Integration One The Root Beliefs of According to QQCs I believe that my worth comes from my own view of self and nobody else’s view of me. In her TED Talk, Dr. Brown explains where shame comes from and how it isn’t just something that doesn’t happen. Everyone feels shame and everyone is going to have feelings of doubt or unbelieving in themselves. The key to overcoming shame is not to push it aside, but to embrace it. The most effective way of embracing shame is being vulnerable. I know that personally, I have an issue with being vulnerable. I don’t let many people see me cry because I don’t want to seem like I don’t have it all together. But in reality, no one has it all together and if we are all vulnerable with each other, we will all see that shame isn’t something to be embarrassed about. And even if people judge me for my vulnerability that shouldn’t matter. My worth comes from me and only me. I shouldn’t be afraid to be vulnerable because others’ opinions don’t matter when it comes to my self-worth. Dr. Brown’s TED talk helped me to see that I don’t need to keep my vulnerability to myself, but I need to embrace it and show others what I’m truly all about. (“The Power of Vulnerability” by Brené Brown - Moreau FYE Week One) I believe that my personality is dynamic and there is no single way my personality should be. In David Brooks’ TED Talk, he talks about the two different extremes of personality traits. There are resume virtues and eulogy virtues. Your resume virtues are personality traits that you want people to see now and attribute to you in your current situation of life. Your eulogy virtues are personality traits that you want to be remembered for. While both are important, resume virtues show themselves in day-to-day life while eulogy virtues are always overarchingly present in your personality and how you present yourself. It can be important to take a step back and actually look at the difference between your resume virtues and eulogy virtues. While there is no one right way for these virtues to be, it is important that they are similar to each other and, of https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X4Qm9cGRub0&feature=youtu.be course, positive. Although the way others view you doesn’t entirely matter - it’s not important if the people around you think you’re cool or smart or funny etc. - it is important for our moral characters for people to consider us nice or friendly etc. These traits are not just traits seen by others, but traits that will help you to live a good life that leads you closer to Heaven. (“Should You Live for your Resume or Your Eulogy” by David Brooks - Moreau FYE Week Two) I believe that love is an action and not a feeling. My favorite definition of love that I’ve ever heard comes from what I learned in my high school theology class, “love is dying to oneself for the sake of another” I absolutely love this definition. When I hear people talk about love around me these days, I feel like they aren’t truly grasping the concept of what love is. I know that it can be hypocritical for me to say because I do have a boyfriend and I do say that I love him, but I don’t like the way some people consider themselves to be “in love” when they aren’t really putting in the effort to sacrifice themselves for the person they love. Love isn’t just about feeling butterflies when you’re with someone. It’s feeling the need to do whatever it takes and whatever you can to make that person happy. Both Fagerberg and Fr. Pete talk about spirituality in their articles and I think spirituality plays a strong role in loving others. Fagerberg uses the analogy of a window to describe spirituality. When you let the window become a mirror, you fall into selfishness and lose sight of those around you. When you love someone, you can’t let the love become a mirror. You can’t use their love for you to your own advantage and not give them back the same sacrifice. You have to keep that window as a window and pay attention to what’s around you especially the person you love. (“Faith Brings Light to a Dark World” by Professor David Fagerberg - Moreau FYE Week Three) I believe that is important to grow in both knowledge and faith. That is my absolute favorite thing about the University of Notre Dame. In Kevin Grove’s speech, he talks about the https://youtu.be/MlLWTeApqIM https://youtu.be/MlLWTeApqIM https://grottonetwork.com/keep-the-faith/belief/faith-brings-light-to-dark-world/?utm_source=fall_2021&utm_medium=class&utm_id=moreau separation of faith and reason that led to the takeover of Notre Dame in France. The people of France didn’t like faith and favored reason. When I was a little kid and visited Notre Dame with my family, the thing that stuck with me the most was students’ answers to “why Notre Dame?” Almost always the answer was “the community” I love the community of Notre Dame and what makes that community so amazing is the way Notre Dame teaches us to grow not only with an amazing education but the best education in faith that we can receive. That is why I wanted to go to a Catholic school and that is why I love Notre Dame. (“Two Notre Dames: Your Holy Cross Education” by Fr. Kevin Grove - Moreau FYE Week Five) I believe that it is important to consider other peoples’ points of view before making an assumption. I really like Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s TED talk about the danger of a single story. The message of this video is just so incredibly important. Adichie doesn’t just talk about people being biased towards her being from Africa and assuming she’s poor, she also talks about the way she assumed that people who worked in her home lived terrible lives. It is in our nature to assume. We assume things every single day. But just because you assume something, does not mean you should believe it. After hearing the stories from Adichie about bias and its effect on the people you direct it towards, I believe that you need to know someone’s story before you judge them. Although bias is something that is always going to be present. It’s important to not give into bias and actually think about someone’s situation. (“Danger of a Single Story” by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie - Moreau FYE Week Seven). https://notredame.hosted.panopto.com/Panopto/Pages/Viewer.aspx?id=859bc1a8-0d0f-4eb4-a1c1-d0a45c429187 https://notredame.hosted.panopto.com/Panopto/Pages/Viewer.aspx?id=859bc1a8-0d0f-4eb4-a1c1-d0a45c429187 https://www.ted.com/talks/chimamanda_ngozi_adichie_the_danger_of_a_single_story