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Should Woman Obey? 
 
 A protest against improper matri* 
 monial and prenatal conditions, show- 
 ing causes, prevention and remedy of 
 needless inharmonies, unhappiness, etc 
 
 Together with a special chapter by 
 Prof. L. N. Fowler, entitled, 
 
 LOVE, COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 
 
 Chicago : 
 
 Ernest Loomis and Company, 
 
 Publishers. 
 
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 734- 
 S58 
 
 Copyright 1900 by Ernest Loomis. 
 All rights reserved 
 
BeMcation* 
 
 TO HUSBANDS AND WIVES WHOSE RIGHT IT IS TO BE HAPPY, 
 AND TO UNBORN CHILDREN W^HOSE RIGHT IT IS TO BE WELL 
 BORN, THIS BOOK IS DEDICATED. 
 
PREFACE. 
 
 It was long ago foretold that this book would 
 appear, and that its important message of liberty and 
 love, would carry conviction and perhaps happiness, 
 to the hearts of countless thousands who now suffer 
 the slow tortures, living misery and almost undying 
 death, which, for years, its author ignorantly en- 
 dured. 
 
 The almost tragic earnestness of the book is per- 
 haps due to this, and to the fact that it was written 
 almost from the heart's-blood of one whose eventful 
 life recently ended in a tragedy. A backward look 
 into the astral or vibratory records of, the past, 
 seemed to bring important and interesting revelations 
 regarding the soul which speaks through these pages ; 
 but the public mind is not yet open to the light of 
 occult knowledge which would enable it to perceive 
 the true meaning of these revelations, and therefore 
 they are withheld, except from those who now can 
 herein read between the lines. The main point is 
 to read in that unprejudiced attitude of mental re- 
 ceptivity, which permits the spirit to listen and 
 receive. 
 
 Each reader should try to gain from the book 
 even more than is therein written. Its mission is to 
 provoke thought, as well as to offer evidence con- 
 cerning its main theme. If properly read, it will 
 serve to awaken that within the mind which even 
 the book itself does not contain. 
 
 It is sometimes difficult to embody in words, that 
 which the soul would say ; but when a soul has suf- 
 fered, it is able to understand the mute language of 
 kindred souls that have likewise suffered. Try to 
 read the book in that spirit, and in the spirit of 
 charity, which is able to mentally "put yourself io 
 his place." 
 
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INTRODUCTION. 
 
 The development of sex-power, or gender, is 
 generally considered as important in the work of 
 character building and in the attainment of true 
 standards of manhood and womanhood. 
 
 If we are to accept the self-evident and scientific 
 theory of vibration, wc are bound to concede that 
 the vibratory forces or energies which are constantly 
 generated through sex, or gender, cannot be con- 
 stantly wasted without sapping the very foundations 
 of our organic life. The sad results of needless 
 wastes, unfortunately are h\ no means confined to 
 the physical, but extend to the mental and spiritual 
 being, and through that to all the multitudinous re- 
 lations in life. 
 
 In a large percentage of cases and to a greater or 
 less degree, crime, immorality, business-failure, un- 
 happiness, drunkenness, insanity, disease and even 
 death itself, is directly or indirectly traceable to 
 avoidable wastes of sex-force, "loss of integrity," or 
 infringements of the law of Love. Nature's preven- 
 tative and remedy, is the acquisition of specific 
 scientific knowledge of the inducements for, and 
 methods of removing the cause. This in turn im- 
 plies a serious and unbiased study of the subject m 
 all its phases, so that each factor involved, may be 
 
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IV INTRODUCTION. 
 
 given due weight and emphasis, in the work of form- 
 ing a final judgment from which actions and results 
 are to ensue. 
 
 The existance of prejudice, or of a prudish and 
 sickly unwillingness to consider the subject and 
 courageously face its every issue, is sometimes 
 falsely regarded as an evidence of sex and mental 
 purity or preserved "integrity," but on the other 
 hand is strongly suggestive, if not indicative, of im- 
 purity and of previous infringements of sexual laws. 
 
 To shrink from knowledge of that Divine image 
 and law which is Love, is an evidence that its light 
 would expose the evil of our ways. As the law of 
 Love is basic throughout all evolution, it necessarily 
 follows that its relations are numberless, therefore 
 we should not expect any one book to embrace it all, 
 or to be perfect. 
 
 The imperfections of a book may be glaring, and 
 yet it be the book above all others which is capable 
 of carrying an all-important message to you, to me 
 and to the world, in bringing about a greatly needed 
 reform. Harriet Beecher Stowe's ** Uncle Tom's 
 Cabin," is subject to severe criticism from the liter- 
 ary and other standpoints, simply because the author 
 was too much in earnest to dawdle with the various 
 systems of literary gymnastics. 
 
 The author of " Should Woman Obey ' was eqally 
 in earnest in her efforts to wipe from our civilization, 
 that which had been the curse of her life, as well as 
 a libel on the sanctity of marriage and the home. 
 She was repeatedly cautioned to lay aside all prej- 
 udice, and to deal justly and even mercifully, with 
 
INTRODUCTION. V 
 
 those imperfect ideals within the public mind, which 
 were the result of ignorance and therefore were fail- 
 ings rather than faults. To a remarkable extent she 
 succeeded in this ; and yet at times she warmed up 
 to the subject, and perhaps hit unduly hard. Even 
 this may have been upon the side of mercy, as being 
 a severe, but only remedy. It is certain that the 
 constant attitude of her heart, even toward those 
 who had caused her own bitter suffering was that of 
 the Christ spirit which prompted the words "Father 
 forgive them for they know not what they do." 
 
 Even though this had not been the case, it would 
 be only fair to give her an unprejudiced hearing, be- 
 cause it is certain that our present matrimonial cus- 
 toms are not productive of uniformly good or perfect 
 results ; and the difficulty has its basis in a lack of 
 knowledge such as she has, perhaps, herein given. 
 
 Regard this work, if you please, as the bitter cry 
 of a heart-broken woman, and at the same time listen 
 for its message. She certainly was brilliantly intel- 
 ligent; her heart was pure, noble and loving; she 
 earnestly tried to live right ; she valiantly stood up 
 for that which was clearly her right, viz : the privi- 
 lege of independent purity of body in matrimony, 
 but the result was, much suffering, until through the 
 resultant bodily weakness, her life ended in a pa- 
 thetic tragedy. 
 
 Thousands today for the same causes are stand- 
 ing upon the brink of the same precipice, and seem- 
 ingly through no fault of their own. Can we not 
 hope to rescue them by a better understanding of 
 their conditions and needs ? This book has a telling 
 
VI INTRODUCTION. 
 
 message for those whose hearts are not too hard to 
 listen. 
 
 Let us suppose on the other hand, that your 
 matrimonial life has been all that could be desired. 
 Is it more than right that you should express your 
 gratitude, by extending at least your moral support 
 to those who are less fortunately situated ? "Their 
 name is legion." 
 
 There is work for you and me to do. All human- 
 ity is related by bonds which are too deep to ever 
 be severed, therefore the sufferings of one are neces- 
 sarily to some extent the sufferings of all. Love, 
 brotherhood and service are basic principles of life 
 which cannot, with impunity, be permanently dis- 
 solved. The chances are, that you or yours, at least 
 to some extent, are in bondage. Let us unite in 
 breaking these shackles which needlessly bind us. 
 Ignorance is the cause of all misery and bondage. 
 Knowledge is the remedy. "Knowledge is power." 
 "TheTruth shall make you free." Shall we cowardly 
 dodge it ? Let your heart answer. 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY? 
 
 CHAPTER I. 
 woman's sexual disadvantages. 
 
 From early childhood my first conscious 
 thought was one of wonder as to why I had 
 been born a girl, when it was so evident that 
 boys had all the advantage on their side. 
 Mingled with wonder was a feeling of rebellion 
 against a fate which did not give me an even 
 showing. The sphinx which thus in early life 
 confronted me became in time a daily menace 
 to my peace of mind. Only after years of 
 hard experience, study and observation, was I 
 enabled to satisfactorily answer the riddle and 
 thus destroy the sphinx. 
 
 In my efforts to ascertain the truth I gained 
 the animosity of that silly old lady, Dame 
 Propriety. She and I lived for years in open 
 warfare, for no other reason than that I would 
 ask questions for which she had no logical 
 answer. To such questions as, — why I should 
 not run and jump and otherwise develop mus- 
 cle ; why I should ride doubled up in a bunch ; 
 
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10 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 why Stay in a corner and sew doll rags when I 
 hated them. She could make no better answer 
 than that it was not "pretty" for girls to do 
 those things, or that little girls ought to be 
 lady-like, quiet and satisfied with dolls. Such 
 answers were unsatisfactory to an independent 
 spirit, and only led to more questions, as, — 
 why should little girls and not boys be pretty 
 or quiet, etc., nd infinitum. 
 
 Answers being unavailable, the old lady 
 declared war. Poor old soul ! The American 
 girl has in the last twenty-five years asked 
 questions enough to dethrone all her ancient 
 gods of tradition, and indeed to unsettle her 
 confidence in her own heretofore unquestioned 
 edicts. To some her unreasoning laws are 
 accepted without questioning, but a large and 
 ever-increasing class are exhibiting the incli- 
 nation to fathom the why and the wherefore 
 of every relationship. 
 
 To many of this class the questions of sex 
 are still an unanswered sphinx. Sex is the 
 life generator. That mysterious power which 
 perpetuates and reproduces life is the sex 
 power. Perfect understanding and control of 
 this power would place the possessor thereof 
 in the position of master of life and death. It 
 is not a matter of wonder that this mysterious 
 and deeply occult power should in all ages 
 have commanded the attention of the wise 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY? II 
 
 and studious, as well as those in the early 
 stages of evolution. Nor is it strange that 
 many of the world's great religions were 
 founded upon some phase of sex worship. 
 Those laws of God which lie at the foundation 
 of sex matters, at the root of Being itself, were 
 recognized as of the utmost importance to the 
 human race. It is not surprising that the 
 facts or laws discovered were rtiost carefully 
 guarded, locked up in the mystery of hier- 
 oglyph, symbol and sign. Hence only the 
 earnest seeker after truth, he who in the 
 search is willing to give time, labor and 
 thought, is able to unravel the mystery and 
 correctly read the writing. Man, recognizing 
 the procreative power as the highest, the 
 greatest, the most occult and mysterious in 
 the gift of God, will seldom essay to under- 
 stand and master it, deeming the subject 
 beyond his comprehension. Thus is human 
 life popularly left to blind chance or mere 
 physical attractions. Can we wonder, then, 
 at the number of pitiful, hopeless wrecks we 
 so often meet ? Beautiful promise and mag- 
 nificent endowment wasted, wrecked ere life's 
 journey is half accomplished ! The rock upon 
 which many strike and are lost is abuse of this 
 procreative power, this mysterious sex power, 
 this wonderful power of life ! It may be (gen- 
 erally 13) that ignorance has caused the abuse, 
 
12 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY? 
 
 but Ignorance by no means shields us from 
 the penalty of broken law. Only knowledge 
 displaces ignorance. " Know thyself " is a wise 
 precept laid down by an ancient Master. To 
 know thyself begin at the foundation princi- 
 ple — the principle of Being, of manifestation, 
 of sex. By knowing thyself, learn to know all 
 others. In the first chapters of Genesis we 
 find a desci^iption of Edenic (Eden means 
 happy) man enjoying a perfect existence. 
 The sneer of the woman-hater who asserts 
 that this was before the creation of woman 
 loses point when we remember that what we 
 do not possess can not be taken from us. 
 Woman was taken from man's side ; hence we 
 see that the perfect soul is the even and just 
 blending of the masculine and feminine prin- 
 ciples. In such cr.sc man is truly "God made 
 manifest." An all-wise power, seeing that all 
 other living creatures were his inferiors and 
 unfit for companionship, decreed separation of 
 these two principles. Sex, then, is division, a 
 separation, that man might have the pleasures 
 of equal companionship and a helpmeet to his 
 needs. That his Go(o)d powers might have 
 a working basis. That he, too, might become 
 a worker — a creator like unto the one in whose 
 divine image he was created. To illustrate by 
 numbers: Man, the positive, the masculine 
 principle, is represented by the unit i . WomaD, 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY? I3 
 
 the negative force taken from the unit, the 
 feminine principle, is represented by o. What 
 expenditures of time or what amount of effort 
 would be necessary to cause the unit alone, 
 the straight line, to become aught but a simple 
 continuation of self ? How long and earn- 
 estly should the circle continue round its own 
 orbit to accomplish aught but its own cycle ? 
 But place the two opposite forces together and 
 behold, we have ten ! — the same, yet not the 
 same. The power of each has through the 
 other become tenfold. 
 
 This division, this creation of sex, did not 
 cause man's banishment from the joys of per- 
 fect life. The principle of sensuality creeping 
 in and prompting the use of man's powers for 
 purposes other than those for which given, 
 made the perfect life an impossibility. Each 
 one of man's powers were given for certain 
 fixed purposes which were good. The flesh, 
 the physical, the animal nature prompts th'e 
 use of power for the gratification of the senses, 
 of the flesh, for purposes not ordained of God ; 
 hence not good, but evil; (the **tree of good 
 and evil" of scripture.) For every such act 
 of evil the penalty must be paid, the thorns 
 and briars sprouting from outraged nature or 
 broken law will appear and tear the flesh until 
 obedience to the law of Go(o)d is compelled, 
 and man through wisdom born of experience 
 
14 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 returns to the perfect life, the life of good, the 
 Edenic life.. The digestive powers were di- 
 vinely organized that we might keep our bod- 
 ies strong and healthy. When exercised to 
 gratify excess or gluttony they sooner or later 
 rebel and the dyspeptic must pay for his evil 
 use of power. Speech, given for the exchange 
 of ideas and to aid in the development of con- 
 sciousness, otherwise used becomes as a scor- 
 pion's sting, and bitterly do we often rue fool- 
 ish words. The procreative power so wisely 
 given for the generation of life and reproduc- 
 tion of kind, when 'abused brings in recoil 
 punishments in proportion to the loftiness of 
 the powers abused. Life generation being 
 man's most perfect reflection of the work of 
 God, brings by perversion the most loathsome 
 diseases, the most painful sicknesses, the most 
 appalling results— death itself — down upon the 
 one who through ignorance or sensuality fails 
 to heed the law of God in the exercise of those 
 powers. Co-operation is nature's method of 
 producing results. Light and darkness cause 
 day and night. Heat and cold combined 
 cause vegetation to spring forth and the earth 
 to blossom. The absence of either the nega- 
 tive or the positive elements would make the 
 wonders of electricity impossible. Evolution 
 without involution would end in the dissipation 
 of all force. Centifugal minus centripetal 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY? 1 5 
 
 force would make the existence of earth itself 
 an impossibility. The masculine without the 
 feminine principle would prove useless and 
 inefficient. Scripture, then, is not only en- 
 dorsed by common sense and borne out by 
 philosophy, but philosophy and common sense 
 are reiterated by scripture in the theory that 
 sex is division ordained, that the Go(o)d pow- 
 ers latent in man might be made manifest — 
 that co-operation might become possible. But 
 the personal question may recur. Why was / 
 born a woman ? or. Why was / born a man ? 
 as the case might be. Look earnestly into 
 your own heart and see if you have not always 
 felt, nay, known, that somewhere there existed 
 the perfect balance to your nature, the com- 
 plement (always sought but rarely found) 
 which would make existence complete ? the 
 other self whose absence one cannot but feel, 
 the half which, fitted to your life, would round 
 it out into such smoothness, beauty and one- 
 ness that "Eden" would not typify an impos- 
 sible ideal, but an existent fact ? That this 
 heart knowledge has not been realized in the 
 life should by no means signify its falseness, but 
 rather that the life itself has been guided by 
 ignorance and ruled by the senses rather than 
 by the soul, the spirit. Oh, cherish this ideal 
 of perfect love e'en though in life it fail of 
 accomplishment, even as we believe in God 
 
l6 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 though now we may not behold Him ! If 
 sometime it would seem that the other side 
 had the advantage, can you not truly feel re- 
 joiced that the heavier physical burden rests 
 not upon your shoulders, that "He whom my 
 soul loveth" might have the lighter load? 
 The manifold theories advanced by science as 
 to the determining causes of physical sex have 
 remained but theories, all lacking the proof to 
 establish them as facts. That some may have 
 touched upon the truth is a possibility. 
 
CHAPTER II. 
 
 LOVE. — ATTRACTIONS, PHYSICAL, MENTAL AND 
 SPIRITUAL. — god's LAW ; MAN's LAW. — THE 
 PERFECT ATTRACTION. 
 
 Almost every school girl or boy has in the 
 first gushings of young love made use of the 
 trite saying, *'Tis love that makes the world 
 go ''round." How many, even among the 
 older and wiser ones, and who have analyzed 
 and reasoned it out, find that this expression 
 which comes so glibly to the lips is not the 
 mere fanciful illusion of a poetical brain, but 
 is indeed the living, glowing truth. It is love 
 that makes the world go 'round! 'Tis love 
 that rules our lives from the cradle to the 
 grave in their minutest details or most impor- 
 tant acts. More than this, 'Tis love that gave 
 us being and keeps us alive. 'Tis love that 
 makes the plant to grow and yield us fruit. 
 'Tis love that makes the flowers bloom and 
 yield us beauty. 'Tis love that makes the 
 stars to shine and inspires us to thoughts of 
 heaven. God himself is love, and the more 
 Godlike we become the more perfectly do our 
 
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l8 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY? 
 
 lives portray this loveliness in every word, 
 thought and deed. Love is the fulfilling of 
 perfect law. Hence, when we see the opera- 
 tion of perfect law, do we not see God ? If 
 we plant a seed in good soil, water it and give 
 it sun and air, it will in time germinate and 
 burst from the ground a tiny specimen of plant 
 life. After that it continues to grow, develop 
 body, leaves, and finally blossom. This we 
 say is in accordance with nature's law ; but do 
 we look deeper and see that in this working 
 of Nature's law there is God ? — a perfect love 
 in full expression ? The plant has by the 
 power of love drawn to itself that which it 
 needed, — assimilated those elements and thus 
 developed the lovely blossom. 
 
 The literal truth of this trite old saying is 
 easily perceived. The sun gives warmth, heat 
 and life to the earth, drawing the earth to it, 
 producing the centrifugal force. But the earth 
 loves its own and draws its particles back 
 towards its own center, producing the centri- 
 petal force. These two forces in operation, 
 thus fulfilling the law in love — this throwing 
 out and bringing in impulse — produce the 
 rotary motion of the earth on its way around 
 the sun. Such is the working of perfect law, 
 the work of God-Love ! Love not only keeps 
 the earth in balance as it journeys around its 
 God, the Sun, but as well keeps every star in 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? IQ 
 
 equilibrium, every planet, every sun in the 
 vast heavens (of which we see but a small por 
 tion) in perfect equipoise, making a universe, 
 a whole, under one law, this beautiful law of 
 Love, the rule of God! It is not so strange, 
 then, that a power so wonderfully great should 
 rule our seemingly insignificant lives. Man is 
 a trinity and he should be a trinity in unity. 
 The one-sided nature belongs to the one who 
 allows either the physical, mental or spiritual 
 to usurp undue authority. The physical man 
 is the one who lives in the sense realm. What 
 he cannot see, hear, touch, taste or smell does 
 not exist. His pleasures, appetites and desires 
 give color to his every thought and deed. 
 There are persons so completely dominated 
 by the flesh, by the physical, that they pro- 
 nounce as right the most grossly licentious 
 practices, allowing the sense perception to 
 morally blind them to spiritual truths. Thus 
 may we account for many laws which blot our 
 statute books, and stand as a disgrace to their 
 framers, monuments to the materialistic phys- 
 ical age in which, and the rule of the flesh 
 under which, we live to-day. 
 
 A young child is but little more than an 
 animal. There may be within him the latent 
 possibilities of a God, but the animal is most 
 in evidence. One would not place a moral 
 philosophy in the hands of a two-year old, nor 
 
20 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY? 
 
 expect him to elucidate a geometric problem ; 
 yet it is an absoulute necessity that he be fed, 
 and for perfect animal growth, warmth, bath- 
 ing and exercise are also necessary. Now, 
 this little animal's loves are animal loves. It 
 loves those things which gratify its physical 
 needs and those persons w^ho care for it and 
 provide for its wants and desires. Its mother 
 and nurse are best loved because they serve 
 most. 
 
 Nature is very partial to the number seven. 
 There are seven primary forms taken by the 
 brain before it becomes the complete human 
 brain, seven stages in the pre-natal existence, 
 the human body is completely changed and 
 renewed every seven years, the ages of seven 
 and its multiples are important and often crit- 
 ical periods in every human life, and besides 
 appropriating the mystical seven in many 
 other places, we find nature using it as steps 
 in our little animal's growth. From birth to 
 the seventh year is a period chiefly of animal 
 growth ; from seven to fourteen the mental 
 energies begin to arouse ; from fourteen to 
 twenty-one the age of puberty sets in, and at 
 twenty-one we see the full-grown animal, yet 
 by no means the full grown mind. There is 
 no limit to mental growth, and he who so wills 
 it may continue to grow and acquire knowl- 
 edge and mentally develop until extreme old 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY? 21 
 
 age brings him with tottering steps and silver- 
 ed locks, but with mind clear and vigorous 
 down to the very brink of the grave. Let us 
 for a moment consider this full-grown animal. 
 No, he should not any longer be the animal, 
 but the man ! Here he stands — full-grown,, 
 with flesh, blood, bone and muscle in suffi-' 
 ciency. Brain, too, is there, but not yet fully 
 active. The red blood courses through his 
 veins with vigor and makes him feel his own 
 manhood and importance. Yet he lacks some- 
 thing; he is unsettled and seeks something. 
 What is that something ? Balance. Naturally 
 he seeks balance from his opposite, so we see 
 him seeking the girls, and frequently enjoying 
 their society better than aught else. This 
 feeling seems sometimes to amount to a dis- 
 ease, a fever peculiar to this stage of develop- 
 ment. One of the basic laws of all life is that 
 **like likes like." So we find this young man 
 in the full development of animal vigor, seek- 
 ing those of similar development. The buoy- 
 ant, bounding, romping, healthy girl 'is the 
 object of admiration. Observe how they enjoy 
 physical exercise together. Dancing, walking, 
 riding, singings-all things pleasurable are 
 much more delightful if enjoyed together. 
 This is right and as it should be, if kept in the 
 natural limits. Yet evil is the hour in which 
 these natural physical attractions are mistaken 
 
22 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 for love in its wholeness. If one acts on such 
 supposition and binds himself in the marriage 
 relatipn to one thus attractive, then indeed is 
 he sowing seeds which are apt not only to 
 bring lifetime regrets, but may entail upon 
 others suffering and trouble almost without 
 end. The offspring of such marriages are in 
 most cases coarse in nature, the inferior of 
 either parent. They are animal children. 
 They are cursed, cheated of their birthright, 
 for every human brought into the world has 
 the right to be born of love, not of passion. 
 
 The physical ideas which prevail to-day, 
 combined with the selfishness of the flesh, 
 have caused the making of marriage laws 
 binding for life. The claim is that the old 
 Mosaic law should be enforced, and that 
 divorce should be granted only for the one 
 cause, adultery. Themselves living but in the 
 flesh they see but one reading of that law — 
 adultery of the flesh. Whereas, adui^ery may 
 be of the mind or soul. Alas to say it, the 
 Christian church has encouraged the Mosaic 
 reading. Behold the result of this legal and 
 theological perversion of scripture ! Behold 
 a spectacle so sad that angels might weep 
 thereat, a spectacle in evidence wherever the 
 thinker turns his eyes ! We see the spectacle 
 of people bound together by law and divided 
 in soul, in mind, everything save the one rela- 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 23 
 
 tionship, and that often becomes repulsive. 
 Thousands of children are born outside of 
 love ; could any fate be more terrible ? When 
 the true bread of life — love — is asked and 
 expected, they receive the husks of animal 
 love from the serpent of sensuality. Thus is 
 life made wretched, though each may struggle 
 bravely to live up to the false standard of 
 duty. For it is false when it teaches that 
 man's legal, self-assumed authority is superior 
 to, and should be obeyed rather than, God's 
 perfect law of love, of perfect union. Man 
 might enact a law to the effect that fire and 
 water should live together, wed, unite, and to 
 enforce the law he might compel them to stay 
 together ; but would there be any union ? 
 The water might extinguish the fire or the 
 fire cause the water to evaporate as steam, but 
 would that be union ? The marriage cere- 
 mony represents the law, legislative or eccle- 
 siastical, and often the man and woman repre- 
 sent the fire and water which no amount of 
 ceremony or law can unite. Physical love 
 perhaps becomes depolarized and soon finds 
 satiety, then if there is no higher love repulsion 
 follows, disgust and often hatred, and life 
 becomes a burden. Under such circumstances, 
 to bring a young life into the world is 
 to give it poorer equipment for its future 
 duties than have the beasts of the field for 
 
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 their's. For, graven upon their very souls is 
 the brand of Ishmael. ( Sara was a free woman 
 who of choice was a wife, Isaac, the "child of 
 promise" and the ''chosen seed of Israel," was 
 the child of the free Sara. Hagar, the bond- 
 woman, the wife of compulsion, of the flesh 
 only, mothers the hating, hated Ishmael. ) The 
 society or church which teaches the doctrine 
 of the mere flesh marriage as right, as the will 
 of God, blasphemes the holy name of God, of 
 Love. God has written upon the heart of 
 woman a law, the heeding of which would save 
 us from this fearful spectacle of accursed 
 birth. Let every woman seek it out and obey 
 it, that her children may arise and call her 
 blessed, being the children of love, and there- 
 fore lovely. 
 
 If you will observe those of your neighbors 
 who married generally late in life, and whose 
 minds were in consequence more mature and 
 who were attracted to each other by mental 
 similarities or attainments, you will see that 
 as a rule the companionship is continued much 
 longer in life, frequently all through it. Their 
 enjoyments are of a higher order and capable 
 of continued growth. The discussion of litera- 
 ture, current events, of history, music and art, 
 are not in themselves things of which we 
 readily tire when once we have learned to 
 appreciate them. The value of every new 
 
SHOU,LD WOMAN OBEY? 25 
 
 book is doubled if to our own perusal we can 
 count upon its discussion with an equally 
 appreciative mind, and all branches of mutual 
 activity are intensified by intelligent compan- 
 ionship. Intellectuality, however, is but one 
 side of the human character triangle, and it 
 alone would be insufficient for the needs of 
 life. Of what profit would the gigantic intel- 
 lect of a Shakespeare or an Emerson prove 
 without a sufficiently strong physique to uphold 
 it ? So we must remember that while the ani- 
 mal must not rule, yet it is the base of the tri- 
 angle upon which to build the perfect char- 
 acter. We should keep ever present the 
 thought that life is given us on purpose that 
 we may build this perfect character, this equal- 
 sided triangle of body, mind and spirit. Phys- 
 ical beauty is as really true beauty and as 
 necessary as intellectual beauty, but one can- 
 not truly exist without the other. Intellect 
 alone is like sculpture; it may be perfect in 
 form and outline, yet if it have not the life of 
 the soul, the warmth of the bounding blood, it 
 cannot truly represent life. The beautiful 
 allegory of Pygmalion and Galatea, which 
 represents the power of Love as able to warm 
 the cold and soulless marble statue into life 
 and love, might truly represent the power of 
 love to awaken the coldly intellectual nature 
 into a realization of the higher beauty and 
 
26 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 perfection of soul love. Soul love is that per- 
 fection of love which enables one to seek 
 another's good rather than the benefits of self. 
 It is the ennobling feeling which enables the 
 true husband to banish mere animal desires 
 that the loved companion may live a purer 
 and happier life thereby. It is the spiritual- 
 izing power, the completion of the triangle 
 which perfects the character. Yet this lovely 
 blossom is a tender thing; it cannot endure 
 the fiery heat of sensual animality, nor can it 
 live in the freezing atmosphere of the cold 
 intellect. The character which results from 
 the even blending of the spiritual, mental and 
 physical natures is a perfect character, the 
 isosceles triangle, the even balance of nature's 
 basic red, blue and yellow. Acting upon the 
 universal law that "like likes like," this per- 
 fection of Nature would attract unto itself an 
 equally perfect nature. You may exclaim, 
 ,' But there are so few of such natures." True, 
 but Nature constantly seeks balance and equi- 
 librium, so in proportion to the shortcomings 
 of character will the attractions be. Suppose 
 you are attracted only by physical develop- 
 ment or the beauty of flesh and blood; is it 
 not evident that you are tending toward the 
 sensual, and that you are blind to mental and 
 spiritual beauty ? Or, suppose you are unable 
 to perceive any beauty in the rosy cheek and 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 27 
 
 rounded form, neither is there any conscious- 
 ness of beauty for you in the soft touch and 
 tender eye which speaks from the awakened 
 soul. You may be drawn only to the one who 
 with ready wit flashes brilliant repartee into 
 the conversation, or with steady thought can 
 make clear to you some knotty question of 
 logic, thus bespeaking the large and active 
 brain. Watch ! for you may be in danger of 
 mental leprosy. Again, suppose you discover 
 no beauty, nothing to admire in body or brain, 
 in mental accomplishment or physical perfec- 
 tion ; spirituality alone will warrant the dis- 
 cussion of your religious views, and to you the 
 consideration of religious subjects is the only 
 thing worth your while. Beware ! are you not 
 nearing the border line of fanaticism ? The 
 fanatic, the agnostic and the sensualist are 
 not characters after which we would wish to 
 model. Yet we can surely measure our own 
 shortcomings by the degree of influence which 
 each exerts over us, and the errors in our own 
 character being thus discovered, we ought at 
 once to rectify them. 
 
 God has written the records of the world's 
 geological history in the rocks, in its soil, in 
 its hills and in its plains. Everywhere the 
 observer may see the writing of God clearly 
 telling the events of the past, the probabilities 
 of the present, and the possibilities of the 
 
28 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 future. So in our own bodies do we find tVe 
 divine record of what we have been, what we 
 are, and what we may become. The student 
 of geology who explores the coal fields and 
 then writes a record of pre-historic age, has 
 but read God's record as written in the earth's 
 strata, and re-written it in our language so 
 that we may understand. We do not for a 
 moment presume to call him superstitious or 
 lacking in common sense. Why, then, is the 
 palmist, the phrenologist, the astrologer or 
 mystic any more deserving of such contempt ? 
 They are students of man and but seeking the 
 true key to God's record as written all over 
 man's body. The power which can create a 
 wonderfully subtle force, and give to man 
 sufficient intelligence to utilize it in sending 
 messages from one end of the earth to the 
 other, is sufficiently great to establish a minute 
 telegraphic system throughout the human 
 body, and by means of the nerve fluid to stamp 
 its dots and dashes as a record of the life in 
 the lines and creases of the hand or face, so 
 that the student of human nature may cor- 
 rectly tell us what we are and what we may 
 become. Why need we suppose the phrenol- 
 ogist, the student of the head, the brain and 
 its workings, is any more superstitious than is 
 the student of materialistic physiology ? Is 
 not his science founded on the all-inclusive 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 29 
 
 law of vibration ? Even the scientist will tell 
 you that all is vibration and that vibratory law 
 explains all. In following out even superfi- 
 cially these different branches of the study of 
 man, the student is often amazed to discover 
 how perfectly the one corroborates the other. 
 For example : one comes to us and asks, 
 ''What do you see in my hand?" We look 
 and see the mount of Venus very large and 
 red and hot, and the headline more than half 
 way up the hand, and we know that here the 
 animal propensities rule and the flesh domi- 
 nates the mind. We look up and see the 
 lower back head large and full, the neck fat 
 and red. We turn to the pages of Phrenology 
 and read, "The animal propensities are situ- 
 ated at the base of the brain." We ask the 
 date of birth, and picking up an Astrology we 
 read of planetary polarities tending to animal 
 selfishness, and we feel within ourselves the 
 mysterious sense of repulsion which one intui- 
 tively has for the sensualist. Can reason 
 doubt all these corroborative evidences ? But 
 what has this to do with love ? It has all to 
 do with it. If you know not yourself, your 
 shortcomings and virtues, how can you seek 
 the attainment of perfect character ? If you 
 yourself are not relatively evenly balanced, 
 how can you hope to attract the love of an 
 even, lovely character ? The perfect love life 
 
30 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 awaits us all, but how can the sweet and timid 
 voice of the soul be heard if we bury our 
 natures in pleasures of the flesh or intellect ? 
 There are few persons who are safe guides 
 for themselves. This is impossible amid the 
 noise and din of society. The restless world 
 requires solitude and repose. The perfect 
 man of Galilee knew well the occult law of 
 silence, and the sacred record makes frequent 
 mention of Him as seeking solitude, the 
 silence, and his own company. 
 
 Women are trained from infancy to more 
 sexual self-control and restraint, and their 
 lives are generally retired and quiet, hence 
 this intuitional voice of conscience or the God 
 within is heard with more clearness and fre- 
 quency by them than by more animal man. 
 Here one of the unwritten laws of custom steps 
 in and in love affairs makes it almost impos- 
 sible for a woman to always obey the voice of 
 the soul. A woman of pure life and thought 
 can almost invariably know when she meets 
 the exact counterpart of herself. Yet custom 
 seals her lips on the grounds that woman 
 should be sought. If this soul love was a ques- 
 tion of will power, this law of custom might 
 be perfectly right, but it is not. The soul 
 transcends the will, and when with the eyes of 
 purity and intuition the seer perceives its 
 mate, then does it become a paramount duty 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 3I 
 
 not only to one's self, but to the other, to call 
 out in the unmistakable language which is 
 always understood ; and this whether the seer, 
 the perceiver, be a man or woman. Many a 
 life has been blighted, mayhap ruined, by this 
 conventionality. Let us get beyond the mate- 
 rialistic age of the world and rise superior to 
 its conceptions, knowing that soul love may 
 exist between persons of opposite sexes with- 
 out any consideration of the physical planes 
 of love, even as physical love may exist with- 
 out a breath of the pure soul love. This 
 pure and lofty feeling is the Platonic love so 
 much derided, and may be, often is, the first 
 step toward the realization of the perfect 
 triune love of the being for its mate. 
 
 There are times in every life v/hen every 
 atom of the entire being cries out for love, 
 and such a cry can meet with perfect response 
 only in those perfect marriages wherein every 
 atom from the most ethereal soul atoms to the 
 grossest physical is in tune with the corres- 
 ponding atoms of its mate. Does the soul 
 meet with spiritual experiences and joys ? 
 then there is the ready response and sympathy 
 from its twin soul. Does the intellect find 
 pleasure and enjoyment in the perusal of a 
 new book, the contemplation of a work of art, 
 or the sweet harmonies of music? then res- 
 ponsive chords are struck in the twin mind 
 
32 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 and enjoyment of the pleasure is complete. 
 Does the body cry out for the kiss of love, or 
 the touch of devotion ? then in its opposite 
 mate is the assured response ; all making life 
 a melodious harmony, a complete realization 
 of God's divine law of life, the law of Love. 
 In such marriages the words, "What God hath 
 joined together let not man put asunder" 
 would prove superfluous. What God hath 
 joined together in true spiritual marriage man 
 could not, try he ever so hard, put asunder. 
 He might interpose prison bars and physical 
 separation, yet would not God's work endure ? 
 For the soul is ever in spirit true to its mate, 
 and thither w^ould the thoughts turn, and 
 according to the laws of thought — that subtle 
 and powerful agent of God — though the diam- 
 eter of the globe separate them, yet would 
 Love unerringly draw to its side its own. 
 "Ah!" you exclaim, "such is impossible." 
 Not so ; it is impossible only so far as we our- 
 selves make it impossible. God did not design 
 that our lives' should be imperfect, but rather 
 did He enfold within our being all the possi- 
 bilities of the perfect life, and to each one is 
 given the ability even on this earth to develop 
 those possibilities and blossom into perfect 
 manhood, perfect womanhood, even as the 
 little -black seed dropped into the stagnant 
 green water, having the power within and the 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 33 
 
 ability to use the power, will in time evidence 
 itself to us as the spotless and lovely lily float- 
 ing above the stagnation around it. Shall not 
 we be as wise as the lily ? Let us aspire to 
 perfection, and by heeding the voice of the 
 guide within we may at least — try! 
 
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CHAPTER III. 
 
 SEX PERVERSIONS. — THE MAD HUNT FOR HAPPI- 
 NESS. — THE RACE THOUGHT. — PHYSICAL NE- 
 CESSITY. 
 
 We hear that the lust of gold and the lust 
 of the flesh have well nigh destroyed our 
 nation. We accept it as a fact, and immedi- 
 ately proceed to add our unconditional con- 
 demnation. How many of us pause and seek 
 out the cause of this lust ? Born in every 
 heart is a tiny germ principle which is finally 
 to force us on to the attainment of perfection. 
 This is what Emerson terms "the love of the 
 best." We ordinary mortals call it the desire 
 for happiness. From this tiny seed springs 
 every effort. Spurred by its stings and long- 
 ings we taste of this pleasure and that desire 
 in the fond hope that some draught will prove 
 perfect — the elixir of happiness. Do we found 
 schools, do we build churches, do we establish 
 new governments, do we wed and rear lovely 
 children, do we pour the burning liquor down 
 the longing throat, do we burn the midnight 
 lamp in earnest study of ancient and modern 
 
 34 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY? 35 
 
 lore, do we ferret into the hidden mysteries of 
 Nature in her occult laboratories, seeking to 
 chain the lightning or guide the flood, do we 
 license houses of corruption, wherein the 
 unwary may barter away even their very souls, 
 do we compass the globe, seeking new sights 
 and faces, do we explore the stars and calcu- 
 late their weight and size, do we turn to the 
 sun and count the spots upon his fiery face, do 
 we dig into the earth and, examining her rocky 
 teeth, tell her age, do we plant the seed and 
 watch it grow, do we establish laws and courts, 
 do we weary of it all and crash a bullet into 
 the puzzled brain, or patiently lie down upon 
 the couch and in pain await the call of the 
 grim messenger who severs the cord binding 
 body and spirit ? Whatever we do there lies 
 behind every act one universal cause, the mad 
 longing for happiness. When we consider 
 this unpleasant subject of sex perversions it 
 should ever be with the thought in our minds, 
 that however soiled our brother or sister may 
 seem to be, however corrupt or depraved, they 
 have become so from the same cause which 
 prompts us to reach out a helping hand and 
 lift them out of their error, with this differ- 
 ence : they have mistaken their path and are 
 traveling on the wrong road. Let us remem- 
 ber, too, that he who is farthest down in the 
 valley is the one who, had he been faced about 
 
36 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY? 
 
 in the right direction, would have been high- 
 est up the mountain, mayhap away above us- 
 That which we choose to term his depravity 
 is but the perverted action of this principle 
 which should produce only pleasure, should 
 result only in good. We know that no one 
 would deliberately and knowingly do himself 
 injury, hence we know that all depravity has 
 its foundation in ignorance. From its sim- 
 plest to its most debasing form, ignorance is 
 its cause. Does the little brother pull his 
 sister's hair, or the sister make faces at the 
 brother, does the youth befoul his mouth with 
 profane language, does the deceiver smoothly 
 teH his falsehood, does the robber break in 
 and steal, does the hater kill his enemy, does 
 the flesh nail love, and truth, and purity upon 
 the cross ? Of them all let us say with the 
 gentle Brother of old: "Good Lord forgive 
 them, they know not what they do!" If in 
 our movements of reform we held this thought 
 in mind, it would take from our words and 
 deeds the coldness of heartless condemnation, 
 and temper them with a broad charity which 
 is but another name for Love. Love is God 
 and God is Life ; hence Love is active or lat- 
 ent in every living creature and may be 
 reached. By reaching the love principle 
 within we stir into activity the higher nature, 
 and thus may we really help in the only true 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 37 
 
 way of helping, i. c, by helping others to help 
 themselves. In chapter first we saw that sex 
 is division, the separation of the perfect Being. 
 into parts, the creating of Adam and Eve, the 
 establishing of the masculine and femmine 
 principles. Sex belongs to the physical man ; 
 the mental and spiritual man also has sex. • 
 The claim is often made that mind has no sex, 
 but we believe we can satisfactorily prove 
 otherwise. Brain is the organ of the mind. 
 Brain is physical development common to 
 both sexes, as are hands or feet. The hands 
 and feet of woman differ from those of men. 
 As a rule those of men are much larger than 
 those of women. Often, too, the latter are 
 softer and more delicate, but would it be log- 
 ical to say that because of this difference in 
 size or texture that hands or feet are of them- 
 selves masculine or feminine ? No more than 
 are brains in themselves masculine or feminine. 
 Being a physical development the brain is 
 influenced by the nature of the soil which 
 develops it. It may and generally does be- 
 come tinged, colored or biased by the physical 
 sex of the owner. Both masculine and femi- 
 nine principles are represented within each 
 sex, as they both spring from one and the 
 same cause-law. The life habits and thoughts 
 leave their stamp upon the brain. We often 
 hear this, or that faculty of the mind called 
 
38 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 feminine or masculine. Intuition is generally 
 called a feminine faculty ; calculation or the 
 mathematical faculty, masculine. Our best 
 and smartest men are highly intuitional, and 
 wornen students often excel men students in 
 mathematics ? So with other mental powers ; 
 they may be called masculine and feminine, 
 but in themselves the faculties are without sex, 
 being only more developed in the one sex 
 than the other. Masculine or feminine are 
 but representative of the predominating tend- 
 encies and combinations. For ages it has 
 been held that woman had no need for math- 
 ematical knowledge or development, hence 
 only men were trained in calculation. Women 
 were expected to be more religious and pure. 
 Much effort was exercised in their religious 
 training. So with them such faculties as ven- 
 eration, conscience, etc., reached a higher state 
 of development than in the case of men who 
 lacked such training. Sex as ordinarily under- 
 stood is given for the purpose of procreation — 
 nothing else ! 1 he lungs are organs complete 
 in each person and need no co-o[)erative pair 
 of lungs to do their work. The heart in each 
 one is able unaided to keep the blood circu- 
 lating. The brain can do its thinking without 
 the help of another brain. Each and every 
 physical organ can attend to its work unaided 
 by any outsider, except the organs of procre- 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 39 
 
 atlon ; they alone are unoperative without 
 help. Nature believes in specialists, and she 
 educates the organs only in their special work. 
 She teaches them not to shirk their legitimate 
 business, but to stand up for their rights and 
 refuse to do more than their just tasks. The 
 digestive organs will attend to their grinding, 
 pulverizing and assimilating processes without 
 murmur, but begin to overfeed and gormand- 
 ize, and soon you will find them in a state of 
 rebellion, and yourself uncomfortable. The 
 lungs draw in and expel just enough air not 
 to breathe too much ; the Heart does its work 
 with regularity and precision — a beat out of 
 time would be resented. We laud Nature's 
 handiwork and point out her governmental 
 wisdom as long as her plans do not clash with 
 our own desires. She would not be so unjust 
 as to expect the heart to breathe, the lungs to 
 think nor the brain to digest the food, neither 
 is it Nature's desire that man should prostitute 
 and abuse his highest powers, those of procre- 
 ation, by compelling them to waste their pur- 
 ity and force In channels of dissipation, rather 
 than to conserve the strength of manhood and 
 give of their strength only for their legitimate 
 work, the work of generation. Here man 
 rebels against Nature's benefic law, and like a 
 perverse and foolish child declares, "I shall 
 use my body as I desire." In consequence, 
 
40 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 illegitimate work is put upon those delicate 
 organs, and the nation has become one of sex- 
 ual dyspeptics. 'Tis said that the true art of 
 healing rests upon the principle of removal of 
 the cause of disease. Does the world follow 
 this true principle in dealing with sexual dis- 
 orders ? Read the newspapers and wonder at 
 man's ingenuity in inventing remedies ( ?) Go 
 to the average practitioner and hear him des- 
 cant upon the physical necessities of man's 
 life Does this seem logical when we know 
 that the cause is abuse, over activity ? Remove 
 the cause and the cure is assured. 
 
 Vainly does man believe that gratification 
 of his desires will bring the longed-for boon — 
 happiness. Does it ? Does it ever conduce 
 to his physical content ? So long has he re- 
 belled against Nature's way that now he claims 
 her just and reasonable law is not her law at 
 all, but that his desire, kindled by an inflamed 
 passion, should be Nature's avenue to the 
 work of generation. We find learned men, 
 and even scientists, so blinded by the flesh 
 that the claim is made that man's animal pas- 
 sions should always have gratification, that its 
 suppression is conducive of ill health and dis- 
 ease of many kinds. Man has reiterated this 
 claim so often and so long that he has really 
 convinced himself of its truth. He really 
 believes that his animal passions should not 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 4I 
 
 be directed away from the low plane of sexual 
 indulgence per se, but should have constant 
 gratification. This has led up to another 
 claim, debasing and humiliating to the race. 
 It is embodied in the few words, " Men have 
 no need "to be sexually pure!" Pause and 
 consider them — blasphemous slander on the 
 justice of God that they are — words so far- 
 reaching in evil effects that surely they were 
 coined by the ingenuity of the evil one him- 
 self ; words so far from truth, from God, that 
 he who believes them can not realize God; 
 words which insult true manhood; words 
 which we blush to put upon our page, and 
 would not were it not with the prayer that 
 some one seeing them thus in their naked 
 deformity might fully realize their outrageous 
 falsity. This monstrous belief has fastened 
 its clutch upon men and (alas to say it!) upon 
 woman with such force that it tinges and dis- 
 torts our laws, and blinds and corrupts those 
 in high places. It breathes its poisonous 
 breath upon the rising generation, thereby 
 dwarfing and debasing it. It throws the cloak 
 of license around the house of shame, and 
 thus lawfully entices the unwary to dishonor. 
 It plants the dagger of despair into the heart 
 of many a weeping wife. It steals the man- 
 hood from many a promising youth, and it 
 robs many a child of the priceless boon of 
 
42 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ^ 
 
 health. It robs the cheek of the fresh roses 
 of youth and paints thereon instead the pallor' 
 of disease. It is the very antipodes of God, 
 of Love, and it is a ruling belief of this day 
 and generation. It has become a race thought ! 
 There is no need, when we view the blasting 
 and far-reaching influence of this particuhir 
 race thought, to speak of the power of racial 
 thought for good or evil. Had this mighty 
 tide of influence, of power, of thought been 
 turned into channels of purity and noble 
 endeavor, where might our race stand to-day ? 
 The highest peaks and loftiest promontories 
 of Truth itself might ere now have been 
 scaled, and man have proved himself a very 
 lord of creation! Yet behold him, still in the 
 valley of sensuality, chained there by this mis- 
 taken thought. The black clouds of despair 
 float above and around him, and the lurid 
 flash of passion makes the darkness doubly 
 visible. The path to self-mastery has been 
 barred by this abominable teaching that man 
 need not and cannot master himself! If he 
 cannot rule himself, why should he hope to 
 rule others? And just here we observe man's 
 wonderful ingenuity in carrying out his own 
 desires. He has called upon the M. Ds., the 
 theologians and the legal fraternity to help 
 him to establish this right to a life of impurity, 
 and with his characteristic animal desire to 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 43 
 
 boss and possess, he vociferates loudly and 
 calls in these same helpers to assist him in 
 pointing out the great need of purity in 
 woman ! God hasten the day when it shall be 
 seen in its truQ light as equally heinous, 
 equally debasing in man ! 
 
 Ostensibly a monogamous nation, we really 
 are secrectly polygamous. Is stealing a sin in 
 man and not in woman ? Is lying a sin in man 
 and not in woman ? Is murder, too, a question 
 of pants and petticoats ? If man has a right 
 to sex one sin why not sex all ? He wants his 
 wife to be his absolutely, yet he himself must 
 be free to live as he pleases! In obedience 
 to this thought (another race thought) mil- 
 lions of woman are yearly swearing to obey 
 their husbands, and they are expected to keep 
 their oath, while the husband merely promises 
 to "love and protect." He loves as little or 
 as much as he pleases, and he protects as lit- 
 tle as he pleases, even from himself. Were 
 the records truly written, were physicians 
 boldly to tell the truth, the number of v/oman 
 who yearly go down to their graves on account 
 of sexual wrongs would appall the stoutest 
 heart. Wherever there is suffering we may 
 knovz that sin lieth at the door, and sin is the 
 breaking of the law— not man's law, but God's 
 law. And the woman, married or single, who 
 suffers from any of the. numberless sex dis- 
 
44 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 orders has as truly sinned, broken God's sex 
 laws as has the pitiful prostitute. God doesn't 
 respect legal enactments or marriage cere- 
 monies. Why does man insist that his wife 
 "submit" to him in season and out of season, 
 and that her body belongs to him ? Why 
 does he enact laws to license and shield im- 
 morality ? Why does he insist upon one moral 
 code for himself and another for his sister ? 
 Because he will not learn to master himself. 
 Because he thinks happiness is reached by 
 doing what he desires to do, not at all by living 
 under the law. As long as he sings out the 
 claim, "I can't control my passions!" he is a 
 child, not a man. What a sight for the admir- 
 ation of gods and women! Claiming mental 
 and physical superiority he demands of 
 "weak"(?) woman that which he can't do! 
 Like a cowardly whipped cur he hides behind 
 a petticoat and says he can't be otherwise 
 because Dame Nature made him so! How 
 can the good men and true of the world 
 quietly sit with such a foul slander resting 
 upon the name of manhood ? Let us whisper 
 to you the truth : he who fails to control him- 
 self his whole life, fails because he does not 
 will^o to do. Not only does history hand us 
 down bright examples of manly purity, but 
 there are men living among us to-day, men of 
 strong physique and brilliant minds, who in 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 45 
 
 their daily lives are a noble refutation to the 
 monstrous lie, and prove conclusively that^ 
 impurity is not a physical necessity to man. 
 What man has done man may do ! — you may 
 do ! As far as you fail, so far do you fall short 
 of the mark of true manhood. A wise man 
 ages ago gave to the world this truth: ''As a 
 man thinketh so is he." And nowhere is it 
 proved more clearly to be true than in ques- 
 tions of sex life and sex control. 
 
 Do you know what thought is — that won- 
 derful occult power which we cannot see, nor 
 hear, nor handle, nor smell, nor taste ? But 
 how we can feel its force! Bring the lofty- 
 minded, noble student into contact with a vile 
 denizen of a gambling den, and though no 
 word is spoken, immediately the latter is 
 abashed and confused, or mayhap angered, 
 while the other experiences a feeling of repul- 
 sion. Why ? Thought has, without* words, 
 told to each the nature of the other. If forced 
 to remain in contact nature would try to bal- 
 ance their differences, to lift the mind of the 
 one toward the level of the other, and to draw 
 the higher down to the plane of the lower. 
 Thus it is with this race thought we have been 
 talking about. Man cheats himself by think- 
 ing he can be impure himself and keep woman 
 pure. Can half of the apple be rotten and yet 
 the whole be sound ? No, certainly not, be- 
 
46 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY? 
 
 cause half of it is rotten. Man satisfies him- 
 self by assuming that woman can preserve the 
 purity of the race and practice the religion of 
 the family — both good things, — but he don't 
 want the responsibility of them on general 
 principles. Can she fulfill his expectations ? 
 When she can re-people the world without 
 man's help, then, and not till then, can her 
 efforts alone suffice to keep the stream of life 
 undcfiled. Woman may preserve her physi- 
 cal purity, but this imponderable thought on 
 impure relations, as long as held by man, will 
 reach her, and though no word be spoken, the 
 effect is there to drag her down, down to meet 
 the masculine thought. And thus the whole 
 lump, the entire race, is leavened with this 
 vile thing — impure thought. This is strongly 
 exemplified by the fact that women by thous- 
 ands believe in this abominable doctrine of 
 physical necessity for men, and by the fact 
 that great numbers of physically pure girls 
 suffer with all sorts of complaints peculiar to 
 women. "What has that to do with it ?" you 
 ask. Let us see. What is sex perversion ? 
 It consists of an over-activity or abnormal 
 passivity of the sex functions. The normal 
 activity of sex in girlhood should be such that 
 the monthly period would not be a sickness, 
 nor attended by pain nor loss of force, but 
 simply the act of nature in throwing off refuse 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 47 
 
 matter. Are girls generally thus normal? 
 We belive that in not one case out of a hun- 
 dred will they be found only normally active. 
 So hollow-eyed girls suffer on and make the 
 doctors rich. What has caused this perver- 
 sion, this dis-esise ? Physically the life is cor- 
 rect ; then why should suffering, the penalty 
 of sin, exist here ? It comes from the mind 
 through the accepted thought. The feminine 
 mind has unconsciously imbibed, become im- 
 pregnated by, the impurity of masculine 
 thought, and the effect is evidenced by physi- 
 cal sickness. The thought has contracted 
 other impure thoughts of sexuality, else there 
 would be no weakness, no loss of force, no 
 sickness ; the sex life would be normal. Thus 
 do men cheat themselves when they try to 
 shirk their own duties and responsibilities. 
 It is not without cause that mothers instinc- 
 tively seek to shield their daughters from 
 association with the morally corrupt: Though 
 the spoken word may be absolutely unques- 
 tionable, yet the vitiating thought reaches the 
 pure mind, and it may blast and scorch and 
 wither the innocent one who knows not how 
 to repel. We do not make the claim that men 
 are naturally worse than women. We claim 
 that each is born with a certain number of 
 faculties; some may be developed, others 
 neglected, or all cultivated. You may tell a 
 
48 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 baby that he cannot walk ; that if he tries he 
 will fall. As you insist on carrying him around, 
 the poor little legs have no opportunity to be- 
 come strong by exercise ; and until he sees for 
 himself that what other children do he may 
 do also, and thus break through your rule, he 
 never will walk. This is true of any and all 
 faculties of the mind. They may be develop- 
 ed or allowed to wither by inaction. Women 
 have so long been told that they had little or 
 no sense, that naturally in trying to live down 
 to that thought they have gone a long way 
 toward proving it to be true ; so that, in this 
 the nineteenth century, we hear of all man's 
 wonderful discoveries the greatest and most 
 bewildering is his discovery of woman! The 
 truth is, she is only just breaking from under 
 man's hypnotic sway, his desire to rule and to 
 boss, and is proving not only to him but to 
 herself as well that she can reason and calcu- 
 late if she will to do so. Man has been told 
 by every preceding generation, which mayhap 
 has had its own sins to excuse and varnish 
 over, that manhod necessitates the abnormal 
 development of the animal passions. He has 
 lived right down to that level and he is still 
 enclosed within this shell of ''physical necess- 
 ity." The attentive listener may hear the 
 occasional "cheap, cheap" of the chick within, 
 and in the fullness of time we may confidently 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 49 
 
 expect to see the new man, the free man, the 
 pure man burst forth in all the glory of new- 
 found strength and freedom of selfhood. 
 Under his feet will be the cast-off race thought, 
 the outgrown beliefs of sensual indulgence, 
 and written on his lofty brow and in his firm 
 yet loving glance will be the motto of success, 
 *'/ will be what I will to be f' 
 
CHAPTER IV. 
 
 man's ideal of woman. 
 
 Said a preacher to his people, *"Tis a wise 
 and blessed thing that all men are not alike ; 
 if they were you would all want my wife." 
 Whereupon a witty deacon arose and replied, 
 *' Yes, brother, truly it is a blessed thing, for if 
 we were all alike nobody would have your 
 wife, but all would want mi7ie!' Thus it is 
 that each one is so engrossed in the contem- 
 plation of his own ideal that he cannot see 
 why the whole world should not see as he does, 
 and perceive with clearness its beauties and 
 virtues even as he does. Nature ever aims at 
 the "golden medium" of equilibrium, of bal- 
 ance ; so it is not strange that to her one-sided 
 children she gives a discriminative power 
 which will give to the family the sought-for 
 balance. We wonder why the spiritual, benev- 
 olent little woman should be readily wooed 
 and won by the fiery man of passion or the 
 dissipated drunkard ; why the blue-eyed blonde 
 and the black-eyed brunette should be so 
 attracted to each other; why the tall stripling 
 
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SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 5 1 
 
 and the laughing, dumpy Miss Dimple are so 
 frequently found together; why — well, there 
 is no end to our why's and our wonder at the 
 many peculiar phases of human nature. Yet 
 every attraction, however peculiar it may seem, 
 is in accordance with Nature's unvarying rules. 
 As deeply as she stamped upon the spirit of 
 the water the law, ''seek thou thine own level," 
 so has she stamped upon the heart of man 
 this same law of balance of seeking his level. 
 Man's individual level, the point of equipoise, 
 would be found only in the development of the 
 perfect character wherein soul, mind and body 
 were in accord, the one never infringing upon 
 the rights of the other. 
 
 There is much said about the ideal oneness 
 of married life, but we find that those who 
 have most to say about this oneness are the 
 ones who have least realization of the ideal. 
 They grasp at the ideal and bend it down to 
 subserve their own selfish aims. ''We two 
 are one, and that one is Me!' This is their 
 ideal of the oneness of married life. It is not 
 oneness nor union at all, but simply a crushing 
 down of the one for the selfish gratification of 
 the other. When reading history you will, if 
 you keep this point in mind, be startled at the 
 uniformity with which this idea has been car- 
 ried out by the entire race; and then if you 
 turn your observation toward current history 
 
52 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY? 
 
 as it is being evolved in our own homes and 
 those of our neighbors, you will perceive that 
 marriage as a rule tends to the crushing of the 
 one for the upbuilding of the other. Endur- 
 ance of tyranny develops the tyrant, while 
 true upbuilding of human character excludes 
 all forms of tyranny and includes the power 
 of self-mastery. If we could find one perfect 
 character, one in which mind, body and soul 
 were equally developed, we would have to 
 search the wide world carefully over to find a 
 mate for such an one, for perfect union would 
 necessitate another character equally perfect 
 in development. Accordingly as we vary from 
 this perfect character will our ideals and 
 attractions vary. A woman who is the quint- 
 essence of loveliness, the perfection of female 
 beauty in the eyes of one man, may be abso- 
 lutely unattractive, even repulsive to another. 
 The difference cannot be in the woman, it 
 must be in the ideals of the two men. 
 
 The height of civilization which a nation 
 has reached may be accurately measured by 
 the ideal standard of womanhood, of female 
 excellence. The naked savage who does his 
 courting by means of a knock-down blow, and 
 his caressing by dragging his bride to his tent 
 by the hair of her head, thereby betrays his 
 ideals. Female perfection in his eyes is sub- 
 mission — manly perfection consists in brute 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY? 53 
 
 force. The nation which locks the halls of 
 learning upon its daughters says to the world, 
 *'Our ideal of female beauty does not include 
 intellect ; our wives must know how to cook 
 and sew and sweep; intellect is for man!" 
 Such nation would be the first to claim that> 
 women are born with little or no mind. The' 
 country which forbids a "man to beat his wife 
 with a stick larger than his thumb" reveals its 
 extreme want of wisdom and justice, and says 
 very plainly, " We know women must be kept 
 in subjection, but not by such brutal measures ; 
 we ourselves have too much manhood to tyran- 
 nize over others just because we have the 
 power, so we will be better to our woman than 
 our law-makers are in the older countries, and, 
 while a man may of course beat his wife and 
 humiliate her and bend her to his will, yet it 
 must be with an instrument which cannot per- 
 manently injure her." That country has 
 grown and is still growing, and its growth is 
 nowhere more manifest than in its change of 
 ideas concerning justice between the sexes. 
 The American who to-day would so far forget 
 himself as to strike his wife would be dropped 
 in decent social circles, and it would give her 
 legal cause for divorce. There was so much 
 room for growth, such a limitless field for 
 development in this line of advancement, that 
 we are yet far from reaching the level of jus- 
 
54 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 tice, and the individual man still has many 
 opportunities at hand for humiliating his wife, 
 many avenues of crushing her spirit. 
 
 Certain laws which stand upon our statute 
 books to-day represent the ideals of several 
 generations back. That the voters and law- 
 makers have not repealed them is a stain upon 
 their manhood and a travesty upon their 
 sense of justice. Be it said to their honor, 
 American men as a rule live far in advance of 
 their laws in regard to women. Few men 
 would take from their wives their earnings, 
 but in some states they have the legal right to 
 all she makes. An ideal has been set up that 
 man should go out into the world and earn 
 the living, while woman shall stay at home 
 and keep the house, raise the children, etc. 
 Now, that ideal may be, we think it is, the 
 correct one; but why should there be any 
 attempt at legal enforcement of an ideal ? 
 When property laws are enacted, giving to 
 man as against woman any advantage; when 
 it is often impossible for women to earn a liv- 
 ing at a work which would pay a man well ; 
 when the wife finds that her interest in accum- 
 ulated property is only nominal ; when the 
 hard-working wage earner finds that her brute 
 husband has the Ic^al right to take her week's 
 earnings, and with it her clothes, food and 
 shelter for herself and maybe helpless children 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 55 
 
 also, and use them to buy liquor for his own 
 indulgence — they, one and all, prove that there 
 is "something rotten in Denmark" — or, rather, 
 in America. What is that something ? It is 
 the corrupt and nation-destroying idea that 
 woman should be bodily dependent upon man. 
 " Women ought to marry, hence we will enact 
 laws that will make it to their advantage to 
 marry," said a good man but not a very deep 
 thinker. What is the nature of those laws ? 
 Not to place the premium upon marriage by 
 compelling men to be so just and kind and 
 considerate to their wives that ^// women shall 
 desire to marry, but rather such as to make it 
 almost impossible for a woman to earn an 
 honest living, so much so that many find but 
 one road possible — prostitution either in mar- 
 riage or out, and one is as degrading as the 
 other. Yes, woman ought to marry when they 
 want to marry, never before. There is but 
 one reasonable and just grounds for marriage — 
 love ; and Nature whispers Love's secrets to 
 each heart when it is ready for them. Man is 
 very quick to cry out that woman is taking 
 his legitimate work from him, but he himself 
 has to a large extent taken the premium off 
 marriage and made the conditions so galling 
 and humiliating that many a proud soul would 
 prefer to starve than live under such condi- 
 tions. Woman marries; she gives herself, 
 
56 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 her time, her labor, thought and love; she 
 endures pain and sickness, and what is she 
 entitled to ? By law she can claim her board 
 and clothes. If her husband does not strike 
 her, if he does not refuse to pay her moderate 
 bills, she must be satisfied, though she never 
 earns a dollar from year to year, and there 
 are thousands who never do. She earns her 
 living as justly and honestly as her husband, 
 and a just law would give her the legal right 
 to her own pocket-book and the legal means 
 of replenishing it. The agonies of humiliation 
 endured by many, many women being com- 
 pelled to ask as a personal favor for a small 
 moiety of that which they honestly earned, 
 would never be endured by men — no, not for 
 one day. Wives of well-to-do men are often 
 as penniless as beggars. Men believe their 
 ideals are high ; that women should be the 
 home keepers and they the wage earners. 
 They forget that when she faithfully keeps the 
 home she has earned a right to an independ- 
 ent living, without the addition of an insult 
 for every dollar, nay, often for every nickel. 
 They deceive themselves when the wife is not 
 honestly dealt with. Their ideal becomes a 
 spurious one when it tacitly says, "What is 
 yours is mine; what is mine is my own!" 
 Spirited women who have to endure such be- 
 come crushed, dispirited, hopeless and ailing 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY? 57 
 
 (and then the husband growls about her doc- 
 tor bills) or deceptive, treacherous and un- 
 trustworthy. Are they then in fit condition to 
 assume the responsibilities of motherhood ? I 
 repeat the question — think on it and remem- 
 ber it — are they then in fit condition to stamp 
 their feelings and propensities upon the com- 
 ing generation ? To stamp deceit, dishon- 
 esty, rebellion, hopelessness and disgust upon 
 the unborn child ? Then at whose door can 
 the fault be justly laid ? Oh ! man, lift your 
 ideal ! See Justice as the sexless principle. 
 It really is. Base your laws, written and un- 
 written upon this divine justice, and guide 
 your acts, both public and private thereby. 
 Make it possible for your wife to be as noble, 
 spirited, independent and lovely as before 
 marriage, and your children will rise up and 
 call you blessed. The height of civilization 
 attained by any nation is accurately adjudged 
 by its attitude toward woman. So with any 
 class of men, so with any individual man. He 
 who is patient and gentle and just to woman 
 is the gentle-man. This is not because of sex, 
 but because woman are physically smaller and 
 weaker than men, and the strong should ever 
 defend the weak among men. The one who 
 takes physical advantage of a smaller or 
 weaker one is stamped a coward. 
 
 When we see a glorious unrest among a 
 
58 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 people, see year after year changes brought 
 about which lean toward justice to the physi- 
 cally weaker ones; see men who from time 
 immemorial have held all political rights 
 changing their views and placing in their sis- 
 ter's hands the political power to defend them- 
 selves ; see them unlocking the doors of learn- 
 ing and inviting their sisters to come in and 
 share the intellectual feasts, we know by these 
 signs that for that nation the star of justice is 
 in the ascendency ; we know that civilization 
 is on the upward march ; we know that the 
 Christ underderstanding which is breaking 
 the time-worn shackles from the helpless vic- 
 tims of animalism is being developed and 
 lived. 
 
 From the broad view of national idealism, 
 let us proceed to the consideration of individ- 
 ual idealism. We have said that kind Nature 
 has given her children the power of discrimi- 
 nation which should guide each to the neces- 
 sary opposite to attain the desired balance. 
 Happy the one who does not outgrow the 
 mother marks, who lives close enough to 
 nature to exercise this privilege. If we repre- 
 sent the perfect character just referred to by 
 means of numbers, we would have an equation 
 as follows: body lo, mind lo, soul lo — each 
 side of the character would be fully developed. 
 The ideals, the loves of such an one would 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? ^9 
 
 necessarily be perfect. How could the loves 
 be only physical when the mind and soul de- 
 manded equal recognition ? How could they 
 be only intellectual when the soul and body 
 and mind kept them in balance ? Such a per- 
 fectly organized man would demand or expect 
 in woman beauty of body, beauty of mind and 
 beauty of soul. He would expect her devel- 
 opments to equal his — body lo, mind lo, and 
 soul lo. He would not, could not admire an 
 abnormally spiritual woman, who disdains the 
 earth and lives only in a future heaven, instead 
 of developing body and mind that this life 
 may become a veritable heaven, neither would 
 he be drawn to the cold intellect which be- 
 lieved in nothing farther than reason and cal- 
 culation, not feeling and knowing God from 
 within, the soul doors being closed and barred , 
 nor would it be possible for his admiration to 
 be centered in the merely physically beautiful 
 woman, she who finds pleasure only in the 
 gratification of animal appetites. Ah, no ; in 
 exact accordance with nature's law of balance 
 he would demand that woman be good, smart 
 and beautiful. Being himself perfectly bal- 
 anced mentally he would have no desire for a 
 monopoly of learning, but would desire that 
 others have equal opportunities, and would 
 demand that his ideal be capable of equal in- 
 tellectual enjoyment. His spiritual nature be- 
 
6o SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 ing perfect, it would not brook neglect, conse- 
 quently his ideal would evidence the truly 
 religious nature, the love of justice and truth 
 and veneration for the realism of an all-wise 
 God. Such a man would not, could not, take 
 the position that any avenue of honest liveli- 
 hood should be closed to woman "because she 
 ought to get married." Seeing marriage as a 
 triune act he would know that she who mar- 
 ries because she ought to, to secure a living 
 and get a home, is not married at all, but has 
 simply made a bargain or trade, i. c, "I give 
 you my body for a home or a living," or what- 
 ever the object may be. This noble man, in 
 the full enjoyment of his soul, mind and body 
 powers, would not have such a wife, nor would 
 he have any other man to be cursed ; hence 
 he would not be a party to the enactment of 
 any Napoleonic laws which encourage mar- 
 riage upon a physical basis only. All laws 
 which cut women off from an honest livelihood 
 are a curse to the nation. Such laws give to 
 it children — citizens who are not born of love, 
 and they encourage prostitution. * 
 
 Our idea of justice would demand that all 
 men and women alike have every avenue of 
 
 * Marriage which rests only on the physical is prostitution, 
 and differs from that of the poor outcast only that in the one 
 man has made prostitution legal, but God's full blessing rests 
 on neither. 
 
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 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 6 1 
 
 work open to them ; that they be able to live 
 alone until such time as the voice of God 
 within, the power of heaven and the drawings 
 of the body pointed out to them the one who, 
 being loved entirely, could best aid and be 
 aided to higher development. A prudent man 
 would never dream of educating his boys and 
 never giving his girls equal opportunities. 
 Desiring neither a tool nor a toy for his own 
 wife, he would not care to raise such wives for 
 others. Rather would his voice be heard de- 
 manding the unbarring of the college doors, 
 the opening of the art galleries, studios and 
 conservatories to women, her admittance to 
 any and all professions, and her welcome to 
 every department of knowledge, that she, too, 
 might experience the intellectual pleasure 
 which he has found so gratifying. This friend 
 of ours, he of the perfect character, would not 
 be the one to sneer and dub as "animal in- 
 stinct" the intuitive leadings and knowledge 
 which comes to the pure and silent ; nay, how 
 could he when such comes also to him ? Liv- 
 ing a life of noble thought and endeavor he 
 would know the voice of God, and respect it 
 as heard through woman. She, in the retired 
 quiet of home life and true thought, has the 
 better opportunity to listen thereunto, to guide 
 herself and to guide others, if permitted to. 
 This man would believe in freedom — not mas- 
 
62 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 culine or feminine — but the freedom which is 
 not sexed, and which gives to each individual 
 the right to serve God and the world by the 
 best and highest development of the self. He 
 believes in real justice, not the kind of mascu- 
 line one-sidedness which would give the cream 
 of life to one and the "blue-john" to the other, 
 as per the claim that feminine digestion could 
 not stand cream. His sense of justice is that 
 which prompts equal division regardless of 
 sex. He believes in purity, not the revolting 
 spectacle of man wallowing in the filth of licen- 
 tiousness, and demanding an immaculate life 
 from woman. Nay, full well does he know 
 that "things which are equal to the same thing 
 are equal to each other;" and the husband 
 who sinks to the level of the "fallen one" 
 drags his legal wife to the same level, and she 
 becomes polluted by his impurities. He be- 
 lieves in truth, and knows that a lie is none 
 the less a lie because uttered by rosebud lips. 
 He believes in true religion, but knows full 
 well that his wife's religion can never drag 
 him into the kingdom of heaven, consequently 
 he strives to live up to the full measure of his 
 own duty. He believes in manhood and shirks 
 none of its duties as father, husband, son or 
 brother. Believing also in womanhood, he 
 demands that his ideal shirk none of its duties. 
 Being a faithful father, he expects her to be a 
 
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 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 63 
 
 faithful mother ; a true husband, he expects 
 her to be a true wife ; a loving son, he expects 
 love from the mother ; a considerate brother, 
 he expects consideration from his sisters. 
 
 Such would be the ideals of the ideal or 
 perfect man. As man varies from the stand- 
 ards of true manhood, so will his ideals vary. 
 He who allows the animal nature in himself 
 to dominate demands the physical subjection 
 of woman. He it is who demands woman's 
 bodily dependence on man and closes to her 
 the avenues of honest toil that she may be 
 compelled to give herself to man. He who 
 allows the intellect to dominate, demands 
 the intellectual subjection of woman, and 
 closes the halls of learning to the feminine 
 seeker after truth. He who is dominated by 
 a one-sided spirituality becomes the ecclesias- 
 tical autocrat. Deafened by the clamor of 
 his own will, he fails to hear the still small 
 voice within, and assumes to rule over the 
 souls, beliefs and religions of others. He de- 
 clares that God says thus and so, voicing his 
 own selfish ideas as the law of God, such as 
 "woman shall not preach, and she shall obey 
 man." Thus is he led into the most illogical 
 reasonings to uphold his positions. So we can 
 take the measure of any man by the perfec- 
 tion of his ideals. They vary as he varies. 
 The perfect man admires and demands per- 
 
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 64 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY? 
 
 feet qualities regardless of sex, while he who 
 is very imperfect and one-sided in develop- 
 ment holds very imperfect ideals. By remem- 
 bering that virtue is without sex, and that all 
 virtues are desirable in both sexes, one is able 
 to form an accurate standard, and thus more 
 readily discover the underlying causes and 
 motives which develop unjust laws and acts. 
 When the cause can be removed and the 
 nature developed rightly, man will be urged 
 to make strict application of the golden rule 
 of conduct, both private and public, in all 
 which relates to women. 
 
CHAPTER V. 
 
 woman's ideal of man. 
 
 Two children were out at play ; the mother 
 called the elder in and handed him two slices 
 of pie — "One for you and one for little sister." 
 The boy ate all of his and then proceeded to 
 scrape out all the filling— the goody— of his 
 sister's piece which he also ate, presenting her 
 with the dry and empty crust. "I want my 
 piece of pie," said the little girl; "this is just 
 the crust." The boy shook his finger gravely 
 at his sister and remarked, "Hush ; take that 
 and thank your stars I brought you that much." 
 Whereupon the little girl sat down, ate her 
 crust and soon forgot that she had been cheat- 
 ed. But the lesson of tyranny on the one side 
 and submission on the other was enduring. 
 
 These lessons have come down through the 
 ages with such force that woman has been 
 meekly eating the dry crust of life, and thank- 
 ing God for even that, believing— truly believ- 
 ing that all the good of life belonged of right 
 to her brother. To-day, however, she is in a 
 state of awakening. Some are telling her that 
 
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66 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 the "world was made for women too;" 
 that she should go to the giver of all good 
 gifts and demand that her brother deal justly 
 and fairly by her, that she may have her share 
 of the pie. Woman in the attitude of meek 
 submission has been in no condition to formu- 
 late ideals ; she had to "thank her God" for 
 whatever dry and unpalatable crust was thrown 
 to her. Up to the present age man has form- 
 ed the world's ideals. In his hands was all 
 power, and his ideas ruled. In fact, he claimed 
 that woman was not capable of "ideas." In 
 this attitude of submission and lacking educa- 
 tional advantages, with her highest impulses 
 crushed and bent under by brute force, how 
 could she develop ideals ? Taught from the 
 cradle that she was made but for marriage, 
 and that her duty lay in embracing the first 
 matrimonial opportunity, how was she to dis- 
 criminate between the ideal marriage and that 
 of the flesh only ? As we come down through 
 the ages we ever and anon read of women 
 possessed of such force, such strength, such 
 nobility of character, that in spite of man they 
 have left their impress upon the thought and 
 development of the race. Then, too, men at 
 times have found themselves in tight places, 
 hemmed in by circumstances and outside 
 power, when a woman has arisen strong in 
 will and foresight, and grasping the reins has 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 67 
 
 determinedly led the way to victory. Such 
 was Deborah of Scriptural history, and Joan 
 of Arc of more modern times. This should 
 prove conclusively that Nature is an impartial 
 mother, and gives to her daughters and sons 
 alike, the precious gifts of mental endowment, 
 will power and nobility of purpose. 
 
 Woman is beginning to formulate her own 
 ideals, and far and wide over our fair land 
 resounds the cry: "Purity for purity" — "A 
 v/hite life for two." When she has become 
 brave enough not only to raise the cry but de- 
 mand its enforcement, the race will have made 
 a most important step toward perfection. 
 Make your ideals high and pure, oh, woman 
 of the twentieth century!" Cling to them, 
 never for a moment relinquish one single 
 point, and it will not be long before your 
 brother will come up to your side and help 
 you hold aloft the noble standards of life. 
 There has been much excuse for the woman 
 of the past, who, without educational advan- 
 tages was absolutely ruled by her father until 
 she went forth under the no less absolute rule 
 of a husband. To-day these excuses can not 
 be Jprought forward ; and if she would be free 
 to form and live up to her ideals in the coming 
 years, she must become fully conversant with 
 the vital causes of her former subjection. Our 
 laws are changing daily ; our men are freeing 
 
68 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 themselves from prejudice, and woman has but 
 to present her ideals, with her sound reasons 
 for their adoption, to have them grasped, real- 
 ized' and lived. Every woman in her heart 
 desires a pure, true and noble husband, or 
 none at all. Let every woman live up to such 
 ideal. Let her consider the propositions of 
 none save the pure, the true and the noble, 
 and it is an absolutely assured fact that the 
 supply will follow the demand. The laws 
 governing feminine attractions, loves and 
 ideals, are very similar to those governing 
 masculine attractions, only reversed. Nature 
 has established sex attractions for a two-fold 
 purpose — generation of kind or reproduction, 
 and companionship, that men and woman may 
 draw to themselves the one who is needed for 
 their highest development — their true help- 
 meets. It would sometimes seem as if these 
 two objects would clash, but they never do in 
 the perfect character. The one of even blend- 
 ing of temperament can truly love only one of 
 even temperament, and the two being con- 
 genial and well balanced find happiness each 
 in the other, while their children being a blend- 
 ing of both natures, and love-children, can 
 only be evenly balanced and lovely. It is when 
 we consider the extremes of character, those 
 not well balanced, that nature's laws seem to 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 69 
 
 clash, but the clashing is not in the laws, it is 
 in the individuals. 
 
 From a generative standpoint the extrem- 
 est requires balance from an opposite extreme, 
 that the progeny may strike the golden medi- 
 um of perfect balance. Take the case of two 
 high-tempered persons. If united, their chil- 
 dren would almost certainly be possessed of 
 more violent temper than either parent, and 
 likely to exhaust their vitality and die young : 
 whereas, the children of one high-tempered 
 and fiery and one slow, sedate and calm, would 
 be neither very high-tempered nor very slow. 
 Sometimes there may be a considerable degree 
 of congeniality between two persons very like 
 in their extreme characteristics, but as those 
 characteristics differ from the standards of 
 perfection so would J:heii* chances of happiness 
 and continued congeniality decrease. Two 
 persons of very domineering proclivities might 
 be very congenial so long as their opinions do 
 not clash, but unless both have bent such pro- 
 clivities to the rule of reason and respect for 
 the rights of others, there will be "war in 
 the camp" when they do not see exactly alike, 
 and the stronger the will of each the harder 
 the battle. Strong will is an admirable trait 
 of character, one without which no man or 
 woman fully succeeds ; but when it is unguided 
 by reason or justice it assumes autocratic con- 
 
70 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 trol over the acts or lives of others, and not 
 unfrequently becomes the despicable weapon 
 of a coward. It seems that the best thing to 
 do in guiding the life to the most usefulness 
 and happiness, is first to perfect the individual 
 character. This is not impossible of accom- 
 plishment. Know thyself. Study the self and 
 develop the weak points, smooth off the rough 
 corners and tone down the extreme charac- 
 teristics. No man or woman is fit for the res- 
 ponsibilities of matrimony until this is faith- 
 fully done. The great error in our method of 
 education is, that these things are not pointed 
 out to the young, and are only half realized by 
 the older ones after bitter and galling experi- 
 ences. Once the individual character is under- 
 stood (and this may be calculated with almost 
 mathematical precision) and well under con- 
 trol, the great law, "like likes like," will surely 
 bring its mate. 
 
 Man's cause and woman's cause are not 
 two separate and distinct objects; they are 
 one, inseparable and indivisible. That which 
 is true for one is true for the other. That 
 which is just for one is just for the other. 
 That which builds up the one builds up the 
 other also. Then let each see to it that he 
 stand not in the way of the progress or rights 
 of the other. Let man ever remember that 
 when he takes as wife the slave, the bond- 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY? 7 1 
 
 woman, the Hagar who has not the power to 
 resist the authority of her master, he thereby 
 begets the Ishmaelite, the hater, the brawler 
 and fighter, he who is turned out into the wil-, 
 derness to wander through an unlovely life, 
 not having been born of love. Let woman 
 remember that when she, like Sara, gives 
 Hagar unto her husband, or connives at things 
 wrong in themselves, or upholds the double 
 standard of morals, she is sowing within her 
 own breast seeds of enmity against her less 
 fortunate sisters who are in the bonds of ignor- 
 ance, thus preventing her own son, Isaac, from 
 being the perfect child of promise. Moreover, 
 she places in the hands of Abraham (man) an 
 authority which belongs of right only to God, 
 which is Love. Then let each woman see 
 that her ideals are such as will result in the 
 perfect child, the child of love, for only in such 
 can happiness be found. 
 
CHAPTER VI. 
 
 MARRIAGE, MENTAL, SPIRITUAL, TRIUNE. 
 
 "Is marriage a failure?" "What is mar- 
 riage?" are questions which have received 
 much consideration of late years. Books with- 
 out number and newspaper articles ad infini- 
 ttim have wearied the public by constant pre- 
 sentation of these subjects, and the two ques- 
 tions stand as at first, unanswered. How can 
 marriage be a failure, when 'tis only by virtue 
 of marriage that the universe exists ? Mar- 
 riage is union. The universe is the harmoni- 
 ous, united whole, hence it is the expression of 
 perfect marriage. " As above, so below ; " " as is 
 the higher, so is the lower;" hence as union 
 or marriage is the bond which holds the uni- 
 verse in existence and equipoise, so marriage 
 is the bond which holds the earth life in con- 
 tinuation and happiness. We are forced to 
 believe that the question is asked only by those 
 who, having felt the force of failure, are striv- 
 ing for a better understanding ot Truth. 
 There are signs of upward tendency which we 
 
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SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 73 
 
 hail with delight. That we have been living 
 in a very material, physical age can not be de- 
 nied. The planetary positions and indications 
 have been such as to bear out this statement. 
 The wars between nations, the dissensions 
 among individuals, the increase of divorce and 
 general dissatisfactions which have been such 
 pronounced features of the last half of the 
 nineteenth century, prove positively the mater- 
 ialism of the age. Out of this materialism 
 the world is now struggling. That such an 
 age should view marriage as a purely physical 
 matter is not surprising. In consequence, laws 
 concerning marriage, divorce, etc., have been 
 made from the purely material point of view, 
 and often we find them with a financial color- 
 ing, as of a bargain in goods and chattels. 
 That such must result in dissatisfaction is in- 
 evitable. 
 
 Who can accurately compute the money 
 value of soul or mind ? Man is a creature 
 composed of soul, mind and body, and in mar- 
 riage the entire man participates, else it is not 
 marriage, being only partial. We claim, then, 
 that the laws regulating property in marriage, 
 divorce, etc., are made from the standpoint of 
 only partial marriage, with the expectation of 
 failure or division, or dissension. How can 
 there be any dissensions in union ? How in 
 
74 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 the perfect marriage of mind, soul and body 
 can there come questions of " mine and thine ?" 
 Is it not self-evident that in perfect marriage, 
 the triune marriage, (and aught else is not 
 marriage), laws of property rights, divorce, 
 etc., are superfluous ? How could aught but 
 "ones" exist in the consideration of things? 
 Does it not seem, then, that our laws are made 
 more in reference to the mistakes of matri- 
 mony than in relation to marriage ? 
 
 Did the ideal of true marriage exist in the 
 minds of the law-makers, would we not have 
 such laws as would tend to the consummation 
 of such perfect marriages, rather than such as 
 relate to the division of property and of children. 
 the rights of the husband (who is no husband) 
 and the rights of the wife (who is no wife)? 
 Our idea of intellectual education has resulted 
 in a grand system of public schools, so that to- 
 day no boy or girl need go through life with- 
 out the ability to read or write, and the oppor- 
 tunity to become grounded in at least the rudi- 
 ments of an English education. Suppose that 
 along with this system of intellectual education 
 there was a department devoted to the real 
 issues of life, where each individual could be 
 given the means of self-knowledge, girls and 
 boys instructed as to the real nature of mar- 
 riage, girls taught the holy mysteries of woman- 
 hood and instructed concerning maternity, its 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 75 
 
 right and wrong developments, boys taught 
 the true nature of manhood and brotherhood, 
 lifting the latter to its true level, nearer to that 
 of the fatherhood of God, and not as to-day 
 finding in fatherhood simply the furtherance 
 of their so-called rightful sexual pleasures. 
 Under such educational advantages — knowing 
 well the self and hence others — how could mis- 
 takes in marriage be the everyday occurrences 
 they are ? That they are everyday occurren- 
 ces the divorce courts attest ; and one who can 
 read the signs of misery may look into the 
 faces of most any ten married couples and plain- 
 ly see disappointment stamped on more than 
 half of them. Then, too, consider the chil- 
 dren ; how much better their lot w^hen born in 
 and of intelligence rather than ignorance. 
 
 Did you ever consider that appalling fact 
 that the world is made up largely of hap-haz- 
 ard children, children who are as it were 
 hurled into existence by chance and not at all 
 by an intelligent fore-thought and plan. A 
 builder who would throw his materials to- 
 gether regardless of fitness as to length, posi- 
 tion or appropriateness, would at the work's 
 completion be laughed at for placing shingles 
 for flooring, sleepers on the roof, long planks on 
 short sides and short planks where long were 
 needed. Yet when men and women contem- 
 plate the building of a flesh and blood house 
 
76 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 which is to be occupied by an image of the liv- 
 ing God, there are few instances in which they 
 do not throw their materials together as reck- 
 lessly as the foolish carpenter above referred 
 to. Question married women and an average 
 of eighty per cent at least will tell you that 
 maternity was an unthought-of subject to them 
 at marriage ; and as for men, the real sacred- 
 ness and responsibilities of fatherhood touch 
 but few, even of those who are fathers of fami- 
 lies. When something to eat or something to 
 wear is provided, the duties of fatherhood are 
 well done. It is possible to plan a house, know 
 its exact shape and appearance, estimate every 
 necessary piece of lumber to be used, know 
 the exact length, breadth and thickness and 
 place for each piece. Then when all plans are 
 matured, it is an easy thing to construct the 
 house, bring forth the materialization of the 
 mental image. If it be a thing of beauty, if 
 the ideal house has been all it should be, then 
 it is a fit dwelling for the noble and high-born, 
 for the kings of men. It is equally possible to 
 perfectly plan the flesh and blood house, esti- 
 mate the necessary elements and mentally 
 plan each detail. If there exists union in the 
 ideals of each builder — that is, if they are truly 
 married — then the materialization will be in 
 exact accordance with the ideal, and the struc- 
 ture may be the fit dwelling place of a noble 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? "]"] 
 
 soul, one who more nearly approaches the 
 reflection of the perfect undistorted image of 
 God. It was truly said by one of earth's great- 
 est souls, that ''ignorance is the cause of all 
 sin and misery" and nowhere is this truth 
 more evident than in matters of marriage and 
 paternity. 
 
 ''But," I hear you exclaim, "some of the 
 most intelligent and highly educated marry 
 most unfortunately and have the worst chil- 
 dren." What of that ? Does a knowledge of 
 mathematics enable you to make music ? Does 
 the understanding of geology enable you to 
 make a pie ? Neither do any of these teach 
 you the laws which should govern marriage or 
 paternity. All knowledge is desirable, yet in 
 this short life it seems impracticable for one 
 to master each branch, hence a knowledge of 
 things in general, and a special and as far as 
 possible absolute knowledge of the particular 
 branch of knowledge which one expects to 
 use in this life, would seem the sensible idea 
 to hold. The mathematician, the astronomer 
 and geologist are none the less thought of be- 
 cause those things are not a part of their lives. 
 It is the things which w^e undertake to do that 
 we should master and understand. 
 
 Marriage and paternity are two of the most 
 common things in the world. The mathema- 
 tician and the musician, the astronomer and 
 
78 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 broom-wielder, the geologist and the pie maker 
 are all very apt to be found in the family life 
 at some point between the cradle and the 
 grave. Does it not seem, then, that a univer- 
 sal practice should be universally studied and 
 understood, rather than with an evil-minded 
 assumption of modesty(?) relegated to the 
 limits of undiscussable subjects ? If one has 
 a journey to travel he starts off rightly-faced 
 in the right direction. So in the journey of 
 life. An ultimate of success is more easily at- 
 tained by facing in the right direction. This 
 is possible only through knowledge — self- 
 knowledge. A thorough, scientific and exact 
 knowledge of the self, of its laws of being, of 
 attractions and repulsions and their causes, 
 and of our abilities and talents, will lead not 
 only to success for the individual, but to our 
 spheres of greatest usefulness to others. This 
 of course must be the preliminary to intelligent 
 marriage, and this would usher in a glorious 
 era of right-born, rightly-developed men and 
 women. May we not confidently hope and 
 expect that this knowledge universally accept- 
 ed and lived will usher in the perfect era of 
 millennial bliss? The truly married person is 
 triply married, each side of his triune nature 
 being united to its corresponding complement. 
 To such an one the home becomes a harmo- 
 nious universe, from which he looks forth upon 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 79 
 
 the outside world, with joy for its successes 
 and compassion for its errors. In his home 
 his soul finds companionship in its mate — no 
 need to go outside for intellectual pleasures. 
 Is not his companion his intellectual equal and 
 co-respondent? In the presence of these 
 higher pleasures merely sensual enjoyments 
 are often kept much in the background, but 
 when they do demand recognition and gratifi- 
 cation their joys are enhanced to an untold ex- 
 tent through reciprocity. This would be the 
 ideal' marriage. Alas! of those we see an 
 amazingly small percentage. Most marriages 
 are consummated upon a physical basis only. 
 The body reaches maturity at about the age 
 of twenty-one. The mind may grow on and 
 continue to accumulate knowledge and power 
 down to the very brink of the grave, as in the 
 case of Mr. Gladstone, Bismark and other his- 
 torical figures. The soul lives on into eternity, 
 where it blossoms and fruits. During the 
 growth of the body the mind and soul powers 
 are largely latent. We could not expect the 
 intellectual or spiritual effort from a boy of 
 ten that would be natural to a normal man of 
 forty. The fact, then, of early marriages 
 proves the undue activity of physical attrac- 
 tions in their consummation. Here is the rock 
 to be avoided. Be cautious about marrying 
 early in life if you wish to marry happily. 
 
80 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY? 
 
 Don't marry until your mind and soul are suf- 
 ficiently awakened to have a voice in the mat- 
 ter. Physical love soon exhausts itself. Re- 
 sult: disappointed, sour-tempered, sharp- 
 tongued women, and dissipated, reckless, wom- 
 an-sneering men. Did you ever see any such ? 
 It may -be in some rare instances that 
 man or woman conquer themselves to the ex- 
 tent of overcoming evil tendencies, but even 
 then the life is not altogether happy. It seems 
 to be a fact of nature, that, no matter how dis- 
 cordant the union between a man and woman, 
 in most cases the children continue to multi- 
 ply. Can any sin be more horrible, more con- 
 temptible than to bring upon the scene of ac- 
 tion creatures born of exhausted ph}-sical love ? 
 Is it any wonder that the world has many 
 wicked, loveless citizens? And there are 
 many persons in authority who teach that this 
 is right and just! Teach that the husband 
 always has a rigJit to his wife's body. And 
 here comes into play an outrageous practice 
 which ought to bring the blush of shame to 
 the cheek of a " heathen." The holiest and pur- 
 est feelings which throb in woman's breast — 
 her mother love — is used as a whip to drive 
 her to bodily subjection to man, and to con- 
 tinue the bringing forth of the children of pas- 
 sion. If she be not her husband's whenever 
 he so chooses — if she refuse him his sense 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 8l 
 
 gratification — then he is justified in spendiug 
 time and means elsewhere and refusing to sup- 
 port her or their mutual children. So to clothe 
 and feed the children already his, the woman 
 must often give her body a living sacrifice on 
 the altar of mother love. We know that many 
 of our readers will raise their hands in horror 
 and exclaim, "such things cannot be!" Yet 
 such is the fact, and it is a very common one. 
 Any physician will tell you of the enormous 
 number of undesired children born into the 
 world and of the number and variety of inven- 
 tions to "prevent conception.'' 
 
 We repeat the statement, that often wom- 
 an's love for her children is used to drive her to 
 bodily subjection. Man may sometimes be 
 unconscious of his brutality in this matter, for 
 so rooted is the idea of his marital right that 
 he often takes it as right, and any other view 
 does not even present itself. Even in cases 
 when child-bearing may be almost certain 
 death to the woman, the written and unwritten 
 law regards man's "rights" as of more import- 
 ance than her life, and instead of learning and 
 practicing a true manly self-control, he will 
 bring her down to death's door and be amazed 
 if she suggests that it may be his fault! Yet 
 it is often murder. So thick is the veneering 
 of selfishness that he cannot perceive wherein 
 he has done wrong. And yet the world will 
 
82 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 receive such a creature as a man, not a brute. 
 Brute ? Why, society should feel insulted at 
 the comparison, for there is no brute which 
 forces maternity upon the female. The con- 
 templation of such slavery is enough to make 
 the blood boil aud the pulses throb. If we 
 must have laws made more in regard to mis- 
 marriage than true marriage, let us at least 
 have just laws, such as can by no possible 
 means be construed in a way to bind woman 
 down in slavery of body. Give her at least 
 the opportunity to bring forth children born 
 of love, or none at all. In the name of God 
 and for the good of man, let not marriage 
 mean the bodily subjection or degradation of 
 woman ! Such is not marriage at all, but 
 slavery of the most degrading and disgusting 
 type. Many women utter in heart the cry, 
 "give me freedom or give me death !" In the 
 whole world over, tlie spur is popularly used to 
 enforce submission, that of humiliating the 
 loftiest, purest and holiest sentiments of the 
 wife and mother. Let us turn from the sub- 
 ject — it is too heart-sickening for lengthy con- 
 sideration. Still the facts exist everywhere 
 about us, and if you use your eyes and common 
 sense you cannot fail to see them. 
 
CHAPTER VII. 
 
 MATERNITY. 
 
 When, armed with hope, a woman takes 
 her life in her hands, and goes down into 
 the "valley of the shadow of death," and while 
 the sweat drops of an agony greater than mor- 
 tal mind can conceive stand upon her brow of 
 pain,plucksadelicateandtender blossom of im- 
 mortal life to place in the bosom of Love, it 
 seems as if a natural sequence would be that that 
 love should be increased and intensified, to in 
 a measure repay the debt thus created. When 
 we touch upon the subject of maternity we 
 should feel like Moses when in the presence 
 of the "burning bush," that we are treading 
 upon holy ground, for it has been claimed that 
 mother love is the only human love which is 
 free from the taint of selfishness. Upon ma- 
 ternity hinges the upward or downward tend- 
 ency of the human race, for a nation, like a 
 stream, can rise no higher than its source— its 
 motherhood. When the Greeks of old attain- 
 ed their maximum of beauty, their perfection of 
 physical development, motherhood held a sa- 
 
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84 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 cred place in their thoughts and actions. The 
 woman who, evincing the signs of approach- 
 ing maternity, went to any public place, she 
 was the object of the utmost respect and con- 
 sideration. Hats were doffed and way was 
 made, each man vieing with every other man 
 in showing, not the most respect to the woman 
 merely, but to the sacred motherhood which 
 she represented. Art and sculpture galleries 
 were built with a view to the privileges the 
 women should have of contemplating the 
 beautiful and perfect in development, both 
 natural and ideal. They were expected to re- 
 ceive direct benefit from these advantages, 
 and the result was the bringing forth of that 
 race of people which in history figures as the 
 perfection of beauty and physical development. 
 The Athenians evidently saw in motherhood 
 a sacred trust which they had no right to 
 stand in the way of accomplishment. The 
 woman to whom was entrusted a human soul 
 owed that soul the duty of as perfect develop- 
 ment as she could possibly give it. They had 
 no right to hinder its welfare by shutting her 
 up within four walls by the sneers, the innuen- 
 does, and the vulgar suggest ions of vulgar minds. 
 They saw in motherhood something more than 
 the result of carnality ; it was treated from the 
 higher point of view, and consequently the 
 woman was not ashamed of her high office of 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 85 
 
 maternity. She was accorded every privilege 
 for perfecting the organism given into her 
 charge. It is scarcely possible to refrain from 
 pointing to the vast difference between the 
 Athenian treatment of a pregnant woman and 
 the methods pursued to-day. She who to-day 
 evinces signs of approaching maternity must 
 feel, if she ventures out in public places, that 
 she is the target for all sorts of insinuations. 
 She is termed immodest, indecent or bold, all 
 of which charges are untrue, unless every 
 man's mother has been an indecent, bold, im- 
 modest woman. The men of the material age 
 view motherhood only from the disgusting 
 standpoint of the result of carnal intercourse. 
 The evil of their thoughts prevents the sacred 
 consideration which would arrest the vile 
 innuendo and demand of true womanhood, that 
 constant and sincere respect and helpfulness 
 due to woman. 
 
 That the mental, spiritual and physical con- 
 sideration of the pregnant woman leave their 
 indelible impress upon the developmg child 
 is an indisputable fact which medical science 
 admits. How, then, can men cut their wives 
 off from those things to which they have a 
 right — those things for which they yearn — and 
 still expect them to attain to or approach the 
 mark of perfection ? How, when cut off from 
 social pleasures, can woman develop as a social 
 
86 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 creature ? Deprived of exercise can she de- 
 velop energy ? Not receiving love can she 
 imprint lovely qualities upon her child ? 
 Forced to feel ashamed of her condition, how 
 can she but impress her offspring with traits 
 of shamefacedness ? Thrown upon her own 
 resources, her thoughts are turned inward and 
 she grows to consider motherhood a curse. 
 She dwells with anticipatory horror upon her 
 approaching confinement, and the chances are 
 that all of the society she enjoys will be that 
 of women who will relate to her every harrow- 
 ing experience they have ever heard of or 
 imagined. 
 
 That the mind has great control over the 
 body is another fact proved by mental science. 
 So we are not left without a scientific reason 
 for the number of fataHtlcs, accidents and suf- 
 fering attendant upon the natural functions of 
 child-bearing. We assert positively that child- 
 birth may be robbed of its horrors, and its 
 pains reduced almost to insignificance, if the 
 woman be allowed natural surrouncHngs, the 
 affection which is her due, and the just con- 
 sideration which should be rendered every liv- 
 ing creature. We once knew personally a 
 young woman who, of active habits and Hvely 
 nature, upon finding herself pregnent, was 
 told by her husband that his wife must never 
 be the object of indecent remarks, such as he 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 87 
 
 had heard thrown at other women in such con- 
 dition. So for six long months she was a 
 prisoner in her small home, almost afraid to 
 sit in her window even. She had been accus- 
 tomed to society, church, theatre and concert. 
 These were now out of the question. Her 
 husband was just starting in life and wanted 
 to save every nickel, so when asked in the 
 mornings for money for current expenses, 
 would tell her to get the money out of his 
 pockets, but "be sure you take only what you 
 need!" She grew to consider her just de- 
 mands wrong, almost equal to theft. Often 
 she would take the amount needed and then 
 afterwards go and slip all or part of it back, 
 particularly if the husband asked, *'Are you 
 sure you didn't take more than you have to 
 have ?" Her life was made wretched while 
 she tried to concur in his ideas of economy. 
 She could not but feel the sense of loathing 
 against such niggardly treatment. From a 
 lively, accomplished, intelligent girl, she be- 
 came an harassed, careworn, crushed woman. 
 Her whole system became poisoned by the 
 mental atmosphere her own husband had cre- 
 ated, albeit ignorantly, but none the less truly. 
 Her confinement was attended with all the 
 distress common to such conditions, and she be- 
 came a victim to a violent attack of septic 
 fever induced by the inflamed state of the 
 
88 SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 blood. Her affection which had been very 
 deep for her husband became reversed (al- 
 though unconsciously) and when in delerium 
 if he but entered the room the effect for the 
 worse was at once noticeable. She recovered, 
 but she was never the same wife toward her 
 husband, though she conscientiously tried to 
 avoid any undue estrangement. Her child 
 was hateful, cross, restless, and a Mz>/^made 
 a thief by his father's parsimonious habits. 
 Consider if you will this question: Ought a 
 woman under such circumstances to continue 
 to have children ? Martyrdom is not a thing 
 of the past altogether. You may perhaps say 
 that such a case is exceptional. But it is not. 
 Thousands of such instances occur every day, 
 and if you but keep your eyes open you can- 
 not fail to see them upon every hand. Every 
 effect has, is bound in the economy of nature 
 to have its adequate cause; hence when we 
 see children perverse, restless, unhappy, wick- 
 ed, we may rest assured there is something 
 wrong about the methods of propagating this 
 human fruit. And often, that something is 
 the treatment accorded the mother. If prac- 
 ticing physicians will observe closely they will 
 see that in cases of confinement the presence 
 of the husband, if he be a loving, sympathetic 
 and considerate husband, is of great benefit 
 and help. The love and sympathy existing 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 89 
 
 between the two, causes harmony and unity 
 which very materially assists nature in the 
 performance of her work. If he hold her 
 hand the life forces of the two seem to rhyth- 
 mically unite, and he may give her physical 
 strength, in time of great need. Her system 
 is thus assisted in its efforts to relax, and 
 the pains being ameliorated and the strength 
 buoyed up, there is a much greater chance for 
 a speedy and happy consummation of the 
 labor. Vastly different is the case where the 
 husband be not sympathetic and considerate. 
 Instances have been known in which the pa- 
 tients have been thrown into convulsions by 
 the entrance of the husband. Nature was 
 checked in her work, the mother's system 
 tightened instead of relaxed, and extremely 
 ill effects have resulted therefrom. Why so ? 
 Because the woman, accustomed to rebuffs 
 and lack of sympathy, is involuntarily thrown 
 upon the defensive by the mere presence of 
 her husband, which serves much as a dash of 
 cold water to chase away every natural im- 
 pulse. 
 
 Love is harmony, and harmony causes the 
 life forces to pulsate rhythmically. This pro- 
 duces the condition which v/e call health. We 
 hold that it is a sin against the self, a sin 
 against the child and a sin against the hus- 
 band and the state, for any woman to continue 
 
QO SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 bearing children outside of the proper condi- 
 tions of health, harmony or love. A sin 
 against the self because love is the only legiti- 
 mate excuse for procreation or marriage ; and 
 when the latter exists without this redeeming 
 feature the self is debased to the desires and 
 demands of passion. When the holy impulse 
 of co-operative love is banished, the self is 
 forced under the ban of lust. Under such 
 conditions soul growth becomes a matter of 
 impassivity, and even physical life is shortened, 
 for the life forces being for the most part con- 
 sumed by the animal passions, they are not 
 sufficient to nourish and maintain either mind 
 or body. A sin against the child because if 
 the child be not born of love it is born of pas- 
 sion. This brands into its very nature the 
 tendency to sensual indulgence, and gives it 
 the downward impulse as a send-orf to begin 
 life, rather than the upward impulse to reach 
 out into the realms of love — of God. A sin 
 against the husband because he is thus en- 
 couraged in a life of sensuality; whereas, if 
 the truth were reasonably followed, it would, 
 at least to some extent, check his passional 
 nature. Submission to tyranny in any form 
 but serves to develop the tyrant. The world 
 knows not a more galling, debasing, soul- 
 crushing form of tyranny than sexual tyranny. 
 It may be argued that many men will not Hs- 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 9I 
 
 ten to reason in this matter, but will fly into a 
 passion and lose all sense of justice. This 
 may be true ; but does not this clearly prove 
 his unfitness for paternity ? A woman's first 
 duty is to herself, and to save herself from be- 
 ing the victim of lust, whether in the marriage 
 relation or out of it. A sin against the nation, 
 in that a child cheated of its birth-right of 
 love will not be the noble, God-fearing, 
 country-loving citizen which is to be desired. 
 The autocratic, domineering, passion-serving 
 man is far more apt to become a burden to 
 the state than an honor. The state, the father, 
 the child and th-e mother will all be benefitted 
 when the reign of Justice, Truth and Love is 
 inaugurated — when we have laws which con- 
 sider the rights of motherhood from a stand- 
 point of justice rather than masculine desire. 
 It is but a few years since the repeal of 
 that inhuman law which gave to a man the 
 right to will away his unborn child. Woman 
 pays the price of untold agony for her child, 
 and into its flesh and bones are put her hopes 
 and fears, her longings and despairs, her very 
 soul. God, then, gives the child to her ; but 
 man steps in and makes such laws as allows 
 him to take the child if he so desire, but under 
 no circumstances does the law compel him to 
 take a child who bears in its birth the brand 
 of shame. Is it not evident that woman had 
 
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 nothing to do with creating such laws ? She 
 must bear her share of the world's burdens ; 
 she is taxed (save the poll tax) and in many 
 ways he is not taxed. Yet she must have no 
 voice in legislative matters, no power in mat- 
 ters of vital import to her concerning the dis- 
 posal of her own body and property and the 
 care of her own children, for whom she has 
 paid the price of tears, pain and blood ! If 
 the twentieth century keeps time with the 
 progressive march of woman in the nineteenth 
 century, we may confidently expect to see 
 wonderful changes. An enlightened mother- 
 hood, a desired and rightly developed progeny 
 will necessarily force man upward, until we 
 may hope to see him rise superior to the base 
 animal instincts and govern his life by reason, 
 justice and self-control. The silly, sentimen- 
 tal ideas now often advanced will become a 
 thing of the past. A dear old gentleman of 
 another day once remarked, "You v;omen are 
 too aspiring; be content to rule as of old, for, 
 my dear, as long as a woman has a smile or a 
 tear she can rule a man!" Probably she 
 could so far as he was concerned; but there 
 are hordes of men from whom a smile or a 
 tear would provoke a rebuff or a knock-down 
 blow. But if even all were so ruled, would it 
 be right ? Who wants to have to keep smiles 
 and tears forever on tap to carry every point, 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY 7 ^ 93 
 
 reasonable or otherwise ? Why not be gov- 
 erned by justice, truth and love, and let smiles 
 and tears take their subordinate places. Im- 
 agine a court of justice being ruled by smiles 
 and tears, and the lawyers using such argu- 
 ments to prove their cases ! Would justice 
 ever have a show ? Nay, my dear sir, woman 
 wants that which is justly and reasonably her 
 own. She wants the power, legal and custom- 
 ary, to make of motherhood the holy shrine 
 of noble God-like manhood. She wants the 
 ownership of her own body. In marriage and 
 out of marriage she knows that she should 
 have exclusive right and power over her own 
 body, and it should not be attained at the sac- 
 rifice of a livelihood for her children. She 
 knows that these two demands involve nice 
 points of law which man perhaps cannot justly 
 adjust. Hence she demands of man an active 
 recognition of the fact that the world was 
 made for woman too; that she should have 
 equal opportunities to develop her ideals ; for 
 though she may have so long lived with crush- 
 ed or buried ideals, that he claims she had 
 none, it is untrue. Her ideals exist and are 
 daily crying to her for development. Oppor- 
 tunity for such development would enable her 
 to lift the world upward — not downward ! 
 
LOVE, COURTSHIP, AND MARRIAGE. 
 
 Marriage is the oldest and one of the most 
 important institutions on earth. It has its 
 foundation in the nature of man. It shapes 
 the fortunes of families, and sometimes deter- 
 mines the fate of nations. We cannot over- 
 estimate the importance of marriage, for the 
 domestic circle is the foundation of society, 
 government, and laws ; hence, every effort 
 should be made to improve, perfect, and ele- 
 vate it. If the family is industrious, economi- 
 cal, studious, moral and relined, so is the so- 
 ciety of which that family is a member. But 
 let discord, ignorance and selfishness reign in 
 the social circle, society at large will feel these 
 contaminating influences. The query may be 
 ased, What have Psysiology and Phrenology 
 to do with Marriage? "Much, every way." 
 Physiology teaches the laws of life; the im- 
 portance of health in the family; the best way 
 to preserve and regain it when lost. It enables 
 us to perceive the relations between the mental 
 and physical conditions of parents and chil- 
 dren ; it qualifies us to understand the import- 
 
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LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 95 
 
 ant fact that parents transmit their peculiari- 
 ties to their children ; that children are perfect 
 in organization in proportion that certain laws 
 are obeyed. Hence, it is necessary to take 
 Physiology into account, in order that we may 
 carry out the highest design of the marriag^e 
 institution. Physiology also gives us a knowl- 
 edge of the temperaments, and enbles us to 
 judge of the adaptation between two organiz- 
 ations in marriage. If a young man read his 
 own nature by the light which Prenology sheds 
 upon it, he can readily understand what tem- 
 perament is needed in a companion for life to 
 secure an adaptation that will produce har- 
 mony. Union in the marriage relation is some- 
 thing like a combination of chemical elements 
 that have a natural affinity for each other. 
 There are elements like oil and water, that 
 never unite, so some minds are constitutionally 
 dissimilar. If we were led by a sort of chemi- 
 co-mental attraction in the choice of partners, 
 we should, instinctively, be drawn into right 
 paths, and require no knowledge on the subject. 
 But this is not the case. Many persons are 
 guided by their feelings — which, at best, are 
 only blind guides — and make unfortunate se- 
 lections. It is better to trust to the intellect, 
 for it is much safer to allow the feelings to 
 follow the judgment, than the opposite. 
 
96 LOVE COURTSHIP AND iMARRIAGE. 
 
 While extremes of temperament should not 
 be blended, a contrast is desirable. A person 
 with a very strong vital temperament should 
 choose a companion who has a predominance 
 of the mental and motive temperaments. The 
 highly nervous should be blended with the 
 vital, and the motive should not be united with 
 the same degree of the motive. If both have 
 a predominance of the masculine elements of 
 mind, there will be too much harshness in the 
 family ; but if each have an excess of the femi- 
 nine, there will be a want of vigour and energy. 
 
 Phrenology teaches us that in every res- 
 pect physical and mental extremes should be 
 avoided. If, for example, a man. who has 
 large Firmness, should marry with this faculty 
 in extreme, the result would be unfortunate. 
 Neither would yield. A man in Syracuse, in 
 the State of New York, had the organ of Firm- 
 ness immensely large. He quarreled with his 
 wife one day, and declared that he would not 
 speak to her till she had first spoken to him. 
 Her Firmness was about as large as his, and 
 they lived two years in the same house without 
 any communication with each other. The 
 same is true with all the faculties. If the hus- 
 band has an organ very large, the wife should 
 have the same organ smaller, so that they may 
 improve each other as much as possible ; but 
 
LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. Q7 
 
 this cannot be done where both have the same 
 deficiency, or the same excess in the develop- 
 ment of the faculties. 
 
 We transmit our phrenology as our physi- 
 ology to our children. It is a well-known fact, 
 that when both parents have a predominance 
 of the reasoning intellect, the children partake 
 of the same peculiarity. If, on the other hand, 
 the parents have an excess of the perceptive 
 intellect, combined with a retreating forehead, 
 the children will have the same phrenological 
 type ; but when one parent has a good develop- 
 ment of those organs in which the other is de- 
 ficient, the result will be favorable to the off- 
 spring. Phrenology, as well as Physiology, 
 helps us to make allowances for the peculiari- 
 ties of each other, and explains the cause of 
 the great variety of disposition even in the 
 same family. In fact, it gives us charity for 
 the frailties of human nature. 
 
 Man and Woman, considered Physiologi- 
 cally AND Mentally. 
 
 The sexes were created for each other, but 
 their natures and duties are different because 
 of the sex principle; hence each has the or- 
 ganization to do his or her own work. 
 
 Both have by nature a right to their own 
 personal liberty. The one is not necessarily 
 
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 subject to the other before marriage, nor should 
 be a slave after marriage. Wedlock should 
 secure mutual enjoyment : neither should be 
 sacrificed to the other. Man was evidently- 
 designed to subdue the earth, and to assume 
 the responsibilities of life. He is organized 
 to take the lead, to be the responsible partner, 
 and the father of his race, therefore, he has 
 passion, and a predominance of the positive 
 qualities. He goes forth to conquer, to break 
 the way. and open new channels, is specially 
 adapted to clearing the land, tilling the soil, 
 raising the stock, building the ships, houses, 
 canals, bridges, railroads, docks, fortifications, 
 to defend his family, home, and property, to 
 navigate the waters, invent and make machin- 
 ery, to establish telegraphs, to do wholesale 
 trading, shipping and out-door labor, to make 
 and execute laws, to explore, work in mines 
 and quarries, to study philosophy and science, 
 to try experiments, to practice surgery, to 
 preach, teach, comprehend mathematics, me- 
 chanics, astronomy, and chemistry. Phrenol- 
 ogically, he has those organs which give pride, 
 determination, perseverance, energy, original- 
 ity, and inventive talent; physiologically, he is 
 strong, bony, and muscular, well adapted to 
 action and locomotion ; physiognomically. he 
 has a strongly-marked outline of person, a large 
 
LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. QQ 
 
 chest, broad square shoulders, high cheek 
 bones, a firm, confident, energetic walk and in- 
 telligent countenance. The average height of 
 man is 5 feet 8 inches ; his weight is 160 lbs. ; 
 his chest measures 35 inches ; his head meas- 
 ures 22 inches, he has 150 cubic inches in his 
 brain ; his bones are large, and not as fine as 
 those of woman. 
 
 Woman was designed, by her organization, 
 to act the gentler part, to take a feminine view 
 of subjects, to be a helpmeet for man, to exert 
 a refining, persuasive influence over him. She 
 is the mother of her race, therefore has par- 
 ental attachment, connubial love, domestic 
 feeling, patience, prudence, pliableness, kind- 
 ness, and sympathy. Phrenologically, woman 
 has large Approbativeness and Benevolence, 
 which give a desire to please and make others 
 happy. She has also the elements of economy, 
 sagacity, intuition, neatness, taste, musical tal- 
 ent, observation, memory of persons and things, 
 power of conversation, agreeableness, refine- 
 ment, chastity, faith, wit, sentiment, emotion 
 and enthusiasm ; consequently, she has the 
 qualities to keep a shop, stationary and book- 
 store, to sell goods, to take care of property, 
 to make wearing apparel, to design, engrave, 
 draw, to copy law-papers, to write prose and 
 poetry, to report, set and distribute type, sing, 
 
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 teach, entertain company, practice the heahng 
 art among woman and children, nurse the sick, 
 and take care of her house and family. She 
 possesses the negative and passive qualities. 
 Having large Veneration, and not as large 
 Combativeness and Destructiveness, she de- 
 sires to look up to man as her protector. Her 
 power lies in her beauty of form, face, and ex- 
 pression ; in her refinement, elevation of mind, 
 and gentleness of manner. Physiologically, 
 she has a predominance of the mental, arterial 
 and nutritive temperaments; hence she is or 
 ganized on a high key, is ardent, intense, sus- 
 ceptible, warm-hearted, impulsive, and exci- 
 table. Physiognomically, she has sloping 
 shoulders, rotund face and form, penetrating 
 eyes, a kind, anxious, affectionate expression. 
 The average height of woman is 5 feet 4 inches. 
 Her weight is 120 lbs. Her chest measures 31 
 inches. Her head measures 21 H inches in 
 circumference. She has 140 cubic inches of 
 brain. Her organization is small, but finer in 
 its texture than that of man. 
 
 Woman rules by love ; man by force. He 
 breaks the way ; she makes that way smooth. 
 He earns the money; she should take care of 
 it. Man is the father of the race; woman, as 
 the mother, nourishes and trains that race to 
 perfection. She exerts as much influence her 
 
LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. lOI 
 
 way, and has as much talent to discharge her 
 duties, as man has in his way and sphere. 
 Their talents and powers of mind are differ- 
 ently directed by their nature and duties, and 
 these cannot be compared as those of two men 
 or two women. 
 
 Some men are very feminine, and some 
 woman are very masculine ; yet the law of the 
 sexes is the same. 
 
 The sexes, when rightly trained, exercise a 
 good influence over each other. Men behave 
 better in female society than when alone. Let 
 a man live as a hermit and he is not so refined 
 and gentlemanly in his character and deport- 
 ment as when in her company. The presence 
 of woman always improves man. One good 
 woman will sanctify a whole company, and, I 
 presume, that a gentleman has the same 
 beneficial influence in a company of ladies. 
 There is no reason why boys and girls should 
 not be educated in the same school, and at the 
 same college. They are born in the same 
 family, and sit at the same fireside in child- 
 hood ; but what an excitement it once created 
 when an intellectual woman undertook to ob- 
 tain a college education ! Many think that 
 young gentlemen would not study much if 
 young ladies were admitted to their class- 
 rooms, but it is my opinion that they would 
 
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 Study better, as each would be a stimulus to 
 the other. 
 
 We should be educated for married life. I 
 do not mean that there should be institutions 
 for that purpose ; but parents should remem- 
 ber that marriage is the natnral destiny of 
 their children, and should give them the in- 
 formation they need to enable them to fulfill 
 their duties in married life There are some 
 judicious parents who are faithful to their res- 
 ponsibilities. May their number increase! 
 
 Social Faculties. 
 
 • Man, as a social being, has brain in the lateral 
 and basilar portions of the head. I'he organs 
 of the domestic feelings and propensities are 
 located in that portion which is occupied by 
 the lower and posterior convolutions of the 
 brain, mostly covered by occipital bone ; hence, 
 the social feelings are strong in proportion as 
 the occipital region of the brain is fully de- 
 veloped. The social faculties give an impetus 
 to the whole mind, and, when rightly guided, 
 qualify the individual to sustain an influential 
 position m society. The old systems of men- 
 tal philosophy have not recognized the inter- 
 esting fact that there are as many distant 
 qualities of mind as there are distinct social re- 
 lations to sustain. It has been the mission of 
 
LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. IO3 
 
 Phrenology to popularize this important truth, 
 so that now it is generally recognized. For 
 instance, there is a faculty of the mind which 
 adapts the sexes to each other. This is called 
 Amaiiveness: the function of which is to give 
 love between the sexes. It is this which stamps 
 man as the agent of his race. Frequently the 
 power of amativeness is developed in giving 
 life, vitality, general efficiency, thought, origin- 
 ality, and energy of mind. This faculty exerts 
 a quiet, but modifying influence in the general 
 intercourse between the sexes, giving to each 
 a deep interest in all that concerns the other. 
 It softens the proud, irascible, anti-social prin- 
 ciples of our nature in everything which re- 
 gards that sex which is the object of it, and in- 
 creases the activity and force of all the kindly 
 and benevolent affections. If the organ be 
 small, the person is less susceptible to emo- 
 tions of love, is cold-hearted and distant, dis- 
 posed to avoid the company of the opposite 
 sex, and frequently manifests a want of refine- 
 ment, tenderness, warmth, and delicacy of feel- 
 ing, which should exist between the sexes. 
 The affections of such a person are character- 
 ized by purity of feeling, and Platonic attach- 
 ment, rather than by those impassioned emo- 
 tions which spring from large Amativeness. 
 The proper guiding of this faculty would 
 
I04 LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 
 
 save to the human race a vast amount of health 
 and constitution. When perverted, it depraves 
 human nature more than any other propensity. 
 Cities and nations have been utterly destroyed 
 in consequence of the perversion of this organ. 
 If an individual possess his normal strength of 
 constitution, unimpaired by a loss of vitality, 
 he will have sufficient energy to give to his 
 business to warrant success, and failures w^ould 
 be the exception rather than the rule. If the 
 opposite be true, he develops only half of his 
 mind. Every act seems paralyzed, and he 
 is in a state of stupor most of the time. His 
 memory becomes enfeebled, and he can neither 
 think, plan, nor execute. There is a great dif- 
 ference between a man who has the cup of vi- 
 tality full, and running over, and one who has 
 just energy enough to get along without liter- 
 ally "breaking down." Parents should select 
 good books for their children to read, good- 
 associates, active and pleasant employment ; 
 for idleness and bad company are the forerun- 
 ners of licentiousness. 
 
 Cojijugality is another of the social organs. It 
 gives a desire to unite and concentrate the 
 affections for life on some one individual, to 
 share with that person all in life, to be con- 
 stantly in his or her society. When combined 
 with Amativeness, it attracts and seeks one of 
 
LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE- IO5 
 
 the opposite sex. Love between the sexes as 
 such, does not produce marriage ; but Conju- 
 gality gives this union. This faculty is located 
 in the lateral portion of the brain, just above 
 the cerebellum. It is stronger in woman than 
 in man. She is more social, and feels the need 
 of a mate more than he, because her enjoy- 
 ments are connected with domestic life, and 
 her happiness depends more upon the gratifi- 
 cation of her social nature. The majority of 
 men can live tolerably well without a mate, if 
 circumstances require it. The husband can 
 leave home, stay away from his wife, and re- 
 turn again, looking as well as ever; whereas, 
 his wife craves a companion, cannot live alone, 
 and, if happily married, she becomes pale and 
 thin when her husband is away, loses her appe- 
 tite, sleeps but little, and has no enjoyment 
 save when her husband is by her side. The 
 latter does not comprehend this state of mind; 
 he thinks because he enjoys himself away from 
 home without her, that she should be equally 
 happy without him. This faculty ties the knot 
 of affection, blends the interests of two congenial 
 souls into one, and thus cements their affec- 
 tions. The longer two persons, with this organ 
 large, live together, the more they assimilate 
 in looks, expressions, gait, and character. It 
 constitutes the foundation of marriage, and sus- 
 
I06 LOVE COURTSHrP AND MARRIAGE. 
 
 tains the superstructure until the objects are 
 separated by death. Some have this faculty 
 so small, that they can love as many times as 
 objects of love present themselves to their 
 notice. I know of those who are only waiting? 
 for their companions to be removed by death, 
 hoping then to have an opportunity to marry 
 the one they love better. Some have several 
 wives at the same time, as Solomon, and Brig- 
 ham Young, of Utah territory. The latter 
 had sixty wives and two hundred children. 
 He must have been a very fatherly man, but 
 with a small organ of Conjugality. Some who 
 have loved once can never love again, as in the 
 case of Washington Irving. This is often the 
 case where a person has led a secluded life, 
 has not been much in society, and has suddenly 
 become acquainted with an individual who 
 calls out their entire love. These instances 
 are, however, very rare. Some are married to 
 those who never reciprocate their affection, 
 and it is not until they have loved the second 
 and perhaps the third time, that their love 
 natures are wholly developed ; so that though 
 Conjugality would seem to imply that a per- 
 son could love but once, yet its real function 
 disposes one to be true and devoted to the ob- 
 ject of affection as long as life continues. My 
 advice to those young wives or husbands who 
 
LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. IO7 
 
 have any anxieties concerning what their res- 
 pective companions will do after their death, 
 is, to banish at once such foolish feelings, and 
 enjoy all they possibly can while life lasts. 
 
 Another faculty in the social brain is PJiilo- 
 progenitiveness or Parental Love, It is located 
 in the back part of the head, immediately 
 above the middle of the cerebellum, gives full- 
 ness to the centre of the occipital bone, a round- 
 ness and prominence to the back portion of the 
 head. The legitimate function of this faculty 
 is parental love, and its influence is necessary 
 to our social happiness, and the proper pre- 
 servation of the children. .It gives instinctive 
 love for the weak and helpless offspring. Its 
 power is increased in proportion as the object 
 is dependent and requires care and solicitude. 
 This faculty is more active when the child is 
 young, and \is> peculiar province is to hold the 
 mind of the parent to the child as long as care 
 is necessary for its happiness, maintenance, the 
 training and directing of all its mental and 
 physical powers. Let there be a baby in the 
 cradle, and the fond mother sleeps with one 
 eye and one ear open. The father is not so 
 mindful. He snores away till morning and 
 does not know that the watchful mother has 
 been up several times in the night to feed and 
 care for the child, till she tells him in the morn- 
 
I08 LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 
 
 ing; but if there is no baby in the cradle, she 
 snores too, and sleeps all night. This faculty 
 is stronger in woman than in man ; is more ac- 
 tive in girls than in boys. Girls are amused 
 with their dolls, and if they have large Ideality, 
 they will bestow as much affection and care on 
 the doll, as if it were a real child. The bo> 
 has his kite, knife, hammer, etc., and laughs 
 at his sister for "playing with dolls." 
 
 The lower part of Philoprogenitiveness 
 gives love for animals, pet dogs, and horses. 
 If a lady has no children, she will often pet 
 and talk to a poodle dog or cat, as though they 
 were children. A fharried lady with no chil- 
 dren, has raised a large family of dogs. She 
 takes care of them, pets and purses them when 
 they are ill, and has talked to them so much, 
 that they are quite intelligent. They will go 
 and open the door, or close it again as she bids 
 them, and are really quite obedient to her 
 wishes. In watering-places, you will see those 
 ladies who have nothing else to do, carrying 
 dogs when they are weary, giving them an air- 
 ing, petting them and sending all the other 
 dogs away, so that their own pet may not be 
 contaminated. I visited a family in the north 
 of England, where a lady was confined to the 
 house with illness. She could not walk. She 
 had a very lovely, loving cat, — the finest cat I 
 
LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. ICQ 
 
 ever saw. She tied it to a chair, or to a side 
 of the room, with a red string, as there was 
 only one cat in the neighborhood that she 
 thought was fit company for her own. Thus 
 was her organ oi Philopro^enitive7iess ^^^xqa^^A. 
 Better love a cat than not love anything ! yet 
 we should centre our love upon something as 
 elevated as possible, and while there are so 
 many fatherless and motherless children in the 
 world, ladies need not be at a loss for some- 
 thing to love and fondle. If it were not for 
 this faculty, the child might be neglected in 
 its early helpfulness, when there is nothing in 
 its nature and condition to render it partic- 
 ularly attractive. 
 
 The same is true in the animal world. The 
 hen is devoted to her chick, until she has 
 taught it to scratch for its own food ; to catch 
 its own grasshopper, to fly on to the roost it- 
 self. The bird is devoted to its young in the 
 nest. She feeds them for several weeks until 
 they can obtain their own food, protect them- 
 selves and become comparatively independent 
 of the parent. By the aid of the intellect, the 
 fond motherunderstands the wants of the child, 
 and develops its body and brain, so that the child 
 is prepared to go forth into the world and take 
 care of itself. The parent who has large Ben- 
 evolence and Philoprogenitiveness combined 
 
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 with small Combativeness, Destructiveness, 
 and Self-esteem, is too obliging, accommoda- 
 ting and subservient to his children. When 
 there is the reverse, and the selfish organs are 
 strong, the parent is liable tobesevereand harsh 
 in the treatment of children, and to look upon 
 them as so many impedients in the way of his 
 prosperity and happiness. Some thank God for 
 all the children they have, as Mrs. J., of Ches- 
 ter, England, who had 33; while others wish 
 that they were entirely free from such respon- 
 sibilities. The phrenological developments 
 explain a great variety of mental manifesta- 
 tions in this respect. 
 
 Another organ in the social group is Adhe- 
 siveness. It is located on both sides of Philo- 
 progenitiveness. The function of this faculty 
 is to give friendship, attachment, and sociabil 
 ity. It draws families together with grcgaii- 
 ousness of feeling, and unites them in perma- 
 nent bonds of affection. Through its influence, 
 we prefer the society of special, particular 
 friends, and devote ourselves to them. It leads 
 to intimacy, a free and unrestrained communi- 
 cation of thought and feeling, a desire to con- 
 fide in and rely on the object of our affection. 
 Large Adhesiveness makes the warm hearted, 
 social member of society. Small Adhesiveness 
 renders a person cold in his manners, imsocial 
 
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 and unfriendly. I know a cold hearted man, 
 who has been married five years, and boasts 
 that he has not kissed his wife once during 
 that time. He travels nearly all the year, and 
 having the organ of Adhesiveness deficient, 
 forms but few attachments, and cares very lit- 
 tle for friends or relatives. With this faculty 
 large, the individual welcomes his friends with 
 great cordiality when they visit him. It is a 
 bond of union to link society together. It is 
 naturally stronger in woman than in man, and 
 when she has large Adhesiveness joined with 
 large Philoprogenitiveness, she is pre-emi- 
 nently adapted to make the domestic circle ''a 
 heaven upon earth." 
 
 Adhesiveness inclines a woman to make more 
 sacrifices when she loves and weds, than a man, 
 to bestow more affection on her husband than 
 he is capable of reciprocating. When Adhe- 
 siveness and Approbativeness are both large, 
 she desires attentions, and the manifestations 
 of friendship. A young lady with this confir- 
 mation of brain, married a gentlemen who had 
 Adhesiveness and Approbativeness small, and 
 the intellectual faculties large ; the result was 
 unfortunate, particularly in the case of the 
 lady. After marriage, they moved into the 
 country, near a "growing town," but several 
 hundred miles distant from where the young 
 
112 LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 
 
 lady was born. They had the advantage oi 
 fresK air, a fine garden, etc., but the husband 
 spent nearly all of his time in the town, look- 
 ing after business, coming in contact with so- 
 ciety, hearing the news, enjoying and improv- 
 ing himself. The lady, as a matter of course, 
 remained at home to attend to the family 
 duties, and frequently saw no one but her 
 servants during the long day. Her mind, 
 naturally, centered on her husband, and she 
 looked forward to his return in the evening, as 
 a relief from the monotony of the day. A de- 
 scription of one evening, which was a type of 
 the week, may be interesting. As the hour of 
 his arrival approached, she watched from her 
 window to catch the first glimpse of his coming, 
 and as soon as he was in sight^ she went to the 
 door to meet him with a kiss. He received 
 this greeting coldly, and, as he pushed his way 
 into the house, said, " Come ! ain't supper most 
 ready ?" He wanted to get through with sup- 
 per, for he had his pockets full of newspapers, 
 which he was anxious to read. Quite impa- 
 tiently he added, " Hurry, hurry !" The good 
 wife hurried the food on to the table, and he 
 hurried it down into his stomach. He finished 
 his supper before his wife, and said, "Come, 
 come, clear off the table, I want to read." Slu- 
 silently removed the dishes, and he pulled a 
 
LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. II3 
 
 paper out of his pocket. Drawing his chair 
 close to the table, where he could have the 
 best of the light, and with his feet on a level 
 with his head, he placed himself in an attitude 
 for the evening's enjoyment. His early train- 
 ing had not been of the most refined kind as 
 you can judge, but he was considered a gentle- 
 man. After a little time, his wife came with 
 some work to the table, hoping to have a 
 friendly chat. They both sat silent for a time, 
 and the husband made no sign of pleasure at 
 her presence. The baby cried: "Wife," said 
 the husband, "will you take up the baby ? It 
 makes such a noise that I cannot take the 
 sense of what I am reading." The wife took 
 baby. It had waked to get a kiss from its 
 father, but he did -not think of that, only that 
 its noise had abridged his pleasure. The wife 
 sang baby to sleep, and again came to the 
 table, hoping her husband would soon lay 
 down his paper, and converse awhile with her. 
 But he still continued to read, so the wife ven- 
 tured a remark. "My dear, who did you see 
 to-day ? Where have you been ? What have 
 you been doing" ? "Eh ?" said the husband, 
 grumly. It is all the consolation she received. 
 He continued his reading. After a while she 
 spoke again. She cannot help it. She is a 
 woman ! She wanted entertainment, and was 
 
114 LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 
 
 willing to do her part towards obtaining ir. 
 " My dear, did you see that splendid turn-out 
 to-day ? — ^fine horses and equipage. I didn't 
 Jcnow there were such stylish people in this 
 region. Who were they?" *'l am reading, 
 my dear," said her inconsiderate lord. That 
 is all the encouragement she got," and he still 
 continued to read. After a while, he had fin- 
 ished one paper, and intended to carry it across 
 the street to his neighbor. He has read it. 
 The news is in the family, and that's enough. 
 He then took another paper from his pocket, 
 and commenced again to pore over its columns. 
 Finally, the wife saw that there was no chance 
 for conversation that night, for it was nearly 
 ten o'clock, and, as she really desired him to 
 make some purchases for her on the morrow, 
 when he went into town, she mustered courage, 
 and broke the silence again. " My dear, when 
 you go into town to-morrow. I wish you would 
 buy for me some pins, some needles, some 
 thread, and some tape : I want to make a dress 
 for baby." Then the husband rose and in an 
 offended and very dignified manner, threw 
 down his er, papexclaiming, "Every time I 
 come home and attempt to read, you keep that 
 eternal tongue of yours going; it's no use try- 
 ing,'' and he went sullenly to bed. 
 
 If this husl)an(l had read aloud to his wife. 
 
LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. II 5 
 
 or had rocked the cradle while she read to him, 
 or had only left the papers at home once in a 
 while for her to read, it would have been a 
 great pleasure to the wife, and she would have 
 continued to improve her mind. Whereas, if 
 her time is entirely spent in domestic drudgery, 
 though she may have been intelligent and ac- 
 complished when he married her, she will re- 
 trograde, while he will progress by his con- 
 stant contact with society. By-and-by, he will 
 spend his evenings somewhere else than at 
 home, with those who can entertain him bet- 
 ter than his wife, and thus trouble will come 
 into the household. A man never makes a 
 mistake when he keeps his wife posted in the 
 news of the day, and gives to her every oppor- 
 tunity for improvement. She is a more con- 
 genial companion for him, and is better quali- 
 fied to educate the children. Besides, he con- 
 tributes in this way to the health of his wife 
 and family. Many a wife is ill for no other 
 reason than because she is obliged to stay at 
 home all the time ; scarcely sees her husband, 
 and has but little opportunity for entertain- 
 ment. She pines in solitude, loses her brilliancy, 
 sharpness of mind, appetite, health, and life 
 itself. She goes to bed discouraged, and the 
 doctor comes, feels her pulse, looks at her 
 tongue, cannot understand what the matter is 
 
Il6 LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 
 
 with his patient, but as they have sent for him 
 to prescribe, he must do something; so he 
 bleeds, blisters, and gives medicine. But it 
 was the kind and sympathetic attentions of 
 her husband she needed, instead of medicine 
 from the doctor. If the husband had occasion- 
 ally gone with a carriage to the door, and said 
 to his wife, "Come, my dear, let us have a ride 
 into the country, let us go and see our friends, 
 or attend some pleasant entertainment," he 
 would have perhaps saved his wife's life. The 
 best medicine a man can give to his wife, is an 
 interchange of thought and feeling with others 
 in a friendly manner. It is as much the duty 
 of the husband to look after the welfare of his 
 wife in this respect, as to make money in his 
 business. 
 
 One of the illustrations of its manifestation 
 is connected with the following incident, which 
 occurred in Boston, Mass. While examining 
 the head of a gentleman, I remarked, "that 
 he was not adapted to the social and domestic 
 circle, — that I pitied his family, if he had one." 
 He expressed surprise, and said he was a man 
 of large family. The regret was repeated, with 
 the explanation that he was unable to enjoy 
 the family circle, and render himself a social 
 man. Nothing was learned of the case until 1 
 visited an adjoining town, and was called upon 
 
LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. II 7 
 
 to examine a family of six children. At the 
 close of the examinations, I placed my hand 
 on the head of the mother, and told her she 
 was very social, companionable, warm-hearted, 
 friendly, and capable of enjoying society and 
 company. She wept, and said, " the remark was 
 was true with reference to her capacity to enjoy 
 friends and society, but she had been deprived 
 of the privilege since her marriage. In com- 
 pliance with her husband's commands she had 
 not been into society since her marriage, nor 
 had she the privilege of receiving her friends 
 at her own table. She said her husbands place 
 of business was in Boston, and that he spent 
 most of his time in labouring for the benefit of 
 the slaves at the south ; but she had none of 
 his society, and none of his help in taking care 
 of the children. She was left to do the best 
 she could alone." On returning to Boston, I 
 visited the place, and found, to my surprise, 
 that the cold-hearted man whom I had previ- 
 ously examined was the husband of this affec- 
 tionate wife. Adhesiveness, with the social 
 brain generally, was small, while Benevolence 
 was large, and through the force of circum- 
 stances he had directed it towards foreign ob- 
 jects of charity rather than to his family. He 
 could have manifested as much charity for 
 
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 Others, and, at the same time, could have been 
 more social at his own fireside. 
 
 The organ of Adhesiveness is a very power- 
 ful stimulus in professional lite. Those clergy- 
 men, physicians, teachers, and poloticians who 
 have large Adhesiveness, with fair intellectual 
 qualifications for their respective vocations 
 will be eminently more successful than others 
 endowed with genius who have less of the 
 warm, social, genia' nature. A salesman, with 
 a warm, social, friendly disposition, will be of 
 much more service to his employer, than one 
 who is cold and indifferent to the wants of his 
 customer. Cultivate this faculty of Adhesive- 
 ness. It will not only gain for you a position 
 in society, but enhance your usefulness and 
 happiness. 
 
 The natural language of Adhesiveness makes 
 the head hang on one side, and incline back 
 ward over the shoulder. The portrait of Prin- 
 cess Alice, probably taken when she was in 
 love, is a fine illustration of the point. You 
 never see persons throw their heads on one 
 side unless they have been in love. I can al- 
 ways tell by looking at my audience who have 
 been under the exercise of the social faculties. 
 
 A young man of my acquaintance wished to 
 marry, but could not succeed in getting an\ 
 young lady in love with him. He was astound- 
 
LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. I IQ 
 
 ed at his failure At one time, he donned his 
 best attire, and went with a great deal of dig- 
 nity to see a young lady. He carefully sat 
 down in his chair, very erectly and precisely 
 adjusting himself, as though he were to have 
 a photograph taken. He was on one side of 
 the fire-place, and she on the other. "Very 
 rainy, this evening," observed he. After a 
 pause. "Crops very backward this season. ' 
 Another pause ensued. " Did you hear of the 
 accident ? a boy got run over with a cart." In 
 this way the evening passed, and about nine 
 o'clock he rose to leave, asking, "if he might 
 come again." The young lady did not say 
 "yes,'* and he could not understand why he 
 made no impression. He thought he act- 
 ed like a gentleman, and so he did, but not 
 like another young man who called to see a 
 young woman he loved. He sat on the op- 
 posite side of the fire-place for a time, wanted 
 to draw nearer, but did not exactly know how. 
 She spoke in rather a low tone of voice; and 
 he, feigning not to have heard, moved his 
 chair forward a little, with the remark, " I didn't 
 quite hear what you said." She repeated the 
 observation in the same low tone of voice, and 
 again he drew nearer, saying, "I am a little 
 deaf, in consequence of a recent cold, I sup- 
 pose!" After a while they soon became very 
 
120 LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 
 
 social, passed an agreeable evening, she in- 
 vited him to call again, and the final result 
 was, that they were mutually pleased with each 
 Other, and were married. 
 
 The Irish, as a nation, manifests this organ 
 in their promptness to defend the cause and 
 character of their friends. The Hindoo has 
 of it. The Scotch, as a Nation, have it large, 
 as all their authors evince. 
 
 The last faculty of the social group is hi- 
 habitiveness. It is located directly over Philo- 
 progenitiveness. It is near the termination of 
 the occipital and parietal sutures. This facul- 
 ty gives attachment to place, love of home and 
 country. The necessity for a primitive faculty, 
 from which results attachment to country, 
 home, and residence, will be at once admitted, 
 when reference is had to the great variety of 
 clime, soil, and institutions of which the earth 
 is composed. 
 
 A fixedness of habitation is absolutely de- 
 manded for all improvements in the arts and 
 sciences, in social and political institutions. 
 How applicable, then, the quaint old proverb, 
 that a " rolling stone gathers no moss." Com- 
 pare the Bedouin of the desert with the Anglo- 
 Saxon ; the wandering and predatory habits of 
 the former, with the desire to be settled, the 
 love of country, of the old homestead, so con- 
 
LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 12 1 
 
 spicuous in the latter. The Arab race were 
 originally far more enlightened than the na- 
 tives of Britain. At one time they were the 
 intellectual teachers of the whole world. But 
 they have been such a wandering people, that 
 they have retrograded while others have pro- 
 gressed. The barbarous hordes of the Scyth- 
 ians, Goths, Visigoths, and Huns improved won- 
 derfully in their modesof life, and in intellectual 
 culture, after they settled in the south of 
 Europe. 
 
 There are some persons who are never con- 
 tented away from their homes. They must 
 sit at their own fireside circle, or they pine and 
 are extremely unhappy, whether they are sur- 
 rounded by friends or not. The Irish are partic- 
 ularly attached to the land of their birth ; and 
 although the tide of emigration has carried 
 many to other countries, yet there is no place 
 half so dear to them as Erin's green isle. 
 What can stimulate to exertion more than the 
 knowledge that our achievements will be of 
 service to those we love in the family ? The 
 love of home is one of the most important 
 features in domestic life. In the formation of 
 those ties which must eventually lead to a set- 
 tled residence, particular regard should be paid 
 to the faculty which produces pleasure in such 
 a settlement, as without that, a reverse state 
 
122 LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 
 
 of feeling will govern our decisions, and in- 
 fluence our conduct. 
 
 The social faculties are very powerful in 
 their effect on the happiness and perfection of 
 the race, and when legitimately developed lead 
 to marriage and the formation of the domestic 
 circle. 
 
 The object of marriage should be to perpetu- 
 ate the race, to develop and direct love, to 
 secure the best possible influence of the male 
 and female mind, to give a healthy stimulus for 
 the action of all the mental powers, to unite 
 the human race, to lay a foundation for society, 
 to form a bond of union between nations. 
 
 The qualifications for married life can be 
 briefly stated to be a well developed physical 
 organization, including maturity of both ; a 
 social and domestic disposition, self-govern- 
 ment, discipline, industry, good habits, self- 
 respect, good principles, and a proper educa- 
 tion for discharging all the duties incident to 
 married life. 
 
 Happy marriages have their foundation in 
 love; but it may be well to define what we 
 mean by the term "love;" for it has every 
 variety of signification as we use it. " Perfect 
 love," as applied to a true union of two in mar- 
 riage is something more than is expressed by 
 the ordinary acceptation. It is something that 
 
LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 1 23 
 
 cannot be weighed or measured, seen or han- 
 dled, lent or borrowed ; use only brightens and 
 strengthens it, age gives it intensity and power 
 of action. It never wearies nor faints; for- 
 sakes nor forgets its object, slights nor trifles, 
 wears a false smile, nor assumes false colors. 
 It is always warm, alive to sympathy, smiling, 
 pliable, gentle, humane, disinterested, and de- 
 voted. It is constant, uniform, and unchange- 
 able ; all admire and desire it, yet few possess 
 it. It can be had without money or labor; 
 and yet thousands would sacrifice their for- 
 tunes to obtain it. Without it mankind are 
 miserable, society is unstrung, law is of no 
 avail, there are no pure family enjoyments, and 
 man is like a feather on the wind. With it, 
 man is perfectly happy, society is united like a 
 band of brothers, and the family circle is a 
 paradise on earth. Those who are fully im- 
 bued with it, are honest, virtuous, industrious, 
 moral, refined, elevated in feeling and conduct, 
 happy and contented. Those who do not pos- 
 sess it are morose, unhappy, irregular in their 
 habits and feelings, and are more or less in- 
 clined to lead an immoral life. Love is not 
 the result of any one organ, it is the action of 
 the mind as a whole. It is a warm, genial, life- 
 giving power. It is life, for it gives and sus- 
 tains life. 
 
124 LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 
 
 Strictly speaking, every distinct power of the 
 mind has its own love, which is satisfied with 
 its own gratification. But there is a love that 
 is disinterested ; that desires others to prosper 
 and be happy ; that sacrifices self ; that is will- 
 ing to shine through another and be happy in 
 their success. It makes us love our neighbors 
 as ourselves. Love is based on the law of 
 union and attraction. This has its foundation 
 in the law of affinity, which bears an intimate 
 relationship to adaptation and assimilation. 
 There is no love where there is no affinity, at- 
 traction, adaptation, and assimilation of one 
 or more qualities. Love begins to develop 
 towards another when we feel that our happi- 
 ness is not complete within ourselves. Its 
 growth and perfecting infiuences depend much 
 on tone of organization, circumstances, phren- 
 ological development of the social faculties. 
 Benevolence, Veneration, Spirituality, Consci- 
 entiousness, Ideality, arterial blood, good diges- 
 tion and the mental temperament. To love 
 self, properly, is an improvement on no love 
 at all. To love another in addition to self- 
 love, is an advanced step, and to love our Cre- 
 ator beyond the creature is the climax of all 
 love. Though heaven-born, it is found the most 
 pureand abund ant among the poor and depend- 
 ent. It cannot be monopolized by rank or 
 
LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 1 25 
 
 Station. It speaks gently to the wayward, 
 feeds the poor, clothes the naked, warms the 
 cold and shivering, shelters the stranger, loves 
 liberty, sets the captive free, loosens the bonds 
 of slavery, tempers law with mercy, takes the 
 gospel into prison, spreads the mantle of char- 
 ity over a multitude of sins, treats the insane 
 humanely, settles difficulties without war, car- 
 ries the good tidings wherever it goes, is a 
 hand-maid to virtue. Its mission is to blend 
 the human race. With the social brain it gives 
 a home and family; with Benevolence it leads 
 us to value the whole human family. Guided 
 by Veneration, and connected with a spiritual 
 birth, it acquaints us with the spirit of inspira- 
 tion, and the true character of God — for God 
 is love ; and when purified, it gives immortality 
 beyond the grave. 
 
 Love is the most tender element of the mind. 
 Do not trifle with a person in love, though he 
 may have been unwise in the selection of a 
 mate ; for many a person has been driven to 
 desperation because his feelings have been 
 misunderstood. 
 
 Love is an enduring element of the mind. 
 We have an example of it in our Heavenly 
 Father, who endures all our wanderings and de- 
 partures from a correct course of life. Nothing 
 but the love of God is equal to this. We have a 
 
126 LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 
 
 Striking instance of this in the love David bore 
 toward his wayward son Absolom, who had 
 gained permission to leave the city of Jeru- 
 salem for a few days, to pay a vow that he had 
 made. This statement was only an excuse to 
 get away to raise an army, for the purpose of 
 returning to take the city of Jerusalem, destroy 
 his father, and obtain the crown. When it 
 was known that he had raised an army in op- 
 position to his father and the crown, David's 
 soldiers assembled to meet Absolom in mortal 
 combat. As David left the city, though his 
 son was seeking his life, he said to his soldiers. 
 "Deal gently, for my sake, with the young 
 man, even with Absolom," David sat in the 
 gateway, anxious to learn the destiny of his 
 son. As soon as the messengers came, he in- 
 quired of them the tidings of the battle-field. 
 And when the truth flashed upon his mind, he 
 w^as much moved, and went up to the chamber 
 over the gate and wept ; and as he went thus, 
 he gave vent to the following lamentation : 
 "Oh ! my son Absolom ! my son, my son, Ab- 
 solom ! Would God I had died for thee. O. 
 Absolom ! my son, my son ! " 
 
 A touching manifestation of love between 
 two individuals was shown in the affection 
 which Jonathan bore to David, and the recipro- 
 cal attachment shown by the latter. When 
 
LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 127 
 
 Jonathan's father sought the life of David, 
 Jonathan screened him, and swore to protect 
 hijrj, which he did at the risk of his crown and 
 life, *'for he loved him as his own soul." 
 
 A loving wife will bear and forbear. The 
 same is true in the case of the husband Pure 
 love refines, softens, elevates, and gives a higher 
 tone to the mind. Let a young man, rude in 
 his ways, or a young lady giddy in her manners, 
 have their love-natures developed, there will 
 be an entire change in their deportment. 
 They will manifest more character, strength 
 of mind, virtue, principle, gentleness of nature, 
 a finer moral perception. 
 
 Did you ever receive a love-letter ? Keep 
 it as a treasure, read and re-read it occasionly, 
 for you will not have one every day, and re- 
 spond to it, if it is a legitimate love to be en- 
 couraged. Some persons never knew what it 
 was to have another individual pour out their 
 love to them. Some, when they receive a love- 
 letter, not being able to appreciate it, make 
 fun over it, or destroy it. Watch a rose-bud 
 in the morning, when the warm rays of the 
 sun shine upon it. Gradually it swells and un- 
 folds its velvet petals, till, by-and-by, it is fully 
 bloomed. Just so is it with the heart under 
 the influence of love ; it opens, swells, and ex- 
 pands into full-grown power. 
 
128 LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 
 
 Love comprises many qualities and condi- 
 tions. It is on a graduating scale. It com- 
 mences with the physical, and, when perfected, 
 ends with the spiritual. Being of divine origin, 
 it is in perfection only where it commenced — in 
 Heaven. There is a great difference between 
 conjugal and passionate love. Conjugal love 
 is mental, depends on mental affinity, is con- 
 stant, uniform, increases with age and exercise, 
 is steady as the law of gravitation ; while pas- 
 sionate love is physical, depends on health and 
 circumstances; is impulsive, fickle, and easily 
 diverted, becomes weaker with age, exhausts 
 itself by use, is at its prime in the meridian of 
 life. Union, based upon passionate love only, 
 is of short duration ; that based upon conjugal 
 love will last forever. 
 
 Neither husband nor wife should find fault 
 with each other in company. The wife, gener- 
 ally, is very sensitive. Suppose company are 
 taking tea with her. Let the husband come 
 into the room, and say something harsh and 
 unkind. See how the blood rushes to her face ; 
 her hands tremble as she pours out the tea. 
 The pleasure for the whole evening is spoiled ; 
 she does not sleep for the whole night, and 
 never sees those friends but she remembers 
 the occurrence. Husbands lose nothing by be- 
 ing partial to their wives. They can afford 
 
LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 1 29 
 
 to be SO. A woman is easily influenced by the 
 law of love. But if she have large Firmness, 
 you cannot make her yield to your wishes, un- 
 less you break her spirit. I know of one woman 
 who was married to a man of unflinching de- 
 termination. He intended to do all the ruling 
 in the household. The day after their mar- 
 riage, he ordered his wife to go up and down 
 the stairs a doxen times, and as she thought it 
 was a wife's duty to obey her husband, she 
 complied. You may judge of the result. After 
 a few years she was one of the most unhappy 
 woman in the neighborhood. Where there is 
 love there is no ruling on either side. Each 
 does that for which they are best fitted. There 
 is not much ruling on the part of a Govern- 
 ment which has the best interests of its people 
 at heart. There can be discipline without 
 austerity or authority. Husbands sometimes 
 love their wives in proportion as they bear 
 perfect children, but they forget one important 
 lesson — the law of hereditary descent. Hus- 
 bands, if you value perfect, intelligent, social, 
 affectionate, warm-hearted children, give to 
 your wives that attention, love, kindness, and 
 sympathy, their natures crave. A word to the 
 wise is sufficient. Take the hint, and you wUl 
 reap the benefits in your posterity. 
 Those only are happy in wedlock who under- 
 
130 LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 
 
 Stand themselves and each other. It is better 
 to do the "courting" after than before mar- 
 riage. The object in visiting each other before- 
 hand 5A<9^/^ be to compare notes, to become 
 acquainted with each other's capacities, educa- 
 tion, circumstances, inclinations, and desires. 
 If these harmonize, love will be likely to follow 
 the leadings of intellect for a guide, and when 
 two persons are married under such influences, 
 there will be no interruption of the love through 
 life. Some young gentlemen are exceedingly 
 polite when they ''go-a-courting," very anxious 
 to please, and to wait upon the young lady. 
 They would actually like her to drop her glove, 
 so that they might have a chance to pick it up 
 for her; but after marriage the young lady 
 has to wait upon herself, and often pines from 
 neglect. If you commence the acquiantance 
 with great demonstrations of love, unless you 
 continue them, your mate will fancy that love 
 has grown cold. 
 
 There should be mutual love. Frequently a 
 young gentleman feels as though a young lady 
 ought to marry him because he desires it. "I 
 want you to marry me," said an urgent suitor 
 to a young lady. 
 
 'T do not love you, how can I marry you ?" 
 she replied. 
 
 ''Never mind that, I love you so much, that 
 
LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. I3I 
 
 you must say yes." And she is almost com- 
 pelled to marry him, to get rid of his importu- 
 nities, when she feels no reciprocity of love. 
 The young man thinks only of his own happi- 
 ness, but the result is not generally fortunate. 
 When they are both equally interested, there 
 is then a true marriage. Each should have 
 the same object in view. If one marries for a 
 home, and the other for a companion, the re- 
 sult is not favorable. I know a lady who mar- 
 ried for a home, while her husband desired a 
 companion. She gained a home, but he did 
 not get a wife; consequently, there was misery 
 in the marriage. 
 
 If you marry a young lady who is decidedly 
 ambitious, and anxious to make an appearance 
 in society, you must either adapt yourself to 
 her condition, or she must understand your 
 position, and be willing to conform to it. 
 
 There'should be similar age and experience. 
 The husband should generally be older than 
 the wife; for a woman matures sooner than 
 man. But there should not be a difference of 
 more than fifty years! otherwise the parties 
 cannot assimilate very well, or enjoy the same 
 things. A true marriage is the blending of 
 the male and female characters for/life — a 
 mutual partnership ; in fact, it is the only true 
 artnership, for each are really interested in 
 
132 LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 
 
 the welfare of both. It is an equal exchange 
 of all that secures love, union, and harmony. 
 A le^al marriage does not always bring con- 
 cord and happiness. We must be united in 
 spirit to be truly blessed. 
 
 Marriage is a perfecting institution ; as we 
 have said, it elevates and ennobles, but as a 
 seed planted in the earth requires time for 
 germination and maturity, so love is not de- 
 veloped at once. Some blend quickly, because 
 their natures are well adapted ; others never 
 blend, sometimes quarrel and get divorced. 
 
 Each should command the respect of the 
 other, for love cannot long continue where 
 there is no respect. 
 
 We should see each other's virtues rather 
 than failings. No mortal is perfect, and com- 
 promise is often necessary on both sides. We 
 seldom meet with a case like that of Rev. Mr. 
 Newton who remarked "that he had lived 
 with his wife fifty years, had never quar- 
 relied, or had the slightest difference with her." 
 1 examined his head in New York, and found 
 that there was scarcely a defect in his organ- 
 ization : all the organs appeared to be fully 
 developed. If the brain of Mrs. Newton is 
 similarly organized, they have no occasion to 
 differ, but will assimilate to perfection of 
 character. 
 
LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. I33 
 
 A lady remarked to me "that she was 
 about to get a divorce from her husband." I 
 said, "What is your reason for this state of 
 mind ?" "Oh," replied she, "he is so cold, in- 
 different, selfish, complaining, and severe in 
 his disposition. He does not supply my abso- 
 lute wants, and as I have to earn my own bread, 
 I might as well be away from him entirely, and 
 not come in contact with his cold, cruel, fault- 
 finding disposition ; I could just as well care 
 for myself alone." Said I to her, " Perhaps 
 you have not taken the right course. You are 
 very quick, excitable, impulsive, radical, rather 
 disrespectful, whereas he is slow * old-fogeyish,' 
 philosophical, repulsive, very determined, and 
 cannot bear dictation." "That is a fact." 
 "Let me tell you what to do," I rejoined, 
 "When you have a quarrel again, let him say 
 all he desires, even though he is decidedly in 
 fault, let him abuse you as much as he likes, 
 and when he stops, say, 'Well, I see I am in 
 the wrong. I am very sorry, but I will en- 
 deavor to do better next time.' It he has one 
 particle of manliness he will relent." She went 
 home, and not long after, they had another 
 difficulty. She adopted the course I prescribed. 
 The result proved that he was so much affected 
 by her confession, when his conscience told 
 him he was in the wrong, that he blamed him- 
 
134 LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 
 
 self even more than he deserved. If this lady 
 had been a little more yielding and compro- 
 mising before, they would not have had so many 
 difficulties. The one who confesses first has 
 always the advantage. 
 
 In the selection of partners for life, there are 
 several things to beconsidered. Avoid broken- 
 down constitutions, broken-down lovers, who 
 have been so often in love, that they have no 
 love left. Avoid those who are loving another, 
 and only marry for the sake of being married- 
 Some have not as much control over their love 
 as others, and are to be pitied rather than 
 blamed. Avoid marrying those who are lov- 
 ing several at the same time, and do not know 
 which to choose ; wait till they have decided. 
 Avoid those who marry for money. 
 A young man in Georgia became most ex- 
 travagantly attached to a maiden lady some- 
 what advanced in years, not at all interesting 
 or attractive, but very wealthy, and her prop- 
 erty was unencumbered, except by herself. 
 She was not only sickly, bed-ridden, one foot 
 in the grave, the other about to follow, but in 
 every other way unqualified for domestic life. 
 No one expected that she would live more 
 than two years at the longest; but this fine, 
 healthy, good-looking young man loved her to 
 distraction, and insisted on her marrying him- 
 
LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 1 35 
 
 the cause why he loved her so desperately was 
 well understood in the neighborhood. They 
 were married ; but, instead of dying, and giv- 
 ing him an opportunity to enjoy her fortune 
 with some one else more congenial to his feel- 
 ings, she rapidly improved, till she regained 
 her health, lived to see him an old, grey-head- 
 ed man, and died only five years before he did. 
 Soon after her death, he went into the com- 
 pany of young ladies, tried to play "the agree- 
 able" to them, but the young ladies were ac- 
 quainted with his previous history, refused his 
 proposals, and told him that as he had shown his 
 cloven foot once, he would not be able to do 
 it again. 
 
 Avoid hereditary diseases, because these are 
 tansmissible to children. If the woof of one 
 disease is woven into the warp of another how 
 can you expect anything but insanity, consump- 
 tion, scrofula, blindness, and deaf-mutes ? 
 
 Avoid marrying cousins. It is an established 
 fact that the result of the marriage of blood 
 relations is deterioration of the offspring. If 
 frequently repeated in the same family, it will, 
 eventually, lead to idiocy. A gentleman who 
 has recently published a medical work, cites 
 many examples where imperfections of both 
 mind and body have resulted from the marriage 
 of cousins. In a certain secluded town in France, 
 
136 LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 
 
 where the inhabitants had no communication 
 with the people of other towns, it was quite a 
 peculiarity for the children to be born with six 
 fingers. Out of 121 marriages, 17 were thus 
 affected ; but after a new road had been 
 cut through the place, this peculiarity disap- 
 peared. An estimable couple, who were 
 cousins, living in Schenectady, New York, had 
 eleven children, and six of them were born 
 blind. In America, the subject has been inves- 
 tigated, and it has been found that ten per 
 cent, of all the deaf and dumb, five per cent, of 
 the blind, and fifteen per cent, of the idiots, 
 are the results of the marriage of first cousins. 
 The governors of Kentucky and Maryland ad 
 vised the Legislatures of their respective States 
 to prohibit the marriage of cousins under 
 severe penalties. They affirmed that it was a 
 flagrant violation of the laws of nature for 
 cousins to marry, when seventeen to twenty 
 per cent, of the inmates of charitable institu- 
 tions are the result of this violation, and when 
 out of y^j marriages of cousins, 256 have pro- 
 duced deaf, dumb, blind, and idiotic children. 
 Cousins sometimes marry with impunity, with- 
 out the evil results of which we have spoken, 
 because they have strong constitutions, and 
 hereditarily partake of the peculiarities of dif- 
 
LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. T37 
 
 ferent branches of the family; but there is 
 always a risk in such relationships. 
 
 Avoid that which leads to jealousy. Be 
 true to ^ach other. Let each be constantly 
 and pleasantly occupied. Treat each other as 
 kindly and tenderly after as before marriage. 
 Banish everything from the family that has a 
 tendency to separate you from your wife. 
 Whatever may be its nature, it will eventually 
 destroy your happiness. Jealousy frequently 
 results from a false education, and the reading 
 of light, fictitious, imaginative works. Some 
 suppose that marriage will lead to Paradise, 
 and when they find that marriage life is prac- 
 tical, the scales fall from their eyes, and they 
 are fearful that they are not rightly mated. 
 Sometimes jealousy arises from a diseased 
 state of the brain or body. When a husband 
 takes a lady from a pleasant circle of friends 
 into a distant part of the country, he should 
 pay special attention to her, till she has formed 
 friendships and new associations, so that she 
 may be as happy in her new home as in her 
 old one. Then she will have no time or thought 
 for jealousy. Some are more exclusive in their 
 love than others. Study each other's peculiari- 
 ties, and conform as much as possible. Avoid 
 long courtships. Sometimes a young man will 
 visit a young lady year after year, monopolize 
 
138 LOVE COURTSHIP ANDMARRIAGE. 
 
 her time and talents, prevent others from en- 
 joying her society, and then marry another 
 lady. A young gentleman was very attentive 
 to a young lady. She entertained him in her 
 best style, sang her best songs, played her best 
 tunes, told her best stories ; but in vain ! when 
 he was wearied with her company, he left and 
 sought the society of another. The second 
 gentleman came, and she supposed as before 
 that he desired to marry her, but he left her as 
 the first. The third gentleman came, for she 
 was really very attractive, and, wiser than be- 
 fore, she began to feel that she could not 
 afford to spend as much time for the mere 
 gratification of gentlemen ; she, therefore, re- 
 solved to speak her mind plainly. "Mr. — , 
 What is your object in visiting me ? If it is 
 simply for entertainment, I cannot give to you 
 my entire time and energies; but if your ob- 
 ject is to know if we are adapted to each other 
 with a view to marriage, then I have no ob- 
 jections to give you my company." This 
 brought him to terms. He proposed and they 
 were soon married, and lived very happily. If 
 a gentleman has such excessive delicacy, the 
 lady can afford to help him a little. 
 
 A very talented young man made the ac- 
 quaintance of a Quaker gentlemen and his lady. 
 The Quaker had a fine daughter, and also a 
 
LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 13Q 
 
 fine library, the books from which he freely 
 loaned to the young man, who generally came 
 in the evening to return them, when he sup- 
 posed the daughter would be at home. She 
 often exchanged the books for him, and had a 
 friendly chat with him. One evening he came 
 as usual, the young lady met him at the door. 
 She was dressed to go out, and said, "Who 
 would you like to see, me or my mother? I 
 was about to call on a friend. If my mother 
 will answer your purpose, please to walk into 
 the drawing-room ; but if you desire my com- 
 pany I will postpose my visit till another time." 
 The young man hesitated, and stammered, 
 "He — he — did not want to — to — to detain her 
 from her engagement, but if she had not been 
 going out he would have enjoyed her society." 
 "All right," she.rejoined, and accordingly took 
 off her bonnet, and they passed a very pleas- 
 ant evening. That question, "Who do you 
 prefer to see, me or my mother ?" settled the 
 matter. The'result was he soon proposed, and 
 they .were afterwards married. I am well ac- 
 quainted .with"both parties. 
 
 PerKaps you have not a mother on whom 
 you can put the responsibility of the matter, 
 and must, resort to another expedient, like a 
 certaih young iady in New York, who received 
 the {attentions vo^^j young gentleman for 15 
 
I40 LOVE COURTSHIP AND iMARRIAGE, 
 
 years. They loved each other, and there was 
 a general understanding that they were to be 
 married. She supposed every year that he 
 would make a formal proposal, but 15 years 
 passed, and nothing of a definite nature had 
 been said. One morning the lady was exa- 
 mining her trunk, and saw some clothing 
 marked " 1815." With a sigh, she exclaimed, 
 " Alas ! I was 1 5 when these articles were made, 
 and now I am 30 years of age. They were 
 prepared in expectation that I would soon be 
 married. If I wait 15 years longer I shall then 
 be 45, and if my lover gets tired of me, who 
 will want me then?" She resolved that she 
 would bring matters to a crisis. At length, one 
 night, the gentleman called as usual, and spent 
 the evening: when he rose to go, he said, 
 "Good night, my dear." She responded in 
 rather a prompt and business-like manner, 
 "Good-bye, my dear." "What do you mean ?" 
 said the gentleman, "you have never said this 
 before." "Well," replied the lady, "1 am go- 
 ing away from town ; I have a great many 
 friends in the country, and they have contin- 
 ually written for me to visit them. I have 
 about concluded to accept their invitations, and 
 if I find it agreeable, I shall remain, so that 
 you will probably never see me again. I have 
 waited 15 years for you in vain." Seeing a 
 
LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. I4I 
 
 shade of sadness in his face, she began to re- 
 lent, and exclaimed,— ' If you want me, say so, 
 for now is your last chance." He took the 
 hint, went home, wrote a note, desiring her to 
 be married by a certain time, and enclosed a 
 check for 500 dollars, as he was rich, while she 
 was in moderate circumstances. She had been 
 ready for 15 years, and did not require much 
 urging. After they were married, as they were 
 sitting cozily one evening enjoying themselves, 
 and thinkingof how much time had been lost by 
 theirllong courtship, the husband looked up very 
 lovingly and said, "Wife, why didn't you say 
 that before ? We might have been married 
 long ago. I came to see you many times with 
 the intention of 'popping the question,' but I 
 felt the responsibility so much that every time 
 I attempted to speak my heart got into my 
 throat, and went up-up-up-up-up pat, and I 
 couldn't do it." 
 
 Young ladies, when a young gentleman is so 
 modest as that, and you know that he loves 
 you, just help him a little. Woman has her 
 privileges in this respect; let her use them 
 when necessary. Remember, then, that true 
 marriage is based on love, which results from 
 the combination of all the different faculties. 
 If love can blend two natures into one, it can 
 assimilate nations, till the race becomes one 
 
142 LOVE COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE. 
 
 kingdom, has one great church, and one great 
 ruler. 
 
 Remember also, that the marriage relation 
 is the commencement of the perfection of the 
 character. In proportion as we enjoy the mar- 
 riage relation, are we qualified to love higher 
 objects and to enjoy ourselves more fully in 
 the life to come. If love is sanctioned by 
 Divine influences it will perfect the character, 
 so that those who are truly mated here, may 
 anticipate a re-union hereafter, and perhaps 
 spend their eternity together in bliss. 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 
 NOTE.— As a means of avoiding misunderstanding, the author 
 would emphatically state that she upholds with her whole Being 
 the sacredness of true marriage, but deplores some of the laws 
 that would compel people to live together when knowing that 
 their marriage had been a mistake, and that at least separation 
 would be infinately better for all concerned. Love is the only 
 foundation rock upon which the matrimonial house can be en- 
 duringly built. 
 
 In all business partnerships, cessation of the connection is ex- 
 pected, in case either party so desires, but in marriage, each 
 may know that error has been committed, and be willing to 
 annul the partnership, yet the laws (in some states) demand and 
 compel a continuation, disgusting, repulsive and often poison- 
 ing to the very life. In many cases the daily bread of the 
 woman and perhaps of her children also, depends upon a sub- 
 mission to this debasing condition. 
 
 The agony of mind and body, the torture to refinement of 
 feeling, the horrors of death in life endured by some women 
 under such circumstances, it is impossible for pen to portray. 
 You may read the record as written in many a hopeless and 
 crushed spirit right around you. The law and the church have 
 laid this heavy burden upon weak shoulders, thus in the name of 
 duty, upholding a prostitution as real and as crushing to We 
 soul, as the pitiful condition of the lewd woman upon the streets' 
 The words of St Paul are glibly quoted as meaning that a 
 woman's duty is to submit to her husband, and continue to bear 
 children when married, whether love rules or not. The wo-ds 
 as translated, are, "wives submit yourselves to your own (true) 
 husbands in the Lord." (in Love.) Could one's own husband, the 
 other self, demaud any such duty ? If so where would the Lord- 
 God be if Love were absent ? God is Love, then how can God 
 exist where Love does not ? 
 
SHOULD WOMAN OBEY ? 
 This is virtually taking the position that woman's body is not 
 her own. Oh ! woman, you have submitted so long and have 
 been bodily "given" (or sold) "in marriage" and treated as 
 goods and chattels, that even now, at the close of the progress- 
 ive nineteenth century, you are almost afraid to arise in your 
 own strength of new found independence and declare to the 
 world the law and the church — "My body is my own and you 
 shall none of you give it nor sell it to any one or for any pur- 
 pose. I shall obey the law of God, so deeply engraven upon 
 my heart, and from henceforth my body shall be given only 
 with my true soul-love. Thus shall my children be only born 
 of God ; mankind be started upon the true path of regeneration, 
 and the gates of Eden be forced to swing open at our knock, 
 and perfect life become a reality." We do not advocate the 
 woman doing all the courting, but do claim that she shoiild un- 
 questionably have the privilege of as free expression of her feel- 
 ings and knowledge as man ; all the more when we know that 
 often with her, both feeling and knowledge spring from the in- 
 tuitional fountain of a pure heart and pure life. 
 
Our Near Future. 
 
 Copyright, 1900 by Ernest Loorais. 
 
 Every thoughtful observer, is more or less aware that 
 unusually important changes have been gradually creeping 
 upon us, that the near future is likely to herald many still 
 more wonderful occurrences, and that in solving great ques- 
 tions of the day, we will perhaps usher in the new cycle with 
 radical readjustments, sufficient to shake our civilization to 
 the center, and deeply affect every interest of our individual 
 lives, if not of our general public institutions as well. 
 
 However much may have been noticed upon the surface 
 by the closer students of human affairs or of existing condi- 
 tions, it is only through a deep and almost microscopic study 
 of natural law and its workings, that the glimpse can be ex- 
 tended below the surface, to the greater and more startling 
 conditions that are there plainly apparent. 
 
 Our literature has frequently given hints of some things 
 that are likely to soon occur, and of the changes in individ- 
 ual affairs, that should be immediately made, as a preparatory 
 means of more successfully meeting the conditions of the 
 incoming cycle or new dispensation, and as a result, some 
 have inquired how a closer study of these great questions 
 can be made and where more definate and detailed informa- 
 tion concerning them can be obtained. As the subject is of 
 universal interest to mankind, it will perhaps be but answer- 
 ing their unvoiced desires and demands, to briefly describe 
 some of the books, that, though by no means unreservedly 
 endorsed as to their conclusions, have been of especial interest 
 
OUR NEAR FUTURE. 
 
 to me in my personal investigations The four that have 
 come most prominently under my notice, are by W. A. Red- 
 ding, a lawyer of noted ability, whose radical thoroughness, 
 comprehensiveness, impartiality, experience in handling 
 "evidence" and general turn of mind, seems to have espec- 
 ially fitted him for the stupendous and intricate task of 
 dealing with such complicated and far reaching questions. 
 These four volumes, of from two to four hundred pages each, 
 (bound in silk cloth and obtainable of us or of any book- 
 seller at the regular price of one dollar each postpaid,) are 
 all founded largely upon Biblical prophecies and upon new, 
 interesting and seemingly convincing clues of interpretation, 
 that were not discovered until a comparatively recent date. 
 It is claimed, that even this discovery of new and important 
 clues, was also foretold in the prophecies in question, which, 
 if reliable, portray the leading events that will quickl\- come 
 to the world, and from a standpoint which believers in the 
 Bible must necessarily accept as true. Those who do not 
 accept the Bible as a sufficient authority, will, perhaps, be 
 astonished to find in these books, a strong basis of esoteric 
 principles, scientific proofs and a flood of facts that arc 
 valuable and interesting to say the least. The following is 
 a quotation from the author's relatively accurate description 
 of these books viz: "Our Near Future," shows so man>' in- 
 teresting things which everybody should know that a de- 
 scription of it cannot be given without setting out the whole 
 book. It shows that the world went under a cloud of dark- 
 ness at a certain time for a purpose and that it^is to come 
 out from under it. It unravels and removes the veil from 
 the wonderful and fateful dreams mentioned in the 2d and 
 4th chapters of Daniel. They were a foreshadowing of cer- 
 tain great movements which were to occur on earth, and 
 this book shows that the latter part of them is just now be- 
 ginning to come to pass. It shows what the result will be and 
 
OUR NEAR FUTURE. 
 
 how it will affect the governments, churches and society. 
 It shows who the Turks are and what figure they cut in the 
 great changes which are soon to occur; and why they hold 
 the center of all the nations ; and why the Armenian trouble 
 started up and what the result will be and how it will change 
 various governments. It shows that a new nation is quietly 
 forming to occupy the central position of all the earth and 
 rule with a rod of iron and break down all other govern- 
 ments ; and that these are the sole causes of the present up- 
 heaval everywhere. It shows that the iron band is to be re- 
 moved from the stump, as mentioned in Daniel 4:10-16. 
 This is a curious mystery which the book brings to light- 
 Also unveils the great image seen in the King's Dream, 
 Dan. 2:31-46. 
 
 It contains a minute description of how governments and 
 society will turn within 20 years from 1896, and sets forth 
 the reasons for such prediction with such clearness that not 
 many persons will even attempt to dispute it. It is not 
 founded on guesswork, like most of such predictions here- 
 tofore have been. Its statements are supported with such a 
 quality of proof that even a skeptic public will not sneer. 
 It does not advocatei^that the world is* coming to an end and 
 be burned up, but just the reverse. It shows that our grand- 
 est time on earth is to come yet, but that a season of trouble 
 must precede it. Those who are not acquainted with the 
 subject will be surprised at the vast amount of new proof 
 set forth in the book. The general public does not know 
 that many discoveries and unearthing of things have oc- 
 curred in recent years to throw light on these subjects. The 
 signs of the times support the statements in the book. 
 
 "The Millennial Kingdom," shows that wc Ameiicans 
 are the Lost Ten Tribes of Israel, and are to rise to high 
 spiritual light and lead the world in the Millennial Kingdom 
 on earth 1,000 years. Death will cease. People will live 
 
THE MILLENNIAL KINGDOM. 
 
 hundreds of years^ like a tree ( Isaiah 65 120-22). Its prepara- 
 tion is causing present commotion. It does not advocate 
 that the world is coming to an end and be burned up with 
 fire, or anything of the kind, but that our most glorious time 
 on earth is soon to set in, and that sickness and death will 
 cease, and that the present wicked way will be given up To 
 a better and more godly life. It shows that resurrections 
 are going on now. It shows so many interesting and in- 
 structive things and is so entirely different from other books 
 heretofore published on Millennial subjects that a description 
 of it cannot be given ; it must be read to be known, as the 
 subjects are numerous and plainly stated. Many letters 
 from those who have read it, declare that it is the most in- 
 teresting and entertaining book they ever saw. 
 
 "Mysteries Unveiled," is what some people would call 
 startling on account of the many unearthings and bringing 
 forth of things long hidden out of sight of the general world. 
 It shows God's plan of the ages by the little halls and rooms 
 built in the stone pyramid of Egypt 4,000 years ago. Their 
 lengths, slants and turns let the secret out ( i inch to a year.) 
 No wonder the prophets said that God has wonders in Egypt. 
 (See Isaiah 19:19-20 and Jer. 32:20.) The halls, lengths and 
 turns are shown. Also contains an accurate account of the 
 recent finding of the preserved body of Pharaoh, with his 
 name (Rameses) written on his breast, after his death, 3,300 
 years ago ; photograph of him is set in book. Also shows 
 the wonderful lessons to be learned from the Golden Aik of 
 the Covenant, which is hidden away, probably, for future 
 discovery. Also unveils the mysteries of the book of Rev- 
 elation and shows who the great Scarlet Woman is, as men- 
 tioned by St. John, and what she has done on earth, and that 
 her number is 666, just as stated in Rev. 13:18. The show- 
 ing of this number (666) is made clear by an astonishing 
 discovery, and a picture of the head man in the mystery is 
 
MYSTERIES UNVEILED. 
 
 set forth in the book. The book further shows the source 
 from which we got our color, called cardinal red ; and that 
 it has something to do with Bible prophecy. Also shows 
 who Napoleon was and what he was born for, and why he 
 was so successful up to a certain date and then collapsed 
 •suddenly. Shows the wonderful ear-mark which God placed 
 on the Great Seal of the United States to brand us as the 
 Lost Tribes of Jacob. Picture of this seal is set in the book 
 so that every man can see the mark or design made to brand 
 us as the people who were driven out of Palestine 721 B. C. 
 This information alone is worth many times the price of the 
 book, as it shows that the mighty God is watching over us 
 for a purpose, which purpose is fully set forth in the book 
 entitled ''Our Near Future," and those who read this should 
 also read the others in which the different branches of the 
 subject are carried. Some wonderful things will occur on 
 this earth within the next 20 years, and these books discuss 
 them in a new and plain way and show conclusively that the 
 idea which the people have about the manner of the commg 
 of the Christ, and the world coming to an end is all wrong, 
 and that the teaching by men the last one hundred years on 
 this subject, has been misleading. It shows where the Gar- 
 den of Eden was located, and that it was an actual fact on 
 earth. The location and the rivers mentioned in the Bible 
 about it are pointed out so clearly that people will be aston- 
 ished at finding that the long mysterious Garden spot was 
 really on this earth. 
 
 *'The Three Churches," shows what the Bible says about 
 the three kinds of people, who would be on the earth at 
 these times and that each would call themselves by a name ; 
 and that only one of them would be the real Church of God. 
 This book shows who these three are and that the third one 
 is just now forming into the real Church, which the New 
 Testament calls the Elect, which are to be picked out and 
 
THE THREE CHURCHES. 
 
 to overcome death and rule the earth 1,000 years. Isaiah 
 65:20-22. This is a curious fact which most persons will see 
 and admit after reading this book, as it shows that the proph- 
 ecy has come true to the very letter and that the third group 
 is to be the adopted or sent church, built by the Lord and 
 the gates of hell will not prevail against it, just as Jesus de- 
 clares in Matt. 16:18. The various denominations now on 
 earth will look at this Bible talk with a new understanding 
 as to which church is right, and which is the recognized 
 church by the Lord. This has agitated their minds for a 
 long time, and this book will give them something about 
 which to think, and show to them what the Bible says about 
 the real church, which is just now forming as the Elect. 
 
 Those who take or finish the seven exoteric degrees of 
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 the five dollar book by Henry Cornelius Agrippa entitled 
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 Powers of sflent cooperative thoaebt to produce results in all business and arl— Wbat tboasbt tI- 
 
 Drations can accomplish.— Value oT this Knowledge.— Its means of practice.— Why Knowledge is 
 power.— Dealing witn the unseen.— Wastes of forces.— Keys to unlock latent forces within—True 
 Knowledge necessarily occult.— How to accomplish results without effort,— Rewards for obeying 
 occult law.— Its bearing on health, business, etc.— Penalties for abuse.— How to dissolve obsta- 
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 Srees of Home Silent Thought Brotherhood.— How to reap its practical advantages. — The 5 esoteric 
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 esty is policy.— Thought currents.— Unseen forces that attract.— Power of^combined thought.— Get- 
 ting in thought current of Infinite good.— Power of thought to deal with rates of vibration of things. 
 —Kingdom of power within,— Present methods shut off lorce.— Power of co-operative thought to at- 
 tract companionships.— Woman's occult forces.— How occult powers are bom.— Occult influences 
 which produce large cities.— Power of justice.— What occultists foresee.— How to deal with difficul- 
 ties.— What selfish thought vibrations generate.— A spiritual thunderstorm.— Financial chemicaliza- 
 tion.— Woman's opportunity.— Woman s wisdom faculties.— Occult causes of woman's beauty.— Wo- 
 men's power over man. — Occult mirror which reveals secrets of woman's charms. — Woman ruler of 
 love's paradise.— Occult mysteries reduced to simple rules.— What woman's heart reveals. — Man's 
 third eye. — Developing inner spiritual power. — Man's needs related to morals and immortality.— Cre- 
 ative power of thoughts.— How to break chains of imaginary servitude.— Man free now.— How.— What 
 your thought can do.— Self-knowledge.— Its advantages.— Spiritual liberation now.— Man's connec- 
 tion with his source.— How all are actually related.— Harmful thought vibrations suicidal.— Events 
 registered in astral light.— How read,— How to obtain ideal surroundings.- Man self-hopnotized.— 
 Man's dignity.— How woman's inner sight can aid man.— Examples.— How to accomplish great busi- 
 ness results. — How to instruct your higher self to teach you to accomplish results, improve your 
 health, etc., during sleep. — Important rules for each day. — How business can be made easy. — Awak- 
 ening Inner force. — Using it.— Reaching it in others.— Difficulties. — How removed. — Why true selfish- 
 ness needs no restraints. — Nature always right. — Why finer tastes should be gratified. — The Christ's 
 example misunderstood. — Spiritual liberation comes by expanding (not stifling) selfishness. — How to 
 obtain an abundance. — Proper uses of sympathy. — Thought cnrrents, — Influence of thought. — 
 How to Rule Your Kingdom. Possible to gratify every wish— How— The atom's evolution— Need o< 
 self-knowledge.— Man's connection with his source.— How to demonstrate its omnipotence.— Thought's 
 vibratory powers.— Its origin.— Matter is vibration or solidified thought.— Proofs.— Proofs of oneness 
 between God. man and so called matter.— Evolution cleared up. — Immortality of man's thinking pow- 
 er.— Thought's omnipotence.— The successful mood. — Thought control.— Man's kingdom the universe.— 
 Ties between thought moods and success.— How to produce at will and maintain successful moods.- 
 How to organize thought forces. — Little success until learned.— Thought moods of failure.— How to 
 make every undertaking successful.— Producing thought moulds.— Necessity ofjustice.-Dealing with 
 causes.— How, to keep at bay destructive forces. — Whv> just purpose potent. — Life continuous.— How 
 to quiet fears.— Why the "will " makes " the way."— How serenity maintained.— Sowing thought seeds 
 of success.— Positive and negative moods. — Changing mental polarity.— Bodily inactivity advantage- 
 ous.— Why.— Cultivating intuitions.— Overactivity founded on fear and worry. — Progress during sleep. 
 -Trust.— Right leadings. — Methods outlined for organizing thought florces.- How to b.«ce up falter- 
 ing thought faculties.— \Vhat worry signifies.— Doing one tning at a time.— Why necessary.— Thought 
 still active during small acts.— Moods win success, and not direct thought alone,- Why power and 
 happiness synonymous.— Overshadowing soul's constant presence.— How secured.— Success thus as- 
 sured.— Desires to do implies ability to do.— Permanent thought moods solidify. — Useful Occult 
 Practices.— How to control circumstances. —An "Alladin's Lamp."— Occult practices that can be 
 easily applied.— Simple methods of obtaining proofs.— Man born to be rich.— Proofs of Immortality.— 
 Man's irresistable magnate.— Power of thought to satisfy wants.— Occult practices founded on laws of 
 thought.— Secret of man's power.— Vibration essence of things.— Thought controls vibration.— Interi- 
 or thought methods which awaken high vibrations.— How to reach its depths.— Power of silence.— 
 Why more potent than when spoken.— Why words retard thought vibrations.— Sacred words.— Na- 
 ture's punisliraents for profanity.— Vibratory effect of disagreeable words.— The** Aura" of books.— 
 An occult brotherhood.— Available by all at home.— Founded on laws of silence, thought, help from 
 within, etc.— No cost for joining.— Advantages so obtained.— An occult practice.— < tcult ties connect- 
 ing members. — Occult methods of dispensing blessings.— Rings, books, money, etc.— All power fronc 
 Interior unfold ment.— Self knowledge.— Special room, time, etc., for focusiry?: occult forces.— Esoteric 
 significance of words.— What occult observances enable persons to do.— Friendships, business suc- 
 cess, etc.— Means of growth.— Essence of success.- Surrounding conditions correspondences of per* 
 manent mood.i. — Laws of vibration.- Scientific theories exploded. — Basis of magic— Enlarging man's 
 relations. — Law of love the basis of occultism and self-help. — How to obtain pleasant surroundinat.- 
 How nature make* people tbink. — Prophecies for coming three years. — Occult consequences oliul- 
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 PARTIAL SYNOPSIS OF CONTENTS. i 
 
 Subject: Occultism in a Nutshell. 
 Rules for invokinff occult forces in practical affairs.-No need for excessive bodily exertioa.- 
 wry-How oc^^^^^^^^^^^ may be'applied.-Principles -l^-vident.-Nothmg which equaU . 
 
 Stism in satisfyin'g wan'ts.-How to obtain silent helps ^^^^^^^I'^^^i^^^^^^^^ \ 
 
 tbrone -Essence of atoms is vibration.-Man's atoms change to the poles of his thought. Wecessiiy 
 o'thoughursuuct on. thought direction and thought control.-Love principk must be awakened^- 
 Wr-How -Thought concentration, etc., through invocation.-Prayer.-How to -voke occult 
 power dally from within.-Rules.-Dealing ^vith causes.-How precious forces -^« -^f ^^^^J'^e 
 Zne of Lve.-Love's powers.-How to transform environments.-Attracting persons^-How^^^^^ , 
 overcome fear.-Removing grasp on bodily atoms -Why hate and fear ^^^ ^« . ^^^^^J,'^;'^;^^;;!: 
 
 t ui^h^^ e^H HrrnU riilps —The law of V bration.— Its explanation.— its powers. 
 Z:Z7:JL:^cI r ^^ °ea o/ot:; Jor.ds.-Hero n,aki„g.-Where to find occul. power, 
 PurposL o( he H. S. T. Brolherhood,-Their occuU pracllces.-Ad.antages of co-op.^ 
 !ic "msm appHed to health-To business-To religion.-Love's benedictions and sat.sfacfons. 
 
 Marriage. . , 
 
 Esoteric significance of matrimony and Love.-Closeted skeletons.-Victims of matrimonial nus- 
 takes -Matrfmonal lotteries.-How avoided.-The scientific backing of marnage.-How to remedy 
 matrimomal mistrkes.-Love laws and occultism.-Love and Vibration.-Occultism the science of ; 
 Lo e.-Na?ure's original marriage.-Ascertaining man's rate of vibration.-Its ^PJ^^f '^ ^^^^^^^^^^^^^ i 
 monial selection.-Man the preserver of woman's individuality and woman of man ^"^^^ ^^^ 
 "h ttbratory power.-Woman and Love.-How she mars her beauty.-How -vo.ded.-Secre of , 
 beauty -Mitrimonial mistakes.-How known.-The puciishments.-Causes of sex love -Its purpo- : 
 ses -Man's powers limitless.-His need of woman.-Necessity of understanding vib ation.-Chang 
 fne one's rate orv7bration.-Vibratory diffusion.-Concentration.-Determining matrimonial adap- , 
 aLns-N?mbers and vibrations.-Language building numbers and vibrations.-Occult powers of | 
 lords ll^fys'c numbers and matrimony.-Why courting sap quickly turns to -^^nmonial vi^^^^^^^^^^ | 
 !lDepolarization.-Preventing discords.-Transmutation.-Woman's right of bodily independence 
 \n purity.— How woman may regain lost influence over man. 
 
 How to Create Opportunities. j 
 
 Man master, not slave.-Why true mastery a science.-Its principles simple.-Truth simple, error 
 
 colTex -Esoteric meaning of simple things.-Esotericism of thought.-Its creative Power. Illu.| 
 
 ons.-The spidtual earth.^NeutraHzing and controlling -t-nal magnetisms -Thoi^^^^^^^^ 
 of disintegrating matter.-Should use with great caution.-Why.-Ma^ering ^^ ^-'^'^^'^^f \P^°;^' 
 of occultism and man's powers.-Spiritual paralytics-Vibration the life of the body.-Why.~: 
 Occult effect of tobacco and narcotics.-Vibratory exhaustion.-Opening ^^^r^^^^^^J^^ 
 -How man can comprehend the Infinite.-The heart inherently omnipoten . ^^y. -Seven basic 
 prfncTpirs of Occultism.-Gaining control of vibration.-Marshalling interior o-^-'^^^^^^^^^^^ 
 -lost arts "-Why true occultism safe.-The At-one-ment.-How occult powers are cultivated 
 Occult development not will force.-Why.-Unveiling interior potentialities.-Scientific devot on the 
 ?oadtot f rartery-^^ because of law.-Dangers of projecUngj 
 
 fug ttn^ctuYness or drawing o'n external psychic forces ^^c.-True occult power from .^^^^^ 
 tions within.-How awakened.-How to avoid harmful external P^y^^'^^^^^";^^"^^^^ 
 -Diabolical forces and organisms which swarm the mvisible.-Densest mlarge *=;*«• Y^^p^^^ttJ^ 
 irers of osvchic phenomena.-Occult powers not clairvoyance.-How to draw for force, ^o""*^* 
 roughtpro e ionssafe-NegativeUnLe.-Why.-Noonhour cbser.^^^ 
 
 -Steps ia controlling environments and eelf-maatery.-Value of 3elf-knowled«c.-How ««»t*m«^- 
 ConUoU^g moods.-Drifting.-Business rules.-Occult practices.-How to foreet trouble-Rules. 
 
 (This synopsis refers to only three out of the seven essays in this book.) 
 
IMethods of Self=HeIp. 
 
 By ERNEST LOOHIS. 
 
 (Volume III. of the Occult Science Library Series.) AGENTS 
 
 Tbis book shows how to use your occult forces in all busl- WANTED. 
 Oftss and art. it explains the cause of force, there- 
 fore its Self-Helping and force-massing methods 
 are almost invaluable. 
 
 BoMnd In Silk Cloth. ... Price $1.25, postpaid. 
 
 PARTIAL SYNOPSIS OF CONTENTS. 
 
 Subject : Methods of Self-Help. 
 
 llau's poesibiU ties.— How realized.— Why dependent upon individual effort.— Self-help man's 
 klgbest duty.— No limit to man's possibilities.- Why.— How the Infinite helps.— What man may 
 obtain.— Every faculty for uBe. Desirability of happiness.— How obtained.— Cause o." happiness and 
 misery. — How to obtain health, power, fame, success, etc.— Virtue and true self-interest do not contiict. 
 Wbj. — Zjiws of attraction.— Law {roverns everything.— How all may know the future.— Every human 
 faculty improvable.— How to master fate.— How to obtain balance.— Tlie true self able to help.— Why 
 man falla.- How to understand occult principles and methods.— Basic principles simple.— The higher 
 self omnipotent. — Why. — What the universe offers.— How the soul creates its environments.— How to 
 obtain uniformly successful results.— Why " knowledge is power."— Self-help necessarilv moral.— How 
 to be truly sclnah. — Desires should be educated, not repressed.— Physical death.— No purpose too 
 great.— How to prolong life indefinitely.— Man a natural born conqueror.— Why.— Nothing to fear.— 
 Why.— Results of misusing occult forces.— Frotection.—Our occult Brotherhood.— Its powers. 
 
 nethods of Seli-Help Through Self-Trust. 
 
 How to gain access to exhaustless resources.— Law of nature.— Positive and negative poles.— Th« 
 universe your natural kingdom.— How and wliy it must be ruled.— How to become more and more 
 oositive. —Powers of woman's negative positiveness.— A still greater positiveness.— What practical 
 jccultism is.— Its first step.— How to exercise power over things at a distance.— Methods of attrac- 
 tion. —Should exercise self-trust.— Why.— What woman loves in man.— Why.— Thought and love 
 Hbaolute in action. — How to eradicate negative conditions — Its importance —Bodilv activities com- 
 laratively weak.— Power of thought.— How to accomplish results while asleep.— Real action through 
 repose.— Organizing forces.— How the forces become scattered.— How to get greater benefits from 
 sleep.— How to draw nigthly upon inner forces.— Importance of avoiding narinful psychic forces.— 
 How avoided.— Common mistakes.— Dangers of dreams.— Psychic conditions in cities.— How they 
 become charged. — Necessity of self-knowledge and thought control. — Property an unsafe reliance. 
 —Why.— The science of life.— First steps.- Nlethods of obtaining self-knowledge.- Scientific tests.— 
 True foundation for self-trust.— Shams.— Why thought is powerful.— How to become revivified.- 
 Vibratory law.— Its importance.— Cause of force.— Of lovc,—Of positive and negative.— Of manifesta- 
 tion.— Of gravitation.— Of masculine and feminine.— Of sex.— Of ftJxual tendencies.— Of physical life. 
 —Man's ultimate.— Scientific proofs.— Why trutii makes free.— How to disintegrate matter.— How 
 occultists exercise power.— Man's polarity.— Where to beg'n.— How to overcome bondage.— What to 
 demand.— Why wrongful acquisitions nccessi ate expiatiou.— .Ml rightful desires must be realized.— 
 How. — Your liberator. 
 
 Methods of Self-Help Through Self-Knowledge. 
 
 The door of opportunity.— How reached.— How to know opportunity.— .Ml things obtainable by 
 rightful methods. — Cause and effect.— P2soteric connections between interior and external things.— 
 How to deal with both.— Mag:nctic forces.— Their causes.- Composition of atoms.— Microscopic 
 proofs. — Cause of force is within man.— How awakened.- Why man's sphere limited.— How become 
 unlimited.— Occul* methods of obtaining external possessions.— True independence.— How to gain 
 wisdom.— How to acquire perfect health.— Methods for obtaining right companionships. — Of money 
 and material possessions.— .Advantages of good homes, foods, luxuries, etc.— Higher forces ;rhvthmic. 
 — Our interferences with nature's optimism. — How avoided. — Your fate in vour own hands. — All 
 opportunities open.— Co-operating with the law.— Sowing and reaping -Necessity of thought control. 
 How to create opportunities.— New discoveries.— Your niche in tne universe. -How found and filled. 
 — Oae law for all things.— CorrespondeiKcs.- Methods. 
 
 (This synopsis is of the first three essnya only.) 
 
porce-flassing: Methods. 
 
 By ERNEST LOOMIS. 
 
 Bound in Silk Cloth. ... Price, $1.26, postpaid. 
 Partial synopsis of contents. (Of first three chapters.) 
 All man's natural resources but a mass of force.— His selfhood centers in his forces.—Hls eppot- 
 tanlties sprinjf from them.— Those opportunities of his own making.— Why.— Man's possibilitief.— 
 How realized,— Force-massing the great purpose of life.— Success dependent upon it.— Success • 
 duty. — How possible.— Man's entire organism a center of force.— How massed. — All force from one 
 law.— Sex forces.— Love and passion closely allied.— Why sex perversions so destructive.— Why so 
 common.— The ordinary life almost a perversion.— Why.— Why man unsuccessful.— Sex pleasures.— 
 Why comparatively limited.— Powers which may be attained. — How. — Psychic causes of involuntarr 
 sex wastes.— Almost universally true of adults.— Harmful psychic forces more injurious if unreal- 
 ized.— Wby.— Dream state receptive to harmful psychic forces.— How psychic organisms arouse 
 man's passsional faculties.— Nearly all sufferers.— Psychic causes of insanity. — Insanity and sex per- 
 versions.— Why talented persons 12:0 insane.— Force-scattering habits. — A cure for insanity.— How to 
 become master. — How to w,,^ ^ ^^r ,i^r™f"l external forces.— Worry. — How weak points left 
 defenseless.— Perverted occult methods.— How they attract psychic vampires.— Universe filled with 
 force alone.— How these forces act and react. — Downward attractions.— A means of protection.— 
 How to become king of force. — Why people drift. — Law of growth.— The self-trusting spirit.— How 
 awakened. — Its natural language. — A useful self-protecting mantram.- Its magic power.— Unlimited 
 rewards.— How obtained.— Penalties.— Largest force-sources when perverted are largest avenues of 
 waste. — Chief avenues of waste.— The esoteric cause.— Sex tendencies.— Regeneration.— How pre- 
 serve bodily forces indefinitely. — Sex wastes like tapping blood vessel for pleasure.— Our inheritance. 
 ,5ex forces should be understood.— Its importance in occultism. — Their purpose.— Evidences of sex 
 •/astes.— Cannot be concealed. — Where and how to increase force.— Cause of force no longer *' the 
 unknowable."— The sphynx of all historic ages.— Its significance.— How we will unite Science and 
 Religion.— How occultism can be utilized. 
 
 jYour force-creating powers.— All forces to be repeated through you.— How.— Your harvest field.— 
 Your reaper.— How becomes operative.— A basic principle.— A popular error about integrity. — A 
 profitable lesson.— How man cheats himself.— Why integrity necessary in occultism. — Law of force. 
 —Its morality cannot be permanently opposed.— Why.— Effects of dishonesty upon thought con- 
 trol. — Upon occult forces.— Upon concentration.— Its disorganizing effects.— Penalties 01 hate.— 
 Force-massing interferences.— How man ties his hands,— Effects of dishonest thought.— Its occult 
 currents. — Disorganizing habits.— Magnetisms.— How to avoid and drive away disagreeable things.— 
 How to attract.— Spiritual laws.— Stepping stones.— How occult powers born.— Purpose of life. — 
 Happiness.— Occultism a road to happiness and power.— Why.— How to combine duty and self- 
 interest.— How to concentrate.— Value of possessions. — Why desires finally gratify themselves.— 
 Thought forces which attract success.— Occult powers incompatible with wrong motives.— Why. 
 '—Basis of success.— Causes of failure.— Compensations. — Why honesty is policy.— How to change 
 environments.— Possibilities. — A case of "dog eat dog." — How hate, anger, etc., are engendered. — 
 Their occult effects.— Dishonesty an effort to cheat omnipotence — Why.— Why futile.— Why 
 thoughts of hate, etc., most destructive to sender.— The law absolute.— Force-sending interferences. 
 —Causes of defeat. — Cause of Napoleon's downfall.— Repulsion.— Attraction.— Basis of true suc- 
 cess. — Vibratory exhaustion.— Force centers.— Heart.— Lungs. — Pineal gland.— Solar plexus.— Sex.— 
 Sexual integrity. — The science of love.— How to mass and conserve sex forces. — Transmutation. 
 —Underlying realities.— The unseen world.— How man drained of force,— How prevented.— Evi- 
 dences of^ sexual impurity.— Why greater in woman. — The science of force.— Methods of progress.— 
 Spiritual electrolysis. — Magical powers.— Based on true integrity. — Man's powers of growth unlim- 
 ited. — Why.— How to cultivate integrity. — Methods.— Shams. — Prophecies.— Their scientific founda- 
 tion.— Special importance of true integrity now.— Living from a principle.— Great changes.— Their 
 causes.— Adjustments.— Forcings of natural law. 
 
 Primal soul energies.— How reduced to life results.— Causal law of attraction.— Occult practices 
 necessary. — Why.— Man's latent knowledge.— Its evidences.— Recurring memories.— How knowledgfe 
 attracted.— Man's opportunities. — How derived.— How to awaken slumbering energies.— Atomic 
 forces, magnetic currents, etc.— How created.— What attraction is.— Happiness through vibration. 
 —Power.— Methods of attracting good things.— The beginning.— Possible of universal applica- 
 tion.— Why. — How all may improve their conditions.— Powers of desire, hope, aspirations, etc. — 
 How to multiply your capabilities a thousand fold.— First, second, third and fourth steps.— An 
 omnipotent backing.— Spiritual forces.— How operated.— How results become muddled.— How 
 avoided,— Keep in contact with higher self.— How.— Why.— Discouragement disgraceful.— -Why.-- 
 How results are driven away.-" Hoodoo" habits.— What they attract.— Sympathy is force,— Should 
 be used judiciously.— How to help others. -harmful sympathy.— Absorbing misfortunes.— Thought 
 currents.— Duty of teachers of occultism.— Man's great need.— How best answered.— Co-operative 
 helps.— The helps we offer.— Why so effective.— Attracting qualities.- The qualities needed.— How to 
 attract material possessions, necessities, comforts, luxuries, etc.— Power through repose.— Silent 
 forces.— How to cut off from undesirable things.— How to create coming events.— The highest attain- 
 ments.— Methods of strengthening character.— How we drift.— How to overcome desire to injure 
 others.— Real power not noisy.— Mirth noisy when real joy absent,— Power of positiveness.— Com- 
 mon mistakes.— How people attract undesirable things.— How to attract cultivated associations, 
 honest customers, employes, etc—How to avoid thieves, tricksters, accidents, etc— Thought control. 
 —How obtained.— Its occult powers,— How wealth becomes a curse instead of blessing.— After death 
 conditions of misers.— How to become master ot all material things.— What man should ruk.— 
 Oocnlt vorkcc* and their rewards. 
 
Free Correspondence Lessons 
 
 IN OCCULTlSn, Bj Ernest loomis. 
 
 This department of our work is for those who wish to thoroughly develop their occult powers tmd 
 then to use them not only in all business and art but also in matters of health, in helping: others, in 
 the acquisition of knowledge, in the formation of business and other plans, in character building, in 
 judgments of human character, in the pursuit of happiness, in fact, in the accomplishment of every 
 practical affair in life. 
 
 The average student's inability to properly apply the principles and methods of occultism and 
 thus to adequately demonstrate through results, its magical powers, is due, first, to his failure to fully 
 grasp the esoteric meanings of some of the underlying principles of the philosophy. Second, 
 through failure to comprehensively understand the relations which each of its esoteric principles 
 sustain to all the others. Third, through lack of that true self-knowledge which teaches the relation 
 of the interior forces to the Infinite and to the external world. Fourth, through opposing unknown 
 esoteric undercurrents of the individual character. Fifth, through peculiarities of temperament and 
 misunderstood individual tendencies. Sixth, through wastes of force, through lack of thought con- 
 trol, through unknown psychic influences, through the sex functions, and otherwise. Seventh, 
 through his consequent inability to properly govern the moods, marsball the faculties and mass his 
 occult forces. 
 
 C^ttt* Pl/^'^lirk/lc °^ remedying these difficulties and of thus training the student in 
 
 ^*** *■ iClUvJvlo accordance with those occult and scientific methods which enable 
 him to multiply his powers and capacities many fold, are as follows, viz.: 
 
 First. Through our four books, "Your Practical Forces." "Practical Occultism," ** Methods 
 of Self-Help" ind "Force Massing Methods" (price $1.25 each) he is given a thorough general 
 knowledge of the principles and methods of occultism, and also how to use his occult forces in all 
 business and art. 
 
 Second. Through the co-operative thought practices which are taught in those books and which 
 are then practiced daily by the student, and in connection with thousands of the members of our 
 Brotherhood. 
 
 Third. Through others of the I17.00 worth of books which are given to the members with this 
 course of correspondence lessons. 
 
 Fourth. Through a thorough character delineation which is given the member by our Mr. Loomis. 
 These delineations show by exhaustive scientific methods the various esoteric undercurrents, peca* 
 liarities and individual tendencies of his character, and offer him helps and accurate advice for tha 
 development of his occult powers and the individual tendencies so discovered. 
 
 Fifth. Through helps to be used daily in the conservation and transmutation of the forces. 
 
 Sixth. Through special daily thought helps and co-operative helps, to be also used with the abero 
 objects in view. 
 
 Seventh. Through question sheet correspondence lessons and correspondence reviews of the 
 student's answers and covering the twenty subjects treated of In "Practical Occultism," "Your 
 Practical Forces "and "Methods of Self-Help" (all of which were written by Ernest Loomis). 
 These twenty subjects cover the whole general philosophy, and by aid of the question sheet lessons 
 and reviews the esoteric points contained therein are more fully brought out and in a way that adapts 
 them especially to the student's peculiarities of temperament and individual needs which are revealed 
 through the character delineation which is made for liin# In fact this course teaches esoteric points 
 of philosophy (such as the cause of force, etc.). which the scientists and great thinkers of the world 
 have stumbled over and tried in vaiu to solve during all historic ages. The usefulness of this 
 coarse is greatly increased by getting the whole philosophy including the student's answers and oar 
 correction (if any) of those answers all in permanent form: which can be referred to or reviewed. 
 
 There Is at present no charge for these lessons, the only charge being I2T.00 for the I17.00 worth «f 
 I, the character delineations, etc., and which are a necessary part of the course. 
 
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