all, God and Heaven and Salvation? All right then, by the same yardstick wouldn't we be pitifully foolish to let something along the road so dis- tract us, take up our attention, fascinate us - something like money or sex or hate or ambi- tion or any mere creature--so that before we know it, our eyes have wandered off the road, and maybe at that very moment we go hurtling off the sharp wild curve of sudden death into the wrong eternity? Sometimes for a truck-driver, danger leaps up from the very opposite source. I mean he is looking at the road so long and so steadily that after a while he doesn't really see the road. They call it highway hypnosis. Here's a competent driver with a good night's sleep behind him on an open highway with a perfect view and no mechanical trouble, and he suddenly goes crashing off the road to disaster. The best explanation seems to be that the grey monotony of the road lulled him, hypnotized him, dJ;ugged him into a, kind of trance, and before he knew it, the wheel loosened in his grip- just for a couple of moments- and he went roaring to destruc- tion. It's sad, but aren't there plenty of people like that spir- itually? Year after year they stolidly, languidly follow the road of life, hardly realizing what it is all about. Day in, day out they drift along the same dull round of duties, auto- matically, mechanically, almost in a daze. Their eyes are blank, their soul is numb, their heart is wooden, their spirit dried-up, dead. Theirs? This is a danger 12 BRIDGE TO BETTER LIVING to any of us! From time to time we all have to stir ourselves, rouse ourselves, make ourselves sharply aware that we are on the road to eternity, that we carry a precious cargo (our very salvation), and that there are dangers all about us! Re- mind ourselves that life is more than typing letters or driving nails or cooking meals or fill- ing gas tanks! We are the chil- dren of God, on the way home to Our Father who is in Heaven -and all these material things are but as steps on the stairs as we go up to Him! Life is a prosaic boring journey only to those that forget God is the goal! And, like the truck-drivers, we had better take no chances along the way. It may surprise you to know that the most cau- tious of all drivers (except per- haps the men who pilot the school-bus) are the broad- shouldered boys behind the big steering-wheel of a truck. Haven't you ever noticed, for example, how on a dark after- noon or a foggy morning a truck will drone along all lit up like a theatre marquee? They take no chances. Haven't you often heard how a truck-driver who feels himself growing drowsy will immediately pull over to the side of the road for a few minutes of exercise or even sleep? They take no chances. If it is a question of a risky road, or a longer road, they un': hesitatingly swing off on the longer. They take no chances. Certain roads they have to keep off altogether: "Trucks Not Allowed." And it might be well for us if mentally we pictured certain books or plays or places as marked with the warning sign. "Decent People Not Allowed." The trucks are for- bidden because with their ton- nage they would ruin certain thoroughfares. We ought to keep off the dirt roads of litera- ture and entertainment because they can ruin us-or at least spatter us with mire, or in some moral mud-hole bog us down. I have . heard from salesmen who drive long hours to cover their broad territories that truck-drivers are not only the most careful drivers on the road, but also · the most courteous and considerate. Many a motorist broken down in the middle of nowhere with nothing but bleak miles of highway stretching away on either side, has found in the truck-driver a huge grimey angel who somehow got him started again. When you are lost, a truck driver really seems willing to show you the way. When bright beams meet on a midnight road, the truck (which could play the roll of bully) as a rule is the first to click the switch and dim the lights. And, if there is any danger ahead or any trouble (even if the trouble is a state trooper!) the truck will always blink you a warning. IDGHWAY TO HEAVEN 13 Isn't it all a heart-warming, practical, modern example of kindness to our neighbor as we move along the road of life, and meet opportunities every day? Doesn't it accent the fact that in this breathless age we have plenty of intellectual brilliance and industrial genius and ex- ecutive skill-only the men tend to become like their own machines, polished, efficient, impersonal as steel, without heart or soul. We have too many clever people; what we n eed are kind people, good peo- ple. And the truck driver is the modern Good Samaritan of the road! So we close as we began. We turn from the trucks to the camels, with the thought that times have changed. The Three Wise Men who rode them were drawn to Christ by the splen- dor of a Star, like converts at- tracted by the sparkling genius of some priest, but nowadays most converts are first drawn to religion by the simple kindness of some human heart on fire with the love of God and ra- diating that warmth among men. God bless you! THE 'LOCK IN WEDLOCK Address Delivered on January 17, 1954 In tiny mission chapel and towering metropolitan cathe- dral this Sunday morning, Cath- olic priests have been reading the Gospel where our Lord goes to a wedding. I don't remember reading that He ever went to a divorce. In fact some of His statements, like "two in one flesh" and "let no man put asun- der" give you the impression that in wedlock He put the accent strongly on the lock. Late confirmation of the wis- dom of this comes from the most unexpected of sources, Maybe you too have read how Russia has done a neat, click- ing, right-about-face in this matter of easy divorces. And maybe you remember when in Russia all you needed for a di- vorce was a wife and a post- card. Now in the Soviet Union it is as hard to get a divorce as it is to get a deep-freeze. Be- cause it has slowly dawned on the dull bureaucratic mind that a nation is made up of families the way a wall is made up of bricks, and if the bricks begin to break up, your wall is about as solid and cohesive as a jig- saw puzzle. Yet while godless and back- ward Russia begins to tighten the bolts on shaky marriages, some bright strong American minds continue to think it lib- eral and progressive to give away easy divorces like Super- man badges, so that America can become the undisputed champion in the league of the broken home. I use the general term broken home because you . have to remember that for every official divorce there is probably an equal number of s epa rat ion s and desertions. These cases do not go down in the books as divorce cases, but they cut just as deeply into hu- m an h earts as tragedies. Un- happiness doesn't have to be official. The worst of it is that the weather report for tomor- row's marriages is stormier than today's. At least the joy- less experts who make a study of statistics, and then shinny out on a limb waving their pre- dictions, are morbidly confident that in fifty years, one marriage out of every two will be popping out of the toaster a charred and ruined rej ect. By that time America will r eally be "the land of the free ." But let the twenty-first century pick up its own pieces. Why is it that even now the bridal gown is so often changed for the divorce suit? According to the records it seems most bad marriages drift on the rocks THE LOCK IN WEDLOCK 15 when they have just about cleared the harbor; that is, in the third, fourth, and fifth year. You might expect the cause to be anything from in-laws to sex, but if you listen to the young casualties themselves, they will tell you most often that they were disappointed with mar- riage, disillusioned. Marriage was not the mirage that their flushed and feverish early love had painted so hopefully on the horizon. In those days they had wondered how they could ever have lived in those wasted days before they had known each other . . . before this wonder- ful, splendid, utterly darling creature had suddenly given a new meaning to life, and made the world glorious and vibrant overnight, and existence itself a joy, and even pouring rain a pleasure if they were walking through it together, and a long wearisome trainride w 0 r t h every boring minute of it if the beloved was waiting at the other end. But almost before the pelted rice is out of the hair and the star-dust out of the eyes, each begins to see that the angel married, has some very peculiar angles. The cover girl is never the same glamorous creature in the rest of the book. There are plenty of dull chap- ters, plenty of irritating foot- notes, and plenty of unexpected pictures of kimono and curlers shuffling round a breakfast table. On the other hand, Prince Charming is never quite the courtly personage he was when he was courting. Quite possibly he leaves a trail of ashes, clothes and faults all over the house. So what? Isn't all this the history of practically . every marriage that ever walk- ed down the magnificent aisle of organ music and orange blos- soms out into the hard, cold, shocking world of reality? But in former days they must have had the maturity to face it. Maybe now it is Momism that doesn't let the American boy grow up on his own, hard- ened, self-reliant, and prepared for set-backs. Maybe with the girl it is the foolish romances, as sweet and unsubstantial as cotton candy, in movies and magazines that makes the future bride imagine even a mop in technicolor. Does it take so much maturity to realize that marriage, like the year, has its own different seasons, and it cannot always be spring? But for those who have the common sense to see this, the wisdom to accept it, the courage to face it, the loyalty to see it through ... there are joys and rewards and compensations in every season of married life! Of course mar- ried life presumes love. And love means simply that you think so much of the other per- son that self is always second. In life together, once self swag- gers into the picture, from either side, romance becomes rivalry and the soft voice learns to hiss. They often forget that 16 BRIDGE TO BETTER LIVING before you can love anyone deeply, you have to know that person deeply. That is why a swift, whirlwind courtship of- ten ends like a whirlwind . . . with the ruin of two lives and · the wreckage of a young home in its impetuous wake. If court- ship were merely a physical affair, like kissing and petting, then almost any young man might marry any young girl, each convinced that this would be a good deal and a grand game. But the whole purpose of courtship is not to know the other party physically, but to know the other person men- tally and temperamentally, to see if your individual traits of character your likes and dis- likes will orchestrate together without too many jangling dis- cords. The more prudent you are in keeping company before marriage the less chance you take of parting company after marriage. And if you do not spend about a year sizing up your beloved's faults and vir- tues and moods and disposition, the cold figures of case histor- ies imply you are not likely to spend many years united in marriage. How about finances and mar- riage, or matrimony and the matter of money? They have made a study of that question too, and it seems that most authorities agree that the hus- band's income has nothing to do with the happiness of the marriage. Whether the man of the house is a laborer or a law- yer, whether he goes to work in overalls toting a dinner pail, or in a pin-striped business suit jauntily swinging a brief case, these circumstances are only like the picture frame, some- times plain, sometimes gilded, and have nothing to do with the inner picture, the marriage it- self. I like that finding; it scores heavily for real love. In fact the only exception is that: when times are more prosper- ous, divorces are more numer- ous. I guess hard knocks tend to hammer people together, while the soft breeze of luxury is apt to blow them apart. But if insurance could be taken out against the break-up of a home, do you know which home would be the poorest risk and therefore would have to pay the highest premium? The home in which for some years the husband and wife each morning leave the house to- gether for their respective busi- nesses. Granted that there are exceptional cas e s, normally when the wife works she is in danger of undermining her marriage by three separate tun- nels. First, the working wife comes flouncing home flourish- ing her own pay-check, always a silent threatening weapon of independence, whereas if she would do her work for him at home, and he at his job for her, they would grow like two branches on one bough, bound by interdependence. Secondly, THE LOCK IN WEDLOCK 17 if all day long she mingle with other men in the business world, she may glide into dan- gerous friendships, especially if the sea is running a little rough in her own domestic world. And thirdly, she will be channelling the major portion of her time and energy outside, so that only a slender trickle will dribble into the home. Can anyone doubt that such a home is sure to suffer ... in its care, its im- portance, its very spirit? Naturally-or unnaturally!- if there are no children, there may not be much home to take care of. For that reason a min- iature empty cradle ought to be the class-pin of the divorced, because the chances are ten to one that if the married couple multiply (that is, beget off- spring) they will not divide (that is get a divorce.) Curious thing about children: they may tear a house apart, but some- how they keep together a home. May I say here in a sympa- thetic parenthesis that in those marriages where God in His wisdom withholds the gift of children, He generally compen- sates by giving husband and wife an even greater mutual love. And such a wife in many ways is God's gift to a parish, because without her (who can give to parish projects her leis- ure and her enthusiasm,) where would many of our par- ish activities be? Some divorcees ought to wear as their class-pin the yellow triangle. Yellow because of be- ing a traitor to their marriage vows; triangle because the tri- angle (for example the hus- band, the wife, the other wo-· man) is the arch-enemy of the family circle. Is it any wonder that one survey claimed that the real cause for most divorces during the war years and im- mediately after was adultery? But then you cannot argue with lust; you cannot even plead with it. All you can do is pity it and pray for it. At the moment, the most monumental mockery · in the English language are those five monosyllables, "Till Death do us part." By the way I saw Death a couple of weeks ago. He wore a double-breasted grey suit, clipped grey mustache, thinning grey hair, and eye-glasses. He was getting into a cab and he had just thrown away a cigar. I have the solemn word of at least a hundred people that he was Death, because they had vowed to be husband and wife "till Death do us part." Well, he parted them-in a court- room. He must be Death. He, this judge-;--is this Death? Not as God meant it, in raising marriage to the dignity of a Sacrament. Not as Nature meant it, because the baby looking up so helplessly from its crib, the boy at school, the youth in adolescence, yes and the wife who walked down her 18 BRIDGE TO BETTER LIVING wedding aisle longing to be loved forever-even after she had given her youth and beauty to the bearing and raising of these children-she as well as they needs someone to cherish her and leave her never! In any marriage there will be flaws and faults, on both sides. And if love is blind,-it should not have the cataracts removed right after the wedding. It must learn to overlook and to under- stand; to readjust and to com- promise; to realize that the marriage ceremony is a con- tract: from then on the job be- gins, and like any job, entails hard work, changes, disappoint- ment, courage. Above all, it is a contract for life, because if ' either party keeps open a back door of escape, divorce, then when things get rugged, the temptation will be to slip through that exit, give up the job, and skip off. Nail that door of divorce shut! This is the post you have sworn to hold till death, and if you pray, Our Lord Himself, even if it takes another miracle as at the marriage of Cana, will turn your tears into the wine of joy. God bless you , JANUARY INVENTORY Address delivered on January 24, 1954 Spiritually our time has been called the Age of Novenas. Every priest wishes to Heaven it were known as the Age of the Mass. Between a Novena ser- vice and the Sacrifice of the Mass there is no more compari- son than between a devotional vigil light flickering away at a shrine, and the great crimson sanctuary lamp blazing forth the Presence of God at the Main Altar. But people like Novenas, partly I think because they par- ticipate more actively in the service, and partly because they are praying for some particular personal intention. This is not bad; it is merely the lesser of two goods. So we encourage people to make Novenas, (and there will be more of them dur- ing this Marian Year) but we should also remind them that a novena is not just spiritual con- fectionery or a spiritual order- blank or a spiritual toy like a kind of pious yo-yo. And since this is January, the month of in- ventory, what could be a better time for taking stock on our No- vena (whichever one it may be) and us? .... Say to yourself: "See here, I've been making this 'Perpe- tual' Novena for some time now. What has it done for me?" I don't mean what has it done for that arthritis which we hoped to get rid of, nor for that apartment which we hoped to get hold of; nor that annoying neighbor we wanted God to in- spire to move, nor for that dia- mond ring we wanted God to inspire a certain somebody to give us . . . but what has the Novena done for me myself, my character, my life, my soul? I have been preaching at a weekly Novena for the last fifteen years, and I have en- countered some weird requests even to the blessing of sweep- stake tickets with the sugared inducement that in event of a win I should get half. I remem- ber during the war one woman told me she was making that Novena to get butter. All right, but the first purpose of every Novena should be to glorify God and to make ourselves bet- ter-I mean to become better in thought and word and deed in the eye of God. Otherwise our Novena is in danger of drop- ping to a mere game of Gimme, or becoming a spiritual charm bracelet, or a religious cosmetic -a kind of powder and paint deftly applied to the soul. Maybe that powder and paint idea is not too bad; with this ob- servation: that while the illus- tration is lifted out of the life of the ladies, the application fits just as snugly into the lives of 20 BRIDGE TO BETTER LIVING men. Suppose then, it is Monday or Tuesday or Wednesday eve- ning, and N oreen Novena is prettying up before hurrying off to church. In her left hand she holds a compact, like an artist's palette, and begins a little ex- terior decorating. This of course is perfectly all right, though sometimes I think the Novena preacher, booming the attend- ance, is misunderstood when he asks his congregation to bring a new face to the services. Any- way Noreen here goes on mak- ing minor repairs or even ex- tensive alterations at the point where God left off, and as she smiles into the compact's little mirror, she suddenly becomes confidential with it. "You know, little mirror, I was just think- ing. Here I've been taking you to the Novena in my handbag for the past two years. And you know something? I haven't changed a bit!" "Right!" retorts the mirror. All mirrors reflect; this one does its reflecting out loud. "You haven't changed. The same old faults, worn into your soul like stale powder in- to that puff. The same old toy- ing with dangerous occasions of sin. And don't try to tell me otherwise. Sure, you brought me to church every Monday, but you brought me other places too -where y ou were not quite so archangelic. Now do you re- member when .. . " "Humph!" She tosses her shoulders indignantly and swishes her hair as though shaking off some insect buzzing around her. Is she hearing things? Anyway, she goes on to crayon her lips into a dainty cupid's bow in a shade that was probably advertised as "Sunset in the Sierras" but which some- times turns out like Firebox on the Corner. But not this time. "Well," murmurs the mirror, "not so bad! Some of your faces should be in Museums. You are very skilled at making-up. But why is it you never think of making-up with those people with whom you have quar- relIed? You don't go in for that kind of making-up do you? No, but you go to your Novena every Monday and with your pretty painted lips shout Y9ur prayers, but it would take a chisel to pry open those lips to say a Christian word to so and so, or so and so. When you pa,ss them it is war-paint you are wearing, and your nose sudden- ly tilts up like an anti-aircraft gun. Oh, you are in the right and they are in the wrong! But, is Christianity a law court? You are not supposed to greet them for their sake because they are right and so it is only just; nor for your sake because you are right, but you feel generous; but for God's sake, no matter who is right or who is wrong, because He wants it!" Miss Noreen Novena doesn't like this rebuke one bit, and bang! she slaps the powder-puff so hard against her nose that a little white cloud of powderdust drifts off like smoke from a cannon. "Ah ... there's another JANUARY INVENTORY 21 thing I've been noticing lately" says the mirror. "That atom- bomb temper. In church aren't you the sweet one, so gentle and so devout! At the Novena, Nor- een is a little lamb. But at home, Noreen can be a pretty little panther, snarling, snapping, surly, selfish ... " But before the mirror could finish, Noreen clicked the com- pact shut, and went clicking off on her high heels (and probably her high horse) to the Novena. The stained-glass win dow s wouldn't be so gabby. Honestly, though, isn't there something in what the mirror said? What is the difference be- tween standing before a little mirror and putting on your cheek a dab of rouge and a pat of powder, and kneeling before a little shrine and just putting on your soul a little patch of prayer and a little snatch of hymn-if that is all the Novena means! In both cases isn't it all on the surface, only superficial? Don't they both effect a mere temporary change, a passing glow? Isn't it true that neither of them gets inside to produce a permanent improvement? No Novena or Sodality or De- votion is meant to be a mere spiritual bon-bon, wrapped in attractive tin-foil. Rather that weekly half-hour should be more like a tiny cake of yeast dropped in among all the other hours of the week and raising them to a higher level. But it never will, unless we go to the Novena not just praying for the goods of this world, but also to be good in this world. Several years ago a Pastor told me that a lady-lecturer in his parish hall had said among other things that some people were like Christmas trees and · some were like apple trees. Who she was, how she developed it I don't know, but I do think that this divides the people who go to a Novena sharply and vividly. Take a · Christmas tree for ex- ample. It goes big for glamor; it is all razzle-dazzle; it loves to stand there with its gaudy orna- ments and necklace of colored bulbs, the center of attraction. It doesn't do anything. It just stands there. It doesn't give anything; it just gets. It expects you to lay presents at its feet. It isn't a strong tree; a little push and over it goes; it has no roots. And is it not true; in a few days the needles start turn- ing brown and falling off, and the tree is flung out as a fire- hazard. Now the apple tree is differ- ent. No show-off, no splurge of artificial razzle-dazzle. It stands there quietly, naturally; and it is always giving: in the spring, frail white blossoms like orchard snows for poet or paint- er; in the summer cool shelter- ing shade for the wayfarer; in the fall luscious mellow fruits. It is a strong tree. When a storm comes, it may bend and shudder and groan-but its roots are firm and it does not fail. And al- ways it is growing! So at every church service 22 BRIDGE TO BETTER LIVING there are Christmas tree people, and apple tree people. The Christmas tree crowd are all a-flutter over the externals, the color, the lights, the music, the incense-God help us even the sermon. Like the Christmas Tree they expect some favor to be laid at their feet. Like the Christmas Tree, they are not strong; the first push of tempta- tion and down they go. They are not true-; as soon as the Novena service is out, their piety fades and falls away like the needles, and they are in the world and of the world and ready for the ways of the world. The apple tree people are dif- ferent. They don't bother too much with the externals of the Novena. It doesn't particularly matter to them which priest gives the sermon, because they are not devoted to any particu- lar "Father" but to the Mother of God. When temptation stirs them, they may for a moment waver, but their resolution grips the ground like deep roots, and they don't go down. And above all, they go on bearing virtuous fruit-more frequent confes- sions, more fervent Commun- ions, more little daily Visits to Our Blessed Lord. And above all, more frequent and more in- telligent assistance at the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass. Anyway, what better time than the beginning of the year to take an inventory of our church-going? Especially when we lift our eyes to that other tree, the gaunt tree of the cross, lifting its dark" stark branches against the somber Good Friday sky, and dripping slow splashes of Blood like the last red leaves of autumn. Shorn of the foliage of all smaller matters, the cross stands there as simple and straight as a sign-post. And it says: "Seek ye first the King- dom of Heaven, and all these things shall be added unto you!" God bless you! QUEEN OF THE COMMONPLACE Address Delivered on January 31, 1954 The preacher in the pulpit practically has a captive audi- ence. True, they can get up and walk out but; they generally don't. But the man behind a microphone can be flipped far into outer space by the mere flick of a dial. So in hopes of soothing itching fingers, all the speaking experts implore the radio preacher to begin with an ' arresting, ear - catching sen- tence. It always reminds me of the high school boy who had the same idea and so began his composition. "'Hades'!" (only he spelled Hades differently) "'Hades!' growled the Duchess, as she lit another cigar." I'm afraid all I can say by way of introduction is that I've been looking at this week's cal- endar, and noticing that Tues- day is the Feast of Our Lady's Purification, and wondering if you sometimes get the same thoughts about all these feasts of Our Lady as I do . Well, it's an easy error and it needs con- tinual correction. I mean, don't you sometimes think to your- self, "Mary has so many feasts!" (That is true; they just about sprinkle the calendar like hol- ly-berries.) "So, Mary must have led a crowded, colorful, thrilling life!" (That is wrong.) Certainly her feasts move along the avenue of the church- year like a bright procession of gorgeous floats-the Annuncia.., tion, the Visitation, the Presen- tation, the Immaculate Concep- tion, the Assumption, and all the rest. But notice this. The last two feasts I mentioned, the Immaculate Conception in De- cember and the Assumption in August, on . the calendar have not six months between them. But in the life of Our Lady they were separated by more than sixty years! A crowded, color- ful life? It is we who do the crowding-crowding the events of a long lifetime into twelve short months. A colorful life? On the calendar Mary's life may seem a gay parade of fes- tivals, but in her kitchen as she lived it, it was just a run of r 0 uti n e days, monotonous months, ' commonplace years. And why not? In all things save sin, was not Mary one of ourselves? The soft airs of spring were gentle upon her face . Winter winds chilled her. The summer sun bronzed her brow. Wasn't her home like any of the other little stone houses in the village, a spinning wheel by the hearth, brown- crusted bread in the oven, a jaunty plume of blue smoke curling from the chimney? It was between the fireplace and the well, between the loom and 24 BRIDGE TO BETTER LIVING the broom that Mary passed her humdrum, uneventful hours - her life! If you wanted a colorful, dra- matic patron among the woman saints, you would be well ad- vised to skip this house-wife of Nazareth. I would tell you to take St. Joan of Arc, really a glamorous figure in her silver armor, on her stately white charger, under the silken ban- ner of France, leading an army into battle! Or take St. Cather- ine of Sienna, the counsellor of Popes and Kings, actually go- ing back and forth across Eu- rope making peace between en- emy camps! Or take St. Eliz- abeth of Hungary, a glittering queen living her life of hidden sainthood amid the rustle of brocades and the flash of jew- els. Yes, take them all - but never forget that the highest saint in heaven is still a simple mother, a quiet home-body whose whole world was bound- ed by walls and windows. But is not this the very rea- son why she should be our pa- troness? In the indifferent glance of the world are we too not just ordinary people? Our names do not stream in black banners a c r 0 s s newspaper headlines. Our deeds do not spurt out in blue flashes from a telegraph key, news of the moment! Our successes do not gleam in white bulbs over theatre lobbies. No, we are or- dinary people leading ordinary lives. Tuesday is just a dUll echo of Monday; and Thursday is a faint carbon-copy of Wed- nesday. We walk in the unex- citing footprints 'of our yester- days. So, like Mary we live a commonplace life. But why then can't we take the one ad- ditional step and like Mary live that commonplace life for God? Don't you see that every time Mary tossed a stick of wood into the crackling red fireplace, she could say to herself, "I am warming this room for God!" Every time she laid the earth- enware plates on the supper table, she could think, "I'm set- ting this table for God!" And a glance out the window showed her Jesus and Joseph trudging up the road from the carpenter shop ready to sit down to a workingman's meal. An ordin- ary, commonplace life? Abso- lutely. But an ordinary, com- monplace life lived for God! Can we do that? Can we glorify our monotony, dedicate our routine? The answer should be as simple as the five fingers on our hand, five words that consecrate a day to God: "All for Thee, my God!" Say this after your morning prayers, and it means that everything you do that day you are offering to God as a prayer. And whe- ther you are an operator at a switchboard, or a teacher at a blackboard, or a housewife at an ironing-board; whether you run a typewriter or run a truck; whether you fill teeth or fill gas tanks-the good God will accept it as a prayer. He knows QUEEN OF THE COMMONPLACE 25 that we cannot be always pray- ing-but isn't it a tragedy to let all the rest of the time go wasted as regards gaining merit for Heaven? How many hours do you give to God in a week? I mean di- rectly, specifically to God. Count your Sunday Mass, morning and evening prayers, rosaries, and you do better than average if you give Him three hours. Three hours out of one hundred and sixty eight. The next week too, three hours for God and eternity, and one hun- dred and sixty five useless for eternity. At the end of a life of seventy years what a pathet- ic little pile of merit for Heav- en, compared to the massive mountain of life lived, and work done, but useless for eter- nity! But say that little prayer each morning, and mean it, and it will in a way turn a cooking range or a carpenter's lathe in- to an altar. Repeat it during the day. Don't go round, of course, mumbling "All for Thee, my God! All for Thee, my God.!" like a broken record. You may go - well, north- north-west. But before the more important actions of the day, renew it; say it again. However we ought to point out that before such drab ac- tions can be burnished into a prayer, there are two condi- tions. But they are conditions and not catches. The first is that we must not be in the state of mortal sin. Naturally. From filthy fingers God does not ac- cept offerings. The second con- dition is that the work itself be not a sin. Otherwise you have the absurd situation of a man heaving a brick through a jew- . eler's window, scooping up bracelets and brooches and rings the while he piously mur- murs, "All for Thee, my God!" No. Actions that are bad, au- tomatically rule themselves out. Actions that are good, automat- ically register themselves for our eternal reward. What I am pleading for is the vast major- ity of actions that lie in be- tween-the thousands of "neu- tral" actions, all the way from baking a cake to filling out an income-tax report. Ah, what a super-natural good intention you would have to make there! Somewhere I have read that the most gorgeous sunset is the result of our central sun pour- ing its golden beams on millions of tiny particles of common dust hanging in the atmos- phere, giving us the purples· and pinks, the orange and scar- let that turn the western sky into an autumn hillside of col- or. Just so, one central golden good intention shining upon all the thousands of tiny, grimy, insignificant, workaday items in our ordinary day transforms them into a spectacle of splen- dor in the eyes of God. If I may illustrate-with a modern parable. Once upon twenty years ago, there lived in Dublin a humble workman And every morning on his way 26 BRIDGE TO BETTER LIVING to work he would drop into his parish church and say a few prayers. On his way out he would stop for a moment be- fore a marble statue in the back of the church. It was a statue of Christ the Worker, sitting _ down after a hard day's work, His shoulders stooped, His weary hands crossed on His lap. The man in the Dublin overalls would put his hands into the Hands of Christ, say just a few words, pick up his lunch-box and go hurrying out. Day after day, like that, and' year after year. And one day, just before he was due to retire from his job, the old worker collapsed at his bench in the foundry. They brought him to the hospital, gave him the Last Rites, and had just finished the prayers for the dying, when the grey haired old fellow looked at the flickering candle and smiled. "So this is the day," he whis- pered, "the day when all the lights go out. Because for me they will all go out-the bright lights in the stores and theatres, the blue lights in the foundry, the soft lights of home. And into the dark I can carry only this one light, this blessed candle, the light of faith. When I think how long I lived under those other lights, and how hard I worked, and how the grave is only a few feet wide, but you can't bring anything across, You can't take it with you .. ." And then he spoke faster so that the candle-flame danced. "I don't care. Every day for thirty years I have put my work into His Hands, and offer- ed it to Him as a prayer .. You can't take it with you? I have sent it on ahead! And it will be waiting for me, in the vaults of heaven." Somebody put the candle in- to his pale fingers. And he seemed like a traveller in the olden days who had come to the end of his journey, and now at the inn took his candle and was going upstairs, up to his well-deserved rest, eternal rest. And that's the way the Foun- dryman of Dublin went to meet the Carpenter of Nazareth. In this little talk I have spo- ken to you perhaps two thou- sand words. Forget them all, but never forget five of them. Use them every day of . your life - "All for Thee, My God!" God bless you! NO STRANGE GODS Address Delivered on February 7, 1954 One night thirteen men sat down to supper. The next day two of them, Jesus and Judas were dead. This was the origin of the absurd superstition about number thirteen. Because of a mere coincidence, that poor number has limped through his- tory like a leper, ringing its outcast b ell and hoarsely warn- ing everyone to keep away from it. You may have read of the hotel in the mid-west where if you discover to your conster- nation that there are thirteen people in your dinner party, the management will graciously provide you with a dummy fig- ure attired in faultless evening dress . Naturally his name is Louis the Fourteenth. I suppose that if some item on your bill should amount to thirteen dol- lars, the hotel would b e willing eve n to change it to a felicitous fourteen. A couple of years ago I was a minor casualty in a major Catholic Hospital, and during that delightful period of con- valescence when I was once m ore vertical and could prowl the . corridors, I noticed there was not one sick room marked thirteen. On one floor they ran 210, 211 , 212, 214. On the next, 311, 312, 314- and so on. Here, you must admit, is another very wise reason for forbidding chil- dren. to visit in a hospital. The school teaches them to count 211, 212, 213, 214. But in hos- pital-mathematics, t h i r tee n suddenly submerges like a sub- marine. The child might wonder if in the hospital, arithmetic it- self wasn't a little sick. Of course the nuns in charge shake discouraged bonnets and protest, "It is not our fault. It is the patients. The pressure comes from them." Apparently when a patient is being wheeled into a room, one thing he dis- likes is looking up and seeing a number-plate on the door blink down on him with the ominous, sinister, never-to-be- mentioned thirteen. For the same reason (if you can call it reason) there are tall buildings, twenty stories high, that still do not have a thirteenth floor. And it is gradually dawning on me why on the popular overnight boats that used to ply between Boston and New York, I never had any difficulty getting a room, no matter how late I ap- plied. I used to get number thirteen-used to ask for it. It was quiet, comfortable, cheap- and always available! Thirteen! But the Thirteen Colonies did rather nicely don't you think? However thirteen is only the grand marshal in this parade 28 BRIDGE TO BETTER LIVING of fantastic f r eaks called super- stition. "Never walk under a ladder!"-well, not if there is dang er of a bucket of white l ead plopping on your head. "Break a mirror and you will have seven years hard luck!" Break a mirror and you break your back picking up the pieces, that's all. "Don't let a black cat cross your path!" No -and if one should, just whirl around and hurry right home! "Carry a rabbit's foot for good luck." But it wasn't such good luck for the rabbit-who once owned / four of them-was it? "Don't light three on a match!" I wonder what brilliant young match-company ex e cut i v e dreamed up that one to step up sales. Of course we, in our superior fashion, smile at these silly practises. Or do we? Perhaps if they bob up on the sea of con- versation, we take pot-shots at them as mockingly as anyone else. They are perfectly ridicu- lous, they are echoes from the jungle, they are shadows from the dark ages, they are as phony as witch-doctors and as pathetic as a charm bracelet rattling with human teeth. So in conversation, in theory -we scorn them. But how about when it comes to acting ours elves? I remember I could always get room thirteen on the boat. I remember the hard-boil- ed hospital superintendent who said with a kind of twisted smile, "People are funny, Fa- ther. But they never will ad- mit it." Is that the way it is- we pooh-pooh all sUperstition in public, but when it comes to our own private life, we secret- ly shelter a lurking fear that there may be something in it . . . after all we might as well play safe--there's nothing to lose and you never can tell-in other words, plain words, when we are alone and superstition shakes its Halloween mask, we play the coward. In such an offence, it is true that Conscience in its role of District Attorney would not at- tempt to indict you for serious sin. But it is just as true that you are dethroning your God- given mature common sense and for the moment placing on the dunce-stool of your mind a childish folly unworthy of a thinking man. And sin is not completely out of the pic- ture, either. As a matter of fact superstition is wrong, precisely because it pushes God out of the picture and presumes to take His place. For doesn't its frightening voice whisper that this four-leaf 'green clover, this scared and scurrying black cat, this amputated white rabbit's foot, this shattered mirror- will actually influence your fu- ture ? By some mysterious pow- er within it, it will brighten or dark en events to come, for good or for ill. But the only Hand that throws the switch of the future is God. Only the one All - knowing and A I mig h t Y God; nobody or nothing else. B ecause if anything else could, NO STRANGE GODS 29 it would be independent of God, above God, greater than God. It would be God. We talk so freely and so glibly of our luck, of good luck and of bad luck. There is no luck. Whatever happens, happens only because God wants it to happen or be- cause God (having given free will) at least permits it to hap- pen. And no insignificant crea- ture can trip the straight and lordly strides of the Creator. So the sin of superstition is that it gives to some ridiculous object the power that belongs only to God. "I am the Lord Thy God. Thou shalt not have strange gods before Me !" In olden time s the J ews bow- ed down before a golden calf. Nowadays millions of Americ- ans press their foreheads to the dust before a similar idol: astrology, fortune telling, and the like. And if you do not think this is a golden idol, just reflect that the annual take is over one hundred million dol- lars ! So much does the great and gullible American public, whose godfather was Barnum, hand over each year to the mul- titude of mysterious prophets for profit who l earnedly read palms, cards, stars, crystal- balls, tea-leaves,-almost any- thing for anything from a half- dollar up. To these practition- ers it is an abstruse science; t o the ordinary envious by-stand- er this is too modest; it also must b e a fine art to separate so much money from so many peopl e. And it seems to be growing. Along with the comics arid cross-word puzzle and the obituaries and the stock-mark- et, many papers are running a regular column for those who pin their hopes on horoscopes. Tell your fortune! It seems just as logical to predict a man's future from the egg-stains on his vest as from the tea leaves in his cup. In both cases part of him goes to the cleaners a nyway. And haven't you often wondered why these people who have a private knot- hole into the future do not u se their top-secret and ad- v ance information to invest in a f ew good stocks on the mark- et, or a few good steeds on the track, and so accumulate a for- tune inst ead of telling it? It should be comforting to know that acts of superstition are practically always saved from b eing grave sins by the unflattering fact that we do not think. We · do not realize what we are doing. This is handy because some superstitions have their roots even in religion. Like that one of thirteen at the table or Friday the thirteenth. Or knocking wood. In medi- eval Europe the peasant on his way to the fields might bow his head in prayer before some wayside cross. Then he would r ev erently touch the carved wood e n figure and make the sign of the cross on himself. But suppose that day while in the fields some sudden danger threatened him, maybe a wild animal, maybe a crackling light- 30 BRIDGE TO BETTER LIVING ning storm. He was far from his roadside crucifix so he reached out and touched the nearest ob- ject of wood, crossed himself, and said his prayer again. Now, centuries later and with- out knowing why, his descend- ants are solemnly knocking on wood to fend off disaster. They might just as well scratch their heads; in fact it might amount to the same thing. Then there is the chain pray- er. Not long ago I found one in the last pew of our church, a greasy typewritten page con- taining some sort of prayer and the dire warning that you must say this prayer eleven times for eleven days before eleven a. m., otherwise eleven terrible misfortunes would befall you- topple on your helpless head, I suppose, like eleven cocoanuts out of a tree. Give a moron a typewriter and he will compose a chain prayer. People who cir- culate chain prayers almost de- serve to be sentenced to chain '. gangs. By deliberately breaking a chain prayer and becoming a missing link, you prove that you are not a duplicating monkey but an independent man. Then St. Alphonsus tells us of bandits he encountered who would light their votive lamps at a Shrine of Our Lady and pray devoutly that she would send rich travellers into their hands. We would never do that. But some of us can be as in- consistent. There are nominal Catholics who devoutly wear Our Lady's scapular medal over a heart scabby with sins, brazenly pretending that as long as they hold on to the medal, they can also hold on to the sins, and somehow Our Lady will sneak them in through the service entrance of Heaven. Aren't they afraid they may end up in the incinerator? And what about those Catho- lics who put the Sacramentals above the Sacraments, who would never dream of going without a smudge of Ashes on Ash Wednesday, or a sprig of Palm on Palm Sunday, or a blessing of the throat on St. Blaise's Day, or a St. Christo- pher Medal in their car, and at the same time go on missing Mass, missing Easter Duty - this is religion? This is a super- stition clumsily wearing the mask of religion! Religion is like a mountain whose head is crowned with snow but whose heart burns with volcanic fires. There must be reason in the head of man before there can be true ardor and fervor in his heart. Super- stition is unworthy of man and insulting to God. Serve God be- cause He is great. Serve Him joyfully because He is good. Serve Him only · because He alone is God! God bless you! A PERPLEXED PATRON Address Delivered on February 14, 1954 Maybe your experience is different, but I have never seen a statue raised to this particular saint, nor even a tiny medal struck in his honor. To this day down the highway of history he comes with the cloak of mys- tery held high before his face. He is so obscure a saint that on the calendar of the Church he rates the very simplest rank of feast that she can give. His background is so vague that about the only things we know about him are that he lived in the third century, died in a pool of blood, a martyr, and was buried outside Rome. The mys- tery is that in our own twen- tieth century when the memory of. far more prominent saints has withered brown with the passing years, the memory of this undistinguished man keeps strangely green. But I doubt he would be flattered if he knew why-or how. If you, by a clap of your hands, could resurrect him this very day (because the four- teenth of February is his feast- day) and transport him by stra- toliner across the sea to any city in America, you would have on your hands a very be- wildered saint. As he trails his long white Roman robe past the candy-store windows with their large red hearts of shining pasteboard, and the drug-store windows with their little red greeting cards edged with pa- per-lace, and the flaring red signs everywhere: "Don't For- . get St. Valentine's Day!" "Won't You Be My Valentine?"-your poor. perplexed saint, the orig- inal Valentine, might shake his holy head and wonder if they had not confused Valentine with Valentino. You understand there is nothing wrong with mailing Valentine cards or giving Val- . entine candy. What is wrong is that they should be called Val- entine cards or candy in the first place. You can slog up and down the dreary columns of encyclopediae and you come away with not one simple, solid reason why St. Valentine should be associated with ro- mance at all. Oh, some allege that in warmer climes it is around his feast-day that the birds begin to mate. This is about as logical as the case of poor St. Philip on a certain semi - tropical island. Here, many years ago, they had a tremendous hurricane on the feast of St. Philip. To this day they always refer to it as St. Philip's hurricane. He takes the rap. With even less reason St. Valentine has somehow become part of the legend of love, and takes his place with June and moon, balconies and serenades, covered bridges and diamond rings, as one of the standard 32 BRIDGE TO BETTER LIVING props on the stage of the sigh- ing heart. If it were a pure, continent Christian love, it would still be a mistake. But by and large the love they want St. Valentine to endorse, almost like a testi- monial in a commercial, is love gone pagan. Better if they call- ed it not St. Valentine's Day, but Cupid's Day and Cupid's candy and Cupid's greeting cards after the fleshy little god whose only principle is pleas- ure. "Won't you be my Valen- tine?" This should mean won't you be my fine noble Christian Saint? There are many who would think twice before they asked for that. "Won't you be my Christian martyr?" But a martyr is one who stands for conscience and right. Many would prefer someone who would not be quite so stubborn and stuffy about conscience in circumstances that call for a soft and passionate surrender. Look again at that heart- shaped box of candy in the window. It is red, and red is traditionally the color of love. But this is not the true deep red of lasting loyalty. This is the bold flaming red of hot passion. The box too is shaped like a heart, and the heart is tradi- tionally the emblem of love. But this is a hollow heart, crammed only with creams and caramels which, like the stolen sweets of lust, are soon con- sumed and leave the heart empty indeed. It is no longer a "Sweetheart." The box too at first glance seems to be bound firmly (as true love should be) because there it is tied with a ribbon and a big bow. But look a moment, and it turns out that the big bow is only a fluffy orn- ament on top and doesn't bind the box at all. In just the same way it is only a light fancy that joins pagan love together, and when that goes, they fall apart like an empty box of candy. If I were a Communist and wanted to ruin our country, I would advocate light and loose love on every side. Isn't that one more reason the Com- munists have for hating the Catholic Church? We do not claim that the Catholic Church is the last sanctuary of pure womanhood, or high morals, but do you know of any other voice raised more strongly and more steadily in support of chaste courtship and permanent marriage? All decent people should be alarmed at the pa- gan standards that youth is sop- ping up on every side - from the trashy paper-back books in the corner drug-store to the learned lecture halls in some universities. Listen. The Pro- fessor of Biology is pontificat- ing: "You girls may wear a coat made from the fur of one animal, a hat made with the feathers of another, and shoes from the hide of a third. But don't forget: you yourself in- side make the fourth animal. You are an animal, so why fight it?" I wonder if the Professor pauses to ponder that the dif- A PERPLEXED PATRON 33 ference between the man and the monkey is still the monkey- wrench? The class files into an- other room. And the Professor of Psychology is droning on: "Free will? Nonsense! Stimu- li and reflexes, nerves and re- sponses - you are only a bun- dle of instincts. Free will is a high, flattering idea but it just doesn't stand up." (I wonder what would happen if you stole the professor's wallet on the way out and maintained you couldn't help it - you had to do it - a compulsion; after all you had no free will). But the bell rings, and in a little while the class settles itself before the Professor of Sociology: "Of course when you decide to choose a mate you will have to get a marriage license to com- ply with the law, but as stu- dents of human society you should know that marriage is an outworn tribal custom edg- ing toward extinction. Soon it will go the way of the cave and the stone hatchet." Then some of these very teachers who may be old and cold and academic and theoret- ic, thes€ professors profess to be shocked when the young people carry their liberal lec- tures out of the classroom into life, into the park or the parked car. Well, what do you think is going to happen if you break up the old decencies like dry wood and toss them on the im- petuous fires of flaming youth? Furthermore, this gospel of pagan love, where pleasure is enthroned and conscience is en- tombed, this devil's gospel is preached from other pulpits than university desks. Is it too much to say that the "mod- ern" attitude toward love stands somewhere between a wink and a whistle? Take the gospel of love according to St. Cinema, and recall how frequently in the movies marriage is a flip- pant, frivolous affair played for laughs. Or, if they are young it is a sudden adolescent thrill; and if they are older it is a sophisticated interlude, with at least one of them wearing the degree -"D.G." meaning Divorce Granted, or possibly Damaged Goods ... but how often on the screen do you see marriage em- phasized as a final, life-long contract, not to speak of a sac- red Sacrament? Take the newspapers and love, and you know as well as I do that a chorus girl's scandal will be smeared over page one while the golden wedding of some sterling citizen is lucky if it gets ten lines near the obitu- aries. Take love and contem- porary fiction . They tell me that today's authors, these drug-store Dickens', t h ink nothing of sending the heroine off on a week-end with one arm around-the "hero" and the other snapping its fingers at stodgy, long-haired convention. Take love and Tin Pan Alley. Listen to some of these modern songs and you wonder if they didn't take both morals and music from the felines on the back- 34 BRIDGE TO BETTER LIVING yard fence . a long piercing wail of desire. Would you ever suspect from all this that love could be sweet and wholesome and possibly shy and certainly clean and good? Oh it is a soft, sticky, sicken- ing goo that the world will slap on your mind if you go to it for standards of conduct! But in so delicate a field, in so sacred a human relationship, should we go for our standards to the films of Hollywood, or the scandals of the newspapers, or the divorce courts of Reno, or the beauty contests of Atlantic City, or the brassy songs of Broadway - or to the Com- mandments of God and the glorious ideals of Christ? Certainly it is natural for a man to love a maid, but cer- tainly it is not natural-not the nature of man-that his love be no higher than the beasts! Hu- man love is - human, and therefore it must be guided by reason, subject to conscience, worthy of creatures who are also the children of God. Is all this "theology" and is "theol- ogy" a high, vague, wispy cloud? Well even a teen-ager can see the difference between boy and girl driving in the park -which can be wholesome fun; and parking in the drive- which can be moral pus. Pontius Pilate sent Christ to crucifixion by washing his hands. Youth can do the same thing today by dirtying its hands. Doesn't St. Paul talk about the re-crucifying of Christ by Christians? Oh, the phoney philosophy of the world will guarantee to dye your con- science a white gold the way the beauty pariors do hair. It is a synthetic rinse, alibis like: "Well, that is my weakness" or "If you love somebody, what can you do?" or "God will un- derstand." Aren't they ever afraid He will understand that they broke His laws like pea- nut-shells, or put His com- mandments out of the way like a floor-lamp that got in the way at a party? Certainly at times it is hard to be pure. But do you know of anything in life really worthwhile that isn't hard? Perhaps that is just why Our Blessed Lord on the cross al- lowed a soldier to open His side so that we might see the great red valentine of His own crim- son bleeding Heart, a Heart not pierced by a tiny Cupid's arrow but with °a long cruel spear; a Heart not fringed with dainty paper-lace, but circled, as St. Margaret Mary saw it in a vis- ion, with a wreath of sharp thorns. He wanted to remind us that if we want to keep our hearts clean and good they too must be surrounded by the thorns of hard things - the thorns of self-respect and self- restraint; the thorns of decency and modesty; the thorns of will-power and (what is more important) won't power! After all, Valentine means "Strong!" God bless you! KEEP THE DOOR OPEN Address Delivered on February 21, 1954 If a man has huge feet and wears a pair of shoes that look like landing-barges, it is a phenomenal salesman who will interest him in a pair of shoes, size six and a half A, though they be the finest footwear in the world. Sermons, in one sense, are like shoes. I mean the sermon that fits one group of people neatly' and nicely is of absolutely no concern to an- other group. Why for instance should the girls who are pray- ing fiercely, "Dear St. Anne, get me a man-as quick as you can!" want to be bothered with a thundered warning on the evils of divorce? And why should "the perils of drunk- enness" draw anything but a drowsy yawn from the teetotal- ers who, when they say tea, mean tea. This is what a preacher is up against when it comes to choosing a subject, and he desperately knows it. Some- times you figure that the Devil would be the only perfect audi- ence because you could presume he was involved in everything. But then you remember (for one exception) the Devil isn't married . . . though there are some wives who are sure he is. The answer is probably the elementary distinction between experience and knowledge. There are many themes which may not here and now concern us personally, but about which we should be intelligently in- formed-kno w the sound prin- ciples of the matter-so that if the situation ever does ring our own personal door-bell, or even if it shyly seeks our ad- vice, we shall know the position to take or the course to coun- sel. Anyway today's little talk is about a certain type of letter which is coming in more and more frequently. The wor ds are always heart-broken, the pages often tear-stained, the writer is 'usually a Catholic mother and the subject a straying daughter. Sometimes the paragraphs are typed and sometimes scribbled but the mother is generally weeping over - her child's bad marriage. " Here I thought I was doing everything I could, to rear her a good Catholic, and now she has run off and married outside the church. For twenty years I tried to do my best, but I guess my best just wasn't enough." Thousands of mothers have groaned that bitter self-re- proach, but it is undeserved, for how could anyone in his senses hold such a mother re- sponsible for such a daughter? Way back in the Scriptures, centuries before the coming of 36 BRIDGE TO BETTER LIVING Christ, poor, patient Job winced with that same sick futile feel- ing. It is the bleak disappoint- ment of having been let down in the two tenderest areas of the heart, parenthood and re- ligion. Job packed his reaction into one crushed sentence: "No man can lead another unto God." And it is true. If anyone real- ly wants to run away from God, there are no ropes that will hold him, not even heart-strings. But how often have I seen it, that eventually the straying sinner is quietly caught and gently drawn back in the loop of a Mother's well-fingered rosary. And t~is often happens, even after the Mother is dead! Out of her very grave her prayers bloom and bear their fruit! But what about the particu- lar present case where the Catholic daughter sets her pret- ty mouth into a grim red line and marries 0 u t sid e the Church? We say she "marries" outside the Church. The sad cold fact is that she has gone through a marriage ceremony, but in the eyes of God's Church, and therefore in the eyes of God, she is not married at all. This may strike some people as high-handed ecclesiastical ar- rogance, but suppose you look at it this way. Matrimony is a Sacrament; and the laws for validly recelvmg the Sacra- ments lie with the Church. The same Christ who gave us the Sacraments, also gave us the Church to administer them. And one law for the Sacrament of Matrimony is that a Catho- lic must be married in the pre- sence of a priest and two wit- nesses . For that reason a Catho- lic can no more go to City Hall to be married than he can go to City Hall to be baptized. He can no more be married by a minister than he can be con- firm ed or anointed by a minis- ter. If these attitudes seem to be bi ts of stony arrogance, they are but chips off the central Rock, the doctrine that Our Blessed Lord founded only one true Church, and this is her teach- ing. In geology all rocks may be equal; in theology we believe there is only one: Peter, the Rock upon which Christ found- ed His Church. Notice though that the Church does not go tinkling its bell and flourishing its book in- to the domain of the state or into the conscience of the non- Catholic. Since marriage besides being a spiritual Sacrament is also a civil contract, certainly the State has the right to make laws for that contract like li- censes, blood-tests and all the rest. And since the Catholic Church does not make marriage laws for non-Catholics, she re- spects as valid any marriage of non-Catholics pro per 1 y con- tracted whether performed by a minister or any lawful official. The marriage the Church does not recognize as valid, is the marriage entered into by a Catholic without the necessary priest and two witnesses. Such KEEP THE DOOR OPEN 37 a Catholic would not be meeting a serious requirement for the valid reception of a Sacrament, the Sacrament of Matrimony. Need I add that if Catholic par- ents attend such a marriage of their child, that is, one perform- ed by a public official or a min- ister, these parents are cooper- ating in something which, ac- cording to the Church, is grave- ly sinful. But, you tell me, the ceremony has long since been performed. They (let us say the Catholic girl and the non- Catholic man) are living to- gether as man and wife. What should be done about it, what attitude taken? This is what the Catholic parents want to know . . . they and, their sisters and their brothers and their cousins , and their aunts. Well, if I were in your place I should try to be kinder than kind. I should try to remember that after all the sin was not committed against me but against God, so what right have I to explode like a volcano? True, your heart may be a dark cave of disappointment, but if you come running out of it waving a club you may drive your daughter away from God forever. Nobody can approve what is wrong, but a brutal, b li s t e ring condemnation of wrong isn' t always the best in- vitation to return to right. Use the blow-torch on a human soul, and instead of burning off the stain, you may just harden it, fix it in d eeper. So to the parents of such a daughter manacled to a bad marriage I would say: Pity her, pray for her, be kind to her, vis- it her. Yes, visit her! It is true you cannot approve her situa- tion, but if you act gently and sympathetically (not like some- . one proudly determined to win an argument but like someone humbly hoping to save a soul) you may be able to persuade her to have the marriage recti- fied. You would be surprised how often this can be done- and done with no conspicuous church ceremony-as long as n either the girl nor the man is entangled in any previous mar - riage . The curling whip of angry words will lash a person, but when you draw it back, the whip returns to you empty and the person is still away. Kind- ness is the only thin str ing you have to bring someone back Violence breaks all ties, even family ties. Don' t try to nag her back into the Church or drag h er back into the Church. Ju'st build the path by little acts of kindness and more kindness , and prayers and more prayers, , and then perhaps at the right mellow moment a simple word of loving suggestion from your heart may work wonders! After all I cannot believe that a Catholic girl mar ried outside the Catholic Church walks down any rose-paths of happi- ness while she is out of the Church. I hold that no matter how luxuriously she seems to live on the outside, she is hav- 38 BRIDGE TO BETTER LIVING ing a hard time on the inside, and if she doesn't come back, it isn't because she is happy in her exile, but only stubborn. One corner of her heart must always be in secret agony. She may of course even scream that she is perfectly contented, but when her loud protest dies down, there is her conscience still ringing like an insistent burg- lar alarm. Why not? You can- not be a Catholic all your liv- ing days, and know it is the only True Faith, and attend its Mass, and receive its Sacra- ments and say its beads-and then suddenly toss the whole thing into an ash barrel like an old Christmas tree. The Faith is a tree whose roots are sunk deep in any Catholic heart, and they don't come out easily. As a matter of fact I don't think they ever come out at all. I have talked with more than a few Catholic girls who had snapped their fingers in the face of God and went through the motions of a marriage outside the Church, but who years later quietly slipped through the side-door of the Church and came back. And when they do, when their bad marriage is re- set like a broken leg, and bless- ed by the Church, the first thing they blurt out is that all this time, despite the love and plea- sure and everything else, they were never really happy. Be- cause you cannot slip happiness on like a necklace or imprint it like a kiss or wear it like a bridal gown. Happiness must come from within. It starts in- side. But if inside, deep down in the heart there is the gnaw- ing knowledge that you have defied God in a serious matter, if over the soul hangs the black shadow of mortal sin, how can there ever be genuine joy? Turn on all the gay lights of pleasure, beat all the drums of distraction-guilt is still coiled down there like a snake in the shadows. This sense that all is not right goes with the girl on her very honeymoon ; and when she is alone, the smile dies and she stares into space. Later this sad sense of living in sin, this longing for something missing that she desperately wants, taps her on the shoulder at the strangest places. She may sud- denly feel it as she sees the crowds hurrying to Midnight Mass at Christmas, or as she looks down into the casket of a close friend killed in an ac- cident, or even as she comes upon the pictures in the news- paper of a wedding in her old church . .. the uneasiness is al- ways there, like a dull steady tooth-ache in her conscience, a sharp sword in her deepest soul. Even now as I speak to you someone out there may be churning with the temptation to marry a man outside the Church . . . possibly because he is divorced and you cannot marry him in the Church. Well, he may be rich, and he may be handsome, and he may be able to give you everything~very­ thing but happiness. How can KEEP THE DOOR OPEN 39 you be happy when you will be telling the Almighty (not in words but in deed) that some human being means more to you than your God or your Faith? Doesn't it seem that St. Paul almost had just such a young girl in mind when he wrote to the Galatians: "I am astounded that you are so quick to be a deserter! Who is it that ~as fascinated you, cast a spell over you that you refuse obedi- ence to the true Gospel? Are you out of your senses that hav- ing b egun spiritually you are now wholly taken up with the flesh?" That was the letter St. Paul wrote, but the girl who is go- ing to marry outside the Church should leave a letter like this : "Dear Mom and Dad ... I'm go- ing to marry him at any cost. I don't care whether your hearts are broken. I don't care if I am a disgrace to my Catholic education. I don't care if I'm leaving the Church and the Sacraments. I don't care wheth- er my soul is damned. I don't care if I'm responsible for my children being lost to the faith, or their children. I care for n othing but myself, my will, my pleasure, my happiness." There is an answer to that letter. It is: nobody leaves God and finds happiness. And if you have lost it, a tortured heart yearning for the Communion Rail, the only way to find it is to come back to Him, the God of m ercy and of love. God bless you! OUTSTRETCHED HANDS Address Delivered on February 28, 1954 If Heaven had a Complaint Department, perhaps the busi- est window would be "Unan- swered Prayers ." At least I think that the question people put most often to priests is: "Why aren't my prayers heard?" And the priest who in his time has perhaps preached with rich and rolling eloquence on "Ask and ye shall receive" almost feels that now he is supposed to find God an "out." As though "Ask and ye shall receive" were a handsomely il- luminated script or document like a contract or a deed or an insurance policy, and he smug- ly points to the fine print un- derneath and suavely explains, "I'm afraid you overlooked this" or "Your particular case is definitely excluded here." There is no such trickery in the Trinity. God needs no de- fense, because He is God, and that means all-good. True, this would be easier to see if the answer to every pray- er came out as promptly and precisely as a piece of pie at the automat - or like that rather recent incident in London. A young Catholic lawyer (bit of a barrister, y' know) had his shingle hanging out but no cli- ents hurrying in. He was de- pressed almost to desperation. Then he got an idea. He left his office and went down to a little chapel at Moorfield and prayed fervently, almost fierce- ly, before the picture of Saint Thomas More, who in his day had been the most brilliant lawyer in the realm, in fact the Lord High Chancellor. When the young lawyer got back to his chambers, there was a note scribbled on the telephone pad by the man in the next office. A client would be in at eleven. The client turned out to be a very important person and was so pleased with the young law- yer's work that he introduced him to several prominent friends and started him on a very promising legal career. By one of those eyebrow-raising, "let me get that again" coinci- dences, the client's name was Mr. Thomas More. Oh, if prayers were always answered as dramatically as that, or even if they were dra- matically left unanswered and we could see why ... For ex- ample, if you prayed to catch a certain train (and you missed it) or if you prayed to make a certain plane (and had to hitch-hike forty miles on a winter road, as happened to me, and missed it by one minute)- if then the next morning you read in the paper how the train was wrecked or the plane had OUTSTRETCHED HANDS 41 crashed . . . then we could see why our prayer was not an- swered, and be grateful! But as a rule, the mountain peak of God's design and providence is not so sharply clear. Often it is hidden in the clouds, dark swirling mists through which human eyes cannot peer. But way back fifteen centur- ies ago, one of the dazzling luminaries of theology, Saint Augustine, dropped some real- istic pointed hints why some of our prayers are not heard. The way he phrased it, it has almost the ring of a college yell: "Mali mala male petimus." In a kind free-wheeling translation, that would mean that some of us ask for wrong things, some in a wrong way, and some while kneeling on the very ground of wrong-doing. The wrong things? Now, nobody in his right mind would brazenly pray for what is downright sinful. But often our faith is so thin we just annoy God asking for trif- les, the small change of tempor- al things, hardly ever asking the great gold of grace and sal- vation itself. We pray "Deliver us from all evil." But don't you know that in the eyes of God there is on this whole earth only one real evil-and it is not poverty, it is not pain, it is not disappointment. It is sin. Be- cause only sin can clang against us the gates of Heaven and keep us from God forever. How ironic against that, is the prayer of a woman amply dressed in a flowery chintz like a slipcover and upholstered herself like a sofa, who now at breakfast between her fourth and fifth jelly - do ugh nut, breathes (with a little difficul- ty) a petulant prayer to God to take off a few pounds from her tonnage. Or a high-school boy blowing the thick dust off his chemistry book, and saying a panicky prayer that some- how the Lord will see him through tomorrow's exam with flying colors and bubbling test- tubes! It is perfectly proper to pray for God's help in our particular need, but it is good to remem- ber that God is not a traffic cop who suddenly holds up his hand in the middle of the street-cor- ner and stops all the normal course of things, holding back, you may say, the laws of na- ture while our petition goes screaming through with motor- cycle escort! Our prayer should be not so much for exceptions or exemptions to the general rule, but rather strength to bear the order of things as God has established them. I remember once in the springtime seeing a sobbing mother kneeling on the green cushion of a grave, her hands clasped upon the tombstone as though it was a pew in church. She prayed there like that, she told me later, till she had bur- ied the black devil of bitterness that had darkened her heart ever since her boy had been plucked away in the bright 42 BRIDGE TO BETTER LIVING bloom of his youth. Before this she had tried everything to for- get-tried taking a trip, tried plunging into her work, tried listening to the sympathy and the counsel of her friends. But until she got down on her knees and turned to God in prayer- really prayed-nothing helped. But prayer had flung up the gloomy blinds of grief and let in the golden sunlight of God's own comfort. As to asking the wrong way -I suppose the father of a fam- ily never lived who did not at one time or other grumble that the only time his children recognized his existence was when they wanted something. "Dad, may I have the car to- night?" When the "bite" is on and the hand is out, then Dad suddenly assumes in the family a stature of importance. But wouldn't this make any normal sensitive Dad glumly wonder if he were really the father of a family, or just the disbursing agent of a little corporation? Well, how do you think Our Father in Heaven feels if the only language we ever speak to Him is the prayer of "Gimme" or "Please"? If we didn't need something, would we ever no- tice Him? It must be far from flattering to the too-tolerant Almighty. Honestly, I think some people must really picture God as a sort of super-clerk in glistening white, behind a long, long soda fountain with all kinds of chrome levers and porcelain taps. 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