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MAI8IAGE«theH01!E 
 
 A Series of Twenty-one 
 
 SUNDAY EVENING LECTURES, 
 
 by 
 
 T. W. McVETY.A.M. Ph.D. 
 
 INTRODUCTION BY 
 
 JOHN W. COOK, LL. D., 
 President of the Illinois State University 
 at Normal. 
 
 AND 
 
 REV. L. KIRTLY, D. D , 
 Pastor of First Baptist Church, Peoria. 
 
TO 
 
 MY Wlf^E. 
 MY BE3T F=RIENO, 
 AND THE 
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 MY LIFE. 
 
 Copy rig-h ted in 18% 
 by T. W.Mc Vety. 
 
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 Introduction. 
 
 One of the significant signs of the times is 
 the wide range of topics to which the modern 
 pulpit addresses itself. No other class has the 
 public ear and the public confidence to the 
 same degree as the clergy. 
 
 Selected for the express purpose of keepintr 
 men and women alive to the most vital inter- 
 ests, they occupy a vantage ground denied to all 
 others. We may well complain of them if 
 they do not at least attempt to make us behave 
 ourselves. 
 
 Standing in this relation to the public they 
 speak with a privilege , and directness which 
 carry peculiar wei</ht. When they enter upon 
 ^he discussion of social questions, iherefore, we 
 may expect a treatment which will be practical, 
 candid, and in a peculiar sense personal. 
 
 Nor will the significance of the appearance 
 of the clergy as students of social science be 
 fully appreciated without a clear recogniticju of 
 the point of view from which the members oi 
 that profession regard its problems. They are 
 n@t simply investigators who are endeavoriui^ 
 to reach new generalizitions througli inductive 
 processes. They enter the arena with a system 
 of developed tlioiiglit, well aj'tien^ated, and for- 
 
tified by the ln£rbest snnctioa. It is their fiinc- 
 ti(jn to apply their f aiidamental i3riiiciples, 
 which have assmned a p rsilion of recoiyniz^d 
 authority, to the rei^ulatiou of human conduct 
 in all the social relations of the moih^rn world. 
 The idea which vitalizes Christianity is implicit 
 in all of their treatment. They could not omit 
 it if they would, becaus^^ of the force of the pro- 
 fessional liabit; and tliey sh<)uld not. if they 
 could since its (nnission wouhi deprive their 
 treatment of its most virile f.icior. T neonl not 
 say that I am referrin^r to tliat altruistic spirit 
 which religion has contributed to occideiital 
 civilization. 
 
 The series of sermons presented ui this vol- 
 ume illustrates in at; adnn'rable way the vii/or 
 and fertility of resource , with which the piilpii 
 is bringi I g itself to bear upoii matters that re- 
 late to human happ)iness afid well-beinu: in the 
 most f)ractical relations of life. 
 
 These addresses are especinlly timely. That 
 they will sober into thnui^htf ubiess the reckles*^ 
 and impetuous spirit of mnnv yonn^- tnen and 
 yonnu: women to whom a h?^pny fortune may 
 brinu: them. I cannot dnnbt. That they will re- 
 awaken about m«ny a hearthstone those finer 
 seritiments of affection, which the cares of life 
 may have dulled, seems equally certain. One 
 who has spoken so plainly, so kindly, and so 
 truthfully will not be fori^otten by those whose 
 lives will be sweetened by his .gracious ministry. 
 
 JOHN W. COOK. 
 
 Normal. TIL, March J, lS9f5. 
 
The oldest, dearest and most sacred institu- 
 tion on earth is the family. It is older than 
 the state, the law or the church. Its birthplace 
 was in Eden. It exists in all nations, and 
 among all races of mankind. The purity of the 
 home is the most sacred trust committed to 
 man. Whatever contributes to its ideal reali- 
 zation must meet with the approval of all good 
 people. The tense demands of the civilization 
 in wiiicb we live, the burning social problems 
 with which we are confronted and the intricate 
 complication of business relations, are threaten- 
 ing the invasion of this most sacred institution. 
 In consequence the tendency is to relegate to 
 chance or Providence the possibility of the 
 home, rather than to grasp tlie problems which 
 we must solve, and seize the duties which we 
 must perfoiin in order to its proper upbuilding 
 
 TliislittV book of Ipctures which comes fresh 
 and warm from the brain and heart of a busy 
 pnstor, my friend in his ordinary pnlpit minis- 
 trations, is intended to assist busy people in 
 that most nn porta nt life work— the building 
 of the home. And this it does in the sugges- 
 tions with which it abounds, the sharp incisive 
 contrasts with which it breathes; the genial wit 
 with which it huV)bles, the keen invectives with 
 which it hurtles, the purity, it inculcates, the 
 sympathy it warms and the aspirations it stirs. 
 
 May the larger audience to which these lec- 
 tures are now given be as much helped as the 
 one to which they were first delivered. 
 
 L. KIKTLY, 
 
Contents. 
 
 LECTURE PAGE. 
 
 I. The Affections and Courtship 9. 
 
 II. Marriage 17. 
 
 III. Woman's Rights 27. 
 
 IV. Is Man too Prolific? 37- 
 
 V. The Selection of a Wife 47. 
 
 VI. The Choice of a Husband 56. 
 
 VII. The Model Wife .. 60. 
 
 VIII. The Model Husband 77. 
 
 IX. Model Parents 87, 
 
 X. Traininj^: Children 97. 
 
 XI. Mission of the Child in the Home . . 107. 
 
 XII. The Model Home 117. 
 
 XIII. Heredity 127. 
 
 XIV. Divorce 137. 
 
 XV. The Model Yoan^r Man 148. 
 
 XVI. Mistakes of Youn,i< Men 159. 
 
 XVII. Pushing to the Front 169. 
 
 XVIII. The Ideal Youn^ Woman 183 
 
 XIX. The Old Fv>lks at tlome 196. 
 
 XX. Degrees in Heav(^n 206. 
 
 XXI. Our Heavenly H^nne 2i(>. 
 
Preface. 
 
 The contents of this book aj)peaiTd in the 
 press from week to week as they were delivered 
 It was thought advisable to have them appear 
 in more permanent form, and hence before the 
 typf^ w.'iS destroyt-d they assumed the propor- 
 tions r)f a b(>ok. They appear as they were 
 delivered without any revision by the author? 
 and I reoret that enviidnments over which I 
 had no control rendered it impossible for me to 
 read the proof sheets, or give those finishing 
 touches so desirable in a book. These addresses 
 were delivered during the warm summer months 
 and are intended for the average home. It will 
 be most gratifying indeed if they shall brighten 
 to the smallest extent the homes they visit. 
 
 T. W. McVETY. 
 
LIBRARY 
 ■ THE 
 
 UNIVERSITY OF ILLINOlj 
 
FIRST M. E. CHURCH, PEORIA, Ihh. 
 
The Affeciions and Courtship, , 
 
 ''It appears unaccountable that our teachers 
 generally have directed their instructions to the 
 head, with very little attention to the heart. 
 From Aristotle down to Locke, books without 
 number have been composed for cultivating and 
 improving the undei standing, but few, in pro- 
 portion, for cultivating and improving the 
 affections." — Kaimes. 
 
 What is the scope of the pulpit? Bishop Foss 
 asks, ''Shall the minister preach about politics, 
 municipal reform, courtship, marriage, divorce, 
 the theatre, dancing, temperance, the suppress- 
 ion of the liquor traffic, the relations of capital 
 to labor, tenement houses, the water supply of 
 cities, Sunday newspapers, biogenesis, evolu- 
 tion? Certainly if he knows enough to do it 
 wisely. All these things lie within his range as 
 a man divinely called to stand in the front rank 
 of the moral and religious teachers of the world." 
 I have selected a course of topics on the home 
 for discussion during these warm summer 
 months. My lectures shall be intensely practi- 
 cal, and touch every phase of home life. I 
 shall be free from sensation in its common in- 
 terpretation, and hope to inspire loftier concep- 
 tions of marriage, nobler views of life, and also 
 condemn the laxity of our laws on marriage. 
 If I can bring sunshine into more homes, and 
 
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 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 aid in clearer views of our relation to each other, 
 and our responsibility to the home and the 
 state, I shall feel well recompensed for my 
 labors, 
 
 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 The family is the oldest organization known 
 to history, and the most important. It is a 
 miniature school, a miniature state and a minia- 
 ture church; and the foundation of all govern- 
 ment. It has been rightly said that the four 
 sweetest words of the English language are 
 Mother, Home, Jesus and Heaven. 
 
 "It matters not how drear the spot, 
 How proud or poor the dome, 
 
 Love still retauis unbroken chains, 
 That binds the heart to home.'' 
 
 This evening I shall address you on the af- 
 fections and courtship. 
 
 THE hermit's life IS AN UNNATURAL ONE. 
 
 In the long past many thought they were do- 
 ing God's will by living in solitude in caves, 
 and in the wilderness. Nearly 600 years before 
 Christ the artificial caves of India were occu- 
 pied by Buddhistical monks. The origin of 
 monasticism is enshrouded in mystery; it is not 
 of christian or heavenly origin, but of heathen 
 and earthly . A man who does not love society 
 is a social deformity. Gcd said in the very be- 
 ginning, "It is not good for man to be alone," 
 
THE AFFECTIONS AND COURTSHIP 11 
 
 ^nd the world has demonstrated the truthful- 
 ness of the divine word. I have seen such 
 s^ross deformities among men who loved to pose 
 as women haters, and flattered their intellectual 
 pride that they were made of finer clay than 
 ordinary men; and I have seen women who 
 hated men apparently, but either they were not 
 sincere or else their affections were poorly de- 
 veloped. - It is complimentary to a woman to 
 appreciate gentlemen's society, and it made all 
 the more illustrious, the illustrious Frances E. 
 Willard when she said, ''She loved the men; 
 her father was a man." Man cannot develop 
 alone; he would be destitute of the inspiration 
 that comes frcm competition and ambition: the 
 world could not be civilized, and the great 
 schools, churches, inventions, discoveries and 
 co-operation of labor would be unknown. Men 
 confined in the solitary have become despond- 
 ent, and often insane. The desire for society 
 has made our great cities, and is a very strong 
 factor in the church and the family. The fishes 
 in the brooks, the birds of the air, the beasts of 
 the field, and man at his best all follow their 
 God-given instincts and seek society. Count 
 DeLauzan was confined in prison for nine years, 
 and finding a spider in his cell he tried to tame 
 it, and hold fellowship with it, and wh^^n the 
 jailor cruelly killed it he felt disappointed for 
 
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 MAKRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 months. 
 
 ''O solitude where are the char.ns? * 
 Which sages have seen in thy face, 
 
 Better dwell in the midst of alarms 
 Than reign in fhis horrible place. 
 
 I am out of humanities' reach, 
 I must finish my journey alone, 
 
 Never hear the sweet music of speech 
 While I start at the sound of my own." 
 
 GOD MADE us SOCIAL BEINGS. 
 
 He organized us into the family, and the 
 whole bible from beginning to end, the ten com- 
 mandments, the Sermon on the Mount, and the 
 gospel in its very design is for man in society. 
 God endowed us with affections, ^'created us in 
 his image, and Grod is love." We were created 
 in the image of love. Love, the supreme affec- 
 tion conquers all our enemies, and has estab- 
 lished the kingdom of Jesus Christ upon the 
 earth. This affection is the one great need of 
 the world today ; and hearts are breaking the 
 wide world over for want of sympathy, for want 
 of appreciation. 
 
 THE AFFECTIONS SHOULD BE CULTIVATED. 
 
 The evils of life arise more from the lack of 
 their development, than from the development 
 of the understanding. If the affections between 
 husband and wife, between parent and child, 
 between brother and sister, between young men 
 
THE AFFECTIONS AND COURTSHIP 
 
 rs 
 
 and women were properly developed what a 
 millenium it would bring to the social world. 
 How much sunshine and happiness can one 
 pure person bring into your life. 
 
 Michael Angelo in speaking of the influence 
 of one person, says: 
 
 "The might of one fair face sublimes my life. 
 For it hath weaned my heart from low desires ; 
 Nor death I heed, nor purgatorial fires. 
 Thy beauty, antepast of jovs above, 
 Instruct me in the bliss that saints approve; 
 For Oh! how good, how beautiful must be 
 The God that made so good a thing as thee. 
 So fair an image of the heavenly dove. 
 Forgive me if I cannot turn away 
 From those sweet eyes that are my earthly heaven ; 
 For they are guiding stars, benignly given 
 To tempt my footsteps to the upward way ; 
 And if 1 a well too fondly in thy sight, 
 I live and love in God's peculiar light." 
 
 THE SECOND POINT OF MY LECTURE IS COURTSHIP. 
 
 Courtship does not receive the attention so 
 sacred a subject demands. It is spoken of with 
 puns, and jokes, and laughter, and considered a 
 period in life of romantic visions of future bliss, 
 or present halos of social delight. Courtship 
 is right and honorable and should always be 
 pursued under proper surroundings. It is one 
 of the gravest aft'airs of life, for it leads to mat- 
 rimony, and that means a home of bitterness, or 
 one of delight. 
 
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 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 COURTSHIP IS THE TIME TO STUDY CHARACTER. 
 
 There is frequently too much blind attach- 
 ment, and brainless love during courtship. 
 With many it is the veal period of their lives 
 and that period continues a long time. People 
 who are preparing for teaching, or the practice 
 of law, or medicine, or any department of life 
 put brain into the preparation, but alas, in 
 courtship it is too often a mere animal affection, 
 a blind man's buff game intellectually, devoid 
 of reason, and with no thought of the moral and 
 intellectual affinities existing between them. 
 The young man and woman are both attired in 
 faultless wardrobe, and wreathed in smiles, and 
 the temporary environments, and the charms of 
 personal appearance are often the winning argu- 
 ments in the case; hence there are so many dis- 
 appointed married lives. The charms of mere 
 physical beauty must fade away day by day, 
 and at its best is not very wearable in every day 
 life, and all who have married for these charms 
 are doomed to disappointment. Beauty of in- 
 tellect, beauty of character will grow brighter 
 and brighter even into the eternities of God 
 while beauty of person will fade as the leaf, and 
 can never be reckoned among the substantials 
 and essentials of the married life. 
 
 I do not underestimate the physical purposes 
 of life, but reject the infidel attack made upon 
 
THE AFFECTIONS AND COURTSHIP 
 
 15 
 
 the family, and which would destroy the conju- 
 gal tie, and degrade man to the level of the 
 brute. It is not at all surprising that with such 
 low views of marriage so many courtships have 
 been unworthy and impure. If we look upon 
 marriage in its true light, in its moral and 
 scriptural designs, then courtship shall be a 
 school in w^hich the highest excellencies of our 
 affections shall be developed, and in which 
 character shall be well studied. 
 
 SOME OF THE EVILS OF COURTSHIP. 
 
 There must be no duplicity during courtship. 
 To impress a young lady that she is your choice, 
 and so continue when you have no thought of 
 matrimony, and your only aiai is to have an 
 enjoyable time while she interprets you as look- 
 ing towards matrimony is dishonest and un- 
 manly. If it is understood that you are merely 
 going with each other to have a pleasant time 
 and both parties are of age there can be no 
 great objections raised, but the conventional 
 flirtations are triflin^^ and often iniquitous. 
 There should always be long acquaintance, but 
 short engagements. Avoid marriage without 
 courtship, and beware of strangers. I married 
 a couple the first day tney ever saw each other, 
 and they lived together just six weeks. He ad- 
 vertised for a wife and she was the first bidder; 
 and she asked him only two questions: the one 
 
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 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 was "if he were a foreisfner,*' and the other was 
 "if he drank intoxicants," and on receiving the 
 answer, "no," she accepted him. She was not 
 as particular in p^etting a husband as she would 
 be in getting a bonnet, and he was nothing and 
 he got nothing, and so there was affinity be- 
 tween them There are thousands of young 
 women with broken hearts, and blightf d lives 
 who have been unwise in marrying strangers in 
 haste. Young ladies should never be engaged 
 without parental counsel on the subject before- 
 hand. There can be no ideal courtship unless 
 it is free from the money consideration. Farms 
 are good and so are bank notes, and fine houses, 
 but it is base deception to marry these, and take 
 the young man or woman with them as a sort 
 of quit claim deed to them. Unless the young 
 man can make a living, and is working at it, and 
 has proven his ability to bring things to pass 
 he ought not to be considered. To marry be- 
 cause it is the last chance, or because you are 
 tired of home without any thought as to the 
 fitness of things is sure to bring repentance at 
 leisure. I hope you will look upon courtship 
 as one of the greatest opportunities of your life, 
 and from the high grounds of your moral and 
 intellectual 2.ffinities, and be warned that mis- 
 takes made here can ne^er be rectified in this 
 life. 
 
MARRIAGE 
 
 17 
 
 MARRIAGE, 
 
 Marriage is honorable in all. — St. Paui. 
 
 Hail wedded Jove, mysterious law; true source 
 
 Of human offspring. — Milton. 
 Marriages are made in Heaven. — Tennyson. 
 
 A v\ orld-without-end-bargain. 
 
 — Love's Labor's Lost. 
 We have for our discussion this evening one 
 of the very gravest subjects of life — Marriage. 
 
 ITS IMPORTANCE AND ENDORSEMENT. 
 
 There is no greater institution than the fam- 
 ily, and no obligations more sacred than the 
 wedding vow. Creation from base to finial was 
 a rising climax: from the shajieless, voidless 
 heaven and earth massed together there came 
 in the divine order, the separation of the heav- 
 ens and the earth, the greater and lesser lights, 
 the vegetable world, the fishes of the seas, the 
 birds of the air, the beasts of the field, and last 
 man, the very lord of all ^creation, made in the 
 image of God; and yet the tiiiishiDg touch, the 
 last ^reat and most refined part of all God's 
 works, the crowning ot the climax was lacking, 
 and then God made woman, and of alibis works 
 a ]3ure, lovely and coiisecrated woman is the 
 fairest, ^an was not made to be alone, or 
 woman "dimply to be admired, but they were 
 
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 MARKIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 made for each other, the one the complement 
 of the other, and God joined them together in 
 holy wedlock, and in this union only is man at 
 his best and most complete. Jesus Christ 
 blessed with his presence the marriage at Cana 
 of Galilee, and there wrought his first miracle. 
 He said ^'for this cause shall a man leave his 
 father and mother and shall cleave unto his 
 wife: and they twain shall be one flesh." The 
 Christian church has set her seal upon the 
 sanctity of marriage, and in our beautiful cere- 
 mony it represents the union between Christ 
 and his church . 
 
 MAN DEVELOPS BETTER. 
 
 Man's unity and highest development is at- 
 tained in matrimony. The work of men and 
 women can never be the same in all respects: 
 the man is brave, the woman sympathetic, the 
 man is stronger physically, the woman cherishes 
 and cares for the family, and every child needs 
 for its best discipline both parents. 
 
 ''As UDto the bow the cord is, 
 
 80 anto the man is woman : 
 
 Though she beads him she obeys him ; 
 
 Though she draws him, yet she follows ; 
 
 Useless each vvithout the other." 
 
 — Longfellow. 
 
MARRIAGE 
 
 19 
 
 Bismark said, "my wife has made me what I 
 am." Socrates said he owed his greatness to the 
 discipline his wife sfave him. Burke said, ''Ev- 
 ery care vanishes the moment I enter my wife's 
 presence." Some great men have never mar- 
 ried, but they might have been greater had they 
 done so. Had Cowper had a cheerful wife he 
 never would have gone to Black Friar's bridge 
 in London to take his life; had Hume and Gib- 
 bon married consecrated christian women they 
 never would have left to the world so much bald 
 infidelity. Married men live longer, and are 
 more moral, and furnish fewer criminals. Mat- 
 rimony is the door that opens to us the most en- 
 dearing relations of life. It gives us father . and 
 mother, husband and wife, parent and child, 
 brother and sister, and oceans of love that have 
 never been fatliomed. What a bereav<^d world 
 we would have if you were to subtract the in- 
 fluence of just one word from it — mother. 
 What reckless men the world would have were 
 it not for the little ones at home looking to 
 them for example; what vagrants many men 
 would be were it not for one true heart in the 
 home --the wife. Marriage is of heaven, ordered 
 of God, and without it there is no salvation for 
 the world. When Joseph Cook was once sail- 
 ing up the Danube in a steamboat he said to an 
 English lord, a German professor, and an Amer- 
 
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 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 ican politician who were on board, ''we are leav- 
 ing the domain of the Koran, and are coming 
 into that of the old fashioned book called the 
 scriptures." ''I know It," said the Massachus- 
 etts politician. "We are more indebted to the 
 Bible, and its ideas of marriao^e, than to all Ko- 
 man, Greek, or Ene;'lish law. I never appreci- 
 ated the fact before." Said the Grerman pro- 
 fessor, ''T have be^ii thinkia^: how, through all 
 modern history, ihe Biblical ideas of marriage 
 move as the sweet waters of the Jordan through 
 the Dead Sea." The Rno lish lord said "I know 
 what came to us out of Grreece; I know what 
 Britain has inherited from Rome; but if we are 
 to express our opinions as to the dictates of 
 experience on this theme, if we are to take 
 science and history for our guides, as we cou- 
 trast minarets for experience on one side, and 
 spires for experience on the other, we shall fall 
 on our knees on the deck of this vessel, and 
 thank God that we were brought up in homes 
 of the Biblical species." 
 
 WHY DO PEOPLE MARRY? 
 
 Is it for a living, for an easier time, for money, 
 for social position, for mere companionship, to 
 have someone care for you when you are older? 
 There are many who marry for all these reasons, 
 and all such marriages are unworthy and de- 
 grading. Marriages are often the most selfish 
 
MARRIAGE 
 
 21 
 
 and dishonest transactions of life. If two par- 
 ties are ^^^^^ business they are frank and 
 careful to put equal shares into the business, 
 but in matrimony there is often the blackest 
 deception. The young man whose only quali- 
 fications are those of the dude, and who is ad- 
 mired by many young ladies because he is the 
 finest advertisement for the tailor, plies all his 
 arts to win the attention of a young woman with 
 money, or apparently he falls in love with a 
 lady 30 years older than himself who is very 
 wealthy, and with the blackest deception and 
 hypocrisy he fawns upon her; and adores her; 
 and marries her money. Nordau looks upon 
 that man as deep in infamy as the scarlet 
 woman who seeks money by the sale of her per- 
 son. There are many gold hunters under the 
 guise of matrimony. The man who thus mar- 
 ries, puts on his black crape, lies to deceive the 
 community when his wife dies, arid to continue 
 to cover up his base deception. This is true of 
 many men, bat alas, it is also true of many 
 women. The parents have encouraged them to 
 flatter the rich young bachelor, or the wealthy 
 man at twice their own age, and once more un- 
 der the guise of having their hearts won by love 
 they are won by money and ease and luxury. 
 Many of the children of Israel are still down on 
 their knees before the golden calf, and turn 
 
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 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 aside from brain, and honor, and heroism and 
 character and marry a ^(^olden calf and one who 
 can never be anything more thsn a calf. Many 
 others marry to live together in selfishness and 
 happiness, and put their fortunes together re- 
 gardless of the world's future. The priests be- 
 lieve in celebacy, and if their hi^h ideal were 
 carried out the world would end and so would 
 it be with all who disregarded the great physi- 
 ological argument for the preservation of the 
 race. 
 
 TRUE LOVE IS THE ONLY BASTS FOR MATRIMONY. 
 
 I think that Grod sends a supreme affection 
 to everyone at some period in life. There are 
 countless married people today who had they 
 to do the courting, make the engagement and 
 get married over again would never marry their 
 present companion. They got married from 
 blind attachment, or policy, or for some other 
 sinister motive. Their children, and public 
 opinion, and regard for their wedding vow have 
 held them together. They have been passive 
 in love, and hence we have so many disappoint- 
 ed married lives, and if their hearts were en- 
 graven on the printed page it would read, ''I 
 married the wrong man," or "the wrong wom- 
 an." The only basis is true love; then the lives 
 will assimilate, and flow together and harmoni- 
 ously blend until the picture is complete. This 
 
MARRIAGE 
 
 23 
 
 love 1ms no old age and never fails. Cornelia, 
 wife of Titus Gracchus, was left a widow with 
 twelve children. She refused the hand of 
 Ptolemy king of Egypt in marriage; and Vale- 
 rius Maximus said, "The buried ashes of her 
 husband seemed to lie so cold to her heart that 
 the splendour of a diadem,^ and all the pomp of 
 a rich kingdom were not able to warm it so as 
 to make it capable of receiving the impression 
 of a new love.'' Washington Irving had this 
 supreme affection though he never married as 
 under his pillow was found a lock of hair and a 
 miniature. I use these illustrations to make 
 forcible supreme love, and not to oppose second 
 marriages for I have known the second to be 
 happier than the first. 
 
 PEOPLE WHO SHOULD NEVER MARRY. 
 
 If an impure woman is unfitted for matrimony 
 so is a beastish man. If there is one person on 
 this earth that tries the atonement more than 
 another it is the libertine. The impure man 
 has no right to live with a pure woman and be- 
 come the father of children. Grod never de- 
 signed that social purity and social filth should 
 be yoked together, "Dip the soul in the seas 
 of ink and it ceases to become really marriage- 
 able. Put out the fire of honor in the heart, 
 and it cannot be made warm at a blazing fire- 
 side. These men who shiver through the ways 
 
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 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 of vice, their skeleton souls without trust, how 
 shall they be warm before their future hearth- 
 stones? The leper puts out his own family fire. 
 Treat one human being in an infamous manner, 
 and you never will treat another human being 
 in the manner provided by natural law." — Cook. 
 
 Ill-health should be a great barrier to matri- 
 mony. Persons with lung disease, and insanity 
 in the family ought to remain single for there- 
 by great suffering has been entailed on the 
 world. Drunkenness should unfit people for 
 matrimony for two reasons; for the comfort of 
 the wife and because the sins of the father are 
 visited upon his children and every child has a 
 right to be born well. No woman should marry 
 a drunkard to reform him, nor should she ever 
 marry an imbecile, an incapable or a sot; better 
 many times told lead an honorable maiden life 
 than be the slave of an unworthy man. 
 
 TIME TO MARRY. 
 
 Perhaps no time can be set by the almanac, 
 but all should be well developed physically and 
 progressing mentally and morally. Twenty-one 
 is young enough for the young woman and 
 twenty-five for the young man. The business 
 in life should be chosen and good preparation 
 made for life before matrimony. Many bind 
 galling chains upon themselves for life by pre- 
 mature marriages. Dr. Durbin, one of our fin- 
 
MARRIAGE 
 
 25 
 
 est orators and scholars, said he would not look 
 upon a maiden for seven years until he finished 
 his college courses, and he kept his vow. The 
 school life, the intellectual development is 
 dwarfed frequently by too early marriage. 
 Many mari'y before they have acquired a taste 
 for reading, or settled in business, and then the 
 cares of the family are added, and not one book 
 per year is read. They could trum a little on 
 the piano before they were married but now 
 they have forgotten even that, aad they have no 
 taste for reading and when old age comes on, 
 time will hang heavy on their hands for there 
 is nothing they can they do, and are unhappy. 
 Too much society in school years is poison to 
 mental discipline, and marriage should never 
 be looked upon as the great object of life as 
 some seem to view it. Get ready for life and 
 then we are ready for marriage; get feady in 
 education and business and in purity and then 
 are we ready for all the events of life. Cornelia, 
 mother of the Gracchi advised her sons to keep 
 13ure. "Your best ijreservation is anticipation, 
 Think that you wish to win a white soul, and 
 you wouM be unwilling to give less than you 
 bargain for. In the midst of the corruptions 
 of Rome, remembf^r that she who is to be to you 
 what I have been to Titus Gracchus will require 
 if she is what I am, that you should be to her 
 
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 what Titus Gracchus was to me Prepare afar 
 off for the event which Providence prepares 
 afar off for you." 
 
 The marriage ceremony is more than a civil 
 rite, it is a religious ceremony.. Better exalt it 
 to be a saciament than to degrade it to be a 
 mere contract. The bible prescribes for it, and 
 all the relations of the family are ordered by in- 
 spiration. Let infidels and unbelievers be mar- 
 ried if they choose by aldermen and magistrates, 
 but believers in God should never rule God out 
 of this most important event in life. Let the 
 man who marries them be able to say, "I an 
 ordained minister of Jesus Christ, by the laws 
 of God, and the laws of man, pronounce you to 
 be husband and wife together, in the name of 
 the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Ghost," 
 Amen. 
 
LIBRARY 
 ■ THE 
 
 UNIVERSITY OF ILLINOIS 
 
LUCILLE Mc\'ETY. 
 
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 WOMAN'S RIGHTS, 
 
 I^^Gtur© III. 
 
 Neither is the woman withoat the man, nor the 
 man withoat the woman,, in the Lord. For as -jhe 
 woman is of the man, so is the man also by the 
 woman ; but all things are of God. — St. Paul. 
 
 Woman's empire, holier, more refined, 
 Moulds,- moves, and swayes the fallen, 
 
 yet God- breathed mind, 
 Lifting tne earth-crushed heart to hope 
 
 and heaven. —Hale. 
 
 Not she with trait'rous kiss the Saviour stung. 
 Not she denied him with unholy tongue; 
 She, while apostles shrank, could danger bravt^. 
 Last at his cross, and earliest at his grave. 
 
 — Barrett. 
 
 There are few subjects on which there is so 
 much random speaking and writing as the sub- 
 ject of Woman's Rights, Some write as if the 
 two sexes were opposed to each other, and the 
 time had come when woman should rebel, throw 
 off the yoke of bondage, and be emancipated 
 from the thraldom of masculine slavery. It is 
 true that many women have been, and are great- 
 ly ox3pressed; and it is also irue that there is a 
 class of women who dip their pens in sarcasm 
 and irony and assail the men as if they wilfully 
 
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 and cruelly tortured the women. Of all the 
 ages of the world's history this is the poorest 
 for such an assault. There never was an age 
 when husbands and fathers sacrificed more, and 
 were readier for martyrdom if need be for their 
 wives and daughters. 
 
 WOMAN HAS NOT HAD HER RIGHTS. 
 
 In the long past she has been looked upon as 
 brainless and soulless, and was a slave to her 
 husband. In China infanticide was common, 
 and a girl child has been bought for a dime; in 
 India wives have been burned on the bodies of 
 their husbands; the Bhuddists taught that 
 woman's only hope was to be turned into a man 
 in the next world; Mohammedans taught in the 
 Koran that, "men shall have the pre-eminence 
 above their wives." Under Roman law she had 
 no voice in the family, and the husband looked 
 on his wife as any other piece of property. 
 Confucius taught and gave seven reasons for 
 divorce, and this will give you some idea of her 
 position. "If she be childless; if she be un- 
 faithful to her wedding vows; if she be jealous 
 of the clothes of other women or of her hus- 
 band; if she be dishonest; if she be sickly; if 
 she disobeys her mother-in-law; if she talks too 
 much." Louis XI WTjuld not look on his first 
 child because it was a girl; in Athens at the 
 birth of a girl the father ordered a distaff tus- 
 
woman's rights 
 
 29 
 
 pended outside the door while the birth of a boy 
 was announced by a garland of olives. Woman 
 has not had her rights in education, in society, 
 in business and in reHgion, neither has man. 
 He has been bought and sold like cattle, and 
 slaughtered in the circus with heartless cruelty, 
 and Rome's lovely maidens and cultured women 
 greeted their ears, and feasted their eyes with 
 the groans of the butchered thousands. What 
 has been the cause of all this cruelty; it is heath- 
 enism. Heathenism seized woman as she stood 
 in the image of God on the far off sixth day of 
 creation, and cursed her with all the woes of the 
 long centuries. 
 
 CHRISTIANITY HAS REDEEMED HER. 
 
 The bible taught the sanctity of marriage, 
 and the life-union of one man with one woman, 
 and husbands were to love their wives as their 
 own bodies and as Christ loved the church. It 
 taught social purity and one standard of moral- 
 ity for both sexes, and Jesus Christ associated 
 with women and saved them. Christianity has 
 redeemed India from the burning of wives on 
 the dead bodies of their husbands, and China 
 from infanticide, and lifted woman up to her 
 original position, Christianity through the 
 Methodist church has accorded to woman the 
 right of public speech in church. The rostrum 
 sx)eakers and writers for the joress have aided in 
 
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 the last fifty years in agitatino- public opinion, 
 but it is Christianity and the advancinf^ civili- 
 zation which has come through the gospel of 
 our blessed Lord that has redeemed her. The 
 difference between woman in China and darkest 
 Africa, and in Christian America is the differ- 
 ence of plus or minus the bible. When God 
 made woman she was man's equal, but heathen- 
 ism degraded her, and the religion of Jesus 
 Christ has redeemed her. 
 
 WOMAN HAS IN MOST RESPECTS AS EASY A TIME 
 AS MAN TODAY. 
 
 Pomeroy argues that the wife of the laborer 
 is on a par with her husband. She washes and 
 bakes and sews and waits upon the children 
 from morning until night while he goes to the 
 coal mine, or street, or factory with his tin pail, 
 eats a cold dinner, and works eight or ten hours 
 per day. Which of the twain have it the hard- 
 er? You answer she is a slave to her children; 
 little ones to the true mother are the sweetest 
 music of the home, and the dearest joy of the 
 heart. Take another class, the skilled laborer. 
 He does not work as hard as the day -laborer, 
 and often superintends men, but on account of 
 his better wages his wife keeps a servant to help 
 her bear the burdens of life. Among profes- 
 sional men, and the wealthy, their brains are 
 weary with the great responsibilities they carry 
 
woman's rights 31 
 
 while their wives have it much easier, and all 
 the help that is necessary to aid them with their 
 work. 
 
 WOMAN IS man's equal BUT NOT HIS EQUIVALENT 
 
 She is able to do man's work in the office and 
 store, and in literature, and in the pulpit, and 
 in the practice of law and medicine, and largely 
 in the factories. All these advantages are open 
 to her and ought to be, and she ought to receive 
 as high wages as man in every calling in life 
 where she does the same amount of work. Man 
 is woman's equal. He can bake as good bread, 
 and wash and iron as well, and do nearly all the 
 work that a woman does. The question is no 
 longer debatable whether the woman is man's 
 equal in the higher education, in art and litera- 
 ture and in music, for man accords to her all 
 these rights and advantages, and the twentieth 
 century will so crown her. While she is his 
 equal she is not his equivalent, and herein is 
 the greatest mistake made in the discussion of 
 this question. She can ride horseback like a 
 man, and be a cond actor on a train and 
 13erform nearly all the work that man does, but 
 is it best that she should do so, and cannot she 
 do something better? 
 
 Not from his head he woman took, 
 As made her husband to o'er look ; 
 Not from his feet as one designed 
 
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 The footstool of the stronger kind ; 
 But fashioned for himself a bride ; 
 An equal, taken from his side. 
 
 — Charles Wesley. 
 
 She is not a supplement to man, nor an ap- 
 pendix, but his complement. She is not as we 
 often read in the cemeteries a relict of a man. 
 Man and woman differ from each other, but the 
 unity of man is only attained in both. The 
 blending of different, and yet complemental 
 colors of blue and orange, green and red, purple 
 and yellow gives us the unity of perfect white- 
 ness, so man's perfection is only attained unto 
 in the blending of man and woman. Oxygen 
 is not water, neither is hydrogen but both to- 
 gether give us the life giving fluid. The two 
 hemispheres give us the round globe, the com- 
 pleted world and so with man and woman. She 
 can never be unsexed and be the equivalent of 
 man neither can he be her equivalent. Board- 
 man says, "there is only one thing in this world 
 feebler than a womanized man; it is a manized 
 woman." I believe in a real boy, and a real 
 girl; in a real man, and a real woman as God 
 made them 
 
 For woman is not an undevelopt man 
 But diverse: Could we make her as the man, 
 Sweet love were slain: his dearest bond is this 
 Not like to like, but like in difference. 
 
woman's rights 
 
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 Yet ill the Ions: vears liker must they grow ; 
 The man be more of woman, she of man ; 
 He gain in sweetness and in moral height, 
 Nor ioose the wresting thews that throw the world ; 
 Slie mental breadth, nor fail in childish eare ; 
 Nor loose the childlike in the larger mind ; 
 Till at last she set herself to man ; 
 Like perfect music unto noble words; 
 And so these twain, upon I he skirts of Time, 
 Sit side by side full sum*d in all their powers. 
 Dispensing harvest, sowing the To- be, 
 Self revert^nt each, and reverencing each. 
 But like f'ach other ev'n as those who love 
 Then comes the statelier Eden back to man: [calm 
 Then reigns the worlri's great bridals, chaste and 
 Then springs the crowning race of human kind, 
 Ma}^ these things be. — Tennyson. 
 
 THE NEW WOMAN. 
 
 I think that God designed that man should 
 be the bread winner, and v^oman the bread dis- 
 tributor, and hence he made man the stronger 
 physically. Some women are both, but this 
 does not prove that God so designed it. The 
 male of the Americari ostrich sits on the eggs 
 and hatches them, and there is lately discovered, 
 a species of spider where the female kills her 
 consort and feeds upon his body, but this does 
 not prove that man should do the house work. 
 Through the barbarism of man woman has been 
 forced to make the living for the household. 
 Maiden ladies in the future shall be competitors 
 
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 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 with men in photof^raphy, art, medicine, educa- 
 tion, law, the ministry and journalism. She 
 shall stand at the ballot box on equal footing 
 with man and say who shall be president and 
 mayor, and alderman and trustee of the school. 
 All these are related to the home and her voice 
 shall be heard. She shall know her husband's 
 business, and then there shall be less fraud in 
 the world. She has a right to know all about 
 that which concerns the education and wealth 
 and happiness of her home. She has sutt'ered 
 when left alone for want of business knowledge. 
 The new woman will have a better physique. 
 The old proverb that '^our girls must either be 
 healthy ignoramuses, or cultured in V9 lids" will 
 be unknown. God designed that a woman 
 should be able to climb mountains as easily as 
 a man. Tlie new woman will not be a doll, and 
 the child shall supplant the piiff, and a poodle 
 dog for a companion will only be known on the 
 stage. She will be a real person with the 
 world's best advantages educationally, socially, 
 esthetically, financially, and politically. The 
 home is the mightiest factor in the salvation of 
 the world. I appreciate the nun who secludes 
 herself from the world to advance the kingdom 
 of Jesus Christ; I admire the maiden lady who 
 leaves home and native land and all the luxuries 
 of civilization to carry the gospel to her sister 
 
woman's rights 
 
 35 
 
 in heatlieiiism and redeem her; but I admire the 
 mother more than any other class for her sacri- 
 fice, and love the deepest and purest. The right 
 of maternity shall be more appreciated by the 
 new woman. Ihave heard it said that children 
 are a hindrance and the mother's life that of a 
 slave's. There is no music in the world like 
 the cooing of a babe. The songsters of the 
 grove charm us, sweet singers and grand an- 
 thems inspire us, but all these can never be 
 compared to a baby solo or its variety concert. 
 Catholics and Jews appreciate maternity more 
 than Protestants. Catholics look upon mar- 
 riage as a sacrament, and any interference with 
 the married life as a mortal sin, and Jews look 
 upon every child born as an additional proof of 
 God's favor. God pity the man who has no 
 recollections of mother and home. One hun- 
 dred and twenty clergymen were relating their 
 christian experience when one hundred and ten 
 traced their christian lives to pious mothers. 
 A mother's kiss made Benjamin West the re- 
 nowned artist, a painter. Mrs. Wesley, the 
 evangel of modern times, set the world on fire 
 with gospel power through her two sons Charles 
 and John. Hannah gave the world her most 
 saintly judge,' Samuel. I heard a great preacher 
 say, ''My mother took me by the hand and knelt 
 with me in prayer, and her tears fell upon the 
 
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 back of my hand. It is forty years since V)ut 
 I can feel them burning today." Children 
 shall be considered by all good women the most 
 fragrant flowers of the home, and the heritage 
 of the Lord. No childless home is a model one. 
 The new woman shall have liberty spelled out 
 in capital letters, and hers shall be the inherit- 
 ance of the divine command, ^'Give her of the 
 fruit of her hands, and let her own works praise 
 her within the gates . She shall be, 
 
 A woman in so far as she beholdeth 
 
 Her one Beloved's face ; 
 A mother with a great heart that enfoldetb 
 
 The children of her race. 
 A body free and strong, with that bigh beauty 
 
 That comes of perfect use, is built thereof ; 
 A mind where reason ruleth over duty, 
 
 And justice reigns with love; 
 A self-poised royal soul, brave, wise ani tender 
 
 No longer blind and dumb; 
 A human being of an unknown splendor, 
 
 Is she who is to come." 
 
37 
 
 Is Man Too Prolific? 
 
 "And Grod blessed them, and God said unto 
 them be fraitful and multiply, and replenish 
 the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion 
 over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of 
 the air; and over every living thing that moveth 
 upon the earth." 
 
 A man is the whole encyclopedia of facts. 
 The creation of a thousand forests is in an 
 acorn, and E^ypt, Greece, Rome, Gaul, Britain, 
 America lie folded already in the first man. — 
 Emeison. 
 
 There are many who believe that the wo;'ld is 
 being over populated, and that we cannot sup- 
 ply work and food to meet the necessities of 
 life. Plato and Aristotle, and in more modern 
 times, Hume, Benjamin Franklin, Wallace, 
 Townsend, Malthus and Mills have all treated 
 to some extent the question of over population. 
 
 THE MALTHUSIAN DOCTRINE. 
 
 Malthus and John Stuart Mill thought that 
 the population unchecked would double in 
 about every t^Tenty-five years. Emigration has 
 been looked upon as the great means to relieve 
 the situation, but this is only a delaying of' the 
 
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 problem. Otliers have thought that war was a 
 necessity to reduce the populatiori, but tin's is 
 cruel and not in harmony with the mercy and 
 wisdom of God. Malthus taught that life on 
 this planet is so prolific that if unchecked it 
 would fill millions of worlds in a few thousand 
 years, and he adds there are only three checks 
 to restrain or prevent it; moral restraint, vice 
 and misery. He approved only of the one re- 
 straint, the moral one, ''Don't marry till you 
 have a fair prospect of supporting a family." 
 This check teaches two grand lessons; the re- 
 sponsibility of parenthood, and the bringing 
 children into the world without being able to 
 care for them. He also thought that one or two 
 children were sufficient, and Pomeroy says on 
 this basis man would be an extinct animal in 
 500 years. 
 
 THE EARTH WILL NEVER BE OVER POPULATED. 
 
 It has taken the world several hundred years 
 to double its population up to date, instead of 
 every twenty-five years. Mr. Grant Allen made 
 an estimate in 1889 on the number of children 
 necessary in the family to keep the world with 
 its present population. He took into account 
 those who do not marry, and unavoidable bar- 
 renness among the married and he placed the 
 estimate at four children in every home, and 
 Pomeroy made a careful estimate and he placed 
 
IS MAN TOO PROLIFIC? 
 
 39 
 
 the number of children at four also. W. C. 
 Prime said in 1889 that the state of Texas would 
 furnish room for a separate i2:rave for every hu- 
 man being born in the last six thousand years, 
 and all who will be born in six thousand years 
 to come. Every man woman and child in the 
 world could stand side by side today in a plot 
 of ground ten miles square. God has shown 
 his Omniscience in giving every order of species 
 its basis of reproduction. The lower orders are 
 a thousand fold more prolific than the higher 
 orders. Among the low^er they live upon each 
 other, hence thei'e is no danger of over popula- 
 tion. Pishes, insects and small animals increase 
 much more rapidly than lions, elephants and 
 man. The giant oak never produces beyond its 
 best condition for growth while a thistle seed 
 would stock a continent. The Creator never 
 made the elephant to multiply like the smaller 
 animals, and if he had the animal .world would 
 have been lop-sided w4th elephants; for, from 
 their size, and strength and age to which they 
 live they would have had the right of way on 
 this earth. The elephant lives for a hundred 
 years, and if the Creator had made him to mul- 
 tiply like some tiny insects which only live a few 
 sunshinny days the earth would be the abode 
 of elephants, and if the tiny insect was no more 
 prolific than the elephant and lived such a short 
 
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 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 period most of the insect species would V^e ex- 
 tinct. The Omnipotent made man and all othei' 
 species, and prepared the earth for them, and 
 adapted them all so well to each other that a 
 million years would never prove that God failed 
 in the creation of the world. 
 
 THIS WORLD CAN NEVER WEAR OUT. 
 
 Some teach that it will becomiC so impover- 
 ished that it will fail to yield its accustomed in- 
 crease. Parts of New England apparently bear 
 out this theory, but lack of science and wisdom 
 on the part of man has been the cause. The 
 worn-out farms of New England under applied 
 science shall '^blossom as the rose." There, is 
 nothing lost or annihilated on this earth. The 
 food we eat, the coal we burn all goes to aid 
 some other part. The mineral and vegetable 
 and animal kingdoms are borrowing and lend- 
 ing; the Sun and earth have free trade between 
 them and nothing is lost. God did not make 
 this earth as a huge granary, or storehouse into 
 which man was to go until all was consumed 
 and then die. Such a world would be a tre- 
 mendous failure. He made it a self supporting 
 world. The rocks are continually turning into 
 valuable soil, and the sun and air are enriching 
 the earth. It is said that a single year adds 
 500 tons of Cosmic dust from other worlds to 
 the earth. We might as reasonably believe that 
 
IS MAN TOO PROLIFIC? 
 
 41 
 
 in time tlie air would become so impure from 
 our great cities, and sluggish rivers, and decay- 
 ing forests, and from the worlds of bird and 
 beast and man that eventually it would become 
 impossible to live on this planet and hence the 
 race would be extinct. God made this a self 
 purifying world, and as man subdues it, it will 
 become a vast sanitarium, and smoke and all 
 impurities will be cremated, and the diseases of 
 the world shall be subdued, and men shall be 
 in business at one hundred years of age. 
 
 CAUSES OF SCARCITY. 
 
 It is not from over population. Our cities 
 are over crowded today. New Yoik and Lon- 
 don and many other great cities have more men 
 than they can fur»iisli work for. Many of these 
 are unfitted for any kitid of work, We are not 
 eqnally distributed; the great rich southland is 
 a very Eden in climate, and a garden in fertil- 
 ity, and is largely a desert : much of the great 
 West is a barren waste. General Booth's 
 scheme for transferring the poor in ihe cities 
 to the country where they may all liave plenty, 
 is feasable. In our own country colonization 
 companies are springing up already as a medium 
 through which millions may tind pure, sweet 
 homes with plenty. This will reduce the pop- 
 ulation in cities and lessen povt rty and crime 
 and increase the virtue and wealih of the nation. 
 
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 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 We spend every year one billion five hundred 
 millions for liquor and tobacco; an averp.2;e of 
 twenty-five dollars per capita. Human greed 
 has 2^round the masses down to poverty and 
 crime It is the abuse of the earth and not its 
 use that has given us famine and poverty and 
 crime. The gospel will literally make this earth 
 blossom as the rose. There shall come u'nifvorm 
 marriage and divorce laws in all the states of 
 the Union, and the unfit mentally, physically 
 and socially shall be debarred from matrimony. 
 It might look as if such an action on the part 
 of the state were interfering with human liber- 
 ty, but she has a right to protect herself. No 
 shiftless man has a right to bring children into 
 the world and impose them on society. Society 
 has a right to say that criminals and paupers 
 shall not be born. It is a libel on the mercy 
 and wisdom of God to say that this, world will 
 prove a failure, and that war and famine are 
 necessary to j^reserve the balance of power, and 
 make room for man. 
 
 THE SUPPLY IS ILLIMITABLE. 
 
 Not over one-tenth of this world is worked, 
 and that one-tenth will yet yield ten times .as 
 much. The time will come when forty acres 
 will be considered a large farm, and yield more 
 than one hundred and sixty now. Man is the 
 mightiest factor in the progress of this world. 
 
IS MAN TOO PEOLIFIC? 
 
 48 
 
 We have nature's storehouse well filled with fish 
 and game, and wild fruit, and wood and coal, 
 and if this were all, the world would soon be 
 over crowded. Add man and it is said he mul- 
 tiplies the earth's capacity by fifteen hundred. 
 Pomeroy looks on the earth, not as a vast store- 
 house but as a great machine, or factory run 
 by man and adequate to meet the demands of 
 all the ages. . A whole state will yet be turned 
 into a hot house with glass and steam; winter 
 will be annihilated, and the producing capacity 
 be increased one hundred per cent. The mill- 
 ions of acres of arid wastes will be irrigated, 
 and man will be lord of the water supplies and 
 demands of this earth. Famines will be un- 
 known in the future; the means of transporta- 
 tion will be such that the whole world will be- 
 come a neighborhood. The winds and electric- 
 ity and the great oceans and mighty rivers will 
 give power enough to turn the wheels of the 
 world's machinery for ail time to come. The 
 supply is illimitable. There will always be air 
 enough, and light enough, and heat enough 
 while the sun endures. We have harnessed 
 steam and it moves the world; we have made 
 the lightning our errand boy, harnessed elec- 
 tricity partially but we are- only in our infancy; 
 we shall harness the sun's rays some day, and 
 already one coach has been propelled by them, 
 
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 xMARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 and when we couple the earth to the lieat of the 
 sun, and to his power, and to his li^j^ht there can 
 be no failure, and when the mighty oceans roll 
 up against the machinery of this earth it will 
 move grandly and tremendously on forever. 
 God blessed man, and told him he was lord of 
 all his creation, and to multiply and replen.ish 
 the earth, and subdue it; harness down the ?nn 
 to meet your wants, control the oceans and 
 then shall the earth yield a thousand fold. We 
 have gone down into the earth, and we have 
 found gas and coal and iron and ^old and sil- 
 ver, and platinum, and these great discoveries 
 have given to us a new earth and the former 
 earth hath passed away. I don't know what 
 Grod has in reserve for this world yet. Man 
 shall subdue the laws of nature and explore her 
 secrets, and invention and discovery shall give 
 us another new earth, and there shall be no 
 scarcity for the record tells us that, 'Hhe earth 
 is the Lord's and the fullness thereof," and 
 '^seed time and harvest" shall continue while 
 the world lasts. A German scientist says that 
 applied science will be able to provide for as 
 many human beings as would occupy this earth 
 were it one vast city. It will take millions of 
 years to learn the goodness and wisdom of God 
 in furnishing this earth for man, and a new 
 doxology of praise will leap from the hearts of 
 
IS MAN TOO PROLIFIC? 
 
 45 
 
 the race as it shall subdue the earth, and with 
 enlar^^ed capacity be able to appreciate the 
 wealth of his Providence for the children of 
 men. Henry Clay, the ideal statesman of 
 America, climbed a crag of the AUec^hanies in 
 company with a friend. The valley of the Ohio 
 was stretched out before him and he was sitting 
 with his head bowed with listening intent when 
 his friend asked, "What hearest thou senator 
 from Kentucky?" "Hear?" replied the states- 
 man, "I hear the thundering tread of the com- 
 ing millions who are marcliing over the mount- 
 ains to possess those prairies, away and away to 
 the setting sun." That was as true a prophecy 
 as if recorded in the book of holy writ. The 
 prophet is yet to be born who can lift this world 
 out of the unrevealed providence of God as it 
 shall blaze with His glory in the ages to come. 
 "Great and marvellous are thy works Lord God 
 Almighty, heaven and earth are full of thy 
 glory." 
 
46 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 The Selection oe a. Wife, 
 
 Take the daughter of a 2:ood mother. — Fuller. 
 If thou wouldst marry wise, marrj" thine equal. 
 —Ovid. 
 
 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and 
 obtaineth favor of the Lord. -^Solomon. 
 
 In the election of a wife, as in 
 
 A project of war, to err but once is 
 
 To be undone forever. — Middieton. 
 
 Is there never a woman among the daughters of 
 thj brethren, or among all the people, that thou 
 goest to take a wife of the uncircumsized Philis- 
 tines ? — 'Judges. 
 
 The reason whv so few marriages are happy is 
 because young ladies spend their time in making 
 nets, not in making cages. — Swift. 
 
 This is a grave subject and one vi^iich the 
 christian pulpit lias been shy of, and which has 
 been rele^^ated to the domain of the sensational 
 novel and the stage. The very mention of such 
 a theme begets prejudice in the minds of many, 
 and brings associations that are flippant; ro- 
 mances quite unworthy the attention of men of 
 brain and character. If there is one place 
 
THE SELECT ION OF A WIFE 
 
 47 
 
 amontj: all others where the youn^ man has a 
 decided advantaL^e over the youn^: woman, it is 
 in the selection of a companion for life. This 
 advantage arises fi'om the fact that he has more 
 ahnndant and "better material to select from, and 
 not because his jud<^ement is any better. The 
 avera<j:e yonn^- woman 'is purer and stron^*er 
 mentally than the average youn£< man, and 
 should the best fifty youn^: men of any churcli 
 I ha^e ever served marry the best fifty youns: 
 women, the youns^ men would have the best of 
 it by all odds. 
 
 MEN DO NOT ALWAYS CHOOSE WISELY. 
 
 Many men whose opinion and judgement is 
 sought and acted on m law, and medicine, and 
 business, and mechanics, and theology, and in 
 all the affairs of life, when it comes to the se- 
 lection of a wife make the choice apparently 
 without judgement. It is passing strange that 
 brain, and social advantage, and scholarship, 
 should all go for naught upon such an import- 
 ant event. A painter was mixiiig paints with 
 divers colors when an onlooker asked him what 
 he was mixing the paints with, ''with brains. 
 Sir," was the terse and laconic reply. It takes 
 brains to choose a wife. It is one of the most' 
 important steps in life, and alas for many a home 
 and the world it is a brainless one. I can con- 
 vince you from the many great failures that 
 
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 have been made by men of wealth of character 
 and brain fibre that the most foolish selections 
 have been made. Samson went contrary to 
 the wishes of his parents and married a daugh- 
 ter of the Philistines, and she deceived and be- 
 trayed him, and through his crue! and heartless 
 wife he lost his strength, eyes and life. When 
 he propounded a riddle, and his wife turned 
 traitor, I am not surprised that he said in that 
 crude asre, ''If ye had not plowed with my heifer, 
 ye had not found out my riddle." It is strange 
 that a man with his ability should leave the 
 land of beautiful Miriam and lovely Esther and 
 select such a woman for a wife. Job was ''a 
 perfect and an upright man,'' and had the abil- 
 ity to make money, and outmatch Satan and all 
 his enemies, and yet he selected a cruel and 
 heartless noneutity for a wife. If there ever 
 was a time when a husband needed the conso- 
 lations of a truly sympathetic wife it was \n 
 Job's case, when all his children were dead, 
 and his property was all destroyed, and all his 
 friends had forsaken him, and he was afflicted 
 with boils, and yet his wife told him "to curse 
 God and die." He made a more gentle reply 
 than some Americans would have made under 
 the circumstances. He said, ''You talk as one 
 of the foolish women." John Wesley the ripe 
 scholar, and great organizer, and mighty 
 
THE SELECTION OF A WIFE 
 
 49 
 
 preacher ch(jBe a woman for a wife that was a 
 tHntaliz-^r and jealous. Socrates the great phi- 
 i().-^'>pher chose Xatitippe, and she kept him on 
 the race track all his life. This world has seen 
 but one Shakespeare and his married life was 
 unbearable and a failure. A friend referred to 
 John Milton's wife as a rose, and the blind poet 
 replied, ^'I am no judge of colors, but it may be 
 so for I feel the thorns daily." Byron, and 
 Ruskin and Macbeth awd Robinson and thous- 
 ands of others; men who were philosophers, 
 judges, artists, poets, ministers; men of brain 
 and ripe scholarship have been yoked with Jez- 
 ebels and Xantippes and Mrs. John Wesley's 
 for life. 
 
 LITTLE EXCUSE FOR SUCH MISTAKES TODAY. 
 
 There never was so much good wife material 
 in all this world as today. The young women 
 of our land were never so well educated, never 
 so true to Christianity and the cause of Jesus 
 Christ, never more heroic and self sacrificing 
 than at present, and physically, mentally and 
 morally they stand at the head of womankind 
 from the days of Eve until now. Talmage says, 
 "The world never owned such opulence of wom- 
 anly character, or such splendor of womanly 
 manners, or such multitudinous instances of 
 wifely, motherly, daughterly, sisterly devotion 
 as it owns today. I have not words to express 
 
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 MAKRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 my admiration for good womanhood. Woman 
 is not only man's equal, but in affectional and, 
 emotional nature, which is the best part of us 
 she is seventy-five per cent his superior." 
 There never were so many devout Marys to se- 
 lect from, never so many loyal Ruths, and in- 
 dustrious Marthas, and glorious Deborahs, 
 Evangelines, and Martha Washingtons, and 
 Florence Nightingales, and Cornelias; never so 
 many home-lovers and home-makers in all this 
 world as today. 
 
 SOME TRAITS OF CHARACTER TO SHUN. 
 
 There are women and women. While you 
 have such a galaxy of glori')as women to select 
 from, you have also thousands of shams and 
 counterfeit women, th :)usands of shoddy and 
 parrotlike women— mere imitators of woman- 
 hood. Solomon said, ''It is better to dwell in 
 the corner of the house-top than with a brawl- 
 ing woman in a wide house." Better live in 
 the garret among the cobwebs and broken and 
 castaway furniture, than with a woman with a 
 bad temper. If any man can live with a con- 
 tentious, sulky, disputing woman in this life he 
 ought to have some kind consideration in the 
 hereafter. Think of a man perplexed with bus- 
 iness, and weary with the labors of the day com- 
 ing home to a social cyclone: such a woman is 
 driving nails in her husband's coffin every day. 
 
THE SELECTION OF A WIFE 51 
 
 and I'm not surprised that he spends his eve- 
 niiicrs away from home. Unless you are a phi- 
 losopher like Socrates don't marry a brawling 
 woman. Don't marry a fashion plate, a painted 
 butterfly, a bundle of artificialities, or she will 
 sacrifice home to the watering place, and the 
 dinner to the ball, and you will repent at leisure 
 because you married a giggling nothing for a 
 substantial something. Don't marry a flirt; 
 they are all triflers, vanity fairs, and love to 
 have many beaux; they are all surface women, 
 taking more'pains with the outside of the head 
 than with the inside, and if they are untrue as 
 young women they will be as wives. Many are 
 attracted only by the plumage and the gaiety 
 of fashion, and in after years find out to their 
 sorrow that they have been swindled out of ev- 
 erything they bargained for but the advertise- 
 ment. Don't marry a mere beauty. **Favor is 
 deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that 
 feareth the Lord she shall be praised." How 
 many foolish young men choose surface beauty 
 instead of beauty of morals and mind. A mere 
 surface beauty will vanish with the flight of 
 years, and is to the real character what paint is 
 to the building. It cannot be reckoned among 
 the wearables and substantials of life. 
 
 *'For rarely do we meet in one combined, 
 A beauteous body and a virtuous mind/' 
 
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 MAREIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 When God ogives personal beauty it is not for 
 butterfly life, and raaity, but for nKikiriK the 
 life of virtue all the more attractive*" and divine. 
 
 LET ME GIVE YOU TWO PICTURES. 
 
 I have seen some charming f u-es with every 
 feature so symmetrical and lovely that they al- 
 most answered to my ideal of beauty until they 
 opened their mouths and began to talk, and give 
 exhibitions of their character, and then it all 
 vanished. The exterior prophesied falsely of 
 the interior, and it became to me an empty 
 mind and a veneered character shin^in^ through 
 a vacant face, and I thou^^iit of the piece we 
 sometimes sing entitie.l, "The Vacant Lot " I 
 have seen another picture; it was when the con- 
 tour of the face and form were ungainly and 
 ungraceful, and yet when the man or woman 
 began to speak, and the true nobility of charac- 
 ter impressed itself tlien the mind and spirit 
 set the human vase ablaze with intellectual and 
 spiritual light and glory and I was attracted 
 and overawed by the beauty and grandeur of 
 the magnificent presence. B ^luty of face won't 
 win in the school room, and in the store, and 
 in life and the home; it is nobility of character 
 that is always mighty and coavincing. 
 
 SOME GOOD ADVICE. 
 
 I desire as your spiritual adviser to give you 
 somegood advice. The most of you will em- 
 
THE SELECTION OF A WIFE 53 
 
 bark some day on the sea of matrimony, and 
 there are such tempestuous seas, such danger- 
 ous euroclydous that T have warned you, and 
 now T desire to direct you to a sea of bluest 
 skies, and crispest air, and serenest joys and 
 matrimonial bliss from the day you set sail from 
 the weildino^ altar until you shall be anchored 
 m "the haven of rest." Marry a young woman 
 of good constitution. Many men are handi- 
 capped aU their lives with broken homes, and 
 poverty and doctor's bills because they married 
 women who were incapable of assuming the re- 
 sponsibilities of the married life. Marry a sen- 
 sible young woman. The romance of courtship 
 and the honeymoon will soon wear off, and then 
 comes the realities of life, and good judgement 
 will be a benediction to your home every day 
 you live. Such a youii^r woman will never be a 
 spendthrift. She will not be jealous or sensi- 
 tive if your income does not enable her to ap- 
 pear in society in as costly wardrobe as her 
 neighbors. If misfortune should overtake you 
 she will say, "Well husband there are a thous- 
 and things worse than this, we will not be dis- 
 couraged but begin if need be at the bottom 
 again." She will be a frugal companion and 
 that enhances future comforts. Such a woman 
 will never be a gossiper, and when a little air on 
 some human tongue sets a neighborhood in so- 
 
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 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 cial commotion she will be strong and sensible 
 amidst it all, and her husband will have reason 
 to call her blessed. Marry a youn^ lady who is 
 well born, well brought up, and who has a good 
 mother. Show me a young woman and T can 
 almost tell you the kind of a mother she has 
 without having met her. Henry Ward Beecher 
 said. "Select good parents to be born from, and 
 take good care of yourself afterwards." Marry 
 for personal value, and not for real estate for 
 the character is everything. You can study 
 character in the office, and in the church, and 
 in the home and the faithful in these places 
 will be the faithful as wives, and stability of 
 character makes homes blessed and abiding. 
 Marry the pure and chaste. God never made 
 anything quite so lovely as a pure woman, and 
 there is nothing quite so nasty as an impure 
 one. Pass by the slovenly girl, for no untidy 
 woman can command the respect of a true hus- 
 band. Pass by the boisterous laughter on the 
 streets, and the loud and coarse talker, and 
 those who smile at impure anecdotes, and the 
 unchaste in thought and word, and all who keep 
 unquestionable company, an d all who are never 
 at home but when they are away from home 
 Marry the faithful, the pure and high-minded; 
 "Who can find a virtuous woman for her price 
 is far above rubies." 
 
THE SELECTION OF A WIFE 
 
 55 
 
 ''Virtue alone outbuilds the Pyramids; 
 Her monuments shall last, when Egypt's fall.'* 
 
 — Young. 
 
 God made a woman for Adam, and he has 
 made one for you, and if you would be sure of 
 the right one go in devout counsel and ask 
 her Maker, and he will grant thee wisdom, and 
 ^'thou shalt obtain favor of the Lord," 
 
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 MAERIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 The Choice of a Husband, 
 
 The Lord grant you that ye may find rest, each 
 of you in the house of her husband. — Naomi. 
 
 I would bestow my daughter said Themistocles, 
 "upon a man without money rather than upon 
 money without a man." — Percy. 
 
 When lovely woman stoops, 
 And finds too late that men betray, 
 What charms can soothe her melancholy, 
 What art can wash her guilt away ?" 
 
 — Goldsmith. 
 
 As the husband is the wife is ; 
 Thou art mated to a clown, 
 The grossness of his nature, 
 Will have weight to drag you down. 
 
 — Tennyson. 
 
 **Be joined to thine equal in rank, or the 
 foot of pride will kick at thee ; 
 
 And look not only for riches, lest thou be 
 mated with misery." 
 
 Last Sunday evening I gave some good ad- 
 vice to young men in selecting companions for 
 life, and now young ladies I counsel you to 
 open your eyes, and use your best judgement 
 for you have greater risks to take than young 
 
THE CHOICE OF A HUSBAND 
 
 57 
 
 men have, ancl a mistake on yonr part is fatal 
 for life. If you are true to your parents you 
 will never marry without counseling them, and 
 if you are trae to God you will ask for wisdom 
 from on high to guide you aright. In marriage 
 you are making ''A world- without-end-bargain," 
 and your parents who have nursed you from 
 childhood, and idolized you, love you dearer 
 than anybody else in all this world. Alas, many 
 young ladies turn a deaf ear to the entreaties 
 of their parents, and act blindly on the impulses 
 of their nature, and I can only forgive them on 
 the ground of thoughtlessness. 
 
 THERE ARE LEGIONS OF GOOD MEN. 
 
 It is a common remark among young ladies, 
 "I have no confidence in the men." I am not 
 surprised that some women loose faith in the 
 men because among their acquaintances they 
 have seen so many counterfeit and villainous 
 imitations. The counterfeit coin never argues 
 that all money is bad, but that there is the real 
 genuine coin and so with men. This world 
 never had so many good men as today; it never 
 saw such glory of manho )d, such true fidelity 
 to the home, such ^^racious liberality and tender 
 care of woman. Stand in the great thorough- 
 fares of any large city between six and seven 
 o'clock in the morning, and look at the great 
 armies of men with coarse clothing and shoes, 
 
58 MAKRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 and hard hands, and bony and sinewy frames 
 going with their cold hmcheons to the factories, 
 and mines and shops for the labors of the day 
 look again at that army with perspiration bead- 
 ing their brows, and bearing bardens that would 
 try nerves of steel and constitutions of iron, and 
 without a murmur they toil on with a doxology 
 in their hearts because they have steady em- 
 ployment, and an opportunity to earn bread for 
 the families. Many working men die at forty 
 and fifty years of age, and if the true inscrip- 
 tion were cut on their tomb stones it would read, 
 'forked to death." Go into the home at mid- 
 night where the little one is burning up with 
 fever, and there you will find the father by the 
 cot all night long as true and devoted to that 
 little life as its guardian angel firom heaven. 
 Let me give you another picture. Let the leper 
 or the criminal assault that home, and I will 
 show you a sight that the very angels around 
 the throne admire. The husband with his life 
 in his hand is on the threshold at the least 
 alarm, and in defence of his wife and daughter 
 faces the cruel knife and fiendish revolver, and 
 even the tortuous flames if need be and dies a 
 martyr without a thought of his own danger. 
 There never were so many young men in our 
 colleges ready to give up the luxuries of ih.% 
 best civilization for the redemption of the 
 
THE CHOICE OF A HUSBAND 
 
 59 
 
 * heathen as today, there never were so many who 
 were ready to die for home and country as at 
 present if the occasion required it. I do not 
 say that all these men are immaculate, and spot- 
 less, and perfect, but they are brave, and splen- 
 did men. I have often seen the wives in holi- 
 day apparel ^oing on their vacation while their 
 husbands were the very slaves of the home. 
 While you may lack confidence in many men 
 give full credit to the pure and honorable, and 
 remember you have a husband, or father, or 
 brother, or son, and many of these are martyrs 
 to a life of drudgery for your comfort. 
 
 SOME OF YOU WILL NEVEK MARRY. 
 
 It is right that some should remain single, 
 and it would have been infinitely better if many 
 others never had married. You can do better 
 than marry an imbecile, an incapable, or drunk- 
 en sot. Many ladies have rejected unworthy 
 suitors and led lives that were a paradise as 
 compared with their married sisters. A thous- 
 and'fold better be the beautiful Miriam, the re- 
 deemer of her little brother, or Mary sitting at 
 the feet of Jesus, or a Catherine E. Beecher, 
 the apostle of female education, or a Frances E. 
 Willard, the uncrowned temperance queen, or 
 a Florence Nightingale the heroine of the Cri- 
 mea, or a Clara Burton of precious memory for 
 her charity during the late war, or a Margaret 
 
60 
 
 MARKIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 Breckenridge at Vicksburo:, or a mniden aunt 
 living for orphans and others, or a hivad win- 
 ner in the oflSce or store for the family, or an 
 angel of the gospel in heathen lands; better 
 over and over again be an independent and re- 
 spected woman than the oppressed and broken- 
 hearted wife of a dissipated and little Tom 
 Thumb of a husband. 
 
 YOUNG WOMEN DON'T RESPECT THEMSELVES AS 
 MUCH AS YOUNG MEN . 
 
 I want to say a plain word because I cannot 
 afford to sacrifice truth for the sake of being 
 gallant. Many young women will court the so- 
 ciety of young men and go in company with 
 them when they know they are fast and have 
 the drink habit, and so they set a premium on 
 that sort of a life, and let themselves down to 
 the same level. Beit said to the praise of 
 young men that they will not be seen in public 
 with young women of questionable char^jcter, 
 nor will they make an equal of them, and never 
 a wife. In this respect the young men are 
 prouder than many young women. Young 
 women ought to band together and ignore the 
 society of all impure young men. 
 
 don't MARRY A MAN TO REFORM HIM . 
 
 In ninety-nine cases out ot every hundred he 
 will never reform, and you will be a disappoint- 
 ed and miserable woman for life. It is a law 
 
THE CHOICE OF A HUSBAND 
 
 61 
 
 almost as unalterable as that of the Medes and 
 Persian's that libertines and drunkards and im- 
 moral men will never reform. It is also an in- 
 exorable law that men drag their wives down to 
 their own level. You may not partake of their 
 habits, but in the eyes of society your place 
 will be ranked by that of your husband. There 
 are some exceptions to these rules but they are 
 rare. There are wives who are the great cen- 
 tral figures of the heme and so recognized by 
 society and where the husband is an unknown 
 nonentity, and there are instances where men 
 reform, but the rule is as a man is at thirty so 
 he will continue to the end of life. Sisters go 
 out from the same mother's knee and are a 
 thousand miles apart in society because they 
 married men a thousand miles apart in morals 
 and industry and character. In all of our cities 
 there are countless examples of miserable lives, 
 where women have married men to reform them 
 and they have failed, and they can never take 
 their former position ag^in. I think in many 
 instances the reformation of the men was only 
 the pretence under which they got married; 
 they were bound to get married anyway. I 
 would sooner undertake to civilize the wild 
 beasts of the jungles and the forests as to re- 
 form the libertine and the drunkard, and any 
 woman who does so takes an awful risk and 
 
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 MAKRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 does a foolhardy thing. Of how many pure and 
 lovely girls can it b@ said, 
 
 *'He led me down from love and light. 
 From all that made htr pathway bright; 
 And chained her thtre mid want and strife. 
 That feeble thing — a drunkard's wife." 
 
 don't marry a dude. 
 He is a little show window with waxed mus- 
 tache, and shining shoes, and foppish apparel 
 through which there peeps a little surface man 
 without weight of brain, or strength of charac- 
 ter, a mere feather weight in society. How can 
 a woman with force of character respect him 
 and look up to him as her husband? You can 
 make something out of a plain man who has 
 never seen a barber shop if he has the princi- 
 ple and force in him, but with the dude, ex 
 nihilo nihil fit, from nothing you can make 
 nothing. 
 
 don't marry an idler. 
 If a man is twenty-five years of age and has 
 nothing, and cannot make a living for himself 
 it is certain he cannot make a living for you 
 also. ''When hunger peaks through the key 
 hole love goes out through the window.' There 
 is more, than one way of going to the poor 
 house, but the meanest way is the married way. 
 A man may be destitute of money and yet be 
 the grandest young man in the community, but 
 
THE CHOICE OF A HUSBAND 
 
 63 
 
 be must be possessed of true manhood and be 
 making an effort to bring things to pass and not 
 be preying on his friends, and playing the part 
 ^'pussy wants a corner" without working for it. 
 Never marry a man who is waiting for some 
 rich friend to die to make him a living, and the 
 very intimation of such an expectation ought to 
 suffice for you fco reject him. 
 
 don't marsy a meee pedigree. 
 
 There are many American girls who have a 
 craze to marry some Count, or Prince, or titled 
 royalty in the old countries, or legacy or home, 
 I am reminded of an American who wanted to 
 trade horses with a German. The American 
 had a poor borse witb a long pedigree, and the 
 German had a good horse without a pedigree, 
 and after much persuasion on the part of the 
 American on the pedigree of his horse the Ger- 
 man said in very emphatic language, ^'he would 
 sooner have a horse without a pedigree as a 
 pedigree vfithout a horse." How many marry 
 a title without a man, 
 
 "In a marriage for gold, 
 
 The bride is bought and the bridegroom is sold." 
 don't be unequally yoked in age. 
 
 If you marry a man twice your own age you 
 caiiRot hope for a happy married life. You will 
 desire to go out in society and he will want to 
 stay at home, and at last you will wake up t® 
 
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 MAKRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 the fact that you have married a superannuated 
 husband to wait on. Many men insist on mar- 
 rying women only one half their own age, and 
 they ought not to find fault when women get 
 tired of them and leave them. 
 
 MARRY A MAN WHOSE FORTUNE IS IN HIMSELF. 
 
 Sensible women love men who are manly and 
 brave and heroic, and not because they are ef- 
 feminate and foppish. Many men not so sensi- 
 ble love women who are delicate and handsome 
 and destitute of the more wearable qualities. 
 Marry a man who is at least your equal in in- 
 tellect, and then you can respect him, a man 
 who is virtuous and pure, and then your home 
 will be a paradise, a man who is industrious and 
 then you will be blessed with plenty, a man 
 who has respect for chiistianity and then your 
 earthly home will always face your heavenly 
 one, a man who is honest and ambitious and 
 then you will be respected in society, a man you 
 can love for his character and not for his for- 
 tune and then you will have a good conscience 
 and a happy life, a man you have known and 
 whose people are well respected, and never a 
 stranger or newspaper adviser and then you 
 will not make a mistake; marry a man for his 
 real value and true manhood and who is a for- 
 tune in himself. *^When material considera- 
 tions enter no longer into the contracting of a 
 
THE CHOICE OF A HUSBAND 65 
 
 marriage, when woman is free to choose and is 
 not compelled to sell herself, when man is 
 obliged to compote for woman's favor with his 
 personality and not with his social position and 
 property then the institution of matrimony will 
 be a truth and not a lie." ''The Lord grant you 
 that ye may find rest, each of you in the house 
 of her husband." Amen. 
 
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 The Model Wife, 
 
 A light wife doth make a heavy hiislmnd. 
 
 -—Merchant of Venice. 
 
 AM other goods by fortune's hand are given, 
 A wife is the peculiar gift of heaven. — Poije. 
 
 A virtuous wcinan is a crown to her husband . 
 Her prite is far abuve rubies. The heart of Iut 
 husband doth safely trust in her She will do him 
 good and not evil all the days of his life. Her 
 husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth 
 among the elders of the land. Strength and honor 
 are her clothing and she shall rejoice in time to 
 come. She openeth her mouth in wisdom ; and in 
 her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh 
 well to the ways of her household, and eateth not 
 the bread of idleness. Her ^^hildren arise up and 
 call her blessed: her husband also, and he praiseth 
 her. — Proverbs- 
 
 I have chosen for my subject tonight the 
 Model Wife. It is a very easy subject as every 
 husband thinks she lives in his home. I as- 
 sume the responsibility of giving you a portrait 
 of a perfect woman, and shall try and have the 
 photo and the original correspond. 
 
THE MODEL WIFE 
 
 67 
 
 IMPROVE YOURSELF INTELLECTUALLY. 
 
 If the husband is absorbed in business, and 
 the wife is absorbed in the home they have 
 nothing in common, and they drift apart until 
 they reach the place where the husband would 
 sooner converse with someone else than his wife. 
 You do not like to correspond with people who 
 have no interest in your business, and tlius 
 brothers and sisters as they follow different vo- 
 cations in life often cease to correspond w^ith 
 each other. The wife ouc/ht to keep up her 
 reading and her music, and. be able to entertain 
 and converse with her husband on the topics 
 of the day. The farmer's wife ought to read 
 his agricultural paper, and th^^ physician's wife 
 his medical journal, and the teacher's wif® 
 ought to take an interest in peda2:ogy, and so 
 with all the callings of life. Many wives lose 
 their hold on their husbands because they take 
 no interest in their businesss. 
 
 MAKE THE BEST OUT OF YOUR HUSBAND. 
 
 Some wives piide themselves in speaking out 
 their minds, and by that they mean a Jack- 
 blunt, and sledge-hammer way of expressing 
 themselves. It is true they avoid hypocrisy; 
 but it is also true that they render themselves 
 very disagreeable. If we cannot have our ideal 
 it is wnse to sweetly accept the next best thing. 
 I have known some wives live with their hus- 
 
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 MAERIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 bands who were much their inferior, and yet 
 the union w^as a happy one, and all because the 
 patient, loving wife lived her wedding vow, ''for 
 better or worse," as long as they lived. A good 
 wife never puts her Q:ifts in contrast with -those 
 of her less gifted husband. She may see the 
 end of a story before he see^ half way, yet she 
 patiently waits for him. Tf married peo^jle 
 would make the beet out of the situation there 
 would be many happier homes and fewer di- 
 vorces. 
 
 BEAR AND FOSBEAR. 
 
 There is in every married life something to 
 bear and forbear, and these two bears start out 
 from every wedding altar. Some are bound to 
 have the last word, and mxay be known as the 
 tit-for-tat wives, and it never works well- 
 "Angry words stir up strife, but a soft answer 
 turneth away wrath." Others are sullen, or cry 
 and pout when there is some unpleasantness in 
 the home and that is a failure. The patient lov- 
 ing wife, the chet rful and hopeful wins and a^ 
 the same time rebukes her husband with her 
 kindness of spirit. A divorced \^oman said to 
 me, "if I had ray married life to live over again 
 I think I could be more successful. It was the 
 first bitter word and then we kept drifting apart 
 and I would not relent." When your husband 
 comes home at night very tired, and it may be 
 
THE MODEL WIFE. 
 
 69 
 
 aloorriy and not talkative don't be impatient and 
 sullen too. In the store he has met the most 
 exasperating man or woman, or he has been 
 swindled out of an account, and his business 
 troubles have set his brain reeling. There is 
 not one husband in every hundred who can 
 come home all sunshine at eventide who has 
 had it all tempest and cyclone during the day, 
 and if hip answers to your questions are decid- 
 edly short make the best of the situation and 
 be at your sunniest. ,Never^,.nag your husband 
 about not being able to provide for you as amp- 
 ly as other men, and if you do, take my word 
 for it that he will not take it kindly. The* 
 thirty -first chapter of Pi overbs draws a full 
 portrait of a perfect wife and every woman 
 out/ht to read that chapter once a month. It 
 represents her as a virtuous woman, an indus- 
 trious wom^an, a clean and hospitable woman, 
 and an'ample provider for the home. 
 
 '•Within the home she rules with quiet might, 
 
 By virtue of her perfect womanhood ; 
 
 A clnld in years, but with all g^race and uood 
 
 Enshrined in her truth-flashing orbs of hght, 
 
 A woman strong and firm to do the right. 
 
 Who witn old-time martvrs might have stood, 
 
 Yet full of sympathy with ev' ry mood. 
 
 In times of trouble cheery still and bright; 
 
 O Queen of maidens: it must surely be, 
 
 If ought that to perfection eometh near 
 
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 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 Can e'er be found m this imperfect life, 
 You perfecj daughter, will but disappear 
 To shine as perfect mother, perfect wife. 
 
 — Weatherly. 
 
 MAKE YOURSELF AND HOME ATTRACTIVE. 
 
 What a chano^e in the appearance of many 
 women from their courting to their married 
 days. Will not some artist throw the picture 
 on canvass, before and after taken? No hus- 
 band can love and respect a slovenly, untidy 
 woman with disheveled hair, and a rag-heap ap- 
 pearance generally. It does not require costly 
 wardrobe bat clean and neat apparel. You are 
 queen of the home, and no matter what the 
 world says to the contrary you are the head of 
 the family, and the home above all other places 
 must be attractive. The meals must be 
 prompt, and clean and good for your husband 
 has not become so ethereal as not to love a good 
 dinner. His wardrobe must be in order and 
 the home so pleasant that it outbids all other 
 places for his presence. I sjnnpathise with 
 those wives who enjoy an innocent g8me with 
 their husbands in the evenings to quiet their 
 nerves and atone in part for the vexing cares 
 and burdens of the day. Never sacrifice the 
 kome to the Woman's club, or to any society in 
 church or out of it. A husband said to me I 
 would give one hundred dollars annually to a 
 
THE MODEL WIFE. 
 
 71 
 
 certain society if my wife would never go near 
 it. Don't let any Sv)ciety make your life a bore 
 to your husband. There are women who have 
 a mission outside tlie home but most of you 
 can accomplish more for your family and more 
 for the cause of right in your homes than any 
 place else. 
 
 Think not tlie husband gained that ah is done ; 
 'J'he prize of ha.p[)iness must still be won; 
 And oft the careless find it to their cosl, 
 The lover in the husband may be lost; 
 The graces might alone his heart allure, 
 They and the virtues meeting must secure. 
 Let e'en your prudence wear the pleasing dress 
 Of care for him and anxious tenderness. 
 From kind concern about his weal or woe, 
 Let each domestic duty seem to flow. 
 Kndearing thus the common acts of life. 
 The mistress still shall charm him in the wife. 
 
 — Lyddleton. 
 
 LIVE WITHIN YOUK MEANS. 
 
 It is a splendid sight to see the wife of afflu- 
 ence when financial disaster comes adapt her- 
 self to the inevitable gracefully, and with serene 
 faith make the best of the situation. I admire 
 the bride coming from a luxurious home who 
 can take her place in her husband's plain dwel- 
 ling and adjust herself so sweetly to the cir- 
 cumstances that society would never dream that 
 
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 she had lived in a palace. Many are constant 
 reminders to their husbands that they ]iave not 
 been accustomed to a plain home. Too much 
 society has mortgaged many a mansion, and 
 filled many a home with misery. The sensible 
 woman is willing to bear half the burdens of 
 the home and work when the necessities of life 
 demand it. Said a young husband whose bus- 
 iness speculations were unsuccessful: ."Why? 
 wife's silver tea set, the bridal gift of her rich 
 uncle, doomed me to financial rain. It involved 
 me in a hundred unexpected expenses, which, 
 in trying to meet, have made me the bankrupt 
 that I am." One sensible father had printed 
 on his daughter's wedding cards: *'No pres- 
 ents, except those adapted to an income of 
 one thousand dollars." A single shad was 
 caught in the Delaware early in the season and 
 prepared for Washington's table. He asked 
 ^the cost of the fish and on learning that it cost 
 three dollars ordered it from his table as he 
 could not set sach an example of extravagance 
 and luxury. There is many a cramped old age 
 from the extravagance of youth and when the 
 income was sufficient to lay up a little for a 
 rainy day 
 
 BE TRUE TO YOUR HUSBAND. 
 
 There are two classes of women that make me 
 saspicLoa*. Tii3 first class talks to some friend. 
 
THE MODEL WIFE 
 
 73 
 
 about the short comings of her husband, and 
 this friend tells some other friend, and the wife 
 that treats her husband in that way forfeits my 
 respect. She lives with him and shares his hard 
 earnings and yet is untrue to him. Better 
 spread the mantle of charity over his faults 
 than advertise them. The other class advertise 
 their husband's frailties unconsciously. They 
 are too fulsome of their praises and there comes 
 to you the suspicion that if their husbands are 
 so good so much praise is unnecessary. Great 
 exaggerations never impress people favorably. 
 There is no one outside of your own home 
 should ever hear a depreciating word about 
 your husband, and no true v»^ife will so treat 
 him. You don't need any advice volunteered 
 as to how to manage your husband. Don't let 
 your married relations, or any other busy bod- 
 ies break into the happiness of your home. 
 Make the fixed habit of your life to visit with 
 your husband every day, and he will say in his 
 heart concerning a true-to-the-death wife, 
 
 ' 'She is mine owd ; 
 And las rich i i having such a jewel 
 As twenty seas if all their sand were pearl. 
 The waters nectar, and the rocks pure gold.'* 
 
 BE A CHRISTIAN WIFE. 
 
 If you sacrifice the church to the worldly 
 club, and the prayer meeting to progressive ( u- 
 
74 MAP.RIAGS AND THE HOMli: 
 
 chre and the theatre your reliction will be the 
 standing joke of the family. There is not an 
 angel in heaven, nor a man on the earth who 
 has as much influence over your husband as 
 yourself if you are a true wife. Your husband 
 is proud to say that he is a brother-in-law to 
 thn church and that his wift3 is a member of the 
 cijuTch! Tlie best place in all this world to 
 find out how much relii^iou a Vv^ife has is in the 
 -home, and no one knows it so well as the hus- 
 band. I cHu oiily eall to mind two bad wives 
 ill the bible and those wert^ Job's v/ife and Jez- 
 cb.'!; but I read of Elizibetli, and Ruth, and 
 Mary, and Deboraii, a; id Sarah, and Jochebed, 
 and Esther, and Racheb and Eve, and Naomi, 
 and the good have preponderated ever since. 
 Spurgeon says, ^'My exi)erience of my first wife, 
 who will I hiope, live to be my last, is much as 
 follow^;: Matrimony came from Paradise and 
 leads to it. I never was half so happy before I 
 was a m.arried man as I am now. When you ^ 
 are married your bliss begins. I have no doubt 
 that where there is much love there is much to 
 love, and where love is scant, faults will be 
 plentiful. If there is one good wife in England, 
 I am the man who put the ling on her finger, 
 and long may she wear it. God bless the dear 
 soul, if she can put up with me she shall never 
 be put down by me." Men are not so talkative 
 
THE MODEL WIFE 
 
 75 
 
 about the races and virtues of their wives as 
 wives are aboat their husbands, but they ap- 
 preciate them just as much. The model woman 
 is neat in appearance and as she advances in 
 life she makes the study of personal appear- 
 ance a science; she keeps up with the intellectual 
 spirit of the age, and is sensible and pure and a 
 christian; her husband thinks of her, 
 
 She was my peer ; 
 No weakling girl, who would surreuder will 
 And life and reason, with her loving heart, 
 To her possessor; no soft, clinging thing 
 Who would find breath alone within the arms 
 Of a strong master, and obediently 
 Wait on his will in slavish carefulness ; 
 No fawning, cringing spaniel to attend 
 His royal pleasure, and account herself 
 . Rewarded by his [nits and pretty words, 
 But a sounel woman, who, with insiglit keen. 
 Had wrought a scheme of life, and Uicasured well 
 Her womanhood: had spread before her feet 
 A fine philo^^ophy to ^ uide her steps ; 
 Had won a faith to which her life was brought 
 In strict a ljustment — brain and iieart meanwhile 
 Working in conscious liarmony i\n'\ rhythm 
 With the great scheme of (rod's great universe 
 On towards her being's end. — HclUnd. 
 
 Such a woman is a queen, and her husband 
 lives with a model wife, and if lie not po- 
 etical he uiinks in good prose. 
 
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 '^Whab is tliere in the vale of life 
 Half so delightful as a wife, 
 When friendship, love and peace combine, 
 To stamp the marriage bond divine? 
 The stream of pure and genuine love 
 Derives its current from above ; 
 And earth a second Eden shows, 
 Where'er the healing waters flows/' — ^Cowper, 
 
LIBRARY 
 ■ THE 
 
 UNIVERSITY OF ILLINOIS 
 
CHAPLAIN McCABE, D. D. 
 
77 
 
 The Model Husband, 
 
 O ye gods, 
 Render me worthy of this noble wife. 
 
 — Julius Csesar. 
 
 A good husband makes a good wile at any time. 
 
 — Farquhar. 
 
 Let husband know, 
 Their wives have sense like them. — Othelo. 
 
 The kindest and the happiest pair, 
 
 Will find occasion to forbear ; 
 
 And something every day they live 
 
 To pity, and perhaps forgive. — Cowper. 
 
 Husbands love your wives even as Christ also 
 ioved the church, and gave himself for it; that he 
 might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of 
 water by the word. 80 ought men to love their 
 wives as their own bodies. Ke that loveth his wife 
 ioveth himself. Let every one of you in particular 
 so love his wife even as himself; vnd the wife see 
 that she reverence her husband. — Paul. 
 
 One week a^o I took for my su bjeL'> the Mod- 
 el Wife, and now I will address yori on the 
 Model Husband. The Vv^ord Iw shi means 
 
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 house -band: as a band keeps toi^etlier tlie sli^v-if 
 of corn or wheat so Uib true husband keeps t'le 
 family together. Many so called husbands are 
 misnomers, and the wife is the husband bec^'.nse 
 by her sacrifice and toil ^he provides for the 
 family. I am giving you ia this series of lec- 
 tures on the Home practical lessons in every 
 day life, and telling you the plain unvarnished 
 truth. According to some authorities the 
 honey-moon oaly lasts one month, and then the 
 bride and bridegroom assame the more digai- 
 fied titles of husband and wife. The honey- 
 moon oaght to last longer, it ought to last for 
 life. 
 
 YOUR wife's CONFIDENCE IN YOU. 
 
 It IS a marvellous picture to look at the young 
 wo man leaying her childhood home for the 
 home of her husband. She is standing on the 
 threshold saying good bye to her parents and 
 little brothers and sisters, to those who have 
 loved her as dearly as life, and who have watch- 
 ed over her every day and night, and sacrificed 
 for her at every cost, and nursed her with an 
 angel's care into splendid womanhood. She is 
 adorned in her wedding apparel, and she gives 
 up the scenes of her childhood, and her girl 
 associates, and every dear one of the old home, 
 and starts out for life with lier husband. As 
 she started out with you, she said, ^'I trust you 
 
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 as my provider, I trust you to be true to me 
 while life slmll last, I trust you to make my fu- 
 ture home hs pleasant as my childhood home, I 
 will follow you among strangers and if need be 
 to the ends of the earth;" implicit trust, mar- 
 vellous confidence on the part of the wife to 
 chain the car of her destiny to you; tremendous 
 responsibility on the part of the husband to 
 say "I will be more to you than all the dear 
 ones you have left behind you." Any man who 
 will betray such implicit confidence, such love, 
 is a traitor of the inkiest dye. How many have 
 been led from the parent's fondest care to Dan- 
 te's Inferno, or Paradise Lost, or an Anderson- 
 ville prison for life. 
 
 BE A MANLY HUSBAND. 
 
 The wife admires the manly, the brave, the 
 honorable in her husband more than the effem- 
 inate, and mere beauty of face. She almost 
 adores nobility of character and glorious man- 
 hood. One of the smallest husbands I ever 
 read of is Ahab, He wanted Naboth's vine- 
 yard, and Naboth could not give it to him on 
 religious grounds, so Ahab went home and went 
 to bed, and turned his face to the wall and had 
 a gloomy, sulking spell until his wife found out 
 his trouble and coaxed him out of bed, and told 
 him to be cheerful for she woviivl get the vine- 
 yard for him. When she gave liim the vine- 
 
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 yard he went down to see it as if he had earned 
 it. It is a sorry sight to see a little husband 
 who never earned a dollar in his I fe playing the 
 role of a man of mind and business-strength cn 
 the brain and capital of his wife. Many wives 
 have learned a lesson from Queeji Esther when 
 she went into^ court which was not lawful for a 
 woman to do, and stood at the door and dared 
 not venture into his presence until she saw that 
 the king — her husband was in good spirits, and 
 then she made known her request and he grant- 
 ed it, so many women wdien they want a dress 
 or something for the house watch their hus- 
 bands until they are especially in good humor, 
 and then approach them, and hence you hear 
 wives say, "I know how to work my husband." 
 Two snakes were found in the house of Titus 
 Oracchus. The Augurs said that one of them 
 must die. If the male snake were put to death 
 Cornelia the wife would die, if the female snake 
 Titus the husband would die. Then said Titus 
 Q-racchus, ''dismiss the female so that Cornelia 
 may live for she is the younger of the two." 
 Her husband's memory was immortal to her, 
 and she refused the hand of the king of Egypt 
 in marriage so precious to her was the name of 
 Titus Q-racchus. Every wife stands a hand 
 breadth higher who has a heroic, self sacrific- 
 iiig and manly husband. 
 
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 STAY AT HOME AND BE YOUR BEST THERE. 
 
 Every husband ought to spend his evenings 
 at home when he is not necessitated to be ab- 
 sent on business. No husband has a right to 
 attend all sorts of clubs and lodges and come 
 home at midnight and never let his wife know 
 of his whereabouts and business. If your 
 wives were absent three nights of every week 
 attending societies you would like to know 
 v'here they were or there would be a tempest 
 in many homes. .The meal hour and after sup- 
 per ought to be the visiting hours of husbands 
 and wives. The wife has not been out daring 
 the day and has not had your opportunity for 
 knowing the events of the day, and you cught 
 to pleasantly talk with her about all the little 
 happenings. Some husbands never say a word 
 at meal time, and ent as if they only had three 
 minutes for the meal, then shove back theij- 
 chairs before the family are half through, snaj) 
 up a newspaper and read for a few minutes, then 
 light a cigar and start for business as if * they 
 had no wife or children. It is a ver}^ selfish 
 and unpleasant way of living. Your home may 
 be a mansion and you may have all the luxuries 
 of life, and yet if you are not that indescriba- 
 ble, thoughtful, tender-hearted husband in all 
 the little courtesies anrl events of the home your 
 wife after all may be eking out a heart-broken 
 
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 existence, and your palatial residence may give 
 the lie to the real life lived within. Husbands 
 are not thoughtful enough abjat the many lit- 
 tle things of the home. They nes^er sa y a word 
 of appreciation about the good coffee, or good 
 bread, or tender steak, but are swift to notice 
 something that is not as tasty as the good wife 
 had intended. The place for the fragrant rosea 
 are not on the wife's casket when dead, but on 
 her heart while living. Theraare a great many 
 husbands who have never made an apology in 
 their lives and yet they have a thousand things 
 to apologize for. Your wife is the best friend 
 you have in all this world and as she advances 
 in life and her hair is silvered with grey, and 
 the rosy cheek is fading, and the lustre of the 
 eye is dimming let the courtesies of life in- 
 crease, and your love grow stronger, and your 
 fidelity wax warmer. 
 
 BE FAITFUL TO YOUR WIFE. 
 
 You remember when you stood before the 
 wedding altar and the minister asked you in the 
 presence ol God and man, ''Wilt thou have this 
 woman to be thy wedded wife, to live together 
 after God's ordinance in the holy estate of mat- 
 rimony, wilt thou love her, comfort and keep 
 her in sickness and in health, and forsaking all 
 other keep thee only unto her so long as ye 
 both shall live?" and you ans weired, "I will." 
 
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 And then as you placed the ring upon her fin- 
 ger you said to her ''with this ring I thee wed, 
 with my worldly goods I thee endow, in the 
 name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the 
 Holy Grhost, Imen." The engagement ring or 
 the wedding which you placed upon her hand 
 is endless like a circle, and is an emblem of 
 eternity; and means endless fidelity, endless 
 love, endless purity. In the business world 
 there is no language too strong to condemn a 
 man who won't fulfil his contract, and yet you 
 made one a thousand fold stronger with your 
 wife, a life contract that you would be true to 
 her until death. No married man has any right 
 to indulge in flirtations with other women, and 
 to be hilarious with joy in their company while 
 he is gloomy and prosaic with his own wife. A 
 young woman was betrothed to a young man 
 just before the war broke out, and in a battle 
 lost both arms. He gallantly had a comrade 
 write her telling the sad news and at the same 
 time relieving her of the engagement. She 
 took the first train for the southe rn hospital, 
 and married him, and made him a living. Wha^ 
 true iovv3, what fidelity? It matters not what 
 may befall your companion you are to be all the 
 more faithful until death. No man deserves a 
 wife, or is worthy of the name of husband who 
 does not turn over every stone to make a liveli- 
 
MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 liocd for his family. Worse than the Sabbath 
 breaker, worse than the drunkard, worse than 
 the infidel is the man who won't provide for 
 his own household. 
 
 BE A CHRISTIAN HUSBAND. 
 
 Never compel your wife to go with you to 
 questionable places of amusement so that she 
 feels she must give up her church, or be criti- 
 cised for inconsistency. Never ask her to com- 
 promise her christian character. Slie' left a 
 liome of prayer, a pious mother dedicated her 
 to Q-od in infancy, and it may be you have ta- 
 ken very little interest in the church of Jesus 
 Christ. Is it not unfair to put the whole relig- 
 ious responsibility upon your wife, and have 
 her send the children to Sunday school, and go 
 to church alone and you stay at home. There 
 is nothing that would bring such consolation to 
 her heart as to see you the head of the home 
 religiously. Many a father is responsible for 
 the waywardness of his boys for he has set them 
 the example, and they grow up Ui his footsteps 
 and have no regard for the religious life. Many 
 wives and mothers have supported the church, 
 and carried the whole family into the kingdom 
 of heaven while the husband never raised a 
 hand, and it may be opposed the wife giving 
 money to support the church, and was unpleas- 
 ant himself when she went to the means of 
 
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 grace. Your model is Abraham, he commanded 
 his household to keep the ways of the Lord. 
 The model husband will not let his business 
 run him, but he will run his business, and make 
 ic subserve every interest of his home socially, 
 intellectually and religiously. 
 
 BE SYMPATHETIC. 
 
 There are hearts breaking everywhere for 
 want of appreciation, for want of sympathy. 
 Some husbands think their wives' work of very 
 iittle iuiportance and scarcely ever refer to it, 
 and no wife likes to have her labor underesti- 
 mate . Your work is done, your w^ife's work 
 is never done. She has her cares on Sunday 
 as well as on Monday and you can rest. She 
 can bear all the burdens of life cheerfully if she 
 has your sympathy, but unless she has your ap- 
 preciation she is a beart-broken woman thought 
 the cares of life be few. Alexander would nor 
 drink water because there was not enough for 
 the whole army and his soldiers would die for 
 him. The apostle Paul sets the copy line for 
 you to imitate in loving your wives. ''As Christ 
 loved the church, and gave himself for it, so 
 ought men to love their wives as their own bod- 
 ies." Christ became poor, and was persecuted 
 and died a martyr for the church so you ought 
 to sweep the horizon of your being and let noth- 
 ing be counted too dear to sacrifice for the com- 
 
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 fort of your wife. My prayer is that your mar- 
 ried life may 'be a psalm of praise floating up- 
 ward until the Bridegroom shall come and you 
 enter into the marriage supper of Moses and 
 the Lamb, Amen. 
 
87 
 
 Model Parents, 
 
 Lo^eti^r© IX. 
 
 Train np a child in the way he should go, and 
 when he is old he will not depart from it. — Solomon. 
 
 And ye fathers provoke not your children to 
 wrath: but brine: ihera up in the nurture and ad- 
 monition of the Lord. — Paul. 
 
 And thou shalt teach them dilhojently unto thy 
 children, and shall talk of them when thou sittest 
 in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, 
 and when thou liest down, and when thou lisest up. 
 — Moses. 
 
 Suffer the little children to come unto me, and 
 forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of 
 God. Verily T say unto you whosoever shall not 
 receive the kingdom of God as a little child, he 
 shall not enter therein. And he took them up in 
 his arms, put his hands upon them, and blessed 
 them. — Jesus, 
 
 I have given you in these quotations the 
 weightiest authority this world has ever known 
 on our duty to children. Paul was the greatest 
 man of the New Testament, and Moses was the 
 greatest man of the Old Testament, and Sole- 
 man was the wisest man that ever lived, and 
 
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 Jesus Christ was the world's redeemer, and all 
 these speak to parents to teach the word, to 
 train the child, to bring it up in the nurture 
 and admonition of the Lord, and to suiJer them 
 to come to the Saviour. 
 
 CHILDREN ARE LIVING POEMS. 
 
 It is said that in eighteen hundred and fifty 
 the first baby was born at Downieville, Cali- 
 fornia, and that it was the only babe in a circle 
 of one hundred miles. The country was filled 
 with miners wdio had left comfortable homes to 
 seek gold, but whose hearts were tender as they 
 thought of the far away home with wife and 
 child. The Fourth of July was being celebrated 
 at Downieville. The stars and stripes floated 
 from a peeled and lofty pine, the house was 
 crowded with miners; poet, reader and orator 
 had performed well their part, and the newly 
 organized brass band was giving in a boisterous 
 way some national anthem, when suddenly tlie 
 feeble wail of an infant was heard. Louder 
 and louder came the baby cry. The band put 
 forth new zeal, and the baby doubled its vigor. 
 It was nip and tuck between band and baby. 
 The young mother was doing her best to hush 
 the child when from the audience there arose 
 a brawny miner, and shaking his fist at the 
 music said, "Hush that infernal band and give 
 the baby a chance." The band stopped playing 
 
MODEL PARENTS 
 
 89 
 
 and never did stalwart men listen to sweeter 
 music than those exiles from home and women 
 as they drank in the tones of a wailing child. 
 There is no music like the cooing of your babe. 
 What harmony, what inspiration of heart does 
 the sweet singer, God's young immortal give us. 
 The children have the right of way in the civ- 
 ilized world, and they shall have it in heaven. 
 The golden streets, and beautiful mansion, and 
 banks of the river of life will be like a Sunday 
 School anniversary day . My theme is not all 
 poetry; I must take you with me into the matter- 
 fact every day prose. 
 
 BEGIN EARLY WITH THE CHILD. 
 
 Parents luive the children when they are like 
 tlie pure snowflakes untarnished by the soil and 
 filth of earth. The child starts on the mother's 
 bosom, and in th(^ father's arms, and there is 
 not a doubter, or liar, or infidel among them: 
 they all have full confidence in their parents, 
 and eveiy word of father or mother is a gospel 
 to them. Some children are taken so young 
 says Beecher, "that they are like those Sirring 
 bulbs which have their flowers prepared before 
 hand and ha\e nothing to do but to break 
 ground and blossom and pass away." A child 
 eighteen months or two years old is at its best 
 to train for life. It is an original thinker, and 
 investigator. I heard a little child say to its 
 
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 mother who was trying to get it to eat lettuce, 
 '^Why mamma it just tastes like leaves with 
 water on them." On another occasion a little 
 girl of the infant class in Sunchij School said 
 on receiving a present of a white silk parasol, 
 ''Won't I be in love with myself tomorrow at 
 Sunday School?" This little thinker who has 
 perfect confidence in its parent learns more in 
 a year than a young man in college for it can 
 learn a language. The best time in life to 
 teach the languages is from three to eight years 
 of age. There are little children in Chicago at 
 five years of age who have never been in school 
 who can talk two and three languages, and they 
 have learned them without trying. You who 
 are seventy and eighty years of age remember 
 better what happened in your life at five than 
 at sixty-five. A mother to amuse her child will 
 say to it, "strike that ugly horse," and the first 
 lesson is taught that child on cruelty to animals? 
 and the (jutward act becomes in time a reflec- 
 tion of th^ unkind disposition within. We can't 
 begin too early. It is said that near on.e of the 
 loftiest summits of the Rocky Mountains, ten 
 thousand feet above the level of the sea there 
 are two tiny fountains that could be changed in 
 tlieir direction so easily . Tf you follow one of 
 these infant streamlets taking an easterly di- 
 rection from valley to valley, and being in 
 
MODEL PARENTS 
 
 91 
 
 creased by more than a thousand tributaries, 
 you will follow it to its ocean lionie in the Gulf 
 of Mexico through the mouth of the Mississ- 
 ippi. Go back to the other streamlet and fol- 
 low it in a westerly direction, and it will lead 
 you through the mouth of the Columbia into 
 the bosom of the great Pacific. To go from the 
 terminus of the one to the terminus of the other 
 you must overcome an ascent of ten thousand 
 feet, and travel five thousand miles. It is hard 
 to change the ocean, or the mighty current, or 
 character when it becomes positive, and has a 
 deep set and strong current, but it was easy to 
 change the infant streamlets when they had no 
 strong bias, or positive course. Give the in- 
 fants in your arms a bent towards God and the 
 right for you will never have them so near to 
 you again, or when you can impress them so 
 easily. 
 
 TEACH THE CHILDREN THE COMMANDMENTS. 
 
 Every parent ought to go over the Sunday 
 School lesson with his child and teach it the 
 bible. )[ouY child might know much about the 
 bible at five years of age for they all love stories, 
 and the bible is the best story book in the world 
 for children. Tell them the story of Adam and 
 Eve in the garden, about Moses in the little bas- 
 ket on the river, about the ten plagues, about 
 Joseph being sold and his history in Egypt, 
 
92 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 about Jesus in the manger, in the temple, feed- 
 ing the five thousand, walkir.g on the sea, rais- 
 ing the little girl to life, curing the b'ind man 
 and all about his crucifixion and resurrection. 
 Make the bible attractive and religion beautiful. 
 A little girl of four summers was sick for a long 
 time and one Sunday evening an old saint came 
 in to stay with her and let her mother go to 
 church. The child loved stories and loved to 
 have some one read to her, so the good old chris- 
 tian got the bible and read to her for an liour 
 from Genesis, and when the mother came back 
 the little one said, ''Oh mamma never let that 
 woman stay with me again as long as you live." 
 That little child dreaded Genesis almost as 
 much as the toothache. Teach your child the 
 catechism, and the commandments, and the 
 apostle's creed, and she will never forget them, 
 and as tv7o bodies cannot occupy the same place 
 at the same time so infidelity and false isms 
 can never occupy the head and heart of your 
 child. 
 
 BRING YOUR CHILD TO CHRIST. 
 
 Many are opposed to children joining the 
 church, and speak lightly of it. They argue a 
 child don't understand. If a child is not too 
 young to do wrong it is not too young to do 
 right; if it is not too young to sin it is not too 
 young to be converted. You may say, "I can't 
 
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MODEL PARENTS 
 
 93 
 
 make children understand conversion," and it 
 is true they cannot understand all the definiti- 
 ons of theological terms and it is not necessary. 
 You cannot do but God can : no parent ever con- 
 verted a child, it is always the work of the Holy 
 Ghost in the child and in the adult there is no 
 other agency. I have faith in the prayers of 
 children. I believe God hears the child when 
 it kneels at its mother's knee and says, "God 
 bless papa, and God bless mamma and make me 
 a good little girl, Amen." The little prayer 
 you said in childhood, 
 
 "Now I lay me down to sleep, 
 I pray the Lord rny soul to keep ; 
 If I should die before I w*ake 
 1 pray the Lord my soul to take." 
 
 That little prayer has followed many a rough 
 and wayw^ard man and led him to the Saviour. 
 Let me give you a picture of a mother teaching 
 her child to pray. 
 
 '*Now I lay me" — say it darling; 
 ''Lay me," lisped che tin\^ lips 
 of ray daughter. kr eeHn^, binding, 
 O'er her folded finger-tips. 
 
 "Down to sleep" — "to sleep," she murmured, 
 And the curly head drooped low ; 
 "I pray the Lord," I gently added, 
 "You can say it all I know." 
 
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 ''Pray the Lord'' — the words came taintly. 
 Fainter still — ''My soul to keep." 
 Then the tired head fairly nodi^ed, 
 And the child was fast asleep. 
 
 But the dewy eyes half opened 
 When 1 clasped her to my l)reast, 
 And the dear voice softly whispered 
 * 'Mamma, God knows all Uie rest.'' 
 
 Oh, the trustintj, sweet confic^ing, 
 Of the child heart: Would that 1 
 Thus mi^ht trust my heavenly Father, 
 He who hears my feeDJest cry. 
 
 Parents, God hears your cry as uuich as he does 
 the ripest saint. 
 
 THE BIBLE TEACHES CHILD-CONVERSION 
 
 When Samuel was a child God called hiniy 
 and so he did Josiah, and John the Baptist was 
 filled with the Holy Ghost from his mother's 
 womb. He was set apart it is true for a sacred 
 work, but it shows God's pow^^r with children. 
 Jesus took the little ones up in his arms and 
 blessed them, and upon another occasion when 
 they sang his praises he said, ''Out of the 
 mouths of babes and sucklings thou hast per- 
 fected praise." Let the children come into the 
 church in full membership, and who dare stand 
 in the church-door and keep them out when 
 Jesus says, ''Suffer the little children to come 
 unto me and forbid them not." He rebuked 
 
MODEL PARENTS 95 
 
 the disciples over eighteen hundred years ag^o, 
 and by his own eternal word he rebukes them 
 today. May Grod speed the day when the chil- 
 dren shall never get out of the church. 
 
 THEY won't forget IN AFTER YEARS. 
 
 Solomon says they will not depart when they 
 are old. If the child is allowed to select the 
 largest apple on the plate, or the juciest bit of 
 steak it will grow to be selfish, and the school, 
 or society must train it for you, or it will be at 
 a great disadvantage. Teach it right and it will 
 not forget your instructions in after years. A 
 son buried his mother when he was in humble 
 circumstances, and then he became wealthy, 
 he re nioved his mother's sacred dust to his 
 splendid lot, and in reburying tlie precious dust 
 he thought of his^ childliofvd home, and his 
 mothf^^-'s prayers and w otidered why God had 
 not answ^M'ed th^nn, and as the sacred memories 
 of his ch;!dho)(l home crowd.'d U{3on him, he 
 was c;)nvicted of sin, and hf'f')re he retired that 
 night hp surrendered Ins life' to Je-^u;^ Ohrist. 
 O you mothers, you may hnve wjiited n long 
 time, but ynuY prayers are burning at the throne 
 and God will answer them. 
 
 HAS YOUR CHILD EVER HKARD YOU PRAY? 
 
 Is th^re a parent within re my voice 
 
 or pen whose children iuis ]^e•v^'r lieard him pray? 
 Norman McLeud sai<.l he tried to urge a me- 
 
96 
 
 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 chailic to have family prayer. One day litg 
 rushed into his study and burst into tears and 
 said, ''You remember that girl, Sir," ''She was 
 my only child, she died suddenly this morning. 
 I hope she has gone to God, and if so she can 
 ^ell him thai which now breaks my heart, that 
 she never heard a prayer from her father's lips. 
 Oh that she were with me but one day again!" 
 Oh, you fathers, erect family altars, and by holy 
 example teach your children the way to God. 
 
tlBRARV 
 ' THE 
 
 UNIVERSITY OF ILLINOIS 
 
GRACE, RUBY AND XEAL TAXQUARY Denver, Col. 
 
97 
 
 Training Children, 
 
 Children are what the mothers are. — Landor. 
 
 I »m the mother ot an immortal being. God be 
 merciful to me a sinner. — Mary Fuller. 
 
 Take this child away and nurse it for me, and I 
 will give thee thy ^ ages. — Pharoah's Daughter. 
 
 I see but one way in which we can rid ourselves 
 of rascals, and that is to stop raising them. — Dr. 
 Holland. 
 
 O child ! O new-born denizen 
 
 Of life's great city ; on thy head 
 The glory of the morn is shed, 
 
 Like a cei(>stial benizen ! 
 
 Here at the portal thou woulds't stand, 
 And with thy little hand 
 
 Thou openest the mysterious gate 
 
 Into the future's undiscovered land. 
 
 — Longfellow. 
 
 There are no fl jwers in all the world like the 
 olive plants of the home. 
 
 They are idols of hearts and of households, 
 
 They are angels of God in disguise ; 
 
 His sunlight still sleeps in their tresses, 
 
 His glory still sleeps in their eyes. 
 
 Oh those truants from home and frotr heaven, 
 
 They have made me more manly and wild, 
 
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 MARKIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 And I know how Jesns coiiul rcnrkon 
 
 The kintjdoni of God to a child — Dickensoo. 
 
 We live in the child millpDium, in I he age 
 when children are appreciated aiul loved. 
 China and Indiri in their most sacred books, 
 and Greece and Rome say but little ab )ut chil- 
 dren. Homer, Zenophan, Virgil ajid Heroditus 
 scarcely mention them. The bible brings them 
 to the front in the example of the Lord Jesus, 
 who became a child, in Moses the redeemer of 
 the Israelites, in the little Hebrew maid who. 
 carried the gospel to the great Captain, in Sam- 
 uel who was called of God in his childhood, and 
 in the whole book of Proverbs which was writ- 
 ten for youth. Craft says, ''The ethics of Chris- 
 tianity startled the world with the new doctrine 
 that to develop the greatest manhood we must 
 become as little children. If any other system 
 of ethics had searched for the model of man- 
 hood it would have presented stoical firmness, 
 bold indifference to circumstances, or some 
 other rough, stern virtue as our model, but 
 Christ as represented in a beautiful painting at 
 Edinburg lays his hand on the head' of a little 
 child as it rests trustingly on its mother's knee 
 in the midat of his disciples, and says, "except 
 ye become as little children ye .can in nowise 
 enter the kingdom of heaven." If such is the 
 appreciation of Christ with what care should 
 
TEAINING CHILDREN. 
 
 99 
 
 we nurse and train them for him. 
 
 ^ GIVE THE CHILD A GOOD BODY. 
 
 Tt is the duty of parents to give the best con- 
 stitution possible to their children. We can- 
 not please God and not take good care of the 
 b3dy. The bible puts dignity on the body. It 
 says, "Study me tor I am fearfully and wonder- 
 fully made;" the body is to be presented a liv- 
 ing sacrifice, a fit temple for the Holy Ghost to 
 dwell in, it is to be raised an incorruptible and 
 glorified body, and God shall fashion it like un- 
 to his own glorious body. If God puts such 
 honor on the body how should we honor and 
 care for it. A temperate, pure and holy life is 
 necessary in the pare Tit to give the best consti- 
 tution to the children. If parents sin against 
 natural law, and abuse their own bodies it will 
 be visited down upon their children. The best 
 air, food, clothing and exercise are necessary 
 for ur children. S nne X3arents give soothing 
 syrup to their children when they are fretful to 
 quiet them, and they form a principle in the 
 cliild that is seen in all smokers, opium eaters 
 and drunkards. They have an uneasy sensa- 
 tion like the fretting child and to quiet that 
 sensation they resort to some narcotic. The 
 soothing syrup principle is the foundation for 
 the drunkard. If the body is master then are 
 we animals. If green cucumb^'rs, and mince 
 
100 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 and rhubarb pies, and olives, and hard boiled 
 eg^s, and a crazy dinner generally goes into the 
 little stall — the child's stomach, internal war is 
 declared and you send for the pliysician, a fowl 
 would swallow gravel, and a man ought to take 
 a tonic of sawing wood. There are eating 
 drunkards as well as drinking drunkards. A 
 good body with good nerves is an essential to 
 the best mind, and success in life. 
 
 DEVELOP THE MIND. 
 
 Socrates used to say, that if he could get up 
 to the highest place in Athens he would lift up 
 his voice and proclaim, "What mean ye fellow 
 citizens that ye turn every stone to scrape 
 wealth together, and take so little care of your 
 children to whom one day ye must relinquish 
 all." Our public schools are the palladium of 
 the republic, and the great university for all 
 the children, and every child ought to have fif- 
 teen years in our public schools. No longer 
 should any parent or teacher with their cast 
 iron hand cramp the brain of the child into any 
 set groove in life. Give the child all the ad- 
 vantages of the best mental discipline, and then 
 aid it m the best choice for life. Develop the 
 man for the man is greater than the orator, or 
 artist, or philosopher, and in proportion as he 
 is honest, and strong, and well developed, in 
 proportion shall all else be great. The great 
 
TRAINING CHILDREN 
 
 101 
 
 object of our schools is to grow men, wise men^ 
 noble men. There was a time when teachers 
 destroyed the originality of the child and made 
 the scholars all toe the same crack, or chalk line 
 intellectually as well as physically, but a grand- 
 er day has dawned. In heathen lands many of 
 the weak children were destroyed as soon as 
 born. This was true in Sparta and Rome and 
 Grecian cities. Christianity has given the weak 
 a fair chance. Byron had a club foot, Alexan- 
 der Pope was so small that he required a high 
 chair to eat his meals, and Sir Isaac Newton 
 was among the frailest when born. Burton 
 says, "how many deformed princes and orators, 
 and philosophers could I reckon up, and many 
 of them stand out on the pages of history im- 
 mortal, wh o without education would have been 
 unknown." The children require better teach- 
 ers the first four years than at any other time 
 in life for this is the period when they imitate 
 more than any other time. A teacher who uses 
 slang, or deports himself improperly in any re- 
 spect is unfit for a teacher in the primary grade. 
 
 TRAIN THEM MORALLY. 
 
 Parents are responsible for the training of 
 their children morally. When your children 
 were baptised you promised to teach them the 
 nature of the sacrament of Baptism, the Lord's 
 prayer, the ten commandments, the Apostle's 
 
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 creed, the catechism and all other things which 
 a christian ought to believe and know for his 
 soul's health. The work of bringing the child 
 to the Savior, and instructing it in the ways of 
 holy living is the plain duty of the parent above 
 the minister and Sunday school teaclier, and 
 God will hold the parent responsible. This 
 work is too sacred to be neglected, or to be rel- 
 egated to any one else. 
 
 TRAIN THEM BY GOOD EXAMPLE. 
 
 "The whole is greater than its parts" is an 
 axiom in Euclid, and if the whole life gives the 
 falsehood to the lips then the life will be be- 
 lieved. Josh Billings never said a truer thing 
 than when he said, in whatever way you want 
 your children to go "skirmish ahead -that way 
 yourselves." The greatest teacher is a consist- 
 ent and genuine life. If a lady smiles blandly 
 on her neighbor at the door and says, "I was 
 just homesick to see you," and the moment she 
 leaves continues on another = key "Well she 
 riever knows when to leave, and she \h a tartar," 
 that woman has taught her children a lesson on 
 hypocrisy that a month of Sand lys won't undo. 
 I have known parents to use every possible de- 
 vice to get their children to tell them something 
 they did that was wron^r and then punish them 
 severely for it, and the next time the children 
 would lie about it because they feared the whip- 
 
TRAINING CHILDREN 
 
 103 
 
 ping, and I think it is a hopeful sign in a child 
 when it knows enough to lie under such cir- 
 cumstances. That is one way to teach a child 
 how to lie. I have known church members 
 who always talked about begging when they 
 were asked to contribute to the cause of God, 
 and who would search with elegant silk clad 
 hand in an expensive pocket book for a copper 
 cent for missions, or the support of the church 
 and then wonder why their children don't take 
 more interest in church. You can't deceive an 
 American boy ten years of age on a counterfeit 
 dollar coin, and the parent is the best read, and 
 the most correctly interpreted coin in all the 
 world. A mere hollow, matter-of-convenience 
 religion never made anybody respect the church 
 of Jesus Christ. I hope you will not think me 
 severe today when I am illustrating a great 
 principle, and exposing a great sham that is 
 damning the children of many homes as regards 
 the church of the living God. "Like parent 
 iike child." It is said that Byron's mother was 
 proud, ill-tempered and violent, what was By- 
 ron? Sir Walter Scott's mother was well edu- 
 cated and a great lover of poetry and paintings 
 what was Scott? Washington's mother was 
 pious, pure and true, what was Washington? 
 Wesley's mother was learned, pious, and had 
 great executive ability, what was John Wesley? 
 
104 
 
 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 A worker, a saint, an organizer. It is the hon- 
 est, real, true hfe that we h've before our chil- 
 dren that crystalizes into ^ood resolutions, 
 grand character and precious memories that 
 will follow them as ^^uardian angels as long as 
 they live. If I am to loose either the confidence 
 of my church or my child let it be the confi- 
 dence of my people. Many of you feel that the 
 old home and its precious memories have saved 
 you, and are ready to testify, 
 
 '*And if I e'er in heaven appear, 
 A mother's holy prayer, 
 A mother's hand and gentle tear, 
 That pointed to a Savior- dear. 
 Have led the wanderer there." 
 
 Do we appreciate the golden opportunities of 
 life, the great responsibilities that rest upon 
 parents, and the untold blessings of children? 
 
 Ah ! what would the world b'^ to us 
 If the children were no more? 
 We should dread the desert hehirid us 
 More than the dark before. 
 
 What the leaves are to the forest, 
 With light and air for food, 
 Ere their sweet and tender juices 
 Have hardened into wood, — 
 
 That to the world are children ; 
 Throufjli them it feeU the glow 
 Of a Inight and sunnier ehmate 
 Than reaches the trunks below. 
 
TRAINING CHILDREN 105 
 
 Ye are better than all the ballads 
 
 'I hat fver were sung or said; 
 
 For ye are living poems 
 
 And all the rest are dead. — Longfellow 
 
 It is heaven in your heart to meet the clasp 
 of your cooing babe at eventide, and to look 
 forward to that babe as the strong staff on which 
 you shall lean in old a^e; but it is more divine 
 to nurse that child for God and his glory. 
 
 YOUR WAGES. 
 
 When you are weary with life's burdens, and 
 the care of your little child it will be good 
 wages to hear God say in your approving con- 
 science, '*Well done" when you have toiled in 
 the factory, or store, or laundry to educate your 
 child, it will be good wages to hear God say, 
 ^'Well done," when your boy has been 
 won a trophy for the Master through 
 your prayers, it will be grand wages 
 to heat- God say, **VVell done," when 
 you turn back from your dying pillow to 
 take a farewell look at your daughter with her 
 little ones cliiiginu' to her, and reflecting the 
 image of the Master it will be joy unspeakable 
 to hear Gcd say, "Well done," and once more 
 when you st«nd before the throne and gaze on 
 the painting which you have helped to finish, 
 and which is to adorn the galleries of the ^kif s 
 for all Ihe jig(8 it will be glorious to hear God 
 
iOS MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 say in the presence of the worlds, ''well done 
 good and faithful." May you hear God say to- 
 day, "Take this child away and nurse it for me, 
 und Iw ill give .thee thy wages." 
 
LIBRARY 
 ' THE 
 
 UNIVERSITY OF ILLINOIS 
 
WALTER El'RV WYATT, Pkoria, III. 
 
107 
 
 Mission of the Child in the Home. 
 
 LD^cstirir© XI. 
 
 And a little child shull lead tbeiii — Isaiah. 
 
 A hahe ia the iiouse is a well s[)ring of pleasure. 
 ^Tupper. 
 
 A Bweet new hlorssom (»f [Tiimanitv, 
 Fresh fnih^n frotn God's own home to flower 
 ifU earth. — Massey. 
 
 A chernh mi rht mi-take oar rosy hoy 
 
 For a reposint^ mate: — Bishop Coxe. 
 
 At the <ame tiaie came the disciples unto Jesus, 
 sayii!^'. Who is the gr(*atesl in the lvino<lom of 
 hoaven? And Jcsu^ caile(^ a little child unto him, 
 and set him in the midsl of them; and said, verilj 
 I say \M\U) yon. ♦•xcept ye he converted, and he- 
 crnne as little children, ye siiall noi enter into tho 
 kino(i()in of heaven. Whosoever therefore shall 
 hnrahle hitnsclf as tliis little chdtl, the same is 
 greatest in the kinj^dom of lu^aven. And whoso 
 • shall receive one such little child m m} name re- 
 ceive .h me. Bnt whoso sliall offend one of these 
 little (mes that believe in me, it were belter for 
 him that a millstone w^ere hanored about his neck, 
 and that he were drowned in the depth of the «ea. 
 — Jesus. 
 
 I have beard a p^reat many seraious on the 
 
108 
 
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 love and sacrifice of parents for their children 
 but I have never heard one on the inflaence of 
 thechikloii th^^ p treats, the home and the 
 world. My subject this morning is the mission 
 of the child. Of aU the aiii^els tliat ever came 
 from heaven, of all the evans^els that ever set 
 the gospel to sweetest music, of all the thrill- 
 ing orators that ever swayed the multitudes 
 there are none so charming, so divine, so power- 
 ful over the human heart as the little child in 
 the mother's arms, or toddling at her side. 
 Over and over again have I said with Charles 
 M. Dickenson as I see them nestling in the 
 mother's bosom., or dancing holy innocence 
 upon her knee, '*And 1 know how Jesus could 
 liken the kingdom of God to a child." 
 
 THE CHILD BRINGS THE GOSPEL OF LOVE TO THE 
 HOME. 
 
 Everything gives way for the little visitor in 
 the home, and it waits for no welcome. Great 
 men come with mighty arguments and persuas 
 ive ability to compel us to aid some charitable 
 institution, and consider some laudable enter- 
 prise, but God has armed the little visitor with 
 greater power, and without trying it is at once 
 master of the situation, and has won the right 
 of way to all that fondest hearts can devise for 
 it. The very heart of the home is the cradel, 
 and there is no factor in the world so potent as 
 
MISSION OF THE CHILD IN THE HOME 109 
 
 chiicL 
 
 IT IS NO BURDEN. 
 
 T have heard some people speak of children 
 as being troublesome, b^.t it was either some one 
 who was never a parent, or who never ought to 
 have been one. The child is the loadstone that 
 hastens the father home, and there is no pic- 
 ture more charming in life than the little one 
 watching and running to meet the father at the 
 father at the close of the day. Some of these 
 little ones at two and three learn his footsteps 
 and their hearts leap with joy at his coming. I 
 saw a young father with his first born in his 
 arms tossing it up and down in rapturous de- 
 light and I said what a real picture of life. So- 
 ciety is largely a masquerade, and often a dress 
 parade while the home is ever the real life. 
 Society says and acts many formal and mechan- 
 ical and lifeless things. A gentleman some 
 time since had an old friend come to see him 
 who had been absent for a long time and who 
 was a stranger to the telephone. He told him 
 be could hear his wife's voice five miles away 
 and his friend could not believe it so he rang 
 her up and told her that their old friend Mr. 
 So and So had returned and asked him to come 
 to the phone and hear her talk five miles away. 
 Just as he put his ear to the phone she said, 
 am glad he is back again but I do hope that be 
 
no MVR^IAGIi: AND ''TnK HOMK 
 
 will not come up tor dinner. S >ciety is un- 
 natural and often poses l)efore the world behind 
 a friise faee wliUe the home life is always the 
 real, i^eunine iife. The mother sits in the even- 
 tide beside tlie swin<j^in^' crib and pictures out 
 for her little one a life so pare and fair. She 
 is a prophetess paintin<^ with rarest skill and 
 most delicate touch the splendid aiid virtuous 
 and noble son or d iu'^'hter of twenty years to 
 come. She is a happy woman and never more 
 so than when the little on^s are all gathered 
 ftround her. Tiiere are no furaishino-s nr pleas- 
 res that can compare with the little child. 
 
 *'Ves, i know there are t-tdns on my carpet, 
 The. traces of nmdily boots; 
 
 And I see your fair tMpe>tr\ jj^lowmof. 
 All spoUess with blossoms ami fruits. 
 
 And I know that i^iv walls are disfiijured 
 Willi ()rinls of small finof^^'s and hands; 
 And thai your own lionsehoid must truly 
 Inimmaculale parity stands. 
 
 And I know that my parlor is littered 
 With many old treasures and toys ; 
 While your own is in daintiest order, 
 Unharmed by the presence of boys. 
 
 And I know' that my room is invaded 
 Quite boldly at all hours of day; 
 While 3^ou'^sit in your. unmolested 
 And dream the soft quiet awaj^ ; 
 
MISSION OF THE CHILD IN THE ROME 111 
 
 Yes, I know there yre iouv little bedsides 
 Wlit^re I Hi list stasxl watciifiii eacii iii^ hl, 
 \N'liilH y(,u <^()<)iit id your oarrirj^e. 
 And flash in 3'oiir dresses co bright, 
 
 Tsow, 1 think I'm a neat little woman; 
 J like n\\ house orderly, too; 
 And Vni fond (A all <lainty beiongin«:s ; 
 Yet I \^ouhl not change places witii you. 
 
 N<»! keep \-our fair home vvitli its order, 
 its freedom from bother and noise. 
 And keep yourov n fancitul h i^ure. 
 Hut give me my four s})lendid boys/' 
 
 THE LITTLE ONES DEVELOP YOU. 
 
 They ^ive a meaui uu- to life and teach 3'ou 
 the way to sacrifice. Jesus never could have 
 been the Christ witii out ureat sacrifice, the 
 word mother touches tlie hearts of the vilest 
 into tenderness, and the one thing that has 
 made the name so dear is sacrilice. The child 
 in the home discovers a new world for you and 
 you are lifted out of selfishness in holy self de- 
 nial, and hence your characters are grandly de- 
 veloped. The only thing that will stand to 
 your credit in the eternal world will be th^ sac- 
 rifices you have made, and that is the only 
 thing that makes stalwarts here. You toil more 
 ardently for your child, you sacrifice more su- 
 };.remely, you develop more grandly, you sympa- 
 thiVe more tenderly willi children and parentis 
 
112 
 
 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 and the home and all because God has blessrd 
 you with a child. The teacher that has taught 
 you most patience, that has awakened in you 
 the purest and the divinest love, that has made 
 you stand a hand breadth higher in real man- 
 hood and in the kingdom of heaven is your dar- 
 ling child. These little ones have compelled 
 you to be more exemplary, and a thousand times 
 the thought has crowded in upon you, "I must 
 set a better example before my children." They 
 have led you to the Sunday School and into the 
 church, and made you more manly and heroic, 
 and into the raging flood would you plunee, and 
 into the scorching flames would you rush to 
 save your child. Let your house catch fire 
 while the little one is sleeping within and at 
 once you feel that your nerves are steel, and 
 you are possessed with a strength that is super- 
 natural and like Samson you could bear away 
 the pillars of the building to save your child. 
 O how these little ones have inspired us, and 
 blessed us, and what a benediction their velvet 
 t')uch and imj)licit faith have been to us. Go 
 home and thank God over and over again for 
 your child, and as you look into its face Isaiah's 
 prophecy is fulfilled in your heart, "A little 
 cliild shall lead them." Many of oui little ones 
 hfive lelt us years ago, and the only ] ath they 
 knew 'Hs that whicli leads from the mother's 
 
MISSION OF THE CHILD IN THE HOME 11P> 
 
 anus up to the arms of God/' 
 
 THEY DID NOT LIVE IN VAIN, 
 
 How many say with David though he cannot 
 come to me yet I shall q;o to him. A wicked 
 fatlier lost his infant and years after he picked 
 up the tiny shoes and his heart melted withiia 
 him, and the little shoes walked right into his 
 heart. A parent lost his boy and he asked his 
 pastor how it was if God were all good that he 
 took his boy when he wanted to keep him so 
 much? Tlie pastor answered it w^ith this illus- 
 tration. He said there was a beautiful fold and 
 the kind shepherd tried to get the sheep in, and 
 they would not go in. At last he took one of 
 the little lambs up in his arms and went in and 
 the bleating sheep followed him. That beauti- 
 ful fold is heaven, that kind shepherd is Christ 
 and that little lamb in his bosom is your child 
 and many have followed the little lambs into 
 the kingdom of heaven. 
 
 THE LITTLE ONES ARE ONLY TRANSPLANTED. 
 
 They are safe and have every opportunity of 
 earth multiplied by infinily for development. 
 Jacob went down into Egypt and knew his boy 
 Joseph though he had changed with the respon- 
 sibilities of life, and so your child will grow and 
 reach up in the stature of a glorified manhood, 
 but it will still be your child. Nearly one- 
 fourth of all the children born died in infaacy 
 
114 MU^Hi..' AND THi2 HOME 
 
 and I'm not sm-: r:::-n thnt the recnrd renrlp, 
 "that of Bucli is ilic l^in^^dom (^f lieaveii." How 
 precious is the clu'isuaiL liope? 
 
 "Bold I \' : tin f) pair ;h d din. 
 Berieai.h ihiM .-L ni' fdur inf:inL.>' ashes lie; 
 Say, art' Hu-y h st. orsMVf'd? 
 If deatlTs b}' sin tJicv sinti'd, — 
 
 For t hi'v he lie re ; 
 If Henvon'p by -vf^rks. in Hv'Mven 
 
 l'he\' c.'Ui'r :-i|>|)far. 
 Reason, ah : how (Ippravcd ; 
 Kevere the Biirh''& sar-red pa<re , 
 
 Thv. knot's 11 ntied : 
 They dle<i, for Adaiu siniu'd • 
 
 Tiiey live, for Jesus died.'* 
 
 THEY BLESSED YOU IN THEIR SHORT STAY- 
 
 They kindled in your hearts a hjve which you 
 never would have known witiumt them, God 
 has enriclied you and prepared you in the furn- 
 ace of affliction to be an an^el of mercy to sym- 
 pathize wdtli the broken hearted, and to bind 
 lip their wounds. No one can felh)wship with 
 a motherless child unless they have been so 
 afflicted themselves, and you cannot sympatlnze 
 with parents who have buried their dearest 
 hopes unless ''your saddened thouirhts go wan- 
 dering to a little quiet grave." We shall be 
 richer in purity and sympathy and cliarac^er as 
 long as we live because they ever blessed us 
 with their presence. 
 
THE MOUKL ho:: 
 *'An Hnir<^! '"s:!!*' to our h -^^hold, 
 
 I fJ \ iu" i'uV'V <'.i\>> of >|)ri 1, ■ . 
 
 And iifi^ WHS '\\^ ('Vvm- \ i inn . 
 
 It. w:!S l.ot Mil jif'iifi of OM ; < .'ii^SS, 
 Bill :i lj"iMU rohiMl ill w . 
 
 A\\'\ ;!rrus!'l him seriiu-o i,-.^ hover, 
 A it;iio i>i sac're<( liiiiii. 
 
 Ai5ii I ••() vvliMo roher] angel 
 
 >\ li \ !' J V',' \ < 111 (MKJM' l.< M |;{ \- ? 
 
 Wh -jt, ! >.' t II t ! f ;) ! ini-,>i.t|| ('f UHTCy 
 
 .-stMil, \our I'fi'l (iii->> way ?" 
 
 'Tvc (' )\v\*' f..r nfi)' of ih(^ cliildreri 
 M \' .\!a-ii' f h »s sent h'lr oowti, 
 
 'i'v) Jsi'L ia hi:? holy erowii." 
 
 I followed his tonder ojlances • 
 As \ \\('\' rt'^lt'd lovingly 
 First u}M)ii Olive, then Alice, 
 Tiun tlie baby on my kuec. 
 
 Axnd. he sai'l, ''There are many trials 
 Scattered along throngh life, 
 'J'here are ina»iy sore temptations, 
 There is much of toil and strife; 
 
 Bnt those who are in the kingdom 
 Are safe fr<^m all these harms, 
 I think I'll l)ear the baby 
 Up tj my Master's arms. 
 
116 
 
 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 So he laid on his breast onr darling, 
 And prepared to take his flight. 
 But he whispered a word of blessing, 
 Before he passed from sight, 
 
 And over our striekened household, 
 And over our heart's bereft, 
 And over the grave is resting 
 The blessing the angel left/' 
 
 Great blessings have they left us, blessings 
 of sacred memories, blessings of tender hearts, 
 l)lessings of joyous hopes, blessings of ^reat 
 sympathies, a thousand blessings as pure as 
 love and high as heaven; may God help us to 
 appreciate the blessings these ministering an- 
 i>;el8 brought to our homes and hearts, Amen, 
 
in 
 
 The Model Home. 
 
 **God setteth the solitary in families *' 
 
 There is no place like home. — Howard Payne. 
 
 Home is the grandest of all institutions. — Spur- 
 geon. 
 
 'The hand that rocks the cradle moves the world.'' 
 
 I value this delicious home-feeling ?.s one of the 
 choicest gifts a parent can bestow. — Washing^oa 
 Irvine:. 
 
 "The eyes of a child are sweeter than any hymn we have siing" 
 And wiser than any sermon is the lisp of a childish tongue.'" 
 
 It is a woman, and only a woman, — a woman all 
 by herself, if she likes, and without any mnn to 
 help her, — who can turn a house into a home. — 
 Cobbe. 
 
 The home is a place enclosed by four walls 
 where the interests are identical, and yet honses 
 and fields and luxuries never make the iriea 
 borne. Wherever two hearts are united in love, 
 whether they live uuon barren mountain's peak 
 or on the western prairies in a dnu: out. or alon*^ 
 the beach in a fisher's hut th m place is home. 
 
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 MAU tm;{: ii > i 
 
 Amoao: the birds Ko];in R;^(]l)rea-- fv'-m 
 his soulliern sojtnini niid huiidr. u- au ye.'ir to 
 3' cmr ill the same purcii in bis iioiiLer-i lioiiie- 
 The covey of quail u() b K'k nvery ^VfMiint: to 
 lliiur old liome, Mild tlif^ deer keeps to his fMirili- 
 iar runways, and tlie rabbit, pveMi vvh;Mi pursut^d 
 by tlie lioinid circies h- onievvuX' again. It is 
 the liouie-iiistiiiet in th^^ nir I .'t i [ animal, and 
 wherever man may roam h:^ sriii i^oes home 
 a,u"ain in sacred memories an 1 often while ah)iie 
 the unforbidden tear will star' a:^d ]] ' is once 
 more up )ti tlie old do >r-.-i i and in the embrace 
 of his hjved ones. 
 
 'd^ervvtM'n hro-id fich'^ of wh-Mt. and corn 
 
 }< the loariv house wIm' »^ [ !>< rn. 
 
 The |)< L'ch tree I '.lUS riLraiti-l llh' wall 
 
 And the vvo.hihiiie wan lers over ail. 
 
 'J'here is the l)arn, nnil as of \ <>r<' 
 
 1 ear) smell the hay fr<»!i> th(^ o])en door, 
 
 And see ibe hn^v swMliovvs thr<>no-. 
 
 AlmI hear the Peevvee's niDnrnfiil song, 
 
 Oh. ye vvhi) daily cross the sill, 
 
 Step lightly fori love it still — Buchanan Read 
 
 THE MODEL HOME IS ATTRACTIVE. 
 
 I have known many live in a rude house with- 
 out a picture cm the wall, or a paper in the 
 home, or the advautaoes of a lecture or a book, 
 and slave on the farm for thirty or forty years 
 expecting to leave the old shed when their for- 
 
THi] MODEL BOME 
 
 119 
 
 t ' Vw)s n:M;U\ nu)V(' if)to the city avid enjoy 
 lii;^ () vv!':i' !;i!ii(Mital)!e faihiiv tlu'y linve 
 i?':.*: li'". H M(i now liH'v vvMiidt'r up and down the 
 8t]eels l()i!f^^^(MM<- anil disa])p()i uteri alllioiiiili sur- 
 n >iii!(l'^d hy 1 ii' 'vh huIh. For tliirty years tliey 
 eiincateu aw !V th- t jfvte of the beautiful, for the 
 intd'o/i aai aa<l (levfMoi>v-d only the mercenary, 
 a:rJ now r!ipy cnrinot enjoy the iieautiful, tliey 
 cannot efij -v r^ndin^^. and cannot make money 
 ami tbey are miserable. What a tremendous 
 mistake to defer the model home until you are 
 o'd and uidHO ci for real |)leasnie and (^xjject to 
 i^-etall the !Hi[>ifiness of life in a few years at 
 las^, insteari of having' it beautiful all along, 
 ami your c!iihh*e)i cradled and o;r-;)wn amidst its 
 sacred atmosphere. I would charm every home 
 witii music and gave the i>ir!s and boys an op- 
 pt)i tuuity to learn it, and tlieri the family will 
 be an orchestra durirr<j: the lonij: wiuter evenings. 
 Let the children have innocent anrusements, 
 aud let the parents jv)in Vvdth them in holy de- 
 light. I would have no ]3arlor o^' furnish ir.gs 
 too sacred to be used by the whole famj'ly. Too 
 many parlors have been like the old fashioned 
 spare bedroom, only for company. A little girl 
 said as the Sun's rays fell upon her spoon as 
 she was eating, ^'O mamma, 1 have swallowed a 
 whole spoonful of Sun's rays, and so I w(vuld 
 put allopathic doses of sunshine in the every 
 
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 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 day bill-of-fare. It is mother's love and father's 
 interest, and the family circle's courtesies and 
 gelf denials that makes a happy home. 
 
 'Mid pleasures and palaces though we may roam, 
 Still, be it ever so humble, there's no place like home. 
 A charm from the skies seems to hallow it there, 
 Which, go through the world, you'll not meet with 
 elsewhere, 
 
 Home, home, sweet home: 
 
 There's no place like home. — Payne, 
 
 Many of you will say with me what would I 
 not give to be permitted to visit my childliood 
 home as I once saw it, to pass over the threshold 
 and meet the loved ones as of yore. Time with 
 his ruthless hand has scattered them all: one- 
 half are in the spirit world and the other half 
 are scattered far and wide by mountain, stream 
 and sea, and strangers trip thoughtlessly in the 
 room where I was born, and from whence my 
 parents winged their flight to the better land. 
 
 THE MODEL HOME HAS A SPELLING BOOK. 
 
 I take the spelling book to represent educa- 
 tion in the home. Children do not start their 
 public school life on equal footing . The great- 
 est institution of learning is the home. It is 
 an essential to have books in every home, and 
 papers both secular and religious, I think every 
 child ought to take a paper. Better do without 
 carpets, and bicycles and horses and carriages 
 
THE MODEL HOME 
 
 121 
 
 for pleasure as to be wiibout books in the home. 
 It is said that Homer's Illiad was the favorite 
 book of Alexander, and that he carried a copy 
 of it encased in a richly jewelled casket of gold 
 and at night he laid it with his sword beneath 
 his v>illow. Caesar loved to walk in the foot- 
 steds of Alexander and Charles the Xllth of 
 Sweden vied with Caesar in his admiration of 
 Alexander, and the Turkish Emperor Selymus 
 took Caesar for his ideal, and our own Washing- 
 ton loved Alexander. The name of Julius Cae- 
 ear is the most august name of antiquity, and 
 Alexander conquered the world, and Washing- 
 ton is the father of the world's mightiest nation* 
 and all these mighty conquerors got inspiration 
 from the old blind pnet, Homer. Homer's Ill- 
 iad has its influence on all the conquests of the 
 world down to America. O the influence of 
 one book. A single book has made an artist, a 
 warrior, a hero. Let there be an open book be- 
 side your work basket, and if you have no taste 
 for reading develop one. The American read- 
 ers devour the newspapers, but too few read his- 
 tory and literature and art. The education of 
 the home does not all come from books bound 
 in paper and cloth, but from those bound in 
 prints and tweeds and silks. No child should 
 be permitted to enter a room without knocking, 
 or ever read the letter of another member of 
 
122 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 the family without permission. Tlie dress and 
 address of the home will 12:0 into the character 
 f the child and follow it all the days of its life. 
 All sian^ should be avoided, such as "I'll bet,'' 
 "You bet," "He got fired," "Up a stump," „Got 
 the cinch on him," "Do you tumble to it?" The 
 old physician always asked his patient to put 
 out his tono'ue and he could tell what was wr^nig* 
 with him, but more correctly can society tell all 
 about your home and mental and moral status 
 when you open your mouth. I care not how 
 gracefully the form may be draped, or how .uol'le 
 the brow may be if there falls from his or her 
 li^DS, "Do you catch on bud?" or "She's a smar- 
 ty," that moment he drops two feet in my esti. 
 mation intellectually, and the school that turned 
 him out shall have my eternal condemnation. 
 
 THE MODEL HOME IS INFLUENTIAL. 
 
 Many parents have no influence over 
 their children as to what society they shall keep, 
 or what church they shall loin, or what business 
 they shall engage in. The parents are nonenti- 
 ties, and stand for no convictions, no principles 
 and no conscience. Our children should 
 stand for something instead of moving in a pro- 
 miscuous way with the multitude. The home 
 influence should last for life. A soldier was 
 mortally wounded and lay in a southern hospi- 
 tal, and the attending physician would not al- 
 
THE MODEL IK)ME 
 
 123 
 
 low his mother to f. r e bun who hr.d come to 
 nurse him. Sli- f '.iiL ^^^^ ^^^^ 
 
 just lay my hnnd n;^o!> his lieatl aud T will not 
 speak to him."' '^'m^ went in sc^ftly and 
 smoothed his br.r: in;.^ brow, arnl without open- 
 ing his eyes 1:ie !^::;;h ''Kiothe]' has ccri^e.*' It is 
 that touch of the c^id \\ov\e iha' we need io fol- 
 low us forever. When Henry Clay, the Ameri- 
 can Demosthenes lay dyinj^^ lie was a child once 
 more and repeated. ''My mother, my mother, 
 mother." Thecliildren can never get away 
 from the ri.Ldit kind of a liome. 
 
 THE MODEL KCME FAS A EIELE IN IT. 
 
 I take the bible to represent christian culture. 
 There is tooniuch animalism and goldism, and 
 not enough Christism in the home. Some of 
 meanest and smallest men have the largest bank 
 accounts, and they move my pity to think what 
 they will be when seperated from their pocket- 
 books. One of the dearest recollections of my 
 early home is father with the large family bible 
 before him Sunday after Sunday when his head 
 was white with the unmicltable snows of winter, 
 and his heart was joyous as the Spring with the 
 hopes and inspirations of the holy book. I 
 have carried that picture for twenty-five years 
 and it giows brighter and more divine as my 
 heart ripens so I can appreciate it. Christian- 
 ity is not alone in reading the bible and having 
 
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 HARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 family prayer It is thit Christ spirit that 
 never complains about the church, or gossips 
 about neighbors and lives the golden rule. It 
 is Christ in spirit and action rather than in form 
 and words. It is honor, and honesty, and right, 
 and kindness, and love robed in father's and 
 mother's flesh that makes the home a niinature 
 heaven. In the model home the whereabouts 
 of the boys and girls are known by the parents 
 every evening. No sensible young man will 
 ever go to the streets at ten and eleven o'clock 
 at night to look for a wife. 
 
 THE MEMORIES OF THE MODEL HOME ARE BLESSED 
 
 God pity the man who has no recollections 
 of home, who has no memory of the easy chair, 
 the spring, the cradle, the apple tree, the dinner 
 horn, the corn huskings, the family reunion, the 
 picture of mother, and Christmas morning. 
 What inspirations these hallowed memories 
 have given to life. The sweetest food I ever ate 
 I carried in my tin pail to school in boyhood, 
 audit was plain too; the brightest light I ever 
 saw was the little old fashioned lamp on my 
 mother's table, the sweetest words I ever heard 
 was on my return from my first absence from 
 home, and the now sainted one embraced me at 
 the door, and said, "Son, welcoijie home." 
 
 ''The sorrowing babe 
 Clings to its mother's bosom, the bleeding dove 
 
THE MODEL HOMB 
 
 125 
 
 Flies to her native vale, and nestles there 
 
 Ttt die amid the quiet ^rove, where first 
 
 She tried her tender pinion. 1 could love 
 
 Thus to repose amid these peaceful scenes, 
 
 To memory dear. Oh, it were passing sweet 
 
 To rest forever on this lovely spot. 
 
 Where passed my days of innocence, to dream 
 
 Of the pure stream of infant happiness 
 
 Sunk in Jife's wdd and burning sands to' dwell — 
 
 On visions faded, till my broken heart 
 
 Shall cease to throb — to purify my soul 
 
 With high and holy musings-^and to lift 
 
 Its as[)irations to the central home 
 
 Of love, and peace, and huliness, in heaven." 
 
 Young men, live at home, for the rented room 
 has blighted thousands of hopeful lives; youni^ 
 married people, start a home and pay for it and 
 live in it; wealthy men, build no more crowded 
 flats, but neat little cottages where every family 
 lives by itself; families, never forsake house- 
 keeping for hotel ease for your children will go 
 out into life fmm boarding houses destitute of 
 the frau;rance of home, of memories of bric-a- 
 brac and historical souvineers that j^ive a mean 
 ing t^) life. Take a cut of the old home with 
 you and it will pull you back in the hour of 
 temptation, and lift you up in the hour of de- 
 spondency, and help you on your way to heaven- 
 
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 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 *'Backward, turn backward, O Time, in ^our flight 
 Make me a child again, just for to-night: 
 Mother, come back from yon desclute sliore, 
 Take m;e. again to 3^our heart as of yore; 
 Kiss from my forehead the furrows of care, 
 Smooth the lew silver threads out of my hair; 
 Over m3'' sluojbers your loving watch keep.— 
 Rock pae to sleep, mother, rock me to sleep.*' 
 
127 
 
 HERIDITY, 
 
 Lo^Gtur© XI I L 
 
 Whatsoever a man soweth that shall he also reap. 
 —Paul. 
 
 " The father's have eaten sour ti;rapes, and the 
 children's teeth are set on edj;e!" 
 
 Do men jjiither grapes of thorns, or figs of 
 thistles ? —Christ. 
 
 '*Adam lived an hundred and thirty ^^ears and 
 beiJ^at a son in his on n likeness, after his ima^^e, 
 and called his name Setli/' 
 
 As through one man sin entered into the world, 
 and death throui^h sin: and so deMtli passed unto 
 all men for ail have sinned. — Paul. 
 
 ''For 1 the Lord tli}^ God a n a jealous God, vis- 
 iting the iniquity of the latlu-rs upon the children 
 unto the third and fourth generation of them that 
 hate me; and showing ujerey unto thousands of 
 them that love me and keep my commandments/' 
 
 When I call to remembrance tt»e unfeigned f«ith 
 that is in thee, winch dwelt first in thy grand- 
 mothe" Loi-^!. an*^ ihy motlu r Kunice; and I run 
 persuaiied that is in thee also. — Paul. 
 
 I believe in bluod and that it will tell. I be- 
 lieve in the poverty and vs^eaMi of physical 
 l)lood, in its sickness Hi)d heMlth. I t>elieve in 
 pure and imptire blood, in honest and dihhoiit'st 
 
128 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 blood, in humble and aristocratic blood and in 
 all kinds of blood. A christian gentleman of 
 my church said to me one day "it is all in ihe 
 bringing up of children, there is nothing in Ihe 
 blood. ^' I replied it is good bringing up that 
 makes good men of some boys and they require 
 ten times as mucli good bringing up as some 
 other boys. I told him to place twelve eggs 
 under a brooding hpn, six of ihe etrgs Lii:ht 
 Brahmas and the other six Game eggs, and let 
 them h ive the same food, care, yard and mother 
 until they are six months old and M\ me wh eh 
 lot has the most fight in it, and which lot the 
 most retreat? I have taken a tine colt, broad 
 between the eyes, and a mild look, to break in 
 and felt it was an ea^y job. and I have taken a 
 colt with a dished face and much white in the 
 eyes and a habit of watching me backwards and 
 somehow I felt that I had an undeveloped balk 
 to care for. There is disposition in the animals 
 that comes down for ages or why seek the Nor- 
 man horse for draft, and others for the track? 
 
 HEREDITY IS AN EXACT SCIENCE. 
 
 I do not believe that there is any such thing 
 as unlucky Friday or '^accident of birth." We 
 are not born male and female by accident, but 
 in the wisdom and providence of God. There 
 are 19 boys born the world over for every 18 
 girls and chance is not so systematic. We are 
 
129 
 
 not born weak or sirou'j: physic^ally, n Nttaliy 
 by accident bat by un ilterabL.^ lavvc^ "^Ve ■ re 
 not born misers or pliilanthronists by mere 
 chance. Oliildren of (h-unkards and )er! :-.es 
 are ni ore li kely to >] lo w tl i e 1 r pa re n ' - < : I y < ' t 
 there are apparent excep.tions. Sui^ivMuiieH a 
 Bon strikes back to a ^r.in ! parent, soruotlnies to 
 an uncle, or one of the parerd.s. 
 
 HEREDITY AS Sr.l^N^ i:^ THH BODY. 
 
 Children l<Jok like their pireats or soni3 of 
 their atjcestry. They ar*^ dyinij,' every day in 
 infancy, and men and w )iu-n in life's prime and 
 the miinster speaks of it in the providence of 
 God, and it is a good providence to remove the 
 Biilieiin^- from the unbearable V)urdens of life, 
 bui lifty or one Imnchvd years a.o-o their ances- 
 try sowed the seed wliich br Miy^lit the black 
 harvest of death. "'The sins of the fathers are 
 visited d(jwn to the third and fourth t^enera- 
 lions."' Back of many a row of tiny graves is 
 written tlie solemn law of heredity. Oliver 
 Wendell Holmes thinks that any disease might 
 be cured if the physician were called in time, 
 but early enough would commonly mean two 
 hundred years in advance." The blood of three 
 hundred years is coursing in our veins. Con- 
 sumption, insanity, scrofula, cancer, leprosy and 
 the nameless disease are all hereditary. Dr. 
 James gives an illustration on hereditary dis- 
 
130 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 eases which every physician could multiply by 
 thousands. A lovely infant is in a cradle with 
 a sore mouth. A cousin and a sister bend down 
 and kiss the little one. It is ten weeks old and 
 strange eruptions appear on its face. The sis- 
 ter and cousin are afflicted hi the same way and 
 the mother says, "you must not kiss the baby 
 again." The mischief is done; at thirty-six 
 weeks the infant dies, the cousin lingers ten 
 years, and the sister marries and brinies into the 
 world a child with a strangely blotched face. 
 It lingers four years and the nasal bones drop, 
 and it becomes a mass of corruption, and soon 
 goes to a loathsome grave. No one should kiss 
 the dead, and if I were a baby again I would 
 object to being kissed by every woman in the 
 neighborhood. These fearful examples are 
 given from the highest authority. A military 
 officer kissed his niece good bye, and there was 
 no visible disease on him, but she became af- 
 fected and died of a single kiss. Dr. Bemis of 
 Kentucky says that ten per cent of the deaf and 
 dumb and five per cent of the blind, and fifteen 
 per cent of idiots placed in the dififerent estab- 
 lishments in the United States are issues from 
 parents who are first cousins. Of 757 marriages 
 between first cousins, 256 children born were 
 mutes, blind or idiots. 
 
HEREDITY 
 
 131 
 
 MENTAL TRAITS ARE HEREDITARY. 
 
 Joseph Cook says from 500-300 B. C. the 
 Greek race produced 28 illustrious men. 
 In those two hundred years it produced Aris- 
 tides, Epaminondas, Pericles, Pytha^^oras, Soc- 
 rates, Euclid, Plato, Aristotle, Euripides, 
 8ophocles, Aristo})hanes, Phidias, Heroditus, 
 Thucydide s, Xenophon and Demosthenes. 
 Attica had at this time only SiO,000 free men, 
 and yet one illnstinous man to every 5,000 men. 
 All Europe in 2,000 years has not produced 28 
 sucli immortals. He fuilher adds take the two 
 thou-iand years since Greece fell, sum up all tlie 
 brilliant stars in the historic firmament of those 
 twenty centuries, and there is no more li^ht in 
 all that wide heavens than in the single Greek 
 constellation of Orion, or in the compact Athen- 
 ian Pleiades, which blaze close about us as we 
 stand here on the Acropolis. The reason is 
 that Athenian citizens were so trained in pub- 
 lic debate and compelled to defend themselves 
 before the law courts, that the average citizen 
 could appreciate the condensed orations of 
 Demosthenes, When they grew lax in morals, 
 and ignored marriage and indulged in idleness 
 and vice she degraded into effeminate weak- 
 ness. I shall never forget the impression that 
 the busts of the emperors and other illustrious 
 men made on me in the hall in Toronto. I con- 
 
132 
 
 MARRIAGE AND TVE I'.OME 
 
 traU^H • . fiPiidiph l- ok and whose 
 
 niotli* r \ • ^? thic-koniii<^ seiisiirtl face with the 
 saintly ?«[ r > Aurelius. A-^ certainly as tho 
 iiifernal u'>rts f)F elinraeter Cfun*^ down in the 
 line of Ner ' ) sniely tlie lieavenly came down 
 in tlie I'm ' of Aarelia^. Nero's father said 
 whatever came from him and A<j:ripina would 
 rnin tbe state. Wesley's V)rr)w looke 1 calm and 
 peaceful and Hnme's d.irk and cold: contrast 
 Guiteau with Garfield, tlie inky darkness of 
 crime with the snowy whiteness of purity. 
 Aristotle, xleschuyles, McOauley, Napoleon, 
 Wesley, Sir Walter Scott all came r)f traits of 
 distinctive character in sojne of their ancestors, 
 
 MORAL TPATTS ARE [HEREDITARY. 
 
 Idleness, avarice, industry, and crime all come 
 down to us in somedeo-ree. Dr Oliver Wendell 
 Holmes says, ''a man is an omnibus in w^hich 
 all his ancestors are seated." President Burr 
 had for a father the libertine Aaron Barr, and 
 his grandson was the saintly Jonathan Edwards 
 Sometimes children gro back generations and 
 inherit the traits of their ancestors. I called 
 on a mother in Israel a few days since, and the 
 saintly spirit was shining through the thinning 
 vase of clay. She said of her daughter fifty, 
 years of age "she is a darling girl and lives only 
 for the better world," and I thought how could 
 she do otherwise, fori could see the mother m 
 
HEREDITY 
 
 133 
 
 the dauirl^tt^ r so plainly. Others are born with 
 a w}:oie aistillery of whiskey in their veins. A 
 niiuiSter told uie tht- story of punishing his way- 
 ward bv>y. He icot ready to punish hioi and as 
 he looked at him he saw himself with a very 
 imlv temper in liis boy and I turned away from 
 pu/.isLun- niyseif. Traits physically, mentally^ 
 and m >raily are handed down from one genera- 
 tion to anotlu-r. Tlie Negro color and cheery 
 dispositioji If seen in all generations, the Indian 
 disposirion of revenge has never changed, the 
 Irish wit and gift of speech and jDUgnacity is 
 ever witli Ijim and so with the persistency of 
 the Scotch, atid ihe conquest of Roman blood. 
 Tahij;sgc says the ''large lip of the House of 
 Austria is seen in ail generations, and is called 
 the Hapsbiirg lip. The House of Stuart al- 
 ways means in all generations cruelty and big- 
 otry and sensuality.*' 
 
 HOW CAN WE HARMONIZE HEREDITY WITH THE 
 GOODNESS OF GOD? 
 
 It would seem that thus far we had left God 
 out of the redemption of man, and were trying 
 by the law of heredity to fix his state, and thus 
 make him a machine so placed that he cannot 
 help doing good or bad. Does not the innocent 
 suffer for the impiety of its ancestry? It does, 
 and yet by the same law that evil comes to us 
 comes also the means of bettering the condition 
 
134 
 
 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 of the yet unborn. Stock and fruit trees and 
 strawberries could never be improved were it 
 not for this very law. It is a mighty factor 
 for uplifting the worhl if well used, and if 
 abused it is a tremendous weajjon of misery. 
 Fire and water and electricity and brain are 
 antj^els of mercy if well used, but if abused are 
 messengers ox destruction. The conversion of 
 the whole heathen world dors not depend on 
 the adult heathens, but oti the children who 
 are being trained, and the christian relijjfion bp- 
 comes a part of tliern and will be beq uenthcd to 
 the nations unborn. It is the law of society 
 that the innocent must suffer with the truilty to 
 Bome extent. Every idler and every criminal is 
 a burden on the body ])oliti(! and on the tax- 
 payer. If heredity is such a tremendous force 
 and influenc<» what lessons can we learn from 
 it? 
 
 1st. The first lesson is the terrible responsi 
 bility of |)?irents. They may cramp the brain, 
 and pollute the physical and moral manhood of 
 the unborn infant and bring it into the woild 
 crippled for life; it is a cruel crime against 
 blood of their blood and flesh of their flesh. 
 Every x)eaceful state of mind, every impulse 
 thought, every violent temper, every holy or un- 
 holy act will live in our families for all time 
 unless the grace of G-od saves us. 
 
HEREDITY 
 
 135 
 
 2nd Lesson. If you are born of good par- 
 ents who lived and sacrificed for you and con- 
 secrated you to God and you deliberately walk 
 away from ilie altar of prayer and the mother's 
 hean and lead a wicked life your responsibility 
 wiii In- teiifoid greater, and your condemnation 
 terrniiie. **VViiere much is given much will be 
 requiivu." 
 
 iird Lesson. If you have come from a wicked 
 and (iei^raded ancestry, and from unholy en- 
 viron nieti Is you need all the more to brace up 
 a^auifet your evil tendencies, and God will help 
 you mid give you all the more credit when you 
 overcome. 
 
 MIGHTY TO SATE. 
 
 Whatever the past has bt-en, liowf\erlow and 
 degraded your ancestry may have been, how- 
 ever damnino- and polluting tlieir influence up- 
 on you, though you nifiy have coma of parents 
 and neighbors reeking with social liitli and crime, 
 and the hereditary influences of the past five 
 hundred years may be as mighty as the great 
 law of gravity which rounds the oceans like 
 balls, and holds the earth and planets in their 
 worldly swings, and as the Sun is mightier than 
 the law of gravity and lifts ocean-volumes of 
 water over the mountain ranges and the great 
 prairies so Jesus is mighty to save to the utter- 
 most all who come unto him by faith. He cast 
 
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 seven devils out of Mary MR^.rdfvIp?7i', n?id Rive 1 
 John Banyan and plar^ed In'iu in s'lr-ivd auta r- 
 sliip next to the holy bible. MTid r'on verted Saul 
 the mightiest persecutor of Christiaus and made 
 him the foremost missionary of ihe world a: id 
 the mightiest defender of tlie triiMi, 
 
 "He I>reaks the po\v<*r of e mcelled siu, 
 He sets the prisonttP fr(M% 
 His hl^ od enn mwki' iIk* foulest cletiD, 
 His hlooil avails fcr me/' 
 
 "Come now, and let as reason tocrether, saith 
 the Lord: thou^'h your sins be as scarlet, they 
 shall be whit" as snow; thouirli they be red like 
 crimson, ih-^y shall be as wo )1." "Who is this 
 that Cometh from Ed om, with dyed garments 
 from Bozrali? This that is glorious in his ap- 
 parel, travelling in t'^e greatness of his 
 strength? I that speak in righteousness, mighty 
 to save." Great salvation, mighty Deliverer, 
 claim your inheritance today from the power of 
 Satan unto God. Let us sing with heart and 
 voice, and ascribe all praise and dominion and 
 power unto the Lamb forever, 
 
 *'AH bail the power of Jesus name, 
 Let angels prostrate fall, 
 Bring forth the royal diadern 
 And crown him Lord of all.*' 
 
137 
 
 DIVORCE, 
 
 It hath been said, whosoev^er shj\l! put away iiis 
 wife, lec him give her a bill of divorcement but 1 
 say unto you thai wliosoevr-r shall put away his 
 wife saving for the cause of fornication, causeth 
 her to commit adultery. — Christ. 
 
 And unto the married 1 command, and yet not I 
 but the Lord, let not the wife depart from her hus- 
 band ; 1 ut, and if she depart let her remain un- 
 married, or be re<'-oociied to her husband ; and let 
 not the husband put away his wife. — Paul. 
 
 The Pharisee also came unto him, tempting him, 
 and saying unto liim, '*Is it lawful for a man to 
 put away his wife for every cause?" And he ans- 
 wered and said unto them, have ye not read that 
 he which made them at Hie beginning made them 
 male and female. And said, for this cause shall a 
 £iian leave father and mother, and shall cleave to 
 his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh. Where- 
 fore thev are no more twain 1 ut one flesh. What 
 therefore God hath joined together let not man put 
 as under. — Jes u s . 
 
 That utterance of Jesus Christ, ''What there- 
 fore God hath joined together let no man put 
 asunder" ought to be written on the walls of 
 every court house in America. My subject to- 
 
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 MARRIAGE AND Tilli HOME 
 
 nilifht irf oue ')f vast iiii(}'^rtance, and but little 
 iHulerstoDcl ill its sigui (ic ince thoiiL(!i so com- 
 moil ammg us. It is omp of the greatest evils 
 of our nation, and strikes with tremendous 
 force at tlie sacreduess ')l the marriage institu- 
 tion. There is no instituUun more sacied than 
 the family and anything that interferes with 
 the family threatens the very life of the church 
 and nation. The skies of domestic life are om- 
 inous, and sombre ni\d lowering with the laxity 
 of laws on marriage and divorce, and the infi- 
 delity of the married state. The M'.)rmon made 
 a very good plea for polygamy when he said in 
 Utah a man may have several wives at the same 
 time, outside of Utah a man may have several 
 wives at different times, and as he tires of one 
 get a divorce and marry another. He argued 
 that the moral status of the Morman was better 
 than the Gentile. God never designed either 
 the one or the other Time will not permit us 
 to discuss this great evil in other countries so 
 we will 
 
 LOOK AT THE SITUATION AT HOME. 
 
 Carroll D. Wright, commissioner of labor in 
 charge, gave us in 1890 some important facts on 
 the eonjugal relations. In 1890 there were 32,- 
 067,880 males in the United States and 30.554,- 
 370 females, an excess of m iles of 1,493,510. 
 There were widowtjrs 815,437, and widows 2,- 
 
DIVORCE 
 
 139 
 
 154,615. There were ui orjed males 49,101 and 
 females 71,895. The e : ^ .ss of females who 
 were widows, or divorce d over the males is 
 largely due to the fact that the men are more 
 likely to marry again. In the state of Illinois 
 there are 1,972,305 males and 1,854,043 females^ 
 an excess of males of 118,265. Massachu^-etts 
 had an excess of females of 60,000 and Colorado 
 an excess 78,000 males. This may be accounted 
 for by more men going West than women. In 
 the fifty largest cities in the Union there are 
 5,635,550 males and 5,662,598 females, an excess 
 of females of 27,048. I have quoted these fig- 
 ures to show three things: the remarkable even- 
 ness of birth of boys and girls is a marvel and 
 argues First, that birth is not by accident but 
 by the providence and wisdom of God. Second 
 that God designed monogamy for the married 
 state, one husband and wife and that for life. 
 Third, that the excess of males over females 
 points clearly and conclusively to the fact that 
 the life of man is more hazardous than that of 
 woman, and that God intended that the spheres 
 of man and woman should be different. These 
 figures constitute the American argument, and 
 the God who spake in times past in the bible 
 speaks today to every observer of the times in 
 our own history. We cannot put this evil on 
 foreigners and make them a sort of whale back 
 
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 to bear our sins away for, anions the children 
 of foreign white people there are fewer divorces 
 than among native white people, and fewer still 
 among foreigners than among either native 
 Americans or the children of foreigners. There 
 are more divorces among Negroes than among 
 any other class. 
 
 WE WILL NEXT CONSirLK THE LAXITY OF THE 
 CONJUGAL RELATIONS. 
 
 Among many thirjgs which have combined to 
 bring about laxity in marriage I mention two. 
 The first has been polygamy in Utah. It has 
 been a great cancer in the breast of this nation. 
 This great source of libertinism has sent its 
 putrefying influences to the four points of the 
 compass, and now thank God its doom is ap- 
 parently sealed. Another source of evil was 
 the free-love campaign which had its rage for 
 at least twenty years in our principal cities, and 
 was championed by masculine women and ef- 
 feminate men. Much evil has come through 
 unwise speeches on the oppression of the mnr- 
 riage relation, the tyranny of man and woman's 
 rights. Let it be understood that man and 
 woman may be equal in mental and business 
 capabilities but that they are never equivalents 
 and each sex hap its own orbit to move in where 
 it can accomplish most and where God designed 
 it to b^^. 
 
DIVORCE 
 
 141 
 
 LEGAL CAUSES FOR DIVORCE. 
 
 In the United States, adultery, vagrancy, in- 
 sanity, desertion, drunkenness, imprisonment, 
 neglect to provide, impotency, fraud, cruelty, 
 and uncliastity before marriage are legal causes 
 for divorce. In the state of Illinois we have a 
 long list of causes for legal divorce, and in ad- 
 dition the courts have the right to grant the de- 
 cree of divorce in any case they think expedi- 
 ent. It is passing easy to get a divorce. Take 
 for example the cause of crueltj^ and what does 
 that imply? It is a balloon word that can be 
 inflated to cover almost any individual case. 
 One woman applied for divorce because her 
 husband was stingy, another because he had an 
 ugly temper, another because he was indifferent 
 when she was «ick, another because he tried to 
 kick her and failed, another because he swore 
 at her, and another because he threw water on 
 her. South Carolina is the only state in the 
 Union where divorce is n'^ t granted, and the 
 other exireme is Kentucky where there are 13 
 causes for legal divorce. San Francisco grant- 
 ed 833 divorces in 1880. In London there are 
 four divorces to every 1,000 marriages, in Ber- 
 lin 10, in Paris 25, in Boston 73 and in San 
 Francisco 223. Divorce is on the increase all 
 over the country to an alarming extent. In 
 Peoria county, Illinois, there were in 1894 763 
 
142 MARRIAGE AND TEE HOME 
 
 marriages, and 118 divorces, or a divorce to 
 every eight and a half man in- -s. For the first 
 six months of 1895 there w- ) e 75 divorces, or an 
 average of one divorce to fiv^^. mar.-iages. Mr. 
 Dike says, **It is safe to say that divorces have 
 doubled in proportion to mHrvia^^^es in most of 
 the Northern states witfiiii thirty years. One 
 man got a divorce in 1894 in Peoria county and 
 in 1895 has applied for another. One woman 
 who was sent to the penitent ary for five years 
 for having a girl ruined in h^r house got a di- 
 vorce a short time before she was imprisoned. 
 
 MARRIAGE LAWS DIFFER IN THE DIFFERENT STATES 
 
 Maryland is the only state in the Union 
 where a religious service is necessary in mar- 
 riage. In this respect Maryland is like the 
 Dominion of Canada where none but an or- 
 dained clergyman can perform the marriage 
 ceremony. Mr. Bishop in his book on "Mar- 
 riage and Divorce" says concerning some of 
 the states that consent makes marriage. No 
 ceremony is needed, no witnesses, no writing 
 and only a verbal agreement. It is estimated 
 that 80,000,000 of our people live under such 
 laws. He cites many examples of which I give 
 you only two. "A New York widower entered 
 the room of his seamstress in his family and of- 
 fered marriage to her, pleading for an informal 
 one on account of the recent death of his wife. 
 
DIVORCE 
 
 113 
 
 Assuring lier tint it would be as binding with 
 two alone with God to witness, as a ceremony 
 performed by any minister in New York. The 
 other case is, ''A California girl of thirteen years 
 of age accepted a proposal of marriage. No 
 ceremony was performed; bnt on the grounds of 
 promise and consummation, the supreme court 
 heldihem to be married." 
 
 AGES AT WHICK PEOPLE MARRY DIFFER MUCH. 
 
 It varies from twelve to eighteen for females 
 and from fourteen to twenty-one fo^ males. 
 Brandt takes for a sample the state of Massa- 
 chusetts in 188G, There was one bride twelve 
 years old, one thirteen, one fourteen, thirty-two 
 at fifteen, one hundred and sixty-two at sixteen, 
 three hundred and ei-hty-one at seventeen and 
 the same would hold go( d in most of the states. 
 
 THE EVILS OF DIVORCE. 
 
 It degrades family life. Ask a boy whose pa- 
 rents are divorced where his father is and he 
 answers ''I don't know,'' or Mamma don't live 
 with him any more.'' It is imposing a life long 
 disgrace upon the he][)less children. It degiades 
 character. Men and women stood at the wed- 
 ding altar and made vow^s solemn as eternity 
 that they took each other for better or wone, 
 and until death parted them. When it is not 
 all harmony many thoughtlessly break the vows 
 they made to God and man and according to 
 
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 the word of Grod it causes tliem to live in adul- 
 tery if they marry av^ain while either party is 
 living. It destroys the home and turas the or- 
 phans out in the world with one to provide for 
 them instead of two. It blights the nation. 
 Anything that ruins the home ruins the state 
 and we cite you to Rome and Athens as mighty 
 examples that thunder down the centuries on 
 the blessedness of the family and marriage in 
 the palmy days of their prosperity, and oti the 
 wretchedness of laxity of morals and divorce in 
 the days of their decay. 
 
 THE REMEDY. 
 
 One of the alarming aspects of the case is that 
 good people have become so accustomed to this 
 state of afifairs that they think it is better to get 
 a divorce if the married life is not as agreeable 
 as they expected it to be. They will keep their 
 word in business if it costs them a fortune, they 
 will keep their word everywhere else and think 
 it an unpardonable crime if they don't but when 
 it comes to their word with their partner in life 
 and with God they break it easily and appear to 
 have no qualms of conscience about it. The 
 bible only allows two causes for divorce, adul- 
 tery, and Paul would allow it for wilful deser- 
 tion. The word of God is the infallible rule of 
 . conduct and no one has tried to harmonize the 
 divorce laws of America with the word of God. 
 
DIVOBCE 
 
 145 
 
 An uulimite<l divorce license presages the death 
 of any empire and all History corroborates it. 
 I would have uniform marriage and divorce 
 laws for the nation and then a couple could not 
 cross the state line in the evenlnpf get married 
 or divorced and return home in the morning and 
 take their places as law abiding and respectable 
 citizens. Let no one be allowed to marry for 
 ten years who gets a divorce on any grounds 
 save the bible grounds unless one of the parties 
 die. Many love sick couples hang around the 
 halls of the court house and as soon as the de- 
 cree is granted they go to the justice of the 
 peace and get married to number two, three or 
 four as the case may be, I would only let 
 clergymen marry people. This might savor of 
 a jmtent right on the business but it is a matter 
 of conviction. 
 
 The church of Rome, be it said to her praise, 
 reveres the marriage institution more than any 
 other church, and honors the word of God more 
 on the divorce question than any other. If our 
 laws were more stringent people would be more 
 particular about entering the married state. 
 Young ladies can be heard saying occasionally 
 today, "Well if I don't like him I can leave 
 him." What a trifling with such a sacred in- 
 stitution and with pledges made to God and 
 man. If parties cannot live together grant 
 
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 them a pnrtial divorce, ^thdI ll:em a separation 
 to live apart, but never permit either party to 
 marry wliile the other party is living. This 
 would lessen dh^orees by two-thirds and often 
 thesep\rated parties would make up and live 
 peacefully togt^ther. It is looked upon as hero- 
 ism to suffer for the nation that she may be re- 
 deemed; it is Christly to die a martyr for the 
 cans? of truth; why not suffer some inconven- 
 ience that the home may be undefiled by this 
 [,'reat social evil. I never saw but one divorced 
 couple and that was for adultery until I was 30 
 years of age. It works w* 11 in other countries, 
 it worked well in other ages, it is the i)lain word 
 of God and shall n^ t the judge of all the earth 
 do right? ''You'ig people when you enter the 
 married relation let it be for life. Oh the bro- 
 ken wedding vows that we must meet at the 
 Judgement of Ahnighty God. To all divorce 
 brokers, hands off, t all hiw makers, hands off 
 the grandest of all institutions — the marriage 
 institution. In the liame of broken hearted 
 wives whose husbands have deserted them, in 
 the name of mothers whose hearts are torn with 
 anguish, in the name of court made orphans, 
 and the sundering of dearest ties, in the name 
 of our great nation that is writhing under ter- 
 ible disgrace, and in the :iame of the Church 
 of Jesa.s Christ, and in th- name of the Holy 
 
DIVORCE 
 
 147 
 
 Bible speak out a^'ainst this great evil and wage 
 eternal war against any and every foe of the 
 most sacred place on earth — the Iiome. May 
 God speed the day when marriages shall always 
 and only be between parties with a supreme af- 
 fection, and for pure love, and then this conju- 
 gal relation will grow more tender with age, and 
 the home of earth will blend into the home 
 above, imen. 
 
148 MARKIAGE AND THE HOMK 
 
 The Model Young Man^ 
 
 Remember thy Creator in the flays of thy youth. 
 —Solomon. 
 
 Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse Ins ways? 
 by taking heed thereto according to thy word, — 
 David. 
 
 See*st thou a man diligent in his business? he 
 shall stand before kings ; he shall not stand before 
 iiiean tiien — Solomon. 
 
 An honest man's the noblest work of God. — Pope 
 
 Do as I have done, persevere. — Stephenson. 
 
 •With ordinary talents and t xtraordinary perse- 
 ▼eranr'e all things are »ttainal)je — Theodore Par- 
 ker. 
 
 Virture alone outbuilds the Pyramids; 
 Her monuments shall last when Egrypt^s fall, 
 
 — Young. 
 
 Young gentlemen I address you tonight in 
 the most important time of your life. Life is 
 hJI before you luminous with great possibilities, 
 Htid the greatest victories can only be won by 
 
THE MODEL YOUNG MAN 
 
 149 
 
 devoting all of life from youth to old age to 
 their accomplishment Life itself is a tremen- 
 dous gift and privelege, and especially today 
 when you start with the blood of the centuries 
 crystallized into liberty, and civilization and the 
 meridia I u'ory of the world's golden age. Our 
 forefathers came "with milleniums in their 
 hearts and empires m their brains," and they 
 have crowned us kings and priests unto an in- 
 heritfiUce the splendour of which the prophets 
 never dreamed. 
 
 LET us CLEAR AWAY THE MISTS ON THE HORIZON 
 OF YOUR FUTURE. 
 
 The dfys of the dreamer are not all past. 
 Most young men today dream dreams. They 
 have visions which shall vanish before the re- 
 alities of life as the mists of the morning melt 
 away before the blazing San. You may not go 
 to bed and shut your e^es, and unconsciously 
 wander away into the dreamlaud, but in your 
 easy chair with your eyes open you take t)alloon 
 tliiihts far above your ordinary walks in life, 
 and dream of the happy time when you shall 
 have, wealth, and social and political influence, 
 or be a prince among merchants, or a hero on 
 the battlefield. These are day dreams that are 
 peculiar to youth, and which ripened and expe- 
 rienced manhood interprets as the vagaries of 
 the young hopeful. Others dream that fortune 
 
150 
 
 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 will come to them, or by chance, or the force of 
 circumstances something will turn up that will 
 endow and enrich them for life. The only way 
 to have something turned up is to go to work 
 and turn it up yourself. There is no such thing 
 as chance, "ii thou doest well shalt thou not be 
 accepted, and if not well sin lieth at the door." 
 The woof and warp of your future is in your 
 own two hands, weavft it into ^'a garment of 
 righteousness," and a banner of honor and glo- 
 rious manhood. There is another error which 
 I wish to correct before you start out into life. 
 We think that many of our efforts are failures 
 because we cannot always see pleasing results. 
 True success is in making character, in making 
 man. God never counts the wealth and brill- 
 iant talents that we possess as the "well done 
 good and faithful." All the way through the 
 Bible, in Moses, in Joseph ,in Job ,in Abraham, 
 in David, in Paul, in eveiy instance without an 
 exception it is integrity, faithfulness, purity in 
 life and fidelity to God. As you develop chris- 
 tian manhood so you succeed in life. It mat- 
 ters little whether you-are as rich as Abraham, 
 or as poor as the widow \^ hose whole possessions 
 only summed up two farthings, whether you 
 have the unanswerable logic of Paul, or the 
 slowness of speech of Moses, these things are 
 merely incidental to life and not the real life. 
 
THE MODEL YOUNG MAN 
 
 151 
 
 As you build the pyram^'d of character after the 
 pattern of Jesus Christ every good deed, and 
 effort and word you put in the building which 
 has been polished until it shines like crystals 
 by pure motives and for "Jesus sake" shall last 
 forever. Not a good word spoken shall ever 
 fail. There is no failure if we are true to the 
 world's only ideal — Jesus Clirist. I am author- 
 ized tonight to holdout the palm of victory, 
 and the crown "well done good and faithful" to 
 every young man without an exception who 
 will enter the race, and be true and faithful U 
 his Master. We have cleared your way of some 
 deceiving visions, and now we will mark out 
 some essentials in developing a model man. 
 
 TAKE THE BIBLE FOR YOUR GUIDE. 
 
 If you go to Europe you follow the experience 
 of those who have crossed before you, anni the 
 pathway of safety in the deep. You avoid the 
 dano-erous reefs, and slioals, and rocks where 
 many proud vessels have been wrecked, and 
 thus there is for you a grand voyage and a safe 
 anchorage. Should there float from a sub- 
 merged rock in the ocean a signal of danger you 
 would keep clear of it at any and every cost. 
 The Bible marks out for you the only pathway 
 of safety. It raises signals of danger over every 
 vice on which a human life has been wrecked, 
 and inspires you by the grand beacon lights of 
 
152 
 
 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 the scriptures, and makes clear the only way of 
 safety, and entreats you by all tlie mercies •>£ 
 God to keep in the deeps of His love. ''Other 
 foundation can no man lay than that which is 
 laid, which is Jesus Christ." Many peop'e )f\y 
 their cwn foundation and they are sand, 
 when the storms come the buildinj^ is sw> )t 
 away and the penniless soul floats helplessly on 
 the surging tide into the great eternity. Byron 
 says, 
 
 *'Ala8: it is delusion ail; 
 The future cheats us from afar, 
 Nor can we be what vve rec^^ll, 
 Nor dare we think on what we are." 
 
 The Great Architect has given us the only 
 foundation, and other foundation ca*i no man 
 lay. The foundation and the building must be 
 in proportion. If you build wealth at any price, 
 and gain social and political influence to honor 
 self and ignore the giver, ''of every good and 
 perfect gift" you are building on the sand, and 
 thirty years will cheat you out of it all. You 
 may acquire wealth, and be successful in busi- 
 ness and in your profession, and be admired 
 for your genius, but beneath it all there is an 
 unrest and "an aching void the world can never 
 fill." The bible is a revelation from God, and 
 if you would be guided by Him, and know and 
 do His will you must take the holy book as 
 
THE MODEL VOUNG MAN 
 
 153 
 
 ''the man of your counsel." Many people fail 
 because they ^-et started wr^m^; Jesus Christ is 
 the only f )aM latioti, f\nd the Bible is the only 
 plan and specification for life's buildino;, and 
 it came from heaven and God is the ar(d]itect. 
 Young men put the Bible not only in your 
 trunks and on your tables; but mold and build 
 your lives by it, and then you will have good 
 success. 
 
 BE INI^USTRIOUS. 
 
 Grod has made man to be industrious, and if 
 he is indolent he cannot be happy. He puts 
 the iron and gold and silver into the everlasting 
 hills where we must dig to get it, and the wheat 
 and corn where we must labor to get it, and all 
 the secrets of nature and our civilization are 
 attainable only by industry. There are two 
 classes that never succeed in this life; the bustl- 
 ing do-nothing and the idler. The lazy man 
 has been in the world a long time and he never 
 changes. Solomon described him in his day. 
 *'I went by the field of the slothful, and by the 
 vineyard of the man void of understanding; and 
 lo! it was all grown over with thorns, and net- 
 tles had covered the face thereof, and the stone 
 wall thereof was broken down." He then gives 
 us a picture of the lazy man's house. ^'By much 
 slothf ulness the building decayetb ; and through 
 idleness of the hands the house droppeth 
 
154 
 
 MARKIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 through," I have seen farms and houses which 
 answer Solomon's description exactly. When 
 the idler moves into the city he is worse than 
 on the farm for then he loafs in the way of peo- 
 ple on the streets and interferes with other peo- 
 ple's business. The Marquis of Spinola asked 
 Sir Horace Vere, ^'Pray Sir Horace of what did 
 your brother die?*' The frank answer was 
 "He died of haviiio- nothing to do." Kust kills 
 legions of men physically, socially and intellect- 
 ually and I will also add spiritually. Every 
 young man ouglit to have a definite aim and 
 occupation in life and gird up the loins of his 
 energy and press to the goal of success. New- 
 Ion said to Dr. Bently, '^if 1 have done the pub- 
 lic any service it is due to nothing but indus- 
 try and patient thought." Martin Luther, John 
 Wesley and Adam Chirk are glittering illustra- 
 tions of what can be accomplished by industry. 
 Our most successful men work the hardest, they 
 liit the iron when it is hot and when it is cold 
 they hit it and make it hot. 
 
 THE MODEL Y0~JNG MAN WILL STUDY ECONOMY. 
 
 Businen men pass by fops, and dudes, and 
 society coxcombs when they are seeking a young 
 man to help ihem in business. The world 
 stands ready t(^ applaud the young man who 
 lives witliin his inc'^nv\ an<l who has the hero- 
 ism to refase the useh ss luxuries of life. The 
 
THE MODEL YOUNG MAN 
 
 155 
 
 hardest tlionsaiid dollars to make is the fiigt 
 thousand, after that money helps you make 
 more. The hundred dollars that is squandered 
 on cigarettes today if cared for would give you 
 in twenty years the luxuries of a thottsand dol- 
 lars. The sensible young man will keep out of 
 debt, will deny himseJf many indulgences and 
 will not boai'd on the most elegant avenue 
 merely to be classed among society young men. 
 
 THERE IS NO MODEL LIFE WITHOUT INTEGRITY. 
 
 The temptations are many and great today to 
 sacrifice principle and character for business 
 and worldly emoluments. Men will prostitute 
 the church of God, the church of their fathers 
 to their human greed and selfish aims. They 
 will support influential churches for the shek- 
 els the members deposit in their business. 
 Others are indifferent to every great reform and 
 keep mum and smother convictions and strangle 
 conscience for political preferment or sordid 
 gain. The crying ne^'d today is not great gen- 
 erals on the battle field, but men of great in- 
 tegrity to champion moral conflicts and be tlie 
 Grants and Wellin^^tons and Garibaldies to do 
 and die for the cause of right. Luther is the 
 plumed knight of the Reformation, the great 
 apostle of Protestantism, the mighty emancipa- 
 tor of the religious world, and all because of his 
 integrity, ''God helping me T can't do other- 
 
 V 
 
156 
 
 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 wise," Moses was the greatest man of the Old 
 Testament, and he won his immoital stature hy 
 integrity. When the wealth of the world was 
 laid at his feet, and royalty stood ready to cro^^ n 
 him in the palace he espoused the cause of the 
 colored race of E^ypt who were infinitely lower 
 thnn the slaves of our own South land, and chose 
 to suffer the afflictions of the people of God be- 
 cause it was right, and in hravcn tliey sin^- "the 
 song of Moses and the Lamb." It was this 
 principle that made Elisha and Joi^^eph nnd 
 Paul and the martyrs, and this principle ah ne 
 will bring the world to Jesus Christ. All read- 
 ers of history will remember how the govern- 
 ment of Scotland claimed jurisdiction over th.e 
 |)ulpits of tiie Scottish Oliurch. Some of the 
 ministers resolved to form a free church and 
 such a step meant that they should give up 
 their manses and tht ir support and d^^pend i u 
 Providence. On tlie eighteenth of May 18d3 
 after the service was over th.e moderator laid 
 his protest on the table and started for the door 
 and the saintly Chalmers was soon by his side 
 and then four hundred more and they surrend- 
 ered all for liberty and the right. The spirit of 
 the ancient Covenanters fired their hearts and 
 tlie crowd swung their hats and handkerchiefs 
 and thanked God, nnd Scotland was free. The n 
 the four hundred lifted up their voices in holv 
 
THE MODEL YOUNG MAN 
 
 trust and sang, 
 
 ''God is our refuge and cur streogth, 
 In straits a present aid 
 Therefore althougb the earth remove, 
 We will not be afraid." 
 
 Says. Dr. Wise, ^*The moral grandeur of this 
 scene is, at least equal to any recorded facts in 
 the history of man. The scene owes all its sub- 
 limity to the fact that those heroic ministers 
 were sufficioitly loyal to their sense of duty to 
 prefer the loss of all things to its violation." 
 In the store, in the world, in the church the 
 question ev^er confronts every young man, ''Je- 
 sus or Barabbas?" In the face of every bribery 
 and temptation God help you to come over on 
 the side of the Prince of Nazareth and like 
 Luther say, ''God helping me I can't do other- 
 wise." Let not poverty discourage you. Let 
 me point you to a few in the bright galaxy of 
 Ihe immortals who were poor boys, but who 
 have reached the dizzy heights of success. 
 Leon Gambetta the statesman, William Ftoyd 
 Garrison the reformer, Olivn^ G )ldsmith the 
 poet, George Peabo(!v the merchant, George 
 W^. Childs the j nirnalist, Paul the missionary 
 to the Gentile world, Luther the father of Prot- 
 estantism and Abraham Lincoln the president. 
 I have reared before you a cijlossal pyramid of 
 character tonight, and now I war . you that 
 
158 
 
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 "now is the day of salvation." This is tlie day 
 of your opportunity wlien your blood runs 
 swiftly, and the energies of youth well up with- 
 in you for^the fray. Many can say after Pris- 
 cilla Leonard, 
 
 The key of yesterday 
 
 I threw aw a}'. 
 
 And now, too iate, 
 
 Before tomorrow's close locked gate 
 
 Helpless I stand — in vain to pray ! 
 
 In vain to sorrow ! 
 
 Only the key of yesterday 
 
 Unlocks tomorrow. 
 
 Take the bible as your ^uide, build your life 
 with industry and economy and integrity, pat- 
 tern after the only true model — Jesus Christ 
 and amidst assembled worlds, and the applause 
 of angels God will place on you the copestone 
 of his own "well done good and faithful." 
 
159 
 
 The Mistakes of Young Men, 
 
 Abhor that which is evil. — Paul. 
 
 Evil comnlanicatious corrupt j^ood iiianners. — 
 Solomon. 
 
 Keep good company and yoa shall be of Uie 
 numbei. — George Herbert, 
 
 Self-control \z reason's girdlu, and passion's 
 bridle. — Jeremy Taylor. 
 
 He that walketh with wise men shall be wis^' ; 
 bu": a companion of tools shall be destroyed — Bible 
 
 Her house is the way to hell, going down to the 
 chambers of death, — Bible. 
 
 A false balance is abomination to the Lord : but 
 a just weight is his delight.— Solomon 
 
 Look not upon the wine when it is r<d. whiu 
 it giveth his color in ihe cup, when it ujoxt tli it- 
 self aright. A": last it bitteth like a serj)tnt, and 
 stingetli like an adder. — Bible. 
 
 We have a great interest iu youne men, po- 
 ciety has and so has tlie church. The c(^m!i)u- 
 iiity in which you reside is very anxious to si e 
 
160 
 
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 you develop to be a j)ure, and b morable and 
 noble man. Society stands ready to crown your 
 brow with a laurel wreath and say "well done." 
 Young men are exposed to more dangerous 
 temptations than youn^- women. You are at 
 the parting of the roads in a truer sense than 
 old men, and as you pitch your tent towards 
 Sodom or righteousness so will your future be. 
 Some horsemen looking at a colt three months 
 old can tell what it will look like at three years, 
 but this is not nearly so certain as to predict 
 the future of the fast and drinking young man, 
 or the pure and virtuous. The Divine Artist 
 has photographed every class of young men, 
 and developed them to the finish. Young gen- 
 tlemen hear me tonight as your friend. I want 
 to warn you of mistakes which many young 
 men have made. 
 
 SOME YOUNG MEN OVER ESTIMATE THEIR STRENGTH 
 AND UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER OF SIN. 
 
 "All men think all men mortal but them- 
 selves," so all young men think all young men 
 weak in certain respects but themselves. They 
 censure others for yielding to temptation, and 
 fancy honestly enough that they would not 
 have yielded. The young men who have fallen 
 thought your thoughts once. The fence which 
 surrounds your father's farm is no stronger 
 than the weakest panel ; the boiler which turns 
 
MISTAKES OF YOUNG MEN 
 
 191 
 
 the macbinery in yonr isreat factories is no 
 Rtroneer than the weakest point. T met a man 
 somp time since who stood six feet two inches 
 hi2:h, and weicrhed 250 ponnds. He looked to 
 be in the best of health. He was not corpuVnt 
 but heavy boned and mnscnlar. He had tre- 
 mendous arms and a liand as lar^e as a dinner 
 plate, and looked as if he could walk ofif with 
 two men, one in each hand at arm's leno^lh. 
 T overestimated him, for he had a weak back 
 and could lift no more than John We.*ley who 
 only weighed 122 pounds. We are no stronger 
 than our weakest point. We may be sin-proof 
 ag-ainst a thousand temptations, and yet the 
 next one ruin us. It don't require many weak 
 points in a man's character to ruin him, one is 
 sufficient to blight and dam him . Sin is power- 
 ful. It is not a pimple on the soul that might 
 be covered with a piece of court plaster, but 
 ''that wdiich setteth on fire the whole course of 
 nature, and it is set on fire of hell " Sin that 
 has slaughtered Samson and Solomon and that 
 has strewn the centuries with the flowers of 
 our race cannot be overestimated. ''Shun the 
 very appearance of evil" says the good book. 
 If anything has the appearance of evil, if the*^e 
 is the least suspicion, get over on the other side 
 of the road and pass not by it. 
 
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 ANOTHER MIS;TAKE IS NOT TO TAKE GOOD ADVICE. 
 
 I admire yoiintr men who think for them- 
 selves, youniy men who nr^ like a cat thrown 
 out of an upstairs window who will liofht upon 
 Iheirfeet somewhere. T have but little use for 
 men who are simply arms and leiJfs for s@me one 
 else. I sometimes attend political meetiuirs 'o 
 hear the speeches and listen to th^ ar^jfuments. 
 Sometime aufo T attended a rally where an emi- 
 nent speaker made a splendid address. He was 
 a Kepublican and weakened his address by re- 
 peating a time and threadbare worn phrase. It 
 was ''A Republican was f born, a Republican 
 was I raised and a R<^publican will I die." The 
 sense conveyed and the principle was good 
 enough, but he thou^zht there were some in his 
 audience whose brains couldn't do much with 
 ars^ument, and who were a success with senti- 
 ment and he was trying to L^ive to every one "a 
 portion of meat in due season " When I first 
 got acquairited with colored people I thought 
 they were all nosed and eyed alike. A large 
 lady weighingr 200 pounds came to our home to 
 work, and she always took the easiest position 
 to do her work. One day she was sitting on 
 the floor polishing the kitchen stove, and pass- 
 ing through the room I said to her in a friendly 
 way. "to what church do you belong?" and she 
 replied m her own dialect, "Methodist bred, and 
 
TAKES OF TOUNG MEN 163 
 
 Methodist born and Methodist till I die." I 
 thought to myself what brains. We have an 
 animal in tl^s countr} with a very lar^e head 
 and a will of his own called the mule and he 
 says, ''a mule was I bred, a mule was I born and 
 a mule will I be till 1 die," I believe him. 
 Younc: men think for yourselves and your best 
 thought will lead you to take the best advice. 
 In Fronde's Caesar we read ''it waa now eleven 
 in the fort noon Caesar shook off his uneasiness 
 and arose to ^o. As he crossed the hall his 
 statue fell and shivered on the stones. Some 
 servants, perhaps, heard whispers and wished 
 to warn him. As he still passed on a stranger 
 thrust a scroll into his hnnd, and be^rged him 
 to read it on the spot. It contained a list of all 
 the conspirators with a ^lear account of the 
 plot. He supposed it to be a petition and 
 placed it carelessly among his other papers. 
 The fate of the empire hung upon a thread, but 
 the thread was not broken." The fate of many 
 a young man hangs upon a thread. The coun- 
 sel Contained in two lines if obeyed would mean 
 his life, if scorned his death. "I counsel th<^e 
 to buy of me gold tried in the fire that thou 
 mayest be rich and white raiment that thou 
 mayest be clothed." The whole book of Prov- 
 erbs is for the young and abounds with warn- 
 ings and counsels. 
 
164 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 ANOTHER MISTAKE IS TO READ BAD BOOKS. 
 
 Blindfold me and take me iwio any home in 
 the city, and then show me the papers taken, 
 the books read, and I can tell you the interest 
 taken in politics, in reli<2ion, in the racetrack, 
 and in the sportiLo- world, and £rive yii an es- 
 timate of the character of tlie home. Talmnge 
 says, "Who can estimate the power of a ^J^ood 
 book? Benjamin Franklin said that his read- 
 intr of Cotton Mather's Essays to do ^ood in 
 childhood gave him holy aspirations for all the 
 rest of his life. GeorLie Law, the millionaire, 
 declared a biography he r^^ad in childhood gave 
 him all his subsequent prosperity. John Angel 
 James stood in his pulpit at Birmingham and 
 said twci.ty-five years ago a lad loaned me an 
 infamous book. He would only loan it to n e 
 fifteen minutes, and then I gave it back, but 
 the book has haunted me like a spectre ever 
 since. I have in the agony of my soul, (m my 
 knees before God, prayed that . he would oblit- 
 eiate from my soul the memory of it; but I 
 shall carry the damage of it until the day of my 
 death. The assassin of Sir William Russei de- 
 clared he got the inspiration for his crime by 
 reading ihe novel "Jack Sheppard.''^ Homer's 
 Illiad made Alexander the warrior. Alexander 
 said so. The story or Alexander made Julias 
 Caesar and Charles the twelfth, both men of 
 
MISTAKES OF YOUNG MEN 
 
 165 
 
 blood. Have you in yoar pocket or in your 
 desk at business a bad book, a bad pamphlet? 
 Ill God's name I warn you to destroy it. In 
 close relation to bad books is bad company. At 
 St. Augustine, Florida, I was much interested 
 in observing chamelions. When tney were on 
 an old log they were as brown as the log, and 
 when on the grass as green as corn in the month 
 of July. They take the same color as the ob- 
 ject they are associated with, and so it is largely 
 with man. We can never forget that which w<f 
 learn in bad society, John B. Gougii said, "I 
 have confessed before God, I would give my 
 ligl't hand tcn^j^ht if I could foiget that which 
 I have learned in bad company, if I could tear 
 from my remembrance the scenes which I have 
 witnessed. You cannot, I believe take an im- 
 pure thought, or at least its effect when it has 
 been lodged and harbored in the heart. ''^ 
 
 ANOTHER POPULAR AND OREAT MISTAKE IS TO 
 BEL! EVE THAT A LIFE WRECKED IN SIN CAN 
 EVER BE WHAT IT WOULD HA VE BEEN WITHOUT 
 THE WRECK. 
 
 A life which has sown and reaped a crop of 
 wild oats is damaged forever. There has been 
 placed on men a premium in this coantry who 
 liave been in the gutter and then have become 
 public speakers. The man for your model is 
 the man who has never wallowed in the dirt of 
 
166 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 sin. Some of thesH,men almost glory in telling 
 how mean they have been. It is right to give 
 God the glory for his saving grace. Beecijer 
 said he did not like to have a man every tim^ 
 he met him roll up the leg of his pants and 
 show him an old sore. One day a convict in 
 Joliet picked up a scrap of paper from the cor- 
 ridor on which were these lines: 
 
 '•I walked throiicrh the woodland meadow, 
 Where sweet the thru-lies sinsr ; 
 And found on a hed of mosses 
 A bird with a broken wing. 
 I healed its wound, and each morning 
 It sang its ohi sweet strain 
 But the bird with a bro^^ en pinion, 
 Never soared so high again. 
 
 I found a young life broken 
 
 By sin's seductive art: 
 
 And touched with a Chri&tlike pitv, 
 
 I loo \ him to my heart. 
 
 He lived wirh a noble purpose. 
 
 And struggled not in vain ; 
 
 But the life that sin had stric kened, 
 
 Never soared so higli again. 
 
 But the bird with a broken pinion. 
 Kept another from the snare ; 
 And the life that sin had stricki n, 
 Raised another from despair. 
 Each loss has i'is compensation. 
 There i8 healing for every pain ; 
 But the bird with a broken pinion. 
 Never soars so high again.'' 
 
MISTAKES OF YOUNG MEN 
 
 197 
 
 You can only be your best by always living 
 your best. It is easy to be a destructionist, it 
 is hard to be a constructionist, and takes time 
 and sacrifice. It only took Chicago three days 
 to burn down, it took years to rebuild it. One 
 nij^lit can ruin more character than years can 
 rebuild. 
 
 THE GREATEST MISTAKE POSSIBLE TO ANY YOUNG 
 MAN IS TO REFUSE CHRIST AS HIS SAVIOUR. 
 
 There are two places open to you in the money 
 world. In the first place there appears to be 
 more money, more pleasure and liberty; in the 
 second there appears to be less pay at first, but 
 it gets better and after awhile you become a 
 pnrtner in tlie firm and a millionaire. Which 
 will you take? There are two positions offered 
 every young man in life. The world offers the 
 first, more money, pleasure and risk, and Christ 
 offers the next pLace. He offers you a good po- 
 sition, and a partnership in his firm, and the 
 unsearchable riches of the kingdom Joseph 
 accepted Christ's offer and the world pitied 
 him a slave in prison and without a coat to his 
 back. Wait, until God finishes the man, and 
 he is Egypt's greatest man and kings bow down 
 before him. Moses accepted Christ's offer and 
 turned his back upon wealth and the luxuries 
 of the palace, but wait until God promotes him. 
 He makes him Israel's redeemer, and sends his 
 
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 angels to make his errave on Mount Nebo, and 
 then arrays him with o:lory on the Moant of 
 Transfis:uration, and the last glimpse we get 
 of him is in heaven where there is only one 
 name coupled with the Son of God in redemp- 
 tion's song, and that is the name of Moses 
 *'They sing the song of Moses and the Lamb." 
 What is your choice? I believe that the Son 
 of God looks on you tonight and loves you and 
 commissions me to invite you, ''Son give me 
 thine heart." You have loved ones whose 
 hearts you can ravish with joy by confessing 
 Christ. Let some waiting angel ply his pinions 
 and carry home the news to your sainted dear 
 ones and there will be great joy in heaven. 
 May God send great conviction, and great 
 blessings upon you my brothers. Amen. 
 
169 
 
 Pushing to Front. 
 
 OR HOW YOUNG MEN AND WOMEN WITH NO CHANCE 
 MAY GET TO THE FRONT. 
 
 This one 'hing I do, forgettiog those things 
 which are behind, and reaching forth unto those 
 things which are before 1 press toward tihe mark 
 for the prize of the high caUing of God in Christ 
 Jesus. — Paul. 
 
 Things don't turn up in this world until some- 
 body turns them up. — Garfield. 
 
 By the street of by and by one arrives at the 
 house of never. — Cervantes. 
 
 "The iron will cf one stout heart shall make a 
 thousand quail.'" 
 
 With malice toward none, with charity for all, 
 
 with firmness in the right as God gives us to see 
 
 the right let us strive on to finish the work we are 
 in. — Lincoln. 
 
 Lost: Somewhere between sunrise and ?iunset, 
 two golden ho':irs, each set with sixty diamond 
 minutes. No reward is offered for they are gone 
 forever. — Horace Mann. 
 
 Every young man worthy of the name desires 
 to push to the front. Every minister, lawyer, 
 physician, mechanic and farmer ought to 
 
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 strive for the front ranks in his profession or 
 business. We ouiyht to study the hiii^hest mod- 
 els and as we use the steam and electricity and 
 ^reat inventions of the a^^e to aid us to success 
 so we should use the mental and moral steam 
 and electricity which has made men fi-mons. 
 Helen Hunt Jackson said to a friend, "Have 
 you ever tested the advantai^es of an analytical 
 reading of some writer of finished style? There 
 is a little book called Out- Door Papers, by 
 Went worth Higginson, that is one of the most 
 perfect specimens of literary composition in the 
 English language. I go to it as a text bnok." 
 The problems of success in life, of how to make 
 the best out of it, of how to build character 
 concern the millions, and I shall illustrate my 
 subject from the lives of illustrious men. It is 
 a great privilege to sit in the study, or in medi- 
 tation and loose sight of the world for the time 
 being while you converse with men who have 
 trampled beneath their feet all opposition, and 
 who have waved the palm of victory on the pin- 
 nacle of the highest success. The apostle Paul 
 is one of the most inspiring men this world has 
 ever seen. Let us tonight study this great 
 master, analyze his character and learn wherin 
 his success. 
 
 HE WAS A MAN OF IRON WILL. 
 
 The man of modern times who resembles him 
 
PUSHING TO THE FRONT 
 
 171 
 
 most in this respect is Bismarck. A writer in 
 the Eclectic Magazine says, "there are three 
 kinds of people in the world, the wills, the 
 won'ts, and the can'ts. The first accomplish 
 everything, the second oppose everything, the 
 third fail in everything.*' In every church you 
 will find the can'ts, the won'ts and the wills, 
 and in the church of Jesus Christ from the days 
 of Paul to the days of Luther and of Wesley 
 the wills have planted the standard of the cross 
 on the heights of the enemy, and captured great 
 heathen nations in the name of the Christ. 
 From the days of Napoleon Bonaparte to the 
 days of Ulysses S. Grant the wills have said, 
 "there shall be no Alps," and "On to Rich- 
 mond," and "unconditional surrender," and they 
 have won the day. You may not have Grant's 
 Richmond to reach, or Napoleon's Alps to cross, 
 but you have an Alps or Richmond in your 
 own life to conquer, and whether it be in finance, 
 or in education, or in your disposition you can 
 conquer if you have PauPs invincible spirit. 
 
 LINKED WITH HI8 IRON WILL WAS AN OMNIPOTENT 
 FAITH. 
 
 There is a pusillanimous faith and preaching 
 today that develops weaklings. It comes in 
 sugar-coated essays, and surfcice sentimentalism 
 about broadness and charity and liberty and 
 
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 to pay bis way. His next term he started to 
 school with only ten cents in his pocket. He 
 engaged board, fuel and li^ht of a carpenter for 
 one dollar and six cents per week with the priv- 
 ilege of working on Saturdays. Be pinned 
 fifty-one boards the first Saturday and < arned 
 one dollar and two cents. At the close of the 
 term he had three dollRrs in his pocket. He 
 next taught school and then graduated in Will- 
 iam's College. He went to the State Senate at 
 26, and at 23 was in Congress, and twenty- seven 
 years from the time he was janitor in coll'^ge 
 James A. Garfield became president of these 
 United States. Paul had a poor oppf)rtuti ity 
 Public opinion was against him, and the whole 
 world, and no press, no protection from 
 the mob, his back bared and flogged until the 
 soil was baptised with his blood and yet he 
 cries out, "None of these things move me." He 
 seizes every opportunity to preach Clirist, and 
 amidst the fiercest opposition that ever con- 
 fronted man he continues until he is thrown 
 into an old well for a prison from whence he is 
 taken in old age, and his glory crowned head 
 removed from his body by a murderer. He 
 made the opportunity and has left the impress 
 of his great soul upon the religious worMfor all 
 time. There are thousands of opportunities in 
 Sunday School work, in visiting the stranger, 
 
PUSHING TO THE FRONT 
 
 178 
 
 p:rows eloquent on the narrowness of creed. A 
 man who don't believe in something can never 
 bring things to pass. Paul believed in Jesus 
 Christ as the world's only salvation, he believed 
 in conversion, in the damnable heinousness of 
 sin, and in the veritit s (jf the gospel. To him 
 they were all real, and he had a great zenl and 
 effort and conviction as the l'»^-icHl outcome of 
 his great faith. N(» lunw can ritford to be broad- 
 er tlian Je.sus Chrift rind his gospel and any- 
 thing broader th?!n that i.-^ relii.'i(»us anarchy. 
 
 PAUr. CoNCb:NTKATED ITIS; EFFORTS. 
 ''This one thitiLi" I d' T like to e^td the 
 man of one book, and the m o i wh'> !s u-h( )• < f 
 a hundred books in this a. e fn i w rthy :<> be 
 read. Paul put his wliole t-oul in one thenie 
 for life. ai!(! R« Ihrcl.ild >j;i<l in fiddr^ ssii^g 
 young men. ''Slick to one 1 usineKs y nng man 
 A man in London put "U Ins siun. ''Go^ds re- 
 moved, messages takf^n. cari)ets beaten, and 
 ]K)etry compesed on any subject Moii^^ieur 
 Kenard of Paris advertised. ''A public scriiie, 
 vvdio digests accounts, explains the language of 
 flowers, and sells fried potatoes.'- Scattei-ation 
 was the name of the disease that killed tliese 
 advertisers. Time is to(3 short for any man to 
 be master of all trades. The man who suc- 
 ceeds today is the man who puts his whole en- 
 ergy on one subject, or on one department of u 
 
174 
 
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 p^o five hundred leai^ues to talk to a man of 
 getiius whom I had not seen before." The men 
 and women who have accomplished ^reatthinp^s 
 in life are those who have been absorbed in their 
 work. No man can preach a s^reat sermon, or 
 do a great work unless he is inspired, unless his 
 heart glows with holy fervor. You are ready 
 to say that all cannot be Bethovens. or Hugos 
 or Gladstones or Napoleons; that all have not 
 the opportunity. It is true we all cannot be 
 so great as the names you have mentioned and 
 God never designed you should be. He who 
 made the grasses of the fields with no two 
 spears alike, and Ihe leaves of the trees of 
 variety so great that we are lost in infinity, and 
 the worlds innumerable and no two alike, never 
 duplicated man. He has a myriad patterns in 
 the musical, and business and mental worlds 
 that have never appeared in divine man, and 
 you are born with one of these patterns within 
 your reach, and it is yours with a life on fiie 
 with a holy zeal to press on and win the Water- 
 loo of your immortality. 
 
 MAKE THE OPPORTUNITY. 
 
 Weaklings find no opportunity while strong 
 men make them. I will name to you a few men 
 who had no opportunity in life but who made 
 great opportunities. A poor boy said, ''What 
 has been done can be done again," and that 
 
PUSHING TO THE PRONT 
 
 175 
 
 rocY boy became Lord Beaconsfield, England's 
 preat Prime Minister. Theodore Parker said 
 to his father one day, ^'May I have a holiday 
 tomorrow?" It was a sultry Au^rnst day and he 
 took for his holiday a ten miles walk to Harvard 
 Colleee, and passed his entrance examination- 
 His father was too poor to g-et him books, or 
 send him to collesre so he rose in the mornings 
 before sunrise and picked bushels of berries and 
 sold them in Boston and bought a Latin die- 
 tionarv with them. He mnde the opportunity. 
 Abraham Lincoln walked six miles to borrow a 
 era rr mar, fird when he got home he burned 
 shavings one after another to afford him light 
 with which to study it. Daniel Webster could 
 not recite when a boy at school and often went 
 home and wept with mortification. Next to 
 Patrick Henry he became America'^s most brill- 
 iant orator. John Wannamaker walked four 
 miles to Philadelphia every day and worked 
 for one dollar and twenty-five cents per week. 
 P. T. Barnum rode a horse for ten cents a day. 
 They made the opportunity. I will mention 
 another poor boy brought up in the backwoods 
 of Ohio. His mother was a widow struggling 
 to keep the wolf of hunger from the door. 
 The boy borrowed and read books and at six- 
 teen was a mule driver. He then went to an 
 academy and swept the floors and rang the bel^ 
 
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 subject. Steam was always here but it never 
 moved the world until it was harnessed down. 
 Many men have had ^reat ability, and would 
 have moved the world had they concentrated 
 their efforts, had they put the trolley on the 
 wire and then moved ahead. The men of spe- 
 cific and definite work are the men of force. 
 Sydney Smith said of Daniel Webster that he, 
 "Struck m© much like a steam eno:ine in trous- 
 ers," The ^reat apostle made Christ his one 
 great theme, "God forbid that I glory save in 
 the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ." Aim high 
 but have a definite aim for the ^reat successes 
 in every department of life have been attained 
 by men with a single aim and a great purpose. 
 
 PAUL WAS IN EARNEST. 
 
 He says, "T press towards the mark for the 
 prize of the high calling in Christ Jesus." One 
 earnest man will accomplish more in any call- 
 ing than twenty lukewarm men. There are 
 ministers of the gospel sitting on their degrees^ 
 and on their dignity and reputation and who 
 are lamentable failures for lack of energy. Vic- 
 tor Hugo locked up his clothes while writing 
 *^Notre Dame," that he might not leave his work 
 until it was finished. Madame de Stael said to 
 a friend, "If it were not for respect for human 
 opinion I would not open my window to see the 
 Bay of Naples for the first time, while I would 
 
PUSHING TO THE FRONT 
 
 177 
 
 and in missionary enterprise waiting for some 
 one to open the door. I blush tor strong men 
 who can't walk a mile to church, and for help- 
 less spiritual infants who are crying and fretting 
 for some church mother to carry them on a pil- 
 low of down into the kingdom. God can never 
 save the world with church babies, he must 
 have men and women of the Pauline makeup. 
 
 WITH PAUL CONSCIENCE WAS SUPREME. 
 
 He said, ''Lord what wilt thou have me to 
 do?" His conscience was on the throne and it 
 was supreme. He never insulted Grod by offer- 
 ing an apology to men for doing what was right. 
 He was a man who rested on the bedrock of 
 sincerity. The great need of this age is inde- 
 pendent and sincere men. We have been ton 
 long on the dull monotonous prairie instead 
 of the mountain range with jotting peaks of 
 individuality, and sincerity and conscience 
 jostling the stars in the azure blue and reach- 
 ing in placid rest the very throne of God. 
 
 ''What conscience dictates to be done 
 Or warns me not to do, 
 This, teach me more than hell to shun, 
 That, more than Heav'n pursue." 
 
 There never was an age that called more loud - 
 ly for men like Paul and William Floyd Garri- 
 son to strike for liberty than the present. The 
 great liquor traffic is greater than slavery, th e 
 
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 Wbitefield be2:an their great careers in college, 
 Napoleon coiiquered Italy at twenty-one, Victor 
 Hugo wrote a tragedy at fifteen, and Luther was 
 triumphant at twenty-fivCc ^'Remember thy 
 Creator, now in the days of thy youth." Old age 
 is the silver period of life, youth the diamond. 
 If you want the diamond life when most can be 
 accomplished, and when the greatest character 
 can be attained seize the dicvmond opportunity. 
 ''On the great clock of time there is but one word 
 — now.*' ''Behold, now, is the day of salvation." 
 Amen. 
 
183 
 
 The Ideal Young Woman. 
 
 "She hath done what she could/' 
 
 l.aet at His cross and earhest at his grave. — 
 Barrett, 
 
 Men need not try where women fail. — Euripides. 
 
 Girls we love for what they are, young men for 
 what they promise to be. — Goetlse, 
 
 If woiuen lost US Eden, such as she alone can 
 restore it — U'hittier. 
 
 E:irth has nothing more tender than a woinan's 
 iieart, whe:i it is the ahodu of [)iety. — Luther. 
 
 I he king's (luucrhter is ail i^lorious within: her 
 clothing is of wrought gohi. — David. 
 
 rh'V are as heaven m;ide them, handsome 
 enouuHi. if they be good enough; for handsome is 
 th.'t handsorne does. — Goldsmith. 
 
 That ovT daughters may be as corner stones, 
 [) 'li^hed after the similitude of a palace. — David. 
 
 I have quoted to you 6ome wise sayings of 
 great men concern iug women. know of no 
 better standard by whicli to judge the purity, 
 and civilization and intelligence of any age than 
 
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 olutions today and doti't act, and the day of op- 
 portunity is gone and we cli?ise all our lives af- 
 ter tomorrow and never catch it. We have the 
 open door today which unlocks the situation of 
 tomorrow and we throw away the key when we 
 refuse to act. John B. Gough used to say that 
 a great many people had three hands, "A right 
 hand, a left hand and a little behindhand." 
 His terse saying is forcibly illustrated by a 
 brakeman named Joe Stoker. He was an easy 
 going man and visited the flat bottle occasion 
 ally. One evening in a heavy snow storm his 
 train was late. Between two stations the train 
 halted quickly. The engine had blown out its 
 cylinder head, and an express was due in a few 
 moments on the same track. Joe was ordered 
 by the conductor to take a red light back, but 
 he replied, ''There's no hurry." and continued, 
 "wait until I get my overcoat on." The con- 
 ductor answered gravely, ''Don't stop a moment 
 Joe. The express is due." "All right," said 
 Joe, but he did not hurry, he stopped to put his 
 coat on and then took another sip and moved 
 leisurely down the track. He had gone scarcely 
 ten paces when he heard the express. Then 
 he ran for the curve, but it was too late. The 
 standing train was telescoped, and the shrieks 
 of dying and tortured passengers and the hiss- 
 ing steam drove him insane. He ran away and 
 
THE IDEAL YOUNG WOMAN 
 
 181 
 
 was found on the morrow in a barn swinging 
 his lantern i) fore aa imaginary train, and cry- 
 ing, ''Oh, that 1 had." He was taken to an in- 
 sane asylum and in that sad place the saddest 
 cry and moan was from Joe, "Oh, that I had," 
 ''Oh that 1 had." Th@ young man who takes to 
 the drink and tramples his mother's wishes be- 
 neath his feet, when her life is wrecked and her 
 Jieart is broken and he comes home sober to see 
 %e precious dust laid away will cry out in soli- 
 tude for years to come, "Ob, that I had." And 
 on and on as long as the memory of the old home, 
 and the angel form wake up his sleeping soul 
 the cry will be, "Oh, that I harl " The invita- 
 tion comes to yon toniglit from the Blessed One, 
 ''Behold, now is the accepted time, behold, now 
 is the dny of salvation," and yon aiiswer '•n<^> 
 hurry, lime enough yet." In ?{fter years when 
 life is wre-'ked, and you aie an outcast and a 
 slave to evil, and your mnnhoo 1 and woman- 
 hood is all defaced within and without, you will 
 think of the day of your oppr>rtunity in a lr)v- 
 ing home and in the old church and cry out, 
 "Oh, that I had " 
 
 '*Thisday we fashion Destiny, our web of Fate we spin, 
 This day for all hereafter, choose we holiness or sin." 
 
 — Whittier. 
 
 Youth is the ruby and diamond period of life. 
 It is the time of ambition, of enthusiasm, of 
 oyous heart, and warm blood. Wesley and 
 
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 torturing of human beings in the Southland by 
 the hells of craelty and injustice, the social 
 leper plagues of our cities, and the corrupting 
 influence of money. The world demands men 
 of sacrifice and heroism and conscience. 
 
 PAUL HAD GOOD JUDGEMENT. 
 
 I verily believe some men can never have 
 good common sense, they were born without it 
 and while education may help, it cannot create 
 it. (Prison Swett Marden says, three college 
 graduates were found working on a sheep farm 
 in Australia, one from Oxford, one from Cam- 
 bridge and the other horn a Grerman University. 
 Trained to lead men they drove sheep. The 
 owner of the farm wis an ignorant, course sheep- 
 raiser. His three hired graduates could speak 
 foreign hinguages, and discuss theories of polit- 
 ical economy and philosophy, but he could make 
 money. Even the University could not supply 
 conunou sense. It was ''culture against ignor- 
 ance; the college against the ranch; and the 
 ranch bent every time." These young men 
 were book- men without pi'actical knowledge. 
 They illustrated Beecher's farm experience. 
 He had a farm of thirty-six acres called the 
 Peokshili farm. Mark Twain said he ran it by 
 the book His special weakness was liogs. He 
 buys the original pig for a dolkar and a linlf, and 
 foed.^ him f')rty bushels of corn and then sells 
 
PUSEJNG TO THE FEONT 
 
 171) 
 
 him for about nine dollars. This is the only 
 crop he ever makes any money in. He looses 
 on the corn bat makes seven dollars and a half 
 on the hoo'. Beeclier was a snecess at his legit- 
 imate calling, but these three young graduates 
 lacked the sixth sense which is common sense. 
 The Apostle knew books but he knew men also, 
 and won his laurels out in the world and learned 
 living men as well as printed books. 
 
 HE LAID GREAT STRESS ON THE NOW. 
 
 He said, "I press " He won all his victories 
 in the present tense. All great men have been 
 prompt men. Napoleon valued what he called 
 the, *'nick of time." He invited his marshals 
 to dine and began on time; they arrived just as 
 he finished. "Gentlemen," said he, "It is now 
 past dinner and we will immediately proceed to 
 business." Washington was very much like 
 Napoleon in this respect. New members of 
 Congress who were invited to dine would some- 
 times be late, and find the President eating 
 when he would say, "My cook never asks if the 
 visitors have arrived, but if the hour has ar- 
 rived." It would be* a great blessing if many 
 singers, and society people, ?nd business men, 
 and church people were sent to the public 
 schools again to learn that nine o'clock is nine 
 o'clock and not ten, "The mill can never grind 
 with the waters that are past." We make res- 
 
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 by hei women. Blindfold me and placp me in 
 a room, and then pjive me a true photograph of 
 the women of any age, of their culture of brain 
 and heart, and I will name. to you the age in 
 which they lived. Woman was last at the cross 
 and first at the grave of the Christ, she was the 
 first to preach the gospel of the resurrection, 
 she was the mother of the Son of man, she was 
 the climax of God's creative works, and has 
 opened the door to heathen lands, and let in 
 the gospel light to millions of her oppressed 
 sisters. 
 
 WOMAN HAS BEEN LONG DEBARRED OF HER 
 KINGDOM. 
 
 Man has kept her out of her inheritar.'ce, and 
 cheated her out of her birthright, and made 
 her a slave for thousands of years. It would 
 not be just to say that man has done this with 
 an enlightened conscience and with cruel de- 
 sign, but for want of the Christ gospel and the 
 Christ love. We turn to the Orient where the 
 Sun rises, and there the sun of civilization sets 
 and has been for the long dark centuries. There 
 is no night to be compared to the night of 
 heathenism. The baby girl in China finds no 
 tender welcome, and often the little angel is de- 
 stroyed; the women in India are the slaves of 
 the men, and in a darker period have been 
 burned to death on the bodies of their hus- 
 
THE IDEAL YOUNG WOMAN 
 
 185 
 
 bands, and have never been treated as mental 
 and iniinortal beings. It has been a long night 
 of social malaria, and the damps and miasmas 
 ( f awful woe; it has been a long night of tortu- 
 ous cruelty and untold barbarity. We have 
 given you a picture of churchless, bibleless and 
 Christless ra.ces. Turn ^'rom the land of the 
 minaret to the land of cl lurches, from the land 
 of tiie Koran to the land of the bible, from the 
 land of Bluiddism and Bralimanism and Parsee- 
 ism and Mohammedanism to the lands of the 
 gospel of Jesus Christ, and surely here we shall 
 find man unbolting the door to woman's king- 
 dom, and giving her the right of way to her 
 lawful inheritance. In the early part of this 
 century the chief occupation of woman v^as to 
 spin and weave and knit and embroider and cut 
 and make clothing for the family. She also 
 helped her husband and often worked with him 
 in the field and assisted him in the small store. 
 The idea of making money except in a very 
 small way was never thought of. The women 
 had but few property rights. They could not 
 have a legal right to their own earnings, or 
 even their own belongings until the 
 Women's Property Act in England and Ameri- 
 ca w^as passed. Woman was shut out from most 
 of the professions and the doors of colleges 
 largely closed against her It is better today. 
 
183 
 
 marrlagh: and rai^ homs 
 
 The doors to all professions are open to her, 
 and the door to the ballot box is more than 
 ajar for in some states she has the right of fran- 
 chise. She has rights today but n(jt all her 
 property rights. If a man who has no children 
 dies in Illinois his male relatives can come in 
 and share the property with his w^ife while in 
 the state of Colorado she inherits all his estate. 
 Today more than half the telegraph operators 
 are women, two-thirds the school teachers are 
 women and three-fourths the type-writers are 
 women. The male teacher averages forty-five 
 dollars per month whiie the female teacher av- 
 erages only thirty dollars per month. The 
 clerks in the government employ in Washing- 
 ton if males get from nine to eighteen hundred 
 dollars per year while the female clerks get 
 from six to twelve hundred per year. Today 
 one of the largest fruit growers in California is 
 a woman, and Miss Austin has created the rai- 
 son industry. Miss Sarah Cooper stands at the 
 head of the kindergarten movement. Efficiency 
 and not sex will unlock tlie d<3ors of the busi- 
 ness and professional worlds of tomorrow. 
 
 YOUNG WOMEN ARE EXPOSED TO GKEAT DANGERS. 
 
 The young woman who is incompetent to 
 manage even a small business at the age of 
 eighteen is expected to be wise enough to ac- 
 cept or reject a partner for life. If she makes a 
 
THE irEAL YOUNG \VOMAN 
 
 187 
 
 mistake it is a fatal one indeed. Even an. im- 
 prudent act on the part of a younu: woman is 
 often commented on with heartless cruelty. 
 Sometimes girls are coerced into matrimony, 
 a ad that to marry the carcass of an old man be- 
 cause he has money, and it is no surprise that 
 we have so many divorces and elopements. An- 
 otlier danger lies in the fact that the young 
 W(mian is often taught to represent Hit- showy 
 in phice of the real. If in some ages the dres.^ 
 of half dressed women has been disgraceful, and 
 in otlier ages the extravagance without limit the 
 men are chargeable with the fashions for they 
 have helped to make the fashions for they have 
 helped to make them by their admiration of 
 them. A lady asked Rev. John Newton for the 
 best rule for women to observe in dress. He 
 replied, "Madam, so dress, and so conduct yo^M-- 
 self, that persons who have been in your coil;- 
 pany shall not recollect what you had on." U. 
 must ever remain that a woman with a beaui i- 
 f ully draped form, and who makes the study of 
 her personal appearance almost a science, and 
 who lives well within her means shall be ad- 
 mired. Young women with the rose bud of in- 
 nocency blushing upon their cheeks and with 
 very little experience in the world are thrown 
 into the company of men twice their own aj^e, 
 and the man who deceives such holy simplicity 
 
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 and trust deserves the eternal damnation of 
 society. 
 
 THE IDEAL YOUNG WOMAN HAS AN AIM IN LIFE. 
 
 Every young women should have as definite 
 an aim in life as a young man. The silph-'ike 
 girl who acts the part of the butterfly in ihe 
 sunshine flitting fro ri place to place cm n3\^3r 
 succeed. Many indulge in day dreams of some 
 time being the lady of a mansion, or the centre 
 of social influence as if some exalted position 
 without preparation were their great mission in 
 life. God has designed you for some definite 
 calling in life and it will take the most pains- 
 taking care and self denial to attain to yoar 
 very best. Experience plays havoc with the 
 dreams of the vacant faced girl who sang sweet 
 lallabys to her heart, and thought if she had 
 wealth, and was free from toil she would be 
 happy. The great mission of life is not posi- 
 tion but duty. 
 
 "Honour and shame fro n no condition rise, 
 Ant well your part — there all the honour lie.^j/' 
 As I look into the bright constellation of il- 
 lustrious women who have shone as stars of the 
 first magnitude, I learn that they were all in- 
 dustrious, self sacrificing and devoted to their 
 mission in life. Draw a circle in your mental 
 vision around the bright galaxy of these shining 
 immortals: Florence Nightingale, ''the angel 
 
THE IDEAL YOUNG WOMAN 189 
 
 of the Crimea,'' and whose bosom Queen Vic- 
 toria jewellei with a ruby-red enamel cross on 
 a white tield encircled by a black band with 
 these words, ''Blessed are the mercifal;" E'iza- 
 beth Fry the philaathropist, baroness Bai-dett- 
 Coutts the benefactor, Alary A. Liverm ore the 
 friend of the wounded boys in blue, Helen 
 Hunt Jackson whose last verse of composition 
 was, 
 
 ''In outskirts of Thy kingdoms vast, 
 Father, tlie humblest spot ujive me; 
 Set me the lowliest task Thou hast, 
 Let me repentant work for Thee.'* 
 
 Harriet Beecher Stowe of world wide fame, 
 Susannah Wesley who is the mother of experi- 
 mental reli.tj:ion robed in spiritual power, and 
 Madame de Stael the only woman that Napoleon 
 Boneparte ever feared On the circle which 
 surrouii ds this grand constellation read the holy 
 trinity wliicli made them immortal — Duty, 
 Truth and Perseverance. O, the rubies and 
 diamonds and amethysts of genius, poetry and 
 philanthropy that have never come to the lii^ht 
 for want of definite aim and unswerving nde]ity, 
 Have a great purpose in life and tlien with all 
 the majesty of your soul press on to the goal. 
 
 BE INDUSTRIOrS. 
 
 The perspiration which b^vlds tlie black- 
 smith's brow as he wields the hammer not only 
 
190 
 
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 gives brawn to liis arm but sturdier matiliood, 
 the heroism of the gen'^ral in the storms of 
 battle, bearing the responsibility of a nation's 
 destiny carves deeper the furrows in his brow 
 l^rophetic of a more rugged and mountainous 
 character, the motives and holy inspirations 
 which throb in the bosom of the young woman 
 who is making a livelihood for an aged mother, 
 or for the little oi^e.s at home brings, her into 
 the kingdom of Jesus Christ who gave his life 
 for others. Tii:] iistry is not only a great posi- 
 tive blessing but a great preventative to evil. 
 Bishop Hall said, ''The industrious have no 
 leisure to sin; the idle have neither leisure nor 
 povv^er to avoid sin." The Turks have a proverb 
 which reads ''The devil tempts all other men 
 but idle men tempi the devil." God's vessels 
 for measuring out to the needs of his people 
 are as immense as the earth. He gives us 
 water by the river and the ocean, he gives us 
 light by the sun, he gives us fuel by great for- 
 ests and coal mines, he gives wheat and corn 
 by millions of acres, he gives us meat by the 
 ♦ cattle on a thousand hills, he gives us air by 
 aerial oceans but when he comes to give us time 
 it is only minute by minute, he never gives us 
 two minutes at a time. How important to use 
 well the golden moments. I want you to look 
 at a poor but industrious girl wliose name has 
 
THC IDEAL YOUNG WOMAN 
 
 191 
 
 b(^come a hoa.sehokl word — Mary A. Livermore. 
 Her parents were pnov and at the age of twelve 
 her heart was touched to gee her father work 
 so hard, and she learned dress-making and 
 earned thirty -seven cents per day to assist the^ 
 family. She next went to a clothing establish- 
 ment and made flannel shirts at six and one- 
 fourth cents each She longed for an educa- 
 tion and Dr. Neale the minister assisted her in 
 going to the Charlston Female Seminary. 
 When Abraham Lincoln made liis call for 75,- 
 000 men she was in Boston and heard the bands 
 X)lay and saw tiie men move to the front, and 
 after t:iey left s )me of their wives fainted and 
 again her heart was tvjuched. She went to 
 Fort D;)n^^lsoii an 1 on to Vicksburg, and was 
 m(3st efficient in the San. itary and Christian 
 Commission which helped the battles of the 
 Uiiion to arj average of $7d.00v) to comfort and 
 cheer the wounded. She h-i^ given an inspira- 
 tion to girls to make m.ost of tliemselves. The 
 girl w IS m other to the woman and her industry 
 and kindness for her father broadened out until 
 it readied the suffering of the Union ni'my. 
 Love and industry and heroism were the three 
 graces which lifted her out of' the common walks 
 of life and enthroned hex queen in the hearts 
 of grateful millions. 
 
192 MAKRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 THE IDEAL YOUNG WOMAN IS INTELLIGENT. 
 
 David said, ''That our daaghters may be as 
 corner stones polished after the similitude of a 
 palace." The polished corner stones of the pal- 
 *aGe are both beautiful and useful, and thus it 
 should be in the education of a young woman. 
 It is not merely for display, to trum on the 
 piano and entertain, but to be a great factor in 
 bearing up the ltt nid palace of a christian civil- 
 ization. Our ])\<y\i schools and colleges rightly 
 call their gra liiiiiag exercises Commencement. 
 It is only the beu^inning of an education; they 
 have opened the door of knowledge and looked 
 inside and now they are to enter the» temjole and 
 investigate for all the years to come. I blush 
 for the young man or woman who says, "I fin- 
 ished my education last June." This is an age 
 ot educational luxuries in free libraries, and 
 magazines, and lectures and able educators. 
 You may be at work from six to ten hours per 
 day and yet be well read in the history and lit- 
 erature of the world. If you read fifty pages 
 every night you will read in a single year 18,- 
 250 pages, or sixty books of three hundred pages 
 each. A great reader not long since said, "I 
 regret leaving this world with so many books 
 not read." We sometimes think that all the 
 great men and women were born great. "A 
 great man or woman in letters without great 
 
THE IDEAL YOUNG WOMAN 
 
 193 
 
 scholarship is well nigh impossible." We men- 
 tion the name of Harriet Beecher Stowe as one 
 of America's most illustrious women. She in- 
 herited much but acquired more. At seven 
 years of age she learned twenty-seven long 
 hymns and two long chax3ters in the bible. At 
 twelve she wrote an essay on, ''Can the Immor- 
 tality of the Soul be proved by Nature?" She 
 next entered the school of her sister Catherine 
 and matur^^d into splendid womanhood with a 
 strong and highly polished mind, and when the 
 question of slavery began to agitate the Chris- 
 tian people of the country her great heart 
 buraed for the oppressed, and from that burn- 
 ing hea»rt came Uncle Tom's Cabin which had 
 a circulation of 300,000 in less than a year. Her 
 bor>k deluged the country with a great tidal 
 wave of sympathy for the Negro and swept over 
 Er.rope and thus she besieged the strongholds 
 of prejudice, and stormed the forts of all oppo- 
 sition by a revolution of ideas set on fire with a 
 loving heart. This climax was not reached by 
 a day dreamer, or a fortune waiter but by a 
 woman whose brain and heart and hands were 
 full to overflcwing with duty and industry and 
 love. She did not become famous in a day, but 
 was in training for more than forty years, and 
 &od had her ready around the curve waiting 
 when the opportune time came to strike for lib- 
 
194 
 
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 erty with the hammer of love upon the rocky 
 hearts of millions, 
 
 THE IDEAL YOUNG WOMAN IS A CHRISTIAN. 
 
 "The king's daughter is all glorious wiihiii, 
 her clothing is of wrought gold." What are 
 the characteristics of a Christian lady? It is 
 not that grace of form learned in the ball room, 
 it is not a code on etiquette to be put on and off 
 on set occasions, it is not merely soft hands and 
 delicate and fashionable apparel. The Saxon 
 word lady used to mean bread distributer, but 
 it means vastly more. It is,' "benevolence in 
 trifles," it is amiability of disposition, it is free- 
 dom from selfishness and vanity, it is all the 
 graces of mind and heart ripened luscious and 
 sweet under the benign influences of the gos- 
 pel. The difference in the condition of women 
 in heathen lands and in America is the plus or 
 minus the Word of God. The only perfect 
 ideal for life is the Christ; ideal of sacrifice, 
 ideal o^ purity, ideal of love, ideal of usefulness, 
 ideal of long suffering, all the virtues and graces 
 of life blended in the pure white light and life 
 of the Son of man. 
 
 THE REGAL INFLUENCE OF WOMAN. 
 
 I wish to inspire you to nobler efforts by what 
 women have done and what can be done again. 
 She has been the life of the Sunday School, the 
 Prayer Meeting, the cause of Missions and the 
 
THE IDEAL YOUNG WOMAN 
 
 195 
 
 church the world over. With her pen she has 
 stirred the world. It was Mrs. Hemans who 
 wrote, ''I hear thee speak of the better land;" 
 it was Mrs. Thorpe who wrote, ''Curfew shall 
 not ring tonight;" it was Eliza Cook who wrote, 
 ''The old Arm-Chair;" It was Mrs, Wakefield 
 who wrote, "Over the river they beckon to me;" 
 it was Mrs. Allen who wrote, "Rock me to 
 sleep, mother, rock me to sleep," and it was 
 Miss Julia Ward Howe who wrote "The Battle 
 Hymn of the Republic." It is not long since 
 woman has had equal priveleges with man in ed- 
 ucation, and when one hundred years more is 
 hers of splendid opportunity, her pen and brain 
 and heart will usher in a grander day. Conse- 
 crated woman w^ith her one hand upon the cra- 
 dle and the other clinging to the cross of Christ 
 will embrace the world and bring it as a trophy 
 to the feet of our Immanuel. 
 
196 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 The Old Folks at Home. 
 
 I^©Gtiar© XIX. 
 
 Thou shall rise up before the hoary head, and 
 honor the face of the old man and fear th}^ God. — 
 Moses. 
 
 "The hoary head is a crown of glory if found in 
 the ways of righteousness 
 
 "Honor th}^ father and thy mother that thy days 
 may be long in the land which the Lord thy God 
 giveth thee/' 
 
 I have a profound reverence for old people. 
 We celebrate Children's day, and preach ser- 
 mons to young men and women and it is right. 
 We cannot take too much pains with the young 
 who are starting in life that they may be fitted 
 and equipped for success. They are the leaders 
 and reformers, and benefactors, and heroes, and 
 champions of the cause of right of tomorrow 
 Our old people won the mighty victories of 
 yesterday, and have borne the burdens of state 
 and church; they have done more for us than 
 we can ever do in return, and they have lovvid 
 us more tenderly than we have ever loved them 
 The heights of their love for us we shall never 
 be able to attain unto, and the depths of their 
 
WILLIAM TAYLOR, D. 
 Bishop of Africa 
 
THE OLD FOLKS AT HOME 
 
 197 
 
 sacrifice we shall never fathom until we become 
 parents and by experience feel the yearnintJ^s of 
 a love that is stront^er than death. It is fitting 
 today that we visit the old folks at home and 
 spend an hour in appreciation of their services 
 to us and our love for them . 
 
 HOW THEY HAVE BLESSED US 
 
 They have credited and deeded over to us a 
 new earth. They have willed us a new world 
 of invention, of civilization. They came to 
 thess great prairies with horses and mules and 
 heavy wagons to carve out for us a land as rich 
 as the valley of the Nile. They not only gave 
 their labors, but their sons and lives they laid 
 upon the altars of our country and redeemed it 
 from the curse of slavery. They have seen an 
 old world buried, and a new w^orld created 
 They stood by the grave of the flint locks and 
 candles, and old press and mill, and hand rake 
 and flail and sickle and cradle and scythe and 
 saw them all buried beyond the possibility of a 
 resurrection. Says an old man I am contemp- 
 orary with the railroad, the telegraph, the steam- 
 ship, the photograph, the sewing and knitting 
 machine, the steam plow and cook stove, the 
 mower and reaper, the harvester, the cylinder 
 press, the match, gaslight, electric light, lamp 
 light, telephone, the gattling gun, ocean steam 
 er, and canned fruit. This is a new world, a 
 
198 
 
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 new creation. Turn baek the hand of the cl©ck 
 of time for one hundred years and make the 
 mighty contrast between two worlds, the old 
 and the new and then can we comprehend in 
 part the great blessings that liave been willed 
 to us by our ancestors. We think we would 
 like to talk with Daniel about the lion's den, 
 and Moses about the Red Sea but we have 
 greater priveleges. We can talk with men to- 
 day who have tamed the lions without an angel's 
 help. We have thought wonderful that Q-od 
 should make the waters of the Red 8ea stand 
 up as heaps, but today man can make W iter 
 run up hill and our vessels climb the docks lik© 
 a flight of stairs. There is as much water runs 
 up hill as down. The Sun is God's great en- 
 gine to lift millions of tons of water over the 
 Rockies and AUeghanies and let them fall in 
 misting spray ov gentle shower upon our great 
 reaches of territory. Our fathers and mothers 
 have sacrificed for us and we owe them tons of 
 gratitude. 
 
 HOW SHOULD WE TREAT THEM. 
 
 As the eye grows dim and the ear heavy and 
 the step feeble, and often the partner gone on 
 before we should be all the more attentive. 
 "Honor thy father and thy mother" Qod says. 
 There is no time specified when we shall cease 
 to honor them but as long as they live. The 
 
THE OLD FOLKS AT HOME 
 
 199 
 
 son and daughter of fifty are to honor their 
 parents as much as when they were fifteen 
 There are no conditions given under which we 
 are to cease to respect our parents. If they do 
 things that are wrong still it is our duty and 
 God's eternal command to honor them. I can- 
 not respect a young man who talks badly about 
 his parents. We are to honor them with our 
 love, and true love will show itself in a thous- 
 and little deeds of kindness. There is much 
 pur© religion in coming home and relating the 
 news of the day to the aged ones, I have seen 
 homes where the grand parents w^ere crowded 
 to the garrets to make room for the grand- 
 children. There is no place at table or room 
 in the house too good for the old people, and 
 they ought to be thought of first. Let me give 
 you two or three pictures tkat are worthy a 
 place in every home. Millard Fillmore's father 
 was a farmer, and Millard was president of 
 these United States. Some children are 
 asham ed of their parents, the way they dress 
 and the language they use, and they apologise 
 for them to strangers. The President's father 
 lived in an old farmhouse and was very plain 
 and eighty years of ae:e when his son was presi- 
 dent. He went to the Capital to visit at the 
 White House. His son gave him a royal re- 
 ception and treated him as a prince and the 
 
200 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 octogenarian loved to sit up until midnight and 
 tell how his son received hini. There was a 
 majesty and a royalty about that son in the 
 treatment of his father that ought to be en- 
 graved on the hearts of all young men. I read 
 a little sermon the other day about a forlorn 
 and palsied old woman who went to a little 
 smoky, filthy depot to sell some trinkets to get 
 her bread to eat. It was a cold and snowy day 
 and life's plainest necessities drove this old 
 woman out into the storm to earn a few pennies. 
 She was almost blind and when she entered the 
 depot she could not find the radiators. A lady 
 was lying half asleep on a sofa when she opened 
 her eyes and led the old blind woman to the ra- 
 diators, and got her a chair to sit down on. 
 She spread out her ragged and wet mittens to 
 dry when the lady asked her if she would not 
 like a cup of tea? '^Sakes alive: do they keep 
 tea to this depot?" cried the old lady. She 
 took the tea saying as she -sipped it with a rel- 
 ish, 'Hhis does warm my heart," Then this 
 good lady bought some of her plain wares and 
 left. There is but little to draw you to a 
 ragged beggar woman, but that little act of 
 charity was so simple and Christlike that I am 
 sure around the throne of God was heard once 
 more "Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one 
 of the least of these, my brethren, ye have done 
 
THE OLD FOLKS AT HOME 
 
 201 
 
 it unto me." There is a picture in the Old 
 Testament about an old father and his boy that 
 ^oes CO my very heart, You remember when 
 Joseph became prime minister of Egypt and 
 his father was in poverty at home. Joseph was 
 surrounded by royalty and was next to Pharoah 
 upon his throne, and yet he made no excuses 
 about his father. Some would have said I can- 
 not have my father come here, I will send him 
 plenty to live on at home, or if he comes I will 
 meet him and care for him in some country 
 home. Yes there are many funerals we attend 
 of old people where the black crape hanging on 
 the door gives the lie to the within for there is 
 really gladness when the old person is gone. 
 Ja3ob had no property to will and he was just 
 a plain farmer with long beard and not accus- 
 tomed to royalty. He would very likely shock 
 many of the aristocracy at court. Jacob went 
 down to Egypt in a plain wagon and Joseph 
 with a son's affection went out to meet him and 
 jumped out of his chariot and climbed into the 
 old wagon and fell on his father's neck and 
 kissed him, and led the way with a military es- 
 cort and introduced him to Pharoah's courtiers, 
 and to the king, and was the happiest man in 
 all Egypt. That is the way to treat father and 
 mother. Go and see your parents when you 
 can, and write them often and God say^ 'Hhy 
 
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 days shall be long in the land." 
 
 HOW TO MAKE OLD AGE HAPPY. 
 
 Old age is a judgement day. Tf the past has 
 been squandered thoughts like these will hautit 
 us, "Oh what I might have been." Don't retire 
 from all work too soon. A garden patch or 
 some easy toil fills many an hour with heart 
 ease. It is in your memory that King William 
 of Prusaia conquered France at the age of 73 
 Lord Beaconsfield began to disturb the world 
 at seventy, and William Gladstone i^ still 
 mighty with pen and in counsel. McCauley 
 was forty-eight when he issued his first and 
 second volumes of his history of England. 
 Peter Cooper said when he was ninety-three he 
 expected to do his best work yet. and he 
 established a training school for artizans in 
 mechanical trades for all nationalities. Many 
 aged people shorten their days because they 
 forget that they are old and cannot regain their 
 strength as rapidly as in youth. The religion 
 of Jesus Christ does more for old age than all 
 other sources combined. What inspiring hopes 
 of heaven, and loved ones thrill and fire the 
 heart as the earthen vase grows thin. Paul was 
 happy and triumphant when he could reach 
 death with his hand. Hear him give his won- 
 derful testimony in old age, ''I have fought a 
 :^'ood fight, I have kept the faith henceforth 
 
THE OLD FOLKS AT HOME 
 
 203 
 
 there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness 
 which the Lord, the righteous jud<^e shall give 
 me at that day." How God lets down to his 
 agad servants the chariot of his promises. "Be- 
 loved, now are we the sons of God and it doth 
 not yet appear what we shall be, but this we 
 know that when he shall appear we shall be like 
 him for we shall see him as he is." "Yea though 
 I walk throug:h the valley of the shadow of death 
 I will fear no evil for thou art with me, thy rod 
 and thy stalf they comfort me." No book speaks 
 so grandly of God's aged saints as the Bible. 
 No earthly crown can compare with the silver 
 locks of old age if found pure and right. The 
 crown of Ivan contains 841 diamonds, the crown 
 of Peter 887 diamonds, the crown of England 
 1703, the imperial crown of Russia 3500, and 
 the crown of France 5,352 diamonds, but all 
 these cannot compare with the crown of glory, 
 the crown of life, the crown of rejoicing. We 
 cannot measure our age by years alone. Some 
 live more in ten years than others do in twenty. 
 
 "He liveth long who liveth well; 
 All other life is short and vain ; 
 He liveth longest who can tell 
 Of living most for heavenly gain. 
 
 Be what thou seemesc ; live thy creed ; 
 Hold up to earth the torch divine; 
 Be what thou prayest to be made 
 Let the great Master's steps be thine.'* 
 
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 There are two sides to old age. It is rather 
 solemn to feel that life is terminating, and gilt- 
 edge it as we may yet it is a great solemn fact. 
 Grey hairs, feeble steps, deep cut lines in time 
 worn faces, trembling hands are all true proph- 
 ets. Most of this life is gone, at best but a frag- 
 ment of it remains. The sands in the hour 
 glass are nearly run out, and this looks sad to 
 the man who has all behind him and nothing 
 before. There is another side to old age and it 
 is a bright one. Lord Palmnrston when asked 
 how old he was replied, '^on the bright side of 
 seventy," for he was over seventy. The pains 
 and adversities and persecutions nearly all 
 passed and the glorious all before. Like Victor 
 Hugo you may say, '^Winter is on my head^ 
 but eternal Spring is in my heart.'"' On the 
 dark side of seventy you have seen your fairest 
 blossoms fade away, you have stood mere than 
 once by the open grave of your loved ones, but 
 now most of your acquaintances have preceeded 
 you and there await you. Who can weigh the 
 glory that awaits you. You will never see your 
 mansion through glasses, or listen to the music 
 of the skies through dull ears, or walk the gol- 
 den streets with staff in hand. These are sup- 
 ports to a feeble body, but God will give every- 
 one of his people a glorious body. Redemp- 
 tion will never be complete until the body is 
 
THE OLD F0LK8 AT HOME 
 
 205 
 
 raised an incorruptible body. The soul never 
 grows old but move and more vigorous 
 unto the perfect day. I congratulate you 
 today on your prospects in nearing 
 home on your success in overcoming 
 the storms of life thus far, on your glorious 
 f<iith and hope in Jesus Christ, on the grand 
 inheritance which awaits you, and on the great 
 company which shall welcome you to the new 
 home, and I shall not be at all surprised if your 
 first utterance would be. ''The half has not been 
 told." Fathers and mothers in Israel wdio have 
 maintained the faith, to you I dedicate this ad- 
 dress today, to your peace and hope and com- 
 fort. May the eternal One give you all a glori- 
 ous sunset, a safe anchorage, and an abundant 
 entrance into his kingdom is my prayer. 
 
206 MAKRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 Degrees in Heaven. 
 
 I^^etur© XX. 
 
 In my fathar's house are many mansions, if it 
 were not so 1 would hav»j told you, I go to prepare 
 a place for you. — Jesus. 
 
 If loftier posts superior state declare ; 
 
 More virtuous acts if ampler meeds requite; 
 
 If brightest crowns on noblest prowess light, 
 
 And well-sown fields a fuller harvest bear; 
 
 If thrones, dominions, princedoms, powers there are 
 
 Which God's inferior hosts excel in might, 
 
 If day's bright orb outshine the lamp of night, 
 
 And Hesper's radiance the remotest star: 
 
 Then shall the younger brethern of the sky, 
 
 If right I scan the records of their fate. 
 
 In varied ranks of social harmony 
 
 God's mount encircle. Glorious is the state 
 
 E'en of the lowest there: but seats moie nigh 
 
 The Sovereign's throne His greater st;rvants wait. 
 
 — Bishop Mant. 
 
 We all desire to know something of the coun- 
 try where we are going to live. People who 
 are going to make California, or Florida their 
 home are much interested in these states. They 
 talk about them and read about them and in- 
 quire about their climate, soil, fruit an d fe ilility 
 
DEGKEES IN HEAVEN 
 
 207 
 
 So we desire to leani something today of the 
 variety, wealth and grandeur of heaven. It is 
 our final and abiding home, and there we have 
 all some precious treasures, and to that home 
 we will take all that is imperishable and valua- . 
 ble. I am greatly interested in heaven. The 
 Saviour's description of heaven in the fourteen- 
 th chapter of John's gospel has comforted the 
 sorrowing millions in all ages. We cannot get 
 lost, we will have a good travelling companion, 
 one who has been over the road before, and he 
 says, "I will come again and receive you to my- 
 self. '^When we reach the end of life's journey 
 we will have a mansion prepared by the Son of 
 God especially to our individual tastes, comfort 
 and joy. May the Holy Spirit help us today in 
 c mforting your hearts with the prospect of the 
 mansions of God. 
 
 THERE WILL BE DEGREES IN HEAVEN— MANY 
 MANSIONS. 
 
 In the ancient world many believed that they 
 would follow in the fuiure life the employment 
 they had been accustomed to here. We are 
 graded in our emijloyment and hapijiness every 
 where in this life. The flowers differ in fra- 
 grance and in bloom, the birds in plumage? 
 grace and song, the rivers in color, grace and 
 majesty; the landscape in foliage, mountain peak 
 and fertile valley, the stars differ, the seas dif- 
 
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 fer; we have no monotony on earth and why 
 should we have in heaven, idere each one has 
 his own peculiar gift and taste. Souie serve 
 the Lord with eloquent tongue, some with facile 
 pen, others with wealth and others by patience 
 on a sick bed. In the church and state some 
 have two talents and others five and ten. Grod 
 has made some apostles, some paators, some 
 teachers and others evangelists. He has allot- 
 ed to men various capacities, tastes and powers, 
 and in heaven we must believe that there will 
 be even greater variety. Every taste will be 
 consulted, and every one assigned his lot ac- 
 cording to his ability and fitness. The founda- 
 tions of the city are garnished with all manner 
 of precious stones, jasper, sapphire, beryl, to- 
 paz, chrysoprasus, jacinth and amethyst, greater 
 than the foundations of any earthly city. We 
 must not be too literal in our description of 
 heaven, and yet there is no other way to convey 
 to mortal minds the grandeur of heaven but by 
 comparison with something that we know about. 
 We believe in the fatherhood of God and the 
 brotherhood of man, and that we are all heirs 
 to sunlight, puie air and many great blessings, 
 and yet we differ. 
 
 WE DIFFER HERE. 
 
 Our farms differ, our houses from the wig- 
 wam of the Indian to the palatial mansion. We 
 
DEGREES IN HEAVEN 
 
 209 
 
 differ in health from the poor invalid to the 
 milliouMire of body, from the pale consumptive 
 to Viw iiiRii with rosy cheek, and arm of brawn 
 and who ca/i shoulder a quarter of a ton. We 
 differ intellectually from the man with inactive 
 brain to the man who moves the world by steam, 
 and weighs God's great planets on the scales 
 and measures them with tape. We scorn the 
 words aristocracy and upper crust but we are 
 graded nevertheless. In some of the older 
 countries parents think more of -a good pedi- 
 gree in the young man the daughter is going to 
 marry than a splendid man without a pedigree. 
 Here we respect the man first, and every one 
 stands or falls on his own merit or demerit. 
 The Oldest son does not get all the property, 
 nor is any man born a king unless he has the 
 king in him and has shown it to the world. 
 The rail-splitier can become the nation's presi- 
 dent if he has th*^ president in him. This is 
 God-like who exalts John Bunyan to a crown, 
 and John B. Gougli the drui^kard to be "a priest 
 unto God forever." We differ not only socially 
 but morally from the man whose conscience is 
 seared with a hot iron to the man who is inca- 
 pable of doing a mean thing, who has no price 
 on his principles, and whom God can trust to 
 the ends of the earth . In heaven we will not 
 differ in health for "the inhabitants never say 
 
210 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 they are sick,'' and in many other respects we 
 will not differ, but still our talents and pursuits 
 and tastes will differ. The lily will never be- 
 come the rose "nor the violet the pansy, but 
 each will be fairer and more beautiful after its 
 kind." ''A topaz or a sapphire of earth if taken 
 to build the New Jerusalem does not beoom-j 
 an emerald or an amethyst, but remnins a topaz 
 or sapphire still. And translated from the tar- 
 nish of time it is easy to understand how each 
 glorified nature will attain in a higher sphere 
 its original fitness, and inherent affinities, and 
 how for the many mansiotis there will not only 
 be many occupants, but every occupant may 
 have its own office even there. It is easy 
 to imagine that Isaac still will meditate, and 
 that the sweet singer of Israel will neither be at 
 a loss for a golden harp, nor g:ood matter in a 
 song. It is easy to imagine that Paul will find 
 an outlet for his eloquence, and Peter for his 
 energy; but it is not easy to conceive how John 
 the diviae can be the same as Matthew and 
 Phillip, or Martha the busy housekeeper the 
 same as Mary the adoring listener. To evei y 
 precious stone there remains its several tints; 
 to every star its own glory, to every denizen of 
 the church above his own offic e, and to every 
 member of the heavenly his own mansion. — 
 Hamilton. 
 
DEGREES IN HEAVEN 211 
 
 If we sow largely we shall reap largely, if we 
 build of precious stone, silver and gold we shall 
 have a mansion of the same quality. Paul 
 says in speaking of the resurrection that all 
 flesh is not the same. There is flesh of man, 
 of beasts, of birds and of flshes. They all differ 
 yet each body is fitted to its own place. He 
 who knows all about your tastes, and whether 
 you love music or flowers or poetry will so har- 
 monize your heavenly mansion to your redeemed 
 taste that you will love your own mansion bet- 
 ter than any other. "We shall differ from each 
 other as the stars of the firmament that shineth 
 forever and ever." 
 
 HEAVEN WILL BE A RICH PLACE — A PLACE OF 
 GRANDEUR. 
 
 God has built up his visible throne in heaven. 
 This earth is his footstool. This earth is very 
 beautiful carpeted with carnations, waxlike 
 lillies and the peerless pansy. She is rich in 
 rivers from the Niagara, one of the wonders of 
 the world, to the St, Lawrence, winding its way 
 through a thousand little continents and the 
 silver streamlet lost in prairie or meadow bloom. 
 The skies are set in gems of unspeakable gran- 
 deur, curtained with azure blue and fraught 
 with glittering diamonds by night, and robed by 
 day with the meridian splendor of the sun. 
 Poets have described it m song, and harpers 
 
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 bave harped it on llieir harps, and yet it is only 
 God's footstool. His palace is in heaven. We 
 speak fio-uratively. We are on the footstool 
 and are j.a)ing to the palace of the King. How 
 brilliant his burning throne, how glorious the 
 wing of s'Taph . John was a pri vileged man, 
 and saw heaven from the isle of Patmos. He 
 says the streets are of gold, the walls are of jas- 
 per and the river of life flows from underneath 
 the throne of God. He described the city as 
 1500 miles long, and 1500 miles wide and 1500 
 miles high and all the walls are jewels. You 
 cannot see heaven in a day. The gates are 
 X)earls, the flowers never fade and its rivers glit- 
 ter like crystals " 
 
 ''Oh Ihe transporting ra[)turons scenes, 
 Tlia: rises lo my sight. 
 Sweet fields 'arrayed in living green, 
 And rivers of delight.'' 
 
 Paul speaks of the unseau^hable riclies of 
 God, and of the far more exceeding weights of 
 gloiy. Who can understand the meaning of 
 such language, ^'glory,'* "weights of glory,'' 
 ''eternal weights of glory.'' All comparison is 
 a failure. These material figures are but sym- 
 bols of the social, and intellectual and moral 
 grandeur of heaven. Look up and claim by 
 faith this vast inheritance. What matters it 
 about our poor houses, and hard times, and light 
 
DEGREES IN HEAVEN 
 
 213 
 
 afflictions here; the men and women who pray 
 and live the principles of the gospel don't retire 
 on a section of land, or a few thousands in the 
 bank; but on a good character, and a precious 
 hope, and ''the exceeding promises of God." 
 They are God's millionaires here and will be in 
 heaven. 
 
 *'A tent (;r a cottage why slioiild I care. 
 They're building a palace for me over chere, 
 An exile from home yet still may I sing 
 All glory to God I'm the child of a king.** 
 
 THERE WILL BE A GREAT MANY PEOPLE IN HEAVEN 
 
 John said, ''I he?rd the voice of many angels 
 round about the throne, and the number of them 
 was ten thousand times ten thousand, and 
 thousands of thousands, and lo I beheld a great 
 number which no man could number of all na- 
 tions and kindreds and peoples and tongues." 
 No man can take tlip census of heaven it is toe 
 great. The longer I preach the gospel, the more 
 I understand the bible, the more people I see in 
 heaven. ^ 11 the children will be there and I re- 
 joice in tlie d.^y when infant damnation has been 
 preached out of the universe of God, All the 
 heathen will l)e there who have lived up to the 
 best light they have, and all nationalities and 
 churches, and legions untold outside of all the 
 churches. God is going to save this world un- 
 til '^righteousness shall cover the earth as th© 
 
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 waters cover the great deep." One writer says 
 if heaven be a cube of 1500 miles, and we leave 
 one-half of it for the throne of Grod, and the 
 court of heaven, and one-fourth of it for streets, 
 and divide the remaining fourth into rooms 19 
 feet square and 16 high that we will have five 
 trillions, seven hundred and forty-three mill- 
 ions, seven hundred and fifty-nine thousands 
 of rooms. Suppose the world will always con- 
 tain 909,000,090 of a population, and a genera- 
 tion lasts thirty-three years and that the world 
 lasts 100,000 years. Then suppose there were 
 11,230 worlds equal to this earth there would 
 be a room 16 feet long by 17 wide and 15 high 
 for every person in the 11,230 worlds, and yet 
 there would be room. There will not be a va- 
 cant mansion in heaven, or an unworn crown 
 "In my father's house are many man- 
 sions." If God spared not his only begotten 
 Son to give us eternal life he will spare no pains 
 to make heaven delightful for us. If you have 
 afflictions, and persecution*, and poverty to con- 
 tend with it is better higher up. If you feel 
 that a part of you lies buried in the cemetery 
 in a lovely child or companion it will not always 
 be so, for he "shall fashion these vile bodies 
 like unto his own glorious body." Many aged 
 and afflicted ones, voice their faith by saying: 
 
DEGREES IN HEAVEN 
 
 215 
 
 **Let me go where none are weary — 
 
 Where is raised no wail of woe ; 
 
 liet me go and l)athe tuy spirit 
 
 In the raptures angels know. 
 
 Let me go for bliss eternal 
 
 Lures my soul away, away, 
 
 And the victor's song triumphant 
 
 Thrills my heart; I cannot stay. 
 
 Let me go ; why should I tarry? 
 What has earth to bind me here? 
 What but cares and toiL^ and sorrows? 
 What but death and pain and fear? 
 Let me go for hopes most cherished, 
 Blasted round me often lie. 
 
 I've gathered brightest flowers, 
 But to see them fade and die.*' 
 
 Amidst the conflicts of life listen to the sweet 
 music of the skies, look at the bending, beckon- 
 ing forms of loved ones, have faith in the one 
 who said, "In my Father's house are many 
 mansions'', and eteraally resolve God helping 
 you to enter the haven of rest. Amen. 
 
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 Our Heavenly Home. 
 
 I^©(3tur@ XXI. 
 
 In my Father's house are many mansions: if it 
 were not so, I would have told you. I go to pre- 
 pare a place for you. — Jesus. 
 
 In thy presence is fulness of joy ; at thy right 
 hand there are pleasures forevermore. — David. 
 
 To an inheritance incorruptible and nndefiled 
 and that fadeth not away, reserved in heaven tor 
 you. — Peter. 
 
 Beloved, now are we the sons ot God, and it 
 doth not yet appear what we shall he: but we know 
 that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him ; 
 for we shall see him as he is. And the city had 
 no need of the sun, neither of the moon, to shine 
 in it: for the glory of God did lighten it, and the 
 Lamb is the light thereof. 
 
 And God shall wipe away all tears from their 
 eyes: and there shall be no more death, neither 
 sorrow nor crying, neither shall there be any more 
 pain. 
 
 And the gates of it shall not be shut at all by 
 day: for there shall l»e no night there. 
 
OUR HEAVENLY HOME 
 
 217 
 
 Therefore are they before the throne of God 
 and srrve hi u day and night in Ins temple: and he 
 t()iit >iti( th on t he throne shaii dwell among them. 
 Th^rM hhali hunger no ni'^re, neither thirst any 
 HKn.-; neither shall the sun light on them nor any 
 heat 
 
 Knr th(^ LamI) whieh is in the midst of the throne 
 sh;dl feed them, and slall leaci them unto living 
 foiintains of water: and (^od shall wipe away all 
 trar'^ from their eyes. — John. 
 
 T have read to you the most wonderful prom- 
 ises about heaven lhat ever Have been recorded. 
 The bible is tlie on^y book which Liives us a 
 glimpse of our heavenly home. We cannot at- 
 tfrin unto the ^n'Htuieur of heaven by reason, it 
 is b eyond the read] of tlje rugged and immortal 
 m;srl to p irt I 'i ^ v^il w'n -li hides from us the 
 gi'»ry of our eternal home. I have read to you 
 wlud Jesus siys about it, and quoted extensive- 
 ly from John wiio saw more of heaven than any 
 r^ ;:^ (• nuar. He was pei'm^'tted to look in, and 
 I <■ ! f s en us a dcFcription o^ it that charms 
 a 1(1 inspii-es every chili! of hope. We know 
 mnr^li of (HI;- earthly homes; they are rich in sa- 
 cred men ( i ( s. We Inive seen ihtni rainbowed 
 with bnds of rarest promise, we have basked in 
 tlieir holy (ielights in the noonday splendor of 
 their ^Ir.ry. and we have wept in their shadows, 
 and beneath the weeping willows sat alone in 
 
218 
 
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 the midnight of sorrow and hearrache. There 
 is no comparison between the old and new 
 home, the earthly and the heavenly. We are 
 all moving today from home to home and it is 
 fitting that we should sing and talk about tlie 
 home we are going to 
 
 OUR HOPES OF HEAVEN HAVE LIFTED FROM OUR 
 BACKS life's heaviest BURDENS AND TURNED 
 THE DARKEST NIGHT INTO BRIGHTEST DAY. 
 
 Our hopes of heaven have cheered our droop- 
 ing spirits m the grinding struggles for a live- 
 lihood, when poverty pressed sorely upon us, as 
 w@ thought of the time when all would be the 
 millionaires of glory and the poorest would 
 trample beneath his feet the gold which the 
 richest of earth ccvet. When the tiny hands 
 were folded on the bosom of our darling, and 
 the rosewood coffin was covered over with earth, 
 and our hearts were broken, we remembered 
 that he said, ^'suffer the little ones to come unto 
 me," and that with David we should go to them 
 some day, and our precious faith that the little 
 ones only passed from mother's arms up to the 
 amis of God was such a benediction to us that 
 our hearts were not half so sore. When your 
 motives were wrongly interpreted, and you were 
 innocently persecuted, and defrauded out of 
 your home the thoughts that some day "we 
 shall know as we are known," and "all things 
 
OUR HEAVENLY HOME 
 
 219 
 
 work together for good to those who love God 
 solaced your hearts with most blessed hopes, 
 and when old age environs us and the earthly 
 home is fading how delightful to think that 
 (io.i will send an escoit for us, and it may be 
 our dearest friends and we shall enter ''the 
 house not made with hands, eternal in th© 
 heavens." These purifying, uplifting thoughts 
 of lieaven have taken the sting out of all the 
 sorrows of earth. 
 
 *'Con)e ye disconsolate, where'er ye langnish, 
 Come, to the mercy-seat fervently kneel; 
 liere Inin^' your woiuuled hearts, here tell your 
 anguish. 
 
 Karth has no sorrow tliat heaven cannot heal. 
 
 Joy to the comfortU^ss, liuhf. to the stra\ing, 
 iione, vvhrn all others die fadeless and pure; 
 Here speaks the Comforter in merely saying, 
 Karth has no sorrow that heaven cannot cure.*' 
 
 Heaven is a theme too wonderful and exhaust- 
 less to crowd irto a short hour on earth with 
 our limited capacity and knowledge. I can onl}^ 
 ho| e to ope J I the docjr and ask you to look upon 
 cniiiitless numbers all of which are like unto 
 ill* S(!ii i f God, and to listen to the new song 
 It 1« le the llirone as the voice of many waters 
 by nmi thousand times ten thousand without a 
 discord. 
 
 WE SHALL HAVE AN INCOPEUPTIBLE BODY. 
 
 'Vl t se mortal bodies are all born heirs to the 
 
220 
 
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 cofBn and the ,^rave. We j/et tired po easily, 
 aud the cares and responsibilities of life op- 
 press us, and sickness and diseases in myriad 
 forms attack us, and old ag^e and death is the 
 round period to every mortal body. We all de- 
 sire better bodies nnd when redemption's work 
 is complete we shall have them Tli«^re will be 
 no sin in heaven to distort and wreck the bodv, 
 no toil to weary it. no sickness and corruption 
 and death . "We shall all be c1iani2:ed. F{)r 
 this corruptible must put on incorrnption, Rud 
 this mortal must put on immortality. So when 
 this corruptible shall have put on incorrnption. 
 and this mortal shall have put on immortality, 
 then shall be broui^^ht to pass the sayinic that 
 written, ''Death is swallowed up in victory. O 
 death where is thy stintx? O irrave, where is 
 thy victory?" Think of a body that shall never 
 ^et weary, that shall be sin, and accident, and 
 sic*kness. and death proof; a l)ody ever at its 
 best, and that shall shine with the lustre of im- 
 mortal youth forever. 
 
 WE SHALL HAVE A POWERFUL BODY. 
 
 '*It is sown in weakness, it is raised in power." 
 The ^'lory of everybody here will soon lie pros- 
 trate in the dust. Our bodies are under the 
 controU of the law of gravity, but as Elijah and 
 our Saviour rose above this law so shall we, and 
 we shall be like unto the ani^els and they travel 
 
OUR HEAVENLY HOME 
 
 221 
 
 witli \ho rapidity of tl]()ni2:ht. Jesus said he 
 could siininioii a If i^icn of ari^els and they 
 W(juld be witli him instantly. The eye of man 
 is a miracle. The nearest fixed star is 19,200,- 
 000,000.000 of miles distant and it can be seen 
 by the eye. Witli the aid of a telescope some 
 remote stars can be seen that would take li^ht 
 four thousand years to reach if it travelled 
 at the rate of nearly four miles per second. I 
 such is the capacity of the terrestrial eye what 
 wil' be the power of the celestial eye? Stephen 
 looked steadfastly up into heaven, saw thcirlory 
 of Gofl. and Jesus standing: at the ri^ht hand of 
 G( d.'^ The eye shall see God as he is, and 
 sweep the horizon of innumerable worlds and 
 never fail All the senses will be multiplied by 
 infinity of wisdom and ^lory. 
 
 WE SHALL HAVE A GLORIF ED BODY. 
 
 The body "is sown in dishonor, it is raised in 
 ^lory.-' Jesus "shall change our vile body, that 
 it may be fashioned like unto his own glorious 
 body." When Christ appeared after his resur- 
 rection, "his face did shine as the sun, and his 
 raiment was white as the light." We are now 
 in the realm of glory, and if all the figures and 
 imagery and eloquence of the English language 
 were consumed in a description of glory, at 
 best it could only be said, "and it doth not yet 
 appear what we shall be, but we know that when 
 
222 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 he shall appear we shall be like him for we 
 shall see him as he is." 
 
 OUR SOCIAL CONDITION IN HEAVEN. 
 
 "There shall be no more curse." Here we 
 have the curse of sickness, and exhaustion and 
 every home is blighted with disappointments 
 and heartaches. If every eye of earth ha^ n nt 
 wept every heart has. There are so many bro 
 ken homes by death, and cruelties and impuri- 
 ties everywhere. Wayward sons and daughters 
 are bringing grey locks of parents in sorrow to 
 the grave. There are so many ungodly and d^- 
 signing people, but there shall not be a tear or 
 a sorrow among the glorified millions. Per- 
 haps there is not a home but wishes that «»ome 
 one thing was different. It may be tlie health 
 of some one of tlie family is the pall which 
 darkens the home, or the toils and poverty of 
 the family embitter it. If today you could 
 have five of your first desires concerning your 
 home granted you would be the happiest of 
 men. In heaven every wish will be met, and 
 your hap|3iness will never be tarnished or mared 
 by an imperfection or impurity. 
 
 WE SHALL HAVE PERFECT KNOWLEDGE. 
 
 At our best we have only been picking- up 
 pebbles along the shore, but in heaven we shall 
 navigate every sea of thought, yea, "there shall 
 be no more sea," all the hindrances shall be re- 
 
OUR HEAVENLY HOME 
 
 223 
 
 moved and we shall see God as he is. "Now 
 we see throui2:h a glass darkly, but then faee to 
 face " We have not been able here to unriddle 
 all the providences of God, to interpret why our 
 most desired and dearest ones h^ve been ruth- 
 lessly torn from us, to understand why the 
 plans of life have been thwarted, and why pov- 
 erty has bedimed us about on all sides, but when 
 the aolden pot of m.vnna is unsealed we shall 
 understand all the mysteries of his Providenc® 
 and say, "God knew the best." "We know" in 
 part, and w^e pro})hesy in part, but when that 
 which is perfect is couje, then that which is in 
 part shall be done away." We shall converse 
 with the i^reat authors of all church song, with 
 the great missionaries and martys and invent- 
 ors of the ages, with the heroes and reformers 
 of the world, "and the Lamb which is in the 
 midst of the thrcne shall feed them, and shall 
 lead them unto living fountains of waters." He 
 by whom the w^orlds were made will make clear 
 to us all the secrets of the Universe of God 
 We think of legions of woilds, have they a biblej 
 like our bible, w^hat language do they speak, did 
 Christ die to redeem them and a thousand other 
 questions, and with the Apostle we cry out, "O 
 the depth of the riches both of the wisdom and 
 knowledge of God: how unsearchable are his 
 judgments and his ways past finding out." Wo 
 
224 
 
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 shall fathom the depths of ktio\vle{li!:e for we 
 shall see him as he is. How much music does 
 the man understand who is able to appreciate 
 the finest harmony, how much of the artist can 
 the man see who has the ability to comprehend 
 the picture on the canvass? How lari^e will 
 the man be who will be able to see God hs he is, 
 and appreciate his love and wisdom and provi- 
 dence. Free from every drawback of earth, and 
 inspired by all the wisdom and goodness of 
 God, and with the track of eternity before us 
 for development, "it doth not yet appear what 
 we shall be," but on and on shall we move, and 
 onward and upward shall we rise in the scale 
 of knowledo^e until with Bishop F oster we say, 
 *'we shall be almost half as la-j^re as God." 
 
 HOW SHALL WE WORSHIP IN HEAVEN? 
 
 In the church below we liav*^ many thini^- to 
 interfere with our worship. There are (]iscor;^s 
 and lack of heart often in oiir son^s of praise, 
 and the sermon is dull, and the buihlinsj: not 
 always comfortable, and few comj^arati vely take 
 an interest, and weariness and inlirniities mar 
 our purest worship, and we are not fully conse- 
 crated to God. but in heaven "we shall serv ^ 
 him day and night in his temple." With Da- 
 vid and Charles Wesley and Sankey and Bliss, 
 and fill the sweet siuijfers of Ts-ael, and all tlie 
 redeemed in one grand chorus singing the **new 
 
OUR HEAVENLY HOME 
 
 225 
 
 song" before the throne, and every voice per- 
 fect and glorified what inspiration will thrill 
 the saints above? What a praise service when 
 the worshippers shall take the crowns off their 
 heads and cast them at his feet, and shout glory 
 and dominion and power be unto the Lamb for- 
 ever and ever. What testimonies from Daniel 
 about the lion's den, and Moses about the Red 
 Sea and the Mountain of Transfiguration, and 
 Stephen and Paul and all the saints about this 
 uttermost salvation, and then to hear the re- 
 deemed hosts with glorified hearts and tongues 
 say, "hallelujah unto Him who hath loved us 
 and washed us from our sins in His own blood, 
 be glory and dominion forever and ever." 
 
 WE SHALL HAVE ETERNAL LIFE. 
 
 Here the rarest flower of the garden which 
 we care for reaches maturity, and we only enjoy 
 its choicest bloom for a short hour and smell 
 its richest fragrance with a passing breath and 
 then it is gone. You have thought as you 
 looked upon your child that you would like to 
 keep her without change, with dimples in her 
 cheeks, and chubby fat hands, and flaxen curls 
 and eyes of azure blue, but disease and age mar 
 the little angel fresh from the hands of Grod. 
 You have been on tJie Mount of Transfiguration 
 when your peace flowed like a river, and joys 
 divine dispelled every doubt and fear, and great 
 
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 MARRIAGE AND THE HOME 
 
 tidal waves of hope and assurance and love del- 
 ui^ed yoar heart, and like Peter you wanted to 
 tabernacle there, but soon you are down airnin 
 in the valley. Changes have saddened every 
 heart and home, the thouglit that nothing is 
 abiding, that our life is but ''an hand breadth." 
 In heaven the flower will evei bloom the rarest 
 and its fragrance will ever be at its best, the 
 child will wear its triple ci 'wn of glory and life 
 and rejoicing, and your happiness Will ever in- 
 crease, "augmenting and increasing weiulits of 
 glory." ''Eye hath not seen, ear hath not 
 heard, heart hath not conceived of the joys and 
 glories which shall be revealed. This earth is 
 his footstool what must his Paradise and Tlirone 
 be? All figures and imageries are inadequate 
 to convey to our minds the exhaustless treasures 
 of the christian's inheritance. Jasper and 
 sapphire and emerald and rubies and river of 
 life, and streets of gold, arid crown of life, and 
 palms of victory, and eternal weights of glory 
 (mly jive us a glimpse of heaven. '* We are now 
 the Sons of God and it doth not yet appear 
 what we sliall be." Ours is a blessed hope, 
 and surprises a millionfcjld of greatei' knowledge 
 and happiness and glory and eternal life await 
 us. 
 
 * 'Since o'er Thy footstool here below 
 Such radiant, gems are strewn, 
 
OUR HEAVENLY HOME 
 
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 Oh what rn'ai>niri;-(Mu*e must, glow, 
 My Grxi, j^ho'it 'Vhy throne: 
 So brilHant hert' thesi* drops f)f huh' — 
 There the full ocean rolls, how hriuhl ! 
 
 If night's blue enrtain of the sk\ 
 
 With thousand stars inwrought. 
 
 HuDg lik^> a royal eano|)\ 
 
 With glitteriniJf diamonds fraiight. 
 
 Bf' Lord. Thy U mj>lp's outer veil. 
 
 What splen .or i\\ the sluiut- uoist dvv<dll 
 
 I'he dnzzlintJf SI! n at noontide hour. 
 
 Forth from his fl.-tn iiej vase. 
 
 Flinging o'er e«rih th'.' golden shower. 
 
 Till vale and mount am Id.-iZ*'. 
 
 j^ul shows. () Lord: <>n<' lieai of'Unne! 
 
 Wliat, llieii. tin d;i\ \> 1 i n 'Ih e < ( M shi ue ; " 
 
A Word to Ladies and Children. 
 
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 Remember the place, JJr Re,edtr\s Family Med- 
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