;: %.^ -° -^"^^^ "^y^^/ J'''^^ ^^K*° -^v^ "^^^ °- -0^ .4 0^ O V -^^ .•;; >^\\y- s'^^a^ ,^.>«^ .. -^ *^. vO^ ^^ g-n?^ EECOLLECTIONS AND PKIVATE MEMOIRS OF WASHINGTON, BY HIS ADOPTED SON, , ^"^ / GEORGE WASHINGTON PARKE CUSTIS, WITH A MEMOIR OF THE AUTHOR, BY HIS daughter; AND ILLUSTKATJVE AND EXPLANATORY NOTES, BY- BENSON J. LOSSING. " FiKST IN War, Fikst in Peace, and First in the Hearts of his Countrymen." Gttt. Hiiiry Lee's OraHon, WITH ILLUSTRATIONS PHILADELPHIA: J. W. BRADLEY, 48 K FOURTH STREET. 186 1. ^^:t .C9^ 4- Entered, accordini; to Act of Congress, in the year 1859, I B Y M R S. M A R T C U S T I S L E E, in the Clerk's Office of the District Court of the United States, for the Eastern District of Virginia. SAVAGK & MCCKKA, STKKKOT YPK KS, 13 Clinniherti Street, N. Y. INTRODUCTORY REMARKS. The men and women who were coteraporary with "Washington have nearly all passed away, and in a few years every tongue that n^'ght now speak of personal recollections of the Father of his Country will be silent, and that for ever. As we recede from the age of Washington, and history takes the place of verbal traditions in giving a narrative of the events of those days, we become more and more anxious to garner, in memory and in books, the precious seeds of information concern- ing the men whose names stand prominently on the records of those events. Especially do we desire to know all about Wash- ington, the great central figure of the group of patriots whom we have been taught to revere as the founders of the republic. We feel confident, therefore, that a work like this, containing the minute details of much of Washington's private life, as well as his public career (which general history does not reveal) , and related, too, by a member of Washington's own family — one who lived with him from infancy until his nineteenth year — will be peculiarly acceptable to the American public. In this work, new phases of Washington's character are dis- played. We see him as a private citizen — as a plain f-^vmer — as the head of a family. The correspondence between Washington and his adopted son, while the latter was in college, first at Princeton and after- ward at Annapolis (never before published), will be found deeply interesting, especially to our young men. Washington's letters display the fatherly anxiety and solicitude with which he saw the child of his adoption, sometimes giving promises of great improvement and future usefulness, and at others pursuing a dis- appointing course, and awakening painful doubts concerning the 4 INTRODUCTORY REJIARKS. character of his manhood. These called from Washington words of great wisdom ; and the advice contained in his letters to young Custis we would commend to the careful considera- tion of every young man starting out in life. The general arrangement of the whole work, and the elabo- rate explanatory and illustrative notes to the Recollections, by the editor, whose familiarity with the subject is well known, so connect and generalize the desultory sketches of the author as to make the work an interesting Life op Washington. In these notes will be found much rare matter never before presented in a collected form. The correspondence between Washington and the father of the author of these Recollections, during the Revolution (printed in the Appendix, and now for the first time made public), will be found especially interesting. Their letters treat chiefly of private aflTairs, and give us a vivid picture of Washington's sagacious views in relation to the management of property. They also show the wonderful capacity and adaptation of his mind in giving close and lucid attention to private concerns, wliile engaged in the most arduous and momentous public duties. Two of Mr. Custis's orations ; the famous oration of General Heniy Lee on the death of Washington ; an interest- ing account of the presentation of a ring to Lafayette by Custis at the tomb of Washington ; a specimen of Washington's care and exactness in the management of his agricultural affairs ; and a notice of all the original portraits of Washington, are also printed in the Appendix. The memoir of Mr. Custis, by his daughter, which properly forms a part of the work, will be found highly interesting, the subject being enriched by the introduction of very curious mat- ter pertaining to the earlier history of the family. With these few observations, we submit the work to the pub- lic, feeling a pride in offering one so intrinsically valuable to every student of our history and lover of his country. The Publishers. New York, August, 1859. CONTENTS. Memoir of George Washington Parke Cuaris page 9 Original Correspondence between Washington and Custis 73 RECOLLECTIONS OF WASHINGTON. Editor's Preface 119 Author's Preface 121 CHAPTER I. The Mother of Washington 125 CHAPTER II. Washington at Mount Vernon 151 CHAPTER III. Battle of Princeton and Death op General Mercer 179 CHAPTER IV. Battle op Germantown 193 CHAPTER V. The Battle op Monmouth 211 CHAPTER VI. The Surrender at Yorktown 229 CHAPTER VII. Washington's Life-Guard 256 CHAPTER VIII. The Hunting-Shirt 264 CHAPTER IX. Washington's Headquarters 273 CHAPTER X. Mysteries op the Revolution 289 CHAPTER XI. The Indian Prophecy 300 CHAPTER XII. Daniel Morgan 308 CHAPTER XIII. Robert Morris 323 CHAPTER XIV. Thomas Nelson 333 CHAPTER XV. Alexander Hamilton 340 CHAPTER XVI. Henry Lee 354 6 CONTENTS. CHAPTER XVII. Bihth-night Balls and the Theatre page 364 CHAPTER XVIII. Life at Mount Vernon 370 CHAPTER XIX. "Washington as a Sportsjian 384 CHAPTER XX. The Pirst Year of the Presidenot 393 CHAPTER XXI. Washington's Home and Household 406 CHAPTER XXII. The Retired President 433 CHAPTER XXIII. Outline Life-Pictures 461 CHAPTER XXIV. Last Hours of Washington 472 CHAPTER XXV. Personal Appearance of Washington 480 CHAPTER XXVr. Martha Washington 495 CHAPTER XXVII. Portraits of Washington 516 APPENDIX. I. Original Correspondence between General Washington and John Parke Custis 533 II. Oration at the Funeral Solemnities to General James M. LiNGAN, BY G. W. P. Custis 571 III. Address at the Celebration of the Russian Victories over Napoleon, by G. W. P. Custis 585 IV. Presentation of a Ring to General Lafayette, by G. W. P. Custis, at the Tomb of Washington 591 V. Directions for the Management of his Farms, by General Washington 595 VI. Oration on the Death of Washington, delivered before Con- gress, by General Henrt Lee 615 VII. Original.Portraits of Washington 624 ILLUSTRATIONS. George Washington Parke Custis Frontispiece Colonel George Washington Opposite page 21 Mrs. Eleanor Parke Lewis (Nelly Custis) " " 45 Mrs. Martha Washington (Mrs. Custis) " " 495 Facsimile op Washington's Account with Miss Custis. . " " 496 FiosiMiLE OF Washington's Record of Survev. , , " " 445 M E M I R OF GEORGE WASHINGTON PARKE CUSTliS, BY HIS DAUGHTER THE EPISTOLARY CORRESPONDENCE WASHINGTON AND CUSTTS. MEMOIR OF GEORGE WASHINGTON PARKE CUSTIS. • It is with mucli diffidence that I offer to the public the Recollections of my father, in their present unfinished state. They were written by him at intervals of many months, sometimes of a year, during a period of thirty years, and were nearly all first published in the National Intelligencer, printed at "Washington city, in the District of Columbia. They have been extensively copied by the press throughout the Union, and sometimes quoted by historians, but from the perishable cliaracter of the vehicle by which they were conveyed to the pub- lic, it is to be doubted whether a perfect copy of the series is preserved, except the one contained in this volume. For many years my father, influenced by the urgent solicitations of friends in all parts of the Union, enter- tained a design to • arrange and revise his Recollections, supply omissions, and have them published in the more 10 ME^IOIR OF durable form of a volume, as a legacy to his countrymen. But this design was never carried out ; and now, actu- ated by filial affection, and a feeling that these recollec- tions of the Father of his Country, by his adopted son, should not be lost — that leaves so precious should not be scattered to the winds — I have undertaken to per- form what he left undone. It seemed to me that a brief memoir of the author of the Recollections, and some notices of his family, connected as they have been with stirring scenes in the history of the past, would be acceptable to the public. The following letter, also, written by an old and esteemed friend, so well expresses the feelings of all who knew my father, and desired the pubHcation of his Recolleciiom in peraianent form, that I have taken the liberty of inserting it here : — " "Washington, October 6, 1858. " My dear Madam : Many causes, unnecessary to men- tion, have prevented the fulfilment of my cherished pur- pose to express the pleasure with which I learned yonr intention of preparing the writings of your venerable father for the press, to be preceded by a notice of his life from the best pen, that of his only child. An intimate and unclouded friendship of more than thirty years with your beloved and lamented parents, gave me advantages for discerning and appreciating those rare and bright virtues which have made Arlington a place of frequent resort to many of the eminent and good of this and other countries. "Your father was distinguished by talents which would have made him eminent in any profession to which he might have devoted himself; but his ample GEORGE WASHINGTON PARKE CUSTIS. 11 fortune, extensive and generous hospitality, and the care of large estates, led him rather to agricultural pur- suits, general literature, and the indulgence of his taste for the fine arts, than to a profound study of science or philosophy. " He read much, his memory was quick and retentive, and his knowledge of history and the public affairs of tlie world was remarkably full and accurate. To the history of his own country he had devoted much time and special attention, and was more familiar with the character of the men and events of the Revolution, than any one I have kno^vn. " Probably no one of his cotemporaries so well under- stood, or so profoundly admired the retired and less obvious excellences, and the great public virtues and acts of Washington. The glory of that great man ever encompassed him, and inspired him with enthusiasm and eloquence. In his childhood he learned from Washing- ton lessons of patriotism which were never forgotten. Hence, in important political questions he was deeply interested, and amid all the sectional controversies of his day he stood firm to the Union. " He was warm and constant in friendship, had a high sense of what is due (in conversation) to absent acquaint- ances, and was ever reluctant to attend to remarks dis- paraging or injurious to others. He sympathized quickly with distress, and the poor found in him a ready and liberal benefactor. " Nothing could exceed the easy grace and politeness of his manners, his uniform and benevolent cheerfulness, and the delightful eloquence of his conversation. There was the blending of good humor, cordiality, interest in 12 MEMOIR OF those whom he addressed, with the riches of a brilliant poetic imagination, throwing light and joy upon all around. Those who visited Arlington immediately found themselves at home. Every want was anticipated by kind attentions, and nothing was omitted which could contribute to their happiness ; they seemed to realize the return of the days when Washington himself welcomed his guests at Mount Vernon and presided at the feast. " The writings you. Madam, are about to publish, will be welcomed by the people of the United States as historical papers of great value ; and those containing recollections of Washington, as precious memorials of the life and habits of the Father of his Country in retire- ment, warm with the love and gratitude of his devoted son, and glowing with his genius. The discourses of your father on the death of General Lingan, and that on the overthrow of Napoleon, were greatly admired at the time they were spoken, and should be preserved as specimens of striking and commanding eloquence.* Your father was an orator, around whom the public ever thronged with delight, and who that ever heard him can forget the vivacity, grace, and interest of his conversation, " The filial duty in which you so promptly engaged, and which you have so well performed, is a high tribute to the memory of Washington (with which that of your honored father is indissolubly united), and a service to that country which stands the only adequate monument of its great chief But I will not presume to extend these observations farther, since I can add nothing to your information, and should fill a volume to convey my * These may be found in the Appendix. GEOEGE WASHINGTON PARKE CUSTIS. 13 own pleasing recollections, or to express adequately my attachment and obligations to your family. " I have the honor to remain, my dear Madam, " Most respectfully your friend, " R. R. GURLEY. " Mrs. Mary Custis Lee, Arlington" The memoir of one so long known among us as the adopted child of Mount Vernon, whose mind was richly stored with memories of the past, whose heart and home was open to all who loved to hear of our immortal Washington, should be deeply interesting to the world. The records of his early youth are somewhat imper- fect, as those who could have best furnished the details have passed away ; nor do we find any letters from his foster-father until the commencement of his collegiate life at Princeton. Of his paternal ancestry we have accounts gleaned from a chest of old papers, very curious and amusing (though many have mouldered), containing letters, commissions, deeds and patents for land during the reigns of James 11., William and Mary, and Queen Anne ; and a commission for Major-General John Custis, in 1687, from Johannes, Lord Howard of Effingham, his majesty's lieutenant and governor-general of Virginia, appointing him collector of customs on the Eastern Shore. Mr. Custis had previ- ously been made major-general to command the forces in that quarter during Bacon's rebellion.* He was the * The episode in Virginia history, known as Bacon's rebellion, occurred in 1675 and 1676. The immediate cause of the outbreak was the dangei'S threatened by- Indians from the north, who had made incursions into the settlements on the James river. It was, however, an outburst of republican feeling, v/hich had long been growing in the colony, and which had become much exasperated by the acts of Gov- ernor Berkeley and the aristocracy. Finally, the republicans, under pretence of opposing the Indians, seized their arms, and led on by Nathaniel Bacon, an ener- 14 MEMOIR OF owner of a large estate, including several islands. Among these was Smith's island, w^hich is still in possession of the family. General Custis married three wives. In favor of each he made a separate will, providing amply for the comfort of his widow, and even binding his successor in her affections (should she have one) by a heavy forfeit, to maintain the dwelling in the same state in which he left it. He also devised to her, her own wearing apparel, and any stuffs ordered for her that might be en route from England. To the last one. Madam Tabitha, who survived him, and married Colonel Hill, he bequeathed a handsome riding horse and accoutrements. His five chil- dren, John, Hancock, Henr}^, Sorrowful Margaret, and Elizabeth, were all apportioned ; and legacies in land and money were left to various friends and to his sisters. The eldest son, John, was especially provided with landed property, out of which a hundred pomids were to be ex- pended yearly for the maintainance and education in England of his son, John, the immediate ancestor of the author of the Recollections, whose portrait is preserved at Arlington house. In it, his hand grasps a book, near which a tulip is placed. The book contained an essay getic young patriot, appeared in formidable array. The movement was without the frovcrnor's permission, and he sent troojis to arrest the rebel, as he termed Bacon. This led to energetic action. Tlepublicanism had become a power in Virginia, and, at its command, the governor was compelled, on the 4th of July, 1676 (a hundred years before t!ie great Declaration of Independence), to sign a commission, acknowl- edging Bacon a member of the house of burgesses, to which the people had elected him ; and also to give him the commission of a general of a thousand men. Finally, the governor summoned all the royalists to his standard, declared Bacon a rebel, and received succor from England. Bacon and his troops, hearing of tJie approach of an overwhelming force,, laid old Jamestown in ashes, and fled beyond the York river, where he died of malignant fever. His followers Avere dispersed, and tlie civil war ended. Had Bacon been successful, history would have called him a patriot instead of a rebel. GEORGE WASHINGTON PARKE CUSTIS. 15 upon that flower, written by liimself. Many works in the library, classical and scientific, witli his name pre- fixed in German text, embellished with many flourishes (for he seems to have prided himself upon his chirog- raphy), shows that he was a man of letters, though of an eccentric genius. This John married at "Queene's creeke," on York river, Frances, the eldest daughter of Colonel Daniel Parke. She and her sister, Lucy (afterward the wife of Colonel William Byrd, of Westover,*) resided there Avith their mother (whose maiden name was Jane Ludwell) in great seclusion, by the express desire of their father, then seeking his fortunes abroad.^ The mother, in many * Colonel William Byrd was a distinguished member of the king's counsel in Virginia, toward the close of the seventeenth century. When, in 1699, about three hundred of the Huguenots, or French Protestants, arrived in Virginia, after fleeing from persecution in their native land, he received them with fatherly aflfection, and gave them the most liberal assistance. He was generous to the poor around him. He was well educated, and his library was the largest on the western continent. In 1723, he was one of the commissioners for establishing the boundary line between Virginia and North Carolina. He died at an advanced age, in 1743. t The following letter from Colonel Parke to his daughter, Frances, who married Colonel Custis, is preserved at Arlington House. The orthography of the original is retained : — " St. James' October y« 20"> " My Dear Faknt — 1697. "I Rec''J y first letter, and he shure you be as good as y word and mind y writ- ing and everything else you have learnt ; and doe not learn to Romp, but behave yselfe soberly and like A Gentlewoman. Mind Reading; and carry y''self so v' Everyboddy may Respect you. Be Calm and Obligeing to all the servants, and when you speak doe it mildly Even to the poorest slave ; if any of the Servants commit small faults y' are of no consequence, do you hide them. If you understand of any great faults they commit, acquaint y'' mother, but doe not aggravate the fiuilt. I am well, and have sent you everything you desired, and, please God I doe well, I shall see you ere long. Love y sister and y friends; be dutiful to y mother. This' with my blessing is from y^ lo : father "Danl. Paekk. " Give my Duty to v'' Grandfather, and my love to y' Mother and Sister and Bcrviss to all friends. My Cosen Brown gives you her serviss, and y Aunts and Cousins their love." 16 MEMOIR OF long and urgent letters, implored liis return, pleading the state of her health as rendering her unequal to guard her treasures from the admiring eyes which pur- sued them whenever they were seen. Colonel Custis, Avith his foreign education and great wealth, was no despicable suitor. Colonel Parke gave his approval,* and the haughty beauty yielded. He had been fore- warned that he could hope for no complaisance from his bride, whose temper was little calculated to allow happi- ness in her presence ; but with the true spirit of a lover and the gallantry of the age, he professed to feel that to possess her would be heaven enough for him.-j- Their * The father of young Colonel Custis received the following letter from Colonel Parke on the subject : — "London, August 25, 1705. " Sir : I received yours relating to your son's desire of marrying my daughter, and your consent if I thought well of it. You may easily inform yourself that my daughter, Frances, will be heiress to all the land my father left, which is not a little, nor the worst. My personal estate is not very small in that country, and I have but two daughters, and there is no likelihood of my having anj"- more, as matters are, I being obliged to be on one side of the ocean, and my wife on the other. I do not know your young gentleman, nor have you or he thought fit to send me an account of his real and personal effects ; however, if my daughter likes him, I will give her upon her marriage with him, half as much as he can make appear he is worth. " I have no one else to give my estate to but my daughters. This is what I think convenient to write at present. My service to you and all friends in Virginia. " From your humble servant, "To Colonel Custis." "Daniel Parke. t The following letter of young Custis to his intended bride a few months before their marriage, in which, according to the custom of the time, he calls her his " Fidelia," is a fair specimen of passionate love-letters in the old colonial days. Its tone is quite different from that which characterizes the inscription upon his tomb, in which he so pointedly, though indirectly affirms, that his life, while he lived with his " Fidelia," was so unhappy that he considered it a blank in his existence : — " WiLLiAMSBURGH, February 4, 1705. " May angels guard my dearest Fidelia and deliver her safe to my arms at our next meeting ; and sure they wont refuse their protection to a creature so pure and charming, that it would be easy for them to mistake her for one of themselves. If you could but believe how entirely you possess the empire of my heart, you would easily ciedit me, when I tell you, that I can neither think nor so much as dream of GEORGE WASHINGTON PARKE CUSTIS. 17 connubial enjoyments Avere of short duration, and in mercy to both, perhaps, after the birth of two children (a son and daughter), the small-pox ended her life at Arlington, on the Eastern Shore. The husband lived many years afterward, and directed in his will that a tomb-stone of white marble (now in existence) should be placed over his grave, inscribed with the following epitaph, to perpetuate his infelicity : — "UNDER THIS MARBLE TOMB LIES THE BODY OF THE Hon. JOHN CUSTIS, Esq., OF THE CITY OF WILLIAMSBURG, AND PARISH OF BRUTON. FORMERLY OF HUNGAR'S PARISH, ON THE EASTERN SHORE OF \1RGINIA, AND COUNTY OF NORTHAMPTON, AGED 71 YEARS, AND YET LIVED BUT SEVEN YEARS, WHICH WAS THE SPACE OF TIME HE KEPT A bachelor's HOINIE at ARLINGTON, ON THE EASTERN SHORE OF VIRGESTIA." On the opposite side is the following : — "THIS INSCRIPTION PUT ON HIS TOMB WAS BT niS OWN POSITIVE ORDERS."* any other subject than the enchanting Fidelia. You will do me wrong if you sus- pect that there ever was a man created that loved with more tenderness and sincerity than I do, and I should do you wrong if I could imagine there ever was a nympli that deserved it better than you. Take this for granted, and then fancy how uneasy I am like to be under the unhappiness of your absence. Figure to yourself what tumults there will arise in my blood, what a fluttering of the spirits, what a disorder of the pulse, what passionate wishes, what absence of thought, and what crowding of sighs, and then imagine how unfit I shall be for business ; but returning to the dear cause of my uneasiness ; O the torture of six months' expectation ! If it must be so long and necessity will till then interpose betwixt you and my inclinations, I must submit, though it be as unwillingly as pride submits to superior virtue, or envy to superior success. Pray think of me, and believe that Veramour is entirely and eternally yours. Adieu. "I beg you write as soon as you receive this, and commit your letter to the same trusty hand that brings you this." * In his will he directed his son to place this inscription upon his tomb, and pro- vided for his disinheritance in the event of his omitting to do so. The tomb is in the form of a sarcophagus, about five feet high and as many long. 2 18 MEMOIR OF The daughter of Colonel Custis, Fanny Parke, was born in 1710, and married a Captain Dausie, contrary to the wishes of both father and brother, in which she, no doubt, followed the bent of her " own phantasy," as we find many letters extant from her suitors, who were quite eloquent in setting forth their pretensions, especially, in point of property. The old gentleman was over fastid- ious, and would not listen favorably to any of them ; so it ended, as often it happens, in her marrying the least desirable of them all. In his replies. Colonel Custis always remarked, as a reason for his objections : " I have but two children, and they must inherit all I have." Daniel, the son, was the object of very ambitious views. His fine person, large fortune, and irreproachable char- acter, made him quite a desirable match for the fair dames of Virginia, and many negotiations were com- menced.* His cousin, Evelyn Byrd of Westover, was proposed, but though Colonel Custis desired earnestly * Mrs. Parke Pepper, wife of a London merchant, and a relative, seems to have desired a matiimonial alliance between the families, as appears by the following letter written by Colonel Custis to her in 1731 : — "It is natural to believe that I must always value a family to whom my two dear pledges are so nearly allied. I do not remember that I expressed anything of matching my daughter to any one. I am sure I had no such thought, so Mr. S. must misapprehend me. Your son may deserve a better match than my daughter, but the distance of place and consanguinity would render such a thing impracticable. She has lately been engaged to a man much against my inclination, and so near, that the wedding-clothes were made, but it is all over now, and she protests she will never marry him or any one else. My son, I believe, is fixed in his affections, only we think both two young as yet. It is an unhappiness that my children's relations by their mother are placed so far distant. I agree with you, that it might do him good to make you a visit and see the world, but I could not spare him so far from me while I live, if he might have the empress of the universe with the whole creation for a fortune. My children arc all the comfort I have in the world, for whose sakes I have kept myself single, and am determined so to do as long as it shall please God to continue them to me. I no ways doubt of my young kinswoman's virtues and qualifications, and heartily wish her a husband equal to her merits. I hope Mr. GEORGE WASHINGTON PAHKE CUSTIS. 19 the connection, he could not be brought to terms ; and at length Colonel Byrd, in a very decided letter, in which he tells the wooer how much he regrets his father's unpracticability, as he should have preferred hun to all others, adds, that he can not trust to such a " j)hantome as Colonel Custis's generosity." "We rather suspect Daniel Avas not very earnest in the pursuit, as beautiful Martha Dandridge soon effaced all other impressions from his heart, and was not so readily relinquished. She was the most attractive belle at the court of Williamsburg,* and won the affections of all by her grace of manner and heartfelt cheerfulness. Governor Goochf presided over the Old Dominion, and Colonel Custis then held the high office of king's counsellor. Long did he refuse to sanction his son's choice, but at length won over by the report he heard on all sides of the charms and virtues of Miss Dandridge, and especially by a message received from her, he yielded, and we find the following memorandum in his own hand- writing: "I give my free consent to the union of Pepper will accept of my best respects. The same salute t*^ you and yours. I am, hon'd madam, Your most obedient .«'' , ant, "John Cusxis. "P. S. — If Colonel Parke had lived to see my son, he would have seen his owa picture to greater perfection than ever Sir Godfrey KncUer could draw it. — J. C." This postscript refers to the portrait of Colonel Parke, now at Arlington house, painted by that eminent artist, and to which allusion is made in another part of this memoir. * Williamsburg was the residence of the royal governors of Virginia until the old war for independence, in 1775. Governor Nicholson made it the capital in 1698. In its palmiest days its population did not exceed twenty-five hundred, yet it was the centre of Virginia's social refinement. t William Gooch was governor of Virginia from 1727 until 1749, a longer admin istratlon than that of any of the royal governors of that province. 20 MEMOIR OF my son, Daniel, with Miss Martha Danclriclge."* This was a concession he certainly never had cause to regret, as he soon was an admiring witness of their domestic bliss in their pleasant home on the banks of the Pamunkey They had four children, Daniel Parke, Fanny Parke, John Parke (the father of the author of the RecoUedions), and Martha Parke. The two eldest children died very young ; and it is said that grief for their loss so preyed upon the mind of the devoted father, who was equally endowed with deep affections, as with manly beauty, that it hastened his death, which occurred at the age of thirty years. He left a young widow with two small children, and a large fortune. His family mourned the loss of a most tender parent, and his numerous servants an indulgent master.^ * On that occasion a friend of the suitor wrote to him as follows : — " Dear Sir : This comes at last to bring you the news that I believe will be most agreeable to you of any you have ever heard — that you m ay not be long in suspense I shall tell you at once — I am empowered by your father to let you know that ha heartily and willingly consents to your marriage with Miss Dandridge — that he has so good a character of her, that he had rather you should have her than any lady in Virginia — nay, if possible, he is as much enamored with her character as you are with her person, and this is owing chiefly to a prudent speech of "her own. Hurry down immediately for fear he should change the strong inclination he has to your manying directly. I stayed with him all night, and presented Jack with my little Jack's horse, tn-idle, and saddle, in your name, which was taken as a singular favor. I shall say no more, as I expect to see you soon to-morrow, but conclude what I really am, "Your most obliged and affectionate humble servant, " To Colonel Daniel Parke Custis, New Kent." "J. Power. The "Jack" referred to in this letter was a small negro boy to whom the old gen- tleman had taken a most violent fancy ; and on one occasion when in great displeas- ure with his son, Daniel, on account of his refusing to concur in his ambitious views, he made^a will, duly recorded, leaving all his fortune to this boy. Through the soli- citations of his friends and his own paternal feelings, when the ill-humor had vanish- ed, he destroyed that will, but manumitted the boy with his mother, Alice, and pro- vided them with a most comfortable maintenance. t Daniel Parke Custis was born at " Queene's creeke," according to the record in a family Bible at Arlington House, on the 15th of October, 1711. There is also a ^s^-^'i.'/S GEORGE WASIIIXGTON PARKE CUSTI3. 21 The circumstances attending tlie union of Mrs. Custis with Washington are well known^ and a narrative of them will be found in the Recollections''^ Indeed, her life from that time became a matter of history. The death of her only remaining daughter, Martha, at the age of sixteen, threw a cloud of the deepest sorrow over the happiness of the family at Mount Vernon. If we may judge from a miniature taken by the elder Peale, and now in the possession of his son, Rembrandt, and two other j)ortraits, she was endowed Avith rare beauty, and yet of a com- plexion so deeply brunette, that she was always called the " dark lady." Her delicate health, or, perhaps her fond affection for the only father she had ever known, so endeared her to the "general," that he knelt at her dying bed, and with a passionate burst of tears, prayed aloud that her life might be spared, unconscious that even then her spirit had departed. Martha expired at Mount Yernon on the 19th of June, 1773. Washington had been absent at Williamsburg, on ]3riblic duty, for sometime, and on his return found her in the last stage of consumption. He had arranged to accompany the governor of Virginia (Lord Dunmore) to the western country, but the death of Miss Custis caused him to remain at home a long time to console his wife, and recover from the effects of the blow. In record there, that " Governor S])ottswood, the Honorable William Byrd, Esq., and Mrs. Hannah Ludwell, were godfathers and godmother." There were some por- traits of the Custis family at Abington, on the Potomac, which have long since crumbled into dust. One who bore the name of Custis is remembered as being represented as a soldier, in a complete suit of 'armor; and two now at Arlington, painted by Van Dyke, tradition says came from Holland, where the family origi- nated. The portraits of Daniel Parke Custis, husband of Miss Dandridge (after- ward Mrs. Washington), and of his father, are both at Arlington house. * See sketch of Martha Washington. 22 MEMOIR OP testimony of her love for her stepfather, Miss Custis be- queatlied to him all of her large fortmie, which was en- tirely in money. Of Colonel Daniel Parke, already mentioned as one of the ancestors of the present Custis family, and of his eventful career, an interesting volume might be written. This is not the place for even a very extended notice of him ; yet some facts and correspondence, having a re- lation to the family, seem to find here an appropriate position. Besides this, they give us glimpses of char- acter in the olden time, which will not fail to gratify the reader and pardon a digression. There is a splendid portrait of Colonel Parke at Ar- lington house, painted by Sir Godfrey Kneller, in which he is represented as arrayed in a coat of crimson velvet embroidered with gold, and which well becomes his fine figure and eminently handsome face. He was born in the colonies, but passed most of his life in England, where he possessed valuable estates, leaving his wife with two daughters in charge of his Virginia property, which was also extensive. She found this charge so burdensome, that in her letters, as we have already observed, she begs to be relieved, and urges his return. She even wrote to his merchant and man of business, IVIicajah Perry, to use his influence in persuading hun to return. But the fascinations of the court prevailed over a sense of duty, and while there he was appointed aid- de-camp to the great Duke of Marlborough, attended him in the battle of Blenheim, and was made the bearer of the following letter to the Duchess of Marlborough: — "I have not time to say more, but to beg you will give my duty to the queen, and let her know her army GEORGE WASHINGTON PARKE CUSTIS. 23 has had a glorious victory. M. Tallarcl and two other generals are in my coach, and I am following the rest. The bearer, my aid-de-camp, Colonel Parke, will give her an account of what has passed. I shall do it in a day or two by another more at large.'-''- Marlborough. ''August 13, 1704." It is a high honor to be the bearer of tidings of victory to a monarch, and at that time a reward of £500 was usually given by the sovereigns of England for such services. Colonel Parke, whose estate was ample, re- quested Queen Anne to give him her portrait instead. The request was granted, and the portrait was painted in miniature, and set with diamonds. Colonel Parke's por- trait, painted in 1707, shows this miniature pendant from liis neck by a red ribbon, Marlborough's despatch to the queen in his right hand, and the battle of Blenheim in the background. Another portrait of Colonel Parke, painted by Kneller, is still in the possession of William Dillon, Esq., wdiose late wife was his great-niece. It appears by the following letter to his daughter, that Colonel Parke went to Flanders as a volunteer, where, doubtless, his gallant conduct won for him his appoint- ment in the staff of Marlborough : — "St. James, 1702. "My Dear Fanny: I am going a volunteer under the Duke of Marlborough, to Flanders, where I served also in the last campaign with my Lord Arron, the Duke of * This battle was fought on the 2d of August, 1704, between the English and confederates, commanded by Marlborough, and the French and Bavarians under Marshal Tallard and the Elector of Bavaria. The loss of the latter was twenty- seven thousand killed and thirteen thousand prisoners. The English nation re- warded Marlborough with a large domain, and erected for him one of the finest scats in the kingdom, known as the domain and house of Blenheim. 24 MEMOIR OF . qp Omiond's brother, and was in every action. God knows if I may ever see you more, but if I do not, I sliall take care to leave you and your sister in very ha23py circum- stances, therefore do not throw yourself away upon the first idle yomig man that offers if you have a mind to marry. I know it is the desire of all young people to be married, and though very few are as happy after mar- riage as before, yet every one is Avilling to make the experiment at their own expense. Consider who you marry is the greatest concern to you in the world. Be kind and good-natured to all your servants. It is much better to have them love you than fear you. My heart is in Virginia, and the greatest pleasure I propose to myself is the seeing you and your sister haj)py. That you may be ever so, is the earnest desire of your affec- tionate father, "Daniel Parke. " I got some reputation last summer, which I hope I shall not lose this ; I am promised the first old regiment that shall fall, being now made a colonel." Colonel Parke was afterward commissioned a general, and appointed governor of the Leeward islands. An old book in the Arlington library, written by George French, contains an account of his administration there, and of the rebellion in Antigua, by which it seems that he became obnoxious to a seditious faction, was overpowered by numbers, and when there were no hopes of safety showed an undaunted resolution. When le had scarcely a second left, in a personal defence, he de- fied the whole strength of the rebels, till at last, he received a shot in his thigh, which, though not mortal, disabled him, and he fell into the enemy's hands. GEORGE WASHINGTON PAllKE CUSTIS. 25 " They had now an opportunity of sending him away to what place and in what manner they think fit," says the account, " but instead thereof, they use him with the utmost contempt and inhumanity. They strip him of his clothes, kick, s^^urn at, and beat him with the butts of their muskets, by wliich means, at last, they break his back. They drag him out into the streets by a leg and arm, and his head trails and beats from step to step of the stone stairs at the entrance of his house, and he is dragged on the coarse gravelly street, which raked the skin from his bones. "These cruelties and tortures force tears from his eyes, and in this condition he is left expiring, exposed to the scorching sun, out of the heat of whi^h he begs to be removed. The good-natured woman, who, at his request, brought him water to quench his thirst, is threatened by one Samuel "Watkins to have a sword passed through her for her humanity, and the water is dashed out of her hands. He is insulted and reviled by every scoundrel, in the agonies of death, but makes no other return but these mild expressions : ' Gentlemen, if you have no sense of honor left, pray have some of humanity.' He gratefully owns the kindness of friends, and prays God to reward those who stood by him that day. At last he was removed into the house of one Mr. John Wright, near the place where he lay, and there, recommending his soul to God, with some pious ejacula- tions, he pays the great debt of nature, and death, less cruel than his enemies, put a period to his sufferings. "After they had surfeited themselves with cruelties, they plundered the general's house and broke open his store-houses, so that his estate must have suffered by 26 MEVIOIR OF that day in money, plate, jewels, clothes, and household goods, by the most moderate computpttion, five thousand pounds sterling, for which his executors have obtained no satisfaction to this day. Thus died Colonel Parke, whose brave end shows him sufficiently deserving of the commission he bore, and by his death acquired an honor to his memory, which the base aspersions of his enemies could not overthrow." This tragedy occurred on the 7th of December, 1710. Colonel Parke's will, in which he devised all of his for- tune in the Leeward islands to an illegitimate daughter, on condition that she should take his name and coatrof arms, naturally gave great offence to his children, and a tedious law-suit was the consequence. His legal de- scendants are still in possession of much of his property in Virginia, and part of the handsome service of plate presented to him by Queen Anne. His friends maintain that in his public career his life was irreproachable, and that loyalty to the queen was the cause of his destruc- tion ; yet his royal mistress forgot her favorite, allowed his murderers to hold his government of Antigua, and never remunerated his heirs for the losses sustained in her cause. The treatment he received is an emphatic example of the wisdom of the injunction, " Put not your trust in princes." Among the old family papers at Arlington house, I have found many amusing and interesting letters, written by Colonel William Byrd, of Westover (to whom refer- ence has already been made), who as we have observed, married a daughter of Colonel Parke, and was for a long time in London after the death of his father-in-law, at- tending to the settlement of that gentleman's estate. GEORGE WASHINGTON TARKE CUSTIS. 27 As some of these letters have reference to family matters, and are interesting in themselves, I insert a few, believ- ing that they are not out of place here, considering their connection. They are addressed to Colonel John Cnstis, his brother-in-law. The following letter, in which reference is made to Colonel Parke, was written in Virginia two years before the tragedy occurred in Antigua : — « Octoler, 1709. " I have lately been favored with an unusual pleasure from Antigua, in which I find we have not altogether been forgotten. Our Father Parke says his time was very short and he could not write to you then, but is much in charity with us all. I give you joy on the blessing you have had of a daughter, and hope she will be an ornament to the sex, and a happiness to her parents. Our son sends you his dutiful respects, and I may ven- ture to say, as much for Miss Evelyn, who has grown a great romp, and enjoys very robust health. How is Madam Dunn? for there goes a prophecy about, that in the eastern parts of Virginia a parson's wife will, in the year of our Lord, 1710, have four children at a birth, one of which will be an admiral, and another Archbishop of Canterbury. What the other two will prove, the sybil can not positively say, but doubtless they will be some- thing extraordinary. " My choicest compliments to Mrs. Custis, and if Mrs. Dunn be not too demure a prude, now she is related to the church, I would send her my salutes in the best form. " Your most affectionate humble servant, W. Byrd. " To Colonel JoiiN Custis." 28 MEMOIR OF On the 21st of January, 1715, Colonel Bjrd wrote to Colonel Custis, from London, as follows : — " Tis a singular pleasure to hear by my brigantine of my dear brother's recovery from so sharp and tedious an illness. I long to be with you, for this j)hace, that used to have so many charms is very tasteless, and though my person is here, my heart is in Virginia. My affairs suc- ceed well enough, but all solicitation goes on very slowly by reason that the ministry is taken up with the Rebel- lion, which is stni as flagrant as ever in Scotland, and my patron, the Duke of Argyle, commands there against them.'^ I am in perfect peace with all concerned in debts due from Colonel Parke. I have paid the most importunate, and allow interest for the bonds I can not yet discharge, and should be very easy if I could get the interest of his customhouse debt remitted, which I do not yet despair of I wish my dear brother a full con- firmation of his health. If he has the courage to venture upon another wife, I hope he will be more easy in his second choice than he was in his first.f " I am, with most entire affection, dear brother, "Your most obedient servant, W. Byrd." * King James II., was driven from the English throne in 1688. In 1715 his son, Edward, made an unsuccessful attempt, through the aid of the Scotch, to regain the throne of his father, as his uncle, Charles XL, had that of his sire, m 1660. This effort produced quite a serious rebellion. A grandson of King James made another attempt to recover the throne by the aid of the Scotch, in 1745, and a still more seri- ous rebellion was the consequence. The father and son who made these attempts, are known in history as the Old and the Young Pretenders. t At about this time Colonel Byrd purchased a watch in London for Colonel Custis, and in a letter that accompanied it to Virginia, he said : " I forebode this to be a sort of equipage with which you intend to set out a courting. The misfortune is, that you can not with tolerable decency draw forth your watch in presence of your mistress without giving her some suspicion thai you measure the time you spend in her company." /■ GEORGE WASHINGTON PARKE CUSTIS. 29 Again, on the 2cl of October, 171G, Colonel Byrd wrote from London to Colonel Custis, as follows: — " It is a great surprise to you as to many others, that Mr. Roscow has been made receiver-general* I confess, if I had given away the place, it is likely Mr. Roscow is not the person in the world I should soonest have given it to, but if you put the case that I sold it, you would not wonder that I should dispose of it to so fair a bidder as he was ; and, indeed, I fancy there are not many would have given <£500 for it. Besides, it is not an easy matter to transfer an office depending upon the treasury ; and if I should have taken so much time as to send over to Virginia to treat with any person there, I might have slipt my opportunity and lost my market. This being the case, you will cease to wonder at the matter. The kind visit which my wife has made me will be the occasion of my staying here another winter, that so she may see this town in all its glory j and I am the more content to tarry, because the lieutenant-governor has sent over a spitefid. complaint against me and Colonel Ludwell, which it concerns me to answer. I assure you it was not my apprehension of being removed by any complaint that might be formed against me that made me resign ; but such an office as that of receiver- general of the king's revenue makes a man liable to be ill-treated by a governor, under the notion of advancing his majesty's interest, by which pious pretence he may * Receiver-general of the colony of Virginia, held by Colonel Byrd at that time. This letter lifts the veil from the secret workings of the old colonial government, when placemen disposed of offices to the highest bidders ; for then, as now, there were large opportunities for public plunder. The people then had little to say con- cerning the administration of public aflfairs, especially by those anpointed by the crown. 30 jjEMom OF heap insupportable trouble upon that officer, if he should have the spirit to oppose his will and pleasure — he must either be a slave to his humor, must fawn upon him, and jump over a stick whenever he is bid, or else he must have so much trouble loaded upon hun as to make his place uneasy. In short, such a man must be either the governor's dog or his ass ; neither of which stations suit in the least with my constitution. For this reason I resolved to make the most of it by surrender- ing to any one that would come up to my price, well knowing that my interest in the treasury was suffi- cient to do it, and now I am at full liberty to oppose every design that may seem to be arbitrary or unjust. The current news which you had of my being governor of the Leeward Islands, expresses very naturally the genius of our country for invention. I protest to you it never once entered into my head to sue for that gov- ernment. " God in heaven bless you and your two little cherubs, to whom I wish all happiness, being your most affection- ate brother, «W. Byed." At this time Colonel Byrd wrote as follows to an un- known female friend : — " I have been made happy with several of Irene's let- ters, and at this time stand in need of most diversion to support me under the melancholy I suffer for my dear Fidelia's absence. I fear you are too busy in copying after the wise women that Solomon describes, to spend much of your tune upon hoiv do ye's. But remember that the consequence of care is early wrinkles, and what- ever you may get by it, you will be sure to lose in GEORGE WASHINGTON PARKE CUSTIS. 31 peace and constitution. They tell me you have been immoderately afflicted for the loss of your ' dear Poppet,' but, by the terms on which it was born, you were to part with it when its Maker pleased. You ought to have re- flected that Providence acts by unerring wisdom, and therefore would never had recalled its gifts but because it w^as better so than the contrary would be. God Al- mighty is ever contriving for our happiness, and does many things for our good which appear to our short sight to be terrible misfortunes. But by the time the last act of the play comes on, we grow convinced of our mistake, and look back with pleasure to those scenes wdiicli at first appeared unfortunate. This is the case in most accidents that are called disasters, misery, and many other terms, which our ignorance gives them. We should imitate the philosopher that we read of, who, when he heard of his son's death, calmly observed, that he was saved from the evil to come ; and of the misconduct of his wife, told his friend without any disorder, that he knew he had married a woman. This equality of temper would save the world abundance of sighs and com- plaints, especially that part of it that acknowleges itself in the care of a wise and merciful God. " Pardon me, dear Irene, for preaching, which is ill-bred, because it supposes that the party stands in need of it. However, I can excuse the rudeness by pleading the in- finite inclination I have for your happiness. I would have you without fault, which will suppose you without any misfortune." Toward the close of the year 1716, Colonel Byrd wrote to Colonel Custis, as follows : — *^ My daughter, Evelyn, has arrived safe, thank God, and 32 MEMOIR OF 1 hope I shall manage her in such a manner, that she may be no discredit to her country. I am endeavoring to get something from the treasury for your children and mine, but as the success of it is somewhat doubtful, I will mention no more about it till it shall be deter- mined. I do long to see you, but can hardly persuade myself to return till I can get it decided, w^hether a governor may hang any man he takes to be his adver- sary or not. For if it be in his power to appoint me my judges, I am sure I won't come within his reach lest I fall a sacrifice to his resentment. However, I am laboring with all my might to hinder so great a power from being lodged in any bashaw, lest they be too much inclined to make use of it. We have got both the to- bacco law and that about the Indian trade repealed, which I hope may not be unacceptable to the country. I wish you, and your dear, pretty children, all health and happiness, being with all my love, dear brother, your most obedient, humble servant. W. Byrd." Shortly after this. Colonel Byrd conveyed to Colonel Custis very melancholy intelligence, as follows : — "London, loth December, 1716. " When I ^vrote last I little expected that I should be forced to tell you the very melancholy news of my dear Lucy's death, by the very same, cruel distemper that destroyed her sister. She was taken with an insupport- able pain in her head. The doctor soon discovered her ailment to be the small-pox, and we thought it best to tell her the danger."^' She received the news without * Two years later than this (1718), Lady Mary Wortley Montagu returned from Constantino])le, and introduced the practice of inoculation for the small-pox, which she had learned while in that eastern city. Vaccination was introduced by Jenner, about the year 1776. GEORGE WASHINGTON PARKE CUSTIS. do the least fright, and was persuaded she would live until the day she died, which happened in 12 hours from the time she was taken. Gracious God what pains did she take to make a voyage hither to seek a grave. No stranger ever met with more respect in a strange coun- try than she had done here, from many persons of dis- tinction, who all pronounced her an honor to Virginia. Alas ! how proud was I of her, and how severely am I punished for it. But I can dwell no longer on so afflict- ing a subject, much less can I think of anything else, therefore, I can only recommend myself to your pity, and am as much as any one can be, dear brother, your most affectionate and humble servant, W. Byrd." Returning from this long digression, we will resume the memoir of the author of the Recollections. George Washington Parke Custis was born at Mount Airy, Maryland, on the thirtieth of April, 1781. That was the seat of his maternal grandfather, Benedict Cal- vert, a descendant of Cecil Calvert, Lord Baltimore.* The walls of this venerable mansion are graced with fine portraits of several of the Lords Baltimore, by Vandyke ; and one of Eleanor Calvert, the mother of Mr. Custis. It represents a young lady of a romantic and slight figure in a riding costume, with a boy's hat and open jacket. She seems scarcely fifteen, with a bright and hopeful countenance. Such was her temper- ament, we are told, through all the toils of life. The com- mencement of her career was brilliant enough. Married at sixteen to John Parke Custis, a youth of nineteen, * Cecil Calvert was the second Lord Baltimore, and son of the first of that title, who obtained from Charles the First a charter for a domain in America, which, in honor of his Queen, Henriette Marie (Mary), he called Maryland. 3 ^ O-i MEMOm OF tlie ward and favorite of Washington, the only son of Mrs. Washington, of large fortune, and a most amiable and generous disposition, they passed several years at Abingdon, a country-seat on the Potomac, near Wash- ington city, in the enjoyment of such felicity as rarely falls to the lot of mortals. After the death of Mrs. Washington's daughter, al- ready mentioned, the hopes of the mother centred in this son, who was then between sixteen and seventeen years of age. She was extremely indulgent to him, and she often pleaded in his behalf, when Washington found it necessary to exercise a wholesome restraint upon him. He was placed under the care of an episco- pal clergjnnan, at Annapolis, in Maryland, to be educated, but the wayward boy was frequently away from his studies, engaged in fox-hunting and other amusements at Mount Vernon. He conceived a strong desire to travel, but Washington opposed a scheme that would interrupt his studies. It was abandoned, but he soon became diverted from his books by a passion stronger than a desire to travel. He became deeply enamored of Eleanor, the second daughter of Benedict Calvert, of Mount Airy, Maryland, and much to the concern of Washington, when he discovered it, they formed a matri- monial engagement. His only objection was their ex- treme youth; and on the third of April, 1773, he ad- dressed the following letter to Mr. Calvert : — y' _ "Mount Vebnon, Afril 3rd, 1773. " Dear Sir : I am now set down to write to you on a subject of importance, and of no small embarrassment to me. My son-in-law and ward, Mr. Custis, has, as I have been informed, paid his addresses to your second GEORGE WASHINGTON TAEKE CUSTIS. 35 danghter, and, having made some progress in lier affec- tions, has sohcited her in marriage. How far a union of this sort may be agreeable to you, you best can tell ; but I should think myself wanting in candor, were I not to confess, that Miss Nelly's amiable qualities are acknowl- edged on all hands, and that an alliance with your family will be pleasing to his. " This acknowledment being made, you must permit me to add, sir, that at this, or in any short time, his youth, inexperience, and unripened education, are, and will be, insuperable obstacles, in my opinion, to the com- pletion of the marriage. As his guardian, I consider it my indispensable duty to endeavor to carry him through a regular course of education (many branches of which, I am sorry to add, he is totally deficient in), and to guard his youth to a more advanced age, before an event, on which his own peace and the happiness of an- other are to depend, takes place. Not that I have any doubt of the warmth of his affections, nor, I hope I may add, any fears of a change in them ; but at present I do not conceive that he is capable of bestowing that atten- tion to the important consequences of the married state, which is necessary to be given by those who are about to enter into it, and of course I am unwilling he should do it till he is. If the affection which they have avowed for each other is fixed upon a solid basis, it will receive no diminu^tion in the course of two or three years, in which time he may prosecute his studies, and thereby render himself more deserving of the lady, and useful to society. If, unfortunately, as they are both young, there should be an abatement of affection on either side, or both, it had better precede than follow marriage. 36 MEMOIR OF " Delivering my sentiments thus freely will not, I hope, lead you into a belief that I am desirous of breaking off the match. To postpone it is all I have in view ; for I shall recommend to the young gentleman, with the warmth that becomes a man of honor (notwithstanding he did not vouchsafe to consult either his mother or me on the occasion), to consider himself as much engaged to your daughter as if the indissoluble knot were tied ; and, as the surest means of effecting this, to apply him- self closely to his studies (and in this advice, I flatter myself, you will join me), by which he will, in a great measure, avoid those little flirtations with other young ladies, that may, by dividing the attention, contribij^te not a little to divide the affection. " It may be expected of me, perhaps, to say something of property ; but, to descend to particulars, at this time, must seem rather premature. In general, therefore, I shall inform you, that Mr. Custis's estate consists of about fifteen thousand acres of land, a good part of it adjoining the city of Williamsburg, and none of it forty miles from that j^lace; several lots in the said city; between two and three hundred negroes; and about eight or ten thousand pounds upon bond, and in the hands of his merchants. This estate he now holds, inde- pendent of his mother's dower, which will be an addition to it at her death ; and, upon the whole, it is such an estate as you will readily acknowledge, ought to entitle him to a handsome portion with a wife. But as I should never require a child of my own to make a sacrifice of himself to interest, so neither do I think it incumbent on me to recommend it as a guardian. At all times when you, Mrs. Calvert, or the young GEORGE WASHINGTON PARKE CUSTIS. 37 ladies can make it convenient to favor us with a visit, we should be happy in seeing you at this place. Mrs. Washington and Miss Custis join me in respectful com- pliments, and, " I am, dear sir, your most obedient servant." It was agreed that the youth should pass two years at college, before the marriage could take place. He was sent to King's (now Columbia) college, in New York city, but he remained there only a few months. Love and learning did not move in harmony, and on the third of February, 1774, young Custis was married to JNIiss Calvert, when the bridegroom was a little more than nineteen years of age. Four children were the fruits of this union, all born at Abingdon, except George Washington Parke. Elizabeth Parke was born on the twenty-first of August, 1776, and married Mr. Law, nephew of Lord Ellenborough. She was a lady of great beauty and talent. Martha Parke was born on the thirty-first of December, 1777, and was early married to Thomas Peter. She was a woman of fine and dignified appearance. Her husband was a man of wealth, and great excellence of character ; and she passed her long life in the conscientous performance of all her domestic duties. Eleanor Parke, born on the twenty-first of March, 1779, married Lawrence Lewis, the favorite nephew of General Washington. George Washington Parke, the youngest child, first saw the light, as we have observed, at Mount Airy, in April, 178L Very soon the bright sky that illumined the household of John Parke Custis and his young wife became dark- 38 MEMOIR OF ened. He was aid-cle-camp to General Washington at the siege of Yorktown. A violent attack of camp-fever obliged him to leave his post for Eltham, a place not far distant. General Washington hastened thither as soon as possible, but was met at the door by Dr. Craik, who informed him that all was over. The chief bowed his head, and in tears gave vent to his deep sorrow ; then turning to the weeping mother, he said : " I adopt the two younger children as my own."-^ Thus, at six months of age, did my father, the subject of this Memoir, become the child of Mount Vernon, the idol of his grandmother, and an object on which was lavished the caresses and attention of the many distinguished guests who thronged that hospitable mansion. His beautiful sis- ter Nelly often observed : " Grandmamma always spoiled Washington." He was " the pride of her heart," while the public duties of the veteran prevented the exercise of his influence in forming the character of the boy, too softly nurtured under his roof, and gifted with talents which, under a sterner discipline, might have been made more available for his own and his country's good. It was not until he entered the college at Princeton, that the attention of the "father" was particularly drawn to those faults, which should have been cor- rected at an earher period. The deep solicitude which tliese faults occasioned may be estimated, in a meas- ure, by the correspondence between Washington and the son of his adoption, appended to this Memoir. At the time of the birth of Eleanor (the eldest of the two children adopted by Washington), her mother was * George Washington Paike Custis, and Eleanor Parke Custis. GEORGE WASH^GTON PARKE CUSTIS. 39 very ill, and Mrs. Washington took the child to Mount Vernon, to be nursed by the wife of the steward, a healthy English woman named Anderson, who had lost her infant. She called Mrs. Anderson "mammy," and remembered running with her to meet the General and Lady Washington, on their return from camp in a car- riage drawn by six horses. She was then three years old, having remained all that time under the care of Mrs. Lund Washington, the wife of the general's agent. Her young brother, George, was nursed by the same woman. A daughter of Mrs. Lewis, (formerly Eleanor Parke Custis) informed the writer that their first tutor was Gideon Snow. "I saw him when I was in Boston," she said, "in 1824. He called with a grown daughter to see my mother, and talked of 'little George,' and seemed sincerely attached to both his pupils, and to be himself respected and beloved in Boston."* Their sec- * The following letter, written to Mr. Custis by his old tutor, after the lapse of more than fifty years, possesses much interest : — "Boston, 7th. March, 1850. " My Dear Friend : I am much gratified by receiving your esteemed letter of 3d instant yesterday. You ask a copy of your letter of ancient date. With pleas- ure I comply with your request. The original has been preserved with care and interest, for the love I bore the writer ; but if the writer has a wish to possess it, I shall be gratified to send it to him. I received it enclosed by our mutual friend, Mr. Lear, in a letter, which I can not find, but recollect he informed me it was written at your own request, on a very warm afternoon. When finished you expressed your wish to have it forwarded. Mr. Lear requested me to retain it with care, as it was the first letter you had expressed a wish to write, and the time would come when you would receive pleasure in seeing it should your life be spared. " I showed you the letter when I had the pleasure of meeting you in Boston, after an absence of more than fifty years. I do not recollect naming the date at any time. I might have done so — the date is 1787, instead of 1785 as named by you. " In looking over a few of Mr. Lear's letters, which I have retained, I see, under date July 9th, 1787, 'I have a message : Washington sends his love to you, and Bays you are not a man of your word, for you promised to come down here on Sun- 40 MEMOIR OF ond tutor was Mr. Lear, afterward private secretary to General Washington, who lived at the president's house in Philadelphia. Nelly Custis was considered one of the most beautiful women of the day, to which her portrait, at Arlington house, by Gilbert Stuart, bears testimony. All who knew her can recall the pleasure which they derived from her extensive information, brilliant wit, and boundless generosity. The most tender parent and devoted friend, she lived in the enjoyment of her affections.* She was often urged to write her memoirs, which might even have surpassed, in interest to her countrymen, those of Madame de Se^dgne and others of equal note, as her pen gave free utterance to her lively imagination and clear memory. Would that we could recall the many tales of the past we have heard from her lips, but alas ! we should fail to give them accurately. One narrative day and did not.' — My inclination was good, but a call to another act prevented. When we met again your interest did not appear diminished. On the 9th January, 1788, 'handsome soft black cloth was purchased for your coat and overalls.' Dec. 18, 1788, 1 was asked to inquire of Dr. Craik where he procured the Latin grammar for his sons, ' as I am about initiating my young pupil in that language.' These extracts may amuse. From your deai', departed mother I always received maternal kindness. The recollection of her will never pass from me. I passed one Sunday at Hope Park very happily. Your dear mother and your sisters were present. Mrs. Snow requests her respectful remembrance. I thought of you at Eichmond with the president. I imagined you happy in the enjoyments of the interesting scene. I thank you for your kind wishes, and sincerely reciprocate them. " Gideon Snow." The fallowing is the copy of the letter alluded to by Mr. Snow : — "Mount Vernon, May \2th, 1787. "Dear Snow: I should be very happy to see you here if you can find time to come down. When will you send my waggon to me ? For my old one is almost worn out, and I shall have none to get in my harvest with. I am, dear Snow, your friend, &c.. Very H'ble Serv't, G. W. P. Custis." * She died in Clarke county, Virginia, in 1852, at the age of seventy-four years. GEORGE WASHINGTON PARKE CUSTIS. 41 is retained, as it made a strong impression at the time. She said the most perfect harmony always existed " be- tween her grandmamma and the general;" that in all his intercourse with her he was most considerate and tender. She had often seen her when she had some- thing to communicate, or a request to make, at a mo- ment when his mind was entirely abstracted from the present, seize him by the button to command his atten- tion, when he would look down upon her with a most benignant smile, and become at once attentive to her and her wishes, which were never slighted. She also said, the grave dignity which he usually wore did not prevent his keen enjoyment of a joke, and that no one laughed more heartily than he did, when she, her- self, a gay, laughing girl, gave one of her saucy descrip- tions of any scene in which she had taken part, or any one of the merry pranks she then often played; and that he would retire from the room in which her young companions were amusing themselves, because his presence created a reserve which they could not overcome. But he always regretted it exceedingly, as he liked nothing better than to look on at their sports and see them happy. His letter to her on the occasion of her first ball, may be so appropriately introduced here, that we give it entire, precisely as it was written in the original, now before us. Miss Custis was then about sixteen years of age. "Phila., January 16, 1795. " Your letter, the receipt of which I am now acknowl- edging, is written correctly and in fair characters, which is an evidence that you command, when you please, a fair hand. Possessed of these advantages, it will be 42 MEMOIR OF your own fault if jou clo not avail yourself of them, and attention being paid to the choice of your subjects, you can have nothing to fear from the malignancy of criticism, as your ideas are lively, and your descriptions agreeable. Let me touch a little now on your George- town ball, and happy, thrice happy, for the fair who were assembled on the occasion, that there was a man to spare ; for had there been 79 ladies and only 78 gen- tlemen, there might, in the course of the evening, have been some disorder among the caps; notwithstanding the apathy which one of the company entertains for the 'l/outN of the present day, and her determination ' never to give herself a moment's uneasiness on account of any of them.' A hint here ; men and women feel the same inclinations to each other noiv that they always have done, and which they will continue to do until there is a new order of things, and you, as others have done, may find, perhaps, that the passions of your sex are easier raised than allayed. Do not, therefore, boast too soon or too strongly of your insensibility to, or resist- ance of, its powers. In the comjDOsition of the human frame there is a good deal of inflammable matter, how- ever dormant it may lie for a time, and like an inti- mate acquaintance of yours, when the torch is put to it, that which is ivithin you may burst into a blaze ; for which reason, and especially too, as I have entered upon the chapter of advices, I will read you a lecture drawn from this text. "Love is said to be an involuntary passion, and it is, therefore, contended that it can not be resisted. This is true in part only, for like all things else, when nour- ished and supplied plentifully with aliment, it is rapid in GEORGE WASHmGTON PARKE CUSTIS. 43 its progress; but let these be withdrawn and it may be stifled in its birth or much stinted in its growth. For example, a woman (the same may be said of the other sex) all beautiful and accomplished, will, while her hand and heart are undisposed of, turn the heads and set the circle in which she moves on fire. Let her marry, and what is the consequence. The madness ceases and all is quiet again. Why ? not because there is any diminution in the charms of the lady, but because there is an end of hope. Hence it follows, that love may and therefore ought to be under the guidance of reason, for although we can not avoid first impressions, we may assuredly place them under guard; and my motives for treating on this subject are to show you, while you remain Eleanor Parke Custis, sj^inster, and retain the resolution to love with moderation, the pro- priety of adhering to the latter resolution, at least until you have secured your game, and the way by which it may be accomplished. " When the fire is beginning to kmdle, and your heart growing warm, propound these questions to it. Who is this invader ? Have I a competent knowledge of him ? Is he a man of good character ; a man of sense ? For, be assured, a sensible woman can never be happy with a fool. What has been his walk of life ? Is he a gambler, a sjDendthrift, or drunkard ? Is his fortune sufficient to maintain me in the manner I have been accustomed to live, and my sisters do live, and is he one to whom my friends can have no reasonable objection ? If these in- terrogatories can be satisfactorily answered, there will remain but one more to be asked, that, however, is an important one. Have I sufficient ground to conclude 44 MEMOIR OF that his affections are engaged by me? Without this the heart of sensibihty will struggle against a passion that is not reciprocated — delicacy, custom, or call it by what epithet you will, having precluded all advances on your part. The declaration, wdthout the most indirect in- vitation of yours, must proceed from the man, to render it permanent and valuable, and nothing short of good sense and an easy unaffected conduct can draw the line between prudery and coquetry. It would be no great departure from truth to say, that it rarely happens otherwise than that a thorough-paced coquette dies in celibacy, as a punishment for her attempts to mislead others, by encouraging looks, words, or actions, given for no other purpose than to draw men on to make overtures that they may be rejected. " This day, according to our information, gives a hus- band to your elder sister, and consummates, it is to be presumed, her fondest desires. The dawn with us is bright, and propitious, I hope, of her future happiness, for a full measure of which she and Mr. Law have my earnest wishes. Compliments and congratulations on this occasion, and best regards are presented to your mamma. Dr. Stuart and family; and every blessing, among which, a good husband when you want and de- serve one, is bestowed on you by yours, affectionately."* This beautiful and accomplished lady married Law^- rence Lewis, the favorite nephew of Washington, and * Washington wrote many other letters to his sprightly ward and foster-child, but they have been lost or destroyed. These seem to show how his comprehensive mind had moments of thought and action to bestow on all connected with him, and how deeply his affections were interested in the family of his wife, who were cared for as if they had been his own. They were written at a time when the cares of state, as president of the republic, were pressing heavily upon him. \. %-rA' GEORGE WASHINGION PARKE CUSTIS. 45 son of his only sister, Elizabeth, of whose remarkable resemblance to the general, mention is made in the memoir of their mother, given in the Recollections. They were married on the twenty-second of February (Wash- ington's birthday), 1799. A month before, Washington wrote to his nephew, as follows : — / "Mount Vernon, 23^? January., 1799. " Dear Lawrence : Your letter of the 10th instant I received in Alexandria, on Monday, whither I w^ent to become the guardian of Nelly, thereby to authorize a license for your nuptials on the 22d of next month, when, I presimie, if your health is restored, there will be no impediment to your union.* " The letters herewith sent were received two or three days ago ; and until your letter of the above date came to hand, I knew not with certainty to what place to direct them. They are put under cover to your brother of Fredericksburgh, to await your arrival at that place. "I enclose the one to your lieutenant, Mr. Lawrence Washington, for safety, and because it may be necessary that you should have a conference with him respecting the plan for recruiting your troops when the order and the means for doing so are received. All, however, that you, Washington, and Custis, have to do at present, is simply to acknowledge the receipt of the letter from the * The following letter, authorizing the license, is copied from the original, which is addressed "To Captain George Deneale, clerk of Fairfax county court :" — "Mount Vernox, 19