HB 83/ Book ^j^l A^j^frt- To Whom Much Is Given BY K^t^5riU,^hu hgtfa:^ously been left to play on the stre^^^ wiming ^l^if^'sj^ becoming a wild little stre^Vaif. fiiP^^^'^^gjend, ^fl\:eaching her home, gave tlW child J^(&S/tl2 Si't§§5 ^^"^ 1n Wean under- wear, taught hea^t^care for her person and y/o mend her clothing. She UM|^J^Uf^ij«ji^&|-^^ If^r^^e kitchen to see a dessert pr^p^^^^ fesiTrt' \\<^^ M^-rfs ^r^mWy luncheon, where gentle instruction in good table manners accompanied the unaccustomed dainties. After the meal, a walk, or story, or games, or music, filled a happy afternoon. This weekly visit to what seemed to the child a little earthly paradise made a profound impression on her life. Better manners, better English and a new standard of living were carried back to the tenement-house. Sweet Miss Ethel became the child's patron saint and the inspirer of laudable ambition. It cost a patient, persistent sacrifice of one whole day every week, but it meant the lightening of a widow's burden, and the saving of a little soul. Let the new church windows be paid for chiefly by those who earn money regularly and profitably, or let them wait for a time. Let the hospital bed wait longer for endowment if the money must be gained by labor which otherwise directed might prevent the illness and disaster for which 34 TO WHOM MUCH IS GIVEN. that bed is designed. Let costly palliatives be provided by those who cannot do the far more important work of pre- vention. When Lady Bountifuls will pay their milliners and dressmakers promptly, and cease shopping after five and on Saturday afternoons, and purchase only at the shops upon the ''white list," there will be fewer girls who need dispensary and hospital. If one, at odd moments, produces something of genuine market value, well and good ; let it be sold at the Woman's Exchange, or store, at market price, and the money used in charities. Teaching little Italians and Poles how to make their own flannel petticoats is a better social service than making money by tidies or tableaux to buy them clothes. The supposition is that sociability is fostered more by fairs than by anything else, but cannot social intercourse come by co- operation in wise, instead of unwise work ? Is it not better to have purchasers free to buy only what they want and at the shops, thus encouraging legitimate trade, than to cajole them into buying and cluttering their houses with that superfluity of nicknacks which makes so many homes seem fussy and unrestful ? Granted that more money is wheedled out of the com- munity by fairs than could be got by any other means, what then ? Money is only one of many things that the world needs. Let no woman flatter herself that she does more good than harm, unless like a good player of checkers she can look two moves ahead ; unless she abhors stupid circumlocution, and self-deception. Only a few of the countless, wise methods of social serv- ice can be here suggested. Such are collecting and sending THE PRIVILEGED WOMAN. 35 magazines, papers and clippings to white and colored teach- ers and preachers in poor communities that have no libraries, for which addresses can always be obtained through mission- ary bureaus, or by writing directly to postmasters, or schools like Hampton, or Tuskegee. Every privileged family should be in close correspondence with some unprivileged people a thousand miles away. There is Associated Charity work which always needs more workers and more devotion ; day nurseries; home libraries;^ girls' clubs; boys' clubs; classes for domestics in a given neighborhood, where current events, foreign travel, illustrated with pictures, or other mat- ters may be presented by a tactful woman in such wise as to break the monotony of housework and give her hearers a glimpse of culture that of right belongs to them as well as her. There is the work of collecting rents in tenement- houses and thus touching in helpful ways many a slatternly and discouraged woman ; the nomination and election of good school-boards, for which women in many states are as responsible as men ; the study of civic needs and conditions and infractions of ordinances, and the initiation of bills look- ing toward the abolition of eyesores and unsanitary con- ditions. Perhaps the best work will be done by careful study of some civic disorder like the work of Mrs. Kinnicutt, of New York, who made Col. Waring' s world-famous re- form in street management a possibility. CULTURE. Comparatively few privileged women devote as much time to social service of any kind, wise or unwise, as to self- culture. In the mad effort to obtain that summum bonum, the '' cultivated " woman often fails more pitiably than in any ^Boston has over sixty of these ; its headquarters are with the Child- ren's Aid Society. 36 TO WHOM MUCH IS GIVEN. other endeavor of her life. Unless she is a peculiarly well- balanced woman, she feels a pressure upon her ''to keep up with the times," to have at least a bowing acquaintance with all the works of the greatest novelists and poets ; to know the greatest dramatic and musical gossip, the society news, and an indefinite amount of literature, history, languages, politics, and current events. Such a woman, in her reading and study, works often with breathless zeal but little discre- tion, and takes up whatever subjects acquaintances or whim suggest, or a club dictates. She has no true principle of selection. In her desire to gratify a mental curiosity, she tastes of endless dishes, good, bad and indifferent, but sups on none, and thus induces mental dyspepsia. It is only the exceptional woman who takes the matter of self-culture quite seriously — that is, with a definite idea of what she most needs and how to attain it. Conscientious mothers, who, for the sake of their families want to make the most of themselves, no less than the frivolous society woman who joins a class because it is the fashion to study something, are here led wildly astray. When untrained in discrimination as to the relative value of subjects, they often make woful mistakes as to the im- portance of one epoch of history or one department of thought over another. A belief that a conversational knowl- edge of French and German is a necessary element of cul- ture is one of the most pernicious fallacies held by the type of American woman who has no command of her own lan- guage and little knowledge of the best English literature. Many are the women who assiduously read French or Span- ish history before they know the first principles of their own. They can give the pedigrees of worthless Louises and Rod- erigos when they have no idea of what the names, " Sir Harry Vane," <*Pitt/' "Hamilton," or ''Jefferson" stand THE PRIVILEGED WOMAN. 37 for in the progress of political thought. Such women will study Scandanavian mythology or Shintoism, when they know almost nothing of the history of their own religion, and could not tell Ezra from Athanasius, or guess within five hundred years of the date of King David. They will take lessons for years to enable them to chatter French and German as fluently as a portier at a continental hotel, and yet be as ignorant as he of the art, philosophy, politics, science, or historical significance of the nations whose idioms and accents they have mastered with such pains. Caring more for the form of thought than for thought itself, they would apparently rather have one idea that they could express in three languages than have three ideas and express them in but one tongue. They may study china painting and devote to a fragile dinner-set as much time as would have made them familiar with the best thought of Ruskin and Liibke, and have in- finitely enlarged their enjoyment and comprehension, not alone of painting, but of sculpture, architecture, and nature as well. When a perception of relative values has been gained, and it is seen that mental food must not be taken unless it nourishes the mind or soul, then class and lecture, magazine and book will play a different part in culture. The cause of a conflict will receive more study than the details of a cam- paign. The great strike and little civic war ensuing in Penn- sylvania will demand more attention than the details of even the Dreyfus case. About the principles involved in one, we have some measure of responsibility to form public opinion, and form it justly ; the other is a thrilling tale, unparalleled in fiction, but for which we have no jot or tittle of responsi- bility. The main facts about it are all that most busy peo- ple can afford to study. 38 TO WHOM MUCH IS GIVEN, When the mind becomes really cultivated it will put away, not only childish things, but things which, as Barrie's Senti- mental Tommy said, ** with which we have no concern." What once seemed delightful and interesting, as did blocks and paper-dolls in babyhood, will be replaced in in- terest by what at present seems dull or incomprehensible. " Heartily know, when half-gods go The gods arrive." In the selection of subjects for regular study, the earnest woman will always bear in mind the truth that Ruskin teaches : *' Life is short and the quiet hours of it few," and that these hours are precious and must be used to best ad- vantage j that, as Lowell says : " Desultory reading hebe- tates the will and cuts the bowstring of action." Desul- tory reading is not necessarily hasty and partial reading ; it is aimless reading. The man of science who has command of his subject may hastily and partially read a new book without his reading being desultory. His quick, keen eye discerns the salient points, and he wastes no time in per- functorily reading through what is irrelevant to his purpose. '' The good reader, like the inventor, must be a good selector." Out of the infinity of material offered him he must take only what he can use and sternly reject all else. He must be ashamed of frittering away his time on too many unrelated things. He must be perfectly ready to pro- fess an unashamed ignorance of most subjects that do not in some way touch his responsibilities. Reading for mere rec- reation may follow the moment's whim, but reading for en- largement of power must have, not only persistence and thoroughness, but a noble and definite aim. Each reader must study her own needs. If her husband is an artist, a knowledge of the history of art may be far better for her THE PRIVILEGED WOMAN. 39 than a study of Darwin or Maeterlinck ; if he be a dyspeptic, a course in domestic science may be worth more than even the history of art. Whatever else they study, the social and industrial prob- lems of our own day should be a constant and most im- portant part of the culture of all privileged women. The woman of leisure who confounds socialism with anarchism or communism; who does not know what ''black-listing" or the "truck system" or ''sweating" mean; who has no more idea than a child what the wealth of the country is or how it is distributed ; or how her town is governed ; who does not know by personal inspection the immigrant quarter of her own town ; or know where to direct a beggar to go, is a woman who has a weak sense of responsibility unless she use some of her leisure to inform herself.^ These subjects are not as entertaining as the history of Verdi's operas, or lives of ladies of the French Salons, but as they have a vital relation to one's responsibilities, igno- rance of them becomes a reproach. A sound knowledge of history is needed to give standards of comparison. This sound knowledge must be based on philosophic insight and not on endless, unsifted facts. It must be made to throw light on the problems of to-day. " The perception of identity," says Emerson, " is the guage of intellectual attainment." That is a very profound in- sight. It was the perception of the identity of forces of nature that developed the theist from the polytheist. It is 1 The following books are suggested for a beginning of this study : Social Ideals In English Letters, Vida D. Scuddar; Culture and Anarchy, Matthew Arnold ; Crown of Wild Olives, Unto This Last, Ruskin ; Hopes and Fears for Art, Wm. Norris ; American Political Ideas, John Fiske; Socialism and Social Reform, Richard T. Ely; History of Socialism, T. Kirkup; Evolution of Modern Capitalism, J. A. Hobspn, 40 TO WHOM MUCH IS GIVEN. the perception of identity that has given us much of the science we have to-day, including the doctrines of evolution and the correlation of forces. It is that perception that made Garrison and Phillips see under the skin of the black man a soul identical with their own — a child of God. The woman who applies this principle to daily life will see that, in scope, civic administration on a large scale, and her housekeeping on a small scale, are identical. She will see that the tyranny of a King George, or of an unscrupulous "boss" in a so-called 'democracy," are identical. She will see that certain transactions in stocks are the same as robbery; that persuading her husband to take her to the horse-show on the night of his caucus, and cajoling him into sacrificing a debt of honor for her amusement, are in princi- ple the same. In studying literature or history, every man should be studied in relation to his contemporaries ; every fact, in its relation to other facts. Every isolated fact should be seen to be worthless until it is related to others and illustrates a principle. Let the seeker for culture learn to utilize her wealth of material; to see that the poet, or man of insight, " finds no subject that does not belong to him — politics, stock-broker- age, manufacturers and political economy just as much as sunsets and souls " ; that what we need is '^to convert the vivid energies acting at this hour in New York, and Chicago and San Francisco into universal symbols," making this " contemporary insight transubstantiation, a conversion of daily bread into the holiest symbols." HOW TO DO IT. The work of the privileged woman to-day is thus seen to be largely a guidance of public sentiment on social questions. THE PRIVILEGED WOMAN. 41 It is the setting up of new standards and ideals and a dili- gent, persistent holding them up against all opposition. It requires that kind of moral courage in which women as a rule are inferior to men. The first step in learning '* how to do it " is, as has been shown, the being born again, the coming to a new sense of obligation and responsibility. The second step is in the systematizing of time and energy. This means the making of home-life simpler, study more definite, the club-life in its different branches more coordinated, and less aimless, super- ficial and miscellaneous than it often is. While many clubs are doing a noble work, it must be confessed that the majority are not yet past the early stage when the most that can be said of them is that they bring Baptists and Unitarians into friendly relations, substitute for gossip an hour's harmless entertainment by a lecture on birds, or Japanese art or Persian poetry, and teach a few women not to be afraid of the sound of their own voices. But to-day the world is asking more of club-women than that they write a paper once a winter on orchids, or nihilism, or the chafing-dish and listen to twenty other papers on as many unrelated subjects. Except for rare souls dowered with genius, the nineteenth century method for large and valuable_ac£Dmplishment is organization. It is for the privileged woman to so guide home-life, and club work, and church work, that their varied interests may all be organized and harnessed together and like good steeds pull toward one goal, instead of, as too fre- quently, like an unruly train of Esquimaux dogs with a poor driver, pull in twenty ways at once. Concentration, per- sistence, calm indifference to the latest novelties that distract attention, and a burning desire to bring all forces to bear to make the home, the club, and the class a distinct power in 42 TO WHOM MUCH IS GIVEN. the community for its upbuilding — these are the things to aim at. To do this the woman must acquire the power to think logically and to speak English effectively. She must be able to speak so as to be heard and if necessary take lessons in order to accomplish this. She must rid herself of tricks of speech : over emphasis on every word, which of course, leaves nothing emphasized ; the use of long, roundabout, parenthetical clauses that obscure the meaning ; the incoherent, half-con- struction of sentences without any clear thought ; the limited vocabulary that makes a half-dozen overworked adjectives and adverbs do duty for everything in heaven and earth ; she must especially avoid the insertion of irrelevant matter, and indulgence in anti-climaxes. The time and money spent in mastering an accomplish- ment for occasional use, like a foreign language or a musical instrument, would more than suffice to make the most timid and least-gifted bungler in speech into an agreeable speaker, at all times able to say what she wanted to say in effective fashion. Practice would enable her to use this power in a larger circle than that around the tea-table. That so neces- sary an acquirement as clear, ready speech should be so rare amongst great readers evinces a need for greater activity and less passivity in the intellectual life. If, instead of listening to endless papers, the club-woman of to-day were to join a well-managed class in debate in which live questions were discussed under a competent instructor, she, perhaps, would do the most important thing that she could do for her own culture and usefulness. The woman who, after she demonstrates her last problem at school and writes her graduating essay, is not called upon for ten years to put any thought into definite shape, finds with astonishment that her power of thought is as weak THE PRIVILEGED WOMAN. 43 and beyond her control as her fingers are if she has not touched a piano during the interval. Let her practice daily the careful analysis of some good thing that she has read or heard. Let her pass on to some interested person whatever she has gained and she will develop more by only fifteen minutes work a day than do all the blue-stockings of her ac- quaintance who have lectures galore and write papers cribbed from encyclopedias. Without self-activity in giving forth, mind and soul become atrophied. Why do so many women decline to give a report of a lec- ture or sermon with the words : '* Oh, don't ask me ; I liked it, but I can never tell anything ' ' ? The feminine mind ex- presses itself very volubly upon occasion. When the discussion is upon matters where a disorderly, whimsical, temperamental treatment is permissible there is not only great rapidity, but great vehemence and often brilliancy of expression. Here there is no sense of responsibility, no need of weighing words, or of doing logical thinking. But when a matter of genuine importance is raised, there is often a leaping to generalizations from inadequate data, a running off at a tangent, and a general vagueness of thought that is humiliating. This is rarely due to lack of ability, but to lack of training caused by a weakening sense of irre- sponsibility. More and more, men are coming to see that the removal of responsibility from women is the cruelest form of kind- ness. There are many who still smile at their wives dawn- ing interest in public affairs, who do not care to discuss trades-unions or civil service reform at home, and by their silence or banter discourage frank discussion ; but the man who respects womanhood and sees her needs is not far to seek. He rejoices in the woman who can think independ- ently and sweetly, bravely, clearly state her conviction. 44: TO WHOM MUCH IS GIVEN. The average matron, if she has not such a husband, feels, when she is once awakened to a sense of civic duty, that the burden is greater than she can bear. She is bewildered by the growing complexity and immensity of the social and industrial problems ; her half-forgotten school education, her miscellaneous reading, and vague, irresponsible thinking have unfitted her to deal with them. She, too often, falls back half-sorrowfuUy upon fairs and almsgivings as a sop to her conscience. Such is frequently the history of strong, capable minds whose possibilities for helpfulness in unravelling the tangled skein of social problems were immeasurable. Their gener- ous impulses have been stunted, their minds have run to waste; their life, though filled with club and church and committee meetings, is largely aimless and ineffective. The few who have a keen sense of responsibility and wis- dom in making their work effective, are overburdened with their own and others' work. It is difficult for such to live an all-round and well-balanced life. The intensity of the woman, who knows her obligations to society, is in danger of making her present reform as an unlovely thing and the re- former as a bore. Let these faithful workers who are trying to do not only their own share of service, but that of all the drones and shirks as well, remember that serenity and sweetness as well as strenuousness are powerful weapons ; that a tactful pres- entation at a dinner table of reasons for a Consumers* League ; or an inspiring story of civic heroism to rampant jingoes in a nursery ; or a friendly talk in the kitchen about the Tammany tiger, may be as effectual as lobbying or lec- turing. The place where missionary work is oftenest needed is in drawing-rooms, where members of the " perishing upper classes " need to be made to see that to "go shares with the THE PRIVILEGED WOMAN. 45 unlucky " sometimes gives a keener zest to life than kennel- clubs and millinery openings. Let the reformer recollect that there are souls to save not only in tenements but in brown-stone mansions. That many a warm heart under a chiffon waist longs for an oppor- tunity to love and work, and welcomes as a thirsty flower welcomes rain, the inspiration to a larger life. The earnest woman is too often tempted to despise those, whom she should but pity, because they live in gilded cages, when, if they only knew the joy of freedom, they too might soar and sing. She must illumine her reform work and make it seem not a mere matter of dull duty and dry statistics — not the special work of some peculiar people labelled ''reformers," but simply the natural daily work of every child of God ; who, by his birthright, has the privilege to guide the wander- ing, to strengthen the weak, to cleanse the foul, to set the crooked straight, and to make in the deserts a highway for our God. The frightful waste of latent ability, of study misguided, of opportunities that can never return are often, though un- noticed and unmourned, far more tragic than swift calamities that shock a nation, like the dramatic sinking of the Maine. All men must sometime die ; the shortening of one's years on this little planet is not the most tragic thing that we must face. But that the highest opportunities for service, which means larger life, should carelessly be thrown away; that life should be cramped when it might be broad, or feverish when it might be calm, or selfish when it might be noble ; that the unprivileged should cry in vain for help to those who might help — that, indeed, is tragedy. i '- i-^i? 1:^35 i