0> ^rU ^'% <*r -V* | <$ % t> ^ ', a be _ :t -mm-oT EivmahJiIore 1, 3TD0T>r. HOLBOBH HLLLL . ART OF BEING HAPPY; CHIEFLY FROM BOURNE HALL DRAPER. A NEW EDITION. " Seek not to be rich, but to be happy. The one lies in bags, the other in content; which wealth can never give." — w. penn. '.* The mind that would be happy, must be great ; Great in its wishes, great in its surveys." — young. / LONDON : PUBLISHED BY WILLIAM DARTON AND SON, HOLBORN HILL. $3 \^ %- ^ 3^ PREFACE, The sentiments contained in the following pages are selected chiefly from a French work, by M. Droz, bearing the same title. The best parts of this publication, with a few of the thoughts of the American trans- lator, which seemed most useful in their tendency, are here presented to the English reader. To regard happiness as an art or science, is certainly by no means so common as it should be. Yet this is a proper view of the subject. No one was ever happy by chance; no one was ever happy without VI PREFACE. much study, and labour, and care to be so. It is worthy of remark, that, however writers may differ in their sentiments on this topic, they all agree in one essential point, that happiness was never found without virtue and piety. This is a truth which should never be forgotten ; a truth confirmed by the united testimony of all ranks, of all professions, and of all ages. Our illustrious countrywoman, the late excellent Hannah More, has, in an interest- ing dramatic sketch, entitled " The Search after Happiness," advanced many senti- ments in full unison with those of the writer of this volume. Personifying Hap- piness, she says, " She whom you seek inhabits yonder cell ! In her, united, worth and wisdom dwell I Poor, not dejected; humble, yet not mean; Cheerful, though grave ; and lively, though serene ; PREFACE. Vll Benevolent, kind, pious, gentle, just; Reason her guide, and Providence her trust. If Heaven, indulgent to her little store, Adds to that little but a little more, With holy praise her grateful heart o'erflows, And sweetly mitigates the sufferer's woes ; Her labours for devotion best prepare, And meek devotion smooths the brow of care." The fair authoress assures us, that Hap- piness is never to be found in the haunts of dissipation, or in the absence of reflex- ion ; rc I tried the power of pomp and costly glare, Nor e'er found room for thought, or time for prayer ; In different follies every hour I spent ; I shunn'd reflexion, yet I sought content. My hours were shared betwixt the park and play, And music served to waste the tedious day ; Yet softer airs no more with joy I heard, If any sweeter warbler was preferred ; The dance succeeded, and succeeding tired; If some more graceful dancer were admired ; No sounds but flattery ever sooth'd my ear ; Ungentle truths I know not how to hear. The anxious day induced the sleepless night, And my vex'd spirit never knew delight." Vlll PREFACE. Mrs. More affirms, that this distinguished boon, after which all are seeking, and which so few of our race comparatively find, is not to be found in the pursuit of fame or of science. She is also of opinion, that works of fiction tend to corrupt the heart, rather than to regulate the life, and procure happiness. Speaking of novels, she says, ' Their poisonous influence led my mind astray, I sighed for something — what, I could not say : I fancied virtues which were never seen, And died for heroes who had never been ; I sicken'd with disgust at sober sense, And loath'd the pleasures worth and truth dispense ; I scorn'd the manners of the world I saw ; My guide was fiction, and romance my law. I found adventures in each common tale, And talked and sighed to every passing gale ; A fancied heroine, an ideal wife, I loath'd the offices of real life ; Each duty to perform observant still, But those which God and Nature bade me fill. ' PREFACE. IX She denounces, in strong terms, the pos- sibility of ease and indolence, to impart felicity. " The dire rust/' she says, " of indolence corrodes ;" " This eating canker, with malignant stealth, Destroys the vital powers of moral wealth. Seek action — 'tis the scene which virtue loves ; The vigorous sun not only shines but moves ; From sickly thoughts with quick abhorrence start, And rule the fancy, if you'd rule the heart." Mrs. More is of opinion, that something besides display, fine clothes, and an elegant figure are essential to felicity ; " The fairest symmetry of form or face, From intellect receives its highest grace ; The brightest eyes ne'er dart such piercing fires, As when a soul irradiates and inspires; Beauty with reason need not quite dispense, And coral lips may sure speak common sense." In order to render life happy, she earn- estly inculcates the greatest care in edu- cation " Know, then, that life's chief happiness or woe, From good or evil education flow ; The yielding mind with virtue should be grac'd, For first impressions seldom are effac'd " Association with the wise and good ; admiration of the works of God ; the plea- sures of benevolence ; and, above all, a life of cheerful devotion, are mentioned by this useful writer as essential ingredients in the cup of happiness. She closes her little work with language, which all who are rightly informed and who would be happy, will delight to use; " Fountain of Being ! teach us to devote To Thee each purpose, action, word, and thought ! Thy grace our hope, thy love our only boast ; Be all distinctions in the Christian lost ! Be this, in every state our wish alone, — ' Almighty, wise, and good, Thy will be done 1" CONTENTS. Page. Chap. I.— Introduction 1 Chap. II. — Physical, Organic, & Moral Laws 10 Chap. III. — General Views of Happiness, ... 33 Chap. IV. — -Our Desires 44 Chap. V.— Tranquillity of Mind 61 Chap. VI.— Of Misfortune : 70 Chap VII. — Of Independence 81 Chap. VIII.— Of Health 89 Chap. IX. — Of Competence 104 Chap. X. — Of Opinion, and the Esteem of Men 115 Xll CONTENTS. Page. Chap. XI. — Of Respect towards our Fellow- Creatures 123 Chap. XII. — Of some of the Virtues 130 Chap. XIIL— Of Marriage 140 Chap. XIV.— Of Children ffT. 149 Chap. XV.— Of Friendship 158 Chap. XVI.— The Pleasures of the Senses . . 169 Chap. XVII.— The Pleasures of the Heart . . 176 Chap. XVIII.— The Pleasures of the Under- standing 182 Chap. XIX. — The Pleasures of Imagination. . 189 Chap. XX. — Melancholy 195 Chap. XXI. — Religious Sentiments 202 Chap. XXII.— Of the Rapidity of Life .... 215 Chap. XXIIL— On Death 224 Chap. XXIV.— Conclusion 253 Appendix.- — The Choice of a Profession .... 260 THE ART OF BEING HAPPY. CHAPTER I. INTRODUCTION. Some will, perhaps, be ready, when they read the title of this volume, to regard its counsels with indifference, or even with disdain. They will indolently, and yet confidently, affirm, that the theoretical discussion of the pursuit of happiness is visionary and profitless ; that lecture, write, preach as we may, the future will be, perhaps ought to be, as the past ; that the world is always growing older without ever growing wiser ; and that men are evidently no more successful in their search after happiness now, than in the remotest periods of history. They will affirm, that man has always been the sport of accident, the slave of his passions, the creature of circumstances ; that it is useless to 2, INTRODUCTION. reason, vain to consult rules, imbecile to surrender independence, to follow the guidance of those who assume to be wise, or receive instruction from those who have been taught by years. They will allege the utter inefncacy of the lights of reason, philosophy, and religion, judging from the little comparative illumination, which they have hitherto shed upon the paths of life. On the same ground, and from the same reasonings, they might declaim against every attempt, in every form, to render the world wiser and happier. With equal propriety they might say, " Close the pulpit, silence the press, cease from parental discipline, moral suasion, and the training of education. Do what you will, the world will go on as before/ ' Who does not see the absurdity of such language ? Because we cannot do every thing, shall we do nothing? Because the million float towards the invisible future without any pole-star, or guided only by the presumption of general opinion, is it a conclusive proof that none have been rendered happier in consequence of having followed wiser guidance, and pursued happiness by system ? Such is the practical creed of the great mass of society. I, on the contrary, think that this general persuasion is palpably false and fatal ; that much suffering may be avoided, and much enjoyment obtained by following rules, and pursuing happiness INTRODUCTION.