Capstone Integration Week 13 Capstone What Kind Of Person Does Dylan From Dillon Truly Want To Be In Life Step 1: Mission Statement My goal in life is to be the best version of myself. I want to be courageous, loving, and successful. How will I be courageous one might ask. In order to be courageous one must face his or her own fears within reason. Being courageous does not just mean doing something scary (for example, a penguin walking up to a polar bear is not courageous, it is straight up just not smart). To be courageous does not mean putting your life on the line, but more means to face your fears and to go a bit out of your comfort zone in order to get something done. Next, I will be loving everyday by accepting and loving all kinds of people no matter what. No color of your skin or race should ever be used to justify if you love someone. We should all just love everyone no matter what. Finally I want to finish my life by making sure I am successful. In my eyes, being successful means that you are fulfilled with your life. Being successful cannot be characterized by your position in society or how you are doing in school, but should rather be represented by how happy you are with yourself. I want to make sure that I am always taking care of myself and making sure I am okay, and if I do that, then I can live a successful life. (“Mission Statement”, - Moreau FYE Week 13). Step 2: Articulate, using concrete and observable examples, how this mission statement will animate your life for the next three years. In week 1 of Moreau, we talked a lot about self care and taking time for yourself. The message that we learned from this week is that even when you are stressed out (especially during weeks like finals) I need to make sure to take care of myself ("Why we need to slow down our lives" (Pico Iyer, TED) - Moreau FYE Week 1). This message is important because it correlates with my mission statement as I want to make sure I am taking care of myself even when I am stressed out. In the next three years here at Notre Dame I will make sure to take time for myself even if I am stressed about an upcoming exam. In week 2 of Moreau, we read a piece called “The Domer Dozen”. It was basically about 12 Notre Dame Students who graduated and it explains what they did with their life so far. Here this is where I learned about a man named Dr. Austin Hickman who graduated in 2016 (“Domer Dozen”, Notre Dame University - Moreau FYE Week 2). His story was that he changed majors many times and then ultimately combined his two majors into one when he chose his job. The message I learned from this week was that I do not need to big my major right now, and I do not even have to choose one specific one as there may be a way to combine them. Basically this connects to my mission statement as it just shows that I need to be more courageous and talk to people I do not know to find out different career paths and how I can go about achieving them. If I want to be courageous, then I need to be able to get over my fear of talking to older adults about things I may not be too confident in. Thus, in the next 3 years, I will be going to the career center more to learn about how I can combine finance and econ together and make a living out of it. In week 3 of Moreau, we read, "Three Key Questions" (adapted from Fr. Michael Himes) and here is where I found the quote, “Is it something that people around us really need us to do? Does the community call us to this work?” ("Three Key Questions" (adapted from Fr. Michael Himes) - Moreau mailto:ddevleti@nd.edu https://docs.google.com/document/d/1STxRrp-WaIeT8jayXs4EV31YDRrYs7Wk0ebGepumfso/edit https://ideas.ted.com/why-we-need-a-secular-sabbath/ https://domerdozen.nd.edu https://canvas.nd.edu/courses/40336/files/475884?module_item_id=149291 FYE Week 3). This quote stuck out to me because it explains that for the world to become a better place everyone needs to help out. This connects to my mission statement because in it I talk about wanting to make the world a better place, so in order to do that I need to be nice to everyone and try to get my entire community to follow my lead because only then will the world become a better place. Here at Notre Dame, I will strive to make the community a better place by leading by example and being kind to everyone no matter what (even if I may have not liked them before). In week 4 of Moreau, we did the assignment to find out what a possible career path for us could be ( “7 CLUES TO HELP YOU GET STARTED WITH THE CAREER DEVELOPMENT PROCESS”, University of Notre Dame - Moreau FYE Week 4). Similar to week 2 this just helped me realize that I do not need to just pick a job that I think will make me money. This week in Moreau showed me that there are so many different jobs in this world that I just need to find the one that will make me happiest. This connects to my mission statement because seeing this made me realize that I can be successful by just finding a job that will make me a happy person in life because that is what a successful life is. Here at Notre Dame, I will start talking to alumni like we did in this week's Moreau to see if I could see myself doing the job they are currently doing and choose the one that I think would make me happiest and then pursue that one. In week 5 of Moreau, we had to have a conversation with someone to reflect and I chose to have it with my mom. I surprisingly learned a lot from this conversation about myself. My mom told me how loving I can be, but that I just need to be more open to things. (“Conversation With Mom”, Dylan Devletian - Moreau FYE Week 5). This connects well to my mission statement because one of my goals in life is to be loving to everyone. My mom helped me learn how to do this in a way because she said I am such a loving person, but I need to open myself up to more people so that they can see that. Here at Notre Dame, in the next three years I will try to open myself up to more people so that they can see that I am an actual loving person. Maybe if people see this, then they will also try to open up and be more loving to another person so on and so forth which in total would make the world a better place. In week 6 of Moreau, we read “The right way to be introspective (yes, there’s a wrong way)”. This is where I found the quote, “But to my astonishment, our data told the exact opposite story. The people who scored high on self-reflection were more stressed, depressed and anxious, less satisfied with their jobs and relationships, more self-absorbed, and they felt less in control of their lives” (“The right way to be introspective (yes, there’s a wrong way)”, Tasha Eurich PhD - Moreau FYE Week 6). Yes, I do understand that the people who are not constantly stressing about things and living a happy life can feel like they understand themselves, but there also is a high chance that they do not know something that could actually make them happier and thus they may not actually know themselves all to well (or they may be too afraid to change themselves to be this person). Meanwhile, a person who knows they are unhappy or scared of things, may be more inclined to look deep into themselves to find what will make them happy and live a better life than the one they are living now. This fits in well to my mission statement because knowing who you really are is the first step in living a successful life because once you know that, then you will know how to live a fulfilled life and thus a successful life. In my time here at Notre Dame, I will try to find more about who I am, although I already think I know, maybe joining different clubs will help me further my knowledge of who I am and help me live a more successful life. In week 7 of Moreau, I discovered the quote, “We have so much to do, and we must do it together. But how can we do that with all the evil we breathe every day?” - (“His Holiness Pope Francis: Why the only future worth building includes everyone”, Pope Francis - Moreau FYE Week 7). This quote is important because I would have to imagine that 98 percent of the total population wants the world to be https://nd.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_0NyUlYVK9JdsUrs https://docs.google.com/document/d/1i_tbyA1J4gd9QqGy5a0qVl9-gJZRePifaoC-aPq7Ybc/edit https://ideas.ted.com/the-right-way-to-be-introspective-yes-theres-a-wrong-way/ https://ideas.ted.com/the-right-way-to-be-introspective-yes-theres-a-wrong-way/ https://ideas.ted.com/author/tasha-eurich/ https://www.ted.com/talks/his_holiness_pope_francis_why_the_only_future_worth_building_includes_everyone/transcript https://www.ted.com/talks/his_holiness_pope_francis_why_the_only_future_worth_building_includes_everyone/transcript a better place. People are just afraid to do something because they do not think their choice will have any significance in the grand scheme of things. I would argue that this is a bigger obstacle over the evil in the world. Although there is evil, if everyone just did one more nice thing a day with the thought that it would help positively impact the world, then I believe this could result in rooting out some of the evil that we face in life. This connects to my mission statement because I want to be known as a loving and courageous person. This quote can show how I can be both because if I stand up to the “evil” people in the world, then I will be showing courage while also showing love and maybe others will then follow my example and they will also continue to make the world a better place. In my time here at Notre Dame, I will try my best to stand up for people who may not be able to fight battles alone and hopefully this will encourage others to do the same. Week 8 of Moreau is where we wrote our integration 3. In this, we ultimately wrote our future Eulogy and I did it as if my mom wrote it about me. In this I basically said that I wanted to be remembered for being a loving, courageous, and kind person which is very similar to my mission statement (Integration 3, - Moreau FYE Week 8). This just proves how serious I am about living up to my mission statement due to the fact that this is what I want to be known as when I perish. In my next three years at Notre Dame, I want to try to have all my classmates see that I am the person that I am striving to be (I want my actions to back it up). In week 9 of Moreau, we had to read, “Teaching Accompaniment: A Learning Journey Together”. This is where I discovered the quote, “Look beyond your immediate concerns; show compassion and accompany one another.” ( “Teaching Accompaniment: A Learning Journey Together”, Steve Reifenberg - Moreau FYE Week 9). This is what author Steve Reifenberg learned from his time abroad. It is an important message for all of us to understand as our issues may seem relatively large, but they are so minimal in the larger picture. We all need to help each other out because if we do we can solve the larger issues in the world. This connects with my mission statement because it takes courage to help people we do not know because we have to face our fears in order to help them (at least it is a fear of mine to help people I do not know). Here at Notre Dame, even if I am having a tough time I will try my best to make at least one random person smile because not only will that help me face one of my fears, but it will also help show that I am a loving person. In week 10 of Moreau, we had to read about a kid who was afraid to come out for who he really was. “This was the summer after my junior year of college. I was 21 at the time, and Tyler was the first friend I had ever come out to.” (“Growing up Gay and Catholic”, Jacob Walsh - Moreau FYE Week 10). This quote comes from the piece titled, “Growing Up Catholic and Gay.” This quote stuck out to me because no one should feel uncomfortable about telling people who you really are. He may have held this feeling back for 14 years because he thought society would hate him for it, and this is not a world we should want to live in. We need to make it acceptable for people to come out with who they really are. We always say we want people to be themselves, but how can we truly mean that if it is not deemed to be ok to come out as gay? This connects well to my mission statement because this kid had the courage to come out even though he was afraid it would be deemed unacceptable. I want to have the courage this kid has, but I wish that people would have just loved him from the start so he didn't feel uncomfortable coming out and being himself. Here at my time at Notre Dame, I want to make sure that everyone around me feels that they can be who they are no matter what. No one should have to hide who they are because they think someone will not like it. I will love them regardless of who they want to be which is why it is in my mission statement. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1_uhrpl3tmezeONr7v02jHycs66htKBpjmqA7_4N6g0o/edit https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hZbSdVImfn2hZDqMrdL96dZCNOtHuf6C-lg3sH-Rs30/edit https://grottonetwork.com/keep-the-faith/community/reflective-narrative-about-being-gay-and-catholic/?utm_source=moreau&utm_medium=class&utm_campaign=spring_2022 In week 11 of Moreau, I found the quote, “It's very hard to convince someone to change their mind about an issue.” (“Passion Isn’t Enough”, Hidden Brain Media - Moreau FYE Week 11). This quote connects well to my mission statement because sometimes it takes courage to change your mind about a topic you were once passionate about and I want to be a courageous person. In my time here at Notre Dame, I want to build a mind that is courageous enough to be able to have an opinion even if it is not the most popular one, but I also want to be brave enough to admit I was wrong if that is the case. I will try to do this when I am with my friends and tell them if I think they are wrong rather than just going with something because it is the popular opinion. In week 12 of Moreau, I discovered the quote, “We come not just as servants but as their neighbors, to be with them and of them.” (“Constitutions of the Congregation of Holy Cross”, Congregation of Holy Cross - Moreau FYE Week 12). We as individuals can do all these things to help the minorities like African Americans out and get them jobs, but we cannot just stop there. Each and everyone of us needs to go one step further and make sure we treat them like actual human beings. We as people need to show love for everyone and as the quote says treat everyone as our “neighbors.” This quote connects well to my mission statement because it almost ties in all three of my points (being loving, courageous, and successful). We need to show love for all people regardless of their race, but we also need to be able to step out of our comfort zone and help them so this will take courage, and finally if we do all of that, then we can all live a happy and thus successful life. In my final three years here at Notre Dame I will do my part in making everyone feel like they should be included in everything they do regardless of race because that's how the world should be. It will certainly take courage from me to show love to people I do not know, but only then can we all truly live successful lives. In total, I want to be able to become the person who I want to be in the next three years here at Notre Dame, but not only that, I want others to see me as that person. My mission statement describes who I want to be, so I hope over the next three years I take the proper steps to become that person. https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/passion-isnt-enough/ https://holycrosscongregation.org/holy-cross-resources/constitutions/2-mission/