Rnnk . ft 5 ■='a§flJ7-AHBitc^3i Cf .^^ 5? A MEMORIAL OF ALICE AND PHOEBE GARY, WITH SOME OF THEIR LATER POEMS. BY MARY CLEMMER AMES. JLLUSTKATED BY TIVO PORTRAITS ON STEEL. TWELFTH THOUSAND. NEW YORK: PUBLISHED BY HURD AND HOUGHTON. 1875- Entered according to Act of Congress, in the year 1873, cj HuRD AND Houghton, in the Office of the Librarian of Congress, at Washingtca. Br Transf ei RIVERSIDE, CAMBRIDGX : BTEREOTYPED AND PRINTS O .v^ H. O. HOUGHTON AND COMi >>¥. TO ALICE GARY CLYMER (LITTLE ALICE), WHC, fO THEIR LAST EARTHLY HOUR, GAVE TO HER AUKTS A daughter's TENDEREST love and DEVOTION, THIS MEMORLAL OF THEIR LIVES ii ^ffcctumatcTi? lictftcatclf, • BY HER FRIEND AND THEIRS, MARY CLEMMEP AMES PREFACE When, at the request of the brothers of Alice and Phoebe Gary, I sat down to write a Memorial of their lives, and, looking through the entire mass of their papers, found not a single word of their own referring in any personal way to themselves, every impulse of my heart impelled me to relinquish the task. To tell the story of any human life, even in its outward inci- dents, wisely and justly, is not an easy thing to do. But to attempt a fit memorial of two women whose lives must be chiefly interpreted by inward rather than outward events, and solely from personal knowledge and remembrance, was a responsibility that I was unwilling to assume. With the utter absence of any data of their own, it seemed to me that the lives of the Gary sisters could only be produced from the com- bined reminiscences of all their more intimate personal friends. Months were consumed in writing to^ and (n waiting for replies from, long-time friends of the sisters. All were willing, but alas ! they " had de- stroyed all letters," had forgotten "lots and lots of things that w^ould have been interesting ; " they were preoccupied, or sick ; and, after months of waiting, VI PREFACE. I sat where I began, with the mass of Alice's and Phoebe's unedited papers before me, and not an added fine for their lives, with a new request from their legatees and executors, that I should go on with the Memorial. Here it is. It has cost me more than labor. Every day 1 have buried my friends anew. Every line wrung froni memory has deepened the wound of irreparable loss. From beginning to end my one purpose has beon, not to write a eulogy, but to write justly. In depict- ing their birthplace and early life in Ohio, I have quoted copiously from Phoebe's sketch of Alice, and Ada Carnahan's sketch of her Aunt Phoebe, both published in the (Boston) "Ladies' Repository," believing that that which pertained exclusively to their early family life could be more faithfully told by mem- bers of the family than by any one born outside of it. Save where full credit is given to others, I, alone, am responsible for the statements of this Memorial. Not a line in it has been recorded from " hearsay." Not a fact is given that I do not know to be true, either from my own personal knowledge, or from the lips of the women whose lives and characters it helps to represent. I make this statement as facts embodied by me before, in a newspaper article, have been pub- licly questioned. One writer went so far as to say in a public journal, that, " As she would not willingly mis- represent her, Mrs. Ames must have misunderstood PREFACE. VU Alice Gary." I never misunderstood Alice Gary. She never uttered a word to me that I did not perfectly understand. I have never recorded a word of her that I did not know to be true, nor with any purpose but to do absolute justice to my dearest friend. This is a full and final reply to any query or doubt which this Memorial may suggest or call forth. All who read have a perfect right to criticise and to question ; but I shall not feel any obligation to make further reply. Life is too short and too precious to spend it in privately answering persons who " wish to be assured that the Gary sisters were not Universalists," or who cultivate original theories concerning their character or life. The poems following the Memorial have, with bui" three or four exceptions, never before been gath- ered within the covers of a book. The exceptions are Alice's " The Sure Witness," " One Dust," and *' My Creed," all published before in the volume of her poems brought out by Hurd and Houghton, in 1865, and reproduced here as special illustrations of her character, faith, and death. In parting with a portion of the treasures and " pic- tures of memory," it has been difiicult sometimes to decide which to give and which to retain. Many, ^00 precious for any printed page, were nevertheless such a part of the true souls from whom they ema- nated, that to withhold them seemed like defrauding the living for the sake of the dead. Thus some inci Vill PREFACE. dents are given solely because they are necessary to the perfect portrayal of the nature which they concern. No fiict has been told which has not this significance. No line has been written for the sake of writing it. But as I cease, I feel more keenly even than when I began, how inadequate is any one hand, however con- scientious, to trace two lives so delicately and variously tinted, to portray two souls so finely veined with a many-shaded deep humanitv. M. C. A. October, 1872. CONTENTS CHAPTER I. ,A<» THE HOUSE OF THEIR BIRTH. — THEIR FATHER AND MOTHER. — ANCESTRY, CHILDHOOD, AND EARLY YOUTH. I CHAPTER n. EARLY STRUGGLES AND SUCCESS 20 CHAPTER III. THEIR HOME. — HABITS OF LIFE AND OF LABOR. — THE SUMMER OF 1S69 38 CHAPTER IV. THEIR SUNDAY EVENING RECEPTIONS 59 CHAPTER V. ALICE GARY. — THE WOMAN 70 CHAPTER VI. ALICE GARY. — THE WRITER 99 CHAPTER VII. ALICE'S LAST SUMMER I30 CHAPTER VIII. ALICE'S DEATH AND BURIAL 14! CHAPTER IX PHCEBE CARY. — THE WRITER I55 CHAPTER X. PHCEBE CARY. — THE WOMAN 183 X CONTENTS. CHAPTER XI. PH