THE MAYFAIR LIBRARY HQ 1154 176 1884 OURSELVES ESSAYS ON WOMEN E. LYNN LINTON ARTES 1837 SCIENTIA VERITAS LIBRARY OF THE UNIVERSITY OF MICHIGAN ZA & PLURIBUA UMUN TLEBOR ´´SI QUÆRIS PENINSULAM·AMⱭKAM CIRCUMSPICE HUMA 116 OURSELVES HQ 1154 1476 1884 Post 8vo, cloth limp, 2s. 6d. per volume. THE MAYFAIR LIBRARY. THE NEW REPUBLIC. By W. H. MALlock. THE NEW PAUL AND VIRGINIA. By W. H. Mallock. THE TRUE HISTORY OF JOSHUA DAVIDSON. By E. LYNN LINTON. OLD STORIES RE-TOLD. By WALTER THORNBURY. PUNIANA. By the Hon. HUGH ROWLEY. MORE PUNIANA. By the Hon. HUGH ROWLEY. THOREAU: HIS LIFE AND AIMS. By H. A. PAGE. BY STREAM AND SEA. BY WILLIAM Senior. JEUX D'ESPRIT. Collected and Edited by HENRY S. LEIGH. GASTRONOMY AS A FINE ART. By BRILLAT-Savarin. THE MUSES OF MAYFAIR. Edited by H. CHOLMONdeley Pennell. PUCK ON PEGASUS. By H. CHOLMONDELEY PENNELL. ORIGINAL PLAYS by W. S. GILBERT. FIRST SERIES. 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N putting forth these papers, which deal chiefly with the faults and follies of women while leaving their virtues comparatively untouched, I would have it distinctly understood that I by no means wish to strengthen the hands of the enemy; but, on the contrary, I have endeavoured to do the cause of women real good by showing where their weak points lie. It is this very belief in their possibilities which makes the evil into which they have suffered them- selves to drift appear to me so deplorable-my hope in the future which makes me so unsparing towards the present; feeling as I do that if women could be brought to see their faults they would amend them. The silly idea of their own quasi-sacredness has to be first overcome before any real good can be done: that idea which makes them so indignant iii PREFACE. when they are rebuked, and so They must not be criticised. difficult to influence. If it is a man who writes hard things of them, he is unmanly; if it is a woman, she is a traitress and a slanderer. All the foolish flattery which has been showered down on us since the days of chivalry, when it took its rise, has come to be a moral necessity and the absolute truth, with many of us; and women alone of all creation must be held exempt from sin and above hostile ob- servation. Against this sickly degradation, this sentimental absurdity, all honest women should set their faces firmly and distinctly-it does us no good, and it makes men impatient with our claims and contemptuous of their results. Believing then, that women are like all other intelligent creatures, noble or ignoble according to their power of self-education, I have written these Essays pointing out what seems to me to be amiss as things are; holding this a better thing to do than adding to the flattery in current use, and speaking of ourselves as creatures too ethereal for common life, too refined for homely duties, and whose worst misfortune is the inability of the coarser man to under- stand us aright or appreciate us as we deserve. iv CONTENTS. OURSELVES FINE LADIES EMANCIPATED WOMEN OUR SMALL SINS MISTRESSES AND MAIDS. TACT AND TEMPER MARTHAS AND MARYS THE FOLLIES OF FASHION FEMININE EXTREMES MODERN MAIDENS MODERN MATRONS WOMANLY DEPENDENCE . OUR PAST AND FUTURE. THE OLD MAID PAGE 1 20 40 61 86 108. • 131 • 151 • 171 • 190 • 1207 224 • 239 258 OURSELVES. E women get rather hard knocks in these latter W times. We were born into hard knocks indeed, and, since the world began, have been used to them, if not always content to receive them. But then, neither are eels content with their treatment at the hands of the cooks, though by this time as well used to their scalping-knives as we are to our hard knocks. In the beginnings of civilization everywhere, we are physically ill-treated because we are the weaker, and because the ill-treatment of the weaker is natural to the stronger. Witness the painted brave, to whom his. bowbacked squaw is simply a beast of burden born. into the world to minister to his needs. Witness our own roughs, who beat their wives with no more com- punction than if they were thrashing their donkeys or kicking their dogs. Witness the small nursery tyrants OURSELVES. in knickerbockers, who thump their little sisters, break their dolls, and sweep off their "goodies," by virtue of the masculine fibre in their flesh and the divinity of their inchoate manhood. This is the kind of thing to be found in the beginnings of society everywhere ; and it is only by degrees that, as civilization advances, tyranny gets itself checked by protection, protection gets itself enlarged into rights, and women are allowed to have an individual existence, and to be more than the mere reflex of their husbands. Still our position is by no means what it should be; and if we have gained much, we have yet more to gain, and a long lee-way of injustice to make up. If we, of the educated class at least, are not per- sonally ill-treated, as in the rude old times, we are not handled morally with much gentleness. Of whatever goes wrong, we must bear the blame. It is said of the Duke of Wellington, among others--for this is one of the universal anecdotes that have many men and all nations for fathers-that when told of a misfortune or crime, his first words were, "What is her name?" No mishap could come without a woman at the bottom of it. Money, the root of all evil? No! Poll the world of men, and see if you do not get WOMAN as the radical disaster of creation! Who was weak 2 OURSELVES. towards forbidden fruit? Who opened the Box of Pains and let all the miseries of human life abroad? Who caused the siege of Troy? Who invented the Aqua Tofana? Was not Brinvilliers a woman? And which was the greater villain of the two, Lady Mac- beth or her husband? There is not an historical mis- adventure of which we are not somehow the cause, and there is not a crime in which we have not been the supremest criminals. With or without that qualifying grain to clear the sediment of exaggeration, we are held responsible for almost all the ills of life; and men forget that, nine times out of ten, we are only secondary causes, with their own passions as the primary. A literary friend of ours hits us very hard about every Saturday now. I say friend despite of his bludgeon and the tremendous blows resulting, because plain-speaking is, in a general way, a more friendly proceeding than flattery, though a mortifying one. Besides, wicked wags do say that the hardest of those papers are written by certain of ourselves, and that if the foe has spied out the nakedness of the land, it is a woman who has bound the red thread across the window. If the Frisky Matron is scarified, and the Girl of the Period castigated, and small follies gene- 3 B 2 OURSELVES. rally held up to ridicule and reprehension, there are not wanting bold tongues to declare that the hardest thing said can only be the truth, seeing that it is said with that connaissance de cause which only sex can give. Is it so? And is our hebdomadal flayer a woman like ourselves, pointing out our evils for the good to follow, and sternly calling us into the way of righteousness, with an accompaniment of lashes well laid on? Is she-or they cruel only to be kind? Perhaps. Frisky matrons are an abomination to true woman- hood, and whoever wields the knife to cut out such a sore, wields it to the good of society at large, no mat- ter what the individual discomfort it may occasion ; and a girl of the period is only a frisky matron in her first stage, with even more startling potentialities. I, who am a matron myself, with pleasant brown-haired girls as yet innocent of aqua amarilla and Madame Rachel, I solemnly swear that I would rather see my daughters dead now in their youth and beauty, tham in the way to become girls of the period, and frisky matrons to follow. These characters are no mere fictions of the Satur- day journalist's brain. They exist; and they make their existence a loud and staring fact. In the Park, the streets, the drawing-room, you see their painted OURSELVES. cheeks, their dyed red hair, and liberal expanse of bust and back, and you hear their spicy talk, well-seasoned with slang and always hovering about that doubtful line of topics at which bold men laugh and modest women blush. We may wince as much as we like, and flounce and flutter and deny, but the fact re- mains the same. Here, in the very heart of what is called good society-here, as the companions of our laughters, the wives of our brothers, the playfellows of our sons, and the friends of our husbands, is a sect of women, young and mature alike, who have taken the Hetaire of the day for their models, and who paint and dress and talk and make up their lives as near after the pattern set by their prototypes as is pos- sible to them. How can we deny it, when we see the archpriestess of the sect living in that wealthy temple of hers in Bond Street, whence every now and then some deluded votary, more indignant than wise, turns round against her Cyprian abbess, and denounces and exposes? The guilt and the shame of such things do not lie with those who speak of them, but with those who do them; not with the writers of those slashing articles in our weekly censor, but with the models who stand in the way to be slashed. For my own part, I only hope there will be no holding of the hand yet 5 OURSELVES. awhile; and that so long as these sins exist among us, there will be found faithful friends to use the knife and the actual cautery, and so to cut out and to burn un- sparingly while one corrupted fibre remains. But passing from what has been said of us by others, let us look a little at ourselves, and what we really are ; speaking of our shortcomings without any of the sen- timental folly which would make of woman a semi- sacred creature, to be worshipped but by no means to be discussed. In the first place, we women have faults; we are not angels to whom has been given exemption from the general lot of a fallen humanity ; and amongst these faults, I would speak to-day of two —the first, that, not understanding the nature of man nor sympathizing with his needs, we yet interfere with his life and attempt to influence what we cannot share ; the second, our exceeding frivolity and devotion to fashion. As to the first, there is no doubt but that one of our natural duties is to refine the masculine creature, who, without us, would be given up to drink and hob- nailed shoes. If we do not do this, we fail in our most important social function, and are good for nothing instead of being better than all. But refining and weakening are different things; and, as a rule, we 6 OURSELVES. do not see this difference. And the practical outcome of our not seeing it is by no means satisfactory. For we go to work on false principles, and for the most part want to make men more like ourselves, instead of encouraging them to be the best of what God and nature made them capable of being. The model we hold up for the imitation of a great, rough, hirsute creature, is often nothing but a saintly maiden looking at life in the great market-place through the painted. glass of the church window. Being the kind of thing that seems good for ourselves, we hold it to be the right kind of thing for men; and feel aggrieved when they choose otherwise, and take their life as a drama to be acted out in the market-place with the others, and not only as a stage-play to be looked at through the painted glass of a church window. One of the oddest things about us is the blind tyranny of this sense of right. If we like anything, and think it good and wholesome for ourselves, we can admit no argument against it, and would make it absolute on every one else to receive. To us there is one absolute right-our own-and the converse is as absolute wrong. There is scarcely a woman who does not think herself a minor St. Peter with the keys of heaven and hell at her girdle; and the more con- 7 OURSELVES. scientious she is, the narrower the door she unlocks, and the smaller the number of the elect allowed to enter. Liberality is latitudinarianism with us; for whatever our characteristic sins, they are certainly not those of Laodicea; and, in spite of our natural soft- ness, I believe we would all rather belong to a per- secuting church than to an indifferent one-those of us, at least, who have convictions. Very few of us are really broad while earnest ; able to think that meadow- walks are lovely if we hold to the special beauty of the shrubbery paths, and that the moral convictions of our opponents are as sacred as our own. The "unbelieving husband of a believing wife" has a hard time of it in general; and I have seen the poor fellow suffer things for conscience' sake-perhaps I ought to say for no conscience' sake-which have made me very sorrowful on his account. No one gets more snubbed than the miserable man whose moral tether is longer and wider than his wife's, and who thinks those things lawful which to her are accursed. But spiritual pride, and uncharitable surmises, and moral self-satisfaction, do not seem to our fair Procrustes evils to be avoided; and dissension from an opinion is no sin-only the opinion which she does not share is a sin. Wherefore she leads her husband a life which would make a 8 OURSELVES. halter at times a pleasant relief, and by way of guiding him to heaven industriously creates for him a hell. This is what the believing wife does for her unbelieving husband; and what heart, not quite of stone, would refuse to pity the poor victim, and to denounce the oppressor? We are tyrannical towards men in other things be- sides moral convictions; and especially tyrannical towards their pleasures, so far as we have the power to be. Take any section of masculine pleasures you choose, from hunting to smoking, from cricket to billiards, and you will hear how loftily we despise the whole range, and how we wonder at you men for giving time and energy to anything so foolish! There is no use in arguing with us. Tobacco may be a divine solace to you-almost equal in potency with our tatting and crochet-but to us it is an abomina- tion, and therefore you ought not to smoke. cannot hunt; perhaps we are elderly in age, and pon- derous to match, and cannot even ride; consequently we know nothing of the thrilling pleasure which in- spires you when the hounds give tongue, and you are off and away like a covey of flamingoes streaming after that little brown beast stretching ahead. To us the sport is cruel, or dangerous, as we think more of We 9 OURSELVES. the beast or of the man; and we would rather take you, each individual Nimrod, in our quiet brougham for a. little drive along the safe highway, than see you in pink, hopping over hedges or tearing through the open. And as for cricket, billiards, pool, and all that kind of thing, what pleasure can you have in knocking a few balls about, that should keep you half an hour away from your home with us and the dear children? We have nothing to talk about when you do come, beyond the merest trivialities of the day's small occur- rences. Perhaps we have only disagreeables to discuss with you, and a certain amount of nagging energy to dispose of that will make you angry before bedtime comes; still we think ourselves ill-used that you should have enjoyment while we are moping at home-though it is an enjoyment in which we could not take part, and a home-born moping which your presence would not dispel. I am afraid it is not so much love as jealousy, and not jealousy so much as envy. It is the dog and the manger over again; and very snappish disagreeable little dogs we make ourselves! I have often wondered at the unconscionable de- mands of some among us,-say the sickly wives of jovial and robust husbands, who make their own weakness the measure of the man's strength, and think IO OURSELVES. their inability for active pleasures reason enough why he too, should live the life of a cloistered ascetic. Stupid, is it not? And yet how many of us women are stupid in this way! This especial manifestation of womanly stupidity is not so hurtful towards husbands as it is towards sons. A man can fend for himself, but a boy is comparatively helpless while his boyhood lasts; and when that is over the mischief is done. Of all pitiable sights in the world, that of a nervous, cowardly woman regulating the life of a vigorous boy is about the most pitiable. The one law of her ma- ternal management, poor body, is fear. She sees death or danger wherever she looks. If her boy wants to learn to ride, he will be thrown and will break his neck; if he wants to learn to swim, he will get the cramp and be drowned; if he wants to learn to shoot, guns and things" have the diabolical property of going off by themselves, and he will infallibly be shot through the body when he least expects it; at cricket, he will get his shins broken; the ice will give way under him, though it has borne thousands before him if he goes for a day's excursion among the mountains, he will be lost in a mist or dashed down a precipice; there will be no chance for him if he attempts to row, save in a tub with a retinue of care-takers. At every II OURSELVES. turn of a youth's natural desire for experience and adventure, he is checked by the groundless fear of a fusionless woman; the end whereof is that he becomes an effeminate milksop not worth his salt, or else gives his mother care enough to break the heart of the tradi- tionary cat. This is by no means a fancy sketch. We may see it painted in living lines wherever we choose to look. But indeed, we Englishwomen are rapidly becom- ing miserable cowards all through. As for anything like heroic sacrifice of affection for public duty in us of modern times, scarcely such a thing exists. Woman for woman, we would rather the whole manliness of the nation went to water than that our own belongings should suffer. We cannot rise from individuals to generals, from house to nation, from family to race: we cannot merge our own loss in the gain of the com- munity, nor give our beloved as the sacrifice by which the true good of the whole is to be secured. I know the answer to this is that woman is the conservative force of humanity, and that it is given to her to pre- serve, in contradistinction to the destroying propensity of man. Still, in greater times than these, all forms of womanly love, whether for the husband or the son, were subordinated to the general good and national I 2 OURSELVES. honour; and it would be well for us if we could go back to the spirit of those times, and especially if we women could get a tithe of the Roman patriotism and Spartan strength which once made the world so great. This then, is the first fault or folly of us women towards men and common sense-this endeavour of ours to dwarf the masculine life down to the standard of the feminine one; to narrow under the name of refining; to weaken and call it purification; to inter- fere by the euphemism of influence. Our second fault is comprised in our excessive frivolity, our insane adherence to fashion, and our habit of judging by the mere outsides of things. It seems impossible for us to understand any question whatever by its own intrinsic merits, and not on the score of its personal convenience to ourselves, or on that of our private liking for it, or on the mere ques- tion of custom and usage. Look at us in relation to fashion and dress: can anything be more silly than we are? If that mysterious something which goes by the name of Fashion, but which in reality is only the fancy of a manufacturer or a milliner, says that we are to come out one year in crinolines which make us look like huge bells, with our feet for a twin clapper, straightway we all run a race in rivalling each other who shall be 13 OURSELVES. the biggest bell with the shortest petticoat, and at the greatest cost of convenience or decency. If this same misty tyrant says, another year, that we shall have skimpy dresses not much wider than pillow-cases, well! we have skimpy dresses, and look like so many bolsters set on end. If we are to have tapering skirts ending in a long wreath at our feet, away we all scam- per, dropping our crinolines as if they were red-hot, and cutting off the circumference to stitch on to the length-sweeping the streets instead of showing our legs, and exchanging the bell for the serpent's train. One year sees us all red-headed; another, olive- skinned; sometimes we are like the young lady of Leeds whose head was infested with beads, and break out into a general state of shiny pimples; and some- times we hang ourselves about with chains everywhere, and put our greatest pride in making a jangle as we go. One fashion bids us build up a fabric that towers half a yard above our heads; another sticks a couple of inches of lace on the top of our touzly hair and calls that a bonnet, though the final cause of a bonnet proper is the protection of our heads from wind and weather. Now we are all draped in long cloaks that fall to our feet, at a frightful waste of material; and then we cut them up into brief yachting jackets that come 14 OURSELVES. just below the waist; or we bind ourselves across the chest in what it pleases us to call Marie Antoinette fichus—but which I confess are pretty, and for the time of year marvellously suitable. We strangle our fingers and wrists in the tightest of gloves, and we in- duce corns and enlarged joints by the most uncom- promising of boots, on which we further put narrow heels a couple of inches high, and run the risk thereby of falling flat on our faces should we walk heedlessly or too quickly; or we think it unladylike to protect our feet from wet and stones, and go about in paper soles that would not carry us dry-footed if a teacup of water was spilt on the road before us. ugly, nothing too irrational for us. and we will make ourselves more hideous than the most hideous set of squaws to be found among the hills and prairies of America; because we are too silly to stand out against anything sheltered under that august name, and because we cannot go below the surface of life. Nothing is too Call it fashion, This is for ourselves; while as for men and our dealings in the way of dress with them, we are even more stupid; and the manner in which we cramp all our social life by the terrible bondage of finery and fashion is a mixture of folly and suicidal selfishness utterly inconceivable. Club-life is one result of this 15 OURSELVES. tyranny of tailordom. companions, but from the finery, the conventional re- straints, the petty thraldom which our society entails, that men rush off to the smoking-room at their club, where at least they are delivered from the service of starch. To admit us among them anywhere, is to put them- selves into the fetters of costume, and to cumber their hours with ceremonial. Hence our exclusion from much where there is nothing unbecoming for us to see or hear, but where men are afraid to let us enter be- cause of the trammels and extremes we should bring with us. The only set of educated women who live with their men as good comrades, tolerating what they do not share, and neither excluding nor imitating, are artists' wives and daughters. And no one who has ever been admitted into good artists' society can say that the association is a mistake. At the present time, when certain among us are making a stir for the recog- nition of rights and privileges hitherto disallowed, it seems to me a pity, to use no stronger term, and a bit of contradiction fatal to our cause by that inexorable process called "the logic of facts," that we should be so narrow, so interfering, and so full of finery, as we are, in our home and social life. If we wish to show men that we are earnest and capable, with more reason It is not to escape from us as .6 OURSELVES. than instinct, and more womanliness than fine-ladyism, that is, if we wish to show them that we are strong enough for the place we claim-we are not going quite the right way to work. If we want their extra respect, we ought to prove ourselves extra worthy; instead of being the poor weak creatures we are, with our inces- sant demands for protection and equality and greater deference and more responsibility, and a bigger share of the prizes only to be got by hard work and self- denial-with, at the same time, less inclination than ever for the sacrifice of even a whim, a folly, or an injustice. Madame Rachel is not the best supporter Mr. Mill could have had; nor are her victims quite the kind of persons to be entrusted with more power than that which they have exercised-namely, that of ruining themselves by their own folly. The chief thing wanting between men and women, as it seems to me, is friendship. Of love and poetic admiration there is abundance, of course, and to spare. The world could not go on without these pretty amenities; but we want friendship far more than all these the affectionateness which has no relation to love, but which would insure equitable treatment from each to each. We could have no better gift than the reception and bestowal of such a feeling. But to ob- 17 C OURSELVES. tain it we ought to make ourselves more fit for it than we are at present. For though we were certainly not sent into the world solely to supplement men's lives and to have no original objects of our own, still, we cannot do without their liking and it is only right that we should set our watches by their time. They are clearer-headed than we; less prejudiced if less. conscientious; more generous when generous, and more tender when tender. Being the stronger they are larger in all things-even in their love. When they love they love better than we love, but less ab- sorbingly. We give the whole of our lives to love, they keep one portion of theirs for work, and another for ambition. Still, the half measure of a gallon is more than the full measure of a pint; and weight for weight the man's love is greater than the woman's. This is a tremendous heresy I know, but it is a truth notwithstanding; and we ought to be able to recognise all truths when we see them, how disagreeable soever they may be to our prejudices or our pride. One of the fundamental differences between us and men lies in the difference there is between instinct and passion. We are instinctive and men are pas- sionate. Now passions admit of the modifying power of reason better than do instincts, because of the 18 OURSELVES. periods of cessation. The most passionate man is not always at blood-heat, raving and ramping about the world like an unloosed demon; but instinct never ceases. It is eternal, continuous, unchanging; deaf and blind to all but itself—a great amorphous giant, with only one eye in the midst of its forehead, and that eye turned inward. Reason regulate instinct?—as much as an infant may lead a lion! And is not this complete subjugation by instinct one of the reasons why women are so difficult to manage, and so possessed by any affection they may have? I should not like to be in the hands of sundry of my sex at this moment! I do not think there would be much doubt of the direction their instincts would take if they could get hold of one whom they would style false to her sex and so traitorous! But it is because I love my sex that I speak as I do; it is because women are greater than their follies, and nobler than their prejudices, and might be so much better than they are, that I think it worth my while to tell them the truth. I have uglier things to say yet, and a few harder raps in store. Enough for the present. Quassia and aloes must be "exhibited" in small doses; and the dose to-day has. been both large and bitter. 19 C 2 FINE LADIES. HERE are ladies and ladies-ladies who are gentlewomen and ladies who are fine ladies; and the terms are not convertible. On the contrary, it seems to me that they are quite opposed to each other, and that as the true gentlewoman is never the fine lady, so is the fine lady never the true gentlewoman. Fine-ladyism is a disease of long and steady growth, but of specially rapid development in these latter days. There never was a time, save per- haps during the reign of the Fourteenth Louis and onward to the French Revolution, when women made it so confessedly a point of pride to be absolutely use- less to themselves and their generation, as they do now-never a time when the highest test of ladyhood was the lowest mark of womanhood. Indeed, just in proportion to the spread of the new doctrine called the 20 FINE LADIES. Dignity of Labour, has been the fine lady's abhorrence of the very mildest forms of practical usefulness; and in exact ratio with the advocacy of the theory of Emancipation has been the proof of her unfitness for its practice. In early times kings' daughters and noble ladies The pa- were among the most capable of their sex. tent of their nobleness was in their capacity; and as the true lord or leader was the man who could do best and lead most worthily, so the true lady was the one who could serve with most knowledge of means and most success in application. The curse of idleness had not then fallen on the world; and women had not as yet conceived the apotheosis of finery. Nausicaë was a king's daughter, but she washed the family linen in the running stream all the same as any little Elsie or Maggie in a simple north-country farm; and Penelope sat at home and wove and sewed as diligently as if she had been a Blackburn mill-hand helping in the family bread-winning. And though we do not want our kings' daughters at the present day to go out on the highway and wash their royal linen in the running brooks, yet even kings' daughters and crowned queens have their duties; and duties include some form of work. 21 FINE LADIES. But Fine-ladyism ignores both work and duties. A fine lady is one who imagines herself to be born into this great, suffering, toiling world of ours, for her own pleasure only; and in nowise for more than this. What relations she holds with her fellow man or woman, she holds for herself not for him-still less for her ; for such good and advantage as she may be enabled to draw out of the association, but in no sense whatever for any good that she can bestow. It is a reciprocity all on one side, according to the famous formula—a debtor and creditor account between herself and hu- manity, with the debtor column crossed out and only the items of the creditor account marked to her good. People owe to her, not she to them. They owe her attention, thought, care, toil; and she owes them ac- ceptance of their gifts. Lady Mary Wortley Montague said that the world was made up of men, women, and Herveys: she might have added fine ladies as a branch of the human family sui generis, and happily not re- peated as a necessity in every country where the sons of Adam and the daughters of Eve are to be found. But to be found in all countries which have come up to a certain stage of artificial civilization-to be found wherever a leisure class has consolidated itself into an idle one, and the fruits of toil have blossomed anew 22 FINE LADIES. into the flowers of fortune-to be found where there are more labourers to do the work than there is work to be done. A characteristic of Fine-ladyism, as striking as its disdain of moral obligations, is its horror of all handi- craft-taking the word in its original meaning of the craft, or cunning, or knowledge of the hand. Appa- rently one of the principal objects with a fine lady is to reduce her hands to the condition of fins or flippers which can neither grasp nor hold, and which are beautiful in exact proportion to the closeness of the likeness. A fine lady would be ashamed, in the first place, if she had capable hands at all; in the second, granting the capability, she would be ashamed to put them to any rational use. If by chance she con- descends to employ them, she takes care to em- ploy them only on worthless work, and never suffers them to wander into utilities. If she does what is absolutely of no more good than harnessing butterflies to acorn cups, she does not hold herself to have lost caste; but if she qualifies her labours ever so faintly by practicality, she has committed a social sin for which she is degraded, at least temporarily, to the ranks of the outside vulgar. She may embroider purses which no one wants; make bad imitation of 23 FINE LADIES. old point-lace; set beads awry on squares of canvas ; spoil quires of unoffending cartridge paper with daubs that go by the name of sketches; but she must not make a flannel petticoat, nor any other garment that would give warmth or protection to the wearer ; she must not concoct a stew, nor dust a room, nor wash a china ornament, nor carry a parcel; she may trifle with dainty inutilities, if it so pleases her, but she must do no real work, however slight, under pain of that caste degradation spoken of before. : Imagine a fine lady washing, dressing, or nursing her baby; imagine those soft white hands plunged up to the rounded wrists in flour and milk for the family pudding picture her, if you can, with a duster in her hand polishing up the spoons and making the dinner- table doubly graceful by that last extra rub of the glass. I am afraid our struggling, naked, slippery babe would go unwashed to the end of its days if it depended only on its fine-lady mother for its morning bath; while the family might dream of puddings never to be eaten this side the grave; and silver and glass would be left to the grace of tarnish and the fine artistic shadows of dust, if those fair taper hands were the only things to touch them. As for the nursery, there even more than elsewhere, the fine lady is essen- 24 FINE LADIES. tially strange and out of place. She may have a dozen children, and she may go to the length of embroidering little cloaks and braiding bigger jackets, but here she stops. She never takes kindly to maternity anyhow; and at the most cannot get beyond a languid æsthetic interest in the little creatures, strong in proportion to their good looks. If they are ill, it is the nurse, not she, who manages them; it is the nurse, not she, to whom the doctor gives his orders—that is, if he has the perception necessary to his profession, and is able to read characters as well as symptoms. Our fine-lady mother told to put on a poultice, to spread a plaster, to dress a blister, to regulate a warm bath, to weigh out so much rhubarb or aloes! Why, she would never get her hands into right order again if she were to steep them in such abominations; besides being so utterly fusionless that she would mistranslate the orders, and make her applications at random! Ex- tremes meet, says the old saw. It is an odd irony of circumstance that one of the characteristics of a real savage, namely his pride in the smallness and unused look of his hands-his squaw doing his dirty work- should also be a characteristic of the English fine lady: in her own esteem the highest point of perfection that humanity has yet reached, or perhaps ever will reach. 25 FINE LADIES. And this is the supreme grace to which Fine-ladyism has attained-identity in point of pride with a painted, yelling, scalp-hunting savage of the American forests; and the oriflamme under which her ladyhood advances to victory over all things base and mean is a French kid-glove, number six and a quarter! Iden- tity with a savage, and a certain mark stamped on the inside of a white kid-glove, the life-objects of a nine- teenth century English matron! A fine lady never carries a parcel. What the craze against a little screw of whity-brown paper may be, I cannot tell, and I doubt if any one else can; but it exists, like many other things of which we can neither track their roots, nor utilize their fruits. It may be because of the snobbishness which confounds gentle- hood with riches in England, or rather denies the gentlehood where there are no riches to back it up. Wherefore every lady must, of necessity, if a lady, possess a carriage and a footman, to either of which machines she would naturally delegate the transport of her parcels. Having neither, the public feeling would go against the supposition of her being a lady. For it is a hard saying, and difficult to be received in this wealthy mother-country of ours, that a woman can be refined and yet poor; of undeniable breeding and 26 FINE LADIES. yet forced to work; shabbily dressed, and living up two pairs of stairs, and yet a gentlewoman-every inch of her; a gentlewoman with her hands in the flour- tub, or even in the wash-tub; a gentlewoman forced to carry her own parcels because she is too poor to pay for others to carry them for her; a gentlewoman of perhaps better blood and nobler bearing than the rich parvenue who looks on her disdainfully as a nobody. This is because of the coarse materialism in our Anglo-Saxon blood, which cares less for the spirit than the form, and which believes in nothing it cannot appraise at the goldsmith's and the auctioneer's. In France no such finery exists, save among the nouveaux riches—snobs always, whatever their nation- ality. But in elder times, when blood and breeding ranked far above wealth, and a lady was too secure in her state to fear the shadow of appearances, you might see one of the oldest of the St. Germain nobility tranquilly carrying home the pair of boots she had just bought on the Boulevard, or the pot of flowers she had chaffered for, not weakly, at the flower- market by the Madeleine. She was of the old blue blood, and every one knew how blue; and she was none the less grande dame because she condescended to her humanity, and acknowledged the fact that 27 FINE LADIES. nature had given her hands, with fingers, which were meant for other purposes beside ring-stands and glove- stretchers. I think the chances would be that, if one of our fine ladies ever attempted to carry a parcel, she would let it drop out of those feckless fingers of hers, and then would not find out that she had a spine which was made to bend, and prehensile powers which would enable her to pick it up again. For no fine ladies hold things with an honest grasp. They have all the same mode of using their hands, bending just the tips of the fingers, and holding every- thing with a loose, drippy touch, as if really it was too great an effort of the will, too great a show of mus- cular power, to grasp firmly; as if there was a special beauty in things being dropped rather than put down, and a special evidence of womanly sweetness in a manual action painfully resembling that of an idiot. For my own part, I have never quite understood the relation between beauty and weakness, womanly sweetness and womanly silliness; to my mind indeed, that woman being the most beautiful who is the most capable, while weakness and silliness can never by any chance be other than unlovely. It is only comparatively of late years that this fine- lady uselessness has come to be a badge of refine- 28 FINE LADIES. ment. In Mrs. Delany's memoirs we read of jam- making and still-room work, of millinery even, and home-work generally, as part of the normal life of a lady. Traditions of the brave and practical old times, when women were not ashamed to own that they had duties, and were not afraid to perform them, still hung in the atmosphere of the upper ten thousand; and even a titled lady, two generations ago, thought it no shame to keep her own house and to know the cost of provisions and the value of money. Now, the wife of a successful tradesman, without an aspirate to bless herself with, who can scarcely write her own name, and cannot certainly write good grammar, holds her- self demeaned if she does more than "give her orders;" and if you ask her what she pays a pound for a sirloin of beef, will look at you blankly, and refer you with an air to her housekeeper, or her cook. She began life herself as a servant; perhaps she was a housemaid, perhaps a more aristocratic lady's-maid who had learnt a few secrets of personal adornment; she married my lord's valet who had saved money and was lucky in speculation, or perhaps she cast in her lot with a thriving young chemist, or a briskly selling draper with ideas beyond the tapes and buttons or ordinary haberdashery. Anyhow she and hers came 29 FINE LADIES. to money and with money to Fine-ladyism. In fact, it seems to me that Fine-ladyism has sprung out of this self-made, successful class-these women who, not being ladies by birth, habits, or education, put on the appearance of excessive refinement, and make their gentility to consist in their idleness and useless- ness. Speech is another vehicle of Fine-ladyism. To call a spade a spade and nothing more, is the height of vulgarity in the minds of certain of the finer sort; but to call it an agricultural implement is a periphrase betokening correct taste and nice feeling. But then the fine lady always uses dictionary words in place of the more colloquial; and whenever she has the chance, multiplies her syllables as so many ornaments to her parts of speech. She commences a thing and she con- cludes it, but she neither begins it nor ends it; she always says that she requires something, never that she wants it; she reserves, she does not lay by; she derives pleasure from, and is not pleased; and she re- tains a thing in her memory, she never simply remem- bers or learns by heart. These are only examples of the whole staple. But if she is fine in her choice of words, she is finer still in her choice of topics, which she subjects to a winnowing process, as she herself 30 FINE LADIES. would say, that effectually takes the coarse bran out of them. All natural things are taboo to the fine lady; all questions of disease and suffering are in- finitely shocking to her attenuated senses, and to be spoken of only under the breath, as if they were crimes or indecencies. The sins and tragedies of human life. are beyond her pure soul to comprehend, save when she can whisper away a character, or hint at the im- moralities she is much too fine to speak of openly. For it is one of her peculiarities not to hesitate about conveying bad ideas; it is only at words she falters. -only at shadows, not the substance. As for any- thing like womanly pity for the frailty of the evil-doer -look for figs on thistles, and for grapes on thorns, as soon as this from the fine lady! Charity and Fine- ladyism do not go together; for true charity, like true ladyhood, is strength, and Fine-ladyism is the very dregs of weakness. The woman whose soul is strong and pure can afford to be pitiful to the tainted; but the woman who only affects purity, and who is weak in her faith, cannot. Nothing is more thoroughly characteristic of the fine lady than this repulsion of hers to all things natural. I myself have known some who have rebuked the more out-spoken of their sex for using the word 31 FINE LADIES. "natural" at all, and who have called it "indelicate." God help them! They were-they are-of the kind who "wonder" at certain ordinances of Providence- certain laws of nature which even the finest lady of them all cannot quite get over; and who think things infinitely shocking which God has made imperative. They would have managed matters very differently; and beyond all question infinitely better, they say substantially by their disdain, though they do not put their thoughts into so many plain words. But then, plain words are not in their line at any time; and de- monstrating a principle or extending it is just what they cannot do. It is very funny to listen to a woman of coarse imagination and fine-lady education when on a denunciatory raid against certain human and natural facts. Her conversation, stripped of peri- phrase and euphemism, reduced to its core, followed out to its ultimate, and put into homely language, would be about the coarsest that we could hear be- tween dawn and dusk. It would have the appearance of wonderful refinement and propriety; but the fine lady is like that old abomination, "a nice man of nasty ideas;" and her keenness in tracking out im- proprieties where no one else can see them, shows a self-consecration to the search more eloquent of sym- 32 FINE LADIES. pathy than abhorrence. Things which would not raise a blush to the cheek of the most modest woman, or of the most innocent girl, are caught hold of with fie-fie energy by the fine lady in the clairvoyance of her transcendental morality, and denounced by her as something quite shocking and horrible. It is the "limb" of the fowl and frills round the legs of the piano in another form; and which was most improper, the naked audacity of the wooden leg, or the prudish imagination which put it into cambric leggings for modesty's sake? Faugh! As the tender mercies of the wicked are cruel, so are the sensitive proprieties of Fine-ladyism the grossest things on earth. Sins The moral action of society is by filtration. and virtues alike descend, they do not rise upward- from the people to the aristocracy; consequently, Fine- ladyism has descended from the parlour to the kitchen, and our maids are now nearly as much fine ladies as their mistresses. The cook must have a kitchen-maid · to do her dirty work; and the kitchen-maid demands a scullery-maid to do hers; the parlour-maid will not- spoil her hands by the use of anything rougher than a feather-brush; the housemaid divides the sphere into upper and lower; and the lower thinks herself entitled to a charwoman at every pinch that comes. It is one 33 D FINE LADIES. incessant shuffling off from their own hands the rougher portions of the work covenanted to be done; and the first thought of all servants now-a-days is, who can they get to wait upon them? and how much of their rightful burden can they lay on vicarious backs? In dress it is the same thing; the fine lady above-stairs aims to look like her betters, and the fine lady below- stairs aims to look like her mistress. No servant that lives is content to look like a servant out of her work, and the greatest insult you could offer her would be to take her for what she is. She spends all her wages on her silly person, and thinks silk and velvet, to make a show which is not real, a vastly superior investment. to the savings bank and three per cent. The very scullery-wench and kitchen-maid must have their cri- nolines and their flounced petticoats, and then bemoan themselves as ill-used by fate because cook can wear deeper embroidery and a handsomer black silk. I sup- pose there is no use in wishing for the return of the past, but a little revivification of the defunct old sumptuary laws would be a blessing to many weak souls, if also an act of tyranny as we read tyranny. Not only servants, but all the lower class of women are touched with this disease of Fine-ladyism. If any one doubts this, let him go among the better class of 34 FINE LADIES. small tradespeople in the towns, or among the medium class of tenant-farmers in the country, and he will then see for himself how wide and broad this feminine curse has become. I do not say that every individual woman all through the country is touched-that you cannot find a butcher's wife who is not a fine lady with nerves and a horror of fresh meat, nor a farmer's dame who does not despise pigs as unclean animals and the nursing of calves as an occupation unworthy one of her degree; but I do say that by far the larger propor- tion are tainted with Fine-ladyism in one or other of its many manifestations; and that, shrinking from work and business, a hatred of simplicity, and the mistaking idleness for refinement, are becoming characteristic of Englishwomen of every station. The dignity of labour is a doctrine which may apply well enough to man, they think, but it is one in which they have no part, and for which they have no natural obligation. "It is not woman's work," is a phrase one hears perpetually in these times from servants and the whole world of working women; till at last one gets to wonder what is woman's work, and if she has any assigned to her by nature; and, if not, why was she born into the world at all? The very drones in the beehive have their uses; the flowers in the field play their part in 35 D 2 FINE LADIES. the great economy of the universe; the gayest butter- fly that looks as if it was born only to flutter in the sunshine; the brightest bird whose final cause seems merely song and plumage; the crystals gem- ming the old grey rocks; the metal gleaming through the river sands; all have their uses, though seemingly only beautiful superfluities of life; but woman-what is her place? What are her duties? What is her work? According to the fine lady it is simply to be waited on and caressed; to have every wish gratified by the toil and thought of others; to be exempt from all the cares, free of all the troubles, exonerated from all the duties of life; it is to be made into a drawing-roone doll, where she is placed on a pedestal and kneeled to or taken care of, but whence she is never to come down and lessen the sorrows or share the labours of others. All things else in nature have their uses, but the fine lady has none: and all things else are born to share and to give, but the fine lady is born only- to receive. The thing in the fine lady which strikes me more forcibly than all the rest-her selfishness excepted, which indeed is the very root and groundwork of her being is her intense vulgarity. The frankest-spoken 36 FINE LADIES. woman of the people, who does her life's work honestly without dress or finery or self-exaltation or self-bewail ment, and is herself through it all-whatever that seli may be is a better gentlewoman than the fine lady who owns herself to be meaner than the poorest little circumstance, and whose gentlehood is not strong enough to carry her over such a stumbling-stone as a brown-paper parcel, or a daub of paste upon her hands. Were she in any degree the lady she pretends to be, she would know that work never degrades, and that the quality which cannot soil its hands is about as much gentlehood as the wings of Icarus were eagle's pinions. Again, how unutterably vulgar she is in the matter of dress and its artificial proprieties! Now I am one who hold to the moral duty of women to make themselves beautiful in all lawful ways; who think that slatternliness and carelessness in the matter of dress and personal habits are positive sins; and that a woman is good for nothing if she is not pleasing in her person. But there are times and seasons for all things, and occasions wherein every rule must be relaxed, and the strictest obligation shelved in favour of something. for the moment more important. And so with dress and personal attention. Take sickness for an example. What should we say of a woman who, having to tend a 37 FINE LADIES. sick, perhaps a dying person, gave her first thought to the nice starching of her collars and cuffs, the becoming arrangement of her hair, and the well-fitting of her dress? But this is what Fine-ladyism does, if by chance it plays at womanly usefulness. A fine-lady nurse! Good heavens! The tender thought of un- selfish watchfulness to come from her miserable, self- absorbed brain? the kindly touch, soothing and minis- tering just at the right moment and in the right way, to be looked for from those white, dangling hands, which could no more shake a pillow, mix a saline draught, or prop up a weary head than they could lift an anchor or splice a rope? See in a sick-room a fine lady playing at womanhood-you might as well set a child to rule the State, or put a monkey to master Euclid! She would be thinking of herself all the time she was not shuddering at her work; and between self and shrinking the poor patient would have but a bad time of it! The fine lady is nothing if she is not well-dressed. Take her at the sea-side, where others go about in colours and materials that sea-water does not spoil, and there she is, a marine Regent Street lounger, trail- ing her silks and laces among the sea-weed as she trailed them last week over the city dust. Take her 38 FINE LADIES. in the country, where the cows and the crows are the only creatures to look at her-but her boots are irre- proachable, her chignon is of the orthodox dimensions, her fashions come from London, and she is as unex- "drum" ceptionally got up as if she was engaged to a or a fête. She would be miserable else. For she is never superior to her boots, never above her gown, or better than her gloves. An immortal creature, with a soul to be saved, she degrades herself to the worth of a milliner's dummy as the sign of her superiority. And this she calls being "ladylike" and "refined !" Heaven help the pretty fool, and give her sense to under- stand the wholesome beauty that lies in strength-the grace of a capable, practical womanhood!—give her sense too, to see her own abounding vulgarity, and the poverty of a ladyhood which cannot rise above material conditions, but which must be draped and labelled to be accepted or believed in! 39 EMANCIPATED WOMEN. IN the opposite side of the scale to that where the Fine Ladies stand simpering in their use- lessness, are the sturdy, stout, Emancipated Women- the women with strong wills, and of independent minds -the women who think for themselves, and act as it best pleases them, let who will say them nay—the women who, having flung off some of the softer follies of our sex, have gone into others of a harder nature, and who, because they object to slavery, think they must also forget their womanliness. This sect has done the Woman cause much harm. For we cannot shut our eyes to the fact that the Rights of Woman is a cause, and one not wholly uncalled for nor unrighteous; and that, though individual men may love us, and fathers, brothers, and husbands sometimes think it their duty to protect and honour 40 EMANCIPATED WOMEN. us, yet in the main the womanly section of humanity is not well treated by the manly section-at least in England and other rough-handed countries-and that both society and the laws unite to oppress and wrong us. This uncomfortable state of things the emanci- pated women have taken to heart warmly; and some among them have given up their lives to a kind of re- venge, in making men understand what poor creatures they think them all to be-and what much finer fellows they themselves are in their bastard manliness than anything that reality can show-and how well they can get on in life without the aid of the masculine arms, which many of them say are "good only to help you through a crowd." Whether they have done good. service by their crusade is another matter. I think they may always count upon a large dead-weight of spiritless sisters who can never be stirred up to this hatred of men, but who naturally turn to them, and love them, and cling about them, like the parasites. they are. There are two kinds of emancipated women: the one who has delivered her soul from the clinging affections, the other who has freed hers from the bind- ing moralities, usually held essential to true womanli- ness. The one will be no man's wife because wifehood 4I EMANCIPATED WOMEN. includes debasing submission, and motherhood is de- grading in its animal conditions; the other will not marry because marriage is restriction, and her nature is of the kind which prefers free love to that which is bound. It is only in the middle-class though, that we find this kind preferring celibacy as better fitted for her peculiar practices; in the higher ranks, marriage is handier to her purpose, and the free lover of the upper ten thousand is the wife not the spinster. But we will come to this kind of emancipated woman by-and-by. At present we have to do with the sterner sort—that illogical creature who professes to hate men, and who nevertheless imitates them as closely as is possible to the conditions of things-enemy and plagiarist in one. This branch of the sect suddenly blossomed out about fifteen years or so ago. It would be invidious to mention the names of the leaders; but many of us. can remember how all at once appeared a small number of epicene-looking women, with cropped hair mostly parted at the side; turned-down linen collars. and small black ties; cloth jackets cut like a man's, with falling lappels to show the linen shirt-front, and what are now the fashionable coat-sleeves to show the linen shirt-cuffs; with unmistakeable vests to make the likeness more complete; and with a certain little 42 EMANCIPATED WOMEN. swaggering air that was by no means badly caught. When standing in a corner, so that the betraying pet- ticoats were hidden, these women could scarcely be distinguished from beardless youths of twenty or there- abouts, and at first sight many odd mistakes were made by the uninitiated. In fact, it was a modernized version of the mermaid-inversion rather-and if the mistakes made were not so disastrous, the false like- ness was quite as bewildering. They were all unmarried women, with decided views on most social subjects, and on almost all moral ones; and some of them had "missions," which they were apt to make a little wearisome by perpetual insistance, after the manner of missionaries in general; and they all despised the fineries of their sex-in which they were right; and abjured the natural beauties and allurements—in which they were wrong. They all wished they had been born men, and yet they thought men great brutes, and not fit to tie the shoe-strings of nobler woman; they all held babies to be unmitigated bores, and not half so amusing as kittens or puppies ; and thought a lecture-room, where bold professors dis- cussed the origin of species, far beyond any nursery ever built. And they one and all laughed at the old- fashioned notion that woman's highest mission is best 43 EMANCIPATED WOMEN. fulfilled by the way of marriage and maternity—that indeed, the true divinity of womanhood is contained in her maternity. And none of them ever blushed. There was a great deal of cleverness and sincerity about these women. They were lamentably mistaken in their views of life and the best kind of womanly power; but they were respectable because, if mistaken, at all events they were true to their ideals, and bravely bore the ridicule they created-and deserved. They walked conscientiously by their lights, such as they possessed; and if they had stuck the wick all awry, so that they saw everything confusedly and with shadows un- naturally thrown, it was not a wilful distortion of lines, and they held by what they believed to be the right way. Since then circumstances have broken up that little knot of what I once heard called "earnest up- ward-striving souls." Some have seen the error of their ways before too late, and have married while there was yet time to know the maternal blessings they had blasphemed in their days of darkness; others have let their hair grow, and have gone back to flounces and artificial flowers, and other outward emblems of womanhood—indeed, according to the saying that the greater the sinner the greater the saint, the outward emblems of these renegade emancipationists are for 44 EMANCIPATED WOMEN. the most part of an excessive kind, and beat those of the ordinarily smart woman all to nothing; some went into business, in which they had to make the humi- liating confession that they could not get on without the aid of masculine strength to supplement their weakness, finding themselves at fault in figures, and out of their reckoning in the deeper waters of com- merce; but some remain true to the primitive faith as at first preached, and though not so largely labelled by dress and demeanour as of old, still go about in de- signedly unlovely apparel, and are just as bitter in their abhorrence of the ordained duties of their sex- just as passionate in their denunciations of men, and as angry at the division which society and nature both have made of the good things of life. The main object of these women is- laudably enough to find practical work and the means of self- support for those of their own sex who have no male creatures at hand to keep them. If they were to stop here if they were to advocate only such work as would fit in harmoniously with woman's physical con- dition—with the quality of her brain, and the possibi- lities of her power-they would be doing incalculable good; but like all enthusiasts they overshoot their mark, and by way of enlarging a sphere change its 45 EMANCIPATED WOMEN. entire form and take it out of the field altogether. The advanced guard of this sect is to be found in America, where captaincies, naval and military, judges' wigs, and barristers' silk gowns are not thought unbe- fitting or out of the natural order of things feminine ; and where, if all had fair play and women might lay their hands on such spokes of fortune's wheel as seemed good to them, it is assumed the greatest prizes would be gained by them; and where the future Saviour of Society is to be undoubtedly a daughter, not a son. For, to the man-hating yet man-imitating sect, the feminine is the highest, the divine element in humanity. Manhood represents pride, gluttony, selfishness, hate, wrath, and the sins of the world, the flesh, and the devil combined-the concrete man being a demon of doubtful mien, possessing all the fiercer vices conjoined with all the sensual ones. But woman is an angel, with a cascade of golden hair meandering down her dimpled back, her eyes turned up to heaven, treading spiritual lusts and fleshly ones under her feet, and meekly carrying the heavy cross imposed on her by her male tyrant. Too meekly, say the emancipated ; with a burning desire to free their sisters from the toils they love and the chains they hug. She is Una with her lion rampant in her path, not submissive by her 46 EMANCIPATED WOMEN. side, nor yet with his claws cut and his fangs drawn ; -Hope, leaning on an anchor that breaks as she re- lies;-Patience, bearing her yoke, which the craft of the masculine oppressor makes doubly hard upon her neck; she is the proprietor of all the virtues, includ- ing even the grace of strength-for has she not endu- rance and the god-like power of fortitude?—is she not strong to suffer and to love? Not that the emanci- pated care much about love; but they cannot deny its force; and if it is a weakness, contrasted with the rugged power of those who can stand unloved and alone, it is a weakness that does the same work as strength, and even they must admit it into their cate- gory of human forces. To this sect then, woman is the apex of the pyra- mid; the flower of the human aloe; the best thing we know; and emphatically the work of Nature's master- hand, while men are only the botch of her 'prentice power. And the way in which she, the emancipated, proves her superiority and her contentment with the same, is by aping the meaner man, and by making herself as much like him and as little like a typical woman as she possibly can. Another thing she does is to knock at the door of all his offices, seeking to push him from his special place, instead of perfecting 47 EMANCIPATED WOMEN. her own assigned work, and making it bear new fruits and double blossoms. Perhaps this is on the same principle as that which made old Rowland Hill take dance-music and the airs to which profane songs were set, for the favourite hymn-tunes and voluntaries of his chapel. He did not see why the devil should have all the best music, he said; and, in like manner, the emancipated women do not see why men should have all the best places and the pleasures of indepen- dence. The analogy is close if you stand on their platform. And yet the very women who clamour most for the work which men do now, are precisely those who leave undone that which nature and society assign specially to themselves. It is not because woman has exhausted her natural ground, and has so thoroughly tilled every portion of her own patch, that she is crowded out of her peculiar domain; and therefore, in a way forced to invade that of men; but that she dislikes her own sphere, and covets her brother's-omne ignotum pro magnifico standing at the gate of many a longing, and leading the way to many a discontent. But there are certain stubborn natural facts which tell against this invasion of place and assumption of likeness; which last is a different thing from equality. Men are the 48 EMANCIPATED WOMEN. active energies of human society, women the passive; men originate, women perfect. By that instinct of masculine nature by which the world is kept alive and humanity is redeemed from barbarism, men must work and strive; the fight belongs to them by right of love and longing; and their very self-respect demands that they try their strength one with another, and shoulder their way through opposition and difficulty; and women, because of their weakness, must be worked for and protected. The thing is too self-evident to need reasoning about. Besides, what kind of world. would it be if they persisted in coming to the front, and taking on themselves the place and burdens of men? What kind of work would be done if Hercules took to spinning wool in safe places, while Omphale turned out to do battle with monsters in his stead? What kind of men should we have as the result of the exchange ?—not to speak of the women, as much unsexed for their own part. Creatures we could love? creatures we would condescend to marry? for it must be remembered that the maiden's pride is in herself, though the wife's is in her husband; and that to give herself, is the highest proof of honour a woman shows to any man. Men we could honour as fathers, hus- bands, and brothers, or men we should despise as 49 E EMANCIPATED WOMEN. utterly wanting in all that constitutes true manliness ? as wanting in courage, and the high spirit of inde- pendence which would make them forbid us to work that their hands might be lightened? There is very little doubt which way the general verdict of woman- kind would go; and the instinct is right which gives. men the heavy end of the stick to carry, and assigns to us the less onerous task of bearing the branches; which sets them to clear the path and build the house, and us to plant the flowers, and prepare the home for rest and pleasure. And the great mistake which the emancipated women make, is that they put instinct. out of the question altogether, and because they them- selves are without it, think that all the world besides. must be ordered on the same truncated plan. Take the marriage question as an instance. The emancipated despise marriage as servile submission unbecoming the free-born soul; but they forget that the ideal on which marriage is founded is love, and that no true-hearted woman that ever lived, who loved her husband, desired anything but submission. It is the very life of a woman's love-her pride, her glory, her evidence of self-respect. If she loves, she desires her husband to be greater than herself, and she be- lieves him to be so. If the choice was offered to her, 50 EMANCIPATED WOMEN. she would rather rely on him than be independent of his care; and to owe her all to him is both natural and sweet. The honour paid to him reflects itself on her; and the honour paid to her, in rivalry to him or to his exclusion, is a light that burns rather than shines, and is soon quenched in darkness and disfavour. But this is only the ideal; and we all know how rarely the ideal is attained in this sad world. The hardship is, where a woman who does not love, or who belongs to an unworthy man, is obliged to submit to his caprices and injustice because of form's sake; and the idea that marriage should include, per se and arbitrarily, the sacrifice of all feminine indivi- duality and womanly rights. For my own part, I think the ordering of things according to the aesthetic doc- trines of a sublimated ideal such as is seldom, if ever, attained by a frail humanity subject to criss-cross in- fluences, a cruelly false and fatal principle of life. And I hold so far with the emancipated, that, while granting the perfection of marriage to be love, and the perfection of womanly love to include the tenderest submission, the most passionate self-surrender, the intensest amount of faith, and the most reverential homage, yet, as the reality is just as often a jarring discord as it is this perfect unison, with sometimes the 5 I E 2 EMANCIPATED WOMEN. harsher clash of enmity and tyranny in place of the loving accord-the woman, as the weaker, ought to be protected from the possible ill-treatment of her lord, and be in some sense free, though bound. The danger of "lowering the ideal" does not seem to me so great as would be the good of boldly acknowledging the truth, and candidly abolishing lies and pretences. And until we can get all our husbands to be ideal men, and all our wives to be ideal women, and can provide that all marriages shall be made on true prin- ciples and none on the false ones of ambition, passion, convenience-what not-it would be far better to allow for flaws and cracks, and to fashion the cement where- with to stop them, than to go on legislating for per- fection only, and making no provision for frailty. If the emancipated women disdain marriage, much more do they contemn maternity. And yet what other natural end and meaning of a woman's life is there? Of course there is anxiety attending it, and pain and terror and sometimes death; and the early years of a child's life are always heavily laden to the mother with trouble, both physical and mental. But the reward! What woman that is a woman, mother or not, has not felt her heart throb at the touch of a child's little hands upon her face? has not felt her own soul at rest, and 52 EMANCIPATED WOMEN. her whole nature satisfied, when she holds a loved child in her arms? What mother, that is a true woman, when she enters her nursery, and the little ones come crowd- ing to her with outstretched arms, happy if they can but cling to her dress-happiest of all angels out of heaven if they can clamber to her knee, and up to that pinnacle of bliss, her lips-does not feel that she is entering her heaven? and that so long as these be- loved ones are safe and well, fortune has no whips that can cut below the surface, and sorrow is deprived of half its sting? Call it if you will an animal instinct, you poor emancipated women ignorant of life's dearest joys-sneer at the likeness of a nursing mother to any other mammalian female with her young by her side- extol the value of intellectual endeavour, and uphold thought at the cost of emotion-be in yourselves quite worthy examples of intellectual culture, so that how much soever men may disagree with you, no one can despise you-but nature speaks with a clearer and far stronger voice than do you with all your theories and the woman of perfect physical organization and healthy mind will still worship with loving faith the man to whom she has given her love and herself, and will still yearn for his child, and hers, to lie on her heart and call her mother. For to be the mother of 53 EMANCIPATED WOMEN. his child is the one most ardent desire of every woman who loves. Say then, that animal instinct is the basis of this divine passion, this unconquerable desire, I, for one, accept the animality as a motive cause, and am not ashamed to own to it. We do not yet know the whole of the God-likeness lying in nature, and the very fact that the animal instinct is both general and necessary is a sufficient answer to those who sneer at it as vile. If human nature is made up of sense, mind, and spirit, I do not see why we should be ashamed of that one upon which the others rest; and if the nursing mother is like any other mammalian female with her young by her side, surely animal maternity is as much the fore- shadowing of the human, as the human is the echo of the animal. Can we not level up as well as down? Can we not see beauty and divinity in the animal in- stincts, as well as in the mere thoughts of men? In their wild tilt against instinctive affections, the emancipated women are only repeating Dame Par- tington's mistake-trying to sweep out the Atlantic with a broom. They will succeed no better than did that typical old obstructive. Try as long as they may, they will not be able to affix the stigma of the "lower creature" on the woman who prefers bearing children 54 EMANCIPATED WOMEN. to writing poetry or lecturing on self-culture, and who thinks that being a loving wife to a manly husband is a better thing than the intellectual progress possible in the lonely grandeur of celibacy. Neither will they succeed in their crusade in the ordained division of office, with the practical result of getting possession of certain of the places occupied by men. They will get some perhaps, because some of the lighter work now appropriated by men ought to be done by women instead, and ought generally wins the day in the end; but they will not get all for which their most ardent partisans (in America chiefly) think them quite capable. For instance men would not submit to live under the laws made by women; nor yet would they prefer them as the judges of their causes, or as the pleaders of the same. They will not choose lady-professors for their sons; nor lady-theolo- gians for the guidance of their own souls; female warriors, such as we lately read of in South America, and such as the King of Dahomey employs, would never suit the temper of the men who fought at Bala- clava, and those who raised for their supreme cry in India, "Remember Cawnpore !" Lady-doctors are modern resuscitations of an old condition, of admirable use and purpose, if wisely directed; but they must be 55 EMANCIPATED WOMEN. content to confine themselves to the care of women and children only-lady-doctors for men being needless and unseemly. But all these questions settle them- selves by the great law of the Best; and even in medical practice, if the Best there was unquestionably a woman, there would be no reason why men should not profit by her brains, as now women profit by the brains of men. Still, we are speaking only of averages; and taking this ground, what has been said holds good. Supremacy, of course, unsexes per se; and in both art and science it is not so much who has done certain work, but the work itself and how it is done, that challenges our admiration or respect. If then, it can be proved that women will make as good ad- vocates or better than men; as good judges or better than men; and so on of other professions at present followed exclusively by men; they will be as highly salaried as men, and as much honoured. But the difficulty lies just in that very proof; for until it is established no one will try them, and it cannot be established until they are tried. The other class of emancipated women-those who have delivered themselves from the thraldom of mo- rality as generally practised by the world at large, is one to be very carefully handled. It is not a 56 EMANCIPATED WOMEN. pleasant thing to write of, but it exists; and this also more rampantly in America than here. These are simply women whose instinctive life, instead of being withered and cut off, is excessive and abnormal. They abjure matrimony because they love men-not the one man—and are not willing to be confined to only one. They are unbought hetaira, who give instead of selling, and they stand on the same plane relatively to men and morals. Not on the same plane relatively to society, because many of them are crypto-hetaire, and keep the fact of their discursiveness a profound secret, save to those others concerned. But some come boldly forward, and in the face of day advocate Free Love as the saving health of nations, the best ideal of nature, and denounce the monogamism of our western life as debasing, unnatural, and immoral. Like rakish men they wander from one lover to another, but they never know the meaning of love; and in their craze after freedom give themselves up to the worst slavery of all-the slavery of their own desires. Let the pas- sionless philosopher argue that there are polygamous instincts and polyandrous instincts in mankind, all the same as in plants and animals, but both he and the emancipated women must recognise that other instinct -the abhorrence which good women and noble men 57 EMANCIPATED WOMEN. have against polyandria, and which has made society, in all ages and everywhere, brand it as a shameful sin. So let her bear the shame in her own soul, if of the cryptic kind and a hetaira by secret affiliation, not by open confession; but if she boldly proclaims her prin- ciples by public deeds as well as by public avowal, then must she expect that the best of her own sex and of her lover's, will despise her as something lower than her ordination, and more ignoble than what nature destined her to be-as something by whose example frail souls are led astray and given over to unutterable perdition. For strong-minded folks, who assume to rule the rougher elements, emancipated women are but weak sisters in their inability to tolerate the weaknesses of others. Really powerful men, powerful in mind and body both, who would march up to a cannon's mouth without a muscle quivering, may be seen tenderly mindful of some pigmy vixen of a woman who flouts them as if they were her slaves, but whose petulance these giants accept with undisturbed serenity. Now, emancipated women are not strong enough for this kind of thing. They shriek hysterically that men are selfish and vile, or small and weak in spite of all their big bluster; and yet they themselves are no better. 58 EMANCIPATED WOMEN. For if strength is good for anything at all, it is as good for the bearing of one burden as of another; and pa- tience with our brothers' infirmities is only a form of power, and the one naturally looked for from women. And after all, are men as bad as the emancipated of the inimical class make out? Grant that they are selfish, how would the world go on without that great pushing, driving, masterful instinct of theirs? and if it does lead them at times to oppress the weaker— women included-is not this shouldering out of de- bility by strength one of the natural results of the struggle for existence, and the instinctive selection by which the world and nations are governed? If they were not selfish, humanity would not be what it is, and civilization would not have advanced as yet be- yond a contented herding with wild beasts. And surely, though some men are gross and sensual on the one hand, beyond all possibility of respect, and others are just as mean and effeminate, yet on the whole the MAN is the most god-like thing we know! If the angels are feminine, the archangels are masculine; for the matter of that, so are the demons; but the arch- angel conquered the prince of the fallen, and the alle- gory holds good with mankind in the mass. And then, beautiful as are all the softer virtues of women, 59 EMANCIPATED WOMEN. the nobleness of a man-when noble-is so ineffably grand; his patience, his justice, his largeness, his courage are all so God-like when they exist at all! Ah, my dear sisters, you of the emancipated who imitate while you profess to hate, and envy what you say you despise, imitate your great enemy in his true strength, and then perhaps you will see better where your own weaknesses lie, and be able to under- take your natural duties with higher courage, a nobler patience, and a wider understanding! "Woman is not undeveloped man," but a being perfect in herself; most perfect when most womanly; and the best form of womanliness includes love, both wifely and maternal. The only true life is got by experience, and women who are neither wives nor mothers know only half the truth, and assuredly only half the joy of existence. бо OUR SMALL SINS. ROM the days of Solomon downwards, and in all countries where proverbs crystallize the various affluents of experience, we women have been especially credited with all the smaller vices incidental to humanity at large. We escape the abyss of the darker crimes, which are reserved for men—save in- deed, as the teterrimæ causæ of all evil,-only to fall upon the mud-heaps of the meaner sins; and perhaps the accusation is not entirely unreasonable. Let us begin with one of the most notorious of our small sins -our love of gossip, accompanied by that inveterate habit of chattering about ourselves and our affairs, which seems to be a feminine characteristic every- where and at all times—and surely we must confess that this is one of our instinctive faults, not in any degree equally shared by men. Even when we find it 61 OUR SMALL SINS. in men, do we not brand it as our own translated, by calling it "womanish ?"—and are not all the worn-out old fellows who congregate round the club-windows to discuss the passing scandals of the hour "old women" by the discourtesy of common parlance? Though, of course, there are some miserable little fellows who far outstrip the worst of ourselves, and do more in the way of fuss and chatter than the fussiest and most fluid woman to be found in the kingdom, yet no really manly man likes gossip or gives in to the habit of chatter. The petty details of the home, the small events and minute annoyances which are so gigantic to women, are so many nothings to him; and it is dis- tasteful to him to hear of them as things demanding much attention or worthy of any very profound emo- tion. He bears them in the same way as that in which the old Norse giant bore the blows of Thor's hammer," I thought the leaves were falling on my face last night, and that the birds were throwing moss over me ;" and shakes himself clear of them as Gulliver shook himself clear of the Lilliputian cordage. To hear them magnified into heavy grievances, strong enough to weigh down the happiness of life, is a mis- direction of force, a waste of power, that he cannot away with; and is as unpleasant to him as it would 62 OUR SMALL SINS. be to a large-minded woman were she forced to live in the squabbles of children, and bound to gravely adju- dicate between the rival claims of Rose the black-eyed doll, or Laura the fair-wigged one. But women take an almost artistic pleasure ín gossip; which indeed, with personal chatter, is the sole form of conversation generally found possible with the ordinary British female. Like the elephant's trunk which can pick up a pin or crush a man's bones to pulp, nothing is too small for the British female to discuss, and nothing too large for her to decide; be- cause she makes every subject which affects herself of supreme importance, how trivial soever it may be intrinsically, while she narrows down the broadest questions to the pitiful level of her own personal con- venience. From "Mary maid's" new Sunday bonnet- trimming to the exact limitation of cook's lawful wages-involving the whole question of capital and labour-she is at all times ready for the most fractional details and the most authoritative decision. Not that she sees in the limitation of wages any connexion with that greater subject of capital and labour, but only as it bears on her own private means, and the conve- nience or inconvenience to which she may be put according to her balance at the banker's. If you were 63 OUR SMALL SINS. to tell her that she was pronouncing on a branch of political economy which had puzzled, and was still puzzling, the wisest heads to set straight, she would express her opinion that nothing was more easy to arrange; and that if men were as clever as they pre- tended to be, they ought long ago to have settled such an easy and self-evident question. She would also be sure to settle it against poor Mary and cook; and with her own allowance double that of her mother's, contend that servants are a great deal too well off as it is, and what do they want with so much money? For one of the small sins of women is stingi- ness, and a disinclination to pay well for work of any kind; but I am coming to this in its own time. The kitchen is always one of the most fertile hunt- ing-grounds for the chatter and gossip of women; and so far from servants being "the greatest plagues in life," half the women in England would be "blue- moulded" for want of them as the pièces de résistance in the centre of their frothy talk. The shortcomings of their domestics are their darling grievance; and what would the world be without feminine grievances ! A legend says there was once silence in heaven for an hour; there would be silence then in English drawing- rooms for many hours! Their maids are "shop" with 64 OUR SMALL SINS. women, and they talk "shop" as men never do. No officer chatters about his men, no merchant of his clerks, as women chatter about their servants; and no ordinary master-always excepting the miserable little fellows before-mentioned, who are just so many fussy, bearded women-would dream of giving the same attention to the sayings and doings of his domestics as even strong-minded women give to theirs. Fancy a man peeping and prying behind the blinds to see whether John ogled the pretty milkwoman, or squeezed the hand of the comely laundress! Yet how many women are there not who can tell you how Jane stands and talks to that bold butcher-boy; and how Anne blushed when she saw the baker's man at the area-gate yesterday; and how that artful little hussy, Sarah, always puts on her most becoming cap when gentlemen are dining at the house; and, "Did you see the way in which she looked at Mr. Blank when she handed him the bread? You did not? Ah! you are not as well acquainted with Miss Sarah's ways as I am! You should live with her, and then, perhaps, you would understand her artfulness!" In fact, there is a certain jealousy, a certain mute rivalry between mistress and maid, which is sometimes the reason why the former takes such an excessive 65 F OUR SMALL SINS. interest—not of the most friendly kind-in the looks and the ways of the latter. Both are women, and not unfrequently the maid is the prettier woman of the two, and though the mistress could neither individua- lize, nor would even to herself confess her jealousy, there it is all the same, as the motive force setting many things in action. Of course women will deny this passionately; but it is true, nevertheless. Are there not many house-mistresses who refuse to engage pretty servants, because of the attention they would excite and the admiration they would attract? They may give a fine-sounding name to this refusal: if they spoke the truth candidly, it would be jealousy. A small sin very common among women is their in- tense craving for excitement, in the two forms of un- wholesome reading and sensational gossip. Listen to a knot of women scandalizing their neighbours, and hear how eagerly they catch up any detail which rounds off the chronicle and makes it more harmonious as a set story. Not that they wish any harm to Miss A. or Mr. B., but they like the excitement of the passing drama--they shiver with pleasant horror at the dark sin just indicated-they hope it may not be so, and yet the story would be so much more complete, so in- finitely more thrilling! What an experience too, for 66 OUR SMALL SINS. themselves to find out that the fascinating foreigner admitted to their homes and hearths, just like one of themselves, was the leader of a gang of swindlers, forgers-perhaps murderers-and himself a villain of the deepest dye, though a gentleman of the nicest manners. To think that those white, virtuous hands. of theirs had clasped in friendship the hand of a pro- fessed cut-throat-of an escaped convict, with whom the aureole of high life contends with the shadow of the Brest bullet! Horrible yet how exciting! making them feel quite improper themselves, on the principle of the pot and the rose-inverted. Any- thing so dramatic as this though, rarely happens; and when it does it serves for a lifetime. But the impru- dences of Miss A., and the gambling debts of Mr. B., and how the C.'s half-starve their servants, and what quarrels convulse the domestic atmosphere of the D.'s —all these are daily food for the dramatic instinct to live on and are made the most of. Side by side with this sin of sensationalism in daily life is that of sensationalism in literature, and the ex- treme aversion which most women feel for "dull read- ing," as they call anything grave or solid. What do they first claim at Mudie's and the sea-side libraries— history or fiction? Kinglake or Miss Braddon ? 67 F 2 OUR SMALL SINS. Carlyle's noblest work or Guy Livingstone's latest ro- mance? What do they read in newspapers ?-the lead- ing articles?—the letters from great names on grave subjects ?—the parliamentary debates? or the murders, the police-reports, the little bits of news and gossip, that awful column of facetiæ, table-talk, odds and ends by what name soever the editor chooses to designate his sweepings from Joe Miller and the back numbers of Punch? These are the woman's bits in a newspaper, with occasional interludes of foreign correspondence if after the manner of the famous Daily Telegraph, which surely must be written for ladies only! This dread of dulness is one of the most foolish things about women, and one of the causes, inter alia, why their conversation is so often not worthy listening to. They gossip because they cannot con- verse. They do not cultivate that art of pleasant, easy, sprightly conversation, which comes in as part of the education of a Frenchwoman, and which is as necessary for her social success as the art of dress or the science of appearances. Those few women among us who can talk easily and brightly on the current topics of the day, are always sought in society, and never in want of partners for a conversation. They may be old and ugly; but men with brains will leave 68 OUR SMALL SINS. the prettiest girl in the room, if a fool, for them, and neither wrinkles nor harsh lines will repel them, if the wit is keen and the sense is clear. But women in general think that their only social value lies in their outside prettiness, and the amount of personal admi- ration they can excite; and so they neglect the beauty which lasts for that which fades, and when they are no longer charming as possible lovers have nothing to fall back upon as pleasant companions. One quite understands the important force of the instinct which makes a young woman prize her person more than her mind, and which makes young men gravitate towards beauty rather than towards character. Human nature, like all other parts of creation, has its unreasoning impulses that work to good ends: and this is one of them. But as there is something more than mere instinct in humanity, so ought there to be a further outlook and a higher aim than the mere perishable prettiness of the hour. It is a favourite excuse for the faults of women, to say that their intellect is narrow because their life-sphere is circumscribed; and that if they might do more, they would have more wherewith to do. Yet it is in their own hands to broaden their natural lines without travelling beyond their appointed 69 OUR SMALL SINS. 66 boundaries; they could, if they chose, exercise intellect and education in things which are now suffered to drift like so much sea-wrack without roots, and so make their lives more generous and of nobler intention. Home and maternity are woman's natural offices and vocation. This, I think, not the boldest of the 'strong-minded" will deny. And as things go, nothing could be more uninteresting or more narrow. But whose fault is that? Whose fault is it that the "cold mutton" of the home has passed into a proverb, and that men have a not quite unreasonable gibe for every domestic circumstance? What exquisite beauty and improvement, through the aid of science, might not an intelligent woman incorporate into the manage- ment of her house and children! Is there nothing to be learned about the chemistry of food?—and must English cookery always be a simple application of heat to raw flesh, with sometimes a rude dash of salt or sauce as the highest extent to which middle-class in- tellect and ingenuity can attain? Must we always stay where we are, just a step in advance of the savage who tumbles his freshly killed game among the ashes of his wood fire, and drags it out while still half raw that he may taste the blood left in it? Is there nothing in this direction to interest the brains and worthily em- 70 OUR SMALL SINS. ploy the time of women? We know that the quality and preparation of food are half the battle with the young, and more than half the battle with all brain- workers; and that we have the same capacity as that which bees and ants possess, inasmuch as we can feed our pupa into pretty much what we choose them to be-stunted, emaciated, scrofulous, half vitalized, or comely, well-developed, healthy, and finely-formed. Granting that the present mode of housekeeping is a wretched thing altogether, and that to give much time to it as at present conducted would be as wretched a waste of power, still the fault lies with women in that they do not bring their intelligence into the service of their duties, and so raise the whole platform, and make object, life, and intellect all harmoniously great. Women may say-" What! learn the chemistry of food simply that my husband may have a good dinner when he comes home? Degrade myself to the condition of a servant, and give time and thought for such a result? No! let him eat cold mutton, as I do; if he cannot eat it, he ought to be ashamed of himself, and to go without." + Spoken or concealed, this would be the argument that would naturally occur to most women; for indeed we are an unreasoning set of creatures, and as in- 71 OUR SMALL SINS. capable of a far-seeing judgment, where our own pleasure is concerned, as a blind man, attracted by the scent of the roses growing on it, is incapable of seeing the wall he is just going to run his head against. We never reflect on the ultimates of things. A medical man has to study botany, chemistry, comparative anatomy, as well as the more immediate subjects of his profession, for the result, among others, of clipping out a little girl's milk-teeth or poulticing a maid-ser- vant's whitlow. But the greater results of the valuable lives he can save, and the human suffering he can alleviate-do they count for nothing? Does he flinch from his studies, and grudge his care and attention because the milk-teeth and the whitlow come in as part of the final cause? and does he ignore that great, grand end which lies beyond the petty details of his prac- tice? To save life and alleviate human suffering, were quite sufficient moral motives for those long years of study and labour; and might not motives as great influence women? If the physician is healing, is not the cook health? We cannot free ourselves conditions, and the food. from the tether of material tether is one of the stoutest. And if women would take up the subject and really study it in all its branches, as one of the positive sciences, they would. 72 OUR SMALL SINS. not only help forward the improvement of the race— which perhaps would be no very great incentive to some of the lighter sort-but they would also gain knowledge and find interest. A perfect knowledge of the chemistry of food and the science of cooking seems to me to open up an almost illimitable field for the energies and education of women; and if the prepara- tion seems great for the result, and the best mode of broiling a mutton-chop too mean an object for varied and extensive study, we must remember that the best mode of broiling a mutton-chop is part of the means. by which the best kind of race is made, and that food is potential humanity. And I do not think that any woman could find that too mean an object for the exercise of her faculties. Again, with children-where is the woman who sincerely studies the best mode of education? who brings to the task of forming the characters of the young, any sound philosophy, any accurate observa- tion? The mother who thinks of her responsibilities. as they are in spiritual truth, ought to understand all about the constitution of children—their tempers, moral and intellectual capacities, symptoms of disease, and their moral and physical dangers and temptations -which opens a rather wider field than most women 73 OUR SMALL SINS. have wit enough to plough. She ought to know how best to feed them, how best to clothe them, how to conduct and manage them so that the good in them may be brought out and the bad repressed; but as a rule she knows nothing of it all, and for the most part leaves her children to the care of servants, to be ill-treated or spoiled according to the humour of the women and the state of their digestive organs. Many a broken constitution and shattered nervous system date from the early days of mamma's neglect and nurse's talk; but this is not one of the small sins of women. It is one of their largest, and deepest, and most shameful!-a sin indeed that I cannot under- stand. For if motherhood does not include the com- panionship of the children, if it does not mean the training, by love, of their young minds, and the ren- dering their lives happy by judicious care, what can it mean? and where is its pleasure, its value, its significance? To be a mere human rabbit is not to be a mother. All these things women have it in their power to do if they honestly wish to enrich their lives. But they do not honestly wish this. They are like children themselves, impatient of their own assigned work while grasping at that which their elders are doing. They 74 OUR SMALL SINS. neglect their own part of life, or hand it over to bad delegates, while they are swarming about the men's offices, and attempting to enter into competition with them without one qualification for the struggle. And what but a sin can we call the fruitless endeavour which includes discontent with ordained duties? It is not only misdirection of power; rather is it that frank selfishness of the Frenchman "Ôte-toi, que je m'y mets,” which does not mean the race to the swift, or the battle to the strong, but simple spoliation of another's gains and reaping where we have not sown. For my own part I think there should be free trade in work, and that the best hand should be chosen irrespective of sex; in that case women would prepare them- selves for high-class work better than they are prepared now, and come into the arena armed to win, not only supplicating to be favoured. Our present excuse is, our want of teaching; but that very phrase is a con- fession of inferiority which I cannot accept. Who taught men? Did they not build up the various processes of thought for themselves? and yet here are women, who can read and study at their own will, whimpering about their wrongs in not being taught ! Let them teach themselves. If we had any real stuff in us, and were not merely so much wax in the hands 75 OUR SMALL SINS. of others, we would do this for ourselves, and ask no help in that which we are able to do alone, nor leave to follow on a course whence we are not barred. The fuss we make about certain of our wrongs, which we ourselves can remedy, is one of the most humiliating things about us. If we are in mental chains-which we are—why do we not break them? Is it likely that our jailers will do this for us? If we really resolved on setting ourselves free from the trammels of igno- rance, to deliver up ourselves into the glorious liberty of knowledge and reason, we have the power to do so, and only our own supineness keeps us bound. A small sin, with sometimes large results, is the fatal habit so common among us women, of letting out our own personal secrets and family histories. We do not betray the secrets entrusted to us where we think we may do harm, save indeed for some fierce revenge, when we would slay the life had we the courage. Failing which, we only slaughter repute. But we tell our own secrets, we chatter about our family and our friends, and in the most artless way possible put our- selves into the power of one after another of our intimates, and trust implicitly to the reserve in others. of which we have confessed ourselves destitute. There are very few women who are really reticent. 76 OUR SMALL SINS. Even silent women can be brought at last to the confidential point; while with impulsive women, the well-planted artillery of a dinner-hour will be sufficient to blow every atom of their defence-work to pieces: and a man who cares to know the arcana of his com- panion may, if she is of this kind, get from her the whole of her life-history between the soup and the grapes. I have known this done. We give ourselves up to the impulse of the moment; and how much soever we may afterwards regret our foolish unreserve, at the time we are powerless to prevent it. This inability to calculate consequences is one of the basic differences of sex-at least so it seems to me; and it goes through the whole of the feminine nature. No true woman-woman, and nothing more—would make a good strategist; but many, if they had the physical strength, would be first-rate at brilliant dashes, guerilla surprises, and isolated ambushes. The same defect comes out in the want of close reasoning power, characteristic of us as a race. I do not think that want is due simply to the difference of education between us and men; and that if we were taught the formula of logic we should therefore learn to reason, and leave off jumping to conclusions according to the way we have now. And furthermore, I think it would be a bad 77 OUR SMALL SINS. day for men if we did learn to reason. The great hold they have on us now is by the supremacy of our instincts and what we are pleased to call our "intuitive perceptions" over our reasoning faculties; and if ever we cast aside the superstitious and impulsive parts of us, we shall then give the "woman, spaniel, and walnut-tree" theory its final death-blow; and men will have to meet us on different terms from those of the present order of things. One of our small sins is our small jealousy of each other. It is wrong to say that women cannot be friends together; we can-true, firm, enduring friends; but I doubt if any woman's friendship ever existed free from jealousy. If we are not jealous about men we are about other women, and guard our rights against division with the vigilance of a house-dog guarding his domain. No man can understand the unresting petti- ness of jealousy that exists between woman-friends : no man knows it for his own part, and no man would submit to it from his friend. But we accept it patiently, knowing where the shoe pinches from the shape of our own feet. As wives and lovers we are perhaps the most exclusive and the most jealous women in the world. There is scarcely a wife in England who would allow her husband to admire any other woman, to 78 OUR SMALL SINS. make of any other a friend, or to show frank pleasure in her society. There would be pouting or tears or tantrums according to individual disposition, and the whole harmony of the household would be swept by the board; the practical upshot of which is that men make friends outside their homes, unknown to their respective Junos; and that very often the simple fact of secresy changes the complexion of the whole affair, and makes what would have been only a friendship if it could have been frankly acknowledged, an intrigue instead. Girls too are awfully jealous of each other: I should call this the girl's distinctive fault. See them when they are introduced, or when they first meet at a ball or croquet-party; see how coldly critical they look at each other—how insolently their eyes rove over every portion of their rival's dress; read in their faces the unspoken scorn as the result of their scrutiny: "You think you have done it very well, but you have made a fright of yourself, and I am much better than you !" Watch their disdain of the more admired among them; and how excessively naughty for attracting so much. attention they think that Ada or Amy about whom the young men cluster. How bold she is!-how over- dressed she is!-how affected she is !—and, oh! how 79 OUR SMALL SINS: ugly she is! Sometimes, if they are deep, they will overpraise her enthusiastically; but the ruse is gene- Fally too transparent to deceive any one, and simply counts for what it is-a clever feint that doesn't answer. It is quite a study to watch the way in which girls shake hands together, or take hands in dances. The limp, cool, impertinent way in which they just touch. palms, then let their arms fall as if paralysed, tells a volume to those able to read the lettering. In dancing they very frequently do not take hands at all, but just brush the tips of the fingers, or make a show of doing so, and so pass on in the "chain," to press perhaps more than cordially the next male hand that grasps theirs. It may be all very right, and quite according to the dispensations of Providence, but it is funny to watch nevertheless. Only women of a certain age are really friends together. School-girls are lovers-gushing, sentimental, expansive lovers unconsciously rehearsing for the real drama to come by-and-by; and young ladies, when "out," are rivals, undergoing deadly pangs because of bigger chignons and shorter petticoats, and yet more audacious tournures and a larger following of admirers; but after these turbid waters have run themselves clear, then they can become friends; and often some of the 80 OUR SMALL SINS. sweetest experiences of a woman's life are those she has had from the love, the confidence, the faithful sisterhood of some dear "second self," whom no fear disturbs, and from whom no petty jealousy can. sever her. Another small sin of ours is our desire of attracting attention. There are many women who would rather be infamous than obscure, and who prefer the tra- ditional thrashing of the Russian to immunity and neglect. They will do anything to attract notice, and think the "wallflower" position worse than the pillory. There is nothing of a noble ambition in this; quite the contrary; it is the mere restlessness of small egotism -the mere fever of vanity-the same feeling which, in another form, makes certain of us refuse to grow old, and have recourse to any expedient, no matter what, rather than confess to grey hairs and wrinkles. Neglect is worse than death to most of us; and notoriety is our version of Fame, as admiration is the sum of our ambition. Even Madame de Staël would have exchanged her brains for Madame de Récamier's beauty; and poll the world of woman honestly, not one in a thousand would dissent from her choice. Another of our small sins is, I am sorry to say—one that I alluded to before-stinginess. It seems to me 81 G OUR SMALL SINS. that the race of large-hearted, open-handed women is almost dying out-I cannot say has died out, for, thank God! I know one or two beautiful examples still left to us, where generosity is not extravagance, nor economy meanness. But granting exceptions as we all know them, the small, stingy ways of women in general are very painful, very rasping. They seem to have increased in exact ratio with the personal extra- vagance of the time; as indeed is very easy to under- stand. For money is a fixed quantity horribly in- elastic; consequently, the more we spend on one thing the less we have for another; the more liberal. we are to ourselves the closer we must be to our neighbours; and lavishness on the right hand must needs include tight purse-strings on the left. I by no means find fault with the household economies of women-taking these to be the power of "making-up" with such and such odds and ends, and the little self- denials of going without" such and such pleasant. superfluities-but with the habit of beating down, the higgling about pence with the poorest sellers, the grudging payment of the wages due for labour, and the almost universal desire among us to deprive the retail tradesman of his rightful profits. There is scarcely a woman who does not think that she ought (( 82 OUR SMALL SINS. to buy her goods at trade price, and who does not regard the percentage of the middle-man as so much swindled out of her own pocket. She calculates to a fraction the worth of the lace and ribbon on her bonnet, but she does not take into account the expenses of her milliner's establishment, and her need of earning now in the bright days of her power enough whereby to live when the dark hours come, and she is no longer able to bake her bread by her daily labour. This grudging however, is only in the case of the "little milliner," confining to the article of dress what might be applied to every tradesman dealt with. Given a name like that of Madame Elise, and the cost is not calculated. Here that mysterious thing called style, or name, floats the percentage, and takes it out of the category of peculation. That makes it distinction; which is another matter altogether, and a thing that must be paid for. Wherefore we all pay, willingly, for the name and favour of our respective Mesdames Elises, but growl and dissect unflinchingly when the "little milliner" sends in her humble account. We went wild a short time ago about the co-operative stores, but I never heard that we did much good with them, or that we got our goods for less than their market value. We will go miles in search of bargains,, 83 G 2 OUR SMALL SINS. and spend the difference twice over in cab-hire, under the impression of saving hugely; and one of the most. persistent applications of our "tables" is the exact number of pence due to cabby, with the stern resolu- tion to die at the stake rather than give that extra six- pence outside the legal fare. us Many other little sins are there in full force among ; sins which weaken our influence and destroy our power-sins which hurt our own selves more than they hurt our neighbours, and which eat into our nobleness more than many others of larger dramatic scope and more deadly social effect. And among them is one very patent to certain bold speakers-our impatience at rebuke, and the kind of Dalai Lama sanctity which we assume for ourselves. We must be worshipped as the supreme of creation. Burns' pretty little bit of "prentice hand" and the gallant nonsense about the masterpiece must be taken as gospel truth; we must be flattered and coaxed and adored; taken care of and given our own way at the same time; allowed to compete with men on their own standing, yet treated with the chivalrous respect due to the protected and fought for. We must have no hard work laid upon us, because we are feeble and delicate, but we must have the same salaries as those apportioned to the hardest 84 OUR SMALL SINS. workers among men : else we cry out at the injustices of men, and talk rubbish about the prejudice attached to women's work; we may neglect our own duties and blaspheme them, and yet be suffered to snatch the offices of men; we must not have a hard word said of us, but we may everywhere argue on the brutality of men, on their selfishness, their hardness, their dis- honour, and their cruelty. And all this we call the rights of women, and flounce and flout when cast in our one-sided suit. These are bitter truths to say of ourselves. But it is the truth which makes the bitter- ness. 85 MISTRESSES AND MAIDS. GREED on all hands that servants are the greatest plagues in life-that they are idle, thriftless, untrustworthy, and without more conscience than so many black-beetles or red-ants; that they break and ruin more than they are worth, and in all ways within their range damage one's estate and vex one's soul; agreed that every conceivable screw is shaky in the whole fabric of domestic service, and that we are all at loose ends everywhere-and yet there is something to be said on the other side. For all these years the man has painted the lion, and mis- tresses have groaned over the misdemeanours of their maids. Suppose we let the lion paint the man in- stead; suppose we shift our point of view, and look at domestic service through the kitchen grating and not from the drawing-room window, judging of the life as it affects the maid not the mistress. 86 MISTRESSES AND MAIDS. Let us remember that the maid has no representa- tive in the councils of the drawing-room. Like the working man in Parliament, she has no accredited delegate, and only at the best a weak kind of fancy advocate. She has no medium for the declaration of her wrongs; no voice, no vote, no power of class combination save in the isolated kitchen to which she and maybe another belong. Pressed by hard want to take service in a family which can never be hers, to give her life and her life's worth for joys she cannot share, for sorrows that do not touch her sympathies, for pleasures she must only look at from a distance, she is assumed to be just so much human energy bought and paid for; and her rights, outside the pri- mary rights of food and drink, clothing and sleeping, are considered about as obligatory as the rights of the pots she scrubs or the plate she polishes. Rights? a servant with rights other than those which the grace of the mistress allows? rights by nature? rights by con-