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^ciple. The more gluten the better and
more nutritious the flour. The loss of this principle, by
sprouting, mildew, etc., destroys the adhesive power so
necessary to making good bread. The best qualities of
WHO INVENTED BREAD? 105
flour take up the largest quantity of moisture ; the amount
which can be absorbed depends on the quantity of gluten.
In dry weather, flour requires more moisture than in wet,
and long and faithful kneading will add to the power of
absorption, without making the bread too thin. Common
salt and alum are often used to give poor flour the tender-
ness and whiteness of good brands. A little salt is good,
but too much is injurious, both to the bread and to the
health, — alum still more injurious. Liebig recommends
lime-water in bread-making. A quarter of a pound of
slacked lime to a gallon of pure rain or distilled water,
kept in closely stopped bottles ; two and a half pints of the
"lime-water to nine pou^nds of flour, he says, will make a
sweet, fine-grained, elastic bread of exquisite flavor. The
lime-water to be mixed with the flour before the yeast is
added. Of course, it will not be enough moisture for that
amount of flour, and as much more water is added as is
needed. Liebig claims that the lime will give the wheat a
larger amount of bone-making element, and therefore be
more nutritious.
Rice flour, or potatoes combined with flour, help to take
up moisture, and keep bread from drying. Eye flour
makes a dark-colored bread, but is sweet and palatable, re-
taining moisture longer than Avheat. Indian meal, mixed
with rye, and a spoonful or two of molasses added with the
yeast, makes the ISTew England brown bread ; but to have
that in perfection it should be baked in a brick oven, and
remain all night ; then, warm and fresh for breakfast, it is
unrivalled.
Graham bread is made from unbolted wheat, the bran not
separated from the flour. The coarse meal swells more in
rising, and should not be made so stifl" as fine flour. It
sours more quickly, requires a hotter oven, and longer time
to bake. Much kneading is essential to cement together the
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106 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
starch, sugar, albumen, and gluten found in wheat. It is
not easy to knead bread sufficiently for a satisfactory result.
Many machines for this purpose have been invented, but we
have yet to see one that can be as fully depended upon as a
strong arm and a skillful hand. The hand only can decide
truly when every lump is dissolved, and suitable combina-
tions made. When the dough springs under the touch, in-
stead of clinging to the fingers, when the fist bears its full
impression in the dough, and none adheres to the hand, the
cook may cease from the labor. This labor may be lightened
by pounding and chopping at intervals, and with much bene-
fit ; but the hand is the chief dependence.
If the yeast is bitter, pour on water, and let it stand a
few hours ; then drain it off, and use the thick part which
has settled at the bottom. The water will absorb the bitter-
ness, unless it is from age, and not because of too many
hops. In this case, a piece of charcoal heated through, but
not so hot as to kill the yeast, thrown into the yeast jar,
wiU correct it; but we should prefer to tlirow away the
yeast, and make new.
When all the rules for making good bread have been faith-
fully followed, all will fail if not properly baked. We think
nothing has yet been found that is equal to the brick oven ;
but in whatever oven you bake, one rule is common to all,
— see that the heat is just right ; from 350° to 400° is the
proper range for bread. If fresh flour or meal is thrown on
the bottom of the oven, and tiirns a clear brown at once, it
is right ; if it becomes black the oven is too hot.
We have been greatly indebted to Webster's " Encyclopae-
dia of Domestic Economy," and Professor Youman's " Hand-
book of Domestic Science," for our information, on bread.
HOW ABOUT THE LITTLE GIRLS? 107
XXVII.
HOW ABOUT THE LITTLE GIRLS?
" A SHORT time since you advocated ' teaching little
ur\. boys to be useful ' by training them to do, indoors
or out, whatever, for the time being, lay within the compass
of their strength and ability. But now we wish to ask, How
about little girls ? The boys say it is n't fair to call upon
them to perform ' girls' work,' unless the girls are made to
reciprocate the favor, and are willing to take their turn in
doing ' boys' Avork ' when necessary."
Bless your httle hearts, dear boys ! "Who objects to
that 1 Xot the little girls, certainly. Is n't it just what
many of the big girls are seeking to do, and the big boi/s —
" children of a larger growth " than you, my little man —
are striving to prevent 1 Where is the girl, unless she has
by fashion and conventionalities been unnaturally biassed,
who would not gladly, once in a while, exchange sewing,
sweeping, and dusting for a run out into the free air and
glad sunshine, to take your place, and do your work, — feed
the chickens, weed in the garden, hoe the corn, milk the
cows, or rake the hay, — though modern improvements have
of late cheated them of half such pleasures ? Anything that
little boys can do, little girls would think " such fun," if they
might occasionally have the privilege of doing it, — country
girls, we mean, — God help those whose home is in the city !
There are so few pleasures there that the young can eujoy in
the open air. To walk on hard, cold sidewalks, dressed like
little ballet-dancers, or ride over the rough pavements, with
no free, untrammeled movement, or through the dirty
streets, with their vile, impure smells, can give no such joys
108 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
as our country damsels, with their larger inheritance and
more abundant blessings, are in daily possession of. There
is nothing equal to the pleasure our Httle folks may find, in
any kind "of outdoor employment, that is suited to their age
and strength. These simple labors prepare them for larger
and more important duties, and the knowledge will bring
abiding comfort and self-reliance as they advance in age and
intelligence.
" WiU not such work make girls coarse, romping, and hoy-
denish ? Eough, noisy boys are bad enough ; would you
have our girls become like them 1 "
Is it the outdoor work that makes them so 1 Is it not
rather the overflow of animal spirits that can find no way
of escape but by boisterous, wild action? It is not very
agreeable to the old and staid, to be sure, and it certainly
is less annoying outdoors than in ; yet it promotes health,
and is only what we all did, or longed to do, in our youth.
Age will soon tame the wild spirits, or restrain a too exuber-
ant overflow, and nothing keeps them in check like pleasant
labor. There are, to be sure, sometimes unfortunate associ-
ations with really coarse, rude natures, which are very objec-
tionable. We would never allow girls or boys to come under
such influence if we could help it ; but that evil is to be
found in every position, — as often in the house as in the
field, — and if not inherent in your child's own character, the
influence will soon be discarded, the dross be separated, and
the purer nature rise dominant. You must go out of the
world to insure safety from such contact.
" But country girls are not often ladylike and graceful ;
and work outdoors will tend to make them still more awk-
ward. I could n't endure to see my little girl brought up
under such influences."
We have never found in the city more graceful, ladylike,
intelligent, pure-minded girls than we have seen in the coun-
HOW ABOUT THE LITTLE GIRLS? 109
try ; but we have sometimes noticed that those who live
nearest to the city, or have spent much time there, too often
acquire artificial habits, affectation, coquetry, loud, bold speech,
or a fondness for dress, too stylish for a truly modest girl's
adorning, that is seldom seen in real country life. We do
not think that any kind or amount of labor wiU make one
less modest or ladyhke. We believe that our girls should
know how to do, with their own hands, everything that they
have strength for, and thereby secure and establish vigor and
capacity for duties that, in after years, may fall to their lot.
We do not mean that outdoor labor should be their habitual
emj)loyment. We wish them to have the actual knowledge ;
but the heavier work, which more appropriately belongs to
boys and men, should be undertaken by girls and women
only on an emergency. Then love or will, or both united,
can make woman strong to do the hardest work, if she has
the knowledge, while the necessity lasts. It is because such
calls may be made on every one all through Ufe, that we
^ would have each one secure the knowledge early ; but in ex-
treme cases, the overstrain on a woman's physical life, if long
continued, will compel the payment of large interest in later
years, and therefore should be undertaken through necessity
only. God has not organized man and woman alike, physi-
cally ; nor, do we believe, mentally either. We hasten to
add, lest we should be arraigned for heresy, that we do not
say they are not equal, but only different ; the question
of equality we wait for their own works to answer. Woman
has sweeter, tenderer, dearer duties, demanding an organiza-
tion distinct from that which fits man for his rougher, harder,
more extended, more public, but not more noble work. We
hear of women who have cut down their timber, built their
walls, ploughed their fields, or done the blacksmithing for the
neighborhood with their own hands, from choice, — a kind
of work which we could not do, and woidd not if we could,
110 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
unless driven to it by some pressing necessity ; but we should
like to store up the knowledge how to do it against the time
of need. Still, we need not object if others take pleasure in
it. Yet will not their own bodies, when they leave youth
behind and go down to middle age, bear -witness against
tlie unnatural strain which they have been subjected tol
Those whose office it is " to replenish the earth " cannot make
these violent drafts upon their system with impunity. It is
not for a regular, daily occupation that we would desire to
have girls taught how to do their brothers' work as well as
their own, though much that pertains to that will always be
pleasant and attractive, and light work in the open air will
always furnish healthy exercise for our girls ; but we want
to see every member of the family so educated that there
may never occur a vacancy about the home that some one,
girl or boy, man or woman, is not able and willing to step
into and fill satisfactorily. To this end, faithfully teach your
little ones, girls or boys, to put their hands to any work that
is necessary.
" Next you will tell us to let our girls saw and split wood,
milk the cows, harness and unharness the horse, etc."
Yes. "Why not ? They should know how to do all this,
and do it well ; and try it often enough to feel at ease and
without fear in the effort, and that will be sufficient for the
present. But suppose in a few years your daughter marries,
and goes from you to some distant settlement where neigh-
bors are scarce and " help " uncertain. Gii'ls of wealth and
refinement have done such things. Let the monotony of
frontier life be occasionally enlivened by a real attack of
chills and fever in which all take a part. When husband
and " help," if your daughter is so fortunate as to secure any,
take their turn in shaking, will not the wife look back to the
time when brother WiU and she had their miniature saws
and hatchets, and made much sport in preparing the kin-
HOW ABOUT THE LITTLE GIRLS 1 111
dlings 1 Won't she see that the knowledge how to do tliis,
which was simply amusement then, has been stored up for
real service now 1 She little thought when grandpa taught
lier to milk old Brindle without fear of the gentle animal,
how she woidd thank him for it in this far-off home. Are
you sure that jout little girl will never be placed in circum-
stances, for oidy a few hours perhaps, when she would be
most thankful to know how to do any one of these things 1
Can you not imagine circumstances where it would be an
incalculable blessing 1 We can, any number of them, not at
all beyond the bounds of possibility. We have known cases
where it was almost a matter of life or death, that a lady
should have skill and courage to harness a horse and hasten
for help. These cases may be rare ; yet if they come but
once in a lifetime, is not the lesson worth the learning 1 If
you were driving a team — a very desirable accomplisluii.ent
for any young lady — and the harness should break or be-
come unfastened, ought you not, for your own safety, to
know how to repair the mischief? Every girl should early
learn how each part of the harness must be adjusted, else
the pleasure and independence of being able to drive when
older will be attended with much risk, and often with fatal
consequences. Youth — early childhood — is the time to
secure this knowledge, that you may be prepared to use it
with confidence and self-control when needed. Even if it is
never needed in later life, knowing how will not injure any
one.
112 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
XXVIIL
STEALING SERVANTS.
IJf The Christian Union a while ago, " Laicus " gives
the history of a transaction between two neighbors, in
which he thinks the indignation manifested by one of the
parties was uncalled for, and her objection to the proceeding
of the other " but a relic of the old-time slave system." The
case given was in this wise.
Mrs. Potiphar, it seems, " picks up a little girl in New
York, and goes through aU the trouble, discomfort, and anx-
iety of teaching her, until she becomes, at last, a very useful
and efficient servant." Those who have undertaken the train-
ing of young girls, not their own, will agree that Mrs. Poti-
phar's task was not an enviable one, and that the girl owed her
a debt of gratitude, which faithful, willing service alone could
pay. As the child improved under this training, wages were
given, until after five years' education she received ten doUars
a month. Mrs. Potiphar, appreciating the good quahties the
girl had developed, failed not to give her ample praise ; said
she was " worth her weight in gold," an expression very
common, yet not usually taken literally ; but she did not in-
crease her wages. It may have been that she gave all that the
work demanded of her was worth, or all that she could afford
to give ; it matters not which ; it is no evidence, however,
that she wished to defraud the girl of her just dues ; it ar-
gues no injustice on Mrs. Potiphar's part. But good friends,
kind neighbors, behind her back, said it was a shame to pay
Sophia so little ; whUe to the lady's face, however, they gave
smiles and congratulations " upon her good luck." Ah, what
a pity that gossiping, meddling, and backbiting should be
STEALING SERVANTS. 113
fouiid in this beautiful world of ours. How much trouble
and mischief these vices have caused ! Much of the discom-
fort and disturbance in our households springs from this evil
spirit, making servants fickle and unfaithful, and their mis-
tresses' life a burden. And it is all so needless ! There is
little fear, even when not tampered with, that girls will re-
main long on Low wages, unless the privileges and kind care
bestowed upon them are of more value than larger pay, and
they have the good sense so to understand it. Every girl
has a perfect right to seek the highest remuneration, and so
that she gives her present employer reasonable notice, to en-
able her to secure other assistance, or to ofl'er her larger
wages, however great the disappointment to the lady may be,
the girl has acted honorably and is worthy of no censure.
^But in the case cited by " Laicus," Mrs. Chessleburg's course
is so repugnant, so foreign to all our ideas of honor, that we
shoid.d hope there was some mistake in print, did we not
know such acts are of daily occurrence.
Mrs. Potiphar has an excellent waiting-maid, just what
Mrs. Chessleburg wants. Mrs. Chessleburg is much exer-
cised in her mind because Mrs. Potiphar gives the poor girl
such low wages.
*' She is well worth fourteen dollars a month to me, if she
is worth a penny." Four dollars extra would be quite an
addition to Sophia's income. To be sure it would. So her
nurse-girl goes confidentially {privately we presume that
means) and tells Sophia that Mrs. Chessleburg will give her
fourteen dollars a month if she will leave the lady, who, five
years ago, " picked her up in N'ew York," and has taught her,
during these years, to be such a desirable servant. The girl
goes, of course. Mrs. Potiphar thinks it mean " to steal her
girl away in that style." So do we. Is it strange that we
think Mrs. Chessleburg's desire to right the girl's supposed
wrongs had its oricHn less in real benevolence than in the
114 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
selfish anxiety to secure a valuable servant for herself 1 We
certainly must, notwithstanding " Laicus's " perplexity, join
with the ladies in thinking Mrs. Chessleburg's proceeding
highly objectionable, and are confident employees as well as
employers will agree in this matter.
We read the article in question to the superintendent of
our farm, and said, " How does this strike you 1 How
shall we answer this question 1 If the girl's work was worth
more than ten doUars, was it not right that she should have
" Yes ; but I should n't think that was the right way for
a lady to do 1 Why did n't she go to the girl's mistress, in-
stead of sending her nursemaid to the girl privately 1 I
don't think any lady would do such a thing."
" Well ! I think you are right about house servants. But.
on the farm, in your position, for instance, as foreman, there
is some difference, is there not ] Supposing some gentleman
should offer you more than we do, what would you think of
that?"
" That he was no gentleman. I don't see the difference.
If he wished to make any such offer, he should go to my em-
ployer and state the case, but not to me."
" But you are not bound to stay with us. If you can bet-
ter yourself, you have a perfect right to do so. You are a
free man."
" Yes, I know that ; but I think there should be some
honor, if there is no law, about such things ; and I don't think
a gentleman acts honorably who tempts a man with offers of
higher wages to leave his employer's service. Let him go,
like a man, to the proprietor of the work himself."
" Maggie," said we afterward, " if a lady should send one
of her girls to you with an offer for more wages than I give,
what would you thinl?: of it 1 "
" 0, I 've had that trick tried on me, ma'am ! ISTo lad^
STEALING SERVANTS. 115
would do it, and I 'd net risk living with any one who would
connive at such a mean thing."
" Why, what Avould you have her do 1 "
" Come right to yer, ma'am, or advertise. Sure the papers
are open to any one who chooses to advertise."
Now, this subject appears too clear for any question of
right or wrong, lil^erty or slavery. The same course — open
and ahove-board — should be plain to both employer and
employe. Among business men this law of honor is fully
understood. The amount of wages in all employments is
well defined. Custom fixes the prices for specified labor. It
is those who offer beyond the accepted rates who cause most
of the trouble experienced in all classes of labor.
A manufacturer engages a certain number of men to work
in his mill. He offers and they accept the regular rates of
payment. A neighboring manufacturer is short of hands, and
privately goes to these men, bribing them, for it is nothing
short of a bribe, Avith offers of higher wages to leave their
present work and come to him. If their ideas of honor are
no higher than his own, they wiU probably accept the bribe,
and their first employer's mills must stand idle until he can
secure others to fiU their places. Would you not call this
dishonorable 1 This is acceded to in the outdoor world,
among merchants, mechanics, manufacturers, and farmers.
But how much more sacred, how much stronger, should this
code of honor be to us, in the family !
If we learn that a girl has '' given warning " to her em-
ployer of her intention to leave, we have a perfect right to
try and secure her ; but to avoid the least appearance of evil,
to do trvdy " as we would be done by," we should think it
but wise and just to go first to the lady and signify our
wishes, making such inquiries as may be needed. In the case
giA'en by " Laicus," however, the nurse-maid is sent, and
offers of higher wages given through her. The girl is boiight.
116 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
We cannot think it acting honorably by the mistress or
kindly by the maid. If tempted once to act secretly, she
probably can be again, and from a useful, reliable servant
may become one on whom there can be no dependence.
If this mode of securing assistance is accepted as a correct
and honorable practice, no one is safe. In every department
we shall be at the mercy of the selfish and unscrupulous.
The laborer is evidently worthy of his hire, and in this
country no class of people are likely to remain long in igno-
rance of the price they can command, or to estimate their
ability at too low a rate.
We object to no one's obtaining the full value for his
work, but claim that there should be no meddling, no under-
hand work to buy servants or laborers from another, by the
private offer of larger wages. Advertising is open to all, and
brmgs the needed help to you ; but if you do not choose
that mode of supplying yourselves with laborers, then let the
employer be applied to, and if you can give his or her ser-
vants better terms than they now receive, there are not many
who will not advise them to accept the offer. We do not
think that ladies enact any such law, as that " no servant
shaU be offered a better post than the one now occupied, so
long as he or she remains in it " ; but we do claim that the
good old nile should be as fully recognized in deahng with
a neighbor's servant as in everything else, namely, " Do unto
others as ye would that others should do unto you."
FALL CLEANING. 117
XXIX.
FALL CLEANING.
THE summer is over and gone ; cold nights and morn-
ings have so frightened and subdued the flies, that it is
easy to hunt them from the house, and hy a little extra
watchful] less prevent their gaining possession again. The
sun, still quite warm and summer-like in the middle of the
day, tempts them out from their hiding-places, and they will
swarm in at open doors and windows, if unprotected by wire
and net frames, in great numbers. Take care that these safe-
guards are doing duty whenever windows or doors are opened
for ventilation or comfort, else the skilKul little manoeuvrers
will soon gain access. Drive them out toward night into the
cool evening air. A few really cold nights will free you
from these vexatious intruders, and enable you to commence
fall cleaning in peace and safety. The danger always is,
that this part of fall labor will be undertaken too early.
The first ten or twelve days of September are usually raw
and cold. The flies, crawling into warm nooks and corners,
pretend to be asleep. The housekeeper, forgetting the ex-
perience of former years, hastens to get out scrub-cloths,
brushes, and all the implements of house-cleaning. Those
Avhose homes are in the city hurry back Avith the first pufi"
of cold air, believing that flies and heat have both alike de-
parted for the season. But they soon learn that this is a
great mistake. These chilly, cold days are usually followed
by ten days or a fortnight as warm as midsummer, and gen-
erally quite unhealthy. Nothing but real necessity should
tempt any to leave the country before they have fuUy en-
joyed the most perfect month of the whole year, — October.
118 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
But whether in city or country, those who attempt to do
theii' fall cleaning in September will have short-lived satis-
faction compared with the comfort derived from the same
work in October. Flies, spiders, and wasps, if not harmless
then, are at least so far disabled as to be easily conquered,
and until that is accomplished, house-cleaning on a large scale
is wasted labor.
The first thing to be done, preparatory to house-cleaning,
is to have aU the chimneys thoroughly swept, and the fur-
nace, range, and grate flues, not only perfectly cleaned from
soot, but examined by a competent workman ; especially is
this needful if the house has been closed or only partially
used during the summer. Before real winter weather comes,
everything of this kind should be in perfect order.
Ha'\-3 the furnace-grate examined, as it may have been
corroded by rust while unused, or so far burned out that, if
neglected, some cold morning when a bright glowing fire
is most needed it may break down and let your fire out. It
will not be pleasant to sit shivering while the old grate is
being mended or a new one fitted. The range-grate and fire-
bricks must also be looked after and repaired for winter use.
A little attention now will save much expense and discom-
fort later in the season.
If carpenters' or masons' work, whitewashing, painting,
glazing, or plumbing is needed, it should all be done before
any cleaning is attempted. If left till afterward, tliis kind
of work is a great terror to housekeepers. To secure season-
able attention to all these matters, it is essential that the
mechanics who are needed should be engaged some weeks in
advance ; but remember that such workmen are, unfortun-
ately, not as good in keeping promises as in breaking them ;
therefore watch closely, and hold them to their agreement.
This habit of promising more than can be performed is a
very pernicious one, and in the end most unj)rofitable. Me-
FALL CLEANING. 119
chanics are tempted to this dishonorable practice by anx-
iety to secure a good job. Knowing the great demand for
labor, they imagine if they promise to do your work at a
given time, come and do a little, then go to some one else,
leaving your work half finished, then back to you again for
a while, — the second party annoyed by the same vexatious
delay, — that your necessity compels you to endure silently
if not patiently. You may submit for this once, but never
burn your fingers twice at the same fire. Let it once be
understood that employers of all kinds look upon a broken
promise as destroying all confidence, and that they will
under no circumstances give a promise-breaker ar second op-
portunity to beguile them, and this great trial to grace and
patience would soon be overcome.
While repairs are going on, bring down all the woolen gar-
ments, blankets, furs, or pieces of carpeting that have been
stored away for the summer. Take them out on the grass-
plat under your clothes- line, before removing the wrappers,
for the preparation in which they have been put away is not
very pleasant to the smell, particularly if it is Poole's pow-
der, which we think the safest as weU as the most disagree-
able. If it is a windy day, hang all on the clothes-line for
a good snapping before you attempt to brush them, and most
of the poAvder will blow off. After an hour or two in sun
and wind, brush them well with a nice whisk-broom, and,
when done, the garments and blankets may be put in their
proper places and the pieces of carpeting sewed up in bag-
ging or canvas or put into a spare trunk. They will need
no more powder till spring, if carefully stored and occasion-
ally aired through the winter.
The coal, of course, you had put into the cellar last spring,
as it is usually cheaper about May than in the fall. The
ashes and soot having been removed, the flues, furnace, and
grates all in order, the house should now be swept from the
120 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
attic to the cellar. Ingrain and three-ply carpets ought to
be taken up every year, unless in rooms but little used, and
after being well shaken or taken to the carpet-shaking mill,
they should be laid out of the way till the room from which
they were taken is cleaned. Brussels, Wiltons, Axministers,
and all the heavier carpets should not be raised oftener than
every three years. Very little dust sifts tlirough such fabrics,
and careful sweeping and the use of a good " carpet-sweeper "
will preserve them from all harm. In sweeping, preparatory
to cleaning, it is well to draw the tacks in the corners and
turn such heaA'^y carpets back, so that with a whisk-broom any
dirt that may have settled there can be easily removed. It
is but little work, and the corners can be readily tacked
down again.
When the sweeping is all done, a most thorough dusting
is the next operation, so that wood-work, walls, and gas-
brackets may be free from loose dirt before water is used.
The paint is much easier cleaned after this than if the dust
were allowed to remain and be washed off. Some recommend
the latter to save time. We think it wastes time.
The walls should be dusted with a long-handled feather-
duster, then with a clean dry cloth pinned smoothly over a
clean broom ; wipe them down evenly, beginning at the top
and passing in a straight line, " by a tliread " as a seamstress
would say, to the bottom, changing the cloth as it becomes
soiled. I^^ext remove all chimneys and shades from the
chandeliers and gas-burners ; wash clean, dry and polish
Avith a soft linen towel, and then with chamois-skin, and put
them into a closet till the room is cleaned. N"ow with a
cloth, wrung from weak, hot suds, wipe off the brackets and
chandeliers, and rub dry with chamois-skin. Draw a coarse
linen thread, double, through the opening in the tip of aU
the gas-burners to remove any dust that may have settled in
them while unused. This done, if you have two or three
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hands at work, the cleaning may be so divided as to be done
quite expeditiously ; let one wash the windows while another
cleans the paint. The windows, if long unused, need to be
well washed in warm suds, into which a little spirits of am-
monia have been poured, — two teaspoonfuls to half a bucket
of suds ; then well rinsed in clear water, wiped dry, and pol-
ished with chamois-skin. This same proportion of suds and
ammonia will also clean paint very easily, and without injury
to the hands. It is good for cleaning marble slabs and man-
tles. The plated door-handles, bell-pulls, etc., come next in
order for cleaning ; and here, if a piece of oil-cloth is cut to
slip over each, so that the walls may not be tarnished, the
hot suds and ammonia will prove very effective. A piece of
old carpet or drugget shoidd be laid down as you clean win-
dows, paint, or plated ware, if the carpet is down, and moved
from one spot to another as you go on.
Now all is ready to put the last touch to tlie room.
Wring a clean cloth from some warm, clear water, in which
a little alum or salt has been dissolved, and wipe hard each
breadth of the carpet, rubbing straight down the nap.
Wring out the cloth often, to rinse off all the dust, and
change the water if it looks very dingy. This brings up the
nap and gives a new and fresh look to carpets of all kinds ;
only be sure that the cloth is not so wet as to drip. Leave
the windows open when the carpet is finished, and shut the
doors till it is thoroughly dried before bringing in what fur-
niture was moved out to clean the room.
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XXX.
FASHIONABLE DRESS.
"TT'T'E are often asked why we do not speak out plainly,
V V in the way of counsel and reproof, about the absurd-
ities of fashionable dress, now so apparent? What good
would it do 1 Almost every paper has spoken plainly, or
hinted — the worst kind of speaking, however unmistakable
— on this subject, and Avhat is the result 1 Week by week
the fashion-plates are increasingly monstrous, until at last
we are uncertain whether it is a bona fide fashion plate we are
looking at or " Punch " and " The Budget of Fun." Neither
could take greater liberties or more atrociously caricature
" the human form divine." And, what would be very amus-
ing if the weakness did not excite so much pity, those who
urge us to contribute our mite toward a reform, a more
Christian mode of dress, are themselves marvellous struct-
ures, — a pile, composed of frizzed, braided, curled, and puffed
hair, under which a small, delicate face appears ; a dress
fringed, flounced, puffed, and trailing, with hoops and pan-
niers protruding like a dromedary's hump ; and all this mis-
erable deformity borne about on high heels and the tips of
the toes, the discomfort and pain of such unnatural locomo-
tion accepted and endured because it is the fashion. Yet
these fair inquirers appeared wholly unconscious that their
own disfigurement was a stronger appeal for aid than any
words could have been.
Why not begin this reform in your own dress 1 Brush
your hair smoothly, and give us the satisfaction of once
more seeing what the head is, as God made it ; take off yards
of silk, lace, and fringe, and show us your natural, graceful
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figure. You who move in what is called fashionable society-
can do more by such independence than all that can be writ-
ten. Try one season, and mark the change you would effect.
" 0, we could n't think of such a thing ! ' As well be out
of the world as out of fashion,' you know. It would make
us so very conspicuous by our singularity. We think it
woidd not be modest to take such a stand. No one person
can effect the change : it must be simultaneous."
Ah, had all reformers reasoned so, what woidd now be the
condition of the civilized world ! But Fashion is a tyrant ;
and we fear volumes written on the evils which she brings will
do little good until women have learned to defy her. A few
in every age have done valiantly in their attempts to dethrone
her, but she changes so often, and so abruptly and entirely,
it is difficult to keep track of her. As far back as we can
search, the whirligig of fashion has been in perpetual mo-
tion, unceasing in its changes. The advice and admonition
of age and experience have little influence towards checking
this long-established tyranny. The old look sadly upon the
vagaries of the young ; but if they glance back to their own
early days, would they not recall equal absurdities in the
fashions of that period, or on a moment's reflection, perhaps,
even the dress and style to which they still pertinaciously
adhere may be liable to the same criticism ]
We vividly remember the look of dissatisfaction on our
grandmother's face (a dear little woman, nearly eighty years
old), whose keen black eyes flashed ominously as we came
before her for inspection, dressed for our first party. We
stood, at fourteen, a fidl head the taller, but were abashed at
the dignified air of authority with which she descanted on the
ridiculousness of our attire. A very narrow skirt, with a
few gathers in the back, three small pleats on each side, — it
took but six or seven yards then for a dress, — a full waist,
with a narrow band round the neck like a baby's slip, and
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the belt almost under the arms; a large lace "Vandyke,"
or cape, over the shoulders ; the hair combed high on the
top of the head and tightly tied, and the length twisted into
a knot or bow, and kept in place by a big tortoise-shell
comb, the top of it fuU three inches high and six or seven
inches round ; and this placed back of the hair. Our first
high-topped comb ! What a wonderful work of art it was
in our eyes ! And the dress — our first silk — of changeable
hues, like the silks which are now coming again into fash-
ion, — how styHsh it did look ! We thought every one must
recognize its elegance. Yet here was this " httle grandma,"
whose judgment, next to our mother's, was infallible, look-
ing with disdain upon it, and turning our whole outfit into
ridicule ! It was heartbreaking ! And for our first party !
Fourteen was very young to go to parties in those days, but,
being tall for our age, we were invited by mistake we pre-
sume. At the present time young ladies of tliree and four
send out and receive their cards, and with gloves and fans,
frizzled hair, and flounced dresses, mimic the affectation and
absurdities of their elders. We have no sweet, simple
childhood any longer.
But how was our revered critic attired % The soft, white
hair, still quite abundant, was brushed straight over from the
brow, not tied on top, but rolled as tightly as it could be
drawn over what was then called a piUow, — now it woidd
be, we presume, a rat, — and fastened on the top of the
head by two long silver pins with arrow-heads ; a spotless
white mull cap with a very high crown and deep frill was
put on over this pillow and tied with a broad black satin
ribbon in a bow on top ; a string of gold beads, a square of
white lace folded over the shoulders and crossed in pleats in
front, under the dress of heavy black satin ; the waist of
said dress made long down to the hips, with a point before
and behind, the skirt not trailed but immensely full ; very
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high-heeled slippers ; and on her arm a large black satin bag,
or reticule, embroidered with white beads, in which was the
ever-present knitting-work, completed the costume. And
this queerly dressed little grandmother scoffed at our newer
style as being the height of absurdity. Her dress appeared
appropriate to her, because we had never seen her otherwise
attired ; but with all affectionate deference to her superior
wisdom, we thought it very ugly, and would have sln'unk in
disgust from wearing it ovirselves : and doubtless our new
dress in which we then rejoiced would strike our grand-
children now as equally undesirable.
So fashion changes, and words of expostulation are
wasted. But in this age of improvement, when we turn our
backs on the things of old while something new is daily
being developed or invented, the wonder is, that in the
realms of Fashion we see so little purely original. Like a
poor horse in a treadmill, she goes the same circuit, and
about every fifty years she finds the end, and is compelled to
return and reproduce, with some strange additions, but few
improvements, the styles our grandmothers and great-grand-
mothers wore. The high heels, hoops, trains, and panniers of
to-day are but the renewal of the fashions of a semi-barbarous
age, which, once buried, shoiild never have been revived.
Addison, in many of his writings (see particularly papers
98 and 127 in the " Spectator"), severely criticises the pre-
vailing fashions of his day. Many of these same deformities
our better instructed women have for a year or two past fool-
ishly reproduced. We may not quote his words, because the
homely language of that period would shock our greater
refinement, (although if it could be arranged for opera or
theatre, his wholesome counsels might be listened to in public
without a blush !).
There is much to be said, aside from the absurdity of the
style, and its destruction of all grace and beauty, of the
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great extravagance which must attend the present fashions,
breaking up many homes and alienating true love ; and the
permanent injury done to health, subjecting its devotees to
long years, perhaps, of discomfort and lingering sufferings
or an early grave.
XXXI.
LESSONS BY THE WAYSIDE.
LOVE lightens labor, and crowns Care with rosy gar-
lands which beautify her rugged and repeUant fea-
tures. But when those whose presence makes labor easy are
absent, Care is more likely to become a hard taskmaster. Our
house being thus left unto us desolate, for a few days, we
rebel, and have run away.
Seated all alone in one of those cozy little rooms in the
" palace-cars," on the banks of the Hudson, we will try for
once how it feels to be free from care, and give ourselves up
to the fuU enjoyment of the position. How beautiful is the
scenery through which we are passing ! Each one thinks his
own native land, his own mountains and rivers, the finest in
the world. This feeling often grows into a ludicrous weak-
ness ; but we are confident that our noble Hudson must be
acknowledged by aU as ranking among the first.
" Where will you find in foreign land
So sweet a spot, so bold a strand ? "
In spring-time, when every bush and tree is tipped with
delicate green, from the banks of the river to the highest
point that overlooks it, we call it more lovely than at any other
season of the year. But in summer, when the grass is just
ready for the scythe, and blossoms of fruit hang from every
bough, we say this surpasses the spring. In the early fall.
LESSONS BY THE WAYSIDE. 127
the orchards scattered all along the river-side, laden with the
ripening fruit, in each variety of green, red, gold, or russet,
and the woods on either side brilliant with every shade of
color, add another charm to the wondrous beauty of the
scenery. And now, in this later autumn, as we see the
" Leaves around us falling,
Dry and withered, to the ground," —
the lights and shadows on the mountains, the golden hues
exchanged for deeper russet, the dark red of the Ampelopsis
mingling with the rich color of the evergreens that cover
the banks, — all caught by the flashing river, and thrown
back in broken and fantastic reflection, — call for increasing
admiration ; and midwinter, when the ground is white with
snow, and the trees are strung with diamonds, will only fur-
nish stronger cords to hold us steadfast to our allegiance.
There is not " half a kiss to choose" between the seasons on
the banks of our glorious Hudson. We love it always and
in all its varied changes.
And this is rest for the weary ! How beautifully quiet
the pretty villages, nested in among the mountains or scat-
tered along the banks, appear ! Is it possible that sickness
or sorrow, heartaches or envyings, fierce passions or corroding
cares, can find a harbor near this tranquil river 1 It must be
so, no doubt ; but as Ave fly quickly past, and cannot see it,
what is it all to us 1 Why trouble ourselves with the thought
of sorrows which we can neither alleviate nor prevent 1
Ah ! we may leave what we call our cares far behind ; but
we cannot shut our eyes to the fact that sin, and therefore
sorrow, is all about us, as truly in the restful solitude of
the little niche we for a few hours occupy, as in the weary
round of busy life. Out of sight, but almost within reach
of our hand, there is a sick child. We hear its feeble cry,
and think, from the sound, it must be quite young, and
nearly worn out with suffering. The mother, no doubt, ten-
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clerly loves her child, yet long days of watching and sleepless
nights have taxed her strength to the utmost, and exhausted
her patience. Sharp and irritable words are spoken, and as
we hear the little one, through the slight partition that sep-
arates us, turn restlessly from side to side, unable to hnd an
easy spot, yet constantly longing for change, we knoAv that it
is not gently placed on a cooler pillow, or taken to the
mother's arms, — gathered to her bosom, and soothed with
loving words. But instead we hear, " dear ! what a tor-
ment ! I am tired to death ! Can't you lie stiU one minute 1 "
How these tones make our heart quiver ! ]^o doubt she is
very weary, and perhaps full of pain herself ; but with each
peevish, complaining word uttered over that frail little blos-
som, she is planting
" Thorns, not roses, for her reaping, by and by."
If she knew that in a few days, perhaps, her babe would be
forever hid from her eyes, woidd not the remaining hours of
its short life be soothed, regardless of her own pain, by the
tenderest love, and each word soft and sweet as the notes of
the cushat-dove ! And the father, in full health and vigor,
why does he not relieve the weary, overtasked mother]
Why does he not give her an hour's rest, while the little one
finds in his strong arms a grateful change 1 for there is no
cradle so soft and soothing to a babe, sick or well, as a lov-
ing father's arms. Instead of bearing this yoke with his
wife, we hear cross, ungentlemanly, unsympathetic words of
complaint addressed to her, and harsh and peevish commands
to the baby. We long to step across tlie narrow passage that
divides us, and, taking the little one into our own arms,
kindly tell the parents what seeds they are solving ; to say
to them, " If your child dies, each word will rise up in
remembrance against you, filling your hearts with anguish.
If it lives, you are sowing poisonous weeds, which will
cause you lifelong sorrow. The child Avill imitate your ex-
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ample, practise the lessons it is this day so early learning,
and teach you how ' the sins of the parents may be visited
upon the children.' Your own sins and failings will rise
up and condemn you through your children." Good-breed-
ing and etiquette will not permit us to go to them with
such warning ; yet that this lesson may profit some one, we
send it to the friends for whom we write, — the young
home-makers as well as the young housekeepers. In thus
shaping your children's future, we cannot but think that the
father will be as richly blessed for instilling correct principles,
or as surely condemned for wrong training and example, as
the mother. We know this is treason and heresy, if judged
by the prevailing idea that the mother, far more than the
father, is responsible for the principles and character with
which the child takes its place among men and women.
We think this bad doctrine. The parents have an equal
share in their offspring, and should not hold a divided re-
sponsibility.
The nursing and care in the main is doubtless the mother's
office ; but in extreme cases it should be borne together.
Being naturally more with the child in early infancy, of
course the mother has a closer intimacy. But in a well-
organized, loving family, you will note that while the love is
given to both parents alike, when questions of weight arise,
even in early years, the child turns to the father for the final
word which shall be infallible. The mother's gentler, ten-
derer tone settles every-day questions, but there is strength
and authority in the father's voice from which they are not
often tempted to appeal, and a good wife and mother recog-
nizes this state. It is a sad house when the hearts of mother
and children cannot, with love and pride, accept this as the
natural and legitimate ride of home government and educa-
tion. Even if the mother does not, in her own judgment,
accept the father's decision with the simple faith with which
6* I
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the cliild receives it, it is no evidence of tame submission if
she pleasantly reserves her reasons till they are alone. All
argument should be avoided between the parents before the
children on matters connected with the children's interest.
If appealed to, let the reply be simply, " Father knows best,"
or, " Do as father says." By this you strengthen your hus-
band's hands, and nowise compromise your own conscience
or influence. Then when opportunity offers compare your
views and give your reasons for dissent, in all truth and
gentleness.
XXXII.
PAULINE PRY.
"T"T'T"E come this week to spy out the land, — to roam
V V "up stairs, down stairs, and in the lady's chamber " ;
to creep into all by and forbidden places ; to look into the
bedrooms, ransack the wardrobes, peep into the drawers, it
may be ; overhaul trunks and boxes, perhaps ; in short, to
take all manner of liberty and find fault to our heart's con-
tent.
jSTow we slip, unseen, into the guest-chamber. It is very
pleasant and inviting ; but we don't think the bed is made
up very neatly. There are " humps " in the mattress. It
has not been turned over after using, and well beaten and
brought to a good square surface. The sheets and blankets
are not put on smoothly ; the fine, Marseilles spread is put
on unevenly, giving a very untidy appearance to the bed, and
bringing so large a proportion of the bedclothes on one side,
so as to render it difficult to turn and press them doAvn prop-
erly between the mattress and side-rail, and of course you
cannot, under such circumstances, give a square, regular
PAULINE PRY, 131
shape to the bed. A poorly made bed spoils the appear-
ance of the room, however elegant the rest of the furnishing
may be.
Pretty sheet and pillow tidies are of great assistance in
giving a fresh, cheerful air to a bedroom. If sheets and
pillow slips are neatly tucked and nicely ironed, the bed will
look very inviting at lirst, if well made ; but after it has been
once used, the wrinkled, tumbled sheets and pillows are not a
pleasant sight, and one feels well repaid for the little trouble
of providing tidies, however simple ; ruffled and embroidered,
for the spare chamber if you please, but a part of a fine old
linen sheet, with broad hems and narrow tucks, starched and
well ironed, gives a very neat finish to the family bedrooms,
and with' careful folding when taken off at night will not
need to be done up for some weeks.
This elegant bureau is all right, as far as it is furnished ;
but the guest-chamber should be provided with all the lit-
tle comforts and conveniences which a lady thinks necessary
in her own room. A handsome mat or tidy over the mar-
ble top, and little mats on each side for cologne-bottle and
watch- stand, or match-box and jewel-case, and a pretty
cushion, will add much to the appearance of this bureau ;
or if nothing more, a clean damask towel spread over it is, if
not a necessity, at least a great safeguard against stains on
the marble, and a protection from the disagreeable chill that
creeps over one when resting the hand or arm on the cold
marble.
A good comb and brush, free from the slightest suspicion
of dirt, a boot-buttoner, and a paper of pins, ought to be
on the bureau or in the drawer. A friend often remains
over night unexpectedly, and, of course not coming pro-
vided for the detention, will find these little attentions and
conveniences a great comfort, and duly appreciate your kind
and thoughtful care.
132 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEICEEPERS.
A little basket of willow or perforated card, embroidered
with some neat and fanciful design, or a bead or muslin
bag, is a great convenience mucli needed to be hung by the
side of the bureau or under the gas, to hold the hair from
comb or brush, burnt matches, bits of thread or paper.
Some such receptacle for loose bits or litter, no matter how
simple, shoidd be near every bureau, which the chambermaid
must empty every morning. A cuspidor, or wide-mouthed
vase, upon the floor, is more elegant than a scrap-basket, but
much more expensive.
A curtain of white barred muslin or Knen is needed back
of the washstand, that the water, in washing, may not soil
the paper or paint. A nail-brush is very convenient, we
think a real necessity, for every bedroom. Get open, up-
right brush- holders, rather than the long flat ones with a
cover, for, by standing the tooth and nail brushes in the
upright dish they drain and soon dry ; but if laid down and
covered they are never dry, and in warm weather soon be-
come quite off"ensively musty.
A good sponge on the washstand and a clean doily hung
up -with the towels should be considered as indispensable in
any well- furnished spare room as for those in daily use.
Of course the bureau drawers and wardrobe in this room
will be left as nearly unoccupied as possible ; so we will not
stop to open them, but pass into other rooms.
"What can be the matter in this young lady's chamber %
As we draw near the bureau, we perceive a most unpleasant
smell. We must take the liberty of opening this drawer.
Whew ! the first breath reveals the mystery.
The brush has been wet to brush the hair, and then
without drying shut from the air in the drawer. There is
no smell so sickening ! It pervades the whole bureau. I^o
perfume can overcome it ; and by using the brush, damp and
uncleansed day after day, the odor is carried wherever this
PAULINE PRY. 133
careless person goes. "We have sat by people in church who
have used such a brush, and could hardly remain during the
service. The cause is unmistakable and cannot be con-
cealed. If no other means can destroy this bad habit, we
would recommend that any one so thoughtless shoidd read
an article we saw not long since in " Harper's Bazar " on the
vegetable growth, in brush, comb, hair, and scalp, produced
by wetting the brush or hair, and leaving them undried or
uncleansed. We think once reading that description would
be sufficient cure.
The hair-brush should be combed free from hair or dan-
druff every time it is used, and laid by an open window till
well aired and dried, if ladies will persist in wetting the
hair or brush. A brisk movement of a dry brush through
the hair will soon create a fine lustre on the hair, whereas
wetting diminishes the gloss so beautiful in well-kept hair ;
but we forget that that is an old-fashioned idea. The pro-
gress of 'art and elegance teaches that a wilderness of fuzzy,
frizzled hair is now the crowning beauty. Tastes differ,
but no change in style or fashion will object, we hope, to a
clean, sweet brush ; and to secure that it must once a week,
at least, be well washed in warm soapsuds, in which a little
soda has been dissolved. Soda is better than ammonia,
as it cleanses without stimulating the vegetable groxvth spo-
ken of in the " Bazar," to which we just referred. Comb the
brush while washing, that the suds may penetrate to the
roots of the bristles, and cleanse every part ; then rinse in
warm water, rub dry as you can, and put in the window, or
by the fire if the weather is damp, to dry. This care should
n'jt be neglected by any one who makes any pretension to
neatness.
The bureau drawers in this room are not in good order.
You Avill lose much time, and we think a good deal of self-
respect, when next you need a handkerchief or stockings,
134 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
for everything here seems to have been stirred up by a whirl-
wind or a sleep-walker. It will require some skill and
more patience than you can spare to separate this wretched
tangle.
The pipes in the wash-basin and bath-room are slimy and
foul, indicative of neglect. They should be well washed
every morning, and once a week a pail of boiling suds, with
a spoonful or two of soda or potash, must be poured in, to
eat away all impurities, and sweeten the pipes. In passing,
let us say this care is more especially necessary in the kitchen
sinks. They require a stronger suds, and more soda or lye,
and more attention, to eat out all the grease that avUI accu-
mulate in washing dishes.
The discoloration around the beU-pull, door-knobs, etc.,
shows that a careless girl has not protected the wall or paint
while cleaning them, and the mistress has not kept her eyes
open. A bit of oil-cloth, with a hole in the center, to slip
over the knobs or bell-pulls while rubbing, would have saved
this defacement of paint and paper. And the finger-marks
on the doors also teU a sad story of neglect. They need to
be washed off once a week — twice, if little fingers are
about — with a soft flannel, wrung out of hot suds.
In the sitting-room, the mantel over the grate has not
been washed every morning when the fire is lighted in the
grate. It should be. See ! the gas and smoke from coal
or kindlings have turned the white marble quite yeUow.
Wash it in hot suds, strong with ammonia, to remove the
spots, and then use a clean brush and hot suds every morn-
ing, and you will save much time, and be well rewarded with
an unspotted mantel.
"We can't pry about any longer, but there is no knowing
when we may be tempted again to m(3ddle with our friends'
housekeeping.
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XXXIII.
BUY YOUR CAGE BEFORE YOU CATCH YOUR BIRD.
A YOUNG lady writes that this old adage is often re-
peated to her " in connection with grave warnings
against early engagements and early marriages," and asks for
our opinion and advice.
This old proverb sounds very wise, and if taken literally
may, for aught we know, be correct doctrine ; but when used
as a warning, in the connection which our friend suggests,
we don't more than half believe in it. We are no advo-
cate for very long engagements or unreasonably early mar-
riages ; but we do believe that the happiest marriages are
of those between whom the love was early plighted, and
that close observation wiU prove that such are the most likely
to stand the test of time, and pass through the many rough
and hazardous paths of married life with the most cheerful
fortitude. Those who have delayed marriage till their habits
have become too firmly established to yield kindly to an-
other's wishes or pecuharities have not, we think, so sure a
prospect of a pleasant and harmonious life. We would
sooner trust an early union to carry the wedded pair down
to a peaceful old age, not only without losing the love that
first united them, but with the firm hope that it would grow
brighter and brighter until that perfect day when both, hav-
ing passed over the river, shall stand with clearer vision and
purified affection before the throne of God.
Wlien school-days are over and the young man enters upon
his chosen occupation, and the maiden leaves her school-room
to return to her mother's care, then we believe that a be-
trothal formed with pure love for the basis is a great safe-
136 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
guard. It protects the lover from many temptations by
which young men away from home are beset, especially in
the city. They have little society save such transient com-
panions as may cross their path, and who will, perhaps, seek
to entice them to find pleasure in low and unrefined, if not
in really impure and sinful courses. In the evening, after
the day's work is ended, time hangs heavy on their hands,
they crave something, they know not what, and are easily
entrapped.
Now, while a true love will teach a man to turn from such
pleasures in disgust, it will also save the maiden any desire to
indulge in the flirtations and coquetries with which gay and
fashionable society tempts young and unguarded girls to de-
grade themselves. An engagement does not always prevent
this, we are sorry to say, but pure love wUl prove an unfail-
ing protection.
IsTeither do we believe an engagement should be protracted
after the lover has entered upon his business or profession,
until he. has accumulated sufficient wealth to keep his bird
in a golden cage.
Begin real life together. That is the true way, aU the
sweeter and happier if you begin small. The less style and
display there is, the more time each will have to study the
home character of the one they have accepted as a companion
for life, and the better opportunity to learn easily how to
bear and forbear, to tone down such peculiarities as are
not conducive to mutual confidence and harmony. In all
characters there will be such peculiarities, — it is quite right
there should be, — but by carrying the same gentleness and
courtesy into domestic life which was so easily and naturally
given in the days of courtship, yielding a little, giving up one
to the other, the early wedded become assimilated, and find
in their union an ever-increasing joy, which a later marriage,
when the habits become fixed and unyielding, seldom realizes.
BUY YOUR CAGE BEFORE YOU CATCH YOUR BIRD. 137
" But to begin life in a small way, with limited means,
subjects one to much drudgery and many deprivations ; be-
sides, we lose caste. Those who knew us in our father's
house, surrounded with comfort and luxury, would scarcely
deign to notice us if found in circumstances so at variance
with our parents' mode of Ufe."
Such friends are scarcely worth the securing. You have
outgrown babyhood and childhood, and, having entered upon
man's and woman's estate, surely do not expect to be always
cradled in your parents' arms ; but if you are of any worth
you should cheerfully accept life as you find it. " Its rough
ascents or flowing slopes," if trod together and in love, will
insure genuine happiness, and we often think one stores up
quite as much real pleasure while passing through the
rough places as when walking among the flowers. We
know that the retrospection is often a source of unfading
enjoyment.
Many, we are aware, find great delight in selecting the
house that is to be their home, and furnishing it as elabo-
rately and tavStefuUy as their means will permit, perhaps even
beyond a safe limit, and then surprising the bride by usher-
ing her into this unexpected establishment. The surprise is
doubtless effected, but although the annoyance may be con-
cealed, in nine cases out of ten we venture to say it is keenly
felt. When possible, both should act together in selecting
the house, or it may be " rooms," where is to be their home,
and the taste and judgment of both be consulted in selecting
the furniture which they expect to have before their eyes
daily. In examining and counseling together freqixently,
they modify each other's tastes, and in the end are far better
satisfied than if either had done the work alone.
The money for furnishing a house is often provided as a
part of the bride's outfit, and of course, if she chooses so to
consider the matter, it is her right to select the furniture,
138 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
without consulting another's taste or wishes. But the older
we grow the more we are satisfied that my rights should be
erased from the matrimonial dictionary, and our rights sub-
stituted.
XXXIV.
CARE IN SELECTING A HOUSE.
CHOOSING a house or tenement is one of the cares that
often devolves upon the wife, and demands great skill,
good judgment, and sound common-sense, because there are
so many things to be taken into consideration. We have
been favored with a book pubhshed in London entitled " The
Best of Every tiling." We have not yet so thoroughly exam-
ined its contents as to be able to judge if it warrants that
title, but have been much pleased with some " Hints on
choosing, buying, or building a House," and think our read-
ers will be better pleased with some extracts from that chap-
ter than with anything we could furnish : —
" Select a cheerful, healthy locality, and be sure the rent,
including taxes, etc., does not exceed one sixth of your in-
come. Do not choose a neighborhood merely because it is
fashionable, and carefully avoid occupying a dwelling in a
neighborhood of doubtful reputation.
" Be sure that the house is dry, with convenient sewerage
and plenty of water. A southern or western aspect is to be
preferred. Should the house be infested with vermin, avoid
it. See that windows and doors are well secured, that there
are proper means of ventilation, and that the chimneys do
not smoke,
"Let aU needful repairs be made by the landlord before
the completion of your agreement, otherwise you will proha-
CARE IN SELECTING A HOUSE. 139
bly be required to execute them at your own expense. Do
not deal with a landlord commonly reputed to be disobliging,
greedy, or litigious. In every case have a lease properly
drawn out and stamped.
" Avoid the neighborhood of a sluggish stream, a mill-
dam, or fresh-water lake. The penalties are rheumatism,
ague, impaired eyesight, loss of appetite, asthma, and many
other ailments. Choose a house away from the vicinity of
tan-yards and tallow, soap, and chemical works, old and
crowded burying-grounds, or slaughter-houses. A low situa-
tion is perilous, especially during the prevalence of epi-
demics.
" Never lease a house in a narrow street if you can help it,
unless the back premises are open and extensive. Houses
built with sea-sand will in the winter months discharge
moisture and be unhealthy. A house with two entrances is
more healthy than with only one. Before closing your bargain,
try to learn something of the house from a former occupant.
" If you wish to purchase instead of leasing, do not trust
to appearances or rely on your own judgment ; but when you
have found a house likely to suit your family and your purse,
employ a surveyor to inspect every portion of it. He Avill
examine the foundations, the state of the sewerage, and the
character of the materials which form the walls, the joints,
flooring, and other wood-work. He will be able to detect
if soft bricks have been used, by finding traces of dampness
at the bottom of the walls. Let a lawyer examine all papers
necessary to secure a full possession.
"Beware of rashly purchasing fixtures, such as window-
blinds or curtains, hall carpets, or kitchen furniture ; new
articles may be found in the end more economical.
" Make an effort to pay the whole of the purchase-money.
A bond on your house may endanger your credit and affect
your comfort.
140 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
" If instead of buying a house, you wish to build, select
your locality ; but before completing the arrangements, ascer-
tain the precise nature of the soil. In a gravelly soil you
will readily secure good foundations ; but if you find clay,
or moist earth, be cautious. You may, indeed, procure ^n
artificial foundation by laying a bed of concrete ; but this
will be attended with considerable expense. Consult an
architect ; he will make a plan for your approval, and pre-
pare working plans, and a specification. If the house is to
be built of brick, be careful to examine the quality of the
bricks, and also of the mortar. Personally inspect the
plumber's work, which, if inferior, will expose you to end-
less expense afterwards.
" Do not aUow zinc to be used either as gutters or water-
pipes ; it wastes under exposure.
" "When a new house passes out of the hands of the car-
penters, the painters and paper-hangers take their place. In
selecting your paper-hangings, keep in view these considera-
tions. If the ceiling is low, oak paper, or any dark paper,
will make it apparently lower still ; or if a room be defec-
tively lighted, a dark shade aggravates the evil. Papers of
large designs are unsuited for a small room, making it look
smaller ; and, generally, papers with a variety of colors and
showy patterns are inconsistent with elegance. Striped pa-
pers are better adapted for rooms with low ceilings. When
you. have pictures to hang on the walls, floral devices in the
paper are particularly unsuitable. Paper of a uniform color,
such as light or dark green, is admirably adapted for pic-
tures. The paint of doors and windows should harmonize
with the paper-hangings.^^
VISITING FOK ONE'S OWN CONVENIENCE. 141
XXXV.
VISITING FOR ONE'S OWN CONVENIENCE.
THEEE are very few housekeepers in cities or large
towns who wiU not, at the first glance, understand pre-
cisely what this means ; and, however many may have been
tempted to indulge in this style of visiting, and perhaps
often yielded to the temptation, there will be none found,
we venture to say, who will not heartily protest against it,
when practised upon themselves.
We have before us a letter from a lady on this subject,
and think we cannot do better than to transcribe part of it
for the benefit of our young friends, as it presents the sub-
ject in a clear and very forcible manner : —
" Do not, by any means, imagine that I would say a word
against friendly visits, for mutual enjoyment and the culti-
vation of true friendshiiJ. I gladly welcome to my house all
who come to see me, and delight to do them honor in every
way hospitality can suggest. My friends are sure of a cor-
dial welcome at all times, and I never make a visit I do not
wish returned. So much by way of parenthesis.
" ^ow for a statement of grievances. It is my misfortune
(or fortune) to have been brought up in a rural town, about
thirty miles from the city where I have resided since my
marriage, five years ago. I am a young housekeeper, not yet
of sufficient experience to take matters as easily as older and
more experienced matrons can, and therefore am more easily
disturbed by untoward events.
" The people living in my native town and thereabouts,
who are in the least acquainted with me or my husband, find
it vastly convenient, when they come to the city, once or
142 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
twice a year, or oftener, to shop, do errands of various kinds,
or attend conventions, — of which we have legions, ■ — to come
directly to my house, with all the freedom of brothers and
sisters, and stay till their mission to the city, whatever it may
be, is accomplished, with no thought or inquiry of how it
may conflict with my plans and convenience, or whether my
health is sufficient to enable me to bear the addition to my
work. And still worse, they never give any notice of their
coming ; but arrive, perhaps, in the noon train, just as I am
dishing up dinner for my small family, with their strong
country appetites, whetted by their morning ride, and expect
a good dinner and a hearty welcome. If it were only one
or two who take such liberties, I would not mind it ; but as
one after another makes my house their hotel, it becomes a
weariness to the flesh. JSTor is this all. The hardest and
most annoying of all is to have a woman come bringing a
young child, and remain till she has made her purchases for
a large family. This of course takes two or more days.
The child is left in my care, while the mother is only in
the house at meal-times. The child is home-sick, lonely,
and fretful, and completely wears me out, mentally and
bodily ; and I have no means of redress. When the mother
leaves, she says, ' 'Now come and make me a visit,' well
knowing that I never will,
" I might speak of the annoyance of rising two hours ear-
lier than usual to get breakfast in season for an early morn-
ing train ; but I forbear, hoping you will help those who
suff"er from this cruel and heartless practice."
This victim of a selfish and heartless custom has so well
portrayed the annoyances that spring naturally from it, that
few words of ours are needed. But, in justice to the writer,
we must assure our readers that this is no fancy sketch ; the
half of what the landladies of these gratuitous hotels are
called upon — no, compelled — to endure has not been told.
VISITING FOR ONE'S OWN CONVENIENCE. 143
Happy, if when sick, witliout help, or unable to afford to
keep any, they do not find it necessary to furnish two or
three extra meals, at different parts of the day, after the
family have been fed, the table and dishes all cleansed, and
the weary provider has just sat down to that large basket of
long-delayed mending. Long delayed ! And why ? Be-
cause the time and strength which might have been given to
that work have been frittered away for those who have no
legitimate claim upon either, and who, perphaps, taking notes
of everything which their presence compels the lady of the
house to neglect, go away and requite her hospitality by criti-
cising her housekeeping and remarking upon her inefficiency !
Or it may be, these long-suffering ladies are rung up at mid-
night to receive unscrupidous and untimely guests ; or, in-
stead of one child to look after, they are expected to act as
nurse to three or four. We have tried and known it all,
and confess we don't like it.
Aside from the fatigue and inconvenience, the pecuniary
tax is often much heavier than the poor victim can afford to
pay. We think the meanest kind of pilfering is that prac-
tised by self-constituted guests. We Avould ride, in the
darkest night, over the roughest corduroy roads ever seen at
the West in her earliest days, until we found a log-tavern, on
the edge of a " clearing," with no private room, no eatable
food, and a bed already fully inhabited, before we would
thxis trespass on any one upon whom we had not strong
claims of hearty love or relationship, and especially with-
out warning. And one who has ever tried this alterna-
tive, will acknowledge that we could not well express our
abhorrence of the practice of " visiting for one's own con-
venience" more forcibly.
Look at it on the score of the host's convenience. Even
with an abundant income, an ample supply of well-trained
servants, every housekeeper knows that one is liable to have
144 MOTHEKLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
on the. table what may be sufficient for " the family," — the
last of the bread, and only enough meat. The new bread
may be almost ready for the oven, but not for the table.
The butcher may have been delayed, or forgotten your order,
and you have no more supplies on hand. Who does not
know the anxiety and annoyance of " improvising " a dinner
for unexpected guests, when the larder is not well filled'?
(By the way, dear young housekeeper, keep watch that you
are not often caught with short " rations.") Then, you often
have engagements that demand your attention immediately
after you have finished your dinner, and failing to meet such
engagements may cause you much trouble, and subject you to
very great annoyance. And for whom must you allow all
these arrangements, connected with your own or your family's
interests, to be deranged 1 For almost a stranger, — a mere
passing acquaintance, in nowise congenial, who finds your
house more pleasant and convenient, and certainly more
econo7}iical, than a public hotel. There are mischievous,
roguish boys in most families, who have a very emphatic
nomenclature of their own by which they would designate
such liberties ; but as we very gravely rebuke all " slang "
phrases in our own family, we dare not venture to use their
terms, however appropriate, and can simply say, that it is
the coolest and most unpardonable kind of unwarrantable
familiarity.
There is another trouble connected with convenient and
economical visiting, which our friend has not noticed. We
trust she has never experienced it. We have, many times ;
and in former years, with young children to care for, it was
the hardest to bear of all the vexations caused by these un-
welcome guests. We refer to the disturbance and dissatis-
faction which such unexpected increase of labor causes
among our servants. If these visits are not like those of the
angels, " few and far between," (and such hotels, once found,
VISITING FOR one's OWN CONVENIENCE. 145
are not often left quiet,) your " help " will be very likely to
appear before you, carpet-bag in hand, saying, " Please, mem,
I must leave you ; I did not hire out to a boarding-house ."
Ah, what blessed independence ! They can give notice to
leave, but you cannot. You cannot quit your post, but
must stay by, and silently endure. So custom ordains.
But if custom enacts unjust laws, lays upon weary shoul-
ders heavy burdens most grievous to be borne, is not a re-
volt justifiable '1 We think it is, and, in mercy to patient
workers, the sooner it begins and the more unflinchingly it
is sustained the better.
When those who have no claim upon your time or your
affections take such liberties, besieging you in your home,
we think it not at all reprehensible or discourteous to say,
frankly, with unmistakable plainness, that it is inconvenient
or quite impossible for you to accommodate or entertain
them. Be as kind and gentle as you can, but be firm.
They have no claim upon you ; let it be well understood
that you recognize -none, and mean to act accordingly. If
you accept the intrusion, without protest, you will but rivet
your bonds ; and while you find them growing stronger and
more galling every year, you will also find that your power
to resist and break the chains becomes weaker. Your sub-
mission to such imposition and oppression will be well noised
abroad, and you Avill find yourself at the mercy of many
a chance customer.
To such as come to you in love and for love's sake, let
your doors swing wide open. Intercourse between friends
and relatives is another and very different thing. It is giv-
ing and receiving, and the pleasure makes the labor light.
But to all who use your house for their own selfish con-
venience, lock the door and drop the key in your pocket.
146 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPEES.
XXXVI.
WILL THEY BOAED, OR KEEP HOUSE 1
"T'VT'E tliiiilv it is considered allowable to criticise and
V V gossip about household matters generally, so that
we don't intrench on anybody in particular. But to avoid
meddling was a doctrine so thoroughly inculcated in our
youth, that in our talk with young housekeepers we have
found ourselves shrinking from touching upon many little mis-
takes that need rectifying, or topics that will bear discussion,
forgetting that we are really not prying into private family
matters. Yet, thanks to many letters of inquiry from un-
known friends, which give us license and courage to take
up prevailing modes or ideas and suggest what we think a
better way, we shall go on, and perhaps be considered a
meddler after all !
"When young people marry, the first question asked is,
" "Will they board, or keep house ] " And the reasons for or
against keeping house show a very great variety of opinions.
We hear this question so often, and see, with pain, how
poorly prepared, through the reprehensible indulgence of their
mothers, many of the young ladies of the present day are for
the performance or superintendence of home cares and duties,
that, having waited for some explicit inquiries on the subject,
we now propose to embody, in an imaginary letter, some of
the anxieties and distress which this same indulgence stores
up for the tenderly reared daughters. We will suppose. that
one of these young ladies writes us as follows : —
" I know that you generally advise yoimg people to go to
housekeeping, instead of boarding. That may be the best
way for most, and of late I am inclined to think it is ; but I
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am peculiarly situated. I wonder if you can understand how
very hard it must be, how almost impossible, for a young lady
who has lived twenty years without any cares, who has
always seen an abundance of everything, — never knowing
or thinking that economy was or could be necessary, — to
undertake the care of a house, under circumstances which
will make it desirable that the work, if not done by her own
hands, should be wholly under her constant supervision.
What sort of a housekeeper would you expect her to make 'i
I have just learned that my parents are not able, now, to
start me in life as elegantly as I have always been brought
up to expect. In a few weeks I shall be united to one, not
rich, but I think well worthy of any sacrifice or hardsliip.
He earnestly desires me to consent to begin housekeeping as
soon as we are married. I don't want to, because I am sure
boarding will be wiser and safer than my unskillfid. house-
keeping. But my friend says, if I will consent, he will be
patient with my short-comings and mistakes, and will work
enough harder to make up for all I waste while learning.
Poor fellow ! he little dreams what an ignoramus he is about
to risk his comfort and perhaps happiness with. Why, I
know absolutely nothing of what I am just beginning to
feel is of the greatest importance, if we would secure a happy
union. To be sure, I can sing and dance well, so partial
friends say. I paint with skill and accuracy sufficient at
least to amuse myself and while away such time as would
otherwise drag heavily during a rainy day, and am quite *
skillful with my needle when I use it for fancy work ; but
when it comes to useful, necessary work, I am as helpless and
useless as a child. Ah, if my dear parents had lavished half
the money to teach me household mysteries that was expended
to make me thoroughly accomplished, in the fashionable sense
of that term, how happy I should now be and how bright
the future would appear ! I have good health, and, if I only
148 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
knew how to do anything, would shrink from no hardship ;
hut I honestly know nothing useful. And this foolish lover
of mine talks about being patient with my mistakes until I
learn to keep house ! Alas, it Avill take years to teach me
so that I can see my way through this fog and tangle of igno-
rance. I shall be an old woman, bent and gray, before I
understand the first principles of household economy. Will
he bear with me through all the vexatious blunders I shall
make while learning; and be patient if, after years of trial,
he finds I am but an awkward and unskillful worker stiU 1 "
Yes, if this young man is worthy of your love, he will value
the efforts you make, and sympathize with you when you find
the results unsatisfactory. If he would have your praise-
worthy struggles to make the home attractive successful, he
must not look back to the " leeks and onions of Egypt," but
accept the journey through the wilderness with cheerfulness,
and be lovingly grateful if the " manna " falls at first but
seldom. Many a young, inexperienced wife has had all her
efforts paralyzed, because her husband was so often murmur-
ing about his mother's bread and pies and gingerbread. That
is cruel and unmanly.
IS; ow, in the first place, let us say to every young couple,
Go to houseTceeping by all means. However awkward or un-
skillful you may be, or however small and simple must be
your habitation, do not let the first years of married life be
passed in a boarding-house. It is no place to learn each
other's character, to become accustomed to the peculiarities
that belong to every one ; it is no place to accept as home.
If you are not able to employ servants while you two, who
have just been made one, are the only occujDants of your new
home, happy are ye. In this early stage of married life, to
venture on boarding, or risk the tyranny of servants, is to
deprive yourselves of the sweetest experiences of a true home.
ISTo matter how heavy or how light your purse may be, if you
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are wise, commence small. If young people assume the cares
of a large mansion, and with it, of necessity, the supervision
of a number of servants, they will soon become disheartened,
and vote housekeeping wretched work. But in a small house,
before " olive plants " cluster around to tell you that
" The cottage is too small,
And the table wanteth space,"
you become accustomed to the care, and so well versed in all
the minutest detads of home labor, that you will scarcely feel
the additional tax on your energies, either of the olive
branches or a larger house, and the additional care of ser-
vants, which will, of necessity, come with a more imposing
residence.
Then, as to the shrinking from venturing into the new and
untried household domains, which young ladies so naturally
feel who know absolutely nothing but the " accomplish-
ments " taught in schools, we would say, for your encourage-
ment, that the road to such knowledge as will enable you to
form some correct idea of the work which lies before you is
not so long or so difficult as your fears have led you to im-
agine. With a willing heart, with hands made quick and
skillful by love, the way will soon become easy and pleasant.
If possible, employ much of the few last weeks before your
marriage in making yourself familiar with the rudiments
of household affairs. Read all you can about it, — how
your house should be arranged, what will be necessary in
each department. Learn all you can about marketing, —
what articles are most desirable, and during what seasons ;
seek how to judge of the quality of the food you buy, and the
honest price for it. These are homely details, but the knowl-
edge wiU be all needed, indeed it is indispensable to perfect
you in good management ; but you will secure the most effec-
tive' knowledge, and the greatest confidence in your own
capacity, by going about the house, and, little by little, doing
150 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
with your own hands the work belonging to each depart-
ment, under your mother's supervision, or that of a AveU-
trained housekeeper. At lirst, as it is all neAv work to you,
it Avill not be easy or pleasant ; but repeat the trial, and
with each attempt you will find that you are acquiring skill
and courage. Let there be no part of household labor that
you do not perform a few times yourself, until you are well
assured that you have sufficiently mastered it to do it again,
or to detect any mistake or blunder in a servant. If you
must keep servants, they will give you little comfort unless
they see from the first — and they are usually very quick to
discern between an intelligent or ignorant mistress — that
you mean to overlook your work daily, and are abundantly
able to discover any deviation from the right track. But
above all things, unless for a year or two after marriage you
can have the privilege of discarding servants entirely, endeav-
or, before marriage, to feel so much at ease in the kitchen,
and so far mistress of cooking, that you will be able easily
to detect any failure, and know the reason for it. If bread is
brought to the table that is not satisfactory, it is wise to be
able to say to your cook, with confidence, " Your bread should
have risen longer before being put into the oven. It is not
exactly heavy ; but it feels solid, and bites tovigh." Or,
" Your bread is full of holes. You have not kneaded it suffi-
ciently." Or, " Cook, we must return that barrel of flour. It
is not good. See how it ' runs ' as you are kneading it. "We
shall have no real good bread from such flour." " The pastry
was not nice to-day. You have handled it too much, and it
cuts as tough as leather. Please be more careful about it."
Thus, by spending an hour a day in your mother's kitchen,
taking an active part in the work to be done there, and going
through every department in the same thorough manner,
even one month will advance you so that you can see the
" silver lining " to all these clouds, and will give you suffi-
CHOICE OF COLORS IN DRESS. 161
cient confidence in your own knowledge and power, to banish
all the mysterj- and dread. Then, when you walk with well-
assured steps, knowing that you have conquered so far, and
can, of course, conquer all, by patient endurance in well-doing,
you will begin to enjoy every step of progress you make. No
matter if you are and will be possessed of fabulous wealth,
this knowledge should be secured by every young lady. But
should you begin with large or small means, in either case your
prospects of comfort and happiness are very insecure, if you
enter the married state unwilling to ac(|uire that which every
woman should know, — the art of housekeeping. In after
life, when home cares may be less pressing, become lawyer,
judge, or President, if you can ; but surely young women can
find noble work, sufficient for all their talents and energies, in
laying the foundation of and securely estabUshing a weU-
ordered and happy home.
XXXVII.
CHOICE OF COLORS IN DRESS.
BLONDES.
IN the selection of articles for dress, one should be guided,
not only by the quality of the fabric and durability of
Color, but also by observing if the color will harmonize
with the complexion of the wearer.
Nothing marks refinement and culture, or the Avant of
it, more than the combination of colors in one's attire.
It is foUy to spend time and thought upon the adorning of
the body, to the exclusion of other and more important mat-
ters ; but it is always wise to do well whatever is to be
done, and to develop and perfect such gifts as God has
152 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
bestowed, either of body or mind, so as to make them as
attractive and valuable as possible. We hold it to be a duty
to give such time and thought to dress as will secure the
largest amount of pleasure and gratification to one's family
and friends. To labor to secure a prominent position, to
become a leader of fashion, is another and A^ery different
thing. When seeking to impart pleasure to friends, we are
influenced by love ; but when striving to be among the
most fashionable, Ave cater to a selfish vanity or a poor and
low ambition.
Works on the combinations of color in dress divide com-
plexions into the " fair and ruddy blondes," and the " pale
and florid brunettes." In the fair blonde Ave find a deli-
cate Avhite skin ; light hair, in all the shades from a golden
hue to yellow or orange-broAvn ; light blue or gray eyes ; a
slight tinge of rose on the cheek, and a richer tint on the
lips. In all such complexions the rose-color is not decided
enough, and the hair Avould be improved by a deeper hue ;
and these changes can be made, in a good degree, by a suit-
able mingling of color in the dress. One of the most favor-
able colors for the fair blonde is a delicate green, as it
imparts to the flesh-white of the skin a tint of red, which,
mingling Avith the natural hue, forms an agreeable rose-tint,
— a good contrast both to the face and hair, especially if the
hair is golden, incHning to orange.
The best colors to mingle with the green, as trimmings,
are red, orange, and gold. Green and gold form a rich har-
mony, peculiarly becoming to the fair blonde. Scarlet,
blended Avith green, harmonizes better than red ; but if red,
inclining to crimson, is used, then orange and gold must also
be combined Avith it. There are some shades of green that
are not becoming, unless blended with and enlivened by
other harmonious colors. A green bonnet, Avith rose-color
and white, Avith a Avhite feather, Avill ahvays be becoming for
CHOICE OF COLORS IN DRESS. 153
this complexion. Be careful that too much white is not
used, else it will have a cold effect, and therefore will not aid
the fair complexion so much. Orange or gold may be sub-
stituted for the pink or rose ; also red, in a small bonnet,
but neither should be placed close to the face. Orange, in a
green bonnet, in small quantities, is becoming, if the wear-
er's eyes are blue. A few autumnal shades of red, orange, or
yellow-green are also in harmony with the fair complexion ;
but dark green is not at all desirable.
Blue is very suitable, giving an orange tint, which har-
monizes finely with the delicate white and flesh hues of the
complexion. There is always a natural trace of orange-color
on the skin, and this color, by intensifying this natural tint,
is very pleasing ; but the blue must be light, and not too
positive. Blue being the perfect contrast of orange, it agrees
finely with golden or orange-brown hair. This is the reason
that light blue head-dresses are so very becoming on light
hair. To give a good effect to blue by gas-Hght, a little
white or very pale blue is necessary to be in contrast or
very near the face. If there are green leaves with the blue
flowers of a head-dress, they should be placed as near the
face as possible.
White, black, a very little yeUow, orange, straw, or
stone color, may either of them be used in the trimmings of
a light blue bonnet with good effects ; but not if there are
pink or purple flowers on it, as these colors mingled with
blue are unsuitable. The colors to be used carefully or
avoided altogether, with fair complexions, are yellow, orange,
red, and purple. The light shades of lilac may be sometimes
used ; but it is very trying, and must always, if used, be
separated from the flesh by an edging of tulle or some sim-
ilar trimming, or be associated with its harmonizing colors,
cherry, scarlet, light crimson, or gold color, and then they
will in part overcome the bad effects ; but green and lilac
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should never be coupled, as it will form a positive discord.
A very little light purple is agreeable for a head-dress on light
hair, but must be placed near the skin.
Neutral colors, if not too dark, accord well with fair
blondes ; gray, fawn, drab, and some few shades of brown
are the best. Black is good for the fair blonde who has
some healthy color, because it increases the rose in the com-
plexion ; but it is bad for pale skins, as it bleaches them by
the painful contrast. ISTo delicate color can be blended with
black without seeming of a lighter tone. Unless used for
mourning, black must be mingled with either blue, cherry,
mulberry, drab, or lilac, to remove the somber eifects ; but
cherry and lilac must be used sparingly. Red must not be
used at all with black for fair blondes, as it gives a rusty
tinge. AVhite is suitable with black, if some other color is
added ; otherAvise it is too cold. A black bonnet looks well
with a fair complexion, but a little white and rose-color
should be added, keeping the rose away from the skin.
White is pleasant for all complexions, but more so with the
fair blonde who has some color than for any other. Bright
colors with white bonnet may be added, but must be kept
low, and well grouped. White increases the paleness of a
pale skin, but this effect may be neutralized by a blue or
green wreath brought well on the face.
The ruddy hlonde has a full-toned complexion, inclining
to positive rose-red or carnation ; dark blue or broAvn eyes,
blonde and brown hair. All the colors suitable for the fair
are generally suitable for the ruddy blonde, but the tones
and in some cases the hues must be changed. As a rule
this type may use more freedom in the selection of colors
than the fair ; her complexion, not being so delicate, is less
sensitive. The hair being the medium between gold and
black, and the complexion higher toned and more positive,
rich and moderately dark colors may be used.
CHOICE OF COLORS IN DRESS. 156
Green is very becoming, but it must be of the darker
shades, and not the delicate green that is so becoming for
the fair blonde. If the complexion is light and can use
more red, without being overcharged, rich, full-toned green,
such as grass or moss green, may be used, as, although suffi-
ciently bright to yield color to the skin, it is not so powerful
a contrast as to bleach it. In proportion as the complexion
increases in color a deeper green may be selected, passmg from
the positive to the neutral hues, as sage, tea, or oUve green.
These deep, neutral greens do not cast much red, while they
both harmonize with and reduce the nutural hue. A simple
rule for the ruddy blonde is, the paler her complexion the
brighter must be the green she wears, the rosier the cheek
the deeper and more neutral must be the green. For the
high-toned blonde the green may be neutralized by mingling
rose, scarlet, orange, or white flowers. If on the inside of a
bonnet, the colored flowers must be surrounded with some
gray or semi-transparent material to keep from contrast Avith
the skin. On the outside dead-green or autumnal leaves,
with a feAv flowers of orange or scarlet, are selected. Eose-
colored flowers harmonize better Avith bright yellow-green
than with dead-green leaves.
Blue also is suitable, but it follows the same rules as green :
it must be deeper and richer for the ruddy blonde than for
the fair. The best colors to associate with the rich blues
are orange, salmon, and chocolate ; white and black also har-
monize wdth blue. Bonnets and head-dresses, and wreaths
of blue, need the same colors blended as for the fair blonde,
only of a deeper tint, and all colors pointed out as injurious
by the one type must be avoided by the other. The most
difiicult color to introduce in any dress is violet ; its effect
on all complexions being so unsatisfactory. AU skins appear
yelloAv when in contrast with it, and look sickly and disa-
greeable. A large proportion of yellow is needed to reduce
156 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
and neutralize the effects of violet. It becomes positively-
lost in artificial light, and should never be used or introduced
into an evening dress.
iS^eutral colors are mostly suitable for the ruddy blonde ;
when light they increase the color, when dark they reduce
it by contrast. Eusset, gray, slate, maroon, and all shades
of broAvn are the most pleasing of the darTc neutrals, and
gray, drab, fawn, and stone color, the most desirable of the
light neutrals.
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XXXVIII.
HAEMONIZING COLOES IN DRESS.
BRUNETTES.
IS" the last chapter we noticed the colors most appropriate
and harmonious for the fair and the ruddy blonde.
"We shall now note a few peculiarities of the pale and the
florid brunette.
In the 2^<^de brunette, the eyes and hair are usually a deep
brown or brown-black, and the skin pale, often Avith some
sallow shade. With this peculiar complexion, light or very
dark colors are the most becoming, because the light colors
harmonize with the tint of the skin, and the dark colors
with the hue of the hair and eyes. Thus we foUoAv ISTature's
coloring, and sustain her effective contrasts. When the col-
ors of the dress are a medium between the skin and hair and
eyes, they " reduce the expression, and injure or destroy the
greatest charm."
Blade being similar to the color of eyes and hair, and a
perfect contrast to the complexion, increases the piirity of the
natural tints, and is very suitable for the pale brunette. All
HARMONIZING COLORS IN DRESS. 157
the shades of dark brown being similar to the hair and eyes,
are also appropriate. Claret, dark russet, and crimson are
not unsuitable, but less desirable and becoming than black
or brown.
Positive blue, green, or purple must not be used ; but dark
blue, green, or violet may be accepted, provided the com-
plexion has no shade of yellow or saUowness. If there is,
these colors must all be avoided.
White, being analogous to the hue of the skin, is very de-
sirable, enhancing the richness of the eyes and hair, and, as
it receives a yellow tint from artificial light, is particularly
desirable for an evening dress for the pale brunette. Yellow
and white united are also becoming in the evening for this
class of complexion, but become dull by daylight, and very
undesirable. Gold or maize color contrasts pleasantly with
black or dark brown eyes and hair, and neutralizes any dis-
agreeable saUowness that there may be in the skin.
The florid brunette often inclines to the oUve complexion,
and, in many cases, to the copper-colored, or subdued yellow,
or orange-brown, with more positive red on lip and cheek
than in the blonde types. The eyes are black, the hair jet
or blue-black. The tones yellow, orange, and red predomi-
nate in the florid brunette, and harmonize together by analogy
or similarity ; but they also harmonize with the black hair
and eyes, by contrast ; therefore great care and good judg-
ment shoiild be exercised, lest this agreeable group of har-
monizing tints should be weakened or destroyed by the use
of objectionable colors. On the other hand, it is desirable
to seek to neutralize any unpleasant tone in the complexion,
caused by too much yellow, which will other-wise give a sallow
and unhealthy tinge to the skin. Yellow, maize, or gold color
will efl'ect this ; because, while they contrast favorably with
the color of the hair and eyes, intensifying their richness by
the purple tint which this cambination forms, they also har-
158 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
monize, by analogy, with the tints of the complexion, and at
the same time sufficiently neutralize any excess of yellow that
these tints may exhibit. When the skin shows more orange
than yellow, maize or yellow in the dress will enrich the com-
plexion by the increase of red which these colors Avill develop.
A yellow bonnet is very becoming to the florid brunette ;
but as it is worn near and surrounds the face, much of its
effects must be neutralized by introducing violet, purple, or
deep blue as trimmings ; they must not come in contact with
the face, however, and should be used very sparingly.
Orange is too brilliant and gaudy to be used in dress, ex-
cept in very small quantities, and the same rule holds good
of red, scarlet, bright crimson, magenta, and all brilliant
colors of the like class ; they, with orange, are suited to
some complexions where it is advantageous to neutralize, but
they are too bright for general costume. A scarlet head-dress
is becoming with dark hair, intensifying it by contrast, and
by the purple shade which it adds when worn near black.
Dark ^red, also, is suitable for complexions that have too
much red on the cheeks or lips, neutralizing the color of the
skin, and reducing it by contrast. Violet is not agreeable,
unless its bad effects are controlled or counteracted by the
addition of yellow ; but the dark shades of violet are less
objectionable than the positive color. A violet bonnet may
be used with this type of complexion, if trimmed with pale
yellow, — primroses, for instance ; the flowers being a good
contrast to the violet bonnet, and harmonizing well with the
skin.
A black bonnet is not as becoming for the brunette as for
the blonde ; but by using white, red, orange, or yellow trim-
mings, it is quite pleasing. It enhances the red by reducing
the lighter tints of the skin, but it has no power to neutralize
any objectionable tint that may exist. White is more favor-
able than black, and accords well with this complexion. A
HARMONIZING COLORS IN DRESS. 159
white bounet is suitable, if trimmed with red, orange, or
yellow ; but the yellow shoidd be mingled with white only
for evening wear.
In grouping color with color, nothing is more common
than to see discordant tints placed together, — purple and
green, for instance ; and however rich the material or beau-
tiful the wearer, such incongruity is exceedingly distasteful.
In arranging colors, it shoidd be borne in mind that there
are two kinds of harmony, — the harmony of contrast and
the harmony of analogy. "When two dissimilar colors are
blended agreeably, such as blue and orange, or lilac and
cherry, they form a harmony of contrast. Two distant
tones of one color, such as very light and very dark blue,
associated, harmonize by contrast ; but in this latter in-
stance, the harmony is neither so striking nor so perfect.
When similar colors, such as orange and scarlet, crimson and
crimson-brown, are grouped together, they form a harmony
of analogy ; and if two or more shades of color, closely ap-
proximating in intensity, are associated, they harmonize by
analogy.
Harmonies of contrast are more effective, but not more
important, than those of analogy. The former are brilliant
and decisive, the latter quiet and undemonstrative. Both
hold equal positions in matters of dress, and in arranging the
colors of the costume be careful to choose the proper species
of harmony.
There are two rules to be observed : first, associate with
colors favorable to the complexion tints that will harmonize
bj'' analogy or similarity, because contrasting colors would
diminsh and injure its favorable effect ; second, if the color
selected for the dress is injurious to the complexion, then
contrasting color must be associated with it, to neutralize its
objectionable influence.
There is much more to be said on the selection of colors
160 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
for dress, but we must not trespass longer. We hope that,
by our having thus called attention to this subject, our read-
ers may find it sufficiently interesting to become familiar
with the rules given, and carry the lessons it may have taught
into practical use.
We are very largely indebted to " A Manual for Ladies,"
by W. and G. Audsley, for much of the information grouped
in this and the preceding article.
XXXIX.
A WOED ABOUT MOTHS.
" ny yrOTHS in the winter ! Pray don't speak of them !
-LVJL Some weeks later will be time enough to stir up our
minds by way of remembrance. The vexatious little tor-
ments ! they surely don't work in vmiter ! And yet I have
noticed several little spots, or holes, that looked as if eaten
by moths. I am sure they were not there early in the fall :
I could n't understand it, but was so confident that moths
did not do their mischief in winter, that I have been trying
to find some other cause for these marks."
Ah ! there was where you were mistaken. There are two
kinds of moths, — one a large silver-colored fly ; its Avorm
is shaped somewhat like those found in chestnuts. The oth-
er was first noticed some eight or ten years since, by the up-
holsterers. It is smaller, of a brown or dark drab color. It
is governed by no times or seasons, but works steadily on,
summer and winter. The heat of our city homes or furnace-
heated country-houses may promote this uninterrupted activ-
ity. The moth or fly, it is said, finds its way into a sofa or
chair between the back or seat under the lining, Avhere,
A WORD ABOUT MOTHS. 161
among the springs, it finds a safe and convenient hiding-
place. They will often secure a home in these secret places
within a week of the time that furniture, right from the cab-
inet-maker's, has been brought into the house. If they do,
they are so enormously prolific that in a month or two they
can be numbered by thousands. We cannot but think that
when, in a carefully kept house, these moths are found in new
furniture, they must have been first introduced through poorly
prepared hair or material with which the article was uphol-
stered ; or the hair, having been wet, Avas used before it was
carefully dried. This theory may be only an imagination
of our own but every year's experience confirms the idea,
— upholsterers to the contrary notwithstanding.
It is said that these moths will not eat pure curled hair,
but only use it to fasten their cocoons upon, as being secure
from any disturbance, through the elasticity of the hair.
They use the inside of furniture only for propagation, and
here at the same time may be found the fly, the worms, and
the eggs. From tliis concealment the worm escapes, to feed
on the plush or woolen materials, or, falling to the floor,
feeds on the carpet. Plush being made with cotton back
generally, they seldom eat through that, though they do
sometimes cut through the muslin backs of sofas, etc. Little
protection may be hoped for from the use of cayenne pepper,
Scotcli snuff, camphor, turpentine, or all other remedies
against the large moth. Continual Avatchfulness is the only
safety.
At least once a week tlie furniture should be moved away
from the Avails into the middle of the room and well brushed
and beaten with a "furniture whip" or braided ratans.
After brushing carefully all around the buttons with a furni-
ture button-brush, pull up the material Avhich will lie in
loose folds or pleats about the buttons, and hold them up
with one hand Avhile you brush off all lint or dust that may
162 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
have settled in these folds. These are nice little hiding-
places for the worm, and must be looked after. As fast as
each piece of furniture has been faithfully brushed and
whipped, set it into the next room and keep the doors
closed.
"Wliile cleaning, turn each chair or sofa bottom-side upward
and beat the backs and under part of the seats, to dislodge
any that may have found shelter inside. When the furni-
ture has received all needed attention, and is removed from
the room, give the carpet a thorough cleansing by going over
it with a " carpet-sweeper." ISTothing so effectually gathers
up the Avorms or eggs, and the carpet is less worn than
when swept with a broom. Of course, in the corners
and around the edges, where the " carpet-sweeper " cannot
work, you must use a small whisk-broom and dust-pan, and
this must be done before going over the main part of the
carpet.
In using a " sweeper " be careful to empty it once or twice
while going over a large room, pulling out all the strings and
hair that may, when gathered up, have twisted around the
axle of the circular brush inside the box. If not removed, it
will soon obstruct the motion, and its operation be ineffectual.
In using a " carpet-sweeper " have everything out of the way
of the machine, that you may have a clear siu'face across the
whole length of the room, if possible ; hold the handle up
nearly straight, so as to bring all the brush underneath in
contact Avith the carpet ; press down, and with a firm hand
run oA^er the breadth from one end of the room to the other,
going by the seam or thread, lengtliAvise. When at the far-
ther end lift up the box so that it Avill not touch the carpet,
and, turning round, proceed till the whole length of the car-
pet has been swept ; then begin AvidthAvise and proceed in
the same manner, only be careful to run straight. If the
" sweeper " is turned round AA^hile resting on the floor, the
A WORD ABOUT MOTHS. 163
dirt is apt to drop out in rolls by the process of turning. It
requires a little experience and good judgment to use a " car-
pet-sweeper " judiciously ; but once understand it and you
will not willingly be without one. When this work is
done, empty all the dirt from the " sweeper " and comb the
rolling-brush with a coarse or " fringe comb."
But to return to the moths. If they get inside your fur-
niture, they may be destroyed by taking off the muslin under
the seats, the outside ends, and the backs, where they most
naturally seek privacy. If this must be done, take each piece
out to the yard or on a back veranda, after you have removed
the lining ; spread down an old sheet and set the furniture on
it, and beat with a stick to dislodge the moths. Watch for the
flies and worms that you have routed, and kill them as fast as
they are seen. If you do not succeed in killing all of them,
by a repetition of this operation a few times they will be dis-
turbed and leave the furniture, as they seek to be left in
quiet. If they attack the carpet they generally begin under
the sofas and chairs or on the edges of the carpet in the
corners of the room. In this case, as soon as you find the
first intimation of their ill-omened presence, spread a wet
sheet on the carpet, and pass a hot flat-iron over quickly ;
keep a number of irons heating and change often. The heat
and steam will destroy both worm and egg.
But do not let this success beguile you into any remissness.
They can " creep slyly through a tiny space," and in a few
weeks, if they find you sleeping on your post, will effect an
entrance, and will have increased and multiplied until the
last state of that furniture "will be worse than the first.
164 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
XL.
WINTER BUTTER.
MUCH has been .said and written on making winter
butter. Our papers bring daily complaints of the
article as sold in our markets, and furnish us with many
elaborate directions how to overcome an evil which can no
longer be meekly endured.
In large butter factories, with every facility for preserving
uniform temperature, it is not easy to accept any excuse for
poor butter, summer or winter ; but when butter is only
made in small quantities, simply for family consumption,
and at a time when the cows are giving much less milk than
in the summer and fall, there is a necessity for more care and
labor in securing good butter than when we can furnish
green pastures and fresh food for the cows. Still we all ex-
pect, and should be willing to accept, more discomforts in
our winter's labors than we find in warm weather. Aside
from these considerations we fail to see any insurmountable
difficulty in securing good sweet butter in the winter. Of
course Ave do not look for yellow butter at this season of the
year, and when we see it we distrust its purity ; but the
golden color, though desirable, as a pleasure to the eye, is
not an essential. For years we made a large portion of our
own butter from only one cow, with but a few conveniences,
and with very limited accommodations to aid us in the work ;
but Ave never had biitei- butter, and have never found a
good reason why any one should be compelled to suffer from
that infliction.
In the first place, a great deal depends on having pure,
clear milk to start with, and to secure that we think a warm,
WINTER BUTTER. 165
clean shelter and good food should he provided for the ani-
mals. Aside from good hay, free from mustiness, they should
have as large a supply of roots — beets, pumpkins, carrots,
or potatoes, Avhichever is the most convenient, or some of
all • — as you can furnish ; hut Avhatever is given should be
entirely free from decay, if you would have a healthy cow
and pure milk.
The milk Avill receive no unnatural flavor from any or all
of these roots ; but no skill can conceal the use of cabbages
or turnips, however small the quantity. We know many
affirm that they invariably give them to their milch cows
and perceive no disagreeable taste in the milk from their
use. Judging from much of the butter found in our mar-
kets, we can easily believe that cabbages and turnips were
lavishly fed to the cows from whose milk the butter was
made ; and how any one can fail to notice the unpleasant
flavor given by such food we cannot understand. Still, we
will not quarrel with those who choose to use these esculents
so long as our cows are not fed with them and we are not
obliged to eat the butter.
"Warm food, at least once a day, is not only good for the
animal, but insures a better quality and larger quantity of
milk and butter. It is very little trouble to put a large ket-
tle over the stove or range early in the morning, and boil
such small potatoes as are not nice for table use, or a few
carrots, together with all the parings of potatoes or the rind of
pumpkins left from cooking. When they have become soft,
mash with a long-handled masher, such as any boy of ten has
sufficient skill to make ; then thicken the water in which they
were boiled with a few handfuls of " shorts " or coarse barley
or oatmeal ; corn meal will decrease the quantity of milk and
fatten the cow. Give your cows a generous feed of this mush
once a day at least, and they will amply repay your care by
increasing and enriching the supply of milk.
166 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
"With yoiu' cows thus fed, kept dry and warm, well cleaned
and curried, — for a coav needs that care as much as a horse,
— you will have good milk, and from it cream which, with
proper care, can be as readily made into good butter in winter
as in summer.
ISToAV as to " proper care," we speak only of private fami-
lies who have but one or two cows. If your milk-room is in
the cellar, it should be entirely separated from the vegetable
cellar, and used for nothing that can impart any flavor to
the milk, either meats, roots, sauces, or fluids. If it is well
cemented and banked up, so as to prevent freezing, you will
have very httle trouble in keeping the milk warm enough
for the cream to begin to rise quickly. Of course you will
pour boiling water into the pans, and have them well heated
before straining the milk into them. If you have on hand
two sizes of pans, fill the larger one third full of boiling
water, then strain the milk into a smaller pan, filling it not
half full, and set it into the hot water ; turn another pan
over the top, but not close enough to exclude aU air. By so
doing you will find that the cream mil rise more rapidly and
can be more easily churned. When one has but little mUk,
this is not much trouble.
If you have no cellar that can be kept warm and free from
the smell of vegetables, set your milk on a shelf, in a warm
closet, Avhere, of course, you will keep no vegetables or meats,
as nothing is so easily impregnated with odors of all kinds
as milk. Cover the pans or bowls with a fine net, to ex-
clude dust or motes of any kind.
. Thirty-six hours is as long as milk should remain un-
skimmed, summer or winter. Every hour longer, even
though the milk may taste sweet, is insuring bitter butter.
As you skim off the cream, stir it well each time. The cream
should not be in the cream-pot longer than two days before
churning. Three days may give you moderately good but-
tei', but it is a very doubtful experiment.
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" But how can we churn every two days when we do not
gather more than a quart of cream in that time 1 It would
be lost in our churn ; we could do nothing with it."
Take it into a large bowl, and beat or stir it steadily with
a silver or wooden spoon. It will take you no longer than
to churn in the regular manner, and you will secure a nice
roll of sweet butter. But a better, because an easier and more
convenient Avay, is to buy a tall one-gallon stone jar, and get
a carpenter to turn you a handle ; put on two cross-pieces at
the bottom, fidl of holes ; or a circle small enough to go into
the jar ; pierce this circle with holes as large as a thimble ;
another circle for a cover, just to fit the top of the jar, Avith
a hole in the center that will slip over the handle, and you
have a nice churn, dasher and all. Now put on your large
apron, lay a book on the table before you, take your little
churn in your lap or on a bench by your side, and read,
churn, and rock the cradle if need be (reading and rocking
the cradle are not essential, but are very pleasant ad-
ditions). In fifteen minutes' steady churning you wiU
find the butter has come, and can be brought together
in this tiny churn as nicely as you can desire. If you can't
get at a carpenter, ask your husband or son to do it ; or, fail-
ing there, have n't you mechanical skiU sufficient to make a
dasher and fit it to a stone jar yourself? A piece of a
broom-stick, scoiired and polished with sand-paper (or if you
have no sand-paper scrape it clean and smooth with a bit of
glass) ; two cross-pieces full of holes, screwed on to the bot-
tom of the stick ; a round piece fitted into the top of the
jar for cover, — you can whittle it smooth, can you not 1 —
with a hole for the handle to pass through, and you have just
as serviceable a churn as any carpenter could make you, only,
perhaps, lacking a little in the finish a carpenter might have
given.
Xow, as to the working of the butter : some say, wash it
1G8 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
faitlifully J others insist that no water should come in contact
with the butter. If you have strength and skill enough to
work out all the huttermiUi; with a ladle, or a hand cool and
firm enough to toss it from one hand to the other, giving
quick, skillful blows as it passes, so that every drop of but-
termilk may be beaten out, then we say, never wash the butter.
But although you do, and by washing must lose some of the
rich flavor our mother's butter used to have, before there
were any " modern improvements," still, better so than not
secure entire freedom from buttermilk. If any remains, you
cannot have butter that ^vill keep sweet one week.
Take the butter from the churn into a wooden bowl that
has been well scalded, and then soaked and cooled in cold
water, and with the ladle press out all the buttermilk you
can ; this done, throw a handful of salt into three or four
quarts of cold water, and wash the butter quickly and thor-
oughly with it ; the salt causes the buttermilk to flow oft"
more readily ; pour off the salt-water, and wash again with
clear cold water till it runs clear, drain off and sprinkle over
the butter what salt it requires to suit your own taste.
There is such a variety of tastes, that the exact quantity of
salt cannot be easily given. We use a table-spoonful of salt
to a pound of butter. Press the butter into a compact form,
after working in the salt, cover over with a clean cloth, and
set it away to harden. The next morning break up and
work it over once more ; make into neat roUs or prints, put
it into a stone pot, and cover with brine strong enough to
bear up an egg. Try this and see if you cannot have good
butter in winter.
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XLI.
REPAIRS.
" Tlie mother, wi' her needle an' her shears,
Gars auld claes look aniaist as weel 's tlie new."
A FRIEND writes : " I have been much interested in
the Grand Patching and Darning Exhibition ; but
my husband is rather skeptical as to any great good resulting
from it. He seems to think it a waste of time to do tliis
work with such particularity, and doubts if, in these days of
plenty, women will find it necessary to patch, piece, and
darn so elaborately. I reply, that probably a large portion
of those who have seen or read of this work may never
be called upon to do it ; yet we know that there are many,
very many who are, and will be, compelled to economize ma-
terial, tlhougli at the loss of time ; and therefore I think this
exhibition will prove a good thing, if it should lead to a
more thorough knowledge of the way to do this work well.
How much more respectable and comfortable the poorer
classes could be made, if the wife and mother understood
how to piece, patch, and darn neatly, and so contrive that
the smallest scrap could be used to good advantage and pre-
sent an attractive appearance. I wish you would give us a
talk on this subject."
So much has been said, and well said, since this Exhibition
was first planned, that a word from us may seem quite super-
fluous. A motherly care for our " Household," however,
tempts us to venture, though we do not intend to weary
our readers with many words. Every point has already been
ably discussed, and we can furnish nothing new.
Possibly, many of those who have read about this " Darn-
170 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
ing and Patching " have turned away, saying, " Thanlc
fortune ! I shall never need to employ myself about such
work ; I should feel that I was spending my time foolishly."
Would the time spent in perfecting yourself in this accom-
plishment be more wasted, think you, than that which you
give daily to crocheting and embroidering a host of things
unlike aught in heaven above, the earth beneath, or the
waters under the earth 1 And yet, the time spent in fancy-
work has taught you little that you could turn to practical
use, should reverses befall you, — and who is secured against
reverses 1 Fortune is fickle, and policies taken out in her
insurance companies are not reliable.
We would not speak slightingly of many kinds of really
elegant fancy articles and ornaments which women's skill
has wrought. If you have the time to spare, then, " these
ought ye to have done, but not to leave the other undone."
Should disaster come, and any of us be compelled to " rise up
early, and sit up late, and eat the bread of carefulness," —
to plan and turn and contrive, using all the skill we possess
to "gar auld claes look amaist asweel's the new," — how
thankful we should be that in our younger and more pros-
perous days we had been taught this art, and by it Avere
now able to carry with us into our altered circumstances a
power to bring light out of darkness. If one knows how to
renovate and remodel, there is far more genuine pleasure in
using the knowledge to construct new out of old, than can
possibly be gained Avhile shopping on the most extravagant
scale. To walk into a store with a full purse, and buy, with-
out stint, whatever the eye covets ; to send the material to
the dress-maker, and have it made and brought home Avithout
any effort on our part, is a tame enjoyment compared with con-
triving the dress from a scanty pattern, or from odd bits and
ends. We weary of that which costs us no toil or thought ;
the charm soon vanishes, and we seek for something new.
REPAIRS. 171
Now, suppose you examine a dress that has done good
service. It is somewhat spotted and a good deal soiled ;
but you say, " It is so pretty and becoming, I shall feel like
losing an old friend if I throw it aside ; what can I do to
renew its beauty 1 " If the material is silk or woolen, even
of the most delicate colors, you can very easily clean it with-
out fading. After ripping it with care, prepare equal parts
of alcohol, soft soap, and molasses. Half a pint of each
will clean a silk dress, unless you have wasted twenty-five
or thirty yards on one dress ; in that case you will need a
larger quantity of the preparation. Have near you two
small tubs or pails of water, one warm, the other cool, unless
the material is woolen, when you should use hot water for
both. Sj)read one piece of the dress at a time on to an iron-
ing-sheet ; dip a clean sponge into this very dirty-looking,
but very effective wash ; rub each spot separately till you
have cleansed it ; then, keeping the sponge wet, go over the
Avhole piece, wetting it thoroughly, and carefully removing
the dirt and spots. When satisfied that you have done your
best, rinse the piece faithfully in the first water ; do not
wring it, but hold it up and let it drain a moment ; then
shake and snap vigorously, to remove as much water as you
can. Put it through the second water in the same manner ;
snap as dry as you can, at least so that it vdll not drip ;
spread smoothly on the ironing-sheet, and iron quickly. Be
careful to iron hy a thread, and iron till perfectly dry. Have
your irons as hot as you can use Avithout scorching. If the
material is the same on both sides, iron on that which was
first used as the outside of the dress, but make it Tip inside
out.
TMs preparation is such a vile, dirty-looking compound,
one would suppose it would ruin anything touched by it.
Not so at all. "We have cleaned the most delicate silks and
ribbons, — blues, violet^, jiinks, and greens, — and have
172 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
never failed to secure a very good renovation of the ma-
terials, without changing or weakening the color, or leaving'
the harsh, stiff crackle on the silk which washing usually
gives.
Having cleansed the dress, now, suppose you 'see how
much ingenuity you can display in remodeling it. Change
the gathers or pleats, that the most wear may fall on stronger
spots ; alter the position of trimming to hide some weak
place, or improvise something to suit the exigencies of the
case. If cracked or much worn at top and bottom, cut off
all that must go ; then cut the upper part of the skirt off
from the bottom, about as high up as you wish your trim-
ming to go, and set in a piece of lining or paper muslin, to
supply the length of what you have cut away from the
broken parts of the skirt. Over this " sham " lay the fold,
puff, ruffle, or flounce you have prepared for trimming. It
Ls good economy, we think, to buy a large pattern when you
get a new dress, that there may be some left for repairs, at
least for new sleeves and waist ; but if you have' none, piece,
— piece very neatly, of course ; and with ribbon, silk, or
velvet, of a color to contrast, or harmonize with the dress,
form your triromings.
By skill, a garment may be so entirely metamorphosed,
that your " dearest and best " will compliment you on your
new dress. The only good thing about the present style of
overskirts, flounces, paniers, bows, and every conceivable and
inconceivable shape of trimming, is, that it is a wonderful
help in making old things new.
Some time since, we noticed that a young friend, who is
generally remarkably neat and simple in her taste, was rather
more elaborately dressed than usual. We honestly compli-
mented her on the pretty silk, the fine fit, and very becoming
color.
" But I see," said she, " you refrain from a word of com-
ACCURATE WEIGHTS AND MEASURES IN COOKING. 173
mendation for my trimmings. They don't suit your taste, I
know, my friend, and pray don't think that they are in ex-
act accordance with my own. Let me tell you a secret.
Every bow, band, strap, fold, and frill hides a piece set in or
a hole meniled."
In the midst of a large company, there was not a lady that
appeared more genteelly or better dressed than our friend.
If there were more like this modestly independent and in-
dustrious girl, we should hear very little of the talk, so com-
mon nowadays, that young men are unable to marry, because
the young ladies are so extravagant.
XLII.
ACCURATE WEIGHTS AND MEASURES IN COOKING.
YOUNG housekeepers very often complain that, not-
withstanding their most earnest efforts to work in
strict accordance with given rules or receipts, their failures
are more frequent than their successes. They admit that
sometimes their work proves satisfactory, but ask, " Why
should it not always be so ? "
The difference in the results of their various trials can
only be attributed to the method and accuracy, or to the
haste and carelessness, with which their labor is performed.
Unless there was some fault in the materials, some difference
in the quality, arising from change between the successive
trials, or the oven and fire were not properly regulated, there
can be no reason for the failure, except the fact that the
receipts and rules were nor always strictly followed.
" But," say they, " we used to see our mothers throw the
materials together, apparently without thought, and we have
174 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
often seen others set about the work of making cake, pies,
•or bread with such an easy, nonchalant air that, to our inex-
perienced eyes, it was perfectly marvelous that any good
results could possibly follow ; yet the article would come
from the oven in all respects perfect. Time after time we
have seen this done, and the work always blessed with a sat-
isfactory termination ; but if we attempt that mode of labor,
the most disastrous and mortifying consequences are siire to
rise up against us. Why is this 1 "
Simply because you are attempting to walk before you
have learned to creep, and naturally get some sore falls by
the premature attempt. It is only when accustomed to this
labor by long years of constant practice, so that it is done
almost by instinct, that any one should venture to deviate
from strict observance of well-established rules. But there
are very few, comparatively, of the most accomplished and
mature housekeepers who attempt this free-and-easy way of
cooking ; or if, in some emergency requiring haste, they are
driven^ to it, they will assure you that they seldom succeed
so perfectly as they would have done had they weighed and
measured with their usual care and precision. Occasionally
we find a few natural-born cooks, with " a law unto them-
selves," just as we find persons who have a natural gift
for dress-making and millinery, Avhose work, performed in-
stinctively, equals any French modiste's. But such cases
are rare, and, we are inclined to think, undesirable, except
for one's own ease. "Where there are young girls about,
either in the family or among friends, who may be obliged
to look to you for instruction, you would find it very diffi-
cult and embarrassing, had you that gift, to attempt to
teach or put into. words anything which you are able to do
so entirely by intuition. Even in your own mind, you would
find yourself at a loss how to frame a definite rule or receipt
for doing it. Your hands seem to perform it independently of
ACCURATE WEIGHTS AND MEASURES IN COOKING. 175
your head. Let some of these gifted ones attempt to write
out a receipt which a beginner could easily follow, and they
would make much more awkward work of it than you do in
your efforts to work without a definite rule.
" But even when we do proceed in exact accordance with
the receipts, we often fail."
Are you sure you are exact 1 We think not. It requires
some little experience to be able to weigh and measure cor-
rectly, and we have often noticed that it is the lack of this
experience which causes failure in most young housekeepers.
If it lacks " only a little " of being full weight, or is " only
a little" too much, are you not very likely to say, " 0,
it 's quite near enough ; such slight difference can't matter,
and I am in a hurry " %
" Only a little thing " has done much harm in almost
every department of life, — ■ a miscliief that is often irreme-
diable. If there is only a little too much flour, your
bread or cake will be solid ; not heavy, perhaps, but lacking
that light, tender state which is so desirable. Or, if only a
little less than the proper measure is used, it will "fall"
from the crust, and come upon your table flat and sodden.
A pair of scales and accurate measures are the only safe re-
liance, but these are not always to be found in every family.
It is, therefore, very desirable to have always at hand a table
of correct measures. Indeed, when the table is perfect, it is
much more convenient and easier to prepare the proper pro-
portions by measuring than by weighing, only one must use
care and judgment to allow for any extraordinary moistiire
in the articles, as it would affect a measure more than scales.
It is always better to put flour, meal, sugar, etc., near the
fire to dry before measuring.
A table of measures, plainly printed in good-sized type,
should be hung over the table or on the wall in every
kitchen.
176 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
We close with a convenient table of liquid and dry meets-
lire : —
Liquid. Dry.
60 drops = 1 teaspoonfuL 2 even teaspoonfuls = 1 even table-
2 teaspoonfuls = 1 tablespoonful. spoonfuL
4 tablespoonfuls = 1 half -gill. 4 " tablespoonfuls = 1 ounce.
8 " =1 gill. 8 " " =1 gill.
2 gills = 1 tumblerful or half-pint, 2 gills = 1 tumblerful or half-pint.
2 tumblerfuls = 1 pint. 2 tumblerfuls = 1 pint.
2 pints = 1 quart. 2 pints = 1 quart.
4 quarts = 1 gallon. 1 heaped q't sifted flour \ _ t^ + -i
1 " " sugar I "^^^^^
1 even q't softened butter-'
1 pint of water = 1 pound.
10 eggs = about 1 pound-
XLIII.
TEACHING LITTLE GIELS TO SEW.
" "VT'ES, I suppose I shall be obliged to teach my little
JL girl to sew, some time ; but I am very thankful that
I have some years yet before I need take up this cross. I
supply her with bits of cloth, needles, thread, and scissors,
and let her amuse herself with an attempt at sewing ; but how
I dread the time when I must begin in earnest, and try to
teach her the proper way ! I sometimes hope that by letting
her botch and play sewing, by and by, as she sees me mak-
ing even seams, and taking small stitches, she will, by imita-
tion and observation, gradually learn, without much effort
on my part. Do you not think that she may 1 "
Never. No doubt some children learn with much less
effort than others ; but by letting your little girl " play sew-
ing," — hotching as you term it, — you only connive at her
TEACHING LITTLE GIRLS TO SEW. 177
acquiring a careless habit which she will not easily exchange
for straight seams and tiny stitches.
" "Would you advise me to keep thread and needles and
cloth from her, and endeavor to interest her in some other
play, till such time as I am compelled to teach her how to
use them properly 1 "
No ; why should you debar her from such innocent amuse-
ments 1 Why not begin at once to teach her how to do a
thing right, even when in play 1
" Teach that baby ! What can she learn at her age 1 "
Can she not thread her needle %
" Certainly ; quite expertly."
And can she not push her needle in and out of the cloth 1
" yes ; for a baby, she shows quite a genius for this
quiet kind of womanly accomplishment."
Then you see she can learn something, notwithstanding
her youth. How much more maturity or skill, tliiuk you,
will it require for her to learn, by a few well-directed efforts
on your part, how to put the needle in at proper distances,
taking up only just so many threads for a stitch 1
" Why, she is only a baby ; but little past three years.
Teach her ! How preposterous ! You must be — "
Growing imbecile, you think. Very likely ; but these
ideas are no indication of it. They are good, solid common-
sense, we think ; such as our mothers and grandmothers
acted upon, in the olden times, when early teaching and
genuine industry were fashionable ; when there were more
busy bees to " improve each shining hour " of childhood ;
when these first years, which were then passed in " books
and work and healthful play," were a thousand times more
childlike and happier than our days of modern improve-
ment. Now, the toddling wee things are carried in the
nurses' arms to infant parties, dressed and flounced and
frizzed, until every vestige of simple cliildhood is lost in
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178 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS,
their painfully ludicrous efforts to imitate their more foolisli
elders, — kept up far beyond a healthful bedtime, and fed
with food injurious even to mature stomachs, but ruinous to
a child's digestion. Ah, dear little woman ! will it be a
harder task, requiring more skill and patience, to take your
little girl on your lap, ten or fifteen minutes every day, and
show her how to hold and use the needle ; taking the warm,
soft, innocent little hands, with loving caresses, into yours,
and guiding the tiny fingers, until at last she learns to put
the needle through the cloth, at proper distances, unaided ;
will this be harder or more tiresome than to dress and worry
over your little one till she is drilled in dancing, taught to
bow and covirtesy, and gracefully accept her baby partner's
hand in the dance 1 Will it give you no pain to see the first
development of envy, jealousy, and ill temper forced into
active growth under such training ? Compare this toil and
responsibility with the soft and loving prattle of your little
girl, as she nestles in your lap, and, with merry laugh, watches
the bright needle go to and fro ; and when at last she
masters one stitch, and you pronounce it ivell done, will not
her shout of triumph repay the teacher's trouble 1 Will it
any longer be a work to dread 1 On the contrary, will you
not look forward to that daily lesson as the sweetest duty of
the day ?
" All this sounds very pretty ; but when we come to the
reality, — the big stitches, the long stitches, the puckers and
gathers, the mistakes and vexatious carelessness, — how many
yards of cloth will be Avasted before one inch of decent
sewing can be accomplished by a little child '? "
'Not one. Cut out a little block of patchwork. Tell the
child that she may make a quilt for her doll's bed just as
soon as she can do it Avell. Use pretty, bright colors. Take
her on your lap, and show her hoAV a stitch must be taken,
making merry, gentle speeches to her as the Avork goes on.
TEACHING LITTLE GIRLS SO SEW. 179
"See, pet, you must take up two of these threads on that
side,- and put your needle through two more on the other
side, then pull the needle through ; that 's one stitch ;
mamma did that. Now let's see the little gi)i take one just
like it. No, no ; let mamma hold y(jur hand steady. There,
that 's right. Now you may try again. 8ee, you have taken
up a leetle too much on that side. We '11 just pull that out,
1 think, and try again. It was pretty well, but a little bit
longer than the last, and I guess Dolly won't quite like it ;
so we '11 pull it out, and be very careful next time. There,
that 's my little woman ! You have made three nice
stitches, and we will put up the sewing now, and run out
doors to play. When papa comes home, mamma will have
to show these pretty stitches, and he will be very much
pleased." In this way, it will not be many weeks before
the square for Dolly's small bed will be finished, and you
will say, " My little daughter has done it so very nicely, I
think we will have to make another, and piece the two to-
gether to make a bigger quilt." Before a year passes, we
are sure you will have a quilt large enough for your little
girl's own bed, every stitch well done, and both mother and
child drawn closer together and made happier by each day's
lessons. It is, we think, a great mistake while teaching a
child to sew, to pass over very poor work, simply because
you think after awhile she will learn to do better ; and you
will throw the few early attempts aside, rather than be at the
trouble of picking out imperfect stitches. Only a half-inch,
or three or four stitches a day, well done, is a great gain.
Be gentle, but very firm. Do not drill the child till it be-
comes weary, and will shrink from a second trial ; but yet,
let it be well understood that every stitch must be perfect
before it Avill be accepted, and then be lavish of praise when
the effort is successful. Do not destroy the child's first tvork,
thus carefully done. It will give you much pleasure when
180 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
your daughter has become a woman, and be invaluable to
her as an evidence of your faithful teachings when you are
forever hid from her eyes.
XLIV.
THE CARE OF POULTRY.
WE make no pretense to any great skill or experience
in raising poultry, and may not be able to furnish
satisfactory answers to questions which have been sent by
some of our readers who appear wellnigh discouraged by
repeated failures ; but we venture a few suggestions which,
if acted upon, will, we think, in part at least, overcome some
portion of their difficulties and perplexities, and may be ac-
ceptable to others in their first attempt.
The agricultural papers are filled with descriptions and rec-
ommendations of many fanciful, and, no doubt, very excellent,
heneries and poultry-yards. We have very little acquaintance,
however, with these modern improvements. The feAv we have
seen do not excite our enthusiasm, and we cannot see that the
income or gain in any degree compensates for the extra expend-
iture. We do not learn that Nero's horses were much bene-
fited when fed on golden oats and shod with shoes of the
same precious metal ; nor do we believe hens sheltered in
sumptuous palaces will be more productive than our Leg-
horns and Cochins. But each one has a right to his own
peculiar fancies ; we are speaking now to those who have
not yet found time or means to build fancy heneries, but
content themselves with more simple arrangements.
We think it important, if possible, to have a good yard
and commodious hen-house, in which laying, setting, and
THE CARE OF POULTRY. 181
roosting apartments can be kept separate. These conveni-
ences cannot always be secured as ample and. pleasant as is
desirable ; but however simple the accommodations may be,
it is indispensable that the budding be kept scrupulously
clean if you would insure success. The roost requires the
most care. It should be swept out once a week, the poles
and sides being well brushed off with a stiff broom, and
the loose feathers and droppings from under the poles col-
lected in barrels, removed from the hen-house, and kept dry.
It is an excellent manure or guano, and very valuable when
well composted.
The same care is needed in the laying and setting rooms.
It is wise, once a week, to take all the straw from the
nests, brush the boxes out clean, and replenish with
fresh straw. A little ashes or a few bits of charcoal put
under the straw helps to keep the nests sweet. The old
straw and filth should be put on the compost heap. In the
setting apartment the nests must not be disturbed till the
eggs are all hatched, and the little chicks, with their mother,
removed. Then the box must be emptied, well washed,
dried, and whitewashed, ready for a new occupant.
It takes time and some trouble to keep the hen-house and
yard always clean ; but it Avell repays the trouble, and, if
weU done every week, Avill really take less time than to have
a grand clearing up once or twice a year. These clearing
days in dwellings or outbuildings are great nuisances and
torments, making every one cross and uncomfortable ; but if
in each department it is understood that everything must
always be put into its appropriate place, and that once a
week the whole is to be tidied up, the most careless, if once
tempted to try the experiment, would be astonished at the
increased ease of the labor, and the pleasure would cer-
tainly be fourfold.
Every fall and spring and once at least during the sum-
182 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
mer the birds should all be turned out of the house and
yard, that the inside of the building may be well smoked
Mdth sulphur, and then thoroughly Avhitewashed, to secure
the destruction of the vermin and the good health of the
occupants. A day should be selected when no hens are sit-
ting, and then some charcoal must be kindled in an old tin or
pan kept for the purpose in each compartment, and some bits
of sulphur sprinkled over the coals when well burning. This
done, shut the doors and windows tightly, and leave the
sidphur to burn out, which it will do in a few hours ; then
throw open the doors and windo^7s and let in the air. After
this, every part must be weU whitewashed, filling all cracks,
holes, or corners ivith the wash, — particularly the nests or
boxes for the laying and sitting hens. Sprinkle a few small
bits of charcoal in the nests, when dry, to keep them sweet ;
fill them with fresh straw, and recall the fowls to their clean
home.
A box or bin of wood-ashes should be placed in one
corner of the roosting apartment, and kept always filled, and
free from filth, for poultry to roU in and free themselves from
vermin as far as possible.
The roost should be made so that the poles can be raised
or let down at pleasure. In the winter, have the poles
raised as high as may be, as the heat ascends, and the fowls
need as warm a place as possible for winter. In summer,
lower the roost, that they may sleep where the air circulates
freely. If possible, provide a good roomy yard back of the
hen-house, where the hens may have ample space to range.
Plums do well in such yards, and the hens do much toward
destroying the curculio. Old pans or wooden troughs filled
with water must be kept in the yard, that the hens may have
drink at all times. If you have plenty of skim-milk or
buttermilk, they Avill be grateful for all you can spare, and
show their gratitude -by the increase of their daily offerings.
THE CARE OF POULTRY. 183
Heaps of old plaster or oyster-shells must be kept in dif-
ferent parts of the yard ; if part of the shells can be burned
and pounded, it will be better. Any slops from the house
will be of great beneht ; and if no pigs are kept, everything
that is thrown into the " swill-pail," not salt, can be used to
advantage. Keep all water in which potatoes and vegetables
are boiled ; throw their paruigs or skins into it, and after
each meal put in all refuse bits, bring this water to a boil,
stir in a handful or two of coarse meal, and in winter feed it
to the hens warm, and you will find it very acceptable and
profitable. Every scrap of fresh meat, soup bones, but no
salt meat, Avill do them good. If near a butcher's shop, he
will sell you for a few pennies, or give you, the " lights " or the
head of one of the animals. Chop it up and throw it into
the poultry-yard. Worms and grasshoppers will help them
througli the summer months ; but they must have something
in the way of fresh meat in winter. Every morning and
evening scatter cracked or whole corn about the yard iii a
clean place. In picking it up, they will take with it a little
gravel, which is very necessary to keep them healthy.
In many cases it is not convenient or thought necessary
to provide a hen-house and yard, all the poultry being
allowed to roam at will over the premises. A little care will
train them to keep from doing any great mischief in the
gardens ; but you must not expect too much ; if yoii have
grapes, currants, or small fruit, these will be too tempting for
a hen's nature to resist, and, in the end, it will be found to
be worth considerable sacrifice of time and money to place
them out of the reach of temptation. Besides, if they are
allowed to roam, you cannot track their nests at all times, and
you will be left without an egg in the house when most
needed. With very little care, and by selecting the best and
most reliable breeds, this need never happen where hens are
kept in an inclosure and with a suitable house. The pure
184 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
Leghorns molt but six weeks in the year, — in November
and December. If they bring out their broods the first of
April, the puUets will begin to lay in October, just as their
mothers begin to molt. If hatched in August or early Sep-
tember, they will lay by the first of April ; so that part of
the hens will be laying all the time. Some people kill off
their hens as soon as the puUets begin to lay, thus having no
molting fowls on their premises ; but we think this foolish.
The second year's eggs are usually larger, and a hen may be
kept profitably for three or four years. Our own experi-
ments lead us to think the White Leghorns and Cochins the
best layers.
XLY.
INSTITUTIONS FOR THE EDUCATION OF WOMEN.
YASSAR is, we think, the first college for women ever
established. The liberal provision for its mainte-
nance, in accordance with the wishes of the founder, —
the chapel, library, cabinet, recitation-rooms ; the houses
for the professors ; the dormitories for the students ; the
dining-hall and kitchen ; the laundry and the bakehouse, —
every needed accommodation, are all completed in the most
approved manner. The whole is heated by steam, and
lighted by gas. Here physical culture receives all the care
that modern science and experience can give. A floral gar-
den is managed by the young ladies. Gymnastic exercises,
horseback riding, driving, boating, or skating have their full
share of encouragement and attention. The whole establish-
ment and its arrangements are most excellent, securing a
suitable amount of exercise to insure good health, and
also clear heads for the hours devoted to study.
INSTITUTIONS FOR THE EDUCATION OF WOMEN. 185
But in this generous provision for accomplishments for
our young daughters, and thorough training in all healthful
exercise, there seems to have been one department entirely
overlooked, which certainly demands a large share of atten-
tion, and where, we think, faithful instruction in the rudi-
ments should, in connection with other departments, begin
in the earliest and most simple lessons, with the full under-
standing that it must go hand in hand with other branches
through the whole course. We mean a full and most thor-
ough instruction in all that belongs to domestic economy
and household lore.
The preparatory instruction and full collegiate course, in
a girl's education, should embrace more years than are
thought necessary to prepare a boy to graduate and enter
upon the duties of manhood, because we are sure our girls'
minds are overburdened by an attempt to crowd too many
studies into each year, thus keeping them constantly hur-
ried and overtaxed. They have many things to do Avhile in
school that boys are not expected to do, or, at any rate,
which they never undertake. No young lady, we trust,
would sit down to her studies, in the morning, until her
room was neatly put in order. Many little touches are
needed to secure this, which they cannot depend upon a cham-
ber or parlor maid to do well, and which it Avould not be
consistent with womanly neatness to leave undone. Tlien a
girl has her wardrobe to watch over ; rips to mend, but-
tons to replace, and numerous other things which a boy has
done for him or leaves undone. In girlhood as in later
life, woman's duties are more complex and varied than man's.
There are so many little things, insignificant in themselves,
but of wonderful importance, in that skillful combination
which must be woven together to make the perfect whole in
a woman's character, that it is unsafe to skim lightly over
any. Some items appear very trifling and unimportant,
18G MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
when Bot viewed as connecting links, without whose aid the
whole noble structure must be incomplete.
ISTo one can tell, while the process of constructing and
perfecting is going on, through what deep and stormy waters
the precious bark, once launched, may be compelled to force
its way. Therefore it is wise, in laying the foundations, to
be sure that no timber, screw, or rivet, however insignificant it
may seem at the time, has been discarded or insecurely fastened.
Even if it could be guarantied that most of the young
ladies who graduate from our excellent seminaries would
never be placed in a position where they might find it con-
venient, if not necessary, to labor to secure home comforts,
or prepare food for husband or children, yet there is no
place free from care, where it would not be more conducive
to comfort and happiness for the mistress, not only to know
thoroughly what was proper to be done about the bouse, but
also to know how to do it herself, should it ever be necessary.
To know how to do it well will do no harm ; not knowing
how may sometimes subject one to great discomfort and
mortification.
"We once called on a lady of great wealth. Her establish-
ment and style of living demanded a large retinue of ser-
vants, who received the highest wages. There had just been
some disturbance among her servants. The cook, receiving
forty dollars a month, imagined that her subordinate in the
kitchen did not render her the proper assistance. She, the
sub-cook, was quite above such service as was exacted,
Neither would yield, and both left. The waitress, laundress,
and nurse had been nursing a feud for some time, which
only needed this explosion in the kitchen and the atmos-
phere it engendered to develop the final catastrophe. The
noise and smoke of the battle had but just subsided when
we rang the bell, which was answered by the lady her-
self with a laughing, happy face, in no wise ruffled by this
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unusual state of things. After our errand was done, she was
led by it to tell us a merry story of the day's experience.
" And what will you do now I "
" 0, I have sent my dressing maid to the nursery, sent
the seamstress to look for others to replace the deserters, and
the coachman to market. I will attend the door till they
return, and then I mean to surprise my husband on his re-
turn with a dinner of my own cooking. Mother used to let
me plo-y cook sometimes when I was young. She thought
every girl should at least know how to get a dinner. I
learned a good deal then which I think I have not forgotten,
and I owe it to her that this little disturbance, the first I
have had, does n't trouble me at all."
To be sure, those who keep but one or two servants will
think that she had but little to disturb her while a dressing-
maid, seamstress, and coachman were on hand. But we
think those who keep the greatest number of servants are
the most to be pitied, and when changes come it requires
much patience and some skill to rearrange those who re-
main, if one extra step is demanded of them.
We know two little girls whose mother is training them
to meet such inconvenient changes when they are women, in
the same independent spirit. They have a large-sized toy
cool-inff-stove, but one in which they can make real pies, as the
little ladies say, and real bread and real cake can be made on it,
though of liliputian size. The stove is kept in mother's
room, the pipe passing into the nursery flue. They have a
little molding-board and rolling pin, and aU needed imple-
ments on a small scale, and no richer reward can be given
than to be allowed to bake a cake, or something of their
own making, to be placed on the family table. Of course
they work lender mother's eye and by her instructions, and
in later years these little girls will thank their mother for
this early teaching.
188 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
This playing cook is an easy and pleasant way of teaching
Httle girls the first lessons, and if, as in other days, they
were fully taught at home the very important accomplish-
ment of housekeeping by their mothers, there wovdd be no
necessity for a union of domestic and intellectual institutions
in our schools and seminaries ; but, unfortunately, very few,
comparatively, of the mothers of the present day have
health to teach their daughters as thoroughly as would be
satisfactory or available ; or, if health be given, the dispo-
sition to devote their time and attention to the matter is
wanting. For this reason we see no better way than to have
this part of our girls' education incorporated, if possible,
with the other branches taught in schools and colleges, so
that sewing, sweeping, washing, and cooking — - aU minutia?
of household knowledge — may be as fully taught as reading,
writing, or the so-called higher studies ; or, if this union is
not possible, at least the domestic education might be made a
supplementary course, — the scholars understanding that no
one can " graduate " until she has passed through that de-
partment.
We fear the good old times of mother-teaching -v\dll not
very soon be revived, and our idea of uniting this important
part of woman's education with that which is.thought higher
and more intellectual arose from the impression that, if not
in some way instructed in home duties, our girls in the
course of four or five years of sedentary life would acquire a
distaste for more active employment, or, having destroyed
their health by injurious and long-continued apphcation,
would be utterly incapacitated for it.
We offer these suggestions in the hope that the attention
of some of our progressive spirits may be called to this sub-
ject with more eff'ective earnestness than has been shown.
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XLVI.
GREAT MISTAKES.
'TT'T'HEN tliG weatlier becomes so warm that furnaces
VV and large fires can be dispensed with, the regular
" spring cleaning " is usually commenced in earnest. Until
then, the most perfect housekeeper cannot prevent the accu-
mulation of ashes or fine dust, which, ascending from the
furnace or stove below with each morning's renewal, will
find a lodgment in carpets- and furniture, and can be fully-
removed only by a longer process than can be given weekl3\
"Were it not that the carpets and furniture would be utterly
ruined by the insensible deposit of dust and ashes in the
winter, and by flies, spiders, damps, and mold of the sum-
mer, which by fall have been too much for the most vigi-
lant care, the great domestic terror over which gentlemen so
pathetically lament — a general " house-cleaning " — could
easily be dispensed with. Without those special troubles,
we could get along, by good management, with but very lit-
tle general disturbance of the regidar routine of household
cares, and no derangement of family comfort but what the
most fastidious could patiently and cheerfully submit to.
The last touch to the perfect purification of the house, in
the estimation of many notable housekeepers, is to have the
fireplace or grate brightly polished, and the bricks on the
back and sides either whitewashed or painted (slate, drab,
or some neutral color), and this once satisfactorily accom-
plished, they are very sensitive if any wish is expressed to
have a fire kindled again before fall, preferring to risk
fevers or any of the malarial troubles so likely to result
from damp or cool nights and mornings, rather than see
190 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
their clean, nicely painted grates blackened by the action of
fire.
l^ow, we cannot but think this is a great mistake. So
much sickness and suffering may, we are convinced, be pre-
vented by kindling a small fire every night and morning,
that all pleasure in the beauty of fresh, pretty-colored grates
and fireplaces is lost in the knowledge of the price paid for
it, ■ A well blackened grate has more attractions for us, as it
speaks of dry rooms, rosy cheeks, and good health, whereas
unused and spotless bricks tell of rheumatism, chills and
fever, and pale, sallow faces.
We first learned the great importance of these morning
and evening fires at the West, and should have been thank-
ful to have learned it by an easier way than through the
rough school of experience. What was a good theory and
better practice in the new Western life is equally beneficial
in any locality where cool nights and mornings precede and
follow each day, or where sudden changes from dry to damp
or rainy weather may be expected. It is not at all necessary
or wise in warm weather to build large fires that will heat a
room. Only so much is needed as will suffice to dispel the
chill damp of the atmosphere, of which one is usually con-
scious on entering a room early in the morning or soon after
nightfall. A few sticks of light wood or a small fagot of
brush will suffice. In the city it is not always easy to find
material for this purpose ; but in the country, whether in an
old place or new, there is no difficulty, and no excuse for
neglect. Small sticks, and any quantity of brush, from con-
stantly needed repairs or pruning, are always scattered about,
which, if not daily gathered up, will soon accumulate, tiU
heaps of unsightly rubbish will meet the eye at every turn.
If only for the sake of neatness, and to save time, all this
should be daily removed. It is not much labor, and a very
short time is sufficient. If you have young boys or girls
GREAT MISTAKES. 191
with you, rightly trained to be useful, an hour or two of out-
door labor wull give them pleasant and healthful occupation.
Provide them with a child's saw-horse and saw, a small,
light hatchet, and a ball of strings, and let them daily go out
and collect such brush as may be lying around. Show them
how to cut it in proper lengths, and to tie the fagots neatly.
Then they can easily, with a light wheelbarrow, take them
to the wood-house or shed, and pile them ready for use. A
half-hour's or an hour's work every day will do this, and the
young follvs will not feel it a burden. But if left a week or
two, the brush becomes tangled, the heap grows larger, and
what should be only pleasant recreation becomes a burden,
perhaps really too heavy for children to undertake, and either
a man's time must be given to the work, or industry and
labor be made repulsive to the young. That is also a great
mistake. But by having this work regularly done, at certain
hours daily, by your children, a threefold good may be gained :
the house, grounds, and surroundings can be kept free from
disagreeable litter ; the means secured at the same time, with
little labor and no cost, to preserve a healthful atmosphere
all through the house ; and your children taught a lesson in
neatness and industry which they will not in after years for-
get, and which, whatever their position in life, will always
be valuable.
Wliile among the pines and palmettos in the newly set-
tled parts of Florida, we looked with envious eyes on the
" fat wood," as it is called, which lies around the clearings
in the greatest abundance. A few small sticks from these pine
knots, at the first touch of a match, start into a wonderfully
bright flame, before which, while it lasts, the light of our best
kerosene lamps is obscured, and the morning and evening
dampness is expelled, so that comfortable but not heated air
is secured. We were pleased to see in these brilliant fires,
regularly kindled, strong proof of good common-sense.
192 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
We believe fuU half the sickness which abounds in newly
settled countries or in malarial districts could bo entirely pre-
vented by this easy, sirai^le practice. At any rate, it would
certainly be quite as effectual as the innumerable and abomina-
ble doses which each section of country accepts as the only
cure ; and it would have the advantage of being a pleasant
remedy, warranted not to produce some disease far worse
than the first.
Another great mistake is the exclusion of sunlight from
our houses. We have spoken of this some time since, and
wish the importance of admitting the light of the sun freely,
as well as building these early and late fires, could be prop-
erly impressed upon our housekeepers. No article of furni-
ture should ever be brought to our homes too good or too
delicate for the sun to see aU day long. His presence should
never be excluded, except when so bright as to be uncom-
fortable to the eyes. And a walk in good, bright sunlight, be-
fore the heat is too intense, is very beneficial, so that the eyes
are protected by veil or parasol when the light is inconven-
iently strong. A sun-hath is of far more importance in preserv-
ing a healthful condition of the body than is generally under-
stood. A sun-bath costs nothing, and that is a misfortune, for
people are deluded with the idea that those things only can
be good or useful which cost money. But remember that
pure water, fresh air, sunlight, and homes kept free from
dampness, will secure you from many heavy bills of the doc-
tors, and give you health and vigor, which no money can
procure. It is a weU-established fact that people who live
much in the sun are usually stronger and more healthy than
those whose occupations deprive them of sunlight.
STUDY TO MAKE HOME ATTKACTIVE. 193
XLVIL
STUDY TO MAKE HOME ATTRACTIVE.
IN planning and furnishing a house, young people too
often sacrifice true taste and their own conscience for
style ; forgetting that they should arrange a home for com-
fort, not for a temple of fashion. So large a portion of the
money set apart for the whole outlay is expended in adorn-
ing their parlors, — the only part of a house which is, in a
measure, public property, - — that they are compelled to cheat
themselves out of much comfort and convenience, when they
come to the furnishing of the real home, or family rooms,
unless possessed of wealth so abundant that expense be-
comes a secondary consideration. We think the family sitting
and dining rooms shoidd receive more thought and care than
any other part of the house. Neatness, of course, should be
preserved everywhere, and the parlors be furnished with as
much of style and fashion as your means will warrant your
expending to meet your own desires, or in deference to public
opinion, if you are at all inclined to cater to its gratification.
In your chambers study neatness and convenience, and also
in the kitchen ; but when you turn to the sitting and dining
rooms, give yourself abundance of time to deliberate over
everything connected with these apartments, and, after due
consideration, begin the work, which, if rightly understood,
will be a toil of pleasure, — a labor of love, never ending ;
because every week some pretty device or fanciful change or
addition will occur to you, by which you can add' to its sim-
ple attractions, thereby giving yourself great pleasure, and
filling your heart with happy thoughts. From the tone of
the letter and question prompting this chapter, we should
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194 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
not class its writer with those who desire a position among
the " fashionables," whose greatest pleasure lies in parties,
balls, and theaters, or a ceaseless round of " calls," and who
would be made perfectly miserable if compelled by any cir-
cumstance to pass a quiet evening at home, with nobody hxd
their husband. For such there is no home. That word be-
longs to an unknown tongue, which their hearts can never
interpret.
We are not at all in sympathy with those who take it for
granted that the husband is always the most to be blamed,
if the club-house or any outside companionship has more
attractions than his own home. When the " twain are made
one flesh," if the union is consummated through love, and
not from mercenary reasons, the heart of the husband will be
drawn most naturally, in his leisure hours, toward the com-
panion he has chosen from aU others ; and in these early
days it rests chiefly with her to make all the surroundings
of the home committed to her care so attractive that his
steps turn thitherward, because nowhere else can he secure
such true comfort and solid happiness. Having so begun, if
you continue thus to cast your spells about him, here in this
pleasant sitting-room, young wife, he will always prefer to
spend his leisure hours where your skill and taste make it
more bright and restful than any other resort can be. Now,
in the earliest days of your wedded life, before other cares
engross your time and thoughts, you have the opportunity
to make home a word of sacred meaning, to learn its true na-
ture yourself, and to gather around it associations that shall be
lasting, and a safeguard through life.
It is not by the " great sacrifices," or " heroic devotion,"
which you speak of, that this blessing can be secured ; but
by little things — daily acts — the work must be begun and
the building established on a firra foundation. Bear this in
mind constantly wliile planning the room, selecting the fur-
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niture, aiid arranging the many trifles that, combined, make
a sitting-room peculiarly attractive. Secure, if possible, a
southern or eastern lookout, or both united. Select pictures
that are home-like, even if not the elaborate work of some
great artist ; those do not always give the greatest pleasure.
Flowers and vines about the room or in the windows add
wonderfully to the cheerfulness of any room, and to this
particularly. Have neat, white shades to exclude the sun
partially during the mid-day hours, and outside blinds to
keep curiosity from sharing your evening enjoyments. A
book and piano are always desirable in a family room, even
if you have a grand piano for your parlors. Select the
easiest and most comfortable lounges and chairs, taking time
to look in several manufactories before you decide ; for hard,
unyielding sofas and chairs are only fit for show or torture
rooms. A commodious table for books, and gas or lamps,
suitable for writing, with convenient drawers to hold all
necessary writing-material, and your own work-stand in the
corner, are essential. These are always useful and conven-
ient ; but it is not needful that we go into elaborate specifica-
tions. Your own taste and love, if you set about the work
in the right spirit, will teach you better than any one else
can do. Arrange the necessary articles and all the em-
belhshments with care and thought, so that when you stand
at the door and survey the work, the room shall lie before
you like a picture, speaking of cheerfulness, rest, and com-
fort. Here, if you show your husband, from the first, that
you are always interested in his outside labors and duties, he
will gladly come to talk over the day's doings ; and it will
not take long to teach him that a good, true wife is the best
adviser he can have, — that his business knowledge and your
womanly insight and tact, united, will solve dubious questions,
and unravel troublesome tangles, quite as safely and far more
pleasantly than any assistance and advice sought outside of
19G MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
home. And in after life, think you, will it not be pleasant
to look back and trace much of your happiness to the fasci-
nations and attractions you so skillfully gathered about the
pleasant sitting-room, when you, as " young people," took
sweet counsel together, and laid the foundation for mutual
confidence and true domestic peace ? Had you secured the
most elegant parlors, but left this room cold and barren, neg-
ligently kept, and destitute of any special attraction, do
you think your prospects of happiness would have been as
bright 1 Or can you feel that you would deserve that
they should be 1 It is your work, young wife, to make the
hom,e. Your husband may provide and furnish the means,
but it is for you to see that they are used for mutual happi-
ness.
Next to the sitting-room, the dining-room must be the most
carefully arranged. Strange how few give heed to this ! It is
sometimes a low, dark, ill-constructed room, reached by stairs
often unsafe by reason of darkness, and usually opening so
abruptly to the kitchen that the appetite is destroyed the
moment you enter by the fumes from cooking which have
been gathering in the dining-room all the morning ; and the
pleasant intercourse which should enliven each meal is often
sadly interrupted by overmuch talking from the adjacent
kitchen. If there ever is dispute or misfortune there, it
seems always destined to occur while you are at your table.
Our city dining-rooms are too frequently after this pattern.
Here is some excuse ; for we must expect, in one way or an-
other, to be " cabined, cribbed, and confined " in the city ; but
in the free, bright country, there can seldom be any such ex-
cuse given, and yet the same heedlessness with regard to any-
thing pleasant in the position of the dining-room is notice-
able. Opening into a back yard or clothes-yard, or overlooking
the barn-yard, with nothing attractive or cheerful, — this is
thought good enough for a place to feed in. A very great
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mistake ; for here we shoiild meet, not to eat hastily, and
rise up and go our ways, biit there should be quite as much
enjoyment in free and cheerful conversation at the table as
can possibly be secured during the mere act of eating. A
friend occasionally drops in ; and when children are gath-
ered about the board, their little winning ways and delight-
ful prattle add wonderfully to the pleasure of the repast.
Our American men, when actively engaged in business, as a
large proportion of them are, often find the breakfast and
dinner hours the only parts of the day when they can see
their children. It is time little folks were asleep, generally,
before the father closes his labors and returns home for tea.
For that reason, if for no other, the dining-room, in every
family, as being the place where, except on Sunday, the chil-
dren will have the best opportunity of seeing their father,
should be made bright, cheerful, and peculiarly attractive ;
because it will be more closely associated in their minds with
his presence. As they grow older, they should be taught to
give their aid in arranging fruit and flowers for the decoration
of the table and side- board before each meal, "because papa
will soon be here."
You may think these are all such little things, that you
cannot conceive it possible they should be of much im-
portance in arranging a house, or making home happy,
and will probably feel that your question has been unsatis-
factorily answered. But, dear " young wife," believe me, it is
by little things that you must make the house, now commit-
ted to your charge, a happy one, and so attractive to your
husband that he can have no wish to seek pleasure elsewhere.
It is not by any great effort once in a while, but by tlie con-
stant, daily evidence of your thoughtfulness and care, that
you will secure the confidence and companionship you are so
earnestly desiring and seeking after.
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XLVITI.
THE CAKE OF COOKING-STOVES AND RANGES.
NEXT to perplexities and trouble with servants, there
is nothing that so severely afflicts the careful house-
keeper as the attempt to secure attention to the cooking-stove
or range. The reasons given for failure in any particular point
are innumerahle, and all cast the burden of blame on the
poor, inoffensive stove. There never was such a miserable
cooking-stove. The fire won't burn, or it burns too fiercely ;
the oven won't bake at all, or bakes so furiously that every-
thing you trust to it is ruined. It smokes, or the gas escapes,
and fills the house with the offensive odors ; it burns out more
coal in one day than should be used in two ; the dampers
are useless, or the grate cannot be turned over. There is
scarcely a defect to be imagined but is charged to this neces-
sary evil, — the cooking-stove or range.
In part, no doubt, these ceaseless annoyances spring from
the heedlessness or ignorance of the servants, but more fre-
quently, we think, it is because the mistress herself does not
understand the cause of the difficulty, or how to point out
and remedy the mistakes. It is impossible to expect a girl
will be successful in managing the fire and stove unless you
are competent and willing to give her full instruction, and are
also ready to follow this up with constant daily supervision,
until time and a faithful trial convince you that the subject
is fully understood, and your injunctions regularly followed.
Even then watch, with all kindness and patience, not with a
fault-finding spirit, but because carelessness and forgetfulness
are bound up in the heart of almost every servant, and cease-
less vigilance is your only protection from mistakes of the
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most mortifying and vexatious character ; and do you not
know that such trials always come at the most unexpected
and inconvenient time 1 No doubt there are occasionally
servants found, or heard of, who are faithful, careful, compe-
tent, and safe to be trusted in every particular ; but they
are, " like angels' visits, few and far between " ; and it is
wise for every housekeeper to be as exact in her explanations,
and as watchful in seeing them executed, as if she knew her
girl was totally ignorant of everything about the stove or
range, until well convinced that she fully understands and
regularly carries out her mistress's lessons. Then, if she fails,
it is safe to look upon the failure as culpable negligence, for
which it would be very difficult to find a reasonable excuse.
Simply telling a servant how you wish the stove managed,
or anytliing else done, is by no means sufficient. To say to
the new cook, " Bridget, I wish you to be very particular in
cleaning out your range or stove every night before retiring,
and have your kindlings and coal aU laid ready to start a fire
in the morning," will not secure obedience. The answer
V, ill doubtless be, " yes, mem, I always do that." Per-
haps once in a great while you may find a cook that will do
this regularly ; for it certainly, if they wiU only try it, is the
easiest way. But take nothing on trust. See with your
own eyes before you retire how much this ahvays means.
Too often it should be translated, " when it suits my con-
venience." Perhaps for a short time it may be done in
accordance with your wishes ; but keep open eyes, or nine
times ovit of ten, in less than a month, you will be told, " I
can't do anjiihing with the range or stove." " Have you
thoroughly cleaned it out each night as I directed 1 " " O
, yes, mem ; of course I have." N"ow, either go to work your-
self and see what is the matter, which is the best way, or
send for a man from a stove manufactory to examine. Stand
by with the cook to see the results of his examination. Of
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course the lire must be all out before he can do anything.
He will then remove every cover from the top, and most likely
find the whole surface perfectly clogged up with small bits
of coal and piles of ashes, so that the draught is obstructed ;
or, if the difficulty does not lie there mainly, he will take out
the slide to the pit under the oven, and, notwithstanding
cook's assurances that it is regtJarly cleaned out, you will find
it filled with ashes up to the oven bottom ; or the grate has
been so imperfectly emptied and cleaned that it is broken,
and clogged with clinlcers, leaving hardly room to make a
fire in it. I^ow you have the whole mystery solved. All
the girl's protestations and assurances of great care in keep-
ing the stove in perfect order cannot longer bhnd your eyes.
A few such examples may not insure cook's future attention
and truthfulness, but they will teach you, that as the foot
of the master is the only warrant for large crops on a farm,
or successful operations in any pursuit, so the eye and hand
of the mistress must ever be most vigilant and effective to
secure comfort in the house.
There is no one convenience on which so large a part of
house comfort depends as on a good cooking-apparatxis,
whether in the form of stove or range ; and however perfect
the patent, nothing can so easily be put out of working
order by careless management. Before starting a new fire,
examine if the stove has been thoroughly cleaned from the
last one ; then open the dampers ; roll up and put into the
grate a few pieces of paper, — or some shavings, if you can
have them, are still better ; lay lightly on this some splinters
or small bits of kindling wood. Do not throw them on in
a heavy mass, but so arrange them as to give free breathing-
holes ; on this foundation put a few larger pieces of pine
kindling, and if you are hurried, and need a quick, bright
fire, sprinkle over a small shovelful of cohe, if you have it.
JSTothing kindles quicker than coke. ISTow replace all the
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covers, and set tiro to the paper with a match, held under-
neath the grate. If lighted from ahove, it must be, of course,
before the covers are put on, and that tills the kitchen with
smoke. When the wood is well blazing, before at all wasted,
take off the covers and cross-piece (the paper will have
Inirned out by that time, and little smoke will trouble you),
and pour on the hard coal, scattering it evenly at the sides,
but a little heaped or rounded in the center. Be careful that
the grate is not filled above the fire-brick. This is a very
important consideration, for if heaped above, it injures the
stove, burning out the iron-work, and obstructing the draught,
so that the coal cannot kindle readily, but wastes and smol-
ders without doing much good. As soon as the coal is well
kindled, close the draughts, or dampers, and you will have a
clear, serviceable fire. It is a great mistake to use a large
amount of paper or kindling. The paper, when burnt out,
makes a smothering, black kind of ashes, that deadens the
fire, and the pine kindling, if used too profusely, fills the
stove with so much bituminous smoke as to clog the pipes
needlessly.
"When your breakfast is dished and sent to the table, tell
the cook to raise a cover from the stove, and see if it would
not be well to add a small shovelful of coal to keep the fire
in good working order ; but it will not be necessary to open
the draughts until the breakfast is over and the dishes washed
and pu.t away. When that is done, it will be time to begin
arrangements for dinner, and then the draiights should be
opened a few minutes, and the fire raked down or shaken, so
as to remove all the ashes ; but ov, no account stir it from
the top ; that kills the fire, turning the coals black. The
ashes being removed, lift otf the two front covers and the
cross-piece once more ; pour on more coal, always remember-
ing not to fill above the fire-brick. The object in lifting off
both covers and cross-bar, instead of pouring in the coal at
9*
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one hole, and pushing it across with the poker, as most girls
do, is to prevent the coal from scattering and lodging on the
plate of the stove, under the side covers. If this is done,
the coal remaining there prevents the heat from having a
free circnlation ; therefore every time the coal is added, even
if both covers are removed, giving a free opening to pour on
what fuel is needed, it is best to pass the poker under the side-
holes, and see that the upper plate is free from coal and ashes.
"We have written these simple directions at the request of
a " very young housekeeper," who assures us that there are
hundreds " longing for just such instruction, who, fearing to
expose their ignorance, are keeping silent, subjecting them-
selves to all sorts of mistakes, which make their husbands
cross, and set themselves almost crazy,"
We regret that any should feel ashamed to ask questions
on household matters, however simple. To answer them, if
in our power, is pleasure, and the questions are a great en-
couragement ; for we often think we have exhausted all that
need be said, when some word from the "young house-
keepers " remind us of points which we have overlooked.
XLIX.
THE OLD WAYS AND THE NEW.
IT is interesting to note the changes and improvements
which have been made within the last half-century in
almost all the conveniences and implements which are needed
in the preparation of food. It may be that the ease and
comfort by which this labor can be performed, through these
new contrivances, when compared with the old ways, and
the facility with which all classes, rich or poor, can and do
THE OLD WAYS AND THE NEW. 203
secure all or some of these conveniences, has tempted to an
indulgence in luxuries regardless of economy or health.
Perhaps the firm health and longevity so common among our
forefathers were in some degree owing to their more simple
diet ; but also very largely, we think, to their healthful ac-
tivity and industry, and to the early to bed, early to rise
habits which their active life demanded.
But, as the present generation have acquired extravagant
tastes with regard to food, as well as in dress, there certainly
is cause for gratitude that great improvements in the machin-
ery by which such work can be performed have kept pace with
the cultivated taste that demands so much more skdl to grat-
ify it. "We doubt, however, if any modern improvement can
ever set before us food that will have the rare excellence, the
exquisite flavor, of that which used to come from our
mother's great brick oven. Ah, the bread, — the rich-
colored brown bread ; the creamy-white bread ; the pies,
puddings, and cakes !
" 'Twere worth ten years of modern life,
One glance at that array ! "
We have yet to see the device which can compensate for
the loss of the old brick oven !
But wishing will not restore it to us who live in cities or
large towns, unless we can bring back the old primeval
forests, and, instead of the " coal-bins," possess again the old-
fashioned wood-houses with their rich stores of seasoned
wood, piled high to the rafters ; and the huge piles of green
wood in the yard, waiting for the leisure days to be cut,
split, and housed ; or we must emigrate to the unsettled
parts of the West and South, which are still rich in splendid
woodland, where the settlers are cutting down the ga^and old
forests, or wastefully burning them. In their present haste
to clear the land, they forget their own future interest and
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tho comfort of their children, who, hy this waste and de-
struction, will be denied the luxury of wood lires, and com-
pelled to content themselves with coal, and all the annoyances
and discomfort connected with its habitual use. Coal is
excellent for the cook-stove ; but it is a great sacrifice when
none but the rich can afford wood fires, in their family room
at least.
It may be difficult for the first occupants of wild lands to
save the great wealth of fuel, while hastening to open up
their farms. But it seems to us that it would be wise to pre-
serve larger tracts of woodland on any new farm or home-
steads, as a provision for the future ; remembering that any
ten acres thoroughly cultivated will bring more abundant
and better paying crops than thirty cleared but poorly culti-
vated ; poorly, because the owner uses the time in cutting
down the wood on the extra twenty acres which should
have been given to the careful cultivation of the ten. When
we have been at the West and South, at various times, it has
been a source of continual regret to see that which our large
towns and cities so greatly need recklessly given to the flames,
knowing that the time cannot be far distant when these young
towns will feel the need of this fuel as much as their elders.
We cannot help thinking while we ride through the burning
forests, that even a woman could manage so that the forests
could be more largely preserved, and the trees which must
fall be saved and made useful and profitable ; while the com-
fort and prosperity of the possessor could be much increased
by the economy, because the farm Avould be brought under
more careful culture, and thus sooner return paying crops.
But the thought of the well-beloved brick oven has led us
into the wilderness, and away from our subject.
We were noticing the great difference between the ancient
and modern manner of cooking. Many of our readers re-
member and have often used the brick ovens, the large old-
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fashioned fireplace, the long crane, the pot-hooks and
trammel on it, and the great pots and kettles suspended by
them over the fierce fire, — the immense " roaster," the
" Dutch oven," the Johnny-cake baked on the " Bannock-
board " before the glowing bed of coals, wliile bright rows
of apples were sputtering on the hearth. But all these
names are to your children like words in an unknown tongue.
They will never know the rich flavors gained only by this
mode of cooking ; neither will they endure the pains and
penalties by which this knowledge was obtained. What
would those tyrants of our households, the modern cooks,
say if compelled to swelter over the blazing fire, or roast
with the meats they are cooking upon the fiery coals on the
hearth ]
Some years since we were presented w:ith one of Stewart's
stoves, which proved so satisfactory that we never expected,
and hardly desired, anything better ; and when, a few years
later, we were persuaded to put the " Peerless " in its place,
although always very ready to try anything new that prom-
ises to lighten or simplify the kitchen work, we confess that
it was with much reluctance that we consented to make the
change, being in no wise inclined to believe that it could at
all compete with our old and well-tried friend, the Stewart's.
But the stove proved itself worthy of its name. " Peerless "
it certainly has been, and in all respects given us more com-
fort than any stove or range we have ever used, baking
equally in every part of the oven, and using much less coal
even than the Stewart's'." It is made by Pratt and Went-
wo'rth, of Boston.
We well remember when cook-stoves and ranges were first
brought into common use, and how positive the good house-
keepers were that nothing decent could be prepared with
these strange contrivances. But only a few days were needed
to work a complete conversion. Since then, almost every
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year brings before the public some new range or cook-stove,
or marked improvements on the old. By and by we expect
to see stoves and ranges arranged for the use of gas, instead
of coal, for cooking ; and if a better quality of gas than that
which has tormented us for the last few years can be fur-
nished, we imagine any such invention will bring us nearer
to the perfection of cooking arrangements than has ever been
reached. To be free from smoke, and the dust and vexation
of coal and ashes, will indeed be a consummation most
devoutly to be wished.
But until gas can be thus used in the kitchen, house-
keepers have reason to be well satisfied with the many
excellent ranges and stoves now in general use.
L.
A FEW HINTS ON CARVING.
IT is a great accomplishment to be able to carve well and
easily, without awkwardness ; but it is one that re-
ceives altogether too little attention. Too often it would
seem that the host or hostess, or whoever is called upon to
perform this table duty, has no idea of there being anything
needed but to hack off in the most expeditious manner as
much meat as is required to satisfy the wants of those
present, without the slightest reference to the mode in which
it should be done, or the choice bits to be secured by careful
carving. We have seen those who in every other respect
were true gentlemen and ladies, carve poultry or a piece of
meat in such a barbarous manner as to banish all desire to
eat, and almost the ability to taste the big, uncouth, mangled
lump that was put, or rather thrown, on the plate. To cut
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off a thick, rough piece from any part that the knife
happens to light upon first, aside from being untidy and un-
palatable, is also very wasteful. After two or three such
careless cuttings, the whole piece is so defaced and uneven,
that it is no longer possible to secure a decent looking bit :
and the bone is left with much adhering to it, in ragged
morsels, which dry and become worthless if left over to the
next day, but which, had the joint been properly carved,
could have been sent to the table for a cold relish for tea, in
a neat and attractive form.
Our ladies are seldom good carvers, and do not often
attempt it. Few have been taught, or thought it worth
while to try and learn ; but in early times it was considered
an indispensable part of a girl's education. The want of such
knowledge often leaves one in an unpleasant and embarrass-
ing position ; for to every one there occasionally comes a
time when the gentleman of the family must be abseiit, and
the lady must do the carving, or ask a guest or stranger, who
may be even more awkward than herself.
To stand up while carving is not as proper or skillful a
way of doing the work as to be seated ; but it is sometimes
easier and more convenient, and, if the table be at all
crowded, less troublesome to guests. In such cases it is
quite allowable.
The carving-knife must be sharp and thin, A large, broad-
bladed knife is needed for meats ; a long, narrow, and
sharp-pointed blade for poultry and game ; both should be
kept in perfect order, and always ready for use.
"When dished, poultry or game must be laid on its back,
the breast uppennost, for the greater convenience of the
carver, who should put the fork into the breast, holding the
bird firmly, until he has taken off the wings and legs, cut
out the merry thought, or wish-bone ; cut nice, even slices
from the breast, and removed the collar-bone. A skill-
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ful carver will do all this without once turning the fowl over.
Next cut off the side-bone, and cut down the back, dividing
the carcass in two. Separate the drumstick from the second
joint, and in helping a lady, if she prefer the wing, cut it
in two parts that she may handle it more conveniently.
A ham, or a leg of lamb or mutton, should be first cut in
the middle, clean down to the bone, jDassing the knife all
round. Then cut thin, even shces from the upper or thicker
part, separating each sHce from the bone at the bottom,
carefully, without tearing it. Some slices can also be cut
from the lower part of the leg or ham, which are just as
good as the upper part ; but after a little you come to the
cords or fibers, and then the remainder of the lower part
should be set aside to cut out all the little bits for a relish
at tea, or, in ham, to chop up as seasoning or Avith other
kinds of meat for hash. By cutting meat in this way, much
may be saved. Good carving is good economy.
The middle portion of boiled tongue is the best, and
should be first served to guests. The tip is fit only for
hashes. It should always be cut crosswise, never lengthwise.
"When dishing a sirloin, place it on the platter with the
tenderloin underneath, and carve thin slices lengthwise from
the side next to you ; then turn the piece over, and carve the
tenderloin carefully, cutting across the piece, serving equally
from both parts.
In carving a fore-qiiarter of lamb, divide the shoulders
from the ribs ; then separate the ribs. The fore-quarter of
pork and mutton should be carved in the same way. When
carving the hind-quarter, cut neatly between the ribs to the
joint, which must then be carefully separated, so as not to
bring a jagged, mangled piece to the plate. To do this you
-mil be obliged to charge your butcher particularly to crack
the joints, not only of the liind, but also of the fore-quarter.
He has the implements to do it more expertly than you can,
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and unless this is well done, it is quite impossible to carve
the ribs neatly. Serve a bit of the kidney and the fat to each
guest if agreeable. Some do not relish the kidney, and could
eat with more relish if it were not on their plate, and for
this reason it is safest to ask each one before helping.
In carving a fillet of veal, begin at the top to cut, serving
a portion of the dressing to each guest. When carving the
breast of veal, cut the upper portion of the brisket, or that
part of the breast that lies next to the ribs, separately, and
in helping, inquire what part is preferred.
Some like to send a young pig whole to the table, with a
lemon or bunch of parsley put into the mouth. AVe think
it much nicer to take off the head, and cut the pig in halves
or quarters, before sending it to the table, and then carve it.
It would be very unpleasant to many to see such a revolting
caricature of a live pig brought before them. But each one
must judge for himself.
LI.
PARENTAL EXAMPLE.
PAEENTS may give "line upon line and precept up-
on precept," in their assiduous watchfulness over the
manners and morals of their children, yet, if they do not
constantly bear in mind that example has more influence
over the young than precept, their efforts will be of little
avail. If you reprove a child for careless usage of books,
show them how they are injured and defaced, by turning
down corners, scribbling on the margin, or throwing them
down on the face, how much good will such lectures do, if,
when he enters your library, or comes where you have been
210 MOTHEELY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
reading, the child sees your books tossed about, the bindings
strained, and the corners in a most undesirable condition 1
You endeavor to inculcate a habit of neatness in your
daughter ; you insist that when she returns from a walk or ride
she shall smooth out her bonnet-strings, brush the dust from
it, and put it at once in the bonnet-box ; you teU her to fold
her shawl neatly, hang up her sack, pull the fingers of her
gloves straight, fold them up and lay them in their appro-
priate place ; and this you request her to do, not once or
twice, but habitually, not only because it is tidy, but also a
great saving of time and garments in the course of a year.
But if you come in, and toss your street garments about in
the most careless manner, how much good, think you, will
all your words of instruction have accomplished 1 You may
enforce obedience, but compulsory habits are not usually
abiding ; and, when old enough to cast off restraint, it will
be, not so much the tvords you have spoken, as the things
your child has seen you do habitually, which will influence
and guide her womanhood.
You resolutely object to your children using low phrases,
— what is termed dang ; but if your own conversation is
largely interspersed with foolish or needless ejaculations,
fight against it as you may, you will find it impossible to
prevent them from copying your mode of speaking, and it
will be very strange if they do not carry it to a much greater
extent than you have done.
I^owhere is this force of example so strikingly exemplified
as at the table. It is always disagreeable to see a child
sitting with its arms on the table, or resting its elbow there
while carrying the food to its mouth. There is some ex-
cuse for the little ones, as their short limbs grow weary, and
the position, though a very awkward one, seems to them a
rest from the restraint of the table ; and no doubt it is so.
It is exceedingly annoying to see children filling their mouths
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too full, and then washing the food down by drinking, be-
fore the food is half masticated. If a child reaches ov'er
another's plate for some article of food, instead of politely
asking for it, who can help feeling disturbed by the rudeness ?
It is disagreeable to all present to see any one stand upon the
round of the chair, or on the floor, and spring after a piece
of bread or meat, or push a dish across the table instead of
handing it. You shrink from the child who helps itself
to butter with the knife from its own plate. All this is an-
noying in children, but it is intolerable when practiced by
the parents. They are as much disgusted as any " lookers-on "
can be, when they notice such rude, ill-mannered actions in
their children ; but while they severely blame these young
things, they forget that these are always watching and imi-
tating their parents' faults.
We have seen those who were in most respects truly
refined, whose great anxiety seemed to be to guard their
children from any contact with rude associates, and to teach
them as much refinement of manner and character as was
possible ; and in most things we have observed that such
parents most scrupulously and conscientiously conformed to
their own instructions ; but when we have had a seat at
their table, we have sometimes been amazed to observe that
they felt themselves exonerated from the observance of the
simplest forms of table etiquette, yet held their children
in strict bondage to such rules, and made the hours spent
at what should be the social, cheerful board very uncomfort-
able by continued reproofs.
" John, take your arms off the table." The child raises
his eyes to his father, and sees one arm laid on the table be-
fore him, the other supporting his head, with the elbow on
the table, while administering this reproof.
" James, how often must I tell you to ask for what you
want, and not reach for it across the table 1 "
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A few minutes after, James sees his reprover reaching to the
full stretch of his arm, supplemented by the fork from his
oivn plate, and pick up a potato, piece of bread, or meat, at
the farther end of the table.
" child, will you never learn to eat without smacking
your lips and making such a disagreeable noise % It makes
one sick to hear you ! "
The child has been watching the parent while eating, and
trying hard to imitate the genuine gourmand's smack which
he hears from the head of the table.
" I am astonished ! Why do you take the bread from
the plate with your fingers and toss it in that manner to
your sister 1 Never let me see you guilty of such rudeness
again ! "
JS'ow, children are quick to see mistakes and discrepancies
in the conduct of their elders, or those who have the rule
over them. It does not require many years for them to mark
how inconsistent such training is. Naturally children are
not very fond of rules and regulations ; they like freedom
of action as well as their elders ; and if they see that what
is called rude and ill-mannered in a child is the daily practice
of those whom they are expected to look up to, is it
strange that they take every possible opportunity to trans-
gress these precepts, so strangely nullified by parental exam-
ple 1 They are always reaching forward to something beyond
their present condition. If father or mother does such and
such things, which are denied to the young son or daughter,
of course they long for the same privilege ; because if their
parents do thus, it must be something smart, the imitation
of which brings them nearer to manhood and womanhood,
and farther from childhood, from which latter period all chil-
dren are eager to hasten away. Then, if this is so, — and
we think every observing parent has found it to be true, —
is it not important that the rules which are laid down to
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secure good morals and good manners in the children sliould
be considered of sufficient importance to regulate the prac-
tice of the parents ; and should not the deviations from
them, on the part of the elders, be few, — or, better yet,
none ]
LII.
TRUE TASTE MORE EFFECTIVE THAN MONEY.
MANY imagine they must relinquish all hopes of grati-
fying their tastes, or the inherent love of the beauti-
ful, if tliey do not rank among the rich. This is an entirely
false idea. There are houses upon which thousands of dol-
lars have been expended, that would be quite intolerable to
people of real refinement as a permanent residence. The whole
arrangement and furniture are so stiff and formal, so heavy
and oppressive with superfluous ornament, that simple curi-
osity to see what strange vagaries can enter into the heads
of the rich, and in what absurd manner they study to spend
their abundant wealth, would seem to be the only motive
which could tempt a sensible person to enter.
On the other hand we find small, modest cottages, Avhich
bear iinmistakable evidence of the necessity of close economy,
which have far more of real comfort and convenience about
them than those splendid mansions, and at the same time
they are gems, bearing in every part the stamp of true
elegance and refinement. They are so beautified by the
genuine taste and ingenuity of the occupants, that it is real
pleasure to pass from one room to another, or sit quietly and
enjoy the sweet enchantment ; yet money had little to do
toward securing such attractions. It is the fitness of things.
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the harmonious blending of shape and color, the adapta-
tion of the furniture to the wants of each apartment, that
make the Avhole combination so peculiarly delightful. And
yet, how and from what was all this tasteful furnishing con-
structed ? If some of those persons, whose dark and gloomy
parlors are hung with the costliest damask, and their furniture
carved and upholstered by the most skillful and fashionable
workmen, should, by chance, find themselves in one of these
pleasant homes, they could not help being captivated by
the spirit of the place, in spite of the absence of style or
fashion. The elegant, airy, graceful parlors, the rest, the
peace and comfort which pervade the whole atmosphere,
would be to them a new experience ; and what would be
their astonishment to learn with how little expense all
this, Avhich they acknowledge to be so refresliing, has been
secured !
No matter if the purse is not very heavy, young people,
with good health and a fair share of taste and ingenuity,
have great pleasure in store for themselves, when they under-
take together to furnish and beautify a house, which is to
be their home. There are so many small conveniences, so
many little contrivances, that a carpenter never thinks of,
because he has never had woman's work to do, and there-
fore cannot see how important these little things are. A
woman should know just where an hour's work, well consid-
ered and planned, can be employed to manufacture some
convenient thing, that will save much time and strength,
and which, however cheaply and roughly made, she can,
in a few spare moments, transform into an object of real
beauty.
" Harper's Bazar," always full of suggestions, often de-
scribes the way of making useful articles beautiful ones.
The pictures and explanations are very easily understood,
and each one who attempts to profit by these suggestions
TRUE TASTE MORE EFFECTIVE THAN MONEY. 21,j
can elaborate or modify as her skill, time, or means may allow.
There is no end to the variety and improvement that will
grow out of each successive trial ; and certainly no end to
the pleasure that one can enjoy in seeing such trophies
of taste spring up within and around a new home. A
few yards of bright blue, pink, or green paper muslin, with
an overskirt of cheap Nottingham lace, dotted muslin, or an
old lawn dress, can soon transform a rough half-circle or
square piece of board into a pretty wash-stand or dressing-
table. Old broom-handles make good legs for the stands ;
and a part of the length of the handle, not needed, or some
smaller stick, answers nicely for the rounds or braces. The
husband can easily bore the holes in the top, into which the
legs may be fastened, and also for the braces necessary to
keep the table firm ; an old piece of cloth does nicely for the
under-cover ; an old hoop-skirt nailed around the edge of the
top, before the wadding and upper cover are put on, is excel-
lent to make the outside skirt hang in a proper manner, or
the grandmother's old-fashioned wire fire-fender, which for
years has lain rusting in your mother's garret, is admirable
for that purpose. Then, with the bright, delicately colored
paper muslin, and the white lace or lawn overskirt, or cover,
you have, with trifling expense, as pretty a toilet-table or
washstand as any one need desire. Underneath the hoops
or fender you may have a convenient repository for work-
basket or boxes, if your house is not well supplied with
closets.
" Sleepy Hollows," sewing-chairs or easy-chairs made
from old hogsheads or barrels, and pretty lounges from long
packing-boxes, are, we think, among the articles the " Bazar "
has sometimes mentioned, — giving pictures and explana-
tions of the manner in Avhich the roughest and hardest work
may be executed. From these directions, any one with tol-
erable skill can gather the iirst ideas, and then proceed
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to make the articles, modifying the shajje to suit their own
fancy.
Pretty ottomans or stools covered to match the furniture
of the room are a great convenience, and help to give a
genteel, stylish air. If skillfully made and dressed, who
could imagine that they are formed from well-cleaned and
scoured soap-boxes or butter-tubs, with castors screwed
to the bottom, and a cover with hinges on the top, thus
serving a double purpose, — making a pleasant seat, easily
rolled to any part of the room, and a convenient box or
trunk for holding work-bundles, papers, or your boots and
slippers.
We never regret the loss of youth and strength so much,
or are so near being envious, as when we see young people
studying how ingeniously they can arrange a small cottage,
and give it the air of beauty and elegance their natures so
much crave. They will not find half the pleasure in enjoy-
ing it, all perfected, as they would have had in planning and
executing ; and yet how many throw aside such enjoyment,
and turn this pleasant labor into drudgery, not willingly cul-
tivating all the talents God has bestowed upon them, but
repining because they cannot afford to employ an uphol-
sterer to furnish what their own skill might have executed
perhaps far more satisfactorily.
We will follow these suggestions no further, but hope
some of our young housekeepers may be led to improve the
hints, in a manner that shall make them converts to the
ideas advanced.
COOKING BY STEAM, L'17
LIU.
COOKING BY STEAM.
MUCH has been said of the superiority of steamed food
over that which is boiled or baked ; and year after
year the papers or magazines devoted to domestic economy
and the improvement and simplihcation of household labor
have advocated this mode of cooking meats, vegetables, and
many other articles of food, every few months recommending
some new invention. We have tried one experiment after
another, finding, to be sure, some imperfection in all ; but
enough that was practicable to convince us there was much
which was desirable in the idea ; and, if able to do the work
with our own hands, confident we could reap great advan-
tage from it.
When the mistress of a family has not strength to do her
cooking herself, or that part of it which requires more than
ordinary judgment and skill, she is not situated so that
new modes of work can be tried with much prospect of suc-
cess. Most servants, particularly the cooks, when accus-
tomed to one mode of work, are very reluctant to change ;
and, therefore, if the mistress is not able to make all ex-
periments herself, she will soon find, unless fully prepared
to have the autocrat of the kitchen abdicate without "giving
notice," that it is safest, and wisest often, to allow a tolerably
■good girl to move on in the " even tenor of her ways," Avith-
out attempting any changes, except those Avhich she can
bring about quietly and imperceptibly. This is no very
easy lesson for an old liousekeeper to learn ; but repeated
defeats must teach her that patience, as Avell as discretion,
is a " better part of valor."
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In the last century, an American, Benjamin Thompson,
made Count Eumford by the Elector of Bavaria for distin-
guished military and scientific services, gave much time and
thought to the study of heat and experiments in cooking,
being the inventor of the present style of coal fireplaces
and grates, cooking ranges, etc. He was the first person on
record, with any pretensions to learning and philosophy, who
ever studied the dressing of meat for food as a science. The
result was the invention of a boiler for cooking by steam.
Within a short time another boiler has been perfected
involving the same principles, l^ut containing various im-
provements over the steamer of the last century, which has
been named "Eumford's Boiler" in compliment to the
original inventor. We have been trying it.
Our cook was positive she could never use that thing.
It was troublesome, took up too much room on the stove, etc.
Bless the girl ! That is one of the excellences of that
thing. Little else in the way of utensils is needed on the
top of the stove, beside one of these boilers. We stipulated
that she should use it two weeks, and if found troublesome,
it should share the fate of many other inventions, and no
more be said about it. But long before the two weeks
expired it had won Mary's heart entirely, and now she would
sooner part with anything else from her kitchen than the
" Eumford Boiler."
One peculiarity of this most excellent boiler is, that unlike
all others we have ever seen, neither steam nor tcater comes
in actual contact with the article to be cooked. Tavo inches
of Avater is put into the bottom of the boiler. Then a large
receiver, into which meat, fowl, or fish is put to be cooked,
is fitted on tight over the boiling water, and shut ofi" from
aU possibility of being touched by steam or water by a close-
fitting cover. Above this two other pans, or boilers, for
vegetables, custards, etc., can be fitted with tight cover also ;
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and the whole boiler, which is about as large but higher
than an ordinary wash-boiler, is also closely covered. Very
little fuel will keep the water boiling hot Avhen once it has
reached that point, as no licat can escape by evaporation. It
is not generally understood, or at least it is not borne in
mind with sufficient care, that " after water is just boiling,
all the fuel which is needed to make it bod violently is just
so much Avasted, Avithout in the smallest degree expediting
or shortening the process of cooking. It is by the heat, its in-
tensity and the time of its duration, not by the boiling or
bubbling up of the water, that the food is cooked."
In this " Eumford Boiler " the water can be kept at the
boiling point Avith no more fuel than need be used to keep
tAvo quarts of water at that temperature. It is the most
economical and comfortable arrangement for summer use,
and at the same time equally desirable for the winter. Meat
cooked in it not only retains all its juice, but also nearly all
its original weight, losing about one ounce to a pound ; by
the regular process of baking, meats lose over four ounces
to a pound.
The uniform heat of the boiling Avater cooks whatever is put
into the boiler equally all the way through ; no meat, vege-
table, or any other article can be scorched. It would seem
impossible for the poorest cook to spoil a dinner, so long as
she does not let the fire go out or remove the boiler from the
stove. Meats require no basting, and in that respect much
time and labor can be saved ; and the fire once fairly burn-
ing can be kept Ioav as soon as the water has reached the
boiling point, and no more care of a coal fire is needed till
the dinner is ready.
Meat, fish, and vegetables may all be cooked at the same
time in this boiler ; for being placed in separate receivers
with closely fitting covers, no taste can possibly pass from
one kind of food to another. Meat thus steamed or cooked
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is much more juicy, tender, and easy of digestion than when
prepared in any other way we know of. No danger of burn-
ing, scorching, or overcooking. If left in much longer than
is needed, it is not injured by it ; for, as no water or steam
can reach it, it is only kept hot in its own juices, without
the sodden, disagreeable look and taste of meat that has re-
mained too long in boiling water or a perforated steamer ;
and, what is even as great a recommendation as the excellent
flavor of the food, the house is not filled with smoke and
smell of cooking.
Besides, if properly cooked, there is no waste, — all is
eatable and palatable ; even the tip of the wings from birds
and poultry, which in baking are dried up and perfectly
worthless, are delicious, for there is no sweeter meat than
wings, when not dried past use. In steaming all is tender
and juicy. "When we steam beef, mutton, game, or poultry,
we take them from the steamer, dredge over a little flour,
and put into the oven about fifteen minutes, — ■ not long
enough to dry, but simply brown delicately, — and think it
an improvement.
We have also found, by experiments, that we can do many
more things with this boiler than we were promised, and
with the most gratifying results. We put bread, cake, and
pies into it, cover close, and leave them till done ; then set
them in the oven long enough to secure the rich, golden
brown ; and now there are no more burnt upper or imder
crusts, and no more uncooked bottom crust to our pastry.
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LIV.
VEGETABLES.
JUNE is the season when vegetables are most abundant
and can be had in the greatest variety. Among the
numberless articles of food there is nothing so conducive to
health as good, fresh, and properly prepared vegetables, and
nothing which so easily deranges the whole system if used
stale, unripe, or badly cooked. Vegetables having so large a
share in our comfort, it is essential that housekeepers should
understand how to prepare every variety not only in the most
attractive manner, but also in the most healthful way that
can be devised.
In the city it is not easy, hardly possible, to procure fresh
vegetables. Those only who have a private team, and can
send to the adjacent market-gardens, can hope to have them ;
hence our city housekeepers, who have never had the good
fortune to live in the country during the harvest season of
vegetables, can hardly realize the difference between peas,
beans, corn, etc., which can be gathered early, and eaten
almost with the dew upon them, and such as are heaped into
market-wagons and brought from a distance, and exposed
for hours or days, if the sales are not rapid in our markets,
to the air and sun ; made to retain the semblance of fresh
vegetables by frequent showers from the hose or watering-pot.
Nothing so readily destroys all the sweetness and the richest
flavors of such articles as these shower-baths ; and although
the purchaser may fully understand the whole art of cooking,
no skill can bring to our city tables such flavors and richness
as the farmers or the country gentleman should enjoy daily.
It is through carelessness or ignorance if they do not feast
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luxuriously all summer. Of course, almost all kinds of
vegetables can be cooked in a great variety of ways ; and as
tastes differ widely, and what would please one may be dis-
tasteful to another, by this variety every one may be suited ;
yet there are some general rules that must always remain
fixed and immovable ; and if not followed, no mode of cook-
ing these viands will be fully satisfactory. Some few items
from the history of some of our most common roots and
vegetables may not be uninteresting, before giving a review
of the mode of preparing and cooking them.
The Potato, now one of the most useful and nutritious
of the esculent roots, is a native of South America, and first
found wild in Chili and Peru, although it is often called Irish
potato, and supposed by many to have been first found in
Ireland. It was brought to England in 1586, and for a long
time was eaten as a fruit, or made into pies or puddings, and
eaten with sauces and wines. It was so used through the
time of Queen Elizabeth. It was planted in Ireland by
Sir Walter Ealeigh, on one of his estates in that country.
After being planted and partly grown, the little green balls,
which foUoAV the blossoms, were supposed to be the fruit.
Sir "Walter had them cooked, but finding them not at all
palatable he concluded the crop was a failure, and, as might
be supposed, was not very strongly tempted by his first ex-
periment to try it again. But upon turning up the ground,
to use for other purposes, to his great satisfaction he found
the food he had looked for on the stalk hid in the earth, and
of a most desirable character.
After many experiments it was proved that thrice as large
a crop of potatoes as of any other root could be produced
from an acre, and they soon became the chief food of the
Irish peasantry, and remain so to this day.
There is no end to the varieties of the potato that are
being brought before the public. New seedlings are an-
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nounced every year ; almost every section has its own
special seedling or favorite, which seems excellent there, but
deteriorates when planted in other parts ; and many kinds
which were the best known years ago are now lost sight of
entirely. We have not since childhood been able to find
the "rusty coats" or "lady's fingers," but have never seen
a potato that eipialled them ; partly, no doubt, because
cue never carries the tastes of childhood into mature age to
perfection, but this is not altogether the reason ; they were,
undoubtedly, very excellent potatoes. The " early rose "
is nearer to our idea of the " rusty coats " in flavor, but is
not like it in appearance, nor of so perfect a quality.
The potato can be satisfactorily used in more ways than
any other edible root, — in bread, pastry, starch, puddings,
pies, and salad ; boiled, baked, roasted, stewed, fried. It is
said " they fiuiiish flour without a mill, and bread without
an oven."
After potatoes are taken from the ground, and have been
exposed to the sun and air long enough to dry, the sooner
they are placed in a cool, dry cellar the better they will
keep. Mrs. Haskill, in her " Housekeeper's Encyclop?edia,"
advises that all that are needed for winter use should be packed
in barrels, and a little ^jZas^e?" scattered over each layer,
to absorb the moisture ; such as are to be kept for spring
use she thinks should be buried in the ground, and a little
plaster be sprinkled over them ; also, Mrs. Haskill claims
that this is a preventive against rot, but does not consider
it sure. Whether this is good doctrine, we leave for our
scientific farmers.
The Srveet Potato is a tuberous root, very different from
our common potato. It is common in tropical climates,
where it is much more perfect than in our colder States.
There are seldom but two kinds brought to our markets, the
red or purple rooted, and the white or yellow rooted. Far
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Soutli, the red grows to a lai'ge size, and is sweeter and more
nutritious than those raised at the JS'orth. The white or
yellow rooted grows more perfectly Avith us than the red.
In jSTew Jersey they are largely raised, and of a good quality.
Thirty years ago, sweet potatoes were a luxury on any
Northern table : now they are in daily use when in season ;
but to find them in the greatest perfection we must still go
South for them. The young leaves and tender shoots are
sometimes boiled as greens, and are pronounced quite whole-
some.
In California, sweet potatoes grow to an immense size,
often weighing lour or liA-e pounds, and sometimes eight or
ten.
The Jerusalem Artichoke grows in clusters of tubers, some-
thing like the potato. It is a native of Brazil. It was
brought to England and was much in use there before it
was superseded by the common potato. It was called the
Canada potato, to distinguish it from the common kind, then
known as the Virginia potato. It is wholesome and nutri-
tious, but not dry and mealy. The plants are extremely
productive and once started it is difficult to eradicate them
from the soil; they are said to be an excellent food for
horses and hogs. Girasole, not Jerusalem, should be the
term. • That is the Italian name for sunfioiver, which this
artichoke resembles in many particulars, and to which it is
in some degree akin, but not at all to the artichoke proper,
which is a plant brought from the Mediterranean. The
flower-head before blossoming is the part eaten, boiled plain
and eaten with melted butter and pepper, like spinach and
other greens. The bottoms are also sometimes boiled in
milk and eaten, and sometimes pickled. The French fry
them and use them in various ways, sometimes raw as
salads.
The Yavi also resembles the common potato. It is exten-
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sively grown in the East and West Indies, and in Africa
and America. It is sweeter and firmer than the potato,
grows flat, about a foot long, and sometimes divided like
fingers. One variety, called the hinged yam, often grows
three feet long and weighs twenty or thirty pounds. When
raw, like the potato, the juice is acrid and not healthful, but
boiling destroys all harmful properties. A favorite dish is
prepared from it in the tropics, combined with grated cocoa-
nut and the pulp of the banana.
LV.
CABBAGE.
IE" this chapter we have something to say of an old
familiar friend, the Cabbage, which for ages has been
one of the most useful of all our vegetables, being very pro-
ductive, and, for many persons, nutritious and healthful. It
is found growing wild on the cliffs in many parts of the
southern coasts of England ; but these do not very closely
resemble the large, vigorous vegetable we see on our farms
and in our gardens. There it is dwarfed, not weighing more
than an ounce, Avith a few feeble leaves. Even in this state
it is sometimes gathered and eaten for greens, but is not
very tempting. Although thus found wild on the southern
British coast, the numerous kinds now under careful cultiva-
tion, in almost all our large farms or market-gardens, are the
results of many experiments made by scientific and enter-
prismg agriculturists. It was also largely cultivated and im-
proved in other countries long before its use was under-
stood in England. It was a common product among the
Eomans, and although they were lawless and ambitious in
their inroads upon the surrounding nations, their conquests,
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with, all tlio attending evils, were conducive of many good
results ; for Avherever their armies went, they left behind
new arts and habits, tending toward a larger civilization than
is commonly the result of wars. Many fruits, roots, and
vegetables, unknown in Spain, Germany, and England, were
brought by the conquering Romans into general use among
these nations.
The Saxons used cabbage under the name of kale, and it
is still so called in Scotland. For a long time it was the
only vegetable known in that country, but there is no end to
the kinds now in use, and the varieties are multiplied yearly
by the experiments and skill of the producers. With some
persons it is not easy of digestion when cooked, but when
cut up raw and used as a salad there is hardly anything
more wholesome or palatable than the cabbage. Some
chemists assert that it contains an oil which is injurious,
unless, when cooking, the cabbage is boiled in two waters.
However that may be, we know that this vegetable is far
more delicate and tempting, if, after boiling about half an
hour, the water is poured off, and clear boiling water added,
in which the cabbage is cooked till done. With that pre-
caution, aside from being nicer, it is not half as liable to pro-
duce disagreeable effects.
The Borecole, or hale proper, as now understood, differs
from the common cabbage in having long, curly, wrinkled
leaves, more like the original "vnld plant, only larger and of
thicker growth, never forming into a close, solid head. They
are very hardy, and furnish most excellent winter greens ;
and if the leaves and stalks are blanched, are greatly im-
proved and very delicate. These kales are improved by
frost. The Scotch or German hale, or c^ialis (curly greens),
is used in immense quantities in Britain. The buda and the
Russian kale are much less common. The buda is con-
sidered a great delicacy when blanched ; the sprouts, and not
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the heart, being the most desirable. "VVe have never seen it
in our markets, but should think it might be brought to
great perfection in our country, and be a very desirable ad-
dition to our numerous sorts of cabbage. The Coleya oil,
so miich in use in France for lamps, is made from the seeds
of one kind of kale, and we think we have been told it is
from the buda.
The Portuguese cabbage, from Tranzuda, is extensively
cultivated abroad, and we see not why that also cannot be
introduced here. It is said to be peculiarly tender and deli-
cate, and destitute of the coarse rank taste of our common
kinds. The heart is the preferable part ; the mid-rib or stalk
being used after the green parts are cut off only as greens.
We wonder that some enterprising Yankee has not brought
it into our markets.
The Palm hale and the Cow-cabbage are cultivated in Jer-
sey, and other of the Anglo-lN'orman isles, as food for cattle.
The leaves of both grow to a great height, from twelve to
fifteen feet. It is the outer leaf that is fed to the cattle ;
the heart of the bud is quite tender, and when cooked is
good and nutritious.
The close-headed cabbage has many varieties, — the tvhite
and the red drinn-head, sngar-loaf, Savoy, etc. These are
raised from the seed, and should be sowed the year before
they are wanted, for large heads. "While young, or the first
year, if cooked at all it is as greens, or cabbage coletvorts.
Such as are not kept for growth the second year are pidled
up, root and all, and thus sent to market to keep them from
withering. The roots are cut off by the cook just before
using. Some, when the head is half formed, are gathered
for summer cabbage ; but if left till fall the head becomes
hard and firm, and late in the season they are pulled up and
stored, or buried in the ground. Such as are needed for
summer sprouts or coleworts are left in the ground all winter,
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and are ready early, with the nice new shoots for the spring
market.
The red cabbage makes a line pickle, and is the kind most
used by the Germans for sauerlcraut, though almost any variety
Avill answer. The dwarf red is much used abroad for stewing.
The Savoys have leaves much more curly than the other
varieties, and the middle part of their fu'm heads is excellent
for boiling, and particularly fine for cole, or cold slaw, or
kohl slaw, as the Germans term it. The dwarf and the yel-
low Savoy will stand the frost. The Brussels sprouts are
something like the Savoy, but grow often three or four feet
high. The sprouts form in little, delicate heads all the way
up. The top of the stalk is more solid, and it is that which
is like the Savoy.
The Catdijiower and Broccoli are among the most desirable
of the cabbage tribe, and bring a higher price than any.
The former is probably a native of the island of Cyprus, and
the broccoli is said to have been introduced into Holland and
England from Italy, in the seventeenth century. They are
quite similar in habit and taste, but the broccoli will bear
the frost and cold better than the cauliflower. Both are
very great favorites and very delicate.
The leaves of all kinds of cabbage decay very early, and
are then exceedingly offensive. They should never be
allowed to remain in the cellar or lie about the house, as
they are very injurious to the health. The water in which
cabbage is boiled is also offensive and unhealthy, and should
be poured into drains where it "will the soonest pass off.
Our farmers often feed the outside leaves of cabbage to
their cattle. All very well if they do not give them to their
milcli cotos. Many of our dairymen will not believe that
cabbage or turnips injure the flavor of milk or butter, but we
think their taste must be greatly perverted if they fail to
detect the flavor at once.
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LVI.
PULSE.
MANY of the most useful and important of farinaceous
or mealy kinds of vegetables are known under the
name of i^^'-^^^- -^^ ^^^ large varieties of the hean, pea,
lentil, tare, and vetch belong to this family.
The Vetch and Tare are chiefly used for cattle ; very sel-
dom in this country or England are they seen on our tables,
even among the poorest class of people ; but the lentil, a
kind of bean, is greatly esteemed among the French and
Germans, and, when properly and carefully prepared and
seasoned, is more highly esteemed by them than the common
pea and bean. They consider the flavor better, and the
vegetable itself more nourishing. In France it is extensively
used for seasoning soups, but in England and America is not
much known except as food for cattle.
Xext to nuts and fruits, all kinds of pulse were important
articles of food in the earlier ages, for it required little labor
and skiU to produce or raise them. When fresh and tender,
many kinds of pulse can be employed in cooking, particularly
for soups, and many that we know nothing of except through
books, would flourish in our climate, both North and South,
and might be profitably cultivated. Year by year we find
something new in our agricultural catalogues, as well as in
the horticultural and floral.
Feas and Beans when dried are less digestible and health-
ful than when eaten green, as the skin becomes hard, and
unless removed, as it can be by rubbing through a sieve for
soups, \vill, mth many people, produce flatulency, constipa-
tion, and often severe colic. But green or dried, almost
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every sort of pulse will fiu'nisli excellent food for most of
our domestic animals, and is also considered very desirable
to alternate with other crops, for, if corn or grain is raised
year after year, on the same piece of land, it will in a short
time wear out the soil ; but pulse does not impoverish the
land, and therefore may be grown on fields that require rest
from more exhausting crops.
We learn that the time of the discovery of peas and beans
has not been satisfactorily ascertained, but they were in early
times extensively cultivated, especially the ^^ea, in India,
China and Japan, although evidently not a native of any
of the extreme warm climates. When the English were be-
sieging a castle in Lathian, in 1299, they were well pleased
to supply their exhausted stores with this kind of pulse,
which grew in that vicinity abundantly, and doubtless, on
learning its nutritious properties, gladly introduced it into
their own country. During Queen Elizabeth's reign, her
table was supplied with peas from Holland ; fit food, says
one of the writers of that time, for royal ladies, because
" it was brought so far and cost so dear."
ISTow, under careful and more enlightened culture, the
varieties of peas raised in this country and throughout Eu-
rope are numerous. To speak of them all and of the whole
family of pulse would require a volume. Exit much depends
on the section in which the different varieties are raised, for,
as with most kinds of produce, that which in one locality
would prove most excellent, when transferred to another
will become quite inferior.
The Chich-pea is small and not very digestible. It will
not boil soft, but, like some of the lentils, is parched, and
in Egypt and Syria sold in the shops to travellers, by whom
it is greatly esteemed, because while passing through the
deserts it occupies little room and needs no preparation.
Youmans says that it will sustain more life, weight for weight.
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than any other kind of food, and that peas and beans are
ranked first among the concentrated, strength-imparting
food ; but althougli strength-giving, we do not think it
easily digested, unless eaten Avhile fresh and tender, and
cooked with care. Some kinds of peas are prepared by the
Chinese as a vegetable cheese.
It would be useless to attempt to mention the best varie-
ties of either peas or beans. Some seek for the earliest,
some the largest or most prolific. In selecting, it is always
wise to go to some intelligent seedsman, keeping a large as-
sortment of all kinds of seeds, and learn his opinion ; then,
from the information thus obtained, decide which variety
will best meet your Avishes and locality. Some kinds of
peas, like the string l^ean, have the pod and seed cut up and
cooked together.
The Turnip was introduced into England from Hanover.
It now grows wild in many parts of England, bixt the
wild kind cannot, by cultivating, be brought up to the ex-
cellency of our garden and farm turnip. The turnip tops
are brought into market for greens. The medium-sized roots
are better than the largest, which are liable to become corky
or spongy.
The Carrot was brought to England by Flemish refugees,
during the reign of Elizabeth, and the leaves were in great
demand by her court ladies as ornaments for the hair. The
ladies of the present day are not satisfied to use it for that
purpose, but by putting a root into a glass of water, and
hanging in a window, in a feAV weeks they have a pretty,
graceful window ornament, as young leaves will start out and
form a green ball, very delightful to the eye in mid-winter.
Both turnips and carrots are largely used on the table, and
are very desirable to season soups or stews, or garnish fancy
dishes. The carrot makes a very good pie, and with a judi-
cious use of eggs and cream can be made quite palatable.
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When boiled and prepared for the table, the young and
tender roots should be selected, as when large or old they
become Avoody and fibrous. The carrot is excellent food for
horses and cows. Unlike the turnip, it imparts no unpleasant
taste to the milk, and is, therefore, very desirable for winter
feed. The carrot contains a much larger proportion of sugar
than most of the esculent roots ; a large quantity of spirits
can be distilled from it, and it is sometimes used instead of
malt for beer.
The Parsnip is also a native of Britain, and largely used, not
oidy for soups and garnishing dishes, but as a vegetable ; or,
dipped in a batter of butter, flour, and white of eggs, it is
fried a delicate brown, and sent to the table as a side-dish.
During Lent, it is much eaten with fish. It is even sweeter
than the carrot, — much too sweet to please all tastes. Like
the carrot, it is excellent in soups, and is sometimes made
into bread. A kind of wine, said to resemble the Malmsley
wiae of Madeira, can be made from the parsnip. In Ireland,
they brew it with hops, and make what they consider an
agreeable drink. Parsnips and potatoes, in Scotland, are
often beaten up with butter, and a nice dish for children
prepared from them.
The varieties of the Onion tribe are more widely spread
over the whole world than any other article of food. The
onion, leek, chive, garlic, and shallot are the kinds in most
universal use. In Egypt and many parts of Africa, it is
noted for its very delicate taste, being less pungent and the
odor less offensive than those raised with us. Two thou-
sand years before Christ, it had, in the estimation of the
Egyptians, some mysterious signification, and was worshipped
by them as possessing wonderful efficacy. The onion is
much pleasanter for food or seasoning in warm climates than
with us. Those raised in Spain, Portugal, and Strasburg are
famous for their great delicacy. They are everywhere used,
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cooked, raw, or made into salads. When eaten raw the odor
impai-ted to the breath is exceedingly disagreeable, and, even
cooked or prepared in salads, is not at all pleasant. It is
said that chewing a little raw parsley will remove this an
noyance, or a few kernels of roasted colfee, but Ave have
never known anything but time and abstinence that did
remedy the evil. It is to be regretted that it should be so,
for they would otherwise be great favorites with all, and are,
no doubt, very wholesome.
The Leek is more used in Switzerland and Scotland, — in-
deed, in all cold, mountainous regions, both on account of
its being hardy, and because its exceeding pungency is a
recommendation in these cold regions. It is a very important
ingredient in two Scotch dishes that were the noted favorites
of King James I., the " Cock-a-leekie " and " Haggis." They
claim in Wales and Scotland that the leek was brought
to them by St. David, The blanched stem is the best
for soups and stews, and is more esteemed in France than
with us.
The Chive is a native of Britain and France. It is some-
times found wild in the pastures, and, if eaten by cows, im-
parts a very offensive taste to the milk. It is milder than
the onion or leek. The leaves are the part used for broths
and soups, and in some kinds of omelets, especially in
France, it is thought to be indispensable. With us, it is
more frequently found in the dishes at restaurants and hotels
than at our private tables.
The Garlic is the most oifensive of the onion tribe. It
grows naturally in Sicily and the South of France, and from
there found its way into Britain and America. It is very
little used with us, but is found at almost aU tables in Italy,
though the root is only boiled to season soups and other
dishes, and removed as soon as it has imparted a sufficiently
strong flavor.
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The Shallot grows wild in Palestine, and was introduced
into England by the Crusaders. It is still more pungent in
taste than the garlic, but not as offensive. Used in pickles,
soups, and made dishes.
The Rosamhole is a native of Denmark. It partakes of
the character of both the garlic and the shallot, and is used
in a similar manner.
LVII.
POT-HERBS AND SALADS.
THE number of plants and vegetables that are of excel-
lent quality, and can be profitably cultivated for pur-
poses of pot-herbs and salads, are so numerous that we can
only mention the names, with here and there an item, that
we may rouse the young housekeeper's curiosity sufficiently
to tempt her to search for tlieir full history herself and we
hope lead others to do the same.
In Burr's " Field and Garden Vegetables of America," is
a " full description of nearly eleven hundred species and
varieties, with directions for propagation, culture, and use."
Among them are many species and varieties which make
excellent salads and greens.
The Leaf-heet is much esteemed. The leaf is used for greens.
The rib, which is called Swiss chard., is cut out, boiled,
and dressed like asparagus, Avhich it resembles in taste.
There are five varieties, of which the silver-leaf is the best.
Three varieties of the Nightshade — the white from East
India, the large-leafed China malabar, and the red malabar
from China — furnish a desirable addition to our pot-herbs.
The juice from the fruit of the red variety supplies a beauti-
POT-HERBS AND SALADS. 235
fill color, but is not permanent. The black, or deadly night-
shade, is poisonous.
The Nettle, of which only one kind is mentioned, will
grow anywhere spontaneously, but is, in many places, largely
cultivated, and is excellent for greens. The j^oung, tender
buds or shoots are nipped oft" as they appear, and will shoot
out again very rapidly. By being put into a green or forcing-
house, it furnishes a good substitute for cabbage, colewort,
or winter spinach. If placed near a flue in the hot-house in
winter, it will supply excellent nettle-kale all through the
winter. Lawson says : " The merits of tliis generally ac-
counted troublesome plant have been quite overlooked.
Aside from the food it can supply, the stalk is quite fibrous,
and may be made into ropes and cordage and good thread ;
besides a white, beautiful linen-like cloth can be manufac-
tured from it, but it has never been cultivated for that pur-
pose. It is an Asiatic plant."
Spinach is one of the most important of this class of edi-
bles. It grows wild in England. Flanders supplies us with
some of the cultivated kinds. The orache, or mountain spin-
ach, is quite hardy and very good. It is a native of Tartary,
and was brought into England by Sir John Banks.
The Qxnnoa, a native of Mexico, is easily cultivated here.
The leaves are used like spinach. The seeds in some places
are made to take the place of corn or wheat for bread, and
are excellent food for poultry.
The English and Irish Sea-beet are much liked in some
places, and are easily cultivated.
The Shepherd s-purse tastes somewhat like cabbage, but is
much more delicate. That which is raised and marketed in
Philadelphia is wonderfully juicy, and the leaf grows quite
large.
Of the salad plants, Celery stands among the first. It is a
native of England, and has many varieties, too numerous to
mention here.
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Lettuce is an Asiatic plant, and, like celery, is an important
and almost indispensable article in preparing chicken, lobster,
or other mixed salads. It is also eaten plain with simply-
salt or dressed with vinegar, sugar, and oil ; or, what is better
still, a few drops of vinegar, Avitli sugar and rich cream.
The Endive, a native of China and Japan, is largely culti-
vated in America, and by many considered one of the best
autumn, winter, and early spring salads.
Corn-salad, brought from the South of France and Europe,
is sometimes boiled or cooked like spinach ; but usually the
young leaves are dressed for salad, and in winter and early
spring are excellent.
Cress, or pepper-grass, belongs to Persia, but is largely
raised here ; eaten as a salad, either separately or mixed with
lettuce or celery. The varieties are quite numerous.
Horse-radish and Mustard are from Europe. The young
tips are sometimes mixed Avith other greens, and their natu-
ral pungency adds quite a pleasant flavor to less highly
spiced pot-herbs.
The Nastiirtkim is from Peru. The seeds make a pickle
almost equal to the caper, and the young shoots furnish a
fine, pungent salad ; and in all its many varieties it is a
pretty garden ornament.
The Piorslain, Rape, and Bochei are natives of Europe.
The Samphire is used as a seasoning for salads. Tarragon,
from Siberia, is also put in salads for seasoning, and much
used steeped in vinegar for dressings of various kinds.
Valeriana, as a salad, is by some thought more desirable
than corn-salad, and is likewise a very beautiful garden orna-
ment.
All these and many more can be grown in our own coun-
try, and most of them with very little trouble. Interesting
statements respecting them can be found in most of the agri-
cultural books, which are well Avorth reading.
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LYIIL
MISTAKES IN COOKING VEGETABLES.
FRESH vegetables, properly prepared, are among the
most important articles of food. They mostly abound
in saline substances that are indispensable to the mainte-
nance of a healthy condition of the whole system ; but to
secure the blessings they were designed to yield, every-
thing depends on their being freshly gathered and carefully
cooked.
It is very ditficult to obtain fresldy gathered vegetables
when one is obhged to depend on the city markets for them.
In this, as in many other things, our farmers, and those who
can afford even a small vegetable garden, have far more to
be thankful for than those whose home is in the city, and
Avhose tastes and desires extend no farther ; for although to
those who heartily rehsh the summer productions, stale
vegetables may be better than none, yet the use of them is
always an unsafe experiment, making easy victims for the
many diseases incident to the summer ; whereas we imagine
a reasonable prodigality in eating most of the summer vege-
tables and fruits, when they can be had every day fresh from
the garden, is peculiarlj" conducive to the enjopnent of
sound health.
Then, as regards the cooking of the many kinds of vege-
tables that are desirable only when fresh, it must be remem-
bered that many sorts have a large proportion of woody
tissues, which require a suitable degree of heat by which
they can be softened or decomposed before they may be
eaten with impunity. That done, and the acid which is
found in almost all esciilent vecfetables becomes an essential
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assistance to sound digestion, as it tends to strengthen and
give tone to the stomach.
Hard luater is often recommended for cooking many kinds
of vegetables, but Ave know of none that are improved, and
many that are injured by it. Beans and peas, for instance,
arc injured by boiling in hard water, whereas if soft water
is used the skin softens, loses its huskiness, and these deli-
cate vegetables become highly nutritious.
A little soda is used by many cooks in preparing vege-
tables ; but it is only Avhen one is so unfortunate as to be
unable to procure soft water to cook with that we think it
can be tolerated. To be sure, it secures a fine green with
some articles, such, as peas and beans, and makes them very
tender, but this is gained at the expense of all sweetness and
natural flavor.
A few rules for gathering and preparing vegetables in the
country may be given, which, if carefully observed, 'will
secure their being brought to the table in an excellent con-
dition, and eaten without one murmur of dissatisfaction.
First, be sure that they were raised from the best of seed.
It is useless to expect good vegetables unless they spring
from the most perfect and best variety of seed. " Do men
gather grapes of thorns or figs of thistles 1 " Those who
cultivate but a few acres simply for family use, having
learned the importance of choosing their seed with care, are
every year becoming more and more particular in their
search for the finest varieties. More depends on this than
farmers have been accustomed to think ; but seeing. Avhat
can be done by amateur gardeners through care, and reading
the success of other experiments, they are giving much more
attention to this than was customary in former years. The
result is, that there is no longer any excuse for having a
poor article brought either from your own garden or the
market. It is the leno-th of time it has been crathered, and
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the manner in which it has been prepared, that determines
its excellence.
All vegetables are injured by lying exposed to sun and
rain ; but corn, peas, fresh beans, asjiaragus, and lettuce
become ])erfectly worthless. They should be gathered whih;
the dew is yet on them, brought to the house, and placed at
ouce in a cool place where the sun will not strike upon them.
It is better to leave corn in the husk, peas and beans in the
pods, until it is time to prepare them for cooking. Then
Avatch that they are not left long in water, if, indeed, you can-
not avoid washing them entirely. Corn when taken from
the husk needs no washing ; simply remove all the silk. If
there is a black or rusty spot on an ear of corn, reject it
entirely ; it shows the beginning of disease. It improves a
mess of peas, adding greatly to their sweetness, to boil the
■pods, after shelling, about fifteen minutes in the water you
are about to boil the peas in. For this purpose, you must
pour cold water over tlie pods, to remove any dust or mi-
nute bugs that may hv. upon them ; wash quickly, and
then leave them to drain before shelling. The peas, of course,
after this need no washing, neither do beans. Aspara-
gus should be Avashed quickly, to remove all dust ; but
must on no account be left in the water a moment after it is
clean. As soon as washed, put in a cullender to drain, and
then over the stove to cook as soon as you can. All vege-
tables should be laid in the saucepan in which they are to be
cooked, with sufficient salt to season sprinkled over them ;
thea boiling water poured on, and the Avhole brought to a
boil immediately, else they become of a brownish color and
look very uninviting. The salt, either put on them first or
the water salted before they are put in, prevents the color
changing. Then boil, or, what is better, steam them for
the proper time, — twenty minutes for asparagus, peas, and
corn is long enough, never over thirty minutes ; when so old
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as to need longer cooking, they are too old to use at aU,
Beans require longer time, unless very young ; from tlaree
quarters of an hour to an hour will be necessary.
Very few vegetables, comparatively, are as digestible raw
as when cooked ; those used for salads, such as celery, let-
tuce, cabbage, etc., are exceptions. Some which when raw
are quite poisonous can, by skillful boiling, be transformed
into our most nutritious and easily digested food ; yet the
attempt to cook them is too often made in such a careless and
reckless way that, although whatever poison they contain
when raw is dispelled, the mode of cooking makes them
about as injurious to the health as the poison could have
been, — half raw or overcooked till they are clammy or sod-
den, or cooked with salt and fat meat until their whole na-
ture seems changed, — requiring a stomach like that of an
ostrich to digest them.
The potato, when raw, is not only unpalatable and injuri-
ous, but is supposed to be really poisonous, while proper
cooking changes it to one of the most palatable and healthful
of all vegetables.
The bitter cassava is so deadly when raw that the Indians
use the juice to poison their arrows ; but when grated and
pressed, to remove the juice, it is subjected to a heat which
destroys all that is unsafe, and then we have the tapioca, so
much prized for table use, and which is regarded by many
physicians as far more digestible for infants than arrowroot ;
but the S7veet cassava, from which bread is made, is, even
when raw, free from all harmful qualities. The wake-robin,
from which sago is made, is so poisonous that the juice will
blister the hand ; but like the cassava, when roasted or
boiled, is entirely free from all injurious qualities, and is,
after being thus cooked, made into sago.
In many of our " cook-books " mint is recommended for
seasoning various kinds of vegetables, but we do not believe
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a good vegetable can be improved by anything that destroys
the true natural taste. Peas may be mucli improved, we
think, by boiling the pods, after washing them in clear soft
water, about fifteen minutes ; then strain the water from the
pods, bring it to a boil, add some salt to keep the peas green,
and use as much as is needed to boil the peas themselves in.
It gives them all the sweetness that the pod contains,
which is sufficiently near the flavor of the pea not to impart
any unnatural taste. A little cream may be added with the
butter, pepper, and salt required to dress them, although we
think tlie little water that is needed to cook them (and it
should be very little) is far better. When we see a little mint
advised to " give a fine flavor," we have no objection to others
enjoying it, but confess we think it a perverted taste.
Peas, beans, asparagus, corn, and potatoes should be either
steamed or cooked in as little water as can be usod without
burning them ; and to dress the first three, some of the
water in which they are boiled should be used ; then, in
helping them out, if any prefer them dry, it is very easy to
take them from the dish free from liquor.
Another great mistake consists in allowing most kinds of
vegetables to cook too long. Some require much longer
time to cook than others, but all need careful watching.
Beets, turnips, carrots, parsnips, etc., need considerable cook-
ing ; but if you go beyond a certain point they become
watery or sodden, and lose half their excellence or are com-
pletely ruined. Peas, corn, and potatoes should require but
little time to be cooked sufficiently. When young, peas
and corn do not require over fifteen or twenty minutes ; as
they become larger or attain their full growth, thirty minutes
may be needed ; if more than that, they are no longer fit to
use, except for soups or meal.
Peas, beans, asparagus, and lettuce are often injured by
being washed too much, or by being left soaking in water.
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AVash as little and as quickly as possible ; drain, then cover
up the dish, and put them in a cool place out of the sun till
ready to cook. Lettuce, particularly, will be far more crisp
and tender if, after washing and picking it over carefully,
it is laid on ice till needed.
LIX.
DIVIDED FAMILY GOVERNMENT.
" ~r HAVE a family of young children, naturally amiable
JL and obedient, who, while very young, seldom needed
even slight punishment ; but as they grow older wants and
wills are thickening, and, occasionally, natural perversity and
' willfulness are manifested which sometimes require restraint.
The mother's heart would shield her children from such
denials or demands as the father sees is necessary to their
proper education and future happiness. Her tenderness
warps her judgment, and too frequently her speech and
action stand opposed to mine. Hence the question must
often arise, if she cannot control her words and feelings in
the presence of the children and servants, how far am I
bound, in view of the future well-being of our offspring, to
push my authority, and, as the father and head of the house,
insist upon her yielding to my judgment without such oppo-
sition ; and if I am compelled peremptorily to insist upon
her silence, when I am attempting to control our children,
what is her duty 1 "
These questions, which have been addressed to us, are full
of interest ; and the answer, if given simply from the first
impressions derived from the perusal of the letter, without
mature deliberation, would seem comparatively easy. But a
DIVIDED FAMILY GOVERNMENT. 243
few moments' careful reflection will suffice to show that,
looked at in all the various aspects necessary to form a thor-
oughly correct judgment, it is a very intricate and important
subject, for wliich no one general rule can be made to meet
the necessities of all. The happiness of the family, as a
whole, and the future welfare of the children, require a
united government ; but, unfortunately, we do not see it
to any wide extent. Children, who should be a bond of
union, are too often the cause of dissension and division.
If the father is stern, arbitrary, and unreasonable in deal-
ing with the little ones, a judicious mother, who has suffered
for them and watched over them by day and by night
from their birth, naturally shrinks from the effects which
severity or irritability must have on their young and
tender minds, knowing, in almost every case, that gentle-
ness and love will soften the heart and secure obedience,
while coldness and harshness will harden, and provoke re-
bellion.
Or, perhaps, on the other hand, the father is loving and
tender, yet firm ; fully aware that foolish and injudicious
indulgence, although for the present gratifying, will in the
end work out, not the peaceable fruits of righteousness, but,
for the children, years of sin and sorrow ; for the parents,
wretchedness, tribulation, and anguish. With a fother
whose constant thought is to seek the best interest of his
children, even though it can be obtained only at the ex-
pense of some self-denial, if the mother co-operates, the
training of their family will be a labor fuU of love and glad-
ness. "When both parents see eye to eye, and seek God's
blessing on every step, they may rest assured that their chil-
dren, thus led in the way they should go, will, in mature
age, rise up and call them blessed.
It is very strange that parents, with so many examples
which should on the one hand warn them against over-
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indulgence, and on the other encourage them in the adminis-
tration of all needed discipline, should not learn to avoid
disputes or discussion in the presence of their families.
"When they so far forget their children's best interests
as to wrangle and dispute whenever a case of discipline
is necessary, and allow children and servants to hear and
see the whole, they not only lose the respect of those
who should naturally look to them for guidance and
help, but, more than all, they do lasting injury to those
whom they should protect and love. One or two speci-
mens of divided counsels and the mischief is done. Children
are quick to observe ; they turn to the parent who they
learn will be most ready to hide their faults or overlook
their short-comings for help to escape punishment, or to se-
cure the gratification of every childish whim ; but they soon
learn to care little for either parent, for the selfish love of a
child who has lost respect and reverence for father or mother
is of little value. If the father commands and the mother,
openly or privately, cancels the injunction, or the mother
permits an indulgence and the father revokes the permis-
sion, the child will soon become angry and stubborn ; and
even if not daring to utter reproach and insolence openly,
the spirit of bitterness and revolt is aroused. If parents
were seeking to destroy their children, they could scarcely
find any means so well calculated to accomplish the object.
But the mischief does not end here ; the parents them-
selves become embittered by such dissensions. Sometimes
it leads to disputes and quarrels, and sometimes to parti-
sanship ; and thus the child's selfishness, jealousy, and
mercenary nature are cultivated. In such divided house-
holds better far are early deaths than life and health for
children that must otherwise grow up under such malign
influences.
If parents cannot see alike, in matters of family govern-
DIVIDED FAMILY GOVERNMENT. 245
ment, then they should agree between themselves on some
compromise ; but in the presence of their children, these
dillcrences ought never to be mentioned. Even if one
parent is mistaken, it is better far to pass the mistake by,
unnoticed, than that a dispute should arise, or that the other
parent should interfere in the presence of servants or chil-
dren. In almost all such cases there is blame on both sides ;
but, right or wrong, it is better that one should yield in-
stantly and let the other decide, for the time being, than
to attempt to right the wrong in the presence of any one, par-
ticularly in that of children. It is not hard to do this ;
and, parents ! if you truly love each other, it should be
very sweet and easy kindly and unselfishly to discuss the
matter under consideration ; but let the husband dismiss
during the discussion all idea of authoritij. It is an ugly
Avord between husband and wife at all times ; and in the
endeavor to settle a disputed point, if you seek for any
good results, keep it as far out of sight as possible. Go to
your wife in the same spirit that influenced you while woo-
ing her, and speak mth the same tenderness ; we think
words thus spoken will be like oil on the troubled waters,
and bring you into closer and more harmonious union than
any commands can do.
But while settling any disputed point with regard to the
management of children, it should be constantly remembered
by the father that, of necessity, the mother must have more
to do with their early years, and can hardly fail to under-
stand their peculiarities better than he can do. It is only a
few moments at a time that the father can spend with
tliem, while the mother must watch over them hourly,
providing for aU their constantly recurring wants. To
her belongs, naturally, the care of their health and early
habits 5 to her the watching and weariness in times of
sickness, and the harassing toil of nursing them through
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the fretful period of convalescence, back to soundness and
vigor.
In the few hours the father's business allows him to spend
with his family, he may be able to see the weak points more
clearly than the mother can do, who must be always with
them. He may see plainly how, at times, she weakly yields
to their caprices, allowing herself to become a slave to them,
often because too weary to be firm. This is the time when
his love, tenderness, and sympathy for his wife, the mother
of his children, should be most earnestly manifested ; when
he can prove which is the stronger, which better fitted to be
the true head of the house. These weaknesses, from what-
ever cause they spring, should not be noticed before the httle
despots ; when alone, the husband, with the greatest kind-
ness and gentleness, can show his wife how such indulgence
will lay the foundation for much present trouble, and per-
haps for a corrupt and disgraceful future. If she has good
sense, and he, with unselfish desire for the good of all, does
not seek by arrogant dictation to set himself above her, we
can hardly imagine a wife and mother who would not ear-
nestly endeavor to make the necessity of such appeals very
unfrequent.
But if the mother is frivolous and self-indulgent, too weak
and indolent to take up the cross of refusing childish, un-
reasonable importunities, for the glory that shall croAvn her
when, by her firmness, her children have become noble men
and women, — then, God help her who can thus lay the ax
to the root of all domestic happiness ! For the husband
and father to push his authority or command silence with the
children at home, constantly exposed 'to such influences, can
do no good ; it only increases the difficulty. We know of
no better or surer way to save the children than to remove
them from home and a weak mother's cruel indulgence, and
place them in some school where health and morals may be
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carefully watched over, but one sufficiently strict to save them
from the evils of too great indulgence. This is a hard task ;
but it has saved many children whose parents, either one or
both, were too foolishly tender or too cruelly indolent to
control them, as God has commanded, in their early years.
LX.
HOW CAN WE SECURE GOOD SERVANTS?
MANY inquiries reach us, both from city and country,
as to the best and most certain way to secure, if not
the best, at least tolerably good servants. It is a question
impossible to answer with any degree of certainty. The very
best inanagers, the kindest and most conscientious, are no
more sure of being suited than those who work without
method, and are not governed by the law of kindness.
" Where shall we apply when searching for help 1" is a
question that is asked very frequently, and is equally impos-
sible to answer. Some say, " Advertise." The next will
give you such a history of her trials from advertising, as will
most effectually frighten you from that mode of help-seeking.
But they will tell you to go to one intelligence office, and,
if that fails, refer you to the next best. Another will say,
as we should, that of all places an intelligence office is the
most disheartening and the least reliable of any.
A lady in the country, with a large femily, who is so hap-
py as to have two grown-up daughters for her chief assistants,
is desirous of " obtaining a raw German or English girl,
hoping to be able to train her to do general housework prop-
erly," and inquires where she must apply to obtain such
a one, " right from the sliip," before a week or two of idle-
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ness has taught her the " ways and the manners " of those
who have been in this country longer.
We_ have very httle experience with what are called
" greenhorns," or girls right from the emigrant ships, though
we doubt if they can be any more ignorant or half so un-
manageable as many of the girls who have been in America
for years.
The emigrant ships which come to ISTew York land their
passengers at Castle Garden. " The Labor Bureau of the
Commissioners of Emigration " is under the supervision of
Eugene Casserly, and we are told by reliable authority, that
unless friends have secured employment for them before they
reach our shores, their names, if they come seeking work,
are registered in an intelligence office there. Eor any one
proposing to seek servants from among those just landed, it
may be well to go to that office, when these ships first land
their passengers, and endeavor to form as correct a judgment
as is possible, before actual trial. We are also told that some
little conversation with the officers of the ship will sometimes
make the selection easier or more satisfactory. During the
tedious passage the officers have many opportunities of seeing
their passengers under circumstances that can, if they choose
to notice, enable them to form a reasonably correct idea of
their character and capacities ; though Ave fear that officers
on board emigrant ships seldom give much heed to those
under their care.
A reader inquires " if it would be safe for a young house-
keeper to attempt to train a 'raw recruit,' and, if so, from
which of all the countries whose people flock to our
land we would advise her to seek for a good, reliable ser-
vant."
It requires much patience and no small degree of skill to
take a girl from another country, whose whole life and asso-
ciations have been entirely different from our own, and bring
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her into a new life by teaching her to forget all her
early habits and modes of working. It is a great and un-
common gift to be able to do this with patient kindness, and
yet with such authority as insures obedience. Success in
such an undertaking is a blessing both to the teacher and the
pupil. Now and then we find one who, under such teaching
and benevolent guidance, has fully repaid all the thought
and care Avhich has been bestowed upon her, and who, by
her fidelity and unwearied energy, has won the love and
grateful appreciation of all, and is looked upon as the good
angel of the family. But we regret to say such characters
are rare ; and though, in some instances, the impatience and
irritability of the mistress may repress much of good which,
vmder better auspices, might have been developed, yet we do
not believe as a general rule that the chief blame should rest
with the mistress. Not one in a hundred — and that we
fear is a high proportion — of all the Irish that come to our
country can, by any amount of care, patience, or indefatigable
teaching, be transformed into a neat, energetic, faithful,
truth-telling servant ; and as for gratitude, once in a while
you may find one who remembers your faithful teaching,
your kindness and care in times of sickness or trouble, who
cannot be turned from her fidelity and attachment to you ;
but for the most part all this vanishes like the morning dew,
at the first chance for easier work or higher wages.
The English and Scotch, as far as our observation goes, are
more inclined to make their employers' interest their own.
They labor as faithfidly, and watch with an eye to economy
quite as earnestly, when left in charge alone, as when the
master and mistress are near them. Of course there are
exceptions to every rule ; and we speak more from our own
experience than from what others say.
The Swiss and Swedes are usually smart and capable ; but
their inability to understand our language when they first
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come to us, makes their instruction difficult and tedious,
unless the mistress is well versed in foreign languages.
A good Welsh gui is one of the best, — usually neat,
active, and quick to learn ; and as the pastors of the Welsh
churches hold it a part of their duty to exercise careful su-
pervision over those under their charge, that acts as a great
safeguard.
There are no better servants to be found than such as
come from Canada and Nova Scotia, if one can secure such
as bring from their own country a genuinely good character.
Naturally hardy and industrious, they are not the land of
girls who begin by asking, " How many in the family 1 How
large is the washing? Have you stationary wash-tubs?
What privileges do you allow your girls ? " But whatever
they are told to do, if within the compass of their ability,
they do it more willingly and cheerfully than most. But
there are not a large number of the Swiss, Swedish, Welsh,
or Nova Scotia girls to be had, nor are all who come to our
country of the better sort ; so that whichever way we turn for
domestic help, one is almost compelled to feel as if buying
tickets in a lottery.
LXI.
THE GUEST-CHAMBER.
IT is the prevalent opinion among housekeepers that the
guest-chamber, or " spare room," must, in cA^ery respect,
be the best and most desirable chamber in the house. We
think this a mistaken idea. Of course the room should be
pleasant and inviting, furnished as tastefully and with as
many conveniences as can be afforded, without curtailing the
THE GUEST-CHAMBER. 251
comfort and pleasures of the family, and with such regard to
comfort that a guest, on entering, may feel at once not only
at home, but as if surrounded with kindness and thoughtfid
care. All this can be accomplished without appropriating
the largest and most commodious room for that purpose.
The chambers most used, and, after the sitting-room, most
necessary to the comfort and happiness of the family, to
whom the house is home, and not a mere transient stopping-
place, should be the best ventilated, the largest, and most
convenient. The mother's chamber and the nursery — if
there must be two apartments, they should be separated only
by a door, that the mother's care may be near at hand — ought
to be chosen with reference to the health and enjoyment of
those who are expected to occupy them for years. The
"spare room" should be a secondary consideration, for our
guests are but temporary residents of our rooms, to whom, in-
deed, must be given all the time and attention that family
cares will allow ; while to the permanent inmates the house is
a resting-place from hard labor, a refuge from outside care
for some of the family, and to make it such to husband and
children, the housekeeper has a daily routine of duties which
can be wonderfully lightened by pleasant surroundings. And
thus, for reasons having a bearing on every member of the
household, it seems to us very desirable that more thought,
care, and expense be given to secure a pleasant outlook,
a thorough ventilation, and attractive and convenient furni-
ture for the family rooms, than for the one set apart for those
who, however honored and beloved, can of necessity remain
but a few days.
We would by no means leave the impression that a family
should selfishly retain their regular apartments when so many
guests are present that several rooms are needed. In times
of large gatherings it is very delightful to see each member
of the household contribute some part of his or her rights
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to the free and cordial entertainment of friends. On such
occasions, if they are not too frequent, it is quite amusing
and conducive to much sport and cheerfulness to meet in
family council and discuss the ways and means that may be
employed to stretch the house, so that twenty people can be
comfortably lodged in a space where usually eight or ten
have only sufficient room. This, for a short time, is no hard-
ship, — it is like a picnic,— and every child, from its earliest
years, should be taught there is a pleasure in giving up rights,
whims, and fancies, connected with its own special apart-
ments, for the accommodation of others. The lesson is very
easily taught, when they see that this is only a temporary
thing; knowing this, when the pressure abates, they will
return to their rooms better prepared to estimate and appreci-
ate the care and aifection which has so pleasantly consulted
their taste and comfort in arranging the apartment which is
set aside for them.
It is painful to glance into rooms in daily use, and see no
indication that a moment's thought has ever been bestowed
upon their adornment, or to fill them with objects that, to
the children's eyes, will unite grace and beauty with useful-
ness for the family's every-day life. " 0, this will answer !
It's good enough /tts^ /or oior oivn family." But look into
the guest-chamber, for which enough has been expended to
compel pinching in all that belongs to home and family com-
forts, and all for the ostentatious disj)lay of hospitality !
When you see such incongruities and contrasts between the
furnishing of the family apartments and the " spare room,"
you wiU find the same rule runs through everything con-
nected with the family. For every-day use the commonest
kind of delf, with odd bits of broken or defaced china, mis-
mated cups and saucers, of every variety of color, and the
food carelessly prepared, and of the poorest and cheapest
quality, showing the same unwise disregard for family com-
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fort. But let a visitor appear, and the table is dazzling
with silver and cut-glass, and loaded with dainties over
which the utmost skill in cooking has been expended. This
is all wrong. Home should be first, company of second-
ary importance. Let your family always have the best
you can reasonably aiford ; then cordially welcome your
friends to share the good and pleasant things with you. It
is not easy to teach children to love home, and prefer its
society to all others, if they see that all the good and pleas-
ant and beautiful things you possess are only to be used
when you have visitors. You have no right to hope that
your children will have good manners or be refined, if they
see only the coarsest of everything when alone with you, but
are called upon, with company, to put on company manners.
Love of home, refinement, and good manners are blessings
that will rust out and be destroyed, if not brightened by
constant daily use.
But we have wandered out of the guest-chamber, and will
now retiirn. Because we urge that the family apartments
should have the first claim, we would not be understood that
no thought should be given to the room your friends will
occupy ; we only claim that it should not be paramount to
all others. Select the furniture with such care and taste as
your means will allow. It is not necessary that one should
be rich to do this in the most perfect manner. Be sure that
the bed is comfortably made, and at all times scrupulously
clean. If used only for one night by one person, all the linen
should be changed for every new-comer. A white spread,
even if not of the best and heaviest, is always an improve-
ment for any bed. Have a spare blanket neatly folded and
laid across the foot of the bed, unless you have a closet in the
room ; then it is a protection from dust to put it there. A
low easy-chair or rocker is always desirable, for a lady friend
may bring a young infant with her ; then, if in accordance
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with your ability, furnish easy-chairs or a lounge, but no
bedchamber should be crowded with furniture.
A table with a drawer, or small neat writing-desk, with an
inkstand, a few pens, paper, and envelopes, are desirable, as
friends often come unexpectedly, and neglect to bring the
needed articles. To find such conveniences ready at hand
will be taken as a kindly attention, which is among the little
things that make a guest-chamber homelike.
A brush and comb, a cushion and pins, should be kept on
every bureau, and the " spare room " is no exception to this
rule. In this room one or two bureau-drawers should be left
open for the use of guests. The comb and brush, like those
in other chambers, should be washed every week if used, or
after every new occupant. A few drops of ammonia, put into
a little soap and water, will cleanse a brush easily ; rinse well
in clear water, and stand it up to dry. For the wash-stand,
good soap, plenty of towels, and a nail-brush should be pro-
vided. The water-pitcher must be kept filled ; a water-
bottle, with a glass turned over it, or a decanter with a
stopper, is better for drinking water than a pitcher, as water
left exposed to the air in a sleeping-room soon becomes im-
pure and unwholesome. A slop pail or jar is needed by the
side of the wash-stand, unless the wash-basins are set to be
filled from the pipes, and emptied by the waste-pipe. A
match-box, filled, is always an important article in every room,
and a little basket or cornucopia is needed to hang by the glass,
into which the hair from the comb and burnt matches may be
put. This should be emptied when the slops are taken away ;
but hair must never be thrown in the sink, as it clogs the
pipes ; always burn it.
Of course, when there is no necessity for close economy,
there are a thousand elegances with which it is perfectly
proper to beautify, not only the family rooms, but the guest-
chamber ; but the things here specified are convenient and
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some really necessary for all sleeping-rooms, and can be pro-
cured or made by home ingenuity. Beautify and enrich the
guest-room as lavishly as good taste and your ability will
allow, only let the family chamber be not neglected for that
purpose.
LXII.
THE CARE OF INFANTS.
" A EE our little ones so related to household cares, that
iV Mrs. Beecher will give young mothers, now and
then, a few words of instruction on the management of in-
fants 1 I am a young mother as weU as young housel^eeper,
and although not very competent, I, and probalily many
others, could easier work our way unaided to a respectable
standing in all that pertains to the manual labor of the
household, than risk mistakes in the care and training of
our babies. I think the little ones very necessary to the
formation of a true household, and am ready to accept any
care and annoyance, if I may oidy be certain tliat I am not
giving my strength for naught, but so that in these early
days I may be enabled to ward off iUness, and keep my baby
healthy and vigorous. It is usually happy and quiet ; but
there are times when mind and body are taxed to the utmost
limit of my endurance. It often has spells of crying, when
no skill which I possess can soothe the disturbance, what-
ever may be the cause, or lull the little one to sleep. In no
way, either by medical advice or the exercise of my own
judgment, can I discover the cause, or find any indication
which would show the child to be unhealthy."
We most certainly consider the little ones very pecu-
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liarly a part of " The Household " department, and will
cheerfully give any assistance to young mothers that is with-
in our power. We have before this been called upon to
answer similar questions, and see no reason to change the
answers we have felt to be correct.
Young mothers are frequently told, we think very un-
wisely, "You have no cause for anxiety. Most infants
either have their crying spells until they are tliree months
old, or are very quiet and serene up to that period, and then
change and cry, and are restless most of the time till some
months later." Believing this, the young mother tries to
possess her soul in patience, and struggles on, waiting for the
good time coming. But we think there is always some defi-
nite cause for a trouble which robs the mother for months
of a large portion of the pleasure her infant should bring her,
and makes the new world into which the httle pilgrim has
just entered so truly " a vale of tears." The cause once
ascertained, there must be some remedy found, through the
large experience of so many mothers who have been harassed
and perplexed by similar trials.
Often kind friends manifest their affection and interest
injudiciously through their anxiety to see the new-comer,
when both mother and child would be much safer for a feAv
days of perfect, uninterrupted quiet. In the early days when
an infant should be forming the habit of long naps, and at
regular times, and when the mother should be kept from any
excitement, these friendly calls begin, and each caller has
great curiosity _;ms^ to look at the new baby, ovjust to wake
it one moment to see whose eyes it has borrowed. This
incense offered to maternal pride is too mighty, and the
mother's judgment bows down before it. If she allows this
foolish innovation once, she must twice, and soon a restless
habit is formed, and short naps and long cries may be ex-
pected. It takes but two or three such friendly visits in
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tlie course of one day, to excite the child so that sleep be-
comes impossible ; and then, although it is not needing food,
when all other means fail to quiet it, what more natural than
to put it to the breast 1 But broken rest and nursing too
frequently will assuredly cause pain, and crying will, of
course, be the result. In such cases, no remedy may be
hoped for until those to whom the child is committed, and
who alone should be responsible for forming its habits, have
learned that sound judgment and good common-sense must
be their guides in the care of their helpless little ones, and
not maternal pride.
But, on the other hand, take a child who from its birth is
trained in the most sensible manner, — washed, dressed, and
fed at fixed hours, and laid, -ndthout rocking, to sleep in the
crib, where no foolish friend, indulgent aunt, or grand-
mother is permitted to disturb or see it until it wakes nat-
urally and is ready for the next meal. All through the day
it sleeps, or serenely watches the dancing shadows on the
wall, or the bright sun through the curtains ; and but for the
little cooing, rippling sounds that occasionally give token of
its presence, one hardly realizes that there is a babe in the
house. But at night the little one becomes restless and be-
gins to cry. Every means for quieting it are resorted to. It
is patted, trotted, rocked, and sung to, but aU is of no avail.
What can be the matter 1
Let us take this uneasy little mortal. Ah ! we see. In
dressing it in the morning you pinned the little waists as
tightly as you could draw them, so that the body is as round
and unyielding as a marble piUar. The morning bath and
change of clothes brought some relief from the night's fet-
ters ; and for the first part of the day, or, if uncommonly
strong and healthy, until night, the child may be quiet and
endure ; but by night, release from so many hours' bondage
is absolutely needed. How would you like to have your
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clothes thus bound about you 1 No room for free breathing,
no elasticity of body ! What chance for healthy digestion 1
After many hours, during the day, of perfect inactivity, what
wonder if by night the poor baby feels this compression in-
supportable ! Its little limbs must ache, and the whole body
become stiff and numb. But instead of relief, when the
child is disrobed and night-clothes substituted, it is only to
tighten the bands, and leave it to pass the long hours of
darkness as much like a mummy as before.
When Ave see a child thus bound, we think it would
afford us pleasure to act as dressing-maid to the mother long
enough to teach her what torture she is thoughtlessly inflict-
ing on her helpless babe. It has no way of attracting your
attention and begging for relief but through tears. If the
mother was subjected to the same distress for once, she would
ever after understand why her baby lifts up its voice like a
trumpet, to tell her of her sins.
Whenever an infant begins to cry, without any apparent
cause, by day or by night, let your first act be to examine its
clothing ; loosen it, remove the pins, or untie the strings,
and see if the lungs have free space to expand, and the body
a chance to move every limb and muscle. Rub the body
gently with your warm hand, particularly the back, lungs,
and bowels, to promote the circulation which the barbarous
swaddling-bands have all day impeded. Try this remedy,
particularly at night, and, unless you again ''put on the
screws," in most cases' your baby will fall into a peaceful
slumber, and you may hope for unbroken rest.
But here is another whose garments, are all sensibly ad-
justed, yet its piteous cries are enough to make the heart
ache. What is the matter 1 Touch the little blue hands, and
you will find them like ice. Take the child in your lap ;
draw your chair to the fire ; heat a blanket and wrap about
it ; lay it on the stomach, across your lap, holding the cold
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hands in one of yours ; shake out the foolishly long robes,
till, hidden somewhere in this mass of flannel and embroid-
ery, you find the numb little toes, and hold them toward the
lire till warm. See how it stretches its feet to the fire, and
puts the pretty face close up to your warm hands. Many a
child who has cried for hours, taxing all the mother's strength
and skill, and filling her heart with alarm, will, under this
simple treatment, in a few minutes be fast asleep. Only
turning a child over in the crib — anything to change its
position when you find that it begins to cry or becomes rest-
less before its nap is finished — will sometimes soothe it to
quiet slumber, give it the benefit of a long sleep, and you
sufficient time to accomplish many things which must have
been laid aside had baby waked too soon.
Endeavor to imagine yourself in an infant's place when it
manifests symptoms you do not well understand. You wrap
its hands and feet so closely, when you lay it down to sleep,
that it cannot stir. Could you remain two hours thus fet-
tered without becoming cramped and full of pain 1 Loosen
the wrappings ; shake up the pillow and turn it over occa-
sionall}^ that the little head may rest on a cool spot (and, by
the way, a good hair pillow, not too full, and well beaten
every day, that it may not become lumpy, is far more health-
ful for any child than feathers). If awake, change its posi-
tion ; or if it has lain long, take it up, toss it gently, and
play with it awhile to give it a pleasant variety, and cause
the blood to circulate freely through the whole body.
If these simple methods do not pacify a crying child, it is
very probable that some of the above-mentioned causes have
produced colic ; but do not give the simplest medicine till
you have tried what virtue there is in an enema of tepid
water. Unless the crying indicates the beginning of some
acute disease, we have invariably found the effects almost
magical, and in no case will it be hurtful.
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ISTever nurse your child when you are chilled, fatigued, or
terrified. The child, however hungry, must Avait, or be
otherwise fed, until your own system becomes quiet. It
must be a very strong child who will not suffer from the
nourishment the mother offers while under such disturbance.
If your excitement proceeds from fear, go to your husband
or some friend who has the power to soothe or talk you
into quietude, before you see your child. If fatigued, sit
down and rest ; if overheated, wash your face and hands in
cool water, keeping out of any current of air, and become
thorouglily cool before you nurse your baby.
If, unfortunately,, you have allowed yourself to be over-
come by anger, keep far away from the little one, till you
have asked God to still the tempest, and feel that by his
grace you are at peace. If in such an unhappy state you
dare to perform a mother's sweetest duty, your child will
bring you to repentance before many hours elapse.
In early youth we were once compelled to watch by a
child in convulsions. This was among our first painful ex-
periences, and when we were absent from home. To our
dying day we shall never forget the mother's dumb anguish
when told that the child must die. We afterward learned
that she had been furiously angry with her husband. The
angry voices frightened the child, and to still its crying, even
in the fierce heat of her passion, she put the babe to her
breast. The physician knew of her ungovernable temper,
and, boarding with her, had been the witness of the morn-
ing's tornado. Over the suffering little creature, he sternly
told her that her temper had killed her child. We never
saw her bvit once after that sad trial, but the marks of the
penalty wliich followed so quickly upon her sin were still
stamped upon her face.
Mothers do not enough understand or believe these facts,
because they are not accustomed to trace the effect to the
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cause ; but a physician Avho looks carefully into the cases
which come under his care will assure you that this is no
fiction. A mother at all times is called upon to guard well
her own actions, and to practice much self-denial for the sake
of her offspring, but never more than when her child draws
its nourishment from her breast ; and never are judgment and
care in the clothing, in the fashioning and adjusting of it,
more important than while the babe is incapable of making
known its wants or discomforts except by crying.
LXIII.
PERSONAL NEATNESS.
a "^ HOSE who have the oversight of household affairs, and
_ perhaps are also compelled to perform much of the
manual labor themselves, cannot be expected to keep their
garments at all times spotlessly clean, still less can they
preserve their hands soft and delicate ; yet there is far too
much inexcusable carelessness about personal appearance,
among tliose who are called upon to be always active and
industrious, as well as among tliose who have fewer respon-
sibilities.
" Well, I, for one, don't see how a farmer's or mechanic's
wife can help it ; she is obliged to rise early to prepare the
breakfast, or see that it is being properly prepared ; then
the milk requires early attention, or perhaps butter and
cheese are to be made : one duty follows another in such
quick succession, that from the time the housewife rises in
the morning until after dinner, at least, she is compelled to
work rapidly if she would be through in proper season.
What time has she to think about her own personal appear-
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ance 1 A fine housewife that must be, who would feel
obliged to stop in the midst of some important work to see
if her hair was in company order, or that no spot of any kind
had soiled her dress or apron. It is all very well for ladies
to be thus particular, but laboring people have no spare
moments for any such ill-timed neatness."
We do not expect you to be always " in company order,"
as you understand that term : that would be exceedingly in-
consistent ; yet Ave could never understand why one's own
family — those whom we love, and with whom we hope to
spend our days — should not have as strong claims upon our
thoughts, time, and personal appearance as those whom we
seldom see ; and we do know that one can work, and work
hard, and yet be at all times so tidy that she need not be
mortified to be caught hy company. Let us give you a few
hints which good common-sense can easily enlarge.
When retiring at night give the hair a thorough brushing,
not only for your own comfort and to promote a healthy
condition of the hair, and remove all dust that through the
day will naturally settle in it, but also to secure greater ex-
pedition in dressing in the morning ; this done, fold it up
loosely, draw a net or very thin cap over to prevent tangling :
with tliis precaution it should not take long when you rise
to smooth and arrange it neatly, though, unfortunately,
smooth and neatly arranged hair is no longer fashionable ;
but it is hoped that while at work, even those who bow
down most subserviently to the fickle goddess, Fashion, so
arrange that no loose hairs are flying.
It is convenient to have morning-wrappers made with a
narrow ruffle round the neck of the same material as the
dress ; or, if yours are not so made, before retiring baste or pin
in a simple coUar or ruffle, that no needless time may be spent
in dressing. If you are not accustomed to a full bath every
morning, a thorough bath at night is very desirable, even if
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only a sponge bath can be obtained, and then a copious wash-
ing before dressing will occupy but a few moments. The teeth
should be well brushed, and the mouth and throat faithfully
rinsed in cold water morning and night and after each meal ;
no hurry of work should be an excuse for neglecting this duty,
if not for neatness and comfort, for health's sake. The hair
in order, face and hands washed, and teeth brushed, it will
then require but a few minutes' time longer to be ready to
leave your chamber and go to your early morning labors in
the neatest working order.
A large apron made from heavy brown or white " butchers'
linen" is much neater and more serviceable than calico or
gingham ; it does not wrinkle so easily, and if wet will not
become limp and useless so soon. The sleeve of a morning-
dress should be large enough at the bottom to be easily folded
back above the elbow and pinned up ; or, if preferred, a
deep cuff is very convenient, as during work it can be un-
buttoned and turned back in the same way. Put a button
and a loop of tape or strong cord about a quarter of a yard
apart, on four seams of the skirt at least, — before, behind,
and on each side, — so that you can loop up the dress evenly
instead of pinning it awkwardly back ; it is much neater and
in the end will save time, and certainly it keeps the dress from
being soiled at the bottom, and thus saves much washing.
Now go to work with bare arms, a large, long apron, and
dress looped up, too short to be drabbled ; and it is very sel-
dom, except in cases of uncommon accident, that one's work-
ing attire may not be kept in suitable condition to meet any
stranger or friend who may chance to call during the busy
hours of the day. With smooth hair and a clean dress, you
may consider yourself perfectly presentable ; all preparation
needed should not occupy five minutes, and no caller should
be kept waiting longer. Unpin the sleeves, unbutton the
dress where looped up, take off the apron, wash hands and
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face, and smooth the hair if need be, — that is all. To keep
a visitor waiting is not in good taste ; we tliink it inexcus-
able, unless compelled by some unusual hindrance. In that
case, send in your reasons or some apology for delay, when
the caller will either wait patiently, knowing that you could
not help it, or, if in haste, return regrets and leave. This is
far more kind and courteous than to keep any . one waiting
fifteen or twenty minutes, in haste perhaps, but not daring to
leave, because thinking each moment you will enter.
If, while preserving, or in any other way, you stain your
hands, a few drops of muriatic acid will remove the stain at
once. It is very convenient to have a bottle of this liquid
always in the house, for a black, ugly stain on the hand is a
very disagreeable sight ; but the bottle should be put in
a secure place, where children or careless servants cannot
meddle with it. It is poisonous, but perfectly safe if kept
securely and used as directed. Wet the spot with the acid,
rub quickly over the stain, and immediately wash in clear
water, else it will burn and make your hands uncomfortably
rough. After washing off the acid, give your hands a good
washing in hot soapsuds, using a nail or finger brush to clean
all round the nails, which in preserving or paring fruit are
usually badly discolored. Those brushes which have a nail-
cleaner at the top of the handle are the best. No one should
be without a finger-brush, and to none is it more indispen-
sable than to those who have the most of the family work to
do. "Wet the brush and rub soap on it ; then brush the
nails and inside of the hands with it before you finish wash-
ing them. Nothing more effectually removes the stains and
dirt, which will of course settle on the inside of the hands
when handling pots and kettles or working over the stove ;
and even if your hands are roughened by no such labor, the
nail-brush is of great service.
Often when in haste, the dress or apron is caught against a
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liook or nail, and a sad rent is made. Whatever your hurry,
do not go a moment with this accident unrepaired. If it
happens while some article is over the fire which may not
be left a moment without danger or injury, you can at least
pin up the unsightly hole. Always carry a small pincush-
ion, tilled with pins, in your pocket ; if you do not need one
yourself, somebody else may be in trouble for want of only a
pin ; and make it a point, as far as possible, to keep a needle
ready threaded near by, so that at a moment's warning you
can temporarily run up any rent made while at Avork, which,
if in your poAver, is far better than pinning it up. A big
grease spot or prominent rent on a Avoman's dress is a poor
recomrnendation, and we confess we never see them without
forming an unfavorable opinion, if a stranger, or experien-
cing a feeling of mortification and annoyance, if a friend.
A looking-glass, comb, and brush are out of place in the
kitchen, but a small glass in a back hall or entry close by,
with a shelf beneath for the comb and brush, are quite
necessary for your servants, and it is a great convenience to
have another near by for your own use, so that if hastily sum-
moned from the kitchen, you can smooth your hair, and by
the glass assure j'ourself that there is nothing untidy about
you.
There is one kind of personal neglect that we often see,
with great surprise, and quite frequently among a class of
people Avho have little to do with hard work, and no excuse
for the carelessness from lack of time. We have seen, just
above point-lace and diamonds, ears that have long been un-
acquainted with a plentiful supply of soap and Avater. A
pretty ear is very attractive to us. We always notice par-
ticularly the eye and ear in CA'ery one Ave meet ; and if we
see brown, dirty-looking streaks behind the ear, or the rim
and inside duly, with unseemly accumulations of ear-wax
remaining uncared for, — if it is on a girl Avho applies for a
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place, we would not receive her ; if on a " lady," we find ii.
hard to feel much respect for her. Unless in a desert, un-
hlessed by water, there is no manner of excuse to be found
for such neglect.
These hints may seem quite insignificant, but we cannot
think them so. Aside from the comfort and respectability
of scrupulous neatness in your own habits, you are, by your
example as you should be by your precepts, giving ideas of
neatness and order to your children and servants. But if
they see you come down in the morning with your hair in
disorder, your garments dirty or torn, shoes or boots slipshod
or imbuttoned, you may be sure your example will be very
readily imitated, and probably greatly exaggerated. If a girl
is uncleanly in her person, there is every reason to presume
she will be slatternly about her work, and particularly so
about her cooking. Therefore, if only for selfish reasons, it
is most desirable that young housekeepers should have a
high standard for personal cleanliness, and live in full
accordance with it.
LXIV.
AEE HOUSE-PLANTS INJURIOUS TO THE HEALTH ?
MES. BEECHEE : My wife and I are both attentive
readers of the ' Christian Union,' and we venture
to ask for a few words of information upon the subject of
house -plants. We are passionately fond of flowers, but
have frequently seen it stated that plants, especially flower-
ing plants, vitiate the air, rendering it unfit for breathing
purposes. Is that really true 1 We like plants in our sleep-
ing-rooms, but of course would give them up if convinced
that they were injurious to the health. We have heliotropes,
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roses, geraniums, lilies, fuchsias, and a number of other
plants. Do these render the atmosphere noxious to life and
health 1 As plants liberate oxygen and absorb carbonic gas,
we think they ought to be wholesome. Or is it the blossom
that does the mischief? Is a sweet-smelling flower poisonous 1
Will you please set us right upon this matter, and oblige
"Two Young Housekeepers."
We copy this letter entire, hoping by so doing to bring
this subject to the attention of those whose opinion and judg-
ment are of greater worth than our own. There are many
conflicting opinions concerning the efl"ect which plants
and vines, growing in the house, and filling it by day
and by night with their delightful atmosphere, have upon
the health of their worshipers. If the wise and scientific
among our readers will give this matter attentive and sober
thought, we hope to find in the multitude of counselors the
wisdom which is so much needed.
It is not very many years since physicians lifted up their
voices against this pleasant adornment of our homes, by
which some portion of the joyous summer may be wrested
from the grasp of the frost king, and which enables us
while indoors, to forget that fingers and toes are in danger
the moment we venture outside of the carefully tended par-
lor garden.
But our physicians change their opinions like other mor-
tals, and at the present time some affirm that jDlants and
vines in the house, or even in the sleeping-apartments, are
health-giving. They tell us that the carbonic gas which is
being constantly set free from our lungs, and which is detri-
mental, is at once absorbed by our flowers, while these at
the same time give to us, in exchange, the oxygen which, in
its proper place and quantity, is so necessary to health and
life.
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Other physicians assume that a growing plant is not.
noxious or in any way detrimental, but that as soon as it be-
gins to blossom it should be at once removed from a bedcham-
ber, and if allowed to remain in the house at all, should be
placed, while in bloom, as far as possible from the family
apartments.
Again, it is stated — and all these conflicting opinions, we
are told, come to us from the " best and most reliable author-
ity " — that no plant, in flower or not, is at all injurious in
any part of the house, so long as the perfume from the
blossom is not powerful and not at all offensive. " Who
shall decide when doctors disagree 1 " It seems to us very im-
portant that our learned, scientific men — those who make the
eff'ects of the various gases on life and health a careful study
— should give this question a thorough investigation, and
when, after mature research, they arrive, as they suppose, at.
- a proper conclusion, shovQd publish their opinion in simple
terms, such as all can comprehend. We should rejoice if
the conclusion of the whole matter might be such that all
could lean upon it with no fear of its proving by and by a
broken reed ; but it is difiicult to keep pace with changes in
the results of scientific investigations.
One year certain health-principles are established, the next
they are set aside for some other thing. Some articles of
food are prohibited as being very injurious, but in a few
months the prohibition is cast aside. One mode of diet is
declared pernicious, shortening the days, and making the few
that are granted undesirable. Yet, just as you are ready to
accept this theory, you are told of those who have lived well-
nigh to a hundred years, or perhaps have passed that period,
always healthful and cheerful, yet the proscribed diet or
article of food has been habitually indulged in by them.
For our own part, we find it difficult to believe that the
plants cultivated in our homes, and which so beautify and
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enliven our winters, can be injurious, provided the rooms in
which they are placed are kept ivell ventilated. In severely
cold weather it may not be advisable to open a window just
over the plants, but when windows are raised to air adjacent
rooms, where there arc no flowers, then open the doors
leading from them to the parlor, or winter garden, that the
cold breeze from witliout may sweep through the whole suite
of rooms for a few moments until the air is entirely changed.
This, even in the coldest winter, will do the plants no harm,
nor their owners either, but, on the contrary, will be very
beneficial, making both more healthy and vigorous. Many a
lady in mid-winter sits by the fire or register, yawning and
stupidly sleepy, with a dull heavy pain over the eyes fore-
boding a severe headache, who could throw off all this
torpidity, defy the headache, and rise up refreshed and
vigorous, if she would simply throw open her doors or
windows just long enough to drive out the overcharged air
in the room, and by so doing bring in exchange a pure
and invigorating atmosphere from the out-door world ; and
house-plants will be equally benefited by the same pre-
scription.
We should not think it wise to have plants in bloom in
the sleeping-apartment, unless the room was large, and the
doors so arranged as to favor frequent and complete change
of the air.
It is always desirable, just before retiring, to raise the
windows for a few moments, not only in the parlors, but in
the sleeping-apartments, particularly if they have been used
through the day as sewing-rooms. It will insure a more
refreshing sleep, and also a brighter awakening in the morn-
ing. House-plants should be placed on a stand having
castors, so that they can be easily rolled away from the
windows when opened, until the room is fully aired ; or,
if freezing cold, an old cloth kept for the purpose, or old
270 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
ne\vspapers, should be thrown over the plants to protect
them from being chilled.
Cut fioivers, we think, should not be left in a bedroom
overnight. Just before retiring, set them into a cool, dark
closet. They will keep fresh much longer by using this
precaution, and the occupants of the chamber escape any
possible injury from them. The water in which cut Howers
are put ought to be changed every night and morning, or it
will become slimy and offensive, as well as injiuious.
The love of flowers is very desirable in children, and should
be cultivated from their earliest years. For that reason, if for
no other, we should be exceedingly sorry to have any physi-
cian whose judgment we respected forbid the cultivation of
house-plants, particularly in the nursery. In that room every
bright and pretty thing should be gathered, and certainly
nothing more quickly attracts the attention of children than
a choice collection of flowers. To find these all about the
house, but especially in the nursery, — their own peculiar
domain, — secures a taste for them far more surely than to
see them kept exclusively in the green-house, or in rooms set
apart for their culture and nothing more. Yet no mother
will risk her children's health in the least degree, and if her
physician assures her flowers in any part of the house are
harmful, she will eject them at once. We do not at aU
believe they are injurious to the health, and know that
they greatly increase the happiness of those who culti-
vate them. But we are open to conviction, and if any
one of reliable judgment can bring sound reasons against
keeping these house-gardens, we should be glad to know of
them.
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LXV.
BAD BUTTER.
OF all the needless discomforts common to boarding-
houses and hotels, "we know of none so truly inexcus-
able, nor which subtracts more from one's enjoyment, than
the use of bad butter for cooking purposes. When placed
on the table in the butter-dish, if found to be imperfect or
quite unpalatable the butter can easily be rejected. To eat
good bread without butter, or, if the bread is unsatisfactory,
a fine mealy potato with a little salt, is by no means the
greatest hardship that you may be subjected to. But imagine
yourself seated at tlie table, and a large dish of fresh peas,
green and tender, brought in. You have been hoping, almost
impatiently, to see them each day, and now what a feast is
yours, in anticipation. You can hardly wait till the soup is
removed. Visions of the splendid peas, of swe^ and delicious
flavor, which you used to eat at your father's table, are float-
ing before you ; and tender remembrances of the dear hand
that then so deftly ministered to your childish appetite are
rising, until you are fast verging toward sentimentality, when
your turn comes to be helped. These peas are the first real
country peas, picked right from the vines, you have tasted
since your home was established in the city, and you eagerly
bid farewell to sentiment, and address yourself to the full
enjoyment of visible, tangible things. How you would like
to take a real big mouthful in a child-like manner ! But
you control your eagerness, and, lady-like, demurely carry
the spoon to the mouth. horrors ! Have you fortitude
and self-possession sufficient to enable you to swallow that
detestable morsel 1 Politeness and unwillingness to exhibit
your disgust to others at the table control you. With a
272 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
shuddering giili) you swallow, but hold your breath till you
snatch a piece of bread or a mouthful of water to send after,
with some faint hojje of removing the vile taste. What is it
that so disturbs you 'I Rancid butter ! Is there anything,
any taste more revolting and abominable % That delicious
dish of j)eas spoiled, irretrievably, by a spoonful of the nause-
ous abomination, manufactured by careless dairy-women,
and bought by easily gulled grocers, or by those persons pos-
sessed of india-rubber consciences, capable of stretching to
any imaginable length, who will sell this abomination for
good butter. Or it may be some sharp, managing landlady
has bought it, knowing its bad character, for economical rea-
sons. Her boarders will not eat very heartily of any dish
that is flavored with such butter, and yet they Avill be com-
pelled to eat something, even if distasteful. We know such
ideas of economy — not honesty — are common ; but board-
ers are very foolish who submit to this imposition. If they
choose, they can easily teach such unscrupulous managers
that being " penny wise and pound foolish," in the long run,
will not secure prosperity.
But you will try to judge charitably. Perhaps this was a
mistake ; and it may be that only the peas have suffered.
You will try to look cheerful and satisfied, and turn to the
nice piece of broiled chicken on your plate. Alas, alas !
Juicy and tender, broiled just right to a perfect brown, but
all destroyed by this miserably rancid butter 1 " The offence
is rank. It smeUs to heaven ! " What can you do ? Where
turn 1 Beets, beans, succotash, — that dish to Avhich, wdth
green peas, you swore allegiance in early childhood, and have
faithfully kept the vow, — all destroyed by this most vil-
lainous compound. You nibble at a bit of bread or piece
of potato, and try to wait patiently till the dessert is brought
in, for you see no alternative but to make that your princi-
pal meal. You wonder if others are as uncomfortable, but,
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conscious of the intense disgust your ftice may exhibit, fear
to look boldly around.
"Well, there is a balm for almost every woe, and here comes
the dessert ; it may bring healing for your wounded feelings.
"What a delicious-looking apple-dumpling ! This atones !
Will you take wine sauce or hard sauce 1 You don't like
wine sauce ; but the butter in the hard savice, — dare you
venture 1 Why, surely no one "will risk such butter as the
vegetables Avere seasoned with in a delicate sauce ! But one
taste is sufficient to show you that you have not yet fath-
omed the depths of economical audacity. You put back
your plate and try a bit of pie. Even into the pastry the
enemy has found entrance.
But you say, " What is one to do ] The rooms are en-
gaged for a month, and I must stay the limited time or
forfeit the price of the rooms, and that I cannot afford to
do ; yet I shall surely starve. I hardly feel that I can eat
a meal without butter. The table butter is not so intoler-
able as that used in cooking, but even that is all I can en-
dure. What can I do T' Will it not be better economy to
leave at once, and lose the rent of your rooms, rather than
stay and starve a month, or attempt to " fill the aching
void " by that which may derange your stomach, and induce
fever, dyspepsia, or other sickness, which will cost, in doc-
tors' bills, ten times the price of your rooms to eradicate 1
This great evil will never be remedied while those who
board, either regularly or only for a few Aveeks in the summer,
continue to " put up " with this discomfort as one of the ills
of life which mtcst be borne. Let it be once fully understood
that all boarders — aU who frequent fashionable resorts —
are fixed in their determination to endure this cruel imposi-
tion no longer, and that as soon as they find poor butter is
a part of the regular diet, and good butter only an occasional
luxury, they will at once leave, and we think the hotels and
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274 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
boarding-liouses will soon find means to procure a good
article. Let this class of purchasers alone refuse to buy any
but the best, and the large number of poor butter makers will
soon be taught the necessity of gi'eater carefulness in their
dairies.
Bad butter is entirely a needless discomfort. The fault
begins, of course, with the manufacturers. They have no
excuse, as a general thing. Once in a great while, there may
be a reason for a few pounds of poor butter in the dairy,
which, though it should be a source of regret, is not neces-
sarily a disgrace. Sickness in the family may sometimes
compel the overtaxed housekeeper to neglect the dairy, or
leave it for a short time in incompetent hands, who, either
indolently or ignorantly, fail to give the milk-pans a thor-
ough scalding, or leave the cream too long on the milk and
too long unchurned, who do not understand salting or work-
ing over the butter ; but in such cases no one with any self-
respect will allow the butter to leave their own house. If at
all usable, they will sooner submit to the disagreeable neces-
sity of using it for their own food, or put it at once into the
only place where poor butter has any right to be, — the soap-
grease pot ; anything rather than do themselves the dis-
credit, and their customers the injustice, of sending it into
the market. That is a species of meanness that should be
considered unpardonable ; and just as soon as the grocer
learns that his customers will not, under any consideration,
buy poor butter of him, and the dairy-men understand that
-the grocer will not look at any but the very best, this mis-
chief will be rooted out, " the plague be stayed " ; poor but-
ter makers will find their occupation gone, and leave the field '
to more conscientious and more competent manufacturers, or
at once, from self-interest, if not from self-respect, resolutely
set about securing instruction, and learn the only way to
make good butter. This is easily done ; care, neatness, and
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good judgment are all that is requisite after the mode of
operation is understood, and the preliminary steps are simple
and easily taken. It is a marvel that this nuisance has been
so long tolerated. It is just as easy to make good butter as
poor. It is simply want of neatness or deficiency of judg-
ment that fills our markets with a miserable preparation that
is only fit for soap-grease or the pigs.
First, take care that your cows are not allowed food that
wUl afiect the taste of the milk, — such as turnips, cabbage,
or onions ; then the cows' bags and the milkers' hands
must be washed perfectly clean before beginning to milk ;
any dirt or bad flavor from the cow's bag or the hands,
that may find its way into the milk-pail, will taint the
milk and injure the flavor of the butter ; for it should be
borne in mind constantly, that there is nothing that receives
any foreign taste so readily as butter.
Next, all the utensils — pails, strainers, pans, skimmers,
churn, butter-bowl, and ladles — must be kept as sweet and
clean as scalding water and a hot sun can make them. The
cream, even in the coldest weather, must not be allowed to
remain on the milk over thirty-six hours, and in warm
weather even less. In hot days remove the cream as soon as
the mill?; begins to sour : none will rise after the milk
changes. Although it will, of course, become thicker by
souring, it does not follow that it will be any better ; on the
contrary, every moment the cream is left on sour milk takes
from the sweetness, quality, and purity of the butter. In
churning, the motion should be even, not too rapid, and,
when gathered, the butter mu.st be well worked over and
salted, and set on the ice, or in a place so cool that it will
soon harden and keep so ; but be sure that no meat, fish,
fruit, or vegetables are put in the milk-room or cellar, —
nothing from which the milk or butter will contract any
taste. It will require a second salting the next morning, to
276 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
renioA^e Avliat buttermilk may be left from the first working.
One of the great merits of the Blanchard churn is the facil-
ity with which the buttermilk can be freed from the butter,
as the less manipulation the better for the butter, provided
you secure entire freedom from buttermilk
Many put in a little saltpetre, to make the butter hard
and firm, — a bad practice, we think, not only because it
gives a slightly unpleasant taste to the butter, but also
because it may prove injurious to the consumer. A butter
pail or pot, perfectly sweet, should be well rubbed Avith salt,
and the butter be packed in it, and well pounded down so as
to leave no air-holes ; then cover the butter an inch deep
with brine strong enough to bear up an egg, and put to the
hrine two table-spoonfuls of pulverized saltpetre. This will
help to keep the butter sweet and hard ; and, used in the
brine, Avill neither impart any acrid taste to the butter nor
be in the least degree unhealthful.
These rules strictly followed by our dairy-women, we are
confident that there will be no complaints of had butter,
but the comfort and happiness of the consumers be greatly
increased, and the labor of the butter-makers in nowise aug-
mented thereby.
"We lately saw a receipt for keeping dairy utensils pure
and sweet, which we mean to try, as we think it cannot but
be advantageous. Keep close by the table on wMch the
milk things are washed " a small tub or a hogshead, accord-
ing to the size of your dairy. In this, slack some good
quicklime, enough to make a thin whitewash ; fill with
water, cover closely to keep out dirt and dust. The lime
will settle, leaving a saturated solution of lime-water over it,
as clear as spring water. Wash the utensils as usual ; then
dip each article into the cask of lime-water, giving them a
quick turn, so that every part shall be immersed in the lime-
Avater, then set them up to drain and dry, and the purifica-
OCTOBER. 277
tion is complete." We presume in the case of a churn,
cheese-tub, cheese-press, or other large article, that pouring
the lime-water over it will answer the purpose just as well,
though using the lime-water up sooner than by dipping into
the cask.
The lime in the clear water instantly neutralizes the
acidity of the milk which may yet remain in the cracks or
seams of the milk-vessels. The lime keeps the water pure
all summer, and the waste and evaporation may be made up
by adding clear water when needed, as the lime settled at
the bottom will keep up the strength of the saturated solu-
tion.
LXVI.
OCTOBER.
THE brilliant hues in the mountains, the falHng leaves
in the lanes (over Avhich the horses' feet make such
sweet yet melancholy music), remind us that October, the
brightest, dearest month in the whole year, has come ; but
while we rejoice in anticipation of the glorious hours it
promises, we must not forget that during these mild, invigo-
rating days our houses must be set in order properly to meet
the sharp November weather, which is close at hand, and
the fiercer blasts of winter which will follow.
N^ow the frosty nights and cool days will soon relieve us
from the plague of flies, Avhich have by their unconquerable
impertinence so perplexed and disheartened all good house-
keepers through the summer ; at least we may promise this
relief, if they are hunted every night and morning from the
dark corners where they delight to hide at the first ap-
278 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
proach of frost. Attack them every evening with brash and
iDroom, driving them ovit doors into the cold night-air, clos-
ing doors and Avindows after them, and a few frosty nights
will rid you of this evil for the winter. After each battle
sweep up all the dead and disabled and burn them, that
from out of the pile which you will have gathered no stunned
or crippled fly may be ready to rise up against you with the
morning sun. As the cold increases they become stupid and
less active, and huddle together in masses on the ceiling or
windows, where they cling, too stiff and torpid to shun your
approach, thus affording a good opportunity to brush down and
destroy them in large quantities. If up each morning before
the sun, as every good housekeeper should be, you will have
another favorable time to remove them ; but if both night '
and morning these opportunities for banishing your enemies
have been neglected, you will find as soon as the fires are
kindled, or the bright warm October sun shines through
your windows, they will come out from their hiding-places
and be just as busy through the day, and far more annoy-
ing, than in July and August. If you have been vigilant,
the frost and snow, combined with your unwearied skir-
mishes, will soon set you free, and the flies be remembered
only as trials of the past ; and through the winter, at least,
you may hope to rest from your laboi-s in this particular
direction.
But never imagine that you can sit down in idleness ;
as the flies are routed, or on the retreat, you will find
yourself beset with ivasjjs. During the chHly September
clays they begin to seek for winter quarters. They are well
content for the most part to weave their summer nests away
from the house, in trees and shrubbery ; but as cold weather
approaches they are prone to select some snug retreat under
the rafters of the barn or the eaves of the house or attics.
They like to curl up in large masses inside the window-
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blinds on the east or south side of the house, where they
remain too torpid to stir at your approach, until the sun pours
in its warm flood of light, to wake them to life and activity.
Wherever they are thus found massed together, if at all
within reach, be sure and spare no effort to destroy them
early in the morning, while in this torpid condition. It is
very easy then to kill them : take a pitcher of boiling-hot
water, raise the window carefully and pour it over them ; or
if nested close on the window-glass, pour it down between the
upper and lower sash and it wUl destroy large quantities of
them instantly. The few stragglers that were only slightly
touched with the hot water will not be vigorously active, and
you can easily brush them into a pail or dust-pan and burn
them. Unless you take some such method of remo\T.ng the
wasps, it is not safe to raise your windows to air your rooms
and let in morning air and sun, as they will be sure to
seek shelter in the chamber instead of remaining inside the
window-blind, because as the sun warms their lodgings they
become quite lively ; and, once in the room, should they
crawl in under the pillows and sheets, a favorite shelter
for them, the warmth of your body at night would most
probably rouse them, and they might disturb your slumber
in a manner hj no means agreeable.
It is unfortunate that wasps often attack without provoca-
tion ; and such applicants for winter shelter should be de-
stroyed as effectually as possible, especially when there are
children about. Their stings are bad enough for an adidt to
bear, but it is piteous to see a child suffer from them ; be-
cause to the pain is added a terror not easily controlled. ]N"ot-
withstanding the utmost vigilance, some may so skillfully se-
crete themselves that your first knowledge of their presence wQl
be a sting. Every one should keep a speedy antidote in the
house, and nothing gives so thorough and instantaneous re-
lief as cut tobacco, — the only thing that we know of that it is
280 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
good for. We never fail to have a paper close at hand, where
every one in the house knows where to find it. Wet a small
qimntity of it and lay at once on the spot stung, holding it
on tightly for three or four minutes, and the pain and swell-
ing wiU be at once removed.
These annoyances disposed of, you can noAv commence a
thorough house-cleaning, and at once begin to remove all
the marks by which the flies have disfigured your house
and furniture, and disturbed your peace through the warm
weather.
No good housekeeper will allow the glorious October days
to beguile her into forgetfulness so far as to neglect house-
cleaning until the raw and chilly JSTovember weather is upon
her, and winter is close at hand. October is by far the best
month for fall house-cleaning, not only because the flies are
disposed of, or so far under your control that they can be kept
out of the house, but also because the Aveather is usually not so
warm that such work is exhausting and severe, nor so cold
that the necessary exposure chills ; the cleaning can be accom-
plished with more comfort and less fatigue than in any other
month of the year.
During the summer all the small fruits have been plenti-
fully supplied, and later, peaches, pears, and grapes have
furnished much enjoyment and many luxuries ; but all these
good things levy a tax upon us in some shape or another,
generally defacing furniture or lea"\dng ugly stains on our
clothes or table-linen. The clear, frosty nights that we may
soon look for will aid materially in eradicating the stains ;
but the injury done to furniture, especially articles with mar-
ble tops, requires a different treatment.
Fruit stains may be removed from linen, without in any
way injuring the fabric, by rubbing yellow soap on both sides
of the stained spots ; then wet some starch in cold water or in
lemon-juice to a tlaick paste, and spread over the soap ; rub this
OCTOBER. 28:1
starcli-paste into the cloth thoroughly, and expose the linen
to sun and air till the stains disappear. If they do not entirely
go in three or four days, repeat the application. This is
for stains that have been in some days ; if taken when fresh
stained there is little trouble in removing them. Hold the
stained place over a bowl and pour on hoiiing water ; let it
filter through slowly, pouring on the water gradually till the
stain disappears ; then lay the article in the hot sun for an
hour or two, when it may be washed and ironed. The water
used must be really boiling, and the stain fresh made, not
dried in for days, for this remedy to be efficient. As by this
mode one avoids all danger of injuring the texture of the cloth,
it is worth while to take a little trouble at once and save the
linen instead of waiting until quite dry. Bleaching liquids,
chlorate of lime, Javelle water, and maiiy other preparations,
are good if carefully used.
"When marble is stained with fruit, oxalic acid diluted
with water, or oil of vitriol and water, rubbed on the stain
and left a few minutes, will remove the spot ; but they must
be used with care, for if left on too long they will destroy the
polish of the marble. Eub off very dry, and polish with
chamois-skin.
There are a multitude of receipts for removing stains both
from linen and marble, but very many, although they re-
move the stains, are liable to remove the cloth also, or in
marble destroy the polish ; others are useful, and in time
our readers shall have them.
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LXVII.
THE SLAVEEY OF FASHION.
''"TXT^OEN" OUT/' " Overtaxed," " Used xip'' ''Too tired
VV for anythiiuj," are expressions daily heard from
mothers and housekeepers ; and the languid step, pale, care-
worn face, and heavy eyes bear witness that these are not
foolish, unmeaning words, but all too near the truth for safety.
Most are ready to recognize the fact that half the feebleness
and ill health among women arises from over-exertion while
attempting to carry burdens too weighty for the constitution.
Yet how much of this is needless, in no wise increasing the
comfort or happiness of the family circle, but, in every
department of household labor, the result of blind, unreason-
ing adherence to the dictates of fashion. Look backward
but one half-century. Are those of us who require three or
four servants to keep the household machinery in working or-
der any happier than our mothers were 1 We turn from our
fashionable cooking and elaborately served tables with long-
ing for the simpler yet most excellent cooking of the olden
time, when one servant was sufficient, and often none at all
was required ; the mother, with her little daughters round
her, preferring to do all the work without a servant, that she
might herself teach her young girls the lessons of domestic
economy as none but a mother can teach them.
Was all that labor more wearing to health and strength
than the cruel bondage in which we live, while laboring to
secure, from servants, the care and efficient work absolutely
necessary to the present style of living 1 With how much
more appetite we partook of the plainly cooked and more
healthful food in those days, undisturbed by the bustle and
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confusion of many courses, or the constant attendance of a
waiter, whose eyes and ears are usually more observing of the
little pleasantries and freedom of the family circle than of
the service which a fashionable style demands, and whose
tongue is ready to retail all that is said or done at our table,
and " with additions strange." The meal finished, the labor
of clearing away and washing the many dishes now required
is fourfold what was demanded in the times of more simple
and pleasure-giving customs, to say nothing of the reckless
heedlessness and destruction fostered by the haste necessary
to be ready for the next formal meal.
But the slavery of providing for the table is nothing in
comparison with the over-exertion which fashionable dress
exacts. Even if the labor of the olden time was burden-
some, and time and strength too heavily taxed, yet the
exercise of the whole body, and frequent opportunities of
breathing fresh out-door air, which housework compels, were
far more likely to secure firm health than can be hoped for
if one sits for hours bending over ruffling and trimmings,
thereby restricting the proper action of the lungs, and strain-
ing the eyes until they become weak and prematurely old.
In many cases this must all be done Avithout help, for few,
comparatively, can afford to hire a seamstress, and yet be
able to spend money as lavishly on such elaborate dress as
the present monstrous style demands. But we are not sure
that even that herculean task is as injurious to health and
happiness as the severe strain on strength, nerves, and temper,
which those ladies whose purses are always full experience
in traversing the city, roaming from store to store, in their
anxiety to secure the first and newest style, and at the
same time torturing themselves lest, after all this labor, they
should misjudge or be beguiled into wrong selections. With
this fear ever present, they repeat those tiresome journeys
day after day, making themselves disagreeable and uncom-
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fortable, and exhausting the wonderful long-suffering and
patience of the shopkeepers before they can decide which of
all the many patterns they will purchase.
But the material being at last selected, can they now rest
from their labors 'I Ah, no ! their trials are but just begun.
The ruling power in the fashionable world — the dress-
maker — condescends to acknowledge that the articles se-
lected are all satisfactory, though twenty or even thirty
yards are hardly enough for a full dress (our mothers looked
very fine and far more inviting and graceful with but ten
yards in their dresses). But now comes the great struggle.
How shall the dress be made 1 Mrs. has twelve small
frills or flounces around her skirt, and a train two feet long-;
then there must be a bustle " ever so bi^^," over which falls a
pannier, with puffs, bows, buttons innumerable, bands, folds,
and — mercy ! we are getting beyond our depth, for we can-
not possibly understand all the terms given to the piles upon
piles of strange " fixings " which go to make up the whole of
that most abominable deformity called a fashionable dress.
But the poor harassed devotee has them all at her tongue's end,
for her heart is full of them. If Mrs. has a dozen ruffles
or puffs, she will not be outdone, but will have eighteen or
twenty, and a bustle twice as big, which shall extend her
overskirt and all its puffs and bands twice as far ; and ever so
many more dozen buttons all over, — above, below, before,
behind, between tJae frills or bows, — anyivhere, so that Mrs.
's trimmings are surpassed. " But, truly, now, dear
madam, is this the very latest style '? Is n't there something
just a little newer ? " And then another discussion begins,
anxious, nervous, and trembling, lest some one should be
a little ahead of her in style. The poor slave spends many
precious hours before she dares to decide on the pattern. But
at last that question is settled ; and now another trouble
assails her. The arrogant dress-maker well understands the
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power these devotees of fashion have vested in her hands,
and her victims, prond, sensitive, and overbearing perhaps
to all others, must bow to her will and caprices. She will
take her own time to finish the work.
" r>ut, madam ! I mast have it for this party, before
any one else has this new style."
She pleads in vain. Xo coaxing will avail. She must
await the despot's will, and spend hours or days excited
and unhappy, fearing that the dress will not be finished in
season for the party. And when at last it comes, look at it !
"VA'c could laugh, were we not ashamed to think that women
can be so absurd. What can be more uncouth, ungraceful,
or deforming than a lady dressed in the extreme of fashion,
or indeed with but half the absurdities that are daily seen.
A camel, with its hump and peculiar gait, is graceful com-
pared with the figures witli frowzy hair, dresses puffed and
looped up over a "bustle, that we see stooping and tottering
on high-heeled boots, or with the additional incumbrance of
a long trail, sweeping through our parlors, and, at the slight-
est beck of fashion, drabbling through the mud.
Will our women never learn that they are giving health
and strength, almost life, " for that which satisfieth not " 1
Once in a while, when the bondage has pressed too heavily,
and they sink exhausted on a sick-bed, some few wake to a
dreamy kind of consciousness of their folly ; or a mother,
who has endeavored to make her little girl as " fine as the
finest," is prostrated by giving her strength for this ab-
surd Avaste of time and comfort, and begins to see that
there is a better way she can manifest her love for her
child.
A year or two ago we received a letter, from which we
will copy a few sentences : —
" I have been trying to get away to the country with my
family of two little girls and the baby ; and, that they
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might appear in as fine feathers as any other birds, have
overworked and gone to bed sick, instead of being seated in
a nice parlor-car, inhahng the pure country air, as we whirl
along, away from the city When I was a girl, we
wore our own hair ; and a white muslin dress, with a fresh
ribbon for a sash, Avas all that was needed for the largest
party. And how we did enjoy ourselves, and life ! The
elderly people talked, or played whist, while the young ones
danced right merrily the old, square cotillion, Virginia reel,
etc. ; and mirth and pleasure was the finale of many a day
whose early hours had been given to domestic duties, which
then were shared by all at home. One day with a dress-
maker, and no machine, made a dress entire, without fatigue.
The " artiste " was often a lady like ourselves, and sat at the
same board, and did her work conscientiously, while the
day she passed with us was no dreaded ordeal, but rather a
pleasure to look forward to
" Well, to-day, lying on my bed, overtaxed and over-
worked, I have been thinking of these things, and then of
other mothers, who, like myself, spend all their strength in
toil, and he awake all night, ' too tired to sleep ' ; and so
employ the wakeful hours in planning work for another day,
using up as fast as possible the precious gift of life, which
the good Father above gave to us."
Now, why can Ave not be content to live happily and
easily ? I speak not of the sorrows that from time to time
come upon us, when the heart bleeds, and the wounds quiver
long; for the deep scars which tell where the strain was
hardest, tell also of the healing which He who scourges
never fails to bring. God did it.
But the toil of sorrow and care we make for ourselves
have no promise of His relieving. The slavery of fashion,
which so often leads to sin, cannot be carried to his throne,
and left there for a blessing. Will not some one tell us
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some practical way to begin a reform, to release us from a
bondage which is becoming intolerable ?
It may be to have one ruffle less ; to tuck more sparsely
the flounce of even the innermost petticoat, or to sew one
yard less edging on a baby's shirt. But whatever and
wherever the lesson, I pray you begin it at its A B C ; and
as it advances, I have faith to believe that headaches will
be lessened, " prostrations " less nervous, appetites and sleep
more regular, and women lift their heads like the flowers
after the rain, glad and grateful.
We had something to say of the injury done to our little
children by this early training in devotion to fashion ; but
we must leave that for another time.
LXVIII.
PICKLING AND PRESERVING.
IN the preliminary steps to almost all new enterprises
there are " lions in the way," from which it is very natu-
ral, at first, to shrink back with at least a partial discourage-
ment ; and, as a general thing, the two most formidable
" lions " which cross the young housekeeper's path are pic/ding
and preservmg ; that is, if she has not, before marriage,
taken part in this work, under her mother's supervision.
We hear more complaints and repining in this direction than
in any other. Time, strength, and money, it is affirmed, are
spent in earnest endeavors to succeed ; but the time and
strength are given in vain, and the money is wasted ; so their
failures compel them to believe. The pickles become slimy
and moldy ; the jelly won't harden ; the sweetmeats fer-
ment ; ^e canned fruit turns sour. In short, " the troubles
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and ' trials," writes one, " incident to this portion of house-
keeping are enough, to make young girls forswear matrimony,
and go into a convent ; only they never will believe in these
trials until they are hound ; and then, instead of a convent, a
hoarding- house would seem the only alternative, if they would
escape manifold vexations ; for if a young housekeeper do not
succeed in all her duties, but particularly with her pickles
and preserves, ' Mrs. Grundy ' is sure to go prying about, and
expose every failure, and these failures are attributed to shift-
lessness, instead of misfortune."
We have great sympathy for any one in her first attempt
to manage this portion of fall labor, unless able to secure the
support of some judicious friend familiar with all the minu-
tiae necessary to accomplish it creditably. Courage, self-reli-
ance, and a resolute will are of very great advantage, and can
itsually carry one successfully through most difficulties ; but
experience is, after all, a wonderful assistant in securing suc-
cess, — in " making crooked places straight, and the rough
places smooth " and easy. Our household journals and pa-
pers are full of instructions and receipts for preparing every
kind of pickles and preserves ; but with all these valuable
aids, it will require several experiments, in most cases, before
a beginner can feel that the difficulty is mastered, and this
work stripped of all mystery ; once successfully done, how-
ever, it becomes as simple as making bread, pastry, or cake.
Still, we cannot but think that too much time and
strength are expended in private families on some parts of
this labor. Since this kind of work is done on a large scale,
and these luxuries so cheaply procured in the many excel-
lent establishments arranged expressly for the business, and
wliich have reduced the various operations to the simplest and
easiest forms, we feel confident that housekeepers might re-
lieve themselves of this part of their cares, and be none the
poorer for it ; certainly this is true as far as canned fAits and
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preserves are concerned. It is but reasonable to suppose that
in these large manufactories, with every appliance and con-
venience to secure the most perfect and expeditious work, in
many articles they can equal, if not surpass, the most expert
cook or housekeeper.
The regular, old-fashioned preserve, with " a pound of
sugar to a pound of fruit," is much less used since the system
of canning fruit, and thus retaining the natural flavor, has
been introduced. This is certainly more healthful, and to
most tastes more palatable, than the rich preserves. The per-
son must be fastidious indeed who could ask for any sweetmeat
more delicious than the pears, peaches, cherries, and plums
that now fill our markets and groceries, and there can be no
doubt that for those who must buy the fruit, and take the
labor and risk of canning it, it is far more economical to buy
it from the factories or grocers ready canned. Even when one
has the privilege of raising one's own fruit, if it can be sold
with reasonable profit we think it questionable if there is
anything saved — any real economy — in canning the fruit at
home, instead of buying it. For those who have leisure,
and do not find it important to be very exact in economizing
strength or money, it is all very well to do everything of
this kind at home. To many whose time hangs heavily on
their hands, — and, mythical as it seems, we suppose there
are such, — preserving as much as they can of every variety
of fruit, even to the absurdity of using watermelon-rinds
and cucumbers, is, perhaps, a real pleasure. Though, while
books are to be obtained, and fine flowers and beautiful
scenery to be seen, we cannot comprehend how one can
spend time in this work, simply for the enjoyment of it.
But it is all well enough if it gives pleasure ; and doubtless
articles prepared Avith one's own hands have a flavor more
acceptable than when they are bought ready for use. But to
all housekeepers whose minutes are precious, these labor-
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saving manufactories are a great blessing, and the slight dif-
ference that may be recognized in the excellence of the
article, when compared with the home-made, is not to be
noticed when we remember the additional time and ease, to
say nothing of health, one secures by buying preserves and
canned fruit from reliable establishments.
Whether these ideas hold good with regard to pickles,
may be somewhat doubtful. We cannot but think that the
large amount of spices, now so much used in making pickles,
is injurious to the health; even the simplest kind, we
are inclined to believe, should be used with moderation ;
and as the imported pickles, and those prepared in the man-
ufactories in this country, are often compounded with arti-
cles known to be injurious, it is safer to make whatever is
required in the way of pickles, whether mixed or plain, at
home, under your own eyes. Some of the various kinds of
vinegar now in use, and largely employed in the factories
for pickles, is very injurious. The process of " greening "
pickles is carried on with most reckless disregard of health.
A bottle of small, delicately-greened pickles is very attractive
to those who do not know the poison hidden in them.
Cider vinegar of the purest quality is the best. But in
the process of making, if pickles are soaked or boiled in
a brass kettle, they are poisoned by the verdigris, or acetate
of copper, which is formed by the action of the vinegar on
the brass. Acid dissolves the lead that there is in the tin-
ning of saucepans, and corrodes copper and brass, and if it
remains in such vessels any length of time the vinegar be-
comes very injurious. For these reasons metal kettles
should be discarded in making pickles. When necessary to
boil vinegar, use a stone jar on the stove, and also use
wooden spoons and forks. Most suppose that the delicate
green cannot be obtained without the use of alum in the
brine, and in this brine they must be soaked, boiled, and
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allowed to cool in a brass kettle half a day. They claim
that by thus soaking, the skin is acted upon by the metal, or
acetate of copper, and by soaking afterward in hot water
this poison can be so far removed as to be no longer inju-
rious. It is said that if soaked long enough in the brass to
bring out the full green, pickles would be dangerously poi-
soned ; and that one can tell if this has been done by the
clear, light green color ; but if, after soaking in the alum and
brine, in brass, half a day, and then being removed and
soaked in hot water, the action of the heat turns them a
dark grass green, the poison is destroyed. This may be so,
but we prefer pickles made green without the help of brass,
or not green at all. There are Avays by which all adultera-
tions may be discovered. The chemist would find no diffi-
culty in ascertaining ; but very few of those most interested
— our housekeepers — are competent, even if they have
time or inclination, to examine these things scientifically,
and therefore it is well to insure against harm in domestic
manufacture by having it fully understood that metal kettles
of every kind should be discarded.
The many kinds of sweet pickles that have become com-
mon within a few years are, we imagine, less liable to de-
range the stomach than such as are spiced. higMy, and pre-
pared mainly with vinegar. The mixed pickles — piccalilli,
Indian pickle, Bengal pickle or chutney, and the Chow
Chow — are all fiery, and must require an uncommonly strong
digestion to be eaten without injury.
But each one must judge for himself. Pickles of all kinds
will always be in use, no doubt, and it is well for every
housekeeper to know how they are made. Pickles should be
always kept covered with vinegar, and if at any time there
are indications of their becoming moldy, boil up the vinegar
again, adding more spice. Have the jar two thirds full of
pickles, and one third full of vinegar. Keep the jar closely
stopped, as exposure to the air will make them soft.
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In greening pickles (for they can be greened enough with-
out brass) keep them closely covered while the hot vinegar is
on them, so that none of the steam may evaporate. Boil
them only four or five minutes, or it will take away their
strength, and they will soon become soft.
LXIX.
WHAT HAS BECOME OF ALL THE LITTLE GIRLS ?
"TT'T'E look in vain into many pleasant homes, or into
V V the streets, cars, or steamers, for what was once a
common sight, and was then, and ever must be, the sweetest
object in nature, — a simple, artless little girl with all the
pretty, unaffected ways and manners of iinsophisticated child-
hood, fresh and beautiful, about her. There is no lack of
small beings, dressed in such a marvelous style that Darwin
himself would be puzzled to make out the class to which they
belong ; but we find nothing to remind us of the little girls
we used to know, either in dress or manners.
In former times a pretty muslin bonnet or a simple close-
fitting cottage straw was thought the most appropriate cover-
ing for a little head, protecting the bright eyes from too
intense light, and shielding the rosy cheeks from the sun's too
fervid kisses ; but now, leaving eyes and cheeks entirely un-
protected, we see something placed on the sunny curls, which
is elaborately trimmed with bows, feathers, a flower-garden, or
perhaps a mingling of both ; for, although it is too small for
even a good-sized doll, the milliner, with an ingenuity which
would have been praiseworthy if exercised in a more sensible
manner, has contrived to pile up trimming enough to hide
even the faintest suspicion of a bonnet. But, what is sadder
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than the lack of true taste and good common-sense in this
styHsh affair, we see no semblance of childlike simplicity in
the wearer. And the bonnet is but the beginning of this
unfortunate change winch we mourn ; the pretty hahy ivaist,
the plain white dress, the neat muslin or merino, so appro-
priate, which little girls used to wear, are supplanted by in-
comprehensible garments, the fac-shnile of the grand dame's
attire ; flounces, fringes, bows, and double skirts looped and
festooned in an astounding manner ; the child's — no, we
mean the young lady's — height (there are no children in these
days) is less than her circumference. This dress is put on
over a hoop, and the " mite " who is made to carry such an
incongruous burden totters about on high-heeled boots. This
tiny specimen of womanhood, hardly weaned from her
mother's breast, or, more probably, a wet-nurse's, shakes out
her redundant robes, bending and twisting her small body in
grotesque imitation of the women spoken of by the Prophet
Isaiah, " with haughty mien, walking and mincing as they
go." See how the little ape looks over her shoulders as she
tottles about, to be sure that her hoops give her dress and
figure the correct wiggle her sharp eyes have observed in the
stylish mother and her fashionable friends. It is lamentable
that all the simplicity and beauty of babyhood and child-
hood should be destroyed by fashion.
Added to the absurdity of the dress, these little women
attempt to discourse on the " latest style " \ ■with their com-
panions or dolls you will hear them imitating the discussions
on this subject that they daily hear in the parlor or nursery
from their mother ; or, still imitating, with a contemptuous
toss of their little heads, they will inform their listeners that
they "couldn't think of 'sociating with those girls, because
they are not stylish ! "
A few days since, as we passed out of a store on Broadway,
our attention was arrested by the conversation of two little
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figures seated in a fine carriage, waitiiag, doubtless, fur mam-
ma to finish, her shopping. They were dressed in a style
positively overwhelming : their hats were wonders of skill ;
their gloves had the orthodox number of buttons, with
bracelets over them ; a dainty handkerchief, suspended from
a ring attached by a chain to another ring on the little doU-like
fingers, — the dress was simply indescribable. The elder
was speaking to the younger, who, scarcely more than a baby,
sat demurely by her side : " 0, mercy, just look at that
horrid little girl who is crossing the street ! she has no hoops
on, and not a single flounce ; no trimming at all on her dress !
and, oh, see her gloves ; she has only one button ! Pshaw,
she 's nobody, — not a bit of style ! "
The younger lisped a reply, which we lost as we passed
on ; but it was painful to think of the training they must
have received which enabled them at that early age to judge
a child of their own years so quickly by the rules of fashion-
able dress, and because her attire was not in exact accordance
with that week's style, turn from her with contempt as
something too low for their notice.
Then, again, how soon a child, taught by daily precept and
example, learns to watch her little companions with envious
or exultant feeling, as the case may be ! How quickly she
begins to grow hoUow-hearted and deceitful ; receiving, as
she sees her elders do, a companion with open arms or a
welcoming smile ; expressing the greatest affection, but the
moment she leaves begin to criticise or make unkind re-
marks.
" I don't like JSTellie one bit, mamma ; she 's such a proud,
stuck-up thing ! I suppose she thought I should feel bad
'cause her dress had more trimming, and was a little newer
style than mine. I did n't let her know that I noticed it.
But I do think it real mean, mamma, that she should have
nicer things than mine. Papa is twice as rich as her father.
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It made me mad to see her show off her dress ; and she kept
looking at mine and sister's in such a Avay."
" I hope, my dear, you were poKte to NelHe."
" yes ! but, mamma, I was awful glad when she left ;
though I was just as smiling and pleasant as could be to
her face."
" That 's a good girl. You must always be very polite and
cordial to your companions, you know. But I must say I
think Nellie was quite vain ; and you must never show that
you are proud of your clothes. I shall go out to-morrow and
get you that pretty dress you teased so for, I think ! "
" mamma, I am so glad ! And as soon as it is made
I '11 go right over and call on Nellie. "Won't she feel bad
when she sees my new dress ! It will be ever so much
prettier than hers."
And the mother smiled complacently, with never a
thought of the wicked feelings she was cultivating in her
child. mothers ! how can you be so blind ! Both by
precept and example you are teaching your children to make
urcss their idol, and to know very little of anything but that
which pertains to fashion ; to be envious or contemptuous of
their little friends and companions, according as they are
dressed better or worse than themselves. Can you ever reflect
that God did not commit such treasures to your keeping
without meaning some day to call upon you to render up the
account of your stewardship 1 What can you say, when asked
how you have trained the young souls given to your care 1
Can you reply, " We have been instant in season and out of
season in teaching them," — what 1 To work for the good of
others ; to learn to do right ; in all simplicity to love and obey
the Saviour, who, taking a little child in his arms, said, " Of
such is the kingdom of heaven." Of such ? Ah, no ! Not
of such children as those ; you are training to avoid, not evil
communications, but unfashionable companions ; to look on
the outward adorning, and not on the heart.
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But it is not alone the worldly-minded who make no pre-
tence to any higher law than their own selfish gratification,
who bow the knee to fashion. Christian mothers, are you
guiltless 1 Think of the time, the health and strength given
to dress ; the bondage which compels you to pervert all
real taste, to do violence to your own natural instincts of
neatness and true elegance, and accept the absurdities of
fashion, simply because the ruling style requires it. If you
are thus influenced and beguiled, do you flatter yourselves
that your children will not, from their earliest years, regard
such homage as important ] We do not think it wrong to
dress neatly and in as good taste as possible. "We blame
none for giving so much thought to their own dress and
their children's as to provide those articles that are appropri-
ate and becoming to the different styles of face, figure, and
complexion. It is natural, and we think right, for a mother
to dress her darlings as neatly and prettily as she can, with-
out unnecessary waste of time and strength; but we do
think it sin to spend money and time lavishly in following
the dictates of fashion, and not of good taste and common-
sense ; no one pretends to believe that there is either of
these in the present style of dressing. It is utterly destitute
of grace ; is ridiculous to the last degree ; but fashion com-
pels, and women — Christian women — obey, and teach their
little daughters like obedience ! 0, the money, time, and
strength given to destroy, by the absurdities of fashionable
dress, every vestige of beauty and grace which God gave
you. in your little ones ! Take the week through, hour by
hour, do you not give more time and thought to your own
and your children's dress than you can spare for your Mas-
ter's service % Do not your children gather from your daily
walk and conversation that to be fashionably dressed is of
more hnportance than loving and serving the Saviour, who
died for them and you 1 Judging by your daily conversa-
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tion, which will they think of the greatest importance, the
service of God, or devotion to fashion 1 To which do they see
you giving the largest part of your time, the adorning of
their little bodies, — " the plaiting the hair, the wearing of
gold, and putting on of apparel," — or in teaching them that
Avhich is not changeable, " not corn;ptible, even the orna-
ment of a meek and quiet spirit, which is, in the sight of
God, of great price " 1 What can you say, fashionable Chris-
tian mother, when He calls you to give an account of your
stewardship '?
LXX.
PROCRASTINATION.
AN inclination to put off till to-morrow that which were
more appropriately done to-day seems quite natural
to almost every one, but it is one of the symptoms of deprav-
ity, and the earlier it is fought and conquered the better.
There are some sensible mothers whose constant endeavor is
to prevent this habit from gaining a foothold in their chil-
dren's characters. From earliest childhood they watch and
nip it in the bud. Those who have lived an active life — ■
every moment claiming its own special work — are the
mothers who can best train their children to understand the
full value of the prompt, regular performance of each duty,
however small.
" Come, little one, it is time to get up." The child is
perhaps disinclined, thinks one more little nap would be
comfortable. But it is time to prepare for breakfast, and
what is gained by delay is nothing but the first lesson in
selfish indulgence and procrastination. The child does
not need it. If it went to bed, as it sliould have done,
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when the birds folded their heads under their wings, it re-
quires no more sleep. A few gentle words or caresses will
soon chase all traces of slumber from those bright eyes,
and the little one, merry as the birds, is soon ready for
breakfast.
"While children are very young begin this education, and
see that it is distinctly understood that no excuse but illness
can avail. They must be up at a given hour, and by the
time they are twelve years old you will find it difficult to
keep you little girls and boys in bed beyond the regular time.
You have thus established a habit of early rising which will
cling to them through life ; that is, if their mother gently
and lovingly impressed upon their minds what they would
lose by delay and gain by promptness. Eut, although a stern
and severe compulsion may secure obedience while under
your eye, by that course you make the act so disagreeable
and repulsive, by associating it with your stern manner, that
they are tempted to rush to the other extreme whenever they
can do so with impunity.
Children naturally love play better than work or study ;
but it is better that they early learn that there is something
besides play which even little girls and boys can and must
do. They, of course with no evil intention, will be inclined
to stretch the play hour or recess a little beyond the ap-
pointed time. It is the parent's duty to watch and guard
against this, not on account of the real good which a young
child might accomplish in these few extra moments, but for
the sake of establishing a habit which wiU be of infinite
service for the child in after years, that the discipline, though
for the present not joyous, may work for its future happiness
and usefulness. Therefore, make the hours for recreation as
frequent as seems necessary, only let it be distinctly under-
stood til at when that time expires there must be no delay, no
procrastination. As the child grows older and able to exercise
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a little judgment, it will soon become conscious of the loss in-
curred by dilatoriness, and the gain secured by a prompt per-
formance of duty. A judicious mother will soon teach it liow
to contrast the two modes of action, and a few unfortunate
experiments will fully corroborate her teachings. The perialty
to be paid for leaving any duty which should be done now
until " by and by," generally follows very speedily after the
omission.
When qitite young we were given a piece of work one
morning which should not have occupied an hour's time.
In the afternoon our brothers were to go to a neighboring town
in a sleigh, and we were promised a ride with them, on con-
dition that this work was finished in season. It was a rich
treat, and we were greatly elated. The work we were set to
do was so easy we made merry over the idea of a failure. But
the sun did shine so brightly, and it was so pleasant to stand
at the east windows and Avatch the men at the huge wood-
pile, sawing and splitting the winter store of wood ; and it
was such fun to see the old gander chase our little roguish
brother away from the place where the stately old fellow kept
watch and ward over his mate on her nest, that every few
minutes our sewing was forgotten and we were seated on the
old-fashioned windoAv-sill. A gentle voice often reminded
us that we were wasting time, and must be left behind if
that simple seam were not finished in season.
" O mother ! I can finish it just as easy ! "
" Yes, dear, if you work steadily, but not if you delay in
this manner." Dear, patient mother ! How much easier
for her to have taken our neglected work and done it herself
than to keep such a vigilant watch over a giddy girl ; but
for a child's good a mother bears all things.
Time flew by, unregarded by our idle fingers. Presently
a sleigh dashed up to the door, the bells jingling merrily. It
cannot be time ! But a cheery voice rang out, " Come,
300 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
sister, not a minute to spare," — and that little, little bit of
■work not quite done !
" mother, mother ! only a few more stitches ! See !
mother, let me go ! " But, even while we uttered this
piteous wail, we knew that mother could not break her word.
When she took her sobbing little girl on her lap, and ex-
plained how necessary it was that we should suffer the
penalty of our persistent procrastination, if we would ever
destroy this bad habit, we were conscious that her grief was
deeper than our own, that she suffered with us. We did not
soon forget that lesson, and it did not require many similar
ones to effect a pretty substantial cure.
JSTo one is more strongly tempted to put off till a more
convenient season, here and there, some minor duty, than a
housekeeper whose cares are many, and helpers very few.
By afternoon she is so weary, rest would be very pleasant,
but just as she thinks she may indulge in one half-hour's
quiet, some little item rises up that should receive attention
to-day. " I have half a mind to let it pass till to-morrow,"
but to-morrow has it own duties, and unexpected ones may
arise. A few experiments in this most excusable of all
procrastinations will teach the folly of the attempt to add
to the already filled register of the next day's work the
duties of the present time.
The clothes are brought up from the wash ; on sorting
them out and putting them in place, you find a small hole in
this article or a rip in that. You are very tired, your head
aches ; to thread your needle and mend those few small rips
or holes seems a burden. "It is so little I '11 let it go till
next week, one week's more wear can't make much differ-
ence." And it is laid aside unmended. How is it when it
next comes vip from the laundry 1 A huge rent or a most
appalling hole is the result. A heavy wind arose when the
clothes were on the line, and with every snap a dozen more
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stitches were added to the work that procrastination has cost
you, if indeed the garment is not ruined past any repairing.
" A stitch in time saves nine."
Some friends have just left your house. During their
visit much work accumulated, while you felt bou^nd to
entertain your guests. Either you are with no help, or your
servants are very busy, and you say, " I '11 take off the soiled
linen from the bed, and leave the room to air a few days, or
till a more convenient season."
The airing is all very proper, but two or three days are
not needed for it, and, if you leave the bed unmade, you will
not hnd it wise or at all labor-saving in the end. Let the
room and bed air until you are ready to take off the sheets
and pillow-cases that need to be changed. When you go up
to do that, take with you the clean articles, and being there,
why not finish the work and leave all in order 1 But, if
instead of that you say, " We '11 put the ' spare chamber ' in
order to-morrow," perhaps just as you are retiring, a carriage
stops at your door, and guests quite unexpected arrive, who
find it convenient to stop with you overnight, to be ready
for the morrow's train, and late in the evening the guest-
chamber must be prepared. Just try this once or twice, —
you '11 not care to try it oftener, — and see if some one don't
come unannounced just as, when tired and sleepy, you are
ready to retire. Will it be any easier to do the work which
was put off till a " more convenient season," at this late hour,
than it would have been to have finished it at the proper
time 1
" There is hardly enough bread to last through to-mor-
row."
" Well, it is stormy ; we sha' n't be likely to have company
to-morrow. I guess this will answer, or we will stir up some
biscuit if needed."
In spite of wind or weather, be sure if you risk the delay
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you will liave unexpected guests, and will regret that you
neglected to be ready for the emergency.
" Here are some letters which should be answered imme-
diately."
" I guess it won't make much difference if I leave them
till to-morrow. I am very busy now." So you wait. Are
you any less busy to-morrow 1 A head-ache, or a sick child,
or company prevents an answer then. Your correspondent
waits anxiously for yoiu' reply, the failure of which may be
the cause of great inconvenience.
We could multiply examples, but your own experience
will fill up the picture, and, if you are wise, teach you that
each day has its own duties, which can be mastered ; but if
you add to them the work of yesterday you make the burden
grievous to be borne. Your old " copy-books " told you,
when you were young, that Procrastination is the thief of
time. In riper age remember it. " Never put off till to-
morrow that which you should do to-day."
LXXI.
THE SUREST EEMEDY.
TO the troubles and annoyances which befaU housekeep-
ers there is no end, if they are obHged to rely on
servants for comfort and peace of mind. In social gatherings
the conversation often turns on the trials they experience
from this part of their household. It is not at aU strange
that it should be so, for " out of the abundance of the heart
the mouth speaketh," and verily in this particular the heart
has ample reasons for being abundantly fiUed, and there is
no end to just cause of complaint.
THE SUREST REMEDY. 303
One girl is a good worker, but impudent ; another is
always willing, but very untidy. This one is neat, but so
slow that her work is never finished. That one is unequalcd
in order and efficiency, but her temper is so uncertain you
cannot make a suggestion without risking a storm that quite
destroys all the pleasure her excellent work might otherwise
afford you. One is extravagant and wasteful ; another eco-
nomical in using materials for your family, but dishonest in
appropriating your property for her own benefit.
So, in a company of a dozen ladies, one takes up the dis-
course as the other ends, and, Avithout exaggeration, proves
her own trials even more vexatious than her neighbors'. It is
possible that the mistress, by searching, may find some slight
symptoms of these very defects in her own character. The
least said on that side of the question the better, perhaps.
But, as Ave once heard a lady say, " We don't hire servants
for that sort of actions."
But, whatever may be the defects of the mistress, we know
there are very strong foundations on which to build the com-
plaints about servants ; for it cannot be denied that these
" troublesome comforts " have it in their power to diminish
the sum of domestic happiness, to a degree which requires
much grace and patience to endure Avith equanimity ; and
that the power they have usurped is on the increase will not,
Ave imagine, be gainsaid. Once the employes in the family
fully understood the position they were engaged to fill in
their employer's house ; and knew that certain service Avas
paid for, which must be strictly and honestly rendered, or
they Avould lose their place, and having lost it, unrecom-
mended, Avould find it difficult to secure another. Once —
and the time is not so far distant but that most of us can still
remember it — one girl Avas expected to do the Avork tliat Ave
are noAV compelled to employ three to do. And this one girl
did the AVork, and did it well, — far better than we can hope
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to have it done now. She was not injured by it ; no com-
plaints were made, we mean in ordinary cases, — in every
station some may be found who abuse power and cruelly
oppress those whom circumstances have placed in an inferior
j)osition ; but these are only solitary cases ; as a general thing
there was no ground for complaint. The service was kindly
and cheerfully rendered. But now, with three or four girls,
the work drags, is imperfectly done, and " the work is too
hard " is the constant cry. Why is this 1 What reason can
be assigned for a change so complete and annoying 1
In part because the foreigners who land on our shores, and
upon whom, unfortunately, we are obliged to depend for all
labor which we cannot do ourselves, come to us with strange
ideas of what is meant by all being " free and equal " ; or, if
you take one right from the emigrant vessel, it requires but
a few weeks for those of their nation, who, having been here
longer, think themselves better informed, to impart their
knowledge, and teach erroneous ideas of these rights.
Under such bad influence it takes but a short time for the
modest stranger, whom you received into your house and en-
deavored to teach a correct mode of labor, to be transformed
both in dress and manners into a bold, self-willed girl. Her
countrywomen gather about her and Avarn her not to be
"put upon," — a favorite phrase among those whose chief
aim is to get the highest price for the least labor. " Stand
up for your rights " ; and they proceed to expound a code of
" rights " which, if they were allowed to carry into practice,
would soon leave us entirely at their mercy.
They are told to insist upon just so many times at church,
and certain days "out." Then the funerals — and there
never was such mortality as is always happening among our
servants' relations, particularly the cousins — and the wed-
dings, and the baptism of infants for which our girls are to
stand " sponsors," all come upon us in quick succession.
THE SUREST REMEDY. 305
Then, every step of the work each girl is expected to do
must be carefully defined, and you are not to be allowed to
call upon them, on any condition, for one thing over and
above the specihed labor.
How has this class of persons succeeded in taking and
maintaining such a stand] In part it has grown up, gradu-
ally, from seeing in their employers the independence that is
a distinctive peculiarity in our national character. But that
which, when rightly regulated, is a noble thing, when used
by uninformed and undisciplined minds, for selfish ends, is
not likely to bring forth the most desirable results.
But is not the trouble and disturbance through our ser-
vants, which particularly characterizes the present day, in
part the fault of the ignorance of the mistress % Our ladies
give much less attention to domestic affairs than in former
times ; and our young ladies are growing up, for the most
part, poor housekeepers. The material for the very best of
servants may be easily ruined by a poor mistress. Much
time and money is expended on the education of our girls ;
but that part of education which would help to keep them
strong and healthful is almost entirely ignored, — we mean
regular work, at stated times, about the house ; not only to
establish good health, but to secure a thorough knowledge of
domestic operations.
" What time has a young girl to do anything at home % "
True. What time for home affairs, with the present mode
of education, and the present customs of social life, have
young men or maidens? Our teachers know they are ex-
pected to " fill " their pupils to the utmost extent of their
mental capacity, and social life grasps every moment that
can be spared from books or schools, even claiming the
hoiirs that should be given to sleep. Xo matter about the
health. " That is not our business," say the educators ; and,
" That is not our business," echoes Fashion. Our children
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go from one study to another — rushing on to be educated
— as fast as possible ; and, in two years after leaving college
or seminary, of what practical use will half these studies,
for which they have given so much time and health, be to
them 1 Far be it from us to undervalue a thorough, practi-
cal education, — one that will fit our boys and girls to lead
good and useful lives. " Its price is above rubies." But
we sometimes think that they are being educated to death ;
mind and body enfeebled and made unhealthy for lack of
practical common-sense on the part of parents and teachers.
If more time was given to physical labor while our children
are growing up, and less time to schools, and fewer studies
crowded into each term, the fathers and mothers would not
grow old so fast, — being relieved of part of their work ;
and our young people would have nobler minds in sounder
bodies.
But to return to housekeeping, and the young who must
take that position : let them secure as much knowledge as
they can without injury to health, but let it be understood
that, whatever place they may be called upon to occupy, a
thorough domestic education will be the best foundation on
which to build, and by which they can best secure happi-
ness, honor, and usefulness.
Instead of filling the papers with lamentations because
they are not permitted certain rights which an unregulated
ambition urges them to claim, let our women first be certain
that they fuUy understand how to exercise aU the rights
which are unalienably their own, and which no one attempts
to dispute. Let these rights be well cared for and properly
executed, and who will object to any woman's reaching out
after, and securing just as many more as she can possibly
assume and manage successfully, without neglect of other
duties already her own. Let the highest right, the noblest
that woman can desire, — for it is next to the angels', — the
THE SUREST REMEDY. 307
supreme right which God gave us, and no man disputes or
can usurp, be fully appreciated and acted upon, — the right
to make a glorious ho77ie, to make our husbands nobler,
because they are happy and comfortable there (they don't
know how to do that, they can't take care of themselves
without us) ; the right to nurse and rear and bless our
children ; the right, with the ability, to teach our servants
by our own practice how to be a blessing to themselTes and
to us. Then enter the lists, if you choose, and do battle for
just as many of what have been called mans rights as you
are capable of managing well, or have any ambition for.
Until these first duties are understood and properly per-
formed the prospects for home comforts and happiness are
very shadowy. The fault is not wholly with the servants.
If those duties which belong to the mistress are delegated
to uneducated, ill-informed subordinates, what, even with
the very best intentions, can you expect but anarchy and
misrule 1 Care and experience are as essential to good
housekeeping and home comforts as in any other profession
or field of labor.
The lawyer cannot look for success in his profession if he
simply opens an office and delegates the care to an ignorant
office-boy, while he himself knows nothing about law, and
never studies. The doctor gives years of time and study-
before he attempts to practice. The merchant goes through
a long apprenticeship before he commences business for him-
self ; but our young girls leave the school-room to assume a
right of which they know nothing, — the privilege and
honor of making a home. If women would only understand
how much skill and power is requisite, what a noble, honor-
able thing it is to succeed, or become eminent as a home-
maker, there would be fewer boarding-houses, fewer miser-
able, dissipated husbands, fewer fast, wild, reckless children,
and fewer worthless servants.
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LXXII.
A FEW LITTLE THINGS.
'TXT'E take up now a few perplexities which are apt to
V V disturb the equanimity of the young housekeeper,
and propose to give some minute directions for the better
performance of those " little tilings " which so often dis-
courage the beginner, such as the building of fires, dust-
ing, etc.
With an open grate or fireplace in daily use, it is very
necessary, before any dusting can be thought of, to clear out
the grate, remove the ashes, and kindle the fire ; for nothing
so fills a room with dust as the necessary work about a fire
of any kind, even with the most careful management. To
be ready to do this, or in a condition to instruct a girl how
to do it, it is important that the necessary implements and
conveniences should be on hand, and in a suitable condition
for easy and successful operation.
And, first, a coarse piece of bagging, or an old bit of car-
peting, or, if you have neither, a large piece of stout brown
wrapping-paper, should be kept in an appropriate place, ready
for this part of the morning's work ; even old newspapers
will answer, though by no means so convenient or durable
as bagging. Spread a large strip before the grate or fireplace
to protect the oil-cloth or carpet from ashes and cinders while
you are clearing out the grates. This done, lift up the fen-
der or polished hearth-pan, always in front of a grate, and
set it down on the floor-cloth or bagging. Put up the
blower, and with the poker rake out all the ashes that can
be shaken from the under part of the grate. By keeping
the blower up while doing this, most of the ashes which
A FEW LITTLE THINGS. 309
Avould otherwise float over the room, lodge in the furniture
or carpet, and in the end do them much injury, will be made
to fly up chimney. Having thus removed all the ashes, you
can take the blower down and rake again smartly from the
top until only the half-burnt coals remain.
]^ow, with a stout, coarse holder kept expressly for that
purpose, take the ash-pan, full of ashes, from under the grate,
and empty it in an ash-barrel in the cellar, or out-doors ; by
no means empty them from the pan into an empty coal-hod
in the room, as is too often done. Be careful that no live
coals go into the barrel. You will be obliged to watch a
girl very carefully about this " little thing," or, under the
silly idea that it saves work, most girls will do this so care-
lessly when you are not by, that your rooms will be filled
with ashes by their foUy.
When the ashes have been emptied, if your grate rests on
cleats or is fitted into sockets, lift it off and turn into the
ash-pan the half-burned coals which remain, to be taken out
and sifted before using again ; then, placing the grate on the
bagging, with a small whisk-broom proceed to brush down
into the pan all the soot and ashes that have lodged on the
sides and back of the fireplace. Do this gently, so as to
avoid sending it out into the room. When done, remove the
pan, sweep up any ashes or litter that may be on the hearth,
wash it clean, and put back the grate and ash-pan into their
proper places. Set up the fender, roU up a quantity of waste
paper and put into the grate (if thrown in loosely it will burn
out instantly before the kindling catches), put on the kind-
ling, and start the fire. If where you can get col-e from
the gas-houses for the foundation of the fire, it will, we
think, prove good economy, for you will need but two or
three pieces of kindling, as it ignites readily without a
blower, making a very warm fire, and soon causing the hard
coal to burn brightly.
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Here, also, great watchfulness is requisite if you trust to a
servant to start fires, for, unless closely followed, they will
persist in half filling the grate with kindling, even when
they are provided with coke, and need to use but very little
wood. In the city, where wood is so dear, economy in
kindling-wood becomes quite important.
The tire having been kindled, the rooms can now be set
in order. Of course the window-blinds were opened the first
thing after dressing in the morning, that gas or lamps might
not be left to burn needlessly. We are tempted to stop,
before dusting, and say a word on the extravagant use of gas
or oil by the servants about a house, but we must leave that
for another time, and proceed to finish the first part of every
morning's work.
In dusting, a soft but not too fine cloth should be first
used. At almost all dry-goods stores cloths are to be had
with soft, tufted nap, especially adapted for dusters ; but an
old towel may be kept for that purpose, and answers very
well if you cannot obtain these. Gently wipe up with the
dusting-cloth whatever ashes or dust may have settled over
the mantel or furniture, but do not wipe it off on to the floor
to settle again into the carpet or furniture in the room, — that
would be spending time for naught, — and as you proceed take
it up into the dust-cloth, and every little while shake it out
of the window or door. In this way go over everything
once, that the greatest part of the dust may be disposed of,
being particular to wipe in and around moldings, carvings,
and cornices, Avhere dust seems more inclined to rest than
on the plainer surfaces. This finished, go over all again with
an old silk handkerchief or chamois-sldn, rubbing hard
enough to remove spots or finger-marks, and bring a nice
clean polish on the furniture or ornaments in the room. If
you have pictures hung round the walls, a long-handled
feather-brush is quite necessary, especially if the room is
A FEW LITTLE THINGS. 311
high studded, as city rooms generally are at the present
day. You cannot sj)are the time every morning to bring
in a step-ladder in order to dust the tops of the picture-
frames or the casings and moldings over and around doors
and windows ; but if left some days untouched, the moths
will soon find it out and take up their abode in such desir-
able quarters. The long feather-brush wiU easily remove
most of the light dirt that settles in such high places, but do
not use it with a sharp, quick flourish, as whatever dust
lodges so high cannot be taken up with the coarse dusting-
cloth, and must, of course, if disturbed, fall to the floor, but
if brushed oti" rashly, will fly over everything. For this
reason the tops of pictures and doors should be dusted
first, that there may be an opportunity to remove what-
ever settles unavoidably when going over other parts of the
room.
Every three or four weeks the tall step-ladder is needed,
and then all these places which cannot be reached other-
wise must be well cleaned and rubbed, and the casings of
windows and doors wiped clean with a wet cloth. This
work, when done, must always be after the regular sweeping-
days.
Windows require attention every day ; we do not mean, to
be washed every day, but to be dusted and have the spots
carefully rubbed off". The dust from the streets finds easy
entrance, and settles readily on the window-panes, which
would soon become dim and blurred without daily oversight.
Especially is this the case in damp weather, or when one
lives near salt air. Brush each window with a short-handed
feather-brush, if you have one ; if not, save and dry tur-
keys' wings, or the long tail-feathers from any poultry, tie
them up neatly, and you secure an inexpensive feather-brush,
and as effective as if bought at the store. If you find spots
or finger-marks on the window-glass, put your mouth to the
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spot and breathe sharply on it ; then, before your breath
evaporates, rub quickly with a clean linen cloth or a cha-
mois-skin, and you will be well repaid for your labor.
It requires some time and many words to explain, as mi-
nutely as you wish, how all these little things should be done ;
but if you are methodical, you will soon learn to work quick-
ly as well as thoroughly, and will be very much surprised
to see how short a time is needed to do all that we have
been so long telling. You will use less time, take the month
through, by careful dusting and necessary cleaning each day
than — neglecting this duty — you would be compelled to give
every few weeks in one great cleaning effort, by which the
whole family must be incommoded, meals delayed, poorly
cooked, or dispensed with altogether for the time being, be-
cause it is " cleaning day." !N"o wonder husbands shrink
from such days, preferring dirty rooms aU the time to having
clean ones, for which they pay such unsatisfactory premiums.
A little quiet care and cleaning every day will, we think,
secure the largest amount of freedom, and certainly much
more pleasure and happiness for all, than these dreaded days
of confusion and discomfort.
LXXIII.
PLANNING FOR THE WEEK.
NOTHING so simplifies labor as a well-defined, regular
plan for each day's specific duties. At first, to one un-
accustomed to systematic work, it may be difficult to get into
the track, and follow the route until it is so familiar that it
becomes almost second nature. But with each effort, duties
thus methodically performed will be easier, and when the
PLANNING FOR THE WEEK. 313
plan you design to follow has been well digested, and each
l^art so adapted as to reach toward the good of the whole,
labor will not only be greatly diminished, but a positive
pleasure in the performance of duties so perfectly organized
will be the crowning reward.
Yet to arrange a plan for each day requires thought and
judgment, and she must be a wonderful character who, from
the beginning, can so perfect a code of laws for the regular
discharge of household labor, that no modification or change
will be necessary. If a young housekeeper, at the end of
one year's trial, begins to feel somewhat at home in her do-
minions, she should be well content, nor allow a shadow of
discouragement to mar her comfort, even if now and then
she finds her carefully planned rules requiring some little
adjustment, to secure a smooth and easy action. Try, and
reject, until you have secured a plan by which you, the
mistress, can best manage others, or yourself perform the
work. No one can tell you by what rules you can best gov-
ern your domains. Suggestions may be given, which will be
of great service in enabling you to arrive at the desired
results in the most successful and expeditious manner; but
further than that, the worTc to do is yottrs, and not anoth-
er s. Each one must work oiit the problem of what is best
for herself individually, with what aid she can glean from
the experience of others, according as it shall be congenial,
or adapted to her owai peculiar way of working and her
own peculiar position.
Even those daughters who are fresh from the wise instruc-
tions of a mother, who led them with her through a daily
round of cares until they are as skillful in domestic manage-
ment as she is herself, will not find, when they enter the
marriage state, the duties of their new homes exactly like
those of their mother. Many things may, and doubtless
will, compel a somewhat different administration, although
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314 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
the fundamental princii^les will be still the same. The hus-
hand's position may demand change in the mode of pro-
ceedings to Avhichshe has, from childhood, been accustomed.
His tastes or means may render it advisable that the wife
should modify or enlarge her rules for the performance of
domestic duties. The desired change may, from necessity, or
from whims, which for permanent happiness she Avill be wise
to humor, be so abnipt and entire as to require almost a new
mode of action and labor, calling for much deliberation be-
fore it can be perfectly satisfactory ; and of course this will be
almost like commencing an education from the beginning.
Different homes and diverse tastes demand, and justly, to
be regulated on somewhat different plans. IN'ew duties, and
new modes of performing them, are opened to the young
housekeeper, however efficient she may have been in all do-
mestic affairs under her mother's eye ; but this should be no
reason for discouragement or self-reproach. Put the mother
in the daughter's place, and she might find it equally strange,
and no easier to rearrange her code of laws for domestic
labor, only so far as age and longer experience has taught
her more wisdom and greater facility in regulating house-
hold affairs. But whatever the style or position, there is none,
hoAveA^er high or low, that is not improved and the work
simplified by systematic arrangement. Let each day of the
week have its OAvn peculiar work, modified or varied, of
course, by changes Avhich cannot be foreseen, — such as sick-
ness, absence of part of the family, unexpected company,
invited guests, or holidays.
And here let us say, it is desirable, Avhen you invite friends
to dinner or tea, that you choose such days as are the least
filled Avith work Avhich cannot be Avell set aside, — such as
washing, ironing, etc., — so that you may take time for en-
tertaining your guests, Avithout the burden of feeling that you
are compelled to leaA^e for to-morroAV the Avork that should
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have been done to-day, and, by so doing, to lay up for your-
self too heavy burdens and unsettle the regular course of labor
for the rest of the week.
We do not propose to give rules for any one. That would
be quite impossible, as so much depends on the taste of the
master and mistress, the number of the family, and of the
servants employed. But there are a few things which, in our
opinion, will make the work easier, and increase the comfort
of all concerned. For instance, on Saturday all the clothes
for changes should be laidf^ut, so that the Sabbath may find
us arrayed in spotless garments. And this being done, as all
the soiled clothes are ready, it would seem that Monday must,
almost of necessity, be set apart as the established ivashing-
day. Of course, if one has a laundry distinct from the
kitchen, as soon as the washing and ironing of one week is
finished, the range wiU be cleaned out, ashes brushed ofi",
kindling laid, and floor scrubbed, all for the next week ;
and if everything is tlius in order, it must be an uncommonly
large family if the washing is not all done, clothes-lines and
pins brought in, and, in winter, coarse clothes sprinkled and
folded, in good time on Monday night. This should be ]\Ion-
day's work, somewhat modified, perhaps, according to the help
employed in this department. When two or three girls are
employed in one house, as we have before said, we do not
think it the most comfortable way for the cooh to take charge
of the washing. Let her help, if necessary, as she may find
time ; but if she first performs her regular duties, the family
will be more comfortable ; and if the second girl has charge of
the washing, the clothes will, or should be, more satisfactorily
done by one steady hand. Let Tuesday be for ironing.
Wednesday the chamber-maid and laundress will need for
cleaning the laundry and halls, wiping off finger-marks from
doors, and any chamber- work which did not receive particular
attention Monday or Tuesday. The cook will need by Wednes-
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day to clean up her tins, floors, closets, or if company or the
family require, to do some extra cooking. On Thursday the sil-
ver should be carefully looked over and jDolished by chamois-
skin, after washing in hot soapsuds, or with whiting if any
brown spots are found. Friday is the best day for sweeping,
and seeing that mattresses and bedsteads are free from dust ;
which, if left to accumulate, will breed moths and other ver-
min. Saturday may be employed in cleaning parlors, wash-
ing windows, polishing door-haudles, bell-pulls, and stair-rods,
and a thorough oversight of the h'ouse generally.
These items are only by way of suggestions, to be fiUed up
or discarded as the housekeeper's judgment, taste, or position
may deem advisable. We only claim that, having once ex-
amined and become fully persuaded in your own mind what
your position and the comfort of your family demand, you
should settle upon some well-considered plan, and then deter-
mine to carry it into practice, as far as possible, with prompt-
ness and regularity. Take time to consider; try, and try
again ; but having settled what is best, act upon it without
flinching.
LXXIV.
SHOPPING.
"T"T"7"E have heard from ladies remarks like the following :
VV " Before I was married, and cares and responsibil-
ities became more and more exacting every year, there Avas
nothing I used to enjoy more than roaming from shop to shop,
seeing everything that was to be seen, but without the re-
sponsibility of purchasing, because my mother always at-
tended to that. My shopping in those days was only to
gratify curiosity. But noAV it must be done in earnest, with-
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out shopping for sight-seeing or loitering, — the only desirable
part of the business."
Kow, I cannot but think this waste of time and gratifica-
tion of a childish curiosity in young women altogether wrong.
The amount of " shopping," as it is called, done from no ne-
cessity, but only to while away the time, is very great, par-
ticularly by young ladies who have no intention of purchas-
ing. While there are books to be read, semng to be done,
mothers to be helped, and their burdens lightened by their
daughters' loving care, and painting, drawing, and music to
be practiced, we don't understand how time can hang heavy
on one's hands. Pleasant walks and rides, lectures, concerts,
and picture-galleries, can surely furnish all the exercise and
recreation that is needed or at all desirable, and will be much
more conducive to the improvement of the mind and strength-
ening of the body than this too prevalent custom of saunter-
ing through the streets, gazing into the windows, or visiting
the stores, looking at and handling everything one fancies,
but buying nothing. Many evils spring from this absurd
method of taJcing exercise, or wasting time. There can be no
healthy exercise in loitering in a croAvded and perhaps iU-
lighted, poorly ventilated store ; for capacious, airy, and well-
ventdated establishments are not common. The effect of
such dissipation on the mind and character cannot be enno-
bling. To watch and criticise the people who pass, to remark
on their dress, manners, and pecuHarities, is almost certain to
establish an unkind, censorious habit, and, in the end, make
those who practice it confirmed gossips, — the most unlovable
and unsafe of all characters. A love of dress ; a desire to imi-
tate or surpass those who are the most extravagant in their
outlays ; an envious disposition ; dissatisfaction with their
own condition and the income allowed for their dress ; long-
ing to cast aside good clothes and secure the newest and most
stylish, every time the shopping farce is performed, — are
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some of the evils which, it is to be feared, will grow out of
this propensity ; and added to this, another stiU more to be
deprecated, — the selfish disregard for the feelings and inter-
ests of others.
It is painful to observe with what recklessness our young
ladies will sit at a counter and call for one j^iece of goods after
another, until the shelves before them are almost entirely
stripped, — tossing one article here and another there, throw-
ing heavy goods upon delicate articles, while the perplexed
clerk endeaA''ors to hide his anxiety, and shield his Avares from
harm, in the most gentlemanly and unobtrusive manner ; but
his politeness and delicacy are wasted, for this class of shop-
pers care little for the discomfort of a clerk.
In this manner they flit from counter to counter, wast-
ing not only their own time, but that of the employes in
the store, and exciting false hopes of a good sale, and then,
without a word of apology for the trouble they have given,
leave that store to go through the same folly at other estab-
lishments.
A few days since we witnessed a most provoking display
of this manner of wasting time, and by no means an uncom-
mon occurrence. All the room for some distance on one side
of the store, and two or tliree of the clerks, were monopoHzed
by a party of young girls, — we fear they thought themselves
entitled to be addressed as young ladies. The earnestness
with which they called for one class of goods after another
warranted the attendants in anticipating a large sale ;
but when woolens, silks, linens, ribbons, and laces were
heaped around them in great abundance, and many really
earnest purchasers had been kept long Avaiting for attendance,
or, not having time, had been obliged to go elsewhere, these
girls carelessly rose and turned to leave.
" I am sorry we can show you nothing satisfactory," cour-
teously remarked one of the clerks.
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" 0, we did n't come in to buy, — only to look around,"
replied the leader of this iU-mannered party, with a scornful
air ; and an absurd, silly giggle went through the party as
they left the store, evidently satisfied that they had had a
good time and played off a smart joke on the clerks.
The expression of disappointment suddenly changed to con-
tempt, visible among the young men who had so politely
waited upon those thoughtless girls, was very significant of
their estimate of such characters. If their mothers could
have seen the whole performance, and, giving each a good
shaking, sent them home to learn good manners, and a proper
use of time by a term of labor in the kitchen, we should have
been thankful.
But in the case of the "mother and hoiisekeeper," who in-
quires hoAv real, earnest, practical shopping may be disarmed
of its terrors, and made easy and simple, we would say there
is nothing easier if you begin right. Before leaving home on
a shopping expedition, be " fully persuaded in your own
mind " that you know just what you want, what you must
have, and how much you are willing and can afford to pay for
wliat you desire to purchase. Make out a plain list that you
can understand at a glance, and when you enter the store call
first for the must-haves, examine the quality and pattern,
and ascertain if the price is such as to justify you in buying.
Then, if satisfied on those points, look at various patterns of
the same fabric and price, and select the one that pleases you
the most perfectly, and, naming the quantity and place to
send, pass on to other departments. Don't allow your atten-
tion to wander to anything but the article under considera-
tion, until you have decided that item. If it is a dress, ex-
amine and decide before looking at sheeting or table-linen or
anything else. That settled, pass on to the next topic on
your list, and so continue until you have finished the work
you had arranged to do. Then, if you have a little leisure.
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you can look about you at the various articles displayed, grati-
fying your love of fine things, and gaining an insight into
the quality and price of articles you may need in time ; only
take care that when your purchases are finished, you do not
interfere with other purchasers, or engross the time of busy
clerks unduly. In making out a list, classify the articles
you are intending to buy, putting groceries, crockery, books,
dry goods, etc., each by themselves, and begin at the nearest
place. By this method you will save yourself much time
and fatigue.
These are very simple rules ; but try them and see if shop-
ping is any longer a duty to be " dreaded."
LXXV.
DUSTING.
AMOl!^G the many httle things a good housekeeper
should vigilantly watch over, while trying- to teach
a child or inexperienced girl, careful and thorough dusting
is one of the most prominent. It is not alone those who are
confessedly ignorant that require this supervision, but one
half of all the hired help we ever saw have never been trained
to do that kind of labor perfectly. They are accustomed to
look at it as being of less importance, and more easily shghted
without attracting notice and subjecting themselves to re-
buke, than other portion of their duties. They may be very
capable in many other parts of the work allotted to them,
yet lamentably fail when they undertake to dust a room. A
parlor- or chamber-maid may begin her Avork properly. With
broom, whisk, duster, and dust-pan, with short sleeves, a
clean handkerchief or cap over the head to protect the hair
DUSTING. 321
from dust, she commences to clean and " put the room to
rights " in the most approved manner. Books, papers, works
of art, ornaments, or furnitiu^e — everytliing movable — are
carried into the next room if convenient, or if not, neatly
covered from the dust, which must necessarily be raised while
sweeping ; thus leaving the floor as nearly vacant as possi-
ble, to facilitate that operation.
But, if superintending this work done by a new girl, you
will notice that, however methodical in aU else pertaining to
her work, she does not stop to clean, carefully dust, and
polish each article, as she takes it from the room, and by so
doing have them all ready to set back again, with no delay,
when the room is well swept and dusted. She seems to have
no idea that this Avill simplify her work, save time and extra
handling, and, as often happens, in case of any necessity
for unusual haste in finishing the work, be a great conven-
ience. But, seeing how like a good worker the girl takes
hold of the other portions of her labor, you perhaps think it
not best to embarrass her by too many criticisms at first,
having no fear but at the close of the sweeping the dusting
will be well done ; called away by other duties, you leave her
to finish, on the whole well pleased, and hopeful that you
have secured one who will prove faithful and reliable, re-
lieving you from constant watchfulness in her department.
On your return, the first glance atjthe room confirms your
hopes, but by a second look your dream of peace grows
shadowy. The room is nicely swept, the furniture placed
more nearly in the proper position than, for a first trial, you
had expected ; but there the charm vanishes. Such dust-
ing ! It must have been attempted ; for you see the mark
of the dusting-cloth, as if hastily passed over, or brushed
across the plain surfaces of tables, chairs, etc., but looking
more as if flies or spiders had run races over them, than like
the efforts of a human hand to dust the room. Here and
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there some one or two articles have iDeen tolerably polished,
but wherever there is any elaborate carving, intricate mold-
ing, or dainty piece of statuary, requiring extra care, the
dust has settled, aud lies unmolested in ugly masses, defacing
or concealing all the beauty.
You summon the girl, trying all the time to school your
heart and voice to patience. You show her the dust, and,
taking the work into yon.r own hands, proceed to give her
practical demonstration of how the work can and must be
done. As you pass from one article to another, you explain
the injury to furniture and ornaments which will follow
careless dusting. Point out how speedily dust hides in the
moldings and carvings, and show her how to gain access to
all the intricate and troublesome ornamental Avork. As you
proceed she sees hoAV easily and perfectly it can be done ;
but do not flatter yourself that this lesson, so thoroughly and
plainly given, will relieve you from the responsibility of
following up your chamber-maid Avith continued Avatchful-
ness and reminders. Be prepared to repeat this lesson every
week, and at the end of months find the repetition still
necessary. If you do not find this so, you may thank God
and take courage, for you have secured a treasure Avhich you
will do Avell to cherish.
It is because our servants are so inclined to slight this
seemingly small, but really A^ery important part of domestic
economy, that we think mothers should begin early to teach
their little daughters how to dust a room, and poUsh, by
thorough dusting, all the furniture and articles of beauty.
Let them take first lessons in learning to keep their play-
room and playthings free from dust, and the knowledge thus
gained in j^lay will soon be of much practical and valuable
assistance to their mothers. We know there are some chil-
dren naturally careless and flighty, Avhile others are born
neat and methodical. This difference is very observable in
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children of the same family, trained by the same mother,
with equal care ; and mothers soon understand that one child
must be looked after, in every step of her way toward be-
coming a practical, useful, helpful daughter and woman,
more than the other. Such children draw very heavily on
their mother's strength, patience, and hopefuhiess ; but if
the child is of an affectionate disposition, in the end love and
experience will conquer.
There is great need that mothers be not discouraged in
their endeavors to teach their daughters all that pertains to
practical domestic economy ; for, if we are not greatly mis-
taken, the time is not far off when we shall all feel the
necessity of looking to our daughters to assist us in the nicer
parts of housework, if we would have comfortable, happy
homes ; relying on servants only for the coarser, harder parts
that would tax our strength too severely, or engross our time
too much, to leave any for social life or intellectual improve-
ment. These must receive their full share of our attention ;
but the home cares have equal claims. Let there be an
equal distribution, giving to each her portion in due season,
and there will be less waste and extravagance, and lighter
hearts and happier homes.
LXXVI.
A CHAPTER ON SOUPS.
HESITATIOJ^ in taking the first steps in any new en-
terprise or new work is very common. "With some
it springs from great caution ; with others, from lack of con-
fidence in their own ability. They magnify troubles which
may arise, and imagine all manner of difficulties, until A^ery
324 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
small and easy fluties are clothed, in a mystery which they
shrink from solving.
In working, a novice, if at all timid or lacking self-reli-
ance, often keeps herself in a constant state of alarm lest she
make some great mistake, and, strange as it may seem, few
things in the whole round of cooking-experiments assume a
more formidable aspect than the simple act of making a
soup. It is a mystery which grows more uncanny the
longer it is looked at from a distance ; but lay your hand
upon it, and you will soon learn that you have been fright-
ened at a shadow.
There are several things preliminary to making soup
which are quite essential. First of all, it is desirable,
though not absolutely indispensable, that you provide your-
self with the best and most convenient utensils.
A stock-pot is usually a large, round kettle, with a closely
fitting cover, into which the meat or bones and odd bits
for preparing the stock or broth for soups are put, to be
cooked. It is generally made of iron or copper.
A soup-digester is a kind of stock-pot made wholly of
iron; The lid fits closely into a groove in the top of the
digester, with a projecting piece which, when turned till it
meets the socket or notch on each side of the groove, acts
like a lock, holding the lid on tightly. In that respect it is
far better than the stock-pot, for nothing can boil over in the
digester, and no steam escapes except through the valve at
the top of the cover. They are to be obtained at almost
all hardware stores, and are of all sizes, from three quarts
to ten gallons.
ISText, having provided the utensils, good " stock " of va-
rious kinds should be kept constantly on hand, regulating
the qtiantity prepared at one time by the state of the
weather and the size of your family. In summer, in a cool
cellar, it will keep, by frequent scalding, several days. In
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winter it is safe to keep it much longer, only, like every-
thing else, it requires to be looked after carefully. Few-
soups can be of the best quality without a strong stock to
start with. Liebig's Extracts of Meat answers very well
for a substitute, but is better used in connection with the
stock.
Every bit of meat w' hich is left over, that cannot be satis-
factorily employed otherwise, should go at once into the
stock-pot or digester. Bones, after carving from them all the
meat that can be advantageously secured, must be well
cracked and added to the other pieces. The vessel should
be always near, ready to receive any stray morsel. When
enough is collected to make a good quantity of stock, put
cold water to the pieces ; for the juices, which are what you
desire to obtain, are much more readily extracted in cold
water than in hot. On the contrary, meats that are to be
boiled for table use should always be put into boiling water,
which closes the outer surfaces instantly, thus retaining the
juices.
When the water is added, set the digester over a moderate
fire, where the contents will not boil rapidly, only simmer.
After it begins to boil, add salt and pepper. Opinions dif-
fer as to the length of time needed in the preparation of
good stock ; but it is generally allowed to simmer most of
the day, which is too long, and it thereby becomes muddy.
We think a few hours' boiling will extract all the juice, and
make better stock than longer. Eemember that stock should
have more salt, pepper, and seasoning than would be desir-
able in the soup to be made from it.
When done, strain it into a large stone pot, kept for that
purpose exclusively, and cover closely till morning, when
the fat will all rise to the top and harden, and should then
be removed. Xever allow stock to remain in the stock- pot or
digester overnight ; for, even when there is no copper to
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render it unsafe, it will assuredly taste of the iron, and the
flavor be very greatly injured by it.
If you have no bones or bits of meat on hand to make
stock with, a knuckle of beef or veal can be procured with
little expense ; or, if a rich soup is desired, several kinds of
meat should be mixed. For instance : Take four pounds of
the shin of beef, four pounds of the knuckle of veal, and a
half-pound of good lean ham — any scraps of poultry,
necks, wings, etc. — that may chance to be unused. Three
onions, three carrots, one head of celery, a few chopped
mushrooms, two or three fresh tomatoes, or Avhat Avould be
equal to them in canned tomatoes, if they can be obtained ;
just a shake of savory herbs and parsley, and, in cold Aveather,
three turnips. In warm weather turnips will cause the stock
to ferment. Add an ounce and a half of salt, one table-spoon-
ful of sugar, twelve white pepper-corns, six cloves, three
small bits of mace, and four quarts of water. Line the
nicely cleaned digester, after well buttering it, with the ham
cut in thin, broad slices carefully trimmed from all the outer
f;it that may taste too strong of the smoke, or which is at all
rusty. Then cut all the meat from the beef and veal into
about three-inch pieces, and lay them over the ham. Set it
on the stove, and when all is delicately and equally broAvned,
put in the beef and veal bones, well cracked, the bits of
poultry-trimmings, and pour over aU four quarts of cold
water. When it comes to the boihng-point, bring to the
side of the stove or range, skim very carefully, adding now
and then a little cold water, to stop rapid boiling. Let it
simmer in this Avay till it is quite clear, and then put in all
the vegetables and other ingredients, and keep it simmering
over the stove five hours. Do not let it at any time come to
a brisk boil, as that will waste the stock and injure the color.
When done, strain through a fine hair-sieve or cloth into
a large stone stock-jar, and cover up carefully till needed.
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Prepared in this way, a stock will keep in cool weather a
long time, if kept covered closely from the air, by occasion-
ally scalding, and is always on hand when you wish a rich
soup. While it is cooking, in adding water to stop boiling,
be sure that you add enough to supply that wasted in steam,
so that when done and strained you will have four quarts
of liquid. One quart will be sufficient for the stock for
four rich soups.
A less rich stock may be ob;.ained by using less meat and
seasoning, or by carefully saving the water in which fresh
meat or fowls have been boiled, adding vegetables and sea-
soning to suit yourself. Let it simmer gently for six hours,
skimming it carefully, and then strain and set aside for use.
White stock, for white soup, is made like the rich stock ;
only, instead of browning the meat before adding any
water, you should rub the digester with butter, lay in the
meat, moisten with half a pint of water, and simmer slowly,
until the gravy begins to flow ; then add five quarts of cold
water and such vegetables and seasoning as you prefer, or
the same as for rich stock, and let all simmer five hours.
When stronger stock is required, double the quantity of veal,
or put in an old fowl. The liquor in which a young turkey
has been boiled is excellent for white stocks or soups.
Broivning for soups is made with two ounces of powdered
sugar and half a pint of water. Put the sugar in a smooth,
clean saucepan over a slow fire till it begins to melt ; keep
it in motion with a wooden spoon all the time until it be-
comes black, when the water should be added. Let it dis-
solve in the water, then cork closely, and use only a few
drops when required. In France an onion is burnt to put
with the browning ; but all browning, although it adds
somewhat to the looks of some kinds of soups, does not often
improve the flavor.
To clarify stocks or soups which are sometimes a little
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muddy, carefully separate the whites of eggs from the yelks,
and use the whites to clear the soup. One egg to every
quart of stock or soup to be clarified. Beat well together,
with one fourth of a j)int of Abater to every egg, and, still
beating, add gradually to the stock, which should be just
Avarm. Then place it over the fire, and Avhen it boils skim
thoroughly, whisk it Avell, and draw the kettle to the side
of the stove, to let it settle till the whites of the eggs become
separated from the soup ; then strain through a fine cloth,
and, if rightly done, the stock or soup Avill be clear.
Thus, as will be readily understood, Ave have given most
important preliminary steps toward making soup. In the
next article Ave give directions for making several kinds of
soups, and thereby answer several requests in one chapter.
LXXVII.
MOEE ABOUT SOUPS.
MANY suppose they can obtain just as good soup by
preparing the whole between breakfast and dinner,
claiming that the idea of keeping " stock " on hand is a fool-
ish one, and an increase of the cares and labors of proAdding.
"We think this is a mistake, springing from ignorance in some
cases, in others from the fact that the objectors have ncA^er
tried what seems to us the better way. It is certainly the
most economical, and on trial we are sure Avill be found a
saving of time and labor, instead of an additional tax.
By allowing the material for stock to simmer sloAvly, one
obtains the foundation for the strongest and best flavored
soup Avhich can be made from flesh. Whereas, if the meat
is taken in the morning, and prepared for dinner the same
MORE ABOUT SOUPS. 329
day, one must hasten matters, and cannot take time to sepa-
rate the meat in small pieces, or have a soup free from muddy
streaks and a strong, disagreeable flavor.
Liebig objects to cooking the stock for any great length of
time, because he assumes, and justly, that the albumen and
fibrin -which, after protracted cooking, will rise hard and
bony, cannot be so thoroughly separated as not to leave some
disagreeable flavor, and take away much of the real nutriment
of the soup. He says if we take one pound of beef free
from fat, and separate it from the bones finely, as for mince-
meat or sausages ; then mix it uniformly in its own Aveight
of cold water, heat it slowly to a boiling point, and allow the
liquid to boil briskly for only a few minutes ; then strain
through a towel to free it from the coagulated albumen and
flbrin which will be mixed with it, we can, by this short
boiHng, secure an equal weight of the most aromatic soup or
beaf-tea, of such strength as cannot be obtained, even by
boiling for hours, from a solid piece of flesh. Youmans says,
by long boiling the rich part of the meat extracted by the
cold water coagulates and becomes insoluble, instead of re-
maining dissolved in the soup, as it should do, in order to
secure the most highly nutritious substance of the meat. A
piece of flesh put into boiling water undivided is in the most
unfavorable condition possible for making good soup. It is
customary to protract the boiling, because it is supposed to
thicken and enrich the soup.
We have no doubt, if the mistress could oversee the whole
process, that a better soup would be obtained by less than
the four or five hours' cooking which we recommended in our
last article for stock. But if she is obliged to commit the
preparing of stock or soups to willing but careless hands, who
half the time do not cut the meat up fine or crack the bones,
a longer time is necessary to extract the full flavor, which
will not then be as pure.
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What are called clear soups should be of a light straw
color, and not too strongly flavored with the meat.
White, or thick soiq)s must only be thick enough to adhere
slightly to the spoon when hot.
Puree consists of vegetables or meat reduced to a very-
smooth pulp, and then mixed with enough stock to make a
thick soup like most of the bean or pea soups.
One of the most generally palatable soups is the tzirtle or
black bean sou^^, with rich beef stock for the foundation.
Soak a pint and a half of the beans overnight in plenty
of lukewarm water. In the morning drain off all the water
and cover with fresh cold water ; see that your soup-digester
is perfectly cleaned, and three quarts of beef stock put in it,
then set it over the fire. (Of course you never allow your
digester or soup- pot to be put away without being thoroughly
cleaned ; but sometimes girls have been known to forget or
make a mistake ; and it is best for many reasons that all uten-
sils should be examined thoroughly, rinsed with hot water,
and wiped dry each time you take them out for use, if
only to remove what dust may settle on them while in the
closet.)
As soon as your kettle is in order and the stock in it,
drain off the water from the beans ; put them into the stock
and set at once over the fire where it will come to a boil
slowly. As soon as that takes place, set it a little one side,
and it will simmer, not quite boil, till time for dinner. It
Avill take some four or five hours to make the beans perfectly
tender. Half an hour before straining, add a teacupful of
tomato catsup and half a pint of canned tomatoes or six fresh
ones. Let it cook a little more briskly for a half-hour, then
rub through a coarse sieve or colander, and serve hot. In
preparing stock for this soup, the savory herbs and mush-
rooms may be omitted, also the tomatoes, as it is better to
add them just before the beans are done, and strain aU to-
MORE ABOUT SOUPS. 331
gether. Some like to sc[ueeze a few drops of lemon-juice
into soup when in their plates, and it is well to have a
quarter of a lemon put on a small saucer or cup-plate
by very one at the table, so that they can add it if agree-
able.
An excellent heef soiq) can be made from the bones left
from a roast. Cut the bones apart, and crack them to pieces
with a broad hatchet kept for that purpose only, as the good
husband may object to having his carefully kept hatchet used
by " women folks," and you may be equally unwilling to
take articles that have been used you know not for wliat.
Cover the bones with cold water, and set on the range where
they will simmer, not boil, between tliree and four hours.
When the meat is so tender as to slip easily from the bones,
scrape it all off and set it aside ; put the stock thus made in
a stone pot and cover closely, after it is cold. We should
have said in former directions that stock must not be covered
up till cold, then closed carefully. The next day remove
every particle of the fat ; warm the stock enough to strain
it ; cut up one onion (if you and your family like them), two
or three potatoes, one turnip, a few bits of cauliflower or cab-
bage, if desired, and two carrots. Put these in the stock,
adding, if you like, a half-pint of rich stock ; add pepper
and salt to your liking, half a teacvTpful of tomato catsup, a
table-spoonful of rice washed clean, or " star " macaroni.
Boil one hour, and dish without a second straining. Of
course all these seasonings and vegetables must be varied or
modified to suit the special tastes of different families.
The meat cut from the bone may be made into nice
" force-meat balls," and put into the soup when dished for
the table. To make these balls, rub the meat smooth in a
marble mortar. If very dry, moisten with a spoonful of rich
stock. "\ATien smooth, season with salt, pepper, a little
thyme, summer savory, and green parsley chopped fine.
332 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
Beat one egg light and stir in, thickening the whole with
cracker crumbs, enough to roll into small balls the size of a
large walnut, and fry in boiling lard, or place on a dish and
bake a clear, even brown, and put into the soup the last
thing before sending to the table.
Julienne soup is among those most used at hotels and eating-
houses. Put half a spoonful of butter into the soup-kettle ;
slice in two onions, and fry to a clear brown, taking care not
to scorch them ; then add three quarts of good stock, two
small turnips and two carrots chopped small. Let this boil
gently one hour, and then add a pint of green peas, freshly
gathered, and the same of young and tender string-beans, a
little mace, salt and pepper as needed, and a single stock of
celery chopped fine. Too much celery gives a bitter taste to
soup. Boil two hours more ; then rub a table-spoonful of
butter, with the same amount of flour, and stir gradually into
the soup. Boil a few minutes and dish.
A good vermicelli soup with stock made from a shin of
veal, boiled in three quarts of water, can be prepared "\vith
little trouble. The stock must be skimmed carefidly, and,
this done, put in one whole turnip, one carrot, and one
onion ; none of these should be cut up. Boil three hours ;
add salt and pepper to taste, and a quarter of a pound of
vermicelli after the three hours' boiling, and let it boil gen-
tly one hour more, then take out the bone and vegetables
and serve. If the stock boils away too much, add a little
Avater.
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LXXVIII.
TESTING CHARACTER.
NOTHING so completely unmasks all the peculiarities
of each individual, showing bright and noble traits
most clearly, and casting deeper shadows on aU that is weak,
disagreeable, and unlovely, as being shut up in a steamer or in
cars for days together, acquiring an intimacy in one week far
more familiar than would have been formed in a year of ordi-
nary intercourse. Nowhere are selfishness, irritability, and
vanity so quickly detected ; nowhere are such opportunities to
manifest patience, self-abnegation, and all sweet and gentle
qualities, in the most forcible and attractive manner, as in
this phase of social life. You may call daily, or spend
weeks with people in their own homes, and never imagine
that fierce ambition, weak and silly vanity, petty jealousy,
or a harsh and bitter temper are smoldering where all appears
so cheerful and quiet, ready to be fanned into flames by the
first annoyance beyond their power to repel. While no
shadows fall or clouds obscure their sky, how pleasantly
the moments pass by ! Smiles and gentleness meet you at
every step. To secure your comfort and pleasure is their
delight ; to dispense the hospitality of their homes grace-
fully and with a free hand does them honor ; to neglect
to do so would detract from the dignity of their social
position, and be disgraceful. Every attention and courtesy
paid to a guest reflects honor on the host, and few are so
perfect that these considerations do not have some weight.
This may be assumed without at all detracting from liigher
motives.
But become companions on a journey with those who, as
334 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
host and hostess, have been so attractive, and the most as-
tonisliing changes, for which you are entirely unprepared,
utterly foreign to your estimate of their character, may meet
you in every word and act. Take care, however, while
watching the mote in your neighbor's eye, that he does not
discover the beam in your own. In the infelicities of trav-
eling, remember you are liable to the same criticism, and
watch and pray lest your own conscience compels you to
acknowledge the justice of the censure.
On the other hand, you will often see persons so quiet and
gentle at home, that wliile you respect, you never think of
them as presenting any very striking characteristics. Sensi-
ble and unobtrusive, the goodness, unseen, carries comfort to
all around, while the recipients seldom recognize the cause of
the good influence which surrounds them, until some start-
ling commotion proclaims their silent ministration. The
freedom born from a common annoyance, discomfort, or dan-
ger, such as is often experienced in traveling, sometimes
reveals heroes and heroines where we least expected to find
them.
One may read some strange chapters in character if he
quietly watch a crowd rushing on board a car or steamer,
eager to secure the best position, where most can be seen
with the greatest comfort. The rudeness and selfishness of
each movement and act would be unpardonable in their own
homes. If you are careful to be on board early, before the
" rush " begins, it is certainly permissible to secure the best
seat you can, but with the reservation that old age, feebleness,
and infancy have a claim on aU, which, if need be, should
lead you willingly to relinquish the position, however desir-
able, if by so doing you can add to the comfort of any
who come to you with these vouchers for their right to
your assistance and sympathy. Unfortunately, we often
see this gentle consideration for age and feebleness disre-
TESTING CHARACTER. 335
garded ; but when it shines forth how beautiful it is ! How
it covers little faults and foibles, which, but for such unex-
pected manifestations, would have much power to vex and
distress !
An elderly lady in feeble health took her seat in the cars,
homeward bound after a long absence. Being a cold, rainy
day, it was especially desirable to avoid all draughts from
open windows. A party of young people in high spirits
seated themselves in front, and at once opened the Avindow.
The wind, sleet, and rain rushed in, making all around un-
comfortable. Several remonstrated, but with no satisfactory
results. Even the indulgent father gently insinuated that
they might themselves suffer from such exposure, but not
a word was spoken of the risk to others. Every other seat
being occupied, the invalid could make no change ; and feel-
ing that all the health gained by her absence from home
might be lost through this severe exposure, with much
reluctance she mildly requested that the window nearest
her might be closed. The favor was rudely refused.
These young people were evidently persons of wealth,
on their way to travel some time in Europe. From such
examples, what impressions must the people of the " old
country " form of the characters and manners of the
new I The lady, probably reflecting gravely on the habits
of the young of the present day, sighed for the time when
age was honored and the young taught to reverence gray
hairs.
Time flew by, and again the invalid sought health far
from home. The boat was crowded with the young and
gay. Xo wonder she remembered the scene on the cars with
sad forebodings, the sadder because on a voyage one is liable
to more discomforts than when traveling by land, and
probably was prepared to be perfectly isolated, asking for
and expecting nothing. The passage was disagreeable in the
336 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
extreme, and all more or less seasick. Of course, under such
circumstances, it would not have been surj)rising if each was
disposed to think only of his own discomfort. On the con-
trary, kindness, respect, and attention were the rule, with
hardly one excej)tion. Those but slightly sick were prompt
in ministering to the comfort of the more seriously afflicted.
Affectionate inquiries, gentle sympathy, and, when needed,
most tender assistance, filled with bright spots a voyage which,
but for this blessed spirit, would have been intolerable ;
making warm and genuine friends for life of those who but a
few days before were perfect strangers.
These two experiences prove how unwise it would be to
form one's estimate of all, in any circumstances, by the freaks
and folly of a few. How easy to excuse much heedlessness
and frivolity, hoping for better things with coming years, if
out from among many youthful follies such good traits are
made apparent !
If this law of unselfish kindness were thoroughly under-
stood ; if all, particularly the young, could realize the rich
reward for every kind act, repaying them tenfold even in this
life, — it would extract many thorns from weary feet, prevent
much heart-burning, and give a glory to the life below only
second to that blessed life above, where, when they enter,
they may hope to hear, " Inasmuch as ye have done it unto
the least of these, my brethren, ye have done it unto me."
" Well done, good and faithful servant, enter thou into the
joy of thy Lord."
IF WE KNEW. 337
LXXIX.
IF WE KNEW!
" If we knew the baby fingers
Pressed against the window-pane
Would be cold and stiff to-morrow,
Never trouble us again,
Would the bright eyes of our darling
Catch the frown upon our brow i
Would the pruit of rosy fingers
Vex us then as they do now ?
"Ah ! those little, ice-cold fingers.
How they point our memories back
To the hasty words and actions
Strewn along our backward track !
How those little hands remind us,
As in snowy grace they lie,
Not to scatter thorns, but roses.
For our reaping by and by !
" Strange we never prize the music
Till the sweet-voiced bird has flown !
Strange that we should slight the violets
Till the lovely flowers are gone !
Strange that summer skies and sunshine
Never seemed one half so fair
As when winter's snowy pinions
Shake the white down in the air !
" Lips from which the seal of silence
None but God can roll away.
Never blossomed in such beauty
As adorns the mouth to-day ;
And sweet words that freight our memory
With their beautiful perfume
Come to us in sweeter accents
Through the portals of the tomb !
" Let us gather up the sunbeams
Lying all around our path ;
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338 MOTHEKLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
Let us keep the wheat and roses,
Casting out the thorns and chaff ;
Let us find our sweetest comfort
In the blessings of to-day ;
With a patient hand removing
AU the briers from our way."
THE wind is playing with the long gray beard on the
grand old live-oak over our heads ; the air, soft and
balmy, brings the shghtest intimation of perfume from the
orange-trees around us ; the golden fruit, half hidden in the
rich, glossy leaves, and here and there a bud just opening
into the delicate blossom, give promise of another harvest
before the first is fully gathered. Before us lies the beautiful
St. John's river, smooth and tranquil as a summer sea ; but a
steamer in the distance, like a graceful swan, approaches the
wharf, and will soon disturb its calm, and toss the placid
waters into merry ripples or foaming, sparkling waves. Only
for a moment she touches the wharf, then glides away, and
the river subsides into its wonted calm. Her coming and
going have no interest for us, save that which a ghmpse, how-
ever transient, of beauty, strength, and grace must always
awaken. She brings none to greet us and claim the welcome,
so gladly given by one far from home.
Everything around us is quiet. The inmates of the cottage
are mostly out sailing. The gentle provider for the house-
hold comforts, " on hospitable thoughts intent," is preparing
for their return from this " toil of pleasure," tired and raven-
ously hungry. We are entirely alone ; and as we sit in this
wonderful quiet, the little poem quoted above, " If We
Knew," stirs our heart with strange and solemn power.
Lives there one who does not, in moments of retirement or
solitude, look back to the earliest hours of childhood, and re-
call times when, if he could have known the results, his
actions would have been far different 1
If aU could in youth look along the map of life clear to the
IF WE KNEW. 339
end, seeing all the breakers and quicksands, which by pa-
tience and self-control could have been avoided, how much
more comforting would be the view they might take, in after
years, of the " backward track " ! No doubt it is well, for
many reasons, that we cannot read the future. Trials and
sorrows, which no skill or forethought could have turned
aside, would have been doubled by anticipation and fore-
knowledge. And yet we doubt if there are many who,
looking back from the " half-way house," would not willingly
endure all the additional pain if they might have possessed
the power to foresee the inevitable results of certain courses,
and, profiting by this foreknowledge, have avoided the danger
or the sin.
Brother, sister, " if you knew " that soon " those little baby
fingers " would " never trouble you again," would you be im-
patient or cross to your little playmates for their childish,
willful Avays 1
Two little boys were playing together. Both wanted the
rocking-chair for a horse. Full of health and animal spirits,
their dispute ran high, and ended in a blow. Only a few
days passed, and the baby hands of the younger were folded
in " snowy grace " upon the cold and quiet heart, and laid in
the grave. A short time after, hearing bitter sobs in the gar-
den, the mother found the lonely brother — himself but just
past babyhood — lying under the peach-trees, watching with
eager eyes some birds flying over his head, and calling, be-
tween his sobs : "0 birdies ! little birdies ! Fly up ! fly
higher ! and tell Jesus if he will only let little brother come
down to me, he shall have the rocking-chair aU the time, and
I never, never will strike him again ! O, neve7% never f "
Ah ! how many brothers and sisters look back upon little
disputes and sharp, childish quarrels, that would hardly have
been remembered had both been spared to grow up together ;
but one having been taken away, that dispute, or the wrong
340 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
done, remains through life a sore spot in the heart of the sur-
vivor.
Father, be not harsh with your son. He disobeyed your
commands, has done wrong, and for his own good deserves
rebuke ; but remember he is " oidy a httle one." Let your
censure be tempered with gentleness. It was but the over-
flow of exuberant life, not willful disobedience. If you
could look forward to what soon may be, how leniently would
you judge, how tenderly chide, and by your gentleness secure
obedience much more effectually !
Ah, poor, tired mother ! you are very weary and wellnigh
sick. Your eyes are heavy for want of sleep, and your head
throbbing with the noise and shouts and wild frolics of your
little ones. It is often very hard to bear ; but it is health
and strength and life overflowing in their yet untried, undis-
ciplined hearts. Be patient ! If soon, with hot and tearless
eyes, you watch by the little crib where fever may conquer
that life but late so joyous and full of activity, can you en-
dure what God may see best to bring upon you, if, by impa-
tience, you have "scattered thorns, not roses, for your
reaping by and by " 1
" I have asked you twenty times to mend this coat, and it
is not done yet. ' ISTo time' ! How long would it have taken,
I should like to know ] But — well — I can go ragged, I
suppose. You give little heed to my wishes or comfort. You
must take your own time and way, without regard to my con-
venience, or you win not be satisfied."
Husband ! why do you say such ugly, biting things 1 You
love your wife. You would be indignant if a looker-on should
hint that you misjudged her or were exacting. Your heart
— or that silent monitor, your conscience — tells you that
she did not intend to disregard your wishes or advice. She
was tired, overtaxed with many cares and frequent interrup-
tions, or perhaps sickness is creeping upon her unawares.
IF WE KNEW. 341
Whatever the reason, the offense was but a " little thing."
Or even if she was self-willed or irritable, be patient with
her. You are fully aware that one mode of speaking makes
her indignant, and stirs up all the offensive, opposing elements
in her character ; while, on the contrary, a certain tone of
your voice, a love-look from your eye, would have brought
her to your side in an instant, sorry, self-upbraiding, loving
and honoring you with all her heart. Ah, " if you knew " !
These hi'st morose, fault-finding words are, perhaps, " leaving
on her heart a shadow, leaving on your heart a stain," which
may be the beginning of coldness, mistrust, and defiance, or
perhaps a darker sin, when but for them you could have se-
cured joy and gladness in your house, growing sweeter and
purer day by day. Deal gently. You, her husband, can
make her happy, loving, and good, or you can make her irri-
table, unloving, and evil, thereby destroying your own happi-
ness as well as hers. You are the house-bond or home-hand.
See that you sever it not by your own folly.
" John, why do you always ^vait, and wait, and hinder me
so ? You can come at once, just as well as to keep me wait-
ing, if you only choose to ! "
Wife, it is just such little, impatient, waspish words that
will tempt your husband to seek quiet, comfort, and appreci-
ation away from your side. No matter if he does " speak just
as impatiently as you have done, fifty times a day," show him
a better way. Why retort, or increase the "little shadows,"
which you can by gentleness dispel % Yield a little ; it is not
hard, and you will reap a glorious reward. Is not your hus-
band's love and confidence worth keeping, by the exercise of
a little patience and forbearance 1 But if not for present joy,
to ward off future misery at least, "set a guard over the door
of your mouth, that you sin not with your lips"; and so tread
life's pathway with him to whom you have vowed a wife's
fealty that, if called to sit in the desolation of widowhood,
342 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
there shall not be added to that sorrow the anguish of seK-
iipbraiding for little services impatiently rendered, or love
requited by coldness or irritability.
When we have passed through aU the labors and trials of
early life, and in fuU maturity or just on the decline pause
a moment to recall the friends of our youth now gone, and
the sweet family ties now broken, how the heart aches with
the memory of hasty words or actions, and vainly yearns for
one more opportunity for the better performance of our whole
duty, in all love, fidelity, and patience ! But
" God .... pity us all
Who vainly the dreams of youth recall ;
For of all sad words of tongue or pen,
The saddest are these : It might have been I "
LXXX.
IN SUCH AN HOUR AS YE THINK NOT.
~TT'"/^HE]Sr a young girl is called by the death of her
VV mother to assume the management of the family
before her home education has been completed, we know of
very few cases which draw so largely on our sympathy.
Grief and depression for the loss of a mother is hard enough
for the young heart to endure ; and added to this, it is no
easy thing to accept the responsibility of providing for the
comforts of those thus thrown upon her care. All the
economical arrangements of the household, the oversight of
cooking, even when the labor is done by the hands of a
servant ; the daily watchings to prevent miscalcidations in
marketing ; the neatness and regularity to be secured in
every department, — may seem light to an experienced matron,
IN SUCH AN HOUR AS YE THINK NOT. 343
but aro heavy burdens to be laid upon a slight young girl.
Yet all this is but a drop, compared with the thought and
anxiety she must feel in administering to the health and
happiness of her father and of the children, even younger than
herself, who will now turn to her for the care once so effi-
ciently and promptly given by the mother. And most likely,
until trials came to her, the daughter had never had cares
or duties that demanded the exercise of her independent
judgment, — her mother being always near to direct and
decide.
A daughter may be ever so thoroughly instructed in all
womanly employments, yet if her mother retains the entire
charge of every portion of the household labor, — the child
simply following as she is bid, — there can be little opjjor-
tunity for the development and exercise of her individual
judgment. She naturally prefers to lean on one ever ready
to relieve her from distasteful duties. This is, no doubt,
pleasant for both, — the mother is happy in shielding, the
child happy in freedom from care. But we doubt if it is
wise or right, for often " in such an hour as ye think
not " all this must be changed. Frequently, without a mo-
ment's warning or time for preparation, the mother is taken
from her family. Ought she not to have furnished her child,
by her teachings, with that experience which, like a lamp
trimmed and burning, would guide her footsteps, enabling
her, Avhen this unlooked-for trial came, to assume these re-
sponsibilities with comparative ease 1 "We believe that even
at an early age it is best that some particular duty should be
committed to the care of every child, thus teaching them
self-reliance from the beginning of life, and accustoming even
the little ones to feel responsible for a certain amount of
daily labor. Of course, the mother will quietly watch that
these small duties are properly performed, but not openly,
so that her child loses the sense of real accountability, by
344 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
knowing that " mother Avill see that it is all right, even if I
should neglect or make mistakes." The mother TOdust j^oint
out mistakes, but the child should always be made to rectify
them. The knowledge that doing work hastily or carelessly
will only be the cause of punishment by compelling her to
do the work over and over again, until it is right, is a great
safeguard against contracting careless habits. Lessons thus
enforced do not often need repeating.
Little by little, as the child grows toward womanhood,
let the mother throw off some portion of her cares, teaching
her daughters to oversee or perform them correctly, and by
so doing not only lighten her own labors, but make such
duties easy for her children in after-years, or if they should be
called prematurely to the entire charge. When daughters
are old enough to become their mother's companions, they
should also become joint partners in home and household
responsibilities. When out of school, divide the work so
that every other week the mother shall be entirely free from
all care, — a guest in the family ; or if that is at first too
great a tax on the young partner, " take turns " in dividing
the work, — the daughter one week having the charge of the
cooking, marketing, and arranging for each meal entirely
herself; the next week, of the dairy, if on a farm, or the
laundry or chamber work. When each week is ended, the
mother can point out the failures, or recommend a better or
easier way of doing some particular thing ; but urdess advice or
directions are asked, it is far better that the young housekeeper
should be left to her own skill and judgment. For a few
times this may not prove the best economy, but in the end
" it pays," and with good interest. Of course, before this
plan can be carried into execution, to any extent, the young
lady has served an apprenticeship, so far as to know, herself,
that part of the work Avhich comes under her jurisdiction
each week ; and when practice shall have made perfect, and
IN SUCH AN HOUR AS YE THINK NOT. 345
the term of apprenticeship expires, it is excellent discipline
for a daughter to assume the reins entirely, for a shorter or
longer time, as health or pleasure may determine, subject to
such suggestions as may be deemed advisable. This arrange-
ment gives rest and liberty, if all her children are grown up,
for the mother to read, travel, or enjoy social life ; as she
could not do when they were young and needing the mother's
care, — which should never be delegated to another, unless
compelled by ill health. This is a most valuable training,
by which the young housekeeper is prepared for a useful life,
or a happy home of her own some day.
We cannot but feel that of late years too large a propor-
tion of care and thought is bestowed by parents in educating
their daughters to shine in fashionable life, — in giving tliem
an ornamental rather than a solid, practical, or intellectual
education. They dislike to keep their children at close study,
lest they should spoil their figures or their eyes, and allow
them to discard housework for fear their hands will not be
small and delicate enough to show to advantage at the piano,
or in a party. Music, painting, and dancing are all well
enough in their way, — some of them very important, — but
should not be sought after to the exclusion of the practical,
and by no means the least important part of a young girl's
education, and preparation for an active, useful life. Many
young ladies will not willingly accept these views ; but it is
for the most part because mothers, out of mistaken fondness,
do not care to have them ; or, as is too often the case, be-
cause they do not like the drudgery, as they term it, of
teaching the lessons in domestic economy, so necessary to
their future welfare, — an indolent or selfish mode of setting
aside heaven-ordained duties, for which a severe reckoning
may one day be demanded.
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LXXXI.
GRUMBLING.
IT must be that a certain class of people find pleasure in
fault-finding and grumbling, or they would not search so
industriously for an opportunity to exercise their talents in
this direction ; or, failing to secure a legitunate occasion,
willfully manufacture one. In the family, this habit is, un-
fortunately, often carried to a great extent, even among those
who are, undoubtedly, sincerely attached to each other. The
first word in the morning is usually a querulous inquiry or
complaint about some trivial thing which they merely sus-
pect has been neglected or unsatisfactorily performed. They
do not take the trouble to inquire if their suspicious are well
founded. Such inquiry might deprive them of the luxury
of grumbling. If it were not so sad to hear the early morn-
ing hours thus desecrated, it might furnish much amusement
for a " looker on " to notice how often these unfortunates are
caught in their own trap, and the fact made evident to all
that the foolish words were but the ebullition of arrogance
and irritability, having no foundation.
" My dear ! " (you "will notice that a gentleman grumbler
begins a complaint with a strongly emphasized teriu of en-
dearment,) — " my dear ! why could you not heed my re-
quest that our breakfast might be one half -hour later this
morning 1 I told you I was very tired, and needed a little
more rest. But it is useless for me to imagine you would
deviate from your rules one minute just for my comfort."
" Why, Tom ! how unreasonable you are ! You are so
in the habit of finding fault, that you never stop to learn
certainly if there is any cause for dissatisfaction. Your
GRUMBLING. 347
hi'cakfast is just three quarters of an hour later than usual.
I delayed it just as long as I could, expressly for your com-
fort."
" I said half an hour, not three quarters. That was every
minute I could spare. Xow, I shall be too late for some
very important business. Eut you are always interfering, as
if I ditl n't understand my own business best ! "
Eut when the grumbler has had a good cup of coffee or
tea, and the " inner man " is suitably refreshed by an
abundant breakfast, he seems to be in no great haste to at-
tend to that important business ; but has leisure to look over
the papers, play a moment with the children, and can really
speak gently to the one so rudely censiu-ed in the morning,
before his appetite was appeased.
" Now, I call this real cruel, John. I must go to market
right off after breakfast, because you foi'got to bring home
the marketing last night. And I asked you so particularly ;
as we have company to dinner, I have hardly time to get
ready. But I might have known if I wanted anything in
season, tired or sick, I must always do it myself. It is
really too bad ! "
" My dear ! if I might slip in a word, I would like to
inform you that I did bring home the marketing according
to orders, and gave it to the cook. You will doubtless find
it in the store-closet."
" John ! that 's just like you. Why could n't you
have told me last night 1 It would n't have hurt you to
have taken that trouble, I 'm sure."
" You had company, you recollect, when I came home. I
had an errand to do after tea, and you were fast asleep when
I returned. What chance had I to tell you ? "
" You could n't have told me quietly, even if we had com-
pany, I suppose 1 "
" Why, child ! how eager you are to find fault ! "
348 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
" 0, yes ! of course I am the only one to tlame."
It is not necessary to multiply examples, though, we 'are
sorry to say, they could be brought from every class and po-
sition. But such things are not pleasant to hear, and cer-
tainly do not look well on paper. It is to be feared that we
all have some germs of this same malady, — enough, at least,
to understand the symptoms, and warn us to vigorous efforts
to eradicate them. If allowed to take root, they deface our
own characters, and disturb, if not destroy, the comfort of
home. When parents indulge in this sin of grumbling,
they cannot wonder if their children follow their example,
and even go beyond it. A whole family of grumblers !
what can be more wretched 1
Another class, whose beha\ior at home is unexceptionable,
spare their families, reserving their grumbling for business
hours, giving their servants or clerks the discomfort that the
first class lay by for home consumption. There is hope for
those. By and by some high-spirited sufferer from their
waspishness and fault-finding, having endured their weari-
some grumbling till patience is no longer a virtue, may teach
them a lesson, through their self-interest, that Avill perhaps
prove effectual.
But we have a few words to say of another class, —
grumbling travelers. At some of our hotel tables, Avhere
travelers " most do congregate," one can read a chapter of
absurd and ridiculous weakness to be found nowhere else.
"VVe have known people to sit down to a table where we
could find no occasion for complaint, and grumble loudly at
every individual article. Coffee, " horrid " ; tea, " an insult
to set such stuff before any one " ; soup, " too thick," or
" too thin " ; and so on through the whole bill of fare.
Nothing set before them that was not made a subject of
criticism or rude comparison between the hotel fare and the
wonderful perfections of their own table. This habit of
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fault-finding is, by a certain class, considered a certificate of
superiority which cannot fail to convince the public that
they are persons of wealth and high-standing at home. A
mistaken idea. Even the waiters at public tables, who, in
consequence of the variety of guests to whom they are
called, are usually good judges of character, are not deceived
by this vain pretense ; but many sly glances, that can only
be inter])reted as contemptvious, may be detected ; and as
these complainers leave the table, the -waiters whisper to
each other, as they pass to and fro, *' Shoddy," with looks
that cannot be misunderstood.
This class of travelers leave their homes, not for informa-
tion and improvement, but for the opportunity of grumbling,
on a new and more extensive scale than can be attained in
their own families. They leave home in search of some yet
untried cause for grumbling, and by a long stretch of con-
science and imagination they contrive to find it, and return
with a large store of freshly gathered material, over which to
expatiate for some weeks, quite to the relief of their families.
All this kind of grumbling appears to us most unreason-
able and ridicidous ; but if not inclined to find fault in any
of the ways mentioned, we are beginning to fear that every
one meets some point in life where he imagines dissatisfac-
tion and complaint to be perfectly justifiable. Something in
their surroundings is out of joint. Their most carefully laid
plans and well-grounded expectations fail ; friends grow
cold ; where lies the fault ? Is none of it with joii 1 The
foundations of our worldly prosperity seem built on solid
rock, but they slide from under lis. We take to our hearts
one dearer than our own life, and in an hour when we think
not the bond is severed. Time and again the cradle is left
empty ; or a sweet and loving spirit emerges from it, and step
by step grows toward dear companionship, when, as in a
moment, God calls, and we are left in sackcloth and ashes.
350 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
We murmur and repine, — God's dealings appear so unequal-
ly distributed. In the same vicinity one family grows up
unbroken, from babyhood into vigorous manhood, while
another home is left desolate, and they cry out in their
anguish, " I do well .to be angry." They forget that God
deals with his children as they deal with the rich but un-
cultivated lands committed to their care. What is more
beautiful to the eye than a large grove of wild orange-
trees 1 — but how useless if left unimproved ! Who com-
plains when their beauty, for the present, is destroyed, the
trees cut back and pruned till they stand bare and unsight-
ly 1 But the buds and grafts which have been introduced
will soon start into new life, the branches begin to shoot up-
ward, and the sweet, pure blossoms and golden fruit will
clothe the tree, which a grumbler would have thought
wholly destroyed, with new beauty. The old beauty was
defaced only that the tree should, in the end, become fruit-
ful, and thereby more gloriously perfect than at first.
Yet we murmur when our wild orange groves are cut
back, pruned, and grafted, and the " seedlings " from our
nurseries transplanted. We forget that
" Sweet fields beyond the swelling flood
Stand dressed in living green,"
which are made more gloriously beautiful by every rare and
precious plant that our Father transplants from this beauti-
ful but stormy earth to his garden,
" Where everlasting spring abides,
And never withering; flowers."
LITTLE FOXES SPOILING THE BELOVED VINE. 351
LXXXII.
LITTLE FOXES SPOILING THE BELOVED VINE.
" A MOTHER " desires to know if she fails in disci-
-/_JL pline, or if her children are more troublesome and
difficult to manage than other people's. She has coaxed,
reasoned, whipped ; shut up in solitude, fed them on bread
and water, or confined them in a dark room ; but all appears
to be ineifectual. They do nothing really ivicked, in the
strict sense of that term ; but they forget or disregard all
rules or commands, are mischievous and careless ; boisterous
and full of frolic one day, to the neglect of every duty, and
the next, quarrelsome, irritable, and in every respect uncer-
tain. This mother feels her responsibility deeply, and with
all her heart desires to bring her children up in the right
way, but is more and more conscious that she fails in her
efforts, and now feels disheartened and discouraged.
"VVe judge the great trouble here is over-anxiety. Her
children are governed too viuch. It is not easy to lead young,
conscientious mothers to see this ; but the grandmothers,
profiting by their own mistakes, see in these boisterous, care-
less, impressible children that which, if not too closely
pruned, will mature into strong, healthy men and women ;
and in their irritability and disobedience they recognize the
effect of over-restraint, and too great repression of youthful,
exuberant, animal spirit, which, if slightly modified and
gently led, will be an invaluable assistance to these little
ones in after-life, giving them strength and force of character
to act well their part when they enter in earnest on their
life's work. No doubt quiet, demure, proper children would
be the most desirable, just for the present comfort of moth-
352 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
ers or friends. Overtasked bodies and aching heads find
such children less troublesome. But it is not for present
ease that good mothers live. They look for their reward
in the future usefulness of their chilcben, and " for the joy-
that is set before them " they endure the cross like good sol-
diers.
Yet while striving, in all patience, self-sacrifice, and love,
to make your children happy in the formatory state, and at
the same time teach them better ways, you must also be on
the watch for the foes without and the foes within, — the
" little foxes " that seek to destroy
'* The beloved vine
Trusted to your tending
By the One Divine."
In no case be easy and lenient to that which is sin, — not
merely childish sport or thoughtlessness. Eoot up the small-
est germ from which mean, low, or wicked habits will spring,
with a kind but uncompromising firmness. You cannot
guard your charge too closely here ; but be most scrupulous-
ly careful that you are not overhasty in judging of the char-
acter of their faults, but have rightfully distinguished be-
tween deliberate, intentional wrong-doing and childish folly.
Let your children feel that for the first you accept no excuse ;
for the latter you are lenient, full of loving-kindness and
tender mercy. For disobedience that springs from stubborn-
ness and a willful determination to do that which is forbid-
den at all hazards, be not cruel and harsh, but firm, and so
severe that the child will have no doubt of your resolution to
destroy the evil by meeting each act with quick retribution.
Yet when compelled to punish, be so careful of your own
heart that your erring one cannot but see that you are severe
from no one emotion of anger, or because you are made un-
comfortable, but because God has committed them to your
care, and will demand a strict account of your stewardship.
LITTLE FOXES SPOILING THE BELOVED VINE. 353
r>c sure, in your dealings with your children, that they have no
difficulty in seeing that you recognize a wide difference be-
tween overt sins and wrong done through childish thought-
lessness and ignorance ; and while you gently point out the
inconvenience and mischief apparent in consequence of their
careless act-s, seek to make it plain to them that you restrain
because you do not like them to seek their sports and amuse-
ments selfishly, and at the expense of others' comfort. Be-
fore you decide that any act of your children is really sinful
and deserving punishment, examine and hear all that can be
said in excuse or palliation.
Then as to the mode of punishment, when it really be-
comes necessary, we think the parents' judgment ought to be
the surest guide, as they should better understand the char-
acters they have to deal with. Some children, when they
find that punisliment is sure to follow wrong-doing, submit
easily ; others are resolute or defiant, and these traits should
decide the nature of such infliction as the parent finds una-
voidable. There are times with certain children when we
think a sound whipping the most curative process ; while to
others it would be so humiliating as to irreparably injure
the child's character ; but a whipping is not needed once,
where some young, inexperienced, but conscientious parents
employ it twenty times. Where it must be resorted to, let
it be sufficiently severe to make a repetition a thing to be
dreaded ; but, if brutal, it is simply barbarity, not justice.
Never, under any circumstances, strike a child on the
head or box the ears. That is the act of anger, and in
general is practiced only when the judgment is overruled
by passion. Do not attempt to turn a child from the
" error of his ways " by any such heathenish means. No
one can judge at the time of the force of a blow dealt in
anger ; and though done thoughtlessly, in a moment of
irritation, it may bring life-long suffering and sorrow. So,
w
354 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
shutting up a child in a dark room, though it may not
appear at the time so barbarous, has often resulted in the
most painful, if not fatal injuries. Neither do we approve
of attempting to convert a child through its appetite ; a
dark room, a cup of water, and a crust of bread savors too
much of the inquisition or the convict's cell for Christian
parents to imitate.
After all, each one must be a law unto himself. Another
cannot give special rules for any one ; but there is one thing
that it may be well for every parent to bear in mind always,
namely, that probably a large proportion of the evil we find
in our children is but the continuation or increase of oxir own
faults, unheeded while they were onr own. And this should
teach us great caution, great love and gentleness in govern-
ing our little imitators. Mrs. Mary Crann, some years ago,
published some pretty verses on " The Little Foxes," which
spoil our i' beloved vines." They are very touching, be-
cause so true, and mothers cannot fail to read them with
deep feeling, and with full hearts thank the author who
in these lines gives utterance to the sorrow and self-condem-
nation which so often oppress them, when their own faults
and failings look at them through their little ones. We
think we cannot do better than to finish by giving our
readers the whole poem : —
" Little foxes, spoiling
The beloved vine
Trusted to my tending
By the One Divine.
Little foxes, wherefore
Have ye entrance found
To the vine so precious
Growing in my gromid ?
" Have ye leaped the fences ?
Have ye climbed the wall ?
Were there tiny openings ?
Ye are very small.
LITTLE FOXES SPOILING THE BELOVED VINE. 355
And ye can creep slyly
Througli a tiny space;
But I thought I closed up
Every open place.
"And I watched by daytime,
And I watclied by night,
For the vine you 're spoiling
Is my heart's delight !
I have kept the earth-worm
From its precious root;
I have trimmed its branches,
But they bear no fruit.
" For the little foxes
Have assailed the vine.
Trusted to my tending
By the One Divine ;
And though I 've been faithful
Since its birthday morn,
They were in the garden
When the babe was born.
" For they are the failings
That I would not see
Wlien they were my failings,
When they dwelt in me;
Little faults unheeded,
That I now despise ;
For my baby took them
With my hair and eyes.
" And I chide her often,
For I know I must.
But I do it always
Bowed down to the dust.
With a face all crimsoned
With a burning blush.
And an inward whisper
That I cannot hush.
" And sometimes it seemeth
Like the voice of God,
And it says, ' Poor coward,
Using now the rod
35 G MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
On a child's frail body.
Till I hear it moan,
And see its soft flesh quiver
For a sin thine own.'
" my Father, pity,
Pity and forgive;
Slay the little foxes
I allowed to live
Till they left the larger
For the smaller vine,
Till they touched the dear life,
Dearer far than mine.
" my Father, hear me.
Make my darling thine,
Though I am so human.
Make her all divine !
Slay the little foxes,
That both vines may be
Laden with fruit worthy
To be ofi'ered thee ! "
LXXXIII.
WASTE NOT — WANT NOT.
MANY, particularly among the young, associate economy
and frugality with, meanness, ungenerousness, and a
churlish, disobliging disposition.
" There would be no pleasure or comfort in living," said a
young lady, when a friend was endeavoring to show her the
desirableness of " counting cost," before entering upon any
extravagant expenditures, — "there woidd be no comfort in
living, if I must stop and consider the price, — adding up at
every step, and dehberating upon the sum total before I
dared to make a purchase ; to say every minute, ' Can I afford
WASTE NOT — WANT NOT. 357
tliis V ov, ' Can I manage to do without that '] ' To compel
myself to study how I could alter over an old garment, how
to change the trimmings so as to hide such piecing as must
be done, before I could bring the article into usable shape,
and at the same time preserve a genteel appearance ; to pick
up pins and needles, buttons and strings, keeping before my
mind all the time the idea of economy and saving, in every-
thing, small as well as great ! Pshaw ! I should feel so mean.
I should despise myself, and tliink all my acquaintances
would despise me also. I 'd sooner spend what I have in a
free-and-easy manner, taking what pleasure I could in it, as
long as it lasted, and, when all was gone, go to the poorhouse
or die ! I do really think so."
A change of cars took them away, and we do not know
what reply was made to this speech ; but from it we thought
one could, without uncharitableness, form a pretty correct
estimate of the speaker's character and probable future. She
may not end in the poorhouse, though that would not be the
most unlikely thing that could happen ; but if she marries,
the heart of her husband cannot safely trust in her, and her
children will not rise up and call her blessed. Waste and
extravagance go hand in hand, and happiness and comfort
do not walk with them. Those whom they beguile become
selfish, seeking their own gratification, regardless of the in-
terests of others.
It is possible that parents often err in their mode of incul-
cating economy, and, while striving to enforce its practice,
render the whole subject, and every idea connected with it,
distasteful by overmuch teacliing. However that may be,
for some reason the young ai)pear to look upon it as some-
thing to be shunned, feeling that they would " lose caste,"
if they even spoke of it, and to attempt to practice it would
shut them out from certain acquaintances as something quite
inferior. So, if compelled to economize, they do it secretly,
358 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
while they think of it as an evil to be deplored. All their
little devices to " keep up appearances," and bring their sur-
roundings into harmony with their more wealthy neighbors,
they shrink from having known, as from real disgrace or
guilt; whereas the ingenuity displayed is something often
worthy of much praise, if used openly, without regard to
foolish criticisms. Those who have the gift to practice a
judicious economy, to save carefully, because it is right, and
not from a niggardly, miserly desire to hoard, — in household
affairs, in dress, or in anything that comes under their care,
— are endowed with a talent for which they may well be
proud, and which is recognized by all sensible people as most
desirable, even by those who are placed in circumstances
where the closest watchfulness and care may not be a
necessity.
But it is not merely as matter of necessity that we wish to
direct the attention of all good housekeepers to the duty of
thrift and carefulness in the management of their affairs.
We do not think the poor, or those merely in moderate cir-
cumstances, should be allowed to monopolize all the pleas-
ure which, if rightly viewed, can be secured by a frugal
use and proper economy of the good things of this world
that may be placed at our disposal. The rich have an
equal right with the poor to share in this pleasure. A proper
education, presenting this subject in the true hglit, will show
conclusively that the more abundant the riches, the greater
will be the satisfaction derived from proper discretion and
judgment in the use and distribution of them. The good
one can do, the large amount of personal happiness to be
secured by the good done, would be sufficient motives, even
if there were no higher, for strict watchfulness against waste,
even in the smallest item. If one has the means, and recog-
nizes the greater convenience of making purchases in large
quantities, there is no degradation in doing it hecmise it is
WASTE NOT — WANT NOT. 359
also the better economy. But because they have bought
by the wholesale, and filled their storerooms with large and
generous supplies, they must not feel that they have nothing
to do but fold their hands and allow others to scatter their
stores recklessly and without judgment. Making the pur-
chases and seeing them carefully put in place is by no means
the end of their duty. They are but stewards of God's
bounties, and a steward may not relax his care. If a lady
can afford to keej) a housekeeper, and is willing to submit to
the rule and tyranny of one, rather than burden herself with
the entire charge of a house, we can only say, " There is no
accounting for tastes," and will not presume to doubt her
right to do so ; but even then, after having thrown off tlie
supervision of the household, and all the details connected
with its care, we believe every one should still retain suffi-
cient responsibility to be sure that the housekeeper is faith-
ful, capable, and willing at all times to render a satisfac-
tory account of her stewardship ; and the mistress should
be able to know, also, by these accounts, if she is true to
her trust. If this was generally understood to be the rule
with aU, there woidd be less unfaithful stewardship, less
defalcation in the household certainly, if not everywhere
else.
But the injury done to subordinates by extravagance is
one of the worst features of this evil. Our servants are quick
imitators, and if the mistress is easy and careless in her ex-
penditures, the maid soon learns to follow her example, and
so will waste the material put into her hands. It does not
take long to teach one of the improvident class, from whicli
our servants usually come, a lesson which not only leads her
to be careless of the property of others, even when she has
no thought or intention of being dishonest, but Avholly unfits
her for saving her own earnings or managing a home of her
own. Hence we see all around us those who have lived in
360 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
wealthy families marrying, with no knowledge of providing
for a family, or of using the little they have with economy.
So they sink down, year after year, into deeper poverty and
wretchedness ; ending, perhaps, in the poorhouse ; when if the
lessons learned in their employer's house had been those of
true economy, they luiglit now be living in neat and com-
fortable homes.
LXXXIV.
MAKING CAKE AND PASTRY.
ONE of our young friends, speaking of her troubles,
says : —
" I must have cake in the house, but shrink from the at-
tempt to make it; and in my brief experience in housekeeping
have, so far, depended on the bake-shops ; for I know notliing
about such work, and won't let my girl see me trying it, lest
she find out what a novice her mistress is. If I should put
all the materials for my cake together, in tlie most careful
manner, and when it is taken from the oven find that it was
not good, / should not know if the failure arose from my
want of skill in preparing it, or from my girl's carelessness in
baking it ; but she would doubtless know whose the fault Avas,
and I am dreadfully afraid it would prove to have been my
own, I don't understand much about cooking, and still less,
I fear, how to judge of the quality of the materials I must
use in cooking."
In the first place, bear in mind always, in purchasing, that
it is cheaper in the end to buy the best, and in no one article
is this so manifest as in flour. Get the best in market, even
if you pay an extra price, and notice the brand. Try the
flour faithfully, and if it proves satisfactory, " make a note
MAKING CAKE AND PASTRY. 361
of it," and continue to furnish yourself with that kind,
unless, after a few times, you find it deteriorates.
Good flour will adhere, slightly pressed together in the
hand ; and when you unclasp your hand, the lines in the palm
will be plainly seen on the flour you have held so tightly.
Dough from good flour will not be a clear, blue white, but
yellowish, and, when well kneaded, will not stick to the
hand.
We should have said, in the first place, by inquiries and
observation secure a good, honest, rehable grocer, — one who
will triily endeavor to serve you with the best ; having satis-
fied yourself that you can trust him, you Avill find his judg-
ment will assist you out of many uncertainties, until you have,
by experience, learned to trust your own.
The same rule for buying holds good of all groceries. Biiy
the best. You will save money and insure comfort by it.
There is no more economy in buying cheap sugar than cheap
flour. A barrel of pure, clear, granulated sugar will last
longer, and in the end be cheaper, than any of the cofiee or
brown sugars.
Before collecting your materials for making cake or pies,
see that your stove or range is in good order; the grate
shaken free from ashes ; all the fuel needed for the cook-
ing added and burning clear. Be careful that no doors or
windows are opened, so that the air will blow across the
stove. No oven can bake well if this is not prevented,
or if the sun shines across it. "We all know that if this
happens, the coal will soon look whitish, instead of burning
clear and lively.
Having the fire and oven in a proper condition, you can
now prepare for making bread, cake, or pastry. Of course
you wiU have a large, clean apron, and fold, not push, your
sleeves back above the elbow. A sack apron, with high neck
and short sleeves, made long and fidl enough to cover the
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dress, is a great convenience, for if suddenly called from your
work you can throw it otf easily, leaving your dress in a neat,
presentable condition. A close net cap drawn over the head
will prevent loose hairs falling into your work, and should be
more used than is common. A basin of water and a clean
towel close by are necessary, so that you need not be obliged
to stop in the midst of your work to get it in case of any mis-
hap. Put everything you will need on the table. Be sure that
all utensils are always put away clean, so that, when they are
next wanted, you will not be hindered to do more than wipe
them free from the dust which may have gathered upon them.
Scrupulous neatness about all your cooking-utensils should
never be forgotten. If iron, tin, wood, or earthen vessels are
set aside without being scrubbed perfectly clean and wiped
dry, you will waste much time when next they are needed,
aside from risking a moldy or rusty taste in your food.
A good- sized bread or molding board, white and clean,
perfectly dry and smooth, should be placed on the table.
It keeps the flour, sugar, etc. that may fall, from the table,
and is readily lifted, with all the soiled dishes on it, to
the sink for washing, — thus saving much litter and many
steps. Learn to cook without gathering a large number of
things about ; after a little practice, you wiU be surprised to
see how few things are really needed, and how much confu-
sion and how many steps can be avoided by a little manage-
ment.
In making cake, dry and sift the flour, roll the sugar, if at
aU lumpy (granulated sugar will not lump), and put it in
separate bowls or pans. Wash the butter, for cake or pastry,
and put it into ice- water; weigh or measure the sugar
and milk needed. Eaisins should be stoned, the citron cut
in thin slices, and currants washed and picked over, covered
closely, and put away in a cool place the night before they
are needed.
MAKING CAKE AND PASTRY. 3G3
These materials all collected, butter the pans. Ii' for cake,
line them witli clean white paper, well buttered. Use butter,
instead of lard or cMppings, as they may give an unpleasant
taste to the under crust. Cake baked in butter-lined pans
does not burn so readily on the bottom, K the cake does not
require long baking, unbuttered paper will answer, as it Avill
peel off readily when the cake is cool. Have some clean
paper at hand to cover the top of the cake, if it begins to
scorch.
The white paper used to print our newspapers on is as good
for buttering and lining eake-j^ans as the more expensive
letter-paper, and is also very nice to cover shelves Avith, or lay
in the bottoms of drawers. Two or three dozen sheets will
last a good while, be of little expense, and very convenient
for many purposes.
Eggs that are to be used in cake should be put into cold
water in summer, while you are making your preparations,
until ready to use tliem. Then break each one separately into
a cup, to see if it is good ; but by breaking all into the dish
you beat them in, you risk ruining the whole by one bad egg.
If good, turn it into the dish, and proceed the same way with
the others. Have your nutmegs grated, and all other spices
ready.
These preliminaries attended to, (and it takes but a few
minutes to have all in readiness when you have done it rightly
and methodically,) begin to put the materials together. First
beat the butter and sugar together, till white and creamj^ ;
then beat the eggs, — the yelks and whites separately always,
as whites requu-e longer beating than yelks. Strain the yelks
after beating, and add to them well-beaten butter and sugar ;
then the spices ; stir in the flour gradually, before using the
sweet or sour milk needed. If you use soda and cream of
tartar, the latter should be sifted with the flour, and the soda,
dissolved in cool milk or water, — never in hot water, — should
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be ■added after the milk. If pre2oared flour is used, no soda
or cream of tartar can be put in at all. Beat the batter very
light, flour the currants and raisins and stir in ; then add the
whites, beaten stiff, the last thing. After they are added, the
batter must not be beaten hard, — only enough to have it
thoroughly incorporated with the dough. In beating the
whites, do not stop after you begin till quite stiff, else they
will " go back," and then they will not come up light again.
In raised cake, put in the fruit, rolled in flour, just before
you put the cake into the oven. Spread it over the top lightly,
and press it in but a little way, else it will aU sink to the
bottom and be worthless.
Only practice and watchfulness can teach you how to judge
correctly when cake, bread, etc., are done. If ever so perfectly
made, it wUl be heavy if taken from the oven before being
thoroughly baked. "When obliged to turn pans round in
the oven, do not move them roughly, and never, if possible,
take cake, bread, or biscuit out of the oven to turn. The air
striking on them will make them heavy and solid.
Cake made with sour milk or buttermilk should be put
into the oven the moment it is put together, unless, like
cookies or hard gingerbread, it is to be molded or rolled.
In that case it is quite as good to be kept overnight or for
some hours before baking.
In making pastry use the best butter you can find. Poor
butter is bad enough anywhere, but noAvhere so detestable as
in pastry. If made Avith lard it looks nicer, but is by no
means so good, and certainly much more hurtful than when
shortened with two thirds more butter than lard. Use the
hands as little as possible in making pastry ; either rub in the
shortening quickly, or chop it into .the flour, so as not to heat
it by your hands, particularly in warm weather. Wet always
with cold water, and in summer with ice-cold water. Don't
touch it with your hands after you are ready to put in the
MAKING CAKE AND PASTRY. 365
water, but stir together with a knife quickly and. hghtly, turn-
ing it at once upon the board and roll out. Molding will make
it tough. Bake in a moderately hot oven to a delicate brown.
If scorched or hard baked, it will be bitter and disagreeable.
If your oven does not bake so well at the bottom as at the
top, the bottom crust will be very heavy and unhealthy.
Before rolling out, let your pastry stand on the ice, or in a
cold place for an hour, as it makes it much more flaky.
In making puddings, some advise beating both whites and
yelks together and then straining them. We prefer to beat
separately, straining the yelks. The milk for most pies
should be boiled, in which case the eggs must be added the
last thing, and after the milk has become cool.
In batter puddings, only a little milk should be added to
the flour at a time, and all the lumps beaten out smoothly
before adding more, if you would have a light batter. "When
berries of any kind are put into batter pudding, they
should be rolled in flour and added to the batter the last
thing, or they will not mix well, and will settle to the bottom
and be heavy. One third more flour is requisite for a batter
pudding with fruit than when plain, except with cherries.
They need only a little more.
If you have no tin pudding-boiler, a bowl, with a thick
cloth tied tightly over, answers very well, or a thick tow or
" butcher's linen " square cloth. If a cloth is used, wring it
out of cold water, and then sprinkle or spread flour over.
Tie the cloth or bag very tight, but allow room to swell ;
plunge at once into a pot of boiling water, which must be
kept constantly boiling until the pudding is done, or it will
be poor and watery. Eeplenish the water as it wastes, by
pouring boiHng water from the teakettle into the pot. If
there is fruit in the pudding, it should be turned over four
or five times the first half-hour ; if plain batter, turn it over
when it has boiled ten minutes, or the flour will settle.
366 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
"When done, a boiled pudding must be plunged into cold
water a moment, to make it separate from the cloth easily.
In cutting a boiled pudding, dip the knife in hot water for a
minute, or lay it on the sides of the pudding till warm, and
you can cut it without making it heavy.
Old housekeepers ^vill think these hints quite needless,
but letters daily received show them to be very much needed
by the young, with whom in a short time we intend to have
another quiet talk, from which the old folks may retire.
LXXXV.
AS THY DAY SO SHALL THY STRENGTH BE.
FROM those who seek counsel or consolation we receive
many letters which we would gladly excuse ourselves
from answering, by the plea that such topics come not under
our supervision. But we cannot feel that words for " The
Household " mean only information about the washing, cook-
ing, and house-cleaning, — simply those things which belong
to the temporal state and bodily comfort. We are compelled
to attach a broader meaning to that word household. All
the joys and sorrows, the hopes and fears, all the perplex-
ities and anxieties which the mother, even more than the
mistress, must accept when she assumes her position as the
head of the home circle, cluster around the word and rise
before her each hour of the day, if she conscientiously tries
to do her duty. N'ot alone the health and bodily comfort of
those who compose her kingdom, but their life-long useful-
ness and eternal happiness, are committed to her Avatchful
care, and may be Avrecked by one false step, one unguarded
act, one ill-tempered word or unjust suspicion. Ah, to at-
AS THY DAY SO SHALL THY STRENGTH BE. 367
tempt to trace her responsibility through all the life that lies
before her is overwhelming if she has not learned to feel
that '* as her day so shall her strength be " !
At tunes the mother's life is full of brightness and joyous-
ness ; again, she sinks to the depths of despondency, or trem-
bles with wild forebodings as her multiplying duties rise up
l)efore her, and she realizes how many conflicting characters
and dispositions are depending on her for guidance. No-
where does she feel this so keenly as in the care of her chil-
dren. The consciousness of ignorance or inability to judge
correctly, to act judicicjusly, so as to meet the wants of
each child and be just to all, oppresses her. If all were
alike, so that one code of laws, one well-digested line of
action, would be as appropriate to the whole as to each indi-
vidual case, the responsibdity of rearing a family would be
far less oppressive.
But there are no two the same. Each differs so widely in
taste, disposition, and habits, that it necessitates as many
modes of management as there are children in the ftuuily.
One is lo^dng and gentle. The parents need but express a
wish, and, through the affections, the child finds its greatest
pleasure in yielding its own wishes to secure theirs. Another
is timid and sensitive to the last degree. A sharp " word at
random spoken," or ill-advised censure, may have " eternal
power through life to wound," because this very timidity in-
duces a habit of reticence and concealment ; the child pre-
ferring to endure the pain, rather than go through the ordeal
of an explanation or justification ; and the next one may be
too proud to attempt it, both coming to the same results
through widely different peculiarities.
One is bold and outspoken ; another carelessly, recklessly
happy, forgetting or neglecting all the rules of home in the
overflowing joyousness of living ; another is so under the in-
fluence of approbativeness, that to please and be approved.
368 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
crowd independent, manly action out of sight ; and the
mother is too happy, if the power of this peculiarity does
not too often draw the child beyond the bounds of strict
honor and truthfulness.
And so through a large family you may look in vain for
two so similar in character that, by taking that course which
proves best for one, you may safely guide the other by it.
A mother of eight children, whose faith is wellnigh ex-
hausted, who is cast down and wholly discouraged, thinks
she would gladly die to escape the great responsibility of
managing them ; and this responsibility is growing greater
and greater each year, as her boys and girls are leaving baby-
hood behind, and rapidly springing up toward manhood and
womanhood. While they were little she enjoyed every mo-
ment, never feeling the care a burden. By and by one was
taken from her, and for a while she refused to be comforted,
till the Saviour spake and drew her to him.
But while she has evidently learned to believe in Jesus, we
think she has not yet learned to trust. After her conversion,
the sense of her obligations to lead her children by the
strait and narrow road has, we think, pressed very heavily
upon her, and she is in danger, not only of hedging the path
so closely as to render it distasteful, and to drive them from
it, but is also depriving herself of all the joy she might pos-
sess by their true and loving companionship. She becomes
alarmed at every act which teaches her that her children are
but mortal, and sees in it evidence conclusive that they are
rapidly going to destruction.
She comes to us for counsel and asks, "Is it because I am
so sinful or so incompetent, that I do not succeed better in
teaching my dear ones to forsake the evil and choose only
the good 1 They are loving and kind ; but if their hearts are
not entirely astray from God, why do they so constantly for-
get all I try to teach them, and do those things which they
AS THY DAY SO SHALL THY STRENGTH BE. 369
know I think wrong 1 Did you ever feel discouraged and
almost hopeless 1 "
Yes, yes ! And voluntarily threw away half the com-
fort every mother is entitled to when her children are young
and ever with her. Anxious mothers never fully remember
the days of their own youth, or realize that half of what
they call sin is but the overflow of bright, young spirits,
ready to effervesce and sparkle a little beyond the strict lines
that the mother, in her more sedate years, has marked out as
the proper bounds. Then mothers are so full of apprehen-
sion, so easily alarmed ! " The evils of this life appear
like rocky precipices, — rugged and barren when seen at a
distance "; and they are sure their children will stumble and
fall, and be destroyed by them. But wait and tntst. When
the great pressure of present care is somewhat lifted, and the
children, one by one, go out from your immediate influence,
and little grandchildren rise up about you, — for whom,
though you dearly love them, you do not feel the full respon-
sibility, — you will find on a nearer approach to these " rocky
precipices " which so frightened you, " that there are many
fruitful spots and refreshing springs mixed with the harsh-
ness and deformities of nature." And remember, above all
things, that it is folly to add all the possible cares and bur-
dens of the future to those which can come to you only day
by day.
" Does each day iipon the wing
Its allotted burden bring ?
Load it not besides with sorrow
Which belongeth to the morrow.
Strength is promised, strength is given,
When the heart by God is riven ;
"Bnt fnredate the day of woe,
And alo7ie thou bear'st the blow.
" One thing only claims thy care :
Seek thou first, by faith and prayer,
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370 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
Tliat all-glorious world above, —
Scene of rigliteousness and love ;
And, whate'er thou need'st below.
He thou tnistest will bestow."
LXXXVI.
WHAT WE KNOW NOT NOW WE SHALL KNOW
HEREAFTER.
STRANGE how natural it is for each individual to feel
that there are no troubles, no sorrows, so severe as his
own ! How ready we are to feel that if the lessons our Fa-
ther is teaching us were such as others around us were learn-
ing, we could surely bear them with fortitude !
The mother whom we spoke of in the last article, like many
more who fully understand her difficulties, — for they are
passing over the same rough road, — felt her trust and faith
failing ; yea, would " gladly lie down and die," before half
her threescore years and ten were accomplished, might she.
escape the responsibility of teaching her children, and using
her best faculties (no one is asked to do any more) to train
them up into noble men and women. The task appeared so
hard, the way so long, and her faith so weak !
Now another mother claims, at least, our fullest sympathy,
— a Eachel, " mourning for her children, and refusing to be
comforted, because they are not." One after another has
been taken from her, and each one at " the most interesting
age."
"When is this " most interesting " age 1 ■ Can a mother
draw the line 1 In early babyhood the precious gift nestles
in her bosom, and lives entirely through her life, — so de-
pendent on her for every care and comfort, that no one else
WE SHALL KNOW HEREAFTER, 371
can attempt to supply her place. Utterly helpless as the
babe is, when the mother realizes how necessary to its life is
her ceaseless watchfulness, can there be any period when it
wiU be so interesting, so dear to her heart, as now, in this
state of complete dependence 1
Cut slowly it emerges from this helpless condition. Its
first recognition, its first smiles and playfulness, are all be-
witching. What can be more lovely 1 A few weeks pass,
and it can sit alone ; then it begins to creep ; now, with
what absorbing interest the first steps are watched, and com-
mented upon with a pride and earnestness as if no child
ever did all these things before. The mother's heart is over-
flowing Avith love and tenderness ; but God calls, and the
lovely babe is forever hid from her sight.
How can she bear it 1 Whose sorrow was ever like unto
hers 1 Why is it that God has sent this trial ? What lesson
can be taught by it, that will do half the good which that
child's presence would have accomplished'? What is there
in the care, the anxieties of watching over its maturing,
which can be thought a hardship 1 How joyfully would
this mother bear all this, if the life of her child might have
been spared ! She longs to lie down and die, not because
of the responsibihty which she knows would have increased
with every added year, — ■ she could have trusted her Father
to give her strength sufiicient for those duties. Her faith and
trust fail, because God took her child from her, and in her
anguish she cries, " Why am I thus bereaved 1 " In answer
to these sad questions we can only say, " What ye know not
now ye shall know hereafter." In the first bitterness of
this grief, there is nothing more to be said.
Another little one is given to soothe the mother. She
watches it with trembling heart, through all the stages that
her first-born had passed. Every unusual motion, every cry
the child utters, fills her heart with alarm ; some fresh cause
372 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
for fear is found daily. But the little one thrives, has
reached and passed all the pomts of deep interest which
once before the mother watched with such pride. ISTow it
begins to lisp her name, and shortly its cmaning prattle is
the theme of constant thought and conversation. "When she
rises in the morning, — at the table, by the fireside, — it
is again and again repeated, a many-times-told tale, but al-
ways fresh, always new and beautiful. The mother has
nothing else with which to entertain the friends who call,
and truly believes that nothing could be told so new or so
pleasing. In her absorbing dehght over each new grace and
beauty that is day by day developing, has she always re-
membered the Giver of her treasure"? or, has her love be-
come idolatry 1
Again death enters, and just as the mother has begun to
feel secure, her darling is snatched away from her. In this
hour of anguish, what can comfort 1 Her heart rises up in
rebellion, and she sees only cruelty in this second stroke.
In her despair she accuses God wrongfully. She demands
the reason why, "What evil have I done, that I am be-
reaved of my children 1 " And friends can only weep with
her, saying, " What ye know not now ye shall know here-
after ! "
We grieve with you, poor stricken mother. We know
every step of the thorny road you are crossing ; but do not
allow these trials to make your heart grow cold and bitter.
You say, " I see nothing but injustice in these dispensations
which have left my home so desolate. Another child has
been given us, but I am trying to steel my heart against it,
for anything I love is taken from me."
This is all wrong. You say that your husband is kind, and
bearing his own sorroAV for the loss of the little one silently,
that he may comfort you. Should you not remember that
he has been equally bereaved, and may need your sympathy 1
WE SHALL KNOW HEREAFTER. 373
" Bear ye one another's burdens," antl by so doing will you
not find strength to rise above this affliction, so far that you
can perform your duties with comfort, if not with cheerful-
ness ] You say you have no pleasure in the little one still
left you. May it not have been sent as a ministering spirit,
to awaken in your heart a deeper love and gratitude for the
mercies that still surround you, and bring you nearer to the
Father, who often " wounds to heal, afflicts to save " 1
There are trials harder to bear than those which seem to
have so nearly crushed you. When, instead of the prattle
and frolic of babyhood, the child becomes old enough to be
taught how to assist the mother in various Avays, — begins
to read and study, showing a mind rapidly maturing, giving
promise of no common strength of character, — do you not
see that it must become even more precious with each new
development 1 Yet when incurable disease fastens upon it,
and the parents see their bright and joyous child slowly but
surely fading from their home, is not this a heavier calamity
than when our little ones are taken from their cradles after
only a few days of suffering 1
"We have seen a mother for months hold back her tears,
and minister to the wants of the sufferer ; and, hardest of all,
sit by the bedside and listen to the child's anxious question-
ings, — soothing its fears, when knowing that it is just enter-
ing the dark valley ; singing of the peace and joys that lie
beyond ; step by step, as death came nearer, leading this
child of her love down even to the banks of the " river that
flows close by the throne of God," that when its timid feet
touch the Avaters she may herself almost lay the child into
the Saviour's arms, who is waiting to receive and bless it. I n
this, cannot you imagine that there is a depth of anguish
which you have not yet flithomed ? As our children groAV to-
ward manhood and womanhood with promise of rich maturity,
does not our love grow with their growth, and strengthen
374 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
with their strength'? When their education is just com-
pleted, and they are almost ready to begin life's work, if
taken from us, is not the loss greater, the desolation more
appalling, than that which you have known 1
But your sorrow, though yet unsanctified, must be, to us,
held sacred from severe judgment. Nature will rule for a
time, and may compel utterance for which you can hardly
be held responsible. We only fear that your grief may be-
come morbid and your heart refuse to see the silver lining
which may be discerned in every cloud. Why these afflic-
tions have been sent we cannot tell. Our Father sees when
our hearts have turned from their allegiance, and knows best
what sharp lessons will be necessary to bring us back to
him. He may see that your love has blinded you to the
solemn duties that rest upon you, and to save the children
from the eifects of injudicious indulgence, may have taken
them to himself, and by their loss design to draw you
nearer.
Some lines, sent us by Mrs. Crann, the author of " Little
Foxes," will show you more clearly what we would convey
than any words of oiu:s : — ■
"We sat within a lighted room,
My baby boy and I ;
But empty were my loving arras,
Where he was wont to lie
And look np fondly in my face,
For pretty toys were near ;
And, though I called him lovingly,
The darling woiUd not hear.
" I yearned to clasp him to my heart,
But wooed him all in vain ;
To leave his play and come to me
Would give him too much jjain.
I took the candle in my hand,
And, with a breath of air,
Extinguished its soft, cheerful light.
And made all darkness there.
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" And soon I heard a sweet-toned voice,
To whicli I love to hark,
Cry, ' Mother, take me in your arras !
I 'm frightened in tlie dark ! '
, And tlieu I caught the svi^eet boy uji,
And felt him clasp me tight,
And knew that I was needed then.
Because there was no light.
"And as my darling grew in years,
The brightness of my joy
Made me adore our Father less
Than I adored my boy.
He called me in a tender tone, —
His voice is always mild, —
But I refused to go to Him,
And played on with my child.
" And then He blew my candle out
By stopping Harry's breath ;
And in the anguish of that grief.
The darkness of that death,
I cried out in a trembling voice.
And with an aching brow,
* I 'm coming to thee, my God ! .
For my heart needs thee now. ' "
LXXXVIL
UNTIL DEATH DO US PART.
" A WIFE " writes that she has three children ; has
7v been married eight years, and thinks it would be
pleasant to be relieved from all home cares, and travel for a
few months. Her mother would take her children home, so
that she could feel perfectly at ease aboiit them, but her hus-
band objects. He cannot possibly go with her, and though
it would be much pleasanter to have him accompany her, yet
370 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
she could go with friends, who would give her every atten-
tion. Her husband is abundantly able to afford her this
pleasure, but objects to her leaving him, — " having his
home broken up, and his children separated from him "
(sensible man ! ). " He endeavors to jDcrsuade her to be con-
tented at home until by and by he can take wife and chil-
dren on this pleasure trip."
IS'ow she declares that she has no faith in these hy and
hyes, with which husbands seek to keep their wives from en-
joying the present, by promises for the future. She thinks
him unreasonably selfish, and feels that she would be justified
in cutting loose from such bondage occasionally, and taking
her pleasure, as she constantly sees so many other ladies
doing.
We are pained with the whole tone of this letter, of
which we give but a few lines. ^Notwithstanding her com-
plaints and fault-finding, the writer cannot hide the fact
that, from her own showing, she has a pleasant home, an in-
dulgent husband, and wealth sufficient to obviate any neces-
sity for labor or care, more than is required to superintend
her domestic affairs, and look after her children, as every
mother and housekeeper pledges herself to do when she en-
ters the marriage state. It is natural that her husband
should object to her leaving him for months, deprive him
of his children, and disorganize his home, for her own grati-
fication.
" Until death do us part^^ the promise reads : not sim-
ply for a few years, at the end of which time the whole
domestic economy may become deranged simply for personal
pleasure, apart from the family.
We see nothing that this dissatisfied woman has to com-
plain of, but are inchned to think she has been infected
with those perrdcious doctrines which have led to loud com-
plaints about women, — defrauded of her rights, woman's
UNTIL DEATH DO US PART. 377
cruel subjugation, — doctrines with which we have less and
less patience, because we see more and more clearly the mis-
takes and mischief which have sprung and will continue to
spring from them, unless the " plague is stayed." No doubt
many a Avoman is oppressed and treated unkindly, often
cruelly, and made to feel that she is placed by her husband
in a suliordinate position, instead of reigning ivith him over
their home, — his other self with equal rights and power,
as is only meet, — having charge of one department, while
he takes another for which his stronger organization and
peculiar masculine abilities are better adapted. The husband
to superintend the outside, severer duties : the wife as God
prepared her to be, the mother watching over infancy, and
through those duties made less physically strong, but giving
grace and refinement to the home, which, without her, —
under masculine supervision, — would degenerate into coarse-
ness and inelegance.
"We know there are many overtaxed, broken-down women
who by kindness and just appreciation might have been
saved, and remained altogether lovely and refined, making
their homes like Paradise before the fall.
There are also many broken-down men, dispirited, uneasy
of hfe, ruined by the frivolity, irritability, and extrava-
gance of their wives, whom a refined, sensible, loving woman,
would have redeemed and made happy, noble, and godlike.
"We imagine the rights and the wrongs are about equally
divided on either side. The deceitfulness of the human
heart, the natural depravity, unsubdued, left to run wild
and ungoverned, seeking not the peace and happiness of the
chosen partner, but their own selfish gratification, has changed
many a noble man into a reckless, uncomfortable, unprinci-
pled husband, or an arbitrary and harsh domestic tyrant.
And the same selfish indulgence and unregulated passions
have also changed many a woman, capable of shining in her
378 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
appropriate sphere as mother, or home refiner, into an irrita-
ble, unsatisfied, fireside torment.
But this is wandering from the main point, through a
train of thoughts very naturally evoked by the perusal of
the letter referred to. "We believe many homes are injured,
and much dissatisfaction and unhappiness occasioned by the
greatly increased disposition to travel ; roaming each year
away from home, and too frequently without the companion-
ship which should naturally be secured. A man is often com-
pelled by business to be absent from home for weeks, or even
months, to go abroad, and frequently when it would be impos-
sible for him to take his wife with him. Often one must go
for health, while it is important that the other shoidd remain
at home to look after their common interests. These are mis-
fortuii?s which cannot be avoided, and must be borne from
necessity, not from choice.
But when we see either desiring to roam, " to go a pleas-
uring " alone, when both cannot go, we wonder at the folly
which is laying the foundation for bitter regret in later years.
The marriage ceremony is but a mockery, if the two who
exchange vows are not expecting to find their chief earthly
joys in each other's society. But when they can bring their
minds to a separation of weeks or months, just for pleasure,
we think they little dream of the heart-aches they are laying
up in store for one another.
Keep together while you can. Death will sever the bond,
all too soon, or sickness compel absence, full of fear and sad
forebodings. It is impossible for a husband and wife to
be absent from each other often, even for a few weeks at a
time, without finding little changes on their return. Every
one has some peculiarities of character and disposition which
are not exactly congenial ; but if married young, before hab-
its or traits are fixed past change, all these httle infehcities
are softened or lost sight of in daily communion, and man and
UNTIL DEATH DO US PART. 379
wife assimilate, and grow more and more of one heart and
one mind, if happily mated. But let these separations, even
of short duration, once begin, and they soon grow apart.
The natural traits and dissimilarities which constant associa-
tion have held dormant wake up, and are less and less easily
lulled to sleep after each separation.
We think women are more injured by this roving than
men. The latter are seldom long absent, except on business,
with no leisure for pleasure-seeking while away ; and in their
necessarily rapid traveling, the hurry, the annoyance, the loss
of creature comforts, which are found in greater perfection at
home, are more felt, and usually the comforts and luxuries of
their own fireside are more fully appreciated on their return.
In the whirl of business while absent, they have little temp-
tation to take up any unusual line of thought or action. But
a woman, unless she must go for her health, more frequently
travels to have a " good time," throwing aside all cares, instead
of taking them with her as her husband does. In this free-
dom, she at once enters upon a mode of life altogether differ-
ent from that which a wife, mother, or housekeeper can have
at home. Her love of nicety and order is less disturbed when
she has only herself to care for ; and a selfish habit, a feeling
of entire independence, is easily established, so that when she
returns home she finds it difficult to take up again what was
once a pleasure, but now seems more hke the " burden of
life." The noise and confusion of children or much company,
for the care of which she feels responsible, are far more
irksome than before her " pleasure trip." She does not find
the yoke so easy or the burden so light. The habit of being
interested in or sharing one another's cares, reporting little
items of daily news when together, is destroyed, and without
any intentional unkindness they have learned to turn to
others for the amusement or the social intercourse which was
once a part of their life.
380 MOTHERLY TALKS WITH YOUNG HOUSEKEEPERS.
These are not intentional sliglds, bnt the changes which
repeated absence most naturally brings. A woman sees the
changes much sooner than a man, — sees, grieves over them,
and is made unhappy by them, if she loves her husband,
though often too proud to let it be known. It pleastire trijys
are frequent or of long duration, these changes are more
marked. Husbands and wives, who were once made uncom-
fortable and restless if one meal passed unshared, learn after
a while, by frequent separations, to let many pass with but
little regret. Separation has lost its former importance in
their eyes. Why should it not be so 1 If death divides them,
however true the sorrow, time after a while must bring heal-
ing ; and the heart, although there will always be a niche
which no one else can occupy, must, after many days, turn for
comfort and companionship to other, if not better friends.
Sometimes, perhaps, in a younger and fairer, the old love
is entirely lost sight of.
Let this discontented wife, who, after eight years of mar-
ried life and the care of home and three children, feels that
she should be indulged in a vacation and freedom from these
responsibilities, ponder well the probable consequences of
the steps she desires to take in opposition to her husband's
wishes. To secure the short-lived pleasure of a feAV months'
travel, can she afford to risk the many changes she may ex-
pect on her return 1 Will she be willing to see that her
husband has less confidence in her, less desire for her society,
than formerly ; that he has learned that there are many com-
forts and pleasures to be found outside his home? Is the
gratification worth the price she may be called to pay for it ?
We have not put this subject in as clear and strong a light
as Ave desired ; but if what we have said may have sufficient
weight to lead this " wife," and others who are showing
indications of having been infected with the same restless,
dissatisfied spirit, to think long and soberly before they
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decide, we shall be thaiildul. We do not believe a true-
hearted, sensible wife would willingly desert her post or
seek any enjoyment in which her family cannot share.
Keep your families unbroken ; together share each other's
joys and sorrows, so far as possible, until death severs the
bond. That is the wisest, happiest way of living. When
death compels separations, you will have enough to regret,
without mourning for the days needlessly spent apart.
PART II.
CHOICE FAMILY EEOEIPTS.
CHOICE FAMILY EECEIPTS.
YEAST.
Yeast. — Good yeast is indispensable in order to secure good
bread.
Pare and boil eight medium-sized potatoes. Remove them from
the water when done, and put into it one small handful of loose
or two teaspoonfuls oH 2)rcssed hops. While these are boiling, mash
and roll the potatoes very smooth, free from lumps ; mix with
them three even table-spoonfuls of flour, a half-cup of sugar,
brown sugar is the best for yeast, — one even table-spoonful of
ginger, and three of salt. Strain out the hops after boiling fifteen
minutes, and pour the boiling water over tlie potatoes, flour, etc.
Stir well together, and again set it on the range or stove till it
boils up once, stirring it all the time, or it will burn. This done,
pour it into a large earthen bowl or stone pot to cool. When
blood-warm, add one penny's worth of bakers' yeast or a yeast-
cake. Keep in a warm place till well raised, then put it into a
stone jug ; cork and tie down securely.
One teacupful will raise three good-sized loaves.
Another. — Take one pint of the water in which the potatoes
for dinner were boiled ; while it is boiling hot, thicken vnth flour ;
add a cup of yeast when the batter is cool. Set the jar in which
it is made in a warm place, and it vnll be light in a few hours
and ready to use.
Yeast-Cakes. — Pour a pint of boiling water over a teaspoon-
ful of hops ; let it stand ten or fifteen minutes, then strain the
water into a saucepan ; heat it boiling hot, stir in flour enough to
make a stiff batter, and set it aside to cool. When lukewarm,
put in a teacupful of good yeast, or a yeast-cake softened in
water. Set in a warm place to rise. When light, add a tea-
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spoonful of salt, two table-spoonfuls of molasses or sugar, and a
little soda. Then mix in corn meal to make it stiff enough to roll
into a long round roll. Cut it in slices about half an inch thick,
spread meal over your board, and lay these cakes to dry. Turn
them frequently while drying, and, if possible, get them dried in
two or three days, or they may become sour. It is well to diy
them in the air, but not in the sun. Put them in bags in a diy
place ; and when you use one soak it in milk- warm water.
BEEAD.
General Rules. — Five quarts of flour and one quart of milk
or water are suflicient for two loaves in quart-pans.
Rub shortening, salt, and potatoes, if used, into the flour before
wetting it. The milk or water for wetting should be about milk-
warm, and the yeast be stirred into part of the wetting for the
sponge, or into the w^hole, if the bread is to be made without
sponging ; then pour it on the flour and knead.
Bread without Sponging. — Sift five quarts of flour, cover
and set by the fire to dry. Pare and Ijoil five medium-sized pota-
toes. When done, drain them dry from the water and sprinkle
over them a teaspoonful of salt. Mash perfectly smooth and free
from lumps, adding an even table-spoonful of sugar, and rub all
together, till potatoes and flour are perfectly combined. Take a
pint of the water in which the potatoes were boiled, and a little
more than a pint of milk, and when blood-warm stir into it one
cup of home-made or a cent's worth of bakers' yeast. Pour it on
the flour and potatoes, and knead the whole together without
sponging. All bread should be kneaded a full half-hour, then
covered with a clean bread-cloth, and over that a bread-blanket,
and set in a warm place to rise. If mixed overnight it will be
ready for the second molding before breakfast ; then make into
loaves and put into the pans for tlie second and last rising. When
light let it be Avell baked, but not long enough to make it hard
and dry. When done, take from the pans, vsrrap a bread-cloth
round each loaf, and turn upper side down into the pans, leaving
it there till cold. This will help to make the crust tender.
Good Bread. — Put what flour will be needed for two or four
loaves, according to the size of your family, into your bread bowl
BREAD. 387
or pan. Make a hole in the niiildle, pressing the flour compactly
towards the sides of the pan ; then pour in sufficient boiling water
to thoroughly scald and wet about one half of the flour. When
cool, stir in one cupful of lively domestic yeast or a cent's worth
of bakers', or, if you prefer, a small cake of dried yeast pre^dously
soaked in warm water. Set it near the stove or in a warm place
in cool weather, cover closely just before retiring at night, and it
will be light by morning, when a teaspoonful of salt and enough
more warm, but not hot, water to wet all the flour must be added ;
knead it veiy thoroughly, and set it to rise again. When light,
work it again, and put in the jians to rise for the last time, and
as soon as it is light bake in a moderately heated oven. If the
oven is too hot at first, the bread is apt to get brown on top and
bottom too soon, and then it will not be done in the middle. A
moderate oven at first is best, increasing the heat gradually until
the bread is about half done, when it should be of a steady heat
till the bread is done.
Bread with Sponging. — Stir into three cjuarts of milk-warm
water one even table-spoonful of salt, and flour enough to make a
soft batter. To this add the yeast above mentioned, or, in warm
weather, use only half as much. Set the pan in a warm place in
cold weather, and cover closely with a clean bread-cloth. Make
this sponge at bedtime. If the sponge is at all sour in the morn-
ing, dissolve a teaspoonful of soda in a little water and stir in ;
then work in as much flour as is needed to mold it easily, and
knead it thoroughly. Make it into small loaves, and see that the
pans are well buttered and warmed when used. Keep them in a
warm place, and cover with a clean white bread-cloth. If properly
cared for, it will be light in an hour, and ready for the oven, which
must be well heated. In baking bread or cake, care should be
taken that the top does not broAvn too soon, as that will prevent
its rising up light, as it otherwise would. If this makes too many
loaves, it is easy to make only half or one third the quantity.
To make Bread from Flour that runs. — Put what flour
you need in your pan, and pour enough boiling water over to
just wet all of it, but not to make it thin ; sprinkle in a tea-
spoonful of salt and a spoonful of butter ; stir it up with a large
wooden spoon until sure that all the flom* is scalded ; then cover
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and let it stand till cool enough to add the yeast. So that the
yeast is sweet and lively, you can use any kind you prefer,
bakers' or home-made. When the flour is siifficiently cool, clear
to the bottom, add your yeast, and give the whole mass a faithful
kneading, adding more tepid milk or water, if needed. Knead
till the dough cleaves from your hand easily, then set it to rise.
When very light, knead again, put into the pans, and leave it to
rise once more ; then bake as directed above.
By this method running flour can often be conquered, and
bread thus scalded will be found uncommonly sweet and tender.
Bread by Scalding the Flour. — Pour enough boiling wa-
ter on two quarts of flour to wet it thoroughly ; add two even
table-spoonfuls of butter ; stir all well together, and let it stand
till cool ; then add a small cup of domestic yeast, or not quite a
penny's worth of bakers' yeast ; mold it fifteen minutes, then set
by the fire to rise. When it begins to crack on top, put it on the
molding-board, beat it with the rolling-pin, and chop and mold
alternately for twenty minutes ; then make into loaves, prick
them on top, and set them by the fire to rise once more. As soon
as light, bake. Bread made in this way is not cpite so white, but
is very sweet and light. If flour is at all inclined to " run," the
scalding will stop it.
To make Stale Bread fresh. — Put the loaf into a clean
tin, and cover closely to exclude all water, and set into a steamer
or a kettle of boiling water for half an hour ; then remove it from
the tin and it will look like fresh bread, and be really almost
equal to a new loaf.
Graham Bread. — Two quarts of unbolted wheat, half a cent's
worth of bakers' yeast, or half a teacup of home-made yeast ; two
table-spoonfuls of molasses, one even teaspoonful of salt, and
warm water or milk and water enough to make a stifi" dough.
Beat this well, or, wetting your hands in water, mix it very thor-
oughly ; cover closely, and let it rise light, — about six hours in
warm weather, or in ■winter mix just before going to bed. When it
is light, wet your hands in cold water and put it into well-buttered
pans. Let it rise in the pans about an inch ; an hour will gener-
ally be long enough. Bake an hour and a half, or until it is very
well baked, but not scorched.
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Or, take three small cups of the sponge from your wheat
bread ; when well risen add to it two spoonfuls of moLosses, half
a teacup of Indian meal, one teaspoonful of salt, and half a pint
of warm milk and water ; stir in enough Graham flour to make
a stitf dough, and cover closely and set to rise. When light, fill
your pans half full ; let it rise once more, and bake carefully.
Or, pour boiling water over one quart of Graham flour ; add a
teaspoonful of salt, three table-spoonfuls of molasses. Let it stand
till lukewarm ; then add half a cup of home-made yeast, or part
of a penny's worth of bakers' yeast ; dip your hands in cold water,
and mix it thoroughly. If too stift", add more warm water. If
too thin, mix in more flour. It should not be so stiff" as for fine
flour bread. Let it rise light ; then put it into well-buttered
pans to rise again. When light, bake one hour. It requires
a hotter oven and needs to bake longer than other bread.
Or, one quart of flour, one teaspoonful of salt, three table-spoon-
fuls of molasses, and two table- spoonfuls of yeast ; wet with warm
water, or warm milk and water, till as thick as pound-cake. If
wanted for breakfast, let it stand overnight. When ready to
bake, add a well-beaten egg and a teaspoonful of soda ; put into
buttered pans and liake well.
Or, one quart of buttermilk or sour milk, soda enough to make
it foam, and while foaming pour it on the Graham flour, stirring
it together quickly. The flour should be all ready in the pan,
and one teaspoonful of salt, and a scant half-teaciip of molasses
stirred into it before the soda is put to the buttermilk. Make it
as thick as pomid-cake ; bake immediately one hour with a steady
hot fire ; add a well-beaten egg if in a huny for your bread, as it
will bake sooner, and Ave think be lighter for it.
Steamed Brown Bread. — One cup of Indian meal, two cu[is
of rye, one cup of molasses, two cups of milk, a half-teaspoonful
of soda, the same of salt. Stir well together and steam in some
of the new " boilers " or " cookers " or " steamers " three hours ;
taking care that the water does not stop boiling. Add boiling
water as the water boils away. If you wish it hot for breakfast,
steam the day before, and in the morning set it in the oven for
half an hour to form a good crust.
Corn Bread. — Sift two cups of Indian meal overnight ; jiour
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on it just enougli really hoiling water to moisten or wet it through ;
cover it up and let it stand till morning ; then add one cup of
flour in which an even teaspoonful of cream of tartar has been
sifted. Dissolve half a teaspoonful of soda in one cup of sweet
milk, and stir with the meal and flour ; add half a small cup of
sugar ; beat two eggs — yelks and whites separately — and put
in the last thing. Bake in a quick oven.
Rice Bread (Southern Receipt). — One piut of rice flour, half a
pint of wheat flour, one pint of sour milk, two eggs, butter half the
size of an egg, and one teaspoonful of soda. The rice flour must
be very fine, and stirred in after the other ingredients are partly
mixed. Bake as soon as possible after the whole is stirred together.
Bread is sometimes made of ai^ple mixed with flour, by putting
one third of stewed apple-pulp to two thirds of flour, and ferment-
ing with yeast for twelve hours. This bread is said to be light
and very palatable. It is much used in France.
BISCUIT.
Morning Biscuit. — One quart of flour, half a teaspoonful of
salt, two table-spoonfuls of yeast, and one pint of sour milk, with
lialf a teaspoonful of soda dissolved in it. "Work this into a
dough ; then rula into the dough half a cup of butter. Knead
well ; cut off small bits ; shape them into biscuits ; lay them in
the bake-pan, cover closely with a bread-cloth, and let them stand
overnight in a warm place in winter and a cool place in summer.
Bake in the morning for breakfast.
Tea Biscuit. — Peel and boil four potatoes of medium size.
When done, mash and roll them smooth and perfectly free from
lumps, sprinkling a table-spoonful of salt over them. Put to
the potatoes a half-pint of the water in which they were boiled, a
half-pint of milk, and a table-spoonful of sugar. Stir into this
sufficient flour to make it a stiff batter. When cool, add half a
penny's worth of bakers' yeast, or half a teacup of home-made
yeast. Cover over with a bread-cloth and blanket. In cold
weather leave this sponge in a Avarm place overnight to rise. In
the summer, make it early in the morning. When this is risen
until quite foamy, soften — but do not melt — two thirds of a
teacupful of butter, and beat it into the sponge, together with two
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egg.-!, yelks and whites beaten separately ; add flour to make it
stilt" enough to mold, — the softer it can be worked the better it
will be. Knead it half an hour, then cover and set it to rise.
When light, knead and chop the dough at least fifteen minutes.
This done, return it to the bread-bowl, again cover closely, and
set to rise. When light, repeat the kneading ; let it rise the sec-
ond time, when it should be worked down and set on the ice in
the ice-box, until within an hoitr of tea-time ; then it must be
again molded, rolled out, cut into small biscuits, pricked on the
top, put into a bake-pan, covered over, and set to rise on a bench,
near the stove, twenty minutes or half an hour. When light, set
the biscuits into an evenly heated oven, and bake quickly to a
delicate brown. When done, cover over with a bread-cloth for a
short time before removing from the pan, to soften the crust.
Soda Biscuit. — Put two teaspoonfuls of cream of tartar into
one quart of flour ; sift both together and rub in thoroughly two
great spoonfuls of butter. Put one teaspoonful of soda into a
table-spoonful of cold water, and stir till all is dissolved, then put
it into a pint of cold water and pour it on the flour. Stir together
quickly ; if it cannot be rolled out, add a little more flour, but
just as little as it is possible to roll out the biscuits with. Cut in
s!iape and bake immediately. The great secret of making good
soda biscuit is to sift the soda with the flour, to have it thor-
oughly dissolved, the dough made as thin and as quickly as pos-
sible, and baked immediately.
Indian-Corn Biscuit. — One quart of corn meal, one pint of
Avheat flour, sifted together, and stirred into three pints of milk ;
add a teaspoonful of salt. Beat four eggs, the yelks and whites
separately, as for sponge-cakes. First stir the yelks into the bat-
ter ; then add the whites, and a small teaspoonful of soda, the
last thing. Have ready buttered some cups or small pans ; nearly
fill them with the batter, and set into the hot oven immediately.
Bake fast, turn from the cups as soon as done, and serve im-
mediately. They should puff up so as to more than fill the cups.
Parker House Rolls. ■ — Two quarts flour, one large spoonful
of lard, small teaspoonful of salt, one pint boiled milk, — set aside
till cold, ■ — half-cup sugar, half-cup yeast. Make a hole in center
of the flour, put in milk, etc., and let it rise overnight. In the
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morning knead it well, and let it rise till noon ; then cut it into
long, narrow rolls and let it rise till tea-time. Bake.
Rusk. — Three colfee-cups new milk, three eggs, one teacup
butter, one teacup sugar, one of yeast, and flour enough for bat-
ter. When the batter has well risen, work in more flour, but mix
it rather soft ; let it rise once more, quite light, but be careful
that it does not sour ; then make it out into rolls or biscuits ; let
it stand again a short time, and bake in a moderately hot oven ;
fifteen or twenty minutes should cook them.
Sweet Potato Buns. — Boil and mash two good-sized pota-
toes ; rub in as much flour as will make it. like bread ; add a
little nutmeg and one table-spoonful of sugar, with a table-spoonful
of good yeast. When it has risen, work in two table-spoonfuls of
butter, and soften so as to be easily mixed thoroughly -svith the
dough ; then form into small rolls, and, when raised the second
time, bake on tms a nice brown. Serve hot.
Potato Pone. — Pare and grate on a large grater sweet pota-
toes enough to make one quart of grated potato. Stir to this one
pint of sweet milk, two eggs, two thirds of a cup of butter, and
enough sugar to make it as sweet as plain cake ; season -with
ginger. Bake till well done. Eat, hot or cold, with butter. If
desired to be light colored, put the potatoes into cold water as soon
as pared, and when ready grate into the milk. If dark-colored
pone is preferred, sweeten with molasses and season with allspice.
This is very rich made like poimd-cake, using one and a half
pounds of grated potato in place of flour.
Gems. — Break into a quart of milk four eggs (two will an-
swer) without beating, stir in flour till as thick as wafiies. Beat
till smooth, and fill the "gem" pans half full. Bake quick in a
hot oven. No salt, soda, or cream of tartar.
The "gem" pans should be well buttered, and set into the oven
to get quite hot while the batter is being prepared, and when you
are filling them, set the pan on the top of the range to keep it hot.
When filled, set them immediately in the oven.
Gems, No. 2. — Drop four eggs, without beating, into a
quart of milk ; add two great spoonfuls of melted butter, and
beat in flour until as thick as Avafiies. Pour into hot buttered
gem pans, and bake like the first.
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Graham Gems. — Drop one egg into a quart of milk or water.
Stir ill Graham flour until as stiff as waffles. Pour into hot, Lut-
tored gem pans, and bake quickly. Or add to the above one
table-spoonful of melted butter ; they will be tenderer.
In all measures the spoon, cup, or tin should never be heaped,
but even full.
BREAKFAST AND TEA CAKES.
Corn Cakes. — Rub one table-spoonful of lard into four cups
of com meal. Stir the meal into four cujjs of sour milk, with a
teaspoonful of salt. Beat two eggs very light, and put in one tea-
spoonful of soda, the last thing. Beat well, and bake in small
gem irons, or light tin forms.
Another "Way. — Three teacups of com meal, one teacup of
wheat Hour, two teacups of milk, one teacup of cream, or a third
of a teacup of butter, three table-spoonfuls of sugar, one egg, —
beat yelk and white separately, and very light ; one teaspoonful
of salt, and half a teaspoonful of soda. Bake in small pans, with
a brisk heat.
Another. — Sift two cups of meal, pour over it one teacup
of boiling milk, stir it up well, and let it stand all night if
intended for breakfast. The next morning add one cup of wheat
flour, one of sugar, a half-cup of butter, the well-beaten yelks of
two eggs ; add, if needed, more milk, so as to make it as thin as
waffles. Take one scant teaspoonful of soda ; the whites of the
eggs, beaten stiff, to be added the last. Pour into a well-buttered
pan and bake about twenty-five miiiutes, in a well-heated oven,
but not scorching hot. If Jewell's Prepared Flour is used, no
soda need be added. If correctly prepared and well baked, this
is excellent. If you have sweet apples, three or four chopped
very fine, added, and two thirds of a cup of finely chopped suet,
instead of butter, is a very great improvement.
Another. — One cupful of flour, two cupfuls of corn me:d,
two great spoonfuls of sugar, not quite half a cupful of butter,
one cupful of milk, two teaspoonfuls of cream of tartar, sifted with
the meal and flour, and a small teaspoonful of soda ; two eggs,
whites and yelks w'ell beaten separately ; the yelks mixed with
the milk and meal, and the whites added, the last thing.
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Steamed Johnny-Cake. — One pint of sour cream, one tea-
spoonful of soda, and one of salt. Stir in three table-spoonfuls of
flour ; then add corn meal enough to make a stiff batter. Beat
one egg, and add to the batter ; stir all carefully together, and
pour into a well-buttered tin basin ; set this into a bread-steamer,
and keep the steam up for an hour, or more if the loaf is large.
Serve with cream and sugar.
Corn-Meal Cake with Apples and Suet. — One pint scalded
milk, or a half-cup cream, or a pint of sour milk, one teacupful
suet chopped fine, a table-spoonful sugar, a teaspoonful salt, six
good-sized sweet apples chopped fine, three eggs well beaten, and
a small teaspoonful of soda. Beat thoroughly, and bake in a
shallow tin pan.
Muffins. — One pint of milk, one table-spoonful of butter, one
pint of flour, a small teaspoonful of salt, three eggs, whites and
yelks beaten separately and very stiff, a small even teaspoon-
ful of soda ; add the whites last, beat smartly and perfectly free
from lumps. Butter the griddle, and bake in well-buttered rings.
"When the bottom is done, turn over the rings and bake the top,
or put the rings on a well-buttered bake-pan and bake in a quick
oven. We think them lighter and better so baked.
Another Way. — One quarter of a pound of butter, one tea-
spoonful salt, three eggs, one pint sweet milk, one quart flour, a
heaping table-spoon of brewers' yeast, or two of home-made yeast.
Melt the butter and put into the milk, beat the eggs and put them
also into the milk, then stir in flour and add the yeast. If for
breakfast, set them to rise overnight. If at all sour, add half-
teaspoonful of soda. Bake in well-buttered rings in a quick oven.
Cream MufBns. — One qiiart rich milk, or, if you can get it,
half cream and half milk ; one quart of flour heaping, six eggs, one
table-spoonful of butter, one of lard ; softened together. Beat
whites and yelks separately very light ; then add flour and short-
ening and a scant teaspoonful of salt, and stir in the flour the last
thing, lightly as possible, and have the batter free from lumps.
Half fill your Avell-buttered muffin-rings, and bake immediately
in a hot oven, or your muffins will not be good. Send to table
the moment they are done.
Another Way. — One teacup sour cream, two eggs, one half-
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teaspoonful of soda, thickened with flour about as stiff as waffles.
Bake iu a quick oven.
Raised Muffins. — One quart milk, a halfpenny's worth of
bakers' yeast or half-cup of hojue-made yeast, two table-spoonfuls
white sugar, one of butter (lard will answer, but is not as good),
one teaspoonful of salt, two eggs well beaten, and flour sufficient
to make a stiff batter.
Make the batter overnight, leaving out tlie eggs. In the morn-
ing beat the eggs, yelks and whites separately, very light, and
stir into the well-risen batter. Have the muffin-rings well
greased, fill half full with the batter, and bake twenty minutes
in a quick oven. Serve hot.
Hominy Muffins. — Wash a pint of small hominy through
two or three waters, pour boiling water on it, cover, and let it
soak for several hours. Then put it into a farina-kettle with half
a pint of boiling water. Let it boil until soft enough to mash ;
drain it and mix it well with a pint of white corn meal or wheat
flour, a little salt, and a pint and one half of milk in which two
table-spoonfuls of butter have been melted. When nearly cold,
add four table-spoonfuls of yeast ; cover it, and set it in a warm
place until very light, with the surface covered with bubbles.
Butter some muffin-rings, set them on a hot griddle, pour into
each a portion of the mixture, and bake them brown on both
sides. Send them to table hot.
Quick Muffins. — Two teacups buttermilk, one of thick cream,
or, if none, three even table-spoonfuls of melted butter, four eggs,
half a teaspoonful of soda ; thicken with prepared flour as thick
as waffles.
Graham Flour Muffins. — One pint of sour milk, a small
teaspoonful of soda, one table-spoonful of sugar, and Graham flour
sufficient to make a thick batter. Bake in rings, or drop the bat-
ter in spoonfuls on a flat tin. Add a little salt before baking.
Raised Waffles. — One pint of sweet milk, a heaping teacup
of butter, three eggs (yelks and whites beaten separately), a table-
spoonful of thick brewers' yeast or a halfpenny's worth of bakers',
one quart of flour, one quarter of a teaspoonful of soda dissolved in
one teacup of sweet milk ; beat all together, and let it rise till
very light, and then bake. Serve hot, with butter and sugar, or
plain, according to taste.
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Corn-Meal Waffles. — Pour over one pint of com meal, hvice
sifted, one pint of boiling milk. Put in one table-spoonful of but-
ter, one of flour, and a teaspoonful of salt. Let this stand till
cold ; then add half a teaspoonful of soda, dissolved in a little
cold water ; the yelks of two eggs well beaten, the whites whisked
very light and stiff to be added the last thing, when just ready to
bake.
Put a brown paper over bread, biscuit, or cake when first set
into a hot oven, else the top will most likely brown and form a
crust before they rise sufficiently, and thus make them tough or
heavy.
Buckwheat Cakes. — One quart of buckwheat flour, mix
with lukewarm water rather thicker than you will wish it when
ready to bake. A cup of Graham meal added is, we think, an
improvement. Stir in half a cup of family yeast, or a halfpen-
ny's worth of bakers', and a teaspoonful of salt ; mix in an earthen
bowl or a large earthen pitcher, — the latter is the most conven-
ient, as the batter can be poured from the lip of the pitcher more
neatly than it can l)e dipped out of a bowl ; set it where it will
keep warm all night. The batter should be made early in the
evening, as it takes fully ten hours in winter to rise ; when
ready to bake in the morning, beat half a teaspoonful of soda into
a great spoonful of molasses, and stir into the batter, adding also
enough lukewarm water to make it thm enough to fry ; bake
quick ; the thinner the cakes can be baked the better they will be.
Rice Griddle-Cakes. — Half a teacupful of whole rice, three
eggs, half a pint of rich milk, and half a teaspoonful of salt. Cook
the rice till every grain is dissolved and like jelly. Warm the
milk a little, and beat the rice in it till it is smoothly mixed.
When the eggs are beaten very light, add to the rice and milk ;
then the salt. Bake on a hot, greased griddle till broT\Ti and light.
If the batter does not adhere, add another egg, but no flour.
Sour-Milk Griddle-Cakes. — Stir into one quart of sour
milk enough flour to make the batter as thick as waffles ; add an
even teaspoonful of salt and two well-beaten eggs. Dissolve an
even teaspoonful of soda, and beat in when I'eady for frying. This
is very good baked in waffle-irons.
Green-Corn Fritters. — One pint grated corn, one small cup
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butter, one egg, a te.aspooiiful salt, one table-spoonful flour, a little
pepper. Drop on a buttered pan and bake or ivy ten minutes.
Mock Oyster Fritters. — Grate one dozen raw ears of corn ;
after grating, scrape or wring all the milk from the cob ; half a
table-spoonful flour ; season with pepper and salt ; beat the yelks
of three eggs very thick, and stir into the grated corn ; Avhisk the
whites to a stiff froth, and add the last thing. Drop a dessert-
sjioouful at a time on a hot, buttered griddle, and fry of a light
brown on both sides.
Corn Oysters. — One quart grated corn, three eggs well beaten,
one small teaspoonful salt, and a little pepper, with just flour
enough to make the* corn hold together. Drop from a spoon into
hot butter, making cakes about the size of an oyster. Sour milk,
with a half-teaspoonful of soda, will answer if eggs are not plenty.
Rice Cakes. — One cup cold boiled rice rubbed into a quart
of milk, one pint of flour, a teaspooirful of salt, two eggs beaten
very light. Beat all free from lumps. Bake as soon as made, on
a well-greased griddle.
Rice or Hominy Cakes. — Warm one quart of sweet milk,
and rub into it two cups of boiled rice or hominy ; throAV in a
little salt, and add enough wheat flour to bind the rice, or to make
the batter as thick as wafiles. Beat two eggs and add to the bat-
ter, and half a teaspoonful of soda, unless you use the prepared
flour. If you do, there will be no salt or soda needed.
Rosie's Sally Lunn. — One spoonful of butter, one of sugar,
one egg, one pint of milk, one quart of flour, with two teaspoon-
fuls of cream of tartar sifted with the flour, and one teaspoonful
of soda added the last thing. This is an excellent breakfast-cake,
as well as tea-cake, and is sometimes varied by stirring in a pint
of whortleberries.
Stra-wberry Shortcake. — Rub into a pint and a half of
Jewell's Prepared Flour one teacup of butter ; beat one egg very
light ; add milk to make a soft dough ; divide in three parts ;
roll out lightly, lay one portion on a pie-plate or tin, sprinkle a
little flour on the top, then add the second cake, a little flour on
the top of that, and cover with the third. Bake quickly, but not
too brown. Let the benies stand with sugar sprinkled over them
till the cake is baked, then pull the thin portions of cake apart ;
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spread half of the berries OA^er the bottom cake, adding more
sugar and a little butter ; lay the second over them, and put on.
the remainder of the berries with more sugar and butter, placing
the top cake over all. Put it in the oven for a few minutes to
heat through, and send to the table hot.
When wishing an extra nice strawberry cake for tea, beat the
whites of two eggs with a cup of white sugar till stiff, and add to
it half of a grated cocoanut, and spread over the cake. If you
have no prepared flour, sift two small teaspoonfuls of cream of
tartar with the flour ; dissolve one small teaspoonful of soda in
milk, and add the last thing before mixing the cake.
Cream Toast. — Put a pint of rich, sweet cream over the stove
in the farina-kettle, and while heating toast thin slices of stale
bread quickly on both sides, taking care that they do not scorch.
Wet two table-spoonfuls of flour in cold milk ; stir it smooth ;
add a teaspoonful of salt, and when the cream is scalding hot, put
in the flour, stirring all the time till it thickens ; then take the
kettle from the fire. Have ready a dish of salt and water, hot,
and dip each piece of the toasted bread into it, but only for a mo-
ment. Eemove quickly to the toast-dish, and dij) over it a liberal
supply of the thickened cream ; then cut more bread and lay into
the dish, then more cream, till all is used, letting the cream be the
last. If you have no cream, boil and thicken some sweet milk ;
put in an even teaspoonful of salt, two table-spoonfuls of butter,
and, when done, add one or two well-beaten eggs the last thing ;
stir for a few minutes till well united with the boUing milk, and
then pour over the bread.
SOUPS.
General Directions. — Before gi^ang some receipts for sorqos,
we wish first to remind our young housekeepers that it is impor-
tant for them to bear in mind the necessity and economy of keep-
ing good stock constantly on hand. The French stock-pot is
alwaj'^s in readiness to receive every bone, coarse or refuse bit
of meat not suitable to use for the main dish or for side-dishes.
"We understand that the French use earthenware for this purpose
and also for " soup-digesters." It would be a benefaction if our
house-furnishing merchants would import some of these "soup-
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digesters " and " stock-pots," as they are far Letter than metal.
But until we can procure such, the stock, as last as made, should
be strained into a large stone pot, and when cold, all the grease
that rises and hardens on top must be removed, clarified, and set
aside for cooking pm-poses. Aside from the economy of using all
refuse meat and bones for stock, and the convenience of having
it always ready for use, the soup will be better if the stock is
made at least the day before, because one can then easily remove
all the grease, — an important item in preparing good soups.
Stock for Soups. — Buy a knuckle of beef or veal. Have
the bone well cracked in small pieces. Put it in the soup-di-
gester, or, if you have none, in a closely covered iron pot. For
a medium-size piece, add five or six quarts of cold water (by using
cold water you will secure all the juices, whereas in hot water
half the juice is retained in the meat). Let it come to a boil be-
fore you add salt or pejiper ; then season it to suit your taste, and
if agreeable put in a small bit of red pepper. Set the kettle on
the back part of the stove after it once commences to boil, and
keep it gently simmering all day ; then strain it from the bones
and meat, which are now worthless, into a pot kept for the pur-
pose. Never throw away bones that are left from baked, boiled,
or roast meat of any kind, or from steak, poultry, anything, (ex-
cept those taken off the plates) ; dried or gristly bits of meat
may also be used to prepare stock for soup ; and in a large family
sufhcient can be gleaned that would otherwise be thrown into the
swill to keep stock on hands for weeks, without buying a bone
for that purpose alone. Whan the stock is strained off, set it in
the cellar to cool. The next morning carefully remove all the
grease that has risen to the top and hardened, and you will have a
clear, rich stock ready for use. Clarify the grease removed from
the stock by slicing a raw potato into it, and set it over the fire in
a skillet till it laoils ; then strain it from the potato, and you have
fine dripping for many purposes.
Tomato Soup. — • Use stock from beef, ham, veal, or any other
bones or refuse meat. Put two or three quarts into your soup-
kettle, — the size of your family must determine the quantity, —
cut in one carrot, one small onion, if agreeable, a little celery or
fresh parsley ; add salt, pepper, and herbs to suit the taste, and
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tlien make the stock thick with tomatoes, — fresh from the \ine
are much the best ; a si^oonful or two of star maccaroni is an im-
provement, or rice or pearl barley, if you have either at hand. Let
it boil two hours.
Another. — Take bones or bits of meat left from any dish,
and boil well to extract all nutriment, then strain ; or, if you
have none on hand, make a rich stock, put in cabbage, caiTots,
parsnips, or any other vegetables you like ; boil till well done,
then add the tomatoes, — a dozen fresh, or half a can of winter
tomatoes ; boil twenty minutes, then strain and serve hot.
A Vegetable Soup. — Peel and slice six large onions and
four turnips ; fry them in one quarter of a pound of butter, and
then pour over them four quarts of boiUng water. Toast a good-
sized crust of bread hard and brown (Ijut take care that it is not
burned at all), and put into the soup, with a little celery ; sweet
herbs, salt, and pepper to suit your taste. Stew gently four hours,
stirring often to prevent it from scorching ; strain through a coarse
cloth or strainer, when it has cooked the four hours. Have ready
a little thinly sliced carrot, turnip, and celery, — a few slices of each
will be sufficient, — put these into the soup after straining it ;
return to the fire and stew till these last vegetables are tender.
A spoonful or two of tomato catsup will improve it for some
people.
We have not tried this soup, but were told by an excellent
housekeeper that it was capital. "VVe demurred at the quantity
of tomato and onion, but judge the long time given to cook the
soup may combine and incorporate the different flavors so as to
make it quite palatable.
Mock-Turtle Soup. — Take a calf's head dressed with the skin
on, — the fresher the better. Take out and lay aside the brains.
After washing it several times in a plentiful supply of cold water,
soak in cold spring water. Then put it into your soup-kettle or
digester, adding two quarts more of cold water than is needed to
cover it, and place over the stove or range. There should be about
two gallons of water in all. As it begins to heat, a large amount of
scum will rise to the top. "Watch this carefully, and skim it off as
fast as it rises. Let it ])oil one hour, or till the meat can be easily
removed from the bone, when it should be taken from the liquor,
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and when nearly cold cut from the bones in neat pieces about an
inch square. The tongue may be cut up in small pieces with the
meat, or cut up and mixed with the brains for a side-dish. The
skill of the head is the best part, and should be cut up carefully,
leaving as much fat adhering to it as you can. As soon as the
head is taken up, put to the broth in which it was boiled a five-
pound knuckle of veal and the same anioimt of lean beef, adding
all the bones and trimmings of the head ; a half-dozen cloves, a
quarter of an ounce of allspice, and the same of whole black pep-
per ; boil five hours, skim well, and keep closely covered. Then
strain and set aside till morning, when all the fat must be re-
moved, and two quarts of this stock reserved. Now put in a
large saucepan, over the fire, half a pound of good fresh butter,
six ounces of onions, sliced, quarter of an ounce of green sage,
chopped. Let these fry one hour slowly. Be careful that it does
not scorch. Then rub in half a pound of flour by degrees, gradu-
ally adding the broth, till of the thickness of rich cream. Season
with salt to your taste ; half an ounce of lemon-peel, grated. Let
it simmer again gently an hour and a half, and strain through a
hair-sieve or tamis. Don't rub the soup through the sieve, it Avill
make it muddy. If it does not run through easily, knock a wood-
en spoon against the side of the sieve ; that will start it through
without the sediment, which would go through if rubbed. Put the
stock, when strained, into a clean stew-pot with the pieces of the
head ; and to each gallon of soup have a pint of nice claret, if j'ou
wish it dark, madeira or sherry, if you prefer it light (those who
object to wine or brandy in mince-'pies must be careful not to call
for turtle or mock-turtle soup at restaurants), two table-spoonfuls
of lemon-juice, and two of catsup, one of the essence of anchovy,
a teaspoonful of curry-powder, or quarter of a drachm of cayenne.
Let it simmer till the meat is tender, taking care that it is not
done too much, and by frequent stirring prevent its sticking.
When the meat is quite tender, serve the soup with force-meat,
brain, or egg-balls. This should have been reduced by boiling to
four or five quarts.
Bean Soup. — Wash your beans and boil them with a piece
of salt pork. When the beans are soft, take them out and pi'ess
through a colander ; then put them back in the water they
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were boiled in, together witli four hard-boiled eggs quartered, and
half a lemon sliced, a little pepper, if you like it. Boil up and
serve. This is liked by some better than when made with rich
beef stock, with tomatoes or catsup for flavor.
Soup -with Eggs. — Make a good stock from a knuckle of
veal and any Ijones which may be on hand from baked or broiled
beef or mutton. Add one turnip, two carrots, one onion, a little
lemon-juice, a small sprinkling of thyme, and a little celery. Let
it boil five or six hours, then strain, set it to cool, and, when cold,
remove all the grease. When needed, heat it, add a little thick-
ening of rolled cracker or flour, and to three quarts of this stock
add the yelks of five or six eggs, one gill of cream, and pepper and
salt to taste. Drop the yelks in whole, and let them cook a few
minutes. Some like to drop them in just as the soup is dished.
We do not think it so nice, but that is a matter of taste.
Green Pea Soup. — Take two quarts of green peas, a quarter
of a pound of butter, a quarter of a pound of ham cut very fine,
two small onions, and a little parsley, and put it into a soup-
digester or kettle ; add just a little water, enough to allow it to
stew slowly, stirring it well together, and cover closely. When
quite tender, add two quarts of veal, beef, or mutton broth, a
great spoonful of sugar, and pepper and salt to season it to your
taste. Let it boil up once, then rub through a hair-sieve into an-
other kettle, and pour to it one pint of boiling milk ; boil five
minutes and serve.
Turtle Bean Soup. — Pick free from dirt and imperfect
beans a pint and a half of turtle beans ; soak them overnight
in a good quantity of cold water. In the morning drain off the
water, and wash the beans in fresh water ; drain and put in the
soup-digester, with four quarts of good strong stock from which
all the fat has been carefully removed. Set it where it will boil
steadily but slowly till dinner-time, — four hours at least, six is
better. We always have ours put on as soon as the fire is kin-
dled in the morning before breakfast. One small onion, a carrot,
and two or three of the outside stalks of celery cut into the stock
is considered an improvement by most persons. Stir it occasion-
ally till the beans begin to soften, to prevent their sticking and
burning at the bottom. Two hours before dinner put in half a
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can of tomatoes, or, in the season, eight or ten fresh ones, and a
coft'ee-cup of tomato-catsup. When ready to dish, strain through
a fine colander or coarse sieve, ruhbing through enough of the
pulp of the beans to make it as thick as rich cream. Taste to see
if there is plenty of salt and pepper, and send to the table hot.
If you have any hard-boiled eggs left over, chop fine and put into
the soup, after stiaining it, or, if eggs are plenty, boil three haid
and add, cliopped fine.
Nursery Soup (to be prepared the day before needing it). —
Two pounds of sci'ag of mutton, or of the knuckle, put into two
quarts of cold water ; add two or three sliced turnips, or two
spoonfuls rice or pearl barley or star tapioca, whichever best suits
the taste. Simmer slowly an hour and a half, then take out the
meat and set aside ; pour the soup into a large bowl, and leave to
cool till next day. In the morning skim off all the fat that has
risen on the stock. An hoior before needed, turn the stock into
a saucepan and bring it to a boil ; cut the meat from the bones in
fine mouthfuls. Mince very fine a small onion, a little parsley
and celery ; add a bit of butter the size of a nutmeg, one tal)le-
spoonful browned flour ; burn an even table-spoonful of sugar in
an iron spoon ; pour a little boiling water over it and stir it into
the browned flour, then stir both into the soup ; add the other
articles, and boil all together twenty minutes ; serve hot, with
small bits of carefully toasted bread. This is called nursery soup,
but it is not to be scorned by the old folks.
Oyster and Clam Soup. — Fifty oysters, two bunches long
clams ; drain all the liquor from the oysters into a farina-kettle,
add a pint of milk, one and a half table-spoonfuls of butter, pepper
and salt to suit the taste ; cut off the soft bodies of the clams and
put with the oysters ; chop the tough, gristly parts very fine
and put into the liquor ; when it boils, add the oysters and clams,
with two table-spoonfuls of powdered cracker or the same of farina.
Let all boil about five minutes, and send to table hot. This makes
soup enough for six persons.
Potato Soup. — Boil and mash jjotatoes ; about three pints
when mashed, to three quarts of rich beef stock ; ready boiling ;
add pepper and salt to taste ; stir gradually into the boiling stock,
then pass all through a sieve and return to the soup-kettle ; sim-
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mer five minutes, and serve with fried bread ; or, if liked, a half-
pint of peas Ijoiled soft, one onion, one head of celery, two sjioon-
fuls of lice, may be put to the stock, well boiled, and the potatoes
added when all are done ; then pass through the sieve, return to
soup-kettle, simmer five minutes, and serve.
FISH.
To boil Fresh Fish. — Clean, Avash thoroughly, wipe dry, and
then sew up in a cloth, kept solely for fish, and plunge at once
into boiling water that has been first salted sufficiently. Sew the
cloth up on the hack of the fish. Take it out when done, cut the
threads down the back of the fish, and cut the skin of the fish so
that in taking oft' the cloth, the skin will come oif with it, leaving
the fish white and whole. Be careful not to break it, as it should
come to the table in good condition. Eat with egg sauce or plain
drawn butter. A fat shad is very nice boiled ; but most people
prefer cod, rock-fish, or bass.
Baked Salmon Trout, with Cream Gravy, — Wash and
clean the fish carefully,wipe dry and lay in the bake- pan, with only
enough water to keep from scorching. If very large, score the
backbone a little, but do not cut the sides. Bake slowly, basting
with butter and water, from three quarters of an hoiir to an hour,
according to the size. Have ready a cup of rich cream, into which
stir three or four table-spoonl'uls of boiling water, else the cream
will clot when heated. Into this stir gently two table-spoonfuls of
melted butter and a little chopped parsley. Put this into a milk-
boiler or farina-kettle, or any vessel that you can set into another,
half filled with boiling water, to prevent the sauce from burning.
Add to the cream and butter the gravy from the dripping-pan in
which the fish was baked. Lay the trout on a hot platter and
let tlie gra^'y boil up once, and then pour over the fish. Garnish
with sprigs of parsley, arranged neatly. Use no spiced sauces
and very little salt. Serve hot.
To fully appreciate the excellence of this fish with the cream
sauce or gravy, one should be able to eat it a very short time
after it is taken from the water, but the cream sauce is a great
improvement to most baked fish.
Boiled Salmon Trout. — Wash and dry the fish after clean-
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ing it ni(;ely. Wrap in a clean fish-cloth, lay it in a fish-kettle,
cover with cold, salted water, and boil slowly from half to three
quarters of an hour, according to the size of the fish. When done,
take off the cloth gently, so as not to break the trout ; lay in a
hot fish-platter and pour around it cream gravy like that used for
baked salmon trout, and serve hot.
All fish, boiled or baked, are improved by cream gravy. If
you cannot obtain cream, use rich milk, and thicken it a little.
Fried Halibut. — Have the slices seasoned some hours before
frying, as it will be less liable to break in turning ; when ready
to fry, dip it in egg beaten up, and roll it in bread crumbs ; then
fry in hot lard, or have three or four slices of sweet salt pork fried
till quite brown and crisp, and then fry the halibut in the hot
lard which came from the pork. Dish it and lay the crisp brown
pork around it.
Fish Chowder. — Haddock and striped bass are generally
considered the best fish for chowder. Cut the fish in pieces about
one inch thick and two inches square. Cut five or six good
slices of the best salt pork, lay them in the bottom of an iron pot
and fry till cj'isped, but do not scorch ; take out the pork, leaving
the fat ; chop the pork in small pieces ; put into the pot a layer
of fish, a layer of split crackers and some of the chopped pork ; a
little red and black pepper ; a little chopped onion ; then another
layer of fish, split crackers, and seasoning, and so on till all the
fish is used. Then just cover all with water, and stew slowly till
tender. Thicken the gravy with cracker crumbs and catsup if
you like. Take out the fish, boil up the gravy once, squeeze in
the juice of a lemon, and pour the gravy over the fish. Add salt
if necessary.
To prepare and dress Cold Fish. — Cut cold boiled fish into
pieces about an inch long. Do not chop it. Take the yelks of
four eggs, hard boiled, and rub them to a smooth paste with a few
spoonfuls of salad oil or melted butter. Add a little salt, pepper,
and mustard, — the exact amount must be decided by your own
taste and knowledge of how highly seasoned your family like
their food. Add two teaspoonfuls of white sugar ; rub all in
with the i"iaste, and the last thing after getting the paste perfectly
smooth put in six table-spoonfuls of vinegar. Beat the mixture
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till very light, and just before pouring it over the fish beat the
whites of two eggs to a stiff froth and stir in with it. Stir half
the dressing into the picked-up fish. Serve in a glass dish, and
spread the other half of the dressing over the top. Garnish with
delicate leaves of lettuce, to be eaten with it.
Newport Fish Pudding. — Pick any cold fish left from the
dinner into fine bits, carefully removing all the bones. Thicken
some boiling milk with flour, wet to a batter with cold milk, and
stir the fish into it ; season with pepper, butter, and salt. Put it
into a pudding-dish, and spread cracker or bread crumbs thickly
over the top to prevent the milk from scorching, and set into the
oven to bake just long enough to brown nicely. A good Avay to
use up cold fish, maldng a nice breakfast or a side-dish for dinner.
Fish-Balls. — Salt codfish is usually preferred for making fish-
balls, although any fresh boiled fish left over from dinner is very
nice. When the salt cod is used, it should be put in a damp
place for a day or two before using, to soften. Early in the
evening, before needed, it should be thoroughly washed in sev-
eral waters, rubbing it well, then put to soak in a large quantity
of lukewarm water. Just before bedtime pour off the first water,
and add more lukewarm water ; wash again in clean water in
the morning, rubbing off all the salt crystal that may adhere,
particularly on the under side, and place over the fire, in enough
warm water to fully cover it. Let it come to the boiling-pohit
slowly, but don't let it really boil ; keep it simmering a half-
hour. If the fish is very salt, turn off this water and cover again
with boiling water, and let it simmer fifteen or twenty minutes,
then drain and spread it out to cool ; remove every bone and bit
of skin, and when perfectly cold pick to pieces very fine with a
fork. While the fish is cooling have nice mealy potatoes boiling
over the fire ; when done, mash smooth and light, and add to the
picked-up fish a little more than its weight of potatoes, say a
pound and a quarter of potatoes to a pound of fish. For a dozen
balls add one well-beaten egg, or two if plenty, or two table-spoon-
fuls of rich cream, two spoonfuls of butter ; beat all together and
form into neat balls "with your hands — which should be well
floured — and drop them into a kettle or large saucepan of boil-
ing lard or drippings, and fry a good clear brown. Plainer fish-
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balls may be made if desirable, omitting eggs and cream, and
using less butter.
Codfish Balls. — Soak in warm water as much salt codfish
as is needed, judging by the size of the family. Let it stand in
the water all night. In the morning pick out all the bones,
press out the water, and choj) fine. Boil the potatoes in the skin.
When done, peel and mash while hot twice as much potato as
you have fish ; mix well together and moisten with cream or a
little new milk, with a great spoonful of butter. Have some
well-clarified drippings or sweet lard ready in a saucepan. Let
it get boiling hot, and then put in the fish-balls. They should
be made a little more than half an inch thick. Fry a good, clear
brown,* taking care not to scorch them. One egg well beaten is
an improvement.
Scalloped Crabs. — Wash the crabs and put into a kettle of
boiling A\ater, throw in a handful of salt. Boil from twenty min-
utes to half an hour. Take them from the water when done, and
pick out all the meat ; be careful and not break the shell. To a
pint of meat put a little salt and pepper ; we cannot give the
' exact amount, as tastes differ so widely ; but taste, and if there
is not enough add more, a little at a time till suited. Grate
in a very little nutmeg, and add one spoonful cracker or bread
crumbs, two eggs well beaten, and two table-spoonfuls of butter
(even full) ; stir all well together ; wash the shells clean and fill
each shell full of the mixture ; sprinkle crumbs over the top and
set in the oven till of a nice brown ; a few minutes will do it.
Send to the table hot.
Oyster Pie. — Line a deep dish with good puff paste, not too
rich. Roll out the upper crust, and lay on a plate just the size
of the oyster-dish ; set it on the top of the dish and put into the
oven, as the crust must be nearly cooked before the 03'sters are
put in, for they require less time than the crust. While the crust
is bakmg, strain the liquor from the oysters ; thicken it with the
yelks of eggs, boiled hard and grated, — three eggs for seventy-
five oysters ; add two even table-spoonfuls of butter, and the
same quantity of bread or cracker crumbs ; season with pepper,
salt, and mace or nutmeg, — a very little of either, — and by
tasting, be sure that you do not season it too much ; to add is
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very easy, but to take out seasoning in cooking is a difficult task.
Let the liquor just boil ; then slip in the oysters, and as soon as
they come to a boil, stir well and remove the plate with top crust,
and pour them and their gravy into the hot bake-dish ; place the
top crust over, and return to the oven for five minutes. Send to
the table hot.
Oyster Fritters. — Drain off the liquor and wipe the oysters
dry ; season with a little pepper and salt, if not salt enough.
Make a batter with a pint of milk and flour enough to mix not
very stiff. Beat the yelks of three eggs thoroughly, and put to
the batter, beating all a good deal. Whisk the whites to a stiff,
dry froth, and stir in gently the last thing. Take up a spoonful
of batter on a spoon, lay an oyster on top, and cover Avith a little
more batter, and with a broad knife slip this off gently into a pan
of boiling lard. When brown on both sides, drain on a perforated
plate, and send to the table hot.
To Fry Oysters. — Take from the shells carefully so as not to
tear or break them ; dry in a clean fish-cloth ; beat the yelks of
eggs with thick cream, — one yelk to two table-spoonfuls of cream ;
rub together some bread or cracker crumbs, a little salt and cay- •
enne pepper. Have half a pound of butter boiling hot in a skil-
let ; dip each oyster in the beaten yelks and cream ; then roll in
the cracker crumbs, taking pains to have the crumbs adhere
thickly to the oyster. Drop into the skillet, and fry of a light
broAvn on each side. They should be crisp and light. Drain free
from all grease, and serve hot.
Lobster Fatties. — Boil two or three good lobsters ; take out
all the meat, and chop very fine ; mash the coral smooth, and
mix with the meat. Boil three or four eggs hard, and grate the
yelks, mashing or rolling the whites to make them heavy and
waxy. Season the whole with salt, cayenne, a very little pounded
mace or. nutmeg, and a small portion of lemon-rind, grated.
Moisten the whole with cream, fresh butter, or salad-oil. (Be
careful that you do not use too much of any of these seasonings.
It will make the whole bitter. In all of these strong flavors,
only just an intimation that they are present is necessary.) Put
it into a stew-pan, add a little water, put over the fire till it
just comes to a boil ; then remove from the fire. Make puflf
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paste, and line deep patty-pans. Bake the paste before iilling,
while prei)anng the lobster. As soon as the lobster has been re-
moved from the fire, and is partially cooled, take the crust from
the oven and fill the patty-pans with the mixture to the top.
Crabs or prawns may be made into' patties in a similar manner.
Lobster Rissoles. — Boil the lobster, take out the meat,
mince it fine ; pound the coral smooth, and grate the yelks of
three hard-boiled eggs for one lobster. Season with cayenne
pepper, a little nutmeg, and salt. Make a batter of milk, flour,
and well-beaten eggs, — two table-spoonfuls of milk and one of
flour to each egg. Beat this batter well, and mix the lobster
with it gradually, till it is stifl" enough to roll into balls the size of
a large plum. Fry in fresh butter, or the best salad-oil, and ser\'e
up either warm or cold. Similar rissoles may be made of raw oys-
ters minced fine, or of boiled clams. These should be fried in lard.
Fish Sauce. — Four ounces of butter blended with three table-
spoonfuls ul' flour ; stir in gradually half a pint of boiling water,
stirring all the time. When smooth, put it into a farina-kettle or
milk-boiler, and let boil five minutes. If too thick, add a little
more Avater. Beat two eggs to a foam, and stir in the last thing
before removing it from the fire. A little parsley chopped fine
added to this sauce, or an onion, is relished by some.
A good Breakfast Dish. — When any boiled fresh fish is
left from dinner, take out all the bones carefully, and pick the
fish up in small bits. Cover the bottom of a deep dish with some
of the fish, and, if needed, a little pepper and salt, and a few
spoonfuls of the fish sauce, if any was left from dinner ; then
sprinkle over some fine bread crumbs ; then another layer of fish,
with sauce ; then bread crumbs, until the dish is full. If all the
fish sauce is used without making the composition quite moist,
beat two eggs very light, and add a cup of milk and pour over
the whole ; then cover with more bread crumbs, and set in the
oven long enough to heat through and brown delicately. If no
fish sauce is left over, take two great spooonfuls of butter, cut in
little bits, and lay in alternately with the fish and crumbs ; use
four eggs instead of two, and a pint of milk.
Best Mode of Roasting Fish, Ducks, Ac — The very best
way of cooking fish and fowl ever devised is familiar to woodmen,
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but unknown to city epicures. It is this : Take a large fish, —
say a trout of three or four pounds, fresh from its gambols in the
cool stream, — cut a small hole in the neck and abstract the in-
testines. Wash the inside clean, and season it with pepper and
salt ; or, if convenient, fill it with bread crumbs or crackers chopped
up with meat. Make a fire outside the tent, and when it has
burned down to embers, rake it open, put in the fish, and cover
it with coals and hot ashes. Within an hour take it from its bed,
peel off the skin from the clean flesh, and you will have a trout
with all its original juices and flavors preserved within it, — a
dish too good, as Izaak Walton would say, "for any but very
honest men."
Grouse, ducks, and various other fowls can be cooked deli-
ciously in a similar way. The intestines of the bird should be .
taken out by a small hole at the vent, and the inside washed and
stuffed as before. Then wet the feathers thoroughly, and cover
with hot embers. When the cooking is finished, peel off the burnt
feathers and skin, and you will find underneath a lump of nice
juicy flesh, which, when once tasted, will never be forgotten.
The peculiar advantage of this method of roasting is that the
covering of embers prevents the escape of juices by evaporation.
This comes from the " Trappers' Guide," and we know it is good.
MEATS.
BEEF.
Leicestershire Hunting Beef. — Take four ounces saltpetre
or one of allspice. Rub it over a nice round of beef very thor-
oughly. Let it stand twenty-four hours, then rub it in as much
common salt as will be needed to salt it to suit your taste. Keep
it in a cool place twelve days, turning it every day, then put it into
a deep pan and cover it, upper and under side, with three pounds
of beef suet. Then cover with a thick paste, and bake slowly for
six hours. It will keep for six months, and is highly spoken of
by English people. We have never tried it, but by request give
the receipt, which we have had for a long time in our possession.
Spiced Beef. — Boil a shin of ten or twelve pounds of beef
until the meat readily falls from the bone. Pick the meat to
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pieces and mash the gristle veiy fine, rejecting all parts that are
too hard to mash. Set the liquor in which it was boiled away
till cool, then take off all the fat. Boil the liquor down to a pint
and a lialf ; then return the meat to the liquor, and, while hot,
add any salt and pepper that may be needed, a half-teaspoonful
of cloves, the same of cinnamon, a little nutmeg, a half-spoonful
of parsley chopped fine, a very little sage and summer savory, if
agreeable, not quite half a salt-spoonful. Let it boil up once, and
put it into a mold or deep dish to cool. Cut in thm slices for
breakfast or tea.
Curried Beef. — In reply to inquiries how to use '^ curry pow-
der," we give the following : Put in a saucepan over the fire two
table-spoonfuls of butter, and, when hot, put in two small onions,
sliced very thin ; fry until brown ; then add a table-spoonful and
a half of curry powder, mixing all well together. Take three
pounds of the best of a round of beef; cut in pieces an inch
square ; pour over it the milk of a cocoanut, and a quarter of the
meat of the nut grated very fine and squeezed through muslin ;
moisten with a little water, — only enough to make it pass through
the muslin easily. The cocoanut meat and milk soften the taste
of the curry, and no curry is ever made in India without it. If
this does not make liquor enough, add half a teacup boiling water,
and let the whole simmer for thirty minutes. Serve hot, in a dish
with sliced lemon, and a waU of mashed potatoes or boiled rice
around it.
Meat Pie. — Cut up some pieces of good, tender raw beef or
mutton, season with pepper, salt, and, if liked, one finely minced
onion. Boil a half-dozen good-sized mealy potatoes, mash smooth
and wet with enough milk to form a dough to make the crast ;
salt to please the taste ; roll out full half an inch thick, and line
a buttered dish large enough to hold the meat. Lay in the meat,
add a teacup of water, or less if the pie is to be for a small family,
then roll out a thick crust of the potato, covering the top of the
pie at least an inch thick, and bake about an hour and a half.
Beef CoUops. — Cut the fillet from the under part of a rump
of beef into thin slices ; broil quickly until nearly done, then put
into a stewpan with a little beef-stock ; add two or three slices
of lemon or pickled cucumber and two table-spoonfuls of catsup,
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and stew till tender. Half a pint of oysters added ten minutes
before it is done is a great improvement.
To Cook a Beefsteak. — Put a frying-pan over the stove till
it becomes quite bot. Have your steak well pounded or man-
gled, — a siaioin steak is very good for this purpose, — lay it on
the hot, dry pan and cover it instantly as tightly as possible.
"When the meat touches the heatad pan it will seethe and adhere
to it, but in a few seconds it will become loosened and juicy ;
turn the steak every half-minute, but be careful to do it as tj^uickly
as possible, so that it may not be long uncovered. When nearly
done, sprinkle on pepper and salt, lay a small piece of butter on
the steak, and add a table-spoonful of strong coffee. This makes
a delicious broiled steak. Or, if you wish much gravy, shake a
little flour over the steak when just done, and pour in three or
four table-spoonfuls of cream, let it just boil up, under cover, and
when the meat is done, take the pan from the fire, remove the
meat, stir in quickly the well-beaten yelk of an egg, and serve hot.
If cream is used, omit the coffee. Mutton or ham may be cooked
in the same way, only they should be over the fire longer than beef.
Rump Steak, with Oyster Sauce. — Broil the steak nicely ;
put four even table-spoonfuls of butter into a frying-pan, add pep-
per and salt'to your taste ; shake in a table-spoonful of flour, and
add the juice of half a lemon ; when it begins to boil up, put in
as many oysters as can be used in this preparation ; let them heat
through and just boil up once, taking care to shake the pan and
keep its contents stirring all the time it is over the fire. When
the oysters are done, — a pint to one steak is about the right
quantity, — pour all over the steak, and serve.
A French Broil. — Select a spider or saucepan with a smooth,
clean bottom, set it over the range or stove till really hot, then lay
on a good tenderloin or sirloin steak ; keep the spider very hot,
and turn the steak as often, as every two minutes, — no longer ;
when half done, sprinkle over salt and pepper to suit the taste of
those who are to eat it ; continue to turn the steak often till suffi-
ciently done ; just as you are ready to take up and dish the steak,
dust a little flour over it, spi;ead on a table-spoonful of butter, or,
if a large steak, a little more ; turn it over, dust on more flour,
and spread on the butter as on the first side ; turn again, set the
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saucepan back from the hot fire, take the steak on to the phittcr,
and set in a heater or oven to keep liot, but not to cook any more ;
sliake more tiour into the butter in the saucepan, set a^ain over
tlie fire, and as soon as the butter bubbles up through the flour,
rub it smooth with a spoon and pour in a few spoonfuls of l)oil-
iiig water ; stir constantly, and as soon as it thickens, pour over
the steak, and serve hot.
Beefsteak Rolls. — Cut small, thin steaks from the round ;
fry them slightly ; make a stuffing as for roast veal or turkey ;
spread it over the steaks, roll them up tightly, and sew or tie up
neatly. Stew them in rich beef stock or brown gravy twenty
minutes, and serve hot, with the gravy poured over. A half-tea-
cup of rich cream added a few minutes before serving is a great
improvement.
Beef Croquettes. — Chop cold roast beef or veal with one
onion very fine ; add a little sweet-marjoraiu, half a teaspoonful of
powdered cloves, and as much salt and pepper as will be palatable.
Moisten with a rich beef gravy, from which all the fat has cooled
and been removed. Roll into balls, dip in beaten eggs, roll in
iiour, or In'ead or cracker crumbs, and fry in good, sweet lard.
Mock Duck. — Pi'epare a good dressing, such as you like for
turkey or duck ; take a round steak, pound it, but not very hard,
spread the dressing over it, sprinkle in a little salt, pepper, and a
few bits of butter, lap over the ends, roll the steak up tight and
tie it closely ; spread two great spoonfuls of butter over the steak
after rolling it up, then wash with a well-beaten egg, put water in
the bake-pan, lay in the steak so as not to touch the water, and
bake as you would a duck, basting often. A half-hour in a brisk
oven will cook it. Make a brown grav}^, and send to table hot.
A Nice Breakfast Dish, — Grate some cold tongue or beef,
put it into a stewpan with a little pepper and salt, and four table-
spoonfuls of cream or milk ; when quite hot, put in four well-
beaten eggs ; stir all the time till the mixture is quite thick ;
have ready some nicely toasted bread, well buttered, and spread
the tongue or beef over it ; send to table hot.
Mock Venison. — Cut a nice piece of corned beef in thin slices
and soak three or four hours in tepid water, changing the water
often. Be siu-e and have plenty of water to soak it in. When
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sufficiently freshened, drain, wipe dry, put on a hot gridiron, and
broil quickly, turning often, only enough to be fully hot through.
Make a gravy of drawn butter, add a little pepper, taste before
adding salt ; chop fine the yelk of an egg boiled hard, and, if
agreeable, a little boiled onion, and pour over it ; or simply but-
ter, pepper, and a little salt, as for beefsteak. This is an excel-
lent dish when so situated as to have little opportunity for fresh
meat, but a fresh beefsteak thus seasoned is better.
To prepare Cold Roast Beef or Mutton. — Cut off the
meat as thin as possible ; dip each slice in flour ; coA^er the bot-
tom of a deep dish with a layer of meat thus prepared ; dust over
it a little pej)per, salt, sage, and sweet marjoram, — very little of
each ; add another layer of the meat dipped in flour and seasoned
in the same way. Continue this till the dish is half full, then
pour over it what gravy was left, being careful to remove every
particle of fat. If not gravy enough, substitute water. Turn in
half a teacup of catsup, or half a pint of tomatoes, adding a little
clove or allspice. Add water enough t« fill it nearly full, fit a
plate tightly over it to keep in the flavor, and bake two hours.
Boil some potatoes and mash them, adding a little salt, butter,
and milk. Make it into a high wall around the edge of a well-
heated platter ; beat up an egg and brush over the potatoes, and
when the meat is done, turn it into the platter ; slip it again into
the oven, to remain long enough to brown the potatoes a fine
golden brown. The poorest and toughest parts of uncooked beef
may be made deliciously tender if prepared in this manner, but
it must be in the oven one hour longer.
Economical Breakfast Dish. — If you have a few bits of
meat or two or three cold potatoes left over, put some " drip-
pings " into a skiUet ; slice the potatoes thin, cut the meat up
fine, and add salt and pepper to taste ; then beat two or three
eggs, according to the size of the dish to be prepared ; stir them
into a cup of cream or milk, and pour over the meat and potatoes.
If eggs are not plenty, use fewer eggs and more milk or cream.
If milk, add a half table-spoonful of butter. Keep it over the fire,
stirring constantly, till the eggs are cooked. It takes but a few
moments to prepare this ; but do not leave it an instant till done,
or the eggs will burn and ruin the whole.
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A " Two Story." — A genuine farmer's dish, but fit to set
before a king, — so we are assured by one who knows.
Peel and slice thin potatoes and onions (five potatoes to one
small onion) ; cut half a pound of sweet salt pork in thin slices
to a pound of beef, mutton, or veal ; cut the meat in small pieces ;
take some nice bread dough and shorten a little, and line the bot-
tom of the stewpan with slices of pork ; then a layer of meat,
potatoes, and onions ; dust over a little pepper, and cover with a
layer of crust ; then more pork, meat, and vegetables ; then more
crust. Repeat this till the stew-pot is full, ■ — the size of the pot
will depend on the number of the family ; pour in sufficient water
to cover ; finish with crust. Let it simmer till meat, vegetables,
etc., are done, but do not let it boil hard. Serve hot.
MUTTON AND LAMB.
Shoulder of Mutton Boiled. — All mutton should hang in
a cool place till quite tender before being used, but be careful that
it does not hang long enough to acquire the least rust or taint.
When the shoulder has hung till tender, bone it ; rub a little salt
over it, and let it lie in a deep dish for two days, turning it over
each day and rubbing in a little more salt, — half a table-spoonful
each time. Meat to boil requires more salt than for roasting. On
the third day, sprinkle over the inside one teaspoonful of pepper
and half a teaspoonful of powdered mace. Spread twenty oysters
over the inside ; roll the meat wp tightly and tie securely ; put it
into the steAvjian or boiler with just enough boiling water to cover
it ; throw in six peppercorns, or seeds of the red pepper, and one
onion chopped ; shut the cover over very closely, and stew ;
twenty minutes' cooking for each pound of meat is the proper
time. Stew twenty-four oysters in a pint of good stock or gravy ;
add a table-spoonful of butter and enough flour to thicken it.
When the meat is done, lay it in a good-sized platter and pour
the gravy over it.
Shoulder of Mutton Spiced. — Bone carefully a shoulder
of mutton, after it has hung till tender. For every pound of
meat mix two ounces of brown sugar, one salt-spoonful of cloves,
one teaspoonful each of mace and pepper, and half a salt-spoonful
of ginger ; rub these spices thoroughly into the meat ; lay it into
416 CHOICE FAMILY RECEIPTS.
a deep dish, and the next day rub in two teaspoonfuls of salt
for every pound of meat, and add one pint and a half of good
beef gravy for the whole joint. Turn the meat over ; rub it well
Avith this pickle every day for a week or ten days, letting it re-
main in the pickle all the time after each rubbing. At the end
of the week or ten days, roll it up tightly, bind with a string, and
stew gently in beef broth four hours. Serve hot in its own gravy,
and eat with any piquant sauce or catsup.
Mutton Stew. — Take such scraps of mutton or lamb as are
not fit for chops or cutlets ; just cover with water ; add a little
onion and parsley, if not disagreeable, and season well with black
and red pepper ; boil two eggs hard, or, if making a good-sized
stew, use more (two are plenty for five persons) ; mash or grate
the yelks fine, and stir them into a table-spoonful of butter and
the same amount of browned flour. Stir this into the stew just
before dishing, to season and thicken the gravy. Let it boil up
once after adding this, and serve as soon as it thickens.
Roasting a Leg of Lamb. — • Slice salt pork very thin, cutting
two slices down to the rind, leaving the rind on to make the
piece as large as possible ; make as many of these thin slices as
will cover the whole leg ; then wrap the whole in grape-leaves ;
pass a string round to keep them on, and roast. It is said the
lamb will be exceedingly juicy and of delicious flavor. Never
baste meat with, butter, but with rich soup stock.
To use Cold Lamb. — When lamb or mutton is left in good
shape, — and it is the fault of the carver if it is not always left
neatly, — cut off some chops ; trim off the greater portion of fat,
and saw or cut off the end of the bone. Heat a platter, and pour
into the centre some nicely cooked fresh green peas, or in winter
canned peas. Heap them in the centre in the shape of a pyra-
mid ; brown the chops quickly over a bright fire, season in a hot
plate with pepper, salt, and butter, and then arrange them around
the peas, the small end laid upon the pj^ramid of peas. Garnish
the edge of the dish with slices of hard-boiled eggs, each circled
in a fringe of curled parsley. Serve hot.
Mint Sauce. — Three table-spoonfuls of fresh mint finely
chopped, five table-spoonfuls of vinegar and two of sugar, dis-
solved in the vinegar. To be used with roast lamb or chops.
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If so miKh vinegar is disagreeable, use one third water and a
little more sugar.
VENISON.
Jerked Venison. — Take the haunches when the deer is first
Icilled ; rub in as much salt as you can ; press and squeeze the
meat hard Avith your hands to get out all the blood ; then hang
it up in some covered alley or shed, where the sun will not di-
rectly strike it, but where the dry breezes will sweep over it. If
not quite salt enough the next day, rub more salt on ; sf^ueeze
and press out all the blood which may still remain, and hang up
again. Two or three days will dry it. When needed, cut off
nice slices, rather thin ; lay them in a dish of cold water a short
time to soften a little, then broil, serving with pepper and salt.
Or, fry a piece of bacon crisp ; then lay the pieces of venison into
the hot fat, and warm through quickly ; shake a little flour over
the meat, and when done salt and jjepper ; place the meat on a
hot platter ; sift a little more flour mto the pan ; let it boil up ;
add a few spoonfuls of boiling water ; boil up again, and pour the
brown gravy over the venison. It is very sweet and palatable.
In Florida, beef is also cured, or dried, so as to keep for several
days. Cellars or ice-houses not being common, it is necessary to
resort to some means of keeping it. Take a fine round of beef,
and cut in slices as large as your hand and about half an inch
thick. String them on a strong cord, and hang up high in some
place where the sun will not shine directly on it, but where a good
breeze of hot aii' will pass over it. Build a fire of dry leaves or
bits of paper, and place at one end of the place where the meat
is hung, so that the wind will take the smoke under and over it ;
this will keep the flies away till the oiitside of the meat is too dry
for them to injure it. A day or two in the dry breezes here will
cure it, so that it may be put in paper bags and kept in a dark,
dry place several days, to broil as it is needed. It is wonderfully
sweet, probably because in drying all the juices of the meat are
secured. Our Northern aii- is not so drying, but we see no reason
why, in summer, those who have not smoke or ice houses could not
hang meat under the trees, away from the sun, keeping up a smoke
sufficient to drive away flies but not strong enough to heat the meat.
It is an experiment well worth tr}'ing.
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418 CHOICE FAMILY RECEIPTS.
Venison Steaks. — Heat the gridiron, grease it well. Lay on
the steak ; broil quickly, without scorchiug, turning it two or
three times ; season with salt and pepper. Have the butter
melted in a well-heated platter, into which the steak must be
laid hot from the gridiron, turning it over two or three times in
the butter, and send to table hot. It is well to set the platter into
another in which you have some boiling water. Venison should
not be overdone, and must be eaten hot.
COOKING IN A " RUMFORD BOILER."
In one of our " talks " in Part First we said something of the
Eumford Boiler. We subjoin here a few hints as to the use of
it. Other similar " boilers " or " steamers " or " cookers " can also
be advantageously used. The " Rumford " happens to be the one
Ave have used and thoroughly like.
To Roast Beef or Mutton. — Have boiling water two or
three inches deep in the lower part of the boiler, deep enough to
just touch the bottom of the pan to be set over it. Place the
meat in the inner pan without water, first seasoning it Avith salt
and pepper, if agreeable. Put on the cover, fitting it in tightly.
When the Avater begins to boil, set the boiler back on the stove
or range, Avhere it Avill keep just at the boiling point, and let it
remain cooking the usual time, — fifteen minutes for each pound
is generally thought long enough. When done take it out,
dredge Avith flour and put into a quick oven to broAvn, but not
scorch.
It is usually estimated that one pint of gravy is lost AA'hen
meat is boiled the usual way. Here you have it all saved in the
dish, the pure juice of the meat making excellent gravy.
To Boil a Leg of Lamb or Mutton. — Keep in the boiler
the ordinary length of time, with no Avater in the receiver or pan
(Avhich in all cases should be tightly closed), and send to the table
Avithout browning.
Corned Beef. — If very salt, the beef should be soaked in cold
water three or four hours ; then put it in the inner A'^essel with
cold Avater enough to coA^er it. Keep the Avater in the bottom re-
ceiver boiling sloAvly till the beef is done. Salt meat needs to be
cooked longer than fresh ; fifteen minutes to a pound for fresh,
RUMFORD BOILER COOKING. 419
and twenty minutes for salt, is the rule usually given, but we have
not found the latter long enough. A piece weighing nine pounds
should cook four hours, if without much bone, and three with
bone. We think that better — more sure — than twenty minutes
to a pound.
The water in which salt meat is thus cooked makes excellent
stock for soup. If too salt (it should not be if the beef was
properly freshened), add water sufhcient to make it right.
To Cook a Ham. — Freshen the ham by soaking in cold
water three or four hours, then scrape clean and wipe dry.
Stick a few cloves into it, rub on a half-cup of sugar, and put
in the inner vessel vdthoiU aitij water ; cover closely, and set over
the boiling water in the bottom of the boiler ; bring to a boil,
and then set back a little that it may cook slowly till tender,
about four hours. This will be found very excellent in flavor,
far surpassing ham boiled in the common way. If liked, when
done, the ham may be set in a quick oven and delicately browned,
like roast beef or mutton.
Fish. — Season a fresh fish with salt, pepper, and a table-spoon-
ful of butter, and put in the receiver, or inner pan, without any
ivater; cover closely, and cook for half an hour. Thicken the juices
of the fish which will be found in the pan with a little flour, wet in
cold water, and let it simmer a few minutes in the pan, closely
covered. This makes an excellent sauce for the fish.
Steaks of cod, salmon, halibut, or any other fish, usually fried,
are excellent cooked in this " Kumford Boiler," and need no
butter or sauce besides the juice which will be left in the vessel,
and pepper and salt.
We have tried all these receipts since we possessed this excel-
lent boiler, and can testify to the superiority of each dish over
that cooked in the usual way.
We have cooked all our vegetables — corn, peas, beets, potatoes
— in the pans that are made to fit over the first vessel with tight
covers, and are greatly pleased with the improvement. It must
be remembered that each vessel should be closely covered, and
over all the cover for the whole boiler. Bread of all kinds and
loaf cake are delicious cooked in a " Rimiford," and when done
put into the oven to broMTi.
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Meats for June. — It is more difficult to obtain good meats
in June than any part of the year. Lamb is still quite expen-
sive, and " broilers " or spring chickens are dear and very little
of them. What you can manage to pick off is dry, stringy, and,
we cannot but think, indigestible. Veal is the only meat within
the reach of all classes : but be very sure that you obtain that
which has been healthily fed, and butchered as humanely as is
possible. It is well that we do not see or know all the barbarity
of the butchers' shops, or we should perforce become vegetari-
ans. There are many ways of using the less desirable portions of
veal, that when properly carried out make some very inviting
breakfast or tea dishes.
Calf's Head and Harslet. — The head to be sj^lit open, the
grease screened off, and eyes taken out, before bringing from the
butcher's. "Wash very carefully, and scrape thoroughly. Take
out the brains and put into a bowl of cold water ; also lay
the head, when cleaned, into a large pan of water. Then see
that the harslet is well cleaned ; leave the windpipe on the
lights, and let all soak in cold water, and plenty of it, for half
an hour. Have a large pot of boiling water ready. Two hours
before dinner put in the heart and lights, leaving the windpipe
a little way out of the pot to carry off the scum that will rise
while boiling. Put in salt, black and red pepper, — very little of
the latter, — and a little thyme and parsley. One hour after put
in the liver ; skim often. When the brains have soaked till free
from blood, pick out all the veins or fibers, roll half a cracker
and put it with the brains and a little parsley into a clean bit of
muslin, tie it up, and put into the kettle with the head, etc. Let
it boil from ten to fifteen minutes ; then take it up, add butter,
pepper, and salt, and serve in a small dish by itself. The bones
must all be removed from the head ; when well done, they will
slip out easily. Lay the meat in the center of the platter ; skin
the tongue, and place it with the meat ; remove the windpipe,
and lay lights, heart, and liver around. Make a gravy of dra^vn
batter, with parsley, chopped fine, and two eggs beaten, and
added just as the gravy comes to a boil. Send all to table hot.
Head and Harslet Hash. — Take what may be left from
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dinner of the calf's head and harslet, chop very fine, use a few
spoonfuls of the drawn butter, moisten with the water in which
the meat was boiled, put over the fire till hot, then serve on nice
slices of toasted bread, and you have a breakfast dish even better
than the dinner.
The water in which calf's head, etc., is boiled, should be care-
fully kept, and when cold it will be a stiff jelly. Take off the
grease that will harden on top, and the jelly may be made into a
fine mock-turtle soup. It is still better if, when boiling the head
and harslet, you add two calf's feet.
Veal Pie. — Take the neck of veal, joint it as small as you
can, and stew, adding j ust enough boiling water to prevent it from
burning. Season with pepper, salt, and, if liked, a very little
onion cut up fine, and a little parsley or summer savory. Make
a crust of two potatoes, boiled and mashed smooth and free from
lumps, two table-spoonfuls suet chopped very fine, a little salt ;
stir it together with ice-cold water. Flour the board, roll out,
and scatter over it thin shavings of hard butter right from the
ice ; shake over some flour ; lap it together and roll out again.
Then put on more butter, using, in all, four table-spoonfuls,
not heaped. This done, sprinkle again with flour, roll it up and
put on the ice till the veal is done, which should not cook over
three quarters of an hour. When tender, pick the meat from
most of the bones, leaving a few small ones to give shape to the
pie ; roll the meat in well-beaten eggs ; three will suffice to wet
it ; then roll it in flour ; cover the pie-dish with part of the paste,
rolled about a quarter of an inch thick. Cut a strip of crust to
place around the edge of the dish, and lay the meat in neatly,
cutting in a few bits of butter, two table-spoonfuls will do, and
pour over the meat the water in which it was cooked, which
should have boiled down so as to leave only enough to make the
pie juicy. Now roll out the rest of the paste for the upper crust,
about three quarters of an inch thick, cover the pie, cut a slit in
the top, and bake. Be careful not to scorch the crust.
Sweetbread Croquettes. — Trim the sweetbreads neatly ;
remove all the gristle ; parboil and mince very fine ; add grated
bread seasoned with salt and pepper, and a very little mace, if
agreeable ; moisten with cream ; stir all well together, and shape
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them by pressing firmly into a pear-shaped wineglass or small
mold, or mold into little cones by rolling in your hands. Have
ready a beaten egg and fine rolled and sifted bread or cracker
crumbs. Dip each croquette into the egg and roll in the crumbs ;
stick a fruit-stem into the cone, to look like an apple or pear, and
fry in butter. This is good for cold chicken, beef, or raw oysters.
Veal Patty. — Four pounds veal-steak, chopped while raw
very fine ; mix with it eight butter-crackers rolled, a piece of
butter of the size of an egg, and two well-beaten eggs. Mix all
thoroughly together, and season with pepper and salt. A little
sage, thyme, or savory is thought an improvement by some.
Mold into a loaf ; put small bits of butter on top, and cover
with grated bread crumbs. Judge of the quantity of butter
necessary by your own taste. If not liked A^ery rich, two table-
spoonfuls of butter cut up and sprinkled over will be plenty.
Bake two hours. When cold, cut oft' slices as from a loaf of
bread, for tea or side-dishes.
Minced Veal. — Mince the veal very fine with a little ham, a
table-spoonful of flour, three well-beaten eggs, one small onion
scalded for five or ten minutes to remove the coarser flavor and
then chopped fine ; sweet herbs, pepper, and salt to suit the taste.
Butter a deep pie-plate, set a small cup in the center, and fill the
plate all around the cup with the mince-meat. Bake of a delicate
brown ; then remove the cup and fill its place with some nice
sauce, — apple, cranberry, or jelly, or, if you please, some scal-
loped oysters. Beef, lamb, or chicken prepared in the same way
is very good.
Veal Hash.— Boil a shin of veal which has about three pounds
of meat on it in as small a quantity of water as you can, so that
when done there shall be one quart of water left. Boil the day
before needed, that it may be perfectly cold. When the meat is
well done, lay it anywhere where it will be away from the air,
but do not wrap it in a cloth. Save all the liquor in a separate
dish. The next morning cut up all the meat ; chop not quite so fine
as for the " mince." Half an hour before you send it to the table,
put it over the fire in a covered stewpan with the liquor ; have
ready half a pint of hot- drawn butter and eight hard-boiled eggs ;
remove the shells, mince all but two, and add to the meat. As
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soon as it boils up, remove i'roin the fire ; season with salt, cay-
enne i)epper, and a little black pepper. Cut the two eggs in slices,
and when the meat is placed in a dish, lay them over the top
neatly. Send to table hot.
Veal Loaf. — Tliree pounds of veal cutlet, a quarter of a pound
salt pork chopped very fine. Three Boston crackers rolled fine, three
well-beaten eggs, one wineglass claret or currant wine, half a cup
of tomato catsup, five ripe tomatoes, if in season, or a tea-cup of
canned tomatoes ; one onion chopped fine, if not disagreeable ; juice
and chopped peel of one orange or lemon, whichever is the most
palatable ; one small teaspoonful each of pepper, cloves, sweet-mar-
joram, sage, and salt. Mix these very thoroughly with the meat,
and mold into a loaf. Place in a dripping-pan, cover the top with
cracker crumbs, and bake three hours. While baking, keep some
butter and hot water on the side of range, and baste the loaf with it
often and thoroughly. Let it stand in a cool place till the second
day before cutting. Excellent as a relish for breakfast or tea.
Croquettes. — These are a sort of mince-meat dumpling. Take
some cold veal, chicken, lobster, or tender cold beef, chopped fine.
Put a half table-spoonful of butter in a saucepan on the fire. When
melted, put in a piece of onion chopped fine ; fry a little ; add
half a table-spoonful of flour. When it browns, put in the minced
meat ; stir it steadily till heated through, adding salt and pepper.
Then add a gill and a half of broth, and set the pan a little off
the fii'e to simmer. Chop three stalks of parsley fine, and mix it
in on the fire, stirring all the time. Then break in two eggs, stir-
ring faster ; in two or three minutes take it from the fire and set
it to cool. Thus far has occupied about ten minutes. When the
meat is cold, sift some flour on the board ; take a lump of the
mince the size of an egg or larger, roll it in the fine flour, dip it
in a cup of beaten egg, drain and roll it in bread crumbs ; have
a quantity of boiling suet or drippings in a frying-pan, and fry
the croquettes in them for a couple of minutes, till brown. Put
in a colander and let the fat drain off.
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Steamed Turkey. — All poultry, after dressing, should remain
in cold water from twenty minutes to half an hour to extract the
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blood and leave thein white ; then hang iu a cool place for twenty-
four hours, in winter even longer. They will be much sweeter
and finer flavored for it.
When ready to cook a turkey, see thaf every pinfeather is taken
out, rinse in cold water, and wipe dry with a cloth used for noth-
ing but such piu'poses ; rub inside with pepper and salt, and fill
with oysters carefully washed in their own lic^uor to remove bits
of shells ; sew up the turkey, place in a large dish, and set it into
a steamer over boiling water, or in a " Rumford Boiler " ; lay a
clean cloth over the steamer and shut the cover on tight, and
steam till tender, — two and a half hours, or, if large, three hours ;
rim a fork into the breast to see if done. If it seems tender, and
no reddish juice flows out, it is ready to take up ; strain the
gravy and put into the oyster-sauce, which should be ready while
the turkey is cooking, made like stewed oysters and thickened
with farina or butter and flour ; let it just boil up, and add, if
you like it white, a little boiled cream ; pour this over the steamed
turkey, and serve hot.
Or, if preferred, the turkey may be stuff'ed as for a common
baked turkey and steamed ; or it may be stuffed with good plump
chestnuts after the skins are removed, and the gra\y made with
the giblets chopped fine, adding a little flour as you chop, and the
gravy from the disli stirred to it, and set over the fire to boil up.
While the gravy is being made, rub a little butter over and
sprinkle the turkey with flour very slightly, and set in a hot oven
to brown delicately. Many prefer this to sending to the table
right from the steamer with white gravy poiu-ed on.
Broiled Chickens. — First boil the giblets, neck, and tips of
the wings in just enough water to cover them ; season with a lit-
tle pepper and salt. Wben tender, pick off what little meat there
is on the neck and wing-tips, and chop with the giblets, very fine,
shaking over them, while chopping, enough flour to make the
w^hole like a paste ; then return it to the water it was boiled iu,
stirring all together, and leave it on the range to keep hot. This
done, put the chicken on a well-heated gridiron over a clear fire,
covering it closely with a cover made to fit the gridiron. Cook
carefully, turning it often, and do not let it scorch. When done,
it should be of a good, rich, clear brown, as uniform in color as
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possible. When partly cooked, sprinkle salt and pepper over it
on both sides.
Put three gi-eat spoonfuls of butter on the platter you have
ready to take the chickens up in ; set it into the oven, leaving the
door open lest you break the platter by too strong heat. When
the chicken is well cooked, remove from the gridiron to this plat-
ter, turning it over several times in the melted butter ; then pour
over all the water in which the giblets have been put, which
should have become a nice thick gravy ; let the platter stand a
i'c'w moments in the oven until all is thoroughly blended and
heated, then send to the table hot.
If not in a hurry, it is well to melt butter in a deep kitchen-
dish and put the chicken and gravy into the oven in that, and,
when thoroughly heated through, remove to a hot china platter
for the table. There is a risk of cracking the enamel on nice china
or breaking the platter entirely, ii" set in the oven where a servant
may forget and close the door.
To Bake a Chicken. — Choose full-grown, plump, well-fat-
tened chickens ; remove all the pinfeathers carefully and singe all
the hairs off by holding a lighted paper under the chicken before
opening ; then open with care ; see that the gall is not broken in
taking out the entrails and giblets, and that none of the crop or
windpipe is left in ; then wash in plenty of cold water ; put inside
the gizzard, liver, and heart, when well cleaned and washed, and
hang up to drain all night. If very warm weather, put in a piece
of charcoal to keep it sweet. When ready the next morning to
prepare for baking, cut off the neck and legs, and lay aside with
the giblets for gravy ; prepare a dressing, or stuffing, of dried
bread rolled fine, with a little salt, pepper, sage, and summer sa-
Aory, — the quantity of seasoning must be determined by the taste
of the fiimily ; rub salt and pepper inside, fill with the dressing,
putting enough into the neck or crop to give it a plump look ;
sew up and skewer. There should be a grate fitted to every meat-
pan on which to lay meat or fowls, to keep them from Ijecoming
clammy by resting in the Avater ; rub your fowls Avith a little
butter and salt, place on this grate, pour boiling water into the
pan, and put into the OA'en ; let it cook about fifteen minutes, then
baste Avith a little butter and salted Avater, kept in a boAvl close by ;
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dredge over some flour, and baste again ; repeat the basting three
or foiu" times while the chickens are baking ; turn them over
every time ; cook till a fork ■will enter the flesh easily, but tak-
ing care not to dry up the meat ; then remove the skewers and
thread with which they were sewed, put them on the platter and
place in the heater, or where they \vill keep hot till the gravy is
ready.
Gravy for Roast or Baked Poultry. — Put the giblets and
neck into a small saucepan, sprinkle over a little salt and pepper,
then cover them A\T.th boiling water and set on the back part of
stove or range to cook slowly, as soon as you have put the poul-
try into the oven ; dip the feet and legs into boiling water long
enough to scald off all the leathery skin, and put them into the
saucepan to boil with, the giblets and neck. The feet and lower
part of the leg, usually thrown away, contain a good deal of jelly,
which gives a very desirable richness and body to the gravy, and
when boiled tender many think them a great delicacy to be served
Avhole. "When the giblets are boiled tender, chop very fine, and
while chopping dredge over flour till you have made them Uke a
paste, then put l)ack into the water they were boiled in to sim-
mer till the chickens are done, stirring occasionally that the
chopped giblets may not stick to the saucepan. After the fowls
are taken up, set the meat-pan on the stove and shake some
flour into the liquor at the bottom of the pan. By the time the
poultry is cooked this should have been done to a brown gravy.
After you have put in tlie flour, do not stir it until the liquor has
boiled up over it, then rub it quite smooth, and little by little
pour in the water in which the chopped giblets are ; stir con-
stantly until it thickens, and if properly managed you wUl have
a smooth brown gray^i- of fine flavor.
Chicken Pot-Pie. — Cut up a chicken, or two if a large pie
be required ; lay the pieces neatly into the pot, and sprinkle over
salt and jjepper to yovir taste ; rub one table-spoonful and a half
of flour and tM^o table-spoonfuls of butter (even full) together, and
spread this paste over the chicken ; then cover the whole with
good new milk, or, better still, with cream, if you have it. Set
the pot, covered closely with a tight-fitting cover, where it will
not cook or boil rapidlj^, but stew or simmer, for three quarters
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of an hour. While tbis is stewing, make a crust of prepared flour,
or, if you have none, with soda and cream of tartar, just as you
would for light, tender biscuit ; roll this out quite thick, and
cover over the meat. If there be not enough gravy, add a little
more milk boiling hot, or boiling water if milk be not plenty.
Cut a slit in the top of the crust to let the steam escape. Boil
half an hour after the crust is jiut on, bringing the pot over a hot-
ter fire, that it may boil, not simmer. In taking it out, pass a
knife around the sides of the pot to loosen the crust ; then slip
a long-handled skimmer, as nearly flat as you have, or a batter-
cake turner, carefully under, and try to lift it out so as to break
the crust as little as possible ; but it will, if properly made and
cooked, be so light that it will probably break a Little. When
lifted out, lay it on a dish and take out the chicken and gravy ;
then lay the crust together over it, and serve hot. Lean fresh
pork or veal is very nice cooked in the same way.
Fried Chickens. — Cut up the chickens neatly ; lay them in a
large panful of cold water half an hour to extract the blood. Then
drain and put into just enough boiling water to cover them ; sea-
son with pepper and salt ; parboil for twenty minutes. Fry crisp
and brown some thin slices of salt pork. AVhen the chicken is
sufiiciently parboiled, drain it from the water and lay each piece
into the hot pork-fat. Dust over some flour, and fry the chicken
a clear brown, turning each piece when sufliciently browni. When
done on both sides, lay each piece on the platter neatly, and set
where it will keep hot but not dry. When each piece is done and
laid on the platter, shake from the dredge-box into the hot fat
enough flour to absorb the fat. Do not stir it till all the flour is
saturated ; then with a spoon stir smooth and ponr in, little by
little, enough of the water in which the chicken was parboiled
— which should be kept boiling — to make what gravy you need,
stirring it all the time. When thickened and free from lumps,
ponr on the chicken, and serve hot.
To Cook an Old Fovyl. — Dress and stufi^ as for roasting ;
then boil three hours in a covered pot, with one quart of water,
to which add two table-spoonfuls of vinegar ; then take it from
the water, rub over with a little butter, sprinkle over some flour,
and put the fowl into a bake-pan and bake in a hot oven one
428 CHOICE FAMILY RECEIPTS.
liour. Use the li