?R 4682 .ftS 1886 Copy 2 GEORGE ELIOT'S TWO MARRIAGES ¥ If George Eliot's Two Marriages AN ESSAY EY CHARLES GORDON AMES It is better to stir a question without deciding it, than to decide it without stirring it — Jouhcrt FOURTH EDITION REVISED PHILADELPHIA GEORGE H BUCHANAN AND COMPANY 1886 Y\ ?-.^ l£> ^'^ Copyright 1886 by George H Buchanan and Company philadelphia GEORGE ELIOT'S TWO MARRIAGES The reputation of George Eliot has become pre- cious. The general suffrage gives her a foremost place among those writers of the second class who address a far wider audience than the austere few of the first class ; and the kind of service she has rendered already secures for her the seat she coveted in "The choir invisible Of those immortal dead who live again In minds made better by their presence." For many of us the revelations of her inner life made in the Letters recently published have in- creased the sense of personal endearment, as if she were one of our great ascended friends. This feel- ing may operate as a bias to disqualify us for an impartial judgment of her merits as a woman. But the questions raised by her two marriages, and especially by the first, no longer concern her so much as they concern modern society and the moral health of the race. There is no more exact measure 6 George Eliot's Tiuo Marriages of human progress than the growth of dehcacy between men and women, and of purity and con- stancy in their domestic relations. One who is duly mindful of the sanctity of the family would be obliged to say, that if George Eliot had willingly violated that sanctity by a loose exam- ple, this one fact would not only blast her reputation as^ woman, but would do vastly more harm than all the wisdom and power of her genius as an author could do good. It would still be true that her writings should be judged by their merits. Much excellent literary work has been done by men who were not noble nor pure ; Seneca put better morals into his writings than into*his life. Rousseau was not clean ; even Dr. Johnson felt obliged to say, " I have written well, but, ah, I have not lived well." Nobody ques- tions the superiority of Raphael's pictures on account of the stories that are told to his discredit. And if we were obliged to read Marian Evans out of good society, it would still be true that George Eliot's books have adorned and enriched the 19th century. But it shocks our moral sense to know that a favorite author is wanting in personal rectitude ; we are obliged to forget him in order to enjoy his works. We would gladly require of a writer just what we have a right to require of .a preacher : — that he be as good as his word. It is well to require it, even if the requisition is not always honored. George Eliofs Tiuo Marriages y ?klr. Cross' Life of George Eliot gives the impres- sion of one who, despite some weaknesses, was greater as a woman than as an author. She has created no character in fiction equal to this uncon- scious portraiture of herself While her relations to Mr. Lewes are certainly open to question, it Avould be a relief to many minds if this passage in her history could truly be presented in such a light as to clear our estimate of her womanhood from misgivings ; for all noble reputations are historic treasures. It can never be so important to vindicate a person as to clear up and establish a principle of right. The main object of this paper, however, is to consider whether this admitted irregularity of her marriage should seriously impair our respect for her character. In 1854, Marian Evans, then in her 36th }'ear, and ^ afterwards known in literature as George Eliot, united her life with that of George Henry Lewes, and this union continued for twenty-four years, till his death in 1878. Their acquaintance began in those common literary pursuits to which their joint existence was afterwards devoted. Were they married ? They had no doubt of it ; for nearly a quarter of a century they lived together in rare harmony, happiness, and helpfulness, though shadowed by the sense of something like a social tragedy. There was no formal wedding, no religious or civil ceremony, no legal record or recognition. 8 George Eliofs Tivo Marriages There could be none ; for, in law, Mr. Lewes was still the husband of another woman. On some bearings of the case, in the absence of anything like a legal or other inquiry, in the absence of sifted and recorded evidence, it is not possible to pronounce a confident judgment. No friend of the first Mrs. Lewes appears in her vindication ; and Mr. Lewes preserved a prudent silence concerning her conduct and his own ; he may have been glad to escape the scandal of a case in court for reasons generous or selfish. We are relieved from the sad confidences of both parties ; yet rumors have survived. So far as it can now be made out, the situation was something like this : Mr. Lewes had married early. An experiment in co-operative housekeeping exposed both husband and wife to unusual tempta-^ tions. She consorted with another man ; he forgave her and took her back ; and when she repeated the offence and left him finally and forever, and left also their three children to his sole care, he had no legal remedy. His condonation of her first offence worked a forfeiture of his right of divorce for the second ; thus does the law punish the husband's magnanim- ity ! * It is also said that his wife's conduct was * This statement is discredited by an American lawyer. But the main fact remains, that a legal remedy was entirely beyond the reach of Mr. Lewes. Thirty years ago, divorce could only be procured by special act of Parliament, with preliminary proceedings which some- times cost $10,000 in fees. George Eliot's Two Marriages 9 " not without his permission and sympathetic sanc- tion," and that the whole story was known to Marian Evans. This statement is extremely im- probable, and the witness is an anonymous writer in Temple Bar,^^ who discloses a malignant animus. It is not so easy to discredit the uncontradicted reports which make Mr. Lewes a London Bohemian of doubtful precedents, and of no secure social standing. He was a man of unattractive appearance, but with wonderful eyes, and brilliant social powers. He had also gained a fair literary reputation, was known as the author of a four-volumed Biographical History of Philosophy, and had now become the editor of the Leader. Miss Evans saw in him what he after- wards proved to be — a strong and clear-minded man, a serious student, whose affinities and aspira- tions drew him toward higher levels. When their acquaintance began, she was ma.naging editor of the Westminster Revieiu, the organ of radical thinking, to which he was an acceptable contributor. In respect to religious and social traditions, they had both reached conclusions which placed them in a minority of the minority. She saw in him a wronged and wifeless man, with unmothered children ; she pitied his deep, personal misery, while she respected his manhood; respect and pity ripened into love — a true and deathless passion ; and, with her eyes wide open * Anonymity is not here mentioned reproachfully. None of the articles in Temple Bar are signed. lo George Eliofs Two Marriages to the situation, she became his wife, the woman to whom he was legally bound still living. Was it right ? The question itself is less simple than it appears : the answer may be a qualified one. We shall at least educate our judgment a little by prac- tice on a complication of facts. Such a case brings into sharp contrast the various theories of divorce : 1. The Roman Catholic theory, which forbids divorce altogether, except in rare cases, and under papal dispensation. Ever since the Council of Trent, which was dominated by extreme sacramental ten- dencies, the Church has held marriage indissoluble except by death. Separation is permitted ; but not even the innocent party may marry again. This view is not confined to Catholics. Frederic Harrison, the champion of Positivism and Agnosticism, and the personal friend of George Eliot and of Mr. Lewes, is the stout advocate of the indissolubility of marriage, even by death itself Many accredited moralists hold that the only way to dignify the marital relation and to prevent hasty engagements, is by laying down the principle that there shall be no absolute divorce; /. e. no remarriage while both parties live. 2. The prevailing Protestant theory, resting on a construction of the teaching of Jesus, (Matt, xix : 9,) denies divorce, except for the single cause of sexual infidelity. The English law, like that of New York, permits divorce only for this offence ; and if the George Eliot's Tzvo Marriages II wife be tlie petitioner, she must also prove cruelty or desertion. 3. A third theory affirms that marriage is nulli- fied and divorce justifiable whenever either party has committed a fatal breach of the contract. While unfair constructions of this tlieory have opened the door to dangerous laxity, its advocates hold it clearly defensible on grounds of public welfare, of private right, and of the highest morality. The civil law, in recognizing and protecting mar- riage, acts as the guardian of social order and of the personal rights of husbands, wives, and children. Its function is chiefly to define and declare. It can declare the validity or invalidity of marriage, but can do nothing to ijive it vitalitv. Least of all can it restore to life a marriage which is dead. Divorce, as an easy off-hand way of settling cases of ordinary infelicity, is justly deprecated; }'et it is the natural and proper corrective of extreme evils which can be reached by no other remed\'. Laxity of marriage is the real evil, originating in the frivolity of the times and the superficial quality of our civilization. So long as these extreme and ghastly cases, of false and unreal marriages are frequent, separations will be frequent ; and if the law should refuse to release such wretched couples by divorce, there is a high degree of probability that something worse than orderly remarriage will be very common. If there was divine wisdom in the Mosaic legislation. 12 George Eliot's Two Marriages which accommodated itself to the actual condition of a semi-barbarous people, because of the hard- ness of their hearts, may not the same wisdom still frame laws suited to the imperfect condition of humanity ? Not the less, but all the more, should the lovers of purity toil and pray for the redemption of the race from all this profanation. As guardian of the sanctities, religion speaks : " What God hath joined together let not man put asunder." But what of those whom God hath not joined ? or those from whose nominal union every divine element has vanished ? May it not be profane to hold Heaven responsible for false, foul, unreal or disorderly relations between men and women, inside of marriage as well as outside ? Not for light rea- sons — not in haste even for heavy reasons — may society consent to the destruction of a household once formed ; but there may be cases where it is a sad wrong not to decree the separation which, for sufficient reasons, has already accomplished itself Why not deal frankly and fairly with those condi- tions which are just as fatal to marriage as death itself, and hardly less repulsive than binding the living to the dead ? The law of reason and right is not always hon- ored by our harsh and arbitrary constructions ; and a false austerity is often .i:he parent of laxity. Jesus condemns the man who puts away his wife and marries another; but this language does not describe George Eliot's Tzco Marriages 13 the case where the woman withdraws herself, repu- diates her vows and forms other relations. It does not appear that the early Christians gave an ascetic construction to their Master's teaching. If the heathen spouse chooses to depart, says Paul, " a brother or sister is not under bondage in such cases ; " but the believer who took the initiative in departing was enjoined not to marry again. It is on this point of marrying again that the main difficulty arises. To understand and feel the profound shock given to the moral sensibilities of the better classes in England, by Marian Evans's non-legal relations with Mr. Lewes, we must remember that for a thous- and years the whole nation has been grounded, schooled and trained not only in the Christian theory that marriage is sacred, " for better, for worse," but also in the practice of that theory under religious and legal sanctions. Nearly everybody has come to think of the prescribed artificial formality as vital to the relation ; and who but the most reckless radi- cal could dream of its dissolution being valid without the law's consent? For a time the Society of Friends w^as exposed to cruel misunderstanding and persecution by its reso- lute refusal to recognize the service of a minister or magistrate. English opinion said that the union of hearts, hands and destinies does not constitute mar- riage ; the Church and State must constitute it; and what the Church has blessed and the State has 14 George Eliot's Tiuo JMarriagcs recognized is man"ia