Family sacramentals / edited by Walter Sullivan. Sacramentals A GRAIL PUBUCATION St, MAttrud Indiana Family Sacramentals Family Sacramentals âlien ^uUrnn, (0.^.^. Price Fifteen Cents A GRAIL PUBLICATION St, Meinrad Indiana Imprimi potest x ^ Ignatius Esser, O. S. B. Abbot of St. Meinrad's Abbey Nihil obstat: Rev. Joseph D. Brokage, S. T. D. Censor librorum Imprimatur : Paul C. Schulte, D. D. Archbishop of Indianapolis February 27, 1952 Copyright 1952 by St. Meinrad's Abbey, Inc. Note: Six of these ten chapters are by the Rev- erend Walter Sullivan, O.S.B. The other four by others as noted in the Contents. CONTENTS Introduction 1 The Christian Family’s First Sacramentals 3 Children are the Fruit of Love 10 Thanksgiving for Life 20 Sacramental of the Domestic Hearth 29 by Abbot Ignatius Esser, O.S.B. The Little Church That A Home Is 36 Eat, Drink, and Be Saints 45 by Frances King The Farmer’s Sacramentals 53 The Sacramentals of the Travelers 62 Praise The Lord, Ye Blast Furnaces 70 by Rev. Joseph M. Miller Saints Around Our Deathbed 80 by Rev. Joseph M. Miller f o i; > , "’''' ' ''' '^' ' f’f- dvv-' -' k %A^ iiA'.' ‘ k 'V'(, \<\ ' .:i^'J''r''i*^‘r^'' '_ Ifv H mi- 4'.- V' • /t 'A I- ’V^W. i' ' :,' ' i V'. , i; ' . . ., j ‘ '^P ' ,•'• , : • - : '- r'i'.‘. tV'.n Ji. ’ ' TSi' ^-; - ^ • . .. ^ ,’ ’-. .. 'i»^ -d : s . .‘-.'•A.. •', . ' 1 tl r,.^^ \v ^ \\ i. ' m i INTRODUCTION I THINK it was the Japanese missionary Toyohito Kagawa who once said that a man reveals that he is a Christian even by the way he lights the kitchen fire. Kagawa was not so very wrong at that. For it is obvious how a man reveals his Christianity by attending Mass, or standing in line to go to confes- sion, or making the sign of the cross in a restaurant; but it becomes more difficult to distinguish the Chris- tian from the infidel when the former sits at the teller’s window in a bank, or blows his whistle as a traffic cop, or plunges a hypodermic needle in a patient’s body as a nurse or doctor. Yet it is the genius of Christianity that it can touch a man or woman not only at Church during Sunday Mass, but even after they go home from church and begin wading through the Sunday comics and society news. It can touch them during the night when they lie side by side in the intimacy of love; it can touch the housewife on Monday morning as she bends over the wash board, or flips the switch on the new elec- tric washing machine. It follows the man to his office or workship or the farm. For even in the way a man transacts business in his office, or handles a rivet- I ing machine in his machine shop, or operates a com- bine he can reveal himself as a Christian. Christianity does this by unifying daily life by the driving motive that God can be glorified in all things ... in the changing of a baby's diaper, in the playing of a rubber of bridge, or settling down to a dish of orange ice and chocolate cake. Christianity also touches the Christian and redeems him not only by the Sacraments which confer sanc- tifying grace and increase it in the soul, but by a hundred lesser instruments of Christian holiness known as Sacramentals. By means of her blessings on machinery, on ani- mals, on beer, automobiles and sick babies, the Church does a greater thing than Cinderella’s fairy god- mother who touched a pumpkin and mice and changed them into a coach and four horses. For the Church knows, wise mother that she is, that by touching the homely and intimate things of a Christian’s daily life she can change these poor things into instruments of grace and personal holiness. There are hundreds of these sacramental blessings listed in the Roman Ritual—^which touch and sanc- tify the Christian at home, in the workshop or field, and during the hours of recreation, but we shall pass over them all for the present and begin with the sacramentals of the Christian Family . . . those bless- 2 ings which have for their purpose the sacramentaliz- ing of domestic life. Because the Church recognizes the integrity of Christian life on earth, she knows that every action, uncontaminated by the malice of sin, can be a step- ping stone to holiness. The Church knows that by means of the sacramental blessings bestowed lavishly on the young married couple at the altar, they can better fulfill their partnership in Christ. The nuptial blessing which is read over the newly married couple Is both a prayer and a Christian manifesto on marriage. The Christian family properly begins at the altar during the marriage ceremony, we ought to con- sider first of all the first family sacramental, the bless- ing of the ring. As soon as the bride and groom have exchanged their marriage vows and become thereby husband and wife, the priest receives from the groom the wedding ring and places it upon the altar. The priest then blesses it with these significant words taken from the ritual: 3 Let Us Pray Bless, O Lord, this ring which we hiess in Thy name, that she who is to wear it, keepting true faith unto her husband, 7nay abide in Thy peace and obedi- ence to Thy will, and ever live in mutual love, through the same Christ Our Lord. Amen.” Here in forty words the bride receives a working philosophy of Christian domestic life which she would do well to remember during all the days to come. At moments of serious temptation when faith unto her husband may become a difficult virtue to practice let her touch the blessed wedding ring, and deserve by her fidelity to abide in Christ’s peace and obedience to His will. In some religious orders of women a ring is blessed and worn by the nun as a symbol of her mystical marriage with Christ the Divine Spouse of the soul. The brothers of Mary, also known as the Marianists, wear blessed rings as symbols of their love and ser- vitude to Our Lady. In the case of religious the blessed ring is a symbol of their service and union with Christ and Our Blessed Lady. In holy marriage the bride’s blessed wedding ring is also a symbol — a sign of her love and fidelity to her husband. In the double-ring ceremony where bride and groom both ex- change rings, the ring then becomes for both partners a constant reminder of their love and loyalty to each other until death do them part. 4 During the Mass on the day of marriage the cele- brant interrupts the prayers after the Pater Noster to give the nuptial blessing to the couple kneeling be- fore the altar. This blessing is directed particularly to the woman. Here the priest asks that the woman’s marriage may be a "yoke of love and peace," that she may be faithful, chaste, long-lived, virtuous, fruitful in offspring. The blessing asks that the couple may see "their children’s children unto the third and fourth generation." This powerful family sacramental which is read over the newly married couple is both a prayer and a Christian manifesto on marriage. It is unfortunate that being read in Latin during the nuptial Mass, and not being carefully studied before or afterwards in a translation, its message is lost upon the marrying couple and their friends in church. It is a program for the Christian wife’s entire married career, and if it seems to ignore the husband and spotlight all the Lord’s attention upon the woman there is a very good reason for this; for the husband and children share in the wife’s or mother’s well being, physical or spiritual; if she collapses, who is the temple of human life in the home, the family will disintegrate. If she responds to grace, and this grace of matrimony is flow- ing into her constantly as a perpetual blood transfu- sion, then the husband and children are blessed in her, and the home becomes what Saint John Chrysostom once called it, "ecclesia domestica", a little church. 5 Let Us Pray appeased, O Lord, by our humble prayers, and in Thy kindness assist this institution of marriage which Thou hast ordained for the spread of the human race; so that what is here joined by Thy authority may be preserved by Thy help. Through Jesus Christ Thy Son.” Having asked God to preserve this marriage which His authority has made into a life-time union, the Church reviews the history of marriage and its natural origin in Eden, and then reveals how marriage from the beginning foreshadowed the close union of Christ with herself. The Church then proceeds to ask special blessings for the bride, protection and strength, fidelity and chastity, etc. Let Us Pray ”0 God, by Thy mighty power Thou didst make all things out of nothing.' First, Thou didst set the be- ginning of the universe in order. Then Thou didst make man to Thy image, and didst appoint woman to be his inseparable helpmate. Thus Thou didst make woman^s body from the flesh of man, thereby teaching that what Thou has been pleased to institute from one principle might never he lawfully put asun- der. O God, Thou has sanctified marriage by a mystery so excellent that in the marriage union Thou didst foreshadow the union of Christ and the Church. O God, Thou dost join woman to man, and Thou dost 6 endow that partnership with a blessing that was not taken away in punishment for original sin nor by the sentence of the flood. Look, in Thy mercy, upon this Thy handmaid, about to be joined in wedlock, who entreats Thee to protect and strengthen her. Let the yoke of marriage be to her one of peace and love. Faithful and chaste, let her marry in Christ.” In the next place the Church will set before the bride the examples of three holy women of the Old Testament, Rachel, Rebecca, and Sara. Rachel is the model of all wives who treasure the love of their husbands, for this lovely woman so endeared herself to her husband, Jacob, that he served his father-in- law, Laban, seven years for her, and as the Holy Scripture says: ''they seemed but a few days because of the greatness of his love.” (Genesis, Ch. 29, verse 20) Rebecca, the wife of Isaac, is the model of all mothers who wisely plan a blessed future for their children. Finally, at a time when women consider the best years of their life on the sunny side of fifty, and stop counting birthdays after their thirty-ninth, Sara is set before the bride as a model wife who grew old in the love of her husband, Abraham, for of her the Scripture simply says: "Sara lived to a hundred and twenty-seven years.” (Gen., Ch. 23, v. 1) ”Let her ever follow the model of holy women; let her be dear to her husband as Rachel; wise like Rebecca; long-lived and faithful like Sara.” 1 Finally the Church asks God to protect the young bride from the devil’s evil influence, and help her to keep the faith and the commandments. Remember- ing that penance and discipline strengthen character, the Church like a wise mother asks God to give the bride firmness in the hour when she is tempted to break her marriage vows; let her, the Church prays, be serious in behavior, reverenced for her modesty, well instructed in heavenly doctrine, and fruitful in children. After this the Church brings this long bless- ing to a close with the following words: ^^Let her life be good and innocent. Let her come finally to the rest of the blessed in the kingdom of heaven. May they both (husband and wife) see their children's children unto the third and fourth generation, thus attaining the old age which they de- sire. Through the same Lord Jesus Christ. AmenJ^ If the bride understood only a part of these good things invoked upon her by the Church what a glow of thankfulness and joy would fill her soul, and what happiness and pride would fill the soul of the groom who knows that his wife’s blessings will overflow into his own life and the life of his family. Yet the Church is not yet finished with her well-wishing for the marrying couple. Before the Last Blessing of the Mass, the priest once more turns to the bridal couple and concludes the nuptial blessing with these words addressed to both bride and groom: S *^May the God of Abraham, the God df Isaac, and the God of facob be with you; and may He fulfill His blessing in you; that you may see your children's children even to the third and fourth generation, and thereafter may you have life everlasting, by the grace of Our Lord Jesus Christ, Who with the Lather and the Holy Spirit liveth and reigneth forever and ever. AmenJ^ Although the modern world takes a dim view of the blessings of old age, and expects love and happi- ness to diminish with physical vitality, the Catholic Church still regards growing old as a special favor of God. Else why does she place on the lips of her children who sing Compline these words of the psalm: will fill him with length of days; and I will show him my salvation”? But the blushing young bride in her fresh beauty may find it difficult to picture herself as a grayhaired nonagenarian dandling her great-grandchildren on her knees, and we cannot blame her lack of perspec- tive at such a moment . . . when the world seems full of romance and adventure. Yet Holy Mother Church still insists on reminding her and her young husband that old age is the harvest time of life and that grand- mas and grandpas get a thrill out of life unknown to the bride and groom . . . the thrill of the nuptial blessing fulfilled at last in themselves. 9 Children may be considered as the fruit of love, or as hindrances to freedom de- pending upon v/hether the parents have been united as “children of the saints’* or as . . . “heathens that know not God.” NN had just shocked her fifteen-year-old girl friends. They had told her it was brazen to say such things—to admit having such an ambition. And Ann frankly didn’t understand why. When I heard her story I was glad that she couldn’t understand why they were shocked, and I hoped that she never would. All she had told her friends was that some day she wanted to get married because she wanted to have children—four of them—two boys and two girls. I hoped with all my heart that Ann would marry some day, for to her, children would be the fruit of 10 love and not mere hindrances to parties, new dresses, or new houses. I hoped that she wouldn’t lose her vision about the purpose of marriage, because I knew she would be the sort of young woman who would wrap the family sacramentals of Mother Church pro- tectively around her and her family. I think she would approach marriage as a young man approaches ordination to the priesthood. She would foresee its trials and its sufferings as well as its pleasures and consolations. And she would embrace it, not for the sake of the pleasures alone, but because she desired to offer herself to God as an instrument for peopling His heaven. She would suffer to have her children. She would suffer to rear them as Christians. And, yes, she prob- ably would suffer in her old age at being bruised by them. It would be her life’s work, though, which she had done for God’s sake and for love’s sake. Her children would be the harvest which she would lay at God’s feet as the fruit of her love for Him and for her husband. The Church always has held out the protective cloak of her sacramentals to newly married couples in the hope that they might understand at the begin- ning of their new life that their homes are to be sacred workshops of God and should be kept as holy as convents —that they might realize that their bodies which co-operate with God to bring new life into the world are sanctified for that purpose by marriage — 11 just as the priest’s hands are consecrated for Mass — and that they might offer their sufferings and sacrifices of rearing a family to God as contritely as the strictest monk offers his penances. Just as all things which belong to God’s house are blessed consecrated vessels, so should be the bodies, the home, and the nuptial chamber of the newly wed. If the activities which are to be carried on in their new life are to give honor and glory to God, they should all be blessed by Him. And so, the Church does not unite a couple, bless them at the nuptial Mass, and then stand like a prude at the altar while they proceed alone to make their new home. The Church is not a prude; many of her children are. Through ignorance, or prudery, many of them shut her out of their new home and out of their nuptial chamber. They bid her stay at the altar and wait there until they seek her again on Sunday. They want to be alone—and so they bid Christ, the Silent Partner of their marriage, to be quiet, and they ignore the blessing which would reassure them of His interest in the partnership. At the altar they have been reminded of their duties to one another. These duties are not all physical, not all material. The most important duty is spiritual : to help each other become saints. If they fail in that, then they have failed in everything. With that duty foremost in mind, it would be well if every couple, approaching the beginning of their married life, could 12 be confronted with the words of Tobias to his newly wed Sara : ^^Sara, arise, and let us -pray. . . . For we are the chil- dren of saints, and we must not be joined together like heathens that know not GodJ^ (Tobias 8, 4-5) Tobias had been instructed on the difference be- tween such unions by the archangel Raphael. Sara had been betrothed seven times before and each time her husband had died, killed by the devil, as her husband and she approached the nuptial chamber. Tobias feared that he would meet a similar fate, and he asked the archangel how to escape the power of the devil. The instructions of the archangel to Tobias are still good counsel : "They who in such manner receive matrimony, as to shut out God from themselves, and from their mind, and to give themselves to their lust, as the horse and mule, which have not understanding, over them the devil hath power. . . . Thou shalt take the virgin with the fear of the Lord, moved rather for love of children than for lust, that in the seed of Abraham thou mayst obtain a blessing in children.” (Tobias 6 , 17 : 22 ) BLESSING OF A NUPTIAL CHAMBER When one reflects upon the evils which have cursed the family through the abuse of the nuptial chamber, one can come to better understand why Mother 13 Church wishes to hover over that room with ^ special blessing as the couple starts life together. If they will invite her in, the blessing which she asks upon them is this: ^^Bless, O Lordj the bed chamber. Let all who dwell in it stand firm in Thy peace and may they persevere in obedience to Thy will; may they see many years and a numerous posterity and finally attain to the kingdom of heaven. Amen.” Upon the new structure into which eventually will come new souls to work out their eternal salvation, the Church also asks a blessing for all the things which so many homes today are ceasing to be. If couples are to help each other become saints—and their children with them—^then all the things which they do together must have God’s blessing. They must seek it, not only at Sunday Mass, but in their home, in their love for each other, and in their children, so that eventually their household will be so permeated with God’s love that it will reflect peace into a peace-hungry world. Mother Church is anxious to follow couples into their new houses and to ask God to help them make the structures into homes. Her blessing for a home is: ”Bless, O Lord, God Almighty, this place, that they may abide here in health, purity, victory, strength, humility, goodness, and meekness, the fulfillment of the law, and thanksgiving to God, the Father, the 14 Sotif and the Holy Spirit; and may this blessing re- main over this place and on all those who dwell here now and forever. Amen.” Within every human being is an urge to create, which may manifest itself in works of art, music, lit- erature, inventions, or craftsmanship. But the great- est of all creative powers is the creation of new life —a new body with an immortal soul which will out- live the greatest works any man ever produced. It is significant that God has ordained that into the inti- mate expression of the love of man for wife He would pour the most wonderful of His creations—the im- mortal human soul—^to be housed in a temple built and shaped by the expression of love. Into the hands of those who have appeared before Him and oflFered themselves as His instruments of procreation, God has entrusted this creative power which He might well have reserved for Himself alone. But in His own great love, God wanted man to know the joy, the satisfaction of having created some- thing out of love—something after one’s own image and likeness. If man wants to use this power of pro- ' creation, it must be asked from God; it must be granted by God. God’s true authority comes only to those who appear before His altar and pledge their lives to Him as instruments through whom he may people heaven if He sees fit. When the young mother finds herself with child, the feeling of shame should be as remote to her as 15 it would be to a farmer gazing at a field full of ripe wheat waving in the autumn wind and glistening in the sunshine. The farmer’s heart is not ashamed. His face is radiant and the sight fills his heart with humility and gratitude. He planted his field with faith and he accepts his bountiful harvest as God’s love. And so, when faith and love have borne their fruit in the young mother, she too should turn to God in thanksgiving. There she will find Mother Church waiting to visit her home and pray with her ‘'that by the firmness of her faith she may be protected from every evil.” The liturgy blesses the mother and the growing life within her. It also blesses the home, praying that the angels may dwell therein and watch over the mother and child. There is hardly a time when she will ap- preciate such a blessing more than during pregnancy, when she is filled with hope and also with fear, with joy as well as sorrow. The Blessing for an Expectant Mother y. Our help is in the name of the Lord. Who made heaven and earth. Help Thy handmaid ]^. O my God, who trusts in Thee. y. Be for her, O Lord, a strong tower Against the enemy. 16 Let- the enemy not prevail over h^r . • . Bf. And the son of iniquity not hurt her. y. Send her, O Lord, help from Thy sanctuary And protect her from Sion. Let Us Pray Lord God, Creator of the universe. Thou art strong and fear-provoking, just and merciful; Thou art good and gracious; Thou hast freed Israel from alT trials;- Thou hast made our fathers Thy favorites; Thou hast sanctified them through the hand of Thy Spirit; Thou hast prepared body and soul of the Blessed 'Virgin Mary through the co-operation of the Holy Spirit as ' a digniped dwelling for Thy Son; Thou hast' piled John the Baptist with the Holy Spirit and made him rejoice for this in his mother’s womb: Receive the offering of a contrite heart and the burning desire of Thy handmaid N., who in humility prays for the thriving of the child, which Thou hast entrusted to her womb. Care for what is thine and protect it against all persecution and spite of the enemy. Thy merciful hand lend her help, so that the young life' will safely come to see the light of the world, and be saved for the sacred birth of Baptism. May it always serve Thee and gain eternal life. Through Christ our Lord. Amen. The expectant mother is sprinkled with holy water,, and Psalm 66 is said. . 17- y'. Let US praise the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Let us praise and exalt Him in eternity, y. His angels has He given command for your sake, ^7. That they may protect you on all your ways. Let Us Pray ^^Visit, we beseech Thee, O Lord, this house and drive away from it and from this Thy servant N. all snares of the enemy; let Thy holy Angels dwell there- in and protect the mother and her child in peace and may Thy blessing remain with her forever. Save them, O almighty God, and grant unto them Thy perpetual light. Through Christ our Lord.” It should indeed be difficult to forsake a Church that follows her children and stays with them in their most difficult hours, watching over them with mater- nal care. It would be difficult if her sacramentals were known to families and used as naturally in the events of their lives as they once were used. These beautiful traditions and ceremonies were not acad- emically studied and forced into the regular pattern of family living. They came forth organically from the life of the Church, giving grace and peace to those who united the joy and sorrow of their family life with God. But as the world has reverted toward pagan marriages, which first seek companionship, pleasures, riches, an