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It will be seen that the ideal of Plato, caused by his sexual inversion, ultimately became the Christian ideal; and with the addition of the frenzy of fanaticism, an unanticipated result was achieved in the mad hatred and degra- dation of woman and marriage. The next most potent influence was a reac- tionary one, and came from the chivalric love-intoxication of medieval knighthood. The third change of ideal was produced by our industrial reorganization, which transferred most of the household occu- pations to the factory. Next we come to our present transitional state, wherein economic pressure furnishes the dyna- mics, and it is believed will compel the acceptance of an economically independ- ent wifehood as the future ideal. To amplify these suggestions, and more specifically to point out these causes and trace their operation and consequences is the mission of this essay. Demosthenes, in his oration against Neara, described the sexual life of the Athenians in these words: “We marry a woman in order to obtain legitimate children, and to have a faithful warder in the house; we keep concubines for our service and daily care; and hetairae for the enjoyment of love.” The hetairae (or kept women) were the only women of Greece who enjoyed at * Babel's Woman under Socialism, p. 35. the same time, “freedom, education, accomplishments and contempt.” They were the constant companions and often the instructors of the great men of their time, and models for the great artists. Their lives are better known to us than those of the matrons.i. Among the wives there was a well- recognized distinction between the eco- nomically dependent and the independ- ent ones. The former were hardly more than head slaves of the Grecian house- holds, with little or no freedom, and were looked upon as but the master's concubines, and as such, were commonly bought and sold. These conditions did not attend their higher types of marriage. The most sought and most envied posi- tion for the Greek woman of that time was an economically independent wife- hood. Writing upon this subject, the Rev. John Potter, late Archbishop of Canter- bury, has this to say: “So common be- came the custom for women to bring portions to their husbands, that some made the most essential difference be- tween ‘wife’ and concubine to consist in this, that wives had dowries, whereas concubines were usually without. Hence, men who were content to marry wives who had no fortune, commonly gave them an instrument in writing acknowl- edging the receipt of their dowry. The rest of their distinction was chiefly found- ed on this, that she who had a dowry thought it a just title to greater freedom with her husband, and to more respect from him, than such as owed their main- tenance to him. . . . In consideration of her dowry, she had the privilege, when her husband was impotent, of consorting f Lecky's History of European Morale, Vol. II, . 293; Potter's Grecian Antiquities; also Sanger's istory 3. Prostitution, 54-62; Celebrated Courte- zans, by Jean Richepin. 2 The Evolution of Marriage Ideals. with his nearest kinsman,” and under special circumstances, even with others.f Our Bishop also informs us, that among such, divorces were easy and were usu- ally, but not always, granted on the same terms to men as to women. When a woman was divorced, the husband must return her dowry. Polygamy was pro- hibited, but within the monogamic family stirpiculture was practiced with the con- sent of the married couple and encour- aged by public opinion. Adultery (which of course did not include these permitted relations) was most cruelly punished. The result of so natural a marital code, in which the right of the offspring to be well-born was esteemed of more conse- quence than a husband's vanity-tickling sex-monopoly, made the glory of Greece to consist in the physical and intellectual superiority of its people. When a woman of another country said to Gorgo, the wife of Leonadas: “You of Lacedaemon are the only women in the world who rule men,” she answered: “We are the only women that bring forth men.”$ With such women, motherhood was a right, not a duty. The same substantial equality of the sexes found expression in their religion. In the old Greek and Roman Pantheons, the goddess was quite as conspicuous as her divine consort. In their temples, we find officiating priestesses as well as priests, and in their festivals, there was as much glorification of the feminine in nature as of the seemingly masculine qualities. “The Gospel according to the Hebrews,” which was in use as late as the second century of the Christian era, taught the equality of the feminine in the God-head and also that daughters should inherit with the sons.| During the Pagan Empire, Rome had *Potter's Grecian Antiquities, p. 616; see, also, Lecky's European Morals, Vol. II, p. 289; Wade's Woman Past and Present, p. 26. f Woman, Past and Present, p.26; Lecky's Euro- %. Morals, º II., p. 290; Potter's Grecian 8, p. 551. f Woman, Past and Present, p.26; Woman Under Socialism, p. 45; Potter's Grecian Antiquities, p.630. conditions, which, in their legal aspect, very much resembled those of Athens. Even then “One might see the Emperor's wives honored with the titles of August Mothers of their country. Some of them had place in the Senate, governed Rome and the Empire, gave audience to Em- bassadors, and disposed of posts of em- ployments. Others were consecrated priestesses, and even exalted to the rank of Goddesses.” This, then, brings us to our first, if not our chief problem. What were the forces, and whence came they, which destroyed these superior features of the marriage ideals of these Pagans, and in the Dark Ages reduced all Christian wives to the status of chattel-slaves? Going back to about 400 B.C. we find at the extreme of Greek ideals, two boldly contrasted and equally dangerous tendencies. On the one hand, were the excessive sensualities of the degenerating mysteries of Phallic worship; on the other, the equally salacious aceticism of the philosophers, among many of whom pederasty was a glorified vice. Among the victims of this sexual inversion, So- crates, Plato and Aristotle were conspic- uous,” and therefore, probably, for at least a portion of their lives, indifferent— if not impotent—to women. Thence came this doctrine of passionless love between persons of opposite sex, which is boastfully lauded even to this day, by persons too ignorant to know the patho- logical significance of Platonic love, but whose afflictions impel them to an osten- tatious “purity.” The Apostle Paul was born in the free city of Tarsus, whose population was largely Greek, though within the Roman Empire. “Recent historical investiga- tion teaches that Paul’s father was of si Potter's Grecian Antiquities, p. 645; see, also, pp. 1–632. Woman, Church and State, pp. 50, 38; see, also, A View of Ancient Laws Against Immorality, p. 9. TMolesworth's The Roman Empresses,Vol.I., p.2. *A Problem in Greek Ethics, by Symonds; see, also, Woman Under Socialism, p. 37; also, Sugges- tive Therapeutics in Psychopathia Sexualis, Chap. 8. The Evolution of Marriage Ideals. 3 Greek nationality, and his mother of Jewish.” The schools of Tarsus, at- tended by Paul, equaled those of Alex- andria, Athens and Rome, and here he undoubtedly studied the Greek philoso- phers.i. This education in the Greek classics was possibly supplemented by his instruction under Gamaliel.f Being afflicted with epilepsy, Ś quite necessarily St. Paul possessed a foundation of sexual hyperestheticism. He boasts that he is unmoved by the temptations of women.| This impotency is a stigma of perverted sex-instinct, whence comes also woman- hatred." Whatever the cause, Paul became pos- sessed by the perverted opinions of Plato, as has been shown by his very scant tol- erance of marriage. The only other apostle upon whom the ascetic ideal made any great impression was St. John, whom Jesus undoubtedly had in mind, when he spoke, with evident sympathy, of those “eunuchs who made themselves eunuchs for the Kingdom of Heaven's sake.” All the remaining apostles were married men.ff The teachings of St. Paul and St. John are the beginning of Christian asceticism, and through their popularity, Plato's “celestial love” and many of his mys- ticisms were adopted into Christianity. “Of the early influence of this [Platonic] philosophy upon Christianity, there ex- ists distinct evidence in the opening verses of St. John's Gospel, which are pure Platonism in language and thought; and it is not, perhaps, too much to refer all the disputes which divided and dis- turbed the infant church, to a contest between those, who in forming their re- ligious creed, adopted and those who *Haeckel's Riddle of The Universe, pp. 313, 328. f Plato and Paul, Chap. 17. #:}The § p. ; ames' Varieties o igious Experiences, p. 13. |Renan's The # . 166. p See, generally, #. º: Sea:- is, and on page, 417. Schrenck-Notzing, p. 132, º authors, among them, Moll. *Matthew, Chap. XIX., W. 12. ff Variations of # • P . 529. ff Woman and Her Master, Vol. II., p. 382. rejected more or less of the new philoso- phy.”ff In recognition of this men like Erasmus call Plato “a Christian before Christianity.”$$ The first effective organized impetus towards the Christian acceptance of the ascetic ideal came with the opening of the second century, through Montanus, whose following was impelled to ascet- icism by a desire to glorify the martyrdom of their prophet. He had suffered in- voluntary emasculation by irate husbands, who felt themselves injured by his un- excused trespasses within their families.|| Through the added sexual enthusiasms engendered by voluntary suppression, the frenzy of fanaticism grew apace. In A. D. 385, celibacy during life was made compulsory for the priests of the Western churches." About this time monachism as an institution and celibate orders of the church were first founded.* By a natural law, every increased success in sex-suppression resulted in more numer- ous and more vivid erotic hallucinations, in which women always appeared as the supposed instruments of Satan for the tempting of priestly virtue.fff Thusevolv- ed to their acute stages the mysogyny and erotóphobia of the Dark Ages, with their resultant witch-burning and like horrors. Under the influence of clerical suppres- sion of the natural, sexual perversions abounded, and the church became satu- rated with an ever-intensifying hatred of women. The Pauline doctrines, that husbands should rule over wives, and that “it is a shame for a woman to speak in the church”; that “it is good for a man not to touch a woman”; that “he that giveth her in marriage doeth well, % Revelation the Best Foundation of Morals, Wol. ., p. 107. | Lee's History of Montanism. | Hardy's Eastern Monachism, p. 49; º: Variations of Popery, p. 552; Day's Monastic Insti futi *Dibdin's Monasticism in England, p. 13 et seq. Lecky's History of European Morals. fff See Sinistrarie, Iucubi and Succubi, unexpur- gated lives of the Saints, as St. Jerome, or accounts of the “Witches’ Sabbath.” II 4. The Evolution of Marriage Ideals. but he that giveth her not in marriage, doeth better,” became then the dominant thought of Christianity. As this Christian erotophobia grew, womanhood suffered more and more of religious degradation. Tertullian de- nounced woman as “the gate of hell”; St. Bernard called her “the organ of the devil”; St. Anthony said: “The woman is the fountain of the arm of the devil, her voice is the hissing of the serpent”; St. Bonaventure denounced her as “a scorpion, ever ready to sting, . . . the lance of the demon”; St. Cyprian saw her as “the instrument of the devil”; St. Jerome as “the gate of devil, the road of iniquity, the sting of the scorpion”; St. John Damascene labeled her the “daugh- ter of falsehood, a sentinel of hell, the enemy of peace”; St. Gregory the Great adds: “Woman has the poison of an asp, the malice of a dragon”; St. Chrysostom announces that “through woman the devil has triumphed. . . . Of all wild beasts, the most dangerous is woman.” Many of the saints would not look upon a woman, nor allow one to look upon them, not even a sister or a mother. Women who presumed to enter churches with uncovered heads were denounced.i. On the celebration of the anniversary of Saint Simeon, women were wholly ex- cluded from the church, which was built around the pillar upon which he mortified the flesh. Because of their impurity, a provincial council, in the sixth century, forbade women to receive the eucharist into their naked hands.S. For like rea- son, they were not permitted to sing in church choirs, and eunuchs were put in their stead.] At the council of Macon (A. D. 585), * Requoted from Woman, Her Glory and Her Shame, p. 13; Babel's Woman Under Socialism, p. 51; also Variations of P , p. 539; Lecky's His- tory of Rationalism in Europe, pp. 98-100; Day's Monastic Institutions, p. 259 et seq; Gage's Woman, Church and State, chapter on “Celibacy.” t Fathers of the Desert; Woman, Church and State, pp. 60-61; Lecky's Morals. fDay's Monastic Institutions, p.35; “Women may not enter second enclosure of the Carthusians and are excluded from their church,” Eastern Monach- fifty-nine bishops taking part, it was a matter of serious discussion whether or not women had souls. By a majority of one it was decided that they had." In the seventh century one Christian sect taught that females could not be resur- rected, but that they could and would be transformed into men before their en- trance into their final exaltation.* A thousand years afterward it was still a matter of ecclesiastical debate whether the native American women possessed souls. In the Greek Christian Church of Russia women were not classified as human beings until the time of Peter the Great.ff These are the lingering con- sequences of that madness which came from adding religious zeal to the unnatural ideals developed in Plato, from his psy- cho-sexual disease. The acute erotophobia of the monks, through sympathetic imitation, was trans- fused into the masses as an all-pervading mysogyny. When the church had es- tablished that association with woman “was unclean,” her religious and social equality were synchronously destroyed. When it became currently accepted, that the erotic hallucinations of celibate priests, evidenced that woman was but an instru- ment of Satan to tempt their virtue, that was the kindling of the witch-burner's fire. So, also, when dominant ecclesiastics asserted that woman was as soulless as the lower animals were supposed to be, and “the most dangerous” of wild beasts, her degradation as a chattel-slave was quite inevitable. By the tenth century, woman's sub- jection as a chattel-slave was complete. Her husband-owner could mortgage, sell or kill her, just as he could any other live ism, p. 54; see, also, Woman, Church and State, pp. 58-61. # Lecky's History of European Morals, Vol. II., .338, citing decree of Council of Auxerre, also Trop- ong; for other restrictions, see Woman, Church and State, pp. 114 and 124. |Woman, Church and State, p. 57. lº. Woman, Church and State, p. 56; Ba- bel's Woman Under Socialism, p. 52. * Ross' View of All Religions, p. 219. ff Woman, Church and State, p. 56. The Evolution of Marriage Ideals. 5 chattel. No wonder, then, that thou- sands of women were driven into mon- asteries, as the only place offering even a little freedom, economic independence and respectability.* The same crime was more severely punished, if committed by a woman, than if committed by a man.f The wife's rebellion against her husband, was pun- ished as treason. President Roosevelt still esteems it akin to treason for the sex- slave in marriage to refuse to render sex- service. Before the Mothers’ Congress, speaking of the deliberately childless wife, he said: “Such a creature merits contempt, as hearty as any visited upon the soldier who runs away in battle.”$ The deserter before a foe is killed. Does Mr. Roosevelt’s “contempt as hearty” mean that he desires also to inflict the death penalty on married women who have deliberately limited their offspring to a number less than their utmost phys- ical capacity? That is the logical in- ference. In England, as late as 1814, a husband sold his wife at public auction.|| There is a record of the sale of a polygamous wife in Utah, as late as 1850. Even in 1892, the New York courts decided that the service of the wife belonged to her husband as a matter of right, and that she could not recover for it, even if hold- ing his written promise to pay. Thus she is still his legal slave." “Toward the close of the fourteenth century, hardly a woman could be found in Europe who could read her native language.” . Even the erudite Erasmus doubted whether learning was a suitable accomplishment for her, ff and all lesser clackers echoed his sentiment for centu- ries. Even to this day, some belated victims to tenth-century ideals still de- * 2Lecky's European Morals, pp. 299 339; Gage's Woman, Church ;"; p. 302, citing Spencer. f Gage's Woman, Church and State, p. 312. f Woman, Church and State, pp. 314-315. & Christian Advocate, March 23, 1905. |Lecture by Rev. Dr. Walker, in Presbyterian Church, Madison, Wis. (about 1888.); also, Gage's Woman, Church and State, p. 39. plore female education; through women’s clubs. We have now seen how Christian de- nunciation of marriage, as impure, and of women as subordinate and vile, pro- duced a wifehood of chattel-slavery. This necessarily involved that rendering sex-service had become a woman's slave- duty to her husband-owner. Under our present partial emancipation and en- lightenment, husbands lack the courage, publicly, to insist upon this as their per- sonal right, but instead, ask for it for themselves in the name of a class, nation or race, which every such man feels him- self in duty bound to save from its imi- nent danger of extinction. As formerly he demanded a slavish slave, so now he demands a “womanly woman,” one who joyously defends and meekly submits to the male imposition of economic de- pendence, intellectual inferiority, a dual standard of morals and female duties. Motherhood, as a right, has vanished, and motherhood as a duty is still preached by the benighted as the highest mark of female slave-virtue. Other forces have contributed to the persistence of this ideal. The tribal chiefs and war-lords, needing soldiers for slaughter, rediscovered their advantage in making breeding a virtue. Napoleon needed “food for cannon,” so when the brilliant but barren Madame de Staël asked him: “Who is the greatest wom- an P” he said: “She who has borne her husband the greatest number of chil- dren.” Frederick the Great, in 1741, wrote: “I look upon men as a herd of deer in the zoölogical gardens of a great lord; their only duty is to propagate and fill the park.”ff President Roosevelt still endorses this ideal as the highest, for womankind, when he says that “the wilfully barren woman has no place in a especially * Blaehinska vs. Howard Mission and Home for Little Wanderers, 130 N. Y., p. 497. * Woman, Past and Present, p. 57. ff Woman, Past and Present, p. 58. †† Woman Under Socialism, p.75, citing Kautsky's “Ueber den einflus der Volks-vermehrung auf den vortschritt der gesellschaft.” 6 • The Evolution of Marriage Ideals. sane, healthy and vigorous community,” and adds, before the Mothers’ Congress, that: “There are exceptional men and exceptional women, who can lead, and ought to lead, great careers of outside usefulness, in addition to . . . not as a substitute for . . . their home duties.” Until the zoölogical garden of her great lord and master is full of deer, and these adequately cared for by her, woman may not even aspire to a career of other use- fulness, without forfeiting her right to live in a “sane, healthy and vigorous com- munity”! It is quite incomprehensible, how women with any education can sit calmly under—or even applaud—such degrading denial of an equal opportunity for the exercise of other than their breed- ing capacity and its incidents. The demands of the war-lord helped to kill the motherhood of privilege, and from its corpse raised the ghastly mother- hood of patriotic duty, which refuses to recognize any amount of social uplifting as an equivalent substitute for her sex- service. The continued advocacy of this ideal, after the war-lord’s motives ceased to operate, has the appearance of a com- promise between the ascetic ideal and an insatiable lust, where cowardice and stu- pidity induce a vociferous apology for over-generous self-indulgence. Perhaps the most potent thralldom which perpetuated this new ideal came again from the church. In celibate, priestly eyes, “marriage is something unholy and unclean,” to use the words of Origen.f Sometimes it was explained as an unavoidable evil, and at others, magnanimously endured as “the thorny bush from which has come the rose vir- ginity.”f The sentiment of St. Hierony- mous ultimately prevailed. He said: “Marriage is always a vice; all that we can do is to excuse and to cleanse it.”$ * Christian Advocate, May 23, 1905. f Requoted from Babel's Woman Under Social- ism, p. 51. f Requoted from Felix Adler. % Requoted from Babel's Woman Under Social- ism, p. 51. To minimize and excuse the “vileness,” marriage must produce virgins. There- fore the duty to procreate, which was the price of permitted “impurity,” became as extravagantly over-valued as was the evil to which it justified an exceptional con- cession. The motherhood of privilege, which was already succumbing to the motherhood of slave-duty to a military despot, now yielded also to the mother- hood of religious duty to God. Thus the husband-master of a sex- slave in marriage, not caring or daring to repudiate the whole of the ascetic ideal, yet seeking a moral justification for a wife's compulsory gratification of his sensual appetites, secured the aid of both the church and the state, and all these still seek to limit a woman’s activities, to coerce propagation and its incidents. All are united to laud her compulsory sex-submission as a virtue. Even to this day, in probably every state in the Union, the law still recognizes the husband's ownership of his wife's body. He may rape his wife with prac- tical impunity, since marriage is a defense to the crime of rape. When he rapes a woman without having acquired that right, by priestly ceremony, even though she is his paid mistress, the criminal law against rape will send him to prison. Even if the law were changed, economic dependence and a perverted public opin- ion, which in consequence of such de- pendence prates of “wifely duty,” would still compel submission; and all this, because the Bible says: “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands in all things.” The Christian ascetic ideal, born in the sexual-psychopathy of Plato, had now run its full course, from religious mys- ogyny to spiritual inequality, to the denial of her possessing a soul, to her enslave- ment as a husband's chattel. In short, through the influence of Pla- to's sexual inversion, Christian asceticism destroyed motherhood as a right, and created the motherhood of duty, primarily The Evolution of Marriage Ideals. 7 to her husband, secondarily, and in mod- ern times, hypocritically, to the State and to her God. Ecclesiastical authority was unable to wholly suppress or pervert the human sex-nature. Under the pretense that marriage must be purified and excused, the priests now sought to keep it under their control. “Popish casuists such as Costerus, Pighius, Hosius, Campeggio, and those reported by Agrippa, raised whoredom above wedlock.”* Under the influence of such ideas of the “vileness” of marriage, it was early prohibited to perform the ceremony within church edifices.f Though many, like Jerome, had said that the duty of a husband was “incompatible with the duty of a Chris- tian,”f yet in the ninth century it was argued that an act of the church could validate marriage; and in 1085 Pope Hildebrand VII. declared matrimony a sacrament,' and the Council of Trent, in the sixteenth century, was the first Church Council to declare matrimony one of the seven sacraments of Catholi- cism.]] Many authorities had declared for divorce and remarriage upon varying grounds. St. Ephiphanius allowed di- vorce for any crime." Justinian forbade divorce unless both parties desired to enter a monastery.* St. Gregory the Second, and others, blessed with infalli- bility, authorized bigamy. In response to Boniface (A. D. 726), he answered that when wives were incapacitated by infirm- ity, men, if unendowed with continence, might marry again. This theory was adopted in 752 by the Council of Vermeria or Werbery. Pepin, the French king, with the French prelacy, was present in *Edgar's Variations of Popery, pp. 559-560, citing the original authorities. f Gage's Woman, Church and State, p. 120. f Edgar's Variations of Popery, p. 539. # Gage's Woman, Church and State, p. 222. |Babel's Woman Under Socialism, p. 56; also Woman, Past and Present, p. 328; Bungener's His- tory of The Council of Trent, Chap. VI. | Edgar's Variations of £g. p. 547. ** Babel's Woman Under Socialism, p. 45 #figur's variations of Poper, pp. 561 to 565. ff Father” H. A. Brann, in New York Herald, this assembly. The Gallican clergy al- lowed the privilege of repudiation and subsequent wedlock to those who married slaves, pretending to be free; and to men whose wives were guilty of certain con- tumacy.if To keep sexual relations under priestly control, marriage with heretics was, in the twelfth century, prohibited, and such marriages could be repudiated and remarriage allowed. If The Council of Trent, in the sixteenth century, for the first time authoritatively declared mar- riage indissoluble.S$ When the priests made marriage a “sacramental authority to live unchaste,” though its religious sacredness was there- by grossly overestimated, it was yet rec- ognized as religiously semi-respectable, and this was the first step towards our growing sanity upon the subject of SeX. Monks and priests, in their mad desire to discredit marriage, came to an ever- growing exaltation of the alleged virginity of the mother of Jesus. In their noc- turnal erotism, these mad victims of sex-suppression thought they received solace from the “Virgin Mother,” who appeared to them in their hallucinations.]]|| Mariolatry grew apace. In the fifth century, a mere recognition of Mary's good fortune in her maternity began to change to acts of homage." The first feast of the Immaculate Conception was celebrated in A. D. 1134,” and at the ecumenical Council of 1849 the dogma of the Immaculate Conception of the Virgin Mary was first authoritatively promulgated, although her worship had longexisted.jff “True Catholics no longer pray to Jesus, except through Mary,” so declare Romanist authorities.iff gº ’s Variations of P , p. 564. * #. ; Popery, # §º. p. irº. James Leuba, “On the Psychology of a Group of Christian Mystics” in Mind (of London) for January, 1905; Edgar's Variations of Popery. !" Bungener's History of The Council of Trent, p. *Woman, Past and Present, p. 71. fff Gage's Woman, Church and State, p. 222. fit Bungener's History of The &: of Trent, p. 509. 8 The Evolution of Marriage Ideals. Many, like the great Dominican ascetic and mystic, Suso, when meeting a woman, stepped respectfully aside, though their bare feet must tread the gutter or thorns. But this was done, not to exalt woman, as such, but rather to discredit married women by exalting the Virgin. Suso said: “I do this to render homage to our Holy Lady, the Virgin Mary.” While by contrast with the Virgin idol, this was intended as a reflection on the generality of women, it undesignedly brought about, among laymen, that wor- shipful attitude toward women which was characteristic of that chivalric love of medieval knighthood. Thus the priest unconsciously sowed the seed of chivalry, for the homage he paid to women for the sake of a dead virgin, was soon imitated by laymen, for the sake of a live lover. On the part of those who “sigh like a furnace,” this led to that mad apotheosis of love passion which found its public ex- pression in the poetry and songs of the troubadours and glee-maidens, and the special code of sex-ethics which was ad- ministered by their “Courts of Love.” They seem to have esteemed love far higher than religion or virtue, or any re- straining influence. In their “Laws of Love,” it was laid down that: “Marriage cannot be pleaded as an excuse for re- fusing to love”; that “It is not becoming to love those ladies who only love with a view to marriage”; that “Nothing pre- vents one lady being loved by two gentle- men, or one gentleman by two ladies”; and that love cannot exercise its power on (between) married people.”f No wonder, then, that every court lady esteemed it necessary, as a point of amor- ous etiquette, to have a troubadour in her train, and that he, in silly proof of the madness of his devotion, often suffered the greatest bodily mascerations. All this but furnished added evidence of how extremes beget extremes. As the monks and priests overestimated the sinfulness *Wagner's Simple Life, p. 32. (McClure Phipps ediº" f Rowbotham's Troubadours and Courts of Love of love, so to the same extent did the knighthood of bachelors over-value the ethical potency of love-passion. Even to this day, a large mass of people still judge unauthorized sexuality to be im– moral per se, and another large mass determine its ethical status by the degree of intensity of the love-passion which prompts it. Both are equally wrong, because they alike ignore the essential factor of social utility as an ethical cri- terion. This chivalry developed among the only people outside the clergy who had any influence, and therefore supplied a new element in the future ideal of mar- riage. The harshness of the old slavery was ameliorated. The husband, imita- ting or competing with the knight, must at least seem to be a generous and benev- olent master, granting favors, though imposing duties and denying equality. The wife must be a willing and dutiful serf, whose chief virtue must be the in- expensiveness of her keeping and the absence of even a longing for equalities of opportunity and liberty. Although this marital chivalry was but a verbal exaltation and an empty ceremonial idol- atry of women,f it served a useful pur- pose in initiating a reaction against the dominant ascetic mysogyny. More and more the wife ceased to be a mere slave who served wine to her hus- band’s guests, and oftener was allowed a seat at his table. Gradually those old legal discriminations against women and wives, which had their origin when the wife was a chattel, are being supplanted by more enlightened statutes. Gradu- ally, social customs are according a nearer approach to female equality. Gradually, the more liberal churches are recognizing woman’s equal rights, not only in the pews, but even as preachers. Gradually, a few are seeing the injustice in the con- tinued denial of political equality; and still later will come the insistence upon Chap. XIV; Gage's Woman, Church and State, p. fwoman, Past and Present, p. 51. The Evolution of Marriage Ideals. 9 marriage ideals which now seem new— but are not—in which the wife will be economically independent of her husband, intellectually the equal of her husband, politically with the opportunities of her husband, and morally as free and as re- sponsible for herself as is her husband, with no sexual duties, but with privileges, and the recipient of an equal wage for the same labor. All the remaining inequalities by which women are discriminated against find their sole justification in her economic dependence during marriage, which is the potent remnant of her slave-condi- tion, about which clusters that public opinion which excuses all the continuing wrongs to women and seeks to conceal them under a meaningless verbal exal- tation. So she has become “the queen of the kitchen-stove.” The influence of the church in the matter of shaping marriage ideals is waning. Organized bigotry cannot cope successfully with the silent industrial and economic forces which compel readjustment. During the later Middle Ages, while the actual chattel character of woman’s slavery was disappearing, all of its in- cidents remained. A “gentleman” could have no occupation, except to fight and to love. The wife was a drudge. She could and did shear sheep, spin yarn, weave the cloth, and make the clothes. While the quality of livelihood and “pro- tection,” which her lord and master fur- nished her in return, was never measured by the quality or quantity of her drudgery or progeny, there can be no doubt but that she never received from him as much as the market value of her labor. In one sense she was dependent, because her husband alone determined the compen- sation for her services; yet there can be little doubt that, except in rare cases, the balance was so much in her favor that more often it could be said that her hus- band was living upon her labor than that she was an idle dependent upon his. This has been changed in a very large measure by our industrial development. Where nearly all were peasant, millions are now city-folk. The shepherd is far removed from the throng. The home- made wooden shoes, sandals and mocca- sins have been replaced by the factory- made shoe. Spinning is no longer a fire- side occupation. The stockings which were commonly knit by our grandmoth- ers are now factory-made. The old an- cestral hand-loom does not compete with child-labor running machines. Sweat- shop clothing and fashionable tailors have removed the disgrace, which, until re- cently, attached to the woman who could not make her own and her family's clothes. The cooking, and even the washing, are largely and often better and cheaper done at the bakery, the cannery, the hotel and the laundry, than within the domicile. One by one, the occupations of the house have been removed to the factory. Only in the rural districts do any of them remain. Even the care and education of our children is now better done by trained nurses and kindergartners and by professional pedagogues than could possibly be done by most mothers. Ex- cept where dire economic necessity com- pels it, married women have not followed their work when it left the home. This, then, brings us to a condition where there are thousands of women of the mis-called “better” classes who live in boarding- houses and hotels, in idle ease, or in homes where they are figure-heads, posing as their husbands’ exalted head-servants, but whose only ambition in life is to be accredited with respectability, and whose only occupation is to render sex-service, mostly barren, to the husbands who fur- nish support as compensation. Such wives are not chattel-slaves, but willing dependents. They are not the drudging house-servants of old, nor the co-laborers of their husbands, as in our rural population. They differ in no es- sential from the kept woman, unless we have so low an estimate of the marriage state that we call the ceremony the es- sence, and a carelessly misplaced “re- 10 The Evolution of Marriage Ideals. spectability,” the final test of marriage morals. These women have neither the freedom nor the relative intelligence of the hetairae of Greece. Doubting their ability for self-maintenance, or unwilling to assume its labors, when the methods of discred- ited women are quite adequate to insure a husband's generosity, economic and social pressure induce them to submit meekly to a double standard of morals when it does not lessen the luxury of their own support. The same conditions com- bined with the great mental indolence, make them ever willing to tickle their hus- bands' vanity by a worshipful attitude toward their mediocre intellect. Thus it has come to pass that with a large section of our public the wife's economic dependence, intellectual in- feriority, submission to a double standard of morals, and the acceptance of support in compensation for a fruitless sex-service, have come to be a part of our marriage ideal, and, I fear, is the predominant ambition of even those married women who do work. We hear “eminently respectable” peo- ple speaking of girls as “well married,” meaning only thereby to indicate that they have made an advantageous bargain for their future support in idleness. These conditions seldom find duplica- tions in past history, outside the harem and our ever-present houses of prostitu- tion. This situation has perhaps been unavoidable, and represents the remnants of our former female chattel-slavery par- tially adjusted to our modern industrial conditions. The course of evolution is never com- pleted. The still “respectable” mar- riage-ideal just portrayed, and the other contemporaneous ideals, mark a trans- ition in which the chief compelling force will be economic pressure, and its in- fluence must now be pointed out. These anomalous ideals of the past century, did not long pass without being vigorously challenged. Years ago Phil- lips Brooks wrote: “Self-support is as much the duty of a woman as a man. Servile dependence in money matters is no longer deemed honorable.” With the granting of equal educational opportunities to women, and a growing —but still restricted—business chance, there have come into being, large num- bers of women who decline to marry ex- cept on terms of equality to themselves. Men of the same class have not so numer- ously adjusted to the new conditions. The woman of capacity, not compelled to enter matrimony as a business offering support, and seldom able to find a suitable man who shares her advanced ideals, declines to marry at all. As a result, the much-envied “bachelor girl” has replaced the formerly despised “old maid.” From such conditions were un- avoidably evolved the ideals of an eco- nomically independent wifehood so vig- orously defended by an increasing number of women, as in Charlotte Perkins Gil- man’s Woman and Economics. Among the peasants and unfortunate classes least influenced by the bourgeoise opinion, the wives have always remained the co-laborers of their husbands. These women, besides raising their families, have done much of the sewing and drudg- ery of their more fortunate and less pro- lific sisters. Among the very wealthy, women have their separate estates, and enjoy independence and equality to as high degree as they are capable of ap- preciating. Indeed these often have re- versed the conditions, by taking a male dependent as a spouse. This is notori- ously true of those American heiresses who purchase foreign titles, to which the acquisition of an impecunious husband seems a mere incidental detail. It is precisely in that large and pre- tentious middle class, falsely claiming to be the bulwark of our marriage morals, that we find the largest number of wives accepting and longing for support in idle- ness as a return for a barren sex-service. Notwithstanding their comparative pov- erty, they, more than all else, love to imi- tate the ostentatious, wasteful and idle The Evolution of Marriage Ideals. II luxury of their wealthier sisters. They can discover no easy road to the goal and retain their respectability, except by sell- ing themselves in marriage. This con- dition is receiving vigorous bombardment, not only from progressive thinkers, but also from certain reactionaries, who are seeking a return to ideals of the latter Middle Ages, where fecundity was the measure of the married woman's respecta- bility. However, our moral progress is very seldom the result of conscious effort to arrive at moral truth. The very great majority of mankind acquire ethical con- cepts solely by the process of making a virtue of their necessities. The argu- ments of Phillips Brooks and Charlotte Gilman, and the declamations of Theodore Roosevelt and the Mothers’ Congress, will have influence only in so far as they supply a defense to wives for the doing of what they must do, even without a de- fense. It is economic pressure which will com- pel our acceptance of an economically independent wifehood as an ideal. As our industries are now organizing, com- petition among employers is rapidly dis- appearing, and the competition among employés is likely to become ever more keen. This means that an increasing number of families will be compelled to enter the ranks of those wherein the wife must contribute toward the family main- tenance, or submit to the family's disso- lution. Likewise an increasing number of young women will find themselves confronted with a choice between celibacy and a married life in which they continue to be productive workers. So long as the marriage relation implies a difference of financial and moral re- sponsibility, so long will there exist be- tween men and women a double standard of necessities and morals. Under the pressure of adverse conditions the pro- vider naturally, if not justly, to some ex- tent measures the necessities of his de- pendent wife by his own financial surplus over personal necessities and pleasures, and never by the market value of the services rendered by his “helpmate.” Thus it is, that the wife's allowance usu- ally increases as her household and motherhood service decrease, with the growing prosperity of the husband. With disappearing prosperity, the wife's ability to adapt herself to her source of supplies becomes ever more difficult. Reinforced by the transmitted ideals of the Dark Ages, the average husband's peculiar sense of justice, or his vanity, demands of a dependent wifehood, as the price of benevolence in his economic mastery, that he shall be the exclusive owner of her body and mind, and so long as he believes in his own dominance, under the influence of temptation, he will deny reciprocity in these respects. Now we come to a tracing of the opera- tion of the economic pressure in its re- moulding of our ideals of the marriage state. We shall here discover how neces- sity is compelling, in the middle classes, an acceptance of the ideal of an econom- ically independent wifehood. An army officer, with an impecunious wife, endeavoring on a small salary to keep up the required ostentatious waste of social life, must almost necessarily inflict upon himself such worries as natu- rally unfit him for the performance of his duties. In Austria and Germany, to insure the government against this incapacitating influence of marriage, the officers, before being allowed to marry, must demonstrate their financial resources above salary to be such as preclude these baneful consequences.* Recently there has been some agitation in army circles of the United States over the prospects for placing similar additions to the mat- rimonial embarrassments of its officers. Quite similar motives very often de- termine employment in the commercial world. The married man, with a de- pendent wife, applying for a position of trust with but a small salary attached, is silently discriminated against, because the temptation to keep up the required * Babel's Woman Under Socialism, p. 137. 12 The Reign of Graft in Milwaukee. social bluff of family life on a small salary so increases the moral risk of his employ- ment as to make him an unsafe servant. These motives of the employer do not always become known to the rejected applicant, and almost never to the public. However there are exceptions. The press dispatches recently announc- ed that the Corn Exchange National Bank of Chicago had posted this notice: “Employés of this bank receiving a salary of less than $1,000 a year, must not morry without first consulting the bank afficials and obtaining their ap- proval.” The reason assigned was that: “It is nonsense for a man to attempt to care for a wife and family with an annual income of $1,000. We would feel our- selves partly responsible for any misery which might follow, if we approved of such a course.” The clear imputation is that an economically dependent wife, to a husband with small salary, is a direct inducement to embezzlement, and pru- dent business men are unwilling to assume the moral risks. 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