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a respectable living, and it gives the
people who are without homes or means to
establish them a chance to live respectably.
Like all other business, it is overdone, and
it often proves a dismal failure in the hands
of incompetent people, just as any other
enterprise does. There are people who
are well adapted to keeping boarders, and
making money out of them, in a proper
and legitimate way, and they are not the
most agreeable characters to know, either, for entertain-
ing guests at so much a head is certainly a rather demor-
alizing business. A woman needs to be sharp and shrewd
who can cater successfully to a half hundred different
tastes, serve them all with equal partiality, listen to
their tales of woe, take sides in their domestic differ-
ences, and not let her left hand lodger know what the
right hand lodger does or says. She must be blind to
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frowns and sneers, and deaf to complaints, and able to
read character at a glance, so that she may not be
cheated out of board bills by some systematic Micawber;
she must harden her heart against stories of unpaid sal-
aries and delayed remittances, or be unjust to herself
and her other boarders, who pay promptly. It is folly
to talk about model boarding houses, unless there is a
community of model boarders to fillit. In all boarding
houses the guests are served with what the best judg-
ment of the landlady has dictated. It would be a most
delightful state of things if one could have broiled
chicken and another broiled steak, according to their
individual tastes; but this is only possible in restaurants
conducted on the European style, where each article is
paid for at its individual price. The wise landlady
studies the tastes of her boarders as far as she can; she
gives them each day a comfortable spread of such things
as are in the market and within the limits of the price
she pays for them, and a majority of the guests are sat-
isfied. But there are some—and the captious critic
will at once cry out that these are women; yes, my dear
sir, [am afraid they are, with the exception of an old-
maidish man, with the tastes of an invalid—who always
want something that is not on the table or bill of fare, °
such as toasted bread at dinner, or hot meats at supper.
If these things are not immediately forthcoming there
are complaints long and loud, and the grumbling indi-
vidual infects the whole table with the same spirit.
There must be a little wise management here, and, if
within the bounds of reason, the boarder’s tastes should
be consulted and the favorite dish prepared, for this
270 WHAT CAN A WOMAN Do.
involves the principle of home. One man or woman can
not eat hot bread, so a plate of the cold article is placed
near. It gives a little more work to the tired waiters,
but, to look at it financially, it will probably pay in the
end. ‘‘But,’’ says some envious boarder, ‘‘ this is being
partial.”’
Not at all; because yow can not get home to dinner a
plate of hot viands is in the oven for you, and the bal-
ance is struck.
Nearly all boarding houses are kept by women. It
is an established fact, that men are unsuccessful and
unpopular in the business. They have neither the pru-
dence or the patience to contend with the many difficul-
ties in the way. In the best kept boarding house the
landiady is never seen, except when business requires
her. She has her own room, which is also her office,
and boarders go there to see her, engage board, pay bills,
or make complaints. She takes no one without special
reference, and aims at having her people of a social
equality, and of such financial standing as will ensure
their bills being promptly paid. She will be able to
cater to their wants much easier if free from anxiety on
this head; and if she has discrimination she will soon
learn what kind of a table to set. If they pay hand-
somely she can have her house well furnished, and keep
it in repair; but the average boarder pays only for what
there is to eat; the price does not include new Brussels
carpet in the halls every spring, and a luxurious air of
hot house prosperity. The thread-bare carpets and worn
furniture, familiar to all who have ever lived in large
boarding houses, are not the results of a penurious dis-
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‘position, ‘but of actual necessity. There is nothing left
when the rent, fuel, and food, with gas, wages, and inci-
dental expenses, to which the arrears of impecunious
boarders must be added, not even enough to give the
‘patient, over-worked landlady a new dress. She is only
too thankful that she has earned food and shelter for
herself and family, and not runin debt. Boarders sel-
-dom take this into consideration.
If a woman owns her house she has a better chance to
make a little profit; and if she is unscrupulous and
cheats her trades-people, she saves enough to retire
upon, but the actual experience of all boarding house
keepers is about the same. If, by the closest good man-
agement, they can pay expenses, they consider them-
selves fortunate. There are some people who always
‘manage to get their board at cost price, and these are
usually the ones who, after a while, neglect to pay at all.
Every landlady suffers from these irregular people, who
-expect to live comfortably at the expense of others, and
‘usually manage to do so.
Having decided that there must be a certain uniform
‘system about the table, on the basis which is equally
removed from niggardliness or extravagance, the next
‘item of regard is the cooking, and this can giye a charac-
ter to a boarding house just as decidedly as the guests.
‘Eternal vigilance is the price of a good table, as much as
‘itis of liberty. The table cloths and napkins must be
‘spotless for the dinner table—if they can not be changed
-at each meal—the silver and glasses highly polished, the
food well cooked and savory. The vegetables cooked in
-boarding houses are usually abominable, and an investi-
272 WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
gation into the matter discloses the fact that in nine
times out of ten the vegetable cook is a slatteringly girl
who knows nothing about the business, and is hardly
competent to wash a pan full of potatoes properly. She
pares the potatoes without washing them first, to save:
trouble, and puts them on in cold water, to soak and
simmer, or else she hurries them over the fire and cooks.
them at a galloping boil, taking them off with a ‘‘ bone:
in the middle.’? There are as many different ways of
cooking potatoes as there are days in the week, but the
average boarding house finds it too much trouble, or,
rather, the servants do. It is certainly one woman’s.
work to attend to the vegetables alone and cook them as.
they should be cooked. Who does not recall the mashed
potatoes of home as compared with those of the boarding
house, with a yearning sense of loss. And how different
the black, soggy mass called fried potatoes from the
crisp, brown slices that mother cooked. True, there
are a great many more to cook for, but the one woman
can easily do it. And the strong grease in which they
are usually cooked is one of the penny-wise-pound-
foolish habits of the woman who despises the day of
small things.
Marketing judiciously is another of the branches:
which a woman, who would be successful in it, must
study and understand. The woman who pays ready
money for all she buys will save a large per centage on
her purchases. She should have her marketing always:
done a week in advance, or nearly so; that is, she should
select her steaks and roasts of beef for Thursday on Mon-
day, and have it hungintheice-room. The fish for Wed-
KEEPING BOARDERS. io
nesdays and Fridays should be decided on the same day.
The poultry for Thursdays and Sundays engaged regu-
larly from a poulterer who knows his customer and dare
not supply an inferior article, and so on with all other
supplies. And let her vary the monotony of a uniform
day for fish and fowl, by giving her boarders a surprise.
A supper of tenderloin steaks and escalloped potatoes,
or a New England Sunday breakfast of baked beans and
brown bread, with baked apples and fried mush, or a
dinner course of oysters and celery, on some day that is
not Sunday. Instead of the stewed prunes, prunelles,
dried peaches and apple sauce, which figure over and
over on the boarding house table, let her have fresh
canned peaches and cream, preserves, apples quartered
and dropped into a boiling syrup of white sugar, fla-
vored with lemon, and some of the home dishes, cus-
tards and floating islands that are so grateful to the eyes
and delicious to the taste. A house that has a reputa-
tion of this kind is always filled with boarders. Hot
Graham gems and a cup of fragrant, yellow coffee for
supper will prove a great innovation upon bakers’ toast
and weak, sloppy tea. It will require more labor and
forethought, but when that woman wants to sell the
good will of the business she will realize its full value
in dollars and cents, and she will never need to adver-
tise for boarders. A mechanics’ boarding house fre-
quently pays better than the aristocratic one which has
a high rent and much style to contend with. Clean beds
and a good table are the principal requisites; the cook-
ing good but plain. The men usually have good appe-
tites and make a vigorous attack on the substantials,
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and care more for quantity than quality. They have
been used to homes, and like the landlady to preside in
the dining room and look after their comfort herself, and
they are usually good pay. In all large cities where
rent is high, a few boarders are taken in the family to
help out. It is not, as a general thing, pleasant to board
in a private family where the boarder is one of them-
selves and has ‘‘ all the comforts of a home.’ It means
going without fire in one’s room and feeling like an
intruder in the family circle—to taking pot-luck on
Mondays and Saturdays, and getting dinner down town
whenever the girl leaves or has the sulks. There is also
a certain amount of patronage bestowed on the family
boarder, who is made to feel the great privilege of being
received into the bosom of so highly respected a family,
‘who only take boarders for company. This method of
doing business is as silly as the announcement of the
young man who desires to enter a home where his society
will be an equivalent for his board. Boarders are not
guests. If they could not pay for the privilege of being
one of the family they would soon be required to leave.
Business principles should control in this matter. If
the boarder grows into the family and finds a place in
the regard of its members, it will be the happy result
of good sense and congeniality between them, and thrice
happy is the wayworn wanderer who finds such a haven
of rest.
The ideal boarding house is the one where the land-
lady has no time to gossip about her boarders; where
she does not assume the management of their domestic
affairs; where the elements of tattling and backbiting
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never gain entrance; in short, where a community of
ladies and gentlemen manage their housekeeping on the
co-operative plan and meet at one common table, where
they can enjoy each other’s company socially. Every
Toom is a home—a castle to its temporary owner. The
landlady is the queen of the realm, and she needs to be
wise and gracious in her rule if she would have loyal
subjects.
Much has been said about the lack of home comfort in
a boarding house, and the meagre furniture of rooms
offered for inspection. But it remains for the boarder
who takes possession to transform the bare room into a
home, to magnetize the walls with an atmosphere of love
and contentment. The landlady who furnishes her house
does not know whom she is furnishing for, what style of
chairs and sofas the new comers would prefer, or if she
may not be obliged to hustle her own furniture into the
attic to make room for the household goods of the new
boarders. It is desirable that the room should be clean
—thoroughly clean, and the bed in good order—plenty
of towels and fresh water, and a cake of genuine soap.
Any attempt at parsimony will be a bad stroke of policy
to begin with. As heaven has never yet been realized
upon earth, it would be vain to look for it even in the
ideal boarding house, the projector of which has an
; urgent need of dollars and cents as a basis on which to
found it. The only way in which she can realize success
is to conduct it on the best business system, making her
labor yield a fair profit. There is no doubt that there is
money in it.
—8CHAPTER XXVIIL@
Ofory % of * a % Oummer * Jdcoarder.
OEN TOA
rye? T was a scandal,” the neighbors
¢ said, ‘that Miss Delia should be
Sze, obliged to take boarders, after all
7 she’d been through; and Heaven
<4 knows, boarders did not help a
oy body to work out her salvation.
And so much money in the fam-
é 3 ily, too, taking it by small and large. Wasn’t
wy her uncle Eben, over at Dover, well-to do, and
3 iE not a chick of his own to care for except the
: V3 boy he had adopted, who was no credit to
RWN72 him? It was odd, now, that a man with poor
relations should take to a stranger when his
© own flesh and blood was needy; but some-
: times it does seem as if folks had more feel-
ing for others than for their own kith and kin. Then
there were cousins in the city, forehanded and fashion-
able, who were never worth a row of pins to Delia, and
there was her great-uncle John’s widow a-larkin’ on the.
continent, a-gamin’ at Baden-Baden, and trying the
waters of every mineral spring in the three kingdoms,
for no disease under the sun but old age. She had been
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known to say that her folks were too rich already, and
probably she would endow some hospital with her prop-
erty.’’ Evidently, wealthy relatives were of no value
to Miss Delia. Tio be sure, she had never seen her
great-aunt since she was a child, when her uncle John
had brought her into their simple life for a month’s
visit, with her French maid and dresses, her jewels and
fallals, which won the heart of her namesake. Since
then uncle John’s widow had become a sort of gilded
creation, always young and beautiful; for, though Delia
had received little gifts from time to time across the seas
for the last fifteen years, she had neither heard nor seen
anything of the being who had inspired her youthful
imagination, and was quite uncertain if such a person as
Mrs. John Rogerson was in the land of the living. Dead
or alive, she seemed to have made no material difference
to Delia’s humdrum life. After having nursed her father
through a long sickness, Delia found that he had left a
heavy mortgage on the homestead, and her mother and
herself on the high road to the poorhouse, unless they
should bestir themselves. As her mother was already
bedridden, the stirring naturally fell upon Delia, and
she advertised for summer boarders:
Ess BOARD in the country near the river side, at $7
aweek. Large chambers, broad piazzas, fine views, ber-
Ties and new milk. One mile from the station.
Address DELIA ROGERSON,
Croftsborough, Me,
‘Cheap enough!’ commented an elderly lady who
happened uponit. ‘‘Delia Rogerson. An old maid, lL
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suppose, obliged to look out for herself. DPvea good
mind to try her broad piazzas and new milk. If I don’t
like it there’ll be no harm done.”’
And so Delia’s first boarder arrived—an old lady with
false front hair, brown wrinkled skin, faded eyes, a black
alpaca gown and a hair trunk. Delia made her as wel-
come as if she had been a duchess; lighted a fire in Mrs.
Clement’s room, as the night was damp, and brought out
her daintiest cup and saucer, with the fadeless old roses
wreathing them. ‘‘ Wonderfully kind,’ reflected Mrs.
Clement, as she combed out her wisps of gray hair and
confided the false front to a box. ‘*‘ Wonderful kind-
ness for $7 a week. She’s new ta the trade. She'll
learn better. Human nature doesn’t change with lati-
tudes. She’ll find it doesn’t pay to consider the com-
forts of a poverty-stricken old creature.’’ But in spite
of her worldly wisdom, Mrs. Clement was forced to con-
fess that Delia had begun as she meant to hold out,
though other boarders came to demand her attention
and to multiply her cares. The fret and jar of conflict-
ing temperaments under her roof was a new experience
to Delia. When Mrs. Griscome complained of the mos-
quitoes, with an air as if Miss Rogerson were responsible
for their creation; of flies, as if they were new acquaint-
ances; of want of appetite, as though Delia had agreed
to supply it along with berries and new milk; of the
weather, as if she had pledged herself there would be
no sudden changes to annoy her boarders; of the shabby
house and antiquated furniture, ‘‘too old for comfort, ©
and not old enough for fashion’’—then Delia doubted if
taking boarders was her mission. ‘‘What makes you ~
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keep us, my dear?’ asked Mrs. Clement, after a day
when everything and everybody had seemed to go
wrong. ‘‘Why didn’t you ever marry? You had a
lover, I dare say ?’
‘* Yes, a long, long time ago.”’
‘*Tell me about him—it?’’
‘‘There isn’t much to tell. He asked me to marry
him. He was going to Australia. I couldn’t leave
father and mother, you know (they were both feeble),
and he couldn’t stay here. That’s all.’
‘“‘ And you—you ?’.
‘* Now all men beside are to me like shadows.”’
‘* And have you never heard of him since?’
“Yes. He wrote; but where was the use? It could
never come to anything. It was better for him to forget
me and marry. I was a millstone about his neck. I
didn’t answer his letter.”’
‘And supposing he should return some day, would
you marry him?’
‘“‘I dare say,’ laughed Delia, gently, as if the idea
were familiar, ‘‘let the neighbors laugh ever so wisely,
Tve thought of it sometimes sitting alone, when the
world was barren and commonplace. One must have
recreation of some kind, you know. Everybody requires
a little romance, a little poetry, to flavor everyday think-
ing and doing. I am afraid noe think me a silly old
maid, Mrs. Clement.’’
‘‘No. The heart never grows old. The skin shriv-
els, the color departs, the eyes fade, the features grow
pinched; but the soul is heir of eternal youth—it is as
beautiful at fourscore as at ‘sweet twenty.’ Time
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makes amends for the ravages of the body by develop- |
ing the spirit. You didn’t tell me your lover's name.
Perhaps you would rather not.”’
‘‘His name was Stephen Langdon. Sometimes Capt.
Seymour runs against him in Melbourne, and brings me
word how he looks and what he is doing, though I never
ask, and Stephen never asks for me that I can hear.”’
Delia’s summer boarders were not a success, to be
sure. If they took no money out of her pocket, they
put none in. She was obliged to eke out her support by
copying for lawyer Dunmore, and embroidering for Mrs.
Judge Door. One by one her boarders dropped away
like autumn leaves; all but old Mrs. Clement.
‘T believe Pll stay on,’’ she said. ‘‘T’’m getting too
old to move often. Perhaps you take winter boarders
at reduced rates. Eh?’
‘*Do you think my rates high ?’
‘“By nomeans. But when one’s purse is low—”’
‘‘Yes; I know. Dostay at your own price. I can’t
spare you.’’ She had grown such a fondness for the old
lady that to refuse her at her own terms would have
seemed like turning her own mother out of doors;
besides, one mouth more would not signify. But she
found it hard to make both ends meet, and often went
to bed hungry, that her mother and Mrs. Clement might
enjoy enough, without there appearing to be ‘‘just a
pattern.”’ At Christmas, however, came a ray of sun-
shine for Delia, in the shape of a $100 bill from an
unknown friend.
‘‘Tt can’t be meant for me,’’ she cried.
‘It’s directed to Delia Rogerson,” said her mother;
STORY OF A SUMMER BOARDER. 281
‘‘and there’s nobody else of that name, now that your
Aunt Delia’s dead.”’
‘* We are not sure she’s dead,”’ objected Delia.
**Horrors! Don’t you know whether your aunt is
dead or alive?’ asked Mrs. Clement, in a shocked tone.
‘‘Tt isn’t our fault. She is rich and lives abroad. I
was named for her. I used to look in the glass and try
to believe I'd inherit her beauty with the name, though
she was only our great-uncle’s wife.”’
‘* She ought to be doing something for you.”’
‘‘How can she if she is dead? I don’t blame her, any-
way. Her money is her own, to use according to her
pleasure. Uncle John made it himself and gave it to
her.”’
‘*But if she should come back to you, having run
through with it, you’d divide your last crust with her,
Pll be bound.’’
‘*T suppose I should,’”’ replied Delia.
The winter wore away as winters will, and the mira-
cles of spring began in fields and wayside, and Delia’s
boarders returned with the June roses, and dropped
away again with the falling leaves, and still Mrs. Cle-
ment stayed on. Just now she had been some weeks in
arrears with her reduced board. No money had been
forthcoming for some time, and she was growing more
feeble daily, needed the luxuries of an invalid and the
‘attention of a nurse, both of which Delia bestowed upon
her, without taking thought of the morrow.
“‘T must hear from my man-of-business to-morrow,
Delia; I’m knee-deep in debt to you,’’ she began one
night.
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‘* Don’t mention it,’ cried Delia. ‘‘I’d rather never
see a cent of it than have you take it to heart. You are
welcome to stay and share pot-luck with us, 100 are
such company for mother and me.”’
‘“Thank you, my dear. Ive grown as fond of you as
if you were my own flesh and blood. There, turn down
the light. Draw the curtain, dear, and put another stick
on the fire, please. It grows chilly, doesn’t it? You
might kiss me just once, if you wouldn't mind. It’s
one hundred years or so since any one kissed me.’’
And next morning when Delia carried up Mrs. Cle-
ment’s breakfast her boarder lay cold and still upon the
pulows.
The first shock over, Delia wrote to the lawyer of
whom she had heard Mrs. Clement speak as having
charge of her affairs, begging him to notify that lady’s
relatives, if she had any. In reply, Mr. Wills wrote:
‘‘The late Mrs. Clement appears to have no near rela-
tives. Some distant cousins, who have an abundance of
the world’s goods, yet served her shabbily when she
tested their generosity as she has tried yours, are all
that remain of her family. In the meantime I enclose
you a copy of her last will and testament, to peruse at
your leisure.”
‘What interest does he think I take in Mrs. Clement’s
will,”’ thought Delia, but she read, nevertheless:
Being of sound mind, this, the 16th day of June, 18—,
I, Delia Rogerson Clement, do hereby leave $100 to each
of my cousins; and I bequeath the residue of my prop-
erty, viz., $30,000 invested in the Ingot Mining Com-
pany, $50,000 in United States bonds, $20,000 in the For-
STORY OF A SUMMER BOARDER. 283
tunate Flannel Mills, and my jewels, to the beloved
niece of my first husband, John Rogerson, Delia Roger-
son, of Croftsborough, Me.
For I was a stranger and ye took me in; hungry, and
ye fed me; sick and ye ministered unto me.
‘* Goodness alive !’’ cried the neighbors, when the fact
reached their ears, ‘‘ what a profitable thing it is to take
boarders. Everybody in town will be trying it. Of
course Steve Langdon will come and marry her, if she
were forty old maids. You may stick a pin in there!”’
Delia did not open her house to boarders the next sea-
son. She found enough to do in looking after her money
and spending it; in replying to letters from indigent peo-
ple, who seemed to increase alarmingly; in receiving old
friends, who suddenly found time to remember her exist-
ence. And, sure enough, among the rest appeared Steve
Langdon, and all the village said: ‘‘I told you so.”
*Tt’s not my fault that you and I are single yet,
Delia,’”’ he said.
** And we are too old to think of it now, Steve.”’
‘Nonsense! It’s never too late to mend. I’m not
rich, Delia, but I’ve enough for two and to spare.”’
‘‘T wouldn’t be contented not to drive in my carriage
and have servants under me now,”’ laughed Delia.
‘“Indeed! Then, perhaps, you have a better match in
view. Capt. Seymour asked me, by the way, if I had
come to interfere with Squire Jones’ interest.”’
‘* Yes, Squire Jones proposed to me last week.”’
‘“ Now, see here, Delia. Have I come all the way from
Melbourne on a fool’s errand? There I was growing used
to my misery and loneliness, when the mail brings mea
284 WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
letter in a strange hand, which tells me that my dear
love, Delia Rogerson, loves and dreams of me still, is
poor and alone, and needs me—me! And the letter is
signed by her aunt, Mrs. Clement, who ought to know.
I packed my household goods and came.”’
‘Pm glad that you did.”’
‘¢In order that I may congratulate ‘Squire Jones ? ”’
‘‘But I haven’t accepted him. In fact, ?ve refused
him—because—because—’”’
‘Because you will marry your old love, like the lass
in the song, Delia ?’
In Croftsborough, people are not yet tired of telling
how a woman made money by taking boarders.
=CHAPTER XXVIIL=
The * Value - of : Personal ‘ Slppearance.
YOUNG woman entering upon a
be business life must ask and answer
224 one question almost at its outset:
® ‘Shall she go into society or not?’
iN, ,, By society I mean the parties,
tat weddings, receptions, dinners, and
““~ lunches, which make up the exist-
4 ence of merely fashionable women. If she has
a large and influential acquaintance she will
necessarily be invited out a great many times,
:: i she will be obliged to dress correspondingly
ae well, and her dress will naturally demand
some time and attention, as well as a good
deal of money. Social life, parties and balls
will keep her up late at night and tax her strength, and
the question to herself will be, whether she will be able
to meet the demands of society and of business, and pre-
serve her health? Here, again, the frequent theory of
women’s ability to overwork intrudes itself. There can
be no possible doubt that if she is engaged eight hours a
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day, in any kind of work, she will do better to ignore
society, and rest in the evenings; but if
All work and no play
Makes Jack a dull boy,
will it not apply equally well to Jill? Only Jack has
the strength and Jill has not.
A compromise can be made by going out occasionally,
and not attempting to compete with the women who have
nothing to do, and by not keeping excessively late hours.
One rich, dark silk, made with an evening waist and
worn with a change of laces and flowers, a cream-
white dotted muslin and an illusion over-dress will be
all sufficient for a season, with a supply of fresh gloves,
and will look much better, even if worn frequently, than
a new, cheap, hastily gotten together evening dress.
When there is only one silk it should be either black or
a dark olive or blue, as a vivid, new color will be so con-
spicuous that the wearer will soon be known by it,
and there will be some one ill-natured enough to say,
‘*There goes that everlasting sunflower yellow silk of
Miss ——’s.’’ Black can be worn with masses of pink
garniture, upon one occasion, with pink gloves; with white
upon another with white gloves; with masses of mixed
flowers and deep orange gloves; and it will always look
handsome. Then it can be a dead black toilet—quanti-
ties of black lace, black gloves, and coral or gold jew-
elry as an effect. One of the most elegant toilets 1 ever
saw was a black silk, draped and trimmed with water
lilies, and worn with pale green gloves that reached
above the elbows. It is by no means the expense of a
costume that makes it elegant. There are hundreds of
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dowdy women at parties who are elaborately dressed
and loaded with diamonds, and there are ladies who are
regally beautiful in severely plain toilets. Some ladies
need very little adornment. This is especially the case
with young women who have dark hair and eyes, and a
fresh color. Ifthey wear much jewelry, or dress in high
colors, they are at once commented on with unfriendly
criticism. Miss Oakey, who is an authority on beauty
in dress, and the author of a book with that title, says:
‘““The object of dress may be said to be threefold—to
cover, to warm, to beautify. Beauty in dress, as in
other things, is largely relative.’’ To admit this, is to
admit that a dress which is beautiful upon one woman
may be hideous worn by another. Each should under-
stand her own style, accept it, and let the fashion of her
dress be built upon it. Because my dark, slender friend
looks well in a heavy velvet with a high ruff, her rival,
who is short and blonde, tries to outshine her in a heavier
velvet, with a higher ruff. It is reason enough that the
last should look ill in the dress, because the first looks
well in it.
ELOQUENCE OF DRESS.
Not every woman can dress well with the most reck-
less expenditure; but a clever woman can dress well with
intelligent economy and an artistic taste. Let women
remember that it is harmony of color and grace of cut
that makes a dress beautiful, and its fitness to the style
and needs of the wearer, not richness of material or cost-
liness of ornament. No material is more beautiful than
a cashmere, which is one of the most truly economic
dresses that one can wear, as it both washes and dyes,
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without loss of beauty, and wears well and long. The
dress should always be harmonious with one’s surround-
ings. Sometimes a woman is more elegant in a plain
dress, when a richer dress, being out of place, would be
vulgar. Let the dress be so simply an expression of the
woman that she is unconscious of it when she has put it
on. Let the thinking come before the dressing. Thus,
alone, can she be harmonious, and possess the graceful
attributes that form the highest beauty.
Another high authority on all that pertains to the well
being of true womanhood, Mrs. Julia Ward Howe, thus
writes:
“Tf dress can heighten the whole sense of what is really beau-
tiful in womanhood, it is certainly a power, and a great one.
Surely, one of the first conditions to this end would be, that
dress should represent womanly reserve. It should clothe, not
disguise or deform. The lines of beauty should be preserved—
colors should be modest beside the coloring of nature. Let no
glaring tints disturb the harmony of the delicately-blended
lines. The gold ina young girl’s hair, the evanescent roses in
her cheeks, glowing and paling with the rhythm of her pulse, is
a silent eloquence, or, rather, a light-and-shadow utterance.
Never profane or frizzle the one out of all color, or place beside
the other any brilliant ornament which can conflict with its per-
fect charm.”
Every year that a woman lives the more pains she
should take with her dress. The dress of elderly ladies
ought to be more of a science than it is. How often one
hears a woman of fifty say, ‘‘ Oh, my dressing days are
past; when, if she thought about it, they have only
well begun. At least, the time has come when dress is
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more to her than ever. Remember, that from forty to
sixty-five is a quarter of a century—the third of a long
life. It is the period through which the majority of
grown-up people pass. And yet how little pride women
take—how little thought beforehand—to be charming
then.
THE OTHER EXTREME.
But she must be equally careful to avoid a foolish
assumption of youth, which will be even more unbecom-
ing. The well-known saying, that a woman is no older
than she looks, amiable and consoling as it is, has not
been altogether harmless. Acting upon this assump-
tion, and losing sight of the eternal fitness of things,
many a woman has arrayed herself in a manner which is
not only entirely unbecoming to her face, but has a ten-
dency to make her ridiculous. Who has not trembled
for a friend when the mania seized her to color her hair;
and then, as her good sense admonished her never to do
it again, walked trembling by her side while she wore
the changing hues from black to greenish white; and
who does not rejoice at the decree which makes it pos-
sible for gray hair to be not only honorable, but beauti-
ful and fashionable also? There are other things which
need the strong light of common sense thrown upon
them—the colors chosen for dresses, the style of the
hats and bonnets, the dressing for the neck demand
attention. What a pity it is that women with thin
faces and necks do not understand the softening effect of
lace—white next the throat and black outside of that.
Plain, rich dresses emphasize the grace which should, at
fifty, ye even more admirable than at twenty-five or
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thirty. One is disposed to wonder at, if not to criticize,
Thackeray severely for making Henry Esmond marry
Lady Castlewood, whose daughter was his first love;
and he is pardoned only when we remember that her
lovely character and the beauty of her face are repre-
sented as existing without the aid of those artificial
appliances which disfigure some women even at the
present day, when good sense is the rule and not the
exception. The ‘‘eternal fitness of things’’ should be
studied by every woman; and she might make a sort of
golden text of this sentence. No woman looks so old as
one who tries to look young. The little girl who tries
on her mother’s apron, and so has a long dress in front,
and the traditional ostrich which hides its head in the
sand, are not more absurd than the woman who per-
suades herself at forty that she looks eighteen. If she
would only stop a moment and reason with herself, she
would know that she is infinitely more handsome as she
is. Would she exchange the lines of intelligence, of
thought, of knowledge, for the mere simper of youth?
Her face that has bent over the cradled babe night after
night has the holy seal of motherhood to beautify it; the
eyes that have looked into the faces of the dying have a
tender light in their depths; love has glorified the quiv-
ering mouth with its sacred pathos; the faded complex-
ion is lighted by the immortal glow of life’s western sky.
‘« Would you be young again?
So would not I;
One tear to memory given,
Onward we hie.
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Life’s dark stream forded o’er, |
Almost at rest on shore.
Say, would you plunge once more,
With home so nigh?”
There are some old ladies who are grandly beautiful.
I recall such a one, with snowy white hair, dressed fash-
jonably; with a rich, black velvet dress, and masses of
real old lace and blonde at the throat. And when she
went to parties she wore pink roses in her hair and in
her bosom, and to some one who criticized her she said:
““Did you-never hear how the roses grow over old ruins,
showing the triumph of nature over art?’ and went on
her way with stately step and a sad, sweet smile on her
grand, old face.
Some writer has said that a woman’s power in the
world is measured by her power to please. Whatever
she may wish to accomplish she will best manage it by
pleasing. A woman’s grand social aim should be to
please. And let me tell you how thatistobedone. A
woman can please the eye by her appearance, her dress,
her face, her figure. A plain woman can never be pretty.
She can always be fascinating, if she takes pains. I well
remember a man, who was a great admirer of our sex,
telling me that one of the most fascinating women he
had ever met with was not only not pretty, but, as to
her face, decidedly plain—ugly, only the word is rude.
How, then, did she fascinate? I well remember his
reply: ‘‘Her figure,” said he, ‘‘was neat, her dressing
was faultless, her every movement was graceful, her
conversation was clever and animated, and she always
tried to please. It was not I alone who called her fas-
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cinating. She was one of the most acceptable women in
society I ever knew. She married brilliantly, and her
husband, a lawyer in large practice, was much devoted
to her.
A BUSINESS DRESS.
Much has been said about a distinctive dress for ladies
who are engaged in business pursuits, but as the sister-
hood has never taken kindly to a uniform, and there is a
more definite style about the individual in the ranks of
women than in those of men, it would be hard to decide
on any one particular costume that will please all.
Some little black-eyed, trim-figured woman will sheath
herself in a neat-fitting black dress, with a segment of
white linen at the neck and cuffs, cover her smooth hair
with a close Turban hat, draw on a pair of dog-skin
gloves, and look essentially refined and lady-like, while
another in the same suit would be intolerably loud and
ungraceful in appearance. Water-proofs, Ulsters, gos-
samers, and similar garments are worn almost universally
on the street, but in shops, offices, the school-room, and
other commercial resorts where women are to be found,
the dress will remain a matter of individual taste. Cus-
tom makes laws as irrevocable as those of legislatures,
and the time has not yet come, possibly never will, when
a girl can snatch her hat from its nail and get out into
the open air as quickly as her brother. There must
necessarily be certain restrictions of sex, and no amount
of reform will change the laws of nature. The matter is
already simplified by the short, scant dress, and the
absence of trails, hoops, and bustles, and it is to be
hoped these will never be resumed to such an extent by
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our fashionable women that the others will feel obliged
to adopt them. The working dress of American ladies
to-day is a happy compromise between the despotic
fashions of a court and the severe bigotry of a reform
costume of the coat and trowsers pattern. The absence
of voluminous skirts of white goods, starched and fluted,
is not to be deplored, when a single yoked garment,
depending from the shoulder, can happily replace them.
A dark, neat color, such as navy blue, or a rich brown,
in a soft woolen goods that drapes artistically, and fol-
lows the outlines of the form in classic folds, is prefer-
able to the wash lawns and percales of the past, and saves
much time and money over laundrying, etc. ‘Thus one
vexed question has adjusted itself, and we will not ask
whether it came through the reformer or the fashion
inventor; it is enough to know that a woman can dress
prettily and in accordance with the laws of health at the
same time, and that time is the present.
DRESS REFORMERS.
Miss Oakey voices the opinion of all sensible women
when she says, in one of her essays: ‘‘It appears to us
that the failure of the ‘dress reformers’ to find accept-
ance, except at the hands of a few enthusiasts, arises
from two causes: First. That their object has no rela-
tion to beauty; and, secondly, because they defeat their
own purpose by a superficial knowledge of the true for-
mation of the body. A dress reform that opposes itself
to beauty, deserves to be stamped out by every reason-
able woman in the land, just as a fashion that, in its
blind search for beauty, destroys the most beautiful
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work of the Creator, deserves the same fate. The
human being was meant to be beautiful. It is always
an accident or mistake, or blind or willful disregard of
the laws of nature when the human being is ugly as an
individual or asarace. The highest beauty is elevating
and refining in its influence on the individual and on the
home. It is the natural object of the desire of human-
ity- The infant, who can not speak, delights init. The
most cultured man uses it to express his highest aspira-
tion. The Creator sows it broadcast over nature. Even
the dumb animals have some sense of it; and here starts
up a little band of ‘reformers,’ so-called, doubtless as
sincere as they are misguided, and they say that beauty
is a mistake, a delusion, and a snare; that what we shall
seek is use—simply use—as if, forsooth, use and beauty
were at war with each other. We might say that use
demands beauty almost, though we can not reverse the
saying, and assert that beauty demands use, for ‘beauty
is its own excuse for being,’ our wise and honored sage
has said in one of his deepest moments; and yet this
beauty, that exists as it were for very pleasure, has, per-
haps, the highest use—that of lifting us for the time
quite out of all doctrines of expediency, and floating us
in the purely ideal world.’’
Emerson wrote of Margaret Fuller: ‘‘She was always
dressed neatly and becoming.’”’ Even a philosopher,
writing of so eminent a woman as Miss Fuller, could
remember that. The fact is, that the more prominently
a woman is before the world, or in any kind of semi-
public work, such as a professional and literary life
really is, the more scrupulously should she insist on per-
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The ° King dom #of Home.
‘* Domestic Happiness, thou only bliss
Of Paradise that has survived the fall.”
Our wives are as comely
And our home is still home, be it ever so homely.”
—Dibdin.
N speaking of his home to a friend,
a child was asked, ‘‘ Where is your
home?’ Looking with loving eyes
at his mother, he replied, ‘‘ Where
mother is.’’
‘‘ Home,”’ says a celebrated divine,
‘‘should be the center of joy, equa-
: Ee torial and tropical. A man’s house should
VatZAS be on the hill-top of cheerfulness and serenity
7 ere so high that no shadows rest upon it, and
\, where the morning comes so early and the
Ye evening tarries so late that the day has twice
as many golden hours as those of other men.
He is to be pitied whose house is in some
valley of grief between the hills, with the
longest night and the shortest day.”’
It is the woman in the house who makes the home,
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not always an easy or a comfortable task to do, but most
satisfactory when accomplished.
THE INFLUENCE OF THE WIFE AND MOTHER
in the domestic world is unquestioned, her sway is
absolute; she can make all who come within her reach
happy and contented or she can render them misera-
ble. She can rule with an iron rod or lead with a
silken string. ‘‘ When you want to get the grandest
idea of a queen,’’ says a modern writer, ‘‘ you do not
think of Catherine of Russia, or of Anne of England,
or of Marie Theresa of Germany ; but when you want to
get your grandest idea of a queen you think of the plain
woman who sat opposite your father at the table, or
walked with him arm-in-arm down life’s pathway, some-
times to the thanksgiving banquet, sometimes to the
grave, but always together—soothing your petty griefs,
correcting your childish waywardness, joining in your
infantile sports, listening to your evening prayers, toil-
ing for you with needle or at the spinning-wheel, and on
cold nights wrapping you up snug and warm. And then
at last, on that day when she lay in the back room
dying, and you saw her take those thin hands with
which she had toiled for you so long and put them
together in a dying prayer that commended you to the
God whom she had taught you to trust—oh, she was the
queen! The chariots of God came down to fetch her,
and as she went in all heaven rose up. You cannot
think of her now without a rush of tenderness that stirs
the deep foundations of your soul, and you feel as much
a child again as when you cried on her lap; and if you
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could bring her back again to speak just once more your
name as tenderly as she used to speak it, you would be
willing to throw yourself on the ground and kiss the sod
that covers her, crying, ‘Mother! Mother!’ Ah, she
was the queen! She was the queen !”’
AN IDEAL WOMAN,
She was my peer;
No weakling girl, who would surrender will
And life and reason, with her loving heart,
To her possessor; no soft, clinging thing
‘Who would find breath alone within the arms
Of a strong master, and obediently
Wait on his will in slavish carefulness;
No fawning, cringing spaniel to attend
His royal pleasure, and account herself
Rewarded by his pats and pretty words;
But a sound woman, who, with insight keen,
Had wrought a scheme of life, and measured well
Her womanhood; had spread before her feet
A fine philosophy to guide her steps;
Had won a faith to which her life was brought
In strict adjustment—brain and heart meanwhile
Working in conscious harmony and rhythm
With the great scheme of God’s great universe
On toward her being’s end.
— Holland.
HOME EDUCATION.
Teach children to eat properly and speak correctly in
the home circle. Many a young man has gone out of his
father’s home into the world, who has been mortified
and embarrassed by the criticism of strangers on his
table manners and conversation. Children acquire a
habit of using slip-shod expressions, such as, ‘‘I ain’t
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got it,’ ‘“‘I don’t want nothing,’ of using the knife
instead of the fork ; of eating in a loud and noisy manner,
with their elbows extended as if they were birds feeding
on the wing; of making uncouth sounds in breathing,
and of acting in other careless ways which are exceed-
ingly annoying to older and well-bred people. These
are all indications of lack of home breeding. Parents
who have been neglected themselves in their early years
have no right to transmit their careless habits to their
children, or send them out into the world to learn in
manhood or womanhood the primary laws of social
ethics. It has been wisely said that education does not
begin with the alphabet. It commences with a mother’s
look, with a father’s nod of approval or his sign of
reproof; with a sister’s gentle pressure of the hand, ora
brother’s noble act of forbearance ; with a handful of
flowers in green and daisied meadows; with a bird’s
nest admired but not touched ; with pleasant walks in
shady lanes, and with thoughts directed, in sweet and
kindly tones and words, to nature, to beauty, to acts of
benevolence, to deeds of virtue. To every parent, to
every influential member of a household, there is com-
mitted a charge which can be shifted to no one else.
There can be no model system grafted upon the family
tree. The children of one family cannot be brought up
successfully by the same method. There must be kisses
for one and discipline for another. In this connection an
incident suggests itself. A mother of my acquaintance
had two little girls—one a healthy, strong child, without
nerves ; the other a delicate, sensitive, shrinking little
one, with a shy and timid nature. The mother had one
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set of rules for the two children; they ate the same food,
and were sent to bed at exactly the same hour, immedi-
ately after a light supper. The younger and healthier
one went to sleep at once; the other begged for a light
to be kept burning, and when this was denied would be
found sitting in the passage-ways in a tremor of fright,
which no amount of reasoning would control. Cold
hands and feet and a burning head resulted. The doctor
was constantly in attendance upon the little one, who
could not go to school without getting a severe cold,
though both wore the same amount of clothing and were
equally well guarded from the weather. The mother
took counsel with herself, and wisely adopted a differ-
ent method of treatment with the child. She put her
bed in her own chamber, kept a night-lamp burning, and
sat in the room with the little girl telling her soothing
stories until she fell quietly to sleep. Believing that
her child’s interests were superior to all others, she
never allowed anything to interfere with her evening
work, until the time came when the little girl could be
safely left alone, her thoughts composed and her nerves
tranquil. Had the mother persisted in her first attempt
to bring up the two children on the same hygienic and
mental plans, one would probably have been a peevish
invalid for life, with impaired mental faculties. If it is
necessary for us to respect each other’s prejudices, how
much more important that we conciliate infirmities of
temperament which are so closely allied with our per-
sonal welfare.
HAPPY SLUMBERS.
There is one rule that it is always safe to enforce in
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the family—the rule of love which will send each child
to bed with a smile on its lips and peace in its heart.
Fretful mothers have much to excuse them, for there is
an accumulation of work and responsibility in the home,
of which they bear the chief burden, but it will pay
them infinitely well in the end to send the children to
bed happy. They will be more tractable and useful in
the morning; they will have happier memories of their
childhood when they have gone out from the home nest
into the world, and they will enshrine in their hearts, as
household saints, the mothers who gave them a good-
night kiss with smiles and benedictions every night of
their young lives. Mothers seem to think often that
childhood is eternal—that the little one will always be
there to kiss and caress; but it is inevitable that the
child is with us but a few years, and the mother who
neglected the opportunity of going into the next room
to press the rosy cheek with a good-night kiss, sits alone
and asks in sadness and solitude, ‘‘ Where is my boy
to-night?’ ‘‘ Where is my girl to-night ?”’
THE VALUE OF ‘‘ MOTHER.’’
A father, talking to his careless daughter, said: “I
want to speak to you of your mother. It may be that
you have noticed a careworn look upon her face lately.
Of course, it has not been brought there by any act of
yours, but still it is your duty to chase it away. I want
you to get up to-morrow morning and get breakfast; and
when your mother comes and begins to express her sur-
prise, go right up and kiss her on the cheek. You can’t
imagine how it will brighten her dear face. Besides,
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you owe her a kiss or two. Away back, when you were
a little girl, she kisséd you when no one else was tempted
by your fever-tainted breath and swollen face. You
were not as attractive then as you are now. And
through those years of childish sunshine and shadows
she was always ready to cure, by the magic of a mother’s
kiss, the little dirty, chubby hands whenever they were
injured in those first skirmishes with the rough old
world. And then the midnight kiss with which she
routed so many bad dreams, as she leaned above your
restless pillow, have all been on interest these long, long
years. Of course, she is not so pretty and kissable as
you are; but if you had done your share of work during
the last ten years the contrast would not be so marked.
Her face has more wrinkles than yours, far more, and
yet if you were sick that face would appear more beau-
tiful than an angel’s as it hovered over you, watching
every opportunity to minister to your comfort, and
every one of those wrinkles would seem to be bright
wavelets of sunshine chasing each other over the dear
face. She will leave you one of these days. These bur-
dens, if not lifted from her shoulders, will break her
down. Those rough, hard hands, that have done so
many necessary things for you, will be crossed upon her
lifeless breast. Those neglected lips, that gave you your
first baby kiss, will be forever closed, and those sad,
tired eyes will have opened in eternity, and then you
will appreciate your mother ; but it will be too late.”’
MY MOTHER’S HYMN.
Like patient saint of olden time,
With lovely face almost divine,
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So good, so beautiful and fair,
Her very attitude a prayer: -
I heard her sing so low and sweet,
‘‘ His loving-kindness—oh, how great! ”
Turning, behold the saintly face,
So full of trust and patient grace.
“‘ He justly claims a song from me,
His loving-kindness—oh, how free! ”
Sweetly thus did run the song,
‘* His loving-kindness” all day long,
Trusting, praising, day by day,
She sang the sweetest roundelay—
‘He near my soul hath always stood,
His loving-kindness—oh, how good!”
‘* He safely leads my soul along,
His loving-kindness—oh, how strong! ”
So strong to lead her on the way
To that eternal better day,
Where safe at last in that blest home,
All care and weariness are gone,
She ‘‘sings, with rapture and surprise,
His loving-kindness in the skies.”
FEEDING THE SICK.
Four causes of suffering among the sick occur to us as
worth considering. First, a poor choice of diet; sec-
ondly, a poor way of preparing it ; thirdly, an
improper time for serving it; and fourthly, the bad
habit of retaining it within the patient’s recognition by
the sense of sight or smell. The purpose of feeding the
well or ill is to supply the demand for nourishment and —
not the gratification of the appetite. Still, the latter
result has its value, in that we digest more readily and
perfectly those articles of nutrition that we like.
It may be well even for the sick to have regular times
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for taking nourishment; still, very sick persons can take
so little nutriment of any kind that their needs and
wants must be consulted. The general rule must be that
the smaller the quantity that can be taken the oftener it
may be given. And a second rule should be, never to
offer a patient the same dish of food that he has once
refused. If it has stood long it is not fresh and nice.
A third rule founded on experience is, always make the
food of the sick palatable.
In the course of a severe sickness discretion in many
things is valuable. It is needed in measuring out the
food. A teaspoonful of any proper liquid every half
hour or more may be all that the sufferer can bear. If
he is stupid or delirious, rub his lips gently with a spoon
to notify him that he must now be ready to swallow
what you present. You may tenderly press down the
lower lip with your finger, slowly introduce the spoon to
attract his attention, so that he may swallow the liquid
almost unconsciously, and yet with safety. The sick
may suffer from thirst, and still be unable to announce
it. Small bits of ice enclosed in a soft linen rag may
meet his needs and be eagerly received. Some slightly
acid drinks, as lemonade, will demand his gratitude.
The kind of food should be easy of solution in the
patient's mouth and in the gastric sack. The taste of
the sick is easily offended, so that proper and agreeable
food only should be offered ; otherwise, the patient’s
stomach will loathe and utterly reject it—even if once
well down it will soon come up again. No nurse, then,
is well educated and fitted for the practice of her profes-
sion, who does not know how to select proper food, how
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to prepare it, and how to serve it. What food a sick
person really needs, and how it can be rendered pala-
table and easily digestible, must be learned by observa-
tion and experience.
The temperature of food renders it hard or easy of
digestion. If it be lower than the temperature of the
stomach, the digestion will be more or less delayed. It
should be as warm at least as the temperature of the gas-
tric sack in which it must be dissolved, or it may induce
temporary indigestion. Tea, coffee, toast or bits of beef
should be hot when presented to the invalid or convales-
cent, because time will cool them to suit his taste. The
cups for tea or coffee or chocolate need no warming, but
the plates on which he carves his meat or toast often do.
The physician, as a part of his duty, may prescribe
the amount of food the patient may safely take, but
still the nurse should be able to vary his directions when
circumstances occur to warrant it. A nurse should
never urge the sick person to eat more than he really
wants.
The idea of having a certain article of food long enter-
tained will inevitably impair the appetite for it. Itisa
careless and disagreeable practice to fill a cup so full
that its contents will run over and partially fill the sau-
cer. The nurse should never taste the tea or coffee or
broth in the presence of the patient. It makes him feel
that he is to drink only slops remaining in the nurse’s
cup. Be considerate enough to know what the sick one
may need. Have everything placed in tasteful order on
a waiter—salt, pepper, fork and knife, extra cup and
spoons. A neat bouquet will make your patient smile
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and increase his appetite. A loving tone and a few ten-
der words are often worth more than stimulants.
THE GIRL IN THE HOUSEHOLD.
As the march of civilization renders the art of living
more complicated, the question of how we shall be
served increases in importance. Untrained peasants,
direct from Europe, invade our homes, spoil our dinners,
destroy our delicate china and bric-a-brac, and rule us
with a rod of iron. We pay them high wages, and only
complain when goaded to desperation. Many of these
girls are good-natured, quick-witted, and easily taught
the manifold duties of the average household. But how
-many women are willing to convert their tastefully fur-
nished homes into training-schools for ignorant ser-
vants? No doubt there are some admirable housekeep-
ers who prefer taking a raw girl just from the ship, and
training her into the ways of their households. If they
can at the same time inculcate habits of order and sys-
tem, they are doubly to be blessed. While this course
of education is going on, however, the same wages are
demanded in many cases as after the girl has graduated.
and received her diploma. At any time during her tute-
lage the offer of an additional dollar per month will
induce the average girl to leave her kind instructor and
palm off her incompetency on some other mistress. How
is this unjust state of affairs to be remedied ?
A thoroughly good servant, one who understands her
duties and attends to them properly, deserves to be well
paid. A skilled workman can always command good.
wages, and there is no reason why a woman’s skill in
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domestic duties should not have a marketable value.
But this will never be the case until ladies absolutely
refuse to pay high wages for poor work. There are
thousands of households in this city to-day, where the
ladies themselves do much of the dirty and disagreeable
work, for fear of offending Bridget by asking her to
ittend to it. Instead of keeping a general supervision
over the various departments of household labor, they
are constantly employed in doing up the little odds and
ends of work which their hired ‘help ”” have purposely
neglected. Of course, in families where only one ser-
vant is kept, who is expected to do washing, ironing,
cooking and cleaning, a great deal devolves upon the
mistress. In such cases the lady of the house should
take upon herself certain departments of work, and
attend to them regularly. Many ladies do the up-stairs
work themselves, except on Fridays, when the girl gives
the bedroom a thorough sweeping. Other ladies wash
the fine china and silver, and brush up and dust the din-
ing room after breakfast is over, while the girl makes
the beds up-stairs. Some such arrangement is abso-
lutely necessary where the family is large. In such
cases the girl is not expected to do much baking. Hither
the mistress makes pies, cakes and desserts herself or
has recourse to the bakery. When hiring a girl for gen-
eral housework, a lady should always specify exactly
what the girl will be expected to do, and state what
work she will herself attend to. After this she should
never do Bridget’s work for her. If in setting the table
she forgets something, and the mistress gets it herself,
the girl will invariably forget it the next time. If called
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therself and asked to fetch it, it will not again be miss-
ing. The ironing drags and looks as if there was no
prospect of it being finished. The lady foresees confu-
sion, takes a hand, and works until she has a headache.
Next week the same scene is repeated, only if the mis-
tress goes out calling, instead of giving the desired help,
black, sullen looks are the result. Never give a girl too
much work for her strength, but on no account accept
less than the work she is engaged to do.
Ladies who take ignorant girls just landed, to teach
in their families, should pay them no more than a rea-
. sonable sum a month while learning. If they would
refuse to pay more, a reform would soon be effected.
‘The matter lies in the hands of the mistresses themselves.
Servant-girls who are assisted by the lady of the house,
and who only do a part of the work themselves, are not
worth as high wages as those who are competent cooks,
~laundresses and chamber-maids. The latter ought to
command higher wages than those who only do one
thing.
Many families, who find two girls in a house apt to
disagree, either put out their entire washing and ironing
or have a woman come in every week to do it, and keep
one good general servant. Under these circumstances
there is often more real comfort than when two or three
girls are kept.
Of course, the mistress of a household must under-
stand and act upon the principle that duty is two-fold—
that she as well as the servant must keep watch and
ward over her temper and her actions, that she has no
‘more right to shirk that share of the household duties
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she has assumed than the family servant, and finally
that the relation of mistress and servant is purely a busi-
ness one and warrants no personal liberties, no unkind-
ness of speech or discourtesy of action on the one side:
or on the other.
SECRET OF A TRUE LIFE.
Dr. Arnold, of Rugby, gives in one of his letters an
account of a saintly sister. For twenty years, through
some disease, she was confined to a kind of crib; never
once could she change her position for all that time.
‘¢ And yet,’ said Dr. Arnold (and I think his words are:
very beautiful), ‘‘I never saw a more perfect instance of
the power of love and a sound mind. Intense love,
almost to the annihilation of selfishness; a daily mar-
tyrdom for twenty years, during which she adhered to:
her early formed resolution of never talking about her-
self; thoughtful about the very pins and ribbons of my
wife’s dress, about the making of a doll’s cap for a child, -
but of herself—save as regarded her improvement in all
goodness — wholly thoughtless, enjoying everything”
lovely, grand, beautiful, high-minded, whether in God’s.
works or man’s, with the keenest relish ; inheriting the
earth to the fullness of the promise; and preserved
through the valley of the shadow of death from all fear
or impatience, and from every cloud of impaired reason
which might mar the beauty of Christ’s glorious work.
May God grant that I might come within one hundred
degrees of her place in glory !”’
Such a life was true and beautiful. But the radiance:
of such a life never cheered this world by chance. A.
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sunny patience, a bright-hearted self-forgetfulness, a
sweet and winning interest in the little things of family
intercourse, the divine lustre of a Christian peace, are
not fortuitous weeds carelessly flowering out of the life-
garden. It is the internal which makes the external.
It is the force residing in the atoms which shapes the
pyramid. It is the beautiful soul within which forms
the crystal of the beautiful life without.
‘‘ Be what thou seemest; live thy creed;
Hold up to the earth the torch divine;
Be what thou prayest to be made;
Let the great Master’s steps be thine.
** Sow love, and taste its fruitage pure;
Sow peace, and reap its harvest bright;
Sow sunbeams on the rock and moor,
And find a harvest home of light.”
THE ‘‘ LITTLE PITCHERS.’’
It is rather a sad fact, nevertheless it is true, that chil-
dren are often necessary in the household to act as scav-
engers and keep the moral air pure. Often it happens
that when a party of older people are telling some
doubtful bit of gossip, or relating a story too salacious
for dainty palates, the earnest, interrogative gaze of a
little child produces a sudden hush, and some one inva-
riably remarks, ‘‘ Little pitchers have long ears,” a
phrase older than the oldest memory and singularly
attractive to the little folk. ‘‘ Where are the little pit-
chers ”’ ask these innocent ones, taking the words. liter-
ally; but the conversation takes another turn—the
“¢ child in their midst’? has been a purifying influence,
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and they restrain the tide of gossip or slander, conscious:
that it is potent for evil.
It is a pity if there are any families where this nursery
rhyme is unknown, where the ‘‘ little pitchers”? are
filled with words of profanation, and scoldings and con-
tradiction are poured daily into the ‘‘long ears” that
should be filled only with the dews of heaven. Children
are so quick to learn, and no word they hear is ever lost,
but reverberates in memory until years have passed and
father and mother gone, and the boy or giri grown to
maturity, when it all comes back, ‘‘ Mother used to say,”’
‘‘T have heard my father tell,’ etc. Oh, if they were
words of wisdom, of love and kindly counsel, how sweet
to remember and reproduce them—how precious the
draught which, distilled in the ‘‘ little pitcher,”
refreshes like the fountain of pure cold water in the
desert. Every parent is a future historian. Teachers.
and playmates may be forgotten, but the first lesson
learned from the lips of a parent is immortal in its:
power. Fill up the ‘‘little pitchers,’ then, with the
milk and honey that nourish unto a perfect growth—
make them vessels of honor in the home and the world.
S-CHAPTER XXX.
Women * AS * Poets.
BATTLE HYMN OF THE REPUBLIC.
By Mrs. Jutia Warp Hows
Mrs. Howe was born in New York in 1819. She was the daughter of
Samuel Ward, a banker of that city, and in 1843 was married to Samuel
G. Howe, of Boston. Her first volume was a book of poems called
Passion Flowers, published in 1854. It was in 1866, after the close of
the war, that she published the Battle Hymn in her volume Later Lyrics.
Mrs. Howe is a grand woman, a poet and philanthropist, and a worker in
every good cause that furthers the advancement of women. She is also
the author of several prose works commemorative of her travels abroad.
INE eyes have seen the glory of the coming of the Lord.
He is trampling out the vintage where the grapes of
wrath are stored;
He hath loosed the fateful lightning of His terrible swift sword.
His truth is marching on.
I have seen him in the watch-fires of a hundred circling camps;
They have builded him an altar in the evening dews and damps.
I can read his righteous sentence by the dim and flaring lamps.
His day is marching on.
I have read a fiery gospel writ in burnished rows of steel:
As ye deal with my contemners, so with you my grace shall
deal.
Let the Hero, born of woman, crush the serpent with his heel—
Since God is marching on.
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He has sounded forth the trumpet that shali never call retreat;
He is sifting out the hearts of men before his judgment seat.
Oh, be swift, my soul, to answer him! be jubilant, my feet!
Our God is marching on.
In the beauty of the lilies, Christ was born across the sea,
With a glory in his bosom that transfigures you and me.
As he died to make men holy, let us die to make men free—
While God is marching on.
ROCK ME TO SLEEP.
By Mrs, EvizaBetH AKERS ALLEN, -
The author of this beautiful and favorite poem, Mrs. Allen, was born
October 9th, 1832, in Strong, Franklin Co., Maine, and at an early period
was married to Paul Akers, the sculptor, who died in the following year.
She afterwards married Mr. E. M. Allen, a resident of New York City,
and under the nom-de-guerre of Florence Percy, wrote many beautiful’ and
touching poems, none of which have attained to such popular fame as
Rock Me to Sleep, which is claimed by as many authors as Beautiful
Snow. Mrs. Allen is at present living in Greenville, N. J.
ACKWARD, turn backward, O Time, in your flight—
Make me a child again just for to-night.
Mother, come back from the echoless shore;
Take me again to your heart as of yore;
Kiss from my forehead the furrows of care,
Smooth the few silver threads out of my hair;
Over my slumbers your loving watch keep—
Rock me to sleep, mother, rock me to sleep.
Backward, flow backward, O tide of the years,
I am so weary of toil and of tears—
Toil without recompense, tears all in vain—
Take them and give me my childhood again.
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I have grown weary of dust and decay-—
Weary of flinging my soul wealth away;
Weary of sowing for others to reap—
Rock me to sleep, mother, rock me to sleep.
‘Tired of the hollow, the base, the untrue,
Mother, O mother, my heart calls for you. —
Many a summer the grass has grown green,
Blossomed and faded, our faces between;
‘Yet, with strong yearning and passionate pain,
Long I to-night for your presence again.
‘Come from the silence so long and so deep—
Rock me to sleep, mother, rock me to sleep.
‘Over my heart in the days that are flown,
No love like mother-love ever has shone;
‘No other worship abides and endures—
Faithful, unselfish, and patient, like yours;
None like a mother can charm away pain
From the sick soul and the world-weary brain.
‘Slumber’s soft calms o’er my heavy lids creep—
Rock me to sleep, mother, rock me to sleep.
‘Come, let your brown hair, just lighted with gold,
Fall on your shoulders again as of old;
Let it drop over my forehead to-night,
Shading my faint eyes away from the light;
For, with its sunny-edged shadows once more,
Haply will throng the sweet visions of yore.
Lovingly, softly, its bright billows sweep—
Rock me to sleep, mother, rock me to sleep.
Mother, dear mother, the years have been long
Since I last listened your lullaby song:
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Sing, then, and unto my soul it shall seem
Womanhood’s years have been only a dream.
Clasped to your heart in a loving embrace,
With your light lashes just sweeping my face,
Never hereafter to wake or to weep—
Rock me to sleep, mother, rock me to sleep,
ANSWER TO ROCK ME TO SLEEP.
\ | Y child, ah my child! thou art weary to-night,
Thy spirit is sad and dim is the light;
Thou wouldst call me back from the echoless shore,
To the trials of life, to thy heart as of yore;
Thou longest again for my fond loving care,
For my kiss on thy cheek, for my hand on thy hair;
But angels around thee their loving watch keep,
And angels, my darling, will rock thee to sleep.
“ Backward?” Nay, onward, ye swift rolling years!
Gird on thy armor, keep back thy tears;
Count not thy trials nor efforts in vain— )
They’ll bring thee the light of thy childhood again. 4
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But watch for the light of that brighter day; m
Not tired of “sowing for others to reap,”
For angels, my darling, will rock thee to sleep.
Tired, my child, of the “base, the untrue !”
I have tasted the cup they have given to you—
Ive felt the deep sorrow in the living green
Of a low mossy grave by a silvery stream.
But the dear mother I then sought for in vain
Is an angel presence and with me again,
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And in the still night, from the silence so deep,
Come the bright angels to rock me to sleep.
Nearer thee now than in days that are flown,
Purer the love light encircling thy home;
Far more enduring the watch for to-night,
Than ever earth worship away from the light.
Soon the dark shadows will linger no more,
Nor come to thy call from the opening door;
But know thou, my child, that the angels watch keep,
And soon, very soon, they’ll rock thee to sleep.
They'll sing thee to sleep with a soothing song,
And waking, thou’lt be with a heavenly throng;
And thy life, with its toil and its tears and pain,
Thou wilt then see has not been in vain.
Thou wilt meet those in bliss whom on earth thou didst love,
And whom thou hast taught of the “mansions above.”
“‘ Never hereafter to suffer or weep,”
The angels, my darling, will rock thee to sleep.
KENTUCKY BELLE.
By Constance F. Woo.Lson.
This lady is a magazine writer of great power and originality. Her most
popular novel is Anne, a tale of Mackinac, which was published in
Harper’s Magazine in 1881. She is unmarried, and an artist as well as an_
author and poet. The poem we append is an especial favorite in public
readings.
UMMER of ’sixty-three, sir, and Conrad was gone away—
»_J Gone to the country-town, sir, to sell our first load of hay—
We lived in the log house yonder, poor as ever you’ve seen;
Réschen there was a baby, and I was only nineteen,
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Conrad, he took the oxen, but he left Kentucky Belle.
How much we thought of Kentuck, I couldn’t begin to tell—
Came from the Blue-Grass country; my father gave her to me
When I rode North with Conrad, away from the Tennessee.
Conrad lived in Ohio—a German he is, you know—
The house stood in broad corn-fields, stretching on row after
row.
The old folks made me welcome; they were kind as kind
could be;
But I kept longing, longing, for the hills of the Tennessee.
Oh, for a sight of water, the shadowed slope of a hill!
Clouds that hang on the summit, a wind that never is still!
But the level land went stretching away to meet the sky—
Never a rise, from north to south, to rest the weary eye.
From east to west, no river to shine out under the moon,
Nothing to make a shadow in the yellow afternoon:
Only the breathless sunshine, as I looked out, all forlorn;
Only the “rustle, rustle,” as I walked among the corn.
When I fell sick with pining, we didn’t wait any more, a
But moved away from the corn-lands, out to this river-shore— —
The Tuscarawas it’s called, sir—off there’s a hill, you see—
And now I’ve grown to like it next best to the Tennessée.
I was at work that morning. Some one came riding like mad
Over the bridge and up the road—Farmer Rouf’s little lad.
Bareback he rode; he had no hat; he hardly stopped to say,
“Morgan’s men are coming, Frau; they’re galloping on this
way. |
“Tm sent to warn the neighbors. He isn’t'a mile behind;
He sweeps up all the horses—every horse that he can find.
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Morgan, Morgan the raider, and Morgan’s terrible men,
With bowie-knives and pistols, are galloping up the glen!”
The lad rode down the valley, and I stood still at the door;
The baby laughed and prattled, playing with spools on the floor;
Kentuck was out in the pasture; Conrad, my man was gone.
, Near, nearer, Morgan’s men were galloping, galloping on!
Sudden I picked up baby, and ran to the pasture-bar.
“Kentuck!” I called—“ Kentucky!” She knew me ever so far!
I led her down the gully that turns off there to the right,
And tied her to the bushes; her head was just out of sight.
As I ran back to the log house, at once there came a sound—
The ring of hoofs, galloping hoofs, trembling over the ground—
Coming into the turnpike out from the White-Woman Glen—
Morgan, Morgan the raider, and Morgan’s terrible men.
As near they drew and nearer, my heart beat fast in alarm;
But still I stood in the door-way, with baby on my arm.
They came; they passed; with spur and whip in haste they sped
along—
Morgan, Morgan the raider, and his band, six hundred strong.
Weary they looked and jaded, riding through night and through
day;
Pushing on east to the river, many long miles away,
To the border-strip where Virginia runs up into the west,
And fording the Upper Ohio before they could stop to rest.
On like the wind they hurried, and Morgan rode in advance;
Bright were his eyes like live coals, as he gave me a sideways:
glance;
And I was just breathing freely, after my choking pain,
When the last one of the troopers suddenly drew his rein.
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Frightened I was to death, sir; I scarce dared look in his face,
As he asked for a drink of water, and glanced around the place.
I gave him a cup and he smiled—'twas only a boy, you see,
Faint and worn, with dim-blue eyes; and he’d sailed on the
Tennessee.
Only sixteen he was, sir—a fond mother’s only son—
Off and away with Morgan before his life had begun !
The damp drops stood on his temples; drawn was the boyish
mouth;
And I thought me of the mother waiting down in the South.
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Oh, pluck was he to the backbone, and clear grit through and
through; ; .
Boasted and bragged like a trooper; but the big words wouldn’t
do—
The boy was dying, sir, dying, as plain as plain could be,
Worn out by his ride with Morgan up from the Tennessee.
But when I told the laddie I too was from the South,
Water came in his dim eyes, and quivers around his mouth.
“Do you know the Blue-Grass country ?” he wistful began to
Say;
Then swayed like a willow-sapling, and fainted dead away.
I had him into the log house, and worked and brought him to;
I fed him, and I coaxed him, as I thought his mother’d do;
And when the lad got better, and the noise in his head was
gone,
Morgan’s men were miles away, galloping, galloping on.
“‘Oh, I must go,” he muttered; “I must be up and away!
‘Morgan—Morgan is waiting for me! Oh, what will Morgan
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‘But I heard a sound of tramping and kept him back from the
door— :
‘The ringing sound of horses’ hoofs that I had heard befere.
And on, on came the soldiers—the Michigan cavalry—
And fast they rode, and black they looked, galloping rapidly,—
‘They had followed hard on Morgan’s track; they had followed
day and night;
But of Morgan and Morgan’s raiders they had never caught a
sight.
_And rich Ohio sat startled through all those summer days;
For strange, wild men were galloping over her broad highways:
Now here, now there, now seen, now gone, now north, now east,
now west,
‘Through river-valleys and corn-land farms, sweeping away her
best.
A bold ride and a long ride! But they were taken at last,
“They almost reached the river by galloping hard and fast;
But the boys in blue were upon them ere ever they gained the
ford,
_And Morgan, Morgan the raider, laid down his terrible sword.
Well, I kept the boy till evening—kept him against his will—
But he was too weak to follow, and sat there pale and still.
“When it was cool and dusky—you’ll wonder to hear me tell—
“But I stole down to that gully, and brought up Kentucky Belle.
‘I kissed the star on her forehead—my pretty, gentle lass—
But I knew that she’d be happy back in the old Blue-Grass. —
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I guided him to the southward as well as I knew how;
The boy rode off with many thanks, and many a backward bow;
And then the glow it faded, and my heart began to swell,
As down the glen away she went, my lost Kentucky Belle!
When Conrad came in the evening, the moon was shining high;
Baby and I were both crying—I couldn’t tell him why—
But a battered suit of rebel gray was hanging on the wall,
And a thin old horse, with drooping head, stood in Kentucky’s.
stall.
Well, he was kind, and never once said a hard word to me;
He knew I couldn’t help it—twas all for the Tennessee.
But, after the war was over, just think what came to pass—
A letter, sir; and the two were safe back in the old Blue-Grass..
The lad had got across the border, riding Kentucky Belle;
And Kentuck she was thriving, and fat, and hearty, and well;
He cared for her, and kept her, nor touched her with whip or
spur.
Ah, we’ve had many horses since, but never a horse like her!
DEATH AND THE YOUTH.
By Letitia E, LANDON,
The beautiful, gifted, and most unhappy L. E. L., as she signed herself
in her first youthful poems, was the daughter of an army agent, and wasge
born in Chelsea, England, in 1802, and died in 1888. She acquired a brief
and splendid popularity, but her sad domestic life tinged her later poems
with its melancholy. Letitia E. Landon, afterwards Mrs. Madeau, died in.
the same year that she was married.
N OT yet—the flowers are in my path,
The sun is in the sky;
Not yet—my heart is full of hope,
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Not yet—I never knew till now,
How precious life could be;
My heart is full of love—O Death,
I cannot come with thee!
But love and hope, enchanted twain,
Passed in their falsehood by;
Death came again, and then he said,
“Tm ready now to die.”
AFTER THE BALL
By Nora Perry Cooks.
Mrs. Cooke, who has written many golden poems, is a resident of Provi-
dence, R. I., and has published a couple of volumes of sweet and graceful
verse. As she is still writing and has an exuberant fancy, coupled with a
gentle poetic nature, pure and bird-like in its simplicity, we may expect
much good work to succeed the exquisite love romances she has already
written.
‘aa sat and combed their beautiful hair,
Their long bright tresses one by one,
As they laughed and talked in the chamber there,
After the revel was done.
Idly they talked of waltz and quadrille;
> Idly they laughed like other girls,
Who, over the fire, when all is still,
Comb out their braids and curls.
Robe of satin and Brussels lace,
Knots of flowers and ribbons, too,
Scattered about in every place,
For the revel is through.
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And Maud and Madge, in robes of white,
The prettiest night-gowns under the sun,
Stockingless, slipperless, sit in the night,
For the revel is done.
Sit and comb their beautiful hair,
Those wonderful waves of brown and gold,
Till the fire is out in the chamber there,
And the little bare feet are cold.
Then out of the gathering winter chill—
All out of the bitter St. Agnes weather,
While the fire is out and the house is still,
Maud and Madge together—
Maud and Madge, in robes of white,
The prettiest night-gowns under the sun,
Curtained away from the chilly night
After the revel is done,
Float along in a splendid dream,
To a golden gittern’s tinkling tune,
While a thousand lustres shimmering stream,
In a palace’s grand saloon.
Flashing of jewels and flutter of laces,
Tropical odors sweeter than musk—
Men and women with beautiful faces,
And eyes of tropical dusk.
And one face shining out like a star;
One face haunting the dreams of each,
And one voice sweeter than others are,
Breaking in silvery speech.
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Telling through lips of bearded bloom,
An old, old story over again,
As down the royal bannered room,
To the golden gittern’s strain,
Two and two they dreamily walk,
While an unseen spirit walks beside,
And, all unheard in the lover’s talk,
He claimeth one for a bride.
O Maud and Madge! dream on together,
With never a pang of jealous fear;
Yor, ere the bitter St. Agnes weather
Shall whiten another year,
Robed for the bridal, and robed for the tomb,
Braided brown hair and golden tress,
There’ll be only one of you left for the bloom
Of the bearded lips to press.
Only one for the bridal pearls,
The robe of satin and Brussels lace—
Only one to blush through her curls,
At the sight of a lover’s face.
O beautiful Madge, in your bridal white,
For you the revel has just begun;
But for her who sleeps in your arms to-night
The revel of life is done!
But robed and crowned with your saintly bliss,
Queen of Heaven and bride of the sun,
0 beautiful Maud, you'll never miss
The kisses another hath won!
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LAMENT OF THE IRISH EMIGRANT.
By Lapy DUFFERIN.
The sweet pathos of this sadly-worded song has never been rivaled by
any poem of exile ever written or sung, and it will always be just as touch-
ing to the homesick heart asnow. The writer, Lady Dufferin, is the mother,
and not the wife, as erroneously stated, of the former Governor-general of
Canada. It was published originally in the year 1838, and was set to music
and sung in every drawing-room in the United Kingdom, and became espe-
cially a favorite in America during the year of the Irish famine, 1848.
. | )M sittin’ on the stile, Mary,
Where we sat side by side,
On a bright May mornin’ long ago,
When first you were my bride;
The corn was springin’ fresh and green,
And the lark sung loud and high,
And the red was on your lip, Mary,
And the love-light in your eye.
The place is little changed, Mary,
The day is bright as then,
The lark’s loud song is in my ear,
And the corn is green again;
But I miss the soft clasp of your hand, *
And your breath warm on my cheek,
And I still keep listenin’ for the words
You never more will speak.
Tis but a step down yonder lane,
And the little church stands near,—
The church where we were wed, Mary,
I see the spire from here;
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But the graveyard lies between, Mary,
And my step might break your rest,—
For I’ve laid you, darling, down to sleep,
With your baby on your breast.
I’m very lonely now, Mary,
For the poor make no new friends;
But, oh, they love the better still
The few our Father sends;
And you were all I had, Mary—
My blessin’ and my pride;
There’s nothing left to care for now,
Since my poor Mary died.
Yours was the good, brave heart, Mary,
That still kept hoping on,
When the trust in God had left my soul,
And my arm’s young strength was gone;
There was comfort ever on your lip,
And the kind look on your brow,—
I bless you, Mary, for that same,
Though you cannot hear me now.
I thank you for the patient smile
When your heart was fit to break—
When the hunger-pain was gnawin’ there,
And you hid it for my sake;
I bless you for the pleasant word,
When your heart was sad and sore,—
Oh, I’m thankful you are gone, Mary,
Where grief can’t reach you more!
I’m bidding you a long farewell,
My Mary, kind and true!
326 WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
But T’ll not forget you, darling,
In the land ’'m going to.
They say there’s bread and work for all,
And the sun shines always there,—
But Pl not forget old Ireland,
Were it fifty times as fair!
And often in those grand old woods
Pll sit and shut my eyes,
And my heart will travel back again
To the place where Mary lies;
And [ll think I see the little stile
_ Where we sat side by side,
And the springin’ corn and the bright May morn,
When first you were my bride.
ON THE SHORES OF TENNESSEE.
«By Mrs. ETHEL LYNN BEERS,
The writer of this beautiful song was born in Goshen, Orange Co., N. J.,
in 1827, and was very popular as a contributor to the New York Ledger,
Harper’s Weekly, and other papers, under the pseudonym of Ethel Lynn,
to which she added afterwards her married name. ‘She died in 1879. The
old slave-days are recalled with vivid earnestness by her stirring lines.
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For this world is fading, Pompey—
Massa won’t be with you long;
And I fain would hear the south wind
Bring once more the sound to me,
Of the wavelets softly breaking
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* Mournful though the ripples murmur,
As they still the story tell,
How no vessel floats the banner
That Pve loved so long and well;
I shall listen to their music,
Dreaming that again I see
_ Stars and Stripes on sloop and shallop,
Sailing up the Tennessee.
“ And, Pompey, while Ole Massa’s waiting
For death’s last dispatch to come,
If that exiled starry banner
Should come sailing proudly home,
You shall greet it, slave no longer,
Voice and hand shall both be free,
That shout and point to Union colors
On the waves of Tennessee.”
“*Massa’s berry kind to Pompey,
But ole darkey’s happy here,
Where he’s tended corn and cotton
For dese many a long gone year.
Over yonder Missis’ sleeping,
No one tends her grave like me,
Mebbe she would miss the flowers
She used to love in Tennessee.”
= ~ ©?Pears like she was watching Massa,
If Pompey should beside him stay,
Mebbe she’d remember better
How for him she used to pray,
Telling him that way up yonder
White as snow his soul would be,
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If he served the Lord of Heaven
While he lived in Tennessee.”
Silently the tears were rolling
Down the poor old dusky face,
As he stepped behind his master,
In his long accustomed place.
Then a silence fell around them,
As they gazed on rock and tree,
Pictured in the placid waters :
Of the rolling Tennessee.
Master dreaming of the battle,
When he fought by Marion’s side—
When he bid the haughty Tarlton
Stoop his lordly crest of pride;
Man, remembering how yon sleeper
Once he held upon his knee,
Ere she loved the gallant soldier,
Ralph Vervair of Tennessee.
Still the south wind fondly lingers
"Mid the veteran’s silver hair; |
Still the bondsman, close beside him,
Stands beside the old-arm chair, |
With his dark-hued hand uplifted,
Shading eyes he bends to see
Where the woodland, boldly jutting,
Turns aside the Tennessee.
Thus he watches cloud-born shadows
Glide from tree to mountain crest,
Softly creeping, aye and ever, bs
To the river’s yielding breast. :
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Ha, above the foliage yonder,
Something flutters wild and free!
“Massa! Massa! Hallelujah!
The flag’s come back to Tennessee!”
“Pompey, hold me on your shoulder,
Help me stand on foot once more,
That I may salute the colors
As they pass my cabin door.
Here’s the paper, signed, that frees you,
ee Give a freeman’s shout with me!
ee , God and Union! be our watchword
| Evermore in Tennessee!”
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J . Then the trembling voice grew fainter,
: _ And the limbs refused to stand;
One prayer to Jesus—and the soldier
Glided to the better land.
When the flag went down the river,
ee Man and master both were free,
iy While the ring-dove’s note was mingled
With the rippling Tennessee. |
i. BRAVE KATE SHELLEY.
a Poe By Mrs. M. L. Rayne.
Pe It will be remembered that Kate She Shelley, a young girl or fifteen yes
“WE MEASURED THE RIOTOUS BABY
HE COTTAGE WALL;
AGAINST T
A LILLY GREW AT THE THRESHOLD,
AND THE BOY WAS JUST SO TALL.”
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The garden lies; strive as you may
You cannot miss it in your way.
All paths that have been or shall be,
Pass somewhere through Gethsemane!
All those who journey soon or late
Must pass within the garden’s gate;
Must kneel alone in darkness there,
And battle with some fierce despair.*
God pity those who cannot say,
* Not mine, but thine;” who only pray,
“Let this cup pass,’ and cannot see
The purpose of Gethsemane.
MEASURING THE BABY.
By Emma Atice BROWNE.
Emma Alice Browne (Mrs. E. A. Bevar) is at present a resident of Dan-
ville, Ill., where, in a quiet home, she devotes her life to literary pursuits.
The sweet, pathetic little poem on ‘‘ Measuring the Baby” was written
during a night vigil at the cradle of a beloved child, ‘‘sick unto death.”
Mrs. Bevar has kindly written and corrected it for this publication, and
aliudes to it in touching language as a real incident in her own life. The
lady is a Southerner, the daughter of a clergyman, the Rev. William A.
Browne, who died when his gifted daughter was still very young. In a pri-
vate letter Mrs. Bevar says: ‘‘At thirteen I was a regular and paid con-
tributor to the Louisville (Ky.) Journal, the New York Ledger, Philadel-
phia Saturday Evening Post, and other current publications.” | Mrs. Bevar
is a lineal descendant of Mrs, Hemans, the English poetess, whose maiden
name was Browne, and has much of that graceful style of writing pathetic
verse with a delicacy of poetic fervor that is wholly original. Mrs. Bevar
has been a widow for some years, although still a young woman,
\ 7 measured the riotous baby
Against the cottage wall;
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WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
A lily grew at the threshold,
And the boy was just so tall!
A royal tiger lily,
With spots of purple and gold,
And a heart like a jeweled chalice,
The fragrant dews to hold.
Without the blue birds whistled,
High up in the old roof trees,
And to and fro at the window
The red rose rocked her bees;
And the wee pink fists of the baby
Were never a moment still,
Snatching at shine and shadow,
That danced on the lattice sill!
His eyes were wide as blue-bells,
His mouth like a flower unblown,
Two little bare feet, like funny white mice,
Peep’d out from his snowy gown;
And we thought, with a thrill of rapture,
That yet had a touch of pain,
When June rolls around with her roses
We'll measure the boy again! )
Ah, me! Ina darkened chamber,
With the sunshine shut away,
Thro’ tears that fell like a bitter rain,
We measured. the boy to-day!
And the little bare feet, that were dimpled
And sweet as a budding rose,
Lay side by side together,
In the hush of a long repose!
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Up from the dainty pillow,
White as the rising dawn,
The fair little face lay smiling,
_ With the light of Heaven thereon!
And the dear little hands, like rose-leaves
ae Dropt from a rose, lay still—
| Never to snatch at the sunbeams
That crept to the shrouded sill!
We measured the sleeping baby
With ribbons white as snow,
For the shining rose-wood casket
That waited him below;
And out of the darkened chamber
# We went with a childless moan:—
ae. To the height of the sinless Angels
ar. Our little one had grown!
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FAITH AND REASON.
By Lizzie York Cass.
_ Mrs. Lizzie York Case is a Southern lady, a resident of Baltimore and
vicinity for many years, and at present living at Mobile, Alabama, where
ee her husband, Lieutenant J. Madison Case, is stationed in the service of the
United States Navy. Mrs. Case is descended from Quaker ancestry, and
_ much of the grace and versatility of character she possessesis derived from
a that source. Many of her poems have been published in household collec-
tions and school readers, and are much admired for their high educational
Standard.
WO travelers started on a tour
With trust and knowledge laden;
One was a man with mighty brain,
_ And one a gentle maiden.
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352 WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
They joined their hands and vowed to be
Companions for a season.
The gentle maiden’s name was Faith,
The mighty man’s was Reason.
He sought all knowledge from this world,
And every world anear it;
All matter and all mind were his,
But hers was only spirit.
If any stars were missed from Heaven,
His telescope could find them;
But while he only found the stars,
She found the Gop behind them.
He sought for truth above, below,
All hidden things revealing;
She only sought it woman-wise,
And found it in her feeling.
He said, ‘This Earth ’s a rolling ball,”
And so doth science prove it;
He but discovered that it moves,
She found the springs that move it.
He reads with geologic eye
The record of the ages;
Unfolding strata, he translates
Earth’s wonder-written pages.
He digs around a mountain base
And measures it with plummet;
She leaps it with a single bound
And stands upon the summit.
He brings to light the hidden force
In nature’s labyrinths lurking,
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And binds it to his onward car
To do his mighty working.
He sends his message ’cross the earth,
And down where sea gems glisten;
She sendeth hers to Gop himself,
Who bends His ear to listen.
All things in science, beauty, art,
In common they inherit;
But he has only clasped the form,
While she has clasped the spirit.
He tries from Earth to forge a key
To ope the gate of Heaven!
That key is in the maiden’s heart,
And back its bolts are driven.
They part! Without her all is dark;
His knowledge vain and hollow.
For Faith has entered in with Gop,
Where Reason may not follow.
REQUIESCAM.
; . 4 Mrs. Robert S. Howland, an American lady, who is not known as 4
_ writer, is the author of this beautiful poem, said to have been found under
: the pillow of a wounded soldier near Port Royal, 1864.
: LAY me down to sleep,
With little thought or care
Whether my waking find
Me here or there.
A bowing, burdened head,
_ That only asks to rest
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354 WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
Unquestioningly upon
A loving breast.
My good right hand forgets
It’s cunning now—
To march the weary march
I know not how.
I am not eager, bold,
Nor strong—all that is past.
I am ready not to do
At last ! at last !
My half-day’s work is done,
And this is all my part;
I give a patient God
My patient heart.
And grasp his banner still
Though all its blue be dim;
These stripes, no less than stars,
Lead after Him.
HANNAH BINDING SHOES.
By Lucy Larcom.
pee lone Hannah,
Sitting at the window binding shoes,
Faded, wrinkled, —
Sitting, stitching in a mournful muse;
Bright-eyed beauty once was she
When the bloom was on the tree.
Spring and winter
Hannah’s at the window binding shoes.
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Not a neighbor
Passing, nod or answer will refuse
To her whisper, _
Is there from the fishers any news?
Oh, her heart’s adrift with one
On an endless voyage gone.
Night and morning
-Hannah’s at the window binding shoes.
Fair young Hannah!
Ben, the sun-burned fisher, gayly wooes;
- Hale and clever,
For a willing heart and hand he sues.
May-day skies are all aglow,
And the waves are laughing so,
For her wedding,
Hannah leaves her window and her shoes.
May is passing.
Mid the apple-boughs a pigeon coos.
Hannah shudders,
For the mild south-wester mischief brews.
Round the rocks of Marblehead,
Outward bound a schooner sped,
- Silent—lonesome,
Hannah’s at the window binding shoes.
Tis November;
Now no tear her wasted cheek bedews.
: From Newfoundland
Not a sail returning will she lose,
Whispering hoarsely, “ Fishermen,
Have you, have you heard of Ben.”
"Y Old with watching,
-___ Hannah’s at the window binding shoes.
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356 WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
Twenty winters
Bleach and tear the ragged shore she views;
Twenty seasons,
Never one has brought her any news.
Still her dim eyes silently
Chase the white sail o’er the sea.
Hopeless, faithful,
Hannah’s at the window binding shoes,
CURFEW MUST NOT RING TO-NIGHT.
By Mrs. Rosa Hartwick THORPE.
EK NGLAND’S sun was slowly setting o’er the hill-tops far
away, |
Filling all the land with beauty at the close of one sad day; —
And its last rays kissed the forehead of a man and maiden fair,—
He with steps so slow and weary; she with sunny, floating hair;
He with bowed head, sad and een she with lips so cold |
and white,
Struggled to keep back the murmur, “ Curfew must not ring to-
night.” |
“«Sexton,” Bessie’s white lips faltered, pointing to the prison old,
With its walls so tall and gloomy,—moss-grown walls dark,
damp, and cold,—
[ve a lover in that prison, doomed this very night to die,
At the ringing of the curfew, and no earthly help is nigh.
Cromwell will not come till sunset,” and her lips grew strangely
white,
As she spoke in husky ,whispers, “Curfew must not ring
to-night.”
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“Bessie,” calmly spoke the sexton (every word pierced her
young heart
Like a gleaming death- vienaeg arrow—like a deadly poisoned
dart,
me “ ‘Long, long years Pv rung the curfew from that gloomy,
shadowed tower;
Every evening, just at sunset, it has tolled the twilight hour.
I have done-‘my duty ever, tried to do it just and right;
Now Im old, I will not miss it, Curfew bell must ring
to-night !” )
oe — Wild her eyes and pale her features, stern and white her
- thoughtful brow;
_ And within her heart’s deep centre Bessie made a solemn vow.
7 She had listened while the judges read, without a tear or sigh,
At the ringing of the Curfew Basil Underwood must die.”
and bright;
One low murmur, faintly spoken, “Curfew must not ring
to-night !”
She with quick step bounded forward, sprang within the old
: church-door,
eft the old man coming slowly, paths he’d trod so oft before;
Yot one moment paused the maiden, but with cheek and brow
aglow, ;
ggered up the gloomy tower, where the bell swung to and
om ae
And her breath came fast and faster, and her eyes grew large —
Ag “aw *
358 WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
She has reached the topmost ladder; o’er her hangs the great
dark bell;
Awful is the gloom beneath her, like the pathway down to hell.
See! the ponderous tongue is swinging; ’tis the hour of curfew .
now,
And the sight has chilled her bosom, stopped her breath and
paled her brow.
Shall she let it ring? No, never! her eyes flash with sudden
light,
As she springs, and grasps it firmly: “Curfew shall not ring
to-night !”
Out she swung, far out,—the city seemed a, speck of light
below—
There, ’twixt heaven and earth suspended, as the bell swung to
and fro.
And the Sexton at the bell-rope, old and deaf, heard not the bell,
Sadly thought that twilight curfew rang young Basil’s funeral
knell;
Still the maiden clinging firmly, quivering lip and fair face
white,
Stilled her frightened heart’s wild beating: “ Curfew shall not
ring to-night.”
It was o’er—the bell ceased swaying; and the maiden stepped
once more
Firmly on the damp old ladder, where for hundred years before
Human foot had not been planted. The brave deed that she
had done 3
Should be told the long ages after. As the rays of setting sun
Light the sky with golden beauty, aged sires, with heads of
white,
Tell the children why the Curfew did not ring that one sad night.
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O’er the distant hills comesCromwell. Bessie sees him; and her
brow,
Lately white with sickening horror, has no anxious traces now.
At his feet she tells her story, shows her hands all bruised and
torn;
And her sweet young face still haggard, with the anguish it had
worn, :
Touched his heart with sudden pity, lit his eyes with misty
light,
“Go ! your lover lives,” cried Cromwell, “ Curfew shall not ring
to-night.”
' Wide they flung the massive portals, led the prisoner forth to
| die,
All his bright young life before him, ’neath the darkening
English sky.
Bessie came, with flying footsteps, eyes aglow with lovelight
: | gp. . sweet,
Kneeling on the turf beside him, laid his pardon at his feet.
In his brave strong arms he clasped her, kissed the face upturned
| and white,
Whispered, “Darling, you have saved me, Curfew will not ring
Beisscht,?
am THE GUEST.
By Harriet McEwan KIMBALL.
Miss Kimball is best known as a writer of devotional verse, her first pub-
shed work being a book of hymns. She has the true inspirational quality
ch distinguishes the poet, and her poems are much admired by thought-
and intellectual readers. She is a native of this country, and was born
n New Hampshire i in 1834,
360
WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
eae sorrow sat with me,
I was sighing heavily;
Lamp and fire were out; the rain
Wildly beat the window-pane.
In the dark we heard a knock,
And a hand was on the lock,
One in waiting spake to me,
Saying sweetly,
“T am come to sup with thee.”
All my room was dark and damp;
“ Sorrow ” said I, “trim the lamp;
Light the fire and cheer thy face;
Set the guest-chair in its place.”
And again I heard the knock;
in the dark I found the lock;
“Enter! I have turned the key,
Enter stranger,
Who art come to sup with me.”
Opening wide the door he came;
But I could not speak his name;
In the guest-chair took his place;
But I could not see his face,—
When my cheerful fire was beaming,
When my little lamp was gleaming,
And the feast was spread for three—
Lo, my Master
Was the Guest that supped with me!
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THE VOICE OF THE POOR.
By Lapy WILDE (SPERANZA).
Lady Wilde, at present a resident of London, England, was born in Ire-
land about the year 1830. She is the mother of Oscar Wilde, who has
; achieved almost a world-wide celebrity as the apostle of beauty. Many
years ago Lady Wilde contributed to the Dublin Nation poems which
’ attracted attention, over the name of ‘‘ Speranza,” which poems have since
been issued in book form. She is in sympathy with all political move-
ments which are for the good of her native country, and is impulsive and
patriotic. |
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a WA ever sorrow like to our sorrow,
: O, God above ?
& Will our night never change into a morrow
: Of joy and love?
A deadly gloom is on us waking, sleeping,
Like the darkness at noontide
That fell upon the pallid mother weeping
By the Crucified.
‘Before us die our brothers of starvation,
Around are cries of famine and despair;
Where is hope for us, or comfort, or salvation—
Where—oh where ?
If the angels ever hearken downward bending,
They are weeping, we are sure,
At the litanies of human groans ascending
From the crushed hearts of the poor.
When the human rests in love upon the human,
All grief is light;
But who lends one kind glance to illumine
Our life-long night ?
362 WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
The air around is ringing with their laughter—
God only made the rich to smile;
But we in our rags and want and woe—we follow after,
Weeping the while. |
And the laughter seems but uttered to deride us,
When, oh, when
Will fall the frozen barriers that divide us
From other men?
Will ignorance forever thus enslave us?
Will misery forever lay us low?
All are eager with their insults; but to save us
None, none we know.
We never knew a childhood’s mirth and gladness,
Nor the proud heart of youth free and brave;
Oh, a death-like dream of wretchedness and sadness,
Is life’s weary journey to the grave.
Day by day we lower sink, and lower,
Till the God-like soul within
Falls crushed beneath the fearful demon power
Of poverty and sin.
So we toil on, on with fever burning
In heart and brain;
So we toil on, on through bitter scorning,
Want, woe and pain.
We dare not raise our eyes to the blue heaven,
_ Or the toil must cease—
We dare not breathe the fresh air God has given
One hour in peace.
We must toil, though the light of life is burning
Oh, how dim;
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We must toil on our sick-bed, feebly turning
Our eyes to Him
Who alone can hear the pale lips faintly saying,
With scarce moved breath,
While the pale hands, uplifted, aid the praying:
“Lord, grant us death!”
THE BETTER LAND.
_ By Mrs. Feuicira D. Hemans.
063
Mrs. Hemans was born in Liverpool, England, in 1798, and died in 1835.
Her maiden name was Felicia Dorothea Browne. She married Captain
Hemans in 1812, but it was an unhappy marriage, and in the latter part of
her life they separated, and she devoted her time to the education of her five
sons, and her poetical work. The tenderness and pathos of her poems,
give them a charm that their mere intellectual merit would not have
achieved, and they will always be popular in the household.
HEAR thee speak of the better land,
Thou call’st its children a happy band;
Mother! Oh, where is that radiant shore ?
Shall we not seek it and weep no more ?
Is it where the flower of the orange blows,
And the fire-flies glance through the myrtle boughs ?”
Not there, not there, my child! ”
“Ts it where the feathery palm trees rise,
And the date grows ripe under sunny skies ?
Or, midst the green islands of glittering seas,
Where fragrant forests perfume the breeze,
And strange bright birds on their starry wings
Bear the rich hues of all glorious things ?
Not there, not there, my child!
364 WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
Is it far away in some region old,
Where the rivers wander o’er sands of gold,
Where the burning rays of the ruby shine,
And the diamond lights up the secret. mine,
And the pearl gleams forth from the coral strand ?
Is it there, sweet mother, that better land ?
‘Not there, not there, my child !”
Kye hath not seen it, my gentle boy,
Kar hath not heard its deep sounds of joy;
Dreams cannot picture a world so fair—
Sorrow and death may not enter there;
Time doth not breathe on its fadeless bloom
Far beyond the clouds and beyond the tomb.
“Tt is there, it is there, my child!”
GONE IS GONE, AND DEAD IS DEAD.
By Miss Lizziz DoTEn.
Miss Lizzie Doten was born in Plymouth, Massachusetts, about the year
1820. She is what is known as an inspirational writer, and has published
two volumes of poems which have attracted much attention in England, as
well as here. Her poetry is the rapid verse of the improvisator, produced
without any intellectual purpose or mental labor, but with certain peculiar
qualities of strength and plaintiveness.
“‘On the returning to the inn, he found there a wandering minstrel—a
woman—singing, and accompanying her voice with the music of a harp.
The burden of the song was, ‘‘Gone is gone, and dead is dead.”—Jean
Paul Richter.
ONE is gone, and dead is dead;”
Words to hopeless sorrow wed;
Words from deepest sorrow wrung,
Which a lonely wanderer sung,
WOMEN AS POETS. 365
While her harp prolonged the strain,
Like a spirit’s cry of pain
When all hope with life is fled.
“Gone is gone, and dead is dead.”
Mournful singer! hearts unknown
Thrill responsive to that tone,
By a common weal and woe
Kindred sorrows all must know.
- Lips all tremulous with pain
Oft repeat that sad refrain
When the fatal shaft is sped.
“Gone is gone, and dead is dead.”
Pain and death are everywhere;
In the earth, and sea, and air,
And the sunshine’s golden glance,
And the Heaven’s serene expanse.
With a silence calm and high,
Seem to mock that mournful cry
Wrung from hearts by hope unfed.
“Gone is gone, and dead is dead.”
As the stars which one by one,
Lighted at the central sun,
_ Swept across ethereal space
Kach to its predestined place,
So the soul’s Promothean fire
Kindled never to expire, ”
On its course immortal sped,
Is not gone and is not dead !
By a Power to thought unknown,
Love shall ever seek its own,
366 WHAT CAN A WOMAN Do.
Sundered not by time or space,
With no distant dwelling-place,
Soul shall answer unto soul
As the needle to the pole;
Leaving grief’s lament unsaid.
“Gone is gone, and dead is dead.”
Evermore Love’s quickening breath
Calls the living soul from death,
And the resurrection’s power
Comes to every dying hour,
When the soul, with vision clear,
Learns that Heaven is always near,
Nevermore shall it be said
“ Gone is gone, and dead is dead.”
THE TWO MYSTERIES.
By Mary Mapes Dopas.
Mary Mapes Dodge is the editor of the St. Nicholas Magazine, and the
‘writer of numerous pleasing poems, and various successful works for the
young. Mrs. Dodge is a daughter of the late Professor Mapes, and resides
with her family in the city of New York.
‘‘In the middle of the room in its white coffin lay the dead child, the
nephew of the poet. Near it, in a great chair, sat Walt Whitman, sur-
rounded by little ones, and holding a beautiful little girl on hislap. She
looked wonderingly at the spectacle of death, and then enquiringly into the
old man’s face. ‘‘ You don’t know what it is, do you, my dear?” said he,
and added ‘‘ we don’t either.”
\ N JE know not what it is, dear, this sleep so deep and still;
The folded hands, the awful calm, the cheek so pale
and chill,
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The lids that will not lift again, though we may call and call;
The strange white solitude of peace that settles over all.
We know not what it means, dear, this desolate heart-pain,
‘This dread to take our daily way and walk in it again;
We know not to what other sphere the loved who leave us go,
x _ Nor why we're left to wonder still, nor why we do not know.
But this we know, our loved and dead, if they should come this
day,
Should come and ask us, what is life? not one of us could say.
: _ Life is a mystery, as deep as ever death can be;
Yet, oh, how dear it is to us, this life we live and see!
Then might they say—those vanished ones,—and blessed is the
thought,
“So death is sweet to us, beloved! though we may show you
nought;
We may not to the quick reveal the mystery of death—
Ye cannot tell us if ye would the mystery of breath.”
The child who enters life comes not with knowledge or intent,
So those who enter death must go as little children went.
Nothing is known. But I believe that God is overhead,
And as life is to the living, so death is to the dead.
HEARTBREAK HILL.
By CreL1a THAXTER.
. Mrs. Thaxter is an American writer, a native of the Isle of Shoals, where
she lives in a pleasant home surrounded by the beauty of nature, and rich
in historic lore. She has published several volumes of poetry and prose,
and is a popular contributor to the leading magazines,
WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
N Ipswich town, not far from sea,
Rises a hill which the people call
Heartbreak Hill, and its history
Is an old, old legend, known to all.
The selfsame dreary, worn-out tale
Told by all people in every clime,
Still to be told till the ages fail,
And there comes a pause in the march of time.
It was a sailor who won the heart
Of an Indian maiden, lithe and young;
And she saw him over the sea depart,
While sweet in her ear the promise rung;
For he cried as he kissed her wet eyes dry,
“Tl come back, sweetheart, keep your faith!”
She said, “I will watch while the moons go by.” —
Her love was stronger than life or death.
So this poor dusk Ariadne kept
Her watch from the hill-top rugged and steep:
Slowly the empty moments crept
While she studied the changing face of the deep,
Fastening her eyes upon every speck
That crossed the ocean within her ken:—
Might not her lover be walking the deck,
Surely and swiftly returning again?
The Isles of Shoals loomed, lonely and dim,
In the northeast distance far and gray,
And on the horizon’s uttermost rim
The low rock-heap of Boon Island lay.
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And north and south and west and east
Stretched sea and land in the blinding light,
Till evening fell, and her vigil ceased,
_ And many a hearth-glow lit the night,
To mock those set and glittering eyes
Fast growing wild as her hope went out;
Hateful seemed earth, and the hollow skies,
Like her own heart, empty of aught but doubt.
Oh, but the weary, merciless days,
With the sun above, with the sea afar,—
No change in her fixed and wistful gaze
From the morning red to the evening star !
Oh, the winds that blew, and the birds that sang,
The calms that smiled, and the storms that rolled,
The bells from the town beneath, that rang _
Through the summer’s heat and the winter’s cold!
The flash of the plunging surges white,
The soaring gull’s wild, boding cry,—
She was weary of all; there was no delight
In heaven or earth, and she longed to die.
What was it to her though the dawn should paint
With delicate beauty skies and seas ?
But the swift, sad sunset splendors faint
Made her soul sick with memories,
Drowning in sorrowful purple a sail
In the distant east, where shadows grew,
Till the twilight shrouded it cold and pale,
And the tide of her anguish rose anew.
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370 WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
Like a slender statue carved of stone
She sat, with hardly motion or breath,
She wept no tears and she made no moan,
But her love was stronger than life or death.
He never came back! Yet faithful still,
She watched from the hill-top her life away:
And the townsfolk christened it Heartbreak Hill,
And it bears the name to this very day.
THE HIGH TIDE ON THE COAST OF LINCOLNSHIRE, 1571.
By JEAN INGELOW. -
Miss Ingelow is an English poet, born at Ipswich, and is now about fifty
years old. She has written some interesting literature for children, one or —
two novels, and a volume of poems. The one given here is the most popu-
lar of all her writings. It is much admired as a recitation.
HE old mayor climbed the belfry tower,
The ringers rang by two, by three; ~
“ Pull, if ye never pulled before;
Good ringers, pull your best,” quoth he,
“Play uppe, play uppe, O Boston Bells!
Play all your changes, all your swells,
Play uppe, the Brides of Enderby.”
Men say it was a stolen tyde—
The Lord that sent it, He knows all;
But in mine ears doth still abide
The message that the bells let fall;
And there was naught of strange beside
The flight of mews and peewits pied
By millions crouched on the old sea-wall.
WOMEN AS PORTS.
I sat and spun within the doore,
_ My thread brake off, I raised my eyes,
The level rim, like ruddy ore
Lay sinking in the barren skies;
And dark against day’s golden death
She moved where Lindis wandereth,—
My sonne’s faire wife, Elizabeth.
“‘Cusha! cusha! cusha! ” calling,
For the dews will soon be falling.
Farre away I heard her song,
“‘Cusha! cusha! ” all along
Where the reedy Lindis floweth,
Floweth, floweth,
From the meads where melick groweth,
Faintly came her milking song—
“‘ Cusha! cusha! cusha! ” calling,
For the dews will soon be falling;
Leave your meadow-grasses mellow,
Mellow, mellow;
Quit your cowslips, cowslips yellow;
Come uppe Whitefoot, come uppe Lightr wot,
Quit the stalk of parsley hollow,
Hollow, hollow;
Come uppe Jetty, rise and follow!
From the clovers lift your head;
Come uppe Whitefoot, come uppe Lightfoot,
: Come uppe Jetty, rise and follow
Jetty to the milking shed.”
If it be long—ay, long ago,
_-‘When I beginne to think howe long
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WHAT CAN A WOMAN Do.
Againe I hear the Lindis flow
Swift as an arrow, sharp and strong;
And all the aire it seemeth mee
3in full of floating bells (sayth shee),
That ring the tune of Enderby.
Alle fresh the level pasture lay,
And not a shadow mote be seene
Save where, full fyve good miles away,
The steeple towered from out the greene,
And lo! the great bell far and wide
Was heard in all the country-side
That Saturday at eventide.
The swanherds, where their sedges are,
Moved on in sunset’s golden breath;
The shepherde lads I heard afarre,
And my sonne’s wife, Elizabeth;
Till floating o’er the grassy sea
Came downe that kyndly message free
The “ Brides of Mavis Enderby.”
Then some looked up into the sky,
And all along where Lindis flows
To where the goodly vessels lie
And where the lordly steeple shows;
They sayde, ‘‘ And why should this thing be?
What danger lowers by land or sea ?
They ring the tune of Enderby!”
For evil news from Mablethorpe,
Of pyrate galleys warping downe— ~
For shippes ashore beyond the scorpe,
They have not spared to wake the towne;
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But while the west bin red to see,
And storms be none and pyrates flee, _
Why ring “The Brides of Enderby we
I looked without, and lo! my sonne
Came riding down with might and main;
He raised a shout as he drew on,
Till all the welkin rang again:
7 Rlizabeth! Elizabeth!
| (A sweeter woman ne’er drew breath
~ Than my son’s wife, Elizabeth.)
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“The old sea-wall (he cryed) is downe,
The rising tide comes on apace,
And boats adrift in yonder towne
Go sailing uppe the market-place.”
a He shook as one that looks on death,
“God save you, mother,” straight he sayeth,
“ Where is my wife, Elizabeth ? ”
“Good sonne, where Lindis winds away,
With her two bairns I marked her long,
And ere yon bells began to play
Afar I heard her milking-song.”
He looked across the grassy lea,
To right, to left, ‘‘ Ho Enderby!”
‘ They rang “The Brides of Enderby!”
With that he cried and beat his breast,
For lo! along the river’s bed |
A mighty eygre reared his crest,
And uppe the Lindis raging sped;
It swept with thunderous noises loud,
Shaped like a curling snow-white cloud,
Or like a demon in a shroud.
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And rearing Lindis backward pressed,
Shook all her trembling banks amaine,
Then madly at the eygre’s breast
Flung uppe her weltering walls again;
Then bank came downe with ruin and rout,
Then beaten foam flew round about,
Then all the mighty floods were out.
So farre, so fast the eygre drave
The heart had hardly time to beat
Before a shallow seething wave
Sobbed in the grasses at our feet;
The feet had hardly time to flee
Before it brake against the knee,
And all the world was in the sea.
Upon the roofe we sat that night;
The noise of bells went sweeping by;
I marked the lofty beacon light
Stream from the church tower, red and high,
A lurid mark and dread to see;
And awesome bells they were to me
That in the dark rung “ Enderby!”
They rang the sailor lads to guide
From roofe to roofe, who fearless roved,
And I—my sonne was at my side— i.
And yet the ruddy billow glowed;
And yet he moaned beneath his breath,
“ Oh, come in life, or come in death,
Oh, lost! my love, Elizabeth! ”
And didst thou visit him no more?
Thou didst, thou didst, my daughter dear;
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=. The waters laid thee at his doore
q Ere yet the early dawn was clears
ae Thy pretty bairns in fast embrace
_ The lifted sun shone on thy face,
Downe drifted to thy dwelling-place.
That flow strewed wrecks about the grass,
po _ That ebb swept out the flocks to sea;
A fatal ebbe and flow, alas!
To manye, more than myne and mee;
But each will mourn her own (she sayth),
And sweeter woman ne’er drew breath,
x Than my sonne’s wife, Elizabeth.
THE SLEEP.
[‘‘ He giveth His beloved sleep.”,-—Psalms cxxvii, 2.]
By ELIZAETH BARRETT BROWNING.
Elizabeth Barrett was born in London, in 1806, married to Robert
Browning, the poet, in 1846, and died at Florence, Italy, in 1851. Her
poems are characterized by a high intellectual attainment, and a great
interest in the political events of the day. She was deeply religious,
and of exquisite delicacy of imagination. ‘‘The-Sleep” is one of her
finest religious poems, and has been extensively published. She takes a
position, independent of sex, among the foremost writers of the century.
() F all the thoughts of God that are
Borne inward unto souls afar,
Along the psalmists’ music deep, _
Now tell me if there any is
For gift or grace surpassing this ?
“He giveth His beloved sleep !”
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WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
What would we give to our beloved ?
The hero’s heart to be unmoved,
The poet’s star-tuned harp to sweep,
The patriot’s voice to teach and rouse,
The monarch’s crown to light the brows;
“ He giveth His beloved sleep!”
What do we give to our beloved ?
A little faith all undisproved,
A little dust to overweep,
And bitter memories to make
The whole earth blasted for our sake ;
,“‘ He giveth His beloved sleep! ”
“Sleep soft, beloved!” we sometimes say,
But have no tune to charm away
Sad dreams that through the eyelids creep.
But never doleful dream again
Shall break the happy slumber, when
“He giveth His beloved sleep !”
O, earth! so full of dreary noises ;
O, men, with wailing in your voices ;
O, delv’ed gold, the wailers heap;
O, strife! O, curse that o’er it fall!
God makes a silence through it all,
And “giveth His beloved sleep.”
His dews drop mutely on the hill;
-His cloud above it saileth still,
Though on its slope men sow and reap.
More softly than the dew is shed,
Or cloud is floated overhead ;
“He giveth His beloved sleep ! ”
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Yea! men may wonder while they scan
A living, thinking, feeling man,
Confirm’d in such a rest to keep.
But angels say—and through the Word
I think their happy smile is heard,
“‘ He giveth His beloved sleep !”
For me, my heart that erst did go
Most like a tired child at a show,
That tries through tears the juggler’s leap—
Would now its wearied vision close;
Would childlike on His love repose
Who “giveth His beloved sleep.”
And friends, dear friends-—when it shall be
That this low breath has gone from me,
And ’round my bier ye come to weep;
Let one most loving of you all,
Say, ‘ Not a tear must o’er her fall,
‘He giveth His beloved sleep !’”
ONLY WAITING.
ie By Frances LAvuGHTON MAcE.
: Frances Laughton (Mace) is a name almost wholly unknown to fame,
- _ although one of the tenderest poems in the English language originated
ei - from her pen; one, too, that has had a world-wide circulation in the annals of
literature. This little poem, “‘ Only Waiting,” is constantly published and
eredited as anonymous. It was written by Miss Laughton when she was
but eighteen years old, and first saw the light in the Waterville (Me.) Mail
378 WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
Some visitors at an almshouse noticed a very old man sitting in the door-
way. When they asked him what he was doing there, he answered, “‘ Only
waiting.”
Ji NLY waiting till the shadows
Are a little longer grown,
Only waiting till the glimmer
Of the day’s last beam is flown;
Till the night of earth is faded
From this heart once full of day,
Till the dawn of Heaven is breaking
Through the twilight, soft and gray.
“ Only waiting till the reapers
Have the last sheaf gathered home,
For the summer-time hath faded
And the autumn winds are come;
Quickly reapers! gather quickly
The last ripe hours of my heart,
For the bloom of life is withered
And I hasten to depart.
“ Only waiting till the angels
Open wide the mystic gate,
At whose feet I long have lingered,
Weary, poor and desolate.
Even now I hear their footsteps
And their voices far away—
If they call me, I am waiting,
Only waiting to obey.
“ Only waiting till the shadows
Are a little longer grown,
Only waiting till the glimmer
Of the day’s last beam is flown;
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When from out the folded darkness,
Holy, deathless stars shall rise,
By whose light my soul shall gladly
Wing her passage to the skies.”
LIFE.
By CHARLOTTE Bron.
Charlotte Bronté is best known to the world as the author of the popular
novel, Jane Eyre. She was born in 1816, and died in 1855. Her famous
story was published in 1847. She was one of three remarkable and gifted
ae : sisters, daughters of the Rev. Patrick Bronté, who lived at Haworth, in
‘Yorkshire, England. The Rev. Robert Collyer was a neighbor of Char-
_ Jotte, and can remember her as a slim, pale’ girl, when he worked at the -
forge. She married a Mr. Nicholls, her father’s curate, and died after one
year of happiness.
| eas believe, is not a dream
So dark as sages say;
Oft a little morning’s rain
Foretells a pleasant day;
Sometimes there are clouds of gloom,
- But these are transient all;
If the shower will make the roses bloom,
Oh! why lament its fall ?
Rapidly, merrily,
Life’s sunny hours flit by;
Gratefully, cheerfully,
Enjoy them as they fly.
What though death at times steps in
And calls our last away ?
380 WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
What though sorrow seems to win
O’er hope a heavy sway ?
Yet hope again elastic springs
Unconquered though she fell.
Still buoyant are her golden wings,
Still strong to bear us well.
Manfully, fearlessly,
The day of trial bear,
For gloriously, victoriously,
Can courage quail despair.
PRAYER OF MARY STUART, QUEEN OF SCOTS.
This beautiful, accomplished and most unfortunate queen was beheaded
at Fothingay, February 8, 1587, at the command of her cousin, Queen
Elizabeth, who feared her power, and accused her of complicity in a plot
against her life. Mary died like a queen, inspiring her enemies with a fer-
vent admiration of her beauty and heroic powers of endurance. We give a
translation from the original Latin, in which the Queen wrote it in her book
9f devetions shortly before she was executed.
ee ( ) DOMINE Deus! speravi in te;
O care mi Jesu! nunc libera me
In dura catena, in misera peena,
Desidero te;
Languendo, gemendo, et genuflectendo,
Adoro, imploro, ut liberes me.”
[TRANSLATION. |
O, Master and Maker! my hope is in thee;
My Jesus, dear Saviour! now set my soul free
From this my hard prison, my spirit uprisen
Soars.upward to thee.
Thus moaning, and groaning, and bending the knee,
I adore and implore that thou liberate me.
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(THE GRAY SWAN.
By ALice Cary.
The Carey sisters are as inseparable in literature as they were in their
lives. Alice was born in 1820, and died in 1871. Phoebe was born in 1824,
4 and died in 1871. They were born on a farm eight miles from Cincinnati, —
4 Ohio, and died in New York City, in the same year. They wrote verses
me” from childhood, and their poems are published together in one volume.
. They were the center of a refined literary circle in New York when they
died. Horace Greeley was a frequent and welcome visitor at their home.
ef () TELL me, sailor, tell me true,
Is my little lad, my Elihu,
| A-sailing with your ship?”
a ~The sailor’s eyes were dim with dew,
oh “ Your little lad, your Elihu ?”
2 He said with trembling lip,—
¥ “ What little lad? what ship?”
MS _ What little lad! as if there could be
“a Another such a one as he!
What little lad, do you say?
Why, Elihu, that took to the sea
The moment I put him off my knee!
It was just the other day |
The Gray Swan sailed away.”
“The other day?” the sailor’s eyes
Stood open with a great surprise,—
“The other day? the Swan?”
His heart began in his throat to rise.
“* Ay, ay, sir, here in the cupboard lies
The jacket he had on.”
“ And so your lad is gone?”
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WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO,
“ Gone with the Swan.” “And did she stand
With her anchor clutching hold of the sand,
For a month, and never stir?”
“Why, to be sure! Pve seen from the land,
Like a lover kissing his lady’s hand,
The wild sea kissing her,—
A sight to remember, sir.”
“ But, my good mother, do you know
All this was twenty years ago?
I stood on the Gray Swan’s deck,
And to that lad I saw you throw,
Taking it off, as it might be, so,
The kerchief from your neck.”
“ Ay, and he’ll bring it back!”
« And did the little lawless lad
That has made you sick and made you sad,
Sail with the Gray Swan’s crew?”
*‘ Lawless! the man is going mad!
The best boy ever mother had,—
Be sure he sailed with the crew!
What would you have him do?”
« And he has never written line,
Nor sent you word, nor made you sign
To say he was alive?”
“‘ Hold! if twas wrong, the wrong is mine;
Besides, he may be in the brine,
And could he write from the grave?
Tut, man, what would you have?”
“ Gone twenty years—a long, long cruise, ..
’T'was wicked thus your love to abuse
But if the lad still live,
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And come back home, think you you can
Forgive him?”—“ Miserable man,
You’re mad as the sea—you rave,—
What have I to forgive?”
The sailor twitched his shirt so blue,
And from within his bosom drew
The kerchief. She was wild.
My God! my Father! is it true
My little lad, my Elihu?
My blessed boy, my child!
. - My,dead,—my living child!”
HAPPY WOMEN.
By PHase CARY. -
MPATIENT women, as you wait
In cheerful homes to-night, to hear
The sound of steps that soon or late
Shall come as music to your ear;
Forget yourselves a little while,
_ And think in pity, of the pain
Of women who will never smile
To hear a coming step again.
With babes that in their cradles sleep,
Or cling to you in perfect trust,
Think of the mothers left to weep
Their babies lying in the dust.
And when the step you wait for comes,
And all your world is full of light;
O, women! safe in happy homes,
Pray for all lonesome souls to-night!
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384 WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO,
“LIFE! I KNOW NOT WHAT THOU ART.”
By Mrs. ay BARBAULD.
Mrs. Letitia Aikin Barbauld was born in 1748, and died in 1825. She
was a native of Tibworth, Leicestershire, and the daughter of a gentleman
who was principal of an Academy for the education of boys. Mrs, Bar-
bauld was the favorite poetess of the English youth of half a century ago.
The little poem we publish here is an abbreviation of a longer poem, which
is a favorite in its present condensed form.
| ae I know not what thou art,
But know that thou and I must part;
And when, cr how, or where we met
I own to me’s a secret yet.
Life! we’ve been long together
Through pleasant and through cloudy weather;
’Tis hard perhaps to part when friends are dear,—
Perhaps t’will cost a sigh, a tear;
Then steal away, give little warning,
Choose thine own time;
Say not Good Night,—but in some brighter clime
Bid me Good Morning.
ROBIN ADAIR.
By Lapy CAROLINE KEPPEL.
Lady Caroline Keppel, daughter of the second Earl of Albemarle, was
born in 1785. Robin Adair was the name of an Irish surgeon whom she
loved and married, and whose memory she has perpetuated in undying
verse. He survived his loving wife many years, remaining constant to her
image. This favorite song is set to a plaintive Irish air.
HAT?’S this dull town to me?
Robin’s not here;
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He whom | wished to see,
Wished for to hear!
Where’s all the joy and mirth
Made life a heaven on earth?
Oh, they’re all fled with thee
| Robin Adair!
What made the assembly shine?
Robin Adair.
What made the ball so fine?
Robin was there!
+ What when the play was o’er,
What made my heart so sore?
Oh, it was parting with
Robin Adair!
But now thou’rt far from me,
Robin Adair;
But now, I never see
Robin Adair;
Yet he I loved so well
Still in my heart shall dwell;
Oh, I can ne’er forget
Robin Adair!
Welcome on shore again,
Robin Adair;
Welcome once more again,
Robin Adair;
I feel thy trembling hand,
Tears in thy eyelids stand
To greet thy native land,
Robin Adair.
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386 WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
Long I ne’er saw thee, love,
Robin Adair;
Still I prayed for thee, love,
Robin Adair.
When thou wert far at sea
Many made love to me;
But still I thought on thee,
Robin Adair.
Come to my heart again,
Robin Adair;
Never to part again,
Robin Adair!
And if thou still art true
I will be constant, too,
And will wed none but you,
Robin Adair!
KNOCKIN G%,
*“ Behold! I stand at the door and knock.”
By HARRIET BEECHER STOWE.
It seems almost superfluous to give a memoir of the author of ‘“ Uncle
Tom’s Cabin;” her name is a household word, and she belongs as imperish-
ably to the present century, and the American people, as the record of their
liberties. A sister of the famous divine, Henry Ward Beecher, she is a
year or two older than he, and singularly like him in disposition and pecu-
liarities of temperament, but very unlike in personal appearance. Born in
1812, at Litchfield, Connecticut, she was almost the eldest of that large
Beecher family, remarkable for their talents and idiosyncrasies of character.
In 1886 Miss Beecher was married to the Rev. Calvin E. Stowe, who is
still living at Hartford, Connecticut, where their pleasant home is located.
Mrs. Stowe gave to the world in 1852, the book that made her famous,—
* Suggested by Hunt’s picture ‘‘ Light of the World.”
WOMEN AS POETS. 387
“Uncle Tom’s Cabin,”—which had for many years a phenomenal sale, it
being difficult to supply the demand for it. Mrs. Stowe told her publishers
she hoped to make a new black silk out of the profits. Her first check was
for $10,000, and she and her husband were so bewildered by the receipt of
such a large sum that they had to be instructed how to take care of it. Mrs.
Stowe is still in good health, and is engaged on a new novel.
NOCKING, knocking, ever knocking!
Who is there?
Tis a pilgrim, strange and kingly,
Never such was seen before;
Ah, sweet soul; for such a wonder,
Undo the door!
No! that door is hard to open;
Hinges rusty, latch is broken; —
Bid Him go. |
Wherefore, with that knocking dreary,
Scare the sleep from one so weary?
Say Him, no.
Knocking, knocking, ever knocking!
What! still there?
Oh, sweet soul, but once behold Him,
With the glory-crowned hair;
And those eyes, so true and tender,
Waiting there!
‘Open, open, once behold Himn—
Him so fair!
Ah, that door! why wilt thou vex me—
Coming ever to perplex me?
For the key is stiffly rusty;
And the bolt is clogged and dusty;
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WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
Many fingered ivy vine
Seals it fast with twist and twine; -
Weeds of years and years before,
Choke the passage of that door.
Knocking, knocking! What! still knocking?
He still there?
What’s the hour? The night is waning;
In my heart a drear complaining,
And a chilly, sad interest.
Ah, this knocking! it disturbs me—
Scares my sleep with dreams unblest.
Give me rest—
Rest—ah, rest!
Rest, dear soul, He longs to give thee;
Thou hast only dreamed of pleasure—
Dreamed of gifts and golden treasure;
Dreamed of jewels in thy keeping,
Waked to weariness of weeping;
Open to thy soul’s one Lover,
And thy night of dreams is over;
The true gifts He brings have seeming
More than all thy faded dreaming.
Did she open? Doth she—will she?
So, as wondering we behold,
Grows the picture to a sign,
Pressed upon your soul and mine;
For in every breast that liveth
Is that strange, mysterious door,—
The forsaken and betangled,
Ivy-gnarled and weed bejangled
WOMEN AS POETS. 389
Dusty, rusty, and forgotten;—
There the pierced hand still knocketh,
And with ever patient watching,
With the sad eyes true and tender,
With the glory-crowned hair,
Still a God is waiting there.
THE EARLY BLUE-BIRD.
By Mrs. Lypra H. SIGOURNEY.
Mrs. Sigourney was a profuse and valuable writer for the young, when
the age dealt in fact rather than fiction, and religion was believed to bea
stronger power than morality. Many of her poems are devotional hymns
in their character, and no doubt they had a salutary influence in molding
the lives of the young of that period. Mrs. Sigourney was born in 1791.
and died in 1865. She was an American writer, her birth-place being No -
wich, Conn. Her style is similar to that of Mrs. Hemans.
in eae on yon leafless tree,
Dost thou carol thus to me?
“Spring is coming! spring is here!
Sayest thou so, my birdie dear?
What is that in misty shroud
Stealing from the darkened cloud?
ee en ae ee a ee ene ee wr eee eee
ae my es i 3 . > at
Lo! the snow-flakes, gathering mound
Settles o’er the whitened ground.
Yet thou singest, blithe and clear,
“Spring is coming! Spring is here!”
Strikest thou not too loud a strain?
Winds are piping o’er the plain;
Clouds are sweeping o’er the sky
With a black and threatening eye;
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WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
Urchins, by the frozen rill
Wrap their mantles closer still;
Yon poor man, with doublet old,
Doth he shiver at the cold?
Hath he not a nose of blue?
Tell me birdling, tell me true.
Spring’s a maid of mirth and glee,
Rosy wreaths and revelry;
Hast thou woo’d some winged love
To a nest in verdant grove?
Sung to her of greenwood bower,
Sunny skies that never lower?
Lured her with thy promise fair
Of a lot that knows no care?
Prythee hid in coat of blue,
Though a lover, tell her true.
Ask her if when storms are long,
She can sing a cheerful song?
When the rude winds rock the tree
If she’ll closer cling to thee?
Then the blasts that sweep the sky,
Unappalled shall pass thee by;
Through thy curtained chamber show
Sifting of untimely snow; |
Warm and glad thy heart shall be,
Love shall make it spring for thee.
RELEASED.
By Mrs. A. D. T. WHITNEY.
Mrs. Whitney was born in Boston, in 1824, and married to Seth D. Whit-
ney in 1848, She is best known asa writer of popular novels, her works
WOMEN AS PORTS. 391
being singularly felicitous in character and sentiment for the young.
** Pansies ” and ‘‘ Footsteps on the Seas,” her poetical effusions, were pub-
lished in 1857. Her poetry has the same charm that her prose has, that of
dealing gracefully and tenderly with homely subjects, and elevating the
commonest daily toil to ennobling heights. Mrs. Whitney is still engaged
in writing for the public.
little low-ceiled room. Four walls
Whose blank shut out all else of life,
And crowded close within their bound
A world of pain, and toil and strife.
Her world. Scarce furthermore she knew
Of God’s great globe that wondrously
Outrolls a glory of green earth,
And frames it with the restless sea.
Four closer walls of common pine;
And therein lying, cold and still,
The weary flesh that long hath borne
Its patient mystery of ill.
: Regardless now of work to do,
No queen more careless in her state,
Hands crossed in an unknown calm;
For other hands the work may wait.
Put by her implements of toil;
4 Put by each coarse, obtrusive sign;
; She made a sabbath when she died,
B: And round her breathes a rest divine.
Put by, at last, beneath the lid,
The exempted hands, the tranquil face;
Uplift her in her dreamless sleep,
And bear her gently from the place.
392 WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
Oft has she gazed, with wistful eyes,
Out from that threshold on the night;
The narrow bourn she crosseth now;
She standeth in the eternal light.
Oft she has pressed, with aching feet,
Those broken steps that reach the door;
Henceforth, with angels, she shall tread
_ Heaven’s golden stair, for evermore!
THE LAND OF THE LEAL.
By LApy CAROLINE NAIRNE,
This exquisitely simple and pathetic poem was written by Lady Caroline
Nairne, who was born in 1766, and died in 1845. Caroline Oliphant was a
native of Perth, Scotland, and married Major Nairne, who afterwards was
raised to the peerage, when she became Baroness Nairne. This poem, and
another, ‘‘ Would you be young again,” gave Lady Nairne a rank among
the best English poets, but they are often published anonymously, or cred-
ited to older Scottish poets. They can both be found in her poems and
memoirs, edited by Dr. Charles Rogers, and published in 1868.
if "M WEARIN’ awa’, Jean,
Like snaw-wreaths in thaw, Jean,
I’m wearin’ awa’
To the land of the leal.
There’s nae sorrow there, Jean,
There’s neither cauld nor care, Jean,
The day is aye fair
In the land of the leal.
Our bonnie bairn’s there, Jean,
She was baith gude and fair, Jean,
And oh! we grudged her sair
To the land of the leal.
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WOMEN AS PORTS.
But sorrow’s sel’ wears past, Jean,
And joy’s a-comin’ fast, Jean,
The joy that’s aye to last
In the iand of the leal.
Sae dear that joy was bought, Jean,
Sae free the battle fought, Jean,
That sinful man e’er brought
To the land of the leal.
Oh! dry your glistening e’e, Jean,
My soul langs to be free, Jean,
An angel beckons me
To the land of the leal.
Oh! haud ye leal and true, Jean,
Your day it’s wearin’ thro’, Jean,
And I'll welcome you
To the land of the leal.
Now fare ye weel, my ain Jean,
This warld’s cares are vain, Jean,
We'll meet and we'll be fain,
In the land of the leal.
YAY) \\\\\\
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Ba." aS HE mother should try, above every ©
Sl; | thing, for respectful servants. She
() should demand that quality, even
ij before efficiency, as the one great
the other is, the growing ‘‘fastness”’ of manner.
One can scarcely imagine amenity of manner
without education, and yet we are forced to
observe that it can exist, as we see the manners
of highly educated and what are called strong-
minded women. Soft, gentle, and feminine
manners do not always accompany culture and
education. Indeed, pre-occupation in literary matters
used to be supposed to unfit a woman for being a grace-
ful member of society, but nows avons changé tout cela;
and we are now in the very midst of a well-dressed and
well-mannered set of women who work at their pen as
Penelope at her web. 7
The home influence is, however, still needed for those
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young daughters who begin early to live in books; and
neatness in dress and order should be insisted upon by
the mother of a bookish, studious girl. All students are
disposed to be slovenly, excepting an unusual class, who,
like the Count de Buffin, write in lace ruffles and diamond ‘
rings. Books are apt to soil the hands, and libraries,
although they look clean, are prone to accumulate dust.
Ink is a very permeating material, and creeps up under
the middle finger-nail. To appear with such evidences
of guilt upon one would make the prettiest woman
unlovely.
The amenities of manner are not quite enough consid-
ered at some of our female colleges. With the college
course the young graduates are apt to copy masculine
manners, and we have heard of a class who cheered from
a boat their fellow-students at West Point. This is not
graceful, and to some minds would more than balance
the advantages of the severe course of study marked out
and pursued at college. A mother with gentle and lady-
like manners would, however, soon counteract these mas-
culine tendencies and overflow of youthful spirits. We
all detest a man who copies the feminine style of dress,
intonation and gesture. Why should a girl be any more
attractive who wears an ulster, a Derby hat, and who
strides, puts her hands in her pockets, and imitates her
brother’s style in walk and gesture? 7
However, to a girl who is absorbed in books, who is
reading, studying, and thinking, we can forgive much if
she only will come out a really cultivated woman. We
know that she will be a power in the state, an addition
to the better forces of our government; that she will be
416. WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
not only happy herself, but the cause of happiness in
others. The cultivated woman is a much more useful
factor in civilization than the vain, silly, and flippant
woman, although the latter may be prettier. But it isa
great pity that, having gone so far, she should not go
' further, and come out a cultivated flower, instead of a
learned weed. 3
Far more reprehensible and destructive of all ameni-
ties, is the growing tendency to ‘‘ fastness,’’ an exotic
which we have imported from somewhere; probably from
the days of the Empire in Paris.
It seems hardly possible that the ‘‘fast’’ woman of the
present, whose fashion has been achieved by her ques-
tionable talk, her excessive dress, her doubtful manners,
can have grown out of the same soil that produced Pris-
cilla Mullins. The old Puritan Fathers would have
turned the helm of the Mayflower the other way if they
could have seen the product of one hundred years of
independence. Now all Europe rings with the stories of
- American women, young, beautiful, charmingly dressed,
who live away from their husbands, flirt with princes,
make themselves the common talk of all the nations, and
are delighted with their own notoriety. To educate
daughters to such a fate seems to recall the story of the
Harpies. Surely no mother can coolly contemplate it.
And the amenities of home should be so strict and so
guarded that this fate would be impossible.
In the first place, young girls should not be allowed to
walk in the crowded streets of a city alone; a companion,
a friend, a maid, should always be sent with them. Lady
Thornton said, after one year’s experience of Washing-
EDUCATION AND MANNERS OF OUR GIRLS. 417
ton, ‘‘I must bring on a very strict English governess to
walk about with my girls.’’ And in the various games
so much in fashion now, such as skating and lawn-tennis,
there is no doubt as much necessity for a chaperon as in
attending balls and parties. Not alone that impropriety
is to be checked, but that manners may be cultivated.
A well-bred woman who is shocked at slang, and who
presents in her own person a constant picture of good
manners, is like the atmosphere, a presence which is
felt, and who unconsciously educates the young persons
about her.
‘¢Thave never gotten over Aunt Lydia’s smile,”’ said a
soldier on the plains, who, amid the terrible life of camp
and the perils of Indian warfare, had never lost the
amenities of civilized life. ‘*‘ When a boy I used to look
up at the table, through along line of boisterous children
clamoring for food, and see my Aunt Lydia’s face. It
never lost its serenity, and when things were going very
wrong she had but to look at us and smile, to bring out
all right. She seemed to say with that silent smile, ‘Be
patient, be strong, be gentle, and all will come right.’ ”’
The maiden aunt was a perpetual benediction in that
house, because of her manner; it was of course, the out-
crop of a fine, well-regulated, sweet character; but sup-
posing she had had the character with a disagreeable
manner? The result would have been lost.
We have all visited in families where the large flock of
children came forward to meet us with outstretched hand
and ready smile. We have seen them at table, peaceful
and quiet, waiting their turn. We have also visited in
other houses where we have found them discourteous,
418 | WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
sullen, ill-mannered and noisy. Weknow that the latter
have all the talent, the good natural gifts, the originality,
and the honor of the former. We know that the parents
have just as much desire in the latter case to bring up
their children well, but where have they failed? They
have wanted firmness and an attention to the amenities.
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AM so glad I have no daughters,
said a leader of society; ‘‘for what
should I do with them? I should
not wish to have them peculiar
girls, dressed differently from their
mates, or marked as either bookish
girls, or prudish girls, or non-dan-
. cing girls, or anything queer; and yet I could
Ss never permit them to go outon a coach, be
out to the small hours of the night with no
~@ chaperon but a woman no older than them-
> selves. I could not allow them to dance with
notorious drunkards, men of evil life, gam-
blers, and betting men; I could not let them
dress as many girls do whom I know and like;
so I am sure it is fortunate for me that I have no daugh-
ters. I could not see them treat my friends as so many
of my friends’ daughters treat me—as if I were the scum
of the universe. I am glad I have no daughters; fora
modern daughter would kill me.”’
Perhaps this lady but elaborated the troublesome prob-
lem which has tried the intellects of all observant women
—how to make the proper medium girl; not the ‘‘ fast ’’
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girl; still again, not the ‘‘slow’”’ dowdy girl; not the
exceptional girl, but the girl who shall be at once good
and successful—that is the question ¢
The amenities of home, the culture of the fireside, the
- mingled duty and pleasure which come with a life which
has already its duties before its pleasures—this would
seem to make the model girl. The care and interest in
the younger sisters and brothers; a comprehension and a
sympathy with her mother’s trials; a devotion to her
- hard-worked father; a desire to spare him one burden
more, to learn the music he loves, to play to him of an
evening; to be not only the admired belle of the ball- -
room, but also the dearest treasure of home; to help
along the boys with their lessons, to enter into those trials
of which they will not speak; to take the fractious baby
from the patient or impatient nurse’s arms, and to toss it
in her own strong young hands and smile upon it with
her own pearly teeth and red lips; to take what comes to
her of gayety and society as an outside thing, not as the
whole of life; to be not heart-broken if one invitation fail,
or if one dress is unbecoming; to be cheerful and watch-
ful; to be fashionable enough, but neither fast nor furi-
ous; to be cultivated and not ablue-stocking; to be artis-
tic, but not eccentric or slovenly; to be a lovely woman
whom men love, and yet neither coquette nor flirt—such
would seem to be the model girl.
And it is home and its amenities which must make her.
rzhool cannot do it; society cannot and will not do it;
books will not do it, although they will help. :
And here we have much to say on the books which
should surround a girl. We must seek, and watch, and
THE MODEL GIRL. } 421
try to find the best books for our girls. But we can no
more prevent a bad French novel from falling into their
hands than we can prevent the ivy which may poison
them, from springing up in the hedge. The best advice
we can give, is to let a girl read as she pleases in a well-
selected library; often reading with her, recommending
certain books, and forming her taste as much as possible;
_ then leaving her to herself, to pick out the books she
likes. Nothing will be so sure to give a girl a desire to
read a book as to forbid it, and we are now so fortunate
in the crowd of really good novels and most unexceptional
magazines which lie on our tables that we are almost
sure that her choice will be a good one; for she can find
so much more good than bad.
It is unwise to forbid girls to read novels. They are
to-day the best reading. Fiction, too, is natural to the
youthful mind. It is absurd to suppose that Heaven
gave us our imagination and rosy dreams for nothing.
They are the drapery of fact, and are intended to soften
for us the dreary outlines of duty. No girl was ever
injured, if she were worth saving, by a little novel-reading.
Indeed, the most ethical writers of the day have learned
that, if a fact is worth knowing, it had better be conveyed
in the agreeable form of a fiction. What girl would ever
learn so much of Florentine history in any other way as
she learns by reading ‘‘ Romola?’ What better picture
of the picturesque past than ‘‘The Last Days of Pom-
peli?’ Walter Scott’s novels are the veriest mine of
English and Scotch history; and we might go on indefi-
nitely.
As for studies for girls, it is always best to teach them
422 WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
Latin, as a solid foundation forthe modern languages, if
for nothing else; as much arithmetic as they can stand;
_ and then go on to the higher education and the culture
which their mature minds demand, if they desire it and
are equal to it. |
But no mother should either compel or allow Hes
daughter to study to the detriment of her health. The
moment a girl’s body begins to‘suffer, then her mind
must be left free from intellectual labor. With some
women, brain-work is impossible. It produces all sorts
of diseases, and makes them at once a nervous wreck.
With other women intellectual labor is a necessity. It is
like exercise of the limbs. It makes them grow strong
and rosy. No woman who can study and write, and at
the same time eat and sleep, preserve her complexion and
her temper, need be afraid of intellectual labor. But a
mother must watch her young student closely, else in the
ardor of emulation amid the excitements of school she
may break down, and her health leave her in an hour. It
is the inexperienced girl who ruins her health by intel-
lectual labor.
To many a woman intellectual labor is, however, a
necessity. It carries off nervousness; it is a delightful
retreat from disappointment; it is a perfect armor against
ennut. What the convent life is to the devotee, what the
fashionable arena is to the belle, what the inner science
of politics is to the European women of ambition, literary
work is to certain intellectual women. So a mother need
not fear to encourage her daughter in it, if she sees
the strong SBS taste, and finds that her health will
bear it.
THE MODEL GIRL. 423
But we fear that certain fashionable schools have
ruined the health of many a girl, particularly those where
the rooms are situated at the top of afour-story building,
as they generally are. A poor, panting, weary girl
mounts these cruel steps to begin the incomprehensibly
difficult service of a modern school. ‘‘Why do you
never go out at recess?’ said a teacher to one of her
pupils. ‘‘ Because it ‘hurts my heart so much to come
up the stairs,’’ said the poor girl. ‘‘Oh! but you should
take exercise,’’ said the teacher; ‘‘look at Louisa’s color!’
‘That teacher knew as much of pathology as she did of
- Hottentot; and the pupil thus advised lies to-day a
hopeless invalid on her bed. .
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our sons ?
Of one thing we may be certain,
there is no royal road by which we
can make ‘‘good young men.’ The
| - age is a dissolute one. The story of
“<. temptation and indulgence is not new or fin-
c ished. The worst of it is that women feed and
.2 tempt the indulgence of the age. Women per-
mit a lack of respect. Even young men who
have been well brought up by their mothers,
become careless when associating with girls
who assume the manners and customs of
young men. And when it is added that some
, women in good society hold lax ideas, talk in
double entendre, and encourage instead of repressing
license, how can young men but be demoralized?
If women show disapproval of coarse ideas and offen-
sive habits, men drop those ideas and habits. A woman
is treated by men exactly as she elects to be treated.
There is a growing social blot in our society. Itis the
THE MANNERS OF OUR BOYS. 495
complacency with which women bear contemptuous
treatment from men. It is the low order at which they
rate themselves, the rowdiness of their own conduct, the
forgiveness on the part of women of all masculine sins of
omission, that injures men’s manners irretrievably.
- Fast men and women, untrained boys and girls, people
without culture, are doing much to injure American
society. They are injuring the immense social force of
| good manners. Women should remember this part of
their duty. Men will not be chivalrous or deferential
unless women wish them to be.
The amenities of home are everything to a boy. With-
out them very few men can grow to be gentlemen. A
man’s religion is learned at his mother’s knee; and often
that powerful recollection is all that he cares for ona
subject which it is daily becoming more and more of a
fashion for men to ignore. His politeness and deference
are certainly learned there, ifanywhere. A mother must
remember that all hints which she gives her son, as to a
graceful and gentlemanly bearing, are so many powerful
aids to his advancement in the world.
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446 WHAT CAN A WOMAN DO.
arrangements of life when this can happen. LKither
women should enter more into the business of life or man
should work less, for a father is the natural teacher,
guardian, and companion of his family. We will, for the
moment, ignore the fact that he may desire the rest and
the comforts of the home which he supports but scarcely
enjoys; we will consider only the loss to his children of
his society. |
The father is, of course, the natural and the best com-
panion for his boys; to teach them to swim, to ride, to
master the common knowledge and accomplishments of
life, should be his pleasure. He should be their teacher
in the arts of gunnery and the noble science of the fish-
ing-rod. They ought to be able to remember him as the
story-teller and companion of their sports, the best guide,
and the most agreeable company that they will ever
know. How they hang on his lips as he tells them of his
own boyhood, his sufferings at the poorly fed boarding-
school, where he had to gather raw turnips in the field!
How they like to hear of the size of his first trout; how
magnificent he looks to them as he tells of his shooting
a deer! How much, as they grow older, they enjoy his
college stories! His early struggles and conquests give
them heart for the same strife and victory which they are
about to plunge into.
_ It is a very happy circumstance also for the grown
daughters if their father, after having petted them as
little girls, after helping to solve the difficult question in
arithmetic, after construing the Latin, and giving them
a little sweep of his strong penmanship, is still young and
THE GOOD FATHER. ART
fresh enough to go out into society with them. A young-
minded papa is a great boon to a daughter.
But here again comes in a national mistake. Our best
men will rarely go to parties; they leave all that work to
the mamma. Fatigued they no doubt are by their hard
fight with the world, and society offers them no seat,
no welcome. |
When our middle-aged men will make a point of going
into society, then, and not till then, will they become a
part of it, and the women will find, what many of them
have already found, that they are much better worth
talking to than the boys.
A good father owes it to his wife and children to thus
keep pace with them in their amusements, not allowing
himself to get rusty, or to have an entirely different set
of ideas and occupations. They cannot enter into his
professional or business life. When he leaves after
breakfast, he becomes a mystery to them. But he can,
on his return, go with them to the theatre, the party, or
the concert, and should try to do so to make himself a
part of them.
They, in their turn, the sons and daughters, should
have every delicate attention, every agreeable accom-
plishment, ready to make home delightful to the father
who works for them. There is something pathetic in the
idea of the chained slave, chained to the oar, to whom all
look for money, clothing, food. If he is a millionaire,
all goes well, but if he isa struggling man, threatened
with ruin, knowing that so long as he lives he must pull
up the stony hill, the only reward when he reaches the
top, the going down the other side, it is sad enough. It
448 WHAT CAN A WOMAN Do.
is wonderful that so many bear it patiently, and accept
it as the inevitable doom!
What fireside can be made too easy for such a man ?
What good dinners, cheerful faces, what voices full of
obedience, should greet the hard-working, patient man!
His newspaper should be aired, his slippers ready, his
particular magazine in waiting. All the disagreeable
remarks about bills and the coal should be deferred until
after breakfast next morning—that moment conceded by
all for disagreeable communications. He should be for-
given if he is abstracted and silent. His cares may be
greater than he can bear, but he should be tenderly
moved to talk, and be merry, at least cheerful.
We all know families in which the mother and daugh-
ters are in conspiracy against the father, where he is
looked upon simply as a bank to be robbed, where the
buying of expensive dresses must go on, whether they
can be paid for or not, and where the asking for and
obtaining of money is all the need they have of him.
Henry James, Jr., has drawn the picture in ‘‘The Pen-
sion Beauregard,’ his companion-piece to ‘* Daisy Mil-
ler.’ Such rapacity and vulgarity are too common.
They belong to the abuses of home.
But we know many another home where there are
silent economies practiced, heart-breaking ones some-
times, rather than to ‘‘ask father for money;’’ where
each one feels a personal indebtedness to the hard-work-
ing head of the house, and where each one sighs for the
time when he or she can help along.
The household is the home of the man as well as of
the child. To it he should bring all that is best in him;
THE GOOD FATHER. 449
his culture, if he has any, at least, his lofty, true
thoughts, his benevolence and refinement. He should
not, in getting rich, sacrifice himself. This is too greata
price to pay for bread and lodging, fine hangings and
fine clothes. A business man should take time to read,
else when he becomes a man of leisure, he will find that
he cannot read. He must bring into his household that
spirit which is understanding, health and _ self-help.
There was never a country which offered to the working
man, the business man, the true man, such opportunity
fora happy home as this. He can, in the first place, be
educated without money; he can go to work without it.
He can begin without patronage; the field is as open to
- the poor boy as to the rich one. It is character which
determines everything.
It is sad to be obliged to confess that many a home,
full of prosperity, full of rosy children, is still unhappy
because of some mistake of father or mother, or both,
some unruly tongue, some implacable temper! It seems
as if a demon stood at the door and warned happiness
away. Nothing can be urged in such a case but the old,
old remedy of good manners, manners which shall com-
pel an outward decency, and which will make one hesi-
tate to exhibit the shame of an open quarrel. To see
one’s parents quarrel is the most dreadful suffering, the
most acute mortification, to a family of children.
Many a marriage has commenced, like the morning,
red, and perished like a mushroom. Wherefore? Because
the married pair neglected to be as agreeable to each
other after their union as they were before it,’’ says that
intelligent old maid Fredrika Bremer. Old maids always
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write well about marriage and the education of children.
Perhaps the looker-on is the best judge of the game.
The quarrels of married people who really love each
other, and which come from irritated temper, are soon
healed, and the daily life goes on without a sensible break
between them. But, for the sake of their home, these
dissensions should be avoided as much as possible. They
both lose dignity and place in the ideas of their family,
and the servants are not as apt to obey.
A father should never under any circumstances permit
his children to treat him with disrespect. They will
never forgive him for it even if he forgives. Nor should
he desert his post as captain of the ship. In those
unhappy families, where, as in the tragedy of ‘‘ King
Lear,’’ we see the result of power given away, thereis a
perpetual lesson of the folly of a father’s renunciation of
his power. Happy for him if in his group of daughters
there be one Cordelia to balance Regan and Goneril.
The wise father will so graduate his expenditure, if
living on an income, that his expected expenditure will
reach but two-thirds of his income, knowing well that the
unexpected will consume the other third. The trouble
is, in America, that no one knows exactly what his
income is. In England he can tell to the quarter of a
penny, even for his great-grandchildren. But here, where
by far the largest number live from hand to mouth,
thorough economy is almost impossible. Things look
well one year, and a hospitable table, good clothes, and
fine carriages are not impossible. Things look very much
less well the next year, and these now necessaries of life
become impossible; so the business of making one’s
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house a scene of consistent expenditure, without miserly
prudence or injudicious luxury, is a very difficult one.
Our exchequer resembles our climate—heavy rains or a
long drought. We do not know which to calculate upon.
All these facts work against a thoroughly understood
and possible economy. All that the good father can do
is to aim at making his children feel that home is the
happiest place in the world, as he and their mother
should aim at making it the best.
From Lela [¥)ontex’ Slrts of [bcaufy.
FEMALE BEAUTY.
‘** Look upon this face,
Examine every feature and proportion,
And you with me must grant this rare piece finish’d.
Nature, despairing e’er to make the like,
Brake suddenly the mould in which ’twas fashion’d;,
Yet, to increase your pity, and call on
Your justice with severity, this fair outside
Was but the cover of a fairer mind.”
—MASSINGER’s Parliament of Love.
T is a most difficult task to fix upon any
general and satisfactory standard of
female beauty, since forms and qualities the most
opposite and contradictory are looked upon by dif- ;
ferent nations, and by different individuals, as the ;
perfection of beauty. Some will have it thata
beautiful woman must be fair, while others conceive 5
nothing but brunettes to be handsome. A Chinese
belle must be fat, have small eyes, short nose, high
cheeks, and feet which are not longer than a man’s
finger. In the Labrador Islands no woman is beau-
tiful who has not black teeth and white hair. In Greenland
and some other northern countries, the women paint their faces.
blue, and some yellow. Some nations squeeze the heads of chil-
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dren between boards to make them square, while others prefer
the shape of a sugar-loaf as the highest type of beauty for that
important top-piece to the “human form divine.” So that there
is nothing truer than the old proverb, that “there is no account-
ing for tastes.” This difference of opinion with respect to
beauty in various countries is, however, principally confined to
color and form, and may, undoubtedly, be traced to national
habits and customs. Nor is it fair, perhaps, to oppose the tastes
of uncivilized people to the opinions of civilized nations. But
then it must not be overlooked that the standard of beauty in
civilized countries is by no means agreed upon. Neither the
buona roba of the Italians, nor the linda of the Spaniards, nor
the embonpoint of the French, can fully reach the mystical
standard of beauty to the eye of American taste. And if I were
to say that it consists of an indescribable combination of all
these, still you would go beyond even that, before you would
be content with the definition. Perhaps the best definition of
beauty ever given, was by a French poet, who called it a cer-
tain je ne sais quoi, or “I don’t know what!”
It is very fortunate, however, for the human race that all men
do not have exactly a correct taste in the matter of female
beauty, for if they had, a fatal degree of strife would be likely
to. ensue as to who should possess the few types of perfect
beauty. The old man who rejoiced that all did not see alike, as,
if they did, all would be after his wife, was not far out of the
way.
A HANDSOME FORM.
Those gloomy and ascetic beings who contemn the human
Dody as only a cumbersome lump of clay, as a piece of corrup-
tion, and as the charnel-house of the soul, insult their Maker, by
despising the most ingenious and beautiful piece of mechanism
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of His physical creation. God has displayed so much care and
love upon our bodies that He not only created them for useful-
ness, but He adorned them with loveliness. If it was not beneath
our Maker’s glory to frame them in beauty, it certainly cannot
be beneath us to respect and preserve the charms which we have
received from His loving hand. ‘To slight these gifts is to des-
pise the giver. He that has made the temple of our souls beau-
tiful, certainly would not have us neglect the means of preserving
that beauty. Every woman owes it not only to herself, but to
society, to be as beautiful and charming as she possibly can.
The popular cant about the beauty of the mind as something
which is inconsistent with, and in opposition to the beauty of
the body, is a superstition which cannot be for a moment enter-
tained by any sound and rational mind. To despise the temple
is to insult its occupant. The divine intelligence which has
planted the roses of beauty in the human cheeks, and lighted its
fires in the eyes, has also intrusted us with a mission to multiply
and increase these charms, as well as to develop and educate our
intellects.
Let every woman feel, then, that so far from doing wrong,
she is in the pleasant ways of duty when she is studying how to
develop and preserve the natural beauty of her body.
‘*'There’s nothing ill can dwell in such a temple:
If the ill spirit have so fair a house,
Good things will strive to dwell with it.”
—SHAKSPEARE.
HOW TO OBTAIN A HANDSOME FORM.
The foundation for a beautiful form must undoubtedly be
laid in infancy. That is, nothing should be done at that tender
age to obstruct the natural swell and growth of all the parts.
“ As the twig is bent, the tree’s inclined,” is quite as true of the
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body as of the mind. Common sense teaches us that the young
fibres ought to be left, unincumbered by obstacles of art, to
shoot harmoniously into the shape that nature drew. But this
is a business for mothers to attend to.
It is important, however, that the girl should understand, as
soon as she comes to the years of discretion, or as soon as she is
old enough to realize the importance of beauty to a woman, that
she has, to a certain extent, the management of her own form
within her power. The first thing to be thought of is health,
for there can be no development of beauty in sickly fibres.
Plenty of exercise, in the open air, is the great recipe. Exercise,
not “philosophically and with religious gravity undertaken, but
the wild romping activities of a spirited girl who runs up and
down as though her veins were full of wine. Everything should
be done to give joy and vivacity to the spirits at this age, for
nothing so much aids in giving vigor and elasticity to the form
as these. A crushed, or sad, or moping spirit, allowed at this
tender age, when the shape is forming, is a fatal cause of a
flabby and moping body. A bent and stooping form is quite
sure to come of a bent and stooping spirit. If you would have
the shape “sway gracefully on the firmly poised waist ”—if you
would see the chest rise and swell in noble and healthy expan-
sion, send out the girl to constant and vigorous exercise in the
open air.
And, what is good for the girl is good for the woman too.
The same attention to the laws of health, and the same pursuit
of out-door exercise will help a lady to develop a handsome form
until she is twenty or twenty-five years old. “Many a rich lady
would give all her fortune to possess the expanded chest and
rounded arm of her kitchen girl. Well, she might have had
both, by the same amount of exercise and spare living.” And
she can do much to acquire them even yet.
There have been many instances of sedentary men, of shrunk
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and sickly forms, with deficient muscle and scraggy arms, who
by a change of business to a vigorous out-door exercise acquired
fine robust forms, with arms as powerful and muscular as Hercu-
les himself. I knew a young lady, who at twenty-two years of
age, in a great degree overcame the deformity of bad arms. In
every other respect she was a most bewitching beauty. But her
arms were distressingly thin and scraggy; and she determined
at whatever pains, to remedy the evil. She began by a strict
adherence to such a strong nutritious diet as was most favorable
to the creation of muscle. She walked every day several hours
in the open air, and never neglected the constant daily use of
the dumb-bells. Thus she kept on, exercising and drilling her-
self, for two years, when a visible improvement showed itself, in
the straightened and expanded chest; and in the fine hard swell
of muscle upon the once deformed arms. She had fought, and
she had conquered. Her perseverance was abundantly rewarded.
Let the lady, who is ambitious for such charms, be assured that,
if she has them not, they can be obtained on no lighter condi-
tions.
HOW TO ACQUIRE A BRIGHT AND SMOOTH SKIN.
The most perfect form will avail a woman little, unless it pos-
sess also that brightness which is the finishing touch and final
polish of a beautiful lady. What avails a plump and well-
rounded neck or shoulder if it is dim and dingy withal? What
charm can be found in the finest modeled arm if its skin is
coarse and rusty? A grater, even though moulded in the shape
of the most charming female arm, would possess small attrac-
tions toa man of taste and refinement.
I have to tell you, ladies—and the same must be said to the
gentlemen, too—that the great secret of acquiring a bright and
beautiful skin lies in three simple things—temperance, exercise,
and cleanliness, A young lady, were she as fair as Hebe, as
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charming as Venus herself, would soon destroy it all by too high
living and late hours. “Take the ordinary fare of a fashionable
woman, and you have a style of living which is sufficient to
destroy the greatest beauty. It is not the quantity so much as
the quality of the dishes that produces the mischief. Take, for
instance, only strong coffee and hot bread and butter, and you
have a diet which is most destructive to beauty. The heated
grease, long indulged in, is sure to derange the stomach, and, by
creating or increasing bilious disorders, gradually overspreads
the fair skin with a wan or yellow hue. After this meal comes
the long fast. from nine in the morning till five or six in the
afternoon, when dinner is served, and the half-famished beauty
sits down to sate a keen appetite with peppered soups, fish, roast,
boiled, broiled, and fried meat; game, tarts, sweet-meats, ices,
fruits, etc., etc., etc. Howmust the constitution suffer in trying
to digest this melange! How does the heated complexion bear
witness to the combustion within! Let the fashionable lady keep
up this habit, and add the other one of late hours, and her own
looking-glass will tell her that ‘ we all do fade as the leaf.? The
firm texture of the rounded form gives way to a flabby softness,
or yields to a scraggy leanness, or shapeless fate. The once fair
skin assumes a pallid rigidity or bloated redness, which the
deluded victim would still regard as the roses of health and
beauty. And when she at last becomes aware of her condition,
to repair the ravages she flies to paddings, to give shape where
there is none; to stays, to compress into form the swelling chaos
of flesh; and to paints, to rectify the dingy complexion. But
vain are all these attempts. No; if dissipation, late hours, and
immoderation have once wrecked the fair vessel of female
charms, it is not in the power of Esculapius himself to right the
shattered bark, and make it ride the sea in gallant trim again.”
Cleanliness is a subject of indispensable consideration in the
pursuit of a beautiful skin. The frequent use of the tepid bath
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is the best cosmetic I can recommend to my readers in this con-
nection. By such ablutions, the accidental corporeal impurities:
are thrown off, cutaneous obstructions removed; and while the
surface of the body is preserved in its original brightness, many
threatening disorders are prevented. It is by this means that the
women of the Hast render their skins as soft and fair as those of
the tenderest babes. I wish to impress upon every beautiful
woman, and especially upon the one who leads a city life, that
she cannot long preserve the brightness of her charms with-
out a daily resort to this purifying agent. She should make the
bath as indispensable an article in her house as her looking-glass.
ARTIFICIAL MEANS.
Besides the rational and natural means of developing and pre-
serving the beauty of the skin, there are many artificial devices
by which a lady may keep up and show off her attractions to
great advantage, and for a long period.
As long ago as 1809, an odd and _ half-crazy old duke in Lon-
don, used to take a sweat in a hot-milk bath, which was found
to impart a remarkable whiteness and smoothness to his skin,
and the ladies very naturally caught the idea of using the milk-
bath as a means of beautifying the complexion. In another place
I have mentioned some ludicrous scenes which followed the habit
of milk-bathing in Paris.
But a far more rational, less expensive, and more scientific
bath for cleaning and beautifying the skin is that of tepid water
and bran, which is really a remarkable fine softener and purifier
of the surface of the body.
The ladies of ancient Greece and Rome, who were said to be
remarkable for the brightness and transparency of their skins,
used to rub themselves with a sponge, dampened with cold water,
and follow this process by rubbing hard with a dry napkin.
Rightly managed, the human skin is susceptible of a high polish.
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Friction is never to be neglected by those who would shine in
the courts of beauty.
The following wash was in great use among the beauties of
the Spanish court, and gives a polished whiteness to the neck
and arms.
Infuse wheat-bran, well sifted, for four hours in white wine
vinegar; add to it five yolks of eggs and two grains of amber-
gris, and distill the whole. It should be carefully corked for
twelve or fifteen days, when it will be fit for use.
A lady may apply it every time she makes her toilet, and it
will be sure to add a fine polish and lustre to her skin.
The following wash is a great favorite with the ladies on the
continent of Europe, and cannot be used without the happiest
effects, while it is a delightful and refreshing perfume:
Distill two handfuls of jessamine flowers in a quart of rose-
water and a quart of orange-water. Strain through porous
paper, and add a scruple of musk and a scruple of ambergris.
There cannot: be a more agreeable wash for the skin.
BEAUTY OF ELASTICITY.
The most perfect form, and the most brilliant skin will avail
a woman little, unless she possess, also, that physical agility, or
elasticity, which is the soul of a beautiful form in woman. A
half-alive and sluggish body, however perfectly formed, is, to
say the most, but half beautiful. When you behold a woman
who is like a wood-nymph, with a form elastic in all its parts,
and a foot as light as that of the goddess, whose flying step
“scarcely brushed the unbending corn,” whose conscious limbs
and agile grace move in harmony with the light of her spark-
ling eyes, you may be sure that she carries all hearts before her.
There are women whose exquisite forms seem as flexible, wavy
and undulating as the graceful lilies of the field. The stiff and
prim city belle, incased in hoops and buckram, may well envy
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that agile, bouncing, country romp, who, with nature’s roses in
her cheeks, skips it like a fawn, and sends out a laugh as natural
and merry as the notes of song-birds in June. And she may be
sure that her husband or lover never looks upon such a specimen
of nature’s own beauty, but he quietly wishes in his heart that
his wife, or sweetheart, were like her. Let the city belle learn
a lesson from this. She can have the same charms on the same
conditions that the country lass has obtained them. But, by
high living, late hours, and all the other dissipations of fashion-
able city life—never! That country lass goes to bed with the
robin, and is up with the lark. Her life is after nature’s fashion,
and she is rewarded with nature’s most sprightly gifts. Whereas
this city belle goes to bed at indefinite midnight hours, and
crawls languidly out at mid-day, with a jaded body and a fever-
ish mind, to mope through the tedious rounds of daily dullness,
until night again rallies her faint and exhausted spirits. Her
life is by gaslight.
Most that I have said on the means of obtaining a bright and
handsome form, applies equally to this subject. But, there are
some artificial tricks which I have known beautiful ladies to resort
to for the purpose of giving elasticity and sprightliness to the
animal frame. The ladies of France and Italy, especially those
who are professionally, or as amateurs, engaged in exercises
which require great activity of the limbs, as dancing, or play.ng
on instruments, sometimes rub themselves, on retiring to bed,
with the following preparation:
Fat of the stag, or deer . , : Nate,
- Florence oil (or olive oil) . ‘ : + NG ree
Virgin wax. ‘ : : ; . 3 OZ
Musk 304 7 : f : : ; 1 grains:
White brandy. ; : 5 . $ pint.
Rose water . . : , : . 4 02.
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Put the fat, oil and wax into a well glazed earthen vessel, and
let them simmer over a slow fire until they are assimilated; then
pour in the other ingredients, and let the whole gradually cool,
when it will be fit for use. There is no doubt but that this mix-
ture, frequently and thoroughly rubbed upon the body on going
to bed, will impart a remarkable degree of elasticity to the mus-
cles. In the morning, after this preparation has been used, the
body should be thoroughly wiped with a sponge, dampened with
eold water.
A BEAUTIFUL FACE.
If it be true “that the face is the index of the mind,” the
recipe for a beautiful face must be something that reaches the
soul. What can be done for a human face, that has a sluggish,
sullen, arrogant, angry mind looking out of every feature? An
habitually ill-natured, discontented mind ploughs the face with
inevitable marks of its own vice. However well shaped, or
however bright its complexion, no such face can ever become
really beautiful. If a woman’s soul is without cultivation, with-
out taste, without refinement, without the sweetness of a happy
mind, not all the mysteries of art can ever make her face beauti-
ful. And, on the other hand, it is impossible to dim the bright-
ness of an elegant and polished intellect. The radiance of a
charming mind strikes through all deformity of features, and still
asserts its sway over the world of the affections. It has been my
privilege to see the most celebrated beauties that shine in all the
gilded courts of fashion throughout the world, from St. James’s
to St. Petersburgh, from Paris to Hindostan, and yet I have
found no art which can atone for an unpolished mind, and an
unlovely heart. That chastened and delightful activity of soul,
that spiritual energy which gives animation, grace, and living
light to the animal frame, is, after all, the real source of beauty
in a woman. It is that which gives eloquence to the language
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of her eyes, which sends the sweetest vermilion mantling to the
cheek, and lights up the whole personnel as if her very body
thought. That, ladies, is the ensign of beauty, and the herald
of charms, which are sure to fill the beholder with answering
emotion, and irrepressible delight. I never see a creature of such
lively and lovely animation, but I fall in love with her myself,
and only wish that I were a man, that I might marry her.
I cannot resist the temptation to close with a beautiful quota-
tion from an old Greek poet, which proves that common sense
on this subject of beauty is not by any means of recent date in
the world. .
‘** Why tinge the cheek of youth? the snowy neck,
Why load with jewels? why anoint the hair?
Oh, lady, scorn these arts; but richly deck
Thy soul with virtues; thus for love prepare.
Lo, with what vermil tints the apple blooms!
Say, doth the rose the painter’s hand require?
Away, then, with cosmetics and perfumes!
The charms of nature most excite desire.”
HOW TO OBTAIN A BEAUTIFUL COMPLEXION,
Though it is true that a beautiful mind is the first thing requi-
site for a beautiful face, yet how much more charming will the
whole become through the aid of a fine complexion? It is not
easy to overrate the importance of complexion. The features
of a Juno with a dull skin would never fascinate. The forehead,
the nose, the lips, may all be faultless in size and shape; but
still, they can hardly look beautiful without the aid of a bright
complexion. Even the finest eyes lose more than half their
power, if they are surrounded by an inexpressive complexion. It
is in the coloring or complexion that the artist shows his great
skill in giving expression to the face. Overlooking entirely the
matter of vanity, it is a woman’s duty to use all the means in her
power to beautify and preserve her complexion. It is fitting
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that the “index of the soul” should be kept as clean and bright
and beautiful as possible.
A stomach frequently crowded with greasy food, or with arti-
ficial stimulants of any kind, will in a short time spoil the
brightest complexion. All excesses tend to do the same thing.
Frequent ablution with pure cold water, followed by gentle and
very frequent rubbing with a dry napkin, is one of the best cos-
metics ever employed.
I knew many fashionable ladies in Paris who used to bind
their faces, every night on going to bed, with slices of raw beef,
which is said to keep the skin from wrinkles, while it gives a
youthful freshness and brilliancy to the complexion. I have no
doubt of its efficacy. The celebrated Madam Vestris used to
sleep every night with her face plastered up with a kind of paste
to ward off the threatening wrinkles, and keep her charming
complexion from fading. I will give the recipe for making the
Vestris’ Paste for the benefit of any of my readers whose look-
ing-glass warns them that the dimness and wrinkles of age are
extinguishing the roses of youth:
The whites of four eggs boiled in rose-water, half an ounce of
alum, half an ounce of oil of sweet almonds; beat the whole
together till it assumes the consistence of a paste.
The above, spread upon a silk or muslin mask, and worn at
night, will not only keep back the wrinkles and preserve the
complexion fair, but it is a great remedy where the skin becomes
too loosely attached to the muscles, as it gives firmness to the
parts. When I was last in Paris I was shown a recent inven-
tion of ready-made masks for the face, composed of fine thick
white silk, lined, or plastered, with some kind of lard or paste,
which is designed to beautify and preserve the complexion. I do
not know the component parts of this preparation; but I doubt
if it is any better than the recipe which was given to me by
MadameVestris, and which I have given above.
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The most remarkable wash for the face which I have ever
known, and which is said to have been known to the beauties of
the court of Charles IIL, is made of a simple tincture of benzoin
precipitated by water. All you have to do in: preparing it is to
take a small piece of the gum benzoin and boil it in spirits
of wine till it becomes arich tincture. Fifteen drops of this,
poured into a glass of water, will produce a mixture which will
look like milk, and emits a most agreeable perfume.
This delightful wash seems to have the effect of calling the
purple stream of the blood to the external fibres of the face, and
gives the cheeks a beautiful rosy color. If left on the face to
dry, it will render the skin clear and brilliant. It is also an
excellent remedy for spots, freckles, pimples, and eruptions, if
they have not been of long standing.
HABITS WHICH DESTROY THE COMPLEXION,
There are many disorders of the skin which are induced by
culpable ignorance, and which owe their origin entirely to
circumstances connected with fashion or habit. The frequent
and sudden changes in this country from heat to cold, by
abruptly exciting or repressing the secretions of the skin,
roughen its texture, injure its hue, and often deform it with
unseemly eruptions. And many of the fashions of dressing the
head are still more inimical to the complexion than the climate.
The habit the ladies have of going into the open air without a
hat, and often without a veil, is a ruinous one for the skin.
Indeed, the fashion of the ladies’ bonnets, which only cover a few
inches of the back of the head, is a great tax upon the beauty
of the complexion. In this climate, especially, the head and face
need protection from the atmosphere. Not only a woman’s
beauty, but her health requires that she should never step into
the open air, particularly in autumnal evenings, without a sufii-
cient covering to her head. And, if she regards the beauty of
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her complexion, she must never go out into the hot sun without
her veil. :
The custom, common among ladies, of drying the perspiration
from their faces by powdering, or of cooling them when they
are hot, from exposure to the sun or dancing, by washing with
cold water, is most destructive to the complexion, and not unfre-
quently spreads a humor over the face which renders it hideous
forever. A little common sense ought to teach a woman that,
when she is overheated, she ought to allow herself to cool gradu-
ally; and, by all means, to avoid going into the air, or allowing
a draught through an open door, or window, to blow upon her
while she is thus heated. If she will not attend to these rules,
she will be fortunate, saying nothing about her beauty, if her life
does not pay the penalty of her thoughtlessness.
Ladies ought also to know that excessive heat is as bad as
excessive cold for the complexion, and often causes distempers
of the skin, which are difficult of cure. Look at the rough
and dingy face of the desert-wandering gipsy, and you behold
the effects of exposure to alternate heats and colds.
To remedy the rigidity of the muscles of the face, and to cure
any roughness which may be induced by daily exposure, the fol-
lowing wash may be applied with almost certain relief:
Mix two parts of white brandy with one part of rose-water,
and wash the face with it night and morning.
The brandy keeps up a gentle action of the skin, which is so
essential to its healthy appearance, also thoroughly cleanses the
surface, while the rose-water counteracts the drying nature of
the brandy, and leaves the skin in a natural, soft, and flexible
state.
At a trifling expense, a lady may provide herself with a delight-
ful wash for the face, which is a thousand times better than the
expensive lotions which she purchases at the apothecaries.
Besides, she has ate advantage of knowing what she is using,
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which is far from being the case where she buys the prepared
patent lotions. These preparations are generally put up by igno-
-rant quacks and pretenders; and I have known the most loath-
some, beauty-destroying, indolent ulcers to be produced by
the use of them.
The following is a recipe for makiioe Mother wash for the
face, which is a favorite with the ladies of France. . e
Take equal parts of the seeds of the melon pumpkin, gourd,
and cucumber, pounded till they are reduced to powder; add to
it sufficient fresh cream to dilute the flour, and then add milk
enough to reduce the whole to a thin paste. Add a grain of
musk, and a few drops of the oil of lemon, Anoint the face with
this, leave it on twenty or thirty minutes, or overnight if con-
venient, and wash off with warm water. It gives a remarkable
purity and brightness to the complexion. Pe 2
A fashionable beauty at St. Petersburgh gave me the following
recipe for a wash, which imparts a remarkable lustre to the face,
and is the greatest favorite of a Russian lady’s toilet.
Infuse a handful of well sifted wheat bran for four hours i ine
white wine vinegar; add to it five yolks of eggs and two grains
of musk, and distill the whole. Bottle it, keep carefully corked,
fifteen days, when it will be fit for use. Apply it over night,
and wash in the morning with tepid water.
Pimpernel Water is a sovereign wash with all the ladies all
over the continent of Europe, for whitening the complexion.
All they do to prepare it is simply to steep that wholesome
plant in pure rain water. It is such a favorite that it is regarded
as almost indispensable to a lady’s toilet, who is particularly
attentive to the brightness of her complexion.
PAINTS AND POWDEBS.
If Satan has ever had any direct agency in inducing woman to
spoil or deform her own beauty, it must have been in tempting
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ther to use paints and enameling. Nothing so effectually writes
memento mori! on the cheek of beauty as this ridiculous and
culpable practice. Ladies ought to know that it is a sure spoiler
of the skin, and good taste ought to teach them that it is a
frightful distorter and deformer of the natural beauty of the
‘human face divine.” The greatest charm of beauty is in the
| expression of a lovely face; in those divine flashes of joy, and
good nature, and love, which beam in the human countenance.
But what expression can there be in “a face bedaubed with
white paint and enameled? No flush of pleasure, no thrill ot
hope, no light of love can shine through the incrusted mould.”
Her face is as expressionless as that of a painted mummy. And
Jet no woman imagine that the men do not readily detect this
poisonous mask upon the skin. Many a time have I seen a gen-
tleman shrink from saluting a brilliant lady, as though it was a
death’s head he were compelled to kiss, The secret was, that
her face and lips were bedaubed with paints, All white paints
are not only destructive to the skin, but they are ruinous to the
health. I have known paralytic affections and premature death
to be traced to their use. But alas! I am afraid that there never
was a time when many of the gay and fashionable ot my sex did
not make themselves both contemptible and *idiculous by this dis-
gusting trick. The ancient ladies seem to have outdone even
modern belles in this painting business. The terrible old Juve-
nal draws the following picture of one of the flirts of his day:
But tell me yet; this thing, thus bedaubed and oiled,
Poulticed, plastered, baked by turns and boiled,
Thus with pomatums, ointments, lacquered o’er,
Is it a face, Usidius, or a sore?
But it is proper to remark, that what has been said against
‘white paints and enamels, does not apply with equal force to the
use of rouge. Rouging still leaves the neck and arms, and more
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than three-quarters of the face totheir natural complexion, and
the language of the heart, expressed by the general complexion,
is not obstructed. A little vegetable rouge tinging the cheek of
» beautiful woman, who, trom ill health, or an anxious mind,
Joses her roses, may be excusable; and so transparent is the
texture of such rouge (if unadulterated with lead), that when
the blood does mount to the tace, it speaks through the slight
covering, and enhances the fading bloom. But even this allow-
able artificial aid must be used with the most delicate taste and
discretion. The tint on the cheek should always be fainter than
what nature’s pallet would have painted. A violently rouged
woman is a disgusting sight. The excessive red on the face
gives a coarseness to every feature, and a general fierceness to
the countenance, which transforms the elegant lady of fashion
into a vulgar harridan. But, in no case, can even rouge be used
by ladies who have passed the age of life when roses are natural
to the cheek. A rouged old woman isa horrible sight—a distor-
tion of nature’s harmony!
Excessive use of powder is also a vulgar trick. None but the
very finest powder should ever be used, and the lady should be
especially careful that sufficient is not left upon the face to be
noticeable to the eye of a gentleman. She must be very partic-
ular that particles of it are not left visible about the base of the
nose, and in the hollow of the chin. Ladies sometimes catch up
their powder and rub it on in a hurry, without even stopping to
look in the glass, and go into company with their faces looking
as though they just came out of a meal-bag. It is a ridiculous
sight, and ladies may be sure it is disgusting to gentlemen.
BEAUTIFUL EYES.
The eyes have been called the “ windows of the soul,” and all
shat I have said in another part of this book of the influ- 4
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ence of the passions on the beauty or deformity of the
face, applies with peculiar force in this place. Nowhere will
_ ill-nature and bad passions show themselves so glancingly as
in the eyes. Whenever we would find out what the soul is, we
look straightway into its “windows.” If they close upon us, or
turn away, we are forced to conclude that all is not right within.
On the other hand, where we see frank, happy, laughing eyes,
we naturally believe that amiability, sincerity and truth are in
the heart. Jt is not so much the color or the size of the eyes, as
it is their expression that makes them beautiful.
There is no more wretched deformity to a woman than a cer-
tain unnatural and studied languishing of the eyes, which vain
and silly women sometimes affect. I have read that when Sir
Peter Lely painted a celebrated belle who had the sweet pecul-
iarity of along and languishing eye, no fashionable lady for a
long time appeared in public who did not affect the soft sleepi-
ness and tender slow moving look of Sir Peter’s picture. The
result, of course, was, that queer leers and squints everywhere
met a gentleman’s gaze in the distorted faces of thefair. There
is no one of the beautiful organs of woman that needs to be left
so entirely to the unconstrained art of nature as the eye. Let
woman believe that all the tricks played with the eyes are
absurd and ruinous to beauty. It once happened in Turkey that
the monarch expressed his great admiration for “ large and dark-
lashed eyes.” From that hour, all the fair slaves on whom
nature had not bestowed “the wild stag-eye in sable ringlets
rolling ” set to work to supply the deficiency with circles of anti-
mony. Thousands of beautiful women must have frightfully
distorted themselves. There is, invariably, a lovely harmony
between the color of the eye and its fringes and the complex-
ion of a woman, which cannot be broken up by art without
an insult to nature. The fair complexion is generally accom-
panied with blue eyes, light hair, and light eyebrows and eye-
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lashes. The delicacy of one feature is preserved, in effect and
beauty, by the corresponding softness of the other. But, take
this fair creature, and draw a black line over her softly tinctured.
eyes, stain their beamy fringes with a sombre hue, and how
frightfully have you mutilated nature! On the other hand, a
brunette with light eyebrows, would be a caricature of a beauti-
ful woman. If a woman has the misfortune from disease, or
otherwise, to have deficient eyebrows, she may delicately supply
the want, as far as she can, with artificial penciling; but in
doing this, she must scrupulously follow nature and make the
color of her penciling to correspond with her complexion. The
eastern women, many of whom have large dark eyes, have great
skill in penciling the eye so as to add to its natural power; but
I have ‘witnessed ridiculous failures in such tricks, even there.
The Turkish and Circassian women use henna for penciling the
eyes. Among the Arabs of the desert, the women blacken the
edge of their eyelids with a black powder, and draw a line
round the eye with it, to make the organ appear large. Large
black eyes are the standard of beauty among nearly all eastern
women.
The Spanish ladies have a custom of squeezing orange juice
into their eyes to make them brilliant. The operation's a little
painful for a moment, but there is no doubt that it does cleanse
the eye and impart to it, temporarily, a remarkable brightness.
But the best receipt for bright eyes is to keep good hours. Just
enough regular and natural sleep is the great enkindler of
“ woman’s most charming light.”
Let me warn ladies against the use of white veils. Scarcely
anything can strain and jade and injure the eye more than this
practice. There is reason to believe that the sight sometimes
becomes permanently injured by them.
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strong eye-lashes by simply chipping, with scissors, the points
of the hair once in five or six weeks.
BEAUTIFUL MOUTH AND LIPS.
The beauty of the mouth and lips has been a rapturous theme
for lovers and poets ever since the world began. Old Hafez, the
great poet of Persia, sang perpetually of
‘* Lips that outblush the ruby’s red,
With luscious dews of sweetness fed.”
Even Milton’s stern lyre was tuned to sweetest song about
“The vermil-tinctured lip.”
And Petrarch seems to have found no charm in the divine Laura
greater than her “beautiful and angelical mouth.” ~ La bella
bocca angelica!” he exclaims. And so Dante found inexpressible
delight in the charming mouth of Beatrice, especially when it
said “yes.” “Thus,” says he, “it is my remembrance of that
mouth of hers which spurs me on ever, since there is nothing
which I would not give to hear her say, with a perfect good will,
a ‘yes,” Yes, it is the sentiment or emotion that lingers about
the mouth that constitutes much of its beauty. A mouth per-
petually contracted as though it were about to say no, or curled
up with passions of sarcasm and ill-nature, cannot be beautiful,
even though its lips were chiseled like Diana’s, and stained with
the red of choicest cherries. The mouth, indeed, is scarcely less
expressive than the eyes, and therefore woman must not forget
that its chief beauty consists in the expression. If a lady is
anxious to have her mouth look particularly charming for some
particular occasion, she will do well to fill her thoughts with
some very delightful subject. And let her not forget that the
muscles of the mouth and face are, like the rest of human
nature, “creatures of habit;” and long use in the language of
is
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amiability and happiness gives that expressive organ its greatest
charm. An old Persian poet sings to his beloved :
“ The language anger prompts I bear;
If kind thy speech, I bless my fair;
But, is it fit that words of gall
From lovely lips, like thine, should fall?”
Let every woman at once understand that paint can do nothing
for the mouth and lips. The advantage gained by the artificial
red is a thousand times more than lost by the sure destruction
of that delicate charm associated with the idea of “nature’s
dewy lip.” There can be no dew ona painted lip. And there
is no man who does not shrink back with disgust from the idea
of kissing a pair of painted lips. Nor let any woman deceive
herself with the idea that the men do not instantly detect paint
on the lips.
Ruby lips are generally the result and the ensign of perfect
health. But, still, those who are entirely well do not always
enjoy the possession of cherry lips. Where this is the case, the
tincture of benzoin, as before described, and which has none of E
the properties of paint may be used with beneficial effects. I
need not remind the ladies that clean white teeth are indispen- 4
sable toa beautiful mouth. The lady who neglects to brush her
teeth with pure cold water after every meal not only loses the j
benefit of the natural whiteness of her teeth, but she renders her- q
self liable to have the disgusting evil of an impure breath. The :
best tooth-powder I know of is made as follows: 4s
Prepared chalk a : ; 6 02, :
Cassia powder ; : : 4 oz. 4
Orris-root : * : 1 04%.
These should be thoroughly mixed, and used oncea day with
a firm brush.
A simple mixture of charcoal and cream of tartar is an excel-
lent tooth-powder.
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To be sure of a sweet and clean-looking mouth, a lady should
take her looking-glass after each meal, and with a fine tooth-pick
gently remove the particles of food, or any matter, which may
be discovered about the roots of the teeth, or in the interstices.
To ensure the great charm of a beautiful mouth requires unre-
mitting attention to the health of the teeth and gums. ‘To keep
the gums red and firm, frequent friction with the brush will be
necessary.
A BEAUTIFUL HAND.
A beautiful hand performs a great mission in the life of a
belle. Indeed, the hand has a language of its own, which is
often most intelligible when the tongue and every other part of
the human body is compelled to be mute. When timid lovers
have never dared to open their mouths to each other, their hands
will get together and express all the passion that glows within.
Or, often when two lovers are annoyed by the presence of a rigid
mother, or guardian, they secretly squeeze each other’s hands,
which says, loud enough for their hearts to hear, “ what a pity
we are not alone!” And, when parting in the presence of the
crowd, how much is said, how much is promised in that gentle
pressure of the hands! When a lady lets her fingers softly lin-
ger in the palm of a gentleman, what else does it say but, “ you
have my heart already.”
But besides this secret and potent language of the hand, it is
a great ornament as a thing of beauty. The great Petrarch
confesses that Laura’s “beautiful hand made captive his heart;”
and there is no woman who is not conscious of the power she
has in the possession of a charming hand.
The Spanish ladies take, if possible, more pains with their
hands than with their faces. There is no end of the tricks to
which they resort to render this organ delicate and beautiful.
Some of these devices are not only painful, but exceedingly
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ridiculous, For instance, I have known some of them to sleep
every night with their hands held up to the bed-posts by pulleys,
hoping by that means to render them pale and delicate. Both
Spanish and French women—those at least who are very partic-
ular to make the most of these charms—are in the habit of
sleeping in gloves which are lined or plastered over with a kind
of pomade to improve the delicacy and complexion of their
hands. This paste is generally made of the following ingredi-
ents.
Take half a pound of soft soap, a gill of salad oil, an ounce of
mutton tallow, and boil them until they are thoroughly mixed.
After the boiling has ceased, but before it is cold, add one gill
of spirits of wine, and a grain of musk.
If any lady wishes to try this she can buy a pair of gloves
three or four sizes larger than the hand, rip them open and
spread on a thin layer of the paste, and then sew the gloves up
again. There is no doubt that by wearing them every night
they will give smoothness and a fine complexion to the hands.
Those who have the means, can send to Paris and purchase them
ready made. But I am not aware that they have been imported —
to this country. It will not surprise me, however, to learn that.
they have been, for fashionable ladies are remarkably quick at
finding out the tricks which the belles elsewhere resort to for
the purpose of beautifying themselves. Sleeping in simple white
kid gloves will make the skin of the hand white and soft. Of
course, no lady who wishes to be particular about her hands,
will ever go out into the air without her gloves.
It requires almost as much labor and attention to keep the
hands in order as it does to preserve the beauty of the face;
taking care of the nails, alone, is an art which few women under-
stand, for eight out of ten of even fashionable ladies always
appear with their nails neither tastefully trimmed nor otherwise
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in good condition. The nail, properly managed, will be smooth,
transparent and nearly rose-colored.
If the hands are inclined to be rough and to chap, the follow-
ing wash will remedy the evil. ,
Lemon juice. : : : 3 OZ.
White wine vinegar. 3 : 3 OZ.
White brandy . ; ; : 4 pint.
A BEAUTIFUL FOOT AND ANKLE.
When was the time that the poets did not sing of the charms
of a “nimble foot,” or of
**The fairy foot
Which shines like snow, and falls on earth as mute.”
Virgil tells us that,
“« By her gentle walk, the queen of love is known,”
and that “ gentle walk” will rarely, if ever, be found connectea
with a heavy and ill-shaped foot and ankle. We know it is nat-
ural for the mind to associate every other charm with that of a
graceful step. Thus Milton sung—
“Grace was in all her steps, heaven in her eyes,
In every gesture dignity and love.”
The pains which some nations take to ensure a smalt foot
amounts to a torture which ought to be called by no other name
than the art of deforming. In China, especially, this thing is °
carried to such an extent that the women’s feet are entirely
spoiled. In Spain, however, the art is practiced with astonishing
success in causing beautifully small feet. I have known ladies
there, who were past twenty years of age, to sleep every night
with bandages on their feet and ankles drawn as tight as they
could be and not stop the circulation. There is nothing that a
Spanish beauty is more proud of, than a small and beautiful foot
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and ankle, and nowhere do you find more of those charms than
in Spain.
A great cause of thick ankles among women of the cities,
who are fashionably and genteelly brought up, is a want of exer-
cise and sitting indolently in over-heated rooms. Such habits are
quite sure to produce slight swelling of the ankles, and cause a
chronic flabbiness of the muscles. You might as well expect to
see a rose-bush spring, bud and bloom, in a closely-pent oven, as
to anticipate fine and healthy proportions from a long continu-
ance of such habits. Let every lady be assured that there is no
part of her body which will suffer more from want of proper
exercise than her feet and ankles.
But woman’s chief art, in making the most out of this portion
of her charms, must consist in properly and tastefully dressing
them. Let her start with the maxim that she had better wear a
bad bonnet, than a bad shoe. Let her believe that an ill-fitting
dress will not do so much towards breaking the charm of her
beauty in the mind ot a man, as a loose and soiled stocking.
_ The celebrated Madam Vestris used to have her white satin
boots sewed on her feet every morning, in order that they should
perfectly fit the exquisite shape of her foot. Of course, they
had to be ripped off at night, and the same pair could never be
worn but once.
If a lady has not a naturally beautiful foot, her care is direct-
ed to the means of preventing attention from being called to it,
For this reason she dresses it as neatly, but as soberly as possi-
ble. Her hope is in a plain black shoe, and she especially
eschews all gay colors, and all ornaments, which would be sure
to attract the eye to a spot of which she cannot be proud.
Indeed, bright-colored shoes are in bad taste for anybody, except
on certain brilliant occasions, where fancy dresses are worn.
Above all things, every lady of taste avoids an ornamented
stocking. Stocking with open-wove, ornamented insteps, denote
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a vulgar taste, and, instead of displaying a fine proportion, con-
fuse the contour of a pretty foot. But, where the ankle is
rather large, or square, a pretty, unobtrusive net clock, of the
same color as the stocking, will be a useful device, and induce
the beholder to believe in the perfect symmetry of the parts.
Though a woman is to be fully conscious of the charm of a
pretty foot and ankle, yet she must not seem to be so. Nothing
will draw the laugh on her so quick as a manifestly designed
exhibition of these parts. It is, no doubt, a very difficult thing
for a lady who has a fine foot to keep it from creeping forth
into sight beneath the dress; but, let her be sure that the charm
is gone the moment the beholder detects it. is done designedly.
If men are not modest themselves, they will never forgive a
woman if she is not.
Before leaving this subject, I must not forget to speak of the
importance to a lady of a genteel and sprightly walk. The
practiced eye detects the quality of a woman’s mind and heart
in her step. Nor is this an idle fancy, for the reason.that every
situation of the soul, every internal movement, has its regular
progression, in the external action of the body. We may say,
as Seneca makes the wife of Hercules say of Lychas,—
‘‘His mind is like his walk.”
An indistinct, shuffling, irregular, sluggish, and slovenly walk is
a tolerably sure sign of corresponding attributes of the soul.
There is a remarkable charm in a walk characterized by blended
dignity and vivacity. It leaves upon the beholder a lasting
impression of those attributes of mind which most surely awakev
esteem and admiration.
Je ae Dea BE BY OL OT.
One of thé most powerful auxiliaries of beauty is a fine, wel)
trained voice. Indeed, one of the most fascinating women J
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ever knew had scarcely any other charm to recommend her. She
was a young countess in Berlin, who had dull eyes, a rough skin,
with dingy complexion, coarse dull hair, and dumpy form. But she
had an exquisite voice, which charmed everybody who heard it.
Ugly as she was, she was called “the syren,” from the fascinat-
ing sweetness of her voice. And with an infallible instinct that
she had but a single charm, she had cultivated that until she had
brought it to the utmost perfection. Words fell like charmed
music from her lips, And then, besides the discipline she had
given her voice, she had made herself master of the art of con-
versation. In this respect, every woman’s education is sadly
neglected. Had I a daughter, the first thing I should teach her,
in the way of artificial accomplishments, would be, that to con-
verse charmingly is a far greater accomplishment to a lady than
music and dancing. A woman who can converse well is always
sure to command respect and admiration in any society. By this
I, of course, don’t mean a vicious abundance of words, and rapid
volubility of tongue, for these are things which my sex some-
times too easily acquire. Good conversation does not mean the
art of talking, but the art of talking well. How few ladies have
it! How few have ever been taught that good talking is as
much an art as good singing? How few know that the voice
can be as much improved for the art of conversation, as it can
for the art of singing? It is the voice, after all, more than
words, that gives the finest and clearest expression to the pas- —
sions and sentiments of the soul. The most correct and elegant
language loses all its beauty with a bad or ill-trained voice. The
exhilaration of mirth, the profound sighs of sadness, the ten-
derness of love, the trembling interrupted sobbing of grief, all
depend upon the voice for their effect upon the character and
the heart. A bad talker is as great a bore as a bad singer or a
bad reader. Indeed, to be charming in conversation, implies a
perfect knowledge of the rare and difficult art of reading. I call
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it rare and difficult, not only from the nature of the art itself,
but also from the great lack of competent teachers. There are
a thousand good teachers of the art of singing, where there is
one of the art of reading. The teachers of elocution are gener-
ally decayed actors or professors, who are worse than incompe-
tent, for they, in nine cases out of ten, get their pupils into
pedantic, affected, and unnatural habits, which are a thousand
times worse than the natural awkwardness. The best advice I
can give a lady on this subject is—unless she knows a teacher
who has an exquisite voice and style—to practice herself in read-
ing aloud, and training her voice to express thé most happy and
delightful ideas by soft and appropriate tones. She may think
herself happy if she acquire perfection in this exquisite art by
two years of unwearied pains and study. And she may be sure
that the accomplishment is cheaply bought at whatever expense.
BEAUTY OF DEPORTMENT.
It is essential that every lady should understand that the most
beautiful and well dressed woman will fail to be charming unless
all her other attractions are set off with a graceful and fascinat-
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wearer like another Iris, “ breathing youth and loveliness.” As
a general thing, all ornaments detract from the exceeding charms
of such beauty.
All ornaments for the head are, to say the least, a dangerous
experiment. If a lady’s hair is very beautiful and abundant, it
will be difficult to select an ornament that can add anything to
its charms; and if it is coarse and harsh, and of a bad color, she
surely will not commit the blunder of attracting attention to it
by gems and ornaments. So, if her neck and bosom be of a
pearly whiteness, and fashioned after “ nature’s most enchanting
mould,” what ornament can add to their fascination? And if they
are naturally dingy and brown, and lack the delicate outline of
symmetrical beauty, why should she needlessly attract attention
to her deformity by a sparkling necklace, or a string of pearls!
So, too, of her hands; if the fingers are long and bony, or lack
the delicate taper and “‘pearl-tipped nails,” why will she attract
all eyes to her misfortune, with the glitter of rings and diamonds?
A single diamond on a beautiful hand, or some light and rich
bracelet on an arm which is charming enough to bear constant
inspection, may not be inappropriate; but a profusion of these
ornaments is always in bad taste, and a sure sign of vulgarity,
or of deficient education.
IMPORTANCE OF HAIR AS AN ORNAMENT.
Without a fine head of hair no woman can be really beautiful.
A combination of perfect features, united in one person, would
all go for naught without that crowning excellence of beautiful
hair. Take the handsomest woman that ever lived—one with the
finest eyes, a perfect nose, and expanding forehead, a charming
face, and pair of lips that beat the ripest and reddest cherries of
summer—and shave her head, and what a fright would she be!
‘The dogs would bark at, and run from her in the street.
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We ought, then, to be constantly impressed with the import-
ance of hair as a chief ornament in beauty. It is every person’s
business to be informed of the means of developing and presery-
ing a luxurious growth of this handmaid of human charms.
And it is in the power of almost every person to have a good
head of hair. But, by many, such a gift can be enjoyed only
by great pains and constant attention to the laws of its growth
and preservation. Hair left to take care of itself will revenge
itself by making its possessor either common looking, or a mon-
ster of ugliness. Let the woman who is ambitious to be beauti-
ful not forget this.
HOW TO OBTAIN A GOOD HEAD OF HAIR,
The foundation of a good head of hair ought undoubtedly to
be laid in infancy. At this tender age, and through all the
years of childhood, it should be worn short, be frequently cut,
and never allowed to go a day without a thorough brushing. It
should also, every morning, be washed at the roots with cold
water. A damp sponge, rubbed thoroughly upon the scalp, will
be sufficient. The practice of combing the heads of children too
frequently with a fine tooth comb is a bad one, as the points of -
the teeth are quite sure to scratch and irritate the scalp, and are
almost sure to produce scurf or dandruff. Indeed, these rules,
except as to the length of the hair, are quiteas applicable to
adults as children. The ladies of my acquaintance, who have
been most,celebrated for the beauty of their hair, usually made
a practice of thoroughly cleansing its roots every morning with
the damp sponge. Nor would they venture to neglect the fre-
quent use of the brush. Indeed, the coarsest, most refractory,
and snarly locks can be subdued, and made comparatively soft
and glossy by the use of the brush alone. Constant brushing is
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ing is the best time for an extended application of the brush,
because the hair is naturally more supple then than at any other
time. This practice, thoroughly persevered in, will gradually
tame down the porcupine head, unless there is some scurfy dis-
ease of the scalp, in which case the following wash will be
found a quite sure remedy :—
Salts of tartar . : : 3 drachms,
Tincture of cantharides . ‘ 15 drops.
Spirits of camphor ; : 15 drops.
Lemon juice , - : 4 pint.
In preparing this wash, the salts should be dissolved in the
lemon juice, till the effervescence ceases, and then add the other
ingredients; and, after letting the whole remain exposed to the
air for half an hour, it may be perfumed ‘and bottled for use.
This is one of the best and most harmless washes for the hair 1
have ever known. I am certain that a lady or gentleman has
but to try it to be convinced of its efficacy. But let me impress
upon you the importance of brushing as a cardinal means of
beautifying the hair. Brush not one minute, but ten—not once a
day, but two, or three, or four times a day.
Two brushes are indispensable forthe toilet-—one for the rough
use of cleaning the hair, and the otherfor polishing it. A black
brush should be used for the former, and a white one for the
latter. Ladies need not be told that washing spoils brushes. The
way to clean them is to rub them thoroughly with bran, which
removes all the grease, and leaves the bristles stiff and firm as
ever. When the bristles of a brush become too limber for use,
they may be hardened again by dipping them in one part of
spirits of ammonia, and two of water. This will also thoroughly
cleanse them from all greasy substances.
TO PREVENT THE HAIR FROM FALLING OFF.
A remedy for weak and falling hair has been sought for by
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beautiful women, and by men too, with as much avidity as ever
the mad enthusiast sought for the philosopher’s stone. I have
known ladies who did nothing but to hunt recipes for baldness.
The knowledge of all their friends, especially if they were phy-
sicians, was laid under perpetual contribution for light on the
great subject of hair. I knew an old countess in Paris—or who
was at least fearfully growing old—who became really a mono-
maniac on this subject; she used to rattle on about the “ bulbs of
the hair,” the “apex of the hair,” and talk as learnedly as a
whole college of doctors of the various theories of the nature of
thé disease and the remedy. Some quack had recommended her
to use caustic alkalies of soda or potash—which by the way I
have known to be advised by physicians who ought to know
better—which completely did the business for her head, for
they not only destroyed the reproductive power, but also the
color of what hair they left upon her head. So that this unhappy
countess was not only hopelessly gray, but she was growing
balder day by day, notwithstanding half a bushel of recipes
which she had wrung from the skill of a hundred doctors.
It is well known that Baron Dupuytren obtained a world-wide
fame for a pomade which actually overcame the evil of baldness
in thousands of cases where it was applied. A celebrated physi-
cian in London gave to an intimate friend of mine the following
recipe, which he assured her was really the famous pomade of
Baron Dupuytren. My friend found such advantage in its use,
that I was induced to copy it, and add it to my cabinet of curious
recipes.
Boxwood shavings . ; ; 6 oz.
— Proof spirit . ; ‘ : 12 oz.
Spirits of rosemary . ; : 2 02.
Spirits of nutmegs . ¢ 7 $ 02.
The boxwood shavings should be left to steep in the spirits,
at a temperature of 60 degrees for fourteen days, and then the
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fiquid should be strained off, and the other ingredients mixed.
The scalp to be thoroughly washed, or rubbed with this every
night and morning.
TO PREVENT THE HAIR FROM TURNING GRAY.
No woman must rely on compounds and powders to prevent
ther hair from turning gray. Temperance, moderation in all
things, and frequent washings with pure cold water, are the best
recipes I can give her to prevent her hair from becoming prema-
turely gray. It is certain that perpetual care, great anxiety, or
prolonged -grief will hasten white hairs. History has made us
familiar with instances where sudden passion, or grief, or fright,
have turned the head instantly gray. Sickness, we know, often
does it. But, so far as I know, physiologists have failed to
explain the reason of this change. We know that the hair is a
hollow tube, containing a fluid which gives it its color—that red
hair is occasioned by a red fluid, and so all the varieties of color
are owing to the variety of the color of this fluid. Nothing,
therefore can prevent the hair from turning white but the
avoidance of all the causes which produce premature old age, or
occasion local obstruction and disease of the hair itself. I have
reason to believe that the injudicious use of the curling-irons,
long kept up, will hasten this disease. The unnatural heat
destroys the animal nature of the hair, and is liable to produce
a disease of its coloring fluid.
An old and retired actress with whom I had met at Gibraltar,
and who had a fine head of hair, far better preserved than the
rest of her charms, was confident that she had warded off the
approach of gray hair by using the following preparation when-
ever she dressed her head:
Oxide of bismuth . - ‘ 4 drs.
Spermaceti . ; ‘ : 4 drs.
Pure hog’s lard. ; , 4 02.
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The lard and spermaceti should be melted together, and whem
they begin to cool, stir in the bismuth. It may be perfumed to:
your liking.
HOW TO SOFTEN AND BEAUTIFY THE HAIR.
There is no greater mistake than the profuse use of greases for’
the purpose of softening the hair. They obstruct the pores, the:
free action of which is so necessary for the health of the hair..
No substance should be employed which cannot be readily:
‘absorbed by the vessels. These preparations make the hair dry
and harsh, unless perpetually loaded with an offensive and dis-
gusting amount of grease.
There was a celebrated beauty at Munich who had one of the
handsomest heads of hair I ever beheld, and she used regularly
to wash her head every morning with the following:
Beat up the white of four eggs into a froth, and rub that thor-
oughly in close to the roots of the hair. Leave it to dry on.
Then wash the head and hair clean with a mixture of equal parts
of rum and rose-water.
This will be found one of the best cleansers and brighteners of
the hair that was ever used.
There is a celebrated wash called “ Honey Water,” known to
fashionable ladies all over Europe, which is made as follows:
Essence of Ambergris . . 4 pee a |
Musk : : : pb eas
ere: Bergamot . : : 0 Stee.
Oil of Cloves , é : : . 15 drops.
Orange-flower water . . ; . 4°02.
Spirits of wine . : “% ; . 5 02,
Distilled water . : 4 : . 402.
All these ingredients should be mixed together, and left about
fourteen days; then the whole to be filtered through porous paper
and bottled for use.
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This is a good hair-wash and an excellent perfume.
But let the man or woman who is ambitious to have handsome:
hair, forget not that frequent and thorough brushing is worth
all the oils and pomades that were ever invented.
TO REMOVE SUPERFLUOUS HAIR.
It sometimes happens that feminine beauty is a little marred.
by an unfeminine growth of hairon the upper lip, or on the neck.
and arms, and sometimes on the chin. I have known several.
unfortunate ladies to produce ulcers and dangerous sores by
compounds which they used for the purpose of removing these:
blemishes. Caustic preparations of lime, arsenic, and potash
have been used for this purpose, with the above results.
But the following safe method has been used with perfect.
success:
Spread on a piece of leather, equal parts of galbanum and pitch
plaster, and lay it on the culprit hairs as smoothly as possible,
and then, after letting it remain about three minutes, pull it off
suddenly, and it will be quite sure to bring out the hair by the
roots, and they will not grow again. The pain of this operation
is much less than the cauterizing remedy, and is, besides, more:
successful. I have seen poor victims sit all day pulling these:
aggressive hairs with tweezers, which is a fruitless task, for they
almost invariably break off the hair at the neck, instead of pull-
ing it out by the roots. But the most ridiculous mistake which
women make in this business is removing the superfluous hair
with a razor, for that promotes the unnatural growth, and, even
though the shaving were done every day, the blue or black roots.
of the hair show further than the hair itself.
HOW TO COLOR GRAY HAIR.
A great many compounds, which are of a character most des-
tructive to the hair, are sold in the shape of hair-dyes, against-
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‘which ladies cannot be too frequently warned. These, for the
most part, are composed of such things as poisonous mineral
acids, nitrate and oxide of silver, caustic alkalies, limes lith-
arge and arsenic. The way these color the hair is simply by
burning it, and they are very liable to produce a disease of the
hair which increases ten-fold the speed of growing gray.
An old physician and chemist at Lisbon gave a charming Par-
isian lady of my acquaintance, whose hair was turning gray, on
one side of her head, after a severe sickness, a recipe for a hair-
. dye, which proved to be of astonishing efficacy in coloring the
faded hair a beautiful and natural black. The following is the
recipe for making it.
Gallic acid . ‘ ; ‘ 10 grs.
Acetic acid . : : ‘ 1 02.
Tincutre of sesqui-chloride of iron 1 02.
Dissolve the gallic acid in the tincture of sesqui-chloride of iron,
and then add the acetic acid. Before using this preparation, the
hair should be thoroughly washed with soap and water. A great
and desirable peculiarity of this dye, is, that it can be so applied
as to color the hair either black or the lighter shade of brown.
If black is the color desired, the preparation should be applied
while the hair is moist, and for brown it should not be used till
the hair is perfectly dry. The way to apply the compound is to
dip the points of a fine tooth comb into it until the interstices
are filled with the fluid, then gently draw the comb through the
‘hair, commencing at the roots, till the dye has perceptibly taken
effect. When the hair is entirely dry, oil and brush it as usual.
HABITS WHICH DESTROY BEAUTIFUL HAIR.
The habit of frequently shampooing the hair, or washing it
‘with soap and water, is destructive toits beauty. Soap, if often
used, will be likely to change the color of the hair to a faded
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yellowish hue, even if it does not produce a greater misfortune.
The best way to remove dust, or the effects of an indiscreet use
of oils or pomades from the hair, is to give it a thorough brush-
ing. Or asmall quantity of white soap may be dissolved in
spirits of wine, and used without deleterious effects. But, by all
means, shun strong soap, and such alkaline lyes as are used in.
shampooing; for these lyes are capable of dissolving the hair if
long left in them, and their use is invariably deleterious. |
Washing the hair even with cold water and leaving it to dry
in curls, as is the custom of some, after the example of Lord
Byron, renders it harsh and coarse. Whenever the hair is washed
it should be thoroughly dried with towels, and then be well
brushed.
BLEMISHES TO BEAUTY.
There are a great many accidental blemishes to beauty, such:
as pimples, black specks, freckles, tan, and yellow spots, which
may be removed by proper remedies faithfully applied.
To Remove Pimples.—There are many kinds of pimples, some
of which partake almost of the nature of ulcers, which require
medical treatment; but the small red pimple, which is most com-
mon, may be removed by applying the following twice a day:
Sulphur water : ; : 1 oz.
Acetated liquor of ammonia ; . $02.
Liquor of potassa . ; : ter:
White wine vinegar . 7 - 2 04.
Distilled water ; : ; 2 OZ.
These pimples are sometimes cured by frequent washing in
warm water, and prolonged friction with a coarse towel. The
cause of these pimples is obstruction of the skin, and imperfect:
circulation.
To Remove Black Specks or “ Fleshworms.”—Sometimes little
black specks appear about the base of the nose, or on the fore-
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head, or in the hollow of the chin, which are called “ fleshworms,”
and are occasioned by coagulated lymph that obstructs the pores
of the skin. They may be squeezed out by pressing the skin,
and ignorant people suppose them to be little worms. They are
permanently removed by washing with warm water, and severe
friction with a towel, and then applying a little of the following
preparation:
Liquor of potassa ; ; Broz,
Cologne . ; ; : ee es
White brandy . : ; - 402,
The warm water and friction alone are sometimes sufficient.
To Remove Freckles.—The most celebrated compound ever
used for the removal of freckles, was called ‘‘ Unction de Main-
tenon,” after the celebrated Madame de Maintenon. It is made
.as follows:
Venice soap . : ‘, os 1 oz.
Lemon juice . 5 : 4 OZ.
Oil of bitter almonds. ae * + 02.
Deliquidated oil of tartar . . t OZ.
Oilofrhodium .. ; ; 3 drops.
First dissolve the soap in the lemon juice, then add the two
ils, and place the whole in the sun till it acquires the consist-
ence of ointment, and then add the oil of rhodium. Anoint the
freckly face at night with this unction, and wash in the morning
with pure water, or, if convenient, with a mixture of elder-flower
and rose-water.
To Remove Tan.—An excellent wash to remove tan is called
“‘Créme de l’Enclos,” and is thus made:
Newmilk . ; : a + pint.
Lemon juice . ‘ : ‘ 4 02.
White brandy : < ; 4 OZ.
Boil the whole and skim it clear from all scum. Use it night
and morning.
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A famous preparation with the Spanish ladies for removing
the effects of the sun and making the complexion bright, is com-
posed simply of equal parts of lemon juice and the white of
eggs. ‘The whole is beat together in a varnished earthen pot,
and set over a slow fire, and stirred with a wooden spoon till it
acquires the consistence of soft pomatum. This compound is
called “ Pommade de Seville.” If the face is well washed with
rice-water before it is applied, it will remove freckles, and give
a fine lustre to the complexion.
To Cure Chapped Lips.—A certain cure for chapped lips,
used by the French ladies, is called “Beaume 4 1’ Antique,” and
‘Is thus made:
Oil of roses . 4 F 5 4 OZ,
White wax . A A : 1 oz.
Spermaceti . ; ‘ : 4 OZ.
‘They should be melted in a glass vessel, and stirred with a
wooden spoon till thoroughly mixed, and then poured into a
glass or china cup for use.
To Remove Yellow Spots.—Sometimes yellow spots of various
‘sizes appear under the skin of the neck and face, and prove the
most annoying blemishes to beauty. I have known them to be
effectually removed by rubbing them with the flower of sulphur
until they disappeared. The following wash is also a safe
‘remedy:
Strong sulphur water . , os Os
Lemon juice : ; : soil Oe!
Cinnamon water 2 : in 2; Ore.
Wash with this three or four times a day. Sometimes these
‘spots indicate a difficulty in the stomach which may require
medical advice.
To Remove and Prevent Wrinkles.—There is a curious recipe
walled “ Aura and Cephalus,” which is of Grecian origin, as its
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removing and preventing premature wrinkles from the faces of
the Athenian ladies. .
Put some powder of best myrrh upon an iron plate, sufficiently —
heated to melt the gum gently, and when it liquefies, cover your
head with a napkin, and hold your face over the myrrh at a.
proper distance to receive the fumes without inconvenience, I
will observe, however, that if this experiment produces any
symptoms of headache, it better be discontinued at once.
But an easy and natural way of warding off wrinkles is fre-
quent ablution, followed by prolonged friction with a dry nap-
kin. If a lady is a little advanced towards the period when
wrinkles are naturally expected to make their appearanee, she:
should use tepid water instead of cold, in her ablutions.
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