PREPARING YOUR CHILD FOR THE SACRAMENTS By James P. Carroll Y o u s a y y o u c a n ' t t e a c h y o u r c h i l d r e n a b o u t t h e s a c r a m e n t s ? N o n s e n s e . M a t r i - m o n y g a v e y o u t h e g r a c e y o u need. M a t - r i m o n y e q u i p p e d y o u t o d i s c h a r g e y o u r responsibilities t o w a r d y o u r children, t o t e a c h t h e m a n d g u i d e t h e m t o e t e r n a l u n i o n w i t h G o d . I n t h i s p a m p h l e t , w e ' r e going t o t r y t o show y o u h o w y o u c a n t e a c h y o u r children t h e g r e a t significance of t h e B a p t i s m t h e y h a v e received a n d h o w y o u c a n h e l p t o p r e p a r e t h e m f o r t h e s a c r a m e n t s t o f o l l o w : H o l y C o m m u n i o n , P e n a n c e , a n d C o n - firmation. © 1965 AVE MARIA PRESS • Notre Dame, Indiana B u t first, p u t yourself in t h e place of t h e catechism teacher in t h e Catholic school or t h e C o n f r a t e r n i t y of Christian Doctrine p r o g r a m . You are kneeling in y o u r parish church. I n f r o n t of y o u is t h e F i r s t C o m - m u n i o n class, a collection of f r o t h y veils, white shoes, fresh h a i r c u t s a n d neckties t h a t refuse to behave. T h e church is filled with t h e r a d i a n t w a r m t h of t h e Glorified Christ, inviting H i s children t o t h e a l t a r . Yet, there are m o m e n t s when y o u are chilled b y d o u b t . "Are t h e y r e a d y ? " y o u ask yourself. " D o t h e y all u n d e r s t a n d ? D o t h e y realize w h a t is h a p p e n i n g t o t h e m t o d a y ? " Y o u ask these things because y o u ac- cepted t h e awesome responsibility of t e a c h - ing these children. Y o u r e m e m b e r t h a t it w a s n ' t easy. Y o u recall t h e trials of t e a c h - ing 35 little children, t h e p r o d u c t s of 35 different homes, 35 sets of parents, 35 de- grees of enthusiasm a b o u t their religion. N o t one child received t h e a t t e n t i o n he deserved. T i m e was so limited. T h e y learned their p r a y e r s a n d their catechism answers, y o u tell yourself. B u t how m u c h did t h e y learn to u n d e r s t a n d ? Join the Club T h e n y o u r t h o u g h t s t u r n to t h e parents. W o n d e r f u l , m o s t of t h e m . So sincere. So concerned. B u t so confounded t r u s t i n g in 2 m y ability as a teacher a n d so blind t o m y weaknesses. As a n experienced teacher of religion, you k n o w there is n o t h i n g u n i q u e a b o u t the p a r e n t s of this p a r t i c u l a r F i r s t C o m - m u n i o n class. T h e y are m e m b e r s of the club. T h e y belong t o t h a t great g r o u p of American Catholic m o t h e r s a n d f a t h e r s who t h i n k their children are p r o p e r l y pre- p a r e d f o r t h e s a c r a m e n t s simply because t h e y a t t e n d a parochial school or a parish catechism class. These are the p a r e n t s who t h i n k their responsibilities end when t h e y propel Sis or J u n i o r t h r o u g h t h e classroom door. These p a r e n t s are convinced t h a t only Sister S o - a n d - S o or Miss Something, t h e lay catechist, can teach t h e t r u t h s of reli- gion. T h e f a m i l y a n d the classroom are kept completely separate. As a result, generations of Catholics have been deprived of t h e riches t h a t should be theirs. T h e y enter a d u l t h o o d with spiritual e q u i p m e n t t h a t consists of a few prayers, a lot of memorized cate- chism answers a n d an a s s o r t m e n t of pious legends. T h e y t h i n k of religion in t e r m s of t h e classroom a n d the textbook, n o t as a vital force working in their e v e r y d a y lives. T h i s is n o t t o say t h a t we should abolish t h e f o r m a l teaching of religion. Sisters a n d lay catechists h a v e their place. B u t only 3 in t h e h o m e can a child learn the fullness of his life in Christ. O n l y in t h e h o m e can the child come t o appreciate the sacra- m e n t s as channels carrying G o d ' s love f r o m t h e Cross t o t h e h e a r t s of all w h o believe in H i m . "But I'm No Teacher!" All p a r e n t s h a v e these responsibilities t o serve as teachers of religion. And t h e re- sponsibilities are as real as those t h a t d e m a n d p a r e n t s t o keep their children fed, clothed a n d housed. H o w do t h e y do it? Ideally, y o u s t a r t teaching y o u r children as soon as t h e y are born. A p a r e n t teaches with every b r e a t h he draws. H e teaches b y w h a t he says, b y w h a t h e does a n d b y w h a t he is. T o o often, his example is b a d instead of good. Sometimes he can destroy t h e best efforts of t h e classroom teacher. Does it help a child t o memorize t h e im- p o r t a n c e of f r e q u e n t C o m m u n i o n when his p a r e n t s go once a m o n t h or once a y e a r ? Along with example, p r a y e r is also a good teacher. I n t h e early Church, t h e of- ficial p r a y e r — t h e L i t u r g y — was t h e chief m e a n s of instruction. I t can be a n i m p o r t a n t m e a n s of teaching in y o u r own home. Following t h e liturgical year, y o u can d r a m a t i z e a n d illuminate mysteries t h a t seem so d a r k a n d forbidding in t h e catechism. 4 B u t this is n o t our p r i m a r y s u b j e c t here; let it be enough for u s t o exhort y o u to teach y o u r little children to speak to G o d f r o m t h e d e p t h s of their believing hearts. E n c o u r a g e t h e m t o c h a t with their loving F a t h e r w h o m a d e t h e m a n d w h o gives t h e m every good thing. R e m i n d t h e m t o speak to H i s Son who gave H i s life t o bridge t h e g a p between G o d a n d m a n . This, you will recognize, is t h e basic p a t - t e r n for all Christian beliefs: G o d our F a t h e r reached t h r o u g h Christ o u r B r o t h - er. K e e p this basic p a t t e r n in m i n d . I t is the f o u n d a t i o n of all our knowledge of the sacraments. I t shows us a n d o u r children how t o u n d e r s t a n d a n d appreciate sacra- m e n t a l life. Pattern Is Scriptural N o w let's t a k e a closer look a t this basic p a t t e r n in p r e p a r a t i o n f o r teaching t h e sacraments. Let's look a t it t h r o u g h a r e a d - ily available i n s t r u m e n t — t h e Bible. T h i s is a k e y i n s t r u m e n t in t h e instruction of y o u r children. D o n ' t be a f r a i d of it. Pick it u p . R e a d it. T h e n s t a r t telling w h a t you read t o y o u r children. T h e Bible provides the detailed i n f o r m a - tion y o u r children need for t h e sacraments. T h e Bible reveals G o d t h e F a t h e r t h r o u g h the s t o r y of creation a n d t h r o u g h H i s con- s t a n t concern f o r t h e people of the T e s t a m e n t . I t shows God t h e Son as the Anointed One who died on t h e Cross, rose f r o m t h e d e a d a n d will r e t u r n again in glory. I t shows t h e H o l y Spirit as t h e D i - vine Love guiding a n d comforting the People of God. T h e Bible is a marvelous teaching aid. B u t it has been neglected b y Catholics be- cause t h e y d o u b t their ability to interpret difficult passages. Of course, there are such passages. B u t d o n ' t exaggerate t h e diffi- culty. Children a r e n ' t worried a b o u t theo- logical speculation. T h e y w a n t simple stories told in their own words. T h e y d o n ' t w a n t t o be confused b y delicate questions of semantics a n d geography. S t a r t y o u r Bible s t u d y with t h e s t o r y of creation. E m p h a s i z e t o y o u r children t h e goodness of God. Describe t h e creation of A d a m a n d Eve. M a k e it clear t h a t God gave A d a m a n d E v e b o t h h u m a n life a n d a share in G o d ' s own life. T h e catechism calls this God-life sanctifying grace. B u t d o n ' t concern yourself with catechism words a n d catechism definitions. J u s t stress the f a c t t h a t God-life was t h e greatest of t h e m a n y gifts t h a t God gave t o A d a m a n d Eve. A d a m a n d E v e rejected this gift. T h e y preferred their w a y t o G o d ' s w a y . T h i s selfish decision is described b y the cate- chism as original sin. 6 W i t h o u t God-life, A d a m a n d E v e h a d no hope of union with God. T h e y lacked the power t o do G o d ' s work j u s t as a dog with his dog-life a n d a pig with his pig-life lack the power t o d o h u m a n work. T h e children of A d a m a n d E v e — a n d t h a t includes M o m m a a n d D a d d y , B r o t h - er a n d Sister a n d even B a b y — were born w i t h o u t God-life. T h i s gift was gone. A d a m a n d E v e c o u l d n ' t pass it along t o f u - t u r e generations a n y more t h a n a m a n who s q u a n d e r s his f o r t u n e can pass it along to his children. B u t G o d the F a t h e r d i d n ' t a b a n d o n us. H e promised t o give m a n k i n d a second chance. A n d H e k e p t H i s promise b y send- ing t o u s H i s Son, Jesus of N a z a r e t h . I t was J e s u s w h o enabled us to again share in G o d ' s life a n d love. Jesus did this b y exchanging H i s life for t h e C h u r c h a n d t h e sacraments. Method Is Casual T h i s is h e a d y s t u f f . I t c a n ' t be given to children in a sentence or two. I t m u s t be stretched o u t a n d developed. I t m u s t be fed in small pieces t h a t can be digested. And t h e feeding m u s t t a k e place i n f o r m a l - ly, a l m o s t casually. Y o u h a v e n ' t got a chance if y o u order J o h n n y t o sit down f o r a half h o u r "because y o u a n d I are going to t a l k religion." 7 Bring u p religion b y asking questions. D o it a t meal times or during trips in t h e car or while dishes are being washed. H u n - dreds of p a r e n t s h a v e learned t h a t this m e t h o d works no m a t t e r where their chil- dren go t o school. Little children are vital- ly interested in G o d . T h e y w a n t to t a l k a b o u t H i m a n d t h e y w a n t to learn a b o u t H i m . If questions d o n ' t come to you w i t h o u t a struggle, y o u m a y h a v e t o s t a r t b y r e a d - ing something f r o m t h e Bible. Often, this works best a t bedtime. B u t be sure you d o n ' t r e a d something or tell something and t h e n c u t off t h e conversation. Always leave p l e n t y of time for discussion. L e t t h e questions of t h e children reveal w h a t t h e y d o or do n o t u n d e r s t a n d . At this point, you m a y be saying, " T h a t ' s all well a n d good. B u t w h a t if the discussion brings u p some questions I c a n ' t answer?" Certainly, this is a possibility. Children sometimes h a v e a k n a c k f o r cutting t o the h e a r t of t h e deepest philosophical prob- lems. So it's u p t o y o u to be p r e p a r e d . You have t o do y o u r homework. M u c h m a t e r i - al is available in libraries, bookstores a n d t h e catalogues of Catholic publishing houses. And t h e priest in y o u r parish rectory will be h a p p y t o answer questions for you. 8 W h e n it comes to a teaching method, it's h a r d t o do better t h a n t h e one used b y the Apostles. W h e n t h e y w a n t e d t o m a k e a point, t h e y used t h e words of Christ Himself. T h e y relied on their memories. W e can rely on t h e Gospels. Check the Catechism T o m a k e sure y o u are always on solid doctrinal ground, pick u p a catechism. You'll be especially wise if you select t h e Catholic Catechism t h a t was developed in G e r m a n y a n d t h a t is published in this c o u n t r y b y H e r d e r a n d H e r d e r . I t costs more t h a n t h e t r a d i t i o n a l nickel. B u t its a r r a n g e m e n t a n d its Christ-centered a p - proach m a k e it w o r t h its price. One word of warning a b o u t a n y cate- c h i s m : keep it a w a y f r o m y o u r children. K e e p it a w a y a n d it will never become a crutch f o r t h e m . L e t t h e catechists worry a b o u t the m e m - orization of questions a n d answers. As a parent, y o u w a n t t o reach t h e h e a r t a n d t h e intellect, not the m e m o r y . B u t even so, d o n ' t be a f r a i d t o repeat yourself. P r e - school children a n d those in t h e early grades d o t e on repetition. T h e y like f a m i l - iar stories — Goldilocks, T h r e e Little Pigs, H u m p t y D u m p t y . T h e y ' l l also like f a m i l - iar stories a b o u t A d a m a n d A b r a h a m , 9 Moses a n d D a v i d . And they'll learn t o love t h e s t o r y of t h e G o d - m a n w h o called Himself " t h e way, t h e t r u t h a n d t h e life." T h i s knowledge, this u n d e r s t a n d i n g , pre- p a r e s y o u r children f o r t h e s a c r a m e n t s received b y t h e young. N o w let's look a t these s a c r a m e n t s one b y one: TEACHING THE SACRAMENT OF BAPTISM M o s t Catholic p a r e n t s see t o it t h a t their children are b a p t i z e d a week or t w o a f t e r t h e y are born. So it seems a b i t s t r a n g e to t r y to tell a child a b o u t a s a c r a m e n t he re- ceived five, six or seven years earlier. B u t tell a b o u t t h e s a c r a m e n t of B a p t i s m we m u s t . F o r little children — a n d for us, too — B a p t i s m m a k e s sense only when viewed in t h e light of Salvation H i s t o r y . B a p t i s m is t h e s a c r a m e n t t h a t restores to u s t h e God-life t h a t was lost b y t h e decision of A d a m . B a p t i s m repairs t h e G o d - t o - m a n h o o k u p t o r n a p a r t b y o u r first parents. B a p t i s m doesn't j u s t wash a w a y original sin; it brings t o o u r souls the light of G o d ' s love. T h i s effect can best be u n d e r s t o o d b y children t h r o u g h t h e b a p t i s m a l ceremony itself. I n a p r o p e r l y conducted B a p t i s m , t h e ceremony s t a r t s a t t h e entrance t o t h e 10 church building. T h i s shows t h a t w i t h o u t B a p t i s m a person is n o t a m e m b e r of t h e Church, n o t a p a r t of Christ's M y s t i c a l B o d y . A n d a person isn't eligible f o r m e m - bership u n t i l he asks — b y himself or t h r o u g h his G o d p a r e n t s — f o r t h e gift of F a i t h . T h e n the priest escorts h i m to t h e b a p t i s t r y within t h e church. In t h e b a p t i s t r y , t h e priest pours t h e w a t e r a n d speaks the words c o m m a n d e d b y Christ Himself. T h e w a t e r r e m i n d s u s of Christ a n d H i s cousin J o h n when t h e y m e t a t t h e River J o r d a n . T h e meeting was a t u r n i n g point in Christ's life. I t m a r k e d t h e s t a r t of H i s public career as king, teacher a n d rescuer of t h e world. I n our d a y , B a p t i s m is a t u r n i n g point for all of us. I t gives u s t h e credentials t o continue Christ's work. T h i s is m a d e clear in m a n y of t h e ceremonies connected with B a p t i s m . A white robe is used t o show t h e changes b r o u g h t a b o u t b y t h e sacra- ment. A lighted candle symbolizes the Christian's responsibility t o c a r r y t h e Light of t h e W o r l d to all m a n k i n d . Liturgical Props I n recent years, t h e r e h a s been a revival of t h e ancient c u s t o m of individual b a p - t i s m a l robes a n d candles. M a n y p a r e n t s m a k e sure each child has his own robe a n d his own candle. These are used on t h e 11 d a y of B a p t i s m . And t h e y are used again on t h e anniversaries of t h e B a p t i s m . T h e b a p t i s m a l robe a n d candle are more m e a n i n g f u l if t h e y are m a d e b y the p a r - ents themselves. M o t h e r can sew t h e robe a n d p e r h a p s embroider it with simple pic- tures related to the s a c r a m e n t . F a t h e r could design t h e pictures or symbols or he could decorate t h e candle with a cross or a fish or some other symbol of Christ. All t h i s activity shows a child t h a t B a p - tism is i m p o r t a n t . I t shows a child t h a t there is something special a b o u t B a p t i s m . I t shows a child t h a t B a p t i s m h a s given h i m special power, t h a t B a p t i s m h a s re- stored t o h i m t h e God-life lost b y A d a m . W i t h o u t this u n d e r s t a n d i n g of B a p t i s m , a child c a n n o t possibly be p r o p e r l y pre- p a r e d for t h e other sacraments. TEACHING THE SACRAMENT OF THE EUCHARIST I n 1910, P i u s X, the m o d e r n saint of t h e Eucharist, s a i d : "A f u l l a n d perfect knowledge of Chris- t i a n doctrine is n o t necessary either for F i r s t Confession or F i r s t C o m m u n i o n . A f - terwards, however, t h e child will be obliged t o learn g r a d u a l l y t h e entire catechism according t o his ability. " T h e knowledge of religion which is re- 12 quired in a child in order to be properly p r e p a r e d t o receive F i r s t C o m m u n i o n is such t h a t he will u n d e r s t a n d , according t o his capacity, those mysteries of f a i t h which are necessary as a means of salva- tion a n d t h a t he can distinguish t h e B r e a d of the E u c h a r i s t a n d ordinary, m a t e r i a l bread, a n d t h u s he m a y receive H o l y C o m - m u n i o n with a devotion becoming his years." I n other words, a child can receive t h e E u c h a r i s t w i t h o u t having a degree in t h e - ology. A child can receive as soon as he knows t h e basic t r u t h s — as outlined in the Apostles' Creed — a n d as soon as he u n d e r s t a n d s t h e t r u e n a t u r e of t h e E u c h a - rist itself. U n d e r s t a n d i n g t h e t r u t h s of t h e Apos- tles' Creed isn't easy. B u t we've got t o realize t h a t a child's u n d e r s t a n d i n g doesn't h a v e t o be perfect. All a small child really needs t o u n d e r s t a n d is t h a t G o d is t h e F a t h e r of all of us a n d t h a t H e created all things. T h e n t h e small one m u s t u n d e r - s t a n d t h a t Jesus Christ is t h e only Son of G o d w h o became m a n t o die f o r o u r sins a n d t o rise in glory f r o m t h e t o m b . T h i s is the Christ who sent t h e H o l y Spirit, t h e T h i r d Person of t h e Blessed T r i n i t y , t o enlighten us. And this is t h e Christ w h o will r e t u r n t o the world t o complete H i s kingdom. 13 Explained by Christ All this is spelled o u t in t h e Bible. B y direct c o m m a n d a n d b y p a r a b l e a n d exam- ple, Christ explained w h a t w e need t o know a b o u t o u r religion. A n d H e m a d e it clear t h a t the God-life in t h e soul of a Christian needs a special kind of nourish- ment. H e said t h e person who eats H i s Flesh a n d d r i n k s H i s Blood will live forever. I n H i s first miracle a t C a n a of Galilee, H e refreshed H i s friends with w a t e r t u r n e d into wine. I n t h e wilderness, H e fed t h o u - sands with a few loaves of b r e a d a n d a few fishes. B y this, H e showed H i s willingness t o care f o r o u r needs. B u t w h a t H e did in t h e wilderness was only a w a r m - u p f o r the miracle of t h e L a s t S u p p e r when H e gave u s H i s B o d y a n d Blood. T h i s is a mystery, one of t h e great m y s - teries of o u r F a i t h . W e c a n ' t f u l l y u n d e r - s t a n d it. W e c a n ' t expect f u l l u n d e r s t a n d - ing f r o m o u r children. B u t we can h e l p t h e m learn t h a t t h e b r e a d a n d wine were changed on t h a t first H o l y T h u r s d a y . T h e y looked u n c h a n g e d . Yet, a f t e r Christ spoke the words of consecration, the b r e a d a n d t h e wine became Christ Himself. Next, Christ o u r B r o t h e r gave this same great power t o H i s Apostles. H e com- m a n d e d t h e m to say, " T h i s is M y B o d y " 14 a n d " T h i s is M y Blood." And t h e Apostles passed down their power f r o m generation to generation. And now this same power rests with o u r own priests in our own parish churches. W e m u s t m a k e it clear t h a t o u r priests use their power of consecration a t t h e Mass. W e m u s t explain t h a t t h e M a s s is both H o l y T h u r s d a y a n d G o o d F r i d a y . W e m u s t show how we give ourselves a t t h e O f f e r t o r y ; t h e b r e a d a n d wine — t h e food we need t o live — represents o u r lives. T h i s is w h a t we give t o G o d : we offer our i m p e r f e c t lives to a perfect God. God doesn't need o u r offering. B u t H e is a loving F a t h e r . So H e accepts o u r gifts a n d H e changes t h e m into something H e does need. H e changes t h e m i n t o H i s own Son. T h e n , a t t h e Communion, H e shares the gift with us. Vernacular Mass Helps T h a n k s to t h e V a t i c a n Council, all of t h e meaning of t h e M a s s is a good deal easier t o comprehend. W e can see more clearly how Christ joins u s a n d helps u s in t h e worship of God t h e F a t h e r . W e can join with e n t h u s i a s m t h e M a s s p r a y e r s said in our own language. And in m a n y p a r t s of t h e country, t h e O f f e r t o r y proces- 15 sion h a s been revived so t h a t we can ac- tively p a r t i c i p a t e in the presentation of t h e gifts of b r e a d a n d wine. T h e Offertory procession is a t r e m e n - dous teaching tool. Children see unconse- crated hosts deposited in t h e ciborium. T h e n t h e y see l a y m e n c a r r y t h e ciborium t o t h e a l t a r . T h e offering of b r e a d is no longer a m a t t e r of blind belief; it is a m a t - ter of reality. T h e p a r t i c i p a t i o n b y l a y m e n also u n d e r - scores t h e f a m i l y n a t u r e of t h e Mass, t h e f a c t t h a t t h e M a s s is a j o y f u l exchange of gifts between our F a t h e r a n d H i s children, a great b a n q u e t t h a t d r a w s G o d ' s f a m i l y into t h e u n i t y of the table. I t w o u l d n ' t be o u t of place t o explain to y o u r children t h a t t h e early Christians celebrated t h e M a s s a r o u n d their dining tables. T h e first a l t a r linens were t a b l e - cloths. T h e first sacred vessels were picked f r o m the best tableware. A n d our candles developed f r o m t h e oil l a m p s t h a t illuminated t h e table, t h e f o o d a n d t h e h a p p y faces of t h e diners. Again a n d again in the Gospels, Christ is shown a t t h e t a b l e sharing food with all m a n n e r of men. H e t a l k e d with t h e m a n d H e laughed with t h e m . Sometimes, H e t a u g h t t h e m with a s t o r y or a miracle. Always H e was relaxed a n d a t home, j u s t 16 as we should be when we p l a y a role in the b a n q u e t t h a t is t h e Mass. Guarding Against Scruples Children will be more a t ease if t h e y are given a chance to familiarize t h e m - selves with a l t a r bread. M a n y youngsters find it h a r d to u n d e r s t a n d t h a t those strange-looking white circles really started o u t as b r e a d . W h e n t h e y t h i n k of bread, t h e y t h i n k of t h e kind you b u y a t t h e A & P . So t h e y m u s t h a v e a chance to learn t h a t even unconsecrated a l t a r bread is different f r o m t h e b r e a d t h e y use a t home. Ask y o u r p a s t o r for a n unconsecrated host or two. L e t y o u r children touch, taste a n d smell. L e t t h e m find o u t f o r t h e m - selves t h a t this is b r e a d — different t h a n m o s t bread, b u t still bread. T h i s f a m i l i a r - i t y won't decrease the reverence of a child. I t will eliminate the worries t h a t so often keep children f r o m concentrating on the E u c h a r i s t itself. M a n y children also are bothered b y t h e m i s t a k e n idea t h a t there's something sin- f u l a b o u t touching t h e Sacred H o s t with t h e teeth. Such notions should be laid to rest immediately. T h e children should be told t h a t Jesus c o m m a n d e d H i s Apostles t o eat. H e d i d n ' t s a y a t h i n g a b o u t n o t chewing. 17 Sacrament of Unity T h e eating of t h e "one b r e a d , " as St. P a u l called the Eucharist, drew t h e Apos- tles together in u n i t y . And this same u n i t y should be the aim of Christians t o d a y . B y o u r own p a r t i c i p a t i o n in t h e Mass, we can teach o u r children t h a t t h e reception of t h e E u c h a r i s t is n o t a p r i v a t e devotion. I t is n o t a t i m e f o r closed eyes a n d pious looks. I t is n o t an excuse to s h u t o u t the world. I n s t e a d , t h e C o m m u n i o n of t h e M a s s is t h e time when we walk in closest union with Christ and o u r brothers in Christ. E n c o u r a g e y o u r children t o t h i n k a b o u t this. T r y t o set aside a little time each d a y for p r a y e r a n d t h o u g h t b y t h e m . E v e n very young children can do this. T h e idea is to spend j u s t a few m i n u t e s a w a y f r o m t h e noise of t h e transistor r a d i o a n d t h e television set, a few minutes in quiet con- versation with God. D u r i n g this period of meditation, t h e children can praise G o d f o r H i s goodness a n d t h e y c a n ask f o r t h e help t h e y need t o be w o r t h y of receiving G o d ' s Son. Such t h o u g h t s a r e b o u n d t o produce better u n d e r s t a n d i n g a n d t h a t , in t u r n , will t e n d t o minimize t h e excitement t h a t so o f t e n interferes with F i r s t Com- m u n i o n d a y . I t is a f a c t t h a t some children become physically ill on t h e d a y t h e y are t o re- 18 ceive C o m m u n i o n f o r t h e first time. T h e y become ill because t h e y h a v e been pulled a n d tugged with worries a b o u t t h e condi- tion of their souls, t h e neatness of their garments a n d t h e order in which t h e y are to a p p r o a c h t h e altar. T o o often, these worries are c o m m u n i c a t e d t o children b y eager b u t thoughtless catechism teachers. T h e only a n t i d o t e is a p a r e n t w h o calmly works to soothe a n d reassure his child. T h e youngster w h o really u n d e r s t a n d s the E u c h a r i s t a n d the M a s s w o n ' t expect t o be m a d e deliriously h a p p y b y t h e recep- tion of t h e H o s t . If he h a s a t t e n d e d M a s s with his p a r e n t s f r o m his earliest years, he will know t h a t t h e E u c h a r i s t creates a new level of spiritual m a t u r i t y , a level built on t h e solid f o u n d a t i o n of t h e B o d y a n d Blood, Soul and Divinity of t h e Glori- fied Christ. TEACHING THE SACRAMENT OF PENANCE One of the u n f o r t u n a t e results of class- room p r e p a r a t i o n f o r t h e s a c r a m e n t s is the w a y so m a n y Catholics weld together t h e ideas of H o l y C o m m u n i o n a n d t h e sacra- m e n t of Penance. F o r these Catholics, there can be no S u n d a y morning Com- m u n i o n w i t h o u t a S a t u r d a y night t r i p to t h e confessional. T h e y are u n a b l e to t h i n k a b o u t receiving C o m m u n i o n more t h a n 12 19 or 14 h o u r s a f t e r Confession. As a result, weekday Masses are less a t t r a c t i v e a n d some S u n d a y C o m m u n i o n s are skipped because t h e r e was no S a t u r d a y confession. T h e confession-first notion got its s t a r t in t h e d a y s prior t o P i u s X . T h e n F i r s t C o m m u n i o n was delayed u n t i l t h e y o u n g - sters were in their teens. I t m a d e sense for such children to confess before t h e y received. Classroom training p r o g r a m s tended to freeze t h e order. And t h e r e was no t h a w even a f t e r St. P i u s urged t h e reception of C o m m u n i o n b y little children. I n a d d i t i o n to reducing t h e n u m b e r of Communions, the confession-first notion has tended t o downgrade t h e s a c r a m e n t of Penance. I t h a s m a d e P e n a n c e a sort of auxiliary t o the E u c h a r i s t . I t h a s pre- vented y o u n g a n d old f r o m f u l l y a p p r e - ciating t h e special work Christ intended f o r Penance. Now, in m a n y parishes the p a r e n t s h a v e little choice a b o u t t h e timing of F i r s t C o m - m u n i o n a n d F i r s t Confession. B u t still p a r e n t s have a n obligation t o d o all t h e y can t o teach t h e distinctness of t h e t w o sacraments. T h e y h a v e a n obligation t o teach their children t h a t confession is n o t essential f o r C o m m u n i o n a n d t h a t confes- sion h a s its own special place in o u r spir- i t u a l life. 20 Rooted in Nature Like all the sacraments, P e n a n c e is rooted in t h e n a t u r e of m a n a n d in the history of salvation: the creation a n d fall of o u r first parents, G o d ' s promise of a Redeemer a n d the a p p e a r a n c e of t h a t Re- deemer in t h e Person of Jesus Christ. I t was Jesus Christ w h o provided the p a t h to salvation f o r all men. I t was H e w h o gave u s B a p t i s m t o restore the G o d - life rejected for all m a n k i n d b y A d a m . B u t in giving u s B a p t i s m , God did n o t w a n t t o t a k e a w a y o u r free will. H e w a n t e d us to remain free t o love H i m or to h a t e H i m . F r e e d o m is a w o n d e r f u l gift. I t gives meaning to o u r p r a y e r s to God. I t m a k e s o u r actions worthwhile. B u t there also is a terrible aspect to freedom. I t m a k e s it possible for u s t o t u r n o u r b a c k s on God, t o do our will instead of God's will. And when we do this — when we reject God j u s t as A d a m rejected God — we banish f r o m o u r souls t h e G o d - life we obtained a t B a p t i s m . T h i s rejection of God we call m o r t a l sin. I t is m o r t a l because it drives divine life f r o m o u r souls, leaving t h e m as d e a d as t h e y were before B a p t i s m . A venial sin isn't as serious. I t doesn't drive God-life f r o m t h e soul. B u t it does weaken u s a n d m a k e u s m o r e likely t o will t h e t o t a l re- jection of God t h a t is m o r t a l sin. 21 M o r t a l sin involves complete, t h o u g h t - f u l rejection of God in some serious m a t t e r . Venial sin involves less complete or less t h o u g h t f u l or less serious action. Positive Approach N o w let's a p p r o a c h t h e s u b j e c t of sin f r o m the positive side. Let's do it by m a k i n g use of a t a b l e l a m p a n d a mirror. T h e l a m p represents G o d ; t h e mirror is m a n . A f t e r creation, m a n faced God a n d reflected t h e divine light as t h e mirror re- flects t h e light of t h e l a m p . T h e n m a n chose to do his will instead of G o d ' s will. M a n t u r n e d a w a y f r o m G o d a n d m a n ' s soul was d a r k e n e d j u s t as the t u r n e d mir- ror is d a r k e n e d . T h r o u g h t h e s a c r a m e n t of B a p t i s m , Christ t u r n e d m a n b a c k t o - ward G o d a n d m a n ' s soul again was illuminated with God-life. B u t t h e mirror w a s n ' t forced t o reflect the l a m p f o r a n eternity. I t can be t u r n e d a w a y again and again j u s t as m a n can t u r n a w a y f r o m G o d again a n d again a f t e r B a p t i s m . I t is t h r o u g h P e n a n c e t h a t Christ swings m e n back t o God. I t is t h r o u g h P e n a n c e t h a t the souls of m e n are brightened with God-life. Because H e was God, Christ knew men would misuse their free will, t h a t t h e y would prefer their w a y to G o d ' s way. 22 D u r i n g H i s time on earth, Christ acknowl- edged t h e existence of sin a n d H e d e m - o n s t r a t e d t h a t H e was eager to forgive. As God, H e h a d the power t o forgive sins a n d H e gave t h i s s a m e power t o H i s Apos- tles. T h e power now resides with t h e Bishops a n d t h e priests who follow in the footsteps of t h e Apostles. T h e priest is the i n s t r u m e n t t h a t con- veys the light of G o d ' s love t o a soul d a r k - ened b y sin. T h e priest throws t h e switch t h a t connects t h e lifeless soul t o t h e life- giving d y n a m o of t h e Crucified a n d Risen Christ. So when children — or grownups — confess to t h e priest, t h e y really are confessing t o God Himself. Spiritual Witch Hunting W h a t does a child confess? Well, m o s t authorities are agreed t h a t it's nearly i m - possible f o r a small child t o c o m m i t a m o r t a l sin. B u t children do h a v e f a u l t s a n d t h e y should be encouraged t o locate these f a u l t s t h r o u g h an examination of conscience. T o properly m a k e such an examination, children need t h e help of their parents. L i t t l e ones o f t e n are u n c e r t a i n a b o u t their activities a n d a search f o r f a u l t s could t u r n into a spiritual witch h u n t . One w a y t o avoid this is t o spend a few m i n u t e s a t b e d t i m e reviewing t h e d a y with 23 each child. T h e review should include everything, good a n d b a d . T h e n t h e child can see how m a n y of the things he did were acts of love because t h e y were in h a r - m o n y with t h e will of God. E a t i n g a n ice cream cone, riding a bicycle, skipping rope can be p r a y e r s if t h e y are done because God w a n t e d t h e m done. E m p h a s i z i n g t h e positive reduces t h e possibility of t h e child being harassed b y the t h o u g h t of sin. T h e positive a p p r o a c h should tend t o m a k e the child w a n t t o do more a n d more t h a t God w a n t s h i m t o do. I t should tend to erase t h e t h o u g h t t h a t a Catholic fulfills his obligation when he manages t o avoid sin. Of course, guiding children in their ex- a m i n a t i o n of conscience is ticklish business. B u t it also is v e r y necessary business. Only t h e p a r e n t s can keep their children on t h e safe m i d d l e ground between wor- rying too m u c h a b o u t w h a t t h e y do a n d not worrying enough. A t t h e same time, p a r e n t s m u s t be careful. T h e y m u s t never give t h e impression t h e y w a n t their chil- dren t o t a t t l e on themselves or on their friends. Sorrow "in Own Words" P a r e n t s m u s t stress t h e i m p o r t a n c e of sorrow — not for the d i s c o m f o r t t h e sin m i g h t h a v e caused M a m a a n d D a d d y b u t for t h e insult t h e sin was t o God H i m - 24 self. One of t h e best w a y s to stress sorrow is b y emphasizing self-expression in m a k - ing a n act of contrition. M a n y children t r a i n e d on t h e catechism have memorized an a c t of contrition. B u t ask t h e m a b o u t it someday. F i n d o u t w h a t t h e y u n d e r - s t a n d . You m a y be surprised to discover t h a t m a n y of these children h a v e m e m - orized words a n d nothing more. T h e y say, "An a c t of c o n t r i t i o n " : then t h e y m u m b l e words t h a t are meaningless to them- T o get a r o u n d this, p a r e n t s should in- sist t h a t their children express their sor- row in their own words. T h i s should be easy f o r little children who h a v e n ' t learned to be embarrassed b y v o c a b u l a r y weaknesses a n d w h o h a v e n ' t learned t o hide their own feelings in a c u t - a n d - d r i e d f o r m u l a . T i n y children can say, "God, I a m sorry I was m e a n to m y sister. I w o n ' t be m e a n ever again. I w a n t t o d o w h a t You w a n t me to do. Y o u ' v e been so good to m e . " An a c t of contrition spoken f r o m the h e a r t instead of t h e m e m o r y should be a p a r t of the nightly routine. And it should be clear t o t h e children t h a t their request f o r p a r d o n is all t h a t is necessary for the forgiveness of m i n o r sins. T h e s a c r a m e n t of P e n a n c e was insti- t u t e d b y a m e r c i f u l God to t a k e care of 25 our serious offenses, t h e offenses t h a t sep- a r a t e us f r o m active m e m b e r s h i p in t h e B o d y of Christ. T h i s f a c t is clearer to us now t h a t English h a s replaced L a t i n in the official p r a y e r s of t h e sacraments. W e can hear the priest speaking t h e words t h a t restore God-life in o u r souls. And it is fit- ting t h a t we and our children should respond with a p r a y e r for forgiveness f r a m e d in o u r own words. T h e linking of P e n a n c e with serious sin shows w h y this s a c r a m e n t should be k e p t as distinct as possible f r o m the s a c r a m e n t of t h e E u c h a r i s t . I t also shows w h y it is possible f o r a small child t o go to C o m - m u n i o n long before his F i r s t Confession. I n some parishes, a C o m m u n i o n - f i r s t policy has been a d o p t e d . T h e idea is t o let chil- dren wait until t h e y are older before t h e y m a k e their first t r i p t o the confessional. Older children a r e m o r e likely to u n d e r - s t a n d their own actions a n d t h e y are less likely t o panic in the d a r k a n d forbidding confessional. Making Penance Easier F o r all children, t h e confessional is a frightening place. I t is c r a m p e d a n d plain while t h e rest of the church is spacious a n d richly decorated. I t seems too small a place f o r God to work H i s great power. 26 F o r these reasons, it is i m p o r t a n t f o r p a r - ents to t a k e their children t o church to visit t h e confessional. Pick a t i m e when t h e confessional isn't in use a n d when no services are in progress. L e t the children kneel in t h e proper place. Close the door a n d let t h e m feel t h e darkness. Show t h e m where F a t h e r sits. W o r k t h e slide for them. L e t t h e m see a n d hear a n d touch. Give t h e m every o p p o r t u n i t y t o become f a m i l i a r with the little space t h a t some- d a y could be of vital i m p o r t a n c e t o t h e m . A t home, y o u can help p r e p a r e f o r F i r s t Confession b y letting y o u r child confess a few m a d e - u p sins to you. H e kneels down a n d you p l a y the priest. Y o u m a y be shocked b y t h e n u m b e r of b a n k robberies a n d axe m u r d e r s confessed b y y o u r d a r - ling. B u t p l a y it s t r a i g h t a n d ask a n y of the questions y o u t h i n k m i g h t be asked by a confessor. B y combining instruction a n d practice, p a r e n t s can h e l p their children u n d e r s t a n d t h e significance of Penance. T h e y c a n u n - d e r s t a n d w h y in times p a s t penitents were m e t outside t h e confessional b y their f a m - ilies. T h e r e was obvious j o y as t h e y wel- comed with t h e kiss of peace a m a n or a w o m a n w h o h a d come h o m e t o the B o d y of t h e L o r d . 27 TEACHING THE SACRAMENT OF CONFIRMATION R e a l spiritual a d u l t h o o d arrives with Confirmation. U n f o r t u n a t e l y , this f a c t seldom is understood b y practicing C a t h - olics. Ask a Catholic school p u p i l a b o u t Confirmation a n d he's sure t o say it m a k e s us "soldiers of Jesus Christ." If y o u ask w h a t this means, you'll be told "it m a k e s us r e a d y to die f o r our F a i t h . " T h i s is true, of course. B u t it is t r u t h tricked o u t in a suit of a r m o r , fighting a n d falling in an infidel a t t a c k on some a n - cient a n d sacred basilica. T h e word "sol- dier" produces a distorted image of t h e confirmed Christian. T h e challenge of t o d a y , a t least here in America, isn't dying for o u r F a i t h . I t is living f o r it. I t is t r y - ing t o live a life t h a t centers on G o d a n d n o t on m a n . I t ' s working to overcome o u r American craving f o r m a t e r i a l things. I t ' s standing u p f o r t h e oppressed with t h e courage used b y Christ when H e s a t down with sinners. I t ' s working a n d playing, e a t - ing a n d sleeping a s m e m b e r s of Christ's M y s t i c a l B o d y . Meaning for Today These things always h a v e been impor- t a n t . B u t seldom in history h a s t h e i m - p o r t a n c e been so evident as it is t o d a y . T h e 28 Negro revolution of t h e 1960's has pro- duced new stresses a n d pressures on our Christian a t t i t u d e s . I t h a s forced black m e n a n d white m e n t o re-evaluate their feelings t o w a r d themselves a n d t o w a r d their brothers. As Americans, we also h a v e come to recognize t h e f a c t t h a t n o t all families have shared f u l l y in t h e wealth of t h e richest society in h u m a n history. As Catholics, we h a v e been b r o u g h t face to f a c e with t h e need f o r modernization to m e e t m o d e r n problems. As m e m b e r s of t h e race of m a n , we h a v e seen growing problems of ignorance, greed, disease, a n d despair. T h e only h o p e is in t h e work of Jesus Christ. And t h i s work m u s t now be done b y those of us w h o h a v e been m a d e f u l l members in H i s M y s t i c a l B o d y . Confirma- tion is t h e s a c r a m e n t t h a t grants this f u l l membership. I t is t h e s a c r a m e n t t h a t gives u s f u l l a u t h o r i t y t o speak a n d a c t f o r Christ Himself. W e are Christ's h a n d s a n d Christ's tongue. W e bear witness t o H i m b y w h a t we do a n d w h a t we say. W e h a v e been commissioned b y H i m t o bring H i s order, H i s peace a n d H i s love to all. Spiritual Peace Corps Confirmation brings t o u s t h e H o l y Spirit. T h i s is the Spirit of Love. T h i s is 29 the Spirit w h o gives life t o t h e Mystical B o d y of Christ m u c h as t h e h u m a n soul gives life to t h e h u m a n body. M a n y learned books have been written a b o u t t h e M y s t i c a l B o d y . N o n e of these books can f u l l y explain this great m y s t e r y . B u t we do h a v e t h e W o r d of God t h a t Christ lives in t h e world t h r o u g h us. H e is the H e a d a n d we are t h e members. T h e world first saw this on t h e feast of P e n t e - cost. T h e n t h e H o l y Spirit overcame t h e fear of t h e new Christians. T h e y c a m e o u t of hiding. And t h e y s t a r t e d preaching t h e astounding t r u t h t h a t t h e crucified Christ rose f r o m t h e d e a d a n d will come again to establish a k i n g d o m t h a t will have n o end. T h e Bishops who t o d a y administer Con- firmation are the successors of the Apos- tles. T h i s is deeply a p p r o p r i a t e because t h e graces of Confirmation gave t h e Apos- tles t h e strength t h e y needed t o launch the first massive missionary effort. And Con- firmation t o d a y can provide t h e f u e l f o r t h e renewed missionary work so sorely needed t o change every corner of t h e world. W o r k in t h e missions is exciting t o y o u n g people. T h e y like to h e a r a b o u t t h e m e n and women who are sacrificing so m u c h for Christ. Surely such i n f o r m a t i o n should be a p a r t of every child's p r e p a r a t i o n f o r Con- firmation. D o n ' t limit the i n f o r m a t i o n to 30 stories of priests, B r o t h e r s a n d Sisters in t h e foreign missions. R e m e m b e r the work of l a y people in t h e P a p a l Volunteers and similar organizations. Describe the contri- butions being m a d e each d a y b y those who work with t h e poor in o u r city slums. And d o n ' t overlook t h e t r e m e n d o u s accomplish- m e n t s of t h e young people who volunteered for d u t y in t h e Peace Corps. Specially Anointed B y learning a b o u t t h e work of Christ in t o d a y ' s world, y o u n g people can come t o u n d e r s t a n d t h e i m p o r t a n c e of Confirma- tion in Christ's p l a n f o r us. W e can help this u n d e r s t a n d i n g b y explaining t h e cere- m o n y used in t h e administering of Con- firmation. W i t h your children, read t h e p r a y e r s of t h e ceremony. E x p l a i n how t h e use of holy chrism symbolizes t h e w a y Confirmation sets u s aside as special in- s t r u m e n t s of God. W e are m a r k e d for G o d ' s service. W e are anointed with pre- cious oil t o show t h a t we a r e r e a d y t o p a r - ticipate more f u l l y in Christ's work as a priest. Like all sacraments, Confirmation h a s b o t h its o u t w a r d sign a n d its i n w a r d grace. Like all sacraments, Confirmation was in- s t i t u t e d b y Christ. A n d H e designed this s a c r a m e n t t o equip u s a n d o u r children to c a r r y H i s love t o all men. 31 M a k i n g this f a c t clear t o t h e children, requires a long-term effort. You c a n ' t ex- p l a i n Confirmation a week before t h e Bishop's visit a n d h o p e t h a t y o u r explana- tion will l a s t a lifetime. T h e graces of Con- firmation are available on call b u t o u r children m a y never m a k e t h e call if we fail t o r e m i n d t h e m c o n s t a n t l y of their new powers a n d their new responsibilities. Confirmation creates a d u l t Christians. I t fits o u t our children f o r lives of service to G o d a n d to their neighbors. I t prepares t h e m f o r m a r r i a g e or f o r life in religion. Confirmation is such an i m p o r t a n t sac- r a m e n t t h a t its reception should be m a d e a n i m p o r t a n t event. T h e r e should be spe- cial recognition f o r t h e person t o be con- firmed, recognition b y t h e f a m i l y a n d in t h e h o m e . I n this way, even on t h e d a y of Confirmation t h e p a r e n t s will be discharg- ing their unending, God-given responsibil- ity to teach their children the w a y s of Jesus Christ. N I H I L OBSTAT—John L. Reedy, C.S.C. Censor Deputatus I M P R I M A T U R — « Most Rev. Leo A. Pursley, D.D. Bishop of Fort Wayne-South Bend All rights reserved. This pamphlet may not be reproduced by any means in whole or in part without prior permission. 32 P R E P A R I N G Y O U R C H I L D FOR THE S A C R A M E N T S o r i g i n a l l y a p p e a r e d in a s p e c i a l series of articles entitled: P A R E N T S A S T E A C H E R S . This p a m p h l e t is p u b - lished in response to the requests of those p e o p l e w h o r e a d it first in . . . AWE MARIA • V I f f NATIONAL. W CATHOLIC • • V • • w e e k l y