■UK-* / X ^\ °c vf><3 • ^ ■ * ^°* • ,* T > ^ ^ v % ' . . 5 ■a? ■* iO-TS ^ " ° - -*A ^o v V <> > » * ^ V / THE FIRST BABY HIS TRIALS AND THE TRIALS OF HIS PA.RENTS, By Jerome Walker, m. d., PHYSICIAN TO " THE SEASIDE HOME FOR CHILDREN, CONEY ISLAND ; LECTURER ON "DISEASES 0¥ CHILDREN" AT " LONG ISLAND HOSPITAL MEDICAL COLLEGE," ETC., ETC. 1 3 NEW YORK: ZBie,0"W":r>r & DERBY, 21 PARK PLACE. l88l. <{&> *& Copyrighted by Brown & Derby. 1881. CONTENTS. Chapter I. - - - -> - - The First Baby Chapter II. - - The Doctor Chapter III. .... The Mothers-in-Law Chapter IV. The Council Chapter V. The Christening Chapter VI. - - - "Wanted— A Wet Nurse* ' Chapter VII. ----- On the Trail Chapter VIII. - Reports Progress Chapter IX. - Our Neighbors Children Chapter X. - - - - - The Nursery Chapter XI. - The New Platform Chapter XII. - - - - - - - Johnnie Chapter XIII. - The Author's Conclusion INTRODUCTORY. FT is generally considered by the average ob- -*■ server, a "streak of good luck" and the only good fortune parents may congratulate themselves upon in the rearing of children — if a baby escapes entirely, or lives through, the mea- sles, chicken-pox, and other "children's diseases." " Having once passed these ailments, the child's future prosperity is assured," — so many people believe. The cattle-raiser may with much greater pro- priety congratulate himself when his pigs and calves have " come through " safely, or with little apparent injury, the epidemic, pest, or plague, for in either case, the animals will soon be sold or killed for food, and then all his care and interest ceases. (5) INTRODUCTORY. With the babe, care begins even before its birth. The hopes and fears, the preparations for the stranger, who may make or mar the joy of the household, are but the beginnings of a care which may extend far beyond the life of a babe as a babe, which should extend to manhood and woman- hood. As there are mothers and mothers, so there are various degrees and kinds of care, but our av- erage observer does not know of them, and cannot appreciate that good, intelligent care will often pull a child through a severe sickness, when a half-way care or none at all, will allow the child to die or be maimed, it may be, for life. But, says our observer, "who is to point out what is proper care, and what have you to say, in answer to the common belief, that when a baby sickens or dies, it is an expression of the 'will of God,' or is a 'dispensation of Divine Provi- dence?'" INTRODUCTORY. My friend, experience in the ways and manage- ment of children is the guide to proper care, but it is not expected that parents with their first children will have much of this commodity, yet with " common sense," it can be acquired. Knowledge will then show that a violation of health laws results in disease and death, that an observation of sanitary measures will prevent many of the deaths among children now con- sidered by many as inevitable. The good Lord will then be looked up to, as one who " helps those who help themselves/' or assist others, and will not be held responsible when our babies die, for our sins of omission or commission, in our neglect or over care of them. Human babies are more helpless than the young of animals, and need assistance for a longer time. A current sentiment, relic of bar- barism, points to the mother as the parent who is to afford the assistance. By what right does the INTRODUCTORY. father claim exemption from responsibility? The whole of parental duty does not consist in rock- ing and singing the baby to sleep, and in feeding it — occupations which are looked upon as fem- inine in character. The baby needs at times to be amused, and to see faces other than those its little eyes have looked upon through the day. A strong, capable father, with a cheery face and a gentle but firm embrace, who owns, it may be, a watch whose "wheels go round," to the great delight of the little ones — such a man relieves the monotony of a child's life, and affords rest to the mother. How many of us men, think you, ever really appreciate the cares and anxieties many of the mothers of our children contend with ? It has been our misfortune to meet with mothers totally incompetent, and who, probably, always will be — to see " sticks of husbands and fathers," who thought it beneath their dignity to INTRODUCTORY. " look after a child " — but the saddest revelation was a father and mother, man and wife, who were the veriest old women, though still comparatively young in years, that one could imagine. No wonder their children were sickly and finical, with parents with no resolution of purpose. When parents are well mated and have intelli- gent ideas as to what a baby is, how it differs in construction and purposes from a puppet or the most delicate piece of machinery imaginable, with wheels and levers and motions capable of being disarranged by the slightest breath or touch — a rugged constitution, the ability to contend suc- cessfully with the variable changes incident to our climate will be considered of more impor- tance than the mere escape from children's dis- eases. The " good luck " for a baby resides in intel- ligent parents. Just here our average observer asks, " Can all IO INTRODUCTORY. parents acquire intelligent ideas ? " Our reply is, No, not at the present time. The time will come, we trust, when physiology and hygiene will be taught to growing boys and girls ; when young men and women will have outlined to them, dangers which beset their paths ; when young parents may listen to inter- esting lectures from reliable sources upon the management of children. Then, and not till then, can we look for great results. In the meantime, truths are to be spoken of and reiterated in various forms, as best they may. For years it has been the privilege of the writer to mingle with parents and children, in private practice and public work in nurseries, hospitals, homes, and dispensaries, and thus hav- ing by force of circumstances become conversant with babies and their trials, he has been asked to effect what good he could, by distributing through INTRODUCTORY. i r the press some of the information obtained. Part of this information has already been anonymously given to the public by the author, in a little volume entitled " How we Raised .Our Baby." The sev- eral editions of the book having been exhausted, at the urgent solicitation of medical friends espe- cially, I have concluded to have the book repub- lished under my own name, but only after a thorough revision and rearrangement. In a new dress, with a new name, and with added material, it is now presented to the consid- eration of all interested in " The First Baby," to arouse and sustain their interest in the care of children. It has seemed best to start with a young couple and their first baby, and by comparisons, to pre- sent various types of parents and babies as we follow the career of " the first baby." It is to be regretted, perhaps, that the plot of the story is so meagre, but the writer lays no I2 INTRODUCTORY. claim to being a novelist, and the narrative serves merely as a thread upon which to hang facts and to display to advantage, real men, women, and babies. Jerome Walker. Brooklyn, May 23^, 1881. Chapter I. THE FIRST BABY. JT has been suggested that I, Robert Matthews, father of a first baby, should detail, for the benefit of mankind, my experience and that of my wife in the rearing of our youngster. I am somewhat loath to do this, for our baby was compelled to pass through many trials, and yet perhaps Lena and I knew about as much of the care of children as the generality of young parents, and the baby did not have more to contend with than many first babies do, so I am told, Authorities claim that first babies die in greater numbers than those who succeed them, and if that be so, then of course one must not wonder at the tribulations our little fellow was subject to. Yes, I be- lieve we were about on a level with the majority of young couples, i. e. y as far as finances and knowledge are concerned. My wife was the youngest of seven children, and undoubtedly had been petted as the youngest will often be, yet she was not " spoiled." Living with her parents 05) !6 a new home. at the old homestead for years, every wish of hers had apparently been gratified. Ordinarily among the friends of the family she was looked upon as a pleasant, agreeable young lady, but " with no aim in life ; " yet she had inherited vigor of intellect and possessed a physical energy and a sunny disposition which sustained a not very strong body. Such was the woman I fell in love with, and I thought to myself, as I was becoming more and more entangled in the silken meshes of love's net, "All this girl needs is to have a home of her own, to show her friends of what material she is made"— and so, after a reasonable court- ship, I gave her a home ; but before we move into it, allow me to briefly describe myself. Imagine then before you a man twenty-four years of age, of medium height, muscular, and tolerably good-look- ing — a fellow who in his younger days had ranked as somewhat " harum-scarum," but who now had " settled down " with ambition and energy, some common sense, and certain vague ideas as to the duties one owes to his family, his country and his God. Such was the man who married Lena Vincent in the beautiful village of Willmot, Minnesota, and brought her to his home in New York City. HOME COMFORTS. Y y My salary was a moderate one, but enough for three, for Bridget was an important personage in the family. The little money I had saved before marriage served to plainly furnish a small house. A cupboard with neatly arranged shelves showed to the best advantage our little stock of dishes and cooking utensils. The new black walnut clock, the bright carpets and polished furniture; the array of towels, napkins, sheets and pillow-cases in our linen closet; the round table in our sitting-room, with its bright crimson cover ; our collection of books — all pointed to comfort. We were comfortable. For the first year little was planned for the future. The present was sufficient in its happiness. The ease with which we accommodated ourselves to circumstances, as I look back now, was wonderful. On Bridget's day out, Lena was delighted to act as cook. If we had griddle-cakes, we ate in the kitchen, Lena and I taking turns in supplying each other with hot cakes. (And let me say here,, that such light, hot, delicious, digestible cakes are not easily obtained, when the servant or dumb-waiter is compelled to carry them from room to room.) Concerts, lectures, and entertainments we occasionally enjoyed, as the funds could be spared. Fortunately for us, we could find enjoyment in reading. Neighbors visited us, and we returned their calls; and in this way X S THE ARRIVAL. our first year of married life passed pleasantly. Lena thought that "now she did have an aim in life, and that was to look out for my comfort," and I felt sure that I had not been mistaken in the woman I had chosen. Into the second year we drifted, as happy as any loving pair could, upon the smooth, still waters of contentment. The tide of time had scarcely rippled the surface of our placid enjoyment, and not for one moment did we sup- pose that anything or anybody could change the current of our lives, or in any way interrupt it — yet the baby did. It arrived in the night, and here we were alone, for Bridget had left us in the lurch, having anticipated the arrival. I had expected to employ Doctor Naman, but I had failed to solicit his services in advance, being a novice in these matters, and so was compelled to call in Doctor Lyons, who lived close by. With the assistance and encouragement of the doctor, Lena bore up bravely ; and I was presented with a little, crying boy-baby, that must be washed, dressed and fed. Between the doctor and myself the bathing and clothing were effected ; but of how much service I was cannot now be estimated. I do remember, though, that- by the time that work was done, the morning rays of the sun shone into the room. The doctor turned off the gaslight, closed those shutters which had directed the sun's rays into the baby's -NURSING. T g face, for fear that the strong light would injure the little one's eyes, which were blinking already. "If your wife was strong enough, Mr. Matthews," he said, "I should desire her (for her own and the baby's sake) to attempt to nurse within one hour after its birth. This early nursing hastens the milk, acts (from the so- called * colostrum ' particles which the secretion contains at this time) as a laxative to the child, and often pre- vents serious hemorrhages with the mother. In one sense you are fortunate in not having a nurse at this time : you are saved meaningless or hurtful suggestions. The ignorant woman believes in giving molasses and water, or a little gin, etc. The more intelligent (?) will advise some medicine. Our best nurses come from the Schools for Nurses connected with our hospitals. But few in number as yet, their services command a price too costly to the man with a small salary. If I had been aware of your situation, I might have found you a reliable woman, willing to work and follow out direc- tions; but you must obtain some one for a day or two, till I can look around." While the doctor was speaking, the door-bell rung, and Mrs. Billings, our stylish neighbor, having heard of the arrival, sent over her maid to inquire " how Mrs. M. was." Little Mrs. Jones, down the street, with a house- ; 20 THE NURSE. ful of cares and armsfulof babies, stopped in "just to see if she couldn't be of service ; " and of great service she was, putting things to rights and preparing breakfast for me, and some tea and panada for Lena. All this brightened us up ; but it was evident that we must have a nurse, until Lena's mother or mine could come to us. Mrs. Jones suggested some one ; so I decided to go for her. The doctor kindly remained while I went on my errand. I met our washerwoman at the door ; and she, saying she would send up her sister, the Widow Flynn, a woman who had raised a family of her own, I was thor- oughly satisfied, and reported at head-quarters up-stairs. " Beware," said the doctor, as he took up his hat to leave — " beware of widows, and of those who found their ability to care for children on having ' raised a family/ " While Mrs. Jones was at work in the kitchen the widow arrived. I answered the bell, and ushered a large, muscular, stolid-faced woman into the bedroom. Depositing a forlorn-looking, enameled cloth bag upon the floor, she took off a musty-smelling shawl and bonnet, and, seating herself, asked for the baby, some water, a towel and a piece of soap. I handed her the baby, wrapped up in a shawl, as carefully as I could, for handling a baby under such circumstances is, for a nov- ice, a very delicate business. MOLASSES AND GIN. 21 At tiiis point I left the room for my breakfast, and Mrs. Jones appeared with the panada. She afterward told me that she found the widow had soaped the child, and was then rubbing it briskly with a rather coarse towel. The little one was screaming; and my wife complained of feeling so tired^that Mrs. Jones merely suggested that if a little oil were rubbed over the body and a softer towel used, the baby could be cleansed suffi- ciently for the first washing. Mrs. Flynn replied that " she ought to know — hadn't she had nine children of her own ; and where could any one point to finer chil- dren ? — and she would thank people to let her alone." Well, thought I, they are the sturdiest, dirtiest set of youngsters I have set my eyes on — and is mine to be like them ? Heaven forbid ! As I entered our bed- room, the first discord that had ever entered our home was quite apparent. There sat the nurse, with the baby dressed lying on her capacious lap, and, with a teaspoon, she was endeavoring to feed it some thin arrowroot. She had already given the molasses and gin. Lena, weak as she was, was protesting — urged the importance of doing as the doctor had said, and baby was seconding it all by screams, the like of which I had never heard before. Finally all was quiet. Urging upon my wife the necessity of attempting to 22 A MOTHER'S DESIRE. nurse, with regularity, every two or three hours, as the doctor had suggested, I left for a few hours' business, procured a servant and sent her to the house. Billings met me, and was surprised that I should have an addition " so early in married life. It was not con- sidered exactly the thing." Jones, the man of large family, congratulated me warmly, but rather overdid it, I thought, when he wished me u many happy returns of the day.." But he was not to blame, for he was over- worked, and did not always apply ideas correctly. At any rate, I started homeward quite proud — -had sent telegrams to mother and mother-in-law ; but I found my poor wife in tears, because she did not seem to have any milk, and she "did wish to nurse her baby, because it was right, and better for mother and child." In this dilemma, what could I do but send for the doctor ? What he said and did we shall see. Chapter II. THE DOCTOR. HID I say that I sent for the doctor? No; I went for him. The day, that had begun so fairly as to weather, disappeared in gloom and sloppiness, and by the time I reached the office — though the doctor lived but a short distance off — my spirits lowered into sym- pathy with the surrounding darkness. I was but little surprised to find that the doctor was not " at home," and so mechanically walked in, sat down, and waited quietly for ten minutes — very impatiently for the next fifteen. It occurred to me, then, that doctors ought to be ready when you wanted them. To be sure, the office was a pleasant one — here and there evidences of taste and culture. There was just enough fire in the grate to gently warm the room, and to bring dimly into view a poorly dressed woman and child, who sat in the farthest corner of the room. I saw them, and that was all, for did I not have a family at home, with the new member probably screeching, wife crying, and the widow deter- mined to carry her point. The thought of such a scene (23) 24 WAITING MY TURN. to a man accustomed hitherto to peace and quietness, irritated me so that when the doctor did come into the room, I was not in the best of humor. Here was my family waiting for the doctor, and he actually attended to that forlorn-looking woman in a faded shawl, rusty dress, and a bonnet that must have long since seen its best days before he seemed to realize that I was in the room. Hers must be a " charity " case; while I was ready, just at that time, at least, to pay almost any amount for advice. The woman rose to leave and the little one held out a puny hand, and feebly said " good-bye." "But, doctor," asked the mother, "do you really think anything can be done for Bobby? " " Yes, my good woman, much can be done by good food, plenty of fresh air, and moderate exercise. These are better than medicine alone. The fact is, we must manage in some way to change your quarters. If you hear of any rooms that might suit you, let me know." "Couldn't I find some nursing to do, doctor? anything to keep me busy and make me independent of my friends, and I have some friends left, after all, you know ; but good-bye : I trust the time will come when I can repay you for your kindness." She went out with tears in her eyes. For a moment I almost forgot my own anxiety in the JOB'S COMFORTER. 25 little humane sympathy which will at times ruffle the surface, in spite of one's determination not to be over- come. Having inquired as to my errand, and receiving the statement that affairs were decidedly squally at 264 Tenth Street, Doctor Lyons and I started. It is all very well to say, " Don't anticipate trouble ; " but a man who has but a little while before left his new baby trying to concen- trate all its features into one unsightly bunch in the centre of the face, by puckering lines, radiating in all directions from the common centre, and whose voice rang out with alarming clearness, but with little variation in note — whose wife, before known to possess self-control, was now completely unstrung — is not in a condition to be calm. If there was no natural food for the baby, how was it going to live, and what would my wife do ? Down at the office, that day, Salter had called, con- gratulated me, of course, sat down, and, as if it might be useful for me to know, told of their first baby — how it didn't nurse, because it couldn't get anything, how they tried every food that was recommended by the neighbors and friends, and still it grew weaker and weaker, until, finally, a "kind Providence removed it from its sufferings by death." After thinking over all this, and of what Billings had said, it did seem rather tough to have one's 2 6 PURPOSE IN LIFE. family increased so soon, and then to run such a chance of losing the new-comer, as appeared to be opening up. Lost in reverie, I was aroused by the doctor saying : " Did you notice that woman's face when she thanked me?" I had seen that it was clearly cut, with none of those swollen or discolored rounded spots so indicative of intemperance in eating or drinking. It was pale, the cheeks were somewhat sunken, though on them appeared for a moment or two a faint flush, as she rose to leave. At any other time I might have thought her even good- looking, but she seemed to me then a sort of impostor, who was consuming the doctor's time and so robbing me of his services. Her eyes were expressive and did their share in thanking him, and undoubtedly her mouth was small and also expressive, but she had interfered with my visit ; so I answered : " I noticed, doctor, that she seemed to think a good deal of you." " Well she might," he replied, " for she owes some at least of her present health to my advice. Why that woman was one of the brightest, prettiest creatures, ten years ago, that you ever saw, but, unfortunately, she had been brought up in luxury — had no settled purpose in life, except to get married. Her daily life HEREDITY. 27 consisted in dressing and redressing, eating, receiving calls and going to parties and entertainments, she was naturally smart, and had her physical development been encouraged even a tenth part as much as her mind had been forced, she would have been in a different condition of life now. When she played croquet, it was like an automaton. When she endeavored to skate, she became tired, and, with a pain in her side, sat down to rest. Horse- back-riding was ' too severe ; ' outdoor sports blistered her hands, tanned or freckled her face. Like a fragile plant deprived of sunshine and air, she had grown, but was pale, of lax fibre, and showed few signs of vital energy. To make a long story short, she married the same style of man. The baby that was born to them was a pale, sickly-looking child, such as a friend of mine used to call a * spermaceti baby.' Though the mother tried very hard to raise the child, yet it soon showed its poor heredity. Rickets developed, the bones were soft and bent, the ligaments at the joints were feeble and relaxed, the ribs sinking in at the angles, interfered with breathing, the appetite was poor. At the end of two years the child died of inflammation of the lungs. When the second one was born, two years afterward, the parents were poor. Soon the father died, and here is this woman battling against poverty and hereditary defects, in the 2 8 EFFECTS OF DIET. hope that she may be able to keep this child alive. Poverty has helped her more than she imagines, how- ever, for if she had been able to give the delicacies that once she could command, this child would have followed the other. By being able to control the food of mother and child, through our diet dispensary, and by having the mother come frequently for advice, I believe that the boy will pull through. Certainly the mother is stronger than she once was. It is surprising to see how much there is to the worker, even in the midst of poverty, when there is something and somebody to work for/' By this time we had reached my door. Though it was dark still, and the sidewalk was dotted with puddles of water and the walking was disagreeable, and nature, seemed to be in a gloomy mood, yet my heart had been lightened at the thought of this poor woman battling against such odds, and really, after all, worse off than I was. It was extremely pleasant, therefore, to me, in this state of mind, to find the baby asleep, though I saw that the doctor had perceived the odor of the nurse's gin when we entered the room. Mrs. Flynn had been aroused with difficulty by repeated ringings at the door-bell, and she showed unmistakable evidences of having taken some of the GIN AS A BEVERAGE. 2 g medicine which she had recommended for the " poor baby's little stomach." She sat herself down with a vehemence which prophesied a fight upon the line she had chosen — "even if the doctor had discovered her failing — " Leaving her seated, and mumbling to herself — so I thought — " I'll git square with him yit " — we went to the bed-room, where the doctor in a quiet way calmed Mrs. Matthews by telling her that it might be several days before she could nurse the child properly, but probably only two or three. Finding that my wife had fallen asleep, the light was turned down so that mother and baby could sleep, and the doctor and I adjourned to another room where we could hear distinctly the inco- herent mumblings of Mrs. Flynn. The doctor surprised me by saying: " Do you know, Mr. Matthews, that you will have to disturb that widow? Discharge her to-morrow. A woman who can't keep awake, who carries bottles in her handbag, who takes gin as a beverage — is not just the person to leave in charge of your wife and baby. I know you did the best you could under the circum- stances, but, now that we know the woman, the sooner she is disposed of the better." "Yes, truly; but who is going to dispose of her? 30 EDUCATED NURSES. You know I engaged her only a little while ago, and I don't like to—" " Nothing like promptness now," interposed Doctor Lyons. " I have seen so many accidents happen to other men's wives, from ignorant nurses, that I do not care to risk your wife with this one. Educate women for nurses, pay them living wages, and hold them responsible — that's my belief. If you don't feel like sending her off, I will do it in the morning when I call, and will see to it, also, that you have a reliable woman very soon afterward. These women who have raised so many children, and who are fond of describing the method, are too dogmatic to suit me. They imagine that all children are, or onglit to be, constructed alike." " I should think, doctor, that the woman ought to know something about children, hadn't she ? " "Yes ; but there is such- a thing as a mother thinking she knows all about them, when she has not learned to apply correctly what knowledge she has. " Why, there was that kind neighbor of Mrs. Bond's, on the next block to you, who insisted upon giving Mrs. Bond's little one some patent food, because her children had been raised on it. The baby couldn't take it, didn't want it ; threw it up, made all sorts of faces, and after all I found that the neighbor s babies hadn't been raised very GETTING KNOWLEDGE. j-I far, for most of them died early. You must look into these matters at the outset. Friends and neighbors will crowd in upon you before long, and it requires a level head to know how to manage. Find out that a baby isn't a mere machine ; get all the solid information you can from reliable sources, and then go ahead. In a day or two I will loan you some first-rate books, and com- mand me whenever you wish advice. A word more before I go. This wife of yours is not strong, but she is sensible and willing to do all she can, and will work beyond her strength. Now help her. You will say that you never supposed the father would have much to do with raising a baby. Yes, I know that idea is very often practically carried out, but it is not right. There are many ways in which you can help her to raise the child, without having to tend the baby yourself, and there is no reason why the woman should do everything. It is well enough to have your wife's mother come here, and you must have a good nurse for two or three weeks, but don't rely entirely on either. So good-evening.'' The night w T as passed in comparative quiet. Baby and wife slept, so did Mrs. Flynn, but not quietly — for ever and anon I was aroused from my slumber by a series of short, grunting sounds which always ended in what I felt sure was an unusually vigorous snore. 32 MRS. LAWRENCE. It was with pleasure, therefore, that I was aroused from this restless, uneasy sleep, by the approach of daylight. Very soon after breakfast, which I attempted to prepare, the doctor came. For ten minutes there was some loud talking in the sitting-room, and when the widow came out it was evident that her self-conceit had been wounded. I paid her, and as she tied on her bonnet and pinned her shawl, her fingers seemed to grasp these objects a little more tightly than there was necessity for. " It's very strange, seems to me, that you can't know when you are well off. A woman who has raised a family like my own, to be turned off at a moment's notice! A little gin ain't so bad as you all make out. You will see the time when you will be glad to stop his stomach-ache with it. Well, no matter. Doctor Lyons will be sorry for all this ! " And so she went out, and as she did so, the doctor ushered in Mrs. Lawrence. She was a little body, but when she had spoken kindly to my wife, kissed the baby, smoothed the pillows, cleaned and aired the room, I was confident that all was going smoothly; so I sent for my mother-in-law. Chapter III. THE MOTHERS-IN-LAW. WITH our new nurse and new servant, home prospects seemed to brighten. To be sure, Katie somehow or other couldn't brown the biscuits just right, and the coffee failed at times to emit any aroma, or on other occasions it was undoubtedly burnt, but the blame was laid upon the " new-notioned French coffee-pot," and so satisfied was our domestic with the good things she did accomplish, that she was very cheery. In fact, she was a typical specimen of a healthy, robust Irish girl, willing to work, and not at all afraid of it. I felt sure that I did not over-estimate my wife's ability to manage household matters when she had recovered her health, and it did not seem as if there could be any clashing. The nurse did so nicely, too. Her methods were so simple, and yet effective. Mrs. M and the baby thrived — the one on good, solid, substantial food, which she was able to take by the third day, and the other on the results — milk. The little one did not appear to need much food, for it slept most of the time, but made 3 (33) 24 CHURCH-WORKERS. good use of what it did take. At the end of a week, thanks to the good care and food, Lena felt very much like "being at work." What a strange procedure it was, not many years ago even, to feed a woman on slops simply because a baby had been born. Our little family seemed to appreciate the present age, and so comparative comfort was restored. It could be only comparative, for baby had a way of rousing us at night, demanding atten- tion just as the evening paper was to be read, or of tuning up in the midst of a conversation. It was certainly a new experience. The neighbors began to pour in upon us, too, especially the female element, in a way unheard of before, in our quiet quarters. Mrs. Billings showered congratulations upon my wife in one moment, while in the next she " hoped that baby wasn't going to tie her down, for there was so much going on — the fair and raffle at Rev. Mr. Barnaby's church, the opening of a new and immense variety store — and then a new nursery was to be founded, for the care of dear little children. And," said the energetic, inconsistent lady, " Mrs. Matthews, we expect you to be one of our managers. It will be such a pleasure for you to care for the little ones, now that you have one of your own." Our next-door neighbor, Mrs. Percy, was gruff in ex- terior, but with a kindly heart. Her offers of assistance WHO BABY LOOKS LIKE. 35 seemed to us at first not to be reliable, but as we knew more of our friend, as she came to be, her goodness re- vealed itself in motherly care and solicitude. She was the only woman of our acquaintance, by-the-way, who did not believe or state that the dear baby was "just like its father or mother," as the case might be. " Little differ- ence does it make, Mrs. Matthews," she would say, " what your baby looks like : handsome is that handsome does : or, as my old father used to say (and he was some- what of a natural-born doctor), give your youngsters good sound underpinnings, and then what goes on atop of them will stand and look well enough." Then there was the finical Mrs. Lazelle, who lived four doors down, good by nature, willing to help, but she was not a fav- orite with any one, so far as I could see. Her trials, according to her own statement, were more severe than those of other people. Her husband, kind as any man could be when they were married (neglected her now that four children had come), was absorbed in his business, and never attempted to control the children any more, etc., etc. You have all heard the same story repeated again and again, and so did we ; but added to ours were little bits of gossip, and any number of queru- lous complaints. Whether Mr. L was such a man as his wife portrayed, and she such a faithful and pains- 36 THE NEW NURSERY. taking wife as her story revealed, I did not know at the time, though I have had occasion since to become inti- mately acquainted with both of them. Among the young unmarried ladies who were welcome was a Miss Oley, given to good works. Already had her name been " handed in " as a " manager " in the newly proposed institution for the young, though she was at the time a faithful worker in the Diet Dispensary cause, a leading member of her church, corresponding secretary for the Mission Society, teacher of an evening " ra gg e d school," founder of an afternoon sewing school, originator/ of fetes, festivals and entertainments, and a friend of the poor and unfortunate. Her enthusiasm was contagious, and already my wife was, unawares, laying plans for future usefulness. It was a study to watch Miss Oley's eyes fairly sparkle as she enumerated the advantages to be obtained by this new nursery. They already seemed real, so vividly were they outlined. On the tenth day after the baby was born, my moth- er-in-law, Mrs. Vincent, arrived by the eight o'clock morning express train, and in a short time after trunk, bundles, and parcels were stowed away in the " spare room," and a breakfast had been eaten, she was thor- oughly at home. Her coming seemed to straighten out MY MOTHER-IN-LAW. 37 the little inequalities apparent in a house which had been without a housekeeper's care for nearly two weeks. The nurse, faithful as she was, could not look into the details of house management, and neither did Katie desire her to do so, for she had confidence in herself; and then it was extremely inconvenient to be interrupted in the midst of a conversation with Joe, the butcher's boy, or to be asked to do this or that just as her cousin (?) Tom Mullins had called to spend the evening. As Mrs. Vincent assumed charge, the machinery began to move. Joe loitered less at the basement-door, and remembered that he was needed at the shop ; Tom failed to call as often as before, and took good care to leave at ten p. m. sharp, the time Mrs. V. closed the house for the night; meals were promptly served, and the food was well selected and well cooked ; the clean- liness about the house was as of old, and I could see in everything that was done ways that reminded me of Lena, yet it was not Lena who sat opposite me at the dining-table, but a tall woman, with features sharpened and pinched by age, with hair just turning to gray, whose eyes, though dimmed, yet were capable of glist- ening with animation, and bespoke a latent power in the owner. Her manner was dignified and precise, and were it not for the fact (known to myself) that she had 38 A WET-NURSE. allowed Lena to have her own way, over and over again, I should have supposed that she was always severe. I knew that she was determined at times, though I had never witnessed any exhibition of will — but that was to come. " Robert/' she said, on the morning of the seventeenth day, after breakfast, " I do not believe that Lena will be able to nurse her child. The poor little thing needs more now than it did, and Lena never was very strong, and now that she has begun to walk around, there seems less nourishment than ever, but we will see what can be done. I think that the poor girl ought to have a wet- nurse, or you must buy a cow or a goat ; for they do say that, in New York, water is put into all the milk you get, and I guess a good many other things, too, go in." I knew very well, from what my wife had said from time to time, that baby was more restless, and was much harder to take care of than before. I also knew that somebody was walking up and down the floor at night with it, and it seemed strange that all this should have occurred within a week. Baby did not sleep in its crib any longer at night, but " grandma " took care of it, so I learned. Having read a short time before a book on " the danger to the young of sleeping with the old," the whole subject was so fresh EXPENSES ROLL UP. 39 in my mind, that I felt rather alarmed, but I did not care to say anything. It was a disappointment, too, not to have the crib used, which I had spent so much money for. To be sure, I saw but little of all this, as I was ban- ished to a room by myself. From what I did know, however, it was not conducive to preservation of one's temper to be told that perhaps he might have to buy a cow. Already the baby had cost considerable, taking the doctor, two nurses, crib, outfit and extra diet, into account. It was now suggested that it might be well to have a " christening supper" on the day of the baby's baptism. Little as Mrs. Billings believed in babies, she did believe in suppers and social gatherings, and, as it "was just the thing nowadays," it became a question whether or no we ought not to observe the prevailing custom. To be sure, it would cost something, if we did as we ought to ; but, then, it was for the baby, and the occasion and expense would occur only once, so they said. It was decided, therefore, that the supper should take place, and those friends were to be invited who were interested in children, or who had children of their own. As the baby did not seem to thrive, I walked over to the doctor's that evening to consult with him, and found 4o COMMON SENSE. him at home. He could not see why we were having trouble, and believed that Mrs. Matthews was not living as she ought to, " for you see," said he, " although your wife is not very strong, yet a proper kind and sufficiency of food — exercise in the open air every day — entire freedom from worry, — pleasant surroundings, with occa- sionally the careful use of certain medicines, will improve her health, and does in the majority of cases, place the woman in a position to be able to nourish her child. There are nervous, excitable women, who never can nurse, and also a certain proportion who, by a hot-house propagation, and a fashionable observance of dress, haven't the necessary strength and formation of body. The third class comprises the lazy people, who find it too much trouble. Now, your wife, Matthews, does not belong to any one of these classes. She is not lazy, she has nervous and physical strength, and then to direct all, there is that rare possession, ' common sense/ To be sure, she has not Mrs. Percy's strength, for she has not the same muscle, but she is small, energetic and wiry. These small people accomplish very much, and overcome obstacles that more muscular people would not attempt. I will run over in the morning. By-the-way, I under- stand your mother will be there then : I am glad of it. We can talk this whole matter over between us, and with MY MOTHER. 41 two such faithful guardians as mother and mother-in-law, your wife and baby ought to thrive. Good-evening." As I started for home, I hoped that all would go well — but I was doubtful, for my mother had decided views, too, and it was a question whether these might not clash with those of some one else. My mother came in due time. Let me describe her appearance and ideas before we proceed further. Brought up in comfortable circumstances, she had always had plenty to eat, wear and spare. Living in the country among the hills, where the purest water was to be found and milk was abundant, where there were but few, if any, artificial wants (such as we all deem necessary in the cities), and yet an abundance of the real necessities of life, she grew to womanhood. Her married life was a pleasant, congenial one. The natural cheerful disposition of her younger days deepened and widened into a golden, ripe old age, full of life and happiness. There seemed to be but one cloud of sad- ness, which would, at times, fall upon her, as it had quite often come across her pathway in the first twenty years of her married life. It had its origin in the fact that " none of her boys were girls !" Five boys and not one daughter. And so it happened that she grieved at times. Brought up among a healthy country people, where not 42 A COUNTRYWOMAN'S VIEWS. to nurse children was such an exception that the mother doing this was almost a curiosity, it was quite natural that she should believe that women ought always to riurse their children. Our baby was her first grandchild, and so, hearing of our roughened path toward a dietary, she hastened to us, fully convinced that Lena was no exception to the rule, which, by this time in her life, had become firmly fastened as a part of her being. It was of little avail to argue with my dear mother upon the subject. The fact that she had, after all, during a long life, seen but very little of the difficulties in the way of raising children, such as are found among dense populations, was of no moment with her. Her faith was unshaken in natural feeding, and her whole soul was enlisted in the baby's cause. Chapter IV. THE COUNCIL. WHEN Doctor Lyons called, a curious impromptu council was convened in behalf of our boy. There sat Mrs. Vincent, calm but very dignified, with an evident determination to enforce her own ideas, founded upon "her own experience." Mother, not doubting for one moment that her logic of "duty" would be triumphant, was unusually cheerful. My wife, still quite weak, was in no condition to take part in any discussion, and as for myself, I must confess that my mind was " muddled." " Doctor," began Mrs. Vincent, " I believe you have advocated Lena's nursing her baby, haven't you ? " As Doctor Lyons nodded his head in assent, she continued — " Well, in my opinion, it may be right for a woman to nurse if she can, but if she can't she can't — and that is the whole of the matter. Lena has never been strong, and I have known of women dying of consumption, who would persist in nursing their children. The mother is (43) 44 CITY MOTHERS. of more importance than the baby, and if either is to die, let the baby go. There ! you have my opinion ! ! " It did not calm Mrs. Vincent in the least to have mother reply, who could see no reason why Lena should not nurse. All women ought to. Where she had been brought up, mothers did not believe in feeding, though they had the best of cows to get milk from. Consump- tion didn't come in her country by nursing, but only when people were careless. • " Ah, that's all very well in the country, Mrs. Matthews, but we are in the city now, and probably you have not seen as many city mothers and their babies as I have." " True, my dear Mrs. Vincent, but Lena came from the country, if I remember rightly, and — " Here my wife, fearing a scene, turned to the doctor and related her experience — how she cried for the first few days so very often, during Mrs. Flynn's stay, and how the baby cried. Then Mrs. Lawrence came, and with her, hope for the future. She thought that the food she had had helped her very much, " and she knew the baby wasn't so troublesome, then, as he had been lately, when she had taken less exercise and had less food. Mother thinks so much food makes me bilious, and it is bad for baby. Mrs. Billings was in to-day and insists upon it that I ought not to be bound down, just as TAKE THINGS EASY. 45 everything is going on. I don't know what to do about it. Whatever is going to be right for the baby I want to do, but I can't stand it this way. He frets, won't take a long sleep, cries all night, and is so worrisome. Doctor, what am I to do? Mrs. Matthews thinks I ought to nurse him and mother thinks I ought not. I never did think babies were so hard to care for. I hope I will never have any more. How could Mrs. Jones ever raise so many children as she has without going crazy?" "Allow me to answer your questions one at a time," replied the doctor. " You know, Mrs. Matthews, I took the liberty of telling your husband that you had common sense, and could be relied upon in emergencies, so don't become flurried — 'take things easy' as the saying is. You will come out all right yet — if all of us here will help you." " That does not mean, I suppose," sharply asked Mrs. Vincent, " that we are to persist in making my daughter nurse, does it, Doctor Lyons ? " " My dear Mrs. Vincent," mildly interposed my mother, "you know that nursing is the only natural way of feeding a baby, and I have always been very thankful indeed that I nursed all my children." " Yes, yes. I have heard that statement before, Mrs. 4 6 BABIES AND MOTHERS. Matthews ; but a woman wants to be something more than an animal." , y " I am sorry, ladies, that I can't agree with both of you," said the doctor; " but the fact is, the subject of the feeding of children is rather a complicated and difficult one. If all babies and their mothers were exactly alike in temperaments and peculiarities, there would be no trouble. Here are two books that I should like any or all of you, if you feel inclined, to look over: dne is enti- tled ' Combe on the Management of Infancy ; ■ the other, 'Advice to Mothers, by Chavasse.' They are not novels, but they are full of sound sense. As to consumption, Mrs. Vincent, resulting from nursing, I never heard of it, except when the mothers had an hereditary tendency to disease of the lungs, or the nursing was improper in various ways, or unduly pro- longed; but your daughter is healthy, and has sense." "It's strange, doctor, but I was telling Mrs. Vincent only yesterday, just about the same thing you have told her; but she says that she understands Lena's constitution better than I do." " I certainly do," Mrs. Vincent emphatically responded. Becoming annoyed somewhat by these interruptions by mother and mother-in-law, I appealed to the doctor to give his views. ACQUIRING HABITS. 47 " Because a woman is not as strong as Mrs. Percy," he resumed, "that is no reason why she should not nurse. In the country, feeding of babies is comparatively rare, but look at our cities, pass through our tenement houses, our institutions for the young, visit the houses of the well-to-do, and we see that nursing is more com- mon among the poor than the rich." " I told you so, Mrs. Matthews." To this sally of Mrs. Vincent no attention was paid. The doctor then ad- dressed himself to Lena. " Try to get out every day in the fresh air, and, by-the-way, don't shut your windows tight at night. The outside air must be purer than that found indoors, coming up to bedrooms from kitchens, halls and the cellar. It is a curious sort of idea people have that they should not breathe night air. What other air can they breathe at night ? Some of the baby's restlessness may be due to your close room. Your stove makes the air impure ; every gas jet poisons as much air as four persons. Little babies need a good deal of air, but not too cold, or in strong draughts. I understand that yours won't sleep in the crib any more. Babies acquire habits very early. Take up a child because it frets or is restless, or rouse one from a sleep (as is so often done merely to gratify the curiosity of friends), and it soon learns to expect, to be held. Feed a baby irregu- 4 8 THE BABY OUT-DOOR. larly and it soon demands irregular feeding. Dose with soothing-syrups and soon the dose has to be increased. Of course none of these things have happened with you, and I can hardly account for this change. Excuse me, Mrs. Matthews, but while I am talking, let me suggest that perhaps you have to much company. " Just now there is a furore in society over the establish- ment of a Nursery, and every lady, so it seems to me, who has any influence, is being asked to interest herself in it. Mrs. Billings has been here already to see you about it, I understand, and of course Miss Oley will be after you — a very nice young lady, but too energetic. Let us get through with our private nursery first. Be cheerful, live well, take daily exercise, and follow out these written directions as to medicine, and then you will be better, I hope. Now for the baby. He is now old enough to go out every day if it is not windy or rainy. Mere dampness under foot need not keep him in, if you have a baby carriage. Dress him warmly in light, fleecy garments, but don't put on so much clothing as to induce perspiration. I never could see why babies' faces should be covered with vails, except on very windy days. If you are not able to go out, or send him out, you can open the window, put on your out-door wrappings, and walk about the rooms with him. " SLEEP-DROPS." • 49 "When night comes, and the baby is restless, and seems to cry with pain, warm the feet by the fire or rub them well with the hands. This rubbing is often very soothing. A heated flannel applied over the stomach is of service. Do not be led, I pray you, into giving ' sleep- drops/ You say 'they are said to be harmless.' I would reply that those said to contain no opium are likely to have morphine instead; that I have seen several cases of poisoning from their use ; that syrups, as they are, they are liable to interfere with digestion. Plain aniseed, catnip, peppermint, cinnamon or fennel tea are much safer. ,, This reference to "sleep-drops" aroused Mrs. Vincent, who affirmed that there was a good deal of bosh in the talk of physicians against quieting medicines. " Don't tell me — many's the comfortable night I have had with them. The baby is to be christened on Sunday, and I don't want to hear him cry — that's all." "Ah, Robert dear, don't you remember how often I have told you what a good baby you were, and never a taste of ' sleep-drops ' did I give you." My good mother would like to have had me promise then not to give the baby anything to quiet it, but she did not wish to start a controversy. Whatever you decide upon, ladies, in regard to medicine, be careful of So "THE CHRISTENING." the baby generally. If the day is very unpleasant, would it not be well to postpone the baptism ? Our churches are generally heated either too much or too little, and babies are tender little plants. Physicians find much to do among the babies of the Irish, especially, who are carried to church, to " the christening," the Sunday after they are born, or the Sunday following. Statistics upon mortality in France, show that a large proportion of deaths among infants there is due to this early ex- posure. "One other point, before I leave," said the doctor. " Some of your kind neighbors will undoubtedly tell you, if they have not already, that your baby will suffer from colic and dyspepsia, and be troublesome till he is 1 three months old.' Just at the turn into the fourth month he will be expected to do wonders. Now, my experience is, that it will be two, three, four, or even seven months before a change occurs, all depending upon the condition of the child, and the ability of parents and doctor to be rightful interpreters of signs and symptoms. " Some babies are born very feeble, and have but a poor chance of living under the best care. Some, like yours, are born strong and fail afterward. Like all the popular beliefs which have gained ground,' and still hold DIGESTION. 51 it, this one, as to a definite time for the recovery of an afflicted baby, has an element of truth in it. At about three months, saliva and the digestive juices are secreted in quite an appreciable amount, and babies have devel- oped to such a degree that the digestive organs are able to accomplish more and better work. Now, if there has been simply a want of digestive power in the baby here- tofore, at three months this will be largely remedied, but you can easily think (without medical knowledge) of causes which might stand in the way of this natural remedy. "A baby may have inherited digestive difficulties. It may not be able to nurse, from some deformity of the mouth, lips, or throat. It may not digest the milk from mother or nurse, and feeding has to be resorted to. The right kind of food may agree, but unfortunately there is no one kind that will answer for all babies. Hence, if the baby can digest, and the food given is digestible and just the thing to sustain life, then all will go on well. Suppose that these combinations are not present, of what use is the three months' rule ? " Doctor Lyons withdrew, and we who were left behind hardly knew whether we were any the wiser for his efforts to instruct us. Mrs. Vincent was more decided than ever in her expressions of dignified contempt for the doctor 52 NATURAL FEEDING. and his " hobbies." "This doctor of yours, Robert, has a hobby on feeding of babies, and he wants everybody to nurse. Out in Minnesota, one man calling himself a doctor, cured everything by rubbing. Another man always used electricity; another, medicine for every- thing; and another, none at all — Pshaw, for such men and their hobbies." Mother could not keep, from rubbing her hands with joy in the belief that her ideas had proved to be well founded, and though she evidently tried hard to restrain her tongue, it did say : " Mrs. Vincent, Doctor Lyons seems to me to be a very sensible man, and I must say his ideas about what he calls ' natural feeding ' meet my approval." This "must say" was just sufficient to awake some of the smouldering fire in Mrs. V., now only shone in her eyes, but which in her younger days would have been more manifest. I then tried my hand in smoothing the troubled condition of things, but I only made matters worse, as men generally do. Lena perceived the situa- tion of affairs, and suggested that we should go to dinner, which was ready. A good dinner helps wonderfully to smooth ruffled feelings, and so did ours that day. The care of the baby, by apparent consent of all parties, was not to be referred to for a time, and it was not; but BUYING A GOAT. S3 the remembrance of the misunderstanding created was not pleasant. Going to the office after dinner, I told Salter, who after all was a good fellow and friend, of our late council of advice. " Well," said he, " it must have been rich. Why didn't you invite me? I had a hobby that I learned from my mother-in-law — that is, that feeding with goat's milk is the thing. Why, Matthews, I scoured the city for a goat, bought one, tied her in the back yard. Well, she bleated all night, and none of us could sleep : then she did not give all the milk she was warranted to give. Somebody said, ' feed her more/ and I did, and one night she got into the feed-box I had for her, and the result was, she died. I buried her under the grape-vine, where ' she will do some good, and bought another. This on^ I did not tie, and in about twenty-four hours every green thing in the yard was eaten up, the grape-vine was barked, and I sold the beast. Now, other people may do better with goats than I did, so don't you feel down- hearted. My other hobby comes from our doctor, Doctor Pearsall ; and this one is, that after all, grand- mothers and the old people are the ones to tend to the ' little matters ' about feeding and clothing of babies, and all the other little things that you know something about now, Bob, I believe. But, now that I think of it, you 54 AN OLD WOMAN DOCTOR. remember young Jenkins, who used to be here. Well, his mother had a hobby, which I believe did kill one of his youngsters. She believed in i fresh air,' and fresh air it was. To get the full advantage of it, his baby was exposed to it at all times nearly, so as to harden its skin. ' People would smother their children,' she said, ' with clothes,' and so she put on very few of them. The baby died of what the servant said the doctor called the ' brown creeturs.' There is Perkins' mother, who has a new hobby every week. Just now, everything to flourish must go under ' blue glass.' Perkins never could have his children out in the sun before, for fear that they might freckle. His mother has charge of the children ' now that his wife is dead. Well, they take a run, and come in the house and sit behind the blue glass for a w T hile. I believe they look better than they did, owing to the sun and romping in the open air, but the old lady sticks to it, it is all owing to the blue glass. " It strikes me, Bob, that that doctor of yours is kind of an old woman. I understand that there is some talk of putting him in charge of the Nursery, when it is started ; but he will never do for that place. What is needed there is a man who will let the ladies do as they like, and not interfere with them." My dreams that night were about mothers, mothers-in- A DECISION. 55 law and grandmothers generally. It seemed to me that there were about twenty of them, all pulling at one little baby, and each in a different direction. Then there were six doctors, each giving different advice. All were talking at the same time, till the jargon grew so loud that it awoke me. It had not occurred to me in the midst of the din that if a little common sense had been used some decision would have been arrived at ; but I made up my mind now to have no hobbies, to learn what I could about babies, and not to let any one but Lena have the super- vision of our infant in the future. I had begun to dread controversies, and I was rather gloomy over the pros- pects of the coming christening-supper. Chapter V. THE CHRISTENING. -RABY was just six weeks old when he was christened. What his name should be had been talked of ever since his birth, and finally a decision had been arrived at that he should be called John — after my father. Mother had gained a point against much opposition. The dear good woman thought that such a name would never be nicknamed. Little did she imagine that the boy would be called " Jack " oftener than John. Neighbors and friends had overwhelmed us with advice. One thought " that being the first child, he should certainly be named after his father." Another suggested a " romantic name." A third, a " Scriptural one." Especially did our old friend Mrs. Carey urge a name from Scripture. Her boys, Timothy, Joshua, and Paul, were much dearer to her than they would have been had she named them Charles, Adolphus, and Henry. So she thoroughly believed ; but those of us who knew the old lady well, recognized the fact that her whole life had been so devoted to doing good that it would (56) AN "OLD MAID. ; 57 have been impossible for her to be influenced by mere names or conditions, even in her efforts to do right by her own family and the families of others. March 25th being a service-day had been singled out for the christening. Invitations to the supper which was to follow, were sent to her and Mrs. Billings, Lazelle, Percy, Jones, Bond and Salter, to Miss Oley, Mrs. Carey and Miss Denny— the last, though very plain-looking, and an " old maid " withal, could not be forgotten. She presided over a little thread and needle store (where my wife had bought from time to time sundry little arti- cles), had sent in the early days of the baby's life a large pincushion with the words " Welcome, Little Stranger," ingeniously worked upon it with pins. This pincushion was a wonderful piece of workmanship. To be sure the letters were not all of the same size, and the cushion leaked saw-dust a little, but as Miss Denny had made it "all out of my own head " as she expressed it, we could not complain. She had been in a flutter for some time over the prospect of the baby's baptism, had assisted in mak- ing a new cloak for the boy, and had told scores of people " how beautiful Mr. Matthews' baby was." At first it was thought that Doctor Lyons might be invited ; but on second consideration, founded on a de- cided opinion expressed by Mrs. Vincent " that he might .58 OUR MINISTER. ventilate too strongly some of his hobbies/' his name was omitted from the list. I readily agreed to this as I knew he was very busy just then, and would find it difficult to find the necessary time for a christening supper. The Rev. Mr. Barnaby and wife of course were invited, as he was our minister, " and then he was so fond of children," Mrs. Vincent remarked. " How beautifully he did hold them when he baptized them " — then there's something about his way of preaching, that "goes right to the heart." It depends on whose heart it goes to, thought I, for in my way of thinking Rev. Mr. Peters's ideas are preferable, about almost any subject; and to his church I had gone until my mother-in-law came, when, for her sake, I had changed. Undoubtedly Mr. Barnaby could eloquently discourse on the duties of parents to children and children to parents, but the reverend gentleman and his wife had never had children of their own, and did not want to adopt any on account of the impaired health of the lady. Yet they had decided views as to how children should be reared, and were not slow in making their views known. Mrs, Barnaby, who echoed the sentiments and opinions expressed by her husband, as to the proper method of raising children, claimed, in addition, that she was fond of them. While Mr. B., though he had been known at times to pat vari- REV. MR. BARNABY. 59 ous little urchins upon the head, and had been seen to kiss some of the little girls, did not really love them. At least so Miss Denny believed, and no one knew more of what was going on in the parish than this same Miss Denny. Her little shop reminded one of the country post-offices where the old and young of the village meet to talk over crops, or the latest news, or to indulge in banterings or flirtations. There was a rumor that the Minister had once had charge of an institution for children, and was found to be severe and even cruel with some of the inmates, but his friends claimed that all such stories were inventions of the " evil one." "Evil one, is it?" chimed in Miss Denny, one day when I had stopped at her store for a little purchase, and a friend I found there was telling me of the rumor. " You ask Toby Flack, the boy who chores for me, and he'll show you a scar he says he got from that Institution Super- intendent." Just then Toby's head appeared above the trap-door covering the front passage way to the cellar, from which he was coming with a scuttle of coal. Across the street could be seen the form of the Rev. Mr. Bar- naby coming in the direction of the store. Down went Toby's head, body and scuttle, so it seemed, all at one time into the cellar ; and I never saw the boy afterwards, so had no opportunity to verify the scar. 6 THE NEW CLOAK. But the rumor had an effect upon me, for it didn't seem natural for a boy to dodge a minister so precipi- tately. After I had a few days' experience in raising our boy, I began to question the ability of any one to teach about the care of children who had never been taught them- selves by the need of sleep, worriment of mind and increase in current expenses, which had so far at- tended my experiment. This feeling, together with the rumor, had not favorably disposed me towards Mr. Bar- naby. It was a source of consolation therefore to me to know that Rev. Mr. Peters would probably be at the supper — a concession to my wishes which did not please my mother-in-law, but which suited my mother. March 25th was ushered fti with as bright a prospect for a pleasant day as one could desire. The sun came out in his glory, and the clothing worn by all x>f us during many chilly days preceding was now really uncomfortable. It became a question whether baby should wear his new thick cloak which had been made expressly for this occasion. After a long discussion among the ladies, during which " ifs " and " buts " pre- dominated, it was decided to be a " shame " for the baby to go without it ; so it was carried to be used, if neces- sary : to be seen, at any rate. After some delays — said PLENTY OF WATER. g x to be always inevitable, where there is a baby — we started, and on the way some one remembered that a shawl which had been laid out for Lena's use, had not been brought along, but as my wife thought she was dressed warmly enough, it was not sent for. I suppose I ought to have gone for it, but I was so much elated at the prospect of the baby's having a name — that I did not The air in the church proved to be cooler than the outside air had been. This we found afterwards was partly due to the fact that the sexton had allowed the fires to go out a few days before. We felt chilly, but we could not help the matter now. Lena had hoped that Mr. Barnaby would not " drench" the baby with water as she had seen him do at other baptisms : but he did, evi- dently believing in the efficacy of quantity. Our boy — our first-born — gave vent to his feelings in loud, ringing cries, despite the "sleep-drops" which probably had been given. Mrs. Jones told Lena, after the baptism was over, and as we hastened toward home, that having had the same experience with her first child, she was determined, when the second was born, not to have it over again, so she began very early to get the child used to plenty of water, when it took its bath, by filling a large sponge full, and squeezing it out over the baby. The same plan she 62 THE MOTHER'S WILL-POWER. had tried with her whole seven children, and with the best results. Not only were they not afraid of being baptized, but they were not afraid to take baths as they grew older. This item I put down in my note-book, which I had lately procured for the registry of facts such as this. We had reason to hasten, for the sky was over- cast. No longer did the sun shine, for his place was taken by the cold-looking gray clouds, which gather so suddenly in the early days of spring. The wind had aroused from its apparent slumber of a few hours before, and now reminded us of the fact that he was a disagree- able companion. Several members of the party sug- gested they had known the weather was going to be unpleasant, but not a word on the subject had been said by any of them until we complained of chilliness. By the time we reached home, Lena was exhausted and complained of a pain in her side, and notwithstanding her will-power, found herself unable to preside at the supper. The baby seemed to know that his mother was ill, and was frightfully cross. Mrs. Lawrence took charge of the mother and baby, while Mrs. Vincent assumed Lena's place at table. Between her and myself it was understood that the auestions relating; to the care and training of children, which had already proved " bones of contention/' should be avoided. CATCHING COLD. 63 When it was found that my wife did not appear in the dining-room, all sorts of inquiries were made, and various opinions broached. " I knew," said Miss Denny, "when Mrs. Matthews went without that shawl, that she would catch cold. There isn't a bit of dependence to be put on the weather here, even if ' Old Probabilities ' does control the whole thing. Five years ago, when I went out in the same way — I mean without a baby- — I had the 'yaller jandice;' so I know something of how risky it is." " But, Miss Denny," quietly asked Mrs. Carey, " why didn't you tell Mrs. Matthews what you knew?" " Why, bless your heart, I was so taken with the baby and his new cloak, that I quite forgot he had a mother ; and Joe Plunkett, too, told me his mother died of a chill caught at his baptism. I might have known better, to be sure, but I was so flustered like. Any way, the church ought to have been warmer." " I think myself, Mr. Barnaby, that the sexton was a little forgetful to-day in his arrangements, and I agree with Miss Denny that it was quite chilly," said Mrs. Carey. "The fact is," replied the minister, " that it was decided last week, not to keep the fires up any longer. Our expenses are heavy, you know, and we dispense with the fires generally as soon as spring sets in. There's nothing 64 "STRANGE GODS." like economy, and fire is about the only item that we can cut down on just now, and there must be a strike some- where. The quartet cannot be disturbed, and all the salaries are low enough now." " But, Brother Barnaby, don't you think that it might be economy to keep up the health of the congregation ? You know, you and I have to rely upon ' the people ' for our bread and butter, and if the people should happen to die off very fast, where would we be?" This good-natured suggestion on the part of Rev. Mr. Peters was not received by Mr. Barnaby in very good spirit, for he immediately retorted : " Look here, Peters, you are not the same man you once were. Ever since that Dr. Lyons has belonged to your church, you have been thinking of the ' health of the people/ The times are not so good yet, that we clergymen can afford to be going after ' strange gods/ sanitary reform, et cetera. It may 'do for the young men to start up such sensations, but I don't propose to have anything to do with them — unless it's policy to. Those are my sentiments, and what Dr. Naman thinks. He is good enough authority for me. Doctor Naman was an officer in the Church of the Heavenly Rest. So dignified was he that few people thought of ever asking him any question other than was MINISTERS DISAGREE. 65 absolutely necessary. His dignity, combined with a large, substantially built body, commanded respect, and gave the impression to the people with whom he came in contact that he was a wonderful man. He was brusque in his manner, prided himself on being as non- communicative as an oyster, was a man with but few strong friends — one of whom w T as Rev. Mr. Barnaby. The mention of such a man as " authority " rather nettled the ordinarily mild Mr. Peters, and he entered into a strong defence of Dr. Lyons — admired him for his perseverance in the prevention of disease, rather than in the treatment; but Mr. Barnaby laughed at such views, and trusted that such a " doctor" would never be con- nected with the new Nursery, for he would upset every- thing. Salter, who sat next to me — in a low voice, not to be heard by the reverend gentlemen — told me that com- plaints about the church being cold had been made many times before, and it was a well-known fact that Mr. Barnaby held all the church funds in his own hands. From various parts of the table were heard fragmentary portions of conversation, and as far as I could perceive, babies were the burden of them, and all in spite of the agreement between Mrs. Vincent and myself. Allusion was made to the weather, and then the question arose as §§ FLANNEL. to the necessity of flannel with babies and children. Mrs. Lazelle thought it made little difference how you dressed children : they would get dirty and they would catch cold in spite of you. For her part, she was tired of always fussing as to what her children should wear. Mr. Barnaby had lately read in the Crosstown " Herald of Health " (and here he dropped his voice and cast a furtive glance at his clerical brother), that flannel should always be worn, for, as a non-conductor, " it had no equal." Miss Oley was heard to remark that some skins were so tender that they could not bear flannel at all. Mrs. Percy said her boys had never worn it, and had never suffered from the want of it. Their skins would bear anything, but, after all, what was most needed was to feed them up well. " If you put good, solid food into them, you won't need flannel outside." Mrs. Jones thought that children were not all alike. Some of her children could wear flannel and some could not. Woolen socks would make Tom's feet tender, while Susie could not go without them. She had learned by experience that sometimes two pair of cotton stockings gave more warmth than one pair of woolen ones ; that a loosely- woven garment was lighter, and, she really believed, warmer than a closely-knit one. If the children could NATURAL HEALTH. 6 7 wear, and she could afford to buy them, she would have woolen undergarments of varying thickness for the dif- ferent seasons of the year; for she did not believe it was safe to rely entirely upon a child's natural health. " Of course, we've got to work and work with our children, if we want them well and happy." " Thank goodness," said Mrs. Billings, " I have no children. Perhaps my opinion is not worth much, but if I were you, Mrs. Jones, I would not tie myself down to any family as you do. Hire a good nurse, and come and interest yourself in our Nursery." " That reminds me," said Miss Oley, and having ex- cused herself, she left the room. Just then the door-bell rang, and Dr. Lyons walked in, deposited his hat and cane, and, at my suggestion, went to my wife's room, accompanied by Mrs. Vincent. Presently a door was slammed, and Miss Oley entered the parlor with a provoked look and an " irritated skin," sure enough, if we could judge by the color, but probably but one or two present, besides myself, noticed it. It was momentary, and the general conversation had not lagged. The principal topic at one time uppermost was "babies' names," then babies' teeth, etc., etc. Mrs. Percy became quite eloquent over the advantages to be derived from oatmeal, as a food for children. 68 • .- OATMEAL. Mr. Barnaby endorsed all she said, and added, " that all children could be made to like it. Such a food, con- taining all the elements of nutrition, rich in nitrates and phosphates, and capable of sustaining life, should be eaten by everybody." He had it always on his table for breakfast. Salter asked if that was all that he had. " Oh, no," replied Mr. Barnaby, " but it is the regular dish. Generally there is meat and potatoes, coffee, rolls and eggs ; but then we couldn't do without the oatmeal, it's so strengthening, and is so rich in brain food. I doubt very much whether I could get along without it, espe- cially when my brain work is more than usual." In the midst of an animated discussion on the value of "cereal foods " — in which Mrs. Jones was heard to say, "her ex- perience was that l air children wouldn't and couldn't eat oatmeal " — Salter w r hispers to me, " When was Mr. Barnaby's brain w r ork more than usual ? " I gave it up, and entered into the general conversation, until I was summoned up-stairs, and was met by a " provoked " doctor, who told me that my wife would probably have pneumonia, as one of the results of that miserably " economical " church. " Your wife," he said, " is to be kept quiet, and must not have visitors. I emphasize this, for I found Miss Oley here interesting your wife in some new scheme or other. More than likely it was A WET-NURSE. 6 9 that new Nursery which is crazing the women about here. It may not have been, but I saw how weak Mrs. Matthews was, and spoke, I'm afraid, rather sharply about ' visitors,' for Miss Oley left the room suddenly. The fact is, Matthews, it's all Nursery, Nursery, and half of the originators know less what are the needs of children than the average of nurse girls. If this trouble with your wife turns out to be pneumonia, you will have to procure a wet-nurse ; so be on the look-out for one, for it may not do for the baby to continue to nurse." A wet-nurse ; more expense ; another strange person in the house ; well, I suppose it must be ; and after the guests had gone, I dropped into an easy-chair, where I must have fallen asleep, for when I looked at the clock — that never seemed to have any cares, but always methodically "ticked" away its life — it was 2 A. M., and I had thought over a good part of my life. I must have dreamed, for the rapidly succeeding thoughts and dissolving views that had been so real, could only have been produced in the dream state of sleep : oatmeal, flannel, Miss Oley's dis- like of the doctor ; Barnaby's knowledge of health ; Jones hiring a nurse girl when he could not afford to ; our baby and its wet-nurse — and I awoke — and then and there planned out a scheme for procuring a wet-nurse. Chapter VI. WANTED — A WET NURSE. MUST confess that now, at the end of six weeks' experience with a baby, I was not convinced that raising one was always such an easy matter as some of my friends believed it to be, or, at least, professed to. One day John seemed to thrive, but the next he drooped. At one time Lena was bright and hope- ful, while at another she was despondent. Having read carefully the books loaned me by Doctor Lyons, it did not add to my peace of mind, to possess the knowledge that much of the drooping and despon- dency might have been prevented had we done " so and so," or followed this or that plan. Enough for me to know that there had been plenty of worry, various misunderstandings, considerable expense, and, in spite of all, nursing was really to be desisted from, at least by the mother, The doctor had called the morning after the christening, and pro- nounced the disease pneumonia. He did not believe, ADVERTISEMENTS. Jl undor the circumstances — no matter how soon Lena might recover — that she ought to continue nursing. How the baby was to be fed, then, became a mat- ter of the deepest interest. I had already decided, in my own mind, that a wet nurse should be had. Mother agreed with me, while Mrs. Vincent urged the use of cow's milk, " if Mr. Matthews could be sure of the milk he would obtain ;" but as Mr. Matthews did not see the way clear toward a certainty, she re- luctantly agreed to have a wet-nurse, though Lena felt keenly averse to having any one act as a "foster- mother " to her baby. It was a ray of comfort to me, to feel that Lena would thrive and be herself again, if she recovered from her sickness, and as for our boy, it had become my duty, so it seemed, to hunt up a nurse. The doc- tor had to'd me to first answer advertisements, and had also instructed me somewhat as to the selection of a healthy, reliable woman. In addition, I had made good use of my medical books, and felt that I was quite competent to conduct a search in pursuit of a wet-nurse. So I cut out the following adver , tisements from the day's New York Herald and put them in my note-book. 72 TAKE YOUR CHOICE. Wanted. — A situation by a respectable woman, as wet-nurse. Call at No. 207 Avenue B, and inquire for Mrs. Malone, in the store, Wanted. — A healthy, trusty woman would like a situation as wet-nurse ; understands dry feeding. Can be seen at Mrs. Sand's, 52 Sixtieth Street. Wanted. — By a perfectly reliable woman, a situa- tion as wet-nurse. A pleasant home more of an ob- ject than wages. Mrs. Badall, 20 East Twenty-eight Street. On the opposite page of my book were placed the items to the necessary qualifications in such a nurse as the advertisements pointed out. These necessary points had been taken from a standard medical work and were to be a guide in my operations, They were as follows • " She should be between twenty and thirty years of age, the mother of at least two children. She should be healthy, with body well nourished. Her teeth should be sound. Ther should be no blood disease, as scrofula or consumption. The family history should be free from any trace of insanity. Her children should be healthy, and if she is nursing a child, it should show the effects of good nourish, ment. Her moral character should be good. She ought to be even-tempered — not given to outbursts MRS. MALONE. .73 cf anger. She ought not to be easily excited. She should be cleanly, temperate in her eating and drinking, willing and obliging. The milk under the microscope should show the following " Here I ceased to copy, believing that I had suffi- cient information to enable me to succeed in my undertaking. With the advertisements and the list of qualifications, I started out, and visited Mrs. M alone first. My early visit — for I left my house soon after breakfast — seemed to flurry the fat, good natured proprietor of the candy-store, No. 207 Avenue B, near Public School No. 25. I mention the fact that the store was near a school, for the rea- son that I have learned since, in the years following thai: visit, that near many of our schools are similar shops, where school-children do congregate at recess time to eat poor candy, and where, by the crowding in of the children, and the very nature of the place, contagious diseases are spread abroad. It was a miserable shop, cramped and dirty. Be- hind it was the one small and dirty sitting, dining and bed-room combined. In this room sat Mrs. Malone. Evidently she had just risen from her night's sleep. What she might have looked like and how favorably 74 " BABY FARMING/' she might have impressed me, had I called an hour or two later, I did not care to think about. Her big- baby in her arms showed that he had had sufficient food, but the dirt everywhere present, the general air of untidiness, and the sickening odor, due to the impure and confined air, dispelled any idea oi choos- ing the mother to care for my child. I have been told since then that the class of women represented by Mrs. Malone will rub off some of the dirt upon and about themselves, and tidy up somewhat, when em- ployers are expected, and that they do obtain situa- tions, the condition of their babies being their strong hand. Driven from a wretched home by drunken- ness or debt, they find refuge with friends, who al- low them to advertise from their own more respect- able quarters, and to stay till a situation is obtained. Then they pay part of their wages to the hostess, or the whole even, if the friends take charge of their babies. Thus u baby-farming " is begun. The escape from such a house and surroundings caused me to en joy, more than I had hitherto, the pleasantly warm and healthful air of the outer world. I then hurried to Sixtieth Street, easily found Mrs. Sands, who proved to be the wife of the janitor oi a APPEARANCES. 75 tenement house. I stated my errand, was asked to be seated till she ascertained whether Mrs. Hughes was in. She came back and soon a sharp voice was heard from the upper regions, inviting " the gentle- man up.'' I went up one flight of stairs, found a door open, and the head of a female protruding from it " Do you wish to see Mrs. Hughes?" said the same voice, u I wished to see tne person who put this adver- tisement in the paper," I replied. " Well, then, /am Mrs. Hughes, and will you walk in, sir?" The impression I had at the time was, that the woman had not expected an employer to come, but was on tfee lookout for a messenger to summon her to some lady's house. Finding that an employer had come, she became very talkative, entered into a somewhat detailed history of her family, its pleasures as well as its pains. While she was thus engaged, I had an opportunity to glance about he room and to study the woman. By the time she was through, I had concluded that she was healthy and strong, had good teeth, was cleanly in her dress, and was proba- '/6 "WAYS THAT ARE DARK." bly free from any hereditary disease, if x could judge of such a point by the robust appearance of several children running in and out of the room, who, she i lid, belonged to her. So absorbed had f been in the study of my " qualifications,'* to which I referred from time to tune, that I had not noticed that there was no infant in the room. Desiring t( see the baby, she said she would go after it, for it had been left for a little while with a neighbor across the hall. Back she came with a splendid specimen of a child. As Mrs. Hughes was healthy and clean, and had raised such a fine specimen of a baby, she would be just the woman for us, I thought. So I put my book in my pocket and was about to make some arrange- ment toward engaging the woman, when a remark from one of the children led me to question Mrs. H. as to the age of the baby in her arms. A little cross- examination confounded the woman, and I soon found that the child was not hers. Crossing over to her neighbor's, on the other side of the hallway, there I found the real mother of the baby, and a little, puny, weazen-faced, dry-skinned apology for an infant, which belonged to the Hughes family. The (i obliging neighbor " had only done a " little "TRICKS THAT ARE VAIN.* 77 kindness in changing babies/' as Mrs. H. said. Here, then, was a large, strong woman, who failed in bring- ing up a baby by nursing. No one knows how many times she had failed before, for her own children had died early, she said, of spasms, and cholera infantum. The children, then, that I had seen about the room, were her husband's, and yet this woman wished to impose herself on some confiding mother and child. No wonder, then, that she had thought it best, to attempt to mderstand fi dry feeding," whatever that might be. There was but one place left for me now to go to. This business of hunting up a wet-nurse had about exhausted me physically. Certainly I was disgusted with squalor and deception. It was pleasant, there- fore, to find that the next advertisement on my list had come from a respectable person, in a respectable neighborhood in Twenty-eighth Street. Mrs. Badall proved to be a woman who would answer to all necessary lC qualifications " as far as / could see, ex- cept that she h&d no baby to show me, for the little one had just died one week before from sudden con- vulsions. She was a very agreeable person to talk to, had had such a sad experience with her own 78 MRS. VINCENT PROPHESIES. baby, and was so anxious to find a home for a short time, in order to relieve her husband of the expenses of housekeeping while he was idle; and then she was so warmly endorsed by Mrs. Whaley, the land- lady, that I agreed to employ her, if, after a week's trial, everything was satisfactory. She was to re- ceive twenty-five dollars a month. Within twenty- four hours Mrs. Badall was installed as wet-nurse. The services of Mrs. Lawrence were now dispensed with, and the care of Lena in her illness devolved upon our two mothers. Through their untiring care and Doctor Lyons' skill, at the end of two weeks my wife was quite like her old self again. It was strange that when our mothers were caring for Lena, nothing seemed to ruffle them, but intro- duce the subject of the " care of babies," and almost instantly there were strongly expressed differences of opinion. My mother pointed with joy to the thriving condition of our boy under Mrs. BadalPs care. Mrs. Vincent prophesied that something " would yet turn up wrong with the. woman. She had never known much good to come from wet- nurses. 5 ' The infant certainly was improved in health and temper. The nurse seemed devoted to him, and BREAKERS AHEAD. 79 the little fellow already clung to her in preference to his mother. For three weeks all went on well. During the fourth, as our mothers, Lena and I, sat in our cozy sitting-room one evenings sounds of loud talking pro- ceeded from down stairs. On inquiry it was found that Mr. Badall had called in a state of intoxication, and demanded that he should see his wife. Our nurse was completely overcome, and had a hysteri- cal fit. In the night I was hastily summoned to see the baby. There he was with a hot skin, with eye- lids twitching occasionlly. He was very nervous and very irritable. Toward morning he seemed better. We all noticed that our nurse did not seem as cheerful after her husband's visit as before, that she was easily excited, that little things nettled her. The boy, too, became irritable. For three consecu- tive nights was I up, nearly all the time trying to quiet or relieve some one or other of the family. Pity for the nurse and our baby had unnerved for the time the members of my family. Hence it was. that I endeavored, with a m jdicfne-book and a case of medicinal pellets, to ward off the visits of even mr good doctor, for such visits were costly, and I 8o WANTED — A PARTNER. had already paid out more money than my salary would safely allow ; but the " night-work " was telling on me. It is not agreeable either to be roused from sleep to " mix poultices/' to make catnip tea, or to lug upstairs earthen bottles full of boiling water. My only wish was that there might be another man in the house to whom could be committed a share of this work, or who would perform the whole of it. The pellets, poultices, etc., not acting with sufficient power to arouse the nurse, the doctor had to be sent for. u Well," he said, after listening to my vivid descrip- tion of what had befallen us, " you have had a tough time of it Matthews, but it will not do to keep Mrs. Badall. If she is so easily disturbed, there is no knowing what may happen to your boy. Perhaps her own child died from convulsions brought on after some row with her husband. Such things have hap- pened, and will occur again. She is not a safe •woman. We must try another nurse. Now, this time don't answer advertisements, but advertise and send the women to me, or, better still, let me adver- tise. Then, if we don't succeed, you can try the va* MORE ADVERTISING. 8 1 rious wet-nurse agencies and public institutions. Get an American or Englishwoman if you can, but I don't believe you will find one. They won't nurse other children than their own, as a rule> even if the highest wages are paid.'* So the nurse was sent away, and in the evening paper appeared the following advertisements : Wanted. — At No. 264 Tenth Street, an honest, re- liable, healthy and even-tempered wet-nurse. She must be well recommended, and must not be peculiar. None others need apply. Wanted. — By Doctor Lyons, a wet-nurse. Office hours, 8 to 10 a.m. 4 to 6 p.ivt. Chapter VII. ON THE TRAIL. "Y^THEN Lena saw our advertisements in the paper, she rated me for the wording of mine, saying, " Rob, no woman will ever answer such an advertis- ment as yours. You ask too much. Don't you remem- ber your experience at the intelligence office, dear?" I did remember going to the oftice, asking for a do- mestic, and having one sent to me. When I asked her if she drank, she replied, " ^jrink, is it ; shure and I do, both tay anc ^atay, and if yer want a woman that don't drink, yerll not be after findin' her here." Now, I did no' mean to insult the ser- vant — only hoped to get some information, and to be sure of a sober person ; bu' it was some little time, that day, before a woman could be prevailed on to go with me. As no person did appear in answer to my adver- tisement, save a tall, scrawny-looking female, my faith in my wife's common sense and tact was in* "want to buy a goat." 83 creased. Th:s ta.* woman bore the appearance of having seen better days, but there was a certain in- definable air of laziness about her that would not al- low me to employ her, though she had the best of recommendations. Testimonials as to character are only valuable, I have found, when they are given by persons who are not in the habit of writing them. Her letters had come either irom enthusiastic, pity- ing people, or I did not appreciate all the good quali- ties bound up in the listless woman before me. At any rate, so disgusted was I in my efforts to procure a wet-nurse, that I resolved to let the selection rest with the doctor ; so I notified him of that conclusion, and went to business, fully determined to throw my- self into work, and forget home cares. I should have succeeded had not Salter -plied me with questions about wet-nurses, and bringing up babies. u Say Bob, don't you want a goat ? I know where you can buy one cheap. Perhaps you wish a cow. Can get you one, if you like." Then there would be a rest of a few moments, in which I endeav- ored to apply myself to accounts. " Bob, now that I think of it, there is a new baby-food in the market, which might answer. It has a long Greek name to 84 THE PICTURE ON THE WRAPPER. it, which I can't remember, but that don't make any difference. All of them, nearly (so the druggists say), have such names, or try to have. Then, there is a picture on the wrapper — of some baby that has been fed on the food. Believe that would just suit you ; suppose you try it ? If you really want a reli- able wet-nurse, there is Mrs. Flynn's stepdaughter," etc., etc. I was fully satisfied with my hunt for wet-nurses, and did not relish the suggestion by Doctor Lyons, that evening, of our starting out together to visit agencies and institutions the following morning. But remembering that the next day would be a holiday, and that, after all, there was nothing like learning about people and things, I agreed. The answers to the doctors advertisement had not pleased him, so he decided to devote some time to the proposed visit. " The fact is," said Doctor L — , " that I generally resort to artificial feeding where there is so much difficulty in procuring a wet-nurse, as in your case, but it must be the right sort of feeding ; so it hap- pens that I seldom go after a wet-nurse. We will first visit the agencies — if there are any — for it is sup- MRS. QUIRK'S AGENCY. 85 posed by many that just what we want we can find there. My impression is, that there are but few agencies for the procuring of nurses in the United States, and that, as yet ? there is no real systematic ef- fort to furnish the persons most needing nurses with just the right kind of women. There are many relia- ble but poor mothers, who might and ought to earn sufficient money by wet-nursing the children of their well-to-do neighbors to provide quite nicely for the wants of their own little families. In the country, or in small towns where wet-nursing may have to be re- sorted to, neighbors are quite often made use of. In our cities we are subjected to impositions in various ways. It is a pity that we cannot prevail on more of these poor and reliable mothers to take care of our children— even if they came every morning to our homes and'left every night.'* As the doctor was talking we arrived at Mrs. Quirk's agency, 620 Second Avenue. The rooms occupied by Mrs. Quirk and her nurses were on the lowest floor of an old-fashioi ed brick house. They were dark. The ceilings were so low that a medium sized man might reach them by standing on tip-toe. In the front room, at one end, was Mrs. Quirk's desk, 86 MRS. QUIRK. books of account, and for registry. The furniture of the room was made up of unfortunate chairs and set- tees — here an arm missing, there a piece of a leg spliced to its old companion piece. Around the walls were signs and notices, wrought out by various per- sons undoubtedly, on different colored paper, in vari- ous shades of divers colors. One informed us that " Nurses of all nationalities can be procured here ; also servants, waiters, coachmen," etc., etc., etc. Another proclaimed that " Wet-nurses are always on hand. Special attention paid to procuring reliable, trusty women. Physicians and others can put im plicit faith in the nurses obtained here." A third notice, emphasized in very large black letters, on a white card, that " this agency has no connection what ever with Mr. Seville's ;'' that u it is the only reliable wet-nurse agency in the city." Mrs. Quirk — a woman of medium height, with a dumpish figure, covered with a dirty calico gown — received the doctor and myself with a bow and a cordiai shaking of hands, which meant business with every shake. Alter stating that for five dollars she would fur- nish wet nurses, if necessary, for three months, and SPOON FEED. 87 after having enlarged on the advantages she possessed for obtaining the best of women from institutions, and on her superior class of customers from Fifth Avenue and Madison Avenue, as compared with Mr. Seville's " trades-people," she ushered us into the back-room. There seated were women of all ages, so it seemed to me at first glance, but a second look and and in- quiry of Mrs. Quirk convinced me that none were over forty years of age, though they were careworn. The majority, so I learned, were unmarried woman with children. There were mothers there who could not have been over seventeen years of age, many of good parentage, all trying to obtain positions in order to support themselves and their babies. Mrs. Quirk informed me that when the nurses obtain places, their own babies are cared for in institutions for children, or by women who take children to ' spoon feed/ The doctor remarked " that babies cared for by such women, with their meagre knowledge of a baby's na- ture and of the right kind and mode of feeding, must die in large numbers/' " Oh, no, doctor," said Mrs. Quirk, in a remonstra- tive tone of voice, " you ought to see how healthy 88 ".\TX, SORTS/ they are. Of course come die, but only with Summer troupes, 3 * Out came my -note-book, and in it I made a memorandum of a proposed visit to one of these " baby-farming '' establishments. By this time in our baby's life I had begun to feel that I had learned something. Passing along the line of waiting woman, the doc- tor and Mrs. Quirk asked questions and took obser- vations. There was a young, timid mother — a mere girl in appearance — but bearing the stamp of a good family. One was coarse-skinned, vulgar in appear- ance, dirty in dress. Another had the thin skin and reddish hair so indicative of a sensitive organization. By her side sat the embodiment of keen prejudices and quick temper, in her flashing dark eyes and her darker hair. The muscular type of woman was there as well as the flabby, lymphatic one. There were all sorts of women, with all sorts of ideas, except the right ones — none could come up to the standard of my " qualifications/' and, as the doctor was not satis- fied, we called at Mr. Seville's. Like some other French (?) establishments in our large cities, Seville's was an American one. The only signs of French A MODEL AGENCY. 8q about the place were seen in a sign which announced the fact that " we speak French here/ 5 and in a woman attendant who evidently did all the talking that was done on Seville's side. Seville himself was an enterprising American, and so was his wife. There was none of the darkness, fussiness and mussi- ness here that was seen at Mrs. Quirk's. Everything was clean. The proprietor understood how to reach the eye and ear, as well as the nose, of the average citizen. His notices were uniform as to size and color. His furniture was well adapted to its uses. The women in his agency were required to be cleanly dressed, as long as they were in his rooms. He and his wife un- derstood fully the value of white linen caps and aprons in hiding defects and deficiencies, and in giving to the decidedly Irish face and figure an appearance similar to the French bonnes. Mrs. Quirk had derisively spoken of his place as the trade-peoples'. So it was, but it also had the patronage of the wealthy. His little artifices to gain the patronage of any one needing a servant or a nurse had proved wonderfully successfully in spite of Mrs. Quirk. The clerk on a small salary, the 90 " ROOM FOR IMPROVEMENT." tradesman in. a small way, the man of moderate in- come and the wealthy, were sure to consult Monsieur Seville before obtaining a wet-nurse. And yet Doc- tor Lyons pointed out to me the same class of women that we had seen at Mrs. Quirk's. It was ascertained that the same fee was asked as at Mrs. Quirk's ; that the women were obtained from the same sources, except, perhaps, that this agency, being considered by people at large a little more " respectable," there were few of the poor but reliable married women present, of whom Doctor Lyons had already spoken. With all the outside show, and the air of business respectability, a thorough examination by the doctor could not elicit from the proprietors any reliable information as to any such systematic records and plans of work done or to be accomplished as would satisfy any thorough person. a There is yet room for improvement," said the doctor, " and it is strange that our philanthropic women have not seen the need of a well planned sys- tem for the supply of proper wet-nurses. I under- stand that there is still another agency, managed ex- clusively by ladies ; let us go there. Then we can visit a few of the institutions, and thus decide upon a THEIR PLAN. selection of a nurse. Perhaps this society — agency as it is called — controlled by ladies, may prove, after all, just the one/ 5 We called there, and found three lady-like business- women in charge. Everything was neat and in order. Their plan was not to have the nurses at their rooms, but to keep a list of names and residences, and to send for the women when needed, or to send the pro- posed employers to their respective homes. As to any clear record of the ability of the woman to care for babies properly, of the character, health present and previous, or any necessary qualification, there was none. When asked whether there was any med- ical supervision of the nurses, one of the ladies replied " that they did have a doctor whenever it was neces- sary, but she did not think it was necessary." Doctor Lyons then urged the importance of having every woman examined by a careful physician. '* I well remember," he said, " how anxious a wealthy patient of mine was to procure a suitable nurse. For several days all sorts of efforts were made to obtain one that would answer. Several were tried and discharged. Finally, Mr. H announced with great satisfaction, that he had found c just the 92 SUMMING UP.' one.' A carriage was sent over to Brooklyn, and the nurse was brought to my office. She was in appar- ent good health— just the right age— just the person, except that I discovered upon her chest an eruption, which told of a blood-poison which must not be com- municated to the child of Mr. H. I might relate sev- eral cases which go to show the importance of care in selection ; but as Mr. Matthews and myself must hasten, I bid you good day," Armed with cards of admission, we then called at the Institutions— the Muncipal Hospital, St. Anthony's Retreat, and vari- ous homes and asylums. In some, the officers were gruff, disobliging and pompous. In others they were obsequious even to a disagreeable degree. At one " home " a lady-manager present spoke warmly in behalf of a young woman. We ascertained afterward that the bright side of the picture only had been shown us, so anxious was the lady to procure a situa- tion for the one she was interested in. In fact, we learned several things that day which may thus be summed up : First, that if one expects to procure a nurse, he or she must have tact and common sense. Second, all is not reliable that is said to be. Third, when there is reliability, there may not be suitability. FOR " BABY'S SAKE. 93 It was quite dark when I arrived home that even- ing, and soon after me came Sarah, the nurse chosen at one of the private institutions. " We will make a trial or two, more" said the doctor, and we did. This Sardi was tall, healthy, clean and lady-like, but the one mistake ior us was, her possession of an immense appetite. Nothing seemed to fully satisfy ner. Bowls of gruel, tea, chocolate and broma — plates full of vegetables and meat were disposed of, and all for " the dear baby's sake.'' The little fellow did thrive, but the butcher's and grocer's bills were enlarging. Some of my readers may have met with such a mammoth eater, and can fully appreciate the difficulty we labored under. Salter suggested that I had better buy a cow and feed the nurse plenty of milk. " It will be economy in the end, Bob ; you may depend on it." Little by little our nurse became more exacting, and astonished my wife by giving orders to the domestic as to what she wished for her meals. To discharge the nurse and feed the baby, or to take her by herself and admonish, as a father only can, was now a question to be settled. Chapter VIII. REPORTS PROGRESS. ^pO MEET the emergency now presented was not easy. One might speak of dress, and even of man- ners, but to suggest that an employee should eat less savored of stinginess. For some time our mothers, Lena and I, argued as to the best method of ap- proaching the nurse on such a tender subject as her food. My wife dreaded a " scene," and it was surpris- ing how little Mrs. Vincent and my mother cared for a tongue-to-tongue encounter. The baby seemed to be doing so well that even Mrs. Vincent was unwilling to discharge the nurse. My mother did think it " a shame that she should eat so much,'' and so did we all, and after a warm discus- sion upon the subject, it was decided that Mrs. Vin- cent shou! 1 have a talk with Sarah. So, upon the next day, she was invited into the sitting-room. " Sarah/' said Mrs. V., believing in this instance, that it was best to be conciliatory, " the baby is doing MANEUVERING. 95 very nicely — much better than I ever expected he would.' ' u Yes, ma'am, I know he is, and he is as fine a little fellow as ever you would find/' " But don't he pull you down,'' asked Mrs. Vincent, " he has grown so fat and heavy ?'' " Shure and he would, if I didn't have a good ap- petite, and can eat enough for the both of us. Don't I have to tell Kate in the kitchen not to make the tea so sloppy. The poor li' tie dear would never get fat on such weak stuff as that. If I wasn't all the time speaking to Kate about the victuals, I don't think Pd have a ha ? penny worth for the child. Savin' your presence, ma'am, when I nursed Mr. Judge O'Leary's baby, four years ago, I had my ale with the best of them, and now that you speak of it, a glass now and then would do the youngster a heap of good." " I did not speak of ale, Sarah, or of any spirituous drink, for I do not approve of such things. It was never intended that women should take such abom- inable stuff. I hope and trust Mr. Matthews will never consent to any such food as that for a nurse. Why, it would be the ruination " Here M$rs. Vincent, remembering that she had yet to talk calmly p6 ' DEFEATED. about food, regained her ordinary serenity. "Sarah you were speaking a few moments ago about eating. Don't you really think, my dear woman, that perhaps, after all, you eat too much food for your own good ? You know, sometimes a good deal of food will make people bilious, and I have noticed lately that your skin is not quite as clear as it was when you came to us. Perhaps, if you took a little less food than you do, you would feel brighter. You know you complain of a dull headache very often." " Yes, ma'am, I do have a headache once in a while, but it is not because I eat too much. When I was at home, my ould mother used to say I ate lightly, and would I now eat smaller than that? I couldn't do it, ma'am — the baby would starve." So Mrs. Vincent retired, defeated, and after a couple of days it was thought best that Lena should try her powers of persuasion. Sarah had begun now to be suspicious, and was qrite prepared for any assault, so that when my wife, in the kindest manner possible, suggested that it might be better for us if Sarah kept out of the kitchen and took her meals when the family did theirs, she was answered with: NURSE THREATENS. 97 "Do you think, Mrs. Matthews, that 1 came here to starve your baby and myself? All of you want a fat baby, and you want the nurse of it to live like the rest of you, who don't have a baby to nurse. The best thing for the whole of us is to get another woman to take care of the boy, and I'd better go now." At the mention of the baby's being left to pass through similar tribulations to those imposed after the departure of Mrs. Badall, my wife burst into tears. She was soon followed by Sarah, who declared " that going would break her heart, just as she loved the lit- tle darlin', and he would mourn for her ; but then it would be best." Lena could not say anything further. The result was that Sarah staid on. She ate at regular times now, but the times were quite often, and we could not see that any less food was consumed than before. Whenever any hint was broached as to the food, Sarah took it up and proposed to leave. So it hap- pened that affairs remained in this way for one month longer, when we were again called upon to meet an emergency. Baby had of late been cross, and cried vory often. Even at night we heard his short, fretful 98 mrs. Vincent's opinion. cries, with occasionally a long one, indicative, so the books said, of pain or hunger. Believing that a pin might be pricking, or a pain griping, the boy re- ceived from his grandmothers various robbings, and a number of the usual home remedies, to be applied internally, externally, and it seemed to me, eternal!}' ; but the relief was only temporary c Mrs, Vincent, on the lookout for disturbing causes, finally gave it as ner opinion that the baby wasn't getting sufficient food ; that she believed the nurse's milk was failing. And so it was. Again was Doctor Lyons appealed to to help our baby. He first advised that the nurse should be dis- charged : a She would not change her ideas as to eating, and in proportion as she grows fat and large, just in that proportion will the secretions diminish proba- bly Your experience, Mr Matthews, with nurses has already taupht you that the largest, finest-looking women may not be best adapted to care for children. WomfeE who get insufficient food may not be able to irse, and the same with those who use too much e 6 women, with an excess of fat and musciec DECEPTION AND TRICKERY. 99 women with an excess of nervous development, may not be able to feed naturally. The trouble with this last nurse of yours has been that she has been add- ing to the size of her own body at the expense of the secretions. Probably at home she did eat lightly, as she says, but it was because she had but little to eat, or did not have a variety of food. When she came to you, she did as she probably was ac~ customed to do at Judge O'Leary's she speaks about — that is, gormandize. You can see, Matthews, by this time, some of the trials we have with nurses. Occasionally we do find excellent women — mentally and physically — but they are exceptions Bear in mind the class of women we saw at the agencies and institutions, many of them already broken-down in health and spirits, entirely unfit to care for any childo Some absolutely so diseased that their toucli was contamination. Look at the deception and trickery practiced in private as well as public insti° tutions! Think of the carelessness and negligence everywhere apparent — the struggle for employment and money, without regard for truthfulness or the good of the employer — and do you wonder that 100 THE AVERAGE WET-NURSE. ladies are continuaFy deceived as t3 their nurses? The average nurse believes that she must have ale or lager- beer ; these drinks may be of service with some women at certain times, but plenty of cow's milk, nourishing soups and broths, are better. A re- liable extract of malt is more serviceable than any malt liquor. The average wet-nurse is a peculiar character, well worthy to be the object of the de- scriptive powers of a Dickens, but Mrs. Matthews, we must decide as to the baby. Sarah will not take any steps toward following out any plan by which she might regain lost ground, so she must leave. To-morrow I will send you a very nice woman, who may be able to stay with you through the day and care for the baby, and you will have to look out for it at night by feeding. The boy is getting to be narjrly five months old now, and will stand it, I hope \\ e rrjght feed him entirely, to be sure, if everybody was caielul, but the warm weather is coming, and it may be well 10 have nursing to fall back upon. This Mrs. Leonard is a very respect- able American woman, with a baby som. three months older than yours. But that, I hope, will make no difference. She can have her baby fed in the daytime." BABY S PERVERSITY. 101 Mrs. Leonard came, and in every way she an- swered our purpose. We could find no fault, but what can I say as to the nights ? Before this I had had but little to do with baby at night. Now 1 was forced by circumstances to attend to him. He would have fits of crying, or, in the middle of the night, would lie on his back, wide awake, crowing and laughing. The light had been kept burning for his especial benefit, but he cried just the same. It was my duty —planned out by our good mothers — to turn up or down the light as it became necessary, to attend to the heating of flannels whenever needed, to warm the catnip, to take my turn at hushing the baby — in fact, to do just what they would have done were. they in my place, in my room. One night, in turning down the light, it went out, and before I could find a match to relight the gas, the boy had calmed down and gone to sleep. Quite often the light went out after this, and generally with the same result. Mrs. Percy, hearing of this incident, gave it as her experience that " a light was entirely .unnecessary ;" for, except with her first baby for a while, they never had one at night. Mrs.. Lazelle couldn t get along without one. 102 CUTTING TEETH. Just about one week after Mrs. Leonard's arrival, the little fellow seemed to be unusually troublesome. Our good-hearted servant knew " it was the teeth that was at him." The rest of the family eagerly indorsed Kate's opinion, and then did I find that the first tooth was as anxiously watched for as the first baby itself is. From the tossing and rolling of the head, from an occasional heat of skin, on account of " druling," from the fact that the baby munched his nurse's fingers as well as the fingers of any one in reach — because he eagerly grasped anything avail- able, and put it, if possible, into his capacious little mouth — u he was cutting his tooth." Well, I can only say that babies choose very in- opportune times for such things. Had he decided to do all thi when we had a nurse, well and good, but to pick out this especial time, when I was in charge, was not fair ; so I appealed to the grand- mothers, and they took my place, while I occupied the room up-stairs ; but the teeth didn't come through till fully six weeks from that time, and then only one little solitary tooth made its appearance, as if it was afraid to intrude. This six weeks had been time enough for an im- THE FIRST TOOTH* I03 mense amount of speculation as to the number oi teeth that would come, time enough for the friends in the neighborhood to pour into mj wife's ears the details as to the cutting of all the teeth of all their children- Fortunately, our boy had not been trouble- some for the whole of the six weeks. For a few days he was restless, and the friends would suppose that the tooth was about to show itself, then he would calm down. This was repeated several times before the venturesome tooth appeared. This I found was the history of many teeth. After the tooth had really pushed its way through to the surface, it was shown with delight to many friends ; but Mrs. Lazelle couldn't help remarking that "her babies all cut their teeth before five months, and, in fact, one of them, Leonora, was as early as three months. ,, She failed to continue, as we thought she might, and show that, notwithstanding this early dentition, there were no poorer teeth in the neigh- borhood, perhaps, than those belonging to these very children of Mrs. Lazelle. The minister's wife went into ecstasies over the tooth, and while she dandled the baby, talked to it of its "tootsey-pootsey," whatever that might be. The 104 AN "UNKNOWN TONGUE. ladies informed me afterward that that was baby- talk. It was well that I learned what it was, for I was doomed for some time to listen to just such talk from Mrs. Barnaby whenever she called, and as Mrs. Barnaby was rather looked upon by many of the church people as being about right, it was not sur- prising that Miss Denny occasionally let fall a word in this unknown tongue. Even the careful, educated Miss Oley, found herself at times checking herself. To this day I cannot see the sense of saying i4 day, day and ta, ta," when a baby is asked about going out for a walk, etc., but ladies evidently did then and still do. Mrs. Jones sterling good sense was 01 great use to us, whenever she had the time to give us a call and furnish us with some of her carefully wrought-out experience. She was an observing woman, who did not take everything for granted that she read or saw, and it was well that she did not, for the Crosstown Health Journal (so-called) was making its way into the various families connected with our church with amazing rapidity. Heading the list of subscribers was the name of Rev. Joseph A. Barnaby, D.D., and foremost in the ranks of its admirers was the reverend VISITING OUR NEIGHBORS. I05 gentleman. So thoroughly was Mr. B. in accord with the vital questions of the day that he felt it to be necessary to thoroughly ground himseJ^in hygienic matters, as well as in theological and social problems, so he indorsed the Crosstown Journal. This he did the more readily as it was well understood that in a short time he would encourage the ladies in their efforts to establish a nursery, by the delivery of an address, full of facts and statistics showing the im- portance of a new institution for the care of the little ones. That many of his facts were to be taken from this Crosstown Journal was a strong advertisement for the magazine's agent, and he made good use of in My wife and I, determined to learn what we could about babies in general, and ours in particular, de- cided that we would, after all, get interested in this new nursery, that we would visit our neighbors at their homes and study out children there, that we would keep a well-managed diary of events ; so the following evening we called at Mrs. Lazelle's. Chapter IX. our neighbor's children ^pHAT my readers may not imagine that the writer has branched off, for the time being, to describe his neighbors, with the purpose in view of abandoning his baby, I will state that the child gradually became accustomed to the last change, and seemed to do well. While he was doing well, Lena and I, now thor- oughly aroused to the importance of knowledge as well as theory in the care of children, could conceive of no better way of acquiring it than to visit the very people at their homes who had called upon us and given their experience for our use. Not that I be- lieve it is well to always proceed in this way ; but we had already read over most of the books loaned by Dr. Lyons ; had had, in a short time, quite a varied experience, so we thought ; and then we both of us believed that we had at least a little more common sense than the majority of young parents. MRS. LAZELLE'S "FOUR.' 107 It was our purpose, then, to try to procure, through the mistakes and experience of other people, material that would serve in the future for the perfect bringing up of our boy. You will remember that Mrs. Lazelle sadly claimed the ownership of four children, two boys and two girls — Gustavus, aged ten years ; Leonora, seven years ; Sophronia, five years ; and the " baby," Au- gustus, of three and a half years of age. When we arrived at the pretty little house, four doors down, at just half-past eight, p. m., these four individuals greeted us at the door in a boisterous and not very agreeable manner. It so happened that when the door-bell rang, the two children who were up-stairs managed, by sliding down the ban- ister, or with giant strides, to come in collision with the two who had emerged from the sitting-room, and were rushing to the door. The consequence was that a mass of wriggling humanity found itself at the door in due time. To quiet these lively members of the family was not easy, and so Mrs. Lazelle found it, as she en- deavored to welcome us ; but the welcome lost some of its force, as the lady's voice seemed but a whis- 108 " SIXES AND. SEVENS." per amid the pervading din. Finally, by the help of the father, the various children were disposed of ,for the time by being placed on chairs. Then, and not till then, had I an opportunity to look about me. From what I saw, and learned from outsiders after- ward, it appeared that the house had been built some twelve years before ; that it had been considered a neat, home-like residence — just such an one as a young couple would wish to begin their married life in. Little by little, additions had been built on. This room had been changed in shape, that one had been converted into a storeroom or closet. The first baby set Mrs. Lazelle to planning for an enlargement of quarters, and this desire for a change had seemed to enlarge, with every successive baby, till at the time of our visit, she was ready at any time to " better " her- self, as she called it. So it came to pass that, owing to this restless spirit, and the possession of a family, the household furniture was no longer " matched/' Ornamental articles were eitner sadly in need of re- pair, or were missing. Everything seemed to call aloud for somebody's care. At the time of her mar- riage. Mrs. Lazelle was young, pretty, proud and sen- "a dyspeptic baby." 109 sitive, with just enough money on hand for her to im- agine that they might live comfortably, so the pleas- ant little house was built. Lazelle was an agreeable gentleman, of good char- acter, also possessed of some money ; fond of his wife, but rather liking his ease. As long as the honeymoon lasted without a baby, the little discrepancies whijh arise in most families were smoothed away. When Gustavus arrived, and after the first out- break of joy was over, Mr. and Mrs. Lazelle found that a babe in : . house migh be a well-spring of pleas- ure, if it had no lungs or apparatus of voice, for the little fellow was born dyspeptic, and was subject to pain and griping. . His mother was c'yspeptic before him, but whether dyspepsia can be hereditary, has not, I believe, been fully ascertained. Being a dys- peptic baby, and the mother being of a nervous tem- perament, and her milk not agreeing with the child, a cow was purchased, and a nurse procured to feed the child with the cow's milk. Now this nurse and Mrs. Lazelle had some views in common, viz., that an occasional dose of laxative medicine was good for a baby, and that when a baby cried, especially at IIO EFFECT OF " SLEEP DROPS." night, it was advisable to quiet it first by rocking and singing, and secondly by some soothing medicine or " sleep-drops," but as the medicine must always bo at hand, it came about that it was more often used, perhaps, than the first method was. Doctor Namen, the doctor of the well-to-do classes, the man of dig- nity and reputation, was, of course, the one present at the birth of the first babv, and after he had made his few necessary visits, he did not call. As the child was easily relieved of a pain or quieted into a sleep by the mapfic draught, it was seldom deemed necessary to send for the physician. When he was sent for, he looked with great composure upon the puny, scream- ing baby, and suggested in his low, impressive voice, * that it might be well to give the child a warm foot- bath, to rub his back a little, and to dilute his milk a trifle more. ,? The milk was diluted, the bath was given, and the back rubbed but the baby grew thin- ner and thinner, in spite of those attentions. When it had dwindled down into a marasmic infant and looked like an old man, with his dry and shriveled skin and its sunken eyes, then, and not till then, did Mrs. Lazelle see the importance of rousing herself. The first thing was to change the doctor, so Doctor Pearsall was called in A CATEGORY OF ILLS. !P This physician was a man of about forty years of *\ge, well fed, contented with himself and the way in which the world had used him. Starting in his professional career with some money and energy, he had prospered. Naturally of a more cheerful disposition than Doctor Namen, he had made his mark in a shorter time. His energy combined with a practice he had of leaving the carrying-out of de- tails to his patients, won him many friends among the female portion of the population. When he assumed the charge of the Lazelle baby his observations soon showed him that the child could not prosper as long as the food was not di- gested, and laxatives were alternated with medicines to induce sleep. These difficulties were pointed out, and directions written down ; but there the matter ended. The child thrived quite well, but was sub- ject to fits of indigestion and attacks of fever. Twice did it have convulsions, once measles, once chicken- pox, once bronchitis, etc., etc., for the list as given me by Mrs. L. was quite a long one. At ten years of age, wj found him tall, thin, full of nervous excitement, peevish and irritable. His every whim was gratified for fear that any opposi- 112 TOO MUCH DOCTOR, tion might induce brain trouble, which had been known to oz present in some of his ancestors years before. His teeth were eroded and diseased, the result, as Doctor Lyons told me, of his frequent in- digestions and attacks of sickness ; and the doctor knew, for he too had attended this family. It was only for a short time, for Mrs. Lazelle, as she became more and more worried with her family cares, grew more and more exacting with every one but herself, so Doctors Namen, Pearsall, Lyons, Sawyer, Bowles and Belcher were tried each in turn ; but still the children did not develop and grow as those of Mrs. Jones did, who rarely had a physician in the house. These above-named doctors were different types of men, and represented at least two of the so-called medical systems or u pathies," and yet they were not able to accomplish much. What Mrs. Jones be- lieved was, that a mother's care was wanting. " Doc- tors are of no use," she said, " unless the mother will do as they say.'' That the mother was inefficient was shown during our visit, for though it was nearly nine o'clock, p.m., the little three year old Augustus, who should have been in bed, was wide awake, and, moreover, in his anxiety to get upon a chair, before " BUTTER SIDE DOWN." II3 the descending hand of the father could reach him, had placed upon the sofa a piece of bread and butter, the butter-side being down. It was no unusual thing, so it seemed, to give the children something to eat before going to bed, though a hearty supper had been disposed of at seven o'clock. In fact Augustus, who awoke in the night, complain- ing of feeling " hungry," was supplied with some- thing. The first call in the morning and nearly the last at night was " something to eat," and so it had always been. The boy had grown to be fat, saucy, and given to destructiveness. In fact, he was over- fed, and, like the seal at the Aquarium, showed his gorging by a skin eruption on and about his face. Sophronia, who had lived with her grandmother in the country for a year or more, showed the effects of good, pure air and wholesome food, combined with an intelligent oversight in her more robust figure and better behavior than was apparent in her brothers and sister ; but by contact with the unruly members of the family, the girl was in danger of losing the good characteristics. Leonora, though she had cut her teeth at an early age, did not have many to boast of at seven years. A pale, sickly girl she 114 A YOUNG TYRANT. ■ * was, fond of pastry and sweets, and unwilling to touch such " stuff" as meat and vegetables. Twice bad the effort been made to send her to school, but each time she had returned home with a headache. The last time roused her father into looking into the condition of the school, and when he found that over sixty children were crowded into a mere closet, it seemed to him, even with his easy-going nature, necessary to do something, so the child was kept out of school, and she was sickly — deficient in mind and muscle. It was a question with Lena and myself whether such a specimen of humanity could stand th r l: